Thank you for your interest. I am being very gentle with my emotions. Acknowledging them but when the negative ones come I keep it from multiplying by turning to positive books, videos and people to help redirect things.
Sitting down with my wife to discuss scheduling time every day specifically for me. We have a 4yo who I stay home with and my wife works full-time. I tend to feel emotional burnout when we don't schedule in breaks for me. This is an important part of our partnership.
reading! i used to read all the time as a child and it’s one thing that makes me truly happy but i never make time for it. as i’ve been going through these extra stressful times, taking time to do something healing and enjoyable to my inner child who is so anxious has helped me be more loving to myself
meditations (self love, self care, inner child, grievance (mum passed away)), reading , qigong and reiki to acknowledge, accept and balance emotions (of the inner child as well)
I always felt like i had no interests as well and that did not help my self esteem(i was not as interesting as other people!) Now i have found many things i enjoy once i started trying! Thank you as always for your honesty... you are very special! Thanks for all of your amazing work💖
You had me at "you are safe". I started crying and realized that this is truly my problem right now. I don't feel safe. So that's my practice for the couple of days. Reminding myself i am safe even though it doesn't feel that way. Thank you for this video.
You aren't alone, that part broke me too♥️ I'm comforted knowing I'm not the only one and am sending you strength and radical acceptance as we learn to gift ourselves the safety/reassurance we weren't equipped with from our caregivers.
such a great video! Those of us with childhood trauma found uncertainty unbearable. Now that we experience uncertainty in our environment again (election, covid, etc) it age regresses us back to that very same place where uncertainty was excruciating for our child. Thank you for these things we can do to ground ourselves in the present. You're the best!
Perfect video for me today..Went to groceries with my husband. 😡 rather go alone!! That way I can take my time to breathe and think about me and my needs while driving. This really helps . No music, just driving with window downm..BREATHE OF FRESH AIR!!! ALL THIS JUST FOR TODAY! ❤
Thank you. I thought I was getting better dealing with this situation but there are times when I feel the anxiety so much. I have been gardening, writing, and trying to accept what's happening without catasrophising.
I can't stress enough how thankful I am for your videos. I have been following you for a over 6 months and every single word you say in your videos resonates with me sooo deeply. It is very rare to come across such insightful and enlightining content. I thank God I discovered your channel exactly in the right time I needed to hear your wise words and learn from you. THANK YOU for all your sincere efforts. Much love❤
It feels so wonderful to know that I am not the only person going through what I am. For the passed couple of months to a year, I’ve felt so lost and confused. And finally, I found this page. I’ve watched videos on connecting with people, trauma brain and now this one. I feel so understood. Until now, I didn’t even understand myself. So thank you Nicole!
Even more difficult now in March 2022 - with the terrible happenings in the Ukraine. Thanks Dr Nicole - your words resonate with me really well right now.
This video is exactly what I need. I am being a very strict and cold parent to my inner child, which triggers a negative thought cycles and bad feelings about myself. It wasn't always easy growing up i a family where the mother was - cold and strict :) it is finally time to start the reparenting! I am very thankful for this precious help!
Thank you. This is lovely and helpful. I find myself at a sticking point with the last step-that I don’t want to put my own hand over my heart. My anxiety feels like a huge weight on my chest and I feel afraid to get near it. I get really sensory avoidant when I’m anxious. I wonder if this is because I’m afraid of my feelings or afraid of my body, or just don’t yet view my inner parent as trustworthy yet.
Could you bring your hands together, or hold something that feels safe or grounding? Maybe that could be an alternative while the hand on heart feels overwhelming.
Nicole, I am just your biggest fan! I first got in contact with your work through Instagram and began to share your posts on a daily basis. You really speak to me! You make me able to make sense of all the confusion... I find your work just one of the best things on the internet, really! I admire you! Thank you, Nicole
Discovering your channel and work particularly on these times of uncertainty has been THE BEST therapy I could have asked for. Not only being able to cross-through these weird year, but changing my entire approach to life. Thank you so much.
I would love it if you made a podcast!! UA-cam videos are great, but can be tough to listen outside of internet access if you don’t have a “premium” account. This is just a little suggestion, because I’d adore listening to you speak while I’m out on a walk or drive!
Another powerful video. Thank you, Nicole. One of the things I do is take long walks/do runs on the nature trails near my house. I always meditate when I'm doing it. Plus, I'm back to songwriting and playing music live (in tents outside because of the pandemic). It reminds me of who I am and what I love.
I can't wait for your book come out. Thank you for your content, I have taken the scenic route recently. But I am getting back on to the path and doing what makes me happy again and making sure my needs are being met.
Dear Dr. LePera, Hello from Hanoi, Vietnam! I can't start telling you how much I admire your work and what you do to guide people through their healing journey. Awareness is key to change the world! THANK YOU. It's my friend's birthday soon and we are HUGE fans of yours. Your content has helped us so much. I want to buy your book for him! Is there any way I could get an autographed copy?! I know this may be difficult but I really want to do something extra special for his birthday.
I am cooking most of the time, from the start of lockdown, maybe because when adolescent , trying to cook something, she said to me = "this is not good, no one will eat it!"
Yes to finally gaining confidence to cook for yourself! I've been leaning into listening to my favorite grunge artists (Nirvana, e.g.) because my dad got super mad and turn off that kind of music.
This week I felt uncertainty after 7 months of searching for job, thanks god i have found a very good job and I m glad for it. But since I have lost my father I feel fear what is going to happen cause of Covid. I would like most of all to start my new life independently and not asking for help for my mother. Many of my relatives have judged me because I spent money for my education and I didn’t help my mother. I try to think that I have done lot of things without help. I try not to compare my self with others
Can you please create a podcast, pretty please. Please, please, please, with a cherry on top. Pleassseeeeeee 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Also, PLEASE TELL ME YOU WILL BE THE VOICE OF NARRATING YOUR "HOW TO DO THE WORK" BOOK RELEASE FOR THE AUDIOBOOK VERSION. Don't mean to sound like I'm yelling - I actually am because that's how enthused I am about your book release!!!
Dear Nicole ypu were the pionir for my reparentong process. After one year, after severe emptional trauma, without consistnecy, Im still suffering from disociation. Yoga practice didnt help becaise it gets more emptions on the surface, in my case panic atack. It is like I dont have inner child. I dont know anymore what I like. This is the most difficult task. So this is helpful. To try and to feel what I feel after this activity. It is like there is nothing I can do to make myself secure because I have a lot of atachment issue. Ive started ro work for past few days Feldenkrais excersize to stay conect with my body. Or better say to get back in my body. It is like resistance to change and heal is so big, that a victim role is playing all day long somewhere in me.
Thank you for this Nicole 🙏🏽 Timing is wonderful ✨ You have helped me so much just by being yourself and sharing your insights 💜 This Video is amazing 😍
I've been trying: meditating, drawing, doing yoga and doing my usual weight training and they feel like brief respites atm. The past couple of months have been really difficult though as along with the pandemic, the madness of politics right now, and the world being confronted with the actuality of racism, someone close to me who I very much love and don't want to lose has been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. I'm crapping myself and finding it really hard to identify my feelings outside of meditation. Just feel nondescript a lot of the time and that's not something I've felt for such a long period. I'm usually good at identifying what I feel when I take time to reflect. So I'm worried about that too. But I'll keep going.
I don’t fully understand how to do inner child work can you do a series on it!!!! I’m glad u reconnected with ur family. I have gone no contact for 2 years then went back nothing changed it set me back. I have gone no contact again and I heard on ur Woman of Impact interview that u really worked on urself. I’ve been in therapy worked on myself but so resonate with ur story. I would love to learn more about how u work and help your patients to heal. I love ur videos but want to get more in depth with ur healing modality. Are there any therapists that u train as I realize ur not available that u could recommend. I would greatly appreciate it!
I built myself up so hard for a year & the same pattern that destroyed me happened again n now i feel like I’m in endless hole that I cannot get out n this has been for 6 mths.. im doubting myself will i ever be ME Again
I'm going to file a petition for my divorce next week. I'm scared of the uncertainty ahead as I have never been independent and don't know how will I manage and how am I going to do this ,as I have a 19 year young daughter. But I'm practicing Grounding but still feel fear and sometimes anxious in my belly .
Dear doctor, I do not know whether this is part of the healing cycle or just a negative habit of thinking. It is only at a mature age I have gained a relatively sober sense of reality about what my childhood family of origin dynamics were. The problem is that memories keep coming up since these people still keep the same dynamics. Someone behaves in a certain way, that brings a memory from the past, I feel anger etc. A memory flash springs forth and causes great suffering. It is painful to see the reality one once exåerienced as a child. I have changed, and I want to strengthen my self differentiation, also be ethical in my contacts: people have a right to be what they are. I have changed, I am no longer a child who feels things are not right, but still the child´s reality is what´s on offer. Is this just a phase, or should I go no contact, or am I freed only when these people die?
Thank you for all your insights Dr. Nicole. What if your primary caregivers continue to trigger you in these moments of uncertainty? How does one navigate the huge surge of inner conflicts and emotions that continue to come up all tangled up with the past?
How do we know in moments of fear/sadness (whichever emotion is present) that the things we are wanting to do are coming from our intuition or if they are simply unhelpful learned behaviour. For example when I have struggled with anxiety in the past, I over talk to avoid making a decision alone. This isn't necessarily a helpful behaviour, so although I would be drawn to do this when I am feeling anxious, that wouldn't necessarily be intuition rather fear that I am incapable to make a decision. I am not sure I am making sense, if it does I would love a response
My intuitive pull tells me to getaway and just be with myself but my circumstances don't allow for that. What can I do? I'm so exhausted, drained, and no amount of small self care routines help. I need to step out of my mind and I can't do that.
Just try to breath. Small steps, tiny if needed. And only one at a time. First breath, focus on that. All painful struggles are actually illusions of the mind. Take moments to just..be and breath, my friend. Wish you the best. ❤️🙏🏽
#selfhealers, I'm interested to know what you've been doing to take care of your inner child during the pandemic. -Nicole
Thank you for your interest. I am being very gentle with my emotions. Acknowledging them but when the negative ones come I keep it from multiplying by turning to positive books, videos and people to help redirect things.
@@TYXOXY Love that you're being so gentle with yourself!
Sitting down with my wife to discuss scheduling time every day specifically for me. We have a 4yo who I stay home with and my wife works full-time. I tend to feel emotional burnout when we don't schedule in breaks for me. This is an important part of our partnership.
reading! i used to read all the time as a child and it’s one thing that makes me truly happy but i never make time for it. as i’ve been going through these extra stressful times, taking time to do something healing and enjoyable to my inner child who is so anxious has helped me be more loving to myself
Trying to go to bed before 00:00!!! ❤️😊 small thing, big difference.
I feel this week has very been difficult. Wish everyone the best. Stay strong.
Hang in there 🙏🙌 You(& we all) got this!!! After the rain, the sun Always comes out!! 🌞🤗
Yes, mercury retrograde
Same here. Take care too, Joshua.
meditations (self love, self care, inner child, grievance (mum passed away)), reading , qigong and reiki to acknowledge, accept and balance emotions (of the inner child as well)
The heart held "I am safe" is a great suggestion. Thank you!
I always felt like i had no interests as well and that did not help my self esteem(i was not as interesting as other people!) Now i have found many things i enjoy once i started trying! Thank you as always for your honesty... you are very special! Thanks for all of your amazing work💖
Take care everyone.
Sending love to you, Red!
You had me at "you are safe". I started crying and realized that this is truly my problem right now. I don't feel safe. So that's my practice for the couple of days. Reminding myself i am safe even though it doesn't feel that way. Thank you for this video.
You aren't alone, that part broke me too♥️ I'm comforted knowing I'm not the only one and am sending you strength and radical acceptance as we learn to gift ourselves the safety/reassurance we weren't equipped with from our caregivers.
such a great video! Those of us with childhood trauma found uncertainty unbearable. Now that we experience uncertainty in our environment again (election, covid, etc) it age regresses us back to that very same place where uncertainty was excruciating for our child. Thank you for these things we can do to ground ourselves in the present. You're the best!
Perfect video for me today..Went to groceries with my husband. 😡 rather go alone!! That way I can take my time to breathe and think about me and my needs while driving. This really helps . No music, just driving with window downm..BREATHE OF FRESH AIR!!! ALL THIS JUST FOR TODAY! ❤
Thank you. I thought I was getting better dealing with this situation but there are times when I feel the anxiety so much. I have been gardening, writing, and trying to accept what's happening without catasrophising.
I can't stress enough how thankful I am for your videos. I have been following you for a over 6 months and every single word you say in your videos resonates with me sooo deeply. It is very rare to come across such insightful and enlightining content. I thank God I discovered your channel exactly in the right time I needed to hear your wise words and learn from you. THANK YOU for all your sincere efforts. Much love❤
Same here
It feels so wonderful to know that I am not the only person going through what I am. For the passed couple of months to a year, I’ve felt so lost and confused. And finally, I found this page. I’ve watched videos on connecting with people, trauma brain and now this one. I feel so understood. Until now, I didn’t even understand myself. So thank you Nicole!
Even more difficult now in March 2022 - with the terrible happenings in the Ukraine.
Thanks Dr Nicole - your words resonate with me really well right now.
This video is exactly what I need. I am being a very strict and cold parent to my inner child, which triggers a negative thought cycles and bad feelings about myself. It wasn't always easy growing up i a family where the mother was - cold and strict :) it is finally time to start the reparenting! I am very thankful for this precious help!
The last 2 weeks have been soooo difficult. This video couldn’t have come at a better time ❤️ Thank you!
Thank you. This is lovely and helpful. I find myself at a sticking point with the last step-that I don’t want to put my own hand over my heart. My anxiety feels like a huge weight on my chest and I feel afraid to get near it. I get really sensory avoidant when I’m anxious. I wonder if this is because I’m afraid of my feelings or afraid of my body, or just don’t yet view my inner parent as trustworthy yet.
Could you bring your hands together, or hold something that feels safe or grounding? Maybe that could be an alternative while the hand on heart feels overwhelming.
Nicole, I am just your biggest fan! I first got in contact with your work through Instagram and began to share your posts on a daily basis. You really speak to me! You make me able to make sense of all the confusion... I find your work just one of the best things on the internet, really! I admire you! Thank you, Nicole
its been a very emotional week for me, i appreciate this video very much 💚
I see you, Maddie. Sending you a ton of love.
I needed these reminders! Thank you!💗
Discovering your channel and work particularly on these times of uncertainty has been THE BEST therapy I could have asked for. Not only being able to cross-through these weird year, but changing my entire approach to life. Thank you so much.
Thank you!
2020 has definitely been a time of uncertainty for all of us. Thank you for posting this!
I really love that you keep sharing about your own shadow work as you are teaching us on how to go through it, thank you so much Nicole
I would love it if you made a podcast!! UA-cam videos are great, but can be tough to listen outside of internet access if you don’t have a “premium” account. This is just a little suggestion, because I’d adore listening to you speak while I’m out on a walk or drive!
Thank you for this! Sending love and positive vibes to everyone here. 🌸 We all need to reparent ourselves and we deserve peace of mind.
You help me so much every time I read one of your posts, text, etc. Or watch one of your videos. Thank you for the work you do.
Another powerful video. Thank you, Nicole. One of the things I do is take long walks/do runs on the nature trails near my house. I always meditate when I'm doing it. Plus, I'm back to songwriting and playing music live (in tents outside because of the pandemic). It reminds me of who I am and what I love.
started crying while watching this. thank you so much! so so so grateful for you.
so, so grateful for you
I can't wait for your book come out. Thank you for your content, I have taken the scenic route recently. But I am getting back on to the path and doing what makes me happy again and making sure my needs are being met.
Thank you so much.🌅
Thank you so much for this. It's so relevant and needed! 🖤
Thank you, i needed this..found you at best fitting time. 🙏
You are the best! Watching your videos itself calms me down..😍😍🤗🤗👍👍🙏🙏🙏
Thank You Dr Nicole. I needed this. Sending love to you and to everyone reading this. I am safe. We are safe.
Just... Thank you 💖
Great job, Nicole! Just what my heart needs right now.
When ever I've lost my way, watching your videos always puts me in a better state of mind. Thank you so much for all your work!
I just heard about you today. thankyou for this.
Thank you for your help.
Dr Nicole, you’ve truly helped me so much and I just want to come on here to say thank you. I cannot wait to get my hands on your book!!
I needed this today, thank you.
Thank You so much for sharing this things with us without charging a dime! 🙏❤ I am learning so much from you and I'm so grateful!
Dear Dr. LePera,
Hello from Hanoi, Vietnam! I can't start telling you how much I admire your work and what you do to guide people through their healing journey. Awareness is key to change the world! THANK YOU.
It's my friend's birthday soon and we are HUGE fans of yours. Your content has helped us so much. I want to buy your book for him! Is there any way I could get an autographed copy?!
I know this may be difficult but I really want to do something extra special for his birthday.
I am cooking most of the time, from the start of lockdown, maybe because when adolescent , trying to cook something, she said to me = "this is not good, no one will eat it!"
It's so beautiful that you are cooking to care for your inner child, Nicoleta. Thank you for sharing this with me.
Yes to finally gaining confidence to cook for yourself! I've been leaning into listening to my favorite grunge artists (Nirvana, e.g.) because my dad got super mad and turn off that kind of music.
This week I felt uncertainty after 7 months of searching for job, thanks god i have found a very good job and I m glad for it. But since I have lost my father I feel fear what is going to happen cause of Covid. I would like most of all to start my new life independently and not asking for help for my mother. Many of my relatives have judged me because I spent money for my education and I didn’t help my mother. I try to think that I have done lot of things without help. I try not to compare my self with others
💚💚💚 Very much needed right now, thank you! Anger, fear, sadness...😅
Grateful that you're finding this video helpful, Nicoletta.
Can you please create a podcast, pretty please. Please, please, please, with a cherry on top. Pleassseeeeeee 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Also, PLEASE TELL ME YOU WILL BE THE VOICE OF NARRATING YOUR "HOW TO DO THE WORK" BOOK RELEASE FOR THE AUDIOBOOK VERSION. Don't mean to sound like I'm yelling - I actually am because that's how enthused I am about your book release!!!
Thank you🙏💜
Thank you Dr. Nicole...love your support..stay blessed!
Dear Dr. Nicole, how to motivate yourself to try new things? It’s not so easy sometimes and I procastrinate and just hang around - isolated. Thank you
Great thank you 🙏🙏🙏
Thanks.
Dear Nicole ypu were the pionir for my reparentong process. After one year, after severe emptional trauma, without consistnecy, Im still suffering from disociation. Yoga practice didnt help becaise it gets more emptions on the surface, in my case panic atack. It is like I dont have inner child. I dont know anymore what I like. This is the most difficult task. So this is helpful. To try and to feel what I feel after this activity. It is like there is nothing I can do to make myself secure because I have a lot of atachment issue. Ive started ro work for past few days Feldenkrais excersize to stay conect with my body. Or better say to get back in my body. It is like resistance to change and heal is so big, that a victim role is playing all day long somewhere in me.
Thank you for this Nicole 🙏🏽 Timing is wonderful ✨
You have helped me so much just by being yourself and sharing your insights 💜
This Video is amazing 😍
Thank you, it was really insightful ❤️
So grateful to hear this, Daniela!
I started future self journaling! It’s a huge help! Thank you ❤️
Yay! So glad that you are finding it helpful, Andreja.
Thank you soooo much 🙏🇲🇽🌷
Needed this video. 🦋💙
Thanku
I've been trying: meditating, drawing, doing yoga and doing my usual weight training and they feel like brief respites atm. The past couple of months have been really difficult though as along with the pandemic, the madness of politics right now, and the world being confronted with the actuality of racism, someone close to me who I very much love and don't want to lose has been diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. I'm crapping myself and finding it really hard to identify my feelings outside of meditation. Just feel nondescript a lot of the time and that's not something I've felt for such a long period. I'm usually good at identifying what I feel when I take time to reflect. So I'm worried about that too. But I'll keep going.
I don’t fully understand how to do inner child work can you do a series on it!!!!
I’m glad u reconnected with ur family. I have gone no contact for 2 years then went back nothing changed it set me back. I have gone no contact again and I heard on ur Woman of Impact interview that u really worked on urself. I’ve been in therapy worked on myself but so resonate with ur story.
I would love to learn more about how u work and help your patients to heal. I love ur videos but want to get more in depth with ur healing modality.
Are there any therapists that u train as I realize ur not available that u could recommend. I would greatly appreciate it!
Omg I love you, you’re so calming
I built myself up so hard for a year & the same pattern that destroyed me happened again n now i feel like I’m in endless hole that I cannot get out n this has been for 6 mths.. im doubting myself will i ever be ME Again
I love you.
I love yore rings, bracelets and tattoos.
thanks for this video it was really helpful. love your content
Appreciate your support + grateful it was helpful! Thank you for watching.
I'm going to file a petition for my divorce next week. I'm scared of the uncertainty ahead as I have never been independent and don't know how will I manage and how am I going to do this ,as I have a 19 year young daughter.
But I'm practicing Grounding but still feel fear and sometimes anxious in my belly .
Best of luck Manpreet. It won't be easy and you'll come across challenges for sure but you will manage ❤️
Trust yourself to create the future you want . You can do this!
I would love to know how you doing soni? it’s been 2 years now, I’m 62 and never been independent!
Dear doctor, I do not know whether this is part of the healing cycle or just a negative habit of thinking. It is only at a mature age I have gained a relatively sober sense of reality about what my childhood family of origin dynamics were. The problem is that memories keep coming up since these people still keep the same dynamics. Someone behaves in a certain way, that brings a memory from the past, I feel anger etc. A memory flash springs forth and causes great suffering. It is painful to see the reality one once exåerienced as a child. I have changed, and I want to strengthen my self differentiation, also be ethical in my contacts: people have a right to be what they are. I have changed, I am no longer a child who feels things are not right, but still the child´s reality is what´s on offer. Is this just a phase, or should I go no contact, or am I freed only when these people die?
Thank you for all your insights Dr. Nicole. What if your primary caregivers continue to trigger you in these moments of uncertainty? How does one navigate the huge surge of inner conflicts and emotions that continue to come up all tangled up with the past?
Oh wow, I have the exact same question!
Omg lol I can only imagine you saying "I have no interests" haha. I bet your partner was like "what in the world?". So sweet.
yaaaaas
u a queen
💜💜💜
How do we know in moments of fear/sadness (whichever emotion is present) that the things we are wanting to do are coming from our intuition or if they are simply unhelpful learned behaviour. For example when I have struggled with anxiety in the past, I over talk to avoid making a decision alone. This isn't necessarily a helpful behaviour, so although I would be drawn to do this when I am feeling anxious, that wouldn't necessarily be intuition rather fear that I am incapable to make a decision. I am not sure I am making sense, if it does I would love a response
My question is...what if you really are not safe?
My intuitive pull tells me to getaway and just be with myself but my circumstances don't allow for that. What can I do? I'm so exhausted, drained, and no amount of small self care routines help. I need to step out of my mind and I can't do that.
Just try to breath. Small steps, tiny if needed. And only one at a time. First breath, focus on that. All painful struggles are actually illusions of the mind. Take moments to just..be and breath, my friend. Wish you the best. ❤️🙏🏽
@@nadinma5560 thank you for your kind words. Om really trying. Baby steps. It's hard and feels like I'm suffocating.
❤
Do you offer private sessions?
Yes, do you?
"my Mum. I ment to write.
What if i don't enjoy anything? :( I feel like a ghost
I can be like this at times
wow...move over Teal Swan ! sorry 💚