I know u catch some haters, so , i just want to encourage you today, u are a gorgeous woman, lots of wisdom and compassion, thank you again , 2 weeks clean , feeling good 👍😊❤❤
1st thing is please don't count your days it just pressures your mind and you end up thinking about it. Instead set a starting and ending date and never look back. All the best
I think alot of porn addiction can be boiled down to not understanding yourself. I managed to quit for a month then a few weeks. Then a few days before I went back into it. Since around early 2020 when I gained a bigger understanding and realisation that porn addiction was negatively affecting my life. I’ve noticed the more I observe myself doing these self harmful behaviours as well as learning more about psychology the more I’ve been able to strength that brain muscle of objective thinking. I see porn for what it is and the more I tell myself that it’s fake and it’s unrealistic that people in the industry just do it for money and that workers and users of porn usually have had some trauma and underlying issues that become WORSE with porn it’s like my brain is catching on that it’s rather do something else for dopamine because of the sheer cost on my mood and physical health. Like poor sleep pattern, more junk food cravings and back pain from sitting in the chair for hours. Namely exercise and watching videos about politics, psychology, philosophy. So even though I haven’t been without porn for that long since I found out, and when I do it’s like 1-3 days at a time I’m still going and I’ve formed habits like exercise that my brain knows will give it endorphins. I’ve learned a lot more about myself through therapy, psychology and meditation/shadow work. So now the intense emotions are more obvious and manageable. Even a day without porn I feel so much different and it has me curious just how much of a bad a££ mother effer I can be if I give it up totally. I think it’s important to explore your own methods in life and trial and error them porn addiction isn’t different and a lot of channels who are out there tend to sell you the whole “you must not you just not” monk mode mentality and it pressures guys so much they end up relapsing and they feel hopeless because they’re measuring their success on how many days they can go without it. There’s things that need to be fixed first. It’s like people who haven’t worked out in a long time, who go in the gym and blast 3 hours everyday for 1 week at the start of the year then give up because it’s miserable. You have to do it slowly and surely. My biggest fear was what if I fix everything and still die single. Well at least I’d be happier and not a slave to a lie, a screen. But I’m willing to bet someone will have me. I think I’m one of the rarer ones where even with the addiction Women would still compliment me and come onto me. But I couldn’t do anything because one I have PIED and my chemistry is out of whack so not even able to put myself out there like that and form a connection. Edit; I’ve been using it since I was around 13 I’m 31 now and I have a diagnosed disorder. This shit is hard but so is everything you just have to find the things that make you more grounded and happier that isn’t porn as well as maybe see a therapist and research psychology. Eventually you’ll chip away at the wall enough to where you can finally make the leap over it. That’s my plan. You gather information from people like Trish and use what works. I think Trish is one of my favourites because she explores the idea of options where you pick the lesser of two evils like masterbation without porn. I’m still going and I want you guys to as well. General advice just go on a walk everyday, eat 5 fruits or vegetables. Get some vitamins and minerals in there and start getting a taste for veggies and fruit. You can literally put 7-8 veggies into a simple meal like chicken and rice or broth. And eat an apple after it. Then eat junk for the rest of the food to start with and just a 10 minute walk. You’ll feel different in a few days.
Hi I'm 63 and need to stop looking at porn, I'm having a hard time stopping on my own. I've tried to stop and be accountable with someone, but I get the feeling that they don't want to be involved.
Dr Leigh, I recently bought a light phone. No internet access. I’m getting rid of my iPhone. I’m 25 and have watched some things I’d never do. I’m married with 2 kids. Is this a step in the right direction?
Sadly at 58 and still single, i don't see the point in stopping at this point. My view is that you may as well have some pleasure in life. Options for replacing with a partner are pretty limited at my age, and my motivation for even seeking someone now is pretty minimal.
I don't think that a partner (the sex life that you'd have) would replace the fake pleasure of porn. These are two different things in my opinion; Also, in my experience, all of my views are distorted in 'dirty' x 'clean' from porn. I mean, the motivation when you are addicted is one thing; The motivation when you're clean is another thing. I tell you: those porn shit affect the way you see pretty much everything.
Please read. I got my own apartment. Thought to myself great now that I’m here and not living with my parents I don’t have access to their smart tv (porn was blocked on my phone). But now I’m going out and buying tablets every two-3 weeks so I can watch once and then throw away the device…. I don’t know what to do
install porn blocker software my brother had a saying excuses are like assholes everyones got one and they all stink if your truly serious about this just steer clear of oprn sites
your awesome teacher most try to shame you abit you take the negative things us stupid porn addicts do and offer encouragement theres a guy out here who does this id describe him as hard ass your the opposite and i feel that much more effective for me hope your feeling better 🙏🙏
Dr. Leigh, my partner confessed to me that he's porn addict and that he's already working on it. I consider it was very brave that he was so honest with me and I really appreciate that. So I don't want to make any mistakes. So he follows a lot of women on instagram with erotic photos and that also have links to only fans. Can I say that he should delete this since he always comes right back into this world as soon as he opens the app?
im just getting off a bad relapse myself dont dwell on the past get back on the no fap im on day 3 feel better without it i started febuary out clean hoping to make a 14 day goal
Thanks for your video Dr. Look , a worry came to my mind whilst watching your video: how can you expect that a person with a history of long-term pornography addiction will be able to stay away from computer screens for long period of time, a person who is now an adult living in the digital age, with computers being the must-have, essential tool for our business to thrive? How can you , or anyone, expect that , first of all, a person who is a survivor of a psychopathic/narcissitc abusive parent will be doing just well financially in adulthood after endurinf a living hell at the hands of his own toxic family? How can you think a person broken like that can have enoguh money to pay for healing services, no matter how rightfully good and effective these treatments are? I need to be behind my monitor to work , because not working in capitalsim means death, that means I need to be in front of the screen whether I like it or not, no everyone is in the position of taking a 3 or 6 months vacation. In capitalism we dont only get what we pay for; we just dont get what we cannot afford.
I know it's possible to recover because I've seen it happen so many times! I'm not saying it's easy, but it is possible. People are capable of recovering from porn addiction and being able to consume media and go on the screen in healthy ways again. For example, watching UA-cam videos like this are a great way to consume media in a healthy way. It's also free and can be used to aid in recovery. It's all about replacing the need for high levels of dopamine with normal levels. After you rewire your brain, the urge to go back to porn will be very limited.
@@DrTrishLeigh Sounds more like wishful thinking to me than anything else, it doesn't take into account the harsh reality of many, It ignores it because it is not money-wise convenient to acknowledge it. Pushing through the pain has been my only available option so far. Healing is possible only in the proper healing environment and with the proper life circumstances and resources. Plus, one has to take into account the psychopathic consensus on the government "authorities" part in allowing the unpunished creation of pornography businesses. The government itself allows and feeds the pornographic industry, its moral corruption proven by this very fact in the name of money-making businesses, no matter whether moral or not. Government promotes the religion of capitalism, and in doing so, their psychopathic incentives as well, in other words: who cares whether a business is moral or not, as long as it makes us money!!! SUCH IS the thinking of the government whether by deliberate indifference or ignorance. It stands to reason to acknowledge that no one can heal from anything with the wound being constantly or forcibly re-open.
Why do you feel the need to accent that this isn't an advertisement for your personal PA program, and why should we trust you that you are doing it for some altruistic reason? Also, is understanding the specific mechanism of any addiction gonna make an addict quit, or is it addressing underlying issues that brought an individual to the position of addict the more viable option to recovery?
@@cerberus8054 I guess I worded my comment wrongly, but shouldn't working on underlying issues be the focus of an individual in order to prevent a relapse instead of focusing solely on how a specific addiction works, because abstaining from a substance/habit only cuts off a coping mechanism, and makes an individual focus a lot of energy into not doing or avoiding the substance/habit, which in my opinion, sets up the person to relapse in the future. So teaching someone how to cope with avoiding a maladaptive coping strategy, while ignoring, or not addressing the actual causes of the problem, seems ineffective for the individual, but great for the person running the paid program.
I think you can only consider someone addicted to porn if they have other options and still look into it. If someone doesn't have any other options of intimacy, it's not an addiction, it's the last resort. Would you consider someone addicted to sugar if they had nothing else to eat apart from candy?
You can still be addicted to it though brotha. Porn isn’t a form of intimacy…its a form of pleasure….two very different things…hence why it literally shifts how your brain views sex and ACTUAL intimacy with real people. I get what you mean but the addiction label itself isn’t really the focus, its what porn is doing to your brain overtime with excessive use.
@@mannycalavera1848 this is a very late reply but I don't think she disregards them, she wants to make it clear that porn isn't like sex and it's not and shouldn't be a replacement for it, single people should be focused on building relations with real people not viewing porn as a substitute for doing the work of socializing and putting yourself out there in the sexual marketplace
Binge watch TV programs, go out somewhere, remove it from your devices, call somebody, take sleeping pills, and what works for me is threaten your addiction with bible reading🤣🤣
I know u catch some haters, so , i just want to encourage you today, u are a gorgeous woman, lots of wisdom and compassion, thank you again , 2 weeks clean , feeling good 👍😊❤❤
1st thing is please don't count your days it just pressures your mind and you end up thinking about it. Instead set a starting and ending date and never look back. All the best
I think you're absolutely right man,started counting days and didn't last for 6 days thank you for the tip
No matter what, the addition is not good. It does destroy life.
Thank you so much , trying to present the best version of myself today, for God and my fellows 🎉❤🌹
I think alot of porn addiction can be boiled down to not understanding yourself. I managed to quit for a month then a few weeks. Then a few days before I went back into it. Since around early 2020 when I gained a bigger understanding and realisation that porn addiction was negatively affecting my life. I’ve noticed the more I observe myself doing these self harmful behaviours as well as learning more about psychology the more I’ve been able to strength that brain muscle of objective thinking. I see porn for what it is and the more I tell myself that it’s fake and it’s unrealistic that people in the industry just do it for money and that workers and users of porn usually have had some trauma and underlying issues that become WORSE with porn it’s like my brain is catching on that it’s rather do something else for dopamine because of the sheer cost on my mood and physical health. Like poor sleep pattern, more junk food cravings and back pain from sitting in the chair for hours. Namely exercise and watching videos about politics, psychology, philosophy. So even though I haven’t been without porn for that long since I found out, and when I do it’s like 1-3 days at a time I’m still going and I’ve formed habits like exercise that my brain knows will give it endorphins. I’ve learned a lot more about myself through therapy, psychology and meditation/shadow work. So now the intense emotions are more obvious and manageable. Even a day without porn I feel so much different and it has me curious just how much of a bad a££ mother effer I can be if I give it up totally. I think it’s important to explore your own methods in life and trial and error them porn addiction isn’t different and a lot of channels who are out there tend to sell you the whole “you must not you just not” monk mode mentality and it pressures guys so much they end up relapsing and they feel hopeless because they’re measuring their success on how many days they can go without it. There’s things that need to be fixed first. It’s like people who haven’t worked out in a long time, who go in the gym and blast 3 hours everyday for 1 week at the start of the year then give up because it’s miserable. You have to do it slowly and surely. My biggest fear was what if I fix everything and still die single. Well at least I’d be happier and not a slave to a lie, a screen. But I’m willing to bet someone will have me. I think I’m one of the rarer ones where even with the addiction Women would still compliment me and come onto me. But I couldn’t do anything because one I have PIED and my chemistry is out of whack so not even able to put myself out there like that and form a connection.
Edit; I’ve been using it since I was around 13 I’m 31 now and I have a diagnosed disorder. This shit is hard but so is everything you just have to find the things that make you more grounded and happier that isn’t porn as well as maybe see a therapist and research psychology. Eventually you’ll chip away at the wall enough to where you can finally make the leap over it. That’s my plan. You gather information from people like Trish and use what works. I think Trish is one of my favourites because she explores the idea of options where you pick the lesser of two evils like masterbation without porn. I’m still going and I want you guys to as well. General advice just go on a walk everyday, eat 5 fruits or vegetables. Get some vitamins and minerals in there and start getting a taste for veggies and fruit. You can literally put 7-8 veggies into a simple meal like chicken and rice or broth. And eat an apple after it. Then eat junk for the rest of the food to start with and just a 10 minute walk. You’ll feel different in a few days.
Yes. Big time damage to the frontal lobe that it fails to understand that it's an addiction
free will doesn't exist
God bless you for rescuing us from the torment of this disease
Thank you so much you give hope to all with this
I just want out. 🤕😞
Hi
I'm 63 and need to stop looking at porn, I'm having a hard time stopping on my own.
I've tried to stop and be accountable with someone, but I get the feeling that they don't want to be involved.
I don't go in depth with my addiction
You are not alone. I’m 59 and I’m wondering if this highlights other problems I’ve been having in past year such as brain fog of making poor deciions
Thanks!
Your videos helped me stop porn.
I used porn for decades.
Your advice saved my life...Thanz soo much,, Dr trish legh
I want to know...that how works dopamine...🤔😳..
What is oxytocine.and dopamine..
Dr Leigh, I recently bought a light phone. No internet access. I’m getting rid of my iPhone. I’m 25 and have watched some things I’d never do. I’m married with 2 kids. Is this a step in the right direction?
Absolutely! Good luck!
It is. Stay busy my friend. Be kind to yourself.
Thank you Dr Trish!
Sadly at 58 and still single, i don't see the point in stopping at this point. My view is that you may as well have some pleasure in life. Options for replacing with a partner are pretty limited at my age, and my motivation for even seeking someone now is pretty minimal.
I don't think that a partner (the sex life that you'd have) would replace the fake pleasure of porn. These are two different things in my opinion; Also, in my experience, all of my views are distorted in 'dirty' x 'clean' from porn. I mean, the motivation when you are addicted is one thing; The motivation when you're clean is another thing. I tell you: those porn shit affect the way you see pretty much everything.
Its not pleasure...its a trojan horse...its damage and ruin disguised as pleasure.
It's really difficult.
hi can i have some help i have moments i get trap in looking on websites
Thank you
Day 16. Going through a divorce.. completely no sex whatsoever.🙏🏻
I’m
Keep it going!!! We are all proud of you!!!
Please read. I got my own apartment. Thought to myself great now that I’m here and not living with my parents I don’t have access to their smart tv (porn was blocked on my phone).
But now I’m going out and buying tablets every two-3 weeks so I can watch once and then throw away the device….
I don’t know what to do
Yes We Can...👍❤️🙏
How do you get off the screen when your job is to use a computer to do stuff?
install porn blocker software my brother had a saying excuses are like assholes everyones got one and they all stink if your truly serious about this just steer clear of oprn sites
@@danielnixon3294 oh, thats no problem. But she is saying stay away from the screen.
@@pirst1sunshine725 how did you know im muslim?
I quit it almost 2 years
congrats
@@hazox19 Thanks
I don't listen to her anymore but I still like to look at her.
Porn is so routine for me. I make days of progress but the thought of binging keeps coming to mind because I always have time on my hands.
@Micah Samuels Tiredness works for me- If you are very tired, you probably won't feel like it, esp if you usually do it late at night.
Fantastic Doc , there's any discount on 90 days program?
your awesome teacher most try to shame you abit you take the negative things us stupid porn addicts do and offer encouragement theres a guy out here who does this id describe him as hard ass your the opposite and i feel that much more effective for me hope your feeling better 🙏🙏
You are a very gorgeous woman, this is a compliment ❤
Thank you. I know what I’m talking about too ;-) 🙌❤️🩹🙅♀️
Dr. Leigh, my partner confessed to me that he's porn addict and that he's already working on it. I consider it was very brave that he was so honest with me and I really appreciate that. So I don't want to make any mistakes. So he follows a lot of women on instagram with erotic photos and that also have links to only fans. Can I say that he should delete this since he always comes right back into this world as soon as he opens the app?
Bruh, tell him to unfollow all those chicks or just delete it all out right😐
Hello Guys… I’m trying to quit but I keep relapsing. Went almost 90 days. Pray for me.
Learn from your relapse, adjust your recovery plan accordingly, and move on! You've got this my friend
@@DrTrishLeigh Thanks Dr.
Ive relapsed,and boy,have i relapsed hard
im just getting off a bad relapse myself dont dwell on the past get back on the no fap im on day 3 feel better without it i started febuary out clean hoping to make a 14 day goal
@@danielnixon3294 ok bro ill start fresh today
Thanks for your video Dr. Look , a worry came to my mind whilst watching your video: how can you expect that a person with a history of long-term pornography addiction will be able to stay away from computer screens for long period of time, a person who is now an adult living in the digital age, with computers being the must-have, essential tool for our business to thrive? How can you , or anyone, expect that , first of all, a person who is a survivor of a psychopathic/narcissitc abusive parent will be doing just well financially in adulthood after endurinf a living hell at the hands of his own toxic family? How can you think a person broken like that can have enoguh money to pay for healing services, no matter how rightfully good and effective these treatments are? I need to be behind my monitor to work , because not working in capitalsim means death, that means I need to be in front of the screen whether I like it or not, no everyone is in the position of taking a 3 or 6 months vacation. In capitalism we dont only get what we pay for; we just dont get what we cannot afford.
I know it's possible to recover because I've seen it happen so many times! I'm not saying it's easy, but it is possible.
People are capable of recovering from porn addiction and being able to consume media and go on the screen in healthy ways again. For example, watching UA-cam videos like this are a great way to consume media in a healthy way. It's also free and can be used to aid in recovery.
It's all about replacing the need for high levels of dopamine with normal levels. After you rewire your brain, the urge to go back to porn will be very limited.
Can I ask you a question ❓
@@DrTrishLeigh Sounds more like wishful thinking to me than anything else, it doesn't take into account the harsh reality of many, It ignores it because it is not money-wise convenient to acknowledge it. Pushing through the pain has been my only available option so far. Healing is possible only in the proper healing environment and with the proper life circumstances and resources. Plus, one has to take into account the psychopathic consensus on the government "authorities" part in allowing the unpunished creation of pornography businesses. The government itself allows and feeds the pornographic industry, its moral corruption proven by this very fact in the name of money-making businesses, no matter whether moral or not. Government promotes the religion of capitalism, and in doing so, their psychopathic incentives as well, in other words: who cares whether a business is moral or not, as long as it makes us money!!! SUCH IS the thinking of the government whether by deliberate indifference or ignorance. It stands to reason to acknowledge that no one can heal from anything with the wound being constantly or forcibly re-open.
@@williamsteven3226 To me? Yes, of course, go ahead.
Why do you feel the need to accent that this isn't an advertisement for your personal PA program, and why should we trust you that you are doing it for some altruistic reason? Also, is understanding the specific mechanism of any addiction gonna make an addict quit, or is it addressing underlying issues that brought an individual to the position of addict the more viable option to recovery?
She explains that in other videos and she does explain what possible underlying issues cause an addiction
@@cerberus8054 I guess I worded my comment wrongly, but shouldn't working on underlying issues be the focus of an individual in order to prevent a relapse instead of focusing solely on how a specific addiction works, because abstaining from a substance/habit only cuts off a coping mechanism, and makes an individual focus a lot of energy into not doing or avoiding the substance/habit, which in my opinion, sets up the person to relapse in the future. So teaching someone how to cope with avoiding a maladaptive coping strategy, while ignoring, or not addressing the actual causes of the problem, seems ineffective for the individual, but great for the person running the paid program.
Doctor I am not getting morning erection from 2 3 months what should I do?
I think you can only consider someone addicted to porn if they have other options and still look into it. If someone doesn't have any other options of intimacy, it's not an addiction, it's the last resort. Would you consider someone addicted to sugar if they had nothing else to eat apart from candy?
You can still be addicted to it though brotha. Porn isn’t a form of intimacy…its a form of pleasure….two very different things…hence why it literally shifts how your brain views sex and ACTUAL intimacy with real people. I get what you mean but the addiction label itself isn’t really the focus, its what porn is doing to your brain overtime with excessive use.
@@Lookvinny That's true. She simply disregards people who are single and say everyone is addicted to porn as if sex wasn't a human need.
@@mannycalavera1848 this is a very late reply but I don't think she disregards them, she wants to make it clear that porn isn't like sex and it's not and shouldn't be a replacement for it, single people should be focused on building relations with real people not viewing porn as a substitute for doing the work of socializing and putting yourself out there in the sexual marketplace
Great message and video. But ur bedroom might not be the best place to deliver this message.🙂
Your right another trigger for most people
First thing I thought of was " wonder what's going on in that bed?" Like Dr trish tho.
but i don't have the money to buy your 90 days prog
lol bro, u just stop watching, period. All the programs r bs, just a quick money-grab. Quit and move on with life. It's that simple.
nah man the shit they talking about it's truth
@@Youssef-iz4wc go pay them money then, if u rlly believe it lul. Told u that it's straight forward and simple, but not easy.
Binge watch TV programs, go out somewhere, remove it from your devices, call somebody, take sleeping pills, and what works for me is threaten your addiction with bible reading🤣🤣
P**n addiction is psychology addiction...i think
❤️
I can quit porn but not masturbation 🤷♂️
Same here. Just gotta stay focus good luck bro
Still a major accomplishment
Yes you can. I did 😎💪☝️🇭🇲