I hope you enjoy meeting Gabe as much as I did. It was a nice reminder that words are just one of many ways to communicate with others. Anybody who would like to follow this loving family on UA-cam can do so at www.youtube.com/@fortheloveofgabe
@@lanaxv GABE IS A GOOD FREAKING HUMAN BEING JUST BECAUSE HE CAN'T SPEAK IF YOU HAVE AN ISSUE GO CRY TO YOUR MOM PEOPLE WITH SPECIAL NEEDS AND DISABILITIES ARE IMPORTANT IN THIS WORLD
What a unique life... Everyone thinks life is about getting married, or having experiences or having children or being successful. In reality the meaning of life is life. I'm glad that some of us can have more unique walks through this bed of strange flowers. Thanks for what you do. Its very important to this world. Thanks for that smile, too. c: May God be with you.
Gabe is very present in these conversations, it doesn't matter if his body language is different and he doesn't speak... autistic people are underestimated so much of the time, I'm glad he appears to have a loving family who appreciate him the way he is and allow him to engage with them in the way that works for him
My autistic cousin was alawys someone I wanted to be around . I was broken hearted when he was instutionlized . He became big and aggressive . I love him . My cousin Marco .
This it made me cry, I've worked in care with people like Gabe, and when you are able to make contact on a level that they feel safe with, it is the best. Everything could go wrong during a shift, but having a smile from one of the clients who didn't make contact that easely, would allways be the best of the day.
@@livmarlin4259 im assuming they meant that as a general statement. I work with kids with ASD that are non speaking and i think once you get a connection with them, it feels more authentic than most interactions with neurotypical people
I am a person with low support needs autism, and no one understands how much music means to me, how much I hear in the music the notes I can pick up and replicate with ease and no one ever wants to just enjoy music with me. That would mean a lot to me too and I am so glad Gabe got to enjoy that moment!
Thank you for sharing your personal insight. It's interesting considering we can all be sitting in the same room listening to a song together, but each one of us hears it differently. I've never thought about that before. I would gladly sit quietly and listen to music with you. 🥰 When I was younger, I really listened to music and noticed all the details and individual instruments. I loved and appreciated music so much. But as I've gotten older, music gradually became just background noise to ignore while trying to get work done or something to fill the silence while driving or performing some task. It's been a very long time since I've just sat and listened to music without distractions.
@@joroc ideally it would be nice to be called a person with autism rather than 'an autistic' it just sounds nicer. I'm a massively social person with autism I have a large group of friends I go to gatherings and parties. We're normal human beings with a brain that just works a little differently so just like there are "normal" people who enjoy being social and some who don't that applies to people with autism as well. I think the confusion can lie in the fact some people with autism have issues identifying social queues. I have no issue identifying social queues and responding to them but it's a constant active effort and it can be honestly exhausting pretending to be the same as a non autistic person.
@@Heather_Morgan I often use the UA-cam algorithm to just listen to new music, it's amazing at offering things you enjoy. If I'm having a difficult day that's often how I'll spend an evening.
I think Gabe should get a guitar for two reasons. 1. He loves music. 2. You can see him playing around with the blue ribbon, and theirs times where he would kinda strum it like guitar strings.
The strumming motion you see is random stimming that is a calming mechanism or communication outlet. I think they might have tried instruments at one point but it doesn’t signify that he would enjoy it just because he does that. He could not enjoy it because of the noise and the feel of the strings.
When I got a job at a local paper I was slightly overwhelmed because I never went to school. I spent years watching Chris though and began watching him closer and I think I really learned how to be a decent interviewer because of him. He and his partner and this channel is such a treasure to have online, for soOOo many reasons
One thing though - when you're talking to an autistic person, don't look at them continuously, like Chris did. Look away from time to time., (this video is great, it's just a minor thing, but don't put someone with autism under continuing eye contact. It can feel challenging)
Oh wow, when Chris played 'Melancholy Blues' and Gabe turned to sit facing Chris, it gave me happy chills! The way he started making more eye contact with Chris....oh, my heart just warmed...
This is why, as a verbal autistic person, I enjoy nonverbal communication like that. Nonverbal communication has a much greater capacity to induce strong positive feelings in other people than verbal communication(at least in my personal experience).
I'm constantly amazed at what I see on this channel it's hard to put into words, it's pure feeling in a way that I don't experience very often any other way (and I rarely feel moved to express a sentiment anything remotely like this).
My daughter has nonverbal autism. To communicate she instead he uses her eyes and body gestures much like this young man here. I have three other children, none of them who have autism and she is probably the funniest of all of them. Once you get to know what they're trying to tell you, in their own way, they actually can have sense of humor just like anyone else. It's been such a joy having my little girl. Really glad to see this video. It made my day. Thank you
Such a sweet boy, I have a autistic grandson, and he is nonverbal, but he tries to communicate with us with his hands, he is 16, yrs old and I love him very much, god bless you for being his friend.
6:54 My heart melted when Gabe sat up and enjoyed the second song you played and even tapped your arm and fully communicated his appreciation and enjoyment through his eyes and body language! I had a student JUST LIKE Gabe and absolutely loved him and his personality. Gabe’s parents are amazing with him!
I bet he could speak if he wanted to, but why not just let the adults around him make the effort to figure him out instead? If I carried a child all of its life would it ever learn to walk? If I solved a kid's problems every time they met a challenge, would they ever learn to think for themself?
@@Kathy-pr4wu You're partially correct, but there's more to it. There is definitely a difference between these individuals and us .. but HOW and WHY that difference originates remains a mystery to science. There is (stastistically and scientifically speaking) a higher likelihood that it results from very early conditioning, than any kind of genetics or accident of birth. We know that from the huge amount of research carried out in the 20thC. For reasons we don't fully understand, this early conditioning (what used to be called 'orphan syndrome') seems to coincide with either limited intelligence, or hyper intelligence. We may never understand the mechanism, but it's crucially important that we keep studying this phenomenon - without impediment from obstructive politico-social ideologies.
@@Kathy-pr4wu I also wanted to say that those who would condemn your words, are the obstructors I refer to. Ask yourself whose interests it's in to demonise this very important research. How on earth does it help these kids, to refuse to consider ALL possibilities? It doesn't. It never will. This obstruction is purely for the comfort of the 'healthy' individuals in the autist's orbit. They don't like what it may be saying about their role in the person's condition. Always look for the motive behind the anti-science, and if there's even a trace of self-interest in it, you know it's both unsound, and unkind.
Gabe's moms are so sweet, and you can tell that all three of them have a very tightknit and loving relationship! I'm so glad he has a family that supports and loves him, no matter what!
I love it how Gabe's body language changes from the moment Chris puts on the music. You can see how much more comfortable, interactive and smiley he gets as time goes by. It’s lovely to watch his confidence bloom and his beautiful smile. 🥰
Autistic people can have enhanced pitch processing and ability to identify emotional information in music, which is of course interesting because they do not comprehend emotional information that comes from body language or speaking tone well at all. I'm autistic so I have my theories on why all that is the way it is, but suffices to say that in therapy music is a good tool for autistic people to vent/channel emotions and process them. As long as it's music they like. In essence, guy puts on music Gabe also likes, to him it's like a huge amount of information they can pass back and forth through the experience of listening to the song and knowing they are both having a good experience from the same thing. Neither person has to say anything.
@@Velereonicstrue I'm on the spectrum and I feel more emotion from music than normies. Also I like to send songs to people with lyrics or melody in that communicate how I feel.
The moment where Gabe touched your arm and smiled seems so special. Because you said "I enjoy listening to music with you." And it's almost like he reached out to say "Hey, me too!" Maybe almost like a reassurance, because people sometimes can't tell or even just an underlining of something he says through his eyes or his smile otherwise.
As a autistic person it’s nice to finally see parents who don’t try to “fix” or “cure” anything. They don’t think he is less than and they don’t think that he is incapable of communication. It’s unfortunately pretty rare to see
I dont think its rare to see it depends what lense you are looking through one of internilsed abilism tht makes u mad at most things parents of autistic kids do that are just trying the best with no manual or if your looking at the non intenilisef abilism lense cuz theres alot of them out there dude im autistic too
I LOVE this. Gabe wasn't very sure about this new connection at first. But then he started making direct eye contact, and you can see him really trying to connect here. Beautiful. ❤
This is important with people with autism as even if they aren’t showing it it’s important to give them time to get used to you and trust you just like meeting others for the first time and not going all out and overwhelming them
Gabe is so lucky to have Nikki & Caroline, two moms who are 100% committed to make his life the best as it can be. Thank you (again), Chris, for introducing the world to another amazing kid with an outstanding family!
I love that Caroline called herself Gabe's "bonus mom" and how even Nikki at the end discussed the crossover lenses of being a widow, a mother of a child with autism, and being queer were all things that caused her once to shrink, and now... They're all blooming and growing and living openly! It's wonderful
@@Ethan-ee8rv oh yeah totally! autism can still affect ur daily life and can be rlly hard to deal w especially if ur undiagnosed, but its not necessarily fatal and shouldnt be treated as smth to be cured yk 😯
Yo he was like "Yeah everyone knows Another One Bites The Dust, cool." But you hit him with that melancholy blues and and it really seemed to strike a chord.
@@jpthescott5793 oh it certainly was. But he did mention that he put on the song Melancholy Blues and you can tell when the song really drops. He sits up and looks at him like "Oh you know know huh?"
Dude, I love the way Gabe just sat right up, turned toward you, and started engaging with you when you played Melancholy Blues for him. It gave me the biggest smile. A lot of times, you have to do parallel activities, and occasionally, you intersect, and it's beautiful .
Gabe could be a teen model for a fashion brand! What a fascinating young man. I bet he has an incredibly rich inner life - a lot is going on in his mind, you can tell.
I feel like the model life could be overwhelming to him. Idk how he's with sensory overload but photography studios sure have a lot of it... Noise, flashes, and people talking from everywhere :( If he'd accomated to, I'm sure he'd do amazing though!
The way Gabe turned to Chris have him a tap and a smile was so beautiful. The connection was really sweet and Chris is so good at connecting with people I love it.
@@ilariacatini7752 He's pointing out that Gabe isn't that special, and that most people can't think of anything redeeming aboout Gabe's personality, except his looks.
How do you know he doesn't have these things? It's impossible they didn't think of this since you, a casual stranger briefly watching him enjoy music, could deduce that this might be a good idea. They see him loving music, dancing to it 24/7/365.
"You'll never get it because his arms are so long" That made me giggle. They must have so much fun in their home! Gabe is so lucky to have such gentle, loving incredible parents. What a beautiful family. I love seeing the diversity of all families and how love really is the answer. If only every single person could experience this type of love and patience...
I love this channel dearly. My mom with cerebal palsy introduced me to it, and I fell in LOVE. Every time I watch these videos, I'm reminded of how being kind can make a big difference. You've changed a lot of people in a good way.
His eyes are SO expressive, it's incredible. It's close to telepathic. He is very ethereal. I wonder if he has synesthesia or something too when he looks around and listens to music.
The eye contact that Gabe gives the people around him is the purest form of communication and understanding from someone who is nonverbal like him, it shows that he is aware of what’s going on around him and he is acknowledging who’s there and what’s going on 😊 When he reached out to Chris at 6:52, he just looked so happy to sit down and listen to music with a friend
I love how you bond with each kid. It's really special. Gabe is so awesome, and so are his moms. I hope Gabe meets new friends who see and appreciate how cool he is, and I hope his future is full of happiness, music, and dancing.
As someone on the spectrum who plays guitar and listens to music almost 24/7, this was very wholesome. I think I might understand Gabe a little, I smiled a lot as well, thanks for introducing Gabe and his parents. :3
I have a whole bunch of synthesizers in my home and the first thing I think, when I see Gabe, is how much fun it would be to introduce him to synthesizers. Just a whole bunch of keys, knobs, and buttons to manipulate, twist, turn, press, and interact with to create new sounds. I imagine how insanely fun it would be to listen to Gabe discover his power over sound. So, yeah! If you (Gabes parents) ever read this, have a look into the world of synthesis. Not all of them cost insane amounts of money, and all of them are an endless amount of sonic exploration. Anyhow, Gabe is a very sweet kid and it seems to me that he has lots of loving support from some amazing people in his life. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
I have a dj friend with a nonverbal son and he LOVES synths. He samples sounds from the neighborhood and from videos he watches throughout the day. It totally occupies him and he is creating something great!!!
5:39 the way he sits up and looks at you then listens to the music is so wholesome bc your sharing his way of communicating and I can just tell he loves that and I just love that
i love how Gabe reacts to Melancholy Blues (definitely an underrated Queen song). he literally bolted upright and engaged so much. music is amazing how it connects people, and his smile at the end of that clip is so genuine and beautiful 🥰
I love how you are comfortable just sitting with Gabe. Too many people are uncomfortable with a lack of spoken conversation. As the parent of a child with ASD I find there is much depth and communication just being present together.
@@empress2529 you can learn to become comfortable with the silence. It takes work because we've been conditioned to make small talk but it is worth it to learn to be comfortable just being with others.
@@carriehiggins876 It reminds me of our son, he has emotional regulating matters, as a baby eh would up crying as crazy, tantrum, we never knew if he is pain or had a bad dream or was annoyed by something? we hoped hat when he will grow older he will explain himself.... but kids with ADD and with emotional regulation issues they also find it hard to convert events and fleeing into words... thus, we kept not receiving answers until he was much older. Having communication problems is a mayor struggle in humans, because communication is everything for humanity. I think they did not explain enough how they really communicate with him. maybe with hand blind signs? with a computer?
“Just because he’s different doesn’t mean he doesn’t understand everything “Treat him with respect,love,and kindness,as the unique individual that he is.❤
I work in a school for specific purposes as a social worker where students are non verbal, this interview made me cry seeing the quiet way chris just accepted Gabe and hung out with him. So much emphasis is put onto verbal conversation but connection between humans is so much more than words, its acceptance. Thanks for this video :)
Dude, she said "I like to think he's saying I love you" then he looks at her so lovingly, I think she got that one right. So beautiful when he touched your arm and started smiling. Looked like he wanted to tell you he feels the same way about whatever you said.
He actually did say that in a video on their tiktok, but they didn’t catch it as it was at a restaurant that was noisy. It got caught on film though, very sweet:)
6:50 When he touches his arm to tell Chris that he liked the song and how Chris smiled after telling he loves this song. Thanks for letting me live this moment
I'm so impressed with that Chris guy.. I'll be so proud to have him as my son.. he exudes compassion, intelligence,, sympathy and empathy.. he will receive compensatory blessings for how he connects with the special children.
I think people in the comments mean it more like, the way he communicates and interacts is so different. They aren't saying he's not a person. That's what I like to think.
Thank you with all my heart for doing these visits and sharing with all of us. ❤ When you were listening to music and he reached out to you , moved his mouth.........What a beautiful sharing of two perfect souls ! Thank you
I love that Gabe found a family that loves him and accepts him. At the same time, as a speech therapist I can't help but wonder where's his AAC system?? He could express so much more with the right tools, it could be life changing for him and his family!
he has one they just didnt give it to him for the video he mostly just asks for food with it, he also has spoken a few words and sang from what ive seen on instagram
I thought the same thing as an ex SPED teacher, opportunity for Gabe to express himself, but then I thought, I'm sure they tried 1000's of times, 1000's of ways.
i cried so hard while watching this idk why. its just that his family is so sweet, he seems to be such a lovely boy, that just needs to be understood (like everyone does, we all!!). also, the way you sat together and listened to some good music was so so sweet. he liked it, he starter to really enjoyed it with time, and it was adorable to see. so lovely. people really deserve to be seen and loved. i love it!!
from ages 5-10 year’s old i had a non verbal classmate, it was amazing to see how all of our class were so accepting and and didn’t avoid them because they communicated differently. they loved listening to stories and gaining little smiles and signs of joy from them bring me joy as well. loved this video a lot
Gabe reminds me of my son so much . His tallness , His eye gazing to connect , angelic look , love for music , hair , the way he dances on his moms page ❤. How they wish he could talk when he isn't feeling well makes me sad 😢. My son has alot of auto immune disease and it steals his joy.
I enjoy how Gabe is making you work for it with your one on one couch sitting. He's not going to just open up all the way with you at first. Like any teenage boy he's just playing it chill
There was a documentary I watched about a girl that was autistic and nonverbal and one day she found a computer and she was able to type out her feelings and thoughts. She was like "I'm a 14 year old girl I want to talk about boys and I'm tired of people treating me like I'm a child". I think she's a writer or reporter now. I'm happy they treat him like he's a 13 year old and they have a system of communication. I love how they were just hanging out vibing through music 🎶
I'd say it's less of a stereotype and more of a symptom of autism. though it is a symptom of autism, some outliers that don't exhibit this symptom, such as Gabe, exist. Just like some people who have autism are non-verbal, but others are verbal.
@@isaacvoorheis8158Exactly, as I’m someone who has high-functioning autism, I can say that I have a hard time maintaining secure eye contact when communicating with different groups of people. People forget that’s called a “spectrum” for a reason.
@iamlabyrinthh I remember being young and having extreme problems with holding eye contact with people. I don't know if I'm autistic or not. I learned to force the eye contact and deal with the feelings I got. The feelings have subsided after decades of doing this. But, now people tell me that my gaze is absolutely piercing. Coworkers comment to me that my heavy, sustained eye contact is almost too uncomfortable for them sometimes. I usually say "well, now you know how I felt as a kid."
It's that childlike joy you lose once you become a teenager, yet he still has it, I actually envy him. I wish I could be his friend, trying to see the things he enjoys and doing them with him is something all of us could use every now and then,
My great grandson is autistic I totally agree with using music. From the time he was a few months old singing lullabies to him had such a calming effect. Continued then with music videos and at age 6 he began uttering words in a sing song voice.
@@digitalpickles1277 Bless you. Music is the universal language. You wanting someone to play Queen made me almost fall off my char because my great grandson loves to listen to We Will Rock You. ❤
He might, though if he has speech apraxia he may have other types of apraxia that would make it hard to do the fine motor movements required for guitar. There may be other instruments that don’t require that though
During one of the music bonding clips I actually thought “I wonder if Chris can play guitar? Imagine if he whipped one out and tried to teach Gabe a few of the easy chords like Em, C, D, G, A.” (Standard chords for learners
The way he was making eye contact at points when you guys were listening to music ❤ and his taps. So heartwarming and beautiful to see diff ways of communication. Talking is truly overrated. What a beautiful family
My friends have a mostly Non Verbal Autistic son, and last week for thr first time (he is 8) he gave me a.massive hug and kiss and didn't want me to leave side. I was amazing! I really felt we had a connection.
Gabe speaks a lot. People don’t understand how he talks different. He is very talkative in his mind. I would enjoy talking with him. In that moment listening to the song he’s asking you about the song.
How did you know that ? Stop giving someone else identity in your head and try to project it to others as if it was them, stop misjudging people. Just accept what and who they are, no need of 'oh he must be this, he must be that'
As an Autistic person myself, I kinda agree. In my experience, Autistic communication, even with ourselves, is all about exactness, bluntness, exchange of relevant facts, and explicitly communicating every “implicit” nuance. If there is ANY room for speculation or storytelling on your part, we have not managed to convey what we really need you to know. Nonverbal cues alone cannot come near meeting this standard- it often cannot even be discerned 100% if a given action IS communicative in intent, let alone what it means. Situations where I cannot spare the mental energy necessary to use language are frustrating and infuriating as all get out for me. Hope Gabe minds this less than I would!
Gabe is so sweet and i like his smile, it brings joy to me seeing him smile. The way he interacts with his moms is just very neartwarming, since they dont try to change him. Instead they let him communicate in his own way. I have a friend who is high functioning, his parents sheltered him and kind of controlled how he communicated. Seeing gabe get to be himself is just refreshing i guess!
Omg that moment of connection during the second song... what a breath of fresh air!!! The look in Gabe's eyes is radiant. Thanks for sharing this moment.
I've recently decided on a total career change into music therapy, and videos like this confirm that it's the right path for me. Seeing how music transforms the way people can communicate is truly magical.
As an autistic person who listens to music 24/7, it completely dictates how I feel and the way I go about my day depending on what it is that I’m listening to. Extremely powerful stuff. Good luck with your career
As a nurse, this work is so needed! Not only so much research to back up quality of life improvements but I’ve seen it so many times either with dementia patients or children with autism, so many people need music and who better than someone trained! I do my best finding their favorites
You guys are great moms. I'm a adult diagnosed with autism late in life. But my mom always knew me best. This was beautiful to watch. They are also good parents to Gabe ❤️
Gabe seems like an awesome kid. I have a, nephew who has Autism. I was a caregiver for him, from the time he was Gabe's age. Bless you ladies for being such awesome moms.
@RobinDeBank_notavailable , t.u, man. I tried to do my best with him. I think that's he's better for my time with him. Idk who's grab. Maybe you meant Gabe? Did you watch the video? He is the kid.
@RobinDeBank_notavailable, yeah, you're right. I didn't even notice that, until you pointed it out just now. Thanks, bro. Sorry for the confusion. I corrected it.
Can I just thank this channel for every day teaching me something new . Years ago I would have been awkward trying to talk to someone non verbal. And I’m so embarrassed to even admit that . But since watching channel I treat them like i would anyone else . Just last week 2 people at a store were looking around . The girl told me “OH OH omg I love your bag so much ! We’re huge dísney fans. Jon look at her bag” I turned to thank them and noticed Jon was in a wheel chair with a screen as his voice . I felt years ago I would smiled and said thanks and walked away. But this time I made sure to walk over to him closer as the way he was sitting he couldn’t see my bag well. I asked them if they both love Disney and told them thanks again and told both to have a great day ! It’s silly how simple it was and normal but I have NO idea why Years ago I wouldn’t have been able to. So thank you !
A really beautiful family, i found you all really inspiring. Gabe has such a lovely & extraordinary spirit. I loved how the video ended, it went out on such a chord of liberation and love. Sending all you guys at SBSK tonnes of love and blessings from Matt in Australia 🦘🌏❤🎉
i love how SBSK starts off all of their videos by getting to know the person before introducing the details of their condition - it makes it much more like an interview and much less like a case study
I've been non-verbal before and I was communicating telepathically when people asked me questions or said things. I speak out loud now, but I can understand Gabe's non-verbalness as I'm also autistic. There wasn't many people I could share comfortable and just straight vibing silences with, I can count the people that I did on one hand. And it looks like Chris was one of those people that Gabe could just vibe with.
I have some questions, I work with a lot of nonverbal kids. Were you nonverbal since birth to whatever age? If yes, did you just not realize that you could talk with your mouth?
He's nonspeaking but actually very comunicating. You can tell what his favourite songs parts are by his gestures, posture and expressions. The most of the people comunicates using the whole body, actually. Never underestimate the value of body expressions! Great video, love the way you just listen music together. I think you are great, and I hope your chanel becomes one of the most important on UA-cam, because this is the content we NEED to see, as individuals and as society
You explained it better then I ever could, but yeah, he talks a lot. And he even talks more sence then we verbal people do sometimes. He showed us to enjoy being in the moment listening to music and just be in the same space. I loved watching his communication. And his smile is amazing.
I’m autistic and I was never non verbal, but as an autistic person, I know people stereotype us and I know how people see us. I appreciate how they know he understands, and how they treat him like a human, and how they know there isn’t anything wrong with being autistic. It’s so refreshing because so many love to baby and stereotype us. It’s great to see other autistic people just living life.
I hope you enjoy meeting Gabe as much as I did. It was a nice reminder that words are just one of many ways to communicate with others. Anybody who would like to follow this loving family on UA-cam can do so at www.youtube.com/@fortheloveofgabe
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@@lanaxv GABE IS A GOOD FREAKING HUMAN BEING JUST BECAUSE HE CAN'T SPEAK IF YOU HAVE AN ISSUE GO CRY TO YOUR MOM PEOPLE WITH SPECIAL NEEDS AND DISABILITIES ARE IMPORTANT IN THIS WORLD
wish he was allowed to play video games... then i would play along for sure
@@mybrokenmindddd huh....
What a unique life...
Everyone thinks life is about getting married, or having experiences or having children or being successful.
In reality the meaning of life is life.
I'm glad that some of us can have more unique walks through this bed of strange flowers.
Thanks for what you do. Its very important to this world.
Thanks for that smile, too. c:
May God be with you.
Gabe is very present in these conversations, it doesn't matter if his body language is different and he doesn't speak... autistic people are underestimated so much of the time, I'm glad he appears to have a loving family who appreciate him the way he is and allow him to engage with them in the way that works for him
agreed. just because they may appear "different" in social situations like these doesnt mean theyre not aware and engaged in the conversation
My autistic cousin was alawys someone I wanted to be around . I was broken hearted when he was instutionlized . He became big and aggressive . I love him . My cousin Marco .
He’s such a handsome boy but he is on he’s little world 🌎
He doesn't speak because hes embarrassed of his lesbian mother
Shame on you !
This young boy can be happy not being in your surroundings.@@MAnon-sq5nf
Getting a light tap and small smile from Gabe is so much more meaningful than most conversations ppl have.
This it made me cry, I've worked in care with people like Gabe, and when you are able to make contact on a level that they feel safe with, it is the best. Everything could go wrong during a shift, but having a smile from one of the clients who didn't make contact that easely, would allways be the best of the day.
How do you know?
Exactly
@@livmarlin4259 im assuming they meant that as a general statement. I work with kids with ASD that are non speaking and i think once you get a connection with them, it feels more authentic than most interactions with neurotypical people
@@livmarlin4259 your ignorance is amazing.
I am a person with low support needs autism, and no one understands how much music means to me, how much I hear in the music the notes I can pick up and replicate with ease and no one ever wants to just enjoy music with me. That would mean a lot to me too and I am so glad Gabe got to enjoy that moment!
Thank you for sharing your personal insight. It's interesting considering we can all be sitting in the same room listening to a song together, but each one of us hears it differently. I've never thought about that before.
I would gladly sit quietly and listen to music with you. 🥰
When I was younger, I really listened to music and noticed all the details and individual instruments. I loved and appreciated music so much. But as I've gotten older, music gradually became just background noise to ignore while trying to get work done or something to fill the silence while driving or performing some task. It's been a very long time since I've just sat and listened to music without distractions.
I didn't know austists had interest in social
@@joroc ideally it would be nice to be called a person with autism rather than 'an autistic' it just sounds nicer. I'm a massively social person with autism I have a large group of friends I go to gatherings and parties. We're normal human beings with a brain that just works a little differently so just like there are "normal" people who enjoy being social and some who don't that applies to people with autism as well.
I think the confusion can lie in the fact some people with autism have issues identifying social queues. I have no issue identifying social queues and responding to them but it's a constant active effort and it can be honestly exhausting pretending to be the same as a non autistic person.
@@Heather_Morgan I often use the UA-cam algorithm to just listen to new music, it's amazing at offering things you enjoy. If I'm having a difficult day that's often how I'll spend an evening.
i would listen to music with you anytime
I think Gabe should get a guitar for two reasons.
1. He loves music.
2. You can see him playing around with the blue ribbon, and theirs times where he would kinda strum it like guitar strings.
The strumming motion you see is random stimming that is a calming mechanism or communication outlet. I think they might have tried instruments at one point but it doesn’t signify that he would enjoy it just because he does that. He could not enjoy it because of the noise and the feel of the strings.
06:03 (2)💀
You say "cookie" and he becomes alert. That's a teenager right there.
Yes
How are they communicating
@@lindalarsson1436 he lifts up his head to let everyone know he is interested in the cookie
I want a cookie too now
@@lindalarsson1436 ever heard of body language?
I love that Chris takes the time to sit, observe, leave space, and meet someone where they are. Such an important lesson for all of us.
Sure he gave him space. I think we all need that time to time.
When I got a job at a local paper I was slightly overwhelmed because I never went to school. I spent years watching Chris though and began watching him closer and I think I really learned how to be a decent interviewer because of him. He and his partner and this channel is such a treasure to have online, for soOOo many reasons
He's SO good at it! He can connect with anyone. As a person who has difficulty connecting with people, I envy that skill.
@@MamaGator lol I have coop this summer
One thing though - when you're talking to an autistic person, don't look at them continuously, like Chris did. Look away from time to time., (this video is great, it's just a minor thing, but don't put someone with autism under continuing eye contact. It can feel challenging)
Oh wow, when Chris played 'Melancholy Blues' and Gabe turned to sit facing Chris, it gave me happy chills! The way he started making more eye contact with Chris....oh, my heart just warmed...
Yeah, I got chills too. I saw he was opening up.
Yeah he loved it
He REALLY enjoyed that guy time.
This is why, as a verbal autistic person, I enjoy nonverbal communication like that. Nonverbal communication has a much greater capacity to induce strong positive feelings in other people than verbal communication(at least in my personal experience).
Such a beautiful moment
This is legit the most valuable channel on the internet. What a gift. Thank you.
SBSK is a treasure. The work he and his partner do is enlightening, interesting, and shows a kindness that is rare to say the least.
I'm constantly amazed at what I see on this channel it's hard to put into words, it's pure feeling in a way that I don't experience very often any other way (and I rarely feel moved to express a sentiment anything remotely like this).
yes.
Yes it is
@@nagromgsemaj I agree!
My daughter has nonverbal autism. To communicate she instead he uses her eyes and body gestures much like this young man here. I have three other children, none of them who have autism and she is probably the funniest of all of them. Once you get to know what they're trying to tell you, in their own way, they actually can have sense of humor just like anyone else. It's been such a joy having my little girl. Really glad to see this video. It made my day. Thank you
Is she still alive?
@@livmarlin4259wtf why are you asking that??
@@livmarlin4259 why would you ask that? Autism is not a deadly thing
Thank you for sharing:)
@@livmarlin4259 💀
Gabe is the most beautiful boy with the most intense eye contact. There is something magical about him. I've seen him on other social media before.
does he have Instagram by any chance?
THIS!
He’s so cuteeee
@@Ilikebookssss He does actually! I was just on their profile a few days ago
@@shyspeaks9238 what is it?
Such a sweet boy, I have a autistic grandson, and he is nonverbal, but he tries to communicate with us with his hands, he is 16, yrs old and I love him very much, god bless you for being his friend.
6:54 My heart melted when Gabe sat up and enjoyed the second song you played and even tapped your arm and fully communicated his appreciation and enjoyment through his eyes and body language! I had a student JUST LIKE Gabe and absolutely loved him and his personality. Gabe’s parents are amazing with him!
Hello Missy how are you doing today?... hope my message found you in a pleasant way?
@@daviddietrich5104 what’s your motive replying to all these women?
you can tell he was saying “hey I really liked this song”
@@jasminetpf6366 its a bot
@@GRRRRAAAAAAHHHH i doubt it, i think its some old man tryna get laid trought youtube comments
This boy is very intelligent. He doesn't miss a thing. He's measuring those around him.
I bet he could speak if he wanted to, but why not just let the adults around him make the effort to figure him out instead? If I carried a child all of its life would it ever learn to walk? If I solved a kid's problems every time they met a challenge, would they ever learn to think for themself?
@@Kathy-pr4wu I don't think autism works that simple
@@Kathy-pr4wu You're partially correct, but there's more to it. There is definitely a difference between these individuals and us .. but HOW and WHY that difference originates remains a mystery to science. There is (stastistically and scientifically speaking) a higher likelihood that it results from very early conditioning, than any kind of genetics or accident of birth. We know that from the huge amount of research carried out in the 20thC.
For reasons we don't fully understand, this early conditioning (what used to be called 'orphan syndrome') seems to coincide with either limited intelligence, or hyper intelligence. We may never understand the mechanism, but it's crucially important that we keep studying this phenomenon - without impediment from obstructive politico-social ideologies.
@@Kathy-pr4wu I also wanted to say that those who would condemn your words, are the obstructors I refer to. Ask yourself whose interests it's in to demonise this very important research. How on earth does it help these kids, to refuse to consider ALL possibilities? It doesn't. It never will. This obstruction is purely for the comfort of the 'healthy' individuals in the autist's orbit. They don't like what it may be saying about their role in the person's condition. Always look for the motive behind the anti-science, and if there's even a trace of self-interest in it, you know it's both unsound, and unkind.
@@Kathy-pr4wu nonspeaking autism isn't a matter of willpower or being coddled
Gabe 100% gives off angelic elf prince vibes
RIGHT?!!
Totally agree
Such a pleasant lil boy. Truly previous smile
Yesss❤
Totally!!! Now that you say it, I see it!
Gabe's moms are so sweet, and you can tell that all three of them have a very tightknit and loving relationship! I'm so glad he has a family that supports and loves him, no matter what!
I love it how Gabe's body language changes from the moment Chris puts on the music. You can see how much more comfortable, interactive and smiley he gets as time goes by. It’s lovely to watch his confidence bloom and his beautiful smile. 🥰
Autistic people can have enhanced pitch processing and ability to identify emotional information in music, which is of course interesting because they do not
comprehend emotional information that comes from body language or speaking tone well at all. I'm autistic so I have my theories on why all that is the way it is, but suffices to say that in therapy music is a good tool for autistic people to vent/channel emotions and process them. As long as it's music they like.
In essence, guy puts on music Gabe also likes, to him it's like a huge amount of information they can pass back and forth through the experience of listening to the song and knowing they are both having a good experience from the same thing. Neither person has to say anything.
Wonder if he like Heavy Metal.....😁
@@Velereonicstrue I'm on the spectrum and I feel more emotion from music than normies. Also I like to send songs to people with lyrics or melody in that communicate how I feel.
Gabe is a rock star....l hear Freddie, l see Bowie
Gabe is a rock star....l hear Freddie, l see Bowie
The moment where Gabe touched your arm and smiled seems so special. Because you said "I enjoy listening to music with you." And it's almost like he reached out to say "Hey, me too!" Maybe almost like a reassurance, because people sometimes can't tell or even just an underlining of something he says through his eyes or his smile otherwise.
I honestly got teary eyed 😢
It's also possible that Gabe had no idea what he said.
As a autistic person it’s nice to finally see parents who don’t try to “fix” or “cure” anything. They don’t think he is less than and they don’t think that he is incapable of communication. It’s unfortunately pretty rare to see
I think most parents are just trying to get their kids to a point where they can take care of themselves
I dont think its rare to see it depends what lense you are looking through one of internilsed abilism tht makes u mad at most things parents of autistic kids do that are just trying the best with no manual or if your looking at the non intenilisef abilism lense cuz theres alot of them out there dude im autistic too
Какие родители?!
Какие родители?!
@Cat litter angyl
I don't think anyone was parent shaming. Be calm.
I LOVE this. Gabe wasn't very sure about this new connection at first. But then he started making direct eye contact, and you can see him really trying to connect here. Beautiful. ❤
This is important with people with autism as even if they aren’t showing it it’s important to give them time to get used to you and trust you just like meeting others for the first time and not going all out and overwhelming them
Gabe is so lucky to have Nikki & Caroline, two moms who are 100% committed to make his life the best as it can be. Thank you (again), Chris, for introducing the world to another amazing kid with an outstanding family!
Hello Dennis, Can I ask you a question?
Repent to Jesus Christ ““You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.”
Matthew 5:14 NIV
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@@EeeeKEEDYbeeky they're from another planet
@Irina Nadia Really? There are all kinds of ways that a child can be raised by two loving parents of the same gender.
All children deserve to be loved & raised in loving families. Remind me again, what exactly Jesus Christ said about this.
I love that Caroline called herself Gabe's "bonus mom" and how even Nikki at the end discussed the crossover lenses of being a widow, a mother of a child with autism, and being queer were all things that caused her once to shrink, and now... They're all blooming and growing and living openly! It's wonderful
But it not about them and how they choose to live it’s about this wonderful young man.
@@shaunalea823 it's about the whole family and their experiences. Why are you triggered
@@shaunalea823 but my comment was. Why are you mad?
@Beth A. Exactly, it's often about the network surrounding these lovely people, those who advocate for them, love and raise them...
@@shaunalea823 Being gay isn't a "lifestyle" you choose.
There are so many LGBTQIA parents out there raising children with disabilities. Thank you so so so much for featuring this beautiful family.
@@abigailaluebhousele1297 What an insightful comment full of nuance; this was truly a learning experience. Thank you for your life-changing wisdom.
Probably cus we care.. not like straight parents who are abandoning their children or ab*sing them..
You mean There are so many humans raising children with disabilities.
@@HouseOfVirgo No, actually. I meant what I said. I have a pretty good handle on the English language.
The disabled only understand the disabled
I needed this. It reminded me of WHY I became an occupational therapist to help people like Gabe. God bless this man working with him!
Thank you for your hard work!
10:56 his smile… you can tell it meant a lot to him
🌃
im so glad that his parents dont see autism as an inherently bad thing and dont see gabe as a burden, i love this family so much
Dissabilitie arent supposed to be burdened
The thing is… autism itself (as a sufferer) can be really hard to deal with. It’s important that we aren’t viewed as burdens though.
@@Ethan-ee8rv oh yeah totally! autism can still affect ur daily life and can be rlly hard to deal w especially if ur undiagnosed, but its not necessarily fatal and shouldnt be treated as smth to be cured yk 😯
why does he have two moms?
@@ShadowIllusions they are a lesbian couple
He's such a handsome boy. Such a beautiful smile. His connection with Chris over the music is so sweet. I love this channel
Gabe is very sweet
Yes, you could tell the gay man was shipping him. Not sure if I find this healthy or not.
@@pureffm !!!!"d¿
@@pureffm?
@@pureffmhelp what 😭
When you play the second song and he turns around and faces you directly was so cute!!! That was such a cute bonding moment!
Yo he was like "Yeah everyone knows Another One Bites The Dust, cool." But you hit him with that melancholy blues and and it really seemed to strike a chord.
I was always partial to Keep Yourself Alive.
@@Boonehams i
I thought it was just the video edit so there is no copyright strike lol
Yeah lol as a fellow autie I felt that. Well known song? Eh ok sure I'll enjoy it. Oh you know more? Now let's engage!
@@jpthescott5793 oh it certainly was. But he did mention that he put on the song Melancholy Blues and you can tell when the song really drops. He sits up and looks at him like "Oh you know know huh?"
Dude, I love the way Gabe just sat right up, turned toward you, and started engaging with you when you played Melancholy Blues for him. It gave me the biggest smile. A lot of times, you have to do parallel activities, and occasionally, you intersect, and it's beautiful .
Hello Kristine, Can I ask you a question?
Gabe could be a teen model for a fashion brand! What a fascinating young man. I bet he has an incredibly rich inner life - a lot is going on in his mind, you can tell.
I was thinking the same! He's beautiful, what a loving family
The medicine drug mafia make medicine side effects to restrain their tongue muscles not to speak , this boy is a victim of dark side of under world .
Omg yes he's freaking gorgeous..... what a gem ♡
I feel like the model life could be overwhelming to him. Idk how he's with sensory overload but photography studios sure have a lot of it... Noise, flashes, and people talking from everywhere :(
If he'd accomated to, I'm sure he'd do amazing though!
Let him have his own instagram and be his own manager 😂 then YES!
Otherwise no...
We all know the fashion world is evil.
The way Gabe turned to Chris have him a tap and a smile was so beautiful. The connection was really sweet and Chris is so good at connecting with people I love it.
this guy has a beautiful smile
@h654bx1u8hk What? mine is a serious compliment to this guy what's your problem?
@eun64d525yh5df of course looks are everything
He's a very handsome young man
@@ilariacatini7752 He's pointing out that Gabe isn't that special, and that most people can't think of anything redeeming aboout Gabe's personality, except his looks.
@@officerjimlahey but they are talking about his smile
Gabe needs some musical instruments... a guitar, a synthesizer. Something so he can express himself musically. I bet he would love it.
How do you know he doesn't have these things? It's impossible they didn't think of this since you, a casual stranger briefly watching him enjoy music, could deduce that this might be a good idea. They see him loving music, dancing to it 24/7/365.
@Laura-kl7vi you seem angry, chill..
@@Laura-kl7viwow they were only sharing an idea, no need to unleash your anger onto them
That's sad, he's too handsome to be such a ret4rd3d.
@@Laura-kl7vi Why so edgy? The commenter wasn't.
"You'll never get it because his arms are so long"
That made me giggle. They must have so much fun in their home!
Gabe is so lucky to have such gentle, loving incredible parents. What a beautiful family.
I love seeing the diversity of all families and how love really is the answer.
If only every single person could experience this type of love and patience...
This is such a lovely comment, well said Denise ❤ hugs
Just wait till they divorce.
@@officerjimlahey why spread negativity ??
@@Arako Better than most of the BS comments on this video.
@@officerjimlahey why would they divorce?
I love this channel dearly. My mom with cerebal palsy introduced me to it, and I fell in LOVE. Every time I watch these videos, I'm reminded of how being kind can make a big difference. You've changed a lot of people in a good way.
His eyes are SO expressive, it's incredible. It's close to telepathic. He is very ethereal. I wonder if he has synesthesia or something too when he looks around and listens to music.
Ive followered their tiktok for a long time and have also always wondered this
what is synesthesia?
@@jamiegdubois I think it's @fortheloveofgabe
@@bukai_oklm it's when your senses kind of combine in a way. So synesthesia is seeing shapes/colors when listening to things.
@@summermurray8258 like when taking drugs XD
10:56 “thank you for listening to music with me”. Then he looked up at you! That was so sweet!
The eye contact that Gabe gives the people around him is the purest form of communication and understanding from someone who is nonverbal like him, it shows that he is aware of what’s going on around him and he is acknowledging who’s there and what’s going on 😊 When he reached out to Chris at 6:52, he just looked so happy to sit down and listen to music with a friend
I love how you bond with each kid. It's really special. Gabe is so awesome, and so are his moms. I hope Gabe meets new friends who see and appreciate how cool he is, and I hope his future is full of happiness, music, and dancing.
Gabe has such model like features. He is literally beautiful
I was thinking the same thing! He honestly looks like a fairy :,)
Bro he reminds me of bjorn andersen
agree..
Permanent mewing due to nonspeech
Fr 😢
As someone on the spectrum who plays guitar and listens to music almost 24/7, this was very wholesome. I think I might understand Gabe a little, I smiled a lot as well, thanks for introducing Gabe and his parents. :3
I'm the same (except I can't play guitar, I sing instead) I love music, it's always on at my place, and I love sharing music with people!!
@Beth A. I do, it's usually jazz and metal genre. Deathcore, Metalcore, Djent stuff.
@@jacksondawn5629 I'm interested, any platform where you upload your songs?
@@solidxangryjoer4233 same i play and write alot of metalcore and deathcore songs mostly crabcore stuff and im also on the spectrum
@@MrDWide-iq7df Very nice. Do you like stuff like VCTMS, LANDMVRKS, Lorna Shore or even Polaris? :D
I have a whole bunch of synthesizers in my home and the first thing I think, when I see Gabe, is how much fun it would be to introduce him to synthesizers. Just a whole bunch of keys, knobs, and buttons to manipulate, twist, turn, press, and interact with to create new sounds. I imagine how insanely fun it would be to listen to Gabe discover his power over sound.
So, yeah! If you (Gabes parents) ever read this, have a look into the world of synthesis. Not all of them cost insane amounts of money, and all of them are an endless amount of sonic exploration.
Anyhow, Gabe is a very sweet kid and it seems to me that he has lots of loving support from some amazing people in his life.
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Amazing idea I agree. I think he would absolutely love it.
Boost! That sounds amazing
I also love synths. They are amazing for stimming. Like top tier
What a fantastic idea. I hope his parents read this
I have a dj friend with a nonverbal son and he LOVES synths. He samples sounds from the neighborhood and from videos he watches throughout the day. It totally occupies him and he is creating something great!!!
5:39 the way he sits up and looks at you then listens to the music is so wholesome bc your sharing his way of communicating and I can just tell he loves that and I just love that
Never thought I'd find you here
@ what do you mean???
@@CallmeChloo I'm subbed to you for some reason
@OvejaGD really?
@@CallmeChloo yes lol
i love how Gabe reacts to Melancholy Blues (definitely an underrated Queen song). he literally bolted upright and engaged so much. music is amazing how it connects people, and his smile at the end of that clip is so genuine and beautiful 🥰
He did not "bolt up." He just stares at the guy and has zero expression on his face.
@Brice It's such a shame that you and a lot of the people who can communicate are such douches for no reason.
@@seajay632 Maybe you should work on that.
@@officerjimlahey Lol ratio.
yes true! I love seeing such positivity
I love how you are comfortable just sitting with Gabe. Too many people are uncomfortable with a lack of spoken conversation. As the parent of a child with ASD I find there is much depth and communication just being present together.
Yeap, it made me feel uncomfortable and anxious, like I kept waiting from him to say something
@@empress2529 you can learn to become comfortable with the silence. It takes work because we've been conditioned to make small talk but it is worth it to learn to be comfortable just being with others.
@@carriehiggins876 It reminds me of our son, he has emotional regulating matters, as a baby eh would up crying as crazy, tantrum, we never knew if he is pain or had a bad dream or was annoyed by something? we hoped hat when he will grow older he will explain himself.... but kids with ADD and with emotional regulation issues they also find it hard to convert events and fleeing into words... thus, we kept not receiving answers until he was much older. Having communication problems is a mayor struggle in humans, because communication is everything for humanity.
I think they did not explain enough how they really communicate with him. maybe with hand blind signs? with a computer?
the way he smiled and interacted with chris while listening to music just melted my heart
“Just because he’s different doesn’t mean he doesn’t understand everything “Treat him with respect,love,and kindness,as the unique individual that he is.❤
I really felt the connection at 15:20, when Gabe looked you into the eyes and literally reached out towards you.
His eyes are so communicative and intense, it's like they compensate for the lack of spoken word
I work in a school for specific purposes as a social worker where students are non verbal, this interview made me cry seeing the quiet way chris just accepted Gabe and hung out with him. So much emphasis is put onto verbal conversation but connection between humans is so much more than words, its acceptance. Thanks for this video :)
Hello karla, Can I ask you a question?
Gabe is so sweet and what a handsome young man! He has a very ethereal vibe about him that is just so touching.
The work SBSK does is not only exceptionally authentic but in this day and age is absolutely invaluable at bettering humanity.
He LOVED that second song you played!
Melancholy Blues by Queen!!! Would have loved to include it in the video but had to change it for copyright reasons.
@@SpecialBooksbySpecialKids I played it alongside the video anyway! Take that, copyrightists!
Why did you chose a song Dave likes?
@@mariovalenzuela7153to make him safe and comforting and happy
Wat is de derde song you played
I love Chris, simply for being such a genuinely caring person.
Hello Christina how are you doing today?... hope my message found you in a pleasant way?
@@daviddietrich5104 stop man 💀
@@myheartwillstopinjoy8142 lol he seems to be doing this to all the girls he finds
It gives me hope for humanity. About Chris not the thirsty guy
@@caitlynnestrada87 "not for the thirsty guy" 😂💀
Gabe is lucky to have such a beautiful family. And they're lucky to have him. ❤
Dude, she said "I like to think he's saying I love you" then he looks at her so lovingly, I think she got that one right. So beautiful when he touched your arm and started smiling. Looked like he wanted to tell you he feels the same way about whatever you said.
He actually did say that in a video on their tiktok, but they didn’t catch it as it was at a restaurant that was noisy. It got caught on film though, very sweet:)
6:50 When he touches his arm to tell Chris that he liked the song and how Chris smiled after telling he loves this song. Thanks for letting me live this moment
I adore how direct he is when he looks into their eyes. I would so love to know what he is thinking.
Gabe is beautiful, he could literally be a supermodel. 😍
I noticed how tall he was. I thought he was 15-16. But man, he sure is a tall for a 13 year old.
Yea he is so tall and handsome, he could easily be a model and make a good career 💗
I thought the absolute same! He’s tall and such a handsome boy.
Lets remember hes a minor, a child. Would you like grown men commenting how a little girl is "model material"?
@@FaithG-s1f it's a compliment don't look into it too much.
I'm so impressed with that Chris guy.. I'll be so proud to have him as my son.. he exudes compassion, intelligence,, sympathy and empathy.. he will receive compensatory blessings for how he connects with the special children.
Them: "I would like people to understand that he is just like you and I!"
Everyone in the comments:
"Wow, its like he is from another world!!! 🤩🤭"
lol exactly
I think people in the comments mean it more like, the way he communicates and interacts is so different. They aren't saying he's not a person. That's what I like to think.
@@TopOfAllWorlds agreed. I don't think anyone is trying to be mean or anything but he just gives off that vibe.
100% people are totally missing the point
@@TopOfAllWorldsthey’re still missing the point
6:50 bruh I would start crying.
He is too sweet.
Agreed! Thank u for noting the time.❤
@@louisskulnik7390 he says the names. another one bites the dust and melancholy blues
@@louisskulnik7390he says when they first start playing
He is sweet, and handsome😊 His smile is so adorable❤
@@una9121 oh, I skipped around as is my wont.
Thank you with all my heart for doing these visits and sharing with all of us. ❤
When you were listening to music and he reached out to you , moved his mouth.........What a beautiful sharing of two perfect souls ! Thank you
I love that Gabe found a family that loves him and accepts him. At the same time, as a speech therapist I can't help but wonder where's his AAC system?? He could express so much more with the right tools, it could be life changing for him and his family!
he has one they just didnt give it to him for the video he mostly just asks for food with it, he also has spoken a few words and sang from what ive seen on instagram
I'm an SLP, too, and was wondering exactly the same thing. Doesn't make sense.
@@jodic4823 food is highly reinforcing, but as much as he likes music, I'm sure he could learn to use his aac system to make music requests.
@@TigerheartedWolf@nicolegottesmann
I thought the same thing as an ex SPED teacher, opportunity for Gabe to express himself, but then I thought, I'm sure they tried 1000's of times, 1000's of ways.
i cried so hard while watching this idk why. its just that his family is so sweet, he seems to be such a lovely boy, that just needs to be understood (like everyone does, we all!!). also, the way you sat together and listened to some good music was so so sweet. he liked it, he starter to really enjoyed it with time, and it was adorable to see.
so lovely. people really deserve to be seen and loved. i love it!!
I don't think I've watched a single one of these videos without crying. It's beautiful to see people love each other so much.
from ages 5-10 year’s old i had a non verbal classmate, it was amazing to see how all of our class were so accepting and and didn’t avoid them because they communicated differently. they loved listening to stories and gaining little smiles and signs of joy from them bring me joy as well. loved this video a lot
Gabe reminds me of my son so much . His tallness , His eye gazing to connect , angelic look , love for music , hair , the way he dances on his moms page ❤. How they wish he could talk when he isn't feeling well makes me sad 😢. My son has alot of auto immune disease and it steals his joy.
I enjoy how Gabe is making you work for it with your one on one couch sitting. He's not going to just open up all the way with you at first. Like any teenage boy he's just playing it chill
"I feel like life became more beautiful, actually" so clearly present in their love for each other. What a blessed and wonderful family.
There was a documentary I watched about a girl that was autistic and nonverbal and one day she found a computer and she was able to type out her feelings and thoughts. She was like "I'm a 14 year old girl I want to talk about boys and I'm tired of people treating me like I'm a child". I think she's a writer or reporter now. I'm happy they treat him like he's a 13 year old and they have a system of communication. I love how they were just hanging out vibing through music 🎶
@@paolaamadeo774 I just looked her up and it looks like she's started a podcast on youtube!
Do you know the name of her podcast? Would like to check it out
If you find it could you please also share it to me, it sounds really interesting
@@loafcat4831 posted above!! :)
@@ohemdoublegee where :)
How warm. I feel it. It's so free. I am glad to have come across this video and these light people.
he's so handsome even the smile is innocently cute
That's sad, he's too handsome to be such a ret4rd3d.
He’s mewing
@@himmick5438 bro- 💀
He is!!! He's very angelic
@@himmick5438😭?
Autism stereotype: hating eye-contact
Gabe: communicating through eye-contact
proves once more that stereotypes are bs.
I'd say it's less of a stereotype and more of a symptom of autism. though it is a symptom of autism, some outliers that don't exhibit this symptom, such as Gabe, exist. Just like some people who have autism are non-verbal, but others are verbal.
@@isaacvoorheis8158Exactly, as I’m someone who has high-functioning autism, I can say that I have a hard time maintaining secure eye contact when communicating with different groups of people. People forget that’s called a “spectrum” for a reason.
@iamlabyrinthh I remember being young and having extreme problems with holding eye contact with people. I don't know if I'm autistic or not. I learned to force the eye contact and deal with the feelings I got. The feelings have subsided after decades of doing this. But, now people tell me that my gaze is absolutely piercing. Coworkers comment to me that my heavy, sustained eye contact is almost too uncomfortable for them sometimes. I usually say "well, now you know how I felt as a kid."
@@peterharrell7305 autism isn't diagnosed just by the way you hold eye-contact. A lot of kids are shy and can't hold eye-contact for long.
@@isaacvoorheis8158 i'd say it's both. Stereotypes usually come from symptoms.
There is something beautiful about him. That smile was so genuine and filled with emotion. He can really express himself in ways most people cannot.
It's that childlike joy you lose once you become a teenager, yet he still has it, I actually envy him.
I wish I could be his friend, trying to see the things he enjoys and doing them with him is something all of us could use every now and then,
@@tennolife9930 My I think second cousin's 18 and he's the same way. He can't say much and they think he's autistic.
Yep cuz you know it's genuine, not second guessed or filtered. Pure.
I love Gabe and his mother's content! The way he expresses himself through dance speaks measures more than ANYONE's words ever could.
My great grandson is autistic I totally agree with using music. From the time he was a few months old singing lullabies to him had such a calming effect. Continued then with music videos and at age 6 he began uttering words in a sing song voice.
Yes !
GREAT GRANDSON😳😳
I am autistic, but verbal. I would love to see him watch someone play queen on the guitar. Music is what made me come out of my shell.
@@digitalpickles1277 Bless you. Music is the universal language. You wanting someone to play Queen made me almost fall off my char because my great grandson loves to listen to We Will Rock You. ❤
Imagine having "Melancholy Blues" as your favorite Queen song. I had no idea Chris was such a connoisseur.
I think they should give him a guitar. He really looks like he would enjoy learning to play
He might, though if he has speech apraxia he may have other types of apraxia that would make it hard to do the fine motor movements required for guitar. There may be other instruments that don’t require that though
apparently, he just received a guitar as a christmas gift!
@@juliabrenska4925 i love that! :)
During one of the music bonding clips I actually thought “I wonder if Chris can play guitar? Imagine if he whipped one out and tried to teach Gabe a few of the easy chords like Em, C, D, G, A.” (Standard chords for learners
@@juliabrenska4925 Thank you for the lovely update, that is so good to hear!
The way he was making eye contact at points when you guys were listening to music ❤ and his taps. So heartwarming and beautiful to see diff ways of communication. Talking is truly overrated. What a beautiful family
My friends have a mostly Non Verbal Autistic son, and last week for thr first time (he is 8) he gave me a.massive hug and kiss and didn't want me to leave side. I was amazing! I really felt we had a connection.
It's because you too are a sweet soul, thank you for sharing your kindness. 😇
You probably a big softie 😺
thats really cute actually
That's cute...wish I had an autistic sibling like that..
@@ashleyrodriguez2050I have an autistic sibling but he isn’t non-verbal. I will say he is really sweet though
Gabe speaks a lot. People don’t understand how he talks different. He is very talkative in his mind. I would enjoy talking with him. In that moment listening to the song he’s asking you about the song.
Hello Beverly how are you doing today?... hope my message found you in a pleasant way?
How did you know that ? Stop giving someone else identity in your head and try to project it to others as if it was them, stop misjudging people. Just accept what and who they are, no need of 'oh he must be this, he must be that'
As an Autistic person myself, I kinda agree. In my experience, Autistic communication, even with ourselves, is all about exactness, bluntness, exchange of relevant facts, and explicitly communicating every “implicit” nuance. If there is ANY room for speculation or storytelling on your part, we have not managed to convey what we really need you to know. Nonverbal cues alone cannot come near meeting this standard- it often cannot even be discerned 100% if a given action IS communicative in intent, let alone what it means. Situations where I cannot spare the mental energy necessary to use language are frustrating and infuriating as all get out for me. Hope Gabe minds this less than I would!
That smile he gave Chris when they were listening to Melancholy Blues just melted my heart. Such a wholesome and kind video.
Gabe is so sweet and i like his smile, it brings joy to me seeing him smile. The way he interacts with his moms is just very neartwarming, since they dont try to change him. Instead they let him communicate in his own way. I have a friend who is high functioning, his parents sheltered him and kind of controlled how he communicated. Seeing gabe get to be himself is just refreshing i guess!
Omg that moment of connection during the second song... what a breath of fresh air!!! The look in Gabe's eyes is radiant. Thanks for sharing this moment.
YAY!!! I’ve been following Gabe and his family on social media for awhile, and I’m so excited to see this collab!!!
I've recently decided on a total career change into music therapy, and videos like this confirm that it's the right path for me. Seeing how music transforms the way people can communicate is truly magical.
i wish you the best of luck with this career!
17 years as a music therapist, and I can tell you the magic never fades!
As an autistic person who listens to music 24/7, it completely dictates how I feel and the way I go about my day depending on what it is that I’m listening to. Extremely powerful stuff. Good luck with your career
Good luck! You're gonna do great!
As a nurse, this work is so needed! Not only so much research to back up quality of life improvements but I’ve seen it so many times either with dementia patients or children with autism, so many people need music and who better than someone trained! I do my best finding their favorites
This young man melts my heart when I see his videos pop up on UA-cam. Although not speaking his compassionate personality shines through❤
Get this dude a bass!!! Gabe loves music and can clearly keep a good rhythm, I think he'd be sick on an instrument.
I was also thinking drums, but maybe start with frame drum
At the end of their listening party he made a strumming gesture
he definitely gives off some bassist vibes
He needs mirrors around to help with his self awareness
I was about to comment that. Give my man a bass and get him a good teacher and he would be insane
At around 7:00 minutes when Gabe started interacting with you and smiling, it just brought tears to my eyes. So lovely.
You guys are great moms. I'm a adult diagnosed with autism late in life. But my mom always knew me best. This was beautiful to watch. They are also good parents to Gabe ❤️
He’s almost otherworldly to me like he’s just here on earth for a visit. What a unique soul
i love this comment so so much ! so beautifully expressed
@@claudiahowick agreed!
Ever seen the movie k-pax?
That’s what I was thinking!
It makes sense that his name is Gabe since that’s the name of an angel
Gabe seems like an awesome kid. I have a, nephew who has Autism. I was a caregiver for him, from the time he was Gabe's age. Bless you ladies for being such awesome moms.
who is grab? Im also an autistic teenager, and I find it awesome that you took care of your nephew, good job man👌
@RobinDeBank_notavailable , t.u, man. I tried to do my best with him. I think that's he's better for my time with him.
Idk who's grab. Maybe you meant Gabe? Did you watch the video? He is the kid.
@@PBandJTime oh sorry you wrote grab once instead of gabe and I didn't realize you meant gabe sorry
@RobinDeBank_notavailable, yeah, you're right. I didn't even notice that, until you pointed it out just now. Thanks, bro. Sorry for the confusion. I corrected it.
@@PBandJTime np, wasn't supposed to be criticizism.
Can I just thank this channel for every day teaching me something new . Years ago I would have been awkward trying to talk to someone non verbal. And I’m so embarrassed to even admit that . But since watching channel I treat them like i would anyone else . Just last week 2 people at a store were looking around . The girl told me “OH OH omg I love your bag so much ! We’re huge dísney fans. Jon look at her bag”
I turned to thank them and noticed Jon was in a wheel chair with a screen as his voice . I felt years ago I would smiled and said thanks and walked away. But this time I made sure to walk over to him closer as the way he was sitting he couldn’t see my bag well. I asked them if they both love Disney and told them thanks again and told both to have a great day !
It’s silly how simple it was and normal but I have NO idea why Years ago I wouldn’t have been able to.
So thank you !
This is so wholesome ❤️❤️❤️
I can't be the only one who thinks Gabe is just the cutest thing in the world. He's so adorable and his smile just really hits different.
he fine
He's is so cute.
Yes but maybe word this differently because it can come across as If your babying him
He really seems like someone who's fun to be around 😄
@@livvlife I agree, it’s just a tiny bit infantilizing-
Gabe is a blessing to the world. He is so fortunate to have two moms that love him unconditionally! ❤️
Hello Genevieve, Can I ask you a question?
Michael Jackson would LOVE him!
:)
A really beautiful family, i found you all really inspiring. Gabe has such a lovely & extraordinary spirit. I loved how the video ended, it went out on such a chord of liberation and love.
Sending all you guys at SBSK tonnes of love and blessings from Matt in Australia
🦘🌏❤🎉
i love how SBSK starts off all of their videos by getting to know the person before introducing the details of their condition - it makes it much more like an interview and much less like a case study
I've been non-verbal before and I was communicating telepathically when people asked me questions or said things. I speak out loud now, but I can understand Gabe's non-verbalness as I'm also autistic. There wasn't many people I could share comfortable and just straight vibing silences with, I can count the people that I did on one hand. And it looks like Chris was one of those people that Gabe could just vibe with.
Can i ask how long did you stay non-verbal? Just very curious
@@hachinguyen5473 Sure, for 2 years and communicated non-verbally and also telepathically as I said above.
what do you mean by telepathically ??
I have some questions, I work with a lot of nonverbal kids. Were you nonverbal since birth to whatever age? If yes, did you just not realize that you could talk with your mouth?
Lol...
He's nonspeaking but actually very comunicating. You can tell what his favourite songs parts are by his gestures, posture and expressions. The most of the people comunicates using the whole body, actually. Never underestimate the value of body expressions! Great video, love the way you just listen music together. I think you are great, and I hope your chanel becomes one of the most important on UA-cam, because this is the content we NEED to see, as individuals and as society
You explained it better then I ever could, but yeah, he talks a lot. And he even talks more sence then we verbal people do sometimes. He showed us to enjoy being in the moment listening to music and just be in the same space. I loved watching his communication. And his smile is amazing.
I’m autistic and I was never non verbal, but as an autistic person, I know people stereotype us and I know how people see us. I appreciate how they know he understands, and how they treat him like a human, and how they know there isn’t anything wrong with being autistic. It’s so refreshing because so many love to baby and stereotype us. It’s great to see other autistic people just living life.