I LOVE this video title!!! It’s a daily battle for me and I refuse to dress down!!! If other people are triggered, it’s because it’s a suppressed desire of theirs. They want it too, they just won’t let themselves have it out of fear of social backlash and “you think you’re all that” haters 🤷🏻♀️
A colleage a year ago told me if I want other coworkers to like me I should dress down and only wear black or boring clothes. I happen to have fabulous clothes and dress like Ava Gardner/Hedy Lamarr and wear red lipstick every day. I said I really don't care whatsoever if they liked me or not and that if I'm a Bird of Paradise I can never be a brown pidgeon to make other people that I don't care about feel better. I never make friends with coworkers as a rule and their jealousy is not my problem. I am fabulous and love bright colours and am flamboyant so no way I will ever bow down to others. If they want to be daggy, let them.
I’ve worked with all women most of my career and the ones who put no effort into their appearance always have something to say to the women who do. Love the message.
The women in an office I worked at dressed extremely casual and frumpy. I was new to the company and one of them said to me “you don’t have to dress up for us, we’re very casual here..” I unapologetically responded “this is my wardrobe from my previous job and this is how I dress..” They were speechless and started showing more interest in their own appearance. Guess I was I positive influence!
@@LM-xb4fq the women from my previous job asked me how do i have the energy to do my make-up every morning. I said it is the aspect of my morning i enjoy the most. They started to do their make-up as well :D
The women in an office I worked at dressed extremely casual and frumpy. I was new to the company and one of them said to me “you don’t have to dress up for us, we’re very casual here..” I unapologetically responded “this is my wardrobe from my previous job and this is how I dress..”. They were speechless and started showing more interest in their own appearance. Guess I was a positive influence!
Feeling insecure around put together women actually was my sign that I wanted that too. I was always interested in fashion and beauty as a child, and I also loved things like the outdoors, sports, science etc. I learned from various sources that you can’t be feminine and smart, or feminine and strong, feminine and taken seriously. The list goes on…so I either got too obsessed with my own appearance, or I just gave up and stopped trying at all. It wasn’t until I saw that the women I admired were taken seriously and also put themselves together even in places that were seen as more casual. I realized how much I enjoyed that aspect of life and how misogynistic it was to assume such things about beautiful women. No one is forcing you to dress up, but if you get annoyed when other people do, you probably secretly want that, and should take it as a sign to get curious.
OMG! I dress either full Goth or full Vintage/Retro. So, I either look Iike Mortica Addams or Amy Winehouse 😆😅🤣😂 Whichever one I choose to be that day, I feel amazing! I cannot tell you how many comments and "looks" I have gotten - not from friends, but definitely from family! "Why are you so dressed up? Why are you dressed like that? There is no need for you to be THAT dressed up! You could have just worn a t-shirt and jeans!" I am actually starting to wonder if that is why I don't get invited to alot of family events, because I always look more dressed up than the other gals in my family
My middle school had a uniform and had dress down Fridays. One day after a breakup, I started dressing nice to reinvent myself and it made so many people curious. There were haters but I had this whole new identity that I gained from simply dressing well. I have never let that power go since. How you dress naturalizes you in rooms you that have never been to before but aspire to be in.
I have been struggling the last months with my body transformation and how I have started to enjoy dressing up. Some People at work don’t like it and it was hard for me, but I learnt not to dim my light and keep shining bright! Thanks you for your message ❤
I've always loved dressing up since I was little, in middle school I used to put so much effort into my clothes, very feminine floral and ruffle and did my hair and light makeup every day.. as I got older I realized negative attention from girls /women and stopped doing it.. now I actually feel self conscious when I am dressed nice! All these yrs I regretfully dimmed that side of me bc I didn't want other women to hate me. But it's not me at all! Now I'm longing to dress more feminine again but when I go to many stores it's all the same style clothing, no uniqueness, so many baggy clothes and sweatpants.. but now afterseeing this video you inspired me to return to my child-like self! It's the most authentic version of me, my feminine and girly self.. thank you for your words of encouragement!
My mom always told me to dress down and not to stand out because then the other girls wouldn’t like me. I’ve struggled with this for a long time and I’m going to stop dressing so plain because it’s just not me! I need to change my thinking that standing out isn’t bad and if someone feels interior by something so shallow that’s on them!
Whew! this is something I've personally experienced on many occasions. I had an "acquaintance" who attempted to criticize me about "always dressing up or looking put together" The little "digs" began to come and I took note. After the first time of her doing this, before a gathering we both attended, she would text me to ask me what I would be wearing as if she would be "clocking me" and that's just something I wasn't really going for. It's something I would NEVER expect or ask another woman to do. At an early age began creating routines in order to put myself together even with me working from home. I have since cut her off because I don't care for friends like that.
So true! I can get gorgeous so fast and it amazes people who aren’t used to getting ready. I’m not going to dull my shine because others have insecurities
I really appreciate this video. I invest in time savers: waxing and dyeing my brows, lash extensions---you get the idea--so it literally takes me 1/3 of the time it used to before I started my "beauty journey"! Thanks for the affirmations!
It is such a pleasure to look at someone with a fashion style or a beautiful make-up etc.. People who don't enjoy beauty are very misearable creatures themselves. How dare they voice their negativity? i will never understand.. Jealousy is not something to flaunt. I agree with you that dressing pretty is not time consuming. A nude make-up is 10 minutes for me..
I had a friend that would tell me she’s dressing down a few times while I’m getting ready. Once she asked me not to outshine her on her birthday when I described the dress I wanted to wear. It’s crazy how like I notice now that I’m losing weight all my skinner friends make comments on my weight or how I’m dressed. Like my image is always a topic. SMH
i love this so much!! i love dressing up and having my own style but sometimes it can make me anxious when i’m dressed up like myself and everyone else is in leggings and t-shirts. some people tell me to just dress casual to fit in but that would be going against who i truly am!!
Sadly the family members I live with is toxic and I don’t like them scrunitizing me so I dress down but soon I’m going to make money and move out into my own cottage!
I love this. The thing I got as someone who has avoided it because one I am afraid of other peoples thoughts and two I am trying to be someone who is put together always and hearing this shows me it’s a matter of time and that it won’t always be so hard.
Oh my gosh this is the first video that i have ever seen about this topic!!! It so resonates... everything you said true!!! I went to the emergency room in extreme pain an one of the nurses accused me of "looking to nice" and doing my hair and makeup before i came. I didn't! my hair is naturally curly and my lip are aNd eyelashes are dark. She was like " but you were ok to do your hair and makeup" and I didn't
Yes one of my closest friends was so mad one day bc she felt like I looked better than her so I put my hair in a ponytail. It’s like I sold myself in that moment bc it became a downwards spiral. Never again 🙏🏾
Same with skincare! People envy my glowy skin and etc !!! I put in the work these are the result of doing it daily !!! But lamer and laser treatment! Gym! Sauna ,It’s not my fault 🤦♀️ why don’t they stop scrolling and do self care
Thank you for this video, so many of us struggle with this. Beauty is influence, we teach other how to treat us based on how we show up. By telling us to dress down, they want to take our power away.
Yep f** um. They've got their own confidence issues to sort out. Haters gonna hate, but we still shine no matter what we wear. In the end, we're beautiful, and those haters could use some self-love! I’d invite them to a party and ask if they can dress up and put some effort in and see what they say!🤣🤣
Yup. And those moments when you face your fears and “dress up” in a modest and respectable fashion… then still get cat called and treated like an object never feels good. I dress down like a tomboy to avoid men tearing me down more than they already have
It’s not about how you dress that makes them target you, you need to make your body language more powerful and not be afraid to look them in the eye with a RBF. Looking too dressed down could make seem like an easy target if you don’t check your body language.
I used to be extremely jealous and envious of beautiful and well dressed women, as I was always been called ugly by my mom and I rarely had the courage to dress well. - Instead of denying that feeling (wich ONLY makes it worse) I work on it.
You seem defensive. I was interested in this topic, but then you did what you believe others do to you by being judgmental. If you can't be confident in your appearance without putting others down, it's not confidence.
I LOVE this video title!!! It’s a daily battle for me and I refuse to dress down!!! If other people are triggered, it’s because it’s a suppressed desire of theirs. They want it too, they just won’t let themselves have it out of fear of social backlash and “you think you’re all that” haters 🤷🏻♀️
Dress up babe it makes the world a more beautiful place!!!
A colleage a year ago told me if I want other coworkers to like me I should dress down and only wear black or boring clothes. I happen to have fabulous clothes and dress like Ava Gardner/Hedy Lamarr and wear red lipstick every day. I said I really don't care whatsoever if they liked me or not and that if I'm a Bird of Paradise I can never be a brown pidgeon to make other people that I don't care about feel better. I never make friends with coworkers as a rule and their jealousy is not my problem. I am fabulous and love bright colours and am flamboyant so no way I will ever bow down to others. If they want to be daggy, let them.
I’ve worked with all women most of my career and the ones who put no effort into their appearance always have something to say to the women who do. Love the message.
The women in an office I worked at dressed extremely casual and frumpy. I was new to the company and one of them said to me “you don’t have to dress up for us, we’re very casual here..” I unapologetically responded “this is my wardrobe from my previous job and this is how I dress..” They were speechless and started showing more interest in their own appearance. Guess I was I positive influence!
@@LM-xb4fq the women from my previous job asked me how do i have the energy to do my make-up every morning. I said it is the aspect of my morning i enjoy the most. They started to do their make-up as well :D
Don't do it. Wear what makes you feel great ❤
The women in an office I worked at dressed extremely casual and frumpy. I was new to the company and one of them said to me “you don’t have to dress up for us, we’re very casual here..” I unapologetically responded “this is my wardrobe from my previous job and this is how I dress..”. They were speechless and started showing more interest in their own appearance. Guess I was a positive influence!
Feeling insecure around put together women actually was my sign that I wanted that too. I was always interested in fashion and beauty as a child, and I also loved things like the outdoors, sports, science etc. I learned from various sources that you can’t be feminine and smart, or feminine and strong, feminine and taken seriously. The list goes on…so I either got too obsessed with my own appearance, or I just gave up and stopped trying at all. It wasn’t until I saw that the women I admired were taken seriously and also put themselves together even in places that were seen as more casual. I realized how much I enjoyed that aspect of life and how misogynistic it was to assume such things about beautiful women. No one is forcing you to dress up, but if you get annoyed when other people do, you probably secretly want that, and should take it as a sign to get curious.
OMG! I dress either full Goth or full Vintage/Retro. So, I either look Iike Mortica Addams or Amy Winehouse 😆😅🤣😂 Whichever one I choose to be that day, I feel amazing! I cannot tell you how many comments and "looks" I have gotten - not from friends, but definitely from family! "Why are you so dressed up? Why are you dressed like that? There is no need for you to be THAT dressed up! You could have just worn a t-shirt and jeans!" I am actually starting to wonder if that is why I don't get invited to alot of family events, because I always look more dressed up than the other gals in my family
Such an important topic! People have too much nerve to criticize people who are doing much better.
Thanks for putting in the effort. ❤
My middle school had a uniform and had dress down Fridays. One day after a breakup, I started dressing nice to reinvent myself and it made so many people curious. There were haters but I had this whole new identity that I gained from simply dressing well. I have never let that power go since. How you dress naturalizes you in rooms you that have never been to before but aspire to be in.
I have been struggling the last months with my body transformation and how I have started to enjoy dressing up. Some People at work don’t like it and it was hard for me, but I learnt not to dim my light and keep shining bright! Thanks you for your message ❤
I’ve even had ex BFs who would make sly comments about the way I dress.
“You always look fancy “
“You don’t have to do all that”
I've always loved dressing up since I was little, in middle school I used to put so much effort into my clothes, very feminine floral and ruffle and did my hair and light makeup every day.. as I got older I realized negative attention from girls /women and stopped doing it.. now I actually feel self conscious when I am dressed nice! All these yrs I regretfully dimmed that side of me bc I didn't want other women to hate me. But it's not me at all! Now I'm longing to dress more feminine again but when I go to many stores it's all the same style clothing, no uniqueness, so many baggy clothes and sweatpants.. but now afterseeing this video you inspired me to return to my child-like self! It's the most authentic version of me, my feminine and girly self.. thank you for your words of encouragement!
i want to see women dress more unique and stylish 💖
❤️❤️
100% facts. Just ignore these people and SHINE!!!
My mom always told me to dress down and not to stand out because then the other girls wouldn’t like me. I’ve struggled with this for a long time and I’m going to stop dressing so plain because it’s just not me! I need to change my thinking that standing out isn’t bad and if someone feels interior by something so shallow that’s on them!
Whew! this is something I've personally experienced on many occasions. I had an "acquaintance" who attempted to criticize me about "always dressing up or looking put together" The little "digs" began to come and I took note. After the first time of her doing this, before a gathering we both attended, she would text me to ask me what I would be wearing as if she would be "clocking me" and that's just something I wasn't really going for. It's something I would NEVER expect or ask another woman to do. At an early age began creating routines in order to put myself together even with me working from home. I have since cut her off because I don't care for friends like that.
Yes! Daily battle within myself! I looove dresses and cute outfits, I don’t care what anyone says, I’m wearing my cute stuff
So true! I can get gorgeous so fast and it amazes people who aren’t used to getting ready. I’m not going to dull my shine because others have insecurities
I really appreciate this video. I invest in time savers: waxing and dyeing my brows, lash extensions---you get the idea--so it literally takes me 1/3 of the time it used to before I started my "beauty journey"! Thanks for the affirmations!
It is such a pleasure to look at someone with a fashion style or a beautiful make-up etc.. People who don't enjoy beauty are very misearable creatures themselves. How dare they voice their negativity? i will never understand.. Jealousy is not something to flaunt. I agree with you that dressing pretty is not time consuming. A nude make-up is 10 minutes for me..
I had a friend that would tell me she’s dressing down a few times while I’m getting ready. Once she asked me not to outshine her on her birthday when I described the dress I wanted to wear. It’s crazy how like I notice now that I’m losing weight all my skinner friends make comments on my weight or how I’m dressed. Like my image is always a topic. SMH
Insecure people 😕 if most are like so, be more wary of them
i love this so much!! i love dressing up and having my own style but sometimes it can make me anxious when i’m dressed up like myself and everyone else is in leggings and t-shirts. some people tell me to just dress casual to fit in but that would be going against who i truly am!!
God bless you for this message
Sadly the family members I live with is toxic and I don’t like them scrunitizing me so I dress down but soon I’m going to make money and move out into my own cottage!
😊🎉❤
I love your butterfly necklace!🦋
I love this. The thing I got as someone who has avoided it because one I am afraid of other peoples thoughts and two I am trying to be someone who is put together always and hearing this shows me it’s a matter of time and that it won’t always be so hard.
Please share where you bought your butterfly necklace from. Thank you ❤
Oh my gosh this is the first video that i have ever seen about this topic!!! It so resonates... everything you said true!!!
I went to the emergency room in extreme pain an one of the nurses accused me of "looking to nice" and doing my hair and makeup before i came. I didn't! my hair is naturally curly and my lip are aNd eyelashes are dark. She was like " but you were ok to do your hair and makeup" and I didn't
This is outrageous! 🤬
I had a friend who told me to dress down more than twice. I smiled and did what I wanted.
Just because someone is lazy to take care of self that's not my burden to carry. Sick and tired
Yes 🙌
this is so true - i go “all out” every day but im super fast. also i love ur butterfly necklace!
Yes one of my closest friends was so mad one day bc she felt like I looked better than her so I put my hair in a ponytail. It’s like I sold myself in that moment bc it became a downwards spiral. Never again 🙏🏾
I did this at work and ended up losing my self-esteem, never again!
Same with skincare! People envy my glowy skin and etc !!! I put in the work these are the result of doing it daily !!! But lamer and laser treatment! Gym! Sauna ,It’s not my fault 🤦♀️ why don’t they stop scrolling and do self care
Even wearing this plain black dress you looked gorgeous! I bet still much better then the person who asked you do to dress down.
Thank you for this video, so many of us struggle with this. Beauty is influence, we teach other how to treat us based on how we show up. By telling us to dress down, they want to take our power away.
Still wondering if your cute spiral staircase is a decor piece or leads to an upper floor. Thanks.😊
Its leads to a second floor ☺️❤️
I love your advice. You are always spot on x
🥰☺️
Amen!!! ty
Wow I was just thinking about this topic as I plan my outfits!
Needed to see this, thanks for sharing
I stop dressing up I work with a bunch of women and still get backlash base on how I already look
Agree ❤
Thank you ❤
So true! ❤ Love you already ✨Just subscribed ❤
If I had a dollar for everytime I've been told "Why are you so dressed up???" I'd be rich! 🤣🤣
And 99% if the time, it's coming from another woman!
Great video!
Yep f** um. They've got their own confidence issues to sort out. Haters gonna hate, but we still shine no matter what we wear. In the end, we're beautiful, and those haters could use some self-love! I’d invite them to a party and ask if they can dress up and put some effort in and see what they say!🤣🤣
You are so smart. Love your videos ❤
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Facts!!!!!
Why a woman would compete/compare w another makes no sense.
I did that for years but I realized that when you are beautiful you gotta collect haters even when you wear leggings might as well…
Yup. And those moments when you face your fears and “dress up” in a modest and respectable fashion… then still get cat called and treated like an object never feels good. I dress down like a tomboy to avoid men tearing me down more than they already have
It’s not about how you dress that makes them target you, you need to make your body language more powerful and not be afraid to look them in the eye with a RBF. Looking too dressed down could make seem like an easy target if you don’t check your body language.
@@jibarabicha4853 so true
I love dressing up
Hello I wanted to ask you about unwanted male attention? That is the main reason I dress down.
What you said at 19:00 made me laugh out loud. Good for you! ❤
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I will never dress up I’m very femenine and girly girl and a lot of women get trigger by that but I like to not please others so I won’t dress down
Are you Persian?
I used to be extremely jealous and envious of beautiful and well dressed women, as I was always been called ugly by my mom and I rarely had the courage to dress well. - Instead of denying that feeling (wich ONLY makes it worse) I work on it.
yes yes yes!!!
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❤agree
You seem defensive. I was interested in this topic, but then you did what you believe others do to you by being judgmental. If you can't be confident in your appearance without putting others down, it's not confidence.
@MaxmumDull. I do LOVE the comment of yours. You are so right. In my personal opinion this woman is absolutely not confident about herself.
@amandinemanddyna2705 thank you 😊 it's unfortunate when people let comparison/judgment steal their joy & use projection to avoid anxiety.