The Boy Crisis Explained - Why America is Producing Weak Men
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- Опубліковано 19 чер 2024
- Patrick Bet-David sits down with Dr. Warren Farrell. He is an American political scientist, activist, and author of seven books on men's and women's issues. Farrell has been described as the "father of the men's movement." Let Dr. Farrell know your thoughts on the interview here: bit.ly/3ji8Bh2
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Warren Thomas Farrell (born June 26, 1943) is an American political scientist, activist, and author of seven books on men's and women's issues. Farrell has been described as the "father of the men's movement." Farrell initially came to prominence in the 1970s as a supporter of second wave feminism; he served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). Farrell advocates for "a gender liberation movement", with "both sexes walking a mile in each other’s moccasins". His books cover history, law, sociology and politics (The Myth of Male Power); couples' communication (Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, and Father and Child Reunion); economic and career issues (Why Men Earn More); child psychology and child custody (Father and Child Reunion); and teenage to adult psychology and socialization (Why Men Are The Way They Are, The Liberated Man and Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men). All of his books are related to men's and women's studies, including his March 2018 publication The Boy Crisis.
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Looking at the generational social psychological conditioning of the foreign Corporatized Captivated Australian social system . Post WW2 to present Day. We are all being seriously Transhumanized into emf/emr Zombies .
@@thelastaustralian7583 Yeah check my video on weakness and why it repels women. I just uploaded it, its a real problem in todays age
@@JamesLakeShow thanks James, most of the time i believe i am communicating with a Ai''youtube coverttherapist....how do y counter generational hypnosis ?
Too much BS on trash talk shows ,news media ,entertainment media and brainwashing by anti male female teachers in schools
Social Bribe is just like Psychological Wage that propagated racism in America
"We weren't dominated by patriarchy. We were dominated by a need to survive" That's the truest statement pertaining to gender roles I've ever heard.
Life requires masculinity. Stronger Sharper and solar men
Stupid because if we were dominated by the need to survive which results in patriarchy that still means we were dominated by patriarchy no matter the reason
@@widen_inhorizons This may be true but you’re missing the ultimate point which is that human survival is what determined gender roles, not Men’s desire to oppress women which is the way the conversation is often framed in today’s world.
@@widen_inhorizons I get what your saying, but we're dominated by life, life requires the strong. To create, innovate, to dominate the environment and the enemies, this lead to the most suitable culture that of patriarchy, men being strong, logical and less emotional thus leaders of reason, man created patriarchy by aligning with life's causation of survival instincts. Maybe it would be better said that life required patriarchy not man.
Jeremy has a good point
Not gonna lie 20 minutes in and I realized every man has gone through all of that shit he's talking about at some point in life. Love ya bros fight that depression! 💪
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Great, Charlie! At 24.00 : reminds one of ROTK /LOTR, where Aragorn says "...the same weakness - the same blood flows in my veins..." and he pressed on regardless and became King!
HEAR HEAR
indeed
@@reencollett6835 EXACTLY
The most DAMAGING thing a MOTHER can do in front of her children especially her male children is to BAD MOUTH their father. The WORST thing a father can do to his children; especially his male children is to be a ABSENT father. This segment explains a lot. Thanks Dr. Have to get his book.
Unfortunately, they both happened to me. If I could only quantify and express the effects it has on me to this day. I've learned you dont really get over it, you just learn how to deal with it. But I could be wrong of course....
@@durkhadurkha4666
You're not wrong my friend
*YES* 👏👍👌
Ya, this was my childhood, mediating arguments between a severely depressed alcoholic mother and a father who had trouble expressing emotions and was never present in my life except when punishing us or telling us to be quiet. It leaves a mark, a hole that cannot be filled and before you know it, your driving down the street thinking the only reason you don't drive off the road is b/c it's easier to keep moving forward in mediocrity
Neither parent should bad mouth the other, but it happens all the time anyway, with neither side admitting to it.
We all know what these men are saying is true. The question is when is society going to acknowledge it?
I agree in what this man is saying as well.
I was curious on what you wanted society to acknowledge?
Yes we do, we all know what these men are saying is quite very true.
When is society going to acknowledge it, what was coverd in the talk..?
I personally don't see it any time soon. They simply don't want to...
But then again that is as to why movements, more like an alterntive new life styles for men. MGTOW comes quickly to mind, are getting more and more attention by men. Who know there is something very, VERY wrong with society/ the "system". In how they want to bury men alive. In how they have an, "men are disposable commodity" approach/ attitude..
We are not buying into that Crap any longer. More and more men are rejecting that lie called marriage, rejecting society/ the system, and the corrosiveness of it all. More and more men are turning their backs and gving a def ear to the lies.
Sooner or later, society/ the system, shall feel the change. Through those actions, alone that they shall, indeed, feel the change.
It may take while, largely because of one factor alone, DENIAL....
Society won't acknowledge it as long as women are in control of the media, the raising of kids and in the educational sector. New generations are growing up by single mothers thinking from female point of views!! Those already grown hate men through the lies told by the media...
@@Knuckledragnation Read the title that would help lol
When the mass shootings increase from angry dudes in they’re 20’s with nothing to loose
*“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius*
Is writing books and having a youtube-channel for those so called alpha-men? Haha!
Fine words from a slave-owner
@@ssrmy1782 maybe don’t judge people from the past by the standards of today✌️
@@spaceantelope1 Missed my point entirely. He was saying don't bother questioning what a good man is, just be one. That's stupid because a good man in ancient Rome owned human beings. In short, we must always ask ourselves what it means to be a good man.
@@ssrmy1782 the source of the truth doesn't change the truth
The problem is people don’t even know what they are anymore. A boy doesn’t even know whether he is actually a boy or not. Crazy times.
That’s part of the transhuminism agenda they are implementing
We know who we are.....
I feel you on that one. Crazy times indeed
It's truly becoming the standing for everything requires you stand for nothing, culture growth is stunted, you don't offer a kid 1,000 options because they will be unable to choose or they will choose everything, a society of boys given and even promoted to choose everything can never become anything. Rules are required because it narrows man unto a direction conducive for manhood.
Yeah
As someone practicing in the field of Psychology. I believe Dr. Farrell's ideas on communication and simply listening to solve the problem are spot on. Most often women don't have a problem that can be solved with a tangible solution. Often it is the intangible solution that is most effective. In all my past relationships that have failed, it has been miscommunication or ineffective communication that has ended things. Man or woman everyone likes to feel heard and valued.
I'm married, hubby was the firm one but I always gave in. Our sons are in their 20s. Dude's explanation on Postponed Gratification is literally why our youngest needed more structure from me. So much potential, not enough discipline. Tough to hear. He'll be okay, but yea. Dang.
My college advisor asked me what I wanted to be. I said employed. I worked 42 years after I fluked out of college. I am ordinary. Nothing special. Everyone disliked me. I worked at low paying jobs and survived. I was not worth suing so I did not marry till 55. We have 2 kids. I am retired in the Philippines and well off. US society did not work out but I was fine in the end. So if you are not so great, don't give up.
You sound like me. I've been generally disliked (or tolerated) in my life, and it's a tough thing to admit, honestly. I could feel it happening even around 8 years old. Life has a way of letting you know that you are low value and not someone who clicks with others. My wife and kid and my health are all I care about.
@@GUITARTIME2024
The way I see it is if you pay your way, look after your family and don't make life hard for others then you are ' the salt of the earth'...
If everyone does at least that then life is worth living my brother!
Take care...
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Are you sure those kids are yours??
If you married at 55 did the woman have 25 or 30??
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"Everyone disliked me". Really? How do you know that? And if you actually believe that, can you explain why you think everyone disliked you?
If you take a step back and realised that it’s a fact that the more developed the country is, the more feminine the men gets. In my 3rd world country, what we do here often called toxic masculinity by the first world countries.
hard times create leaders and survivors. luxuries give you nothing to fight for and strive thus weakening you.
Socialist subversion
@@manvendrasingh5098 absolutely brother
@@RenegadeRangayes bruv
Very accurate, developed countries are usually at peace, this peace allows for more intellectual growth, the mental over physical, we enjoy luxuries and become soft. When a cultures basic need is to survive, get food, protect themselves from the enemy, then there head is always up and prepared and this requires the animal instinct of masculinity and strength.
Every single word he said in this interview made sense even though I was raised by my single dad…. Eye opening stuff
Coolnifhet
Being raised by your father is much better than by just your mother.
He talked in general, there are always exceptions.
You were better off being raised by a single father than single mother. Only men can raise boys to be men. I think the opposite is true with women - only a woman can raise a girl to be a real feminine woman .
Actually, you can complain with zero discrimination. It's women who get discriminated for complaining. Karen is an example of women's discrimination
Thank you for sharing this very informative video. What he says about boys growing up without their fathers is very sad, but true.
STAND UP YOUNG MEN AND TAKE YOUR PLACE IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT SOCIETY SAYS! YOU ARE LEADERS!
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America will produce stronger men when y’all RELEASE THE M.S.O.A!
@@YoungJon what’s MSOA??
@@saud7209 I'd be interested in the answer to that myself also.
100% true. The upside down ridiculous anti Nature movement encouraged by the Leftism calling so many of the shots today is crippling.
If your opinion's opposite mine, and what the Dr's siting isn't enough for you, I encourage you to look at unbiased statistics on pretty much anything and everything with an open mind. Work smarter instead of harder.
"Weaken the men for the fight, for the women and children shall be our prey"---the purple king
what is this from
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
@@joedonzi9552 The lavender mafia that infiltrated the Boy Scouts bankrupted that organization.
WORD
@@blaga19 ancient civiliaations
Thank you very much for hosting Dr. Farell...lots of wisdom right here 🙏🏼
Thank you Patrick for bringing this huge issue to light and having this author on. I can relate to so much of it as the son of a father who was barely involved and taught me nothing.
Men issues are not taken seriously and ruled out almost immediately when spoken of. Hence you see high levels of depression amongst men, as they keep it all in and when they speak out they get shut down or cancelled.
We gotta help each other now more as a brotherhood less of a fatherhood
That is valid assessment at this point.
Highly doubt a therapist or a friend will “cancel” you for expressing your feelings. Cancel culture is annoying as hell but the word “cancelled” is thrown around more than a baseball.
@@omgeoh your therapist will damn near bankrupt you and give you value advice such as head nod and head shake and let’s not forget the all important chin scratch
@@healthyhim do what you gotta just don’t get suicided
I have boys and a stronge personality husband in the house. Our boys were not raised with T.V. or going to traditional school. My youngest at 14, works as much as he can for a fast food place, gets up every morning and rides his bike to the gym for 1-2 hours, he goes to school a couple of days a week, buys his own supplements and specialty foods from the health food store, is in charge of his own bank accounts and has chores around the house. He almost bought his 1st car the other day but he decided to wait for another car. This son is very persistent and driven. My other young boys have jobs, save their money in investments, have chores around the house, and manage their bank accounts very well. All my boys pay for their own car insurance and personal expenses. One thing I can say, both parents have to invest the time into their children, so they can be productive people. It's not an easy job for a parent but we do it out of love. I want all my boys to be stronge successful grown men.
Doing a good job 👍
Are they happy?
@@danieldesjardins4074 yes, they are happy. 2 of them are very social and have a lot of friends. They are always doing something. The youngest is 16 and prefers to make money than be with friends. He just started day trading a few weeks ago and loves it. This son also has his own business and is in the process of selling his business for a profit. They are all generous with their money too.
Likewise. I wouldn’t personally say that I am a strong man and certainly haven’t gone through life without my own issues, but confidence in myself and in the support for my children (2 boys) is very important to me and my wife.
For us, our marriage is about working as a team to support and guide our children; to ensure they have the best education we can provide.
I want my boys to grow up and live as strong independent and confident individuals. As soon as they begin to work, they will be paying a fair rent towards the upkeep of the home and assuming we do not need this money, it will be saved away for them toasts their first home. Regardless, boys and girls for that, need to learn to stand on their own two feet as individuals.
Poor men. Not necessarily weak men. And, the billionaires are causing that. Unions and worker and civil rights protect the poor from the billionaires parasitically leeching off the poor.
Excellent commentary! As a teacher I see this clearly...Sadly, most of my male students live with their mothers and the results are beyond devastating. I have little boys coming to school wearing fingernail polish and bracelets! My heart breaks daily. 💔
You do know boys in early times wore fingernail polish- it was fine. Men/boys wore dresses/robes, skirts or kilts, high heels, bracelets, etc. I think you don't understand what is considered men- it's not by their attire, etc.
@@shaynia-shai 🙄🙄🙄🙄
@@shaynia-shai It's FEMININE!!!!!
@Brigitte Beltran: So what? if it is, it's now considered féminine before it wasn't- remembered rock star men paint their nails, and wore makeup- so that different? There are féminine men and masculine men - just as féminine women and masculine women. If that's how they want to live their lives.. who are you to tell some1 not to? I find people that are focused on people's choice of living have no life on their own and too much time on their hands. Focus on you. You're worried about boys with fingernails? There is homelessness, hungry people, and so many things to help fix in the world but you're worried about a boy that chooses to be a féminine boy. You are a joke, go volunteer and try making your neighborhood better stop enforcing your views on others.
@@shaynia-shai Yes but they don't any more, and we don't want to.
Love and respect the way you conduct an interview very professional and very well done with the questions you ask and the flow of the content
I like practicing being stoic. I filter the negative feelings through comedy and music. Stick together men, dont put eachother down, lift eachother up. If somebody is struggling, emotionally or otherwise, dont dismiss it as weakness. Help them become a stronger person.
wise words
Agreed, but there's times to rise above feelings and emotions and still think logically.
Well said!
This is a great comment! Great sentiment. I am attempting to reconnect with the world but also to do so in a more stoic and affirming manner, understand my weaknesses and move Beyond them and place the Adaptive mechanisms see what I can truly be. I bet you'd be a cool friend to have.
Amen!
This has been done purposely for destabilizing.
@@marymckinney4472 that would be even better with paragraph spacing!
@@africkinamerican Sweetheart be thankful it's readable at all. I had to bypass the algorithm to get it to stay up.
@@marymckinney4472 You're delusional. The vaccines are safe and effective.
Yup in real time you see it
Yes sir. The communism agenda, among others. Cannot defeat us through war, so they deconstruct identity, Family units and create chaos
This should’ve been 2 hrs long. SO good and SO much more this guy can share. But great interview Pat
"We've gone from fathers knows best, to fathers knows less."
That hit hard.
First time I hear someone talk about gender issues who actually understands whats going on. Accurate understanding of both sides.
That's what happens when you are inundated by feminist rhetoric.
Listen to this guy. He is approaching the issue from multiple. It's incredible how many ways there exist in which men have it harder.
Sorry but I'm ignorant to gender issues, what are they?
Dr. Jordan Peterson speaks about gender issues extensively.
I agree
I love that you brought this man on. He is the most knowledgeable man in his field and has been unjustly shut out by the elites because he dared to question the radical feminist orthodoxy.
sounds more to me like hes feeding it and promoting it
@@jorgeg-moneyrendon1335 How so?
@@MyDadCanFixAnything2 weeks no response…smh. Great interview nonetheless, the guest is very well educated and made a lot of sense to me
I agree with everything here except the claim that he's promoting the radical feminist orthodoxy 👍🙂
Guy here. Who’s read Jocko Willink’s book Extreme Ownership, or at least knows what it’s main point is? Here’s something I’m not hearing from men anywhere. I’ve worked in heavy industrial workplaces and security for over 20 years with guys from all walks of life, and let me tell you something, there’s a lot of guys out there, a LOT, that are just out to get as many lays as they can, to get as sh!tfaced or wasted as they can and spending their earnings on junk lifestyles, their exhaust system, their subwoofer and the like. This is all a loser mentality from guys of all ages that are completely clueless and have no direction in their lives. You think these kind of guys are going to be good fathers to their kids and good husbands to their girls? Men have the chance to lead the way. The only way they can do that is to become better men. Here’s a hard truth I’ve been seeing for years that you can suck up princesses. The women I’ve known who became blue haired radical feminists were all primed to become that way because all the the significant men in their lives WERE ASSHOLES. The jerk off men in these girls lives treated their daughters and wives like rubbish and then when someone in an educational institution tells these girls that they’re victims of an oppressive patriarchy it’s an easy sale. The men in these girls lives who were dirt bags to them literally drove their daughters in to the arms of the radical feminists. You want to talk about extreme ownership Jocko Willink style, we need to own this. If we want to rescue our sons and daughters we can whine about the injustice of the system towards fathers (it is brutally unjust and evil a lot of the time)? You chose this woman. You chose to sleep with her and ten other easy young skanks who had no self respect to begin with. You think that a girl that’s an easy lay is going to be a decent and faithful partner and mother? You made a bad choice. Maybe it might be a good idea to actually exercise some wisdom and careful judgement before getting your rocks off with the first or tenth girl who says yes on the first or second date. You are responsible for vetting your partner and learning how to vet for a wife. You are responsible for who you get pregnant.
Then after that when your children are born, YOU are responsible for teaching your sons and daughters how to be decent human beings BY YOUR EXAMPLE. What you do speaks louder to your children than what you say. You treat your partner badly, you neglect her to play video games, you leave her to do all the work, your kids are watching and will either copy you and become a loser or side with their mother and think you’re a loser. Or you can work constantly to improve yourself and become a better man, better husband and better father. Which will it be? Own it gents.
This is actually legitimately scary and what’s scarier is that almost “adults” see it the only people that see it are our gfs… but it’s rare for our fathers and men in authority positions to see this and actually try to help. We seriously need a lot of support because this is a silent situation and it’s hard to articulate what’s going on and get proper help.
Poor men. Not necessarily weak men. And, the billionaires are causing that. Unions and worker and civil rights protect the poor from the billionaires parasitically leeching off the poor.
I remember the heartbreaking scene In Walk The Line when the Johnny Cash character is sharing a story about his band mates and fans and his wife freaks out and tells him she never wants him to speak about his work or tour when he is home. He says I work so much to provide you this beautiful home and all your pretty little things…..it’s was so disheartening
@lucinda LaRee I'm reminded of the story of the old man and the goldfish.
The old woman is never happy. After their hovel is upgraded to a house, to a mansion, to a palace to a bigger palace...
Powerful scene, and great movie. Sadly the lack of appreciation depicted in that scene is far too common in relationships from both parties.
Although it's easy to view his wife as the villain in that scene, I remind myself that we were only seeing it from Johnny's perspective. Its easy for us to ignore the fact that his wife probably felt very unappreciated as well and very scared that there wouldn't be a place for herself in Johnny's new-found success.
Sure, he gave her the nice house and all those pretty little things but what she really wanted was her husband.
I believe You missed the point. He did that for him. The love they had, all she wanted was him. He convinced himself what he was doing for him was actually for them. That’s literally what makes his version of hurt so powerful
Being away from family has them wilt on the vine. The Amish understand this so they work close to home away from Worldly temptations, their efforts both apart and together are tangible.
A man having a road family makes any money he makes worthless.
But we have to listen to our girls when they come from work talking about everything that stresses her my god this being goin on forever 🤦🏻♂️
I read his famous book "The Myth of Male Power" over 30 years ago. His insights on how power is conceived radically different by both sexes was worth the price of the book.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
@@joedonzi9552 Actually, the Boy Scouts had a hand in that, due to a lot of lawsuits.
Thanks for the book recommendation!
Zane Murphy Yes I read it too. After reading it in my late twenties, I resolved never to get married or have any children. Much later on, I worked in Japan and, in my early 40's I finally married a Japanese woman. She did quit her corporate job she had in Japan and I was a bit leery about that at first. But she boosted our collective assets together and this fact gave me great confidence in her. We have been together for 26 yrs. We moved backed to the USA. She has always accepted living below our means and saving money. We have grown old now and have no children. Today we have more assets than I ever thought we would have (not from inheritances). When I die , I will pass on my estate to her and eventually to her nieces and nephews in Japan. I could have never done that with a Western woman. I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones.
@@eddenoy321 You made the right choice. Congrats On a successful marriage.
Try parenting when you have to work 12hr a day 7 days a week to keep up with the cost of living. Both parents are absent. Children are not allowed out as it's too dangerous.
Maybe try and arrange where one of you are home more often and take it in turns. I was a single mum and I regret not being home more often to help my kids through everyday life. I was however a stay home mum in their very early years, only went back to work when we split. I would go back and work half the time and go without some things to do it again. Child raising is THE MOST important job. Not done properly it damages your kids and future citizens.
@@sandiadamson1754 Thank you for your concern and advice. You're spot on.
I would like to see the numbers of broken families in countries like France, Italy, and some other EU countries. I have worked with people from these countries and their cultural system allows for family time so the corporations cannot infringe on it thereby creating a stronger bond in the family and most of all reduced stress. In the US, you have way more stress, corporations would work you to the bone if they could, and for most companies, zero empathy for you family time. It is all about the worship of money over life whether it be quality of life or stress to death. This is where corporatism, unlimited consumption, worship of money over other attributes of life, and the financialization of the entire economy where everyone is on credit endorsing unlimited consumption beyond your means to pay for it fueled by the banking industry. Hence, the RAT RACE. I used to think that French were lazy but now I see the light as they are trying to keep their culture strong and you do that at the ground level, the family.
I heard that outside isn't dangerous compared to say the 1950s and 60s, but everyone thinks its dangerous so even police won't allow it. Its the click-bait media that makes it seem that crime is high.
Also Steven Pinker has research (twin-studies) that parenting doesn't work long term, two years after children leave home all effect of good or bad parenting goes to zero. From twin-studies he sees that long-term behavior is determined by peers, genes, and self-choices.
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@@aoeu256 Of course parenting works long term. You don’t need false studies to show you that. Who do you go to for advice? What experiences do you look back to? Sure peers and other things can affect decisions but to say parenting does nothing once one has left the nest is pure BS.
I myself have 4 children and I’ve instituted many of the same rules my parents instilled in me as well as look to see how others are handing things.
Thanks for interviewing Dr.Farrell, and alerting us to the book. I have been trying to figure out why so many young men are seemingly disconnected from “real” life, and living a fantasy life online. His explanation was helped me to see it. I’m hoping the Boy book will help these guys figure out how to live a fulfilling life.
Damn dude, you nailed it with this interview. Imagine our society if everyone, not only heard this but put it into practice as well. So many gems in here. I need to rewatch a few more times with a pen and a pad.
Thank you for this, really.
Poor men. Not necessarily weak men. And, the billionaires are causing that. Unions and worker and civil rights protect the poor from the billionaires parasitically leeching off the poor.
Explains why so many horrible laws and legislations are being passed while everyone just goes along with it! Society has lost the warriors that’s protect us.
You’re absolutely correct!
Not really, many are disinvested. This new society is one devoid of the values that made it great and worth sacrificing for.
imagine being in your 20s right now. Older generations think your weak and feminine, others calling you stupid for political views, being blamed for spreading virus. On and on. Beating the shit out of men
@@sadhu7191 They can't beat the shit out of a strong, thinking man. ...The truth is that there are no strong, thinking men. If there were, that would be a solution.
@@sadhu7191 After your the king of the mountain, you have to push everyone else down. Some of us get up and push back. Sadly, the lesson is hard to learn on our own. We need guidance from our fathers. The top 10 percent don't want new competition so a good father is not needed in their society. (Yes, they think that far ahead)
Very well done video. The video is so well done that I am calling my son's dad right now to tell him what a good job he's doing.
And go back to him if he takes you back feminist!
Bless your heart 👍🏾
That call meant everything to that dad.
It took this video to make that call 📞
@@freshness_ah7534 Being called a Feminist is not an insult you know! Being a feminist means putting your needs as a woman FIRST before a crusty mans feelings!! There is more to life than a man! 😭😭
Y'alls big egos get the best of you!
Certainly one of the most important people of our day. Excellent interview. We should all be listening to Warren Farrell.
The last five minutes are golden and explains so much of the relationship issues today.
I personally think the “weak” man era started once a lot of the manufacturing jobs were sent overseas. A lot of men never anticipated that the factories that some of their fathers, brothers and uncles worked for and that paid them well and gave them retirement would no longer exist in America. They anticipated their sons having these jobs and the same security. Once the jobs went overseas and the pensions froze many of these men became drug users and alcoholics due to despair and thus becoming abusive or abandoned fathers. The sons of these fathers were left in a hopeless traumatic situation and not sure which path to go which has led to a myriad of problems thus rendering them “weak”.
Not just weak, angry, resentful of society, and they don’t even know what the politicians and big corporations motivations was… purely a profit motive with no thought about society or the next generation. If they knew that this is what went down, they would be twice as angry. Also, the student loan 3rd party payer system only caused the universities to make up lame degrees and even provide weak STEM degree efforts leaving even the ones who managed to go to college jobless or with financially irrelevant paying jobs. The status quo was “everyone can and should go to college” but now they have lame or not job and a massive student load bill while the banks and universities made out like bandits. We should have pumped student loans equally into vocational schools and propped them up with a massive marketing scheme.
A lot of other things happened in the same time though...
The "jobs overseas" is caused by a country becoming so economically advanced that it becomes "post industrial". It's just social progress which is unavoidable. Would you rather that we reversed all this, went back in time so people could do mindless labor again? People can either adapt to societal change (which is completely unavoidable) or else.
@@JTA1997_ The idea that outsourcing jobs overseas for cheap labor as an indicaton of a society becoming economically advanced vs individual gain is a bit questionable . I personally don’t know of any country on planet Earth in this modern age that won’t benefit from human physical labor in any form specifically manufacturing in this case regardless of the high levels of education of the society or Artificial Intelligence. If you or any others do, please let me know. And while I do agree with you that people should adapt to societal change, I prefer to have just a little bit more sympathy considering this nation went from a highly physical to technological society within a decade. And while you may or may not believe in ancient technological societies, modern science has yet to show us the history of humans going through such a change. These humans were also hardworking humans with families and hardly little to no accessibility or capacity of an internet we have today. Those who did adapt put on the suit and tie ventured into sales, IT, corporate management and so forth. But I don’t think it’s fair to expect that kind of adaptation from most human beings so quickly at that time. Yet I don’t blame those who did adapt or the profit makers. It’s kind of an “it is what it is” situation.
@@truthhurts748 Capitalism is based on an infinite growth model. This inevitably leads to expansion across borders where labor is less expensive and the countries are less developed. It’s social progress and has to do with market competition
We need strong masculine men with identity to raise boys so that those boys in return become strong sharp men. Life requires masculinity. Strong cultures will fail without strong solid identities
except you are living in a gynocracy where women divorce rape men and family formation is impossible. wake up.
@@giannagiavelli5098 men don't reject life, they dominate, to make excuses is a feminine quality, I woke up and choose to dominate life not pity it, best wishes
We have world population of 8 billion. Whats the end goal? 3 colonized planets? Are we playing a numbers game like rats? What is this animal instinct in us to reproduce mindlessly
@@sadhu7191 5-10 million years with known laws of physics to populate the galaxy. once the goal is accomplished, squid games.
@@sadhu7191 whites do not reproduce in captivity
Great video ! I am raising three boys without their dad around. They need the discipline that I trying to figure out how to provide that since he cannot be around, he made terrible choices and is in jail. He never thought of the consequences to his family. It hurts my heart that we have to deal with the outcome.
One of the best interviews I have ever heard.
This man really knows his business.
A well crafted commentary, shooting straight from direct thought. Very impressive skill set.
Boys and Girls need their Fathers and Mothers in their lives. Boys and Girls don't just need any Father. They both need a GOOD man as a Father. They both need a GOOD woman as a Mother. They both need to play traditional roles in the family.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
yes, and a bad role model is worse than not having a father at all (or mother). My sons would have been infinitely better off if their dad just abandoned us rather than spending their entire childhoods causing chaos and conflict and complex trauma. One of my sons has low self esteem and is often in imbalanced and abusive relationships. My other son died at 20 from an accidental overdose. Both of them were diagnosed with "relatively severe Complex PTSD" due to the abuse they endured with a father diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder and a vey self absorbed and dysfunctional extended family. I'm sure that I made some mistakes in how to deal with all of the problems, but it was real and I couldn't change that or protect them or myself. No one is having an amicable divorce with a sociopath.
And Faith
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To piggy back , don't have children just to have a trophy you give part of your life,
This man has a LOT of real knowledge. Great interviewee!
This is like the fourth time I've watched this video. I watched a year ago. Each time I felt different I think I heard it the right way this time.THANK YOU
"The fixing of the problem is listening to the problem". That is powerful advice there.
A gigantic social experiment, these people will never stop.
Totally on point and I am a woman that sees that
Nor will we, fighting back. A mother.
Yep. And I can't see the experiment ending well if continually pushed in this direction.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
Thank you for bringing out this issue.
Appreciated with respect to this Video and definitely will keep tabs with your content Sir
This man has amazing eye contact.
he looks miserable and monotonous like he’s a puppet on a leash
@@zackscott8636 like anyone who’s spent a great deal of their life in the feminist movement would. However his message is still very important, in case you didn’t notice
@@zackscott8636 , he doesn't look that way to me ...
@@zackscott8636 and you're pessimistic, unessesarily quarrelsome and critical. Probably a narcissist who can't understand the points he spoke of and invalidating male issues. You don't add anything productive nor positive to the discussion. Begone.
He looks insane!
excellent interview. the author nailed it. i especially liked, "the Achilles heel...is the inability to handle criticism without becoming defensive"-wow. powerful stuff. so true too.
I've always had trouble handling criticism. It's not that I don't want to improve - it's that I'm already at maximum most of the time. I literally give 100% in everything I do. If I get criticised, I feel like I don't have anything else to give so I basically hear that 'your best isn't good enough.'
@@joblakelisbon That's corporate leaders squeezing you for the shareholders. Be strong , work steady and pace yourself. Health is always #1.
@@joblakelisbon think of criticism as a means of better utilizing that effort that you are expending. Or more succinctly…without that criticism, you may be stagnant thus inhibiting your growth. Make sense?
@@joblakelisbon even if you give it 110% criticism is for your advantage and future growth. There's also good and bad criticism. A person I knew kept telling me to stop criticizing him to do this or that, but from my window it's because I see more potential that he can one day reach and I know he can, even if now it seems like he can't.
@@WhiteWolfosmen dont need anymore criticism they have haad that long enough. They need encouragement
This was so excellent. Thank you to both men.
NEEDED THIS INFO THANK YOU FOR HELPING US GROW!!!!
I worked in the childcare industry here in Ma. And he's spot on when he's speaking to the state has become the substitute husband... A better part of 90% of all kids in my care came from single mother family...
Sad fact!!!!
Fatherless homes tend to produce weak men. Sad.
Single mother family...what a contradiction.
Sad
@@narcslayer425 well said only a man can really teach a boy how to be a man
*“Everything that happens is either endurable or not. If it’s endurable, then endure it. Stop complaining." - Marcus Aurelius*
No. If it's stupid, don't endure anything.
@Andres Emilio DiStefano He's just another spammer promoting his channel by commenting as soon as a video is uploaded. I hope the majority of those 23 thumbs up were bots and not real people because these quotes are just dumb.
Isn't the cancelculture totalitarianism?
By definition
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
Great interview all around, but one part made my jaw nearly drop because of how simply and elegantly he explained it. And it’s the concept of the pay gap and it’s right at the end of the video.
This guy is explaining so much. Everyone needs to hear him. I’m going to save this and listen to it often.
My dad destroyed our family by being a workaholic and alcoholic. My childhood was a nightmare and I feel completely disconnected with them. My greatest desire is to give my kids a positive family life, and I'm more than willing to sacrifice financial success or even stability to get it. I'd rather be poor together than rich and disconnected.
Do not be poor “for your kids.” They would rather have you around less than struggle their entire adolescence. Everything in moderation is my thought.
@@billyaiello9022 agreed
Don't be poor. That might push them to the streets.
Don’t be poor man. My Dad was always present… but could never hold on to a job. To this day, I lack proper respect for him and have struggled my entire life trying to figure out what it means to be a man. A present Dad does not necessarily make a good Dad. I would have preferred he provided well for the family and modeled manhood properly.
Some food for thought.
The fact that you're interested in doing a complete 180 from what happened to you says that you have a lot of trauma with this. Best to get that cleared up asap so it doesn't negatively imprint the kids and ruin the marriage.
This is the exact situation my brother's and I grew up in.
My parents split back in 85.
I've struggled exactly the way this man describes.
Oh boi the 60s
1st video I watch from your channel and thank you. Really like your way of conducting the interview. Good hard questions, humane, and ample time for the speaker to answer, no distraction. I can say you really allows Dr. Warren to actually show his expertise. kudos.
Poor men. Not necessarily weak men. And, the billionaires are causing that. Unions and worker and civil rights protect the poor from the billionaires parasitically leeching off the poor.
A great guest. I first heard from him on Jordan Petersons podcast and it is always nice to come across him giving more interviews.
This is one of the most important interviews for parents with boys that I have seen. Excellent!
@Neal DoubleAA
And what is your explanation of the current state of boys?
Yes agreed fantastic book has helped me alot to understand life
You should read the book.
This is by far one of the best videos you’ve ever posted on this platform. If we want to see this world change we have to raise children better. Quit having kids out of wedlock.
Or better, be a man and take care of that kid. Learn what it is to COACH a child into success.
Plenty people married raising crappy people.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
Women are not marriage material at all in the west.
No, marriage has nothing to do with it. Just 2 parents abusing you instead of 1.
I relate with a lot of what was discussed in this episode. Great content and an important subject in to days culture. Men an women need to understand one another and support one another so that both men and women are strong, healthy and interdependent in their own right.
Excellent interview. Thank you very much.
I was concerned at first how this interview would go, but this was terrific!! PBD asked all the right questions. Thanks, as always, for providing great content that makes a difference!
Meanwhile russian kids are casually wrestling bears
You mean "Casually Tossing Bears"
@@TheArtofKAS that too 😂
Western countries and some other developed countries are only producing weak men. Others are making masculine men for future
@@TheArtofKAS gummy bears
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wellll..... 🥸
Great great convo! Thanks
This is brilliant! Thank you for not interrupting the guest, Pat!
I am 64. I absolutely agree with everything in this video. Welfare USED to be called AID TO FAMILIES WITH DEPENDENT CHILDREN. When I was in my teens the law changed where underage WOMEN could get welfare if they had no spouse. Suddenly young unprepared pregnant women had the government as their spouse. The young underage women were then given a tool to enable them to avoid any input from the family, additionally many families were relieved to have the underage pregnant female have an income. Previous to this change in welfare the pregnant girls family would have been in contact with the FATHERS family and there would have been a push for the pregnant woman and soon-to-be-father to form a family in the benefit of the CHILDREN. NO ONE benefits when they are not required to be accountable. Then in this situation the woman raises children WITHOUT A FATHER. Fathers are ESSENTIAL. How do I know this? I WAS THE FIRST GENERATION IN MY FAMILY TO BE ON WELFARE. I raised my kids without a father. Then my daughter went down the same route. Then my ONLY GRANDDAUGHTER bore the unhealthy damage of no fathers for two generations. My granddaughter was outrageously beautiful, had a voice like an angel, loved GOD, and carried a SOUL PAIN that made her vulnerable. Did a predator find her? Yes. She was killed in her bedroom last weekend because it just so happened for the first time in months the house was entirely empty of family. She was my ONLY GRANDCHILD, my bloodline ends with her. I have been studying my family and the generations. I am an ethicist, statician, and I am willing to lay down my life for my family. But the single mistake of my family , which is packed with engineers, artists, and passionate people; is the fact that society had put too much of focus on money as a solution. The solution is NOT to throw money at situations, the solution for the family is to form a united front requiring responsibility, accountability, through a commitment to honest sincere communication. The skill of CLEAR OPEN HONEST RESPECTFULL COMMUNICATION is NOT a priority in families, schools or colleges. How do I know this? I have worked in the Counseling Department of a California College for 20 years. I have worked with thousands of families. I have observed the terrible destruction of family structures leading to complete dysfunction. The dysfunction of young men has been heartbreaking. Males are suffering far more than females. It is absolutely true that the percentage of adult male faculty is much lower than female faculty. Females dominate the Educational fields. I believe without a doubt one of the largest influences that has led to so many MALES wanting to be transgendered to FEMALES is because they RECOGNIZE the power dominance of women. I see an entire generation of young men taking on traditional female attributes exhibited through a range of behaviors. Some males become submissive, may drift into wearing makeup, hang around females to emulate them. Some go all the way to have extensive plastic surgery and hormone replacement. Yes there are females who do not want to be females, why? Look at the family. If the lack of communication causes strife and the power lands with the male examples then the young female children will emulate the powerful adult males. Males and females alike who are so dissatisfied with their own gender that they reject their gender ALWAYS have influential family members they have been imprinted by. How do I know this? Again experience. My mother was an example of a beautiful disturbed person who was very self centered. I decided at a very young age the last thing I wanted to be was a woman. Thank God I wasnt a young teen in todays society or I would have been pushed into being transgendered. I matured and am very happy being a woman. I eventually married a highly educated man who was a Biologist PhD from England. Martin Bernard Halliday, he taught me how to COMMUNICATE. Unfortunately he died after 13 years of marriage and this loss crippled our family. My husband was the Man's Man. Not perfect but a true leader. As for me? Martin would tell me , " You have more balls than most guys" . Our marriage was studied by Carol Kruger, a writer for So. Ca. Newspapers on families. She said our marriage was one of the few she had ever seen that were equally power balanced. We had the best possible marriage because we worked hard at honest communication. We put commitment first, integrity, honor, respect.
Quite a gripping story!
So sorry for your loss. Appreciate your insight and take on this subject .
Wow...you should write a book. You have the experience and some solid observations and opinions that need to be fleshed out.
Excellent ..TY
@@candymuncher8155 excellent TY
Thank you both time and energy
This topic is so important, thank you!
This conversation is so important. Thank you guys for having it.
There is no way to have this conversation without accidentally offending someone, but it is a conversation I am so glad is being had and that you are both willing to take those risks to bring them to more widespread attention like the subject deserves.
True. As a single mother, i am slightly offended. Still trying to find all these financial resources available to us.
Need more people like you in this world dude
Thumbs up, I agree I’m currently in the transition of sorting myself out. And a lot of what was talked about a spot on.
"Tell a boy enough times in his formative years that he is unwanted and he will prove you right as a man."
- me
Those poor little boys will never amount to a thing because they don't have a father. People stood around my brother and I and spoke as if we were furniture and could hear nothing. Even at a young age I knew they could not predict our future and it only strengthened our resolve. We did succeed and have lived well. I often wonder how well their children fared.
We were shown that daily and told that often... and we all proved them wrong!
Good quote Gary Suarez. We can be, by our parents, straightforwardly told that. Also, we can be shown that through their disgusting actions. I am TOTALLY estranged from my dad
May you find peace and erase those words from your being. Replace them with beautiful words like “you are a child of God and you are loved by everyone” ❤
ADHD
Absent Dad Hyperactivity Disorder
It seems Jordan Peterson has been able to help a lot of young men. He may be worth a listen to anyone, young or old, struggling or not, man or woman. Just I have seen men seriously humbled by him in a good way that they could come into their own and soar. The best man I know introduced me to him.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
Love Jordan Pederson. He’s amazing. He’s taught me a lot too.
Jordan is overly emotional camera junkie and cries all the time. Hard to take him seriously
Patrick, this was eye opening to me. Thank you for facilitating this video. You are doing a service to the men that are whilling to listen. Challenge aside from us as males to internalize what Warren is saying is how to explain it to women so they also understand the value of that balance - of course providing they are sound people and positive role models to their kids .
This was so solid!! Great info!!
I had my daughter and I thought how could a boy top this off. I had my boy 17 months later and at around 4 years old when I was napping and exhausted he comes in with a little plastic box that I got him for insects w at least 3 bees. And I was in awe how he had safely at that age accomplished a task w out fear or instruction. He later showed me that he had used a flower to lure the bees in. That boy awesomeness is still there but now twice as much. And my daughter of course doesn't skip a beat but in her own awesome feminine self!
Yep I’ve seen the magic of children as well. Both daughter and son.
I have two adult daughters and always yearned for a boy baby. Widowed at 27yo and never wanted to remarry bc I felt I'd be giving control away & didn't want my girls to deal with a stepfather.
My bro idk if ur a guy or not they need more masculinity from u
God blessed you!
We're all going to make it bros! 💪🏻
Dr. Farrell, I have learned so much from reading your books. Thank you for being strong and brave enough to share your knowledge with the world.
One of your channel's most important videos ever
I am a woman and if you see even in "Game of thrones" the man died and woman take the power. It's an universal message that is present in every aspect of daily life. At home, at work, in the movies. It's outrageous.
excellent observaton..its alos true in every sitcom and commercial. Men are weak, like Republicans...I don't have any answers.
I joined the Boy Scouts in1962 and learned how to become a MAN - then the ACLU and the ADL sued the Boy Scouts and Bankrupted them. A severe loss for American Youth !
I hate it, i want a man and family ☹
I don't watch that garbage. You like 50 shades too?
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Get an education and a career
Thanks for the book links. I ordered the Kindle and Audible version. This is one of the BEST interviews on the topic I have heard. This is truly objective. No blame or anger. Just unadulterated facts.
This is excellent!
I will have to do the audiobooks. Thank you so much for sharing this perspective. I will have state of union address with my immediate family. This way I can practice listening.
"I've been wronged." -The phrase everybody seems to focusing on, trying to figure out how they've been mistreated.
That sounds exhausting
This is true in Scandinavia too.
Thank you, both of you, there is so little truth to be heard these days, this was refreshing.
Check out gino jennings he speak the truth about lgbt and everything under the sun
What's happening in Scandinavia?
Great discussion!!!!
Amazing material. This is what should be taught in colleges, and mandatory for all households
Teach the young people to get to know their partner before marriage , make sure thats the person is what you want as a partner. The big amount of depression and suicide in the country is a sign of weakness and the early home environment, lack of emotional support because of the broken family structure etc. When you're brought up with strong character, moral, ethics, emotional support and love and faith youxan withstand the bad periods of life.
When you have children your goals have to change. Your goal has to be the safety love values morals of the children. Children come FIRST. YOU GIVE UP YOURSELFISH IDEALS TO BE A GOOD PARENT
Amazing interview!! Buying your Books Dr Warren
This was such a good and informative interview on so many levels and areas. Thank you!!
Warren Ferrall is possibly the most underrated expert in social science today.
He's an archaic outdated relic
He doesn't get the deserved attention because he tells the truth
One of the best interviews on utube…this is vital information for our country and society.
This should be shown in every school. Brilliant.
Ths was Great!
Ty 2 Men. God Bless u Each
This was such a good conversation.