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You're just describing women! 😒

Oh yeah Trump

AMEeN Pray for me and my family

Thank you ❤😊

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Hang in there darlin . . . .

My MoMster's Harmony is dependent on her ability to cause harm for me.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. Best of luck to you.

With a narcissistic dad who I have had no contact with for 2 years now is trying to make me the evil one to my mom who I live with... She continues to tell him how he's the dumbass right now and how he caused this... Even though she doesn't want me to fully burn a bridge by getting a protection order, we can still laugh at his stupidity and the people who believe him.. He tried making us homeless and got everyone in town who knew us exile us for 3 months... He lost his most devastating cards and it's fun to watch him realize that from a small distance lol

It comes down to the debate of nature versus nurture. I do not believe a narcissist is all nurture. There are deep roots from birth.

Very well said! I had a female officer say in front of my abuser that the offer for him to stay away doesn’t hold much water etc.

Oh hey brother. How's it going? 👋 People can change, choose peace. You can be better.

Omg my brother and I got into a huge fight over nothing and I tried to push him out of the room I was in because he wouldn’t leave despite me telling him to leave me alone so when I pushed him he grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me against the wall and from there it was a brawl. My brother is an ex marine and I had just turned 20 he’s 5 years older than me. I’m glad I’m not the only one with a fucked up sibling relationship

Found you through this video and now I’m invested. You go girl don’t let a narcissist brother get you down because I have THE SAME problem with my narcissistic brother he’s a prick

I dont think im a narc but most girls i talk to becomes obsessed w me and then one flipped and hated me saying i was tricking her into liking me

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And Lily ❤🤌💪

My ex wife used my Aunt this way for years after the Divorce. Now understand that she initiated the divorce when pressured by Family after her pathological lies about me. She got caught up in her own lie, but it also gave me a way out. My Aunt has since stopped relaying the messages from her.

No more of that shit!

Just because you're related, doesn't mean you need to be related..

Im in a similar situation. Subbed ❤ love from one sister to another. Im youtube only, hope you keep posting here ❤

Once the narcissist loses control over you - they try to control what others think of you. Classic - sending you much love and compassion.

Thank you! ❤

My ex did this 😅 he even held a seminar for his emplyees to strenghten his narrative.. I found out when one of his employees came to my company and told me about it.. she found out he was using her as well. But she went back to him 🤷‍♀️ he is very good at manipulating.

Listen to yourself

Anyone who lies about you or believes lies about you isn’t worth knowing.

Hi Lily. Hope you are fine. Wanted to say thanks for your insight and advice. Again, sorry you had to go through that, and I can relate as far as the Family goes. Wish you well!

Move far far away from him. Not everyone you share DNA is your family

Typical behavior of a narcissist is to try to turn other people against you, especially family members.

Never won an argument either 😓

Wow I have never been able to get a women to do what I ask here to do 🙀🤷‍♀️

Narcissists are expert in sensing vulnerability in others. Once they realize that you can no longer be emotionally exploited, they will lose interest and move on.

AMEeN Thank you jesus christ Pray for me and my family

Sounds like good advice Lily. Thank you dear.

Glory to God Pray for me and my family

The APA/ICD are moving further toward a dimensional model of the "lacking sense of self" cluster B. I can also say most of those in charge of psychiatric residencies no longer endorse the idea of BPD as traumagenic disorder, but I digress. It's easy to get caught in triangulating outcomes permutatively from x-of-y criteria, but if you've worked in forensic psych, you'd see (unfiltered at that) things really don't distill into neat categories from/as heuristics. That aside, fundamentally, narcissists and borderlines have no inner sense of who they are or what they're like that functions with regard to object constancy-- that too is lacking, hence the childishness often seen beneath the mask's surface, but only in hindsight after a period of time clinically, usually several months. These things are shown in patterns, they are never "gotcha!" moments of reckoning. Mask? Yes, that's the leitmotif, if you will. Narcissists assumed a role-- this is never conscious throughout life, of course-- as a defense early in development, one that effectively places them as a main character for whom others serve as supporting cast. As you know, everything is drawn inward except blame; everyone else's past defines them, but the past never says anything about a narcissist, for he (usually a guy, but not always) is always moving forward and has the 'excuse' card at any given moment. Here's the thing though: it's a mistake to focus on grandiosity as a defining feature, as _sometimes_ the mask/character they are 'playing' is not haughty-- some may even appear to be focused on others, *_many_*_ (!) are even clinicians._ Borderlines did not develop such a defense, and as a result _must derive her_ (usually, but not always) _mask from a dominant 'other'._ She dates a Steelers fan? Guess what, she'll wear replica jerseys, etc. just as a Yinzer fanatic does. What happens if she moves on to someone else who likes a completely different team? She will then too, and anyone questioning the shift will be met with hostility, as she _actually feels attacked for who she _*_truly_*_ believes she is,_ even if it doesn't add up from the outside. Remember, blindness to object constancy. What both sufferers of these disorders show as their modus is entirely based upon the dominating message(s) the society or culture they grow up and live in. This is useful for sociological research, as the darker things about a given culture will show up in the behavior of these people first, in a canary-like fashion. That's why social media is a goldmine, but again, I digress...

Im staying away from demos 😊

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!

Intent comes from a deliberate ( unaccountable) maliciousness ... borderline folks are something completely different

Short clips are helpful. Subbed.

HI LILY! Thank you!

Yes! A thousand times yes! People like this use the concept of forgiveness as a blunt weapon. They twist the definition and guilt you into “wiping the slate clean”. It’s never about the harm that they’ve done or keep doing, never about repair - it always about how you are bitter or unforgiving if you don’t let it go completely. They don’t get to hurt you forever, they don’t get to hurt you at all. Enough is enough!

I agree. No contact has been difficult for me too at times. My Two Tours of Madness lasted all together 26 years. So History.. But I did once take the Narcissist way to counter the attacks but I now think how much of her ways were an attempt to make me understand and possibly heal and I couldn't understand that at the time. So I wonder what if I had and did I have a chance to fix things but I chose to walk away? Still wondering..

I guess I should have stated this when I first posted to your channel but Thank You. You are very Insightful. Much Appreciated.

Same with mine. We are at the point now where I allow texting messages on superficial topics with very tight boundaries. Any crossing boundaries is a week of silence on my part. It’s the best I can manage.

My husband had a toxic mother who tried to break us up from the beginning, I never got in between them and I would encourage him to have a relationship with her. It was hard because she would go to far with her lies. She would never come visit us , she missed graduation of all three of our children their marriages and she only got to meet one of our children. We offered to come get her bring her home. Buy her new clothes anything she wanted. She never had time for our kids. I sympathize with you, we realize she was never going to change.

No contact for me. It was the only way.

At the time of my experience I actually didn't know what a Narcissist was as I was much younger, but I did throw it back at them for awhile until I realized that wasn't me, so I went quiet.

Mama always said don't be a reactor... That makes you toxic. Be an actor.... Don't be a reactor.