What Being Trans Is Really Like | Get Real | Refinery29
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- Опубліковано 11 бер 2015
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So much of the conversation around transgender people in America focuses on the extremes. We either talk of famous entertainers or share tragic statistics about homelessness and suicide rates. Those conversations are important. But, they don't represent the vast majority of trans Americans who live and work in cities and towns across the country - people like Hannah.
Hannah is a 30-year-old woman who lives in Harlem, attends medical school, and occasionally gives slam-poetry sermons at a local Jewish organization. She also happens to be transgender.
In this video, Hannah takes us through her daily life. We watch her morning routine, see her neighborhood haunts, and tag along when she goes out with friends. As we do so, she shares with us her thoughts about her gender identity, her transition, and her not-quite-ordinary life.
Want to read more stories about the lives and rights of transgender Americans? Check out our full Trans America series here: refinery29.com/trans-america
Very intelligent young woman. I love the analogy she used comparative to being trans (writing with your opposite hand). Something very likable about her!
+Claire F Man,he,him*
+Faraz fuck off
its biological not mental there are many studies on it
+Faraz *she, her You're not welcome here, your small mindedness is pissing me off.
Fluffymint Im sorry todd
wow. as she was talking about her experiences hesitating to buy certain items i was really struck by how we have structured our society to impose gender unnecessarily. so silly and pointless!
No its just you
You’re right, it’s not just you
"we have structured our society to impose gender unnecessarily????"
Please explain and elaborate on that thought!
And that is why having genders is stupid, because everyone still thinks that long hair a dresses equal a woman and it’s so untrue
@Amy Paps pardon me but I'm MtF and I can assure you that most transgender ppl do not believe long hair and a dress equals woman. We believe you are valid no matter what you wear.
"There is so much more to be gained from doing it [transitioning] than there is to be lost."
So freaking true. You look so damned happy, they same way I and every other transgender woman feels. The harder path has many more rewards than the easier one.
Just to let all know: We have the body dysmorphia, because we are and were abused, and usually through the worst way possible: sexually abused/raped. And the outcome of this abuse is the trans movement.
@@theharshtruthoutthere I'm trans and I've never been abused. I also think you're confusing dysphoria and dysmorphia
@@usernameisusernam then you are just deceived.
Human mind is easy to deceive. And masons use that daily against us.
Search out the reason(s) why masons came to be and stop being deceived.
Never been abused? soul be happy, not all souls gonna be that lucky.
@@theharshtruthoutthere where did you get the idea that someone has to be abused to have gender dysphoria? Is there any actual evidence or did you just come to the conclusion yourself?
@@usernameisusernam many have come out saying so.
And souls, in their childhood, both males and females, getting abused sexually, is real life fact.
www.youtube.com/@christsforgiveness/videos
he, DAVID LYNN used to have communication with the lgbtq++ souls in some of his videos, in which they did state that they got raped as child, once or multiple times.
He have lost some of his videos, therefore these which i speak about may no longer be found,
I also listen some of the detrans channels:
whom have also came out clear that sexual abuse was involved.
The same have come out clear about souls who still believe the trans lie and live as a trans.
Many FTMs have speaked that being female seemed for them unsafe.
Like bible also states:
Matthew 13:9
Who hath ears to hear, let him hear.
And not all the time are words needed, to see and to understand the reasons behind.
You are either still a child yourself, that you know it not?
or just a fool living proudly without any knowledge. ?
hannah is very inspiring for me. i'm a transgender guy, and she gives me hope that maybe, when i can pass as male and come out, it won't be the bad situation i keep imagining.
Same here buddy
If you think it's safe to, you should come out as early as you can cope :) being able to pass really helps with dysphoria.
update 6 years later? :D
@@Kahonekigoing off of the name and pfp I’m assuming they went through with it and are now (hopefully) happily a man which makes me very happy to see! Ofc I could be wrong but it looks like he’s transitioned now
its all the matter of how well u pass. otherwise dont do it.
5 weeks on Testosterone today. I gave myself my second shot today. My voice is starting to crack and that's pretty awesome to me. I just turned 14 this past August. I'm lucky to have a supportive mom, sister, and boyfriend. It's not about who I want to go to bed with. It's about who I want to go to bed as. If you are genderfluid, transgender, agender, cisgender or anything I'm probably missing, don't give up hope if you aren't getting on hormones immediately. If you ever want someone to talk to, feel free to reply and we can find a good way to communicate. :)
+Khris the Posh Llama - You're lucky to be able to do it so young, when you will have the most time and the most bodily resilience to handle transition, and you can get the most enjoyment out of life.
I won't be able to take estrogen because of my age and the risk of blood pressure and strokes, but better late than never.
+Khris the Posh Llama Hi
+Addie Lyons hello :)
+Khris the Posh Llama Can I contact you somewhere else? I would like to ask a few questions. I am a transman who has not come out or started transitioning yet.
+Khris the Posh Llama by the way, I am the same person as Addie Lyons, I've just begun using my true name online.
The part about writing with the opposite hand is such a great explanation! Truly heartwarming, thank you for sharing your story.
Olivia Quinn you use your hand of choice because that's what you decided to when you first picked a pen up, you're trans because it gives you attention for nothing and an excuse to winge 24/7
Tyler Durden says "Make soap." - Did you know Brad Pitt shows up 4 times before his introduction?
Find you dominant eye: ua-cam.com/video/iK1ZOp4MaMw/v-deo.html
My biology (body) has XY chromosomes: male. My psychology (mind - that part that thinks and feels) is _very_ female.
*I . W A N T . T O . B E . A . W H O L E . P E R S O N*
But people like you insist I stay half a person, constantly divided, constantly at war with myself and constantly stressed and in pain. *Why must I suffer for you?*
_you get abused because..._
THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BEING AN ABUSER. Think about it! You are trying to justify being a serious ass-wipe to someone by blaming them.
_... you're clearly a dude ... yet you get offended if someone calls you that._
*YES* I get offended when someone talks to my genitals and not me. Wouldn't you get upset if some guy walked up, stared only at your crotch and spoke about how small they make sausage these days? That's the kind of insult you deliver by insisting I am a man.
My mind IS NOT MALE. I do not think like a man, never have.
_All your choice._
I did not choose for you to call me names. I did not choose to be transgender. I did not choose to transition.
I _did_ choose to wait to transition and that was a mistake.
_Let me ask you something, can you change how old you are?_
No. And neither can I change being transgender. I wish I could. If I could stay a guy and be happy with it, I would have jumped at the chance most of my life. I don't want to be transgender. I don't want the ridicule and belittling. I don't want the insults.
My turn.
*Can you think like a woman?*
Rachael Platt I can try, but unless I was in fact a woman it would be impossible to ever know whether my thoughts perfectly mimic theirs. Also why is it not possible to change how old you are?
Rachael Platt and just to be clear, I don't expect people to abuse you because you're transexual, I couldnt care less what you want to do with your life, I expect people to abuse you for expecting them to ignore basic kindergarten science because you choose to
_ I can try_
Exactly. You can _try_ to act like a woman but it's unnatural. Similarly I can _try_ to act like a man but it's unnatural. I've tried for decades but I can't do it for very long. Even then I'm still not very masculine.
_why is it not possible to change how old you are?_
Ah. We constantly change how old we are. We get older every second. But from any point in time we cannot change how long we've been alive. It is a quantifiable value that cannot change unless we change the unit of measure.
_I don't expect people to abuse you because you're transexual,_
Thank you. *Abuse is never acceptable.*
_I expect people to abuse you for expecting them to ignore basic kindergarten science because you choose to_
Oh... you were doing so well!
So you never got past kindergarten. That explains much.
Nobody is denying science. Nobody is trying to change their DNA! (Exception: cancer research) We are changing our _body shape_ to match our identity - the shape ingrained into our minds from birth.
You are denying psychology.
One more time: *G E N D E R . D Y S P H O R I A . I S . N O T . A . B I O L O G I C A L . P R O B L E M !!*
Gender dysphoria is where biology (body) is a different gender than psychology (mind). My body is male. My mind is female.
It's a tough topic. Can you fathom such a concept?
Im so proud of her! She is so beautiful and I actually smiled so wide and teared when she said "i don't feel the dysphoria anymore"
no one should feel like they have to explain who they are , everyone has the right to be whoever they wanna be if it brings them joy .
+Mei Ki I was referring to the fact you are saying people can do whatever they want or whatever they feel like.
iam Sam I'll throw your dog off a bridge to tenderize the meat, grind it up and make tacos.
Intrapulation S how are you gonna throw my dog if ur gonna be turned to chunks ? dumb much
Bahahahaa. Stupid baka gaijin doesn't even understand his language. You said, "I want to", implying it wasn't done yet. I have studied the art of ninjitsu from naruto for over a decade, there is no way you could chop me up.
Intrapulation S already done , my dog is enjoying ur brain ur a ghost ahahaha
I know this video is old as hell. But at 35 I'm just now coming to terms with me being a woman. My entire life revolved around hiding who I was. Crying all the time crying myself to sleep wishing I could be a girl. It's only recently that I have realized that I am a girl and through the work and love of my friends I've come to realize that I have just been hiding the fact that I was and always have been female despite the body I was born in. This video made me cry my eyes out because it's so relatable to who I am as a woman today. Thank you for inspiring me and a giving me more to make this jump.
good job! i hope you made your jump by now! :)
@@chrissyweikoop7931 I have. Now my wife is leaving me which has been the biggest heartbreak I've ever felt. And I'm about to come out to my family for better or worse. No one said it would hurt this much but I've found some great friends in the queer community and I think I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. ... I just hope it's not a train.
@@chrisrickerby9077 oh no. i am so sorry for you. i am sure it will be for the better, although my experience isnt the same as yours. but living life as yourself feels... well, still better... i wish you the best of luck!
I'm with 100%. I know what it feels like to feel like a lovely lady Inside. And to coup it inside/hide it. If you feel like a women then you are a women.
This is why I want to become a women before I find someone. So I can be the lady I know I am! Thinking pleated skirts, tights and lovely ballerina's. Or converse. I feel sexy. And this is Me!
"...we want to actually measure people by their character and by their content of their soul.." I loved this story.
My mom has always wanted another son, so I hope when I come out she will understand she has two sons and not just one.
when I came out to my mother, I was so sure I'd lose her, but when she finally met me, her daughter Michelle, all she did was hug me and said it's about time I me you. my experience is rare so please be careful.
💜💜💜
My Chemical Rømance Trash I hope the best for u
I hope it goes well for you!🌸
I’m 21 year old trans male and it makes me so uncomfortable when people calls me ma’am. It’s one of the reasons why I want my boobs chopped completely off. As a child, I’ve always wanted to stay flat chested. The first time I got the talk about a menstrual cycle and “All woman gets it”, I wanted to end my whole life at that point😭
I’m so sorry 😭
I wish you the best
May not only be the boobs. u transitioned early so your bone structure might gove it away. You will live happy jouful life if you pass well..find out what gives it away or dont do it.
@@ProBusterxXx Nah imma chop em off. Straight up. I’m a boy and boys don’t have boobs.
She's so very inspiring and the bit about the writing with the opposite hand really spoke to me. So true how we can't all just explain everything or that there isn't always an explanation- some things are just simply "not right." Loved this. She's so beautiful, too! Much love for sharing your story, Hannah. Thank you.
She inspired me so much. Honestly, nobody should be considered "weird" or "unacceptable." Many people may think that being transgender is not a good thing for the society, but I think everyone has the right to be what they want to be. The video made me so happy and gave me courage to become anything I want. I wish Hannah the very best.
An intelligent and inspirational individual speaking from the heart- how could you not love this?
Several times, I found myself placing my hand over my heart while watching this.
So touching and the few seconds leading up to 2:40 broke me.
Much love to her. Many best wishes for her happiness.
Your metaphor/explenation for being trans honestly gave me chills... Especially since I was acctually drawing while I watched this video. Amazing
Hi, Hannah! I don't know if you'll read this, but I absolutely LOVED your analogy using "handedness" to explain gender dysphoria. I will be appropriating that explanation. You are an amazing ambassador for your community, whether that was your intention or not. Bless you!
Shhhhh. I'll read this ;-)
Sending you lots of love and thank you so much! Feel free to appropriate anything I can offer. Google my name for lots of other writing and a few videos on UA-cam you might enjoy. Take care!
+Hannah Simpson I'm going to use this as a way to help my family understand what being trans is.
such a sincere and insightful self-examination. thank you so much for posting, hannah.
the bit you said about the sadness and loss trans people can feel about leaving behind one self, to move to another that feels more authentic, doesn't get said enough.
though it is generally felt to be a positive move/transition, it's not always easy and it can be conflicting. and there is a 'bereavement' process to go through, of sorts, which i'm not sure all trans people are as prepared for as it would be good for them to be. that's why it was so important for you to have said it. 'get real' is a very accurate video description.
i'm also glad you apeear to have found a community that enables you to live as you want to live generally free from oppression, discrimination and abuse. in other places in the world trans people can suffer a terrible fate simply for trying to be true to themselves.
we must stay strong as a community, and work in solidarity with other marginalised communities (and that means not letting counterproductive intersectional tit-for-tat break the solidarity that unites us in the face of adversity), locally, nationally and globally.
i hope your medical degree worked out well and life is being kind to you, hannah x
I really respect this woman for choosing to be the person she is
kthatrapqueen they probably didn’t mean it that way. i think they were referring to her coming out and being herself externally as well as internally
Teddy The Bear then CHOOSE ur words wiser 🤷🏼♀️
kthatrapqueen We do choose to transition, however. Many of us don’t transition because of the society around us.
I actually cried # wanted to give her so many hugs
+theEddieworld Awwwww! Consider yourself hugged right back!
I wish I was a girl :// I feel like a pretty lady/girlygirl inside. I don't know how to explain it.. like a lovely flirty girl. Idk.. light-hearted. Fairy..
Even though I am ftm this is still completely inspiring and a great little video.
Tears in my eyes! Been out as transgender for 2 years nowand everything and many people ask me how I would explain to people what it means to be transgender and even though it's all in my head and very clear to me, I've actually never found the exact correct words to explain but my goodness she explains exactly how I feel. 2:15 to 2:41 is the only thing I don't relate too.
StrapsChronicles I've known how I felt my whole life and through constant indoctrination from my family was forced to treat how I feel as irelevent. Now in my midlife I finally realize that there is a name for how I've always felt and for the very first time in my life I don't feel shame for how I feel or a need to be more masculine. I now have a lot to do in order to live the life I was supposed to have lived and it means turning over everything I've done up till now. I realize now how wrong things can go when you don't live honestly with yourself and the people around you. I just hope that it's not to late. I've got to keep telling myself, "It get's better." In order to move forward. I wish you the best in your transition.
Betty Taylor I am afraid you are very wrong, I completely agree with National Socialist News' viewpoint as do many of my compatriots. We are by no means going to become extinct as our cause is gaining support daily everywhere throughout the Western world and abroad!
***** Indeed, however we will get nowhere with the current politicians in these corrupt goverments, they all want this Cultural Marxism to be spread around to elimintate a healthy, prosperous society. The European Union as a whole needs to be dismantled and each country should become strongly independent, but still remain as partners to ensure a thriving Europe!
Betty Taylor I think you're angry that our posts have more likes than yours
You should get some work done if you want to look like a female.
She said she’s thirty, and she started her transition ~3 years ago? That’s fantastic, I’m so happy for her! She’s doing so well. ^.^
Yeah I'm nearly 27 and I thought it was too late.
I wish I was pretty :///
I just Want the feeling every time I slip on a pair of tights. I'm a lady now!! Sounds bit.. you know (slutty/sissy but in a good way), slip on a pleated mini-skirt. But it's what I want. And every time slip on a bra and call myself a women. I just want that feeeeeeling. That I am a lady in my own right now! And do bits of makeup/make my hair look all lovely. Not to mention I feel LOVELY/GORGEOUS and comfortable in them. To feel Comfortable in my own kind of girly way. I feel sexy and comfy at the same time. It's a LOVELYYY feeling. And to be called she and her. And Amy. Or somee girly name. Elizabeth :)))
totally relate to the whole going and trying on shoes thing. I was so uncomfortable shopping in the men's section until I cut my hair and started binding my chest. I used to wait until no one was looking and casually grab men's underwear or tshirts and put them through the self serve checkout I felt so judged and ashamed. now I just walk in and feel super confident looking at men's stuff
+Max Austin I struggle more with the idea anyone would fear shopping in the men's section than with the idea of what being trans might be like. I wear men's clothes, have for years, and simply walk in and pick out what I want/want to try on. I guess I'm very fortunate to not give a damn about what anyone thinks. Still, I'm glad your confidence has grown. No one should feel ashamed like that.
Eliana Tali it's called internalised transphobia
Max Austin
Thank you for the information.
Reading this I feel so guilty... Because a while back this man was looking at bras beside me and I gave him a strange look. He looked offended so I felt bad and apologized... But I know I made him feel uncomfortable and I wish I hadn't been so quick to judge.
I'm androgynous female...I typically wear mean's clothing. I guess I never felt ashamed. But some people do. I think that is something we need to change in our world; stipulations on dress as if women have to wear certain things or men.
Hannah, well said! Brava!!! Your video touches the heart. You are the kind of young woman anyone would love to have as a friend.
+Welsh Rabbit Well now you do, dear Rabbit. Maybe you'll lead me into rabbit holes one day with potions, cake, caterpillars, and invisible cats?
+Hannah Simpson I'm am pleased and honored to be your friend, Hannah. Ah, thou doth conflate me with the March hare of the alter ego of Oxford math don, Charles Lutwidge Dodgson. I am more of a cheesy (toasted) character. : D. My avatar is Matilda, the woulda-coulda-shoulda been rightful queen (in her case, of England, cheated out of her crown by her dastardly cousin and oath breaker, Stephen). Too bad she was a bit of a schmuck personality-wise -- in fact, she was probably at least 2 std. deviations from the mean in schmuckiness. I infer we are both doctors. I do not write Rx's but I do write writs from time to time.
this man shouldn't be called a lady. not matter what type of mask you put on, the real you will always be their underneath the mask
+Obi ONE i think what she's saying is for her being a man *was* the mask and now she is showing who she is underneath
+Obi ONE
How can you think that? How can you look at a beautiful happy woman and call her a "man"? Wtf is wrong with you?
she's beautiful. the way she told the story is simple yet touching. sometimes i question people who are anti transgendered/LGBTQ community. it's the life that they choose, and for whatever reason, if that makes them happy and more alive than they were before, we have no right to take it away from them.
Apart from they don't 'choose' it
hannahbubbles i think she means choosing to transition not choosing to be trans
Livi's Vlog Yes, precisely, Livi! ((smiling so much reading this))
she's pretty
***** Thank you Jake! You're the sweetest!
He really is! Super proud that she tells her story!!
You must be fucking crazy and or blind
As you said I'm entitle to my opinion and I will say what I want on a public platforms such as UA-cam.
Chiba Sophie Cha He*
thank you for your video, Im a 73 years old Transgender (not opre) Im too old to have an operation found out very late in life when I brought computer, by YT, now in understand why i was diffrent, now I live as a woman a 100% at home and outside in town
But you're never too old to live your damn truth. Good on you!
W. James thank you , I will look at your videos
Juliette Juliette, I've only ever done song lyric videos. I don't use UA-cam as a platform. I'm afraid I wouldn't garner much of an audience since I'm kind of boring.
However, my girlfriend and I were offered a spot on a reality TV show dealing with transgender people. They were wanting a trans couple. It will air either on TLC or ABC Family--the networks are still vying for picking up the show. You might be seeing us there!
W. James in which is this show ?
Juliette Juliette, it's in the works. It's being kept under wraps until one of the networks picks it up. Participants are in the dark so far. I will let you know more when we find out more.
This was just so beautifully honest. Thank you. I love the pen analogy, we just are, we just know, exactly my experience. Thank you for sharing do bravely
You are so very welcome!
My favourite part must be 4:37, where you can see how happy she looks. Well done, Hannah!
I’m happy to see a story featuring a regular trans girl, not some overdone story about a drag queen or a prostitute. Those stories matter too, but most trans women just live regular lives like anyone else. We don’t all have traumatic lives or outlandish personalities. Wishing her the best in her journey!
This was very beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. I have so much respect for people who struggle with this
Why can't we just be born with the bodies we want..
The Matrix is still in beta testing.... But think about ... Do you think the humans were forced into the Matrix?
MunchyMuffin Productions we go through things for a reason. it nakes up who we are
MunchyMuffin Productions because nature is a jerk
***** yeah but having a different eye color is a lot different than having a third hand and or a peace of meat coming out from between your legs; :/ and plus there's no part in the brain that expects a certain eye color.
@Suicide Squid I think we'd ALL change lol.
very happy for you I'm starting at all now I can only imagine what you've gone through and what I'm going to go through best of luck very happy to see that you're happy!!!
Sat here with tears because I know this is how Melanie feels at times. I think I really understand now and that makes me feel happy :) Thank you for sharing
+Pammy Airey I am so touched that this video has helped you connect with Melanie. It is so important for each of us to have allies in our friends and families. Keep being amazing for her, and know that there are people out there ready to help you too, should you ever need it.
Since my realisation of my true self almost 8 years ago I must have watched many hundreds of videos about transgender people and their experiences, but this is first video in which the bane of my life (the continual need to shave as a trans woman) has been included.
Thank you for showing that, as I feel it's something most cisgender people don't even think about in relation to trans women.
I started feminising hormones approximately fourteen months ago and this is one of the best clips to explain the feelings behind transgenderism that I have found on UA-cam.
This is the best - the most clear and concise - video on being trans in my opinion. Hannah is so well spoken. I love how she explains everything.
I always come back to this video for inspiration and to help ease fears and concerns, when I have them. Thanks!
Im going through this atm and this was certainly inspirational and interesting to see how others have dealt with this life changing choice.
I'm proud of you sister. I myself are transgender. I started my transition at 41. I have a long road of me. But I'm finely starting to come out. I say to all my brothers and sisters. Love and respect.
Thank you for your articulate, perceptive and intelligent exposition on behalf of yourself and people like yourself. My gratitude. Your story in part is my story.
This video felt like a warm hug :')
I'm so happy for you Hannah.
What a beautiful story, well done Hannah! So lovely to see many nice comments, as well, especially on youtube!
❤️❤️❤️love the part about mom's comment. Beautiful
i'm ftm transgender and you're such an inspiration to me. thank you so much for your intelligent words!
I'm so glad I got to meet you, Hannah!! I love referring my friends to your platform when they need someone to turn to for support, you've inspired every single one of them and you inspire me every day! 💖
I'm blushing.
:)))))
I agree! shes a wonderfullll woman! Truly Wonderful ^^ and very special person.
your personality is so cute innocent in a way like dorky I guess idk I love this video
I am a huge dork in real life too. Thank you so much!
Exercise and nutrition are very important for a healthy transition. 😊🐧🌈
They are good to stay healthy but a transition of this dort it not healthy full stop. God bless
+Elliot Cole how is it not healthy?
+Briar Rose you're joking right?
+Alex Haney They're serious, just that they're reading studies from the '60s. Not realizing that gender is a spectrum that has nothing to do with sex, along with sex having a spectrum (i.e. intersex)
+Briar Rose Damn right, trans people are born that way. You do transition to presenting yourself as you are. But you're right in that you can't change who you are. Science doesn't lie, full stop. However, people can, and do, layer their biases and social conditioning upon scientific results to come to erroneous conclusions. e.g. if you have a penis you're male. Too often these conclusions are harmful to the person on a direct level but even beyond that, they are harmful through the messages of gender rigidity and boundaries they send to society. While you ramble on about 'delusional degenerates' a little transgirl is crying in her room because she's not brave enough to kill herself, but she doesn't know how she can live with the bullying and her parents abandonment. A transguy is being raped and beaten to a pulp because other people have an issue with the clothes he wears. You have no idea what people suffer. What would it cost you to be kind? or at least to shut up. Choosing either of those options, rather than spewing poison might just save a life.
Brava. This series, and this video specifically, are so beautifully done. Thank you for using style as a lens to intelligently understand our culture.
That analogy was perfect! I might use it to explain how I feel. I was assigned female at birth and have always felt male. I came out 9months ago (when I was 13) and I feel great, I can't believe it's been so long as the time has just flown by. I loved this video it was very interesting and relatable. All the best!
This story is so heart felt.
they should teach it at school. I've just recently learned I'm trans I'm a girl btw
+Lampfish Skateboarding Congrats on coming to that realization Lampfish! It is the first step to many amazing journeys you will take. There is a huge community of girls just like you and I, who are out there ready to help you any way we can. Best wishes!
Hannah Simpson thx it really helps knowing that not everyone judges
I first knew last year. Then I had a year of denial. Now I accepted it, but have gone back into denial even though this UA-cam is under Jacob (not my birth name) I keep going into denial because I go to an all girls school and then force myself to think that it would never work out - schools, family wouldn't accept me etc. But I hope to come out to my therapist and maybe my brother who lives somewhere else so he can take me to get my haircut in the summer :-))
+Jacob Wright I understand how you feel
You flunked Biology 101.
This is one of the best, most insightful, most intelligent explanations of identity I have ever seen. We have to strip ourselves down from all complications that life imposes on us and at our core we all want the same things. To be ourselves, to love and be loved. Congrats on becoming more authentic, I feel inspired by you and hope you continue to live your truth.
Natalia Siegert Thank you so, so much! I am truly humbled to read this.
Omg the marker on wrong hand example is really good!
"Measure people by the content of their soul." :)
I'm crying watching this just as a trans guy
The way she describes it is so accurate with me! All the love!
the thing about writing four name with the other hand is brilliant! oh my god! I have never thought of that and it makes so kuchen sense! this is how I'm going to explain trans from now on! this is actually perfect
Love this! So inspiring and very beautiful :) xx
This is like the first video where they show the person having a life. They are more than their issues and surgery talks surrounding them, they have a life to live too
Hannah you are so absolutely beautiful
Amazing story. Thank you and kudos for sharing!
This was beautiful. :')
She's beautiful. Hannah, you're beautiful. Thank you for sharing this story Refinery29!
The thing I took away from this more than anything else is how she never put her being transgender as the core of her being. That right now in the video she was talking about it but if she weren't then she would just be going about her daily routine in life as the woman she is. As someone who struggles with dysphoria and the fear of what everyone in my life will think of me when I one day do come out it is extremely refreshing and honestly comforting to see people who's transition has improved their life and helped them be who they want to be and not have it be everything that they are. I don't know if you'll ever see this Hannah but you and people like you give me hope that I might actually have a chance to not feel so fucked up and disgusting one day and feel like myself. Thank you for making my day a little brighter with the light in the dark that is your life.
Btw I love your hair it looks great.
@Charles
I agree with your so lovely comment.
I feel quite the same way.
As I've just "welcomed" my transidentity, I decided to meet trans people near my small town and found 2 associations. That's very important because it's so weird for "normal" people (and yet for me too) that listening to people who have transitioned -- and are still alive :-D -- helps me to understand what is happening to me, and what possibilities exist to live with this acceptation of my true nature. And, beside it, watching testimonies like this one gives clues about what to be aware of, and tips (1:20) to use with people who want to understand your feeling.
Charles, I hope you will find the way to accept your being and to find a good way to adjust what you thing must be "fixed". A thing that have been told to me: "Don't think you *have* to cut your b***s. It's up to you to know what is best for you." And this was a very important advice. There is not one only way to be transgender, but multiple ways for each one of us to live our life as we want.
_By the way, she is _*_very_*_ cute!_ ;-)
I'm writing a human sexuality paper about gender dysmorphia and being trans right now. I have dated a trans women and my 2 best friends are trans boys. Yet I have never heard someone explain it so well that it would make sense to someone who doesn't naturally empathize or support trans people like myself. She did an amazing job at putting it to words. I showed my mother who isn't transphobic but definitely doesn't really understand the whole thing and she even told me she never thought about it in the ways this video explained and made her think.
+sydneymattox That's so lovely to hear! Thank you for sharing your positive story with us!
This girl seems really genuine and in touch with herself, really interesting as a trans person to hear other trans women speaking candidly about my present and future
She's beautifull. I don't think so. I know so. Inside and out. She is the loveliest person I know.
congratulations hannah. you are beautiful and sound very intelligent. you seem like a great person and I wish you all the best!
Thank you so much for this! ❤️💛💚💙💜
So inspiring and amazing! I personally won't ever be able to transition the way that I want to (technology isn't there yet), but seeing someone be so comfortable in their skin and so kind despite the difficulties makes me want to feel the same way, surgery or no :)
such a good and positive video!
Hannah you are an inspiration and a stunning woman.
Love your Hand Anology, simple and effective. Very well Presented.
I have a cousin who did this.I had a talk with her about whether the BPA in plastics,hormones in food,sprays on crops,and other things we are poisoned with actually affect certain people more than others to the point that this happens.She seems to think so too.
you are such a beautiful and inspiring woman💖💓 I wish everyone acted as kind and as empathetic as you!
I'm also a huge Whovian, FYI. ;-)
Yay! That's so cool! Which is your favourite Doctor?
Not even a question, 10. And Martha for his best companion.
+Hannah Simpson oh that's so cool! I honestly can't decide which I prefer
Awwww, kiss yourself too!
I wish it was a longer video.
this was amazing, thanks for sharing xx
The part about writing your name with the other hand was sweet, it home for me because I'm trans and left handed xD
Wonderful good stuff! :)
Her smile is so pretty :)
I love this and I truly am happy for you💖🥰
This inspires me💖
this was a great interview, well filmed i loved it
Hannah, you're a beautiful intelligent young lady. I wish you nothing but health and happiness for your future :) x
***** You are technically correct in what you say concerning the XY chromosomes etc so in that respect yes technically she will always be a male BUT think of it this way. I dye my hair blond but I don't go around announcing to everyone that my hair colour is a dark mousy brown colour... I say I am blond because its what you see and what I am now. Trans folk need understanding, and kind hearts and acceptance .... smart alecs really don't help.
+Karl Biermann You are an ignoramus that doesn't know even basic biology. And as you are unwilling to extend even basic respect to a young woman, fuck you.
XY chromosomes == man? Nope. Check this out: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2190741/
She menstruated and got pregnant twice, with XY chromosomes. They. Mean. Shit.
I've actually never heard an explanation quite like writing your name with your nondominant hand. It's still your name, it's still you, but it's just not what you want it to look like, what the best and happiest version of yourself could be. So simple yet so true. You're very well spoken and an inspiration. :)
Good on ya Hannah, you're so eloquent in this piece. I wish you all the best in the future and may you get everything your heart desires :)
What a great message! Wonderful video
Beautiful story.
She's so lovely!
this is the best explanation i have ever seen thank you for this
I love this Best part of Jaw Drop Philo from 1:20 to 1:58. Thanks for the up load.
Her hair is freaking gorgeous.
After watching this I use the pen thing to explain this to people also
This video is beautiful, well said and thank you ❤️.
Thinking about starting my transition. It seems almost impossible or like a fantasy at this point.
Seeing how happy it has made her makes me believe this is finally possible to do. It sounds amazing to buy what I want without feeling like I have to explain myself to everybody. Having the legs and curves to pull off what I like to wear makes life sound almost too good to be true.
She’s Cute And Pretty
Great video! More important stuff on youtube.
So relatable, I love it
The way she explain her identity to others is genius ! Love