9 reasons why she comes back after you give her distance

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  • Women are very interesting to say the least, she's been playing hard to get or perhaps didn't value you at all, so you withdrew from her. Now, she's back, banging on your door. Why does this keep happening?
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  • @leoncomlanhekpazo4386
    @leoncomlanhekpazo4386 2 роки тому +3475

    No need beating about the bush. She comes back after rejecting you simply means that she did not manage to get a better option and obviously that you are NOT her first choice. Never let in a woman for whom you're nothing more than a choice by default. She will drop you the day she will come accross someone of her true standards. PERIOD

  • @billydavis1263
    @billydavis1263 2 роки тому +2035

    When someone treats you like an option, help them to narrow down their choices by removing yourself from the equation.
    It's that simple.

    • @simonkimathi1484
      @simonkimathi1484 2 роки тому +17

      Yea billy

    • @mumenguvuze2093
      @mumenguvuze2093 2 роки тому +37

      That is exactly what I did recently ... Am at my happiest . Awesome life

    • @billydavis1263
      @billydavis1263 2 роки тому +36

      @@mumenguvuze2093 you are the most important person in the world.
      Hold on to that thought forever!

    • @1stone379
      @1stone379 2 роки тому +4

      Word

    • @kelvesterwilliams3898
      @kelvesterwilliams3898 2 роки тому +1

      I don't have a belly

  • @prasannagupchup7887
    @prasannagupchup7887 Рік тому +407

    She left you. You leave her. She doesn't respond, you don't either. She doesn't text back, follow no contact rule. You call her, she doesn't answer. Stop calling her. Respect her totally by exactly reciprocating the way she is treating you. Man, this is the way to go. You will never be happier than this.

    • @khi3v40
      @khi3v40 Рік тому +21

      No, you mean respect yourself by moving on without wasting energy or saying a word lol

    • @emmanuelgabrynmoutondoboul2035
      @emmanuelgabrynmoutondoboul2035 Рік тому +1

      Thanks for your expertise

    • @emiwreck194
      @emiwreck194 Рік тому +3

      Let me just try out, cause I'm in deep stress

    • @alkaullahmediaTz
      @alkaullahmediaTz Рік тому

      yuh saidit man. yuh have finish!

    • @Sam-us8qt
      @Sam-us8qt 10 місяців тому +16

      She will always come back to look for you. Because she will get dump by others and she will think of you. What goes around comes around. Remember that. Karma may take time but karma never fail to do it's work. It is just a matter of time she will look for you again.

  • @stevencastle2551
    @stevencastle2551 11 місяців тому +87

    Remember this: you lived your life before, without her. You ate your food, you played your toy, you enjoyed your youthful without her by your side. So, you can live without her. You dont need her for you to live. You proved that already, a long time ago!

  • @ilarryshe6861
    @ilarryshe6861 2 роки тому +502

    “Treat her like a celebrity, she’d treat you like a fan”.

    • @barakawabuge5285
      @barakawabuge5285 2 роки тому +19

      Hahaha i am not doinf that again

    • @donellhowell6954
      @donellhowell6954 2 роки тому +10

      Deep facts

    • @frimzprodie465
      @frimzprodie465 2 роки тому +4

      Waste

    • @professahbruno1578
      @professahbruno1578 2 роки тому +4

      Wind that back, treat her like a lady as Joe Thomas sang, before you do that though practice karma= treat her like a fan and she will keep on begging for an autograph every time she sees you around!📝

    • @chubbrockstar187
      @chubbrockstar187 2 роки тому +3

      Facts!!!!

  • @mandisinqata8834
    @mandisinqata8834 Рік тому +475

    As the society of men let's honour Jessica because she's making a huge impact in our relationship life

  • @blakprophet9305
    @blakprophet9305 Рік тому +76

    Reason 6 is the main reason and they find out the grass is not greener on the other side. Most likely they was rejected by the guy they wanted and not realizing she rejected the guy she needed

  • @ephraimakoto3657
    @ephraimakoto3657 2 роки тому +154

    A lady left me at my worst moment, when I was sick,she was no where to be found, when I got better she started giving me silent treatment, I ignored her. Now after 2 years my life is better and she is trying to do all she can for me to accept her. I made her do some stuff and kicked her to the streets. She was only interested in me for my progress not who I am.

    • @mirskii2758
      @mirskii2758 Рік тому +11

      That’s deep my Brother‼️❤️ Keep grinding and growing

    • @MacLeethal_87
      @MacLeethal_87 Рік тому +5

      I know this all to well continue to be be strong my guy

    • @DejiTalker
      @DejiTalker Рік тому

      Ride on brother

    • @akasickform
      @akasickform Рік тому

      Narcissists do this
      As soon as they see you as "inferior" (not well in this case) they treat you like trash as their "perfect image" of you is shattered

    • @ephraimakoto3657
      @ephraimakoto3657 Рік тому +2

      Thanks, brothers. Just do not rely on a woman,s lovebombing phase because it will end in a relationship.

  • @orian3131
    @orian3131 2 роки тому +502

    TO be honest it’s better for us men to be single and work on ourselves. Woman these days will leave as soon as she feels she has other options. Once those options run dry she come running back

    • @kabysummit5801
      @kabysummit5801 Рік тому +21

      In the West yes that’s how it is

    • @sayitloudblcknproud
      @sayitloudblcknproud Рік тому +4

      Funny, that's how women feel about men. Men will leave a long term relationship, even after telling their girl that she's the love of their life and promising marriage, just because they found new tail.

    • @royaltykonceptz
      @royaltykonceptz Рік тому +6

      @@kabysummit5801 this happened to me from a girl from Russia...it's everywhere!!!

    • @orian3131
      @orian3131 Рік тому +31

      @@sayitloudblcknproud nah. You got it wrong. More than likely a man will stay in a relationship even if he is unhappy especially if he has kids with said woman. Plus if a man cheats it literally means nothing. He still loves his girl. But when a woman cheats. It means everything bc women form an emotional connection way b4 the sex happens

    • @tim46153
      @tim46153 Рік тому +6

      Quite horrible human beings it’s seems they are a lot of the time. Unfortunately a sign of the modern social media times 😩

  • @annotatedmedicaltutorials858
    @annotatedmedicaltutorials858 2 роки тому +491

    My friend told me to never take someone who never chose me the first time. Someone who comes to you after rejecting you the first time. You are special. NEVER GIVE SECOND CHANCES.

    • @robertsmith4714
      @robertsmith4714 2 роки тому +9

      That happened to me before and I take one week..and that's the worst thing I ever did in my life

    • @annotatedmedicaltutorials858
      @annotatedmedicaltutorials858 2 роки тому +3

      @@robertsmith4714 me too i will never do it again

    • @audreylewis965
      @audreylewis965 2 роки тому +3

      Its true. I see it all the time.

    • @stefbaws
      @stefbaws 2 роки тому +6

      That's just means you were never her first choice neither on the second chance

    • @robertsmith4714
      @robertsmith4714 2 роки тому +6

      @@stefbaws she want me to be her choice now.be she find out that I live over seas and doingwell not likeI wasn't doing well then but now I'm doingbetter...that could never work no way

  • @rowhaus5478
    @rowhaus5478 Рік тому +187

    In my experience, women often come back because they miss the power they had over you. My advice to any guy in this situation would be to move on without them. There’s no better feeling than finding happiness elsewhere, with someone who genuinely appreciates you, and leaving those who rejected you behind. It’s not uncommon for them to reach out via text or social media as well, trying to pry themselves back into your life, but you gotta let them know that ship has sailed. Don’t waste your time with these women.

    • @tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2
      @tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2 Рік тому +6

      It's been 8 months and my boyfriend's ex keeps looking for him and calling him, I've already gotten married from that situation and well yesterday we broke up because I'm tired of that girl being everywhere, he says he told her not to look for her and that he doesn't want anything with her anymore but I don't understand how an older woman like that can't understand the word no, in the end my relationship is over because he isn't able to put a stop to it, surely he still wants her in his life, I preferred get out of that shit, cause you ain't giving me my spot.

    • @JChristo1984
      @JChristo1984 Рік тому +9

      Well said. My ex was dating a guy for a month before she even told me. Just kept blowing me off, even after saying she wanted to get together. Flat out lied bold face to me. In our last conversation, she told me she loves me, but is not in love with me. I said it's lady's choice, and told her I'm out. Haven't heard from her since and I am pretty sure she moved in with her new BF's house. If she was my friend, why would she lie? My hope is we never see each other again. It's difficult because I had no idea, but people don't do that to people they care about. We were together for 8 years. She just vanished. Oh well. If she would have been honest, there was a chance we could have been friends. We have known each other since 5th grade. Such disrespect. It's appalling.

    • @trvgbeatz
      @trvgbeatz Рік тому

      True

    • @geelove44
      @geelove44 Рік тому

      👌🏾💯

    • @edwinhernandez5581
      @edwinhernandez5581 Рік тому

      I AGREE A 1000%

  • @andersnielsen6044
    @andersnielsen6044 Рік тому +17

    If she leaves for distance... She is gone forever.

  • @baldealpha0997
    @baldealpha0997 2 роки тому +449

    If she comes back it might simply be because she hasn't found any better options out there. Never forget she let you down once because she is more than likely to repeat that again for whatever reason. Stay focus brothers
    #TeamAlpha🐺

    • @dj29550
      @dj29550 2 роки тому +16

      On god hold them the same way they hold us

    • @dripgeng5554
      @dripgeng5554 2 роки тому +3

      Facts #

    • @baldealpha0997
      @baldealpha0997 2 роки тому +3

      @@dripgeng5554 'preciate your support bro

    • @baldealpha0997
      @baldealpha0997 2 роки тому +2

      @@dj29550 Sure know what to say bruh👍

    • @addnel2000
      @addnel2000 2 роки тому

      Can you just eat her and dump her?

  • @immanelkwabenaadjepong1698
    @immanelkwabenaadjepong1698 2 роки тому +94

    Most of the time she coming back cos the guy she has genuine interest for dropped her and you are just the second option.. don't take her back

    • @jriches957
      @jriches957 Рік тому +1

      You re right why don’t you just use her and non serious ? Lol 😂

    • @JuanGonzalez-lk6uu
      @JuanGonzalez-lk6uu 9 днів тому

      Do you have facts to support that claim?
      Or just talking from experience??

  • @stevenharrison9032
    @stevenharrison9032 Рік тому +70

    I was rejected twice by the same woman. The first time was a warning. I didn’t see it. The second time is a lesson. There will not be a third…

    • @tyetr9853
      @tyetr9853 Рік тому +4

      Give us some details, tell us the story.

    • @lawofthesun
      @lawofthesun Рік тому +1

      Don’t chase a woman!!!!

  • @bernardanyetei4181
    @bernardanyetei4181 2 роки тому +75

    God only knows how much I have fallen for the "I missed you" trap 😂😂😂😂😂

    • @nshomjoel7543
      @nshomjoel7543 Рік тому +1

      Hahaha

    • @rl3656
      @rl3656 Рік тому +3

      😂😂 havnt we all

    • @ndahemeka7741
      @ndahemeka7741 Рік тому

      We have all😂😂💔. We need to cleanse ourselves

    • @enobongobong2728
      @enobongobong2728 Місяць тому

      It's probably funny but we always find a way back

  • @Powerline1391
    @Powerline1391 2 роки тому +30

    Distance always gives time to reflect for both parties…

  • @013DREC
    @013DREC 2 роки тому +81

    For a woman to truthfully tell us about the ways of women speaks volumes. That means they are well aware of their tactics

  • @leowest5106
    @leowest5106 Рік тому +32

    When a woman distant her self from you
    Please use that moment wisely, focused on your self put your happiness first heal your self. Correct your self from all’s your mistake
    You had with her your past Relationship.work your life back up, believe me you will see different they will know you the master Mind.

  • @juliusv.cnwachukwu6076
    @juliusv.cnwachukwu6076 2 роки тому +50

    "Kick her to the Curb" You made my day, thanks Jessica.

  • @mvuyisityiwani9080
    @mvuyisityiwani9080 2 роки тому +55

    "Scarcity creates value".

    • @andrewokuni7487
      @andrewokuni7487 2 роки тому +1

      I wouldn't call it value. Women just want to eat their cake and have it.

    • @hermanlucaslucas846
      @hermanlucaslucas846 Рік тому

      @@andrewokuni7487 true that you might have cubic zirconium

    • @gabrieludensi5072
      @gabrieludensi5072 Рік тому

      Wow thats cute word from Jessica,I ve a girl dat I really love so much and was planing to end up wit her,I just travel for two months and she mess up and I came bck and notice and was able to forgive her but her attitude was nothing to write about but this girl has become part of me and am still battling to let her off from my hrt.

  • @josephchris8360
    @josephchris8360 2 роки тому +456

    The best big sister ever with so much wisdom and insight....not only do i become better for relationships whenever I listen to you, I so become a better person with your teachings. Thank you love you big sister ❤️

    • @edwinomweri
      @edwinomweri 2 роки тому +19

      I felt the same when she whispered...you know what she whispered 😅

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  2 роки тому +28

      Lol

    • @salah3339
      @salah3339 2 роки тому +3

      I watch a videos regularly now

    • @pave_waywiz8869
      @pave_waywiz8869 2 роки тому +1

      JESSICA why did you quite CitiFm ?

    • @theodorebennefield2030
      @theodorebennefield2030 2 роки тому +3

      Hold on bruh. Jessica is NOT "big."

  • @JT-wc7me
    @JT-wc7me Рік тому +25

    As soon as you focus on your life purpose/ambition she will want to feel like she's important enough to distract you from it; if you let her distract you, she'd tell you, you should have stayed focused on your purpose. The answer is, just focused on yourself anyways

  • @bravebanda4554
    @bravebanda4554 2 роки тому +53

    This woman is smart, whatever she says is true and beneficial, women love attention and validation... If they don't get it they feel empty...

  • @JanVill
    @JanVill Рік тому +9

    know your worth, fellas. focus on you. and like from that one video I recently saw says, "you don't deserve someone who comes back, you deserve someone who never leaves."

  • @bbnCRLB
    @bbnCRLB 2 роки тому +69

    There's a lot one can achieve in life than chasing who doesn't want you. I tried that twice at 18 and 19 and learnt that early to never chase.

    • @1stone379
      @1stone379 2 роки тому +12

      Things get VVVVEEEERY INTERESTING in the work place when a women you were light-weight flirting with (because she opened the door to see if she still has that type of pull) catches another good looking woman trying to flirt with you in her face 😂😂😂
      The aftermath is freakin hiiiiilarious

    • @FNC84
      @FNC84 11 місяців тому

      @@1stone379bad man 😂😂

  • @josezerpa8177
    @josezerpa8177 10 місяців тому +10

    This last girl I used to date was very attractive, and she told me a few stories of guys who would become obsessed over her , even to the extreme that some guy went to her house and started yelling at her from outside because she had dumped him. I told her then that I was not that kind of guy.
    Shortly after she tried to friendzone me. I validated her decision of not seeing me anymore, and refused to be friends with her. She insisted and I said it's better to part ways. She then said she would still "say hello" if she ever saw me in the neighborhood.
    Fellas, don't be that crazy stalker that chases her around. Take your L with dignity, move on QUICKLY, and carry on with your life as if nothing happened.
    Yeah it sucks to be rejected, but it sucks more betraying yourself by agreeing to do something you don't want. Having that clarity of what you want is key. Do not ever settle for less.
    Thank you Jessica , your content is PURE GOLD,.

    • @oganebu
      @oganebu 7 місяців тому

      I hate wen a lady tells me let’s be freinds,how do you tell a 38 year old man to keep female freinds up and down?later they’ll say men are scum and men don’t stay one place!

  • @Hocklie333
    @Hocklie333 Рік тому +12

    Like she said if the only thing someone is interested in doing is keeping the flame from dying but doesn't want a relationship then more than likely they are surrounding themselves with other flames too.
    Just remember they may love collecting all that warmth and bright light from those flames now, but eventually the only thing that's going to do is cause their house to burn down.

  • @leonardmuranj4112
    @leonardmuranj4112 2 роки тому +37

    Hi Jessica, I have a feeling that women happen to be the most selfish people I have ever seen. Imagine as a man, I'm chasing goals for us, so that we two get better especially financially. Then, she starts complicating life, wants to be chased and pampered like babies. Come on, love should be considerate of our life dreams together, not passing all the time pampering someone. Time waits for no one. Let's focus on our goals and as well as love each other genuinely.💞

  • @paulthobe3489
    @paulthobe3489 2 роки тому +26

    I will never give them a chance. Once an abusive person. Most likely always an abusive person. They left you every for less. Your job is not to redeem them but, for them never to do it again. Learning is a self taught lesson hardest to do but, best for you future.

  • @raphealnelson5551
    @raphealnelson5551 2 роки тому +23

    I will cherish this channel…the men in my family always taught us to chase money…because you’ll lose money chasing women but you’ll NEVER lose women chasing money💪🏾💯

    • @raphealnelson5551
      @raphealnelson5551 2 роки тому +1

      I’m good but thank you…I don’t want her back I just move on and constantly progress with no distraction…I’m actually glad we split now I have a peace of mind

  • @bobbimensahatopley9894
    @bobbimensahatopley9894 2 роки тому +11

    Your videos have been of immense help to me... I have started the road to recovering myself and focusing on the things that matter: myself, my goals, my future... Thank you so much. I deleted so many contacts that were of NO benefit at all to me. Still more contacts to go

  • @gowonclasp7249
    @gowonclasp7249 2 роки тому +105

    You read my mind at point #8 when you said jealousy a woman hates to see a man at his very best and not be apart of it that's something I see a lot with most women 💯💯💯

    • @georgeagu7388
      @georgeagu7388 2 роки тому

      She nailed that one

    • @toddbr5959
      @toddbr5959 2 роки тому +12

      Most of them are like that! From my prospective that's a toxic behaviour! They want us to like them even when they are at they're lowest but when we are at our lowest they dump us! Double standards i see.

    • @kennethletterlou3451
      @kennethletterlou3451 2 роки тому +3

      @@toddbr5959 i agree its definitely a toxic behavior trait fr

    • @mray9305
      @mray9305 Рік тому +2

      Women will project and put you down for having a nice car, clothes and job. Especially if it means they need to compete with other women or they can not do it for thenslves

  • @Verstify
    @Verstify 2 роки тому +24

    I love how you articulate your words and composure. Straight from kenya one love

  • @kevinhill3549
    @kevinhill3549 Рік тому +21

    Hard to find a good woman. You must dominate her totally. Even the good woman are bad. Don't be afraid to leave her instantly. Be the alpha

  • @onyekachiokpi7761
    @onyekachiokpi7761 2 роки тому +17

    Jessica, you just saved a life, almost all you said, was my experience with my ex..
    I am grateful, thank you so much... Indeed knowledge is power

  • @thelegendarycritique40
    @thelegendarycritique40 2 роки тому +25

    Fellas please don’t take her back when she comes back.. Why? She literally playing games with you and giving you mixed signals when things should be straightforward..

  • @Original_jataro
    @Original_jataro 2 роки тому +120

    I was pondering some of these questions about a year ago based upon an experience I had at the time so hearing your perspective is so refreshing and enlightening. Thanks Jessica much love!

  • @williamsgege5481
    @williamsgege5481 2 роки тому +15

    I've been following your videos quietly for a long while and I must confess that you good and always improving at what you do best. I appreciate your impact. Keep you the good work.

  • @willgabriel5275
    @willgabriel5275 2 роки тому +48

    Jessica, I can't appreciate you enough. I was almost crying to this. But you're really helping lots out there. I bless the day I found you. Thank you so much for your invaluable pieces. You need to be awarded in the hall of fame for all the males out here.

  • @paulconteh4219
    @paulconteh4219 2 роки тому +7

    You always answer my questions ..... when ever I don't have answers to life questions you always seem to post videos at the right time .... thank you very much u are a real Blessing

  • @bendoyle5023
    @bendoyle5023 Рік тому +10

    I've watched every break up video on UA-cam now that I am going through my most painful breakup and yours are the only one that have made me feel better! You've indirectly reminded me that I don't need to chase her and that if we dont make things work then life will be okay without her. Thankyou

  • @chimadivine7715
    @chimadivine7715 9 місяців тому +3

    The way your thoughts transform into fluent words of exact description is so phenomenal. Well done.

  • @ogbonnafrancis2495
    @ogbonnafrancis2495 2 роки тому +1

    Dear Jessica..... This is by far one of the best videos I've watched. I have watched it over and over again and it has really been helpful. Thank You.

  • @eldrickejleest
    @eldrickejleest 2 роки тому +5

    I think you speak the most truth out of any relationship guru on youtube.

  • @adamjayson2007
    @adamjayson2007 2 роки тому +16

    Thanks Jessica for the advice I was in the same situation a couple years ago,and I just cut her off because all she was doing is used up my energy and time.

  • @claudecontour9277
    @claudecontour9277 2 роки тому +64

    This sounded like me alot. I kept chasing this girl, being too available and she literally dissed me. Now that I found my grip and gave her the cold shoulder, she works 110% trying to figure out how did I get myself out of her yoke.

    • @s3k3tv8
      @s3k3tv8 Рік тому +6

      lol, i laughed at yoke

    • @claudecontour9277
      @claudecontour9277 Рік тому +4

      @@s3k3tv8 almost literally 😂

    • @edwardsamilee2330
      @edwardsamilee2330 Рік тому +6

      A girl left me because I didn't have a job back then.She also got a kid but separated with the husband because they got married since she "accidentally" got pregnant.. years down the line she comes back with a kid and wants me back because things got tougher on the streets.She knows I have a good job and I am single. Hahahaha. I turned her down and her response was that I am mean just because I refused to take her back. She is now feeling the heat.The hunter now becomes the hunted.

    • @moonbear9035
      @moonbear9035 Рік тому +1

      @@edwardsamilee2330 She’s for the streets lmao. good job

  • @pamotorsports763
    @pamotorsports763 Рік тому +3

    I have to thank you. Your videos help me just stay away and not fall back into BS w my ex. I walked away from inconsistency, games, silent treatment and it always being turned on me. I've taken this energy and put it all into bettering myself. I told her you said she's no good. Lol

  • @citrinwarren6073
    @citrinwarren6073 2 роки тому +64

    Jessica, it appears to me that you are highly inspired in all these sensitive topics. You always strike the nail on the head. I can always relate to your topics. Thanks

  • @arunj.gnanarathinam1412
    @arunj.gnanarathinam1412 2 роки тому +28

    Completely level headed & honest. Jessica you've cut all the BS & driven straight to the point. You're leadership material. Way to go ✌️👍👏👌

  • @robelasgedom
    @robelasgedom Рік тому +5

    "If someone can walk away from you, let them walk." T.D.Jakes

  • @dietermendoza6385
    @dietermendoza6385 2 роки тому +1

    phenomenal, absolutely phenomenal. please make more videos. don't stop. you're the older sister I need.

  • @kinche6380
    @kinche6380 2 роки тому +51

    You are amazing. Thank you for mentioning that a woman who doesn't want you and doesn't want you to move on with someone is a witch. You are the best Jessica. 👌 I learn a lot from you and continue this ministry to us.

  • @derrickbrooks6833
    @derrickbrooks6833 2 роки тому +3

    Nice, no one could have put it down better than you. Excellent points. Keep up the great work

  • @tacticalhuddy3614
    @tacticalhuddy3614 2 роки тому +15

    "They get curious why you aren't giving them attention anymore....and they will come back...DON'T GIVE IT TO THEM"....Jessy I really like your take, side comments, thought process, concepts and constructs. Those punches of advice that you so softly punctuate your video are invaluable.
    And some sense of humor.

  • @janefegarido6493
    @janefegarido6493 Рік тому +5

    This is also a good advice to us women. My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he said that we can't be together in reality. And aside from that I gave him too much of my time and attentions which is didn't reciprocate at all. When I stopped talking to him after 2 months, he came back and asking me too much questions. He asked me to meet him but I rejected it because I'm still not getting over him. Thank you Jessica, love your channel❤

  • @Joshua_s_23
    @Joshua_s_23 2 роки тому +8

    The “kick her to the curve” whisper and witch/witchcraft. Sprinkle Holy Water on you are pure comedy 😂😂😂

  • @olalekanoyewole8972
    @olalekanoyewole8972 2 роки тому +56

    Thank you Jesse. You definitely don't realise how positively you are impacting our lifes. You are indeed a blessing to our generation.

  • @usangelemi4966
    @usangelemi4966 2 роки тому +3

    Big Jessy I am short of words to say truly. To be honest I started listening to you some few month ago in this year and each and every words I hear you say do works a lot of magic in my life. This particular episode of yours is mind blowing it really got me moving on now and working on myself for the future to come. Yes I agree the part you did talk about a Lady who does not have your interest but still they will not want to see you with another person that is witch craft like you said.... Thank you Jessy for your motivational words they have really help me a lot and am ready to move on to become a Better a person. Thanks a lot Jessy and I am also a proud Nigeria I love everything about my African... Do have a wonderful year Beautiful Jessy with much love from Nigeria.

  • @mightymike5801
    @mightymike5801 Рік тому +10

    She comes back because you loved her and she tried to get your love from somebody else but the probably with that is the way you love and another man loves is different

  • @trashawnjackson5956
    @trashawnjackson5956 2 роки тому +19

    This lady is so on point. 👍🏾. Me being a man I have had this happen to me at least 3 times in my life. Couldn't figure out why they would wanna come back after I moved on.

    • @datstovey
      @datstovey 11 місяців тому

      Crazy right, happened to me twice.

  • @Nimeamua
    @Nimeamua 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you Jessica! This video really hit me deep

  • @richardhanula4702
    @richardhanula4702 Рік тому

    stumbled upon your channel and im pretty amazed, hearing this stuff from womans perspective adds to it. you go girl and thank you

  • @tiggergolah
    @tiggergolah Рік тому +8

    I'm actually going to add that to my repertoire. "Jessica said you're no good." I love it.

  • @christopherj8324
    @christopherj8324 2 роки тому +6

    I'm going through something similar. Thank you for your insight!

  • @jossell911
    @jossell911 2 роки тому +3

    Awesome vid and you’re definitely right about the last one. They loved being chased and get a thrill out of it. Deserves a ton of views💯

  • @VeeShenge
    @VeeShenge 2 роки тому +8

    Women are so full of it, this is what this video confirms to me. Something that I already knew.

  • @perseverancelite1
    @perseverancelite1 2 роки тому +14

    All of her single/cheating friends are starting to settle down and not pulling her out to clubs or parties and you’ve improved without her. Grass is definitely not greener.😉😁

  • @jl_4_preZz
    @jl_4_preZz 2 роки тому +6

    I only follow 2 UA-cam pages... This one of them and my favorite one. Thank you for this... Reinforcing what I've been thinking and feeling. Much love!

  • @qwesiemansaya2642
    @qwesiemansaya2642 2 роки тому +4

    The sprinkle holy water part got me😂😂😂…Jessica you’re the best. Much love Jess❤️

  • @johndiggs4060
    @johndiggs4060 Рік тому

    Queen Jessica blesses us with that holy knowledge once again!! Thank you Queen!

  • @kalangankombo1421
    @kalangankombo1421 2 роки тому

    Jessica you really bring out the best in me every time I listen to you 💯

  • @hmanfilms
    @hmanfilms Рік тому +19

    I keep seeing all of these
    1) She couldn’t find someone better 2) don’t give her a second chance
    These are all so negative. Sometimes a woman just needs space to contemplate the relationship, feel big feelings, feel your absence and realize how much she values about the relationship to continue it.
    Peoples minds jump straight to negative

    • @howtosnatch
      @howtosnatch Рік тому +6

      This is what the world needs more of.

    • @thegreatxander7
      @thegreatxander7 Рік тому +5

      Thank you for not being negative.

    • @shannonjackson3470
      @shannonjackson3470 Рік тому +2

      💯💯🔥

    • @mzeimagida8364
      @mzeimagida8364 7 місяців тому

      ❤❤❤

    • @SentilongJamir777
      @SentilongJamir777 16 днів тому

      Sometimes they leave because the guy became comfortable in his own space and lost his path 😞 we need to self reflect and become a better version and when the time is right if she or he was for you God will bring you two together. Sometimes all we need in life is to self reflect and change for better. Thanks for the postive comment.

  • @MrDreed2667
    @MrDreed2667 Рік тому +4

    I have been watching your videos for a few a days now and I have to say I have learned more in three days than in three years. You seem to have an old soul because of the wisdom that you provide. Also, it's a pleasure hearing from a woman giving relationship advise to men. Your perspective is refreshing and unique. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

  • @leroyallen3222
    @leroyallen3222 Рік тому

    You always speak the truth and that's why I appreciate you Jessica

  • @dougmannix2559
    @dougmannix2559 2 роки тому +1

    Straight forward and makes sense!! Good one Jessica!!

  • @healthybehave
    @healthybehave 2 роки тому +54

    Powerful advice that points out to me because I am in this process of taking my distance from a woman. Thank you to refresh my mind with your advice.

    • @pacybone
      @pacybone 2 роки тому

      Abuya kelly ole niyen. Thief

  • @robbyreal7014
    @robbyreal7014 2 роки тому +66

    I needed this. Helped me understand my baby mother a little more....you explained it perfectly. Thanks for giving the sauce out lol you real for helping us men out like this. 🙌🏼

    • @buravan1512
      @buravan1512 2 роки тому +4

      why make a CHILD with a Woman, that you dont know?

    • @deadlypoet3514
      @deadlypoet3514 2 роки тому

      @@buravan1512 many reasons, here are some 1. Blame it on the alcohol, 2. Drugs 3. Condom troubles 4. Pull-out game is weak 5. She got that ushy gushy pu55y"😂 6. She thought /believes that by having your baby now you must be with her.......

    • @erinmerlot8826
      @erinmerlot8826 2 роки тому +7

      It happens please understand it happens I made a child with one girl we would have got it for a year my mistake on that right cuz it didn't work out and did end terribly. My second baby mother was actually a woman I was with for 11 years total 8 years boyfriend and girlfriend 3 years married. At the 8-year Mark all her family was asking us to have a child and all that nonsense but I'm going to say this you never really know someone until you have live with them for at least 5 years. And to be honest when a child is brought into the picture women go through hormonal changes and then they think about everything they went wrong in a relationship once they lose their weight after the baby a lot of them feel renewed sense of sexuality and want to experiment and explore so when there is rigors and turbulence of that nature the man and woman can grow apart exponentially fast. It's sad but I've seen it from personal experience and I fought for my marriage but hey can't do anything about their (your spouse) personal decision they're free right

    • @megwasugoakukoiro-moonligh6387
      @megwasugoakukoiro-moonligh6387 Рік тому

      @@erinmerlot8826 you explained it better! a man may stay for old time sake, for kids sake, for sympathy sake etc! but woman ? nothing stops her from moving to that next level she is looking up to! i had a girl like that who left a super long time boy friend for me- she said a lot of nice things about the guy, then i suddenly asked her why she left the guy who has suffered, cared and spent so much on her, she said she suddely saw a chance to move to a newer hight! i pinched myself! i knew oneday it ll be my turn , and as she got to another better level, she left me too! i did nt cry much because i was warned !

  • @kalonjeebless
    @kalonjeebless 2 роки тому

    God bless the parents of Jessica Os, you have been such a blessing to this world.

  • @kevincroft9848
    @kevincroft9848 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Jessica for your video message . It helped me very much. I got alot out of this video .
    Iam very grateful that you are helping us men out here
    Kevin xxx

  • @rainbowstar4360
    @rainbowstar4360 Рік тому +4

    Thank you Jessica. The more I watch your video’s I feel that I have made the right decision to walk away from this person who is constantly taking advantage of me.

  • @TUF68
    @TUF68 2 роки тому +7

    her voice is extremely addictive, calming and soothing

  • @damianlopez7630
    @damianlopez7630 Рік тому

    Thank You Jessica Os. You are a True Gem!!!

  • @themangerministry3021
    @themangerministry3021 Рік тому +1

    God bless you sis, you are currently helping me in a challenge am into currently

  • @Wisdomkey7
    @Wisdomkey7 2 роки тому +15

    I agree with you this time. I dropped them fast! I couldn't find myself chasing a woman these days. I think it's about 5-10 women out of a million deserve to be chase.

    • @1stone379
      @1stone379 2 роки тому

      A lot are good at putting on an image of "desirability" and doing major things. The reality is really an illusion. A lot really ain't shit 😂😂😂. Just "decent looking" substanceless gashes.. 😬 REAL Ladies please stand!

  • @omey1408
    @omey1408 2 роки тому +5

    Madam u r brilliant Bravo all men should listen to u luv from 🇮🇳

  • @paulramuki5836
    @paulramuki5836 2 роки тому +2

    sending just love and appreciation to you for all the content from South Africa

  • @jeremiahperez9451
    @jeremiahperez9451 Рік тому

    I’m about to tell her too Jess said she no bueno I needed this clarity so much help new here and I’m already loving it

  • @l8karmaproductions100
    @l8karmaproductions100 2 роки тому +22

    You’ve become a very loved big sister to especially us brothers of color.
    We love you Jessica❤️

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  2 роки тому +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @Hello-hellowearethebillyboys
      @Hello-hellowearethebillyboys 3 місяці тому

      @@JessicaOSso it matters the colour of our skin? You’d be more willing to help out someone of colour but whitey can just get on with it? You wouldn’t have replied to this message if he hadn’t mentioned colour!!

  • @herbeyyridiousg7397
    @herbeyyridiousg7397 2 роки тому +17

    This literary the story of me and my crush. After the last rejection (after 5 years of trying) , I moved on completely

    • @omen3949
      @omen3949 Рік тому +5

      That was way too long. Don't waste the years of your life like that no more

    • @Understandme44
      @Understandme44 Рік тому +2

      Damn 5 years hell naw!

  • @danmcadams5925
    @danmcadams5925 Рік тому

    Jessica you're a legend.💯 Thank You for what you're doing..🙏

  • @kareenmoore4330
    @kareenmoore4330 2 роки тому +15

    Everyone has options. Even ugly peoples. You just gotta realize your blessings. Some people hate blessings. Even people who has it all can miss out on a blessing.
    Options people.
    Always keep that abroad.

    • @onceagaindc
      @onceagaindc Рік тому +1

      Exactly. Everyone wants to hear what they want to hear...

  • @RashansBoutTimeBoxing
    @RashansBoutTimeBoxing 2 роки тому +3

    I keep sayin it, I love this black woman! She extremely knowledgeable and so non biased. Oh yes I must confess that Jess is the best and all the rest is no contest. I wish you much continued success. May you be blessed with many more happy healthy prosperous and successful years ahead. Much respect.

  • @alabra3350
    @alabra3350 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Jessica. Beauty, intellect, wisdom. Love your thoughts and insights. Very educative psychology and beneficial.

  • @ankitagrawal1107
    @ankitagrawal1107 5 днів тому

    Thank you Jessica. The video was really helpful!
    You have an amazing voice. Hehe! Will watch other videos to learn more :)
    Keep up the amazing work!

  • @Torpedopot
    @Torpedopot 2 роки тому +6

    Great advice and excellent assessment

  • @frankcoffey3117
    @frankcoffey3117 2 роки тому +20

    This video was gold, and I agree with almost everything. I do think that, as men, if you use that period as a teachable moment, it is possible to turn a situation around. Give parts of YOU back in small doses, and turn the chase around. If they really like you, they'll wind up chasing you. Go figure, right? That'll separate the genuine from the narcissistic. It's case by case, but, there are some that overlooked you not knowing what was really there. But once they find out? You already know😉👍🏾

    • @TomAZ1984
      @TomAZ1984 Рік тому

      Hey man. I know your comment is a year old, but you really sound like you know what you’re talking about and I’m in a hell of a spot with a woman.
      I’d been talking to a phone sex operator and we had a lot in common and she gave me her personal info (which I verified). We toyed with the idea of meeting and then last month I was in her town and hit her up. She told me she had plans with her friends that day (short notice, so I understand).
      We continued messaging and talking (off the site, no charge, no sex talk, just the stuff we have in common). I probably over pursued a little. Anyway, a month goes by and I was gonna be in her town again so I message her. She says she has plans that day but she’d get back to me about next day. Next day came and I didn’t hear anything so I text her. She answers. I send her my address and tell her to blow me. She blocks me on the messenger.
      Three days later, I send an apology email. Three days after that she responds. Says she accepts apology, “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”, and that she has a low tolerance for BS.
      I really like this is the one, man. She hasn’t had sex in a long time. I believe, she was truthful about everything else she told me. I really said the stupidest thing imaginable and I’m not sure what to do now. Just wait it out, see if she sends another message and message after some time, let her heal? I just don’t know.

    • @fromawindow9173
      @fromawindow9173 8 місяців тому

      @@TomAZ1984 any updates?

  • @brownguylee1591
    @brownguylee1591 2 роки тому +1

    I’m literally only watching this because of you😍 there’s guys that do this and honestly I feel like it’s honest and straight forward and it coming from a woman gives me a better understanding than hearing this from the guys

  • @matthewbrown9844
    @matthewbrown9844 5 місяців тому +1

    This is so spot on 🙏 My ex has recently unblocked me on social media after I stopped contact with her. All these points feel valid in my situation. I wish there was a more meaningful reason but my gut is telling me exactly what you’re saying in this video. I feel empowered to keep going with no contact. Thanks

  • @markpayne9698
    @markpayne9698 2 роки тому +3

    Great video 👍
    I'm going through a situation like this i really like this chick but she's playing hard to get and this content helps me a lot.
    Thank u Jessica 💙