I would get mad when people called my baby a boy.. and I’m not unhappy with her at all. It’s irritating cause my daughter would wear all pink, with a pink blanket & pig tails and people would still say she’s a boy. It’s annoying
This lady has issues. My 8 year old son to this day gets called a girl. He’s just pretty. With big blue eyes, gorgeous eye lashes. Literally no one cares. I don’t care. My husband doesn’t care. My son doesn’t care. My son just corrects them politely and we never think about it again.
Gender is a social thing, he knows what he identifies as and you know what he identifies as, people who fight with a child about things like that are awful people! He’s a beautiful boy and that’s okay ! ^^
That’s how it is with my 9 year old too. He has big blue eyes, beautiful lashes, and shoulder length beautiful hair. It doesn’t bother him or I when people mistake his gender. We politely correct them. What bothers me is the people that tell him he looks “too girly” when they know he’s a boy 🙄
K L -- Boys and girls have similar faces until they go into puberty. So since most boys have short hair of someone sees shoulder length there might be confusion. I had a pixie cut at 11 years old and was asked by strangers if I was a "boy or girl" which is why I keep my hair long to this day. It made me feel "masculine".
K L absolutely you are right and she sounds very toxic because as a mother she has forgotten her baby’s priorities... the baby needs food, care and rest not a stylish haircut 😞🤦🏻♀️
Babies generally look exactly the same, they all have weird smushed faces, I genuinely couldn’t tell which kid was my niece once when I was picking her up from nursery and she was 3 at the time, so yeah they have those weird identical faces for so long
My son had long hair until he was 2.5 years old. He would always have his hair in a ponytail. Some people would think he’s a girl and I’d politely correct them and accept the compliment of them telling me I have a beautiful child.
When I was little I looked alot like a boy and also liked to wear more masculine clothes so I never really wore dresses but mostly jumpers or pants. Everyone thought I was a boy and on every baby picture I looked like a boy. I didnt care at that age and my mom just corrected the people. I also did not have much hair. Now I am pretty girly and have way too much hair (so expensive to dye :c). So why would someone care about if their kid looks masculine or feminin? Just because her kid maybe looked like a boy, doesnt mean that she cant become a girly girl. And even if she doesnt, why is that so important? I really dont get it.
I have so thick curly hair, and I have heard my friends with thin and fine hair and they are really picky with there hair. Maybe if you have less hair one piece matters more?
I was once out shopping when I heard this little girl call her mother “mom” and the mother looked at her and said “excuse me what did you just say??” And the little girl quickly corrected herself calling the woman “mommy” instead. People are weird.
My mom still thinks she's a teen and refused to speak to my brother and I if we called her "mom" growing up so we called her by her real name and everyone thought it was so weird and disrespectful that we called her by her name especially in Korea where we're from when we were children but that's because she wanted us to. She wouldn't talk to us if we called her mom. We're adults now and living in the states so when we call her by her name we don't get nearly as much backlash.
It might make me sound like a B, but I thoroughly enjoy saying NO to people. As hairdressers, we don't get to do that very often, but when the time is right. I'm like, "No." and then I just look at them and shake my head 'no'. If they look at me like they don;t understand me , then I gently explain. But, sometimes, it pops them right into reality. Our bosses need to back us up more than they do, honestly.
Teach me your ways! I have always been afraid of saying no, not just in the industry but in general life. It gives me anxiety thinking of confrontation and because of that I am basically a yes man/doormat. And now I don't know how to change that.
@@maeve.starlight Aww, no doormat!!! I literally had a guy come in with a fake coupon from another state, knock on the glass before opening, and then ask me if he could use the coupon for a beard trim, because, " He was bald" And, I was like, "No." *flatly* *shakes head back and forth slowly* LOL Maybe one day, I'll do a re-enactment on YT!! Haahaa!!!
Haha that's sweet. I had a friend with a pre-k sister that insisted her best friend Oscar was a girl because he had long pretty hair. Nope, he was just a very cute Hispanic boy, he couldn't even convince her until his parents cut his hair.
I had to quit cosmetology school. I couldn't handle the high expectations. People come in with a picture of Beyonce, but they look like freakin' Shrek.
Lmao it's true and I'm guilty of that myself!! Before I went to cosmetology school I was always attracted to Selena Gomez's short hair cuts. She makes a lob look so easy and natural!!! Well maybe it is for her. I went in to my usual stylist 1 day with literally a pic in my phone of the Selena Gomez cut I wanted, and came out looking nothing like it!! The style was cute, but it wasn't free, wavy, and natural like hers. Later in life I realized, I have course, damaged, over processed, what used to be really curly hair. I can't look like that without JUST a hair 😫😫
Moms who are concerned with their infant's masculinity/femininity make me want to scream. As if looking like the opposite gender would kill her. If they put that kind of energy on their kids with things that matter such as reading or math, they would be the next Einstein!
To be fair the big change in hormones could effect their reaction when people misgender their babies. This women in the story does sound awful though, seriously just get some baby pink cloths for her!
Literally just had an older client yesterday with fine, very soft curly hair. Gave her a super cute soft angled bob to perk up her curls and make her hair look fuller. I get done, she looks in the mirror, then proceeds to tell me how her hair looks too thick and it looks messy. Mind you, when we consulted, I told her exactly what I was going to do, showed her pictures, and she was very excited to get started. It looked beautiful. I guess you just can't please everyone. Thankfully she didn't make a scene, she just gave a lot of attitude.
It's true. Some people really are impossible to please! You can't take that stuff personally or let it get to you! Glad she didn't cause a scene at least!
@@anon3263 I dress for success and make myself look business appropriate everyday. My attitude is positive and I do well at my job because I LOVE my job. I'm telling you, you truly can't please everyone.
@@ashleybrady7103 sorry I think there's a miscommunication, I wasn't talking about the hairstylist at all. It's who they're looking back at in the mirror. My bad haha
My son is a toe head blonde, as a baby his hair was transparent with teal blue eyes. People used to always say 'oh, shes so pretty' 😂 I would say thank you and move on. There strangers so who cares.
I took my 1 yo to a salon for his first haircut. It was cheaper than going to a barber and it’s where I get my hair done so I really trusted those people.
I did. My girl had wild , WILD full thick hair and I didnt want to cut it and destroy her curls . Its a good thing to get them used to being in the chair to eliminate the fear
I do, but my so. Has always had a LOT of hair. I’m also a stylist. But even being a mother and a stylist i really dislike having baby clients. Some stylists though are SO GOOD at it and are comfortable and do a good job of putting baby and momma at ease. Hair is different on everyone, even kiddos. My daughter was blonde and bald till she was 2 😂 meanwhile my son has always always had super long hair. Was born with it. So it’s not so crazy to have someone bring a baby in, and i don’t think that’s what she was saying. I think Sam was just saying this woman’s expectations were really skewed from reality. 🤷🏼♀️
My son is 2 and his whole life strangers will always call him “she” because he has long curly hair and i honestly never cared 🤷🏻♀️ we have never cut it and we don’t plan too anytime soon
Girl, I'm a bartender. The stories I could tell you about the way people behave in restaurants would kill you. My job litterally makes me gate people sometime.s I feel like some people just dont know how to be normal and kind to ANYONE
MegsMakeupLife * I can relate so much. I work at a Hooters on a very popular spring break destination. I could write a book about the crazy shit I’ve seen 😂
Yes!! I worked retail for years too. The bridal industry took the cake though. Wow. If it’s not the bride it’s someone in the family. It really was exhausting.
perfect example here -- people say trans people have issues with gender, but this woman up here nearly has an aneurysm because strangers mistook her newborn blob for the blue variety. I worked at a pet supply store and people would cry themselves to sleep if I didn't know their dog's sex on sight 🙄 like ma'am your dog doesn't even know the difference and never will
Hahaha that's me. I used to get mistaken for a boy on Instagram...little did I know. They were right afterall! Supportive sisters are the best tbh, my twin is such a lifeline for me.
I hate mothers that care so much about their baby’s appearance. I am a mother of a baby girl as well, and I will never understand that. I get it, it’s nice to dress them up once and awhile. But who cares if someone thinks your baby girl is a boy. Just be grateful you have your baby, and that your baby is healthy.
I love to watch and rewatch these customer related stories, bc I can learn so much, I am not a hair stylist, but I also work with clients and find it hard to keep my boundaries.
Ugh, that poor baby... I hope her mom lets go of her controlling needs as she grows up. I can't imagine being that worried about what strangers think of my baby, of her hair being freaking straight.
Omg 🤣 four hairs. My boys both came out with a full head of hair and whenever I see bald babies I'm always taken back. Apparently I think every kid comes out with hair.
Same. I would get the stink eye whenever I said my children's hair is thin (mine is super full. I have 2/3 shaved off - a waist length mohawk, and my long hair is fuller than the average person's full ponytail. I have fine hair, but just tons of it.) Because their hair is thinner than mine but by no means thin compared to the average baby.
People mistake my baby for a boy too lol we took her to get a pixie cut and of course it wasn’t perfect because she moves around a lot but I never blame the stylist for that
oh my gosh i can relate! i’ve been a stylist for over 3 years now and sometimes, i. my experience, the moms are worse than the children they’re bringing in.
Everyone should just say “oh so cute how old is your baby?” Then they’ll say he or she is! You could also ask for a name and hope it’s normal🤣🤣 I’ve learned from others mistakes never assume! Lol but I do hate when parents (usually moms!) are so fricken concerned about making sure they know they’re baby is a girl. If you’re that worried dress them in pink like you said haha geez
musicgal421 I had 2 girls I always dressed in pink with pink blankets and all kinds of girly frills and some completely clueless still said “ aww, he’s so cute, how old is he”. I just looked at em fora sec and said “she’s......” whatever the question. Some people do t even look or think
The way to get a baby girls hair to look more “feminine” is honestly just to let it grow out. Especially if she doesn’t have that much hair to begin with. This women 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
OMGosh Sam...I was laughing hysterically. I can see this all going down, as if I was standing there watching. People are so nutty, she’s a baby my goodness. Thanks for the story, it was so funny.
I kind of hope the baby turns out to be of the tomboyish girls who love to play have short hair and climb trees all day xD (and strong enough to get her way against her mother's wishes...)
I feel bad for that baby.. she'll be having issues with expressing herself because of that feminity cliché put on her by her mom..I got that from my mom and that was hard but I had my dad thanks god..
Mom of a 12 month old. Totally one of those “I just want the hair out of the eyes, and please don’t cut the ears off” type of person 🤣 can’t imagine how it’s possible to ask for anything more 😅
Dude I totally agree I’m so awkward around kids. I don’t know how to talk to them either I totally 100% understand. I like kids I just usually don’t know how to interact with them. Sometimes it’s like I get embarrassed for other people to hear me talk to them
I really appreciate your videos as a new stylist I definitely put a lot of pressure on myself and I will lose sleep over making a mistake. It is very refreshing to hear that every stylist goes through this
I have 3 daughters, they all got called boys and depending on the person/situation I would correct them politely and never think about it again. This baby was likely younger than 1 year if she had that little of hair and needed mom's support in a chair, like 6 or 8 months old tops. I don't do hair cuts on my girls until they get curious and do it to themselves first or they need a small trim here or there, usually about age 1 1/2 to 2 (they have the most amazing natural shirley temple curls - so I also never straight iron their hair).
And when I say depending on the situation or person I mean is it someone I could run into again, are they very old or hard of hearing etc. Just let it slide if it's a one time encounter, repeat encounters then I correct them. Even in super frilly girl clothes they would be called boys typically by older people (but look at your grandpa's baby photos, he was likely in a dress looking ensemble too - mom's sewed their own baby clothes without knowing what they were expecting).
This is a great video! Kinda funny because I work at a little kids hair salon and moms are sometimes SO CRAZY and picky! We’re franchising too so hopefully we’ll take those littles away from your salon for ya LOL! I know how much of a hassle they can be.
Dude, I put my little girl in full pink, pink blanket, carrier and toys but always had to have someone call her HIM.. Mind you she had a head full of hair I could put bows in her hair when she was born.. LOL I never got that but I always corrected with SHE really is BEAUTIFUL
I had my daughter in a dress blue with pink butterflies pink ballerina slippers and a pink bow. 3 months old and someone said he is so cute like no biggie I'm just like yeah she is a cute squirt and moved on lol
If you're so hell bent on everyone knowing your baby is a girl, go to her pediatrician and get her ears pierced! Crazy what some ppl automatically associate with gender but that is one thing that I'm sure would work for this woman. If she was willing to get anything done to her baby's hair she probably wouldn't mind having her ears pierced.
God, people who care that much about gender are the WORST. I use to work at build a bear, and once this dad was like so uncomfortable with the whole thing because he thought build a bear was just for girls. I kept saying stuff about how boys come in all the time, especially since the store started getting Star Wars and Pokemon stuff, but he's clearly only dealing with the experience because mom really wanted to do it (the kid was a newborn, adorable little baby, mom clearly wanted to do something special). So they pick out a cute monkey that's popular with a lot of boys, stuff it, then we get to the heart ceremony. I offer the $6 beating heart, as is my job, he says no, I say that's fine and say they can pick out a plush heart, dad says no. I say it's included with the cost of the bear, and dad says "no, 'cause it's for a boy." I was a little struck, because this is something that goes inside the bear. It's not visible at all. Mom probably would've loved making a wish on the heart. But I just said ok and moved on.... But according to this guys strict gender norms boys don't have hearts.
so great that ure not afraid to ask for help. esp when it comes to baby side swoops also, just tell ur next client this story abt why you were late and she’ll die laughing and be totally ok w it
My hairdresser stopped styling kids many years ago. She had been my stylist for over 15 years, so I wanted her to do my son’s first hair cut. She was so happy to do it. My son was so pretty as a baby, almost always got called a girl. Was not even close to bothered. Moms like her, completely freakin neurotic and psycho.
I’ve had a mom come into our salon and her daughter was 4 years old Asian, with long dark hair. She showed the stylist a picture of PLATINUM BALAYAGE. And the mom was like “I just want her hair to have dimension, like it’s all one color now and I want it to be blonde with dimension” meanwhile the kid can barely sit still for the consultation and could care less what her hair looks like because SHE’S 4! We were like “uhm that’s a hair color most adults won’t want to pay for, maintain, or sit that long for as it takes hours” (also your daughter is 4 let her have her natural hair you absolute psycho???) she kept insisting she wanted blonde and the stylist she was booked with ended up doing it and talking her into just doing a few subtle highlights on the ends. But I would have told he “no lady this isn’t create-a-character, I’m not bleaching your baby’s hair, get some therapy and put some money aside for your daughter’s therapy too because she’s probably going to need it.”
Also side note, I’m all for coloring kids hair if they want it, if some kid is like “I want unicorn hair” I’m like “hell yeah! Let’s do it” but no 4 year old is scrolling through Pinterest like “omg yas her hair is #goals I need that dImEnSiOn”
So funny to hear this story, I work at a kids salon/ adult salon which 70 percent of our clients are kids Lol I’ve herd it all.. parents can be something let me tell ya.. 😂😂😂😂
Absolutely agree with you on kids/children and you not being good with. I've always felt this way and still feel like it even though I have a 5yo daughter. So I empathize with your uncomfortablility with them, which is why I've always cut my own daughters hair! I've never cut or been trained in how to do hair, but I honestly think no one could have cut her hair as great as I've done so far.
I agree! And because she's your daughter and she's obviously comfortable with you, she probably sits a lot better for you than she would for a stranger, as most kids would. My mom always cut my hair when I was a kid too, even though she's never been trained to do hair either. I just think it's a lot easier that way for everyone involved!! Lol
Im pretty fresh in the industry im only 4 years in. My consultation skills have for sure gotten better, but I have learned to say no or sway the client in the other direction. I have had things happen like this where everything is okay but suddenly it goes south. I just learn how to say NO!
Crazy!!! My daughter is 2 1/2 and we haven’t cut her hair, she has super fine dark brown hair and her hair is growing a natural “V cut”. She has short hair in the front around her face and she has long hair in the back! I couldn’t imagine cutting her hair at 1 or even now.
Hello. I'm a mother of 2. They're grown & out on their own. I love babies,kids crack me up. I'm very livey dovey. BUT, I have zero, ZERO patience with them. I completely 150% understand how you feel. I could NEVER work with children. I often say that I'm so glad I'm done with all that Jazz. You remind me of my daughter. She is a lovely, beautiful soul. But she wants Nothing to do with kids. 😂 Maybe in the future who knows. But yeah she's told me "I just dont lime lids, they annoy me" lololol I'm your classic love up the babies for 20mins then Okay, where's your mom ,or dad. Gotta go. lolol. You were VERY accommodating to the Eyelash Nazi from your other Horror Client Story.
I’m still laughing. Sam, you are great. I know you’re the saying anything out loud, but under. Your breath. I had to retire almost 11 years ago 🐝cuz after the fourth total hip replacement surgery, my surgeon forbade me going back to the salon. He actually thought that it’s easy being the receptionist! After I explained about who keeps towels going, who stocks the front shelves, who may have to sup if that stylist gets behind DUE 2 no fault of THEIR OWN! So I’ve kept busy doing a few friends here at my house. No chemicals, just cuts and makeup. And what a nice message at the end of your video to the are in school and to those who are thinking about going to cosmetology school. I truly enjoyed my schooling and my jobs. After I’d worked for awhile, I went back to a Paul Mitchell Hair Academy for my instructors license. And a few years after that, I was asked to become a Washington state licensing examiner. My fave subject to teach was and actually still is, is esthetics and overall health. Now that I’m 72, standing to do just simple h/c’s is hard on my hips and legs. But I had a blast when I was able to work. In order for me not to try and fool myself by saying, ‘I’m alright. Let just teach one class.........’. In 2012 I didn’t renew my license. Take care and keep those funny stories coming. I need a little ‘salon humor’ every now and then. One more thing, there’s some truly psychotic ppl out there. And sometimes you just may cry and doubt yourself, but take a deep breath, sip some cold water and take 10 for yourself. Until you’ve been in a chemical room that’s chaos, had an unruly kid with equally unruly parent, worked sick or hurting, ppl think it’s all glamor. One more story. This happened way back in 1993 after I had completed my cadet program and was hired by the Paul Mitchell Academy manager. A young lady who had just graduated from high school enrolled into the cosmetology program. Her dad was some sort of bigwig. Can’t remember exactly, but must have been a doctor. He told her she was a dropout, didn’t want to apply herself to hard work, etc. So, when she got her kit she took her books (I had 2 bks also. Maybe it’s a WA state thing. Malady and can’t remember) home. Her dad saw her kit and books, so he thumbed thru them. He was so very surprised at the content and the fact that we have to be able to spot a disease from a disorder so on and so forth. That cosmetology students need to know about muscles and nerves, etc, etc, etc. Her dad not only apologized to her, but he called the academy and apologized to the instructors also. He said that this is the same stuff he had to learn in med school. He was totally shocked. And when I explained that same thing to my surgeon, he was equally shocked. Take care, Sam Kate, theflutterby 🦋💕 💇🏽♂️💇🏾♀️
I love your videos!! One of your videos was in my recommendation list last week and ever since I’ve been catching up on all your videos! Keep up the good work on your channel!
my brother looked like a little girl when he was a baby, who cares? Theyre babies its hard to figure out different gender features until they grow a little. You want her to look more like a girl soooooooo bad then dress her better like she said
Lol I saw one of these go down and I was a waiting client. I just walked over and told the mother "aww she's adorable! How old is she?" That ended it and she was happy. Sometimes that's all it takes
I used to work at kids only salon for almost a year and we had this issue all the time. The mothers always loved their sons long hair and wanted to keep it but they thought it was rude that people were misgendering their child. Or they would try to keep the long hair but wanted to make it “masculine” or wanted more feminine looks for girls when they have no hair and that’s hard to do. Or taking their children that barely have hair growing in and wanting to give them bangs, fades and hard parts. It’s really shocking to see how parents really care about the aesthetically pleasing aspect of their children. And trying to explain the issue or the situation to the parents is hard... they don’t understand and get super frustrated and want to complain but like you said there’s not much you can do when they have a vision or a picture they bring in.
I definitely appreciate the patience you have with this mother. Just to let you know, though, I did put my daughter in all pink sometimes, put her in dresses, put flowers and barrettes in her hair (that she always pulled out), and people STILL called her a boy and TBH, she actually looked more feminine than most ambiguous blobs of gender-neutral looking babies. Thank God, she's 15 now and can deal with her own fashion and identity. All I could do was gently correct and walk on, now they have to deal with her if they decide to call her a boy, lol
It honestly sounds like she was genuinely unhappy with her child and that’s really sad
Yes! She was clearly frustrated about the fact that her baby was a bald bloob
@Scorched Earth and not European baby's? 🤔
Da Nax same thing but replace the British guy with the Michelin man lmao
I agree.
I would get mad when people called my baby a boy.. and I’m not unhappy with her at all. It’s irritating cause my daughter would wear all pink, with a pink blanket & pig tails and people would still say she’s a boy. It’s annoying
This lady has issues. My 8 year old son to this day gets called a girl. He’s just pretty. With big blue eyes, gorgeous eye lashes. Literally no one cares. I don’t care. My husband doesn’t care. My son doesn’t care. My son just corrects them politely and we never think about it again.
K L boys always have the nicest lashes 😍 lucky boy
Gender is a social thing, he knows what he identifies as and you know what he identifies as, people who fight with a child about things like that are awful people! He’s a beautiful boy and that’s okay ! ^^
That’s how it is with my 9 year old too. He has big blue eyes, beautiful lashes, and shoulder length beautiful hair. It doesn’t bother him or I when people mistake his gender. We politely correct them. What bothers me is the people that tell him he looks “too girly” when they know he’s a boy 🙄
K L -- Boys and girls have similar faces until they go into puberty. So since most boys have short hair of someone sees shoulder length there might be confusion. I had a pixie cut at 11 years old and was asked by strangers if I was a "boy or girl" which is why I keep my hair long to this day. It made me feel "masculine".
K L absolutely you are right and she sounds very toxic because as a mother she has forgotten her baby’s priorities... the baby needs food, care and rest not a stylish haircut 😞🤦🏻♀️
I once heard someone say that misgendering a baby is an insult to the mother, but all babies look like ambiguous blobs sooo lol 😆
themelonsoup Truth! Newborns all look very gender neutral. Mothers need to chill. I have two lol
Babies generally look exactly the same, they all have weird smushed faces, I genuinely couldn’t tell which kid was my niece once when I was picking her up from nursery and she was 3 at the time, so yeah they have those weird identical faces for so long
So stupid lmao
My son had long hair until he was 2.5 years old. He would always have his hair in a ponytail. Some people would think he’s a girl and I’d politely correct them and accept the compliment of them telling me I have a beautiful child.
When I was little I looked alot like a boy and also liked to wear more masculine clothes so I never really wore dresses but mostly jumpers or pants. Everyone thought I was a boy and on every baby picture I looked like a boy. I didnt care at that age and my mom just corrected the people. I also did not have much hair. Now I am pretty girly and have way too much hair (so expensive to dye :c). So why would someone care about if their kid looks masculine or feminin? Just because her kid maybe looked like a boy, doesnt mean that she cant become a girly girl. And even if she doesnt, why is that so important? I really dont get it.
Even side bangs sounds crazy for a baby’s hair
True!
Especially cause boy's now wear side bangs.
It's the mini I Want to Speak to Your Manager cut...training mini Karens since 2018 lol!
Yeahh XD
i mean for older babies (like 12 + mnth) side bangs wouldlbe a good idea, so they are out of their face while playing. but it depends on the kids hair
“Do you want me to put a wig on her” TOOK ME OUT 😂💀😂
"took me out" 😂 ive never heard that one, i love it!
Lmfaoooooooo I swear omg 🤣
Michelle Morera i was literally just about to comment this!!😂😂😂😂
“Took me out” made this comment dead asf 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
I swear people with 4 hairs are the pickiest 🤦🏽♀️
Lol
well the baby had 4 hairs not the mom lol
😂😂😂😂
I have so thick curly hair, and I have heard my friends with thin and fine hair and they are really picky with there hair. Maybe if you have less hair one piece matters more?
Ash ikr? Once you get past a certain point of volume, you have so much hair that you just can’t even be bothered to care about the little bits
I was once out shopping when I heard this little girl call her mother “mom” and the mother looked at her and said “excuse me what did you just say??” And the little girl quickly corrected herself calling the woman “mommy” instead. People are weird.
LauraKat87 Jesus. That’s scary, no lie. Really controlling tbh. I’d be scared 😦
Wow 😐 poor girl.
My mom still thinks she's a teen and refused to speak to my brother and I if we called her "mom" growing up so we called her by her real name and everyone thought it was so weird and disrespectful that we called her by her name especially in Korea where we're from when we were children but that's because she wanted us to. She wouldn't talk to us if we called her mom. We're adults now and living in the states so when we call her by her name we don't get nearly as much backlash.
What's worse is seeing teenagers call their parents mommy and daddy 🥺🥺🥺
@@rebeccafaford5417 are you serious? ..
It might make me sound like a B, but I thoroughly enjoy saying NO to people. As hairdressers, we don't get to do that very often, but when the time is right. I'm like, "No." and then I just look at them and shake my head 'no'. If they look at me like they don;t understand me , then I gently explain. But, sometimes, it pops them right into reality. Our bosses need to back us up more than they do, honestly.
Teach me your ways! I have always been afraid of saying no, not just in the industry but in general life. It gives me anxiety thinking of confrontation and because of that I am basically a yes man/doormat. And now I don't know how to change that.
@@maeve.starlight Aww, no doormat!!! I literally had a guy come in with a fake coupon from another state, knock on the glass before opening, and then ask me if he could use the coupon for a beard trim, because, " He was bald" And, I was like, "No." *flatly* *shakes head back and forth slowly* LOL Maybe one day, I'll do a re-enactment on YT!! Haahaa!!!
What that woman wanted was a doll instead of a baby.
The mom is projecting her own insecurities on her baby....
“She had like four hairs” lmaooo
My son is 3 years old and people always tell me , “she’s so pretty “ 🤷♀️🤷♀️ he responds with, “I’m a boy see look at my face” 😂
Dee Anahi so cute 😂😂
Haha that's sweet. I had a friend with a pre-k sister that insisted her best friend Oscar was a girl because he had long pretty hair. Nope, he was just a very cute Hispanic boy, he couldn't even convince her until his parents cut his hair.
My little cousin used to respond i'm a boy look at my "pipi" showing his little male parts
I had to quit cosmetology school. I couldn't handle the high expectations. People come in with a picture of Beyonce, but they look like freakin' Shrek.
hahahaha
Omg hahahaahahaha
Lmao it's true and I'm guilty of that myself!! Before I went to cosmetology school I was always attracted to Selena Gomez's short hair cuts. She makes a lob look so easy and natural!!! Well maybe it is for her. I went in to my usual stylist 1 day with literally a pic in my phone of the Selena Gomez cut I wanted, and came out looking nothing like it!! The style was cute, but it wasn't free, wavy, and natural like hers. Later in life I realized, I have course, damaged, over processed, what used to be really curly hair. I can't look like that without JUST a hair 😫😫
Mrs. Solano are you seriously comparing HUMAN BEINGS to shrek?? Why does that statement say more about you than the picky customer
@@ugighcvgi3084 Do you know what a joke is??
Moms who are concerned with their infant's masculinity/femininity make me want to scream. As if looking like the opposite gender would kill her. If they put that kind of energy on their kids with things that matter such as reading or math, they would be the next Einstein!
Right??!!!
To be fair the big change in hormones could effect their reaction when people misgender their babies.
This women in the story does sound awful though, seriously just get some baby pink cloths for her!
Dear god i would not wanna be this ladys daughter
Hahaha agreed!
Literally just had an older client yesterday with fine, very soft curly hair. Gave her a super cute soft angled bob to perk up her curls and make her hair look fuller. I get done, she looks in the mirror, then proceeds to tell me how her hair looks too thick and it looks messy. Mind you, when we consulted, I told her exactly what I was going to do, showed her pictures, and she was very excited to get started. It looked beautiful. I guess you just can't please everyone. Thankfully she didn't make a scene, she just gave a lot of attitude.
It's true. Some people really are impossible to please! You can't take that stuff personally or let it get to you! Glad she didn't cause a scene at least!
My friend (hairstylist) says it's not the hair they're looking at it's who they're looking at 🤭
@@anon3263 I dress for success and make myself look business appropriate everyday. My attitude is positive and I do well at my job because I LOVE my job. I'm telling you, you truly can't please everyone.
@@ashleybrady7103 sorry I think there's a miscommunication, I wasn't talking about the hairstylist at all. It's who they're looking back at in the mirror. My bad haha
My son is a toe head blonde, as a baby his hair was transparent with teal blue eyes. People used to always say 'oh, shes so pretty' 😂 I would say thank you and move on. There strangers so who cares.
Yes lol we’d say thank you when people do that to my son but I’m sure they ended up hearing us call him bubba
Who the hell brings a baby to a salon for a haircut?
gottahaveshades Fr i would just trim my baby’s hair myself or take them to sport clips 😂😂
I took my 1 yo to a salon for his first haircut. It was cheaper than going to a barber and it’s where I get my hair done so I really trusted those people.
Idk if it’s me but I’m not cutting my child’s hair until she is 4 and that will be a trim. My babies hair is long and full
I did. My girl had wild , WILD full thick hair and I didnt want to cut it and destroy her curls .
Its a good thing to get them used to being in the chair to eliminate the fear
I do, but my so. Has always had a LOT of hair. I’m also a stylist. But even being a mother and a stylist i really dislike having baby clients. Some stylists though are SO GOOD at it and are comfortable and do a good job of putting baby and momma at ease. Hair is different on everyone, even kiddos. My daughter was blonde and bald till she was 2 😂 meanwhile my son has always always had super long hair. Was born with it. So it’s not so crazy to have someone bring a baby in, and i don’t think that’s what she was saying. I think Sam was just saying this woman’s expectations were really skewed from reality. 🤷🏼♀️
My son is 2 and his whole life strangers will always call him “she” because he has long curly hair and i honestly never cared 🤷🏻♀️ we have never cut it and we don’t plan too anytime soon
40 minutes to cut 4 hairs? That's 10 friggin minutes per hair!
Girl, I'm a bartender. The stories I could tell you about the way people behave in restaurants would kill you. My job litterally makes me gate people sometime.s I feel like some people just dont know how to be normal and kind to ANYONE
MegsMakeupLife * I can relate so much. I work at a Hooters on a very popular spring break destination. I could write a book about the crazy shit I’ve seen 😂
Omg I would LOVE to hear them! Lol
I love your videos! PREACH!
I worked in retail for 16 years and holy shit ladies are so rude. RUUUUUDE and misinformed 100% of the time. 🤣
Yes!
Yes!! I worked retail for years too. The bridal industry took the cake though. Wow. If it’s not the bride it’s someone in the family. It really was exhausting.
My sister got mistaken for a boy all the time, even in pink dresses. Now hes a trans man LOL
Haha aw so it worked out perfectly! ;)
Sam Vay aha it all worked out in the end
Seems everyone knew before he did! 😁
perfect example here -- people say trans people have issues with gender, but this woman up here nearly has an aneurysm because strangers mistook her newborn blob for the blue variety. I worked at a pet supply store and people would cry themselves to sleep if I didn't know their dog's sex on sight 🙄 like ma'am your dog doesn't even know the difference and never will
Hahaha that's me. I used to get mistaken for a boy on Instagram...little did I know. They were right afterall!
Supportive sisters are the best tbh, my twin is such a lifeline for me.
I hate mothers that care so much about their baby’s appearance. I am a mother of a baby girl as well, and I will never understand that. I get it, it’s nice to dress them up once and awhile. But who cares if someone thinks your baby girl is a boy. Just be grateful you have your baby, and that your baby is healthy.
al -- Babies are difficult to tell if they are boy or girl because their faces are similar.
Deborah T but so what lmao? What does that matter to anything?
That's so superficial. My daughter at one was bald like an old man. Now at nearly 3, she finally has a comb over 😂
kate09854 hahahahha I love this comment 😂😂😂
Omg I hate when parents are so picky about their babies hair !!
It's really ridiculous!
YALL I SWEAR I THOUGHT SHE WAD ANFISA OFF OF 90 DAY FIANCÉ
makeup by mia kate I was about to say the same thing😂😅
I can see the resemblance, but this UA-camr is extra pretty. 💄🎨🌹
@@yahainHotPink and way friendlier!
Saaaaaame!!!
LMAAAAO
I love to watch and rewatch these customer related stories, bc I can learn so much, I am not a hair stylist, but I also work with clients and find it hard to keep my boundaries.
Ugh, that poor baby... I hope her mom lets go of her controlling needs as she grows up. I can't imagine being that worried about what strangers think of my baby, of her hair being freaking straight.
Agreed!
Seriously most babies you can’t even tell their gender, you can dress them as either a boy or girl and it would be believable lol.
Omg 🤣 four hairs. My boys both came out with a full head of hair and whenever I see bald babies I'm always taken back. Apparently I think every kid comes out with hair.
Same! All four of mine came out with thick and long AF hair.
Same. I would get the stink eye whenever I said my children's hair is thin (mine is super full. I have 2/3 shaved off - a waist length mohawk, and my long hair is fuller than the average person's full ponytail. I have fine hair, but just tons of it.) Because their hair is thinner than mine but by no means thin compared to the average baby.
HAHAHAHA I love the disclaimer ! I work at Sephora & love client stories 😭❤️ just found your channel subscribed ! 🥰
Haha yeah it feels like it shouldn't be necessary, but some people are overly sensitive unfortunately! :)
People mistake my baby for a boy too lol we took her to get a pixie cut and of course it wasn’t perfect because she moves around a lot but I never blame the stylist for that
I looked like a baby boy until I was like 6 AINT NOTHING WRONG WITH IT lol
Tye B SAME
I’m a stylist too! I just came across your channel! This is the real stuff we gotta deal with with clients. So relatable
I love the term “peach fuzz” 😂
Another reason why my daughter didn’t have her first haircut until she was 4!! And I love ❤️ her long hair, of course!
I felt so stressed out imagining everything go down.
Feeling bad for the baby, imagine when this child grows a little her mom is going to be a bully about her daughter's appearance.
you should have asked if she wanted you to dye her babies hair pink, that might be feminine enough for her LOL
oh my gosh i can relate! i’ve been a stylist for over 3 years now and sometimes, i. my experience, the moms are worse than the children they’re bringing in.
Not a cosmetologist. Yet still love your stories their always so interesting lol . Your hair looking good girl 💁🏻♀️
Thank you! :)
Your makeup look is PERFECT! It is so nice to see a UA-camr with a beautiful natural makeup look. You look beautiful and glowing, I love it!
Everyone should just say “oh so cute how old is your baby?” Then they’ll say he or she is! You could also ask for a name and hope it’s normal🤣🤣 I’ve learned from others mistakes never assume! Lol but I do hate when parents (usually moms!) are so fricken concerned about making sure they know they’re baby is a girl. If you’re that worried dress them in pink like you said haha geez
musicgal421 I had 2 girls I always dressed in pink with pink blankets and all kinds of girly frills and some completely clueless still said “ aww, he’s so cute, how old is he”. I just looked at em fora sec and said “she’s......” whatever the question. Some people do t even look or think
So easy in English! In my language, it's very hard to avoid gender specification 😆
The way to get a baby girls hair to look more “feminine” is honestly just to let it grow out. Especially if she doesn’t have that much hair to begin with. This women 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
I love these videos! I work in retail and have a ton of horror stories so, it's always fun to hear other people's stories
Hahaha yes I've worked retail too! I feel like any job that involves dealing with the public will leave you with some good stories lol
The mom sounds kind of crazy. I always let my kids’ hair grow in naturally. I don’t think I even cut my daughter’s hair until she was 4.
that lil baby is NOT gonna have a very easy life. im sorry :(
I felt so sorry for you. I’m a retired hairstylist and I know there are crazies out there.
OMGosh Sam...I was laughing hysterically. I can see this all going down, as if I was standing there watching. People are so nutty, she’s a baby my goodness. Thanks for the story, it was so funny.
- Wait, I didn't understand. What is she?
- *A BaAaAaAaByYyYyYyYyYy*
I kind of hope the baby turns out to be of the tomboyish girls who love to play have short hair and climb trees all day xD
(and strong enough to get her way against her mother's wishes...)
I feel bad for that baby.. she'll be having issues with expressing herself because of that feminity cliché put on her by her mom..I got that from my mom and that was hard but I had my dad thanks god..
I found your channel a few days ago and I've been binging your videos since😍 I love all your videos, you're so relatable!
Aw thank you so much!!
Ashlee B Same! Me too!
@@OMalley1203 I'm just not getting tired of her and her content! It literally feels like hanging out with a friend
your voice is absolutely so soothing.
Did she want you to give her baby a comb-over? 😭😭😭
Mom of a 12 month old. Totally one of those “I just want the hair out of the eyes, and please don’t cut the ears off” type of person 🤣 can’t imagine how it’s possible to ask for anything more 😅
Dude I totally agree I’m so awkward around kids. I don’t know how to talk to them either I totally 100% understand. I like kids I just usually don’t know how to interact with them. Sometimes it’s like I get embarrassed for other people to hear me talk to them
Same! Im 12 weeks pregnant right now. Sometimes I think how am I gonna be around my own baby?😂
Don't apologize, you are a great story teller! You aren't rude. Pop offffff sisssssssss
I really appreciate your videos as a new stylist I definitely put a lot of pressure on myself and I will lose sleep over making a mistake. It is very refreshing to hear that every stylist goes through this
Why is a baby in a hair salon period 🤦🏻♀️smh maybe the mom needed a hair cut lol
Some clients are nuts 😂 this angered me for you
I’m planning on being a hair stylist and your videos really help me in what to expect and make me laugh 😂
this is honestly a sad story, the mom is insecure and it's sad that it's going to rub off on the child in the future.
LOL you’re too funny! I’m a hairstylist also, so I totally get it! Some people have crazy expectations.
I have 3 daughters, they all got called boys and depending on the person/situation I would correct them politely and never think about it again. This baby was likely younger than 1 year if she had that little of hair and needed mom's support in a chair, like 6 or 8 months old tops. I don't do hair cuts on my girls until they get curious and do it to themselves first or they need a small trim here or there, usually about age 1 1/2 to 2 (they have the most amazing natural shirley temple curls - so I also never straight iron their hair).
And when I say depending on the situation or person I mean is it someone I could run into again, are they very old or hard of hearing etc. Just let it slide if it's a one time encounter, repeat encounters then I correct them. Even in super frilly girl clothes they would be called boys typically by older people (but look at your grandpa's baby photos, he was likely in a dress looking ensemble too - mom's sewed their own baby clothes without knowing what they were expecting).
This is a great video! Kinda funny because I work at a little kids hair salon and moms are sometimes SO CRAZY and picky! We’re franchising too so hopefully we’ll take those littles away from your salon for ya LOL! I know how much of a hassle they can be.
This lady was taking her own image issues out on her poor child. I feel for that kid so much!
Dude, I put my little girl in full pink, pink blanket, carrier and toys but always had to have someone call her HIM.. Mind you she had a head full of hair I could put bows in her hair when she was born.. LOL I never got that but I always corrected with SHE really is BEAUTIFUL
I had my daughter in a dress blue with pink butterflies pink ballerina slippers and a pink bow. 3 months old and someone said he is so cute like no biggie I'm just like yeah she is a cute squirt and moved on lol
@@arickak.7364probably because now a lot of people put their boy babies in girl clothes because "clothes have no gender"
Sorry, this is hilarious!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂
I’m so sorry for u! I laughed out loud about 4 times!!!!
There are so many crazy people in this world🤦♀️🤪🤪🤪🤪
If you're so hell bent on everyone knowing your baby is a girl, go to her pediatrician and get her ears pierced! Crazy what some ppl automatically associate with gender but that is one thing that I'm sure would work for this woman. If she was willing to get anything done to her baby's hair she probably wouldn't mind having her ears pierced.
Yup. My mom got my ears pierced when I was 2 months old.
Yea that was my first thought. Never seen someone take a babygirl younger than 1 to a hair salon.
Shit Clair’s
God, people who care that much about gender are the WORST.
I use to work at build a bear, and once this dad was like so uncomfortable with the whole thing because he thought build a bear was just for girls.
I kept saying stuff about how boys come in all the time, especially since the store started getting Star Wars and Pokemon stuff, but he's clearly only dealing with the experience because mom really wanted to do it (the kid was a newborn, adorable little baby, mom clearly wanted to do something special).
So they pick out a cute monkey that's popular with a lot of boys, stuff it, then we get to the heart ceremony.
I offer the $6 beating heart, as is my job, he says no, I say that's fine and say they can pick out a plush heart, dad says no. I say it's included with the cost of the bear, and dad says "no, 'cause it's for a boy."
I was a little struck, because this is something that goes inside the bear. It's not visible at all. Mom probably would've loved making a wish on the heart. But I just said ok and moved on....
But according to this guys strict gender norms boys don't have hearts.
so great that ure not afraid to ask for help.
esp when it comes to baby side swoops
also, just tell ur next client this story abt why you were late and she’ll die laughing and be totally ok w it
My hairdresser stopped styling kids many years ago. She had been my stylist for over 15 years, so I wanted her to do my son’s first hair cut. She was so happy to do it. My son was so pretty as a baby, almost always got called a girl. Was not even close to bothered. Moms like her, completely freakin neurotic and psycho.
i'm not into hair or anything but i like listening abt crazy client stories so do more and thanks for sharing =)
girl you need to make more stories like this they are addicting
Hahaha I will! ;)
I’ve had a mom come into our salon and her daughter was 4 years old Asian, with long dark hair. She showed the stylist a picture of PLATINUM BALAYAGE. And the mom was like “I just want her hair to have dimension, like it’s all one color now and I want it to be blonde with dimension” meanwhile the kid can barely sit still for the consultation and could care less what her hair looks like because SHE’S 4! We were like “uhm that’s a hair color most adults won’t want to pay for, maintain, or sit that long for as it takes hours” (also your daughter is 4 let her have her natural hair you absolute psycho???) she kept insisting she wanted blonde and the stylist she was booked with ended up doing it and talking her into just doing a few subtle highlights on the ends. But I would have told he “no lady this isn’t create-a-character, I’m not bleaching your baby’s hair, get some therapy and put some money aside for your daughter’s therapy too because she’s probably going to need it.”
Also side note, I’m all for coloring kids hair if they want it, if some kid is like “I want unicorn hair” I’m like “hell yeah! Let’s do it” but no 4 year old is scrolling through Pinterest like “omg yas her hair is #goals I need that dImEnSiOn”
So funny to hear this story, I work at a kids salon/ adult salon which 70 percent of our clients are kids Lol I’ve herd it all.. parents can be something let me tell ya.. 😂😂😂😂
Okay I’m late to the party here but I’ve just found your channel and i have been BINGING your videos! Love them all lol you’re great
Absolutely agree with you on kids/children and you not being good with. I've always felt this way and still feel like it even though I have a 5yo daughter. So I empathize with your uncomfortablility with them, which is why I've always cut my own daughters hair! I've never cut or been trained in how to do hair, but I honestly think no one could have cut her hair as great as I've done so far.
I agree! And because she's your daughter and she's obviously comfortable with you, she probably sits a lot better for you than she would for a stranger, as most kids would. My mom always cut my hair when I was a kid too, even though she's never been trained to do hair either. I just think it's a lot easier that way for everyone involved!! Lol
We need lots more stories. I love your stories :)
Hahaha don't worry, I have a whole list of them!! ;)
Oh hellllll nooo🤦🏻♂️ I would have had to fight LMAOO
I worked in a couple of kids salons.. moms are just crazy. They get so mad at you for things you cant control
Love watching your storytimes when I'm getting ready also you're sooo pretty💕
I am loving these storytimes! You just gained a new sub, you are so funny and genuine 💚
Thank you :)
LOVE YOUR BOSS' RESPONSE 💕
Im pretty fresh in the industry im only 4 years in. My consultation skills have for sure gotten better, but I have learned to say no or sway the client in the other direction. I have had things happen like this where everything is okay but suddenly it goes south. I just learn how to say NO!
Crazy!!! My daughter is 2 1/2 and we haven’t cut her hair, she has super fine dark brown hair and her hair is growing a natural “V cut”. She has short hair in the front around her face and she has long hair in the back! I couldn’t imagine cutting her hair at 1 or even now.
Hello. I'm a mother of 2. They're grown & out on their own.
I love babies,kids crack me up. I'm very livey dovey.
BUT, I have zero,
ZERO patience with them. I completely 150% understand how you feel. I could NEVER work with children. I often say that I'm so glad I'm done with all that Jazz. You remind me of my daughter. She is a lovely, beautiful soul. But she wants Nothing to do with kids. 😂
Maybe in the future who knows. But yeah she's told me "I just dont lime lids, they annoy me" lololol
I'm your classic love up the babies for 20mins then Okay, where's your mom ,or dad. Gotta go. lolol.
You were VERY accommodating to the Eyelash Nazi from your other Horror Client Story.
I’m still laughing. Sam, you are great. I know you’re the saying anything out loud, but under. Your breath. I had to retire almost 11 years ago 🐝cuz after the fourth total hip replacement surgery, my surgeon forbade me going back to the salon. He actually thought that it’s easy being the receptionist! After I explained about who keeps towels going, who stocks the front shelves, who may have to sup if that stylist gets behind DUE 2 no fault of THEIR OWN! So I’ve kept busy doing a few friends here at my house. No chemicals, just cuts and makeup. And what a nice message at the end of your video to the are in school and to those who are thinking about going to cosmetology school. I truly enjoyed my schooling and my jobs. After I’d worked for awhile, I went back to a Paul Mitchell Hair Academy for my instructors license. And a few years after that, I was asked to become a Washington state licensing examiner. My fave subject to teach was and actually still is, is esthetics and overall health. Now that I’m 72, standing to do just simple h/c’s is hard on my hips and legs. But I had a blast when I was able to work. In order for me not to try and fool myself by saying, ‘I’m alright. Let just teach one class.........’. In 2012 I didn’t renew my license. Take care and keep those funny stories coming. I need a little ‘salon humor’ every now and then. One more thing, there’s some truly psychotic ppl out there. And sometimes you just may cry and doubt yourself, but take a deep breath, sip some cold water and take 10 for yourself. Until you’ve been in a chemical room that’s chaos, had an unruly kid with equally unruly parent, worked sick or hurting, ppl think it’s all glamor. One more story. This happened way back in 1993 after I had completed my cadet program and was hired by the Paul Mitchell Academy manager. A young lady who had just graduated from high school enrolled into the cosmetology program. Her dad was some sort of bigwig. Can’t remember exactly, but must have been a doctor. He told her she was a dropout, didn’t want to apply herself to hard work, etc. So, when she got her kit she took her books (I had 2 bks also. Maybe it’s a WA state thing. Malady and can’t remember) home. Her dad saw her kit and books, so he thumbed thru them. He was so very surprised at the content and the fact that we have to be able to spot a disease from a disorder so on and so forth. That cosmetology students need to know about muscles and nerves, etc, etc, etc. Her dad not only apologized to her, but he called the academy and apologized to the instructors also. He said that this is the same stuff he had to learn in med school. He was totally shocked. And when I explained that same thing to my surgeon, he was equally shocked. Take care, Sam
Kate, theflutterby 🦋💕 💇🏽♂️💇🏾♀️
I love your videos!! One of your videos was in my recommendation list last week and ever since I’ve been catching up on all your videos! Keep up the good work on your channel!
Thank you so much! :)
Sam Vay you’re welcome!!
my brother looked like a little girl when he was a baby, who cares? Theyre babies its hard to figure out different gender features until they grow a little. You want her to look more like a girl soooooooo bad then dress her better like she said
Lol I saw one of these go down and I was a waiting client. I just walked over and told the mother "aww she's adorable! How old is she?" That ended it and she was happy. Sometimes that's all it takes
Hilarious.........love the way you present the situation!!!!
LOL 💟💜💟
I’m not a hairdresser and these videos get me fired up!! People are so insane..
I used to work at kids only salon for almost a year and we had this issue all the time. The mothers always loved their sons long hair and wanted to keep it but they thought it was rude that people were misgendering their child. Or they would try to keep the long hair but wanted to make it “masculine” or wanted more feminine looks for girls when they have no hair and that’s hard to do. Or taking their children that barely have hair growing in and wanting to give them bangs, fades and hard parts. It’s really shocking to see how parents really care about the aesthetically pleasing aspect of their children. And trying to explain the issue or the situation to the parents is hard... they don’t understand and get super frustrated and want to complain but like you said there’s not much you can do when they have a vision or a picture they bring in.
I loooove your story! Idk how anyone can not like you or think your rude!
Thank you so much!
Omg I totally understand what you mean about not being able to talk to kids! They make me feel so awkward.
I definitely appreciate the patience you have with this mother. Just to let you know, though, I did put my daughter in all pink sometimes, put her in dresses, put flowers and barrettes in her hair (that she always pulled out), and people STILL called her a boy and TBH, she actually looked more feminine than most ambiguous blobs of gender-neutral looking babies. Thank God, she's 15 now and can deal with her own fashion and identity. All I could do was gently correct and walk on, now they have to deal with her if they decide to call her a boy, lol
Hahaahhahahahhahaha omg "ambiguous blobs of gender-neutral looking babies" I'm dead!!
Where did you get that jacket?!? The chevron design, the ring pull on the zipper! I love it! (also love your vids)