Why A Narcissist Disappears Ghosting & Blocking YOU Post Discard
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
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The second generalised style of treatment post a discard by the covert narcissist is to vanish from their target’s life quickly and inexplicably. One day the relationship is in full swing the next the narcissist never returns home with little of no explanation. This action/manipulation of the narcissist is termed ghosting and is usually accompanied by also blocking any access to their person. All forms of access are denied to the narcissist’s former partner, friend, family member or work place colleague and the narcissist keeps all information private. Such an experience has a devastating effect on the individual over whom it is carried out and this podcast addresses the reasons the narcissist has vanished in order to provide closure and healing moving forward. NPD relates to a disorderly personality, by understanding the predictability of the disorder, those affected by a narcissist’s behavior can certainly heal and go on to thrive in a much deeper and more fulfilled manner.
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Sometimes the trash takes itself out 🎉
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Priceless 😂😂
Brilliant comment
Yessssss ! 😂 I used to tell him to jump in the garbage
Absolutely ❤🎉
The ghosting is only cruel if we don’t know about these empty vessels.
@@freespirit9806 exactly,empty vessels,how can empty vessels truly hurt us its all an illusion,don t get sucked in
If you've been ghosted and blocked, AMEN. They did the work for you. You just need to piece yourself back together and look forward to a better life. You deserve it.
He’s mirroring my No Contact so he can act like the victim of narcissistic abuse. He knows what it is. He knows what he is. But, he wants to see me hurting and broken down - so he watches and stays as close as the kids will allow him.
I hate it. He’s nuts.
They the victims lol let em be
Narcissists all follow the same "narcissist's playbook," which is why their behavior is so predictable. This makes it crucial to learn how to recognize and identify them.
When I finally had enough and went “ no contact” he did me a favor and disappeared from my life. I guess he hated my guts but in the end it just didn’t matter to me anymore
The lack of accountability is key.
They are assemblers of weapons and distributors of pain, but I believe the pain they hand out is scheduled to return to them.
So true. They appoint themselves punishers of others. It’s batshit crazy
It returns to them. My Narc husband got lung cancer two weeks later.
Thank you for this video. This is exactly what happened to me. I felt like I had been (metaphorically) punched in the gut...it was so hard to take. Little did I realize that this is the best way it could have ended. I think it's always best that the narcissist leaves thinking s/he has control because that person is more likely to leave you alone. At the time, I did not realize how dangerous this individual was. I have not heard from him since he blocked me. After I dismantled the connection, which took a while, I realized how fortunate I was. One of the basic lessons I learned from this situation is to stay disconnected until I know who I'm dealing with. I realize this is easier said than done as people can switch up on you over time. All the best to everyone going through this.
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@@thepragmatist Hi, I'm fairly new at the discovery of the narcissistic temperament put into words, but without hesitation I cannot say I am new to narcissistic abuse.
When you talked about feeling like you were punched in the gut I became aware of how mindless and senseless my drained emotions left me after numerous encounters. I recall thinking as I looked in the mirror at my pale hollow face how I thought, " if I had been punched in the face it would have been obvious I was abused, A black-eye never lies.
The abuse didn't happen suddenly it was deliberate attacks continuing for a space of 23 years. In the end I felt like a punch drunk sailor. I'm no lite wait I've lived under & with a torrent of rage beginning with my mother also a narc. , but nothing could have prepared me for the vicious perversion I would receive at the hands of a spouse narcissist.
In conclusion lets keep it in front of our eyes "We survived" let's hang a plaque on the refrigerator to remind ourselves of the impossible; we survived.
Many good wishes to you . May this journey bring you joy with a deep resolve knowing God loves you with a fierce heart protecting & guiding you to victory.
God's blessings.
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The dog 🐕 asleep on the couch 😆
Remy ❤
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Trying to get comfy with his pillow 🤣
During the long distance discard that kept me up at night and completely exhausted me both mentally and physically I texted them that I love them and called out their lies. Was left on read and got blocked the next day. I needed to protect myself from that cruelty so I blocked them back.
You deserve better ❤
It hurts so much. I know exactly what you're going through. So hard to stop ruminating and break free. I need an exorcism !
@autumn_flowers_5 good for you.
Blockity Block!! Do it NOW❤give back yourself for ONCE
@@natlee5879just BREATHE. Your GIFT to YOURSELF. FACT: they cannot breathe without your consent. Go figure: pills, junk food, CPAP Machine, Moolah and more Moolah, etc. while …
you are God’s servant🏆🧩🎯🛟🗽
I'm done suffering. I know what's going on!!!
Wow! That resonated. Great post. Stay strong 🌷
@@user-ou3sd2vp3uthere sthat rose again,
The hard discard is so damaging and designed to be that way. Watch your narc's face and see if you don't see them watching you for signs of your anguish. This is their validation. The more we're hurt, the more inflated their ego will be. Your dismemberment is their validation. The more painful it is, the more powerful they feel.
Absolute truth, I witnessed it. So sadistic
Also pay attention on how depressed and older they look just a couple years after they discarded you.
That’s call KARMA BABY!
The narc ex is melting away like ice under the sun.
My female narcissist ex now looks like real shit she can’t even smile naturally anymore.
They destroy themselves when they discarded you.
@@smokeybear7669 I agree! I thought the same when seeing the now X husband in court 😳, like wow
@@smokeybear7669 Have to agree the person they hurt is themselves!
@@smokeybear7669That's correct even months after they look dishevelled. Something is eating away at them.
The ghosting hurts at first but they really are doing you a favour! See ya 👋🏻
The hardest part is you spend most of your time doing everything for this person, put them before yourself and everyone else in your life and after discard they are in a new relationship immediately. And your alone.
Yup , it definitely hurts
Hi Paula - Excellent video and an extremely important piece in navigating a narcissist's discard and one's own healing journey. I actually had a narcissist "reassure" me during the final discard - "done worry, I'll probably still talk to you", like I had won the lottery or he was doing me some kind of special favor. But because I had dated other severe narcissists in the past, I knew exactly what/ who I was dealing with and I politely informed him that [that] isn't the way it works with me. I didn't protest; I just walked away and never heard from him again. Good riddance to bad luggage!
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15 years and two young children. He walked with no explanation. Never got one, but was glad he left. He needed money for an unpaid tax bill. He had asked me to extend the mortgage to pay it which I refused (he knew that bill was due and had had the money etc to pay it). So he left and asked his narc mother to pay it. Bingo, there is the reason.
I blocked him and his associates due to a smear campaign and stalking and I’ve not looked back.
Hi Paula and Sir Remy❤ He tried to go silent so I hired a lawyer. I blocked him and all his family on all social media. Now I only hear from him via a lawyer😊 it's saved my sanity❤
I tried that when divorcing my narc husband. Unfortunately, he promised to bankrupt me with legal fees. He was uncooperative with any disclosures re finances. He refused to hire a lawyer so my lawyer had to deal with him directly. Towards the end, when all we needed was a bit more info, he drove my fees up by almost $1000 just to get one bit of info out of him ( a date), that he wouldn't give. I had warned my lawyer not to engage with him but lawyer was happy with the billable hours. So I fired my lawyer, made one phone call to a third party and got the info I needed for free and completed the rest of the paperwork myself.
Well done
@l.5832 good for you! I am prepared to represent myself in court if he drops his lawyer when she tells him he owes me money. I've taken on tribunals myself before so it isn't much different. I'm hoping he settles though before the next steps🤞
@@l.5832 Good for you.
As a healing scapegoat, I have blocked and ghosted people I identified as narcissists in my life.
If you were so sure that they were narcissists why didn't just wait for them to block and ghost you and then just shrug it off?
@@alanbennett7017o please. You must be new here.
@@alanbennett7017maybe hes one and does nt realize.
Sometimes I wonder if I will ever truly heal 😔
@@hannahshadid885 yeah of course you will,just guard your heart in future,and pray for guidance.
This is so on point, and what I'm experiencing right now. This discard came out of left field - I feel like I've been punched in the gut and battered over the head...We had started talking again, about change, getting back together, how much we missed each other. After being so careful for months, I let him take me high again. 3 days in, and he texts we need to break contact so he can work on himself, so we don't "repeat the cycle" ! Then he proceeds to block me on all forums. Wham ! I feel so silly. I go through days now of hating him and swearing I will never contact him again, to just wanting him to contact me... He did this for control and revenge, I'm guessing
Read and learn about NPD and their behavior. He is doing exactly like "the book say's"! 💯
He was hoover You in agsin only to discard You 💥👊
Block him = NC and try to educate Yourself in what NPD really is: A horrible and evil abuse which is goibg On and On ... and it's Never Ending if YOU DON'T LEARN AND EDUCATE YOURSELF in NPD and NOT GOING BACK AGAIN!
This is NOT Love.
It's abuse made to You of a toxic person who has a Personality Disorder!!!
Take Care of You 🙏🌹💞
Mine was COLD.. She was at the door, leaving for the last time after getting her belongings… i was crying and she said with slight grin on her face “Awe… do you need a hug? …..
Most humiliated I’ve ever been.
Mine same and I did same ...and he said oh u still need a hugg, aww ...u be aight bye
Sorry… mine was cold as well….. such an evil creature. Saw her drop its mask and reveal it’s eyes as deep dark black. No whites or other colors.. she rage screamed at me before her mask dropped. The words she hissed weren’t English . Some sort of devil vernacular.
Dreadful behaviour
How vile. I had the fake "Awe" once when I was crying my eyes out. He couldn't even look me in the face, just patted my knee. They despise and dismiss other people's feelings because they only have negative ones.
Big hugs 🎉
Yep, blocked into oblivion and ghosted out of existance. Not a pleasant feeling. Nobody wins in such scenario's. It's essentially an appalling and completely disillusioning s**t show.
horrid to say the least x x
It may not seem like it now, but this is a blessing for you.
@helloeverybody6301 Well that remains to be seen. The damage has been done. I just try and take each day as it comes and somehow try to come to terms with what I went through.
They are disgusting and once you realize what you’re dealing with, get out and stay out !
I agree that there are evil spirits leading & driving the Narcissist I encountered, he was just pure devilish.
It's both! I'm blocked and still being stalked on multiple fake accounts 😂
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This is my whole family who does this too me. Mom, brother, X, three adult girls, and my half brother who is famous and too good for me. I am a good person. I am not like them. I am the scapegoat. I am now glad that I see who they are. I would watch this, but it hurts too much.
That sounds like a literal Nightmare. My God you have a family of Demons. Run.
@@gma729 run and done. Hopefully my girls come to there senses. I'm already safe. God is protecting me.
@@gma729 a family of demons. Like Gene Simmons? Lol
Several years ago, I had to abandon close family members because they all discarded me without a word. Fifteen ghosts. It took a while to grieve, but I'm now freer than I've ever been in my life. Be free of them, heal, and find a new life.
I was treated like this for 17 year and could not believe it was happening I finally divorced this man he died 4 years later in a motor accident and now I have to be quiet about his torture to my children
I finally realised i did not have to stay loyal or feel guilty so I took away all his photos
I'm sorry you experienced this. I find that a lot of times if you withdrawal your energy, they will go downhill. All the best to you.
@@thepragmatist thank you
My ex, who was one, knew I loved his texts. His good morning and goodnight txt were my most heartwarming, so he knew that not sending them used to cause me so much heartache, as I told him so, so I knew that when he did it again he did knowing how it affected me.
I know what you mean...
You touched my heart
Yes, same here
Please, try to reject him in your heart and mind.
He is not worth it
They all do a lot of texting. The good morning. The good night. Mine did it telling his new man “if I don’t he will come over”. Separate cities. When they quit…it was a gut punch.
@@teamgert Yes txting in the hot period, then it would wain off and barely 2 txt a day, devaluing, always went through cycles and you knew when the devaluing was starting.
Yes. Exactly. ....but that's !!!!!! When you realise!!!!!!!!!!! That texts do not matter!!!!! And now you are actually in an improved position/ understanding of life! .
@@AdamJamesEarlyChasebliss-ru8tq hey handsome
Narcissists are silent treatment World's Champions.
What you are saying @ 5:00 is true. Having had a narc mother, sister, and husband (now my ex) I felt it was like a spell had come over them. It was so eerie. It was when they were shifting in to the devalue/discard stage for no apparent reason. I felt like they were not the captain driving the ship any more but some evil spirit had taken over. Their eyes were either a blank and unseeing or fueled with complete contempt. At one point I realized something was very wrong with my narc sister and instinct told me NOT to look her in the eye (the window of the soul). I have no contact now with them but they also have made no attempt to contact me.
You are freeeeee❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
In 10 years of us being divorced we kept in touch every week as we have children. One week before last Christmas he rang to tell me he got married. The response wasn’t what he expected. I was pleased for him, I’m sure his new wife was listening in and he couldn’t use triangulation as he has done in the past. My “punishment” he cut his kids off…… no communication from him at all I believe because I didn’t react disappointed and upset by his new marriage. He also cut off our monthly payments one week before last Christmas.
When his marriage doesn't work out he will be back.
@@helloeverybody6301 our children have stopped asking after him now. I’m heartbroken for them, knowing him from birth one 10 years old the other 13…… EXCATLY what he wanted, hurting them = hurting me.
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He was cutting you off anyway your better off on your own
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Congratulations on 100K. You have helped me tremendously. So many people have heard you and are actively healing. Oh, and thank you Remy for your canine companionship. 2 years and 5 months No Contact. Gave the Narcissist one phone call after Discard. Went to voicemail. Started my healing process and education about all things Narcissistic. Life changing. No Hoover. He knows I know who he is.
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Thank you, Paula. As always, very valuable information. 7 months free. Hi Remy.
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@@NarcCon what doex that mean with the symbols,if my intuition is right,which it mostly is you know exactly what im talking about,something not right here goodbye for good this time,maybe your a narscissit,in plain sight,but i don t trust you.
I was bullied by one of my”mean girl “ at my church. When we were at church, right after service, she would run up to me and embrace me, “oh I’m so glad to see you!” Then she would try to keep me as her captive audience to tell about her great experiences, such as her high praise at her job, her gossips, and so on. I was really wanting to get away. Sometimes she’ll show me her term paper and would insist I read it. Not that insightful, bored, I went to college and got a’s, so I wanted to get away. She would collar me to tell me. “Do you know the stylized lily is the French regal symbol, called “floor Dee by list,” I’ll wonder, “what?” I’ll respond “yes, and it’s flor de le” in the proper French accent.
Any way, sick of this, I’ll plan my movements and avoid her as much as I could. She’d corner me to tell me and say she’s “so rich” and I’d be “what? Talking about how you are so superior again!” And I would excuse myself and add he keep blabbing all the way to the ladies restroom, or even to my car as I tried to drive away. I told her, “Tell your brother, who’s single, there’s women out there. But me, I’m not interested in having a relationship with a woman, so don’t talk about your life.”
TLDR: many narcissists are social climbers, and talk about me me me.
"Get out stay out forever."
HG Tudor
Great video.
Thanks Paula dear.
Jaia. You have to understand i gave her everything . My heart body and soul. She’s a year one teacher. She treated me something on the bottom of your shoe. To catch a serial killer you have to think like one and it will break you knowing it’s wrong. It’s everything you’re not. It has scared me that’s for sure, but it was worth it in the end ❤
Never apologize for someone else “being offended” or “feeling bad” for something you said without trying to be malicious. I’m still learning this lesson too, and it’s hard after undergoing narcissistic abuse. 💖
That being said, I’m grateful for the last reason why I was given the silent blocked treatment. I know for a fact that my adversary never would’ve gotten away with what she did to me if it wasn’t for her lawyer being in bed with the judge and all the major players in the small Florida county I live in. I know she’s terrified to call or approach me because I already figured out what she was doing when she was doing it!
She stole my inheritance and, just as I predicted, she’s been blowing through it. She just went back to work about a week ago after being unemployed (her choice) since November of 2023. I’ll be buying my popcorn soon! 😂
Why do so many say, move on and don’t look back? I am a human being! How in the hell is that even possible after this hell??
Your lovely thank you ❤
Yes discard and ghost
Seeing that they don’t want to talk about what happened but only wants to project and disarm the ability to be responsibility. No worries about the fire as long as you’re safe and comfortable with it. Some people or most people need to take life a bit less seriously. But that is a lessons they haven’t learned yet and that is what we are doing spreading the light to pave the way. Doing my best to love everyday we have. Blessed to have learned these lessons. Thank you for calling it out with all the layers of the mask this sure does become complicated and needed some explanation.
And yes......there is karma. THANK YOU. GOD
Omg this is so timely although I’ve just done this to someone who wouldn’t take no for an answer🤦♀️
Thanks for sharing Paula.. Definitely needed a reminder today going thru limerence
You got this!
Thanks Paula. I know now what i wish i knew then. Got discarded and ghosted out of the blue. I was totally blindsided and shattered. Years later, i realise God helped me dodge a lethal bullet.
This video is brilliant Paula. Everything you said applies to the ex and yes, the more your brain repairs, tge clearer the idiocy tbh.
Thank you so much. Blessings to you and Remy ❤️
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I am embarrassed to say that as my son was discarding me in a most hurtful manner. I was shocked and literally overwhelmed with what he was saying to me I just snapped. After 40 years of tiptoeing around him and trying so hard to have a relationship with him and my Grandchildren. I moved after the death of my husband to be near my son and my new Grandchildren. I gave everything I had to this relationship and I love my Grandchildren so much. He came to my house and calmly told me that my services were no longer needed, and actually he thought his young children were better off not spending so much time with me. We just need a break from you. We will let you know when or if you may return. I am embarrassed to say I snapped. I could not believe he spoke to me this way. I was so exhausted from taking care of them and he was sitting there so calmly almost matter of fact. He said they will have to think about whether I could see the kids again. I just stood up and screamed get out of my house how dare you disrespect me in that matter. I literally pushed him out of the door and told him to never come back. I am hurting but at least I can focus on myself for a while and rest a wounded soul. The look on his face told me he never expected me to react in this matter. I am very sad but on the road to recovery. I have labored so hard over the years to get along with him that this was the straw that broke the camels back.
I understand your pain all too well. My narcissist daughter has played the most sick games since the birth of my grandson. He's 6 years old and I've only had barely 3 years off and on in his life. The saddest part.. My grandson is the real victim. I haven't got to see him for 2 years this time. 😢💔 I worry so much about the mental damage my daughter is causing him more than anything else at this point. Prayers 🙏🏻
I was so proud to have maintained a relationship with my son for so many years. But it was only because we lived apart. He was much easier to deal with long distance.
Yep she did all that discarded and blocked me. Of course all I wanted was closure. Like any normal person, but that wasn’t ever going to happen and it was extremely painful, but I thought about it long and hard for about two years and then it hit me on how I could get closer. It was devilish devious , but it worked. Knowing how a covert narcissist thinks i planned it to perfection and finally she fell into trap set and I got closer. That was two and a half years ago. I’ve never heard from her because I blocked her immediately after so she couldn’t reply and touchier me again. It’s an amazing feeling. I walked away laughing and I haven’t stopped laughing since. I’ve never felt so relieved and happy since. Good luck to you all ❤
So what was the plan?
@@jaialaiwarrior I’m sorry but to catch a narcissist you have to think like one. They’re not too bright that I know. I bought an iPad it has a different number and I changed my name. I sent her a message explaining i was a friend of me if you know what I mean. I knew she wouldn’t be able to refuse my help to get me to help her with money. One thing a covert narcissist can’t resist is money and I know this as she stole £16,000 of mine. I pretended I could help her sort things out to get her the cash. I told her that i was suffering and that I really lived her, but all she was interested in was £5,000. So I asked her lots of questions and like the idiot narcissist she told a few truths. I got the truth out of her. What she didn’t know also is that she was on telegram. So I gathered all the information she had said and wrote everything I wanted to say to her and I didn’t hold back. I knew she had a house in Russia and if her ex husband found out he’d sue her for half of it. I promised her if I ever hear from her in any way I’d email him and tell him everything. He’s a solicitor by the way. I also told her that I was with someone else now and she’s having an extension built. I also said I would help her with that £5,000 and when it’s built we would toast a coffee every morning to her. I know that would tear her apart. And thats where I left it 2 and a half years ago. Of course I’m not actually seeing anyone 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Hello Paula love her content she is so helpful
Good afternoon/evening Paula and sweet Remy I always love to see him resting peaceful . The narcissist was planning to discard me the messages on his iPhone said all I needed to see and I discarded him without warning into the street he went and no contact he has tried to come back with fake sorries and I blocked him on all don't want anything to do with him ever again.
Good for you 🎉 x
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This is such a heartbreaking subject, sometimes we need a little humor to help us along & watching your fur baby sleeping so peacefully is also nice!❤
He has got ZERO chance with me ever again. If he tries to talk to me again, I'm telling him " I only like the men who bring me flowers, Champagne, money, food, coffee, ...."
But why is it that we never know what we're all dealing with, until the end? They can't all be such good actors, for years, until the discard?
I guess that's where the confusion and rumination sets in... and the self blame, ie "how did I not see it before it, how can I trust myself going forward..."
Blocked and gone again. I got sick and got quiet because I just wanted to focus on my illness and the radiation treatment I needed to get, so I didn't reach out, and he took it as abandonment and walked away. When I tried to reach out after I was in recovery to wish him a happy bday, he went silent, I got crickets, and no response. So I moved on with my life as usual and then 6 months later on my bday, he unblocks and says happy bday, nothing more or less. But he went silent again. He won't respond to anything I say. So oh well, I wished him well and went back to my life again. If he's expecting me to beg or chase, he'll still be waiting!
Relates to the depth of my core!! Paula, you have really given a true analysis of their Demonic sick behaviour! The best I have heard so far!😇🥰
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You basically described the breakup I went through years ago. Looking backwards being dumped was a blessing in disguise. Love your podcasts. Could you please explain why they get married and have kids. Thanks.
Control and supply mainly but will do podcast 🌹
@@NarcCon Thank you so much !!
You are truly amazing x
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I love Remy he is gorgeous thanks paula for all your videos❤
Thank you too 🐕
If you go no contact they will mirror you so they can play the victim
I remember the episode where the fire lit itself. It went up in a flash, and I became distracted wondering if your fireplace is natural gas or real wood. Now I know the answer. Cheers.
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Once I realised that she had someone new and it was over, I blocked her and went no contact. Couldn't deal with her manipulation any longer and devaluation. It's been over 6 months and through that time I have been healing through content like this, have put back on 10kg in lost weight through stress and have been lucky enough to make new friends and a support network. I will never go back now I am out of that toxic situation and wish for you all to be able to see and do the same for yourselves. Thank you Paula, your knowledge and words really have helped x
Ouch...that hurt, but necessary.
2day I claimed a title for a vehicle that was his last thread to hold me down. The feeling like he had his foot on my throat was terrfying, but it's over. I wish him well and im so greatful I've been given a 2nd chance. Thanks 2 everyone here you are my reality check & more.
Forgiveness and love is the key,maybe its more for ourselves though,so we can heal,take care❤
Wow! These are amazing insights. Thank you for this video.
At 21:34 Remy has the best smile.
Thank you Paula you have helped me immensely. 💙💙
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I was ghosted july 2nd after she said we where still gonna work it out long distance she ran like a coward.
Always a coward! Same story different date ❤️
Exactly the same happened to me
Try a year of “let me clear my head. What you don’t realize is I want this to work! Stop texting me and let me clear my head. If I did he’d scream “it starts over! Or we can be done right now. Dow what you said you’re going to do!”
@@tonyfernadez472 they are the biggest cowards! No way can the face themselves they would crumble!
It's an energy... and it's being projected onto all of us. And no one really knows where the root key source to the problem really is, and knows how to even deal with it.
Paula does just listen she's on the ball
❤Hey Paula, been a subscribed follower since your beginings so Proud of your journey😊...Your light is BRIGHT Gurl💞
Thank you for your loyalty Victoria 🙏🌹🐕
thank you for sharing your insight on such a complex issue as this, in the careful and compassionate manner that you do, and for the way you are able to have some lighthearted laughter, it is helpful. I too agree about the spiritual nature of this issue, it is more than just simply psychological or emotional dysfunction. It is a complex issue and we are all still learning. No matter how many times we have been through this experience, we must still maintain humility to admit we can be deceived. Praying for discernment is key, no matter the seemingly good appearance or commonality of another. Thank you again :)
It's happening to me now with my daughter, and someone who I had considered one of my best friends. They did it on my birthday 6 weeks ago, the pain is almost too much to bear.
It was fabulous the other week when it dawned on me that I'm not sad or upset becaus of him AT ALL anymore. .....then he came round. And I don't care about him anymore. ....HAPPY!
Hey My friend, I was dating a narcissist, who has real bad behavior. No compassion. All about him. Controlling All the time. I picked up the red flags , then I mentioned about God to him. Was not good. Don't know if you have any faith. This guy I was seeing was scary. I'm happy 😄
You don’t realize it at the time, because it hurts and you are confused. Eventually you realize it was a blessing, just be on alert for the hoover…. They usually will try to get back in your life, even years later. Don’t go back. Cycle will repeat.
Yes, 💯 never go back too a demon. So, scary.
14 years ... and then ghosts me runs off with a guy she met online that she had been seeing behind my back....
Hiya, thanks again for the clicking-whistle memory, forgot all about them. Regarding sensitivity/spirituality, I can offer my opinion. I have always had a sixth sense. Strong feelings that weren't general but specific. I thought I had ADHD or some spectrum disorder, as I have the hyper-focus super power/super time destroyer. It turns out it isn't autism or ADHD. I recently discovered that complex childhood trauma can damage children, leaving a similar presentation to autism etc. It now makes sense, that I notice or feel something is off, because we are constantly scanning for threats. If we see something that matches a previous bad thing, subconsciously or consciously. Narcs are probably also scanning but using the data to put people in harm rather than getting themselves out of it.
I could laugh 😃 Paula...
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The fire lit out of itself...😂😂😂
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Thank you 😊
Being ghosted hurts I was treated like this for 8 years until I said enough is enough and left its disgusting when you start realizing what they are doing but I never looked back ❤thanks for this informative video Paula❤
You are spot on and please enjoy your freedom❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your dog lit the fire
Another fantastic message Paula and executed perfectly. Thank you.
"..post-war city in your brains..". You really hit the nail there Paula...😢
I had relationship for 10 years he got abit distant before the discard then he just ghosted me no explanation just blocked all communication like I never existed never seen him for a year even though he doesnt stay that far away hes made sure that former friends give me no information about what hes doing .but I already know why hes quiet as hes in already in relationship with his ex so he has to keep up the image that his story as the victim .
Narcissists NEVER admit fault , no matter what. There is no TRUE SELF .
I messed up my now X husband's plan to still play me when he brutally discarded me after 12 years, i found out exactly who he had been grooming (of course he didn't tell me he was screwing around with his coworker) i realized this within 24 hours of him "leaving for alone time", Ya right! Anyways, he did all of this, including ghosting me and my adult daughter. They truly are evil & very sadistic. Although he filed the divorce, it lasted 15 plus months because he didn't cooperate with paperwork. Sneaky Snakes
"Leaving for alone time..." such a joke. I don't know anyone who leaves for "alone time".
@@thepragmatist exactly 💯 I knew it was bullshit, especially since he HAD a great wife
@@ladyvirgo013 I got the same. “I need to sort out some feelings I’m having” of course I kinda fell for it since we had been in lock down w COVID for two years. We were together 14 but married legally for 12 months when my ex cheated with a coworker. I immediately went no contact but it is all so surreal and I’m so fortunate to have found sites like this one they’ve saved me..
IT is spiritual because me as a christian I have read about narcisist In the bibel. They feel and sence because they are whit bad spirits and spirits can hear us. I have met many narcisist
Another great video. Thank you Paula 🙏
Your last point really resonated- he did it because he knew it would work on me specifically. He knew I was ignored / given silent treatments as a child and how it impacted me. Hence as an adult I find it important to be open and discuss things- he couldn’t have come up with a better “punishment” than complete ghosting.
No contact has allowed me to
recover and see him for what he is.. so in a way he did me a big favour!
A victim uses no contact for self preservation, a narcissist as a punishment.
That was awesome. Finally confirmed after today. I’ve waited 2 months for my belongings after being ghosted and she finally responded today accusing me of “just wanting to message her” 😆 no no..I want my stuff and for you to gtfo of my life lmao
Honestly Paula.it’s exactly how it’s happened to me …over and over again!!walk back in as though they have never been away.
But they had to leave because of you…you are the problem.
Insane!
Your wonderful and your insights and sense of humor are very appreciated. Thank you…❤
Thank you so much!
The only answer for everything to do with a narc is go no contact. Block them and everyone connected to them on your phone and social media if this is possible, that is your closure. I think if you don't block them your looking at your phone to see if they have messaged you. Take control over your life however hard it is and remove the power.
I've also started speaking on narcissism, but my word this lady is the best speaker on the subject in the world
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This is about you, NOt them. ....you have to care about yourself. It doesn't matter if they! Are a narc. Or not. ...let them do as they please, don't be offended, just forget !! Them!!:)
Thanks so much Paula.. Bless your heart ❤ you seem like an amazing human being.😊
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Mine has moved on. Claims his life is wonderful. Claims he’s in a relationship but no signs on his fb according to friends-I don’t stalk him. Our dog has cancer and he’s taking great care of him but he won’t let me see him or help with money or care. “His dog. I will know what I need to know.” Told me he feels nothing for me anymore. Broke me. 3 years and hasn’t tried to come back
Wow, wow wow this is probably one of the best videos I have ever heard on this subject. I would’ve never understood it if I would not have lived it but all 13 of these I completely understood and went through. Thank you for all you do narc con
Glad it was helpful!
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My god the accuracy of this video
This really resonates with my experience, thank you 🙏💕…also I would not worry about the person who took offence - sometimes people get triggered but it is their stuff that they are projecting for whatever reasons we won’t ever know….thanks again 🌸
When I left 4 months ago after 28 years of marriage, he said, You win. I’m miserable. (Everything was a game.) I must have detached from him over the past 2.5 years when I figured him out as my leaving hasn’t been all that painful. Lucky for me, I guess. Except I wonder if he killed some of my emotions. Healing and at peace now. ☮️👍
"You had a King." "You could have had it all...I gave you the world on a platter." " All you had to do was what you were told."
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What a soothing , enlightening analysis 🥳🙏☀️♥️
Healing hugs, Denmark🇩🇰♥️🙏🇩🇰♥️
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@Narc Con - I understand what you mean at the beginning but it is the one who got away that can ghost and block. I want absolutely nothing to do with my ex-wife as she is vile to the core. A narc on virtually every point. Erasing them from mind and moving on is central to mental health.
You have helped me so much! Thank you for everything! I love the spiritual piece of your work! Many Blessings! ❤
I hope you don t mind but i ve re subscribed,i love your vids and your dog,who was the one who lit the fire by the way,lol,take care❤
Ah bless you …I’d better be more circumspect with the ol humor 🤓
Reason #2 - so true!!!!!!