I was raised by a narcissistic mother- I turned out to be the ‘people pleaser’. My daughter I now sadly realise is a narcissist but I keep on frosty terms as she has two dear little girls who will probably end up people pleasers. But I hopefully can stay in their lives to teach them other ways. No doubt their mother will smear me to them - so have to see how it pans out.
But sometimes, narcissists use their children to help abuse and control the other parent. Parental alienation. My son, who used to be extremely close to me, has become extremely disrespectful and belittling to me post/divorce and speaks basically like a miniature of his father. It’s very sad. When he turned 16, he decided to go live with his Dad, but made sure to completely devalue me on the way out. He says I don’t want him, his grandparents don’t want him, etc. I am by no means perfect, but most of our conflict was due to him behaving disrespectful and me trying to correct him. It’s a very twisted situation. His father is a narcissist and I left 3 years ago. Since that time, my son has become increasingly suspicious of me and rude to me. So, I do think that there are instances when a child can help to bully a parent. I believe that my son has been led and manipulated (which is awful) but I am definitely not in control of this situation. It’s sad. I feel like now he has been isolated and is completely under the narcissist’s control, but willingly. Like your video about the narcissist manipulating the girlfriend and her siblings, that is how this feels to me. I am the “villain” in the story. I just miss my child.
If an adult child is abusive to their parents, it's due to how they were raised. The child was either a golden child to a narc parent, or was spoiled and enabled throughout their life and not shown discipline and boundaries. In the end, it comes down to the parent being the core issue due to how they raised their kid.
I was raised by a narcissistic mother- I turned out to be the ‘people pleaser’.
My daughter I now sadly realise is a narcissist but I keep on frosty terms as she has two dear little girls who will probably end up people pleasers.
But I hopefully can stay in their lives to teach them other ways.
No doubt their mother will smear me to them - so have to see how it pans out.
But sometimes, narcissists use their children to help abuse and control the other parent. Parental alienation. My son, who used to be extremely close to me, has become extremely disrespectful and belittling to me post/divorce and speaks basically like a miniature of his father. It’s very sad. When he turned 16, he decided to go live with his Dad, but made sure to completely devalue me on the way out. He says I don’t want him, his grandparents don’t want him, etc. I am by no means perfect, but most of our conflict was due to him behaving disrespectful and me trying to correct him. It’s a very twisted situation. His father is a narcissist and I left 3 years ago. Since that time, my son has become increasingly suspicious of me and rude to me. So, I do think that there are instances when a child can help to bully a parent. I believe that my son has been led and manipulated (which is awful) but I am definitely not in control of this situation. It’s sad. I feel like now he has been isolated and is completely under the narcissist’s control, but willingly. Like your video about the narcissist manipulating the girlfriend and her siblings, that is how this feels to me. I am the “villain” in the story. I just miss my child.
If an adult child is abusive to their parents, it's due to how they were raised. The child was either a golden child to a narc parent, or was spoiled and enabled throughout their life and not shown discipline and boundaries. In the end, it comes down to the parent being the core issue due to how they raised their kid.