Reasons Why You Might Still Be SINGLE
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2017
- Single sisters, this one's for you! We're diving into our top 5 reasons why you might still be SINGLE :):) Love ya!
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I watched some of your videos and I love your heart to encourage people. While I think you have some valid points here I truly dislike the idea of presenting singleness as a result of faults we made. It is a season God intended us to have and enjoy, to know him more and to move in his perfect will. I am frankly annoyed of a Christian culture that presents marriage as the trophy to obtain and judges singles to have done things wrong. Perhaps you're single because God calls you to be in this season, because he loves to move powerfully with you and he wants to deepen the relationship with him. And not because you're uninteresting or you don't dress nice. The most powerful men of the Bible were single. Jesus (beeing fully man and God) and Paul (who even promoted Singleness). You can be EXACTLY in the right place where God wants you to be while you're single. That's a great lie the devil wants to feed us, that there's something wrong with us. There's nothing wrong with us if "the one" isn't showing up. I encourage everyone to pursue Jesus and worship him. That's our purpose. That's what we should bother for. Not if we're interesting enough. I love both of your testimonies but being a single myself for years now and fearing Jesus with all my heart AND being delivered of idolatry concerning relationships (I made them my idol) I finally enjoy singleness and the incredible blessing it is to serve Jesus with all the time I got. So many Christians make marriage an idol. It should never be. It is a huge blessing. But singleness is one as well. I am with you that self-centered social media won't help us out but concerning that being-interesting-thing I guess even the calmest person can be found by a men. There is even a statistical problem. There are more God fearing women than men at least in the churches I've been around yet. So yes you can be an amazing God-fearing women with incredible hobbies and great style and still just NOT ENOUGH MEN around. Not your fault. I would be v e r y careful with statements like this. I know your intentions are good. Just wanted to share my heart. Bless you two 🙌🏽
Preach!! Agreed!
yes yay thank you!! Well said
tasyliciouse I agree 100% I was going to say something like this. Then I found your comment haha
So I guess Jesus and Paul the Apostle did something wrong? What about those whom God calls to life long singleness?
Yes!! Just wrote a comment similar to yours but you elaborated so much better! So when is your UA-cam dating channel starting though? I'd love to listen to more of your perspective and views :)
We love our single sisters 😄 Thanks for watching fam!!
i love how he’s saying girls have too high standards whilst making all these super high standards for the ladies smh paul
Annabelle Siegel Girl true! Double standards.
It’s true. We ALL have too high standards
It's okay to have some standards but also remember this ain't build a bear workshop
If you're not happy single, then how can you be happy married?
Well said.
I dont get it. Like I have plenty of self esteem but I'm a very lonely person for an extrovert. I want someone in my corner. Needing to be around my friends to have energy just makes me look like a party girl which I'm not. But doing artsy things by myself, as fun as it is, is just lonely. But yeah, Ive been single all my life and I dont like it.
@@magdalinethompson5023 this is the life of a lot of guys.
Anna Howard I don’t get it? I mean I was a lot happier when I was dating my ex than I am single. I don’t see how you can’t be unhappy single but happy when you’re married
I know you guys mean well, but I think the title would have made a lot more sense if it was "Helpful Dating Tips" or "How To Attract Your Crush" instead of "Reasons Why You Might Still Be SINGLE" lol! because a lot of single ladies already feel like something is wrong with them and telling them to make their Instagram more appealing and work harder on their appearance just isn't the best advice in finding the man of God they're praying for, you know? yes it's important to be put together and have respect, but a lot of these tips can just make a single girl feel like these are the reasons why she's single rather than the truth, which is probably just not God's timing yet or the right guy. Again, I know you guys mean well, I just wanted to share my thoughts on this video!
I think a lot of these are really good points but I also think it's super important for girls to know that marriage isn't the end goal of life and a lot of times in Christian circles, there's this pressure that tells them that. The three biggest influential women in my life were either married in their thirties, or are in their thirties and still single. All of them live absolutely incredible, full, lives and are wildly in love with Jesus. Ladies, maybe you are single because of what is said in this video, but also maybe you're single and in a totally healthy place runnin after the Lord. Don't aspire to marriage!! Aspire to be wildly in love with Jesus, and the rest will follow; whether at 18, 23, 30, or whenever!! Much love!!!
Monica Kearns Thank you! Marriage can be a blessing, but it's definitely not everything and it's definitely not the only thing to look forward to in life!
Yes girl! Preach!
good word thankyou
I think something else to consider is that some single people might be pushing himself/herself to strongly on their crush. I've been on the receiving end of these feeling a few times and- let me tell you- when you just met someone and all of a sudden they're trying to be around you all the time, it begins to feel like they're trying to monopolize you or something. With some people, there will be an instant connection but don't try to force it. You might think "Wow! I really relate to this person!... We'll be a perfect couple!" But the other person might not be feeling it... YET. And showing that girl or guy your feelings before they've developed any can scare them away. Just wait. Just wait and see how the other person feels.
Keep the expectations Biblical! 1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."
Jennifer Nease :)
...the Lord looks at the heart..but when a guy or girl looks...
Physical attractions as much as I've tried to deny I still catch myself noticing but immediately I say to myself I know this is vain...cause I don't wanna involve myself so much on how I look if that's gonna distract me frm the Lord....but honestly I've been noticing lately that probably every couple that I've seen took interest in one another initially because of their looks
I can see Paul’s points on not having too many selfies as it can look conceited, but then I took a look at his own instagram. Also Morgan’s. The majority of the photos look like they are trying to be models with serious faces, then throw on a caption about God to make it seem justified. I don’t think there’s anything wrong about posting those photos but why judge others for it?
I find these two lack lots of self awareness!
You guys can be quite judgemental. I try to like your content because your fellow followers in Jesus and I want to be inspired and take in advice,help,etc from any outlet I can when it comes to better following God’s will. However, I seem to feel very insecure and judged after watching many of your videos. This video especially. God is in control of setting up our relationships. We could go out and wear the perfect makeup and have the perfect social media and have a very reasonable set of expectations but unless God wills and wants us to be in a relationship or courting or in a marriage, things aren’t going to work out. I wanted practical godly advice from this video. I wanted you guys to come from a place of love and let single people know that it’s ok to be single. Infact it’s great to be single! God has a purpose for our being single. Thus, we should be focusing on those purposes and trusting in him to guide our life. We shouldn’t be trying to attract relationships that God isn’t intending for us to be pursuing in the first place.
I will say that your video on sex before marriage really made me realize that I’ve got some forgiving of myself too do. I agree with both of your stances but I made mistakes in my past and I felt like a terrible person after watching the video. I shouldn’t have to feel that way because God has forgiven and I have learned from my mistake.
You both seem like great people and I praise your desires to help people from a Godly perspective. I just wish they didn’t feel so heavy on judgement.
what I gathered from this video is that they were referring to the little things..these points they raised are real issues..some people who God has called to be married May have missed it bcos of the' little' things..having high expectations can actually hinder a person bcos God May bring someone into ur life but u have an idol of what ur spouse should be like.
all in all it was meant to be a funny video that address the little things ..sometime the devil accuses us but we need to shake it off...you not judged but loved by God and he will guide you to peace
Good job Paul and Morgan I had a good laugh watching this..I'll try to be more friendly.
I completely agree with you, I felt the same way from this video. I know they mean well, but I really didn't agree with the approach of this video. I feel like it's going to do more harm than good unfortunately. I hope you know that you are so loved and God forgives you and loves you exactly where you are! we all mess up and sin thats why we need Jesus! keep the faith girl! and God has the perfect man of God and perfect timing for you!!!
Agreed. I thought that the answers weren't really from a Christian perspective, but I guess I should've looked at the title of the Video 😬
Don't worry guys. This was just an opinion, there is no biblical teaching here.. so don't take it too seriously. As a guy I can tell you that we don't all have the same preferences.
I actually disagree in a way because they are pretty honest and it's hard to find people who are honest and realistic and not all religious all the time. I agree that it's in Gods time but also we do need to follow some of these steps like taking care of ourselves etc
Love you❤
I think you should also do a video directed towards the males. Passivity among males is also a problem and it’s not always left up to the woman. Just my thoughts. I enjoyed the video though!
Agreed, male passivity is a problem
Honestly I feel ready to date, but I’m not in a hurry to rush into a relationship if that makes sense. I’m 21 never been in a relationship. Most of the guys at my Christian college are not mature enough to be in a relationship. So I’m content with being single. I have high standards, but I know a guy has faults and Im attracted to the personality
I also just turned 21 and I have never had a boyfriend whatsoever. I'm not in a hurry or anything.. I believe it is worth the wait
I think the important thing is to focus on God. Get things right with The Lord of Hosts. Make sure He Is number 1 in your life before anything else.
1:39 what If I don't like make-up😭😭I am just not into that. #OnlyChapstickGang 😂😂
Hear hear! Be yourself. Makeup feels gross.
I totally agree that too many selfies look desperate! Not a good look.
One Heart Bible looks a little cray cray! 😛
have a good relationship with God first before u try to be in a relationship with someone else, because this will truly help you to keep your standards and expectations godly and right. and one last thing>> looks should be the last thing on your list,,, look at the heart, mind and spiritual connection. you dont wana get it twisted
You two crack me up. 😂 I've made that last one my goal this year! I always felt somewhat boring, so now I'm getting more involved in different hobbies. Watch out, single dudes. Here I come!
vivacioushannah hahaha! You go girl! Get it. Any guy would be lucky! 😊
Hi Vivacioushannah. Where are you at with God? I'm not trying to being judgemental. If God isn't number 1 in your life now, then he probably won't be number 1 when you have your first relationship. I hope God is number 1 for you.
make sure your standarts are not completely physical. make sure your judgeing their character not only their physical appearance. you don't want to date someone who's really good looking, but lies and has a bad character and/or doesn't fit you.
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You guys are so fun to watch! Love how you've decorated your background! Great video! ☺️
Mat & Est - ChristianVloggers thank you so much! We love watching you guys 💜 and we had fun getting to decorate our new place.
1 tip to give a single person: make yourself happy with the help of Jesus!
Sorry Paul, my dude’s gotta be taller than me.
Love these types of videos. Keep it up! Seriously many ladies need to hear this. Thanks for sharing guys. ❤
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I don’t want to come off as rude or a hater but I don’t necessarily agree with the standards situation. Because it’s something personal and something you can set as high or low as you want to, and you shouldn’t change them because it doesn’t fit the other person. I understand that sometimes people base their standards on fictional characters and I agree on that part that they are FICTIONAL, but you choose what those standards for you are and if they can’t accept them then they won’t respect you and they aren’t the one for you.
I think the best and most important answer should have been that it may not be your season. You're not less of a person for not being in a relationship, and sometimes God allows you to have time to yourself so you can understand your purpose and identity. One of my favorite quotes is from Michael Todd's sermon series Relationship Goals (10/10 recommend every Christian whether single, dating, or married watches it!!) when he says, "you're single, not alone." So take advantage of your season to see what God's will is for you before chasing after anyone out of loneliness. Love you guys, just wish that this video would've come from more of a Christian perspective rather than just a worldly one :)
Haha the "don't post pictures like you travel" is amazing lol and Paul's response of "but what if they do" is great bc I do travel 355 days per year with a traveling drama ministry called new life drama company and that just made me die lol. Plus you guys have such inspiring videos and your both so crazy (which I love) tbh your UA-cam channels great!!!
yikes! you're lucky you found morgan; anyone else might not have put up with your judgemental attitude! :)
ooooh shaaaaaade!!!!! lol
Agreed. Love paul, but seems to be a little judgy when it comes to dating
She's pretty judgemental herself so I guess it's a match made in heaven
Oof this is so true though
bumble Shut the fuck up feminist.
Love you two and I love your videos, but another big reason why someone might be single could be because God is trying to prepare them for the one he intends for them to end up with. Maybe he's not ready, maybe she's not ready, maybe the time's not right. Also another one would be because you just don't have anyone asking you out or showing any genuine interest in you.
Thanks for the comment :)
Paul: “you might need to...read some books.” 😂 i like this advice
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this was so good😅👌🏾 you are amazing guys! A true blessing.
Loved it! Gonna cross out a few expectations now :D
paul aint crazy. good advice.
Paul, you literally CRUSHED the bull's eye with #5. It is just... frustrating!!!!!
Thanks :)
Great advice for this topic!
i really fully believe the generalizations that you are making about relationships and women and men can be very wounding and very damaging. i really hope you take the time to look at and pray over the constructive criticism that people are leaving in the comments. you may love jesus and have an average following on YT but you need to take time to reflect as well because you may be leading people astray or into a dark place of self-judgment and hatred. the first video i watched of yours made me very angry and sad for anyone that believed what you were preaching about modesty. Make sure you aren’t just making content to make content, what is your intention? Maybe be time to refocus.
I think you have a point. Where is God in this video? None of the issues Paul and Megan raised would be issues if people loved God and put Him first in their lives. We need to seek The Father and make Him the most important relationship in our lives.
Can not get this to play! Wonder why?
I’ve been watching yalls videos out of curiosity of what type of information would be shared from your “Christian” platform. I appreciate that both of you are trying to be of assistance to Christians that might feel isolated or alone in their journey. However, the information you share is overwhelmingly small-minded, and a lot of times misogynistic. If we’re talking about “why you’re still single” why is this video completely directed towards women? There are just as many single men out there. In addition, the title and subject matter heavily implies that there is something inherently wrong with you if you are single. There is NOTHING wrong with being single. In fact, there are huge benefits to being single such as personal self discovery, and learning to be self reliant, that one does not truly learn unless they allow themselves to be single for a good amount of time. I’ve never commented on a UA-cam video before but I’m commenting on this one because I think that a lot of your content can be harmful to people (especially women) that are trying to have a relationship with God. Speaking as someone who has a deep faith and is devoting their life to spiritual work, I can understand why someone who watched your all’s videos would be completely turned away from God and religion entirely, and I wouldn’t blame them. When you have a platform such as this one, it’s really important that you are conscious and responsible about the content you’re putting out, and I don’t think you all are really taking the time to think about how shaming a lot of your content is. As flawed human beings, it is never our place to judge, and the judgments that you are making are a real misrepresentation of God/religion/spirituality. I beg you to please be more thoughtful.
Never get into a relationship with someone who you don’t like ( someone who likes you but you don’t like back, someone who is a great friend, someone who has threatened you or you think your supposed to be with this person).
Hey guys, I really love all your videos. I am watching from the first one tell this days video. I am really excited for your new ones :)
I'm still single cos I am waiting for the right man. And I know God has a plan for all of us. And I am happy about it :)
Are you exactly talking about me? Lol thank you for this vid ❤️
You guys are great!! God bless you both! !
I love your realistic views and advice on both: the spiritual dating side, and as the human beings ( men & woman) we still are..!!!👌 Because common...We all need a lil help and reminders, on both ends sometimes. And many times , even more, on ONE SIDE than thee other!! So thanks, and God bless. 😊
You guys should make a homeschool dating advice video:)
Love your chanel! Totally agree!!!
Binged on you guys videos 😍
Love these🤗❤️!!
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Pls can you make a video about this topic for guys pls will be very grateful
I love the pay attention to your Instagram account. Make me laugh but true. Great tips guys. I enjoyed watching. 👍🏽✔️
Maxine's Corner haha I had to include that one😂 Thanks!
This was great!! I agree with Paul's tips. Especially to many selfies can be a put off.
Haha thank you, yes yes, minimal selfies😂
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I don't think they were pointing viewers to God and Jesus Christ. It looks like anyone could watch this video, regardless of beliefs. Christians should point people to God. Without God in our lives we cannot be what we are supposed to be. I believe that God must be number 1 in our lives, then we have a firm foundation for relationships. We will have Godly relationships if we seek God first. Trying to do things without God's input is foolish and leads to broken relationships and hurt and pain and regrets.
Yep... you should be yourself!!! But most importantly, you should be okay with being single; it's the time where you get to find yourself.... and then you will be ready for a relationship
For me, I know that it’s not my time. The Lord wants me to focus on him and I’m find with that. I’ve tried going outside of what the Lord wants about dating, and didn’t turn out so well.
It's good you can recognize God in your life! :) Focus on Him and He will make His plans evident to you! :)
I feel like this has been a great weight on Paul's soul that he just needed to get off his chest :D You guys are a riot! But as a single girl, I can honestly say that these were spot on, especially the first one about showing interest. Haha also, the selfie one I just even find irritating and i'm not a guy :P Love you guys!
Tabby RH hahah! YES! Paul will be very happy to hear you think he's right 😝 we love your feedback and appreciate your support! Thanks girl! 💜
Paul's fashion choices 🤣
Like y’all smiles are everything!! Lol
U substituted my little brothers class that's how I heard about your channel lol 🤣
Hi Paul and Morgan! Can you please make a video on what to do if your friends tell a guy you like him?
I agree with a lot of these things, although I do just about all of them and I have been single my whole life. I'm young and I know I have time, but it's still hard when it feels like a lot of people you know are in relationships. I think for me, it might just be that God is calling me to a season of singleness.
I actually agreed with almost everything Paul said.
I laughed out loud at the slapping part.
I agree with all of these!
Paul and Morgan, you guys are such an inspiration, and I love ur points but too much expectations??
I agree with the too many selfies thing. But I think ladies struggle more with settling than having higher standards. I agree that too many people are fake, but it seems like guys tend to like easy and fake girls than genuine people because it means they need to work harder. But I guess that’s the difference between a good and lazy guy!
This episode wasn't necessary to be honest, but I love a lot of your content guys.
I know a few women stuck I. The 1920's. And a ton more guys and gals with too high of standards and expectations.
Clueless Mama D haha yeah! Just gotta have realistic expectations 😛
I partially agree, because sometimes God holds us single for particular reasons ,so it depends wether he will send you someone or he just keeps you waiting for some time
actually in the 1920s, women would initiate by dropping her handkerchief etc. there was initiation just a different kind
This is good stuff because sometimes a girls gotta step out of her comfort zone to see things actually happen. Also same for the guys if they’re a little shy☀️ thanks guys for the advice! It’s defiantly an eye opener👍🏻
Amen! :)
I just love how Paul rubs his hand on Morgan's back! It's super cute! #Goals
How is wearing makeup for beauty not vain? How is your behavior not self-exalting... How are your earthly possessions not a form of riches, how are you not an example of a couple which meets the worldly expectation of gender-roles, and how are you not revealing about yourselves what is to stay within your marriage? How are you not going against commandments?
Now it is playing, but I cannot hear you, yes my volume is on and up!!!
Haha you guys are awesome.... I can totally agree.... 🙈
Yourself+ selfie= yourselfie 😂👏🏽
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Paul and Morgan heyyyy!! I have a quick question that recently came to mind. So is there ever a right time to tell a guy you are interested into them/start them?
I think the core of the 3rd point about expectations is to not let the world's definitions of what a man should be overlap God's standards and expectations of what a man should be. Romans 12:2 says not to conform to this world, but rather to renew (reset) your mind on God's word.
Can make a video about long distance relationships
Elizabeth Strizhkov oh man! That's def a good topic!
I turned down the first guy to like me ever because I just didn't feel like that was God's will right now. I have very high expectations which I dont want to have but he was just very different than what I like and my parents would allow. I feel like even if I dont like the guy at first my parents should be on board if its my perfect match.
Paul, your instagram is mostly selfies
Be yourself unless yourself is too many selfies. LOOOOOOL!
So it’s bad to be single working on yourself, loving yourself and waiting on God timing ?
Pick expectations that don't have so much to do with physical appearance! Pick attributes that are there in the long run! Okay I get it...we are all human and find certain attributes attractive, but look a little deeper! Be true to you and look for that person that causes you to strive to be more like Christ!
I'm single because romantic partners are wants not needs and I'm not looking for anyone right now. I've got college and I'm trying to look for a job. I do believe I'll find someone but I'm 20, I'm still young so there's no rush 🤷
I put my purity ring on my left ring finger. but my friends made me change it to my right hand middle finger saying it might scare away the guys😂😂😂😂(that might be one of the reasons I am still single)😂
Point #1 OUCH!
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Preach Paul tell them
I can tell for sure that you don't see nice looking girls in single's groups. If one shows up she will be snatched very quick. Your looks will really help to get married. All the nice looking girls in my youth group married before they were 23 years old. The ones not so good looking married after their 30s and some never married. There is a correlation between looks and marriage. I can walk on a place and tell with 80% accuracy which women are married just based on looks. I hardly see a nice looking women without a ring, unless they are recently divorced. Lots of psychology studies showed that when you are nice looking people will perceive good qualities in you more often. Nice looking people don't need to put much effort to attract people. I have a female friend in church who put breast implants and did some mild plastic facial correction. She went from no dates to guys asking her out all the time. She was the same person.
Paul, I think you’re dead on. Especially on the more “controversial” points. Physical appearance definitely matters, even more so at the beginning. Also, so many people meet these days on Social Media. Pretty, but modest pictures can go a long way. :)
even tho you are single, you're not unlikable & lonely.....you're Lovable & alone. and being alone is NOT a bad thing. I'm single and alone and i'm VERY happy!!!
Other than me not looking for a significant other, I tend to want to be left to my own devices if I’m being honest, I’m single because I’m working towards getting my degree and having my own monetary dependency. At 22 I recognize that I have my twenties to find myself and be free to do as i please. I’m not worried about finding a partner, because it will come even if i didn’t plan it. There’s no need to rush into a relationship at such an age because i feel that I’m not mature enough(emotionally, sexually, financially) to commit myself to a person at such an age and time.
The guys at my church are way...way younger than me.😊
I love you Morgan ❤
Where I live, standards don't even exist.
Doing a PhD at a school with a terrible climate.
When you're buying a gift for a loved one you're thinking about who they are, what they like, what they need, etc. You're thinking about what would make them smile. If they receive that gift and it's not making them smile, they have missed your heart behind the gift you gave them.
It's the same with God toward us. If you're single, He's also thinking about what's good, what will(should) make you smile, what's useful, etc. Singleness IS a gift and not one that we can return or exchange with.
If you're down about being single, I encourage you to ask God to help you see His perspective for your singleness. I guarantee that at some point you'll smile(if you aren't already) and use your single time wisely and happily. He may never call you into marriage. Is He a bad Father of He doesn't, or are you missing His heart for you and this gift?
May God bless you with His perspective on this.
All these comments have great points but let me just counter one in particular saying that it’s perfectly fine to be single. Well it is perfectly fine but if you would take a look at the title of this video you would understand that for a reason you clicked on this video and it’s because you are looking for someone to follow Christ with!
What about to the Single brothers?
This was recommend for me by UA-cam, and I really AM currently single..... UA-cam, get out of my love life!
Go to places where you will find other Christians who are like minded and have the same interests.
Good tip! :)
I got you Paul, I talked to a person once who was very very Dull. Almost ZERO personality. However, at that time when I did drink, he brewed the best beer I ever had. Habanero beer.
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I know the only reason that matters : I'm not a super hot Instagram model barring it all.
Thick head of hair! Also I'm so with Paul about your insta being all selfies.
Also, some guys’ standards may be too high as well. Overall, you should make a video directed towards males as well
I never knew my INSTAGRAM account would keep me single 😂😂😂
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Can a Christian woman marry a man that in his past relationship had a child with another woman but they arent together anymore , can the man move on a still marry and have a family with a woman that has been pure all her life ?