How To Rebuild Lost Trust In A Relationship

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  • Опубліковано 21 гру 2024

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  • @TheSenderof
    @TheSenderof 3 роки тому +3068

    U’re here bcz ur life has been tough lately , i wish you the best for your relationship as well , there’s always a space for us ❤️

    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому +7

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому

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    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому

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    • @jahsehmahal8238
      @jahsehmahal8238 3 роки тому +11

      Thank you for that, I know they was small but like that meant a lot

    • @consciouscollin
      @consciouscollin 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you

  • @kristiesconnections
    @kristiesconnections 5 років тому +1008

    I think #1 should be STOP LYING, be open honest & transparent!!!!!

    • @aspectocharlesulysses4869
      @aspectocharlesulysses4869 4 роки тому +3

      Kristie May definitely.

    • @nnnnnnnira3962
      @nnnnnnnira3962 4 роки тому +42

      I literally cannot. I feel like I’m in a lose lose situation every time I have to tell someone something. That may mean I’m a bad person, but I feel trapped.

    • @hobbles3927
      @hobbles3927 4 роки тому +9

      And the best way not to be fat is to eat less right? Thanks captain obvious!

    • @francoisr4036
      @francoisr4036 4 роки тому +4

      @Kristie May There are several ideas for making improvements in your marriage
      Try to communicate more
      Cooperate with each other more
      Try to give and take more
      (I read these and why they work on Pavs partner pundit site )

    • @Rdbiswas44
      @Rdbiswas44 4 роки тому +1

      Yap...that are actually some people's habit...

  • @kathrynkozar4447
    @kathrynkozar4447 4 роки тому +1098

    Part of rebuilding trust is to think positive about someone 💞💞💞

    • @gregoriojperez44
      @gregoriojperez44 4 роки тому +7

      Kathryn Kozar, here's a few ideas for saving your marriage Try to talk more Cooperate with each other more Try to give and take more (I read these and why they work on Pavs Partner Pundit site )

    • @therevenant320
      @therevenant320 4 роки тому +8

      100% true! It’s working too!! Think positive be positive!

    • @kevinbraden9951
      @kevinbraden9951 4 роки тому +7

      That sounds like an obvious thing. But I haven't done that in a long time! Thanks for the advice

    • @emmagarza3557
      @emmagarza3557 4 роки тому

      @@therevenant320 0]ppp0

    • @kingsostaito
      @kingsostaito 4 роки тому +1

      Wow thank you

  • @foreignlovedreams
    @foreignlovedreams 2 роки тому +286

    Trust is one of the essential building blocks of a healthy relationship. Trust is a two-way street, so your partner should feel the same when they trust you. In my opinion it is possible to rebuild trust - but this is contingent on both parties still wanting the relationship, wanting the relationship to work, and wanting each other. The person who broke the trust can’t, on their own, rebuild trust with you. You also need to roll up your sleeves, put in the work, and work on building trust with your loved one.
    These steps to help you rebuild trust in your relationship:
    - Recommit to Your Relationship
    - Take Responsibility
    - Apologize, Grieve, and Forgive

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому +4

      He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .

    • @raziaabdalle2302
      @raziaabdalle2302 Рік тому

      How can he help me I also need help

    • @KhushiMishra-jz8df
      @KhushiMishra-jz8df Рік тому

    • @Iloveyoujesus77
      @Iloveyoujesus77 3 місяці тому

      @@PsychicloveadviceHow did you get him back and why did he leave?

    • @Iloveyoujesus77
      @Iloveyoujesus77 3 місяці тому

      Can you please help me?

  • @angelderek5972
    @angelderek5972 27 днів тому +4

    I like how I feel like I’m not the only one going through so much, I feel a sense of community in the comments, ur not alone 😭

  • @singosemp
    @singosemp 4 роки тому +582

    Video starts at 3:00 ☺️

  • @christawildflower5633
    @christawildflower5633 4 роки тому +336

    I’m so grateful I found this video , I really needed to hear this. I just want to be happy with my fiancé, we both deserve it

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      @jennifereva8228 4 роки тому

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  • @Tamarjit1
    @Tamarjit1 Рік тому +24

    Lying is the biggest trust breaker and some people just never quit. They lie and sneak. I didn’t realize my person was a liar until recently.

  • @stevenredman3831
    @stevenredman3831 2 роки тому +52

    Potentially losing my partner and family because of a loss of trust and now I need trust more than ever. 💔

    • @ivanpatterson4159
      @ivanpatterson4159 Рік тому +3

      You are not alone.😔

    • @billyc2572
      @billyc2572 5 місяців тому

      Addiction? infidelity? Addiction has ruined a lot of things for me. I'm in recovery now. My point is you can recover from anything.

  • @wendyopthof5349
    @wendyopthof5349 5 років тому +127

    Understanding that keeping a negative story running about a person keeps us not in tune was important to learn. I'm grateful to have learned these tips because we will all have this happen and learning to trust ourselves as well is also critical.

  • @johnmiller-jf3ez
    @johnmiller-jf3ez 5 років тому +129

    Most people deserve a chance and have a potential to change,but not most narcissists. This applies to most pepple,except for the majority of narcissists.

    • @user-cc4kq6hl4c
      @user-cc4kq6hl4c 4 роки тому +1

      john miller how do you know a narcissist

    • @jamesg1974a
      @jamesg1974a 3 роки тому +6

      People use the term narcissist way too casually. Very few true narcissists exist. There are people that display some narcissistic tendencies though. Huge difference.

  • @Mochi-kf3it
    @Mochi-kf3it 3 роки тому +70

    I lied to him. I hid stuff in the beginning of our relationship but over time I could feel myself changing. When we finally met (long distance) it was amazing and everything we could’ve wanted... I told him I’m not that person anymore and owed up to the stuff I did and he’s still hurting and having a hard time regaining trust. I want us to be okay, I really love him

    • @alexia8855
      @alexia8855 2 роки тому +1

      Hello! How are both of you now? Was he able to forgive you?

    • @blackwaltz3135
      @blackwaltz3135 2 роки тому +2

      did you tell him though or did he find out about what happened?
      Also, did you try making up for what you did or wanted to start the relationship over like when you first date someone?

    • @Yukchii
      @Yukchii 2 роки тому +7

      that's exactly my issue rn. all of that is literally me rn help

    • @sandyadjeley8621
      @sandyadjeley8621 2 роки тому +5

      You just mentioned my situation right now,I’m tearing apart 😭

    • @Msfierrrce
      @Msfierrrce Рік тому +2

      My situation rn😅

  • @depressedandstressed7390
    @depressedandstressed7390 5 років тому +328

    My girlfriend has lied and lied, and broken promises and hid stuff from me on and off for the last 5 months of our relationship. I want to regain my trust and faith in her, this video helps so much... thank you... I really love her, I see her and I growing old together, with her I feel I can do anything, she is the best part of me

    • @RottenAppleBoBA
      @RottenAppleBoBA 5 років тому +103

      DePreSseD aNd StResSeD i am the one thats lied and broken promises. And i want to change. Im sure she does too

    • @platoon-mg1qv
      @platoon-mg1qv 5 років тому +23

      So DID she change?

    • @sama6290
      @sama6290 5 років тому +56

      Don't make someone who doesn't value you the best part of you. You are the best part of you. Your girlfriend seems to just let you down. Never seen liars change and it doesn't seem like she just lied once.

    • @FDEE30
      @FDEE30 5 років тому +6

      Any update lol

    • @stevemines6870
      @stevemines6870 4 роки тому +14

      She is a liar they don't change she lie now she will lie again might make a great friend drop the rest. (that's my two cents)

  • @armandozertuche4054
    @armandozertuche4054 3 роки тому +68

    I'm here because I live a life filled with anxiety in relationships because of trust. Whether someone is completely honest or not I still have the anxiety that they are lying. Or that paranoia feeling.

  • @jerryvang4351
    @jerryvang4351 5 років тому +149

    Thank you so much. I'm going through some tough times with my wife and I am so glad that God has lead me to u. Yes we r all just humans and I'm not perfect myself, I'm willing to change/open up for the better so me and my wife relationship can grow stronger. I'm only 29 yrs old and still have a lot to learn. Thank you so much Kirk! I am a new subscriber and will keep up with your great words. Gob bless us all.

  • @axis1198
    @axis1198 4 роки тому +104

    " Why dont you trust yourself? "
    This line hit me so deep. I realized that it wasnt that I dont trust the man in my relationship, but it was that I didnt trust myself that I could change. This is what I didnt know I needed. Now I feel much more confident to love him and I am emotionally stable again and I feel like I can now change for the better. ❤️❤️

  • @ramisen7964
    @ramisen7964 5 років тому +138

    Trust builts on its own it doesn't requires much efforts as long as u understands them

    • @Thefishingcaddy
      @Thefishingcaddy 4 роки тому +8

      Rami Sen no there are some people who won’t give you a chance no matter what! When your around unforgiving people like that it’s their loss. They believe they are perfect and aren’t capable of accepting responsibility for their part in the relationship.

    • @anthonychour5858
      @anthonychour5858 4 роки тому +1

      My friend said i copied his idea and i just agreed i did (i didnt really but i wanted to get it over with.) And now he wont talk to me or trust me, guys please help. :C

    • @FarooqAhmed-jx2ii
      @FarooqAhmed-jx2ii 4 роки тому +1

      It builts on its own but Retrust needs efforts !!

  • @thecowboy9698
    @thecowboy9698 Рік тому +48

    Sometimes there's nothing you can do. Sometimes, you have to just take it as a learning experience, vow to never repeat your mistakes, and move on with your life.
    It's hard, but sometimes that's just how it is. So accept it, learn from it, and move forward.

  • @m.b.658
    @m.b.658 3 роки тому +67

    When your spouse sneaks around doing stuff and lying to your face it’s hard to believe any change.

    • @lashellanderson7773
      @lashellanderson7773 2 місяці тому +4

      No, it's not true. If nature can change, why wouldn't a person change

    • @Blackdeathpodcast
      @Blackdeathpodcast 2 місяці тому

      ​@@lashellanderson7773especially when the person who lacks trust has done things that proves people can change.

  • @candicebobchak
    @candicebobchak 5 років тому +16

    There was not even an argument, but a misunderstanding between me and my best friend. I am actively working on regaining her trust and thanks to this video I believe it is possible now. I've opened up to her more than I ever have to anyone and I am not willing to lose that.

    • @johncoc215
      @johncoc215 4 роки тому

      dr william love spell works permanently and its the best ,,

  • @jayanthikumar5010
    @jayanthikumar5010 2 роки тому +28

    Very true very true. Exactly! People change. People learn. Some learn it the hard way. It's ok, still they learn isn't it. So we all must give second chances to others. As you said, communication is the key.

  • @terrybreda
    @terrybreda 4 роки тому +35

    oh my! you just nailed it! my husband hold me back so much with negative stories, doesn't even see all the changes or things i've done to better us! THANK YOU! now to communicate with him, May God guide my words to help him see. And may we rebuilt. Amen!

    • @mansidhawan8573
      @mansidhawan8573 2 роки тому +4

      Did it make a difference in your life?

    • @lovelock1994
      @lovelock1994 2 роки тому

      @@mansidhawan8573 great question

  • @MissD-xk1xb
    @MissD-xk1xb 2 роки тому +4

    People can change, so long as they stay far away from each other. There isn’t enough patience in the world to allow reoccurring nonsense. Thanks for the video

    • @penny6989
      @penny6989 2 роки тому

      I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days

  • @sama6290
    @sama6290 5 років тому +190

    Everybody deserves a second chance but if you are with a (repeatedly proven) dishonest person - liars rarely change. They just try to cover up better. Especially the ones that are only "sorry" that/when they get caught. Their favourite lie is that it's not how it looks and that they're gonna change.

    • @renalynbombita405
      @renalynbombita405 5 років тому +7

      They never change i guess
      If they a liar and a cheater they will always be.....because they love playing games hows so sad!

    • @renalynbombita405
      @renalynbombita405 5 років тому +8

      They will never change....if they lie once....twice or repeatedly. They are a liar...and a cheater they will always be.because they love playing games

    • @brittanyg2529
      @brittanyg2529 4 роки тому +5

      Yep it’s easier for them to keep doing what they’ve always done. Once you start lying you have to keep lying to cover up the lies. Lol it’s harder to step back, take a look at themselves and be transparent. Some people just like fool us

    • @jamesg1974a
      @jamesg1974a 3 роки тому +30

      This actually not true. These are symptoms of deeper issues that the person may be dealing with. Only by addressing those underlying issues will the cycle be broken. It isn't easy though.

    • @nishantyadav9461
      @nishantyadav9461 2 роки тому +4

      Liars Changes...but when u address the right issues in the right moment,they confess their hearts out and in that moment lies their true image .
      From that moment things slowly starts to heal up if taken proper care.
      Not everyone can be trusted but the ones we truly care about,we can help them to change not by bullying them and repeatedly accusing them of their lies but real meaningful conversations as to why they did so in the first place .

  • @ChargedBonsai98
    @ChargedBonsai98 Рік тому +10

    Thank you so much. I recently made a huge mistake with someone that destroyed the bridge between us. This video has given me amazing groundwork to move on and try to regain that trust.

  • @sharonjohnston2351
    @sharonjohnston2351 3 роки тому +9

    I'm living proof that people can change but the people got to understand that there is a problem, if they don't then change is not possible for them . But I am responsible for my health and care to change myself. 60 days from a toxicity relationship. But life is getting better. One day at a time. 60 of changing me up not pulling me down. Thank you 🙏🔥👑⚘🌹🥀🌷💖

  • @briggstondade4986
    @briggstondade4986 4 роки тому +38

    One thing I’m taking away from this is that even though we may keep getting hurt trying to repair the brokenness in the relationship we still get to liberate ourself from that cold callus feeling or anything else we may feel towards that individual

  • @michellecalleja5174
    @michellecalleja5174 4 роки тому +22

    That last suggestion was what I needed to hear. It's not easy providing trust, but I'm also not in tune. I need the right tools to help me do the right decisions and I desperately need some peace of mind 😞

  • @ssoirr
    @ssoirr Місяць тому +3

    losing the love of my life, i appreciate you, i will work hard

  • @vikkigupta2003
    @vikkigupta2003 2 роки тому +8

    Trust can be rebuild with better communication but both partners needs to actively work on it. Every relationship goes through this phase and it doesn't mean we should move on to the next one.

  • @diegoamaya7537
    @diegoamaya7537 2 роки тому +4

    Wow! Thank you for your words. Nombre 4 is the problem with us. That’s why I never had a chance and my changes were never noticed. Best of luck to everyone watching this video. People can change and want to change for the better. If people believe that people don’t change. They should come and read all this comments.

  • @sethlewis2223
    @sethlewis2223 2 роки тому +2

    I feel this guy knows what he is talking about because he has the experience and proof that what he is saying will work if you try. I know what positive thinking can do. Thank you to this guy I just hope I don't forget this.

  • @ginkmdma
    @ginkmdma 4 роки тому +14

    I hurt someone badly by admitting my mistakes, she was trusting me and I made everything worse... eventho I acted behind her back to help her in the end... I feel terrible and she doesn't talk with me

  • @iperez9527
    @iperez9527 11 місяців тому +2

    This video has given me hope to keep on trying to regain trust.

  • @NakeishaClunis
    @NakeishaClunis 4 роки тому +8

    I lied to my bf about who I was goin on a vacation with, he found out and now we are over. I'm trying to build back the trust with him, but I don't wanna force him. I love him so much.. he's my person

    • @NakeishaClunis
      @NakeishaClunis 4 роки тому

      Thank u @trell

    • @tibumamba6028
      @tibumamba6028 4 роки тому

      How did it go

    • @NakeishaClunis
      @NakeishaClunis 4 роки тому +4

      @@tibumamba6028 prayed alot, gave him time. And we are working on it.. baby steps

    • @lethalbz9137
      @lethalbz9137 3 роки тому

      @@NakeishaClunis any updates? My boyfriend broke my trust a few months ago, and we’re working on things. I know he’s my person as well so that’s why I’m giving him a second chance

  • @filipkres
    @filipkres 2 роки тому +4

    Guys, i hope you all get trough tough times, i belive in you!! Much love!! ❤️

  • @SoundlessFantasy
    @SoundlessFantasy Рік тому +3

    Actions speak louder then words if your everyday actions don’t show me you are trying

  • @analyntipora4382
    @analyntipora4382 2 роки тому +2

    Rebuilding trust towards my partner hurts me lot. I felt difficult doing it every time. THANKS to this vedio. It enlightens me ❤️.

    • @penny6989
      @penny6989 2 роки тому

      I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days

  • @audreylaroux1325
    @audreylaroux1325 4 роки тому +22

    I needed to hear this right now. Thank you for speaking in such a clear and gentle way I really appreciate it.

  • @djjd1music
    @djjd1music 10 місяців тому

    I'm here watching this from now on to work on rebuilding trust from the people that I love the most, especially my mother and girlfriend 😢

  • @alexberta5195
    @alexberta5195 2 роки тому +8

    I am here because I did something so horrible that it ended up losing one of my best friend’s trust, and the trust of my crush at the exact same time. Neither of them want to communicate with me. They decided to completely cut me off from their lives. Worst thing is that the best friend I mentioned is my roommate in my dorm. He doesn’t even care enough anymore to look at me. When I wish to talk to him he immediately shuts me off and sends me away in the most ruthless ways possible. I want to rebuild my trust with him but it seems impossible. I am truly on the lowest possible point in my life right now. I don’t know how I can even begin these steps if the first step is communication, and my roommate treats me as if I wasn’t in the same room with him.

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      👆👆

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .

  • @puja7216
    @puja7216 Рік тому +2

    I hope this works I did something very terrible without even realising but my intention was not wrong I love him so much...plz pray for me only for 2 seconds ❤️❤️😓

  • @nn47_
    @nn47_ 10 місяців тому +4

    I'm writing this and I'll come back after some time. If hope we could fix things together, if not, I hope it ended well.

    • @aryans6968
      @aryans6968 10 місяців тому +1

      I'm here ab this too:/

    • @myaburley8949
      @myaburley8949 9 місяців тому +1

      So what happened?

  • @markvargas449
    @markvargas449 5 років тому +225

    Sucks when someone wants you out there life, after you had something with them

    • @kyonas6047
      @kyonas6047 5 років тому +3

      What hurt me that someone want you In his life but you are want things faster😭After break up we start to talking and yeaahh

    • @jj_is_swag-6831
      @jj_is_swag-6831 4 роки тому +2

      Yeah it dose it’s happening to me a month ago

    • @RATMHysteria
      @RATMHysteria 4 роки тому +3

      Your use of the English language is embarrassing.

    • @hannahlore
      @hannahlore 4 роки тому +19

      OmniG they could be young and learning or their first language could be something other than english. your lack of critical thinking and consideration is embarrassing.

  • @socratesaristotle101
    @socratesaristotle101 5 років тому +10

    My sister broke my trust. After a period of time I forgave her. She apologized and she promised never to do it again.....then she turned around and did something even worse. Her jealousy and her mouth betrayed me far worse than I could have ever thought. I love her but she is toxic. I don't need that it my life. She's sixty two years old....far too old to want to hurt others so she can feel better about herself.

    • @taramay8174
      @taramay8174 10 місяців тому

      Oh I'm so sorry hunny.xxxxxx maybe distance

  • @richardortiz7854
    @richardortiz7854 2 роки тому +8

    What a beautiful message, I'm feeling positive already, thank you!

  • @LabeilleCreative
    @LabeilleCreative 4 роки тому +29

    My ex and I dated for 3 years and long distance for 2 years after I decided to transfer to a different University, and for some reason I didn’t see it at the time but I was becoming more and more toxic, I left her because I didn’t know what I wanted anymore after I hurt her badly, and now I’m healing myself, trying to be the real me and learn from what I did. I don’t mind that she’s moving on, I just want to know she is happier. But I want to rebuild that trust because we had something really divine when we met each other in the beginning and I know that we could be that version of us again and even more deeply committed and trusting, but idk time will tell, I’m in no rush and I’m trying to focus on myself more so I could be better.

    • @sazzyy.17
      @sazzyy.17 4 роки тому +6

      Im in so so so much similar situation
      Im the one who hurted him we are in long distance
      He doesn't even want to see me because i told him the truth by myself about a mistake i did i want him back i can't live without that person at all i imagine everything with him
      I have committed to become a stronger person giving him much more importance but he doesnt trust me anymore I cry all day n night I'm in depression I need him so much

    • @johncoc215
      @johncoc215 4 роки тому

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  • @mudmonkeyatvs
    @mudmonkeyatvs 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you. Going through a tough time in my new marriage. A tough time that I created. Thank you for the video

    • @3KeyElements
      @3KeyElements  2 роки тому +3

      Sorry to hear the struggles you're going through! I hope the video helped... hang in there. Always be quick to admit when you're wrong, apologize, and start building that trust again... it comes from actions too, not just words. You got this!

    • @lovelock1994
      @lovelock1994 2 роки тому +2

      How are things now

  • @axceldomingo4064
    @axceldomingo4064 3 роки тому +10

    Trust is very important especially for those who had a relationship! So be true and loyal to your partners but not trusting too much! 😔👍💔

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      +::2::3::4::7::0::5::7::2::1::5::5::3::2

  • @marckjoeprildtalusan7974
    @marckjoeprildtalusan7974 2 роки тому +6

    I'm glad I found this video bcz me and my cousin just got an misunderstanding I lied to him and he lied to me I want to save our friendship bcz I can tell that I threat him like my brother thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️

  • @YuzakiiM
    @YuzakiiM 2 роки тому +6

    Thanks for helping! Me and my BFF broke the friendship 1 week ago.. i have been depressed about that, but this is helpful! Thank you so so much

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      👆👆

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .

  • @dianacolvin4472
    @dianacolvin4472 2 роки тому +6

    You are amazing! Thanks so much. I was so down and depressed and now I have HOPE! 🙌🏼💕

  • @OnMePatmalone
    @OnMePatmalone Рік тому +6

    Thank you for the advice, this is one of the best videos ive seen in recent history. My partner who ive been in separation from for a couple of months turned me onto your video. Everything you said makes total sense and im hoping i can use the ideas you outlined to try and reconcile with her. Your first point of communication is something i need to work on within myself. I think if we can put these steps into action our relationship could be alot better than it previously was.

    • @mudaudzhavhelo1664
      @mudaudzhavhelo1664 Рік тому

      Hi, how are you finding this advice in practice, is your relationship getting better? Praying for you.

  • @kathrynmeyer8711
    @kathrynmeyer8711 3 роки тому +8

    This applies to me!!! I need to let go and relax

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      Text him on WhatsApp..

    • @julissasmessages4493
      @julissasmessages4493 3 роки тому

      +::2::3::4::7::0::5::7::2::1::5::5::3::2

  • @dcshoes640
    @dcshoes640 5 років тому +24

    Some people will never change and that’s the sad thing. Some people can change but after all the lying and hiding stuff from me i just can’t trust her again and I feel terrible about it I’ve tried trusting her again but she screwed it up again but after 2 chances I just can’t trust her again.

  • @lamyahomaydan6131
    @lamyahomaydan6131 Рік тому +2

    Number 4. is magical. Thanks.

  • @kerrylattimore2684
    @kerrylattimore2684 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for this sensitive discussion. I think it will help me make a better relationship with a family member. Thank you.

  • @rzaq9302
    @rzaq9302 7 місяців тому +2

    I believe when trust is broken, it can’t be rebuilt with the person you once knew. That person is gone, and now you are with a completely different person.
    Unlike a glass vase, I see trust as a measuring cup. You and your partner are the water inside the measuring cup and it’s at 100%. When trust is betrayed, the jug tips over and now it’s capped to a maximum of 90% or even as low as 20%.
    With trust going forth, you have 2 options: you can either pour the water in a smaller cup to achieve the 100% capacity again or you can dump the water out completely.
    The thing about transitioning to a smaller cup is now you don’t know anything really about this person except the idea that was presented in the measuring cup. This smaller cup can end up being the best, but it won’t ever be the same as the previous measuring cup.
    Besides cheating and abuse, sometimes the smaller cup isn’t the bad option because the reality is no human being is perfect, and the harsh reality is most relationships formed in our time end in the smaller cup.
    Edit- Just to clarify, if there’s cheating and abuse involved, it’s always best to just dump the water immediately.

  • @glazedconfused
    @glazedconfused Рік тому +4

    This was life-changing advice for me. I needed to hear this today - thank you so very much!!

  • @JSMinstantcoaching
    @JSMinstantcoaching 4 роки тому +4

    Trust is as fragile as a glass that is not attainable and is standing on a edge of a high table

  • @gokuop8136
    @gokuop8136 5 років тому +51

    My girlfriend broke up w me just because she lost trust in me after something i did which she feels really hurt about now i know how to convince her thankyou so much your video saved my lifee 😭❤

    • @MinecraftGoesMining
      @MinecraftGoesMining 5 років тому +1

      yash lakhani unboxing channel How did it go?

    • @anybody4802
      @anybody4802 5 років тому +3

      same, almost committed suicide

    • @Lelo_diokana
      @Lelo_diokana 5 років тому +8

      I'm this girl😭😭😭....

    • @VentusKinyoubi
      @VentusKinyoubi 5 років тому +2

      Polelo Diokana how did he win ur trust back?

    • @lizaneva3065
      @lizaneva3065 5 років тому

      🧘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

  • @dmknight08
    @dmknight08 4 роки тому +113

    He has clearly never met a narcissist or a sociopath before...

    • @ericjohnson4134
      @ericjohnson4134 3 роки тому

      Can we discuss in Facebook

    • @chaimacharef510
      @chaimacharef510 3 роки тому +21

      Narcissist are not included in this talk...I think he is talking more about dealing with healthy normal partners who faces issues of trust and make mistakes not with the intention of hurting the other.

    • @vcardim
      @vcardim 3 роки тому +6

      Narcissistic and socialpath obviously are not part of this video.... You can't use any of these 4 steps with them to start of

  • @megschultze5556
    @megschultze5556 5 років тому +26

    If the person we are trusting says they want to rebuild trust but what they really want is to keep getting away with shady shenanigans and they prove this over and over again hundreds of times for more than a year than the person who no longer trusts is not in the wrong. The person taking advantage of their trust is wrong and the person mosusing second chances is wrong and the person taking advantage of opportunities is wrong. And if we who are honest and trustworthy and faithful keep being around someone who is dishonest, breaks trust and is unfaithful then the good person will be corrupted by yhe person who lacks morals.

    • @ivrcitttt.
      @ivrcitttt. 5 років тому +4

      Meg Schültze that’s exactly my situation. My guy keeps telling me to ‘just trust’ him but it’s only so that I stop questioning him on everything he’s doing and everyone he’s talking to.

    • @mariannenowottny161
      @mariannenowottny161 5 років тому

      This is true

    • @triptikumari2504
      @triptikumari2504 5 років тому

      That's true. Not everyone is worth giving chances. Few people just keep on taking advantage.

  • @eamonnmunroe6102
    @eamonnmunroe6102 4 місяці тому

    It's not me who needs to learn how to trust or to prove myself
    I would protect you but you know what's happened

  • @mstransom9680
    @mstransom9680 5 років тому +6

    My mom put parental controls on my ps4 and she trust me now. It makes me feel way better it’s the best feeling!

  • @sahitya9708
    @sahitya9708 3 роки тому +1

    I have broken her heart and i want to rebuild trust . I am never ever gonna leave her . I will do whatever i can to rebuild trust .

  • @hopianfrancis416
    @hopianfrancis416 3 роки тому +10

    This video is very helpful, thank you I am struggling with #4 I need to think positive I have been trying however, some actions of the person still got me rethinking over and over of what they did. Smh Yahweh help me pass this!

    • @taramay8174
      @taramay8174 10 місяців тому

      You got this girl ❤

  • @tripandnature9496
    @tripandnature9496 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you 😊 Loving and forgiving other.

    • @goddessshella664
      @goddessshella664 4 роки тому

      Hello to whom it may concern I can recomend you to someone great and powerful who helpe dme restore back my broken marriage and I'm so happy now that my marriage is restore back now

    • @goddessshella664
      @goddessshella664 4 роки тому

      Contact him on whtzapp

    • @cathyrianma3985
      @cathyrianma3985 4 роки тому

      + 2 3 4- 8 1 5.-- 6 8. 9. -6. 4. 3. 6

  • @seanmorgan7452
    @seanmorgan7452 2 роки тому +4

    Thank for such a positive, uplifting video. Needed this.

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my partner is back to me and we happily together , I go help from a man who brought us back

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      👆👆

    • @Psychicloveadvice
      @Psychicloveadvice 2 роки тому

      He will definitely help you he have solutions to all problems.He helped me not quite long and I got my husband who left me over two years ago within 48 hour's .

  • @nikimead8925
    @nikimead8925 4 роки тому +4

    Thanks Kirk ,I've met you once at a royalty and romance and been to that seminar 2wice ,me and my wife love you and Kim,I really do love your advice and can trust you both the moment we came to that first seminar.Your an amazing person, Thank You for what you do you continue to help me! Much love to you both.

    • @whatsap380
      @whatsap380 4 роки тому

      Don't tell me you haven't heard about Gabriel the great restorer of broken relationships of all kind.

    • @whatsap380
      @whatsap380 4 роки тому

      Reach out to him today & he will help you fix all your relationship problems immediately & permanently.

    • @whatsap380
      @whatsap380 4 роки тому

      Reach him on Whats🅰pp now okay.

    • @whatsap380
      @whatsap380 4 роки тому

      Plus +2 3 4 8 0 7 6 6 5 0 2 8 6,,,,,,,

    • @ts9119
      @ts9119 3 роки тому

      My Wife & l

  • @colwilpro
    @colwilpro 2 роки тому +4

    The people who don't forgive have their own things they are not proud of.

  • @deborahmair5276
    @deborahmair5276 2 роки тому +2

    I love your videos. You have such insight. Love and Light ❤️

  • @ChefChrisDay
    @ChefChrisDay 3 роки тому +8

    Really appreciate this video. Very much UNLIKE everything else that gets thrown around out there in terms of coaching and relationship advice. Great video looking forward to discovering more.

  • @paulzimba
    @paulzimba 3 роки тому

    I always feel f**ked up after being cheated at, I don’t know if I will ever recover from that... I pray one day to wake up without that memory in my head.

  • @melinatrevino1250
    @melinatrevino1250 4 роки тому +4

    Number 4 hit me hard. Thank you.

  • @ericsampson8805
    @ericsampson8805 2 роки тому +2

    Awesome awesome awesome thank you very much it was very helpful

  • @elissarhussineliwi5100
    @elissarhussineliwi5100 6 років тому +29

    great tips thx for sharing i love your work and your energy 🙏🏻❤️

    • @3KeyElements
      @3KeyElements  6 років тому +1

      Thank you, keep watching. We're adding new videos and content daily to help you improve your life and live your dreams!

  • @kittystenz6284
    @kittystenz6284 4 роки тому

    I haven’t broke trust but my loves is struggling with trust issues I started watching this so I know the best ways to work on helping to build him up and build up trust. I want my goals to be the best thing that’s ever happened to him and in the process of getting him to trust myself I’m learning to also be a better person long term.

    • @afadambest5497
      @afadambest5497 4 роки тому

      Do you want to bring back your ex immediately..

    • @afadambest5497
      @afadambest5497 4 роки тому

      I have someone that will help you bring back your ex immediately..

    • @afadambest5497
      @afadambest5497 4 роки тому

      Message him on whatspp

    • @kittystenz6284
      @kittystenz6284 4 роки тому

      @@afadambest5497 he’s not an ex I don’t use what’s up

    • @briansarah338
      @briansarah338 4 роки тому

      +1,7,0,1,5,8,7,2,2,5,7

  • @triciasimon283
    @triciasimon283 5 років тому +29

    This only works if someone wishes to changes and regrets past actions.... and I’m referring to adults.

    • @lizamic
      @lizamic 2 роки тому

      What if you partner desplays mistrust in me to other people.

  • @maglilongcarlo2576
    @maglilongcarlo2576 3 роки тому +1

    Thankyou. I really need that video. Blessed to found it

  • @squirmy1830
    @squirmy1830 5 років тому +13

    I lied to my dad about something and I hid the truth from him for a long time. It made him really disappointed in me when I decided to tell him the truth. Can these steps truly help?

    • @3KeyElements
      @3KeyElements  5 років тому +2

      Give them a try. They work for me and I use them when I need to rebuild and increase trust. Do you very best to repair and rebuild the trust with you dad. And remember to forgive yourself too. I have a video on this channel about that for you. You got this, my friend.

    • @breerivera8865
      @breerivera8865 4 роки тому +3

      Dont lie and don't keep secrets.

  • @vania2715
    @vania2715 Рік тому

    I really need to hear this again ,i really love my bf and want us stay happy ❤ thank you

  • @user-dm9xe7qi7y
    @user-dm9xe7qi7y 4 роки тому +4

    I cant build my trust with my mother ever again. I was bought a diary/notebook for my grief and just my to get my drawing skills better. Then she says “Leah, give me the notebook.” She was basically forcing me to give her where I wrote out my daily thoughts. There were some that were pretty brutal, some about my school life, and some about my family members. She reads it, then tells all her friends about it. I don’t know what she’s gonna do next. She’s probably gonna tell everyone them everyone in my family will think I’m a just a ungrateful child (I grew up in an african/italian household). I still have to respect my family members, and her also. I just wanna cut her off once in 18.

    • @traciepitt-bennett1808
      @traciepitt-bennett1808 4 роки тому +1

      Things may not always go the way we hoped for but she is your mother amd you will never get another. Love her and forgive her.

  • @NoExcusesMove
    @NoExcusesMove 3 роки тому

    This is the way I think and people run me down telling me I'm living in a fantasy....I say if you do these things watch what happens. Saying what you're say and thinking and yeah you will continue not being in a relationship where someone chooses you. We are human, but that's No excuse.
    My brand (No Excuses-Move)

  • @barbiequeen1
    @barbiequeen1 4 роки тому +4

    Video starts at 3:08

  • @stetzify6694
    @stetzify6694 Рік тому +1

    This really helps. Thank you very much for sharing!😌

  • @mahery3000
    @mahery3000 4 роки тому +4

    this is brilliant - thank you

  • @mattddrums1
    @mattddrums1 5 років тому +2

    you do not need to tell negative stories to catch negative things. thats so good

  • @kimberlyporter9555
    @kimberlyporter9555 4 роки тому +6

    This doesn't apply to narcissist's though. I had a friend who made me believe along with other people that his son was beaten to death by his mother and stepfather. I was devastated. He made fake funeral pamphlets. His son was alive and healthy and had no contact with said father. I knew immediately that he was incapable of being a friend because he had the utmost contempt for me. I was traumatized listening to him go on about how he was trying to get his son back and he was being sexually and physically abused by his guardians.

  • @Sitaro.
    @Sitaro. Рік тому +2

    I appreciate your positive outlook! This video helped a lot

  • @vivdoolan6846
    @vivdoolan6846 3 роки тому +18

    There needs to be a caveat that none of this applies to a relationship with a narcissist. You cannot rebuild trust with a narcissist.

    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому

      I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem

    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому

      Text me via what’s app for recommendation

    • @helenwendy2136
      @helenwendy2136 3 роки тому

      + 1 6 7 8 4 2 6 5 0 9 5
      From Los Angeles

    • @skyflowerz
      @skyflowerz 2 роки тому

      I agree. The rules always change when dealing with a mentally dysfunctional monster.

  • @hasanalash1085
    @hasanalash1085 7 місяців тому

    4 suggestions yet worth their weight in gold!!

  • @shumiyarahman7092
    @shumiyarahman7092 4 роки тому +4

    This helped so much . Thank you for helping me out . 😀😀😀

  • @BEARMEATCRAYON
    @BEARMEATCRAYON 5 місяців тому

    I want to trust and i want to be trusted again i didnt know the mistakes i was making and i really hope to fix things with myself and the relationship i have hurt

  • @timsofield1890
    @timsofield1890 4 роки тому +12

    Are these four steps listed in order of importance? I believe that #4 (+ story) really needs to be the #1 step in the process. If you can not keep a positive story about your partner and the negative keeps getting thrown in your face then steps 1-3 are just getting torpedoed before they can be affectively used to rebuild trust.

    • @filipkres
      @filipkres 2 роки тому

      Totally agree with you!

  • @wyldfaeth
    @wyldfaeth Рік тому +2

    I cannot let go my negative feelings because my ex would never actually "do" the verbal agreements we settled on. We never had it in writing because he always complained about how much work went into rebuilding after he cheated, (he cheated for 5 yrs, we were together for 6). I told him I don't know him and he has to show me who he really is, and all he does is say "I'm not doing anything bad anymore" but refuses to show me proof since I already saw 5 yrs worth of proof that he doesn't actually love me. He says "we can't just move on, we always gotta stew on it and make everything a problem". That 100% does not sound like a boyfriend that feels remorse for what he's done. Instead, it sounds like a child.

  • @tanishqkale5215
    @tanishqkale5215 5 років тому +6

    Loved the emphasis on "I"

  • @chrissemenko628
    @chrissemenko628 Рік тому

    "Expectation is the root of all heartache "
    William Shakespeare.

  • @ufunny1100
    @ufunny1100 5 років тому +7

    Having a problem where my gf wants me out her life and far away from her little mistakes I made I’m trying to fix the patches on the road hoping she gives me a chance on hearing me out rather then believing others !

    • @winstonwilson7807
      @winstonwilson7807 5 років тому +1

      Exotic E36M3 I’m going thru the same thing bro. I lied to her and she wants me to just be her friend and nothing else. I’m trying to change and stop lying. I’m slowly am. I pray that she gives me another chance. 😔
      It hurts

    • @mexicoralph6763
      @mexicoralph6763 5 років тому

      Exotic E36M3 pray

  • @ShellyShellvirgo
    @ShellyShellvirgo Рік тому

    Thank you, very happy to come across you channel🙏🏽♥️