1- you can put a name to the face of your emotion 2- you can draw healthy boundaries 3- you aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes 4- you think before you leap 5- you have more success in getting your point across 6- you are self aware 7- you know how to listen
Do you think it’s why I have no friends, lol? I always see something alarming in people I meet over a regular basis. Well, it’s that and some other factors but a lot of past friends get especially offended at my even questioning their flaws as if I’m attacking them, but I’m actually just asking out of concern and hope they would improve. Nope. Too many people take my perspective too personally. I find some people also get particularly annoyed when I ask ‘why’ here and there. It’s not that I don’t believe them, I just want to know their intent or motive better to grasp in the long term if they’re worth my time at all, TBH. I think they get annoyed because they themselves don’t think that far in the first place often enough so they get frustrated for me being “nosy” when really, they choose not to reflect on their actions and reactions enough. If they tried more, I don’t doubt explaining why they do things would be that much easier for them in general. I’m not constantly asking them ‘why’, I just feel compelled to ask if they say or do something that I find questionable. I’m honest with myself and I would like to be as much with others for the most part...I’m really not here out to get anyone, like, if anyone gets _that_ annoyed at me being a little curious then that’s kind of their problem only, really. Sometimes taking that step back before you dive in to something can save you lots. I don’t have to care about anything they do or say at the end of the day as it doesn’t affect me, I just hope they care enough about themselves to be able to acknowledge their problems and deal with them accordingly.
@@cloudyisaliveandhere emotional maturity isn't a competition. everyone's got their own pace. it's not something to brag about, you don't seem mature in ANY way.
I so wish the internet had been around when I was younger. Channels like yours have so much good information. The internet was an elemental component of finally lifting me out of life-long depression (I'm 60) because I've been able to read and research all I can about managing my mental state. Finally I'm enjoying life and actually like myself now.
@@maddiemadness0 I entered Cognitive Behavior Therapy for a year and a half and learned to reframe my negative thoughts so I thought more kindly about myself. Changed medication and take it every day. Got away from my family (I was their scapegoat for anything negative that happened). Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Journal often. Meditation. Reduce stress in life. Be good to yourself in wholesome ways. Exercise, even if it's just for a few minutes at a time. It's a constant battle but hang in there.
Two completely different things. You can be Emotionally mature but still be fun, being emotionally mature does not mean you can not be a “ crackhead ”, it just means you understand situations better etc
Sometimes I don't know if I'm emotionally mature or insensitive. When something happens that makes me feel angry, I instantly realize the way I'm feeling and by rationalizing it, I immediately don't feel angry anymore and I'm just "okay, so this happened, what can I do now to fix it?". I feel like I rationalize feelings so much and now I'm insensitive... idk
Joana Marques It’s insensitive if someone else is venting their emotions to you and you ignore their need to simply be listened to. (Edit: or if you get annoyed at them for not simply fixing it by doing this and this.) It isn’t insensitive if you can calm your own emotions by rationalizing them, that’s just a good method of self-control.
@@DanielDavies-StellularNebulla I agree for the most part - however there may be point where you are overwhelmed by emotion, and may need to make the other person aware that you are overwhelmed/stressed and you may need a minute before you can help/listen to them again.
1) you can put a name to the face of your emotions (you understand what makes you feel certain ways) 2) you can draw healthy boundaries 3) you aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes 4) you think before you leap (controlled impulses) 5) you have more success in getting your point across (affective, healthy communication) 6) you are self aware (focus on emotions independently) 7) you are a good listener thanks for this video!! gives some nice things to set as goals :)
1. You can put a name to the face of your emotions. 1:00 2. You can draw healthy boundaries. 1:44 3. You aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes. 2:21 4. You think before you leap. 3:23 5. You have more success in getting your point across. 4:16 6. You are self aware. 5:00 7. You know how to listen. 5:45
I think I have a depression. But I also think I’m just sensitive. And I can’t ever put my emotions into words. Edit: omg I didn’t expect to get so many likes...it’s so sweet how so many people can relate to me.
I'm with you in feeling this. I began noticing a change in the way i see life back in march of 2019. Since then i've have quite a number of depressive episodes where i became sluggish, my head became cloudly and i found it difficult to focus. There were times were i felt like crying for no discernable reason whatsoever and i became a lot more stressed. Eventually anxiety started consuming my life too and it got so bad that i took a lot of my problems out on my friends. Those friends abandoned me because i treated them so poorly yet i continued having anxiety and depressive episodes only now it was worse because they were gone. It took months and it's still an ongoing process for me, i still have days were i can't concentrate. Where i want to run away from people. There are days where i become very upset and i have broken down into tears because i'm reminding of my ex-friends. Sometimes i think i'm far too sensitive too, like i've become a cry-baby. I've just grown to learn that while i may have been more sensitive than what would be considered normal i know look back on things that i was actually trying to discover my boundaries. Before i fell out with my friends i didn't create any form of boundaries to protect myself at all. I believed people were always good and kind and i was a total teddy bear to them. The thing is, as dark as it sounds, it's really easy to stab a teddy bear and that's what happened to me. Emotionally. After the fight i took the time to self reflect on my actions and also how i interacted with others, it took months of reflection. I concluded that because i didn't have any boundaries i became dependent on the approval and support of my friends. I learned that i had completely lost my own back-bone and had no self respect, only thinking of the values of others. While this sounds good in theory, in practise it meant I was jeopardising my wellbeing and resulted in me becoming more stressed, anxious, agitated and exhausted. This lead to a cycle over and over again in my head. As i mentioned before i still have issues with depression and anxiety and will occasionally have them crop up at inappropriate times in my day to day life. Even having self respect and standing up for myself when i have people critique me or ask me difficult questions becomes tough too. I assume this was caused by my old relationship with my friends and how i am still struggling to get over my friendship with them and how i haven't had the opportunity yet to move on. I hope reading this gives some perspective into your life, maybe really thinking back on the way you have behaved the last year could give you some insight into how you feel. I also recommend keeping a journal or diary and documenting how you are feeling or thinking. I started doing this 3 months ago when i started feeling really rough. Re-Reading stuff i wrote months ago helps remind me of specific days and what happened like a piece of Evidence and it helps that i put a date and sometimes timestamp it. With enough time i can look back on how i felt 3 months ago and realise the flaws in my thinking back then and how i've actually improved my attitude from were i was before.
My gf has a terrible depression. And we just broke up. she just cant control her emotion even on small matters. Relationship can’t last long if you can’t manage your depression
I was emotionally mature since a very young age..But some events in life, totally made me different and I started losing control of myself and the person I was. However, I am slowly finding myself again. Although I still lose control from time to time, I try to be better everyday
When you do not belittle others for their skin, color, race, background, or gender and sexual preference, you're mature. Bigotry does not run in your blood
When you do not belittle others for having pride in their nationality or ethnicity, or for being part of an organization with rules about gender and gender role, then you're mature. Wokeness does not run in your blood.
@@budthecyborg4575 when a nation, a people, an individual that step up to accountability and accept fault, you're mature. Deception won't run in your blood
this made me smile, I go through a lot of self-doubt and I sometimes don't know what I'm good at or who I even am sometimes so it's good to see actual proof that I'm not all negatives and cons.
summary ✨ 1. being able to pinpoint/name exactly what you're feeling 2. you can draw healthy boundaries 3. you aren't afraid to own up to your mistakes 4. you think before you leap/ step back and analyze situation before jumping into it/ control your impulses/ control their anger 5. you have more success getting your point across and have an effective and healthy way of communicating your emotions and needs to other. know when/how/where to express your emotions 6. being self aware / confident and not easy to manipulate by others 7. being able to listen actively without being judgemental or condescending
I think practicing your self-awareness is the most important thing. When you get upset for example, take a step back and think "Why is this happening? How am I involved in this?" If you do this regularly, you will see where you are making mistakes and that it is not always everyone else's fault. Being able to acknowledge ones mistakes is the first step of becoming better. So I think self-awareness is important
I wish you guys would talk about empaths. It took me over 3 years to even find out what was happening to me since I give large amounts of empathy on reflex. That’s a subject that should be shined on.
@@Psych2go Music is fine, but the almost lullaby like music in older videos felt way too immature like I was watching a kids video [ IMHO ] I'd prefer either no music or soft subtle music.
Hm, I don't feel emotionally immature and 6 of these "signs" apply to me; however, I do happen to have outbursts of rage which really convince me otherwise.
I understand that @wortex. What I have found is a good method for controlling myself in times when I either *know* I'm going to have an outburst, or *don't* know, is to try and think about *why I am angry*. What this does for me, is it helps me to take my mind off of what I'm currently doing and rationalise the reasons behind why I'm angry or frustrated the way I am. Hope this helped friend. Remember, being able to control and understand your emotions is a journey, and it can take a long time, so just be patient, and it will come to you. 😁 Have a good rest of your day/night everyone!
I consider that I'm 86% emotionally mature but when someone who is constantly bothering you(toxic family members/bullies) , your patience sometimes is not as strong as it use to be because it keeps building it till it eventually explodes.
wortex I think it’s possibly to GENERALLY be emotionally mature, but maybe there are certain situations/triggers that make it more difficult for you to be? Do you notice any patterns in things that make you have an outburst of rage? Any commonalities? If it’s something you’re interested, starting a “mood journal” might help you figure out this internal conflict! -Merinda, Writer for Psych2Go
Sarah S Here’s some good news: emotionally mature people reflect on their own short-comings and strive to change them. If you dare take the first step to becoming a better person (for yourself and for others) you are already more mature then people who don’t dare at all. The hard part is to keep going after that, but self-improvement brings improvement to yourself. I know that sounds kind of funny, but being able to understand yourself better helps alot in life.
The world sends a conflicting message. Emotional maturity in admitting fault is punished and blamed. It’s almost foolish to do this in a society of misinformation and winner takes all. I think it would be greatly applicable to dealing with daily life and the twisted reality we all live in if you can suggest real world solutions to balance protecting oneself and being mature. Thank you for your wonderful content
Woah i just realized that i am emotional mature! Thank you for this wonderful video now I feel a lot better since I struggled a lot with myself lately!
I'm proud of myself, because a friend asked me if I could hang out with her on friday. I already got to hang out on thursday with my family. I am an introvert and higly sensitive person, so when I participate in a social event/activity with others I need time to rest after that to kind of recover, because it takes a lot of energy. So I responded to her saying no and I explained it wouldnt be good for me. So yes, I am very proud of myself for saying no to a friend!
1:check 2:draw healthy boundaries check and am an empath by the way :) saying NOOO! 3: check 4: YES! 5: yup, check 6: check! 7: I need to work on this thumbs up!
After watching this I can say that I'm emotionally mature ... Though I have some faults also , this video may help me to be a better person 😊✨❤️ thank you guys...stay safe everyone ✨🖐️
emotional maturity is nothing to brag about. the road to get there is different for everyone, and something that never stops. there's no limit to maturity. you don't just stop learning one day. you aren't better than someone else just because you're further in your own journey. it is not a competition.
Love this! Being emotionally mature can help us have a more fulfilling and meaningful life and have better relationships because you take responsibility for your own actions and you don’t shift blame. We are all working on becoming the best version of our own selves! ♥️
1. I can. 2. This is easy for me. 3. I’m not afraid to. (Also one of my teachers says she loves my brutal honesty.) 4. I do this almost 100% of the time. 5. People say I know what I want and that I’m very determined. 6. This is totally me. 7. I’m a very good listener, and people tell me that often. Just because I do all of these doesn’t mean I’m the most sane person though. I’m weirder than most and probably make a few people think that I’m crazy sometimes.
I'm having trouble expressing emotions outwards. Like, I'll feel everything, but when it comes to showing it outwards I feel like i always limit myself. I suppose it means I'm emotionally mature, but sometimes i also wish i could Actually be excited some times. Or at least Show it.
I’m mostly mature and sometimes immature I notice. I get a bit off at times. I’m pretty good at listening. However there is chances I accidentally won’t catch everything what the person says. I know it makes me seem to be condescending. I’m not. I’m not trying to be condescending. I try my best and every time I upgrade nothing wants to give me time. I do interrupt sometimes. I think is because I gotta answer or comment real quick before I forget what to say. I also need communication. Communication is always key. Arguing is childish. I just try my best. At anything.
Being a naturally reserved person, I can relate to a lot of these points. I think there's a lot of commonalities between emotionally mature people and people that are reserved, probably due to our generally more thoughtful behaviour. I very much enjoyed and appreciated this video, keep up the great work!
You know it sucks when you're parents turn out to be emotionally immature and due to them you turn out to be emotionally mature at 10...it's kinda hurts
1: I often know what emotion I'm feeling but have a hard time figuring out why and normally talking to someone about it out loud helps me figure out why. 2: I also know when to say "no" but I also end up always saying "sorry" when I say that no. Granted, I still stick with my "no" cuz I said no for a good reason, and I have friends who respect that, but I still always feel bad 3: I like to think I'm still good at owning up to my mistakes but I always feel disappointed in myself when I see the mistakes I make and it takes a moment to get over it. Like I always end up going through the 5 stages of grief when it happens which is exhausting for me and those around me and I wish I could stop it. 4: I think I do this good? But I'm not entirely sure. Sometimes I overthink a situation. Other times I dont think about it at all. 5: I used to be good at this. But it's gone downhill throughout the past year. This is mostly because I almost never know what's going on with me or why I feel a certain way. For example I want to play a game with a friend but I always feel unmotivated with said game which sucks because that leaves both me and my friend with no one to play with. Yet for some reason I just cant get myself to play this game. 6: yes, I'm at least constantly 90% self aware of myself maybe a little too much as I sometimes end up overthinking it. 7: yes, this is me 100% I always end up listening to other people and try to even listen to myself as much as I can.
don’t wanna overrate my emotional maturity so i’m going to be as honest as possible w this one 😅 number 1. check :) ✅ journaling has helped me with this number 2. check ✅ number 3 check✅ number 4 check✅ number 5 check ✅ 6✅ 7✅
Honesty, kindness, self control, setting boundries, not quick to anger, slow to judgment and actions .....these are also signs of loving one another and self respect.
I love the calming voice behind this video. Her voice is so peaceful and relaxing, and the animation is so cute and amazing! ♥ Thank you Psych2Go. I'm really glad I found this channel! This channel got me to understand and love myself and to even learn that toxic relationships with people are bad. I'm glad that this channel exists. And I'm glad that I feel more happy now! 😊😄♥
@3:52 You can’t control how you feel/your emotions, but you can control how you act on them. If you know MBTI personality, you’ll know that some people feel deeper and stronger than others.
Tip that may be useful to you: have a diary, whether it is a physical notebook or your notes app in your cellphone or tablet to write down the emotions you feel on a daily basis, whether they're positive or negative emotions, it helps to be fully aware of our emotions and it also helps us identify and pinpoint the root of our emotions, better known as who or what is causing a specific emotions to manifest in the first place.
I'm an old soul, introvert, and much more emotionally mature than many of my peers. I realize now why I had such a tough time fitting in in my younger days but i'm glad it all worked out for me and I appreciate who I am much more because of those past times.
Find an ideal to follow. Establish him your life. Follow his principles. And emotional maturity will be just a by product of immense greatness that you wd achieve
I can name my emotions 🌟🌟🌟 I can draw healthy boundaries 🌟🌟⭐️ I can own up to my mistakes 🌟⭐️✨ I think before I leap ⭐️✨✨ I’m good at getting my point across 🌟✨✨ I’m self aware 🌟🌟🌟 I know how to listen 🌟⭐️⭐️
Most of these depend on the person I’m talking to, yk. (Also 🌟=Great ⭐️=Good ✨=Alright just incase you were wondering) I’d say I’m very emotionally mature, especially for my age. At our moms friends house me and my twin brother had a discussion about it over pizza and Skate 3. It was really neat, we talked about everything their is to think about involving the mind, reminds me of The Twilight Zone.
I’m glad I was made the right decision to learn English 10y ago while my toxic mom made my youths vulnerable. There’s more to learn and I love psychology. Now, I can slowly unravel the possibilities behind her parenting pattern. Why she was behave like that, unconsciously hurting her children mentally that the wound won’t heal in 20y without a proper mental help. Thank you for creating such wonderful videos in your channel ❤️
I’m very good at knowing my own emotions and empathizing with others... but I’m also kind of a doormat 😂 Edit: Yes, I think before I leap- overthinking counts, right?
Overthought is still better than none or a lack of it. But try to find a balance. Sometimes the answers aren't so simple and overthinking can lead to wasted time as well. The best way to go about analysis is to consider the potential complexities but never lose sight of the obvious. Anything is possible depending on interpretation and the situation.
Arctic Fox it’s not exactly a black and white concept. You need to study yourself rather than comparing yourself to others to decide if you believe that you’re emotionally mature
Thank you for this video. At one time in my life I was verbally attacked by an emotionally immature person. This lasted for a long time and one phrase this individual would always say as a retort to my calmly thought out replies was "let's be adults about this". This quick reply from them was because they didn't like the implication that they were wrong in the situation and needed to shift blame back onto me. It took 2 years for this individual to realize that they were wrong the entire time, and they did apologize. Unfortunatly, during those 2 years, this person destroyed long standing friendships between people who were not involved just because they were angry and out bursting at everyone.
Godd these 3 years have changed my life. My mother died when I was 15, 3 years ago..my whole perception towards life changed I'm so grateful that I came out of grieving all day and depression..I feel more alive now....and I'll give an 8 to my emotional maturity.
Emotional maturity is everything. EVERYTHING. If you cannot control your emotions you’re just immature in general and no one will respect you. It’s a really hard pill to swallow but it’s the truth
I am emotionally mature but I have anger issues. Even if I get angry every minute that doesn't make me less mature. I control my anger, but I'm still 24/7 angry
I'm improving but will have to work on this the rest of my life as I am still having some areas that need improvement shown here. Thanks for the incentive to improve ourselves in interaction with others, we can't help them or do we have time if self improvement is our goal
I'm emotionally mature When I'm angry, I realized it and I always try to keep calm. I know being angry a lot and not being calm will not solve the problem.
Helping a friend of mine who was down and living around different types of people made me quite mature (my friends said I am so and this video confirms it) and I'm really proud of it. Sometimes it feels like people don't care at all though and it's dismotivating
This one really made me break down. I just broke off a 6y relationship that made me feel like i was inconsiderate and immature. An emotional trainwreck that gets in his way, and fills him with anger. But I cried saying yes to all these points. The overthinking, intrusive thoughts, second judgement of what I know, all falling on to my conscience. "this is growth. its okay to cry"
Ive always been super emotionally mature... we really think before we speak, understand or atleast try to understand others point of views and opinions, we are open minded and are able to analyze situations and see whats right from wrong. Always ready to listen to anyone and when conflict comes around we try to do what is most “mature” even if our point is taken the wrong way... able to really pin point what is bothering us and we find ways to try to get through it, even if it’s difficult
I related quite a bit to this video. I must admit that sometimes I feel I don't react enough though, I don't feel extreme emotion often. I live a very reactive life style, facing challenges as they come. I propose the best I can for things I know are coming but don't deal out when something catches me by surprise. Great videos folks.
I'm an INFJ so...I can relate to all of these so does that means I'm emotionally matured??but I'm only 16 idk And also I started to experience all these signs since I'm like 8 or 9 years old
1. you can put a name to your emotion 2. you can draw healthy boundries 3. you aren't afraid to own up to your mistakes 4. you think before you leap 5. you have more succes in getting your point across 6. you are self aware 7. you know how to listen
For the first time in my 19yrs I experienced pure raw anger. I never did before because I never saw the reason to get mad or anything. Someone I knew got under my skin and I lost it, I said I'm sorry and owned up to my mistake in the argument. I understood what triggered me and now I know how to not get triggered and stay calm. I realized, I have no positive outlet for my pent up rage and trying to find ways to let it out and not let it get the best of me. I didn't know I had the pent up rage till that person, I never considered it because anger is a foreign emotion to me.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how emotionally mature is your cat? Comment below.
8
Um idk
I'd give him a 3...
5/10 it’s half a whole but now she’s dead
Yes
1- you can put a name to the face of your emotion
2- you can draw healthy boundaries
3- you aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes
4- you think before you leap
5- you have more success in getting your point across
6- you are self aware
7- you know how to listen
You damn angel.
You deserve heaven.
y’all welcome :)
You just saved 7 mins and 6 seconds
of my life
This comment is disrespectful at least.
Woah, so this video made me realise how many adults i know that arent emotionally mature.
Meme Bot Karen...
That's true! How do you feel after realizing this?
@@Psych2go Well, i dont really feel good with the idea of this being full of and ruled by immature adults.
Do you think it’s why I have no friends, lol?
I always see something alarming in people I meet over a regular basis. Well, it’s that and some other factors but a lot of past friends get especially offended at my even questioning their flaws as if I’m attacking them, but I’m actually just asking out of concern and hope they would improve. Nope. Too many people take my perspective too personally.
I find some people also get particularly annoyed when I ask ‘why’ here and there. It’s not that I don’t believe them, I just want to know their intent or motive better to grasp in the long term if they’re worth my time at all, TBH.
I think they get annoyed because they themselves don’t think that far in the first place often enough so they get frustrated for me being “nosy” when really, they choose not to reflect on their actions and reactions enough. If they tried more, I don’t doubt explaining why they do things would be that much easier for them in general.
I’m not constantly asking them ‘why’, I just feel compelled to ask if they say or do something that I find questionable. I’m honest with myself and I would like to be as much with others for the most part...I’m really not here out to get anyone, like, if anyone gets _that_ annoyed at me being a little curious then that’s kind of their problem only, really.
Sometimes taking that step back before you dive in to something can save you lots. I don’t have to care about anything they do or say at the end of the day as it doesn’t affect me, I just hope they care enough about themselves to be able to acknowledge their problems and deal with them accordingly.
@@an_impasse Well, thats a big block of text but this is pretty true and the advice at the end if pretty good!
People get mad when you’re emotionally mature, and don’t make the same stupid decisions they make
That is sooo true👌🏼😂
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you sound pretty salty for someone that's apparently emotionally mature
@@cloudyisaliveandhere emotional maturity isn't a competition. everyone's got their own pace. it's not something to brag about, you don't seem mature in ANY way.
@@colorbar.s True.
I so wish the internet had been around when I was younger. Channels like yours have so much good information. The internet was an elemental component of finally lifting me out of life-long depression (I'm 60) because I've been able to read and research all I can about managing my mental state. Finally I'm enjoying life and actually like myself now.
gueyhoo any advice?
@@maddiemadness0 I entered Cognitive Behavior Therapy for a year and a half and learned to reframe my negative thoughts so I thought more kindly about myself. Changed medication and take it every day. Got away from my family (I was their scapegoat for anything negative that happened). Stay away from drugs and alcohol. Journal often. Meditation. Reduce stress in life. Be good to yourself in wholesome ways. Exercise, even if it's just for a few minutes at a time. It's a constant battle but hang in there.
yay a non boomer
gueyhoo see this is exactly the exact answer I thought it would be. I just neeed to actually do them. I want to start now I’m about to be 22 thank you
Congratulations I'm very proud of you
HA, WHO SAID I CAN'T BE A CRACKHEAD AND EMOTIONALLY MATURE AT THE SAME TIME
Two completely different things. You can be Emotionally mature but still be fun, being emotionally mature does not mean you can not be a “ crackhead ”, it just means you understand situations better etc
@@athenac6316 it's a joke
@@athenac6316 stop tryna act smart dumbass
Fuck you
cariblu Nigga u ruined it
Sometimes I don't know if I'm emotionally mature or insensitive. When something happens that makes me feel angry, I instantly realize the way I'm feeling and by rationalizing it, I immediately don't feel angry anymore and I'm just "okay, so this happened, what can I do now to fix it?". I feel like I rationalize feelings so much and now I'm insensitive... idk
Joana Marques It’s insensitive if someone else is venting their emotions to you and you ignore their need to simply be listened to.
(Edit: or if you get annoyed at them for not simply fixing it by doing this and this.)
It isn’t insensitive if you can calm your own emotions by rationalizing them, that’s just a good method of self-control.
@@theplumscrub1627 I agree 100%.
@@DanielDavies-StellularNebulla I agree for the most part - however there may be point where you are overwhelmed by emotion, and may need to make the other person aware that you are overwhelmed/stressed and you may need a minute before you can help/listen to them again.
sis just spilled my mental state like that
insensitivity is a lack of empathy i think. nothing to do with how u handle your own emotions.
A person maybe Emotionally Mature
but we all have a Child inside of us
Duchi
🤤 child,.
Can confirm, wrote this script. Am emotionally mature. Still make fart noises on my arm when I’m bored sometimes.
-Merinda, Writer for Psych2Go
Duchi *may be
I make it a point to take my child out to play.
We may be adults but the child we once were is still inside us., we just grew up.
1) you can put a name to the face of your emotions (you understand what makes you feel certain ways)
2) you can draw healthy boundaries
3) you aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes
4) you think before you leap (controlled impulses)
5) you have more success in getting your point across (affective, healthy communication)
6) you are self aware (focus on emotions independently)
7) you are a good listener
thanks for this video!! gives some nice things to set as goals :)
Agreed! Let’s “grow”😂😄
I really like the voice of the speaker it’s perfect
Amanda silvera!
Cyanvaya I’m sorry?😅
@@ipsitaparida4471 Hey chill bruh! Just sayin. Don't stress on the exclamation mark there. It was just to express joy and the yaay feel... 😊
Cyanvaya
ahhh kk
Thank you for the feedback! We'll let the team know :D
Who's more emotionally immature in your opinion? Spongebob or squidward? Comment your cartoon characters.
Me
Well Spongebob ofc
Psych2Go squidward
SpongeBob
SpongeBob is gae
1. You can put a name to the face of your emotions. 1:00
2. You can draw healthy boundaries. 1:44
3. You aren’t afraid to own up to your mistakes. 2:21
4. You think before you leap. 3:23
5. You have more success in getting your point across. 4:16
6. You are self aware. 5:00
7. You know how to listen. 5:45
I think I have a depression. But I also think I’m just sensitive. And I can’t ever put my emotions into words. Edit: omg I didn’t expect to get so many likes...it’s so sweet how so many people can relate to me.
wish you the best❤
Relatable, bruh. I don't have "suicide, life sucks" depression, but i just feel empty on the inside.
I'm with you in feeling this. I began noticing a change in the way i see life back in march of 2019.
Since then i've have quite a number of depressive episodes where i became sluggish, my head became cloudly and i found it difficult to focus.
There were times were i felt like crying for no discernable reason whatsoever and i became a lot more stressed.
Eventually anxiety started consuming my life too and it got so bad that i took a lot of my problems out on my friends.
Those friends abandoned me because i treated them so poorly yet i continued having anxiety and depressive episodes only now it was worse because they were gone.
It took months and it's still an ongoing process for me, i still have days were i can't concentrate. Where i want to run away from people.
There are days where i become very upset and i have broken down into tears because i'm reminding of my ex-friends.
Sometimes i think i'm far too sensitive too, like i've become a cry-baby.
I've just grown to learn that while i may have been more sensitive than what would be considered normal i know look back on things that i was actually trying to discover my boundaries.
Before i fell out with my friends i didn't create any form of boundaries to protect myself at all. I believed people were always good and kind and i was a total teddy bear to them.
The thing is, as dark as it sounds, it's really easy to stab a teddy bear and that's what happened to me. Emotionally.
After the fight i took the time to self reflect on my actions and also how i interacted with others, it took months of reflection.
I concluded that because i didn't have any boundaries i became dependent on the approval and support of my friends.
I learned that i had completely lost my own back-bone and had no self respect, only thinking of the values of others.
While this sounds good in theory, in practise it meant I was jeopardising my wellbeing and resulted in me becoming more stressed, anxious, agitated and exhausted.
This lead to a cycle over and over again in my head.
As i mentioned before i still have issues with depression and anxiety and will occasionally have them crop up at inappropriate times in my day to day life.
Even having self respect and standing up for myself when i have people critique me or ask me difficult questions becomes tough too.
I assume this was caused by my old relationship with my friends and how i am still struggling to get over my friendship with them and how i haven't had the opportunity yet to move on.
I hope reading this gives some perspective into your life, maybe really thinking back on the way you have behaved the last year could give you some insight into how you feel.
I also recommend keeping a journal or diary and documenting how you are feeling or thinking. I started doing this 3 months ago when i started feeling really rough.
Re-Reading stuff i wrote months ago helps remind me of specific days and what happened like a piece of Evidence and it helps that i put a date and sometimes timestamp it.
With enough time i can look back on how i felt 3 months ago and realise the flaws in my thinking back then and how i've actually improved my attitude from were i was before.
My gf has a terrible depression. And we just broke up. she just cant control her emotion even on small matters. Relationship can’t last long if you can’t manage your depression
I feel the same but I am very good at putting my feelings into words it's just that nobody seems to understand it
I was emotionally mature since a very young age..But some events in life, totally made me different and I started losing control of myself and the person I was. However, I am slowly finding myself again. Although I still lose control from time to time, I try to be better everyday
When you do not belittle others for their skin, color, race, background, or gender and sexual preference, you're mature. Bigotry does not run in your blood
Being open minded is a sign of intelligence as well, do you agree?
@@Psych2go of course, how else can you grow?
When you do not belittle others for having pride in their nationality or ethnicity, or for being part of an organization with rules about gender and gender role, then you're mature.
Wokeness does not run in your blood.
@@budthecyborg4575 when a nation, a people, an individual that step up to accountability and accept fault, you're mature. Deception won't run in your blood
@@uckBayNguyen Asking children to pay for the crimes of their parents is slavery.
this made me smile, I go through a lot of self-doubt and I sometimes don't know what I'm good at or who I even am sometimes so it's good to see actual proof that I'm not all negatives and cons.
summary ✨
1. being able to pinpoint/name exactly what you're feeling
2. you can draw healthy boundaries
3. you aren't afraid to own up to your mistakes
4. you think before you leap/ step back and analyze situation before jumping into it/ control your impulses/ control their anger
5. you have more success getting your point across and have an effective and healthy way of communicating your emotions and needs to other. know when/how/where to express your emotions
6. being self aware / confident and not easy to manipulate by others
7. being able to listen actively without being judgemental or condescending
Do you feel there are others that could be added to this list?
Emotional maturity is definitely something I need to work on!
im freaking obssessed with these intros, they're so polite and thoughtful and make me feel special
Now when I know that I'm not at all emotionally mature, I want to work on that and I want a video on that, please. HOW TO BE EMOTIONALLY MATURE?! 🌚
I think practicing your self-awareness is the most important thing. When you get upset for example, take a step back and think "Why is this happening? How am I involved in this?" If you do this regularly, you will see where you are making mistakes and that it is not always everyone else's fault. Being able to acknowledge ones mistakes is the first step of becoming better. So I think self-awareness is important
I wish you guys would talk about empaths. It took me over 3 years to even find out what was happening to me since I give large amounts of empathy on reflex. That’s a subject that should be shined on.
Thank you so much for removing the music! The video feels so well balanced now.
Thank you! Your feedback matters! How do you feel about a more subtle/ soft background music? Or do you still prefer videos without any music? :)
@@Psych2go Music is fine, but the almost lullaby like music in older videos felt way too immature like I was watching a kids video [ IMHO ] I'd prefer either no music or soft subtle music.
Hm, I don't feel emotionally immature and 6 of these "signs" apply to me; however, I do happen to have outbursts of rage which really convince me otherwise.
wortex You can be mature on some parts but lacking in others.
You can use your own strengths to better combat your weaknesses.
I understand that @wortex. What I have found is a good method for controlling myself in times when I either *know* I'm going to have an outburst, or *don't* know, is to try and think about *why I am angry*.
What this does for me, is it helps me to take my mind off of what I'm currently doing and rationalise the reasons behind why I'm angry or frustrated the way I am.
Hope this helped friend. Remember, being able to control and understand your emotions is a journey, and it can take a long time, so just be patient, and it will come to you. 😁
Have a good rest of your day/night everyone!
I consider that I'm 86% emotionally mature but when someone who is constantly bothering you(toxic family members/bullies) , your patience sometimes is not as strong as it use to be because it keeps building it till it eventually explodes.
wortex I think it’s possibly to GENERALLY be emotionally mature, but maybe there are certain situations/triggers that make it more difficult for you to be? Do you notice any patterns in things that make you have an outburst of rage? Any commonalities? If it’s something you’re interested, starting a “mood journal” might help you figure out this internal conflict!
-Merinda, Writer for Psych2Go
@@ash2694 That's when the emotional maturity to confront that person about whatever it is they are doing, comes into play.
3:03 you don't have to value your relationship, if you don't have any
That's hurt LMAO
Uhh.. Friendships and family?
"I am not self absorbed, I just don't want to be absorbed in someone else." - ME
@@aubriethegreat8175 Yesyesyes! I can relate :)
@@devashrijoshi9079 Haha. Glad to see that. I'm a loner and I like it that way. You too? :)
(Of course I do have a few friends though.)
3:48 guess I'm not emotionally mature I've literally got the worst temper issues
Yep same here lol
We share a name as well😆
@@sarahhhh9382 yea lol🖤
@Curt Christensen i'll try my best oof
Sarah S Here’s some good news: emotionally mature people reflect on their own short-comings and strive to change them.
If you dare take the first step to becoming a better person (for yourself and for others) you are already more mature then people who don’t dare at all.
The hard part is to keep going after that, but self-improvement brings improvement to yourself. I know that sounds kind of funny, but being able to understand yourself better helps alot in life.
@@theplumscrub1627 thank you for the advice
The world sends a conflicting message. Emotional maturity in admitting fault is punished and blamed. It’s almost foolish to do this in a society of misinformation and winner takes all. I think it would be greatly applicable to dealing with daily life and the twisted reality we all live in if you can suggest real world solutions to balance protecting oneself and being mature. Thank you for your wonderful content
Woah i just realized that i am emotional mature! Thank you for this wonderful video now I feel a lot better since I struggled a lot with myself lately!
I loved this ! I am halfway emotionally matured and honestly, this gave me the full idea and helped me to groom my emotional maturity :) Thanks mate !
love the animation style and the content, keep up with the amazing work!
I'm proud of myself, because a friend asked me if I could hang out with her on friday. I already got to hang out on thursday with my family. I am an introvert and higly sensitive person, so when I participate in a social event/activity with others I need time to rest after that to kind of recover, because it takes a lot of energy. So I responded to her saying no and I explained it wouldnt be good for me. So yes, I am very proud of myself for saying no to a friend!
Seems I'm emotionally mature..... 🙃.... kind of
“Do you wonder why everybody reacts differently to a similar situation?”
*GASP* I DO wonder about that!
"Emotional maturity is the ability to clearly understand and manage your emotions"
Well, I clicked on the wrong video
1:check
2:draw healthy boundaries check and am an empath by the way :) saying NOOO!
3: check
4: YES!
5: yup, check
6: check!
7: I need to work on this
thumbs up!
After watching this I can say that I'm emotionally mature ... Though I have some faults also , this video may help me to be a better person 😊✨❤️ thank you guys...stay safe everyone ✨🖐️
emotional maturity is nothing to brag about. the road to get there is different for everyone, and something that never stops. there's no limit to maturity. you don't just stop learning one day. you aren't better than someone else just because you're further in your own journey. it is not a competition.
Love this! Being emotionally mature can help us have a more fulfilling and meaningful life and have better relationships because you take responsibility for your own actions and you don’t shift blame. We are all working on becoming the best version of our own selves! ♥️
That's true :) How many signs did you resonate with?
“… requires a prolonged simmer on the gentle heat of experience.“
Nice one, that😌🙏
*AAA* Thank you for this, i’ve been wondering this about myself for a pretty long time.
Hope this video helps! Did you resonate with any of the signs in the video?
1. I can.
2. This is easy for me.
3. I’m not afraid to. (Also one of my teachers says she loves my brutal honesty.)
4. I do this almost 100% of the time.
5. People say I know what I want and that I’m very determined.
6. This is totally me.
7. I’m a very good listener, and people tell me that often.
Just because I do all of these doesn’t mean I’m the most sane person though. I’m weirder than most and probably make a few people think that I’m crazy sometimes.
I'm having trouble expressing emotions outwards. Like, I'll feel everything, but when it comes to showing it outwards I feel like i always limit myself. I suppose it means I'm emotionally mature, but sometimes i also wish i could Actually be excited some times. Or at least Show it.
I'm so proud for the people behind these videos, that at the beginning maybe thought they wouldn't go far. Keep going!
I’m mostly mature and sometimes immature I notice. I get a bit off at times. I’m pretty good at listening. However there is chances I accidentally won’t catch everything what the person says. I know it makes me seem to be condescending. I’m not. I’m not trying to be condescending. I try my best and every time I upgrade nothing wants to give me time. I do interrupt sometimes. I think is because I gotta answer or comment real quick before I forget what to say. I also need communication. Communication is always key. Arguing is childish. I just try my best. At anything.
Being a naturally reserved person, I can relate to a lot of these points. I think there's a lot of commonalities between emotionally mature people and people that are reserved, probably due to our generally more thoughtful behaviour.
I very much enjoyed and appreciated this video, keep up the great work!
You know it sucks when you're parents turn out to be emotionally immature and due to them you turn out to be emotionally mature at 10...it's kinda hurts
I had a bad night last night and this video is what I needed. I promise to control my emotions better after watching this video. Thank you 😊
1: I often know what emotion I'm feeling but have a hard time figuring out why and normally talking to someone about it out loud helps me figure out why.
2: I also know when to say "no" but I also end up always saying "sorry" when I say that no. Granted, I still stick with my "no" cuz I said no for a good reason, and I have friends who respect that, but I still always feel bad
3: I like to think I'm still good at owning up to my mistakes but I always feel disappointed in myself when I see the mistakes I make and it takes a moment to get over it. Like I always end up going through the 5 stages of grief when it happens which is exhausting for me and those around me and I wish I could stop it.
4: I think I do this good? But I'm not entirely sure. Sometimes I overthink a situation. Other times I dont think about it at all.
5: I used to be good at this. But it's gone downhill throughout the past year. This is mostly because I almost never know what's going on with me or why I feel a certain way. For example I want to play a game with a friend but I always feel unmotivated with said game which sucks because that leaves both me and my friend with no one to play with. Yet for some reason I just cant get myself to play this game.
6: yes, I'm at least constantly 90% self aware of myself maybe a little too much as I sometimes end up overthinking it.
7: yes, this is me 100% I always end up listening to other people and try to even listen to myself as much as I can.
don’t wanna overrate my emotional maturity so i’m going to be as honest as possible w this one 😅
number 1. check :) ✅ journaling has helped me with this
number 2. check ✅
number 3 check✅
number 4 check✅
number 5 check ✅
6✅
7✅
I'm definitely not mature
It's good to be self-aware. What do you plan to do next?
Good Boy me too
Good Boy great name 😝
koolkid15 No
@koolkid15 thats... mean (the joke)
Honesty, kindness, self control, setting boundries, not quick to anger, slow to judgment and actions .....these are also signs of loving one another and self respect.
I love the calming voice behind this video. Her voice is so peaceful and relaxing, and the animation is so cute and amazing! ♥
Thank you Psych2Go. I'm really glad I found this channel! This channel got me to understand and love myself and to even learn that toxic relationships with people are bad.
I'm glad that this channel exists. And I'm glad that I feel more happy now! 😊😄♥
I realized because of pain and experience iv went through. iv become an emotionally mature woman. I am blessed. Thnk you Lord
Lately i believe Ive started to become emotionally mature, according to these points. If not fully mature yet, then im improving at least.
Exactly...it is called emotional maturity but not selfish!!!
Finally someone actually said that🤗🤗
This animation is beautiful I can't wait to watch this.
@3:52 You can’t control how you feel/your emotions, but you can control how you act on them. If you know MBTI personality, you’ll know that some people feel deeper and stronger than others.
Tip that may be useful to you: have a diary, whether it is a physical notebook or your notes app in your cellphone or tablet to write down the emotions you feel on a daily basis, whether they're positive or negative emotions, it helps to be fully aware of our emotions and it also helps us identify and pinpoint the root of our emotions, better known as who or what is causing a specific emotions to manifest in the first place.
I'm an old soul, introvert, and much more emotionally mature than many of my peers. I realize now why I had such a tough time fitting in in my younger days but i'm glad it all worked out for me and I appreciate who I am much more because of those past times.
*quietly breakdancing*
Being emotionally mature at a young age is not always a good thing...
Find an ideal to follow. Establish him your life. Follow his principles. And emotional maturity will be just a by product of immense greatness that you wd achieve
Literally all of these things are me, I’m Emotionally Mature x 1000
I can name my emotions 🌟🌟🌟
I can draw healthy boundaries 🌟🌟⭐️
I can own up to my mistakes 🌟⭐️✨
I think before I leap ⭐️✨✨
I’m good at getting my point across 🌟✨✨
I’m self aware 🌟🌟🌟
I know how to listen 🌟⭐️⭐️
Most of these depend on the person I’m talking to, yk. (Also 🌟=Great ⭐️=Good ✨=Alright just incase you were wondering) I’d say I’m very emotionally mature, especially for my age. At our moms friends house me and my twin brother had a discussion about it over pizza and Skate 3. It was really neat, we talked about everything their is to think about involving the mind, reminds me of The Twilight Zone.
Maturity - understanding human psychology by studying and analysing your own emotions, thus developing social competence.
I’m glad I was made the right decision to learn English 10y ago while my toxic mom made my youths vulnerable. There’s more to learn and I love psychology. Now, I can slowly unravel the possibilities behind her parenting pattern. Why she was behave like that, unconsciously hurting her children mentally that the wound won’t heal in 20y without a proper mental help. Thank you for creating such wonderful videos in your channel ❤️
I’m very good at knowing my own emotions and empathizing with others... but I’m also kind of a doormat 😂
Edit: Yes, I think before I leap- overthinking counts, right?
Overthought is still better than none or a lack of it. But try to find a balance. Sometimes the answers aren't so simple and overthinking can lead to wasted time as well. The best way to go about analysis is to consider the potential complexities but never lose sight of the obvious. Anything is possible depending on interpretation and the situation.
Emotional maturity is NOT = OVERTHINKING before decision making
I feel like I’m more emotionally mature than my parents 😭
I love how they aways thank you at the start of every video
I’m Emotionally mature, I knew it since the rest of my class is so immature.
Arctic Fox it’s not exactly a black and white concept. You need to study yourself rather than comparing yourself to others to decide if you believe that you’re emotionally mature
Thank you for this video. At one time in my life I was verbally attacked by an emotionally immature person. This lasted for a long time and one phrase this individual would always say as a retort to my calmly thought out replies was "let's be adults about this". This quick reply from them was because they didn't like the implication that they were wrong in the situation and needed to shift blame back onto me.
It took 2 years for this individual to realize that they were wrong the entire time, and they did apologize. Unfortunatly, during those 2 years, this person destroyed long standing friendships between people who were not involved just because they were angry and out bursting at everyone.
The word "mature" does not exist in my world.
Godd these 3 years have changed my life. My mother died when I was 15, 3 years ago..my whole perception towards life changed I'm so grateful that I came out of grieving all day and depression..I feel more alive now....and I'll give an 8 to my emotional maturity.
Me almost an adult that still laughs at fart jokes:
*matur.*
Well, you probably are mature. These people that desperately try to act old are just insecure people after all.
koolkid15 guacamole ni੧੧a pеnis
I like how you have a bus as a pfp
@koolkid15 lol
Emotional maturity is everything. EVERYTHING. If you cannot control your emotions you’re just immature in general and no one will respect you. It’s a really hard pill to swallow but it’s the truth
Emotionally mature people do not act impulsively and get less angry :')
I am emotionally mature but I have anger issues. Even if I get angry every minute that doesn't make me less mature. I control my anger, but I'm still 24/7 angry
@@rainbowlov3 yeah I think it doesn't invalidate the anger it just says you don't act out on it. Because anger is just like any other emotion
I'm improving but will have to work on this the rest of my life as I am still having some areas that need improvement shown here. Thanks for the incentive to improve ourselves in interaction with others, we can't help them or do we have time if self improvement is our goal
Okay, so so far I’m emotionally immature!
Same, at least, we're self-aware, plus we clicked on this vid for a reason
Thanks for sharing! That's good to know! How many signs did you resonate with?
My girlfriend always told me that I am mature and intelligent emotionally. Was scratching wondering what that means till I clicked on this
When u haven't even watched the video but still like it XD
Lol is that seven on your profile pic?
@@Error_707. lol yup
Me
@@vaishnavi4093 Cool~!
SEVEN ZERO SEVEEEEN!!
This channel is such an ego booster and I love it
First sign:
Me:Yep, I'm not emotionally mature
I'm emotionally mature
When I'm angry, I realized it and I always try to keep calm. I know being angry a lot and not being calm will not solve the problem.
I read the title as "7 signs you're emotionally a failure"
Helping a friend of mine who was down and living around different types of people made me quite mature (my friends said I am so and this video confirms it) and I'm really proud of it. Sometimes it feels like people don't care at all though and it's dismotivating
"Are you an empath?" Yup, thanks for the shoutout lol
Put others before yourself and be kind. Don't worry about what others think, they are just unimportant people.
Me watching this
Me:So true
How many signs did you relate to?
This one really made me break down. I just broke off a 6y relationship that made me feel like i was inconsiderate and immature. An emotional trainwreck that gets in his way, and fills him with anger. But I cried saying yes to all these points. The overthinking, intrusive thoughts, second judgement of what I know, all falling on to my conscience.
"this is growth. its okay to cry"
Yeah I guess im matured not like I needed to watch this video to know that. Alright gamers goodnight.
Ive always been super emotionally mature... we really think before we speak, understand or atleast try to understand others point of views and opinions, we are open minded and are able to analyze situations and see whats right from wrong. Always ready to listen to anyone and when conflict comes around we try to do what is most “mature” even if our point is taken the wrong way... able to really pin point what is bothering us and we find ways to try to get through it, even if it’s difficult
My friend: I’m very mature in any way
My cousins: I’m mature
My siblings: I’m emotionally mature
Me: uhhhhhh, I’m am mature at not being mature?
I related quite a bit to this video. I must admit that sometimes I feel I don't react enough though, I don't feel extreme emotion often. I live a very reactive life style, facing challenges as they come. I propose the best I can for things I know are coming but don't deal out when something catches me by surprise.
Great videos folks.
Hint:
You’re not
Thanks I know lol
Well i am emotionally mature
Her voice just sounds so perfect. Amazing voice (whoever's it is)
I'm an INFJ so...I can relate to all of these so does that means I'm emotionally matured??but I'm only 16 idk
And also I started to experience all these signs since I'm like 8 or 9 years old
I'm 18 but can only relate to some of these.
That's okay....but....seriously the user names that tells you're an army is still hilarious.
The way I act when I see a fellow is still.......immature
@@drowninginthedeepnessofher1032 lmao what? 😂
Personality tests are zodiac signs for people with superiority complex’s
1. you can put a name to your emotion
2. you can draw healthy boundries
3. you aren't afraid to own up to your mistakes
4. you think before you leap
5. you have more succes in getting your point across
6. you are self aware
7. you know how to listen
*I thought I was emotionally strong!!*
*But this vid told me" u r D A R N W E A K" in 7 different ways* 🤷
This change of emotional maturity took me almost 2 years after of course going to a psychologist, but I'm still glad I made it!😊
Damm I've never been this early!!!!
For the first time in my 19yrs I experienced pure raw anger. I never did before because I never saw the reason to get mad or anything. Someone I knew got under my skin and I lost it, I said I'm sorry and owned up to my mistake in the argument. I understood what triggered me and now I know how to not get triggered and stay calm. I realized, I have no positive outlet for my pent up rage and trying to find ways to let it out and not let it get the best of me. I didn't know I had the pent up rage till that person, I never considered it because anger is a foreign emotion to me.