I no longer care because I now know that my ex can't handle a real relationship. It's sad, for them but I have learned my lesson too. To be needy is to be vulnerable to abuse. Heal yourself first.
Until me she hasn't had a loving relationship..dv and cheating from her husband...I loved her and supported her in every way a nd she ran away from me like a tiger was chasing as soon as we committed
After 2 years I would have to say I’m in the 50% that won’t hear from their ex. She didn’t even acknowledge me in my most painful time when my daughter passed away last November.
Omg Todd, that is horrible, I'm so sorry. Prayers to you & your family. I can not speak about your ex, but I can imagine if they truly cared about you, they are grieving for your loss ❤.
@@sloanmagnum5009 think he aknowledges that. The problem is that the behaviour of an ex who probably was loving, caring and considerate during the relationshio is now so unfathomable after a breakup... It can be very emotionally, morally and intelectually devastating. You are thrown completely away into a void with only your soul to cope. You don't only feel betrayed, you feel fooled: you are eager to receive only a simple "hi", or a "how were you doing" from a person who showed you love for YEARS to reconcile (not even coming back), and nothing. You can get over them, but it's not that easy to get over what their turn the love and companionship between the two of you into.
Is not easy but I said disrespectful things in she moved on her brother said she over the relationship in to leave her tf alone stop texting his family so she will never come back
This is the way to be. Us Guys need to become less emotionally attached in our relationships and you’ll be better off. I promise you. Value yourself beyond anything else. You’re all 10/10s. Take off your rose tinted glasses, grow some balls and don’t believe the hype. If they come back you won’t want them back. Walk around with the suck my nuts mindset.
I think people don’t realize how important a heartbreak is. We’re all sitting here wishing we never felt heartbreak while there are people who’ve never experienced love so intense where heartbreaks come in. This is the arc where we take care of ourselves, not out of resentment or hatred but simply to accept what’s happened and move on the best way we know how. Be alone, go for a walk, pick up a new hobby, and learn to love yourselves again lads. Know your worth and know that being alone only makes you a better person in the long run. Stay strong fellas.
At the start of the breakup i thought i had lost her forever, but in time i realised that when she tried to come back, she was really the one who lost me. It takes a while but it gets easier as time goes on.
Year and a half mate, and that was after leaving me where she just never came home, blocked me for year and a half, no closure, never even said why she left. She text me and i got excited, but she didnt reply to me asking her how she was for another month, and that was the turning point for me where i realised how terrible she actually was and is to me. I got unblinded in the end. You gotta try accept it for what it is. But if youve just broken up, whatever you do, do not contact her at all, show her you are fine without her, this is what made her come back, she saw me finally dating someone, and that was the moment where she realised she might lose me, so thats when she shouted me. All situations are different, if you really do love her and it was you that made the mistake, i wouldnt take my advice because it was her who left me for what seems no reason at all, i still to this day have never had an explanation, just some shitty ‘im so sorry i know i was wrong’ texts. Just her way to release her guilt for what she put me through Honestly bro, man to man, if you need someone to just ask shit about, trust me i really loved this girl, to the point i would still probs take a bullet for her now even if she cheated on me in the end like she did. So yeh bro if i can help in anyway, ill do that. I fully know what u going through bro
@@KingTheJim she left me 5months ago , after entertaining other dude behind me , I broke NC after 2months and it fails. I broke NC again after 40 days and somehow it's better and we talk and chat and call but eventually she starts ignoring me yet again when I talk about reconciliation , she ignored me for weeks or 15 days , i miss her so everytime she ignored me I text her again , its been a pattern of 10 days 15 days and I broke it....yesterday I broke it again , and she still hasn't reply to me , idk what else should I do , I miss this girl a lot and I want to work things up as in 2months we won't be studying in the same college anymore, I told her that clearly but she still took it lightly, I wrote a letter , audio record but its all in vein
@@doubleJJ01 bro you gotta let her go and find out she cant replace you. Go no contact, prove to her you can be without her, the more it seems you can move on, the more attractive you become. I know this will go against every fibre of your being, i know u wanna just message her, but the more you do that the further you will push her away. Go no contact, actually work on yourself. The second she thinks you are moving on, thats the exact moment where all her feelings about you will rise up and shel have to make a decision. Trust me bro i know it seems like you jus wanna text her find answers or whatever. But that energy you give off when your like ‘well fuck this i aint being a clown for you anymore’ trust me it will effect her. Right now shes in control, shes seeing another dude but knows if it fails shes got you as a backup. You have to smash that idea and show you can move on. Trust me bro its the only way and i know all u wanna do is text her and beg her to communicate. I made all those same mistakes, drew pictures wrote letters, all it did was push her away further. Any questions you got shout me bro ill help anyway i can.
@@KingTheJim 3.5 months in and no explanation too, just left one morning after 4 years of relationship. Blocked and everything. But she told me it probably won't be forever and in text message I felt strange because she still called me with cute nickname she always gave me and it feels more like she lied to herself to not to be in serious relationship with deep love. When she'll come back (if she will) I'm not gonna accept like nothing happened, I'm in so much pain I can't get up from bed all these months, she'll need not just explain everything and say sorry to me to recover. Stay strong guys
Some people just get mentally exhausted and want to be free from relationship responsibility’s . Nothing lasts forever and no one owes us anything! Just accept the loss and move on.
even if he does or doesnt, im moving on. he can remember what he lost, i pleaded at the end of the breakup and ik i have more respect and worth than that and he did regret brekaing up with me and he didnt want to he said but he knew he had to make this decision but i mean, it would be hard to resist him but whats stopping him from leaving again if he tries to come back to me
No coach it’s not about getting back with the ex- for me & most of us , it’s more about getting back that respect & peace & those times that was stolen & lost while pleading not to waste such hard invested relationship after breakup . It’s personal ...
@@Thechosen77 I’m Grateful For What I Have Lived, Learned and Always Learning… I Only Want People In My Life Who Want Me In Theirs! 🙏🏼💕😇 Accepting What Is.
I emotionally cheated on my gf, but before that I think deep down something tells me she didnt really love me even tho I did wrong...she would always disrespect me during argument, she called me a little bitch once, compared me to an ex, but something tells me she didnt love me, she hasn't texted me since 3 weeks idk why I reply this but I feel like you are going thru something similar @@ditadrosa3482
Agree with your point. But why do the dumpers need to take this hard path of breaking up with their partner? Why not just to talk and work through staying in relationship? It looks like cowardliness on their part…
It honestly depends..my ex also would call me cowardly if i left. But i mean he doesnt understand how wrong it is to have kept a secret him being friends with one of his exes..i even asked him why this particular ex? And not all of them?? Even after i told him about my past he still didnt tell me about his ex. The way i found out was messed up..staying felt disrespectful to me..he slipped up her name in bed..and lied about it blaming it on a video game. And later i found out who was first in his contacts..so nope im not a coward for leaving him once and for all..😊
@@roshawngreene7069REAL coward behavior is trying to find out what’s going on, telling them it’s ok if we’re not being together. Then having them say they want a 2nd chance, and then ghosting after that
I am a dumper. I spiraled to my absolute worst point with anxiety, depression, in addition to ruminating thoughts about the relationship. When I was at my worst, he blamed me for not being able to meet his needs. I wanted things to change, and they didn't. Do I hope we could get back together despite what happened? Yes. But it got to the point where I didn't think I could stay for a second longer because it impacted my wellbeing so much. Taking care of yourself when it gets THAT bad is not cowardly, it's necessary for self-preservation.
My strength comes from finding myself And never letting them back. I never again want someone who bails. I promise you this I will leave them alone for good.
🤔 Not sure of your situation, but i can relate with feelings of rejection and being abandoned. So the ego always seems to hold as much pride. Ive learned that no one is perfect and relationships will never be as well. Try not letting your anger cloud your heart. There is the Fading Effects Bias, where we give the old crap from the relation a chance to dump all the negative and then humans start to remember the good parts of the relation a chance to rise again. Ive been with my partner gf for 5 years minus 2; i walked away for 2 years for us both to fix are own demons, so we dont continue to sabotage our situationship. Some people have to learn to grow up and mature 🙄 And we grow through hardships if you do the work. Now im in round two, while i am getting ready to walk away again from the girl. We should never tolerate being disrespected. The end of the day, you have to choose YOUr self-respect. Let those who cross your boundaries, KICK ROCKS barefoot 👣💪
To be honest, just because you felt that doesnt mean they felt that. Or maybe they felt it in the beginning but got to know you more and found out they weren't interested anymore. I've been on both sides of that and it is what it is. Not everyone is meant for each other.
Make sure you read up on *trauma bonds* just in case If you realise it's a trauma bond you really need to look in to whether it's healthy to get back in that situation
I made all the mistakes. She reached out after four months to "close the cycle" with a couple cold sentences. No contact resumes, and this time it will likely last a lifetime. Unfortunately begging seems to prevent them from experiencing nostalgia, dumper's remorse, or realizing what they lost
When my ex and I divorced, I never saw or heard from her again and it’s been over 15 years since our divorce. When we were done, we were done. I moved on and she did too. Thank goodness for that too.
They always come back. I was so desperate for mine to come back, and whenever he finally did it was about six months that I waited and during those six months, I could hardly get out of bed I could hardly eat my hair fell out and I would cry all the time. I thought I had missed out on my soulmate or something so whenever he came back and he was a jerk and not the person that I had hyped him up in my head to be I felt really stupid for waiting crying and freaking myself out so much that my hair fell out, your ex is an ex for a reason maybe God took him away from you as a blessing and you won’t realize this until later on in life
Mate, you are lucky! Imagine one year of waiting, praying, losing weight, surviving, trying to heal, going through an excruciating grief. Sometimes I wonder how I survived and made it so far. …and she’s not coming… i know that now…but let them lose us, guys. Let them…!
Hearing from your Ex means nothing. They just want validation because they are bored with their options. They want to keep you on a leash so they can pull you back for their convenience. If your Ex left you. Never accept them in your life.
Honestly speaking , I only want her back to talk about our relationship. Like, what went wrong and what worked. Kicker is, she is like, very depressed, mentally ill and completely and utterly changed when she Monkey Branched off of me onto a replacement for her abusive ex boyfriend (very very evil bad person)
idc if my ex comes back, if he does then maybe we could work it out but if he dont, ill be fine, im trying to move on but its kind of hard because i feel like he feels something for me still but cant or wont admit it to himself or me. but i just have to show him ive moved on and hes kinda feeling sorry for himself now i can see that,
It depends on why there was a breakup in the first place. If either party cheated and infidelity was involved, there is no return. At this point, you just move on with your life and find a new partner. Never reconcile with a cheater. They will only cheat on you again if you get back together.
Right? And especially if they withheld important information..like being friends with exes. Even after slipping up their name and having told them about our previous history...like he still never bothered to tell me about that ex..i feel like he just used me to make her jealous..by posting our relationship on social media..for every month he made it his mission to do so..lol makes sense now..yeah i miss him but he definitely wasnt good for me...and he knew it..he told me n it makes sense sadly..i wish he had told me earlier so i wouldn't have started to get attached to him...or the routine we had .
True my mom always says you train people how to treat you what you put up with will continue bc you acce Pted the bad behavior is my interpretation of that . She's normally right weather I l8ke it or not . LOL be S T to everyone he4re going thru difficult painful situations . Remember you deserve moreo7t of your life you only get 1 make it your best one possible . Hope yo7 find what your look7ng for out there . 🫢🤞🏼🍀🍀🌿
Between narcissism and gaslighting. They put his in so many categories. I now feel like I was the bad guy. Even my positive has turned bad. If were strong were toxic if were emotional were bata. The emotional manipulation & head games are to much
Thanks man I feel weak bc of love - sucks we have to play these mind games . Truth is there are men where the dynamics will never be that we have to resist to get attention jeez. This vid was short and simple ❤ just let it gooo they will come
Well I know 'cause I learn a little every day I know 'cause I listen when the experts say that That a good heart these days is hard to find True love, the lasting kind
well i did kinda beg after the breakuo because i was confused and loved him and he said he even regretted it and considered getting back togthert but decided against it but says that he wont ever come back but i think he was just angry and hasnt resolved his feelings and got salty when i started to move on
Baby momma lost feelings for me few months back bcuz I pushed her away n wasn’t showing her love, now she dating someone else, hope I get the chance to fix things n be a family again
Good message! Sometimes it's just our immaturity, either in the moment or even over a long period of time, that contributes to a breakup. Evaluate what you can contribute to a healthier relationship, and take the time to discover who you can achieve that with. It may be your ex or it may be someone new. However never chase your ex. Use it as a time to become a "whole person", someone that is happy to have someone else in their life, but not someone that "needs" another person to complete them. Many blessings!
It's been 2 weeks since my ex left me!! I'm sitting here crying over him!!! I keep hoping I'll bump into him or he'll come back after work....not a chance he's gone
I didn't do any of that, I let him go and went no contact. He started contacting ME and is being cold and weird. But it's him contacting ME. I'm not chasing not doing anything.
I agree since our breakup I pretty much begged to get her back and before that she said she wanted to try getting back together but since talking even though she keeps saying she wants to get back together she takes 10 hrs to open my message and respond and I’ve been chasing her and have been completely drained for a month now so I’m just going to relax and back of and if she tries calling me, what’s apping me and messaging on all social media’s I’ll know if she truly wants me or not because I’ve been doing everything but I doesn’t feel like she’s been doing the same
It’s been off and on with mine for 5 years and last time i saw him was November. Since then it’s been radio silence and in March on my birthday - he dropped gifts off on top of my car at my HOUSE 🤦🏻♀️. Since it wasn’t the contact I wanted, I never responded back to the whole gift thing. He always pulls this shit with the indirect direct approach. On top of that, the card he left with the gifts left no indication he wanted to meet up, talk, or any of that. The card was dry AF like a default birthday card from CVS that was in the clearance section. I dont think I’m being petty either, I think I’m just knowing my worth and holding a boundary. Do I love him and want him? Yes, but I’m not accepting stale ass breadcrumbs even Aladdin wouldn’t eat.
That was cold af. He acknowledged your birthday by bringing you a present. "Thank you" would have sufficed. You ignoring him totally should let him know to stay tf away from you forever if he has any self respect. Deal with your ego.
We got back but now 2 weeks he is giving me silent treatment for what??? I don’t understand. He is 60 yrs old man and I expect him to be more mature and handle relationship in a very good way but thats not the case... no wonder in his past he didn’t succeed coz maybe the way he treated women 🤷🏻♀️🤦♀️
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My ex broke things off with me a few months ago after a 2.5 year relationship. She brought me my remaining things last week and we talked in front of my apartment and made out like teenagers and had a passionate quickie. Days later she expressed that the moment was special and that her daughters and best friend suggested she give me another chance. Our breakup was due to trivial matters that became too much. Even though our vibe amicable and peaceful, she's an avoidant and i feel like the only way I'll get her back is too leave her alone. I'm now in NC again until she reaches out with something meaningful, if and when that time comes.
Even if he misses and comes back, what's the point! I mean when he doesn't care how I feel now, I cried alone, I'm healing myself, I was with me when I was hospitalized. I don't think it's a good idea to accept someone who already left you 😢
You need to move on Chances are that they will, just it'll take more time, but there is no point wasting any more time thinking about them when you could be using that energy to enhance your own life
My ex is still hanging on. She left me, but won't fully leave.. She still calls, texts, we see eachother a bit. She says she doesn't care, but her actions say otherwise. I can't do this forever though.
People want what they can't have. If you're always there for your ex whenever they need you, then they aren't going to miss you or want you back. Don't make things too easy for them. Go "no contact", it works.
I wish this was true, after being dumped last year in July. He breadcrumbed me up until January. He hasn't spoke to me since... even with going no contact.
I no longer care because I now know that my ex can't handle a real relationship. It's sad, for them but I have learned my lesson too. To be needy is to be vulnerable to abuse. Heal yourself first.
Thank you
Yeah same my ex needs some serious therapy.
Until me she hasn't had a loving relationship..dv and cheating from her husband...I loved her and supported her in every way a nd she ran away from me like a tiger was chasing as soon as we committed
Hello sir can you speak me
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After 2 years I would have to say I’m in the 50% that won’t hear from their ex. She didn’t even acknowledge me in my most painful time when my daughter passed away last November.
Omg Todd, that is horrible, I'm so sorry. Prayers to you & your family. I can not speak about your ex, but I can imagine if they truly cared about you, they are grieving for your loss ❤.
That's so sad omg so sorry dude.
That's a sign that she is gone forever and you need to let go completely and move forward
@@sloanmagnum5009 think he aknowledges that. The problem is that the behaviour of an ex who probably was loving, caring and considerate during the relationshio is now so unfathomable after a breakup... It can be very emotionally, morally and intelectually devastating. You are thrown completely away into a void with only your soul to cope. You don't only feel betrayed, you feel fooled: you are eager to receive only a simple "hi", or a "how were you doing" from a person who showed you love for YEARS to reconcile (not even coming back), and nothing.
You can get over them, but it's not that easy to get over what their turn the love and companionship between the two of you into.
Slores will be slores
Absence makes the ❤ grow fonder!
I would suggest moving on, do not look back, learn from the break up.
No it hurts and isn’t easy
Is not easy but I said disrespectful things in she moved on her brother said she over the relationship in to leave her tf alone stop texting his family so she will never come back
@@upcycle4earth393Having no exes or with exes and a lot of pain, what would you choose?
This is the way to be. Us Guys need to become less emotionally attached in our relationships and you’ll be better off. I promise you. Value yourself beyond anything else. You’re all 10/10s. Take off your rose tinted glasses, grow some balls and don’t believe the hype. If they come back you won’t want them back. Walk around with the suck my nuts mindset.
Absolutely true!!!
I think people don’t realize how important a heartbreak is. We’re all sitting here wishing we never felt heartbreak while there are people who’ve never experienced love so intense where heartbreaks come in. This is the arc where we take care of ourselves, not out of resentment or hatred but simply to accept what’s happened and move on the best way we know how. Be alone, go for a walk, pick up a new hobby, and learn to love yourselves again lads. Know your worth and know that being alone only makes you a better person in the long run. Stay strong fellas.
You are right on the money. I had to learn to love myself more than a man. That was a hard lesson to learn.
At the start of the breakup i thought i had lost her forever, but in time i realised that when she tried to come back, she was really the one who lost me. It takes a while but it gets easier as time goes on.
How long did it take for her to return?
Year and a half mate, and that was after leaving me where she just never came home, blocked me for year and a half, no closure, never even said why she left. She text me and i got excited, but she didnt reply to me asking her how she was for another month, and that was the turning point for me where i realised how terrible she actually was and is to me. I got unblinded in the end. You gotta try accept it for what it is. But if youve just broken up, whatever you do, do not contact her at all, show her you are fine without her, this is what made her come back, she saw me finally dating someone, and that was the moment where she realised she might lose me, so thats when she shouted me. All situations are different, if you really do love her and it was you that made the mistake, i wouldnt take my advice because it was her who left me for what seems no reason at all, i still to this day have never had an explanation, just some shitty ‘im so sorry i know i was wrong’ texts. Just her way to release her guilt for what she put me through
Honestly bro, man to man, if you need someone to just ask shit about, trust me i really loved this girl, to the point i would still probs take a bullet for her now even if she cheated on me in the end like she did. So yeh bro if i can help in anyway, ill do that. I fully know what u going through bro
@@KingTheJim she left me 5months ago , after entertaining other dude behind me , I broke NC after 2months and it fails. I broke NC again after 40 days and somehow it's better and we talk and chat and call but eventually she starts ignoring me yet again when I talk about reconciliation , she ignored me for weeks or 15 days , i miss her so everytime she ignored me I text her again , its been a pattern of 10 days 15 days and I broke it....yesterday I broke it again , and she still hasn't reply to me , idk what else should I do , I miss this girl a lot and I want to work things up as in 2months we won't be studying in the same college anymore, I told her that clearly but she still took it lightly, I wrote a letter , audio record but its all in vein
@@doubleJJ01 bro you gotta let her go and find out she cant replace you. Go no contact, prove to her you can be without her, the more it seems you can move on, the more attractive you become. I know this will go against every fibre of your being, i know u wanna just message her, but the more you do that the further you will push her away. Go no contact, actually work on yourself. The second she thinks you are moving on, thats the exact moment where all her feelings about you will rise up and shel have to make a decision. Trust me bro i know it seems like you jus wanna text her find answers or whatever. But that energy you give off when your like ‘well fuck this i aint being a clown for you anymore’ trust me it will effect her. Right now shes in control, shes seeing another dude but knows if it fails shes got you as a backup. You have to smash that idea and show you can move on. Trust me bro its the only way and i know all u wanna do is text her and beg her to communicate. I made all those same mistakes, drew pictures wrote letters, all it did was push her away further. Any questions you got shout me bro ill help anyway i can.
@@KingTheJim 3.5 months in and no explanation too, just left one morning after 4 years of relationship. Blocked and everything.
But she told me it probably won't be forever and in text message I felt strange because she still called me with cute nickname she always gave me and it feels more like she lied to herself to not to be in serious relationship with deep love. When she'll come back (if she will) I'm not gonna accept like nothing happened, I'm in so much pain I can't get up from bed all these months, she'll need not just explain everything and say sorry to me to recover. Stay strong guys
Respect yourself! Don’t chase anyone!
So many of you in here say you dont care but then why are you here
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 wow good analysis..the answer is..I have taken my revenge ..hope others get motivated
Some people just get mentally exhausted and want to be free from relationship responsibility’s . Nothing lasts forever and no one owes us anything! Just accept the loss and move on.
I don't want to be in a toxic relationship! It can't be fixed moving on. Self care is everything.😮.
Why would anyone want them back ? 5hey lost an amazing person. Let em go.
They always come back in some way trust me
100%
Never had an ex come back lol
Yeah mine came back after 3 months completely cold and picked up her stuff. Stopped believing tbh
Bullshit hahaha
even if he does or doesnt, im moving on. he can remember what he lost, i pleaded at the end of the breakup and ik i have more respect and worth than that and he did regret brekaing up with me and he didnt want to he said but he knew he had to make this decision but i mean, it would be hard to resist him but whats stopping him from leaving again if he tries to come back to me
No coach it’s not about getting back with the ex- for me & most of us , it’s more about getting back that respect & peace & those times that was stolen & lost while pleading not to waste such hard invested relationship after breakup .
It’s personal ...
Yes people let's show strength find a hobby go to work stay busy know your worth and add taxes
If you love them, let them go.
If they come back, they're broken.
Did she come back
Coach Chris actually said 64% don’t hear from their ex during no contact.
I Choose To Not Entertain The Past. Trusting God Through Prayers and My Discernment. 🙏 😇
Why?
@@Thechosen77 I’m Grateful For What I Have Lived, Learned and Always Learning… I Only Want People In My Life Who Want Me In Theirs! 🙏🏼💕😇 Accepting What Is.
I emotionally cheated on my gf, but before that I think deep down something tells me she didnt really love me even tho I did wrong...she would always disrespect me during argument, she called me a little bitch once, compared me to an ex, but something tells me she didnt love me, she hasn't texted me since 3 weeks idk why I reply this but I feel like you are going thru something similar
@@ditadrosa3482
Agree with your point. But why do the dumpers need to take this hard path of breaking up with their partner? Why not just to talk and work through staying in relationship? It looks like cowardliness on their part…
It honestly depends..my ex also would call me cowardly if i left. But i mean he doesnt understand how wrong it is to have kept a secret him being friends with one of his exes..i even asked him why this particular ex? And not all of them?? Even after i told him about my past he still didnt tell me about his ex.
The way i found out was messed up..staying felt disrespectful to me..he slipped up her name in bed..and lied about it blaming it on a video game. And later i found out who was first in his contacts..so nope im not a coward for leaving him once and for all..😊
Yea well I like working things out too unless they want others subconsciously
It is cowardliness.
@@roshawngreene7069REAL coward behavior is trying to find out what’s going on, telling them it’s ok if we’re not being together. Then having them say they want a 2nd chance, and then ghosting after that
I am a dumper. I spiraled to my absolute worst point with anxiety, depression, in addition to ruminating thoughts about the relationship. When I was at my worst, he blamed me for not being able to meet his needs. I wanted things to change, and they didn't. Do I hope we could get back together despite what happened? Yes. But it got to the point where I didn't think I could stay for a second longer because it impacted my wellbeing so much. Taking care of yourself when it gets THAT bad is not cowardly, it's necessary for self-preservation.
My strength comes from finding myself
And never letting them back. I never again want someone who bails. I promise you this I will leave them alone for good.
🤔 Not sure of your situation, but i can relate with feelings of rejection and being abandoned. So the ego always seems to hold as much pride. Ive learned that no one is perfect and relationships will never be as well.
Try not letting your anger cloud your heart. There is the Fading Effects Bias, where we give the old crap from the relation a chance to dump all the negative and then humans start to remember the good parts of the relation a chance to rise again.
Ive been with my partner gf for 5 years minus 2; i walked away for 2 years for us both to fix are own demons, so we dont continue to sabotage our situationship. Some people have to learn to grow up and mature 🙄 And we grow through hardships if you do the work.
Now im in round two, while i am getting ready to walk away again from the girl. We should never tolerate being disrespected. The end of the day, you have to choose YOUr self-respect.
Let those who cross your boundaries, KICK ROCKS barefoot 👣💪
Did u ?
My ex did reach back out. I did not respond back. She lost me. Thanked God for showing me she was not the one.
After how long did they reach out?
And we had a connection like crazy.. but stepped out on me.. it’s been two months 😢
You can do better. Forget the one who hurt you. And just be happy.
To be honest, just because you felt that doesnt mean they felt that. Or maybe they felt it in the beginning but got to know you more and found out they weren't interested anymore. I've been on both sides of that and it is what it is. Not everyone is meant for each other.
Same girl, hang in there!!!!
then your connection is bluetooth
Make sure you read up on *trauma bonds* just in case
If you realise it's a trauma bond you really need to look in to whether it's healthy to get back in that situation
I made all the mistakes. She reached out after four months to "close the cycle" with a couple cold sentences. No contact resumes, and this time it will likely last a lifetime. Unfortunately begging seems to prevent them from experiencing nostalgia, dumper's remorse, or realizing what they lost
When my ex and I divorced, I never saw or heard from her again and it’s been over 15 years since our divorce. When we were done, we were done. I moved on and she did too. Thank goodness for that too.
He wasn’t an honest man he was deceitful and untrustworthy he isn’t who I imagined him to be.😢
R u sure
Then it’s good you’re done
nope, my ex is the one who should think that she had no chance on me, i know my value now, im fully awake. thank you coach craig
They always come back. I was so desperate for mine to come back, and whenever he finally did it was about six months that I waited and during those six months, I could hardly get out of bed I could hardly eat my hair fell out and I would cry all the time. I thought I had missed out on my soulmate or something so whenever he came back and he was a jerk and not the person that I had hyped him up in my head to be I felt really stupid for waiting crying and freaking myself out so much that my hair fell out, your ex is an ex for a reason maybe God took him away from you as a blessing and you won’t realize this until later on in life
so you let him back multiple times even after he was a jerk?
@@countdowntorevolution9986 I loved him more than I loved myself which was the problem
How did you forgive him? Mine promised me she'd never leave.
@@robert04872 I had to learn to love myself more than I loved him. It’s been the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn
Mate, you are lucky! Imagine one year of waiting, praying, losing weight, surviving, trying to heal, going through an excruciating grief. Sometimes I wonder how I survived and made it so far. …and she’s not coming… i know that now…but let them lose us, guys. Let them…!
Hearing from your Ex means nothing. They just want validation because they are bored with their options. They want to keep you on a leash so they can pull you back for their convenience. If your Ex left you. Never accept them in your life.
True, especially when you have kids. F the ex and the kids. Lmao
@@intricatejayee Well said 💯🏆😆💪 Kick Rocks bare foot 👣
Facts 💯. Once you start to move on you won’t want them back anyway. Don’t put your ex on a pedestal.
@@intricatejayee 😂😂😂😂😂 naw maaann not F the kids 😂😂😂😂
Yeah if you are a straight person you can think like that but not as a gay guy.. "bored with their options"😆 well that's certain we don't have many
If you love them, let them go
If they come back it means no one liked them
Let them go again
Mine is a cold hearted snake. She doesn't miss me.
😂😂😂 bruh😂
Felt
Same
Danggggg
Me too
Getting back with an ex is like buying a car again after you sell it. No, one does that.
Honestly speaking , I only want her back to talk about our relationship. Like, what went wrong and what worked. Kicker is, she is like, very depressed, mentally ill and completely and utterly changed when she Monkey Branched off of me onto a replacement for her abusive ex boyfriend (very very evil bad person)
Same here ❤😂
getting back, don't ever want that back , lm focused 💯 on me
I wouldn’t run after anyone.Never mind an ex me.I know my own Respect/Worth.Keeping it that way to..
idc if my ex comes back, if he does then maybe we could work it out but if he dont, ill be fine, im trying to move on but its kind of hard because i feel like he feels something for me still but cant or wont admit it to himself or me. but i just have to show him ive moved on and hes kinda feeling sorry for himself now i can see that,
It depends on why there was a breakup in the first place. If either party cheated and infidelity was involved, there is no return. At this point, you just move on with your life and find a new partner. Never reconcile with a cheater. They will only cheat on you again if you get back together.
Right? And especially if they withheld important information..like being friends with exes. Even after slipping up their name and having told them about our previous history...like he still never bothered to tell me about that ex..i feel like he just used me to make her jealous..by posting our relationship on social media..for every month he made it his mission to do so..lol makes sense now..yeah i miss him but he definitely wasnt good for me...and he knew it..he told me n it makes sense sadly..i wish he had told me earlier so i wouldn't have started to get attached to him...or the routine we had
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True my mom always says you train people how to treat you what you put up with will continue bc you acce
Pted the bad behavior is my interpretation of that . She's normally right weather I l8ke it or not . LOL be
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T to everyone he4re going thru difficult painful situations . Remember you deserve moreo7t of your life you only get 1 make it your best one possible . Hope yo7 find what your look7ng for out there . 🫢🤞🏼🍀🍀🌿
Not always true !
Correct 💯,am leaving my cheating wife for good.though its hard but I will manage it
It would be unwise to return to any abusive relationship
😢 I miss him badly but I'm doin that the best I can by doing that
I’m really missing him.. 3.5 yrs😢
It’s been 1,5 years and missing also 😢
:(
U will be ok... just stay positive
he will come back reach out
Move on honey,3.5 years is too much time 😊❤
Between narcissism and gaslighting. They put his in so many categories. I now feel like I was the bad guy. Even my positive has turned bad. If were strong were toxic if were emotional were bata. The emotional manipulation & head games are to much
It happens exactly as Craig says. It did for me.
She left me, dated someone else and is manipulating him
I moving on to bigger a nd better things no more narcissists!!
I'm so scared that this is it...
My ex went back to the ex husband . I was the rebound. No hope here , just staright moving on
Sorry about that
My self respect and self love is above all of the rest. I don't even care how they feel about me anymore. I moved on and I am doing great 👍
Lol then when they claim to miss you but ignore your birthday
You speak truth. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
She wont ever come back. Ive been NC for 5mos now. Its over. 8yrs down drain. She discarded me for a new supply. Her "true love" as she is posting.
Ive messed it up.. miss him so much
I appreciate you giving people hope.
Driven past their house😅😅😅 Ur right about not chasing and I havent invested and i felt myself loosing control. Trying not to care at all. Thx Coach
Thanks man I feel weak bc of love - sucks we have to play these mind games . Truth is there are men where the dynamics will never be that we have to resist to get attention jeez. This vid was short and simple ❤ just let it gooo they will come
I have left her alone!I kept no contact and she still is not coming back.
Thank you universe I feel the positive energy flowing in me she will be back we going to be happy together she is my only and forever love ❤
Well I know 'cause I learn a little every day
I know 'cause I listen when the experts say that
That a good heart these days is hard to find
True love, the lasting kind
Thanks Coach Craig! In No contact now. Focussed on improving myself and getting to a place where its me before everybody else.
well i did kinda beg after the breakuo because i was confused and loved him and he said he even regretted it and considered getting back togthert but decided against it but says that he wont ever come back but i think he was just angry and hasnt resolved his feelings and got salty when i started to move on
My GOD!!
That's EXACTLY what I've done.
Unfortunately...
I honestly admire you for your profound knowledge & understanding
I really needed help with growing emotional self control. Just thoughts of him puts me in tears.
Thank you Craig, I watch you daily . It helps.
Rethinking and facing up keeps you motivated
Baby momma lost feelings for me few months back bcuz I pushed her away n wasn’t showing her love, now she dating someone else, hope I get the chance to fix things n be a family again
Good message! Sometimes it's just our immaturity, either in the moment or even over a long period of time, that contributes to a breakup. Evaluate what you can contribute to a healthier relationship, and take the time to discover who you can achieve that with. It may be your ex or it may be someone new. However never chase your ex. Use it as a time to become a "whole person", someone that is happy to have someone else in their life, but not someone that "needs" another person to complete them. Many blessings!
The importance of showin strength and self controle
I don't want them back and I'm so grateful and thankful for everything they said I have so much energy and peace it was all for a greater purpose
It's been 2 weeks since my ex left me!! I'm sitting here crying over him!!! I keep hoping I'll bump into him or he'll come back after work....not a chance he's gone
You said it don't chase self respect i do believe this especial reading thank you for this especial reading.
I had my breakup but we never cheated on each other....we both had mental issues and she said we need to work on ourselves to be better and happy
They're called an Ex for a reason🤔🚩
YOU ARE VERY HELPFUL/ENTHUSIASTIC TO HELP-THANKS. D.
Him: you tried to call them
Me: "could you lose my number?" lol
If I never hear from him again I'll be cool with that
Thank you so much for that advice I needed that may God bless you🙏
I didn't do any of that, I let him go and went no contact. He started contacting ME and is being cold and weird. But it's him contacting ME. I'm not chasing not doing anything.
Well said!!
No looking back! There is nothing in the past, I just move on! ❤
I agree since our breakup I pretty much begged to get her back and before that she said she wanted to try getting back together but since talking even though she keeps saying she wants to get back together she takes 10 hrs to open my message and respond and I’ve been chasing her and have been completely drained for a month now so I’m just going to relax and back of and if she tries calling me, what’s apping me and messaging on all social media’s I’ll know if she truly wants me or not because I’ve been doing everything but I doesn’t feel like she’s been doing the same
Thank you for your wisdom
It’s been off and on with mine for 5 years and last time i saw him was November. Since then it’s been radio silence and in March on my birthday - he dropped gifts off on top of my car at my HOUSE 🤦🏻♀️. Since it wasn’t the contact I wanted, I never responded back to the whole gift thing. He always pulls this shit with the indirect direct approach. On top of that, the card he left with the gifts left no indication he wanted to meet up, talk, or any of that. The card was dry AF like a default birthday card from CVS that was in the clearance section. I dont think I’m being petty either, I think I’m just knowing my worth and holding a boundary. Do I love him and want him? Yes, but I’m not accepting stale ass breadcrumbs even Aladdin wouldn’t eat.
I'm envious of you; he ignored my birthday but it's ok I expected that.
Ehh you either want em or not
That was cold af. He acknowledged your birthday by bringing you a present. "Thank you" would have sufficed. You ignoring him totally should let him know to stay tf away from you forever if he has any self respect. Deal with your ego.
Some coaches say that with those with low self-esteem like avoidants, after X amount of time there’s nothing wrong with US reaching out to them.
We got back but now 2 weeks he is giving me silent treatment for what??? I don’t understand. He is 60 yrs old man and I expect him to be more mature and handle relationship in a very good way but thats not the case... no wonder in his past he didn’t succeed coz maybe the way he treated women 🤷🏻♀️🤦♀️
*How old are you Jenna?*
You are absolutely right about that's my brother's thank you for these wonderful word's you have my blessings always love always god blessed always stay sweet smile 💖❣️💋😴🙏❤✅✅✅❤️❤️❤️💗💗💗🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Ill try to choose whats best for them i just wish to know she lived her happiest life
My ex broke things off with me a few months ago after a 2.5 year relationship. She brought me my remaining things last week and we talked in front of my apartment and made out like teenagers and had a passionate quickie. Days later she expressed that the moment was special and that her daughters and best friend suggested she give me another chance. Our breakup was due to trivial matters that became too much. Even though our vibe amicable and peaceful, she's an avoidant and i feel like the only way I'll get her back is too leave her alone. I'm now in NC again until she reaches out with something meaningful, if and when that time comes.
No, no, no. No positive future lies in the rearview.
Thanks for the video coach
❤ so true
Thank you
Even if he misses and comes back, what's the point! I mean when he doesn't care how I feel now, I cried alone, I'm healing myself, I was with me when I was hospitalized. I don't think it's a good idea to accept someone who already left you 😢
Nice haircut coach 👌
What about during because I really messed things up
We appreciate you!!
Yes so right ❤
Haven’t heard from her in 4 years
I’m scared. It’s been 6 months of NC!
I read all over the internet that it’s too late for him to come back
You need to move on
Chances are that they will, just it'll take more time, but there is no point wasting any more time thinking about them when you could be using that energy to enhance your own life
I needed that
My ex is still hanging on. She left me, but won't fully leave.. She still calls, texts, we see eachother a bit. She says she doesn't care, but her actions say otherwise. I can't do this forever though.
In that same boat with my ex.
People want what they can't have. If you're always there for your ex whenever they need you, then they aren't going to miss you or want you back. Don't make things too easy for them. Go "no contact", it works.
Going ahead instead to get lost in the back steps is preferable. Look for the new opportunity and live happier 🎉
Well. He sent me his newsletter randomly. I unsubscribed.
I dont want his newsletter. I want him to use his words.
Right!!!
I wish this was true, after being dumped last year in July. He breadcrumbed me up until January. He hasn't spoke to me since... even with going no contact.