I always thought in a healthy relationship we discover depths and faults in each other. Not so with a narc: the more you know about them, the more they hate you. You’re not supposed to figure them out.
Just another fella making stuff up and acting like he’s knowledgable, whilst simultaneously demonstrating what little value there is in his knowledge. Standard behaviour for a Grannon victim.
@@samuelfoston4556 if you have ever experienced being in a close relationship with a narcissist (family members, friends etc.) then you would know that the above comment is accurate. You don't need to have a PhD in psychology to understand the damage done by narcissists - you just need to have live through it.
No, we are not supposed figure them out, in their minds we are stupid and weak, and not at all that we are kind, caring and patient too much for our good. We rather delude ourselves for a period of time than admit that these kind of creatures can exist. When narcs get figured out by us, their ego can't bare the fact that stupid and weak are actually them.
When I finally couldn’t stand it and wrote a long text telling him how he hurt me and how I thought he was narcissistic, he blocked me and told me he didn’t trust me. He didn’t like that I saw through him. I’m now a threat, to exposing him for who he is.
I told my ex years ago that I had figured him out and that he couldn't lie to me anymore, so just give it up. He then packed a suitcase and left and never returned, not even for the rest of his stuff. Of course little did I know at the time his new supply was all ready to go.
When he was caught red handed cheating and others were witnesses to it....he broke a 10 year sobriety and had to go to rehab. In his 30 days he was FORCED to look inside with intense therapy, no drugs, no alcohol and no family. He came home a different man BUT then the mask when back on and he returned to who he was. I left him in May. It's been such a painful journey but I know there will be a light at the end
Do the thin skinned narcissist always have “health issues”? I can’t get over how many health issues this person had. From nasal passages being clogged to gout, and heart burn. If I ever said I have some health issue like I’m really tired or a pain somewhere (which was rare) within minutes or hours without fail he came up with some problem himself. It was like he always had to be in pain above me, the attention was all about him. It was exhausting, I felt more like his mother than his gf.
I would say a Narcissist is more likely to at least imply that you are whinging about your own health problems before one upping you. A sick partner is too good an opportunity to miss because you are vulnerable at the time. If this guy didn't try to make you feel worse in some way then not a Narcissist, even a fragile. Maybe just an unfortunate attention seeking hangover from childhood.
I found that no-one was allowed to suffer or endure more pain than him..I used my pain or illness "as a way to gain sympathy" , even when I hadn't told anyone that I was illl...but he had felt genuine, life ending pain that he found his own way out of...
The narc i know always has health issues, it was a way of getting more attention because he would get looked after and pandered to. He would go to the doctor's/hospital for tests everything would come back OK. Also anything that he did have was the 'worse case the doctor had seen'.
Richard, I just realized that because I had an experience with a narcissist this was a big gap that I was missing in my personality to be able to deal with the world now I’m a completely different person. I’m so strong now I feel so adult and courageous.
I agree. Slightly similar Story here... I was massively triggered by the abuse from a female Narc... and I mean, I caused a shit storm lol.. She ghosted and spent the next few months on cloud nine, fully fuelled from my emotional Narc supply. I spent the next 18 months figuring out why I allowed myself to be triggered to such a degree (abandonment trauma) and then shone the light on all of that... and then educated myself on NPD... Now, when I'm out in the wild, it's like having vision like the matrix haha... you see people's code, and dodge those bullets just like neo 😂. She has wandered back into my life via a triangulation, and is full of rage because "I'm not the person she thought I was" haha... All she gets from me, is cold, hard silence, and a thank you for healing a part of myself. Take care
Telling people to give up hope on a narcissist that they can change can sound bad in and of itself, but actually can save someone from wasting so much of their life on a person who will only continue to cause damage and wreak havoc month after month, year after year whilst waiting for the change that will never come.
I am just learning about npd and am shocked that the person that says they love you can be so cruel. My stories are exactly what all of your videos say. They truly never think they do anything wrong, and lie lie lie even when the truth is in their face. It’s painful because I wanted to be loved so much that I looked past all the negative behaviour for years.
I absolutely agree that our current societal 'norms' have created the conditions that allow narcissistic behaviours to exist largely unchecked. My ex-boyfriend was a classic case in point - he much preferred his online life as it allowed him greater control & manipulation over others than his real self ever could 😥✨
So true. 'My' narc was my cyberstalker - much easier to do when you're sat behind a keyboard hacking someone's phone & accounts. It was literally a living a hell. He has his own UA-cam channel (how I met him) where he props up his ego given the sheer banality of his own real world existence. He's about 30 & im in my late 30s; no way would've I been sat on social media all day at his age, like, get a life.
Absolutely, they have created this world around them that they really believe is real. But it is all in their head. Their flawed connection to reality leads them to understand the world only on their terms. They get frustrated when you don't submit to their world view, because it shows your strength and their lack of reality. They envy your ability to live in reality and manage the issues that come with life. They cannot accept what challenges them. It is like watching a petulant child having a fit. To a certain extent, they are annoying.
Man you're good! You described my ex that took me years to 'See'. I look back and think 'damn, am I stupid' but at the time when that occured I had allot going on with much limitations to resolve them. Now I look back that I was meant to go through that as a life's lesson. Life is like that, you repeat lessons until you get it right. And when you look back you will be proud of what you went through and learned from that can Help others.
I was thinking this morning about how bizarre it was that I couldn't see it when I was in it and I had no awareness of the changes in myself. It's not us! We didn't look for it because it's not how we think or feel. I'm am coming to the belief that it is demonic!!
Same here but it was my parents. Ones is dead now but the one that is alive has gone off the deep end over nothing that is real because they want to have control of things that are not theirs to control.
@@thecustodian1023 I can understand what you're describing as it sounds similar to my mother. I could never figure out if she was this kind of person (narcissist) or the trauma she went through before we were born. 'Family' can be found all around you of course though, from friends to acquaintance (just wish more in the world could realize this)
@@crystalclear5397 Yea, my friends have been awesome through all of this, but the family is either brainwashed by their BS and does not want to look at the mountain of evidence I have against them now. Or they just want to stay out of it in hopes the narcs don't come after them next if they do take me out. The rest seem to have no clue any of this has been running out for nearly two-plus years, which says everyone in the immediate family has put a lot of effort into making sure this all stays under the radar.
Love this lecture 🎉.. I just left a narcissistic boss.. Never understood his behaviour.. His eyes are always dead.. I never felt comfortable with him.. I was always afraid, exhausted, i won't be able to sleep... Till now, I still carry those pains in my neck for the past 5 months... It's so stressful and exhausting
Exactly about therapy working for them! Only and only if at the lowest moments they're forced to look at themselves and it seems that they can change....but you putting your hopes up will end in another heartbreak - as soon as they feeling better, they will hurt you again and hard. Also, I've noticed with my ex narc, when he'd spiral down into mortification, after he gets out of it, his grandiosity would raise to immensely high levels for several days, and that's when they're most dangerous
The narcissist in my life is from South America and his family is very tribe like and I noticed over the years that they support his narcissism. They are not allowed to talk about feelings or it’s not supported
6:30 Narcissistic mortification: if that small window of opportunity opens, of the narc's total collapse and abandonment of all support and flying monkeys, they may be open to seeking some feedback or therapy. But my experience showed me it's like a rubber band. The awareness is temporary. It stretches enough to self-soothe and but snaps back to their normal.- MAGAville, Pennsyltucky
I totally agree, it truly does take a village to bring up a child. If we have no where to turn for what we need those needs go unfulfilled, and that leads to a messy head!
I was with who I suspect was a covert narcissist for 4years. He always played the victim, always someone out to get him etc. It has been 4 months since he left me and I now realise that I knew basically nothing about him. We never lived together, cause my parents lived with me as my mom was very sick. She died last year Oct., I became depressed and between him, my grieving dad and my kids, he started complaining I wasn't paying enough attention to him. My explaining my depression, my other responsibilities fell on deaf ears. He didn't try to help, or actually showed much empathy. So he started a month long online affair with a woman on the other side of the country, while still telling me he loves me until the day before she packed up her life and moved with her little daughter to live with him. (Think she has issues too). From what I have heard his personality has done a 180° degree turn with her, suddenly he is in incredible debt etc. It just boggles the mind🙄
Thank you for the work you do and the effort that you give in the process. Brilliant Conversation. I believe, just as you pointed out, the power of numbers in small groups forces accountability. Not everyone has Integrity. I say this out loud quite a bit, that if there had been a third party present in the majority of arguments regarding morality with family members, friends and significant others, those disagreements would have ended much sooner, and with less resistance. Exceptionally less gaslighting for sure. Unfortunately my dichotomy always has me feeling sorry for the aggressor because I realize it is in fact not their fault, but a trait that has either been passed down through generations (and/or) caused from trauma. This has always led to giving eternal forgiveness, yet always being the only one to ever apologize.
Don't feel sorry for them as they know exactly what they are doing as they know right from wrong as society dictates this. Feeling sorry for them makes you an easy target by a narcissist. It lays your life wide for a narcissist to come in and invade and destroy your life. You have to hold them accountable as this will prevent a hostile takeover of your piece, happiness, and causing total destruction in your life.
The aspect of the tribal culture where you can find different authority figures is very interesting. I myself had a fallout with my family during my teenage years and luckly found people on the internet who did not marginalized me. There's a chance the trauma of being alienated from my family would've turned me into a narcissist, thank God it didn't happen. Thank you and I'm watching it from Brazil
the second part of the video is golden! the human psyche and emotional needs are not adapted to the modern lifestyle. we evolved to live in small, close-knit bands. watching from Germany 🇩🇪
My wife and I have been separated two years now. Her mother was the last person propping her up with supply and she passed away recently. She has been showing signs of mortification. I appreciate you mentioning this because it’s the first time I’ve heard the term. She indicated willingness to attend counseling and is completely defeated, saying things like, “I died.” I’m taking your warning to heart as well, I can’t hold much hope she’ll change, but she has agreed to marriage counseling so maybe the doors open for change. 🤞🏼
No don't believe in that she will change. She will use the psychiatrist as a source of temporary supply (she will try to manipulate the psychiatrist). Then when her empty fuel matrix has been recharged to a minimum to restart the false self, she will start hunting for new long term supplies- you are just another source if you return. Did you watch the movie Dracula with Keanu Reeves? When Dracula was weak he was mortified when he was being transported in a coffin but recharged after...
From my experience a TRUE Narcissist could Care Less about EVERYTHING EXCEPT 1 THING.....REPUTATION! Without its Grandiose Reputation it can't Weave its Evil Web
This is gonna sound weird but does anyone find Richard attractive? I have to say being attracted to someone other than a narc is like blessing to me at the moment lol. I usually find very intelligent men & women attractive which he is; this is so refreshing! Sorry Richard, I still love your content 😊
Great video! For me there was nothing to find out, I could tell all of this already, from the very first interaction, however long ago it was and even when somebody starts to lean into developing a narcissistic personality if they weren't one before. As someone who grew up very quiet, being observant is like my middle name. It's effortless and very easy to read people, good people and bad. I have had my fair share of narcissism directed my way and everything you said is on point. I see them watching and copying me even though they act like I am insignificant. However much they think people rate them, I know they believe I rate them way more way more than I actually do, and that is not at all. The very decision they make to obsess over you just to hurt you shows that you are all they think about which is in itself, ironic.
I’m learning so much from your videos, Richard. Deciding right now which course of yours to take first after being discarded a month ago. I’m actually stunned at how much this hurts.
You're an amazing person Richard, I'm incredibly grateful for the content that you've been producing. I previously thought I was going insane and that the whole world is out to get me type thing but now that I've become aware of narcissism it makes all the sense in the world. They are the energy vampires people talk about. I think it is brave of you that you are outgoing about your sexuality, I personally don't think it's a matter of black-and-white gay or straight type scenario that there is a huge spectrum of different sexual preferences and dispositions. I consider myself mostly heterosexual, but bisexual under specific conditions. But I have found it not an easy thing to be on but about or share with people without misunderstandings or something like judgment. You're a great man and I'm grateful to have come across you and your work. It's funny that I get the impression that these narcissist or not even human and the same way I am if that makes sense. I am an empathic sigma infj so to me these a narcissist sociopaths and psychopaths seem like literal demons
Never really heard of narcissism in the 60’s,70’s and 80’s. It probably was there with abusive husbands. Did the internet bring it out more with people and self absorbed or the knowledge of the internet? Grown men age 65 ish are narcissists, did they experience trauma or idolizing from parents in the 50’s and 60’s?
Narcissism was alive and well always. It was just not widely understood or talked about back then. With the internet and social media we have so much more access to information and the ability to share it than we did previously. Before, if you were living with a narcissist you probably just thought You were the crazy one and had no one to turn to for help.
Yeah the cannibal spirit that begins with a W from Native American folklore. I have always loved the idea of tribal communities, what I had growing up was the Covert would break down and I would eternally walk around endlessly in NY, just can't talk to anyone and the streets are empty. You feel unwanted by everyone, as you get older you can see the dilemma which we have and how strange it feels to talk to a young child by themselves, but back then all people seemed to do is reject us, oh well.
My family have a delusional sense of what my narc mother really was who pasted away this year they paint her out to be something she wasn't which go to show how good they are at pulling the wool over people eyes
Out of design they calculate what personality traits they can manipulate to obtain a saintly image. Other personality types they know they cannot manipulate they put forward a true self. Not meaning they are true but they’ll be assholes towards these people.
@@Miami904 They need reactions from people to be able to feed on and make you out to be the bad guy. On the other side they manipulate others to make themselves look innocent. This is why the best way to beat a Narcissist is simply “grey rock” technique and they will expose themselves eventually.
I RECOGNIZED how my ex alway creating situation even we in the hart of our sleeping, if I pull the blanket, he will woks up like ghost and kidnape the blanket ! it's cold in Canada during the winter
If you think you are one , congratulations you are already on your way to healing .....be gentle with yourself , observe your behavior and write down your thought patterns ....identify your naec traits by one by one and change slowly ...much love to you ❤❤❤
When we were in Versailles we went up the baack stairs from the farden, and he asked where the vench eent in- a orop from the nivue "Desirëe" from Disney😊
I wonder if they used palo santo to cleanse folk with that ‘W’ inside of them. The alienation from your kids was one of the worst parts of the discard. It ripped my insides out😢.
On wet-nursing which is the term for breastfeeding a child you didn't birth, as a female, if a woman breastfed me as a baby, her sons become my brothers its forbidden for us to marry in Sharia Islamic Law. As a custom generally, its across cultures and was also a practice in the UK.
Your videos have been a life saver for me man thank you so much Also side note, I had a dream about you a few nights ago where we were dating and it was quite wonderful haha I think ive been watching your videos too much 😂
My name is Michele... Im in tje middle if this hell! Im stuck here at this time cuz we are homeless living on the side of the road along with other homeless people. The street is lined with homeless individuals. My car is broke down, he stole my bank card from me and im needing to reorder another one but need a physical addy, he has made it look as thou im the crazy one therefore i have not many friends SO IM STUCK AT THIS MOMENT. What I need to know is how to deal with this so that I dont go CRAZY...
I was just going to mention Middle Eastern culture which makes sense as to why I / my situation not just me live apart….in fact California is a hub for Middle Easterns.
Hi Richard, this particular video of yours has stirred me to comment. The 5 weaknesses, I agree with. I do not think I would understand life if I was not surrounded by NARCISSISTS and NARCISSISM! Just to speak of the NARCISSISTIC supply depletion for a moment and you have described what is occurring to my NARCISSIST partner right now. Off the cuff, he has started referring to his awful childhood and recognized that it was HELL, BUT, he then went on to say that, "Fortunately I haven´t been traumatized! I have just got on with my life!" Something is stirring but the delusional, independent, adult male image that he has of himself is in no danger of coming apart! The voice asking about societal narcissism!!! I am writing about just this in my books and on my blog. I left the UK in my teens (mid 1980s), to go in search of REAL HUMAN BEINGS. I had known the odd one or two in the UK but without a shadow of a doubt, the British society has been NARCISSIST for many millenia! MAN-KIND is NARCISSIST! That is my theory! There is a clear difference between MAN-KIND, a kind of man and a male HUMAN BEING. This is about modern humans versus ancient humans. EVOLUTION is at the root of this. Having done a lot of kilometers in my search for HUMAN BEINGS, I discovered that the African continent was filled with them. Yes, MAN-KIND has ever been a rapist and sadly, the ancient hominids (man-kind), returned to Africa, Asia and South America and have introduced their genetics into the modern human populations of the Southern Hemisphere. I spent some weeks with folk from the WODAABE ethnic tribe. Now Richard, I went looking for these folk in particular. Many days and nights were spent in the Sahara Desert with the ethnic Toureg nomadic peoples too. NARCISSISM does not exist amongst the ethnic peoples that I met. The WODAABE though are my ultimate role models. The single males live in family clans and the single females also live in family clans. They live separately as males and females whilst single. They cross paths frequently but do not speak until after dark and to quote my favourite troubadour Mark Knopfler: "The midnight bargains have been struck between the seven beaus and their belles!" They are very sexual females and the males learn how to be seductors. It is a fantastic culture. I think I may have to head back there myself. The males of these ethnic tribes are gorgeous and so well learned in love-making techniques. WOW!! Where you have MAN-KIND you will have NARCISSISM. Because MAN-KIND is a stereotype. MAN-KIND is a delusional entity. MAN-KIND are those born from ancient genes who have resisted human EVOLUTION. The inferiority complex, dramatic cowardliness, total lack of feeling for any other than themselves, are some of the hallmarks of MAN-KIND! Hence the need for a STEREOTYPE for males to try and emulate. MAN-KIND must be a violent, mentally sick, depraved, hideous creature who does HIS MALE master´s bidding. Who keeps women under lock and key and gagged as well; lest we reveal his truths. Because yes, sad to say Richard, when you have known as many guys as I have in Europe, you realize that NARCISSISM is pandemic! Families have begun to EVOLVE and be more caring but to combat that, our MAN-MADE societies which are still led by MAN-KIND, are making a concerted effort to ensure that female equality does not happen. YES, NARCISSISM is now being openly taught to all new young recruits. The SPARE PARTS as I think of them. More TOOLS for the MAN-MADE machine that protects MAN-KIND´S TRUTH!!
They look pathetic after you heal or reach a point in healing. I hold him/them in dual perspectives. A pathetic child, but also a scary alien like monster.
So this person I know whos been smearing my name claims to have bipolar. I can identify that it is CLEARLY covert narcissism because they given the bipolar sob story etc. She is so sneaky its actually unbelievable the change in her. She struggles with not having attention.
I want to assist my 26 year old son - father alcohol dependant charismatic narcissist .. my ex of 12 years ….. Son has low self esteem but trauma bonded to him ?
How did ur own son turn out into a narcissist was his dad one or are you one? I always sus when parents say that there child is personality disordered.
Doesn't mortification make them very angry though ? And desperation becomes animalistic and lash out with violence instead of self reflection because that's harder to deal with 🤔
Because it’s (narcissistic )views are culturally and worldwide supported and these ways of life were exercised like a muscle defense mechanism then they -the narcissist -would always think and have behaviors reinforced that the are always right because everyone in society would agree with them and they’re ways as well makes total sense to why do they or would they need help at all from the world we came from and not the world we want to live in 🥰 good chat!
Question: how do you practice being your true self, when you never done that as a codependent. If I say to myself :" I give you the permission to be yourself. " it's a great statement but... How do you start? I grew up in a sect and like a little soldier I had to obey and follow. I had to stay within the lines of sectarian thinking if I ever wanted to express myself. On top of it a very critical narcissistic mom, and codependent passive and submissive dad. I have forgiven and understood, and revolted 32 years ago as a teen. But what I've done since has been very random things like partying, dating boys, going into jobs that I did as a pressure of society, but never purely for me. I've always felt lost as to what I really passionately want to do. When I search that place it's like a big blank. Any suggestions?
Sometimes you shouldn’t look for an answer within yourself, many times in life I’ve found that the answer wasn't to be found through introspection - although introspection can be incredibly useful for figuring out whether something resonates with you or adds to your life - but instead through going out and trying your hand at various things. So if you’re wondering what you’re passionate about, maybe you should head out and find something that you truly like to do, something you’ve never done before perhaps. Just a suggestion ✌️
I´ve been receiving anonymous WhatsApp messages for the last 2 years. The messages implied that I was not loyal to my partner. Is it possible that my own partner is who sends the messages? Have you ever heard about something similar?
@@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334 Do you get the child at all? Get a friend over to take the child out back where you've music on, as soon as they arrive. Have a camera with recorder set up where it's a surefire bet the narc will stand. Stay very calm but provoke them by saying something softly that would seem innocuous but you know will set them off into a crazy rage, have police on speed dial and Bob's your uncle. Get inventive but safety first. Dig up any dirt on them you can use and be well organised so it's 💯proof evidence. What was that you found in your child's backpack?! A bound diary, date and time stamped is good for Court. 👮♂️😠😈🤬👮♀️✌️
@@louisegarner8888 Definitely! That is Exactly what I did here. Take pictures, record the conversations, take screenshots of text history, things like that. I did have issues with the cops though, my small city cops Suck and always took his side.....Until only once and Finally spoke with and later came when I called was a female cop. The male cops with her were a disgrace, as I explained what took place when they arrived, 'Thats not what we hurd, we hurd you going off and snapping at him from the outside of the window when we got here', yes dummy- when You Got here. You weren't here just prior to hear or see what took place by him that lead me to yell like that you hurd. Are you that narrow minded or on your male ego high horse? He was choking me but just because there was no signs they thought I was lying when I brought it up in my first earlier call that night.
My lil sister is a narc. She's 37. Years after year she's more into lying, threatening, and abusing. At the end she just feels more entitled than ever. Crazy!
@@oldboy-g8y i tried the nice root for the longest time. Shrugging off criticisms and trying to be civil. That of course got me only more of the same. So instead of taking it inwards I bounced it back. First I left then I called him out on his lies and shamed him for it. Said he was a child…. Weak and an ungrateful____. Then all the truths came out of him. Tit for tat baby! There is no winning with a narc. Just leave and say you peace when you are in a safe place.
@@oldboy-g8yBy exposing their lies, deceit in such a way and with evidence they simply cannot refute or deny. Once you've blown their cover, you are no longer of any value and they will resent and loathe you for it. They will try to make you pay dearly for ruining their image, crumbling their fake world and will discard you in the cruelest way possible. These narcs move on to the next victim at the speed of light because they always have backups/replacements waiting on the back burner, or shelf.
@@verumbellator6899Yes something similar worked for me face them with it ,they have to come out of hiding but watch your opportunity softly ,there's a time and a place use wisdom stay safe too Just my humble opinions ( I've taken alot of flak narcissism is every where these days )
My lil sister is a narc. She's 37. Years after year she's more into lying, threatening, and abusing. the more surprising thing is that she feels more entitled than ever. Sick!!😳
Richard, you, BY FAR, are the BEST source of information on NPD that I have come across and the level of understanding i have been able to achieve thanks to you has been a blessing and a lifesaver
They become a predictable bore for anyone remotely recovered from a BPD or just plain old healthy having a first encounter with one. They are a house of cards I recently engaged with a covert narc. It has been a fascinating unravelling . The disengagement was swift and graceful on my end. . Now the narrative is imploding as efforts at triangulation and reality checks are setting in. Still…. Disappointing I will miss the philosophical chats and psychological and esoteric shares. Never should have made love after a year of talking and listening. The cues were there . My empathetic ass showed up only to show me empathy is a foil . A tin foil hat for us “weirdo” different folk who seek affirmation when we are having a motivation / creative block. Procrastination is an invitation for these types. Just saying,, Idle hands Idealism Idolatry Idle minds The Id. God save the ego
@@jennyadee913 It was kinda hard to follow most of your comment but the end was interesting, then I read it again and it became very clear , I too have empathy and allowed it to be used and abused , I know my heart and dont need to prove how understanding I am , Big difference between *having* emphathy & being a full blown empath ...A narcissist will also have a hard time with intimacy = into *me* See
Brilliant! I have learned so much from you. I know you must get tired of narcissist videos. I'm so fascinated though. I've been out of my relationship for quite some time. However, I'm still so mind blown by the happenings during the relationship that I study narcissism. I also study myself and consistently work to improve. Your blunt videos have helped keep me strong and persevere through it all. Thank you!
he obviously learned on his own with the help of those around him, like all successful connoisseurs of narcissists ... anyone who has not had contact with them does not even know what a narcissist is
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I always thought in a healthy relationship we discover depths and faults in each other. Not so with a narc: the more you know about them, the more they hate you. You’re not supposed to figure them out.
Just another fella making stuff up and acting like he’s knowledgable, whilst simultaneously demonstrating what little value there is in his knowledge.
Standard behaviour for a Grannon victim.
@@samuelfoston4556 if you have ever experienced being in a close relationship with a narcissist (family members, friends etc.) then you would know that the above comment is accurate. You don't need to have a PhD in psychology to understand the damage done by narcissists - you just need to have live through it.
No, we are not supposed figure them out, in their minds we are stupid and weak, and not at all that we are kind, caring and patient too much for our good. We rather delude ourselves for a period of time than admit that these kind of creatures can exist.
When narcs get figured out by us, their ego can't bare the fact that stupid and weak are actually them.
They have an agenda and it’s all by design. So no sympathy whatsoever.
Totally true fed up of narcassism!! xx
Yes please who lack self worth and respect.
They are unable to achieve success …and are jealous of people who have WORTH!
@nexult5733 So on point.
When I finally couldn’t stand it and wrote a long text telling him how he hurt me and how I thought he was narcissistic, he blocked me and told me he didn’t trust me. He didn’t like that I saw through him. I’m now a threat, to exposing him for who he is.
I told my ex years ago that I had figured him out and that he couldn't lie to me anymore, so just give it up. He then packed a suitcase and left and never returned, not even for the rest of his stuff. Of course little did I know at the time his new supply was all ready to go.
Same! TWO of them blocked me instantly! Anyone innocent has no reason to disappear!
@@freedomwarrior5087you are lucky! They disappear when caught!
If the Devil can't get to you, He will send a Narcissist. TRUTH!!
A snake or rapist too. Or a mask wearing liar in different forms.
OOHHHHHH! So that is what my whole life has been about! I MUST be something SPECIAL! I have no choice but to finally ACCEPT that now! Thank you!
that means the devil is always around us
The devil send his workers and if he cant get to you through them! then he comes to you disguised in human form as a Narcissist!!
"That's the fact, Jack!"
When he was caught red handed cheating and others were witnesses to it....he broke a 10 year sobriety and had to go to rehab. In his 30 days he was FORCED to look inside with intense therapy, no drugs, no alcohol and no family. He came home a different man BUT then the mask when back on and he returned to who he was. I left him in May. It's been such a painful journey but I know there will be a light at the end
Im so so sorry. I know that pain :-( trying to find the 9
Do the thin skinned narcissist always have “health issues”? I can’t get over how many health issues this person had. From nasal passages being clogged to gout, and heart burn. If I ever said I have some health issue like I’m really tired or a pain somewhere (which was rare) within minutes or hours without fail he came up with some problem himself. It was like he always had to be in pain above me, the attention was all about him. It was exhausting, I felt more like his mother than his gf.
So close to the bone.
I would say a Narcissist is more likely to at least imply that you are whinging about your own health problems before one upping you. A sick partner is too good an opportunity to miss because you are vulnerable at the time. If this guy didn't try to make you feel worse in some way then not a Narcissist, even a fragile. Maybe just an unfortunate attention seeking hangover from childhood.
I found that no-one was allowed to suffer or endure more pain than him..I used my pain or illness "as a way to gain sympathy" , even when I hadn't told anyone that I was illl...but he had felt genuine, life ending pain that he found his own way out of...
The narc i know always has health issues, it was a way of getting more attention because he would get looked after and pandered to. He would go to the doctor's/hospital for tests everything would come back OK. Also anything that he did have was the 'worse case the doctor had seen'.
the narcissist is knew always had an issue with everything he needed a bubble but he was also overweight and didnt take care of himself
Richard, I just realized that because I had an experience with a narcissist this was a big gap that I was missing in my personality to be able to deal with the world now I’m a completely different person. I’m so strong now I feel so adult and courageous.
I agree. Slightly similar Story here... I was massively triggered by the abuse from a female Narc... and I mean, I caused a shit storm lol..
She ghosted and spent the next few months on cloud nine, fully fuelled from my emotional Narc supply. I spent the next 18 months figuring out why I allowed myself to be triggered to such a degree (abandonment trauma) and then shone the light on all of that... and then educated myself on NPD...
Now, when I'm out in the wild, it's like having vision like the matrix haha... you see people's code, and dodge those bullets just like neo 😂.
She has wandered back into my life via a triangulation, and is full of rage because "I'm not the person she thought I was" haha...
All she gets from me, is cold, hard silence, and a thank you for healing a part of myself.
Take care
Telling people to give up hope on a narcissist that they can change can sound bad in and of itself, but actually can save someone from wasting so much of their life on a person who will only continue to cause damage and wreak havoc month after month, year after year whilst waiting for the change that will never come.
I am just learning about npd and am shocked that the person that says they love you can be so cruel. My stories are exactly what all of your videos say. They truly never think they do anything wrong, and lie lie lie even when the truth is in their face. It’s painful because I wanted to be loved so much that I looked past all the negative behaviour for years.
Keep learning hun, and make your getaway plan.
Good luck.
Christi
9:13 pointless trying to get them to wake up… tried marriage counselling with mine. Made it much clearer that it was time to leave.
I absolutely agree that our current societal 'norms' have created the conditions that allow narcissistic behaviours to exist largely unchecked. My ex-boyfriend was a classic case in point - he much preferred his online life as it allowed him greater control & manipulation over others than his real self ever could 😥✨
So true. 'My' narc was my cyberstalker - much easier to do when you're sat behind a keyboard hacking someone's phone & accounts. It was literally a living a hell. He has his own UA-cam channel (how I met him) where he props up his ego given the sheer banality of his own real world existence. He's about 30 & im in my late 30s; no way would've I been sat on social media all day at his age, like, get a life.
Absolutely, they have created this world around them that they really believe is real. But it is all in their head. Their flawed connection to reality leads them to understand the world only on their terms. They get frustrated when you don't submit to their world view, because it shows your strength and their lack of reality. They envy your ability to live in reality and manage the issues that come with life. They cannot accept what challenges them. It is like watching a petulant child having a fit. To a certain extent, they are annoying.
A petulant child with adult-level resources to throw around at will.
@@thecustodian1023 so much truth to this! My narc gf will literally go through our money some days! I don't trust her with our money at all.
Man you're good! You described my ex that took me years to 'See'. I look back and think 'damn, am I stupid' but at the time when that occured I had allot going on with much limitations to resolve them. Now I look back that I was meant to go through that as a life's lesson. Life is like that, you repeat lessons until you get it right. And when you look back you will be proud of what you went through and learned from that can Help others.
I was thinking this morning about how bizarre it was that I couldn't see it when I was in it and I had no awareness of the changes in myself. It's not us! We didn't look for it because it's not how we think or feel. I'm am coming to the belief that it is demonic!!
Same here but it was my parents. Ones is dead now but the one that is alive has gone off the deep end over nothing that is real because they want to have control of things that are not theirs to control.
@@thecustodian1023 I can understand what you're describing as it sounds similar to my mother. I could never figure out if she was this kind of person (narcissist) or the trauma she went through before we were born. 'Family' can be found all around you of course though, from friends to acquaintance (just wish more in the world could realize this)
@@crystalclear5397 Yea, my friends have been awesome through all of this, but the family is either brainwashed by their BS and does not want to look at the mountain of evidence I have against them now.
Or they just want to stay out of it in hopes the narcs don't come after them next if they do take me out.
The rest seem to have no clue any of this has been running out for nearly two-plus years, which says everyone in the immediate family has put a lot of effort into making sure this all stays under the radar.
One of the best at talking about NPD . This information is GOLDEN
You just described the entire police department I worked in. Needless to say they destroyed my life and livelihood.
Love this lecture 🎉.. I just left a narcissistic boss.. Never understood his behaviour.. His eyes are always dead.. I never felt comfortable with him.. I was always afraid, exhausted, i won't be able to sleep... Till now, I still carry those pains in my neck for the past 5 months... It's so stressful and exhausting
Exactly about therapy working for them! Only and only if at the lowest moments they're forced to look at themselves and it seems that they can change....but you putting your hopes up will end in another heartbreak - as soon as they feeling better, they will hurt you again and hard. Also, I've noticed with my ex narc, when he'd spiral down into mortification, after he gets out of it, his grandiosity would raise to immensely high levels for several days, and that's when they're most dangerous
The narcissist in my life is from South America and his family is very tribe like and I noticed over the years that they support his narcissism. They are not allowed to talk about feelings or it’s not supported
6:30 Narcissistic mortification: if that small window of opportunity opens, of the narc's total collapse and abandonment of all support and flying monkeys, they may be open to seeking some feedback or therapy.
But my experience showed me it's like a rubber band. The awareness is temporary. It stretches enough to self-soothe and but snaps back to their normal.- MAGAville, Pennsyltucky
I totally agree, it truly does take a village to bring up a child. If we have no where to turn for what we need those needs go unfulfilled, and that leads to a messy head!
I was with who I suspect was a covert narcissist for 4years. He always played the victim, always someone out to get him etc. It has been 4 months since he left me and I now realise that I knew basically nothing about him. We never lived together, cause my parents lived with me as my mom was very sick. She died last year Oct., I became depressed and between him, my grieving dad and my kids, he started complaining I wasn't paying enough attention to him. My explaining my depression, my other responsibilities fell on deaf ears. He didn't try to help, or actually showed much empathy. So he started a month long online affair with a woman on the other side of the country, while still telling me he loves me until the day before she packed up her life and moved with her little daughter to live with him. (Think she has issues too). From what I have heard his personality has done a 180° degree turn with her, suddenly he is in incredible debt etc. It just boggles the mind🙄
Thank you for the work you do and the effort that you give in the process. Brilliant Conversation. I believe, just as you pointed out, the power of numbers in small groups forces accountability. Not everyone has Integrity. I say this out loud quite a bit, that if there had been a third party present in the majority of arguments regarding morality with family members, friends and significant others, those disagreements would have ended much sooner, and with less resistance. Exceptionally less gaslighting for sure. Unfortunately my dichotomy always has me feeling sorry for the aggressor because I realize it is in fact not their fault, but a trait that has either been passed down through generations (and/or) caused from trauma. This has always led to giving eternal forgiveness, yet always being the only one to ever apologize.
Don't feel sorry for them as they know exactly what they are doing as they know right from wrong as society dictates this. Feeling sorry for them makes you an easy target by a narcissist. It lays your life wide for a narcissist to come in and invade and destroy your life. You have to hold them accountable as this will prevent a hostile takeover of your piece, happiness, and causing total destruction in your life.
The aspect of the tribal culture where you can find different authority figures is very interesting. I myself had a fallout with my family during my teenage years and luckly found people on the internet who did not marginalized me. There's a chance the trauma of being alienated from my family would've turned me into a narcissist, thank God it didn't happen. Thank you and I'm watching it from Brazil
the second part of the video is golden! the human psyche and emotional needs are not adapted to the modern lifestyle. we evolved to live in small, close-knit bands.
watching from Germany 🇩🇪
My wife and I have been separated two years now. Her mother was the last person propping her up with supply and she passed away recently. She has been showing signs of mortification. I appreciate you mentioning this because it’s the first time I’ve heard the term. She indicated willingness to attend counseling and is completely defeated, saying things like, “I died.” I’m taking your warning to heart as well, I can’t hold much hope she’ll change, but she has agreed to marriage counseling so maybe the doors open for change. 🤞🏼
thats good that she agrees with counseling . nice to hear
No don't believe in that she will change. She will use the psychiatrist as a source of temporary supply (she will try to manipulate the psychiatrist). Then when her empty fuel matrix has been recharged to a minimum to restart the false self, she will start hunting for new long term supplies- you are just another source if you return.
Did you watch the movie Dracula with Keanu Reeves? When Dracula was weak he was mortified when he was being transported in a coffin but recharged after...
Fabulous video.....very much enjoyed the content. The ideas put forward are thought provoking. Thanks.
From my experience a TRUE Narcissist could Care Less about EVERYTHING EXCEPT 1 THING.....REPUTATION! Without its Grandiose Reputation it can't Weave its Evil Web
Truly informative and enlightening. Thank you.
This is gonna sound weird but does anyone find Richard attractive? I have to say being attracted to someone other than a narc is like blessing to me at the moment lol. I usually find very intelligent men & women attractive which he is; this is so refreshing! Sorry Richard, I still love your content 😊
Great video! For me there was nothing to find out, I could tell all of this already, from the very first interaction, however long ago it was and even when somebody starts to lean into developing a narcissistic personality if they weren't one before. As someone who grew up very quiet, being observant is like my middle name. It's effortless and very easy to read people, good people and bad. I have had my fair share of narcissism directed my way and everything you said is on point. I see them watching and copying me even though they act like I am insignificant. However much they think people rate them, I know they believe I rate them way more way more than I actually do, and that is not at all. The very decision they make to obsess over you just to hurt you shows that you are all they think about which is in itself, ironic.
اخوة بالرضاعة ❤❤❤ I’ve lived in Saudi and this man is 100% on point
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I’m learning so much from your videos, Richard. Deciding right now which course of yours to take first after being discarded a month ago. I’m actually stunned at how much this hurts.
Hello from New York City🍎
You're an amazing person Richard, I'm incredibly grateful for the content that you've been producing. I previously thought I was going insane and that the whole world is out to get me type thing but now that I've become aware of narcissism it makes all the sense in the world. They are the energy vampires people talk about. I think it is brave of you that you are outgoing about your sexuality, I personally don't think it's a matter of black-and-white gay or straight type scenario that there is a huge spectrum of different sexual preferences and dispositions. I consider myself mostly heterosexual, but bisexual under specific conditions. But I have found it not an easy thing to be on but about or share with people without misunderstandings or something like judgment. You're a great man and I'm grateful to have come across you and your work. It's funny that I get the impression that these narcissist or not even human and the same way I am if that makes sense. I am an empathic sigma infj so to me these a narcissist sociopaths and psychopaths seem like literal demons
Never really heard of narcissism in the 60’s,70’s and 80’s. It probably was there with abusive husbands. Did the internet bring it out more with people and self absorbed or the knowledge of the internet? Grown men age 65 ish are narcissists, did they experience trauma or idolizing from parents in the 50’s and 60’s?
Narcissism was alive and well always. It was just not widely understood or talked about back then. With the internet and social media we have so much more access to information and the ability to share it than we did previously. Before, if you were living with a narcissist you probably just thought You were the crazy one and had no one to turn to for help.
You are helping so,so, much!! Watching from Indiana. God Bless you🎉
Yeah the cannibal spirit that begins with a W from Native American folklore. I have always loved the idea of tribal communities, what I had growing up was the Covert would break down and I would eternally walk around endlessly in NY, just can't talk to anyone and the streets are empty. You feel unwanted by everyone, as you get older you can see the dilemma which we have and how strange it feels to talk to a young child by themselves, but back then all people seemed to do is reject us, oh well.
Greetings from Argentina🇦🇷
My family have a delusional sense of what my narc mother really was
who pasted away this year they paint her out to be something she wasn't
which go to show how good they are at pulling the wool over people eyes
They will do.
Out of design they calculate what personality traits they can manipulate to obtain a saintly image. Other personality types they know they cannot manipulate they put forward a true self. Not meaning they are true but they’ll be assholes towards these people.
@@clevelandwilliams5922 is that why they scapegoat the scapegoat
@@Miami904 yes
@@Miami904 They need reactions from people to be able to feed on and make you out to be the bad guy. On the other side they manipulate others to make themselves look innocent. This is why the best way to beat a Narcissist is simply “grey rock” technique and they will expose themselves eventually.
I RECOGNIZED how my ex alway creating situation even we in the hart of our sleeping, if I pull the blanket, he will woks up like ghost and kidnape the blanket ! it's cold in Canada during the winter
Mine too
When I listen to all these talks about narcissistic behaviour, I realise that my ex was one of ....but I think that I am one aswell
My question is :is it possible to heal yourself?
You have to go deeper.
If you think you are one , congratulations you are already on your way to healing .....be gentle with yourself , observe your behavior and write down your thought patterns ....identify your naec traits by one by one and change slowly ...much love to you ❤❤❤
Marietjie South Africa
They are actually very predictable as well ..
Yes When you Fully Understand NPD 100%
I found this video very informative about NPD .Thank you so much for explaining very clearly and which is scientifically correct.
Hello from Laurel MS
Home. Sandusky, Ohio
the indugenious guys from amazon rainforest offered to kill Klaus Kinsky while making a movie there 😂
Listening from Chicago ❤❤❤ you ! Thank you !
Thank you very much for your work and compassion!
When we were in Versailles we went up the baack stairs from the farden, and he asked where the vench eent in- a orop from the nivue "Desirëe" from Disney😊
Watching from State of Queensland, Australia
It's kinda sad. I have seen a narc old aged person reach this point.
Great content video Richard!!
I wonder if they used palo santo to cleanse folk with that ‘W’ inside of them. The alienation from your kids was one of the worst parts of the discard. It ripped my insides out😢.
You're a beautiful soul btw. Watching from NY
The Pacific Northwest, on the Olympic Peninsula, WA
On wet-nursing which is the term for breastfeeding a child you didn't birth, as a female, if a woman breastfed me as a baby, her sons become my brothers its forbidden for us to marry in Sharia Islamic Law. As a custom generally, its across cultures and was also a practice in the UK.
Your videos have been a life saver for me man thank you so much
Also side note, I had a dream about you a few nights ago where we were dating and it was quite wonderful haha
I think ive been watching your videos too much 😂
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oh my goodness yes hysterical
watching from california!
Thank you!!!
My name is Michele... Im in tje middle if this hell! Im stuck here at this time cuz we are homeless living on the side of the road along with other homeless people. The street is lined with homeless individuals. My car is broke down, he stole my bank card from me and im needing to reorder another one but need a physical addy, he has made it look as thou im the crazy one therefore i have not many friends SO IM STUCK AT THIS MOMENT. What I need to know is how to deal with this so that I dont go CRAZY...
“You’re Bill now.”
Sacramento CA
I was just going to mention Middle Eastern culture which makes sense as to why I / my situation not just me live apart….in fact California is a hub for Middle Easterns.
Ontario, Canada
Hi Richard, this particular video of yours has stirred me to comment. The 5 weaknesses, I agree with. I do not think I would understand life if I was not surrounded by NARCISSISTS and NARCISSISM! Just to speak of the NARCISSISTIC supply depletion for a moment and you have described what is occurring to my NARCISSIST partner right now. Off the cuff, he has started referring to his awful childhood and recognized that it was HELL, BUT, he then went on to say that, "Fortunately I haven´t been traumatized! I have just got on with my life!"
Something is stirring but the delusional, independent, adult male image that he has of himself is in no danger of coming apart!
The voice asking about societal narcissism!!! I am writing about just this in my books and on my blog. I left the UK in my teens (mid 1980s), to go in search of REAL HUMAN BEINGS. I had known the odd one or two in the UK but without a shadow of a doubt, the British society has been NARCISSIST for many millenia!
MAN-KIND is NARCISSIST! That is my theory! There is a clear difference between MAN-KIND, a kind of man and a male HUMAN BEING. This is about modern humans versus ancient humans. EVOLUTION is at the root of this.
Having done a lot of kilometers in my search for HUMAN BEINGS, I discovered that the African continent was filled with them. Yes, MAN-KIND has ever been a rapist and sadly, the ancient hominids (man-kind), returned to Africa, Asia and South America and have introduced their genetics into the modern human populations of the Southern Hemisphere.
I spent some weeks with folk from the WODAABE ethnic tribe. Now Richard, I went looking for these folk in particular. Many days and nights were spent in the Sahara Desert with the ethnic Toureg nomadic peoples too. NARCISSISM does not exist amongst the ethnic peoples that I met.
The WODAABE though are my ultimate role models. The single males live in family clans and the single females also live in family clans. They live separately as males and females whilst single. They cross paths frequently but do not speak until after dark and to quote my favourite troubadour Mark Knopfler: "The midnight bargains have been struck between the seven beaus and their belles!"
They are very sexual females and the males learn how to be seductors. It is a fantastic culture. I think I may have to head back there myself. The males of these ethnic tribes are gorgeous and so well learned in love-making techniques. WOW!!
Where you have MAN-KIND you will have NARCISSISM. Because MAN-KIND is a stereotype. MAN-KIND is a delusional entity. MAN-KIND are those born from ancient genes who have resisted human EVOLUTION. The inferiority complex, dramatic cowardliness, total lack of feeling for any other than themselves, are some of the hallmarks of MAN-KIND!
Hence the need for a STEREOTYPE for males to try and emulate. MAN-KIND must be a violent, mentally sick, depraved, hideous creature who does HIS MALE master´s bidding. Who keeps women under lock and key and gagged as well; lest we reveal his truths. Because yes, sad to say Richard, when you have known as many guys as I have in Europe, you realize that NARCISSISM is pandemic!
Families have begun to EVOLVE and be more caring but to combat that, our MAN-MADE societies which are still led by MAN-KIND, are making a concerted effort to ensure that female equality does not happen. YES, NARCISSISM is now being openly taught to all new young recruits. The SPARE PARTS as I think of them. More TOOLS for the MAN-MADE machine that protects MAN-KIND´S TRUTH!!
Really fascinating.
They look pathetic after you heal or reach a point in healing. I hold him/them in dual perspectives. A pathetic child, but also a scary alien like monster.
Spot on
Brooklyn NY. The rotted 🍎
What if the tribe is narcissistic and acting also as a cult.
Great video, very interesting and you got right to the point.
The name of the spiritual disease Richard is talking about is Wetiko.
So this person I know whos been smearing my name claims to have bipolar. I can identify that it is CLEARLY covert narcissism because they given the bipolar sob story etc. She is so sneaky its actually unbelievable the change in her. She struggles with not having attention.
I thinl the word starting with W is Wendigo.
I want to assist my 26 year old son - father alcohol dependant charismatic narcissist .. my ex of 12 years ….. Son has low self esteem but trauma bonded to him ?
How did ur own son turn out into a narcissist was his dad one or are you one? I always sus when parents say that there child is personality disordered.
No my son is not a narcissist - he’s low self esteemed empath under a false confidence.
@@JacquiCryer oh I thought u meant ur son was a narcissist…. His dad is a narcissist ? Ah I get u
U cant help narcs.
Self love
Doesn't mortification make them very angry though ? And desperation becomes animalistic and lash out with violence instead of self reflection because that's harder to deal with 🤔
Because it’s (narcissistic )views are culturally and worldwide supported and these ways of life were exercised like a muscle defense mechanism then they -the narcissist -would always think and have behaviors reinforced that the are always right because everyone in society would agree with them and they’re ways as well makes total sense to why do they or would they need help at all from the world we came from and not the world we want to live in 🥰 good chat!
The lighting is creepy. I’m interested in the topic but the lighting is off-putting.
Question: how do you practice being your true self, when you never done that as a codependent. If I say to myself :" I give you the permission to be yourself. " it's a great statement but... How do you start? I grew up in a sect and like a little soldier I had to obey and follow. I had to stay within the lines of sectarian thinking if I ever wanted to express myself. On top of it a very critical narcissistic mom, and codependent passive and submissive dad. I have forgiven and understood, and revolted 32 years ago as a teen. But what I've done since has been very random things like partying, dating boys, going into jobs that I did as a pressure of society, but never purely for me. I've always felt lost as to what I really passionately want to do. When I search that place it's like a big blank. Any suggestions?
Sometimes you shouldn’t look for an answer within yourself, many times in life I’ve found that the answer wasn't to be found through introspection - although introspection can be incredibly useful for figuring out whether something resonates with you or adds to your life - but instead through going out and trying your hand at various things. So if you’re wondering what you’re passionate about, maybe you should head out and find something that you truly like to do, something you’ve never done before perhaps.
Just a suggestion ✌️
I´ve been receiving anonymous WhatsApp messages for the last 2 years. The messages implied that I was not loyal to my partner. Is it possible that my own partner is who sends the messages? Have you ever heard about something similar?
It takes a village to raise a child 😌
Utah USA
Indiana
Narc weaknesses :
1 Addicted to false self
2 False narrative
3 Impressionable
4 Thin skinned, labile moods
5 Reliant on others
All of these. Now how do we free a minor child from their clutches without infinite money? Oh...right.
@@NoMoreHeroesAnymore1334 Do you get the child at all? Get a friend over to take the child out back where you've music on, as soon as they arrive. Have a camera with recorder set up where it's a surefire bet the narc will stand. Stay very calm but provoke them by saying something softly that would seem innocuous but you know will set them off into a crazy rage, have police on speed dial and Bob's your uncle. Get inventive but safety first. Dig up any dirt on them you can use and be well organised so it's 💯proof evidence. What was that you found in your child's backpack?! A bound diary, date and time stamped is good for Court. 👮♂️😠😈🤬👮♀️✌️
@@louisegarner8888 Definitely! That is Exactly what I did here. Take pictures, record the conversations, take screenshots of text history, things like that. I did have issues with the cops though, my small city cops Suck and always took his side.....Until only once and Finally spoke with and later came when I called was a female cop. The male cops with her were a disgrace, as I explained what took place when they arrived, 'Thats not what we hurd, we hurd you going off and snapping at him from the outside of the window when we got here', yes dummy- when You Got here. You weren't here just prior to hear or see what took place by him that lead me to yell like that you hurd. Are you that narrow minded or on your male ego high horse? He was choking me but just because there was no signs they thought I was lying when I brought it up in my first earlier call that night.
Yup thats human behaviour alright!
@@andreaslandgren1681 Nope, it's called exposing the inhumane monster for who and what they really are, legally.
Thanks!
I say, run away when you have the chance. Confrontation is not only pointless but dangerous.
Win the conflict by avoiding it.
My lil sister is a narc. She's 37. Years after year she's more into lying, threatening, and abusing. At the end she just feels more entitled than ever. Crazy!
For the algorithm! Richard is the only coach, that wants you to actually get to a point where, you no longer watch his videos on narcissism.
I left the narcissist and when I held them accountable for their lies, using certain tactics, their true self showed! So true.
what did you do to hod them accountable ? what actions ?
@@oldboy-g8y i tried the nice root for the longest time. Shrugging off criticisms and trying to be civil. That of course got me only more of the same. So instead of taking it inwards I bounced it back. First I left then I called him out on his lies and shamed him for it. Said he was a child…. Weak and an ungrateful____. Then all the truths came out of him. Tit for tat baby! There is no winning with a narc. Just leave and say you peace when you are in a safe place.
@@oldboy-g8yBy exposing their lies, deceit in such a way and with evidence they simply cannot refute or deny. Once you've blown their cover, you are no longer of any value and they will resent and loathe you for it. They will try to make you pay dearly for ruining their image, crumbling their fake world and will discard you in the cruelest way possible. These narcs move on to the next victim at the speed of light because they always have backups/replacements waiting on the back burner, or shelf.
@@verumbellator6899Yes something similar worked for me face them with it ,they have to come out of hiding but watch your opportunity softly ,there's a time and a place use wisdom stay safe too
Just my humble opinions ( I've taken alot of flak narcissism is every where these days )
My lil sister is a narc. She's 37. Years after year she's more into lying, threatening, and abusing. the more surprising thing is that she feels more entitled than ever. Sick!!😳
But they can never be ashamed or feel anything because they just dump you and head away...no truth, no depth and no justice. He tore out my soul.
They only feel shame if their BS is shown to a crowd.
Never confront alone.
May God bess your soul ❤
Richard, you, BY FAR, are the BEST source of information on NPD that I have come across and the level of understanding i have been able to achieve thanks to you has been a blessing and a lifesaver
The only thing that seems like it could help is having the Narcissist fear, legitimately, being publicly shamed and called out for their behavior.
Ehhhh. From experience, it often just increases the rage. Depends if they have other sources of supply.
Once you see their patterns they really don’t seem that smart
They become a predictable bore for anyone remotely recovered from a BPD or just plain old healthy having a first encounter with one. They are a house of cards I recently engaged with a covert narc. It has been a fascinating unravelling . The disengagement was swift and graceful on my end. . Now the narrative is imploding as efforts at triangulation and reality checks are setting in. Still…. Disappointing
I will miss the philosophical chats and psychological and esoteric shares.
Never should have made love after a year of talking and listening. The cues were there . My empathetic ass showed up only to show me empathy is a foil .
A tin foil hat for us “weirdo” different folk who seek affirmation when we are having a motivation / creative block.
Procrastination is an invitation for these types.
Just saying,,
Idle hands
Idealism
Idolatry
Idle minds
The Id.
God save the ego
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It was kinda hard to follow most of your comment but the end was interesting, then I read it again and it became very clear , I too have empathy and allowed it to be used and abused , I know my heart and dont need to prove how understanding I am , Big difference between *having* emphathy & being a full blown empath ...A narcissist will also have a hard time with intimacy = into *me* See
@@jennyadee913 So you knew he was a narc and you let him lay all that pipe in you anyway huh? Kinky
Brilliant! I have learned so much from you. I know you must get tired of narcissist videos. I'm so fascinated though. I've been out of my relationship for quite some time. However, I'm still so mind blown by the happenings during the relationship that I study narcissism. I also study myself and consistently work to improve. Your blunt videos have helped keep me strong and persevere through it all. Thank you!
Me too! Well said!!
he obviously learned on his own with the help of those around him, like all successful connoisseurs of narcissists ... anyone who has not had contact with them does not even know what a narcissist is
Wow! This guy really goes even deeper than I understood before. He really hits the nail on the head.
I agree: it takes a village not only to raise kids, but to keep parents accountable.
If you want to go through life with kindness and compassion, you have to be willing to defend yourself often when the jackals come out.
Am listening to our Richard from a nice village in Lorraine, France, where thousands of mirabelle (plum) trees are blooming everywhere in the countryside just now 🌸
Sounds like a dream, wish I
was there also, I need an escape 👒
I'm listening this from my soul