How To Stop A Gaslighter From Gaslighting You

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  • Опубліковано 24 гру 2024

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  • @CassandraMack
    @CassandraMack  7 місяців тому +21

    This video was created back in February while we were preparing for THE SOUL FAST

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 7 місяців тому +19

    Don't let toxic people manipulate your reality .🙏❤️

  • @arlenehutchinson9259
    @arlenehutchinson9259 7 місяців тому +10

    Even having the definition is a GAME CHANGER 🙌🏾 I had NO idea what was going on CONFUSION 😪
    For we are NOT ignorant of the enemy's devices

  • @sjfierce
    @sjfierce 7 місяців тому +16

    You don’t have to be ready but get ready 🙌🏽

  • @DanaeLaurenTolbert
    @DanaeLaurenTolbert 7 місяців тому +7

    Another form of gaslighting is putting words in someone's mouth. This used to drive me absolutely insane. When I called it out, the person hung up on me. I didn't yell or scream, I asked calmly, "Are you gaslighting me?"

  • @wfrench2863
    @wfrench2863 7 місяців тому +13

    Must listen again and again to fully under
    stand gaslighting,, I'm one of those people that has to listen over an over ,
    TYCMM!

  • @laurajane4806
    @laurajane4806 7 місяців тому +9

    Gaslighting is a diversion technique. It works in 3 steps. Deny, divert, dismiss. The diversion stage (their step 2) is a technique where they bring up a semi related topic with strong (yet feigned) emotion. This triggers the target into a defensive emotional reaction. Your reaction is their goal. Catching them off guard by not allowing it will absolutely get them off your back. In fact, u may never hear from them again, YAY!! :-)

  • @PaulaMillington
    @PaulaMillington 7 місяців тому +15

    Wow! This was great 👍🏾 and powerful information! As I listened attentively a scene from the movie The Color Purple came to mind that speaks volumes to this message. The scene was when, after so many years of Mister’s abuse of Celie , and Shug Avery came on the scene and befriended and empowered Miss Celie, and one day when they were all sitting at the table eating together that Mister began insulting Miss Celie when she had began to speak up for herself. After he finished with his verbal abuse (trying to discourage and mind control her as he often did) but instead of Celie shrinking back and feeding into what he said, her response was: “did anymore letters come?” And the rest was history!! When Shug and her husband completed their visit, Miss Celie left with them and Mister couldn’t stop her!! She took her power back!!

    • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
      @sunshinesunflowerz1647 7 місяців тому +2

      Yep. I love the original movie AND the original book; at one point, I had the book, don't know where it went but I hope it blesses that person like it did me.

    • @diamondjack-cooper5322
      @diamondjack-cooper5322 7 місяців тому

      AMEN!

  • @debbiegallier7019
    @debbiegallier7019 7 місяців тому +3

    I was Gaslit by my own family members. It was such a mind blowing experience that they done to me was shocked what they done and the trauma they caused and the lies they told on me out of jealousy to ruin my life and destroy my relationship with other people. She was so toxic and to find out she done it. I would never thank she would have gone that far to hurt me and cause suffering in my life. I had to go no contact with her and other family members. I can never feel the same about them. Nobody’s going to treat me like that and get away with it. I can forgive what they done but never can I be around her again because she is nothing but drama. It’s hard to go through all this because of all the drama. I can’t trust them because they are mental and they will keep doing it because she is so jealous that Iam going to be happy and find my dreams and finding a soulmate. She was unhappy and did not support her own sister and lied on me to take my son away from me when he was a baby, she betrayed me out of jealousy. I am over her and I am moving on and don’t want any thing to do with her because she caused so much drama to keep my mental health bad because of her drama. Iam going to meet people that love and support me. I can’t have her back because she will be jealous of my life and my soulmate. I put my foot down a because what she done she caused me a lot of suffering. I have to protect my life and if they keep doing things behind my back to hurt me I will call the police on them if they cause any more drama or spreading lies or hurt me any kind of way I will call the authority about her. I pray for her and hopes she can get help. I don’t want any contact with them.

  • @raybrensike42
    @raybrensike42 7 місяців тому +13

    Cat and mouse games usually have the element of sorcery or witchcraft in them, don't they? Yet, sometimes people play around and have fun with one another, making jokes and such, but when it's in a harmful way, isn't it something of sorcery and craft?

    • @Ax.DaEdge
      @Ax.DaEdge 7 місяців тому

      Yes, it is!!
      Witchcraft - Domination,
      Intimidation, Manipulation (DIM)

  • @Mrdonny908
    @Mrdonny908 7 місяців тому +2

    I love this woman ❤

  • @riel4553
    @riel4553 7 місяців тому +3

    16:46 "When people use always and never"
    Add "every" to the list, I get this a lot in these interactions: "Everything bothers you!!" "You do this everyday!!!"

  • @melissasmind2846
    @melissasmind2846 11 днів тому

    ❤ shared

  • @Rafaela5421-w6d
    @Rafaela5421-w6d 4 місяці тому

    Love your content, because you give the praticals exemples. ❤

  • @williamrobinson4513
    @williamrobinson4513 7 місяців тому +6

    The fact is that your EXPERIENCES are different from their experiences. Your reaction is mostly THE SILENT TREATMENT when they are set in their ways (based on either experiences, THIS GOES BOTH WAYS). You know what you know and they know what they know. The difference is that THEIR EGOS, FEARS AND STUBBORNNESS won't allow them to see anything differently (based on what they experienced, negatively). Your calming, caring and LOVING DEMEANOR allows you to have OPINIONS to not engage with people with GASLIGHTING TENDENCIES (including LIMITING YOUR TIME with them, and LEAVING THEM ALONE, based on what you experienced positively).

  • @katrinabrown3561
    @katrinabrown3561 7 місяців тому +2

    I just blocked my brothers and now I received news that seems like a sign not to block them, because I never know what life brings; but at the same time I just want peace

    • @Ax.DaEdge
      @Ax.DaEdge 7 місяців тому +1

      Q: Who was the 'news' from ??
      Could be a trick of the Enemy to keep you connected to drama/toxicity/ Generational/Bloodline Curses.
      But you know the situation best.
      My wish/pray for you :
      Truth, Revelation & Wisdom.
      Good luck!

    • @katrinabrown3561
      @katrinabrown3561 7 місяців тому +1

      @@Ax.DaEdge yeah it’s sad genuine news but I finally determined that I’ll stay adamant to my goal to block until I see real change

  • @moniqueberrian5880
    @moniqueberrian5880 7 місяців тому +5

    This was a great message, thank you so much for sharing this information ❤️

  • @wendylee7242
    @wendylee7242 7 місяців тому +3

    That was Charles Boyer,ingred Bergman, good movie,he had her losing her mind,and this is what people on the job,and family members try to pull on ya

  • @Movieclips_101
    @Movieclips_101 7 місяців тому +4

    Great informative video and message Amen 🙏🏾

  • @clairesweeney4334
    @clairesweeney4334 7 місяців тому +5

    Yet another GEM 💎 Ms. Mack!! 🥰

  • @denisedawson1085
    @denisedawson1085 3 місяці тому

    💯

  • @angelam.1416
    @angelam.1416 7 місяців тому

    This is the best video on how to deal with this. Thank you!

  • @ChosenOfGodToProsper
    @ChosenOfGodToProsper 7 місяців тому

    My gasliter is different. It's a superior who dismisses everything I say about my experience and tries to make it seem as though the person didn't call me names even though I heard it with my two ears. Now I'm documenting my experience and copying human resources. The BS and the foolishness has stopped so far.

  • @rheafrancois1348
    @rheafrancois1348 7 місяців тому +2

    Dealing with this now!

    • @Coco-og7zw
      @Coco-og7zw 7 місяців тому +1

      Same here! Watched the movie she referenced, and I was blown away cause it's everything he does.

  • @AskAuntChina
    @AskAuntChina 7 місяців тому +1

    Oh yes… a particular person behaved erratically when we worked alone and composed in front of others
    Instead of reporting a 40plus woman’s childish behavior I chose not to see or hear her from that point on…. Works perfectly!

  • @RagingCompassionYhwhis1
    @RagingCompassionYhwhis1 7 місяців тому

    Needed!!

  • @qvivid
    @qvivid 7 місяців тому +1

    🖤

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 7 місяців тому

    And trying to force me be ause after switching my email off the same way you do now . Editing what was being said on top of that send messages telli g me to shut my mouth ! Threatening me and telling me what I need to say !!

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 7 місяців тому +1

    Stop playing with my email than telli g me you did t edit my email !! That's exactly what you would do before. I'm in my email writti g what I need it to wrote about what had happened to us !! My email would be switched off. !! No no !!

  • @katebueno191
    @katebueno191 7 місяців тому

    Just like you doing now !! Edited my things !! And then sat there with this same system you doing it now !! Deny it !!!!!!