“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.” This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.
I would modify it slightly and say, A healthy individual can serve while allowing others to serve him. There has to be balance. Too much serving is just a toxic as too much taking. Love is unconditional; Relationships are not. Relationships are a delicate dance of give and take on both sides.
This hit me hard as well! I had to turn the focus of who I am... Shadow work.. digging deep into my childhood and the abuse and coming out the other end following the important investment I made investing in myself and self LOVE! 🙏💖
my ex literally would ask me "what do you have to give to me? what do you give me?". he was living with me and driving my car. when i kicked him out and didn't let him borrow the car, he broke up.
So the non toxic behavior is for both to build a table and service one another. We must teach the children how to build tables and serve one another! We all build together and bring what we all want and need to said table!💯
Yes, so true because your core values are the core of who you truly are. Don't settle or compromise your core values, or you will be miserable and are soon divorced. Oil and water don't mix. You need more than love. I'm a witness!
@@ronaldcoleman1688 core beliefs: values your inner self knows better to keep and respecting them: always no matter who comes your way. You won’t give up on those core values; (sets of lessons learned or wisdom shared with you or that you may have observed and liked) that you have found defining who you are growing to be like, your beliefs are backed up by proofs that it’s working… and sincerely committing to keep them.
Yes I’m agnostic and when i was on my quest for finding a partner i met my husband who is also agnostic ❤ it was important to me to not involve myself with a religious person
But first: how can you fall in love with someone whose core beliefs are completely different from yours? What is it that you think you love about another person when you two are so different on a basic level? In this case it cannot be love at all, but only attraction 🤷♀️. Learn the difference between love and attraction first!
Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.
This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽
God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽
I’ve met someone who needs work done on himself, inner work, shadow work. Needs to love himself and work in his traumas… he doesn’t see nor understand this. I maybe came into his life to show him this, for he has hurt me and disrespected me emotionally and I’ve called it quits because I simply cannot be in a place where my feelings are dismissed. I adore him but I’ve only been stressed and feel like I’m just counseling him. And it’s draining
@smartkookie Define healing? No grief and healing are 2 different processes. There's griefing first THEN comes the healing process. Research it, and if you haven't experienced it, you might not understand. Be blessed.
I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢
I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few divorces.....I have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!
Right, and she and he worked hard to determine they were not a match and that is not a loss, it just brings them closer to the right one. That is a blessing!
Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .
Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!
I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤
WOW Lisa, please know I actually stopped in my tracks when you said “Oftentimes in relationships we abandon ourselves” I’ve most of my life felt Abandoned, therefore “abandonment issues” It only came in loud & clear to me (your words being the impetus) I’ve abandoned myself. Enough of that shit!!!! 🫢😆 Onward in a healthy way!!’ ❤ Thanks for being you Lisa. ✌🏻🙌🏻💓✨💫
I'm currently going through a tragic breakup and dealing with severe heartbreak. It's been a week now and this entire interview is healing me. DeVon's experiences and advice, man he was calling me OUT!!! But definitely words I needed to hear. Loved every bit of this interview.
Can relate as well, been three weeks. And this time, I am going to work on me. I still believe in love and am ready to receive it in the way that I give it. Am going to give healthy love and receive it healthy.
Yess!!! My divine creator is so magnificent and endearing.. to place this video in my path when I needed it the most. Wow..how beautiful is the life? To know that we will ALWAYS be loved and supported regardless of what may be happening in front of us. God always have our backs, we just have to believe ❤.
Wow, he said some of the same things Dr Cindy Trimm said, boundaries and self prospective, a must! Work on self, it is a constant journey. Learn from your mistakes.
This is what I needed to here.... I'm about to finalize my divorce. I'm a woman of God and to find someone that's on my same level or having the same core values seems hard. I have found that men say they are living for God but that really not everyone that says there a "Christian" there not. My faith is my everything and doing God's will. I'm loving myself and I'm worthy to have my standards. I love taking a stand for standards and feeling worthy. Devon is so real with this.... I can relate.... The pain I have experienced I will help other women. By listening to this has help me and inspired me. Keep shining Devon!!!!❤️ Our testimony is powerful!!!! You're helping many!!!!!
Devon, if this message finds you: listen do not compromise your faith and core beliefs. If you truly walk with God, seek him and he will guide your path to your future. Pray and let God show you who you are. The call on your life is big and one of the areas the enemy uses destroy men is through the area of mirage. Samson was destroyed by Delilah. Don’t compromise. Stay with God and don’t compromise. Your best is coming
That's so true 😮 toxic men wants to be served, they only see what you can do for them but healthy men wants to be of service to you they try to see what they can do for you
Oh my goodness Devon just broke down my entire healing journey. He just articulated EVERYTHING I’ve been trying to put into words for the past 10 years of healing. Thank YOUUUU Your show is always soooo good Love you Love Devon Keep the impact coming👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Dang this Man is a mountain and volume of inspiring self realization. He is raw in his teaching. It takes experiencing “it”to present “it” to this extent. ❤
For me, being seen does not have to do with commenting on my looks or wardrobe but honoring my preferences if they persist after discussion. I wanted a medium size ice chest but my boyfriend insisted I needed a big one. I wanted real flowers, not silk, but he insisted on giving me silk. Even though I told him I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, he did everything he could to manipulate me into it. I felt unheard and disrespect. I was quickly disappearing as a person. Being seen means being heard and understood. I don't want to be tied to someone who devalues, disrespects, dishonors, refuses me.
@@RealLadi228 yes, lots will say that, you got that right. It no longer matters to me what others say. Hey, it is my life and I am looking for something else.
@@mupeM Crazier we have those that pretend to see you hear you til you let your guard down then BAMM MASK FALLS! Just pay attention to everything move@ a snails pace toxicity doesn't respect healthy boundaries major red flag!!
I love his message! I have been following his one of one series and it has changed my life! We have been taught wrong all our lives and it shows in society. Needing validation from the opposite sex is not it! Loving yourself and knowing what you want and need is crucial and non negotiable. I am really appreciative of him sharing his message and journey it is really helping ppl thru a lot. ❤
Yeah. And women are taught to squeeze into whatever is expected from us instead knowing ourselves and our values. It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. As a recovering ppl pleaser I remind this myself daily.
Amen 🙏🏽 he is sharp and Beautiful and this is my first time ever hearing him and it definitely want be my last as I will be a Fan for Many Years!! Thank you 🙏🏽 for Sharing!!
Just went through my journey of healing and knowing my self worth. God put me in isolation for 7 months till I understood myself and what I want and what I won’t except! To love me first and to be happy with self! No one can make you happy. You must get with like minded people.
I do believe love is enough!!! Not because you say you love them. But if you truly love someone and they love you, you build and mold yourselves to each other and the future that you both want together.
Yes!! I think he’s more so referring to maintain a relationship ..love isn’t enough. But you are correct in that when you find your person ..i believe your soul mate..love is enough!
These are things I’ve been learning in the last 8 months thru watching sermons. I have changed so much for the better. I have less now but I am so happy especially with myself. I love me, I love my own friendship. I’m happy just being me. I’m not desperate and it’s so nice to say I’m sure you are a great person but you are not for me. And then go out to eat or to a movie right by myself. I even go on vacation with me.
This prayer is for you Devon Franklin Lord God, we thank You and praise You for the gift of marriage. We ask You to help Devon find a virtuous spouse, so that he may have a holy and happy married life. Our years of singleness can be very lonely and can often feel like they have no purpose. But You are able to use Devon single years profitably. Put Gods first and all good things will be added unto to you. All things are possible with God. Greetings from Toronto Canada. Stay blessed and trust in God.🙏🙏🙏
Powerful! So wonderful to see his growth! He finally got it right! When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Thats your compass and guide! Thank you Devon! Your interview confirmed alot of the situations I'm going through in my life! What I've learned from this podcast is that compatability and core values are key to a lasting relationship! Powerful Devon! I salute you Sir!
Whatever he has spoken is everything that I was experiencing..and have been through I thank God that i was able to listen to him today because best believe am not staying the same
I need to listen to this. Glad I came across his interview, everything He said was spot on 💯. I realized I was thirsty to keep up with BS from low vibrational Men even though I created healthy boundaries but it was hard to let go. I deeply want to connect with someone special so we can bond together however, I’ve been ghosted and gaslighted many times. This past week was my last straw because I chose my happiness over the fantasy of who they are not. Thank you so much for sharing your story I can relate 💯💯
This conversation is excellent. And it's interesting, to see that a celebrity man is going through the same kind of stuff that women are going through. Devon's wisdom is necessary.
Great episode! Cutting edge awareness for becoming a stronger person who doesn't settle for mistreatment and who also treats others well and becomes worthy of the same in a partner or a friend. Thank you DeVon Franklin, I will be playing this again and maybe several times more!
Terrific podcast!😊 I haven’t dated in a few years and I have come to the conclusion that, I don’t want to date a man unless he has a relationship with God and date with an intention of something serious AND be comfortable with platonically dating me without dating others. Healthy boundaries. He should feel self love and participate in self care, mind, body and soul. The world is so very worldly but really getting to know each other and not allowing social media or his associations to negatively influence our relationship. The right man will be willing to make the investment. I’m open to receiving who is right for me, when the time is right.
It's like I don't like people treating me certain way, that reminds me of my childhood traumas and I wouldn't date guys who trigger those memories even unwillingly. We should feel safe in relationship and understand where everybody is coming from. We shouldn't have constant CPTSD flashbacks bc the other person refuses to acknowledge it.
True but also beware these are Your Flags and it's not fair to hold the other back because you haven't healed. If you don't heal someone will always trigger you. Trigger is the problem.i5s letting your triggers control your actions.
@@joyricherson4570 UGH healing doesn't mean accepting poor behavior. I've thought someone will come up to twist my words like that. I won't overexplain my childhood traumas to make sure somebody won't miss the point. How is having boundaries holding others back? And no need to explain to me what triggers are. If someone experienced severe CPTSD it won't completely vanish, it's part of our nervous system. So it's not "holding anybody's back" to not accepting the same behavior that traumatized me. Gosh
That’s your trauma speaking not their behaviors. Thats where the conversations comes into play what did you say or what did you hear. Many blessings unto you
I need to get quiet with myself and really determine what are my core values that I refuse to compromise on because sometimes, you think you know, but something or someone comes along and you start to say, ‘well, xyz isn’t that bad…’
This is the most beautifully conscious conversation that I have ever heard from this great Man of Faith! Every man or woman should listen to this and start Evaluating themselves first and NOT COMPROMISING THEIR CORE VALUES! "DOING THE WORK ON ME! "
💝🥰🎊I LOVE WHEN HE MENTIONED FAITH!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY!! I WANT A MAN OF GOD LIKE HIM!! AWESOME MESSAGE!! THANK YOU!! 💃 🤗 💕 A MAN LIKE THAT HARD TO FIND BUT I KNOW GOD WILL BLESS ME BIG TIME!! HE LEARNED HIS LESSON AND NOW HE WAS BORN AGAIN!! CONGRATS!! 🎊
💗 Awwww…. I’m Loving this Guy. We’re on the same journey. I’m taking notes 📝. I’m praying I’ll find someone who understands what he’s teaching /preaching. 😊
This message blessed my life! I’m taking some much needed time with myself and valuing my own core beliefs. I’ll be ready to explore a relationship when I can clearly articulate my core values to myself and feel empowered by acknowledging them 💯
Devon is so authentic and transparent; full of light and wisdom. May the Lord keep showing him the way and impart into him the full knowledge of Christ to incarnate real love and the healing process for the broken hearted A real Man who put God first and love the Lord with all his heart mind and soul. You are a real work of Christ; the shoot he is planting for the display of his splendour Praise the Lord 🙏
Praise the Lord... Thank you Devon i resonate with this message 100% and I've been using my experience to create content for women about relationships, first with yourself and God before entering a relationship with someone else....
My husband was so stingy with compliments to the point where I started feeling less attractive. I got compliments from others but not him and that really bothered me
Yes! I get so tired of trying to explain myself. I'm not going to waste your time and definitely not mine! When you are in tune with yourself and have that spirit of discernment, you avoid a lot of meaningless relationships that serve no purpose...just tell em, do you boo cuz I'm good.
@karolina I agree with you that you should be "picky", but as long as you don't expect your person to be perfect. Also, while you are acknowledging what YOU are bringing to the table, be sure to recognize his strengths as well and be sure to tell him so. Being loving and accepting to a person goes both ways.
Mr. Franklin, I’m so happy that you have done the work within yourself to be in a better place, a happier space. To God be the glory, honor, and praise for your healing and your future endeavors. 🙌🏽 You deserve the greatness that God predestined before you were created. Thank you for your honesty. Blessings Abound Forevermore in Jesus’ mighty name! Amen and Amen 🙏🏾🙌🏾
This was awesome! I never thought or heard it broken down like Devon broke it down about (Women wanting to be seen) men who serve will see you but men who want to be served will not see you🔥
Wow! Message of substance. I value your core values....mines are very similar. I am at that stage of my life now where I am doing the internal work and asking God to bring me up higher. I am one of one! Well said DeVon.👏👏🙏💪
Additional takeaway- Businesses succeed because both parties are clear on the expectations, so in relationships it’s most beneficial when we communicate our needs from the beginning or as they arise.
Regarding the Jim Carry story, to me it sounds as if what the wife needed from him may have been disregarded. There is a difference in doing something you want to do and expecting praise and respect vs. Doing something that they both want and her appreciating it, there is a difference.
Yes! I was lost at this bit and wanted more understanding as I have experienced this. He came home from work and I asked him if he could put the trash out and he went off, "why do I need to, I just got in, noticing in the trash is mine, why couldn't you do it before I got here" bearing in mind there is rubbish from food I cooked that he would be eating, babies nappies etc.. to being told "what have you done all day".. cleaning, cooking, looking after the kids, food shopping on a day that I didn't have work. 😕
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
No Dating... and I have been Able to Sift and Sort My Connectionss ... I have another System, based on Biblical Principles.
helo ave one all arownd the woled pless help me i jest need 1000$ to serviev to my life am singl mom pless hel me God bles all
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“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.”
This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.
I would modify it slightly and say, A healthy individual can serve while allowing others to serve him. There has to be balance. Too much serving is just a toxic as too much taking. Love is unconditional; Relationships are not. Relationships are a delicate dance of give and take on both sides.
Yessss🤦🏾♀️ then when you question why they arent pouring into you it becomes a problem
exactly
Amen Amen and Amen
This hit me hard as well! I had to turn the focus of who I am... Shadow work.. digging deep into my childhood and the abuse and coming out the other end following the important investment I made investing in myself and self LOVE! 🙏💖
Wait… wait! 🗣️ “A man who is healthy is looking to be of service. A man who is toxic is looking to be served.” 😮💨🎯💯🙌🏽💎💎💎 That part alone! 🔥
A heathy person*** is looking to be of service. A person who is toxic is looking to only be served.
my ex literally would ask me "what do you have to give to me? what do you give me?". he was living with me and driving my car. when i kicked him out and didn't let him borrow the car, he broke up.
So the non toxic behavior is for both to build a table and service one another. We must teach the children how to build tables and serve one another! We all build together and bring what we all want and need to said table!💯
Smart man😅
Don't compromise in your core beliefs. He was spot on with that statement.
True!!❤
100% 🔥🔥
True, just wish he was asked to elaborate on core beliefs.
Yes, so true because your core values are the core of who you truly are. Don't settle or compromise your core values, or you will be miserable and are soon divorced. Oil and water don't mix. You need more than love. I'm a witness!
@@ronaldcoleman1688 core beliefs: values your inner self knows better to keep and respecting them: always no matter who comes your way. You won’t give up on those core values; (sets of lessons learned or wisdom shared with you or that you may have observed and liked) that you have found defining who you are growing to be like, your beliefs are backed up by proofs that it’s working… and sincerely committing to keep them.
Faith based people MUST have a partner who has the same values. Agreed.❤❤❤
Amen!
Yes I’m agnostic and when i was on my quest for finding a partner i met my husband who is also agnostic ❤ it was important to me to not involve myself with a religious person
❤HALLELIJAH
A TRUE FACT!!!
I was amazed at fake Christian men,using faith to victimize ladies of pure faith
"love is not enough to overcome differences and CORE beliefs" yes!!! Amen! Recognize! Truth! Fundamentals❤
Amen!!!
That is such a profound statement.
Wow! That is a powerful statement.
Facts
But first: how can you fall in love with someone whose core beliefs are completely different from yours? What is it that you think you love about another person when you two are so different on a basic level? In this case it cannot be love at all, but only attraction 🤷♀️. Learn the difference between love and attraction first!
"Instead of looking for love, be ready to receive it". I´ve always believed in this! We live in a world of vibration and attraction. 👏
Amen. Let God bring it to you
Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.
Yeah but doing Something will make Fall it into place. But i am avoiding ahhh
It's so hard. 😢
@@maceyr.6583 it's the hardest. The older you get, the less bullshit you tolerate.
@@asteriamoon1817that why as a woman I could wait to get older. Nearly 30 and my mindset start to change .
I love who I am becoming mentally
@@noneofyourbuizness me too. I'm 37 and I finally know who I am and I don't tolerate disrespect anymore. I walk away
This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.
you can tell them what you want. they still won't listen or apply it or even purposely do the opposite to spite you.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 Humm…narc vibes, plan, move on, no return address.
I'm proud of him. He's doing the work.
He is going to find his Queen!
Yes. So proud..smart man 😊
It sounds like he is on the hunt again 😅
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽
Respect
God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽
Same here. Aho! ❤❤❤
I’ve met someone who needs work done on himself, inner work, shadow work. Needs to love himself and work in his traumas… he doesn’t see nor understand this. I maybe came into his life to show him this, for he has hurt me and disrespected me emotionally and I’ve called it quits because I simply cannot be in a place where my feelings are dismissed. I adore him but I’ve only been stressed and feel like I’m just counseling him. And it’s draining
Amen 🙌🏾
@@stephaniecespedes5959he is a narcissist and will never change..if they don't care about your feelings...you haven't lost him. You gained.😮
I'm not sure how people are so QUICK to be back in the "Dating Streets" without spending time HEALING! HEALing is process!
Healing is similar to grief. You can't tell someone how long they should take to heal.
@smartkookie Define healing? No grief and healing are 2 different processes. There's griefing first THEN comes the healing process. Research it, and if you haven't experienced it, you might not understand. Be blessed.
@@smartkookieyou are very correct
I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢
Very true..my story as it is now
I’ve NEVERRR heard such truer words.
Devon's spiritual maturity is so attractive. God bless him and his purpose🙏
I agree about understanding and not compromising on core beliefs. These cannot be ignored despite how you feel about the person
The healthiness of this man is outrageously attractive.
Yes. Smart too
I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few divorces.....I have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!
I like this version of Devon. You can tell he has done the work and he's in a place of peace, love, transparency and healthy.
I really feel bad for this dude. He really wanted and worked hard for that relationship. Glad he is moving forward and rebuilding. Stay strong bro.
“Sorry for him”. He is strong in his faith, his beliefs, seems like a wonderful, intelligent man. Envy should be more like it. He’s an upright man!
Right, and she and he worked hard to determine they were not a match and that is not a loss, it just brings them closer to the right one. That is a blessing!
@@lavenderangel2655 I can't argue with that. Same with my relationship.
“He really worked hard for that relationship”
🤡🎪😂 and of-course you know this because you know him personally?
@@Vv-fl2rm “You know a man by his work”. A tree bears it’s own fruit whether it’s good or bad. Judge a tree by its fruit.
Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .
Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!
Listening to him speak. I don’t even understand why the marriage didn’t work out. He has such a hood head on his shoulders. Great points
I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤
WOW Lisa, please know I actually stopped in my tracks when you said “Oftentimes in relationships we abandon ourselves”
I’ve most of my life felt
Abandoned, therefore “abandonment issues”
It only came in loud & clear to me (your words being the impetus)
I’ve abandoned myself.
Enough of that shit!!!!
🫢😆
Onward in a healthy way!!’
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Thanks for being you Lisa.
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I'm currently going through a tragic breakup and dealing with severe heartbreak. It's been a week now and this entire interview is healing me. DeVon's experiences and advice, man he was calling me OUT!!! But definitely words I needed to hear. Loved every bit of this interview.
Can relate as well, been three weeks. And this time, I am going to work on me. I still believe in love and am ready to receive it in the way that I give it. Am going to give healthy love and receive it healthy.
Yess!!! My divine creator is so magnificent and endearing.. to place this video in my path when I needed it the most. Wow..how beautiful is the life? To know that we will ALWAYS be loved and supported regardless of what may be happening in front of us. God always have our backs, we just have to believe ❤.
Wow, he said some of the same things Dr Cindy Trimm said, boundaries and self prospective, a must! Work on self, it is a constant journey. Learn from your mistakes.
The question “What do people do when they are hungry?” WOW!!!!!!!
Yaa. That hit hard.
''Doing the work on me!!'' Yes!! I totally receive this message. Feeling worthy enough to set standards and communicate them clearly with kindness.
“Everything is working together for my good!” 🙏🏼
Yes
This is what I needed to here.... I'm about to finalize my divorce. I'm a woman of God and to find someone that's on my same level or having the same core values seems hard. I have found that men say they are living for God but that really not everyone that says there a "Christian" there not. My faith is my everything and doing God's will. I'm loving myself and I'm worthy to have my standards. I love taking a stand for standards and feeling worthy. Devon is so real with this.... I can relate.... The pain I have experienced I will help other women. By listening to this has help me and inspired me. Keep shining Devon!!!!❤️ Our testimony is powerful!!!! You're helping many!!!!!
Instead of looking for love,be ready to receive it...beautiful piece from Devon.. 😍🙌🙌
Devon seems like a really down to earth common sense person. I'd just like to sit down and have a conversation with him about life.
Don't compromise, I am worthy, evaluate. Amen
"Love is not enough to overcome Differences and Core beliefs" 😅😊
Devon, if this message finds you: listen do not compromise your faith and core beliefs. If you truly walk with God, seek him and he will guide your path to your future. Pray and let God show you who you are. The call on your life is big and one of the areas the enemy uses destroy men is through the area of mirage. Samson was destroyed by Delilah. Don’t compromise. Stay with God and don’t compromise. Your best is coming
That's so true 😮 toxic men wants to be served, they only see what you can do for them but healthy men wants to be of service to you they try to see what they can do for you
Thank you DeVon for testifying to your faith in Jesus Christ as Savoir! Thank you Lisa for not editing that out!! Shalom all 💜🙏
Pain brings a lot of clarity…. If you let it❤❤❤❤
Oh my goodness
Devon just broke down my entire healing journey. He just articulated EVERYTHING I’ve been trying to put into words for the past 10 years of healing.
Thank YOUUUU
Your show is always soooo good
Love you
Love Devon
Keep the impact coming👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Dang this Man is a mountain and volume of inspiring self realization. He is raw in his teaching. It takes experiencing “it”to present “it” to this extent. ❤
Love listening to Devon for his wisdom, transparency, truth He is so inspiring. God bless you Devon!
For me, being seen does not have to do with commenting on my looks or wardrobe but honoring my preferences if they persist after discussion. I wanted a medium size ice chest but my boyfriend insisted I needed a big one. I wanted real flowers, not silk, but he insisted on giving me silk. Even though I told him I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, he did everything he could to manipulate me into it. I felt unheard and disrespect. I was quickly disappearing as a person. Being seen means being heard and understood. I don't want to be tied to someone who devalues, disrespects, dishonors, refuses me.
Then they say you are being petty when you stand your ground 😤
Old paradymes no longer apply
@@RealLadi228 yes, lots will say that, you got that right. It no longer matters to me what others say. Hey, it is my life and I am looking for something else.
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Hello!!!🙌🏾🙏🏾
Amen sister
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Crazier we have those that pretend to see you hear you til you let your guard down then BAMM MASK FALLS!
Just pay attention to everything move@ a snails pace toxicity doesn't respect healthy boundaries major red flag!!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said Amen throughout this interview. 😊 What a blessing you are to us Devon and Lisa! ❤
I love his message! I have been following his one of one series and it has changed my life! We have been taught wrong all our lives and it shows in society. Needing validation from the opposite sex is not it! Loving yourself and knowing what you want and need is crucial and non negotiable. I am really appreciative of him sharing his message and journey it is really helping ppl thru a lot. ❤
Yeah. And women are taught to squeeze into whatever is expected from us instead knowing ourselves and our values.
It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. As a recovering ppl pleaser I remind this myself daily.
Amen 🙏🏽
If “I learned a lesson” was a person! 🙏🏾❤️
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I love Devon Franklin. I always learn so much from listening to his interviews. Especially the scarcity mindset discussion.
Amen 🙏🏽 he is sharp and Beautiful and this is my first time ever hearing him and it definitely want be my last as I will be a Fan for Many Years!! Thank you 🙏🏽 for Sharing!!
Lisa hands down this was the best interview I have seen. And watched it twice already. I have been critical of some of your guests. Much respect here.
I agree fully with you. Absolutely priceless!
Exactly! Best guest ever, best interview ever!
Just went through my journey of healing and knowing my self worth. God put me in isolation for 7 months till I understood myself and what I want and what I won’t except! To love me first and to be happy with self! No one can make you happy. You must get with like minded people.
13:00 Therapy, life coaching, reading, journaling, praying, meditation, watching sermons.... doing the work💯
I do believe love is enough!!! Not because you say you love them. But if you truly love someone and they love you, you build and mold yourselves to each other and the future that you both want together.
Yes!! I think he’s more so referring to maintain a relationship ..love isn’t enough. But you are correct in that when you find your person ..i believe your soul mate..love is enough!
"What about getting into a relationship with yourself ?! " Period.
These are things I’ve been learning in the last 8 months thru watching sermons. I have changed so much for the better. I have less now but I am so happy especially with myself. I love me, I love my own friendship. I’m happy just being me. I’m not desperate and it’s so nice to say I’m sure you are a great person but you are not for me. And then go out to eat or to a movie right by myself. I even go on vacation with me.
This is SO true!! If you are not aligned it ain't going anywhere!!
This prayer is for you Devon Franklin Lord God, we thank You and praise You for the gift of marriage. We ask You to help Devon find a virtuous spouse, so that he may have a holy and happy married life. Our years of singleness can be very lonely and can often feel like they have no purpose. But You are able to use Devon single years profitably. Put Gods first and all good things will be added unto to you. All things are possible with God. Greetings from Toronto Canada. Stay blessed and trust in God.🙏🙏🙏
Amen and it shall be unto him Devon
Powerful! So wonderful to see his growth! He finally got it right! When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Thats your compass and guide! Thank you Devon! Your interview confirmed alot of the situations I'm going through in my life! What I've learned from this podcast is that compatability and core values are key to a lasting relationship! Powerful Devon! I salute you Sir!
I do agree that dating n marriage are just mirrors reflecting where we self sabotage or where we actually accept ourselves unconditionally.
Sobriety is a core value!! Yes. Enjoying life does not require substance use!!
Is that person already happy. Yes emotionally healthy 😊
🎊🥰💝🎉...THE NEXT TIME I DATE, I WILL REMEMBER THIS MESSAGE!! I FEEL GOD WANTED ME TO LISTEN AND IT'S BEAUTIFUL!! 🙏 💃 💕 🕺 🌹 THANK YOU!! 🤗 🌹
I love this … if you are not happy now … you will not be happy with someone else .. ❤❤❤❤❤
I really enjoy listening to Devon Franklin. It seems like his wisdom regarding relationships has grown to a new level.
Wow what a powerful statement “most people are not seen they are projected‼️”
Whatever he has spoken is everything that I was experiencing..and have been through I thank God that i was able to listen to him today because best believe am not staying the same
I need to listen to this. Glad I came across his interview, everything He said was spot on 💯.
I realized I was thirsty to keep up with BS from low vibrational Men even though I created healthy boundaries but it was hard to let go. I deeply want to connect with someone special so we can bond together however, I’ve been ghosted and gaslighted many times. This past week was my last straw because I chose my happiness over the fantasy of who they are not. Thank you so much for sharing your story I can relate 💯💯
This conversation is excellent. And it's interesting, to see that a celebrity man is going through the same kind of stuff that women are going through. Devon's wisdom is necessary.
Great episode! Cutting edge awareness for becoming a stronger person who doesn't settle for mistreatment and who also treats others well and becomes worthy of the same in a partner or a friend. Thank you DeVon Franklin, I will be playing this again and maybe several times more!
Terrific podcast!😊
I haven’t dated in a few years and I have come to the conclusion that, I don’t want to date a man unless he has a relationship with God and date with an intention of something serious AND be comfortable with platonically dating me without dating others. Healthy boundaries. He should feel self love and participate in self care, mind, body and soul. The world is so very worldly but really getting to know each other and not allowing social media or his associations to negatively influence our relationship. The right man will be willing to make the investment. I’m open to receiving who is right for me, when the time is right.
Yes! It happened to me. Terrible relationship, wonderful in fantasy. Had to leave it in the past😊
That is soooo true,you must be crystal clear on what your core values are and be spiritually aligned with who you date.
It's like I don't like people treating me certain way, that reminds me of my childhood traumas and I wouldn't date guys who trigger those memories even unwillingly. We should feel safe in relationship and understand where everybody is coming from. We shouldn't have constant CPTSD flashbacks bc the other person refuses to acknowledge it.
True but also beware these are Your Flags and
it's not fair to hold the other back because you haven't healed. If you don't heal someone will always trigger you. Trigger is the problem.i5s letting your triggers control your actions.
@@joyricherson4570 UGH healing doesn't mean accepting poor behavior.
I've thought someone will come up to twist my words like that. I won't overexplain my childhood traumas to make sure somebody won't miss the point. How is having boundaries holding others back?
And no need to explain to me what triggers are.
If someone experienced severe CPTSD it won't completely vanish, it's part of our nervous system. So it's not "holding anybody's back" to not accepting the same behavior that traumatized me. Gosh
That’s your trauma speaking not their behaviors. Thats where the conversations comes into play what did you say or what did you hear. Many blessings unto you
@@TequilaTurner make some effort and read my 2nd comment before projecting assumptions.
I agree
I am willing to walk away from any one who ruin my peace of mind..it's too important ..i have to look out for me.
I need to get quiet with myself and really determine what are my core values that I refuse to compromise on because sometimes, you think you know, but something or someone comes along and you start to say, ‘well, xyz isn’t that bad…’
Yes I agree! Don't compromise on your core beliefs!
This is the most beautifully conscious conversation that I have ever heard from this great Man of Faith! Every man or woman should listen to this and start Evaluating themselves first and NOT COMPROMISING THEIR CORE VALUES! "DOING THE WORK ON ME! "
💝🥰🎊I LOVE WHEN HE MENTIONED FAITH!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY!! I WANT A MAN OF GOD LIKE HIM!! AWESOME MESSAGE!! THANK YOU!! 💃 🤗 💕 A MAN LIKE THAT HARD TO FIND BUT I KNOW GOD WILL BLESS ME BIG TIME!! HE LEARNED HIS LESSON AND NOW HE WAS BORN AGAIN!! CONGRATS!! 🎊
One can Love a person you Trust but you can’t Trust a person you love!
I Choose Trust!
Devon be dropping some very important gems right here. Beautiful session
I agree we have to believe we are valuable but I still know love from another can help heal a soul !!! I have seen it many times.
If they’re lucky enough to find someone who is securely attached.
💗 Awwww…. I’m Loving this Guy. We’re on the same journey. I’m taking notes 📝. I’m praying I’ll find someone who understands what he’s teaching /preaching. 😊
Sharing faith, sobriety, positive mindset,
This message blessed my life! I’m taking some much needed time with myself and valuing my own core beliefs. I’ll be ready to explore a relationship when I can clearly articulate my core values to myself and feel empowered by acknowledging them 💯
This man has so much wisdom to share! Thanks so much for your words ❤
Loved Devon's clarity...not changing for the benefit of getting someone but for yourself, deal with that hunger 👌🏾
Devon is so authentic and transparent; full of light and wisdom. May the Lord keep showing him the way and impart into him the full knowledge of Christ to incarnate real love and the healing process for the broken hearted
A real Man who put God first and love the Lord with all his heart mind and soul.
You are a real work of Christ; the shoot he is planting for the display of his splendour
Praise the Lord
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Praise the Lord... Thank you Devon i resonate with this message 100% and I've been using my experience to create content for women about relationships, first with yourself and God before entering a relationship with someone else....
My husband was so stingy with compliments to the point where I started feeling less attractive. I got compliments from others but not him and that really bothered me
Unfortunately some look at marriage as a business agreement and not the old school forever..
very good advice
Why are you enduring this? Why are you putting up with this. Love that. May we ask ourselves this always.
Love it! My family says I am picky!..I do not agree - I simply know what I want and what I bring to the table :-)
Love that!
Yes! I get so tired of trying to explain myself. I'm not going to waste your time and definitely not mine! When you are in tune with yourself and have that spirit of discernment, you avoid a lot of meaningless relationships that serve no purpose...just tell em, do you boo cuz I'm good.
@karolina I agree with you that you should be "picky", but as long as you don't expect your person to be perfect. Also, while you are acknowledging what YOU are bringing to the table, be sure to recognize his strengths as well and be sure to tell him so. Being loving and accepting to a person goes both ways.
This gentleman is*oozing*wisdom...he is such a good vibe...I have learnt alot..
Love this guy.. he speaks the truth. I hope I find a husband like this one. He is a gem❤
Mr. Franklin, I’m so happy that you have done the work within yourself to be in a better place, a happier space. To God be the glory, honor, and praise for your healing and your future endeavors. 🙌🏽 You deserve the greatness that God predestined before you were created. Thank you for your honesty. Blessings Abound Forevermore in Jesus’ mighty name! Amen and Amen 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Love this message ! I did this is my first marriage . Put my core beliefs and values to the side and ignored it
This was awesome! I never thought or heard it broken down like Devon broke it down about (Women wanting to be seen) men who serve will see you but men who want to be served will not see you🔥
Wow! Message of substance. I value your core values....mines are very similar. I am at that stage of my life now where I am doing the internal work and asking God to bring me up higher. I am one of one! Well said DeVon.👏👏🙏💪
He's awesome - many Christians do not have his core beliefs - love it
“Ok, not what I wanted, but this is good.” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 this is just the word I needed.. thank you 💜
Additional takeaway- Businesses succeed because both parties are clear on the expectations, so in relationships it’s most beneficial when we communicate our needs from the beginning or as they arise.
Regarding the Jim Carry story, to me it sounds as if what the wife needed from him may have been disregarded. There is a difference in doing something you want to do and expecting praise and respect vs. Doing something that they both want and her appreciating it, there is a difference.
Yes! I was lost at this bit and wanted more understanding as I have experienced this. He came home from work and I asked him if he could put the trash out and he went off, "why do I need to, I just got in, noticing in the trash is mine, why couldn't you do it before I got here" bearing in mind there is rubbish from food I cooked that he would be eating, babies nappies etc.. to being told "what have you done all day".. cleaning, cooking, looking after the kids, food shopping on a day that I didn't have work. 😕