Inside the Fragile Narcissist's World
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They will victimize you whilst feeling sorry for themselves and be mad at you for not serving them
My ex was the passive-aggressive “nice guy narcissist”. He would punish by doing things behind your back and smile in your face. It was a never ending smear campaign, with a dose of triangulation and a heaping pile of manipulation! So glad that mind-fuc& is over and I see it, oh so clearly, now!
Yes, they are good actors with a baby face until his/her mask moves. 👀 Then that baby face disappears, and we see like another person! It's so weird. Also, they are hypochondriac.
Baby face…rages…”you need to listen”…”I don’t like your behavior!”
Freedom to regain momentum nd rise from the ashes of multiple Narcissistic abuses lasting a lifetime. Thanks to Richard Grannon who presents with down-to-earth advice to pull us out of ourselves and the long-term abusers. 🎚️💎⛓️🔑🎁P.S. blessings on your JOURNEY to the PLACE you call HOME! ❤
Same. They always talk about you behind your back and set things up to go their way
@Sweetpea-2023 amazing when your eyes open and ypu look back and click, it all makes sense and you see the nasty patterns of behaviour. True light bulb moment!
Watching them flip from vulnerable and covert to overt and malignant is terrifying. After long enough with them, you start to sound like them too.
They are the type of people that will leave you ☠️☠️☠️in the street while they play the “crybaby” role. They shift shapes. Watch your back ✌🏽💯
@@locaitaliana 💯
You mattered, your love mattered, what you gave in the relationship mattered. It always did and still does. You just had the misfortune of giving it to the wrong individual who could never recognize that. Whether they were covert or not, the capacity was never present in them.
Thank you for that. ❤
Oof that thing about stealing ideas hit a nerve because I just met probably a fragile narcissist who literally stole an idea of mine- but styles themself as ‘everyone is trying to steal my spotlight’.
This is exactly my mom! Will be 10 years of no contact in a month. All thanx to Richard, whose channel I found back then!
This makes me feel that I made the right decision and left a long standing friendship. Someone always stealing their amazing ideas, dressing just like them, getting compliments beyond belief and the arrogance was astounding. I don’t miss that one bit!
The fact is you can imitate someone else's style. Particularly I'd be very surprised that I have that kind of effect on someone. I mean aren't we all a bit lacking? So to see that someone likes you enough to copy you, is in itself a big deal, just shows their appreciation of you. Like all fan arts, the artist don't claim that they stole their style, do they? 😂
@@jimismad-b9h Exactly! My dad always said if someone imitates anything about you consider it a compliment. I think there’s deep seated insecurities when people look at it in a negative light.
STOP CARING.
Best advice. Thank you
I've never met one that had rare diseases but I do know if you are sick they will watch you die before they help!
Facts.
The sickest when it suits and the strongest when it praises. The smartest for admiration and the most ignorant for manipulation. The most helpful on their terms and the most incompetent when needed.
This!🎉
@@meowmeow7900 Yes, I was just trying to shorten it a little. You are 100% correct. Weaponized incompetence at its finest!
So accurate
Brilliant education, narcissis education saved my life..am loving me for the first time in my life, loving life now ..
my ex is exactly like this.
she believes to be a great artist, an amazing painter and photographer. The reality is that she can’t draw or take a picture. But she really thinks the world is against her, that other artists are envious of her and conspire against her all the time. She lives in this fantasy, completely detached from reality.
My mother. But she also wasn't lying. But ideas of being a famous country singer. That no one thought momma great singing talent of known country music, but that endeavor led momma to where her really extraordinary and rare talent of song writeing. My mother was and still is the most prolific, diverse , versatile song writer. Absolutely profound with over 300 copy rights and twosongs that were actually sold and was played on local radio. With momma she said she was sick alot, I r tired or a " nervous wrck" due to expectations put on the shoulders if a mother of 4 as well as home makeing. Mom ALWAYS came FIST no matter what or the situation . Even if what she wanted made no sence and actively brought harm to others.
My narc is same..
❤❤❤❤thank you for every post you have made. You are very good to all of us waking up and escaping Narcissistic abuse and they abusers❤❤❤❤❤
The reality is that, these things actually DO happen to people. There are also millions of people, who are quite talented, who’s life will be utterly overlooked, perhaps, until they’re dead. Life is anything but fair. But the vulnerable narcissist weaponizes what’s happened to them. They’ll try to snatch up someone, to make up for those problems. Preferably, someone that is doing better than them and/or who they feel stole their thunder, like their child. I got the impression, from two, that it’s also a way to say, “Even in my crappy situation, by me dominating you, even through victim and virtue signaling, that I’m better and smarter than the you!” This can happen quite a bit, with the aging narcissist, who’s looks and health are in decline. So they may use the one thing they still have, which is their mind, to coerce you. But, they will also use grey hair and wrinkles, because they know that, even if you won’t comply, the merry band of enablers will come to their rescue, to force your hand.
😮 WOW! This is one of the most lucid takes on NPD I have ever read. You are someone I would enjoy conversing with on the regular. Too bad you are so "private.* 😅 Subbed and hope I see future comments. This one is sui generis! 👏👏👏
@@zareththealchemist8982 thanks. But those autocorrect typos!🥴 Fixed!
@@chanellovely2836 yes. I’m one of the very many, who write from experience. More than one experience where, perhaps, I was targeted, for some of those reasons. It’s as painful to be hurt by these people, as it is watch them go down and have no answers for them, that don’t involve your own demise.
Oh no......not the merry band of enablers . Lol
@@lionface1364 Dr. Ramani said it well and I can just see them now. They can be like the Ladies Auxiliary. It’s like a narc having their personal HOA, meant to keep everyone else in line.👒
He’s nailed it! I know 2 women just like this. I laughed out loud hearing his descriptions because they are sum up these 2 women perfectly,
The bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral
Excellent analysis! I’m using that one😊😊
Damn… just… nailed it.
Today is a great day
We need this ! Richard is hilarious
This is my supervisor and he is such an absolute loser. I almost feel sorry for him.
Pitty parties and is in competition with everyone else who is worse off. One negative and sad story after another. One condition after another and all types of surgeries.
Thanks for the laugh 😂🤣 Mine tried telling me that the doctor said he has an unusually big heart and he might be sick... I deaded the issue and told him not to speak of things he wouldn't want...he was visibly bummed that I didn't go along with it and allow him to be a victim in peace 😅
Mine was such a constant attention seeker through telling anyone who would listen about all his imagined illnesses. My son and I would wage bets of how many minutes into the conversation he would start with the illness stories
Yes.
10000000% correct!!!!
And of course, they tried to gaslight me that what had happened had not happened :D Very grateful for that haha.
Ty for the sermon today. God has a great turnaround time :)
Try being their doctor! Lol
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EVERYTHING, EVERYONE, EVERY BREATH..... "Is a NIGHTMARE"....
😂😂😂😂 Very Bizzare Mentality...
lived it
😂 I actually did get a reaction from an antidrpressant - 1 in 10,000 apparently 😂 I developed polymorphic light disorder and now I'm allergic to strong sunlight! Seriously. My skin turns into a weeping, swollen, blistering, itchy af hot mess that scars.
Don't label us all willy nilly Mr Grannon 😅
Not to mention the chronic envy over other people’s achievements.
My ex exactly 😂he was no good at anything but believes world is against him lol
Well I am allergic to white light 😅
My ex is just like that. Empty inside but a social and moral justice police in the outside. Got nothing going on in life and I never understand why this person is so patient and slow. And demanding. Because there’s nothing going on in their life that if you can extend the time of transportation by walking leisurely - they would …. Or wait 5 hours at the airport just because. Take the longest flight . Oh man so boring
And what about:
"I know! I'm such a baaaad mother. No matter what a huuuge effort I make to sacrifice for everyone, it's still MY fault, and no one gives credit to everything that I've done!"
(sob, sob...)
I worked reception through school while making peanuts from my other high-level job cuz I was terrible at sales lol, and it was a challenge to my ego for sure. But humility, though yes I did have to remind myself we are all equal, kept me whole, positive and focused. If I had both a loving partner and my dreams I would be perfectly content and patient. Not a miserable, negative little ninny :D And that is the difference! You are right. Ego.
Self fulfilling prophecy? Always talked about “Murphy’s Law” if something bad is going to happen it’s going to happen to me, I swear, ask my dad 🤣 my covert narc did end up with a serious rare autoimmune disease!!! His body is kinda consuming itself!!
Haha had to find this! Case and point :) Ever since they landed a week or so ago they would not leave me alone. Been coordinating getting their stuff out of my house but it was getting ridiculous. When I lost patience with that, a few days later they suddenly were very sick, with 'covid or something'. Perhaps I would have been suckered into feeling bad had you not kindly pointed out this isn't terrible luck but a lack of supply :D I have no doubt their health is failing now that all supply is gone. I pitied them pre-emptively. Oops!
Anyhow when that failed they only THEN, today during the sermon haha, asked how I am doing and followed up on all the turmoil and change in my life atm. A month and a half later. Sorry bit late for that lol! Said so and that I'm moving on now :) Of two things I am certain - I WILL see clearly and they will never see me again.
Ah feels nice! Very proud of how I handled all that :) And with a smile on my face too and goodwill in my heart! Even the threats were delivered kindly and courteously. Anything is possible now :)
_THIS WAS MY EX HUSBAND._ He wanted to get in the Army as a sniper but he had fallen arches and his vision wasn't 20/20. He was the type of person who always had a sob story and KNEW he was selfish, but he never accepted that it was costing me my energy, wondering when he would fall down and cry about his lost chance at greatness and how he should have a manager position when he constantly quit without notice.
Too be fair Richard have you ever made something your proud of after experiencing narc abuse to the point where you have a full on breakdown?
This was me. I started making a film and I was pretty proud of it. It was just after covid and there's a few things in the narrative that I think are odd that I think correlate to Narcissistic abuse for example, you're not gonna distribute a trial vaccine through a company that's lied about results in the past and expect it to go well when you make your slogan trust science. It's very surprising how many people make you feel like your going crazy for pointing out that that's weird. Which is exactly what I did. I started making a film believing that because I could communicate what I believed was the truth better than anyone else, that whoever "they" were they would likely be collecting data on people who are able to do that because everyone else was stuck in the he said she said matrix of politics and they, the narcs at the top are essentially trying to syphen our energy and have created a world in their own image to act out their inner tourment. I was into conspiracies big time and you've probably heard the whole elite are devil worshiping pedophiles trying to reprogram us to worship satan. My experience with narc abuse had garnered my attention to the likeness of Satan as an archetype of Narcissism and it's like all these pieces just started falling into place and I believed you've talked about in the past about how society is essentially programmed to reward Narcissism and designed basically for them to syphon our energy.
Everyone thought I was crazy. all my family had abandoned me except to lecture me on forgiving my parents. I am diagnosed with autism (I wasn't at the time) and it just broke me. I was very vocal about how I felt posting it all over social media because I was angry. It just opened me up to more gaslighting and it became a psychosis. I also believed I'd discovered what god was because everything branches, this was after I cut them off. I was living with a guy who told me I'm killing the vibe for being upset but the whole time I was there I had to listen to him be more upset and carry on like a man child because he died in a video game. plants, fungi and our nerves, they all grow very similar, they all evolved from a common ancestor billions of years ago. If you imagine the 4th dimension as a linear progression you have a tree of every single atom of every single life all connected to eachother. So there's this multi layred pattern of branching. And then when we get into quantum physics with 5+dimensions it's like a timeline branching off of a timeline at least that's how I saw it being explained. And I thought wait a tick have I just figured it out? Everyone had always made me out to be dumber than I was and it was really exciting, I was open to being wrong but I wasn't gonna tolerate disrespect.
So while all that's happening
I started working on a film and I really loved the concept and all of a sudden it starts to appear in every single media and it's like who the hell is going to believe that you came up with it first. This is exactly what a sadistic narcissist who has collected all you data would do to stop you from calling them out and in the moment It can be very difficult not to get overwhelmed and think like this
I'm not sure if this proves you're right but I've been obsessing about how this came across for the last 2 hours. I was really triggered and I need to point out or maybe I don't that I'm not very agressive or passive agressive. I'm very irritable but I don't like being that way to people and I try not to because it's unkind and undeserving but I obsess over how I sound when I communicate a lot. I really just wanna know what the hell I am. They say a narcissist isn't capable of self reflection and that if I'm that obsessed with finding out than I'm likely not. But I've full on spent the last 2 hours arguing with hypathetical scenarios. I have felt that I'm this brilliant genius that no one has recognised but I'm aware of the reality around me. And if this has come across as aggression I apologise
I also don't think I'm really better than everyone else, the film I'm making sometimes I feel is trash, sometimes I like it but it's not a masterpiece, it's a rough cut so like if you watched it it's just bad drawings and scenes from other movies arranged to create a story with a soundtrack. What I'm trying to say is I know I'm not the smartest person in the world I know I likely haven't figured out what god is and I'm not the greatest artist either. I wouldn't show my drawing ability to an exhibit and be mad that something a lot better won the prize and I wouldn't be disappointed if I didn't get an Oscar. Everyone I've showed has said they liked it I'm not sure if they're just trying to be nice but the movies that came out after covid, after I was making it, after I thought Id discovered some insight to the satanic elite conspericy which I thought was rational after experiencing narc abuse. Had bits and pieces of my film that were accompanying with dialogue like "you're a Joke" "we can kill one person, one stupid person that no one cares about"
And at the same time I was living with a woman who would have an issue if you didn't wash your dishes right away, but her floor was always covered in dogshit. She had to have the price of the house evaluated because she was buying it off her friend she gives us an earful about making everything spotless and how everyone has to pitch in and help out or we're gonna get kicked out. She then goes and spends $800 getting hair extensions between 6 and 11pm. Gives me an earful because I fed her dogs outside to give them a chance to go to the toilet before they come in and I moved an air con into the hallway, there was still plenty of room , her dogs also got into the bin that day and I mopped the floor. She comes home and gives me an earful about all the shit in the hallway, that the floor is the least of her problems and because I fed the dogs outside because apparently that's how she calms them down although, when I was there she gave them very little attention other than to validate her need for control. She's still stressing about the evaluation and I asked if she could take time off work? She says she can't afford to but then takes time off anyway to look after her mum's dog which she can't look after at the house for some reason and disappears with a roast dinner. And asks me to wash up her slow cooker. And then she goes to a party the next night. Morral of the story is I believed I was being spied on by the Illuminati and that they were trying to steal my ideas to prevent me from becoming successful so I couldn't expose them. And then Wonka comes out and it's about Willy Wonka moving in with this woman and the chocolate Illuminati is spying on him and steals his inventions to sabotage his career. At the same time, the new doctor who special came out and they'd changed the design of the sonic screwdriver that had looked consistent for over 50 years and now all of a sudden looks remarkably similar to something I'd drawn 2 months earlier called the time watch . And I thought hey you made it blue instead of grey and you put the blue button in the bottom right. It's like you took what I drew and put it in ai and said make this real.
And if you'd experienced all that I guarantee you that too and extent you'd feel a similar way
Negativistic isn’t a word. Objective fact.
I know a guy that absolutely has weird diseases that you never heard of unless you went to medical school.
A nurse told him about people who have several mini strokes, several times a day and I heard him repeating to someone that he was having them.
Someone who gets told by a doctor...😂😂
My mother
Ridiculously accurate😂
Damn Straight!
Thanks for beating me to my own business
God IS good. Disconnect and be free… repeat often. Humans are a rare breed. AI has its “hands” full. Let’s compliment the “future self” with inventions and celebrations of LIFE here on Earth. 🌍 ❤😂🎉🎈🎊💌
Yup my ex repeatedly told me he had cancer an extremely rare kind and had to have surgery on his hospital bed! Aye right, that only happens in movies! I burst out laughing when he said that and called a nurse over, he raged , passively aggressively at her and signed himself out. Hrs later I goy the call that paramedics were at his house and he was unconscious with a pile of empty pill wrappers next to him and a note to call me. I told the paramedics to look through all his drawers as he had bags of empty pill wrappers saved in plastic bags. Then the paramedics caught him opening an eye...yup all faked. He wasn't readmitted. I had blocked him yet he claimed I was his emergency contact so always called! Yup his music was stolen, at work everyone stole his ideas he even claimed to have salpingitis til I pointed out he didn't have fallopian tubes 😂 I'm laughing now but living with that and the ensuing melt down because I dared to challenge was pathetic. Everyone laughs at them behind their back. Everyone had to take a first aid course, all passed but if someone took ill, he walked around with a stethoscope round his neck, he thought he was superior but was a laughing stock. They really live in an alternate universe, laughable but oh they can be so cruel! 😮
Cluster B particularly bpd have all autoimmune diseases!!!???
Usually yes😂
Not fun to be around.
Oh dear. Spot on. Illness. Misunderstood genius. 🙈 if they weren't so destructive and selfish it might just be funny.
G to a T 😂
The sad thing is I knew deep down that's what the ailments were - that's why I tried to beef up their confidence and emotional well-being. I knew that would do it. Now why would regular existence drive a person to death lol. Smh no mercy for the devil must never forget :)
Yup. My mother-in-law always talks about how she can’t eat things like grapes, peaches, etc., because they ferment in her stomach and she gets drunk. Freaking drama queen! I’m not buying it. She’s not diabetic, or hypoglycemic. And she said that this happened to her when she was younger.
The one is got rid of was all of this and ate the same gruel every day
The narccistist I new was a friendship , said he was a musician , he,s not , he just plays guitar at home , all weird fantasy,s
So , you've met my mother 😢
Or a stay home in the house allll the time person…
It’s like a case study when you do rumble it. I watch a family member now through very different eyes but just how far down the rabbit does it go? Very dark..
I'm low-key, a narcissistic person lol
all the women in my family are the biggest victim that ever existed
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Do you know Darvo and what that can do to people ??
What is actually your opinion of people that became codependent ?Sounds like you blame them/ us .Shame and blame is not healing as it was shame and blame that got us there in the citat place .Thank you for listening
Are you talking about trump?
They have a demonic spirit leading them. Unfortunate, the only way they can be saved is by Jesus Christ.
It is very sad for them because they typically won't lay their pride ask for help.
As Christians, we should pray for them. Don't hold hatred, that only hurts you.
And i am by no means condoning the abuse they put us through. Get out and save yourself...
"Don't hold hatred, that only hurts you".
"Get out and save yourself".
That's excellent advice. I do disagree about if they can be saved, as the current understanding is that they will never be able to change enough, for them to be safe to have a relationship with.
But I respect your heart and desire to help. Good job there 😊
hey hey, whats up... would you believe me that god of war 3 .stole my axe ? would you believe that
Uh oh! Some people have those hellish medical issues and are not deluded, not narcissistic, not malingering.
True😂
Lmao
100%. Mine is constantly telling me how much better she is at things than other people. And is almost always WAY off base.
This rat beat me to my own business