“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.” This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.
I would modify it slightly and say, A healthy individual can serve while allowing others to serve him. There has to be balance. Too much serving is just a toxic as too much taking. Love is unconditional; Relationships are not. Relationships are a delicate dance of give and take on both sides.
This hit me hard as well! I had to turn the focus of who I am... Shadow work.. digging deep into my childhood and the abuse and coming out the other end following the important investment I made investing in myself and self LOVE! 🙏💖
Yes, so true because your core values are the core of who you truly are. Don't settle or compromise your core values, or you will be miserable and are soon divorced. Oil and water don't mix. You need more than love. I'm a witness!
@@ronaldcoleman1688 core beliefs: values your inner self knows better to keep and respecting them: always no matter who comes your way. You won’t give up on those core values; (sets of lessons learned or wisdom shared with you or that you may have observed and liked) that you have found defining who you are growing to be like, your beliefs are backed up by proofs that it’s working… and sincerely committing to keep them.
Yes I’m agnostic and when i was on my quest for finding a partner i met my husband who is also agnostic ❤ it was important to me to not involve myself with a religious person
my ex literally would ask me "what do you have to give to me? what do you give me?". he was living with me and driving my car. when i kicked him out and didn't let him borrow the car, he broke up.
So the non toxic behavior is for both to build a table and service one another. We must teach the children how to build tables and serve one another! We all build together and bring what we all want and need to said table!💯
But first: how can you fall in love with someone whose core beliefs are completely different from yours? What is it that you think you love about another person when you two are so different on a basic level? In this case it cannot be love at all, but only attraction 🤷♀️. Learn the difference between love and attraction first!
Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.
This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.
To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽
There is a book called Casanova optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, It's the real deal
God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽
I’ve met someone who needs work done on himself, inner work, shadow work. Needs to love himself and work in his traumas… he doesn’t see nor understand this. I maybe came into his life to show him this, for he has hurt me and disrespected me emotionally and I’ve called it quits because I simply cannot be in a place where my feelings are dismissed. I adore him but I’ve only been stressed and feel like I’m just counseling him. And it’s draining
I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢
I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few divorces.....I have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!
@smartkookie Define healing? No grief and healing are 2 different processes. There's griefing first THEN comes the healing process. Research it, and if you haven't experienced it, you might not understand. Be blessed.
Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .
I'm currently going through a tragic breakup and dealing with severe heartbreak. It's been a week now and this entire interview is healing me. DeVon's experiences and advice, man he was calling me OUT!!! But definitely words I needed to hear. Loved every bit of this interview.
Can relate as well, been three weeks. And this time, I am going to work on me. I still believe in love and am ready to receive it in the way that I give it. Am going to give healthy love and receive it healthy.
Yess!!! My divine creator is so magnificent and endearing.. to place this video in my path when I needed it the most. Wow..how beautiful is the life? To know that we will ALWAYS be loved and supported regardless of what may be happening in front of us. God always have our backs, we just have to believe ❤.
I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤
WOW Lisa, please know I actually stopped in my tracks when you said “Oftentimes in relationships we abandon ourselves” I’ve most of my life felt Abandoned, therefore “abandonment issues” It only came in loud & clear to me (your words being the impetus) I’ve abandoned myself. Enough of that shit!!!! 🫢😆 Onward in a healthy way!!’ ❤ Thanks for being you Lisa. ✌🏻🙌🏻💓✨💫
This is what I needed to here.... I'm about to finalize my divorce. I'm a woman of God and to find someone that's on my same level or having the same core values seems hard. I have found that men say they are living for God but that really not everyone that says there a "Christian" there not. My faith is my everything and doing God's will. I'm loving myself and I'm worthy to have my standards. I love taking a stand for standards and feeling worthy. Devon is so real with this.... I can relate.... The pain I have experienced I will help other women. By listening to this has help me and inspired me. Keep shining Devon!!!!❤️ Our testimony is powerful!!!! You're helping many!!!!!
Right, and she and he worked hard to determine they were not a match and that is not a loss, it just brings them closer to the right one. That is a blessing!
Wow, he said some of the same things Dr Cindy Trimm said, boundaries and self prospective, a must! Work on self, it is a constant journey. Learn from your mistakes.
Amen 🙏🏽 he is sharp and Beautiful and this is my first time ever hearing him and it definitely want be my last as I will be a Fan for Many Years!! Thank you 🙏🏽 for Sharing!!
Oh my goodness Devon just broke down my entire healing journey. He just articulated EVERYTHING I’ve been trying to put into words for the past 10 years of healing. Thank YOUUUU Your show is always soooo good Love you Love Devon Keep the impact coming👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Dang this Man is a mountain and volume of inspiring self realization. He is raw in his teaching. It takes experiencing “it”to present “it” to this extent. ❤
I love his message! I have been following his one of one series and it has changed my life! We have been taught wrong all our lives and it shows in society. Needing validation from the opposite sex is not it! Loving yourself and knowing what you want and need is crucial and non negotiable. I am really appreciative of him sharing his message and journey it is really helping ppl thru a lot. ❤
Yeah. And women are taught to squeeze into whatever is expected from us instead knowing ourselves and our values. It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. As a recovering ppl pleaser I remind this myself daily.
Powerful! So wonderful to see his growth! He finally got it right! When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Thats your compass and guide! Thank you Devon! Your interview confirmed alot of the situations I'm going through in my life! What I've learned from this podcast is that compatability and core values are key to a lasting relationship! Powerful Devon! I salute you Sir!
Just went through my journey of healing and knowing my self worth. God put me in isolation for 7 months till I understood myself and what I want and what I won’t except! To love me first and to be happy with self! No one can make you happy. You must get with like minded people.
These are things I’ve been learning in the last 8 months thru watching sermons. I have changed so much for the better. I have less now but I am so happy especially with myself. I love me, I love my own friendship. I’m happy just being me. I’m not desperate and it’s so nice to say I’m sure you are a great person but you are not for me. And then go out to eat or to a movie right by myself. I even go on vacation with me.
Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!
Devon, if this message finds you: listen do not compromise your faith and core beliefs. If you truly walk with God, seek him and he will guide your path to your future. Pray and let God show you who you are. The call on your life is big and one of the areas the enemy uses destroy men is through the area of mirage. Samson was destroyed by Delilah. Don’t compromise. Stay with God and don’t compromise. Your best is coming
For me, being seen does not have to do with commenting on my looks or wardrobe but honoring my preferences if they persist after discussion. I wanted a medium size ice chest but my boyfriend insisted I needed a big one. I wanted real flowers, not silk, but he insisted on giving me silk. Even though I told him I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, he did everything he could to manipulate me into it. I felt unheard and disrespect. I was quickly disappearing as a person. Being seen means being heard and understood. I don't want to be tied to someone who devalues, disrespects, dishonors, refuses me.
@@RealLadi228 yes, lots will say that, you got that right. It no longer matters to me what others say. Hey, it is my life and I am looking for something else.
@@mupeM Crazier we have those that pretend to see you hear you til you let your guard down then BAMM MASK FALLS! Just pay attention to everything move@ a snails pace toxicity doesn't respect healthy boundaries major red flag!!
Whatever he has spoken is everything that I was experiencing..and have been through I thank God that i was able to listen to him today because best believe am not staying the same
Great episode! Cutting edge awareness for becoming a stronger person who doesn't settle for mistreatment and who also treats others well and becomes worthy of the same in a partner or a friend. Thank you DeVon Franklin, I will be playing this again and maybe several times more!
I need to listen to this. Glad I came across his interview, everything He said was spot on 💯. I realized I was thirsty to keep up with BS from low vibrational Men even though I created healthy boundaries but it was hard to let go. I deeply want to connect with someone special so we can bond together however, I’ve been ghosted and gaslighted many times. This past week was my last straw because I chose my happiness over the fantasy of who they are not. Thank you so much for sharing your story I can relate 💯💯
That's so true 😮 toxic men wants to be served, they only see what you can do for them but healthy men wants to be of service to you they try to see what they can do for you
Thank you Pastor Franklin for your transparency and helping us to see how God values us and how we should value ourselves. Decide to stick with our core values and not compromise and allow manipulation to lead to being desperate for someone , while rushing and settle for disappointment; when we have been there too many times. It's time to not cheat on Jesus and ourselves and stick with our core values convictions and be content with one self and love yourself. God is there to lead and guide us through our trials and errors that we may learn from them.
This message blessed my life! I’m taking some much needed time with myself and valuing my own core beliefs. I’ll be ready to explore a relationship when I can clearly articulate my core values to myself and feel empowered by acknowledging them 💯
I do believe love is enough!!! Not because you say you love them. But if you truly love someone and they love you, you build and mold yourselves to each other and the future that you both want together.
Yes!! I think he’s more so referring to maintain a relationship ..love isn’t enough. But you are correct in that when you find your person ..i believe your soul mate..love is enough!
WOW! Thank you for putting out quality content! The first 2 minutes are awesome for general rules or lessons on most areas of life - if we can be honest enough with ourselves. Most of us probably need 3rd party/Qualified outside source to assist with seeing Real Truths and not just the unconscious "stories" we tell ourselves. Blessings to all on this journey.
This is the most beautifully conscious conversation that I have ever heard from this great Man of Faith! Every man or woman should listen to this and start Evaluating themselves first and NOT COMPROMISING THEIR CORE VALUES! "DOING THE WORK ON ME! "
This conversation is excellent. And it's interesting, to see that a celebrity man is going through the same kind of stuff that women are going through. Devon's wisdom is necessary.
It's like I don't like people treating me certain way, that reminds me of my childhood traumas and I wouldn't date guys who trigger those memories even unwillingly. We should feel safe in relationship and understand where everybody is coming from. We shouldn't have constant CPTSD flashbacks bc the other person refuses to acknowledge it.
True but also beware these are Your Flags and it's not fair to hold the other back because you haven't healed. If you don't heal someone will always trigger you. Trigger is the problem.i5s letting your triggers control your actions.
@@joyricherson4570 UGH healing doesn't mean accepting poor behavior. I've thought someone will come up to twist my words like that. I won't overexplain my childhood traumas to make sure somebody won't miss the point. How is having boundaries holding others back? And no need to explain to me what triggers are. If someone experienced severe CPTSD it won't completely vanish, it's part of our nervous system. So it's not "holding anybody's back" to not accepting the same behavior that traumatized me. Gosh
That’s your trauma speaking not their behaviors. Thats where the conversations comes into play what did you say or what did you hear. Many blessings unto you
I am in minute 16:14 and I can already say What an episode! So much wisdom coming from this man, satisfying to hear all of this from a guy. God keep blessing his life!
💗 Awwww…. I’m Loving this Guy. We’re on the same journey. I’m taking notes 📝. I’m praying I’ll find someone who understands what he’s teaching /preaching. 😊
I'm barely at minute 10 and I'm already so grateful for you sharing your non negotiables this is crucial exactly what my relationship is suffering from is bc I didn't choose wisely enough regarding my/his values, now we invested but this clarity helps immensely understanding!!!
Yes! I get so tired of trying to explain myself. I'm not going to waste your time and definitely not mine! When you are in tune with yourself and have that spirit of discernment, you avoid a lot of meaningless relationships that serve no purpose...just tell em, do you boo cuz I'm good.
@karolina I agree with you that you should be "picky", but as long as you don't expect your person to be perfect. Also, while you are acknowledging what YOU are bringing to the table, be sure to recognize his strengths as well and be sure to tell him so. Being loving and accepting to a person goes both ways.
Praise the Lord... Thank you Devon i resonate with this message 100% and I've been using my experience to create content for women about relationships, first with yourself and God before entering a relationship with someone else....
💝🥰🎊I LOVE WHEN HE MENTIONED FAITH!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY!! I WANT A MAN OF GOD LIKE HIM!! AWESOME MESSAGE!! THANK YOU!! 💃 🤗 💕 A MAN LIKE THAT HARD TO FIND BUT I KNOW GOD WILL BLESS ME BIG TIME!! HE LEARNED HIS LESSON AND NOW HE WAS BORN AGAIN!! CONGRATS!! 🎊
Our thinking is so powerful 😍 we can have love, standards and patience to have the right one for us!!!! This message is so helpful for love and being ready to receive it. I will listen to this message over and over again. I could relate so much with this message.
The "chocolate cake" is satisfying the lower part of me... NOT the best part of me or who I am becoming... EXPLOSIVE! I am so grateful for these videos. You & your guests speak the words that seem to go unsaid or are so meaningless & simplified (like a parent telling a child "marry the right person" but never explaining the how, what, when, why that provides meaning to the words). A deep Thank you
I Love this chat! I only have watched half of it but There is so much wisdom in every sentence…Definitely this is a video to watch again and to share it. Thank you!💖
This prayer is for you Devon Franklin Lord God, we thank You and praise You for the gift of marriage. We ask You to help Devon find a virtuous spouse, so that he may have a holy and happy married life. Our years of singleness can be very lonely and can often feel like they have no purpose. But You are able to use Devon single years profitably. Put Gods first and all good things will be added unto to you. All things are possible with God. Greetings from Toronto Canada. Stay blessed and trust in God.🙏🙏🙏
Wow! Message of substance. I value your core values....mines are very similar. I am at that stage of my life now where I am doing the internal work and asking God to bring me up higher. I am one of one! Well said DeVon.👏👏🙏💪
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
No Dating... and I have been Able to Sift and Sort My Connectionss ... I have another System, based on Biblical Principles.
helo ave one all arownd the woled pless help me i jest need 1000$ to serviev to my life am singl mom pless hel me God bles all
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“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.”
This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.
I would modify it slightly and say, A healthy individual can serve while allowing others to serve him. There has to be balance. Too much serving is just a toxic as too much taking. Love is unconditional; Relationships are not. Relationships are a delicate dance of give and take on both sides.
Yessss🤦🏾♀️ then when you question why they arent pouring into you it becomes a problem
exactly
Amen Amen and Amen
This hit me hard as well! I had to turn the focus of who I am... Shadow work.. digging deep into my childhood and the abuse and coming out the other end following the important investment I made investing in myself and self LOVE! 🙏💖
Don't compromise in your core beliefs. He was spot on with that statement.
True!!❤
100% 🔥🔥
True, just wish he was asked to elaborate on core beliefs.
Yes, so true because your core values are the core of who you truly are. Don't settle or compromise your core values, or you will be miserable and are soon divorced. Oil and water don't mix. You need more than love. I'm a witness!
@@ronaldcoleman1688 core beliefs: values your inner self knows better to keep and respecting them: always no matter who comes your way. You won’t give up on those core values; (sets of lessons learned or wisdom shared with you or that you may have observed and liked) that you have found defining who you are growing to be like, your beliefs are backed up by proofs that it’s working… and sincerely committing to keep them.
Faith based people MUST have a partner who has the same values. Agreed.❤❤❤
Amen!
Yes I’m agnostic and when i was on my quest for finding a partner i met my husband who is also agnostic ❤ it was important to me to not involve myself with a religious person
❤HALLELIJAH
A TRUE FACT!!!
I was amazed at fake Christian men,using faith to victimize ladies of pure faith
Wait… wait! 🗣️ “A man who is healthy is looking to be of service. A man who is toxic is looking to be served.” 😮💨🎯💯🙌🏽💎💎💎 That part alone! 🔥
A heathy person*** is looking to be of service. A person who is toxic is looking to only be served.
my ex literally would ask me "what do you have to give to me? what do you give me?". he was living with me and driving my car. when i kicked him out and didn't let him borrow the car, he broke up.
So the non toxic behavior is for both to build a table and service one another. We must teach the children how to build tables and serve one another! We all build together and bring what we all want and need to said table!💯
Smart man😅
"love is not enough to overcome differences and CORE beliefs" yes!!! Amen! Recognize! Truth! Fundamentals❤
Amen!!!
That is such a profound statement.
Wow! That is a powerful statement.
Facts
But first: how can you fall in love with someone whose core beliefs are completely different from yours? What is it that you think you love about another person when you two are so different on a basic level? In this case it cannot be love at all, but only attraction 🤷♀️. Learn the difference between love and attraction first!
"Instead of looking for love, be ready to receive it". I´ve always believed in this! We live in a world of vibration and attraction. 👏
Amen. Let God bring it to you
Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.
Yeah but doing Something will make Fall it into place. But i am avoiding ahhh
It's so hard. 😢
@@maceyr.6583 it's the hardest. The older you get, the less bullshit you tolerate.
@@asteriamoon1817that why as a woman I could wait to get older. Nearly 30 and my mindset start to change .
I love who I am becoming mentally
@@noneofyourbuizness me too. I'm 37 and I finally know who I am and I don't tolerate disrespect anymore. I walk away
This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.
you can tell them what you want. they still won't listen or apply it or even purposely do the opposite to spite you.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 Humm…narc vibes, plan, move on, no return address.
To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽
Respect
I'm proud of him. He's doing the work.
He is going to find his Queen!
Yes. So proud..smart man 😊
It sounds like he is on the hunt again 😅
There is a book called Casanova optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, It's the real deal
13:00 Therapy, life coaching, reading, journaling, praying, meditation, watching sermons.... doing the work💯
God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽
Same here. Aho! ❤❤❤
I’ve met someone who needs work done on himself, inner work, shadow work. Needs to love himself and work in his traumas… he doesn’t see nor understand this. I maybe came into his life to show him this, for he has hurt me and disrespected me emotionally and I’ve called it quits because I simply cannot be in a place where my feelings are dismissed. I adore him but I’ve only been stressed and feel like I’m just counseling him. And it’s draining
Amen 🙌🏾
@@stephaniecespedes5959he is a narcissist and will never change..if they don't care about your feelings...you haven't lost him. You gained.😮
I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢
Very true..my story as it is now
I’ve NEVERRR heard such truer words.
I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few divorces.....I have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!
I agree about understanding and not compromising on core beliefs. These cannot be ignored despite how you feel about the person
I like this version of Devon. You can tell he has done the work and he's in a place of peace, love, transparency and healthy.
I'm not sure how people are so QUICK to be back in the "Dating Streets" without spending time HEALING! HEALing is process!
Healing is similar to grief. You can't tell someone how long they should take to heal.
@smartkookie Define healing? No grief and healing are 2 different processes. There's griefing first THEN comes the healing process. Research it, and if you haven't experienced it, you might not understand. Be blessed.
Devon's spiritual maturity is so attractive. God bless him and his purpose🙏
Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .
I'm currently going through a tragic breakup and dealing with severe heartbreak. It's been a week now and this entire interview is healing me. DeVon's experiences and advice, man he was calling me OUT!!! But definitely words I needed to hear. Loved every bit of this interview.
Can relate as well, been three weeks. And this time, I am going to work on me. I still believe in love and am ready to receive it in the way that I give it. Am going to give healthy love and receive it healthy.
Yess!!! My divine creator is so magnificent and endearing.. to place this video in my path when I needed it the most. Wow..how beautiful is the life? To know that we will ALWAYS be loved and supported regardless of what may be happening in front of us. God always have our backs, we just have to believe ❤.
''Doing the work on me!!'' Yes!! I totally receive this message. Feeling worthy enough to set standards and communicate them clearly with kindness.
I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤
The healthiness of this man is outrageously attractive.
Yes. Smart too
WOW Lisa, please know I actually stopped in my tracks when you said “Oftentimes in relationships we abandon ourselves”
I’ve most of my life felt
Abandoned, therefore “abandonment issues”
It only came in loud & clear to me (your words being the impetus)
I’ve abandoned myself.
Enough of that shit!!!!
🫢😆
Onward in a healthy way!!’
❤
Thanks for being you Lisa.
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Love listening to Devon for his wisdom, transparency, truth He is so inspiring. God bless you Devon!
This is what I needed to here.... I'm about to finalize my divorce. I'm a woman of God and to find someone that's on my same level or having the same core values seems hard. I have found that men say they are living for God but that really not everyone that says there a "Christian" there not. My faith is my everything and doing God's will. I'm loving myself and I'm worthy to have my standards. I love taking a stand for standards and feeling worthy. Devon is so real with this.... I can relate.... The pain I have experienced I will help other women. By listening to this has help me and inspired me. Keep shining Devon!!!!❤️ Our testimony is powerful!!!! You're helping many!!!!!
I really feel bad for this dude. He really wanted and worked hard for that relationship. Glad he is moving forward and rebuilding. Stay strong bro.
“Sorry for him”. He is strong in his faith, his beliefs, seems like a wonderful, intelligent man. Envy should be more like it. He’s an upright man!
Right, and she and he worked hard to determine they were not a match and that is not a loss, it just brings them closer to the right one. That is a blessing!
@@lavenderangel2655 I can't argue with that. Same with my relationship.
“He really worked hard for that relationship”
🤡🎪😂 and of-course you know this because you know him personally?
@@Vv-fl2rm “You know a man by his work”. A tree bears it’s own fruit whether it’s good or bad. Judge a tree by its fruit.
Wow, he said some of the same things Dr Cindy Trimm said, boundaries and self prospective, a must! Work on self, it is a constant journey. Learn from your mistakes.
I love Devon Franklin. I always learn so much from listening to his interviews. Especially the scarcity mindset discussion.
Amen 🙏🏽 he is sharp and Beautiful and this is my first time ever hearing him and it definitely want be my last as I will be a Fan for Many Years!! Thank you 🙏🏽 for Sharing!!
Lisa hands down this was the best interview I have seen. And watched it twice already. I have been critical of some of your guests. Much respect here.
I agree fully with you. Absolutely priceless!
Exactly! Best guest ever, best interview ever!
Oh my goodness
Devon just broke down my entire healing journey. He just articulated EVERYTHING I’ve been trying to put into words for the past 10 years of healing.
Thank YOUUUU
Your show is always soooo good
Love you
Love Devon
Keep the impact coming👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said Amen throughout this interview. 😊 What a blessing you are to us Devon and Lisa! ❤
“Everything is working together for my good!” 🙏🏼
Yes
Dang this Man is a mountain and volume of inspiring self realization. He is raw in his teaching. It takes experiencing “it”to present “it” to this extent. ❤
The question “What do people do when they are hungry?” WOW!!!!!!!
Yaa. That hit hard.
I love his message! I have been following his one of one series and it has changed my life! We have been taught wrong all our lives and it shows in society. Needing validation from the opposite sex is not it! Loving yourself and knowing what you want and need is crucial and non negotiable. I am really appreciative of him sharing his message and journey it is really helping ppl thru a lot. ❤
Yeah. And women are taught to squeeze into whatever is expected from us instead knowing ourselves and our values.
It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. As a recovering ppl pleaser I remind this myself daily.
Amen 🙏🏽
Don't compromise, I am worthy, evaluate. Amen
Devon seems like a really down to earth common sense person. I'd just like to sit down and have a conversation with him about life.
Instead of looking for love,be ready to receive it...beautiful piece from Devon.. 😍🙌🙌
Powerful! So wonderful to see his growth! He finally got it right! When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Thats your compass and guide! Thank you Devon! Your interview confirmed alot of the situations I'm going through in my life! What I've learned from this podcast is that compatability and core values are key to a lasting relationship! Powerful Devon! I salute you Sir!
"Love is not enough to overcome Differences and Core beliefs" 😅😊
Listening to him speak. I don’t even understand why the marriage didn’t work out. He has such a hood head on his shoulders. Great points
Just went through my journey of healing and knowing my self worth. God put me in isolation for 7 months till I understood myself and what I want and what I won’t except! To love me first and to be happy with self! No one can make you happy. You must get with like minded people.
These are things I’ve been learning in the last 8 months thru watching sermons. I have changed so much for the better. I have less now but I am so happy especially with myself. I love me, I love my own friendship. I’m happy just being me. I’m not desperate and it’s so nice to say I’m sure you are a great person but you are not for me. And then go out to eat or to a movie right by myself. I even go on vacation with me.
Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!
Devon, if this message finds you: listen do not compromise your faith and core beliefs. If you truly walk with God, seek him and he will guide your path to your future. Pray and let God show you who you are. The call on your life is big and one of the areas the enemy uses destroy men is through the area of mirage. Samson was destroyed by Delilah. Don’t compromise. Stay with God and don’t compromise. Your best is coming
For me, being seen does not have to do with commenting on my looks or wardrobe but honoring my preferences if they persist after discussion. I wanted a medium size ice chest but my boyfriend insisted I needed a big one. I wanted real flowers, not silk, but he insisted on giving me silk. Even though I told him I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, he did everything he could to manipulate me into it. I felt unheard and disrespect. I was quickly disappearing as a person. Being seen means being heard and understood. I don't want to be tied to someone who devalues, disrespects, dishonors, refuses me.
Then they say you are being petty when you stand your ground 😤
Old paradymes no longer apply
@@RealLadi228 yes, lots will say that, you got that right. It no longer matters to me what others say. Hey, it is my life and I am looking for something else.
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Hello!!!🙌🏾🙏🏾
Amen sister
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Crazier we have those that pretend to see you hear you til you let your guard down then BAMM MASK FALLS!
Just pay attention to everything move@ a snails pace toxicity doesn't respect healthy boundaries major red flag!!
Whatever he has spoken is everything that I was experiencing..and have been through I thank God that i was able to listen to him today because best believe am not staying the same
Lisa, I love how you let your guests speak without interrupting them. Thank you for doing that
Great episode! Cutting edge awareness for becoming a stronger person who doesn't settle for mistreatment and who also treats others well and becomes worthy of the same in a partner or a friend. Thank you DeVon Franklin, I will be playing this again and maybe several times more!
This is SO true!! If you are not aligned it ain't going anywhere!!
I need to listen to this. Glad I came across his interview, everything He said was spot on 💯.
I realized I was thirsty to keep up with BS from low vibrational Men even though I created healthy boundaries but it was hard to let go. I deeply want to connect with someone special so we can bond together however, I’ve been ghosted and gaslighted many times. This past week was my last straw because I chose my happiness over the fantasy of who they are not. Thank you so much for sharing your story I can relate 💯💯
That's so true 😮 toxic men wants to be served, they only see what you can do for them but healthy men wants to be of service to you they try to see what they can do for you
Pain brings a lot of clarity…. If you let it❤❤❤❤
Devon be dropping some very important gems right here. Beautiful session
I do agree that dating n marriage are just mirrors reflecting where we self sabotage or where we actually accept ourselves unconditionally.
Thank you Pastor Franklin for your transparency and helping us to see how God values us and how we should value ourselves. Decide to stick with our core values and not compromise and allow manipulation to lead to being desperate for someone , while rushing and settle for disappointment; when we have been there too many times. It's time to not cheat on Jesus and ourselves and stick with our core values convictions and be content with one self and love yourself. God is there to lead and guide us through our trials and errors that we may learn from them.
This message blessed my life! I’m taking some much needed time with myself and valuing my own core beliefs. I’ll be ready to explore a relationship when I can clearly articulate my core values to myself and feel empowered by acknowledging them 💯
I do believe love is enough!!! Not because you say you love them. But if you truly love someone and they love you, you build and mold yourselves to each other and the future that you both want together.
Yes!! I think he’s more so referring to maintain a relationship ..love isn’t enough. But you are correct in that when you find your person ..i believe your soul mate..love is enough!
If “I learned a lesson” was a person! 🙏🏾❤️
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"What about getting into a relationship with yourself ?! " Period.
WOW! Thank you for putting out quality content! The first 2 minutes are awesome for general rules or lessons on most areas of life - if we can be honest enough with ourselves. Most of us probably need 3rd party/Qualified outside source to assist with seeing Real Truths and not just the unconscious "stories" we tell ourselves. Blessings to all on this journey.
That is soooo true,you must be crystal clear on what your core values are and be spiritually aligned with who you date.
🎊🥰💝🎉...THE NEXT TIME I DATE, I WILL REMEMBER THIS MESSAGE!! I FEEL GOD WANTED ME TO LISTEN AND IT'S BEAUTIFUL!! 🙏 💃 💕 🕺 🌹 THANK YOU!! 🤗 🌹
I really enjoy listening to Devon Franklin. It seems like his wisdom regarding relationships has grown to a new level.
This is the most beautifully conscious conversation that I have ever heard from this great Man of Faith! Every man or woman should listen to this and start Evaluating themselves first and NOT COMPROMISING THEIR CORE VALUES! "DOING THE WORK ON ME! "
I agree we have to believe we are valuable but I still know love from another can help heal a soul !!! I have seen it many times.
If they’re lucky enough to find someone who is securely attached.
This conversation is excellent. And it's interesting, to see that a celebrity man is going through the same kind of stuff that women are going through. Devon's wisdom is necessary.
It's like I don't like people treating me certain way, that reminds me of my childhood traumas and I wouldn't date guys who trigger those memories even unwillingly. We should feel safe in relationship and understand where everybody is coming from. We shouldn't have constant CPTSD flashbacks bc the other person refuses to acknowledge it.
True but also beware these are Your Flags and
it's not fair to hold the other back because you haven't healed. If you don't heal someone will always trigger you. Trigger is the problem.i5s letting your triggers control your actions.
@@joyricherson4570 UGH healing doesn't mean accepting poor behavior.
I've thought someone will come up to twist my words like that. I won't overexplain my childhood traumas to make sure somebody won't miss the point. How is having boundaries holding others back?
And no need to explain to me what triggers are.
If someone experienced severe CPTSD it won't completely vanish, it's part of our nervous system. So it's not "holding anybody's back" to not accepting the same behavior that traumatized me. Gosh
That’s your trauma speaking not their behaviors. Thats where the conversations comes into play what did you say or what did you hear. Many blessings unto you
@@TequilaTurner make some effort and read my 2nd comment before projecting assumptions.
I agree
Loved Devon's clarity...not changing for the benefit of getting someone but for yourself, deal with that hunger 👌🏾
I am in minute 16:14 and I can already say What an episode! So much wisdom coming from this man, satisfying to hear all of this from a guy. God keep blessing his life!
Yes I agree! Don't compromise on your core beliefs!
Yes! It happened to me. Terrible relationship, wonderful in fantasy. Had to leave it in the past😊
💗 Awwww…. I’m Loving this Guy. We’re on the same journey. I’m taking notes 📝. I’m praying I’ll find someone who understands what he’s teaching /preaching. 😊
"this is good" - so much to chew on this little story that Devon shared. Thank you Devon for being the blessing you are.
I'm barely at minute 10 and I'm already so grateful for you sharing your non negotiables this is crucial exactly what my relationship is suffering from is bc I didn't choose wisely enough regarding my/his values, now we invested but this clarity helps immensely understanding!!!
This man has so much wisdom to share! Thanks so much for your words ❤
Love this message ! I did this is my first marriage . Put my core beliefs and values to the side and ignored it
Wheeeww! Such a powerful interview with great wisdom. I really needed this. Thank God for leading my spirit to listen.🙏
So good! authentic and well-thought-through conversation, very good use of my time.
Wow what a powerful statement “most people are not seen they are projected‼️”
Love it! My family says I am picky!..I do not agree - I simply know what I want and what I bring to the table :-)
Love that!
Yes! I get so tired of trying to explain myself. I'm not going to waste your time and definitely not mine! When you are in tune with yourself and have that spirit of discernment, you avoid a lot of meaningless relationships that serve no purpose...just tell em, do you boo cuz I'm good.
@karolina I agree with you that you should be "picky", but as long as you don't expect your person to be perfect. Also, while you are acknowledging what YOU are bringing to the table, be sure to recognize his strengths as well and be sure to tell him so. Being loving and accepting to a person goes both ways.
Praise the Lord... Thank you Devon i resonate with this message 100% and I've been using my experience to create content for women about relationships, first with yourself and God before entering a relationship with someone else....
listening to devon is so refreshing. so much wisdom and understanding and emotional intelligence
Thank you DeVon for testifying to your faith in Jesus Christ as Savoir! Thank you Lisa for not editing that out!! Shalom all 💜🙏
Thank you for sharing these guests and this wisdom with us.
Thank you so much Devon for sharing these powerful lessons you learnt through life experience, you are blessing lives
💝🥰🎊I LOVE WHEN HE MENTIONED FAITH!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY!! I WANT A MAN OF GOD LIKE HIM!! AWESOME MESSAGE!! THANK YOU!! 💃 🤗 💕 A MAN LIKE THAT HARD TO FIND BUT I KNOW GOD WILL BLESS ME BIG TIME!! HE LEARNED HIS LESSON AND NOW HE WAS BORN AGAIN!! CONGRATS!! 🎊
Our thinking is so powerful 😍 we can have love, standards and patience to have the right one for us!!!! This message is so helpful for love and being ready to receive it. I will listen to this message over and over again. I could relate so much with this message.
This gentleman is*oozing*wisdom...he is such a good vibe...I have learnt alot..
The "chocolate cake" is satisfying the lower part of me... NOT the best part of me or who I am becoming... EXPLOSIVE!
I am so grateful for these videos. You & your guests speak the words that seem to go unsaid or are so meaningless & simplified (like a parent telling a child "marry the right person" but never explaining the how, what, when, why that provides meaning to the words).
A deep Thank you
I Love this chat! I only have watched half of it but There is so much wisdom in every sentence…Definitely this is a video to watch again and to share it. Thank you!💖
Sobriety is a core value!! Yes. Enjoying life does not require substance use!!
Is that person already happy. Yes emotionally healthy 😊
This prayer is for you Devon Franklin Lord God, we thank You and praise You for the gift of marriage. We ask You to help Devon find a virtuous spouse, so that he may have a holy and happy married life. Our years of singleness can be very lonely and can often feel like they have no purpose. But You are able to use Devon single years profitably. Put Gods first and all good things will be added unto to you. All things are possible with God. Greetings from Toronto Canada. Stay blessed and trust in God.🙏🙏🙏
Amen and it shall be unto him Devon
Wow! Message of substance. I value your core values....mines are very similar. I am at that stage of my life now where I am doing the internal work and asking God to bring me up higher. I am one of one! Well said DeVon.👏👏🙏💪
“Ok, not what I wanted, but this is good.” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 this is just the word I needed.. thank you 💜
Oh my gosh, this video is so needed for young women. I love this video! He hits so many important factors!
Why are you enduring this? Why are you putting up with this. Love that. May we ask ourselves this always.