This is the Only Type of Relationship That Will Work For Narcissists
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This is the Only Type of Relationship That Will Work For Narcissists
//It's definitely not easy to be around a narcissist. It is absolutely difficult to be in a relationship with one. Everything has to be about them, and as a partner, you need to constantly make sure that they are the center of your attention. So, is there a chance to have a relationship that will work for both you and the narcissist? Narcissist negotiation expert and top lawyer Rebecca Zung tells about the one and ONLY type of relationship where this toxic personality can thrive. Find out in today's video if it will work for you, too.
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✅Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News & World Report as a “Best Lawyer in America”, as “Legal Elite” by Trend Magazine, and recognized by her peers and the judiciary as AV(c), preeminent rated in family law, the highest possible rating for an attorney by Martindale Hubbell.
✅But her journey wasn’t always easy. She got married at 19, had 3 children and divorced at the age of 23. She was a divorced single mom when she decided to go back to law school. She went from being a single mom, college dropout, to becoming one the most powerful lawyers in the country at the helm of a multi-million dollar practice. She is now committed to sharing her secrets and empowering others to live their lives at their optimum level of success, professionally and personally.
✅She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought after major media contributor.
✅She has been featured in Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among others. She is the host of the popular show Negotiate Your Best Life™ which is available on UA-cam and as a Top Podcast. She is also a frequent keynote speaker.
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We victims thank you.
Do you have any videos on how a Mom deals with her adult son who is narcissist, can you breakaway
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Good words on you with the video . you are truely somthing else . great insight
I wonder why nobody mentions this but in my experience EVERY interaction with a Narcissist is turned into a POWER struggle. Every discussion no matter what is a challenge to their Power. Ever interaction is a Power Struggle.
The simplest way to understand narcissism is to look at it in terms of objects. They see everything as a possession, including people they are working with or in a relationship with. Now, since the most important possession gets the most attention (and they do see themselves as the most important object), they naturally become jealous when attention slides from them to another possession or person. This being, they will constantly attack any person or object they feel threatened by. This is one of the reasons they rise so fast into management positions. Once they enter the workforce they target their competition with manipulative tactics to demote them, and then they reward other "narcissistic sycophants" who join their gossip, manipulation, and gaslighting. Surprisingly, they develop "fake personalities" because ultimately they are simply poisoning themselves and the workplace and actually end up carrying a lot of "fear of repercussion" on their back. Whole, large-scale companies end up destroyed by these types as they drag their workplace and families into the gutter - incessantly complaining (projecting the problems) onto their peers or spouse instead of themselves. It's hard to see through them, but there is an acid test. A narcissist will play favorites, and when a decent, hard-working, moral person comes along who doesn't appreciate it, they will give that person advice that will seem okay on the outside but will erode them on the inside. Think of them as a bullying drunk with cares only about themselves (self pity fits nicely here) and you will have pegged them totally. The two types of narcissists are the bullying and the self-pitying with self-pitying being the most common and best concealed behind a fake personality.
You are so correct. I had the same problem with my husband every single thing turned into a power struggle the most silly things turned into a power struggle. If I asked him not to do something nicely he would make sure he did it all the time. I read somewhere this is very common for them to do as they get a kick out of irritating you by doing the things you ask them not to. I'm actually a very relaxed easy going person and he turned me into a wreck. I'm finally at the end stage of my divorce and hopefully can move on to a nicer more peaceful life and maybe I'll be lucky to find somebody to love who can love me back.
Sad, but true.
Children in adult bodies. They are pathetic!
Agreed
Children grow and can listen
I couldn’t wait to hear what relationship would work for a narcissist😳
Yup! You’re right!! I should add that whenever you call a narcissist, they take over the communication and make it all about them and end the call without giving you a chance to say what you called them for. It’s ridiculous. Thank you.
Being in a conversation [ one way] I feel like I am listening to a radio station that has only one program...alll about the Narc. He blathers on and on... even if I leave the room ...which I do increasingly.
It is, so, ridiculous. It is hard to live with the loss of my time, and my Children's time. I saw these same things and didn't recognize what it was. I heard clues, here and there, but didn't know how to apply them. I was, quite, convinced I was the problem.
This comment!!🥳🥳🥳🥳
Boom… I knew I wasn’t losing it. Exactly what was happening to me. I prayed for a dead spot so the call dropped. 😂
YUP! It's horrible to be in a narc relationship. The Narc relationship and his/her family are Narcs too. Toxic. I removed myself from the relationship years ago. Amen!
He removed me. YUP He & his mis tress had a 2yr old by the time we divorced. It's a long & winding Rd & I living testimony ... that it GET'S BETTER
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Yup,I'm praying to be the same person I was before this unfortunate meeting. Just aerate of theses snakes.
Aware *
Yes very true.
I only wish I knew this years ago because I have been victimized by these people for years. You always think it's you that's at fault. YUP.
What I figured out was out of 100 women if 99 of them were very very very! bad experiences like the one i had with the female covert narc I dated and only 1 was a good experience then that would have meant it was something wrong with me but because it was the total opposite. 99 great experiences with women then when i came across the female narc it was TERRIBLE!!! that let me know it was her that was the problem. At the tine she abused and mistreated me I didnt have any education at all on narcs. I didnt even know these type of people even existed!!! I actually thought she was bipolar at first cause she was doing the hot and cold push and pull on too of all the other classic narc tactics. Then I studied more the things she was doing and saying and it all came full circle. Projection was the one the pointed me to the right rabbit hole. She was insecure about her weight but the first one calling other people fat. It made no sense to me, jealous and in attack mode trying to tear me down and do lil bs to hurt me, triangulating bringing up other people to try and make me jealous. Constantly raging out over insignificant stuff, controlling, mad when i didnt answer the phone right away etc. it was TERRIBLE!!!
@@scottsummersreloaded4618 thanks for the post, hope you are doing well.
Living with a narcissist felt Iike I was living in a square room bouncing from wall to wall, it never stops until I got a spiritual awakening and I did a 360 wow that was awesome,
same here GOD is awesome 👌
05:51 3 A's: Abuse, Addiction, and Adultery
I was a heavy drinker but I cut ties with drinking buddies when I became sober. Some of them are narcissists and others are enablers.
The orphan mentality...but they're the reason they are alone.
str8 ☝🏾
@@presidantscrooge3769 This is the absolute truth. The scary thing is only God can change them and they don't think they need to change. How do you deal with that especially if it is family and you cant just cut them out of your life?
Yes! Goodness, you are so on target. Unfortunately the three “A’s “ are very true. Each example you give confirms as I finally removed this toxic person from my life. Lessons learned for sure. I am forever out of the narc web! Stronger and wiser. I have my narc radar on. Thank you for your consistency and support. You do make a difference!
I always negotiated and won. Despite all the pain , I could grow, as like, I had someone always trying to put me down so I tried harder for myself to grow to be a better and more successful person.
When I made an innocent statement "but that doesn't makes sense" - you'd think I dropped a house on her, and had to apologize. I told her in the kitchen that when I speak to her most communication is fine, and suddenly I step on a land mine. The is before I knew she was a narcissist,
YUP !!! Had a horrible miserable torturous experience. Everything you said is spot on.
Yup!!! It's so fatiguing. At home and work and at play. They are everywhere. Sigh.
An extrene co dependent will go great with a narcissist
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Rebecca Zung , a thousand thanks. Your descriptions of a narcissist and how I felt were spot on.
I dropped her like a rock.
The way I feel now is spot on good to better . again a thousand thanks. Erik
YUP - described a relationship with a narcissist perfectly - crushes your soul, before I even knew about narcissism, I described my narc partner as "crushing my soul"
The only type of “relationship” that works for a narcissist is the one that exists in a Cinderella movie!!!!!!!!!!!
Lmfao
YUP
True
100% spot on! OMG how did I not see this earlier 😳
Because your heads all empty lol.
Yeah, me too, Sugar Magnolia!
YUP!!!Spot on as always. Crazy.
I have been doomed since birth… my father ( RIP 2016) was a narcissist. The cycle is real! My mother is a narcissist as well.. how does this make sense?? So many times I wanted to end my life.. but I LOVE GOD and JESUS! They have kept me on this crazy earth!
My ex is covert so he’s not the center of attention and actually I have the out going personality and tend to attract the interest in a social event.
Same and my husband hates it because he becomes uncomfortable very easily unless he has a few drinks or something. He once told me and our oldest daughter "we were acting ratchet" at her 4th grade open house because we were having fun with the teachers we were familiar with from the previous years . She bursted into tears and he had no remorse. I was livid but of course I didn't want to make it worse for her so I just comforted her and talked to her later on . I don't talk down to my kids ever. She loves her daddy so much.
you described them to a T! TERRIBLE dealing with those jealous evil demons!
Yup. So sad. So dangerous to be involved in. Get out, don't play the game, you will lose. Get out, get busy, get support.
I LOVE YOU REBECCA. YOu are so smart , up to the point and spicy. GREAT
YUP! You are spot on with your message. This perfectly describes my narcissist sister. You are a life saver!!!
Yep ur right .. but how do u get out of the relationship without a fight . He took all vehicle access from me . I'm wore out and stressed on being put down and I'm always to blame for things and life .I'm not allowed to have anything for myself unless he approves .I'm sick of crying and felling trap here
Get out! You can do it. I felt the same way. I Gray rocked and eventually he got tired of getting no supply from me and last week he asked for a divorce. Rebecca is so right. Watch her videos, learn how to make it seem like their idea. It works. You are not alone and are stronger than you think.
So true. I m.with narc mom even now.
And the best part is I thought she loves me and self sabotaged my life
Financially, relationships etc .
We are sucked into their vortex
My mom likes people who praise her and say shes the BEST
Nobody like her etc
Yup, yup, yup Spot on. Mine is in the middle of moving out of my Mother’s house whom I’m care giver for. This is a merry go round.But it’s happening and I stand my ground. He’s crumbling in a couple ways but doesn’t really seem to care. For instance he lost his job a really great one, making big boy money since he relies on his father for money for everything ect. Parents live in Italy they’re military. Dad will probably come here as he must be co signer ect ect. I called the Dad a few weeks back letting him know it’s over. He thought something was up because he kept asking narc when we’re coming to Italy and have we got our passports.
Which Narc stopped talking about of course. Nonetheless the Dad has been supportive of me and I am appreciative of him. The Mom is the Narc and it’s obvious where the Mommy wound comes from. It’s so blindingly obvious she’s a Narc! A lawyer, captain in Navy ect. The way they interact is nauseating. Anyway I know this is going to take a minute and he’ll drag his feet.But I refuse to be sucked back in, I stand my ground and I’m walking the F- ck away!!! I have some pretty good support and I’m scared half to death. I noticed yesterday he’s starting his cycle again first love bomb 2nd devalue ect. I believe he’s terrified to be alone and me I’m craving it. Ready for it. He may be looking for supply what bothers me is he’s the quiet type not a ladies man. I asked him out! When we met he had others that would stay at his place and hang out, plus a gf that cheated on him. My goodness there’s so much more as y’all know. Ok the ball keeps bouncing peace and contentment to all. Rebecca a trillion Thank you for all your the work you do.
Spot on with the 3 As...and their not caring to hear your side. Good advice!
A good analogy is St.George and the Dragon. Defeat the dragon, save the princess. Nowadays she'll leave you in chains because the dragon is her pet.
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT YOU ARE!!!
I think u have Saved my life Doc ? God bless u honey !!!
YUP! you are so on point its not even funny! EVERYTHING!!! u talked about I experienced with a female covert narc it was TERRIBLE!!!! These. are not full human beings imo.
OMG, this is so spot on and so sad it took us all so long to realize we could not change our family member. It is like you met us and are telling our story, this is really eye opening. Thank you😊✅
Yup
Do not suck up to a narcissist no matter who you are Or you will be feeding his or her problem and you will be part of that problem.🤕
YUP.
I wish I knew this a few years ago.
Yup. Your words lay my whole past out where I can see it for the waste that it was.
Yup! your video is spot on as all your videos on Narcissist. Thank you for sharing,
“Yup!!!” Nothing works. Everything crushes you. Nobody sees it. Everyone enables. Make sure you follow Rebecca’s advice and take Dr Ramani’s advice on avoiding the word “Narcissist” with your lawyer, use all the other words she and Rebecca suggest! I’m heading into my settlement right now…
If only I had you for an attorney. There was so much support until I actually got out. Then the court abuse started and the starve out began again.
Perfect ! Absolutely perfect !!
Yes you are sooo RIGHT....about all of this.... I definitely put these lessons And found I was aware of the trickery being used..yes this is great stuff.. to Negotiate to live my best life ever. Do not be afraid and live my life with confidence and knowing I can defend myself stand up for myself and avoid toxic people.
I thought this was a video about the only relationship that works with a narcissist.
Its really just a basic overview of who a narcissist is and wants.
You are such a pretty lady dear that I believe you don’t need any sort of makeup to enhance your looks. I don’t wear makeup about 99% of the time and I’m always getting compliments about how young I look and how beautiful I am. I have always considered myself okay for looks and am finally seeing what people find beautiful in me. I am married to a narcissist gaslighter but I have lived through worse and I live for God. He is always with me. I’m very independent and when my husband gets too bossy I just tell him that I live my life just fine without him and he can always leave.
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I was thinking back on a childhood friend. She only hung out with doormats. When she was 19, she moved out of town and we kept in touch online. Then I had my first disagreement with her, where I didn't back down. She blocked me and never talked to me again.
My exes favorite line “why are you yelling at me?”
I’ve seen my Dad use that a million times before… When he’s the one who yells and devalues everyone else.
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Can a sister be a Narcissist? My sister
Is one and uses it against me all
The time, and only communicates thru
Texting period
Anyone can a narcissist, protect yourself.
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Yes of course a sister can. No contact is the best way to deal with her now.
@@balancedplans3007 not the best way
She sure can be
YUP... its pretty sad. My hearth sunk when hearing the evil triad! God!
Yup , everything you say is right . Thank you
yup.
I refer to cn husband as my 5th and most needest child. His mom told me that we love to baby them 🤮🤮. I now see where it comes from.
Exactly.. They are spoiled little turds.
My CN is an only child, and I think this fact compounds the ‘needy’ characteristic. Conflict resolution, in my opinion, is learned through sibling interaction.
@@jasonweaver6714 my ex has a brother and my ex is absolutely a cluster B narcissist. Her kids all 5 of them have strong narcissistic behavior.
@@m998hmmwv7 I’m saying that children who grow up without siblings, and have narcissistic parent(s), are compounded.
@@jasonweaver6714 Makes sense. Seriously, becoming a narc without the driving, underlying pain, leaves nothing actually in there, but the hot air. They've nothing else to fall back on. Words .. empty.
You are so right….. supposedly, my exhusband new wife caters to him like that… something I wasn’t completely able to do… I had to work too and raise our children while he was absent (workaholism and being silent … being gone on purpose)…. His new wife doesn’t have to work and able to cater to him.
YUP you are so right. You definitely know your narcissists
Yup exhausting
Narcs have permanent brain malfunction due to genetics and/or upbringing. That's why they'll never change and therapy won't help. Their brains are not wired correctly. Sometimes people who get serious head injuries end up with this personality disorder, so it's definitely something within the brain that is not working properly.
This is so strange how my brain is going back-and-forth trying to figure out this.
Most of the stuff you talk about, I would be appalled..
BUT... I'm a talker. I love to talk. My best friends are also talkers. We talk talk talk talk talk . So I tell people when we're talking, that I do tend to do that because I get excited and I have special interests, and I will say please jump in or raise a finger or do something and I will stop talking immediately I will stop.
But realizing now that I'm also a narcissist too bc of a few things..because I really prefur long conversations with other people that don't get hurt that they don't jump in if that makes sense. I don't get mad about it. Other people do. So I just try to remove myself from the situation.
The other thing is as painful as this is, I promise I did not know that made sharing with others about things that happened, I didn't know that was narcissism and I didn't realize hurting others. Maybe recently because when there's certain things that are happening I tend to get hung up on it because I don't know what to do.. But maybe that's just an excuse and maybe I don't know really I guess but it's so strange how we can be narcissists too and probably diagnosible from what I'm watching on the videos… and never even know. I feel like if they gave me this type of information when I was younger like the autism and these other ones that I'm just learning about as an adult, maybe I could have worked harder tenant be one. Or to stay surrounded by them. My fantasy is I wouldn't broke it off with my biological relatives 20 years ago and just really started working on myself... But that is also narcissistic. So I don't know it's incredible these videos are really incredible and eyeopening.
And I'm realizing more and more some of us just need to be alone. When I tell people I prefer to be alone so that I don't hurt people with things like talking too much, they say that silly just quit talking so much. But they're not willing to jump in during a conversation?
I guess it's just who I am it's engrained in me. I'm selfish. I'm admitting it.
This is all so spot on. Happy to be away from it
Rebecca.. a very big 'yup'
YUP !!!!! On point.
No is an oxymoron though; for investigate and find knowledge together through the "wholesale" was marital law
Being the more powerful one, is bittersweet... Mostly bitter. In my anger I expected more sweet. I still love him, what a shame.
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How difficult is it to take the narccisitic abusive person back to court. 14 years of marriage I end up with nothing.
Did you have an attorney
It's easy if you are a millionaire lol. Otherwise live a happy life and let it go...
You'll be free and can live a peaceful life including being healthy. They'll literally make you physically ill. Good health and peace is everything.
Mine would say I would say certain words or or mannerisms that triggered her PTSD. If she did anything like cheating and got caught she blamed it on PTSD.
Ya...had bf who wd get triggered by me asking Whe are u done work?
So he turned off...wasnt saying. Checked his house later. He didn't go home after work.
Next day pretended he was so tired. Had to pull over and sleep in his car. Hmm. A half hour drive....he couldn't drive all the way home?
So bad
I'm a empath and my girl just had me taking big breaths at random around her I was so drained.
My God ur Soooo Rt. Becky!!!!! She has made me feel Completely Crushed. It's was a damned 7yr.journey into the surreal of hell on earth
I'm sooooo thankful for u ! Tnk u Rebecca.
Must be something about the 7 yr mark. Would have been same for me a year ago but I left.
Yep!
Yep
Yup....
Yup
Every speech has an emotional carrier wave, and it does matter in relationships.
I would just like to add that if you don't make everything about them and kiss their butts 25/7, you will get RAGE!
they will rage out over the smallest insignificant things even if u do.
@@scottsummersreloaded4618 yes I know. It it almost like clockwork. I get big ones the 1st week of every month. In between blowing hot and cold. I am onto it. Just silently planning my escape...
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Wow. You describe my situation
Yup, Yup, Yup
A big yes
Exactly. My. Brother marrierd a narrciisst it’s ruined our family. I’ve cut them out of my life🤬
Yup
Yep!
What about a narcissist with like bipolar?
omg i am related to one. i do not engage!
yep
Yep
Yap, right on the dot
yup!
Yup !
“Yup”
Rebecca, what happens when the queen narcissist (grandma), an the princess narcissist (her daughter, soon to be ex), an the prince narcissist (son). No longer have me to destroy? They are not extrovert. They are all introverts. What do they do then? Pick on each other?
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Perhaps you have been programmed = brainwashed to be concerned about them whilst they are only concerned about themselves and how they can use and abuse you!!!???
I don't do whatsapp
YUP!!! 💯
Yuppers!
Do narcs eventually self destruct?
Yup. Ugh.
You're absolutely correct
Yup
Yep!!!
☺😘 needs and wants. OMG all week 😫
When my ex husband narc saw I got a job wherein I earned 20,000 more than him.....he walked out the house. Now that I earn an extra 20,000 he must truly hate me. Lol!!! What a loser. Thank God he's gone. I am so much better without him.
Yup!!!!!!!!!
Hell Yep...!!!