How many people saw her at church and thought “she and her family are so perfect, it’s not fair.” We just never know what people are going through. Have grace for others. Never assume except that everyone has challenges. Just listen…❤
There is no such thing as a perfect family. The problem is there is a stigma attached to discussing having a faith crisis. I would love to see a series of church talks on a Sunday telling members it is okay to have doubts.
Excellent! I’m glad Parker clarified about “you are enough”. With Jesus, I am enough. Without Him, I’m not! And thank you for saying, “Jesus doesn’t make up the difference. He IS the difference.” He is everything.
At 9:29. Re. Not feeling the Spirit at Church. I think this is a common problem. I serve in the ward bishopric and have felt that way in the past. The problem is many worldly problems get in the way of our experience on a Sunday, Stake, or General Conference. Unfortunately some members in this situation stop going to church. The solution is to do regular things even when you don't feel the Spirit: attending church, daily prayer, scripture study, temple attendance, family prayer, meditation, reading books on spiritual issues, and intense study of General Conference talks. The leaders are aware that members have struggles. In fact almost ever member of my ward has at least one major struggle they are dealing with.
Thank you for sharing this literally needed to hear this so glad I’m not alone I’ve literally also had to recently turn off all the noise and focus on the voice of God, funny enough I went to church this past Sunday after the longest time and I was reminded why I joined the church in the first place I missed the spirit there, this podcast was literally made for me 😊
Feels someway familiar to me about questioning Why am I even here? when spending time in a hallway with children.... I call it a Hallway church... When I was a young mother, my husband was deployed and my first baby was about a year old, I spent my Sundays in a hallway with a crying or a fussy baby. One particular Sunday I had enough and was literally in tears on a couch in a hallway. My sweet RS president came to check on me and asked what was wrong. So I told her - why am I even here at church when the only thing I can do is to sit in a hallway and not hear a thing? The answer she gave me turned my perspective on things around. She said: "Think about not what you get but maybe someone gets because YOU are here at church, every Sunday, with a fussy baby, your hubby is gone for months but you are still coming. Think about that maybe YOU being here is strengthening some other person's testimony of faith, of perseverance, of commitment..." It didn't make my life easier but it changed my perspective on my "hallway church". We have 4 kids now, I am finally graduating from my "hallway church" with our 18 mo son but oh boy, how many opportunities I had and still have to talk to the new moms in hallways of the church, to have a meaningful conversations even chasing the little ones, to share a little verse I read or a thought from Come Follow Me I heard while listening to it last night. It really helped me get to know people and hopefully let them know that it is ok to be in a hallway but be in the church. God sees our efforts, He knows and understands, I come for the Sacrament and maybe help someone to feel welcomed and not forgotten.
I've been reading Aubrey's book, which my mother-in-law gifted me, & didn't realize until after I'd chosen this video to watch that this was the author. I love her willingness to share her story, with the hard postpartum experiences and her faith challenges. Her book shares so many moments of hope that I can relate to. ❤
Many years ago I went in for a temple recommend interview. The stake presidency member asked me if I attended my meetings. I replied “yes, but I don’t know why sometimes, I never hear a word. he said” Sister Mills, it doesn’t matter if you ever hear a word, you are teaching your children that that is where they need to be on Sunday. I’ve never me forgotten it. He spoke absolute truth.
I grew up in the church. My father was alcoholic bi-polar. I was a cutter, alcoholic, drugs and bulimic anorexic at 13 & 14. I cut my own neck. I turned to tatoos for pain and not cutting. I did not know I was Bi-polar until I was 38. My addictions and bi-polar melted together and my mind melted into darkness. I was like that for 5 years. I was put away in rehabs, and institutions. I was in a dual diagnosis facility at 38. That is when they told me I had a mental illness. I worked as hard as I could. It took 5 years to get to a place of some sort of normalcy. I had left the church at 19 to go out and party. My addictions were rolling hard al together. I thought I was having fun. I got sober at 51. Hardest thing I've ever done. The Holy Ghost talked to me in 2018. Told me I had to go back to the church that had treated me and my family so badly. 4 excommunication in the 1980's. The bishop was horrible. So me to come back the the church was a hard thing. But that's where the Holy Ghost wanted me. I had to meet with the bishop and repent of 35 yrs of drug alcohol, bulimia cutting and all the darkness that comes with it. I got my patriarchal blessing at 56 and was spot on. I got my endowments at 57. Now I help with the church's Healing with the Savior addiction Recovery Program. I am now a senior Service Missionary. I help with the YSA. I help with the General addiction meetings. I go to a meeting for women only. Those Women love each other and uphold each other. I know this is my calling. I need to help everyone I can come back and stay in the church. The church does have alot of judgmental people. I know I popped that bubble. Everyone has something. The Holy Ghost speaks to Me loudly. I love my story and love who I am since coming back to church. Even after they treated me badly. God's divine love is always there for us. Children need our protection. From the adversary. The church's most powerful tool at this time is growing closer to God with others help. The loving atonement of Jesus Crist is real and works. I begged for excommunication and they said no. We don't want to lose you. We all need to be strong for each other- for what is to come. I finally have my purpose- to help others. I would love to talk to you. I think you should have a show talking about addiction in the church. It's really an eye opener. I would love to help.
Wow, what a blessing to have a sisters that was so willing to help. I went through something similar and wished I had someone there. I’m glad you overcome this bad spirit. I had this amazing missionary come and visit our family. It was his testimony that made me feel Gods love and I also went back. I did get mental health help. But it’s those special moments i had with my Heavenly Father that help me overcome it all . I kind of understand why I went through this trial and please remember to always look unto Jesus Christ our savior HE WILL HEAL YOU!❤❤
I believe it’s very important to not judge others and assume that if they feel leaving the church is best for them and their private path that they are angry, lost or listening to others instead of God.
Please know that these kinds of videos can be a very helpful bridge for people who are just not quite ready to rely on church resources fully yet. Do dismiss what you are doing. It is important!
I love that she came back and has found healing. I know someone who ended their life because of postpartum. It's no joke. I do question the comment made at [52:26]. We clearly AREN'T enough. We never will be. That's the point of Christ's perfection and sacrifice. We are fallen so only He IS enough. I think it would be more effective to say this: God loves when we TRY - when we align our will to the will of the Father. The relief that will come (I think especially for women) is when we EMBRACE that we aren't enough and we don't have to worry about it! What God thinks of us is ENOUGH. We are less than the dust of the earth, so acknowledging this will allow us to release our hold on the flawed perspective of being "enough" and just serve because we love Him.
My wife has battled with depression and enxiety for 8 years. A similar story. People think we are a perfect family. Thanks for sharing! How can I get a copy of that book?
Why do almost all young people have serious mental illness these days?? It was not at all like that just a few decades ago. The world has gone bizarre and absolutely nuts.
How many people saw her at church and thought “she and her family are so perfect, it’s not fair.” We just never know what people are going through. Have grace for others. Never assume except that everyone has challenges. Just listen…❤
There is no such thing as a perfect family. The problem is there is a stigma attached to discussing having a faith crisis. I would love to see a series of church talks on a Sunday telling members it is okay to have doubts.
Excellent!
I’m glad Parker clarified about “you are enough”. With Jesus, I am enough. Without Him, I’m not! And thank you for saying, “Jesus doesn’t make up the difference. He IS the difference.”
He is everything.
Great message. I think we forget it's all about developing our relationship with Jesus Christ. And then evertyhing else comes with that relationship
At 9:29. Re. Not feeling the Spirit at Church. I think this is a common problem. I serve in the ward bishopric and have felt that way in the past. The problem is many worldly problems get in the way of our experience on a Sunday, Stake, or General Conference. Unfortunately some members in this situation stop going to church. The solution is to do regular things even when you don't feel the Spirit: attending church, daily prayer, scripture study, temple attendance, family prayer, meditation, reading books on spiritual issues, and intense study of General Conference talks. The leaders are aware that members have struggles. In fact almost ever member of my ward has at least one major struggle they are dealing with.
Phenomenal episode! Gordon B. Hinkley quote came to mind during it "Forget yourself and go to work"
I'm there with you all. When I'm in those moments I feel so alone. I need to remember to look up and pray for His help. Thank you for the reminder.
I'm so glad that I watched this instead of some Loud and Obnoxious youtube video. Atonement is a personal experience, inward and upward!
Thank you for sharing this literally needed to hear this so glad I’m not alone I’ve literally also had to recently turn off all the noise and focus on the voice of God, funny enough I went to church this past Sunday after the longest time and I was reminded why I joined the church in the first place I missed the spirit there, this podcast was literally made for me 😊
Feels someway familiar to me about questioning Why am I even here? when spending time in a hallway with children.... I call it a Hallway church...
When I was a young mother, my husband was deployed and my first baby was about a year old, I spent my Sundays in a hallway with a crying or a fussy baby. One particular Sunday I had enough and was literally in tears on a couch in a hallway. My sweet RS president came to check on me and asked what was wrong. So I told her - why am I even here at church when the only thing I can do is to sit in a hallway and not hear a thing?
The answer she gave me turned my perspective on things around. She said: "Think about not what you get but maybe someone gets because YOU are here at church, every Sunday, with a fussy baby, your hubby is gone for months but you are still coming. Think about that maybe YOU being here is strengthening some other person's testimony of faith, of perseverance, of commitment..."
It didn't make my life easier but it changed my perspective on my "hallway church".
We have 4 kids now, I am finally graduating from my "hallway church" with our 18 mo son but oh boy, how many opportunities I had and still have to talk to the new moms in hallways of the church, to have a meaningful conversations even chasing the little ones, to share a little verse I read or a thought from Come Follow Me I heard while listening to it last night. It really helped me get to know people and hopefully let them know that it is ok to be in a hallway but be in the church. God sees our efforts, He knows and understands, I come for the Sacrament and maybe help someone to feel welcomed and not forgotten.
What a great episode. Thank you for sharing. Also kudos to her husband for being patient, loving, understanding through it all.
I've been reading Aubrey's book, which my mother-in-law gifted me, & didn't realize until after I'd chosen this video to watch that this was the author. I love her willingness to share her story, with the hard postpartum experiences and her faith challenges. Her book shares so many moments of hope that I can relate to. ❤
🙏🏻☀️ Thank you for being vulnerable and for helping gather others to Christ.
This life is so messy and so hard sometimes.
But He really is there.☀️❤️
Many years ago I went in for a temple recommend interview. The stake presidency member asked me if I attended my meetings. I replied “yes, but I don’t know why sometimes, I never hear a word. he said” Sister Mills, it doesn’t matter if you ever hear a word, you are teaching your children that that is where they need to be on Sunday. I’ve never me forgotten it. He spoke absolute truth.
I grew up in the church. My father was alcoholic bi-polar. I was a cutter, alcoholic, drugs and bulimic anorexic at 13 & 14. I cut my own neck. I turned to tatoos for pain and not cutting. I did not know I was Bi-polar until I was 38. My addictions and bi-polar melted together and my mind melted into darkness. I was like that for 5 years. I was put away in rehabs, and institutions. I was in a dual diagnosis facility at 38. That is when they told me I had a mental illness. I worked as hard as I could. It took 5 years to get to a place of some sort of normalcy. I had left the church at 19 to go out and party. My addictions were rolling hard al together. I thought I was having fun. I got sober at 51. Hardest thing I've ever done. The Holy Ghost talked to me in 2018. Told me I had to go back to the church that had treated me and my family so badly. 4 excommunication in the 1980's. The bishop was horrible. So me to come back the the church was a hard thing. But that's where the Holy Ghost wanted me. I had to meet with the bishop and repent of 35 yrs of drug alcohol, bulimia cutting and all the darkness that comes with it. I got my patriarchal blessing at 56 and was spot on. I got my endowments at 57. Now I help with the church's Healing with the Savior addiction Recovery Program. I am now a senior Service Missionary. I help with the YSA. I help with the General addiction meetings. I go to a meeting for women only. Those Women love each other and uphold each other. I know this is my calling. I need to help everyone I can come back and stay in the church. The church does have alot of judgmental people. I know I popped that bubble. Everyone has something. The Holy Ghost speaks to Me loudly. I love my story and love who I am since coming back to church. Even after they treated me badly. God's divine love is always there for us. Children need our protection. From the adversary. The church's most powerful tool at this time is growing closer to God with others help. The loving atonement of Jesus Crist is real and works. I begged for excommunication and they said no. We don't want to lose you. We all need to be strong for each other- for what is to come. I finally have my purpose- to help others. I would love to talk to you. I think you should have a show talking about addiction in the church. It's really an eye opener. I would love to help.
Thank you for sharing your story and your testimony
Any idea about why all this insanity happened ?? What was the root cause of it?
Bless you!
He loves you dearly. You are inscribed in the palms of His hands.❤️☀️
Wow, what a blessing to have a sisters that was so willing to help. I went through something similar and wished I had someone there. I’m glad you overcome this bad spirit. I had this amazing missionary come and visit our family. It was his testimony that made me feel Gods love and I also went back. I did get mental health help. But it’s those special moments i had with my Heavenly Father that help me overcome it all . I kind of understand why I went through this trial and please remember to always look unto Jesus Christ our savior HE WILL HEAL YOU!❤❤
Love this episode! We all can use this in our life!! Thank you for sharing!
I'm listening to this on my morning ruck!
I believe it’s very important to not judge others and assume that if they feel leaving the church is best for them and their private path that they are angry, lost or listening to others instead of God.
Please know that these kinds of videos can be a very helpful bridge for people who are just not quite ready to rely on church resources fully yet. Do dismiss what you are doing. It is important!
I love that she came back and has found healing. I know someone who ended their life because of postpartum. It's no joke. I do question the comment made at [52:26]. We clearly AREN'T enough. We never will be. That's the point of Christ's perfection and sacrifice. We are fallen so only He IS enough. I think it would be more effective to say this: God loves when we TRY - when we align our will to the will of the Father. The relief that will come (I think especially for women) is when we EMBRACE that we aren't enough and we don't have to worry about it! What God thinks of us is ENOUGH. We are less than the dust of the earth, so acknowledging this will allow us to release our hold on the flawed perspective of being "enough" and just serve because we love Him.
My wife has battled with depression and enxiety for 8 years. A similar story. People think we are a perfect family. Thanks for sharing! How can I get a copy of that book?
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Why do almost all young people have serious mental illness these days?? It was not at all like that just a few decades ago. The world has gone bizarre and absolutely nuts.
My name is Stacey Attman
Ok point well taken. I have to get off this podcast. Social media is the devil.
I just subscribed to Instagram super good pots