Leaving isn't the pain, the pain when someone you care for and who you think would have some or a little respect or care for you doesn't show any to you through their lies.
My partner lied about physically and emotionally hurting me right in front of my face and then telling everyone around us how crazy and delusional I was. He flirted with multiple women right in front of me and made it out to be like I was jealous even when his friends were the ones calling it out at first. While I was being punished with silence, he would literally take those moments and create emotional connections with strangers which to me I classed as cheating because he was telling some stranger across the world all about his problems instead of solving them with the person who was actually there for him. I feel so betrayed and like how can any human treat someone with such so much disrespect after all the good things you do for them and all the sacrifices that were made in order to try keep that person happy. What really gets me is why these people end up being happy and yet people like me end up miserable.
Divorce...its a wonderful thing. Take it from someone who lived with a procrastinating liar for 20 years....THEY DON'T SEE HOW MUCH THEY HURT YOU...NOR DO THEY CARE. If I had a dollar for every unkept promise, I'd be a billionaire.
My wife lies has cost us financial hardships and she don't have a backbone to admit truth....she continues to lie in my face rather than tell the truth..it's making me sick spiritually....
Not being truthful sucks for those who are facing it. I have personally a hard time because whenever I am embarrassed I shut down emotionally and I cannot speak the truth or when I want others to see strength or character in me that is not there...I think praying and really let it out when you are ready to say is important. I learned that if confronted and I am embarrassed to speak the truth instead of tell a lie, the best would be "I am not ready for this conversation yet, but I will let you know of what is necessary right now."
i agree, i am a recovering liar and honetly i only lie when i am being forced into a conversation that i was not ready for. i feel embarrased, ashamed and just overall overwheled. i dont want to be a liar. i think trying to put off the conversation until i am ready will help a ton, thanks !!
I was with a man for 22years.you never know who your with,and after the split I found out it was much worse than I knew.I see people around me hooked up 1 day saying I love you 3 days later ,I can't wrap my head around it , they're strangers .It takes years to know someone well enough to begin to even know them a little.
You are contradicting yourself! Getting to know someone for years did not work well for you huh? I have 2 girlfriends who married after dating for 6 months and are in Healthy honest marriages It’s about the people not time
What if we've been together for almost 5years. But there is a very little progress? He still lie. I'm getting tired 😢 Should I consider moving forward and look for someone trustworthy? 😔
I am no professional, but I think honestly this is a time you should move on. Weigh the odds, can you survive in this for the rest of your life? If you can't, practice self care and protect your heart
@@ashleyfields6320 I wanna ur help please help me out through my situation my gf speak lie to me she hide truth of her past with me instead I told her don't speak lie to me i dont like but she make the situation like I'm wrong she is right and when I catch her lie she start speaking again lie and start crying and make me feel bad that I have done wrong and she always say that she want to live with me but she don't follow what I like what I love instead I follow what she says she mostly go against my decision when I get angry and say I m leaving u she starts crying and saying that don't leave me
Move on. I know it's hard. But to quote another video "there are literally thousands of people who would do anything to be able to wake up next to you.. and who would treat you right"
If you can't trust your boyfriend and your relationship should be based on trust, respect and love, isn't it clear to you that you should move on? Does he have anything to hide? What advantages is he trying to get by lying? Is he doing it for a noble cause, i.e. to save someone's life, or is he doing it selfishly to save his image or to feed his pride? Just food for thought.
Leaavvveee. I've been with someone for 10 years now and realizing its time for a divorce after being married almost 6 years now. It never stops and they never change...Im constantly being manipulated, I'm feeling stuck because I'm broke and 9 months pregnant right now with our 3rd child and while I was trying to be a good wife by sticking by his side and trying to help him through his demons I was left to deal with mine alone and got engulfed in the stress of carrying the burden alone and trying to constantly figure out how he could deal. He never picked of his feet to evem begin trying to heal or get better he would just have the same excuse that "it was too hard" and give into his own desires and say "well I love you and you love me". Thats not enough and it will eat you alive. GET OUT.
But cheating is a conscious CHOICE. I am failing to understand how being physically intimate with someone outside of your relationship can be considered anything but NOT an act of love and consciously doing so. I just can't agree with that. You can't love someone and still cheat on them. Must not be enough or unselfish love. 🤷🏼♀️
30 plus years, alcoholic, uninvolved in family unless convenient for him. Four kids together now adults, I know at least of 4-5 years of another relationship as I saw inappropriate pictures on his phone. I have not the courage to come fourth. I feel sad, embarrassed, not of value. I grew up learning those feelings from abuse in my family. I lost any chance of viewing myself worthy to receive love. I feel tricked, he knew this and I was 100%devoted to him in my heart. I started having health problems in my 30’s which continued to worsen due to stress of worrying about him, late late working, I knew then something isn’t right, I ignored. I am making his choices to be my fault because I have health problems ( chronic Lyme disease) i don’t confront because I don’t want my kids to think of what he did to their mother, it would hurt them but I feel devastated to hurt them. I feel like I’m slowly drowning, because his choices to deceive me continue every night, and then comes home late and in morn talks to me with a cheery attitude like all is well. Psychologically, I am tortured… holding onto all this. When he shows up at family things, he is received with such joy, and I secretly feel so broken because of what he has done with no consequences.
I want someone to advice me on my situation my bf lies to me all the time, it's like he tells me something then he says 'oh I was joking' then he said 'no I was not'. For example: he has an exam tomorrow he told me a couple of weeks back that he is not taking it and has not even filled the form . Today, I tried texting and calling him, he didn't respond to any, after a few hours he told he has been studying since morning as he has his exam tomorrow I asked him that he told me he won't be taking it he said he never told me that I showed him the texts he said okay I didn't remember and just tried escaping the conversation Things like these keep happening all the time for every mere thing he has to lie and then just don't want to talk on it when he is caught. Now, it has grown so much in my 3years of relationship that whatever he tells me I can not believe itYou might see someone smiling all the time, and think their life must be perfect.. But you don't know what they're going through with in themselves. That smile is a symbol of hope and strength.
Been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were friends first for 8 months. I didn’t know until I let him move in with me that he was a serious drug addict. Shooting up fentanyl. I drove him to the methadone clinic everyday for almost 6 months and then he relapsed. I have no experience with this as I don’t do drugs and barely drink. I don’t smoke cigarettes. During the 6 months it was great. We work out together, we make music together, we both support each other with our goals. But when he does drugs he’s a completely different person. It’s now been a year since his relapse and he’s facing 5 years and will be on probation for a year because I called 911 from an overdose and he is now facing charges from that. Honestly the probation will help him get clean. But I don’t know if this is salvageable. I have a lot of contempt and resentment towards him from what he put me through while he was addicted. I have PTSD from it. I don’t know if it could work even if we wanted it to because of the emotional damage.
I just wanted to say that being with some one who has such a demon as addiction is troubling and exhausting for any loved ones involved. Most days you want to either walk away or beg to understand why they do the things they do. You want to fix them and see them live their fullest life. But I honestly believe that to fully understand addiction to drugs, you yourself need to experience it personally to really grasp the helplessness and control. I believe more compassion and empathy come from the person who has experienced addiction first hand. Also the addict HAS TO WANT TO BE CLEAN or they will never ever stay clean! My brother lost his life after his girlfriend pressured him into relapse. Now he made his choice to use, but she would not stop glorifying the drugs and constantly asking to get them. The toxicity of their relationship and both being addicts weakend my brothers will and he died after a relapse after 7 months being clean off heroin. If you are and your relationship is constantly in turmoil over the relapses and lies it sounds like your partner does not have the desire or will to abstain from using. You have to want it for yourself first. It's the only way. I know I'm rambling and I'm sure this post was years ago but I hope I have said something of value to others. Best of luck to all those who battle their addictions. Having an addiction does NOT define who you are. Addiction can be the most powerful motivation to how Astounding you will become, Or can be the example of where you will NEVER be again!
You hve to just block him on everything and never see them or text them ever again its hard but you dont want to marry him hell just break your heart worst
So my boyfriend and I have been together for seven months when we first met , everything was good. But he lied to me about his age and name. It’s really bothering me because I just do not trust him. Like age and name is serious. I feel so crazy even typing this but something guided me here . It low key hurts because I have been completely honest since day one. And I just feel if you lie about your age and name lord knows what else you’ll lie about. And it’s frustrating because I care and love him. 🤦🏾♀️
My boyfriend suffers a lot of different addictions, some he has escaped from. He goes to therapy with me but doesn't want to go really. The lying and the issues keep me in a spot of just misery and despair. So do I leave for my mental health or trust that he would do anything for me, and eventually stop? Another important factor is he is an avoidant attachment and I'm anxious. This makes every move he makes harder for me to become a more healthy individual
I was in relationship with a person with whom I just felt the click as he also confirm. But things change when I saw him lying about my existence and our relationship with my junior. He always expected me to understand him only and there was no way he would understand me. And another thing was that before such event, while starting our relationship, I asked him about his past relationships,if any. He replied, "how does that matter?" And " I was althrough single". Later it was found from the social media that he was talking rubbish he was actually married to a girl. After some investigations, it was found that he was in relationship with the girl for 3 years and then married her but they had problems with the relationship due to ego and thus was divorced. But his explanation was different, to him, he saves that girl. He was not even in relationship with her for 3 years. The girl faced a break in relationship with whom she was for 3 years. She was broken and proposed him getting drunk but he couldn't deny her proposal because she was elder to him and her father was a respectable person. Furthermore after the wedding, he came in contact with her ego issues, no one in her family accepted him and she had some ovarian tumor issue for which she lost both her ovaries. As a result, both of them departed happily. Now the most important thing is is he wants me in his life, he wants to marry me and only me. When caught with pictures of his marriage, he had a very casual attitude and was not even apologetic. I tried to make him understand that the situation now went out of my hand as it i.e. the enquiry was done by my sister and her fiance and they directly contact with my parents telling this man is a liar and we don't want our sister to get married with him. I loved this person and trusted him. He broke it and he is not even apologetic. He was afraid of telling me as to how will I react. I just told him I can't stay with a person whom is not even understanding his fault but telling me that he loves me after all this and wants to marry me. He wants me to fight for him but he will not be there by my side as he thinks he is a stranger. I said a hundred times, this relationship is not possible not because of my family's involvement but because of he himself and broke off with him very rudely. He told me I am a parasite, spineless creeper who loves to stay in her parents den and all those meaningless "I love you" doesn't suit me. I am not strong so and so. After all this condition, now my situation is I want to get rid of the memories too which are haunting me. I just can't believe I will be betrayed like this. I know the relationship was of only 3months but I don't know I went too far trusting him.. our family planning, financial planning, future planning and were even talking about making joint travel account for our pleasurable tours as we both decided to marry. Now my dilemma lies so what was all this throughout whether he was acting, or he was lying...? I have started going to counseling sessions for my mental condition. This was my first relationship and didn't expect it will come out like this.
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Thank you for responding .. no absolutely not . I absolutely don't want to be this this person... But now it's hard to get rid of the memories.
Hey Archita Chatterjee, don't expect to get rid of the memories. That is virtually impossible. You need to let time do it's job and let the memories fade away on their own as you create new ones with someone better :) - Coach Adrian
My husband is a habitual liar. I always speak the truth and believe in complete transparency. I caught him car pooling with a female coworker since three months and he didn't tell me about it. We have two little daughters. I feel devastated now.
I'm having a problem bc my husband has made promises to me and be has betrayed me and I'm really considering leaving him , he says he is sorry and thinks I need to just forgive him and he does it again and again and again and I'm to the point where I feel if I have no trust , I have nothing , I doubt him all the time now admits driving me crazy . Please help if you can. I appreciate your video . God bless s
I'm with you over here. I've noticed the lying before we got married. I realized the lying after a few months of dating him. But he kept telling me he's going to change and he's sorry....... Well 2 years later and nothing hasn't changed. I believed him I though he did. He still lies and I mean about any and everything. I'm in my bathroom now crying cause I'm just so tired. I stood by him willing to help. But I feel like it's bringing me down bad. I don't know what to do. I pray and pray. I love my husband. I just feel were not meant to be..
My husband has done more than I can't list here. Including impersonating his mother through text to me and ruining my credit. He's been doing better for a few months but it's been 2 1/2 years of lies and betrayal. It hurts me every day. I am completely dependent on him. He doesn't want me to work. Dictates how I dress and most of where I go. I deal with depression anyway but i'm having trouble getting over everything. If i bring anything up about how i'm feeling he gets mad. Throws things and tells me ...im psycho and need to get over it. I don't know what to do. I can't seem to make him understand how much it has effected me. It's like he just doesn't care.
Same for me ! Dealing with lies for 15 years . He recently started using drugs occasionally and it’s getting to be more and more ! I catch him gelling lies about what he used the money for or where he went . I’m tired of it I want out but idk how . He pays all the bills and takes care of me and the kids .
My Husband's Mother passed 2 months ago. I didn't leave his side the whole time. My Mother had a nasty spill and broker leg. She was rushed to the hospital AWAITING SURGERY IN 3 DAYS due to COVID. My Bro and I were on the phone most of 19/24 hrs following up with docs/nurses & contacting family. I failed to mention that I'm 7 wks pregnant/40 yrs old and this will be our 1st child together. He is 41 with 4 grown boys. I have a 10 yr. Old Son. As soon as I finally get some rest, he leaves/sends text message stating he is going to return some clothing at a store & run arrends with hid Dad. This seemed fishy to me. I took a guess that he'd be at the casino. I drove there and caught him just as he crossed in front of my vehicle, walking into the entrance! The timing couldn't be more perfect! God wanted me to see this. I was so shocked and so was he. He looked like a deer in the headlights. I immediately broke it off with him and kicked him out of my Apt. Told him to come pick up his things asap but he hasn't yet. I'm upset/hurt that He left my side while I'm pregnant and going through a tough situation with my Mom all to lie to me about running arrends/returning clothing but really going to the casino. I'd also like to mention that we were just at the casino together/got a rm/stayed the night 2 days ago. So it's not like he hadn't been there in a while but that's besides the point. We had plans for an upcoming trip to vegas in two weeks for my birthday and we were suppose to relocate south in 2 months but I pulled the plug on all. Now he says I'm overreacting. I know I'm not. Deception is my reason for separation. He doesn't see it as a "deal breaker" and justifies leaving me at one of my most vulnerable times nothing major because she's not "suffering any life-threatening injuries".
Leave him walk away he will not stop lie to you . And now it’s done he cheated I made mistake and went back after being cheated on and now I never trust him and it’s living in hell . I’m always worried about what he’s doing and who he’s with . It’s never any peace for my mind
So. I have been with the same women for 11 years. We have a child together and I have never need unfaithful to her. I felt that I trusted her. But in this last month since we separated that she keeps a lot of secrets. Tells a lot of lies and doesn't seem genuine when it comes to her true feelings surrounding our relationship. When we first got together. She was coming straight out of her previous relationship. She told me that her previous relationship had been abusive. As soon as she broke it off with her ex, she started dating me. Our relationship started to grow very quickly and within 6 months we were living together. We also worked at the same place. This is how we met. We rented and lived together for 4 years before we decided to buy our own place due to expecting our first child. 7 years on. We are now separated and theres no way back. She started to see one of my ex colleagues. Speaking to him a lot more and meeting him privately. I'm not sure how long for exactly but I know it's been since before we separated. But even though I know this is all going on. And I made the mistake of confronting her about it. She still denies that she is seeing my ex work mate. Even after a month of us being separated.... She still lies about it. But I know she tells him she loves him. Why can't she just be honest about it all instead of making up lies. She hides so many things. I will never trust her again. So I know it's over. But I am still hurting inside.
My boyfriend cheated on me ,and it's hurt me so badly cz I still love him so much.what should I do? I couldn't sleep or do anything cz my mind totally destroyed by him 😢
i don't know how to deal with my boyfriend lying to me. i just found out he's been lying about several things multiple times and i don't know what to do. i'm completely in love with him and plan on marrying him but i don't deserve somebody i can't trust. i'm not settling for less than i deserve. how do i help him?
My ex is a pathological liar. He lies about everyday things for no reason. Some of his lies don’t even make sense. Now I have to coparent with him and he still can’t be truthful.
You’re story is mine, coparenting is even more of a nightmare now that our son is 12 and he is teaching him to lie and alienate me. Trust that he will try to influence as they’re narcissistic, be aware that he will still try to control you in some form. Stay strong 🙏🏻🤍
Lies of omission are my husband of 20+ years. I want to separate, but it is so hard and painful to unravel our lives. Not to mention expensive. We are close to retirement age and for us to split would financially ruin both of us. Is there a way to communicate my need for honesty?
My gf lied to me today after telling me that she’s tired of me not trusting her she said she lied ab things that aren’t a big deal or for stupid reasons I don’t want to let go but I feel pathetic if I keep forgiving
Reading these comments being where I am in this situation ship it's safe to say ya girl finna be single n fly high .I may not be honest with sum things but wen I love I love. I hate to feel played.I cannot move forward knowing the man I wanted to marry cheated on me with multiple people for no reason .I wanted to elevate his frequency but u know what I'm a elevate my own n let the universe provide me with love .
Girl that i wanted to marry... She lied to me about stupid things and then she says that i am to angry, now we are on a break. I mean why wouldn't i be angry when she lies to my face even if i know the truth, after evrithing we did together
My husband cheated and left me 2 weeks ago. We have a baby with 9 months. He still lying to me, he said that we should work things out and later went to the other women... We have been married for 10 years.... What should I do... I still love him. Hugs from Portugal. Help me
You should put yourself and your child first. Liars are wishy ,washy and can't be trusted. Go to church and invest in your happiness in case you have to parent alone. Don't be fooled by your husband again and let him bring s.t.d.'s into your relationship. You can get HIV because of his infidelity. Don't allow him to cheat and go back and forth between you and another woman.He is not worth your health and sanity.
I know without a doubt that my boyfriend loves me. I have never felt so loved by someone other than my family. Problem is that my parents are accusing him of lying about his career (police officer). Sergeants at the station are saying that they've never heard of him and that he isn't on the payroll but other officers are telling me that he does work there. I haven't seen paystubs and I haven't seen him in uniform. I've seen pictures of him in other uniforms from previous jobs, just not ones for the department he says he's at now. I'm not quite sure what to do.
She tells me she’s listening to my playlists I check her Spotify activity and she’s not she tells me she’s napping and stays active on Instagram it hurts so much I love her so much why can’t she just be honest with me
My boyfriend lied to me so much in the 4.5 years we've been together. First, my boyfriend rejects me physically and sexually. When I asked him about it , he said it was because he was tired from work. He would literally push me off, I felt so ugly and undesirable. This happened for a whole 7 months straight. I felt something was up, I checked his phone, and it turns out he was rejecting me for freaking porn. Like, really?? If you are not happy or satisfied with me you should have told me so I could have left. Then he said the prostitutes were better than me .. second secret, my boyfriend's mom passed away last year on December 24th. He made an instagram to look up new food places. Tell me why, he looked up his ex and his excuse was I was just looking back at my life . Lol after this girl slept with all your friends, you miss her? That's fine, but don't pretend you want to be with me when you really don't. Idk how to leave I love him so much, but he takes my kindness for granted. When people lie they think you are dumb enough to believe their lies. Ughhhh
Thank you for this video! May I ask a question? What do you do if you ask your partner a question and your partner responds with an answer that you just don't believe. How do you trust their word and refrain from automatically thinking they are lying because "it doesn't make sense".. Judge Judy says "if it doesn't make sense, it probably isn't true"... that's where my thought process has always been. Curious for your feedback and thoughts!
Simabobeema As a woman who has been lied to multiple times throughout my relationship by the father of my children I can say without a doubt that you should trust your instincts. Every time I suspected something it turned out to be true in the end. He has lied to my face making me feel like I was insane. I mistrusted my self which I will never ever do again.
FemBot I just ended my 4 year relationship due to the same thing. I just found out a few days ago about her having a whole other relationship with her ex while with me. The constant times she looked me in my eyes and said no I would never, I love you so much... for years making me feel secure that I could trust her, always insuring me I wasn’t crazy and she wasn’t that type of person. It’s so disgusting and the disappointing part, is that I still want to be with her. I know I can’t and she keeps begging for me back, but is it really all worth it
I need help, I am with this person for 5 years and a half, every time the subject is money, there are lies. Many of them. I love this man, he says he wants help, he wants to change, he also says he loves me, I believe he does love me, but these lies made me so vulnerable and so hurt that I don't know what to do. Please help me.
how do you deal with someone who lies for almost everything forget they lie and lie on top of that also until i think it reach the point that they are believing their own lies i've been it that marriage for almost 18 years i pray it will change but most the time i leave it to god and on top of that their is always an excuse for the lie ..now tell me what do i do recently i've stop trusting him and i'm calm in this but sometimes it really takes a toll on me and then again i trust in god that it will work out but when do you know when enough is enough.
Situation with my ex is very complicated. She told me shes really ill but a part of me think shes lying. A lot of things dont add up. Shes very secretive and dont tell me what's going on, where she is or let's me visits her. She dont let me go so in my head I'm thinking theres a chance but at the same time I feel like shes ignoring me. I've hit the point I'm seeing how active she is in social media but cant respond to my messsage when she can clearly see how worried I am. I dunno what to do its emotionally draining me due to the constant worrying and stress over her health. I still care about her but at the same time I just wish it all to end. What should I do?
Pray to Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ bro and like in the video it says try to move on if it's only you who's doing the effort even though it might be tuff
My boyfriend lied to me about his money issues for 4 months and he took out a loan of a huge sum which he blew. Now he is in alot of debt. We planned to move in together at the end of this year but due to his decision he has to pay the money off over 2 years and scrape through every month to pay it off or he moves back home to save money which will result in us breaking up. He is willing to fight for us and work through it and he says he will change but I don't know how to forgive him through all of his lies he told me for months in terms of money.
Just need a little but meaningful advice, i got a live in partner for years now and he sometimes or let's say at times make a lie when it comes to seeing or communicating with his previous boss which i really really feels something between them, but my partner keeps on saying that im just being dominant when it comes to her and that is why he lies to not have an issue, the problem is that, there's no chance of asking him to avoid her coz she's also a family friend aside from being his boss in the past, i'm too afraid to what he might answer me back if i made him choose whether he will avoid her for him not to lie to me in anyway for me to stay or he'll say he can't and will not. What should i do? He hurts me badly when he lies to me about it. But im afraid he will not choose me and that he can't promise to avoid her.
My girlfriend once cheated on me...But we got back together but not like before because I know she had change and her ego is high but she still loves me...What should I do? Should I wait and hope tht everything will go back to normal?
After 34 years married...I found out I have evidence and papers...that my husband was going to leave to china and dissapear behind my back. He did not leave after I confronted him...he was lying for more than a year.now I dont trust him...I am devastaded and broken.i dont k ow I file for divorce and go back to spain with my family.my husband is from the usa.i dont know if I love him
Good evening Sir My partner is a liar and so defensive, you will hardly even hear him saying sorry. He always demands respect when he realizes he is wrong. And he always calls people for every problem and he is 49 years old and I am 29years is this normal?
I think it is not hard to know what love is? Society so messed that we need to dissect and inspect love. Love is dancing right in front of your face and you still not capable of recognizing it? Because it is freaking confusing? If it is confusing it is because it is inconsistent and because it is inconsistent it wont build a relationship therefore forget it. Learn how to fuckboyproof your heart because there are many "nice" fuckboys. "oh because he is so nice". Try to say no for them first and second time and if they are up to the next easy target? you know they are there for your pants not for building genuine friendly relationships that will last but for temporary release of orgasm. Unless that is all you want too then you got a match! I would say invest in yourself, learn and develop self love and you will attract the right people in your life.
My girlfriend lied to me about being at her friends house. Her friend has recently judged me on how I treat my girlfriend but doesnt have anything to back up her statement. My girlfriend didn’t want me to be upset about her still being friends with this girl. I couldn’t care less. It’s just her friends opinion. But whether it’s what I want to hear or not. She shouldn’t have lied about being at her friends house. Because now I’m sceptical on if she will lie again about something worse. What should I do?
My girlfriend suffers from ptsd, borderline personality disorder and severe depression. She suffered abuse as a child, her father passed with no consolation etc. She used to self harm badly, used drugs on and off but was never an addict, has a gambling addiction. She finally got decent help and did dbt in patient program for few months and came back and seemed to be doing better for some time. she changed her diet, started a yoga kick etc. she seems great in those ways. but what others dont know is behind all of this, there have been issues between us because of her illnesses. we are both 25 and this is all a lot to handle. she cheated on me on and off for awhile, I found out, I stayed and we had to try really hard to be good again. well that was about 6-8 months ago now that we have been good. Last week she came home bawling and admitted she has been going to the casino again. It hurts me in so many ways. I know it is stemming from an illness in which she is trying through therapy, meds and self health to feel better. But what do I do when these mental illnesses in the end hurt me too? It is the hardest thing I've ever been through. I moved 14 hours away from my family 3 years ago to be with her and don't tell my mom what's going on because I'm embarrassed but until you've been with someone who truly suffers from mental illnesses and IS trying to improve themselves, people would not understand. I dont have money saved up to move out but im considering starting to save up. We have been together 4 years in Jan. but Im not sure I can keep going on being lied to.
My husband lies about conversations with his ex ,they have kids the kids live with us .But when I catch him in a lie and confront him he gets angry and ignores me for days and avoids answering to me .
I’m stuck. I have cancer, two toddlers, no job since I’m the stay at home parent. My military spouse can’t stop lying and wanted legal separation. She wanted legal separation instead of divorce so I can still have military benefits. But I’m trying so hard to patch it up. When I thought we were really honest to each other, she lies and think I don’t know that she did call that guy again, I see the bill which she doesn’t know I have access to. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I can get her back but I dunno. It sucks.
I feel like my husband lies about weird things. Like we found a dog and he said he dropped the dog off at the humane society and talked to a person there and etc. I posted the dog as at the humane society on FB so the owners can find it. Later. An animal control officer contacted me and told me to fix the post to reflect its true location, the animal control pound. She said my husband flagged her on the road and gave her the dog. I don’t understand why he lied like that. It was so embarrassing because I explained she was mistaken at first until she was able to prove it to me. I was a fool to believe him over the officer. But I didn’t expect the lie. He told me that he thought the officer would just take it to humane for him or something. But he didn’t say anything about flagging down an officer. He said he dropped the dog off and listed he address to humane society when I asked where he took it. He won’t admit he even lied. I don’t get it.
Do you think he lied so you would think the dog had more of a chance at NOT being put to sleep if you thought it was at the humane society rather then the pound. That way you would not feel so bad. I dunno.
Looks like he didnt want you to think he really didn't put any extra effort in making sure the dog was safe. He maybe didn't want to seem like he found an easier way out by flagging down an offficer. IDK.
When I here a person lying and I know what they are saying isn’t true , it make me angry because it’s so unnecessary. How can I get to know you if everything that comes out your mouth isn’t true!!!! I’m ready to block this guy !!!
The best way to get a liar to tell the truth, is to get thee to trust you to tell the truth. Usually people lie more when they're anxious. It's best to make them feel like you're on their side and that's when they let their guards down to tell the truth. They will usually play this psychology on people who are suicidal when in reality, they will put you in a psych ward for 72 hours or more depending on your severity. This is coming from someone who is fixated on becoming more truthful rather than an liar myself. It's been working out for me. How I become the best version of myself is by controlling my anxiety, but it goes both ways.
I wonder if you can help I’ve been In a relationship for 6 months with my boyfriend. Just last month my mum went on holiday left and she had a tin with £200 in it came back to find it had gone out of the cupboard I wouldn’t of taken it said he threw it out by accident the next day came back returned the money said he sold his iPad..... I just can’t get the thought out of my head and it’s making me miserable I just can’t find the heart to break up with him what do I do ? Please help me if any of you guys have advice please comment 😊
He stole from your mother. If he is willing to do that, then he will do it anyone including you. Leave him. And just because he put it back doesnt mean anything. He did so because he was caught. If you hadn't found out, he would have never sold his iPad to replace the money. Leave.
So my spouse and I we've been together for 11 years. I noticed a weird pattern and him since July 19th of 2022 when I injured my back at work. I was always home and this is the reason why he says that he lost interest in me after I found a text message from a woman who text messaged him saying I don't want drama with your girl. I don't want to date anyone at work. I don't want dishonesty. And I don't want sneakiness. When I confronted him about the text message from her on November 8th he told me that he was planning on breaking up with me after the holidays to pursue a relationship with her. I yelled at him and I wish I would not have done that. I tried to slap him and when he put his arms up and I accidentally scratched his nose. He put a temporary restraining order on me till December 16th. Then on December 16th=(Please help
What about long term lie, i mean he lied to me about something related to his work in the early stage of the relation ship and after 2 years I figured he was lying on me all during this two years. What can i do i start to loose trust in him.
So one of my friends who I helped with many times that they like to lie about me and breaking there promises I don't know what to do but I'm at the point where I don't want to be with them that I hope they can get help or do better is there like advice for this because I'm trying my best to not to overreact out of control towards them because they don't think I don't love them known I do known the fact that they hurt my feelings once with being with someone else
Yeah that statement of “you can cheat and still love someone “ is not true in my opinion . If you’re in Monogamous relationship and someone steps out behind your back then that’s not love 💔
I'm experiencing the same thing with my girlfriend so much lies has been told even caught her red handed her ex leaving her house midnight asked her how come she didnt answer when I called she calmly said I put my phone under my pillow then fell asleep little do she know I was at her house coming to surprise her my instincts kicked in gut feeling said something isn't right and witnessed him n her leaving that night and she still lied to my face when I confronted her I finally decided I had enough then she tells me she's pregnant..she wants to get married a joint account and get a house together she has to be delusional, hate the idea of single parent but I'm a man of moral, not quick to judge by mistake but there comes a time when enough is enough..she also has a son to whom we share a bond he looks up to me listens to me I cook for him babysit while she's at work so she dont have to pay a babysitter teach him math read books different morals takes him to soccer games teach him how to play basketball we even have out video games moment really like him at first I was skeptical but I gave it a shot, my dad did when I was younger so I know what it's like to be without a father.. what worries me is how can I make this work morally I cannot have relations with people who are not straight up and real, liars worry me alot I rather deal with a thief...she's 4 months pregnant I'm also skeptical about that... she tells people negative things about me because women rather tarnish someone image than speak the truth..I've never cheated dont feel the need to like being faithful but my feeling are wrapped up in a ball n wish someone could help me make the right decision
I met a guy and after a year he lied to me about being married. We stopped talking but eventually did. We ended up having a child i was 21 when we met. He now wants us to give it another shot after i left him. We have a child but its hard for me to get over all that drama that came from this. I take responsibility for my part but wow. I was single. He took vows and now he wants to take them with me. He claims theyve been together since they where younger he got her pregnant at a young age and they had to get married. I know I take part too but wow what now. I moved away from him and its me and my beautiful daughter. He promises not to lie WITH ME. 😆. Now sometimes i look at him and...wow. Advice me down.
I contact them last week and trust me they got the hack done with no delays. The targetywas clueless not knowing I had full access to monitor every present and past data on the phone
I'm so depressed with my situation. My husband lies to me about EVERYTHING. He bisexual, addicted to porn, emotionally abusive. But he lies & lies about it all, even when he's caught red handed. I want to leave his SO BADLY that I'm at the point I'm starting to hate my life 😔 but I don't make enough money at my job to pay all the bills & care for our 3 kids on my own. I have no family or friends to help me. I don't want the kids to suffer or lose anything, I feel obligated to deal with his lies & perversion for their sake, but it slowly killing me. I pray & pray & the Lord gives me just enough strength to hold on. But that's it, I'm barely hanging on.
Hello, my friend lies even over the smallest less important things. He claims he loves me a lot and doesn't want to loose me but ever since we been dated got flirty and dirty chats from his phone several times. Everything else not us is a priority to him. I've hit rock bottom trying to think he can change. What should I do?
Hi coach i lied to my ex girlfriend many times. And now i want to change for me to imrpove my self and to be the man she wants me to be i tell her everything all my lies to clear that out to my body. How can i win her back and trust me again? I love her so much and she brought out the best in me.
Your right coach steven thank you for responding to my comment. How she can trust me again? Im doing the no contact and radio silence and of course improving my self. Will she accept me again? I live in the philippines.
My husband lies a lot... How do I trust him.. how do I change him... I wanna make him understand that I can't tolerate lies... I can't leave him because I HV a year old baby girl
My boyfriend broke me up because l lied about color of my eyes... it was a long distance relationship and when we met in person for the first time I confessed him l have been wearing contacts all that time on pictures and videocalls. He went livid and broke me up. I started to take therapy but l don’t think he will forgive me someday. He told me that l clearly had serious mental issues and that he cannot work it out with me. I really feel sad but l cannot do anything.
my bf lies to me but saying he is afraid of losing me, he was visiting his ex in Japan telling me he wants to verify if he mentally get rid of her or not then came back to me it’s over with her he loves me, later I found out he has someone engaged in his hometown Egypt, but saying he was forced by family otherwise he will be kicked out of the house but he does not love that person at all it’s just for the sake of she is taking of his mom in home town, then I could not stand for this we broke up but after one week we are back again, recently I just found out he has been using online dating to meeting one Taiwanese girl travelled here (nothing happened though) and they chatted for 3-4 months long, I found out via that girl on social media which is just one week after he ended her, and posted me a ring... but I found out he had met her the 2nd week of our previous 1- week broke up.. what should I do now, he now saying he ended her by himself and decided to send me the rings that means he worked on it for a change... I want to give him a chance and confirm his change but I also tell myself is it too late? Should Li still trust him again?:((
My bf had a trip with another girl... I have plenty of negative thoughts please please I am so financially low that I can't buy some novels or CD's to solve it please help me what should I do
Good advice... I am married to a liar. He does love me, it’s been 10 years. I do not want to be in this but I don’t want to break my promise to God to stay with someone for better or worse. It is not fun to be with a liar. If you are not married or can get out, get out. I usually don’t watch advice videos because I usually go to the Bible or Pray about these things but I seen this and thought I’d listen. It’s good advice and basic. If the person isn’t going to change, can you happily live with it? I am not happy in my marriage but I have happiness other places. I pray for anyone young who watches this if you know your partner is a liar try to get away from the relationship. And he is right in saying one lie doesn’t make someone a liar we all have lied at some point but if you just know and feel that your partner withholds a lot from you and your communication is noticeably them not being honest, get out
Hi, My girlfriend lied to me about cutting out her male bestfriend who proposed to her before we were in a relationship. She lied that she blocked him from everywhere after abusing him and later when i found out that every word she said were lies and she confessed also and said that they were bestfriend from a long time and its not easy for her to cut him out completely as because her bestfriend is very sensitive and emotional and when he will need her she wants to be there. So i broke up with her. Did i do the right thing? According to me she chose her bestfriend over me and she always said that i was more important. I guess that was a lie too
I really don't know what to do or what to think about. People tell me different things. My girlfriend broke up with me. She said that she was not ready for a relationship. But her best friend tell me that she is looking for someone else. I really don't know what to do and I need help.
My fiance with whom I Engaged. She doesn't unfriend her ex bf from fb. When asked to block him, she replied I'll break the phone. Now she hided the app and changed the fb password. And she told me , I've deleted the fb app. And now I can't access it. It seems her ex is more important than me. We are about to getting married in 3 month. Please tell me what to do, when I try to talk once n all about this sensitive topic to finish it completely. She gets angry and doesn't talk to me. What to do? Is transparent to me or hiding things from me. She also have a secret gallery app which is locked too. Does past and present can go together? Kindly help.
Not bf, we are only seeing each other, and he told me proactively he is only seeing me, but then I found out he was seekjg others and he keeps telling me it’s just his friend until I talked to those guys too and found out, do you think I can forgive him??
I left my son's mother after 7 years because I was unhappy and I left her for someone else who I've fallen for head over heels and she found out by my son mother and now the girl doesn't want nothing to do with me. I get it because I should of been the 1 who told her and been open but whats a next step?
i am breaking up and reconnecting with my girlfriend and its long distance. she lies too much, my intuition tells me she does whatever it takes to move up the ladder at work. She is very open and too friendly to everyone and draws no boundaries between any of her circles. Her main friend circle out here in ny where i remain, they have touched eachother and her in front of me inappropriately more than once. I am on a time schedule with her in terms of talking to her and also visiting her in maryland i feel im always on the bench waiting for her to allow me in i can not be with her with friends because i voiced my emotions on how inappropriate they are she refuses to change the behavior she wants me to move with her before i give up my city job and all and take my son to maryland , how i can be sure im making the right decision i cant trust her
My ex told me the day he broke uo with me to stay friends with him! I simply said i cant! So then he started telling me please dont get out of my life and begging me to be friends with him and all! I was so confused 🤷♀️ he told me he cant be with me but still wants me to be part of his life! Thats not the case though! Because im too attached to him i told him few days later that i dont mind staying friends with me however hes showing me ththe complete opposite thing! He keeps on avoiding me!
My girlfriend lied to me 3 or 4 times but this is the most painful lie she have done to me. I already told her that i'm jealous on my "classmate" me and my girlfriend has a different school so she know him because of me and i already told her that i'm jelous on him and she promised me that she will never talk to my classmate anymore. BUT i foundout that she has a dummy acc and she's keep talking on him she said that she will told that when we meet again but i can't trust her anymore now i have trust issues on her she said that it will never happen again what should i do please?
This is my husband his addiction is more important then the truth his father did the same to his mother he say so hard who he dont want to become but he's become what sad is that he blind it
Leaving isn't the pain, the pain when someone you care for and who you think would have some or a little respect or care for you doesn't show any to you through their lies.
My partner lied about physically and emotionally hurting me right in front of my face and then telling everyone around us how crazy and delusional I was. He flirted with multiple women right in front of me and made it out to be like I was jealous even when his friends were the ones calling it out at first. While I was being punished with silence, he would literally take those moments and create emotional connections with strangers which to me I classed as cheating because he was telling some stranger across the world all about his problems instead of solving them with the person who was actually there for him. I feel so betrayed and like how can any human treat someone with such so much disrespect after all the good things you do for them and all the sacrifices that were made in order to try keep that person happy. What really gets me is why these people end up being happy and yet people like me end up miserable.
Today I Found Out My Fiance Blatenly Lied To Me, 90% Of It. It Really Crushed My Heart.
What did you do
Divorce...its a wonderful thing.
Take it from someone who lived with a procrastinating liar for 20 years....THEY DON'T SEE HOW MUCH THEY HURT YOU...NOR DO THEY CARE. If I had a dollar for every unkept promise, I'd be a billionaire.
My wife lies has cost us financial hardships and she don't have a backbone to admit truth....she continues to lie in my face rather than tell the truth..it's making me sick spiritually....
Hey there, what are you prepared to do to fix this situation for yourself? - Coach Adrian
Just bury her in the back yard
Not being truthful sucks for those who are facing it. I have personally a hard time because whenever I am embarrassed I shut down emotionally and I cannot speak the truth or when I want others to see strength or character in me that is not there...I think praying and really let it out when you are ready to say is important. I learned that if confronted and I am embarrassed to speak the truth instead of tell a lie, the best would be "I am not ready for this conversation yet, but I will let you know of what is necessary right now."
I agree with you. It is best to have a productive conversation when you're in the right frame of mind, not when you are upset - Coach Steven
i agree, i am a recovering liar and honetly i only lie when i am being forced into a conversation that i was not ready for. i feel embarrased, ashamed and just overall overwheled. i dont want to be a liar. i think trying to put off the conversation until i am ready will help a ton, thanks !!
Shes lies to me and does stuff behind my back all the time I think my relationship is screwed for sure I just cant take it any more
Hey JonWayneTV, are you two still officially together? - Coach Adrian
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity yes but taking a break for now
Leave her. There ar eto'o many good women looking for a good man.
You don't deserve that bro... I hope you're in a better place.. or are working on that
He's a liar. Makes promises and breaks it secretly. He thought I wouldn't know.
Same. Why ppl do this?!
I was with a man for 22years.you never know who your with,and after the split I found out it was much worse than I knew.I see people around me hooked up 1 day saying I love you 3 days later ,I can't wrap my head around it , they're strangers .It takes years to know someone well enough to begin to even know them a little.
Im 20.. I coulnt imagine to waste so much time on someone wow.
Always trust your intuition 🙌🏻💎
*hope you're happy in life
You are contradicting yourself! Getting to know someone for years did not work well for you huh? I have 2 girlfriends who married after dating for 6 months and are in Healthy honest marriages It’s about the people not time
What if we've been together for almost 5years. But there is a very little progress? He still lie. I'm getting tired 😢 Should I consider moving forward and look for someone trustworthy? 😔
I am no professional, but I think honestly this is a time you should move on. Weigh the odds, can you survive in this for the rest of your life? If you can't, practice self care and protect your heart
@@ashleyfields6320 I wanna ur help please help me out through my situation my gf speak lie to me she hide truth of her past with me instead I told her don't speak lie to me i dont like but she make the situation like I'm wrong she is right and when I catch her lie she start speaking again lie and start crying and make me feel bad that I have done wrong and she always say that she want to live with me but she don't follow what I like what I love instead I follow what she says she mostly go against my decision when I get angry and say I m leaving u she starts crying and saying that don't leave me
Move on. I know it's hard. But to quote another video "there are literally thousands of people who would do anything to be able to wake up next to you.. and who would treat you right"
If you can't trust your boyfriend and your relationship should be based on trust, respect and love, isn't it clear to you that you should move on? Does he have anything to hide? What advantages is he trying to get by lying? Is he doing it for a noble cause, i.e. to save someone's life, or is he doing it selfishly to save his image or to feed his pride? Just food for thought.
Leaavvveee. I've been with someone for 10 years now and realizing its time for a divorce after being married almost 6 years now. It never stops and they never change...Im constantly being manipulated, I'm feeling stuck because I'm broke and 9 months pregnant right now with our 3rd child and while I was trying to be a good wife by sticking by his side and trying to help him through his demons I was left to deal with mine alone and got engulfed in the stress of carrying the burden alone and trying to constantly figure out how he could deal. He never picked of his feet to evem begin trying to heal or get better he would just have the same excuse that "it was too hard" and give into his own desires and say "well I love you and you love me". Thats not enough and it will eat you alive. GET OUT.
But cheating is a conscious CHOICE. I am failing to understand how being physically intimate with someone outside of your relationship can be considered anything but NOT an act of love and consciously doing so. I just can't agree with that. You can't love someone and still cheat on them. Must not be enough or unselfish love. 🤷🏼♀️
30 plus years, alcoholic, uninvolved in family unless convenient for him. Four kids together now adults, I know at least of 4-5 years of another relationship as I saw inappropriate pictures on his phone. I have not the courage to come fourth. I feel sad, embarrassed, not of value. I grew up learning those feelings from abuse in my family. I lost any chance of viewing myself worthy to receive love. I feel tricked, he knew this and I was 100%devoted to him in my heart. I started having health problems in my 30’s which continued to worsen due to stress of worrying about him, late late working, I knew then something isn’t right, I ignored. I am making his choices to be my fault because I have health problems ( chronic Lyme disease) i don’t confront because I don’t want my kids to think of what he did to their mother, it would hurt them but I feel devastated to hurt them. I feel like I’m slowly drowning, because his choices to deceive me continue every night, and then comes home late and in morn talks to me with a cheery attitude like all is well. Psychologically, I am tortured… holding onto all this. When he shows up at family things, he is received with such joy, and I secretly feel so broken because of what he has done with no consequences.
These are just excuses. If they lie all the time then you have to leave. They don't love you. It's lack of respect for you.
I want someone to advice me on my situation my bf lies to me all the time, it's like he tells me something then he says 'oh I was joking' then he said 'no I was not'. For example: he has an exam tomorrow he told me a couple of weeks back that he is not taking it and has not even filled the form . Today, I tried texting and calling him, he didn't respond to any, after a few hours he told he has been studying since morning as he has his exam tomorrow I asked him that he told me he won't be taking it he said he never told me that I showed him the texts he said okay I didn't remember and just tried escaping the conversation
Things like these keep happening all the time for every mere thing he has to lie and then just don't want to talk on it when he is caught. Now, it has grown so much in my 3years of relationship that whatever he tells me I can not believe itYou might see someone smiling all the time, and think their life must be perfect.. But you don't know what they're going through with in themselves. That smile is a symbol of hope and strength.
Been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were friends first for 8 months. I didn’t know until I let him move in with me that he was a serious drug addict. Shooting up fentanyl. I drove him to the methadone clinic everyday for almost 6 months and then he relapsed. I have no experience with this as I don’t do drugs and barely drink. I don’t smoke cigarettes. During the 6 months it was great. We work out together, we make music together, we both support each other with our goals. But when he does drugs he’s a completely different person. It’s now been a year since his relapse and he’s facing 5 years and will be on probation for a year because I called 911 from an overdose and he is now facing charges from that. Honestly the probation will help him get clean. But I don’t know if this is salvageable. I have a lot of contempt and resentment towards him from what he put me through while he was addicted. I have PTSD from it. I don’t know if it could work even if we wanted it to because of the emotional damage.
I just wanted to say that being with some one who has such a demon as addiction is troubling and exhausting for any loved ones involved. Most days you want to either walk away or beg to understand why they do the things they do. You want to fix them and see them live their fullest life. But I honestly believe that to fully understand addiction to drugs, you yourself need to experience it personally to really grasp the helplessness and control. I believe more compassion and empathy come from the person who has experienced addiction first hand. Also the addict HAS TO WANT TO BE CLEAN or they will never ever stay clean! My brother lost his life after his girlfriend pressured him into relapse. Now he made his choice to use, but she would not stop glorifying the drugs and constantly asking to get them. The toxicity of their relationship and both being addicts weakend my brothers will and he died after a relapse after 7 months being clean off heroin. If you are and your relationship is constantly in turmoil over the relapses and lies it sounds like your partner does not have the desire or will to abstain from using. You have to want it for yourself first. It's the only way. I know I'm rambling and I'm sure this post was years ago but I hope I have said something of value to others. Best of luck to all those who battle their addictions. Having an addiction does NOT define who you are. Addiction can be the most powerful motivation to how Astounding you will become, Or can be the example of where you will NEVER be again!
This what I'm dealing now.. he lies alot and breaks my heart over and over. I tried breaking free but he won't let me go
You hve to just block him on everything and never see them or text them ever again its hard but you dont want to marry him hell just break your heart worst
So my boyfriend and I have been together for seven months when we first met , everything was good. But he lied to me about his age and name. It’s really bothering me because I just do not trust him. Like age and name is serious. I feel so crazy even typing this but something guided me here . It low key hurts because I have been completely honest since day one. And I just feel if you lie about your age and name lord knows what else you’ll lie about. And it’s frustrating because I care and love him. 🤦🏾♀️
This is sad…. 😢
My boyfriend suffers a lot of different addictions, some he has escaped from. He goes to therapy with me but doesn't want to go really. The lying and the issues keep me in a spot of just misery and despair. So do I leave for my mental health or trust that he would do anything for me, and eventually stop? Another important factor is he is an avoidant attachment and I'm anxious. This makes every move he makes harder for me to become a more healthy individual
I was in relationship with a person with whom I just felt the click as he also confirm. But things change when I saw him lying about my existence and our relationship with my junior. He always expected me to understand him only and there was no way he would understand me. And another thing was that before such event, while starting our relationship, I asked him about his past relationships,if any. He replied, "how does that matter?" And " I was althrough single". Later it was found from the social media that he was talking rubbish he was actually married to a girl. After some investigations, it was found that he was in relationship with the girl for 3 years and then married her but they had problems with the relationship due to ego and thus was divorced. But his explanation was different, to him, he saves that girl. He was not even in relationship with her for 3 years. The girl faced a break in relationship with whom she was for 3 years. She was broken and proposed him getting drunk but he couldn't deny her proposal because she was elder to him and her father was a respectable person. Furthermore after the wedding, he came in contact with her ego issues, no one in her family accepted him and she had some ovarian tumor issue for which she lost both her ovaries. As a result, both of them departed happily. Now the most important thing is is he wants me in his life, he wants to marry me and only me. When caught with pictures of his marriage, he had a very casual attitude and was not even apologetic. I tried to make him understand that the situation now went out of my hand as it i.e. the enquiry was done by my sister and her fiance and they directly contact with my parents telling this man is a liar and we don't want our sister to get married with him. I loved this person and trusted him. He broke it and he is not even apologetic. He was afraid of telling me as to how will I react. I just told him I can't stay with a person whom is not even understanding his fault but telling me that he loves me after all this and wants to marry me. He wants me to fight for him but he will not be there by my side as he thinks he is a stranger. I said a hundred times, this relationship is not possible not because of my family's involvement but because of he himself and broke off with him very rudely. He told me I am a parasite, spineless creeper who loves to stay in her parents den and all those meaningless "I love you" doesn't suit me. I am not strong so and so. After all this condition, now my situation is I want to get rid of the memories too which are haunting me. I just can't believe I will be betrayed like this. I know the relationship was of only 3months but I don't know I went too far trusting him.. our family planning, financial planning, future planning and were even talking about making joint travel account for our pleasurable tours as we both decided to marry. Now my dilemma lies so what was all this throughout whether he was acting, or he was lying...? I have started going to counseling sessions for my mental condition. This was my first relationship and didn't expect it will come out like this.
Hi Archita Chatterjee, it sounds like he was lying and that he is a dishonest person. Is this the kind of person you want to be with? - Coach Adrian
@@LoveAdviceTVCommunity Thank you for responding .. no absolutely not . I absolutely don't want to be this this person... But now it's hard to get rid of the memories.
Hey Archita Chatterjee, don't expect to get rid of the memories. That is virtually impossible. You need to let time do it's job and let the memories fade away on their own as you create new ones with someone better :) - Coach Adrian
My husband is a habitual liar. I always speak the truth and believe in complete transparency.
I caught him car pooling with a female coworker since three months and he didn't tell me about it.
We have two little daughters. I feel devastated now.
I'm having a problem bc my husband has made promises to me and be has betrayed me and I'm really considering leaving him , he says he is sorry and thinks I need to just forgive him and he does it again and again and again and I'm to the point where I feel if I have no trust , I have nothing , I doubt him all the time now admits driving me crazy . Please help if you can. I appreciate your video . God bless s
I'm with you over here....
The word of God says you can be separated in marriage, but you can leave merriage only in case of adultery.
I'm with you over here. I've noticed the lying before we got married. I realized the lying after a few months of dating him. But he kept telling me he's going to change and he's sorry....... Well 2 years later and nothing hasn't changed. I believed him I though he did. He still lies and I mean about any and everything. I'm in my bathroom now crying cause I'm just so tired. I stood by him willing to help. But I feel like it's bringing me down bad. I don't know what to do. I pray and pray. I love my husband. I just feel were not meant to be..
Hi jae, same with my wife. So if you leave him I'm available. I live in Florida.
My husband has done more than I can't list here. Including impersonating his mother through text to me and ruining my credit. He's been doing better for a few months but it's been 2 1/2 years of lies and betrayal. It hurts me every day. I am completely dependent on him. He doesn't want me to work. Dictates how I dress and most of where I go. I deal with depression anyway but i'm having trouble getting over everything. If i bring anything up about how i'm feeling he gets mad. Throws things and tells me ...im psycho and need to get over it. I don't know what to do. I can't seem to make him understand how much it has effected me. It's like he just doesn't care.
My husband lies constantly, even after I show proof,been dealing with it for years
Could you ever trust him?
Same for me ! Dealing with lies for 15 years . He recently started using drugs occasionally and it’s getting to be more and more ! I catch him gelling lies about what he used the money for or where he went . I’m tired of it I want out but idk how . He pays all the bills and takes care of me and the kids .
If they truly loved you they would never have cheated.
My Husband's Mother passed 2 months ago. I didn't leave his side the whole time. My Mother had a nasty spill and broker leg. She was rushed to the hospital AWAITING SURGERY IN 3 DAYS due to COVID. My Bro and I were on the phone most of 19/24 hrs following up with docs/nurses & contacting family. I failed to mention that I'm 7 wks pregnant/40 yrs old and this will be our 1st child together. He is 41 with 4 grown boys. I have a 10 yr. Old Son. As soon as I finally get some rest, he leaves/sends text message stating he is going to return some clothing at a store & run arrends with hid Dad. This seemed fishy to me. I took a guess that he'd be at the casino. I drove there and caught him just as he crossed in front of my vehicle, walking into the entrance! The timing couldn't be more perfect! God wanted me to see this. I was so shocked and so was he. He looked like a deer in the headlights. I immediately broke it off with him and kicked him out of my Apt. Told him to come pick up his things asap but he hasn't yet.
I'm upset/hurt that He left my side while I'm pregnant and going through a tough situation with my Mom all to lie to me about running arrends/returning clothing but really going to the casino. I'd also like to mention that we were just at the casino together/got a rm/stayed the night 2 days ago. So it's not like he hadn't been there in a while but that's besides the point.
We had plans for an upcoming trip to vegas in two weeks for my birthday and we were suppose to relocate south in 2 months but I pulled the plug on all. Now he says I'm overreacting. I know I'm not. Deception is my reason for separation. He doesn't see it as a "deal breaker" and justifies leaving me at one of my most vulnerable times nothing major because she's not "suffering any life-threatening injuries".
I always caught him lying to me. Once I caught him cheated on me, this is so painful. But I love him so much, why should I do. 😭😭😭😭
Leave him walk away he will not stop lie to you . And now it’s done he cheated I made mistake and went back after being cheated on and now I never trust him and it’s living in hell . I’m always worried about what he’s doing and who he’s with . It’s never any peace for my mind
Brother this really helped comfort my mind. Thank you so much for this!
So. I have been with the same women for 11 years. We have a child together and I have never need unfaithful to her.
I felt that I trusted her. But in this last month since we separated that she keeps a lot of secrets. Tells a lot of lies and doesn't seem genuine when it comes to her true feelings surrounding our relationship.
When we first got together. She was coming straight out of her previous relationship. She told me that her previous relationship had been abusive.
As soon as she broke it off with her ex, she started dating me. Our relationship started to grow very quickly and within 6 months we were living together.
We also worked at the same place. This is how we met.
We rented and lived together for 4 years before we decided to buy our own place due to expecting our first child.
7 years on. We are now separated and theres no way back.
She started to see one of my ex colleagues. Speaking to him a lot more and meeting him privately. I'm not sure how long for exactly but I know it's been since before we separated.
But even though I know this is all going on. And I made the mistake of confronting her about it. She still denies that she is seeing my ex work mate.
Even after a month of us being separated....
She still lies about it. But I know she tells him she loves him.
Why can't she just be honest about it all instead of making up lies.
She hides so many things.
I will never trust her again.
So I know it's over. But I am still hurting inside.
Question who's more crazy in a relationship the one who lies or the one who stalks and catches the lier
My boyfriend cheated on me ,and it's hurt me so badly cz I still love him so much.what should I do? I couldn't sleep or do anything cz my mind totally destroyed by him 😢
Mini 01 You move on! He should you by his actions how he feels about you.
My boyfriend lied to me a couple of times ..and the last one was today ..even though it was a small thing he lied .. what should I do?
i don't know how to deal with my boyfriend lying to me. i just found out he's been lying about several things multiple times and i don't know what to do. i'm completely in love with him and plan on marrying him but i don't deserve somebody i can't trust. i'm not settling for less than i deserve. how do i help him?
The story I have would blow your mind. This video is giving me a lot of food for thought. Grateful. 🙏
My ex is a pathological liar. He lies about everyday things for no reason. Some of his lies don’t even make sense. Now I have to coparent with him and he still can’t be truthful.
You’re story is mine, coparenting is even more of a nightmare now that our son is 12 and he is teaching him to lie and alienate me. Trust that he will try to influence as they’re narcissistic, be aware that he will still try to control you in some form. Stay strong 🙏🏻🤍
Well said. Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Lies of omission are my husband of 20+ years. I want to separate, but it is so hard and painful to unravel our lives. Not to mention expensive. We are close to retirement age and for us to split would financially ruin both of us. Is there a way to communicate my need for honesty?
My gf lied to me today after telling me that she’s tired of me not trusting her she said she lied ab things that aren’t a big deal or for stupid reasons I don’t want to let go but I feel pathetic if I keep forgiving
What if your not in a position to leave. Do you have any coping skills for people still in the relationship?
Reading these comments being where I am in this situation ship it's safe to say ya girl finna be single n fly high .I may not be honest with sum things but wen I love I love. I hate to feel played.I cannot move forward knowing the man I wanted to marry cheated on me with multiple people for no reason .I wanted to elevate his frequency but u know what I'm a elevate my own n let the universe provide me with love .
Amen sis !
Girl that i wanted to marry... She lied to me about stupid things and then she says that i am to angry, now we are on a break.
I mean why wouldn't i be angry when she lies to my face even if i know the truth, after evrithing we did together
how is things now?
My husband cheated and left me 2 weeks ago. We have a baby with 9 months. He still lying to me, he said that we should work things out and later went to the other women... We have been married for 10 years.... What should I do... I still love him. Hugs from Portugal. Help me
You should put yourself and your child first. Liars are wishy ,washy and can't be trusted. Go to church and invest in your happiness in case you have to parent alone. Don't be fooled by your husband again and let him bring s.t.d.'s into your relationship. You can get HIV because of his infidelity. Don't allow him to cheat and go back and forth between you and another woman.He is not worth your health and sanity.
Find another guy once a liar is always a liar.
I know without a doubt that my boyfriend loves me. I have never felt so loved by someone other than my family. Problem is that my parents are accusing him of lying about his career (police officer). Sergeants at the station are saying that they've never heard of him and that he isn't on the payroll but other officers are telling me that he does work there. I haven't seen paystubs and I haven't seen him in uniform. I've seen pictures of him in other uniforms from previous jobs, just not ones for the department he says he's at now. I'm not quite sure what to do.
What happened?
She tells me she’s listening to my playlists I check her Spotify activity and she’s not she tells me she’s napping and stays active on Instagram it hurts so much I love her so much why can’t she just be honest with me
How is it now? You should confront her.
My boyfriend lied to me so much in the 4.5 years we've been together. First, my boyfriend rejects me physically and sexually. When I asked him about it , he said it was because he was tired from work. He would literally push me off, I felt so ugly and undesirable. This happened for a whole 7 months straight. I felt something was up, I checked his phone, and it turns out he was rejecting me for freaking porn. Like, really?? If you are not happy or satisfied with me you should have told me so I could have left. Then he said the prostitutes were better than me .. second secret, my boyfriend's mom passed away last year on December 24th. He made an instagram to look up new food places. Tell me why, he looked up his ex and his excuse was I was just looking back at my life . Lol after this girl slept with all your friends, you miss her? That's fine, but don't pretend you want to be with me when you really don't. Idk how to leave I love him so much, but he takes my kindness for granted. When people lie they think you are dumb enough to believe their lies. Ughhhh
u with hin still?
Thank you for this video! May I ask a question? What do you do if you ask your partner a question and your partner responds with an answer that you just don't believe. How do you trust their word and refrain from automatically thinking they are lying because "it doesn't make sense"..
Judge Judy says "if it doesn't make sense, it probably isn't true"... that's where my thought process has always been. Curious for your feedback and thoughts!
Simabobeema As a woman who has been lied to multiple times throughout my relationship by the father of my children I can say without a doubt that you should trust your instincts. Every time I suspected something it turned out to be true in the end. He has lied to my face making me feel like I was insane. I mistrusted my self which I will never ever do again.
FemBot I just ended my 4 year relationship due to the same thing. I just found out a few days ago about her having a whole other relationship with her ex while with me. The constant times she looked me in my eyes and said no I would never, I love you so much... for years making me feel secure that I could trust her, always insuring me I wasn’t crazy and she wasn’t that type of person. It’s so disgusting and the disappointing part, is that I still want to be with her. I know I can’t and she keeps begging for me back, but is it really all worth it
I need help, I am with this person for 5 years and a half, every time the subject is money, there are lies. Many of them. I love this man, he says he wants help, he wants to change, he also says he loves me, I believe he does love me, but these lies made me so vulnerable and so hurt that I don't know what to do. Please help me.
how do you deal with someone who lies for almost everything forget they lie and lie on top of that also until i think it reach the point that they are believing their own lies i've been it that marriage for almost 18 years i pray it will change but most the time i leave it to god and on top of that their is always an excuse for the lie ..now tell me what do i do recently i've stop trusting him and i'm calm in this but sometimes it really takes a toll on me and then again i trust in god that it will work out but when do you know when enough is enough.
I keep things from him I lie to him and don’t tell the truth yesterday I decided to tell him the truth and write him two paragraphs
Situation with my ex is very complicated. She told me shes really ill but a part of me think shes lying. A lot of things dont add up. Shes very secretive and dont tell me what's going on, where she is or let's me visits her. She dont let me go so in my head I'm thinking theres a chance but at the same time I feel like shes ignoring me. I've hit the point I'm seeing how active she is in social media but cant respond to my messsage when she can clearly see how worried I am. I dunno what to do its emotionally draining me due to the constant worrying and stress over her health. I still care about her but at the same time I just wish it all to end. What should I do?
Pray to Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ bro and like in the video it says try to move on if it's only you who's doing the effort even though it might be tuff
My boyfriend lied to me about his money issues for 4 months and he took out a loan of a huge sum which he blew. Now he is in alot of debt. We planned to move in together at the end of this year but due to his decision he has to pay the money off over 2 years and scrape through every month to pay it off or he moves back home to save money which will result in us breaking up. He is willing to fight for us and work through it and he says he will change but I don't know how to forgive him through all of his lies he told me for months in terms of money.
Just need a little but meaningful advice, i got a live in partner for years now and he sometimes or let's say at times make a lie when it comes to seeing or communicating with his previous boss which i really really feels something between them, but my partner keeps on saying that im just being dominant when it comes to her and that is why he lies to not have an issue, the problem is that, there's no chance of asking him to avoid her coz she's also a family friend aside from being his boss in the past, i'm too afraid to what he might answer me back if i made him choose whether he will avoid her for him not to lie to me in anyway for me to stay or he'll say he can't and will not. What should i do? He hurts me badly when he lies to me about it. But im afraid he will not choose me and that he can't promise to avoid her.
My girlfriend once cheated on me...But we got back together but not like before because I know she had change and her ego is high but she still loves me...What should I do? Should I wait and hope tht everything will go back to normal?
Brandon Don it probably won't but it's really up to u...u can't make people change...can only hope
After 34 years married...I found out I have evidence and papers...that my husband was going to leave to china and dissapear behind my back. He did not leave after I confronted him...he was lying for more than a year.now I dont trust him...I am devastaded and broken.i dont k ow I file for divorce and go back to spain with my family.my husband is from the usa.i dont know if I love him
I'm a new subscriber here. Hope to see more of your videos.. Thank you!
Good evening Sir
My partner is a liar and so defensive, you will hardly even hear him saying sorry. He always demands respect when he realizes he is wrong. And he always calls people for every problem and he is 49 years old and I am 29years is this normal?
I think it is not hard to know what love is? Society so messed that we need to dissect and inspect love. Love is dancing right in front of your face and you still not capable of recognizing it? Because it is freaking confusing? If it is confusing it is because it is inconsistent and because it is inconsistent it wont build a relationship therefore forget it. Learn how to fuckboyproof your heart because there are many "nice" fuckboys. "oh because he is so nice". Try to say no for them first and second time and if they are up to the next easy target? you know they are there for your pants not for building genuine friendly relationships that will last but for temporary release of orgasm. Unless that is all you want too then you got a match! I would say invest in yourself, learn and develop self love and you will attract the right people in your life.
MY HUSBAND IS A BIG LIER
Not bigger than my wife lol
@@chrismcgill9812 not bigger than my boyfriend
Who's bigger😅
Mine as well
My girlfriend lied to me about being at her friends house. Her friend has recently judged me on how I treat my girlfriend but doesnt have anything to back up her statement. My girlfriend didn’t want me to be upset about her still being friends with this girl. I couldn’t care less. It’s just her friends opinion. But whether it’s what I want to hear or not. She shouldn’t have lied about being at her friends house. Because now I’m sceptical on if she will lie again about something worse. What should I do?
We cannot change any one especially in this period
My girlfriend suffers from ptsd, borderline personality disorder and severe depression. She suffered abuse as a child, her father passed with no consolation etc.
She used to self harm badly, used drugs on and off but was never an addict, has a gambling addiction.
She finally got decent help and did dbt in patient program for few months and came back and seemed to be doing better for some time.
she changed her diet, started a yoga kick etc. she seems great in those ways.
but what others dont know is behind all of this, there have been issues between us because of her illnesses. we are both 25 and this is all a lot to handle.
she cheated on me on and off for awhile, I found out, I stayed and we had to try really hard to be good again.
well that was about 6-8 months ago now that we have been good. Last week she came home bawling and admitted she has been going to the casino again.
It hurts me in so many ways. I know it is stemming from an illness in which she is trying through therapy, meds and self health to feel better. But what do I do when these mental illnesses in the end hurt me too?
It is the hardest thing I've ever been through. I moved 14 hours away from my family 3 years ago to be with her and don't tell my mom what's going on because I'm embarrassed but until you've been with someone who truly suffers from mental illnesses and IS trying to improve themselves, people would not understand.
I dont have money saved up to move out but im considering starting to save up. We have been together 4 years in Jan. but Im not sure I can keep going on being lied to.
Cm you do a video on addiction. Marriage divorce?
This was the sign that I needed ! Thank you!!
My husband lies about conversations with his ex ,they have kids the kids live with us .But when I catch him in a lie and confront him he gets angry and ignores me for days and avoids answering to me .
I’m stuck. I have cancer, two toddlers, no job since I’m the stay at home parent. My military spouse can’t stop lying and wanted legal separation. She wanted legal separation instead of divorce so I can still have military benefits. But I’m trying so hard to patch it up. When I thought we were really honest to each other, she lies and think I don’t know that she did call that guy again, I see the bill which she doesn’t know I have access to. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I can get her back but I dunno. It sucks.
My bf lies so much he believes his own lies he thinks I don't know of his addicted gambling.
I feel like my husband lies about weird things. Like we found a dog and he said he dropped the dog off at the humane society and talked to a person there and etc. I posted the dog as at the humane society on FB so the owners can find it. Later. An animal control officer contacted me and told me to fix the post to reflect its true location, the animal control pound. She said my husband flagged her on the road and gave her the dog. I don’t understand why he lied like that. It was so embarrassing because I explained she was mistaken at first until she was able to prove it to me. I was a fool to believe him over the officer. But I didn’t expect the lie. He told me that he thought the officer would just take it to humane for him or something. But he didn’t say anything about flagging down an officer. He said he dropped the dog off and listed he address to humane society when I asked where he took it. He won’t admit he even lied. I don’t get it.
Do you think he lied so you would think the dog had more of a chance at NOT being put to sleep if you thought it was at the humane society rather then the pound. That way you would not feel so bad. I dunno.
Looks like he didnt want you to think he really didn't put any extra effort in making sure the dog was safe. He maybe didn't want to seem like he found an easier way out by flagging down an offficer. IDK.
When I here a person lying and I know what they are saying isn’t true , it make me angry because it’s so unnecessary. How can I get to know you if everything that comes out your mouth isn’t true!!!! I’m ready to block this guy !!!
The best way to get a liar to tell the truth, is to get thee to trust you to tell the truth. Usually people lie more when they're anxious. It's best to make them feel like you're on their side and that's when they let their guards down to tell the truth. They will usually play this psychology on people who are suicidal when in reality, they will put you in a psych ward for 72 hours or more depending on your severity.
This is coming from someone who is fixated on becoming more truthful rather than an liar myself. It's been working out for me. How I become the best version of myself is by controlling my anxiety, but it goes both ways.
I wonder if you can help I’ve been In a relationship for 6 months with my boyfriend. Just last month my mum went on holiday left and she had a tin with £200 in it came back to find it had gone out of the cupboard I wouldn’t of taken it said he threw it out by accident the next day came back returned the money said he sold his iPad..... I just can’t get the thought out of my head and it’s making me miserable I just can’t find the heart to break up with him what do I do ? Please help me if any of you guys have advice please comment 😊
He stole from your mother. If he is willing to do that, then he will do it anyone including you. Leave him. And just because he put it back doesnt mean anything. He did so because he was caught. If you hadn't found out, he would have never sold his iPad to replace the money. Leave.
I tried to move on with my own life by stop thinking about my girlfriend which is a liar but I felt like i can't move on, how can I move on?
So my spouse and I we've been together for 11 years. I noticed a weird pattern and him since July 19th of 2022 when I injured my back at work. I was always home and this is the reason why he says that he lost interest in me after I found a text message from a woman who text messaged him saying I don't want drama with your girl. I don't want to date anyone at work. I don't want dishonesty. And I don't want sneakiness. When I confronted him about the text message from her on November 8th he told me that he was planning on breaking up with me after the holidays to pursue a relationship with her. I yelled at him and I wish I would not have done that. I tried to slap him and when he put his arms up and I accidentally scratched his nose. He put a temporary restraining order on me till December 16th. Then on December 16th=(Please help
What about long term lie, i mean he lied to me about something related to his work in the early stage of the relation ship and after 2 years I figured he was lying on me all during this two years.
What can i do i start to loose trust in him.
PMD90 mine did the same
So one of my friends who I helped with many times that they like to lie about me and breaking there promises I don't know what to do but I'm at the point where I don't want to be with them that I hope they can get help or do better is there like advice for this because I'm trying my best to not to overreact out of control towards them because they don't think I don't love them known I do known the fact that they hurt my feelings once with being with someone else
Yeah that statement of “you can cheat and still love someone “ is not true in my opinion . If you’re in Monogamous relationship and someone steps out behind your back then that’s not love 💔
Daniel Rodriguez exactly... it’s more like they love what you DO for them or make them feel nice when they feel like being with you
I'm experiencing the same thing with my girlfriend so much lies has been told even caught her red handed her ex leaving her house midnight asked her how come she didnt answer when I called she calmly said I put my phone under my pillow then fell asleep little do she know I was at her house coming to surprise her my instincts kicked in gut feeling said something isn't right and witnessed him n her leaving that night and she still lied to my face when I confronted her I finally decided I had enough then she tells me she's pregnant..she wants to get married a joint account and get a house together she has to be delusional, hate the idea of single parent but I'm a man of moral, not quick to judge by mistake but there comes a time when enough is enough..she also has a son to whom we share a bond he looks up to me listens to me I cook for him babysit while she's at work so she dont have to pay a babysitter teach him math read books different morals takes him to soccer games teach him how to play basketball we even have out video games moment really like him at first I was skeptical but I gave it a shot, my dad did when I was younger so I know what it's like to be without a father.. what worries me is how can I make this work morally I cannot have relations with people who are not straight up and real, liars worry me alot I rather deal with a thief...she's 4 months pregnant I'm also skeptical about that... she tells people negative things about me because women rather tarnish someone image than speak the truth..I've never cheated dont feel the need to like being faithful but my feeling are wrapped up in a ball n wish someone could help me make the right decision
I’ve never lied to a girl in my life, perioud
I met a guy and after a year he lied to me about being married. We stopped talking but eventually did. We ended up having a child i was 21 when we met. He now wants us to give it another shot after i left him. We have a child but its hard for me to get over all that drama that came from this. I take responsibility for my part but wow. I was single. He took vows and now he wants to take them with me. He claims theyve been together since they where younger he got her pregnant at a young age and they had to get married. I know I take part too but wow what now. I moved away from him and its me and my beautiful daughter. He promises not to lie WITH ME. 😆. Now sometimes i look at him and...wow. Advice me down.
Once a cheater. Always a cheater. The lies never go away. That's my experience with my ex.
I contact them last week and trust me they got the hack done with no delays. The targetywas clueless not knowing I had full access to monitor every present and past data on the phone
I'm so depressed with my situation. My husband lies to me about EVERYTHING. He bisexual, addicted to porn, emotionally abusive. But he lies & lies about it all, even when he's caught red handed. I want to leave his SO BADLY that I'm at the point I'm starting to hate my life 😔 but I don't make enough money at my job to pay all the bills & care for our 3 kids on my own. I have no family or friends to help me. I don't want the kids to suffer or lose anything, I feel obligated to deal with his lies & perversion for their sake, but it slowly killing me. I pray & pray & the Lord gives me just enough strength to hold on. But that's it, I'm barely hanging on.
I've felt that way too... Hope you are doing better now... 3 months later! Update on you?
Hello, my friend lies even over the smallest less important things. He claims he loves me a lot and doesn't want to loose me but ever since we been dated got flirty and dirty chats from his phone several times. Everything else not us is a priority to him. I've hit rock bottom trying to think he can change. What should I do?
Hi coach i lied to my ex girlfriend many times. And now i want to change for me to imrpove my self and to be the man she wants me to be i tell her everything all my lies to clear that out to my body. How can i win her back and trust me again? I love her so much and she brought out the best in me.
Don't be the man she wants you to be. Be the man YOU want to be - Coach Steven
Your right coach steven thank you for responding to my comment. How she can trust me again? Im doing the no contact and radio silence and of course improving my self. Will she accept me again? I live in the philippines.
My husband lies a lot... How do I trust him.. how do I change him... I wanna make him understand that I can't tolerate lies... I can't leave him because I HV a year old baby girl
I told a guy a month ago about how I used to feel about him. I know I messed up but I love him. Hes my person. I wanna fix this.
My boyfriend broke me up because l lied about color of my eyes... it was a long distance relationship and when we met in person for the first time I confessed him l have been wearing contacts all that time on pictures and videocalls. He went livid and broke me up. I started to take therapy but l don’t think he will forgive me someday. He told me that l clearly had serious mental issues and that he cannot work it out with me. I really feel sad but l cannot do anything.
Here.. so , when you start a relationship with someone, you must immediately automatically trust them?
my bf lies to me but saying he is afraid of losing me, he was visiting his ex in Japan telling me he wants to verify if he mentally get rid of her or not then came back to me it’s over with her he loves me, later I found out he has someone engaged in his hometown Egypt, but saying he was forced by family otherwise he will be kicked out of the house but he does not love that person at all it’s just for the sake of she is taking of his mom in home town, then I could not stand for this we broke up but after one week we are back again, recently I just found out he has been using online dating to meeting one Taiwanese girl travelled here (nothing happened though) and they chatted for 3-4 months long, I found out via that girl on social media which is just one week after he ended her, and posted me a ring... but I found out he had met her the 2nd week of our previous 1- week broke up.. what should I do now, he now saying he ended her by himself and decided to send me the rings that means he worked on it for a change... I want to give him a chance and confirm his change but I also tell myself is it too late? Should Li still trust him again?:((
Thank you for making the video, (for those like me that can't afford it thank you very much!
My bf had a trip with another girl... I have plenty of negative thoughts please please I am so financially low that I can't buy some novels or CD's to solve it please help me what should I do
DImplepuri DImplepuri you need to leave him as soon as you are able to
Good advice... I am married to a liar. He does love me, it’s been 10 years. I do not want to be in this but I don’t want to break my promise to God to stay with someone for better or worse. It is not fun to be with a liar. If you are not married or can get out, get out. I usually don’t watch advice videos because I usually go to the Bible or Pray about these things but I seen this and thought I’d listen. It’s good advice and basic. If the person isn’t going to change, can you happily live with it? I am not happy in my marriage but I have happiness other places. I pray for anyone young who watches this if you know your partner is a liar try to get away from the relationship. And he is right in saying one lie doesn’t make someone a liar we all have lied at some point but if you just know and feel that your partner withholds a lot from you and your communication is noticeably them not being honest, get out
We just attracting to the wrong people in life...
just need to find that right person
Hey sir i lied to my boyfriend 3 times. But i never cheated him and i love him so much. I want him back. What should i do?
Hi,
My girlfriend lied to me about cutting out her male bestfriend who proposed to her before we were in a relationship. She lied that she blocked him from everywhere after abusing him and later when i found out that every word she said were lies and she confessed also and said that they were bestfriend from a long time and its not easy for her to cut him out completely as because her bestfriend is very sensitive and emotional and when he will need her she wants to be there. So i broke up with her. Did i do the right thing? According to me she chose her bestfriend over me and she always said that i was more important. I guess that was a lie too
I really don't know what to do or what to think about. People tell me different things. My girlfriend broke up with me. She said that she was not ready for a relationship. But her best friend tell me that she is looking for someone else. I really don't know what to do and I need help.
My girlfriend just lied to me and its very hard for me its very unfair. Why i need to feel and suffer this? 😭
My fiance with whom I Engaged. She doesn't unfriend her ex bf from fb. When asked to block him, she replied I'll break the phone. Now she hided the app and changed the fb password. And she told me , I've deleted the fb app. And now I can't access it. It seems her ex is more important than me. We are about to getting married in 3 month. Please tell me what to do, when I try to talk once n all about this sensitive topic to finish it completely. She gets angry and doesn't talk to me. What to do? Is transparent to me or hiding things from me. She also have a secret gallery app which is locked too. Does past and present can go together? Kindly help.
Not bf, we are only seeing each other, and he told me proactively he is only seeing me, but then I found out he was seekjg others and he keeps telling me it’s just his friend until I talked to those guys too and found out, do you think I can forgive him??
I left my son's mother after 7 years because I was unhappy and I left her for someone else who I've fallen for head over heels and she found out by my son mother and now the girl doesn't want nothing to do with me. I get it because I should of been the 1 who told her and been open but whats a next step?
i am breaking up and reconnecting with my girlfriend and its long distance. she lies too much, my intuition tells me she does whatever it takes to move up the ladder at work. She is very open and too friendly to everyone and draws no boundaries between any of her circles. Her main friend circle out here in ny where i remain, they have touched eachother and her in front of me inappropriately more than once. I am on a time schedule with her in terms of talking to her and also visiting her in maryland i feel im always on the bench waiting for her to allow me in i can not be with her with friends because i voiced my emotions on how inappropriate they are she refuses to change the behavior she wants me to move with her before i give up my city job and all and take my son to maryland , how i can be sure im making the right decision i cant trust her
My ex told me the day he broke uo with me to stay friends with him! I simply said i cant! So then he started telling me please dont get out of my life and begging me to be friends with him and all! I was so confused 🤷♀️ he told me he cant be with me but still wants me to be part of his life! Thats not the case though! Because im too attached to him i told him few days later that i dont mind staying friends with me however hes showing me ththe complete opposite thing! He keeps on avoiding me!
My girlfriend lied to me 3 or 4 times but this is the most painful lie she have done to me. I already told her that i'm jealous on my "classmate" me and my girlfriend has a different school so she know him because of me and i already told her that i'm jelous on him and she promised me that she will never talk to my classmate anymore. BUT i foundout that she has a dummy acc and she's keep talking on him she said that she will told that when we meet again but i can't trust her anymore now i have trust issues on her she said that it will never happen again what should i do please?
Might I add she said she was gonna tell me after our anniversary . But how do I know that wasn't just another one of her many lies
This is my husband his addiction is more important then the truth his father did the same to his mother he say so hard who he dont want to become but he's become what sad is that he blind it