"I Wish I Knew This LOVE Lesson Sooner!" - The ONLY Dating Advice You'll Ever Need | DeVon Franklin
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I am so excited to have Devon Franklin joining us again for another powerful conversation. Whether you are dating, divorced or happily single, we’re diving into the love lessons you need to build a long-lasting relationship. And let me tell you, it’s more about you than the partner you choose to date.
Devon is a preacher, success coach, and award winning film and tv producer who’s back on the dating scene after a recent divorce. This conversation is about empowering you to prioritize yourself in order to create the healthy loving relationships you deserve.
****Bonus Lesson in Love with Julie Piatt****
And because so much of what Devon and I speak about in this episode is about self-reflection, self-worth, and knowing what you value, I’m including an incredible episode I recorded a while back with the spiritual wellness warrior herself, Julie Piatt. Her story of divorce, love, pain, and lessons, and cherished memories is a powerful reframe to heartbreak and lessons learned.
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Evaluate Before You Date
[12:57] Be One of One & Worthy
[17:47] Love Hungry Manipulation
[24:12] Open to Abundant Love
[32:41] Acknowledge Reality Not Delusions
[45:36] Who You Attract Is Revealing
[48:36] Conflict, Problems & Truth
[53:59] Use Words Carefully
[59:48] Why Men Cheat
[1:11:00] Make Him Feel Appreciated
[1:32:32] Find the Right Partner with Julie Piatt
Devon Franklin Quotes:
“A lot of times, we have this belief that love is enough, and I don’t believe that it is, [...] love is not enough to overcome differences in core beliefs.”
“Pain brings a lot of clarity if we choose to accept it.”
“You’re one of one, this is about you. This is about who you are, what type of life you want and the love that you want to have in yourself first.”
“If I can be content all by myself, within myself, it really doesn’t even matter if I’m in a relationship.”
“If I do not believe the best about myself, I won’t choose the best for myself.”
“Live in the belief that the best is available to you, all you have to do is wait for it.”
“People mistake commitment for control.”
“I have to make the decisions that are going to set me up for the life that I want and part of that decision making process is resisting the temptation to point the finger.”
“It’s all about accurate thinking. The more inaccurate our thinking, the more inaccurate our life.”
“If someone or something leaves because of my truth, I’ve actually gained, not loss.”
Follow Devon Franklin:
Website: devonfranklin.com/
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Follow Julie Piatt:
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No Dating... and I have been Able to Sift and Sort My Connectionss ... I have another System, based on Biblical Principles.
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“The man who is healthy, is looking to serve. The man who is toxic is looking to be served.”
This! This hit my soul so hard. Dealing with a man who only wanted to be served, it was the most draining experience. I just thank God for bringing me out.
I would modify it slightly and say, A healthy individual can serve while allowing others to serve him. There has to be balance. Too much serving is just a toxic as too much taking. Love is unconditional; Relationships are not. Relationships are a delicate dance of give and take on both sides.
I agree. The moment that you have to focus on his needs and how he feel and what he need and after forgiveness from. Multiple cheating because he was not been served then you become someone else that is always wondering if he is not serve he is going to cheat which he did again. But I was consider the toxic person by all the lies he said about me and my character to his friends and family to justify his infidelity. Never knew he was cheating again since his family and friends kept it secret as they watch him and I was taking care of household his health meds appointments and making sure he was stress free to continue to make money as a truck driver. Never had drama and isolated myself from my friends but he was living a double life on social media and text his ex affairs and sexting with childhood friends that are in their 50’s and married. This was not a companion and husband of 31yrs that I imagine living the rest of my life with😢. The side chick was 40yrs old and he was 56. Same circle of old friends from a town that I was blessed to get out of but he refuse to move forward and leave the past behavior behind. So she knew he was married for 31yrs but when you are a cheater females like that know how to target you so I thank god for Seen everything.
@@BaKheruI agree with this. I was serving as much as he was taking but he wanted to be serve and if he didn’t he was condition to cheat and learn from his environment how easy it was and no one would say anything about it or call them out. They called it a way of living and culture in his town. It was disgusting. If you didn’t serve they will just find another female in that town to satisfy them and they will now they was married but it was the culture.
Yessss🤦🏾♀️ then when you question why they arent pouring into you it becomes a problem
exactly
Don't compromise in your core beliefs. He was spot on with that statement.
True!!❤
100% 🔥🔥
True, just wish he was asked to elaborate on core beliefs.
Yes, so true because your core values are the core of who you truly are. Don't settle or compromise your core values, or you will be miserable and are soon divorced. Oil and water don't mix. You need more than love. I'm a witness!
@@ronaldcoleman1688 core beliefs: values your inner self knows better to keep and respecting them: always no matter who comes your way. You won’t give up on those core values; (sets of lessons learned or wisdom shared with you or that you may have observed and liked) that you have found defining who you are growing to be like, your beliefs are backed up by proofs that it’s working… and sincerely committing to keep them.
Faith based people MUST have a partner who has the same values. Agreed.❤❤❤
Amen!
Yes I’m agnostic and when i was on my quest for finding a partner i met my husband who is also agnostic ❤ it was important to me to not involve myself with a religious person
This what I am looking for in my next relationship. I wasted 31yrs with someone that never gave a dam about been a God fearing man and never actually lived in Gods core values. He cheated multiple times and never looked back twice as it been wrong. Continue to sexually engaged with friends and was married. Sextting and social media indicent behavior and neglected our marriage to focus on social media behavior and affair partners. Never ask to go to church or communicate with a pastor or counseling but was very much excited to get burnet numbers and text Pics encounter with affair partners. God sees everything and is good all the time.
❤HALLELIJAH
A TRUE FACT!!!
Wait… wait! 🗣️ “A man who is healthy is looking to be of service. A man who is toxic is looking to be served.” 😮💨🎯💯🙌🏽💎💎💎 That part alone! 🔥
A heathy person*** is looking to be of service. A person who is toxic is looking to only be served.
my ex literally would ask me "what do you have to give to me? what do you give me?". he was living with me and driving my car. when i kicked him out and didn't let him borrow the car, he broke up.
"love is not enough to overcome differences and CORE beliefs" yes!!! Amen! Recognize! Truth! Fundamentals❤
Amen!!!
That is such a profound statement.
Wow! That is a powerful statement.
Facts
But first: how can you fall in love with someone whose core beliefs are completely different from yours? What is it that you think you love about another person when you two are so different on a basic level? In this case it cannot be love at all, but only attraction 🤷♀️. Learn the difference between love and attraction first!
"Instead of looking for love, be ready to receive it". I´ve always believed in this! We live in a world of vibration and attraction. 👏
This entire interview goes to show how important clear and active communication is in relationships. Do not expect your partner to guess your wants and needs.
you can tell them what you want. they still won't listen or apply it or even purposely do the opposite to spite you.
Always listen to your gut. Don't allow anyone to cross your boundaries and if they do, I hope you have the strength to walk away. Get to know yourself, spend time alone, heal, work on yourself and then everything else falls into place. We are always growing and learning.
Yeah but doing Something will make Fall it into place. But i am avoiding ahhh
It's so hard. 😢
@@maceyr.6583 it's the hardest. The older you get, the less bullshit you tolerate.
@@asteriamoon1817that why as a woman I could wait to get older. Nearly 30 and my mindset start to change .
I love who I am becoming mentally
@@noneofyourbuizness me too. I'm 37 and I finally know who I am and I don't tolerate disrespect anymore. I walk away
To hear a man openly say he’s working on himself and not passing blame on any past mistakes but learning and evolving through the pain and using the wisdom gained from the pain to evolve into his truer nature and character is incredibly inspiring, amazing interview on core beliefs and not compromising who we are to obtained the relationships and connections we feel we need to be whole and validate our existence. 🙏🏽👍🏽
I'm not sure how people are so QUICK to be back in the "Dating Streets" without spending time HEALING! HEALing is process!
Healing is similar to grief. You can't tell someone how long they should take to heal.
@smartkookie Define healing? No grief and healing are 2 different processes. There's griefing first THEN comes the healing process. Research it, and if you haven't experienced it, you might not understand. Be blessed.
I'm proud of him. He's doing the work.
He is going to find his Queen!
God is using this man!! God is going to connect him to his forever partner, because he has learned so much through his past relationship. I respect him for truly being intentional and doing the work!! I’m on the same journey as him! You gotta love you first, work on yourself and be willing to receive when GOD shows us our partner. I’m excited for what GOD is going to do, because I believe I’m worthy to have the BEST!! 🙏🏽
Same here. Aho! ❤❤❤
I’ve met someone who needs work done on himself, inner work, shadow work. Needs to love himself and work in his traumas… he doesn’t see nor understand this. I maybe came into his life to show him this, for he has hurt me and disrespected me emotionally and I’ve called it quits because I simply cannot be in a place where my feelings are dismissed. I adore him but I’ve only been stressed and feel like I’m just counseling him. And it’s draining
Amen 🙌🏾
I've often shared this message with women in my circle..when a man approaches you attempting to date you (& there is mutual attraction) the discovery phase starts upon him opening his mouth. As soon as his language does not align with your standards/core beliefs(assuming you have them bcuz you know your worth) dont proceed any further. The short term lust & excitement/good time being offered is not worth the wasted time & 💔ache you will experience when the 🔥 goes out.😢
Very true..my story as it is now
I really feel bad for this dude. He really wanted and worked hard for that relationship. Glad he is moving forward and rebuilding. Stay strong bro.
“Sorry for him”. He is strong in his faith, his beliefs, seems like a wonderful, intelligent man. Envy should be more like it. He’s an upright man!
Right, and she and he worked hard to determine they were not a match and that is not a loss, it just brings them closer to the right one. That is a blessing!
@@lavenderangel2655 I can't argue with that. Same with my relationship.
“He really worked hard for that relationship”
🤡🎪😂 and of-course you know this because you know him personally?
@@Vv-fl2rm “You know a man by his work”. A tree bears it’s own fruit whether it’s good or bad. Judge a tree by its fruit.
"What about getting into a relationship with yourself ?! " Period.
I SO needed to hear this!!! Being a woman with 28 years of sobriety & unfortunately a few divorces.....I have tried to date social drinkers & even marry one & it doesn't work for me. I am healed from my past, I have worked on myself for all those years of sobriety. I just needed the reminder that my sobriety & positivity IS a lifestyle & a core belief & I NEED that in a partner! Thank you!
I like this version of Devon. You can tell he has done the work and he's in a place of peace, love, transparency and healthy.
Don't compromise, I am worthy, evaluate. Amen
Taking time to rebuildi my self-esteem and self-ide😮ntity, post divorce, has been one of the most profound and important chapters of my life. At first, it was dark and painful. Now, three years later, lots of counseling, meditation, writing, embracing sobriety, embracing a Higher Power and changing what I eat, my Self and world have entirely changed for the better. DeVon's share is awesome .
Wow, he said some of the same things Dr Cindy Trimm said, boundaries and self prospective, a must! Work on self, it is a constant journey. Learn from your mistakes.
Devon's spiritual maturity is so attractive. God bless him and his purpose🙏
The question “What do people do when they are hungry?” WOW!!!!!!!
I'm currently going through a tragic breakup and dealing with severe heartbreak. It's been a week now and this entire interview is healing me. DeVon's experiences and advice, man he was calling me OUT!!! But definitely words I needed to hear. Loved every bit of this interview.
Can relate as well, been three weeks. And this time, I am going to work on me. I still believe in love and am ready to receive it in the way that I give it. Am going to give healthy love and receive it healthy.
WOW Lisa, please know I actually stopped in my tracks when you said “Oftentimes in relationships we abandon ourselves”
I’ve most of my life felt
Abandoned, therefore “abandonment issues”
It only came in loud & clear to me (your words being the impetus)
I’ve abandoned myself.
Enough of that shit!!!!
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Onward in a healthy way!!’
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Thanks for being you Lisa.
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Devon, if this message finds you: listen do not compromise your faith and core beliefs. If you truly walk with God, seek him and he will guide your path to your future. Pray and let God show you who you are. The call on your life is big and one of the areas the enemy uses destroy men is through the area of mirage. Samson was destroyed by Delilah. Don’t compromise. Stay with God and don’t compromise. Your best is coming
''Doing the work on me!!'' Yes!! I totally receive this message. Feeling worthy enough to set standards and communicate them clearly with kindness.
For me, being seen does not have to do with commenting on my looks or wardrobe but honoring my preferences if they persist after discussion. I wanted a medium size ice chest but my boyfriend insisted I needed a big one. I wanted real flowers, not silk, but he insisted on giving me silk. Even though I told him I wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, he did everything he could to manipulate me into it. I felt unheard and disrespect. I was quickly disappearing as a person. Being seen means being heard and understood. I don't want to be tied to someone who devalues, disrespects, dishonors, refuses me.
Then they say you are being petty when you stand your ground 😤
Old paradymes no longer apply
@@RealLadi228 yes, lots will say that, you got that right. It no longer matters to me what others say. Hey, it is my life and I am looking for something else.
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Hello!!!🙌🏾🙏🏾
Amen sister
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Crazier we have those that pretend to see you hear you til you let your guard down then BAMM MASK FALLS!
Just pay attention to everything move@ a snails pace toxicity doesn't respect healthy boundaries major red flag!!
Great quote: "I love you and now I need to learn you." Communicate your expectations to each other. Devon is handsome, brilliant, and dedicated to growing himself a person so he's a better man for his next love. She will be a very lucky lady and I hope it happens for him very soon!
I love how Devon Franklin truly knows himself, his core values, and is self-assured. I admire that he doesn't do things just to fit into the culture. I can imagine there are plenty of women aligned with his core beliefs and values. He will find that special woman ;) ❤
"Love is not enough to overcome Differences and Core beliefs" 😅😊
This is what I needed to here.... I'm about to finalize my divorce. I'm a woman of God and to find someone that's on my same level or having the same core values seems hard. I have found that men say they are living for God but that really not everyone that says there a "Christian" there not. My faith is my everything and doing God's will. I'm loving myself and I'm worthy to have my standards. I love taking a stand for standards and feeling worthy. Devon is so real with this.... I can relate.... The pain I have experienced I will help other women. By listening to this has help me and inspired me. Keep shining Devon!!!!❤️ Our testimony is powerful!!!! You're helping many!!!!!
Yes! It happened to me. Terrible relationship, wonderful in fantasy. Had to leave it in the past😊
The healthiness of this man is outrageously attractive.
Thank you DeVon for testifying to your faith in Jesus Christ as Savoir! Thank you Lisa for not editing that out!! Shalom all 💜🙏
Love it! My family says I am picky!..I do not agree - I simply know what I want and what I bring to the table :-)
Love that!
Yes! I get so tired of trying to explain myself. I'm not going to waste your time and definitely not mine! When you are in tune with yourself and have that spirit of discernment, you avoid a lot of meaningless relationships that serve no purpose...just tell em, do you boo cuz I'm good.
@karolina I agree with you that you should be "picky", but as long as you don't expect your person to be perfect. Also, while you are acknowledging what YOU are bringing to the table, be sure to recognize his strengths as well and be sure to tell him so. Being loving and accepting to a person goes both ways.
If “I learned a lesson” was a person! 🙏🏾❤️
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Devon seems like a really down to earth common sense person. I'd just like to sit down and have a conversation with him about life.
🎊🥰💝🎉...THE NEXT TIME I DATE, I WILL REMEMBER THIS MESSAGE!! I FEEL GOD WANTED ME TO LISTEN AND IT'S BEAUTIFUL!! 🙏 💃 💕 🕺 🌹 THANK YOU!! 🤗 🌹
Oh my goodness
Devon just broke down my entire healing journey. He just articulated EVERYTHING I’ve been trying to put into words for the past 10 years of healing.
Thank YOUUUU
Your show is always soooo good
Love you
Love Devon
Keep the impact coming👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Love listening to Devon for his wisdom, transparency, truth He is so inspiring. God bless you Devon!
“Everything is working together for my good!” 🙏🏼
That's so true 😮 toxic men wants to be served, they only see what you can do for them but healthy men wants to be of service to you they try to see what they can do for you
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said Amen throughout this interview. 😊 What a blessing you are to us Devon and Lisa! ❤
Pain brings a lot of clarity…. If you let it❤❤❤❤
Lisa hands down this was the best interview I have seen. And watched it twice already. I have been critical of some of your guests. Much respect here.
I agree fully with you. Absolutely priceless!
Exactly! Best guest ever, best interview ever!
It's like I don't like people treating me certain way, that reminds me of my childhood traumas and I wouldn't date guys who trigger those memories even unwillingly. We should feel safe in relationship and understand where everybody is coming from. We shouldn't have constant CPTSD flashbacks bc the other person refuses to acknowledge it.
True but also beware these are Your Flags and
it's not fair to hold the other back because you haven't healed. If you don't heal someone will always trigger you. Trigger is the problem.i5s letting your triggers control your actions.
@@joyricherson4570 UGH healing doesn't mean accepting poor behavior.
I've thought someone will come up to twist my words like that. I won't overexplain my childhood traumas to make sure somebody won't miss the point. How is having boundaries holding others back?
And no need to explain to me what triggers are.
If someone experienced severe CPTSD it won't completely vanish, it's part of our nervous system. So it's not "holding anybody's back" to not accepting the same behavior that traumatized me. Gosh
That’s your trauma speaking not their behaviors. Thats where the conversations comes into play what did you say or what did you hear. Many blessings unto you
@@TequilaTurner make some effort and read my 2nd comment before projecting assumptions.
I agree
Unfortunately some look at marriage as a business agreement and not the old school forever..
very good advice
Dang this Man is a mountain and volume of inspiring self realization. He is raw in his teaching. It takes experiencing “it”to present “it” to this extent. ❤
Listening to him speak. I don’t even understand why the marriage didn’t work out. He has such a hood head on his shoulders. Great points
I love his message! I have been following his one of one series and it has changed my life! We have been taught wrong all our lives and it shows in society. Needing validation from the opposite sex is not it! Loving yourself and knowing what you want and need is crucial and non negotiable. I am really appreciative of him sharing his message and journey it is really helping ppl thru a lot. ❤
Yeah. And women are taught to squeeze into whatever is expected from us instead knowing ourselves and our values.
It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you are not. As a recovering ppl pleaser I remind this myself daily.
Amen 🙏🏽
I love Devon Franklin. I always learn so much from listening to his interviews. Especially the scarcity mindset discussion.
Amen 🙏🏽 he is sharp and Beautiful and this is my first time ever hearing him and it definitely want be my last as I will be a Fan for Many Years!! Thank you 🙏🏽 for Sharing!!
Instead of looking for love,be ready to receive it...beautiful piece from Devon.. 😍🙌🙌
I do believe love is enough!!! Not because you say you love them. But if you truly love someone and they love you, you build and mold yourselves to each other and the future that you both want together.
Yes!! I think he’s more so referring to maintain a relationship ..love isn’t enough. But you are correct in that when you find your person ..i believe your soul mate..love is enough!
Just went through my journey of healing and knowing my self worth. God put me in isolation for 7 months till I understood myself and what I want and what I won’t except! To love me first and to be happy with self! No one can make you happy. You must get with like minded people.
I agree about understanding and not compromising on core beliefs. These cannot be ignored despite how you feel about the person
One can Love a person you Trust but you can’t Trust a person you love!
I Choose Trust!
I do agree that dating n marriage are just mirrors reflecting where we self sabotage or where we actually accept ourselves unconditionally.
I went through that subconscious bate! Then I realized…I need to know myself better.
I am so grateful this showed up on my feed. He's like the voice I've been waiting to hear in my head for such a long time. 😅
This conversation is excellent. And it's interesting, to see that a celebrity man is going through the same kind of stuff that women are going through. Devon's wisdom is necessary.
Regarding the Jim Carry story, to me it sounds as if what the wife needed from him may have been disregarded. There is a difference in doing something you want to do and expecting praise and respect vs. Doing something that they both want and her appreciating it, there is a difference.
Yes! I was lost at this bit and wanted more understanding as I have experienced this. He came home from work and I asked him if he could put the trash out and he went off, "why do I need to, I just got in, noticing in the trash is mine, why couldn't you do it before I got here" bearing in mind there is rubbish from food I cooked that he would be eating, babies nappies etc.. to being told "what have you done all day".. cleaning, cooking, looking after the kids, food shopping on a day that I didn't have work. 😕
I need to get quiet with myself and really determine what are my core values that I refuse to compromise on because sometimes, you think you know, but something or someone comes along and you start to say, ‘well, xyz isn’t that bad…’
Powerful! So wonderful to see his growth! He finally got it right! When people show you who they are the first time, believe them. Thats your compass and guide! Thank you Devon! Your interview confirmed alot of the situations I'm going through in my life! What I've learned from this podcast is that compatability and core values are key to a lasting relationship! Powerful Devon! I salute you Sir!
💝🥰🎊I LOVE WHEN HE MENTIONED FAITH!! I FEEL THE SAME WAY!! I WANT A MAN OF GOD LIKE HIM!! AWESOME MESSAGE!! THANK YOU!! 💃 🤗 💕 A MAN LIKE THAT HARD TO FIND BUT I KNOW GOD WILL BLESS ME BIG TIME!! HE LEARNED HIS LESSON AND NOW HE WAS BORN AGAIN!! CONGRATS!! 🎊
Sobriety is a core value!! Yes. Enjoying life does not require substance use!!
Is that person already happy. Yes emotionally healthy 😊
I like the saying "Happy wife happy life"because why shouldn't my happiness be important to my husband,his is important to me.
The Narc I dated said 'Jesus Christ is my Savior' and had bibles and religious books around the house and would forward emails to me from Pastor Rick.... Yet he was emotionally abusive, contemptuous, angry, would rage, was not compassionate, thought his way was the only way....etc...etc... though Jesus Christ was his Savior.
Jesus says in Matthew 15:8 “This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me”
Love is not in words but in deeds 🙏🏾
Your ex sounds like a “Christian” malignant, covert, narcissist. Those are thee WORST Ones.
I had an EX like this. He was awful. Very judgemental! (The keyword in all of this was EX).
I need to listen to this. Glad I came across his interview, everything He said was spot on 💯.
I realized I was thirsty to keep up with BS from low vibrational Men even though I created healthy boundaries but it was hard to let go. I deeply want to connect with someone special so we can bond together however, I’ve been ghosted and gaslighted many times. This past week was my last straw because I chose my happiness over the fantasy of who they are not. Thank you so much for sharing your story I can relate 💯💯
These are things I’ve been learning in the last 8 months thru watching sermons. I have changed so much for the better. I have less now but I am so happy especially with myself. I love me, I love my own friendship. I’m happy just being me. I’m not desperate and it’s so nice to say I’m sure you are a great person but you are not for me. And then go out to eat or to a movie right by myself. I even go on vacation with me.
💗 Awwww…. I’m Loving this Guy. We’re on the same journey. I’m taking notes 📝. I’m praying I’ll find someone who understands what he’s teaching /preaching. 😊
Devon be dropping some very important gems right here. Beautiful session
Even though I liked and agreed the beginning to never compromise in your core beliefs, I don't understand why he still felt insecure with himself when he had many achievements in several areas of his life( like sports etc.). I gained my self-confidence mainly thanks to my achievements in childhood. When I entered ballet school, my former class teacher wrote "high self-esteem" in my resume😀. Of course I have to mention that my parents were very supportive and helped me everyway they could on my way.
There are many ways we build self esteem. Achievements can definitely help,but it takes way deeper than that to develop esteem
I can't count the number of AMENS I shouted during that interview 😂 that man is awesome
This prayer is for you Devon Franklin Lord God, we thank You and praise You for the gift of marriage. We ask You to help Devon find a virtuous spouse, so that he may have a holy and happy married life. Our years of singleness can be very lonely and can often feel like they have no purpose. But You are able to use Devon single years profitably. Put Gods first and all good things will be added unto to you. All things are possible with God. Greetings from Toronto Canada. Stay blessed and trust in God.🙏🙏🙏
Amen and it shall be unto him Devon
I happened to be eating a slice of chocolate cake just as he used chocolate cake as an analogy for lack of self-love 😂
A very effective depiction, thank you ❤
Terrific podcast!😊
I haven’t dated in a few years and I have come to the conclusion that, I don’t want to date a man unless he has a relationship with God and date with an intention of something serious AND be comfortable with platonically dating me without dating others. Healthy boundaries. He should feel self love and participate in self care, mind, body and soul. The world is so very worldly but really getting to know each other and not allowing social media or his associations to negatively influence our relationship. The right man will be willing to make the investment. I’m open to receiving who is right for me, when the time is right.
I really enjoy listening to Devon Franklin. It seems like his wisdom regarding relationships has grown to a new level.
I love this … if you are not happy now … you will not be happy with someone else .. ❤❤❤❤❤
Whatever he has spoken is everything that I was experiencing..and have been through I thank God that i was able to listen to him today because best believe am not staying the same
He's awesome - many Christians do not have his core beliefs - love it
Reality vs (fantasy)... being delusional is a liability 😮 am learning!❤
Straight gems he is dropping
Love this message ! I did this is my first marriage . Put my core beliefs and values to the side and ignored it
Wow what a powerful statement “most people are not seen they are projected‼️”
I agree we have to believe we are valuable but I still know love from another can help heal a soul !!! I have seen it many times.
If they’re lucky enough to find someone who is securely attached.
Another thought…. Just my opinion, too many people these days are more interested in SEX and feeling if that works all the other things will too. Nooooooo any animal can have sex. Get the right person first, and that person is YOURSELF first. After that, the right person will happen and THEN the sex will be worthy of having and loving.
Exactly! This is what I'm aiming to do! My last relationship started off with sex and look where I am now... lol
This message blessed my life! I’m taking some much needed time with myself and valuing my own core beliefs. I’ll be ready to explore a relationship when I can clearly articulate my core values to myself and feel empowered by acknowledging them 💯
My Goodness....Dis Man is a TEACH-ERRRR 😭🙌🏾😭
Love this guy.. he speaks the truth. I hope I find a husband like this one. He is a gem❤
Yes I agree! Don't compromise on your core beliefs!
Great episode! Cutting edge awareness for becoming a stronger person who doesn't settle for mistreatment and who also treats others well and becomes worthy of the same in a partner or a friend. Thank you DeVon Franklin, I will be playing this again and maybe several times more!
This is the most beautifully conscious conversation that I have ever heard from this great Man of Faith! Every man or woman should listen to this and start Evaluating themselves first and NOT COMPROMISING THEIR CORE VALUES! "DOING THE WORK ON ME! "
Devon is glowing. God is still awesome in the midst of it all❤❤❤
I am happy he was smart enough to know enough was enough. And register why it was time to move on.
Praise the Lord... Thank you Devon i resonate with this message 100% and I've been using my experience to create content for women about relationships, first with yourself and God before entering a relationship with someone else....
Find love not another lesson 🥰Someone consistent Not perfect but aware of their own weaknesses 🤗Same values Someone who matches my energy 💝
Loved Devon's clarity...not changing for the benefit of getting someone but for yourself, deal with that hunger 👌🏾
Good insights! The question I have been currently asking myself after divorce is, do I want to date again? The inner soul says "Hell no!"
OMG!!! Images of previous relationships are vibrant right now!! Especially about being heard. I specifically said to a former boyfriend that though I engage with him about work, life, experiences, etc…asking questions and all, I DID NOT RECEIVE ANY OF THAT FROM HIM. At this statement it was “cricket cricket cricket “. His topics would be a conversation for an hour or more but when I bring conversation about my issues, life, etc… the conversation is all of 5 minutes. He’d say “pray about it” or “do xyz and that will solve it “. 😡