I just found your channel recently. I have self diagnosed myself with BPD and have started therapy two weeks ago. I have known something was wrong with me for over a decade. I am ashamed and heartbroken that it took losing my wife of 14 years to wake me up. I miss her terribly and hate myself even more now that she is has moved on. I appreciate all the info you have posted. It has been a blessing and hope you continue to spread awareness. Blessings and hope for a wonderful future to you and those in your life.
As a fellow BPD "warrior" myself, I want to express with all my pride, that you not only immaculately describe all aspects of our symptoms as well as healing strategies, but you do it with such clear minded confidence and gravitas to the point. I feel understood and included as a rare occasion! I salout you
I had a massive setback in my emotional state after my ex broke up with me. It wasn't until I started picking up my self care again and started meditating and praying on a daily basis that I started getting better again. These tips really resonate! Sadly today my mind is a minefield and it's really hard to get out of the negative spiral. I can't sleep and terrified of any real social interaction, so I wear my masks and feel isolated. Does anyone have tips for managing their bad periods?
Thank you so much seriously I’m so emotional right now about everything and I needed this helpful video so bad I was misdiagnosed as bipolar 1 my entire life since I was like 10 on anti psychotics/ mood stabilizers on and off and I just could never get a grip on my life I’m 23 now and I recently got out of the hospital (so determined I spent my birthday in the psych ward) a few days ago with a new diagnosis and I’m just struggling really bad and trying really hard from journaling to taking anxiety medicine when I actually need it and biting my tongue. Than you again so much you’re out here saving lives.
Thank you. I feel great knowing that I'm not the only one suffering from BPD, and that there's actually ways to cope with it. Like i already know but seeing your video reassured me
I was diagnosed with BPD late last year. Last week was horrible because for some reason, I went into a denial state of mind and even tho my psychiatrist diagnosed me months ago, I didn't fully comprehend the situation I was in until then. It felt like being run over by a truck multiple times emotionally and I'm still processing it and all that comes with it. Videos like yours are super helpful since I have been struggling to find a therapist I can trust, so thank you very much for sharing. Being diagnosed with BPD is probably the hardest thing I have had to go through so far in my personal life, but at least now I understand a lot about myself and wish I would have been diagnosed earlier before I pushed everyone away.
Sleep, exercise, food intake and nature/animals are top of the list for me. I practice mindfulness, meditation, and meta. I find these tools very beneficial. However I truly believe that people with BPD are already more aware of the world around them. I pick up on energies so have to regulate myself around others. This can be hard as as much mindfulness, awareness when the majority of the population are not. I use music as a regulator and learning, research as it allows me to see the bigger picture. I also found which my therapist agreed is that people with BDP are living the real reality as we see through fakeness and b×××s××t. Also that mindfulness and non self practiced mindsets kinda work with BPD traits, however we also experience like anyone the 'dark knight' when meditating. Which means its extremely important to have a community and support system. I use app and podcast ten per cent happier and highly recommend them. Thanks again for this video.....its so helpful for me as I have never had a space to learn, discuss and share my experiences of living with BPD for 49 years before diagnoise xxx much love xx
Thank you so much for sharing the things that have helped you!! Nature is also a huge help for me! 🤗 although we may naturally be more sensitive to the world, mindfulness has allowed me to see it more objectively without my judgements getting in the way. Have a great day 💗
It's funny how different it hits when you as a counsellor gets recommended self-help that you recommend to your clients. I needed to hear this from someone else. Thank you, so much.
Thank you❤ I have always felt that something was wrong with me and that nobody understood my intense emotions. I am ashamed of the times I tried to take my own life. Knowing that I will be able to overcome this makes me feel positive about the future.
I’ve slowly sucked the life out of my partner and I really hate myself for it. I didn’t even know my behaviors were so harmful. I get in weird states of mind where it’s like my brain has decided he’s competing with me or my enemy when in reality that’s just bologna. Thank you for your help and tips. I want to be a better person
I get the excercise advice everyone gives but alot of us are disabled or chronically physically ill.. my go too used to be walkes and I miss that ❤🎉 Great vid
I was diagnosed wit BPD and CPTSD a couple of months ago... and I gotta say that since I diagnosed everything about this disorder sounds so scary. Thank you for sharing your story, and for the tips, its a lught at the end of the tunnel. 🙏🙏🙏
I feel for your daughter and you. I'm sure your daughter is not intentionally flipping out. As a grown women with grown daughters myself who has just been diagnoise with BDP your daughter is suffering and in pain and her acting out is the only way she can express herself. I would advice that she gets therapy. At 49 years old I still find it hard to articulate my feelings into words and find that music helps with that. Sending you both love x
Super helpful! I guess my question though would be how does someone with BPD get motivated to apply these practical tips? Have a family member who has been diagnosed but won’t do therapy, won’t exercise, won’t practice mindfulness…basically does not want to do anything described here. Where does she find the motivation and desire tl begin to practically apply this sort of advice?
Tysm for your videos! It is nice to learn from someone who has BPD as well (not that the therapist videos and povs aren't insightful as well 😅 ) I have been doing diamond painting, drawing, tracing, and other art 🎨 things. I find listening to music 🎧🎶 in the morning is a great way to start my day with a smile on my face and energy to get through the day! I am also a lover of heat, so a nice hot soak or just hunkering down with my heated blanket relaxes and calms me as well. And, of course, prayer! 🙏 I definitely need to get that exercise and 'eat right' going, though. Heh 😅 Again, thank you for your videos. I have shared them with a couple friends, so hopefully they will help to better understand my daily and by minute struggle. 💙😊
Well, yeah.. If One understands the stress this type of disorder puts the body under - as well as result of childhood or even later trauma - one of the key traits to trauma, especially, long-term exposure.. Is respiratory depression. Which, can lead to a whole host of health issues, even outside of One’s mental health. Though, respiratory depression is a major reason why people have difficulty finding a grounded center, such as those with BPD. Seeing your comments around.. About drugs, making fun of someone utilizing the teachings in a book, and this comment.. You come across as a very disingenuous, lazy, and boring individual. Best wishes, with all that.
To be honest i get triggerd by helping others. Its like when someone is sad it is very hard for me to feel sentimental or pity for them so i can actually help them. I desperately want to help but its very hard for me to do what i need to do to help.
Giftedness and borderline? Why dabrowski isn't mentioned often (could he have had bpd)? The implications of a genetic component especially if it's the majority? The psychotic like symptoms and what's normal in reference to them in borderlines (how early they can start in life)? I have a lot of questions Google doesn't answer well.
Yeah, so apparently it took almost half of my life to realize that yes, I do indeed have BPD. I know when it comes to the causes, a lot of issues arise from childhood trauma. However, I noticed that no video ever touches on the subject of 'special needs children'. I, myself, grew up a special needs child with only one parent. My mom. She has been my rock for most of my life. But now that she has to focus on my step-father who is battling not only cancer in seven different primary organs, but dementia and Stage 4 COPD. Every five seconds is new to him so she has to stay on her toes. Sadly, both are well past 70 and my mom can't do things like she did when she was younger. Trust me, my mom was bad ass. But age has definitely slowed her down and she hates it. And I know it sounds rather cold of me, but the sheer amount of disrespect, humiliation and disregard my step-father has not just for me, but for my mom? It really pisses me off and turns me into a person I do not like. I'm around people, but I am always so lonely. Like I literally feel like no one understands me, not even my own mom anymore. I'm moody, angry, miserable, sad.... It's hard to sleep. I went from a full non-alcoholic to an alcoholic in little over a month because I believed and still do, that my last relationship ending was absolutely 100% my fault. Prior 40 years of my life? I maybe drank alcohol.... twice a year? And the mood swings.... It isn't just a mood swing, I'm on a moon bungie cord that goes whatever direction it pleases at any second. Anyway, I'm getting off of the subject. Special needs children. We usually have parents that are highly over-protective or.... parents that don't really care at all. Either way, we are led to believe in our early years that what is 'wrong'' with us makes us.... special. But it's far too taboo to even talk about. So as a special needs child, we are all eventually led to believe that no one will accept us.... except our own family. Which leads us to believe that our parents are the only ones who give a damn about our very existence and no one else would even consider us as worthy of..... anything. Growing up like that will definitely lead to BPD. (In my case, follow up that childhood with a life-time of failed relationships that literally have lasted only around two weeks to a month and yeah...... Need I say more?)
It's always do dis and do dat. I found eckhart tolle and his book the power of now really helped me. It's not about doing but about stop doing and be. Accepting and letting go. Really good points for us who can't let go. Sometimes the solution is really easy and we make it difficult because of how aware we are of the problem.
@@ryan.1990 its not the book but the perspective change I received, its not like it will work for everyone. For me it did and still helps me every day because I help myself and I adapted the way of being he shared in his book
I haven’t read his book, in full, as it was very difficult for me to focus to read it - though, I understand the premise of it. Reminding myself to stay in the present moment - vs. letting my thoughts spiral about the future - has been incredibly helpful, for me. In fact, this last week I have been telling myself I need to look up the audiobook, because I think understanding more in-depth will support me in not getting myself worked up.
cope with bpd , how can you say that, i have bpd and i’ve been through the wars battles and girl it ain’t going no where, everyone’s bpd is different as it all depends on mainly the trauma you experienced , you should never judge bpd with your bpd , it’s ridiculous jesus
I just found your channel recently. I have self diagnosed myself with BPD and have started therapy two weeks ago. I have known something was wrong with me for over a decade. I am ashamed and heartbroken that it took losing my wife of 14 years to wake me up. I miss her terribly and hate myself even more now that she is has moved on. I appreciate all the info you have posted. It has been a blessing and hope you continue to spread awareness. Blessings and hope for a wonderful future to you and those in your life.
Thank you so much for this kind message. I wish you all the best in the future ☺️
I hope your well Greg
Thank you for sharing this my partner wanted to leave me but is giving me a chance
Blessings to you friend.
Coloring mandalas and yoga are two things that really calms me down when I'm having a hard time!
Thanks so much for sharing ☺️
As a fellow BPD "warrior" myself, I want to express with all my pride, that you not only immaculately describe all aspects of our symptoms as well as healing strategies, but you do it with such clear minded confidence and gravitas to the point. I feel understood and included as a rare occasion! I salout you
I had a massive setback in my emotional state after my ex broke up with me. It wasn't until I started picking up my self care again and started meditating and praying on a daily basis that I started getting better again. These tips really resonate! Sadly today my mind is a minefield and it's really hard to get out of the negative spiral. I can't sleep and terrified of any real social interaction, so I wear my masks and feel isolated. Does anyone have tips for managing their bad periods?
Thank you so much seriously I’m so emotional right now about everything and I needed this helpful video so bad I was misdiagnosed as bipolar 1 my entire life since I was like 10 on anti psychotics/ mood stabilizers on and off and I just could never get a grip on my life I’m 23 now and I recently got out of the hospital (so determined I spent my birthday in the psych ward) a few days ago with a new diagnosis and I’m just struggling really bad and trying really hard from journaling to taking anxiety medicine when I actually need it and biting my tongue. Than you again so much you’re out here saving lives.
yours is my favorite BPD channel by a mile. it's almost like i'm taking an online course on how to love my partner. THANK YOU. ❤
Wow thank you for that! ☺️
Thank you. I feel great knowing that I'm not the only one suffering from BPD, and that there's actually ways to cope with it. Like i already know but seeing your video reassured me
I was diagnosed with BPD late last year. Last week was horrible because for some reason, I went into a denial state of mind and even tho my psychiatrist diagnosed me months ago, I didn't fully comprehend the situation I was in until then. It felt like being run over by a truck multiple times emotionally and I'm still processing it and all that comes with it. Videos like yours are super helpful since I have been struggling to find a therapist I can trust, so thank you very much for sharing. Being diagnosed with BPD is probably the hardest thing I have had to go through so far in my personal life, but at least now I understand a lot about myself and wish I would have been diagnosed earlier before I pushed everyone away.
Thank you for your willingness to share your story 😊
Sleep, exercise, food intake and nature/animals are top of the list for me. I practice mindfulness, meditation, and meta. I find these tools very beneficial. However I truly believe that people with BPD are already more aware of the world around them. I pick up on energies so have to regulate myself around others. This can be hard as as much mindfulness, awareness when the majority of the population are not. I use music as a regulator and learning, research as it allows me to see the bigger picture. I also found which my therapist agreed is that people with BDP are living the real reality as we see through fakeness and b×××s××t. Also that mindfulness and non self practiced mindsets kinda work with BPD traits, however we also experience like anyone the 'dark knight' when meditating. Which means its extremely important to have a community and support system. I use app and podcast ten per cent happier and highly recommend them. Thanks again for this video.....its so helpful for me as I have never had a space to learn, discuss and share my experiences of living with BPD for 49 years before diagnoise xxx much love xx
Thank you so much for sharing the things that have helped you!! Nature is also a huge help for me! 🤗 although we may naturally be more sensitive to the world, mindfulness has allowed me to see it more objectively without my judgements getting in the way. Have a great day 💗
@@onthelinecommunity perfectly articulated and you x
@@brianclemons5375 wow nice to meet you.....have a great day
i have bpd too, that feeling energies thing is so strange isn't it.
So let me in on your app and podcast?
It's funny how different it hits when you as a counsellor gets recommended self-help that you recommend to your clients. I needed to hear this from someone else. Thank you, so much.
Thank you❤
I have always felt that something was wrong with me and that nobody understood my intense emotions. I am ashamed of the times I tried to take my own life. Knowing that I will be able to overcome this makes me feel positive about the future.
Take care 💜
I’ve slowly sucked the life out of my partner and I really hate myself for it. I didn’t even know my behaviors were so harmful.
I get in weird states of mind where it’s like my brain has decided he’s competing with me or my enemy when in reality that’s just bologna. Thank you for your help and tips. I want to be a better person
@@cannibalcatgirl 🫶 I feel you. Keep that head up!
I get the excercise advice everyone gives but alot of us are disabled or chronically physically ill.. my go too used to be walkes and I miss that ❤🎉
Great vid
Ive been switching up my life and so far so good, i still flip out but not as often
I love your channel, I just found you today. I also really love that you have timestamps on a lot of your videos. Just thank you for everything. ❤
Thank you for the kind message and support 💗 let me know if there’s any specific topics you’d like to see covered!
I was diagnosed wit BPD and CPTSD a couple of months ago... and I gotta say that since I diagnosed everything about this disorder sounds so scary.
Thank you for sharing your story, and for the tips, its a lught at the end of the tunnel. 🙏🙏🙏
I know how scary things can seem at the beginning of the journey! Just know you aren’t alone and that things will get better 💗
Stay strong! And remember you’re not alone!
Waiting for my therapy spot - until then I will use your strategies. Thank you!
Good going KAYLA
KEEP IT UP
GOD BLESS U
LOVE FROM INDIA 🇮🇳
Thank you! 💗
"Chew on a piece of Ginger" I couldn`t agree more!
Glad you found this useful!☺️
Thank you ,,my daughter has bpd-u helped me to use some tricks so that she wont flip out so many times🤗🤗🤗🥰
So happy to hear you found some helpful tools in this video, all the best 🥰
I feel for your daughter and you. I'm sure your daughter is not intentionally flipping out. As a grown women with grown daughters myself who has just been diagnoise with BDP your daughter is suffering and in pain and her acting out is the only way she can express herself. I would advice that she gets therapy. At 49 years old I still find it hard to articulate my feelings into words and find that music helps with that. Sending you both love x
I am diagnosed bipolar borderline personality disorder and ptsd. I’m lost. I need to find a way to manage this
Thank you for this excellent video! It will help me a lot! ♥
Im so glad it did 💗
Thank you so much for this video.
Anytime, thanks for the support 💗
Super helpful! I guess my question though would be how does someone with BPD get motivated to apply these practical tips? Have a family member who has been diagnosed but won’t do therapy, won’t exercise, won’t practice mindfulness…basically does not want to do anything described here. Where does she find the motivation and desire tl begin to practically apply this sort of advice?
Awesome content! Keep it up!!!
Tysm for your videos! It is nice to learn from someone who has BPD as well (not that the therapist videos and povs aren't insightful as well 😅 )
I have been doing diamond painting, drawing, tracing, and other art 🎨 things. I find listening to music 🎧🎶 in the morning is a great way to start my day with a smile on my face and energy to get through the day! I am also a lover of heat, so a nice hot soak or just hunkering down with my heated blanket relaxes and calms me as well. And, of course, prayer! 🙏
I definitely need to get that exercise and 'eat right' going, though. Heh 😅
Again, thank you for your videos. I have shared them with a couple friends, so hopefully they will help to better understand my daily and by minute struggle. 💙😊
Thanks for sharing those helpful tips! ☺️
Hey...I just got diagnosed, I'm so scared and angry at my self
thank u so much for this video!!!
Of course! Thank you for your support 💗
Thank you for the video
I was diagnosed with BPD last may
More great content. Thank you
Thanks for all the support 💗
Have you read Budda and the borderline? . I just ordered the audiobook and it’s really good.
No I haven’t read it yet but I’ve heard great things about it, thanks for the recommendation! 😄
I’ll deffo check it out
BPD advice videos be like _Have you tried BREATHING tho?_
Well, yeah.. If One understands the stress this type of disorder puts the body under - as well as result of childhood or even later trauma - one of the key traits to trauma, especially, long-term exposure..
Is respiratory depression.
Which, can lead to a whole host of health issues, even outside of One’s mental health.
Though, respiratory depression is a major reason why people have difficulty finding a grounded center, such as those with BPD.
Seeing your comments around..
About drugs, making fun of someone utilizing the teachings in a book, and this comment..
You come across as a very disingenuous, lazy, and boring individual.
Best wishes, with all that.
To be honest i get triggerd by helping others. Its like when someone is sad it is very hard for me to feel sentimental or pity for them so i can actually help them. I desperately want to help but its very hard for me to do what i need to do to help.
Giftedness and borderline? Why dabrowski isn't mentioned often (could he have had bpd)? The implications of a genetic component especially if it's the majority? The psychotic like symptoms and what's normal in reference to them in borderlines (how early they can start in life)? I have a lot of questions Google doesn't answer well.
Thank you so much for the great questions! I will take note of them and use them to inspire future video topics 😊
@@onthelinecommunity look into Steve Jobs, Vincent Van Gogh, and Amy Winehouse. All of these incredibly gifted people had personality disorders.
What is the name of the name of the mood tracking app? Thank you🙏
Yeah, so apparently it took almost half of my life to realize that yes, I do indeed have BPD. I know when it comes to the causes, a lot of issues arise from childhood trauma. However, I noticed that no video ever touches on the subject of 'special needs children'. I, myself, grew up a special needs child with only one parent. My mom. She has been my rock for most of my life. But now that she has to focus on my step-father who is battling not only cancer in seven different primary organs, but dementia and Stage 4 COPD. Every five seconds is new to him so she has to stay on her toes. Sadly, both are well past 70 and my mom can't do things like she did when she was younger. Trust me, my mom was bad ass. But age has definitely slowed her down and she hates it. And I know it sounds rather cold of me, but the sheer amount of disrespect, humiliation and disregard my step-father has not just for me, but for my mom? It really pisses me off and turns me into a person I do not like. I'm around people, but I am always so lonely. Like I literally feel like no one understands me, not even my own mom anymore. I'm moody, angry, miserable, sad.... It's hard to sleep. I went from a full non-alcoholic to an alcoholic in little over a month because I believed and still do, that my last relationship ending was absolutely 100% my fault. Prior 40 years of my life? I maybe drank alcohol.... twice a year? And the mood swings.... It isn't just a mood swing, I'm on a moon bungie cord that goes whatever direction it pleases at any second. Anyway, I'm getting off of the subject. Special needs children. We usually have parents that are highly over-protective or.... parents that don't really care at all. Either way, we are led to believe in our early years that what is 'wrong'' with us makes us.... special. But it's far too taboo to even talk about. So as a special needs child, we are all eventually led to believe that no one will accept us.... except our own family. Which leads us to believe that our parents are the only ones who give a damn about our very existence and no one else would even consider us as worthy of..... anything. Growing up like that will definitely lead to BPD. (In my case, follow up that childhood with a life-time of failed relationships that literally have lasted only around two weeks to a month and yeah...... Need I say more?)
Therapy can be great if the therapist is compentent and the pacient is honest. Do you give therapy through the internet?
❤
None works, I take meds to reduce the symptoms but if they have to do so what idb
Imagine two people with bpd dating
dont have to, been there many times zzz.
Exercise is a big one!! Also jersey shore is A+ 10/10 top of the heap trash
I completely agree haha
Consider S
It's always do dis and do dat. I found eckhart tolle and his book the power of now really helped me. It's not about doing but about stop doing and be. Accepting and letting go. Really good points for us who can't let go. Sometimes the solution is really easy and we make it difficult because of how aware we are of the problem.
_"A book cured my BPD!"_
Ok lmao
@@ryan.1990 its not the book but the perspective change I received, its not like it will work for everyone. For me it did and still helps me every day because I help myself and I adapted the way of being he shared in his book
I haven’t read his book, in full, as it was very difficult for me to focus to read it - though, I understand the premise of it.
Reminding myself to stay in the present moment - vs. letting my thoughts spiral about the future - has been incredibly helpful, for me.
In fact, this last week I have been telling myself I need to look up the audiobook, because I think understanding more in-depth will support me in not getting myself worked up.
@@ryan.1990- “I like to come off as an disingenuous asshole.”
@@XOChristianaNicole Says the person with another person as their pfp.
It's almost like I'm borderline or something 🤭
cope with bpd , how can you say that, i have bpd and i’ve been through the wars battles and girl it ain’t going no where, everyone’s bpd is different as it all depends on mainly the trauma you experienced , you should never judge bpd with your bpd , it’s ridiculous jesus
Drugs 😊
@@ryan.1990 don’t want to no what you do with your spare time, knob
@@ryan.1990 you obviously buy a lot of them