They know your potential and that makes them feel insecure and intimidated, which are the two ingredients to envy. They now plot, with Satan, to steal your focus, kill your joy, and destroy your peace so you don’t work on God’s purpose. They’ve tried for years, even took advantage of me, with me and every time they see me focused and not depressed it angers them. That’s how I knew that they were after my purpose. Now I can attest that they’re beyond miserable and destroyed their future. Thank you for this ❤
I have to say I definitely agree that they aren’t confused about what they do. It’s just..They think they aren’t seen for what they are. These are the kind of people that lay in wait for opportunities to wreak havoc upon your mental health. The more you are around them, the more opportunities they have to get at you. Even small interactions can end up being a nightmare. And if you don’t give them access, or attention they will attempt to get at you and guilt trip you about it.
Thank you for saying it! Same with my family. My visiting family member doesn't even like me but is throwing a pity party cause I'm now emotionally out of reach. I'm tired of forgiving just to be harmed all over again.
@@chewiechips4986 forgiveness does not mean that they have access to you. It means that the effects of what they did and the bitterness that was born as a result of it no longer has a hold over you. Remember, trust is built in drops and lost in buckets. They’re truly angry bc they can’t have the pleasure to harm you and feed their sadistic ways. It’s time to move forward in peace, it is a privilege to have access to anyone. Remember that.
I have a friend that everytime I tell him that I'm starting a new business, he tells me I'm going to be sued. I bought a nice car that I love. He told me it's going to be expensive to fix. He's always negative and discouraging.
What's really bazaar, is that people will plot for months or years about how to hurt you via a phone call. Or they will lay in wait, until a disaster befalls you, and use that disaster to kick you when you are already down. That is a certain kind of hate that is hard to comprehend.
It’s not only by phone call. They wait for your success and when you feel good about yourself. Then they attack you with crap they made up, or mud slinging and picking arguments and accusing you of all manner of ill works. Their trigger could be your hair, your clothes, a piece of jewelry you have and definitely your success.
My son had good friends and when he finally bought a house my son ask them to come over which they did and had a good time. They lifted and never come over again played ghost he was hurt
happened 2 weeks ago. was talking to a man at a local club i belong to. thought their was chemistry and whatnot. Then out of the blue the next time i was going to see him he ignored and gave disgusted looks almost bizzare. People are just mean to be mean sometimes i guess
I have family members that do this Idecided to not have a lot of contact with small minded toxic people ,no matter who it is.I say little to them and walk away.🙏❤️
Yes. My mother do it to myself and others often. She especially chooses to do it to me. I have discovered that she honestly don't know God on an intimate level and this causes her to not be able to truly love self and others like she should. She will quote certain scriptures to a certain extent to only use it as an opportunity to bash others. She never use the Bible as a tool to self reflect.
YES! I'm an only child & my mother rags on me like I've done anything but love her, but people who BLATANTLY do her dirty & make no attempts to hide it --- she ain't got NO ❌ WORDS 4 them. In fact, she goes out of her way to treat them even better the worse the treat her, but with me she is narcissistic & takes NO accountability when she's wrong, gaslights ⛽ me & guilt& tripping me. And even though I somewhat perceived it as a child, now in my 40s it has finally sunk in that my parents TRULY don't like me.
Good morning! Wonderful message. I went through this same thing years ago with my late friend. It would happen all the time and I had to learn to love them from a distance. I struggled with a lot of guilt over distancing myself from them. I never knew there was a term for it, but this has reaffirmed the decision that I made back then. Thank you for sharing. Happy Tuesday ❤
Thanks for sharing I have been dealing with words from family members words and speaking beside my back and it was confirmed through one of my nephew's girlfriends and knew it all the time my brother is the low-key shady
Countless times - family, ex spouse. I had to create distance. Didn’t know there was a word for this, so now I can be mindful and flee or call it out when I see it coming. Thank you for your wisdom! I teach my daughters the things I learn from you. I wish I had a parent who taught me these things growing up!
This happens to me with a family member. I picked them up for church and while we were together they did this to me at least 3 times. 🤦🏾♀️ It’s mainly to “one up” me as you say and to make me feel bad. I thank God for blessing me not to have an outward reaction and to appear nonchalant, and to change the subject quickly. 🙌🏾 That just reinforces that I need to keep my distance. Thankful for your ministry.
For years, I ignored this behavior , from family & others, thinking comment coming from their own frustration with life. Thank you, Casandra Mac, for saying this is a thing, a hateful, unacceptable way to continue to interact with someone. Today iam walking into a "Wake " Knowing I will walk away. There's no reason for me to engage. Best of all I really don't want to engage either. Thank you for reciting scripture I never heard.
I love that you’re adding your own music to your videos. It’s a lovely touch ❤ thanks again for all the wisdom and gems. These are things I wished my mother or grandmother could’ve taught me about life. God bless you.
WOW. This is on time Sister Mack. Thank you, Holy Spirit. Yes. The Holy Spirit me that we are to protect the joy, peace, sanity, purpose, and life that HE has given to us. Thank you, Lord Jesus. Thank you, Lord. AMEN. ❤❤❤
Oh they used the "i want to talk.." Yet and still they oozed "care and concern " BUT oh their mouth 👄 "out of the abundance of the heart the.mouth speaks " i got up in silence after about 15 minutes of DEATH having said not a word except can't we keep this civil...she couldn't. I kept walking 🚶♂️ now she acts like it didn't happen. I WISH IT HADN'T.
I know someone becomes mad and yelling at me when I'm in the high vibration. So he knows I won't be yelling at him back at this moment because I don't want to lower my vibration. This makes me think why he does it and after I feel bad for the rest of the week. Now l listen to audio and get clarity why he does it all the time when I'm at least expected
I tell you this is what I was thinking about earlier due to interaction that I had with someone earlier. It was pertaining to a business matter but the way that he chose to respond in the situation was problematic. I just got him where he needed to be and keep it pushing.
AKA emotional abuse, psychological violence. 😒 Guarding one’s heart is all well and good. However, to remain in an environment where you have to constantly be hyper vigilant is bonkers. hyper vigilance is draining. Why not get up from a table where love isn’t being served? And, this is mostly family members, or those closest to you who engage in emotional abuse. I mean, sure, there are violent work environments and everything. However, I dare say that a person should be able to handle some of these other environments a little better due to the fact that among strangers and passing interactions, there is not the emotional attachment that we sometimes have with family members. And so with family members there is an expectation of acceptance and civility and such. Thus, the effect of the emotional sucker punch is more damaging.
Part of guarding one's heart against emotional abuse in all of its forms includes removing oneself from physically & psychologically toxic environments whenever you can as quickly as you can. This is why there are many videos on this channel that speak to the necessity of distancing yourself & totally ceasing contact when you deem it necessary for your wellbeing
@@CassandraMack Thank you minister Mack. I’m having a hard time right now. These people are the worst. With specifics, it’s my older siblings. The hatred and bullying is off the charts. I’m trying to care for my mother who has cancer.. I have begun to distance myself and delegate when possible. There are some specific elements of spiritual warfare involved. It involves my purpose here. Which they are hostile towards my purpose. Very narcissistic. is there a way I can contact you for counsel?
@@aprillove10 My heart & prayers are with you. I know how stressful it is to be the primary caretaker for a family member who is not well. Praying for you and your mom. You are already doing two smart self-care tactics delegating and distancing from those who cause you undue stress whenever you're able. At this time because of the many demands on my schedule I do not offer one-to-one counseling. But I would recommend you become a member of this channel so that you can have access to our WEDNESDAY WELLNESS CLUB which is a therapeutic group focusing on mental self-care through a Biblical lens that meets twice a month by telephone conference call. If you are not able to become a channel member at this time, following is a resource for Caregivers that you may want to look into Caregiver Action Network: www.caregiveraction.org/
@@CassandraMack Thanks so much. What it is.. I have an anointing for healing and health. I have taken her off of all pharmaceutical products, though she’s not receiving any medication for her cancer, she does have an oncologist following her case. I have managed to stabilize my mom’s cancer using Holistic and naturopathic treatments. The oncologist has asked us for her stem cells. 😒 I have no degree from any school of medicine. I realize doing this - removing pharmaceuticals appeared to them to be ‘arrogant’ as one sibling accused me of being. But, I stepped into this on faith and belief in self. My siblings are raging with hatred for me because of this and other things. I’m the youngest and they can’t control/ manipulate me so they tried to destroy me. Keeping me from aligning with my purpose. Or at least attempting. 😒 I know that this is their problem- Emotionally immature people. I just don’t think I can take much more of this. Trying not to become bitter. 😒 Thank you for your prayers.
God bless you God bless you the song is wonderful beautiful told beautiful vocals, beautiful words. Oh God inspired because you’re all freed up. We really appreciate your teaching. God bless you. Happy new year.
Charity is a wonderful thing. It lasts. It's new every day. It endures. Charity covers a multitude of sins. It also will reveal when it needs to, and yet even in the revealing, it will still cover. It won't always make mention of a fault or shortcoming over and over and over again. It will tell the truth, but it will do so in a godly way.
They know your potential and that makes them feel insecure and intimidated, which are the two ingredients to envy. They now plot, with Satan, to steal your focus, kill your joy, and destroy your peace so you don’t work on God’s purpose. They’ve tried for years, even took advantage of me, with me and every time they see me focused and not depressed it angers them. That’s how I knew that they were after my purpose. Now I can attest that they’re beyond miserable and destroyed their future. Thank you for this ❤
This has happened to me MANY times, by family members, yet they're confused about why I decided to LOVE them, FROM A DISTANCE or chose to be SILENT.
No no they’re not confused that they can’t have access to you, they’re confused as to why you’re not falling for their ways.
I have to say I definitely agree that they aren’t confused about what they do. It’s just..They think they aren’t seen for what they are.
These are the kind of people that lay in wait for opportunities to wreak havoc upon your mental health.
The more you are around them, the more opportunities they have to get at you. Even small interactions can end up being a nightmare. And if you don’t give them access, or attention they will attempt to get at you and guilt trip you about it.
Thank you for saying it! Same with my family. My visiting family member doesn't even like me but is throwing a pity party cause I'm now emotionally out of reach. I'm tired of forgiving just to be harmed all over again.
@@chewiechips4986 forgiveness does not mean that they have access to you. It means that the effects of what they did and the bitterness that was born as a result of it no longer has a hold over you. Remember, trust is built in drops and lost in buckets. They’re truly angry bc they can’t have the pleasure to harm you and feed their sadistic ways. It’s time to move forward in peace, it is a privilege to have access to anyone. Remember that.
Yes- it's really hard when as an adult it comes repeatedly from your own Dad.
I have a friend that everytime I tell him that I'm starting a new business, he tells me I'm going to be sued. I bought a nice car that I love. He told me it's going to be expensive to fix. He's always negative and discouraging.
What's really bazaar, is that people will plot for months or years about how to hurt you via a phone call. Or they will lay in wait, until a disaster befalls you, and use that disaster to kick you when you are already down. That is a certain kind of hate that is hard to comprehend.
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It’s not only by phone call. They wait for your success and when you feel good about yourself. Then they attack you with crap they made up, or mud slinging and picking arguments and accusing you of all manner of ill works.
Their trigger could be your hair, your clothes, a piece of jewelry you have and definitely your success.
@@aprillove10Exactly!
My son had good friends and when he finally bought a house my son ask them to come over which they did and had a good time. They lifted and never come over again played ghost he was hurt
My mother, a sister, and a few brothers smh.
happened 2 weeks ago. was talking to a man at a local club i belong to. thought their was chemistry and whatnot. Then out of the blue the next time i was going to see him he ignored and gave disgusted looks almost bizzare. People are just mean to be mean sometimes i guess
I have family members that do this Idecided to not have a lot of contact with small minded toxic people ,no matter who it is.I say little to them and walk away.🙏❤️
Yep. I hear you loud and clear. I pray things get better for you IN JESUS' NAME. I pray your strength in the Lord IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
@@ladennayoung2939 Thank you..
Yes. My mother do it to myself and others often. She especially chooses to do it to me. I have discovered that she honestly don't know God on an intimate level and this causes her to not be able to truly love self and others like she should. She will quote certain scriptures to a certain extent to only use it as an opportunity to bash others. She never use the Bible as a tool to self reflect.
YES! I'm an only child & my mother rags on me like I've done anything but love her, but people who BLATANTLY do her dirty & make no attempts to hide it --- she ain't got NO ❌ WORDS 4 them. In fact, she goes out of her way to treat them even better the worse the treat her, but with me she is narcissistic & takes NO accountability when she's wrong, gaslights ⛽ me & guilt& tripping me. And even though I somewhat perceived it as a child, now in my 40s it has finally sunk in that my parents TRULY don't like me.
It happened to me. I knew exactly the intent, sadly stayed around to confirm what I already knew.
Thank you for the explanation.
Good morning! Wonderful message. I went through this same thing years ago with my late friend. It would happen all the time and I had to learn to love them from a distance. I struggled with a lot of guilt over distancing myself from them. I never knew there was a term for it, but this has reaffirmed the decision that I made back then. Thank you for sharing. Happy Tuesday ❤
Thanks for sharing I have been dealing with words from family members words and speaking beside my back and it was confirmed through one of my nephew's girlfriends and knew it all the time my brother is the low-key shady
"A whole 2x4" 😂😂 hilarious, and so true.
You always on time with the message 💯❗️
Countless times - family, ex spouse. I had to create distance. Didn’t know there was a word for this, so now I can be mindful and flee or call it out when I see it coming. Thank you for your wisdom! I teach my daughters the things I learn from you. I wish I had a parent who taught me these things growing up!
Exactly!
GOD please protect me from all evil!
AMEN!
This happens to me with a family member. I picked them up for church and while we were together they did this to me at least 3 times. 🤦🏾♀️ It’s mainly to “one up” me as you say and to make me feel bad. I thank God for blessing me not to have an outward reaction and to appear nonchalant, and to change the subject quickly. 🙌🏾 That just reinforces that I need to keep my distance.
Thankful for your ministry.
For years, I ignored this behavior , from family & others, thinking comment coming from their own frustration with life. Thank you, Casandra Mac, for saying this is a thing, a hateful, unacceptable way to continue to interact with someone.
Today iam walking into a "Wake "
Knowing I will walk away. There's no reason for me to engage.
Best of all I really don't want to engage either.
Thank you for reciting scripture I never heard.
Word … when you know you know. 😊
So called ''friends'' have tried to do this to me along with narcissist neighbors
I love that you’re adding your own music to your videos. It’s a lovely touch ❤ thanks again for all the wisdom and gems. These are things I wished my mother or grandmother could’ve taught me about life. God bless you.
Thank you soo much ma, I'm always grateful for your messages.. you're truly an inspiration..More grace, God bless👏
WOW. This is on time Sister Mack. Thank you, Holy Spirit. Yes. The Holy Spirit me that we are to protect the joy, peace, sanity, purpose, and life that HE has given to us. Thank you, Lord Jesus. Thank you, Lord. AMEN. ❤❤❤
Just dealt with it. Jesus is my best friend i don’t need anyone else
This message is so timely ❤ amen
Thank you for helping me with my recovery 🙏🙏🙏
All prayers to the most high God is the greatest. I believe in God and God believe in us 🙏
Oh they used the "i want to talk.." Yet and still they oozed "care and concern " BUT oh their mouth 👄 "out of the abundance of the heart the.mouth speaks " i got up in silence after about 15 minutes of DEATH having said not a word except can't we keep this civil...she couldn't. I kept walking 🚶♂️ now she acts like it didn't happen. I WISH IT HADN'T.
I know someone becomes mad and yelling at me when I'm in the high vibration. So he knows I won't be yelling at him back at this moment because I don't want to lower my vibration. This makes me think why he does it and after I feel bad for the rest of the week. Now l listen to audio and get clarity why he does it all the time when I'm at least expected
I tell you this is what I was thinking about earlier due to interaction that I had with someone earlier. It was pertaining to a business matter but the way that he chose to respond in the situation was problematic. I just got him where he needed to be and keep it pushing.
I'm in peace rn.
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Alright now! I love your theme song and you sound great!
Thank you so much for this i needed this so badly
I go through this probably once a month. Im learning boundaries. Thank you!
AKA emotional abuse, psychological violence. 😒
Guarding one’s heart is all well and good. However, to remain in an environment where you have to constantly be hyper vigilant is bonkers.
hyper vigilance is draining.
Why not get up from a table where love isn’t being served?
And, this is mostly family members, or those closest to you who engage in emotional abuse. I mean, sure, there are violent work environments and everything. However, I dare say that a person should be able to handle some of these other environments a little better due to the fact that among strangers and passing interactions, there is not the emotional attachment that we sometimes have with family members.
And so with family members there is an expectation of acceptance and civility and such. Thus, the effect of the emotional sucker punch is more damaging.
Part of guarding one's heart against emotional abuse in all of its forms includes removing oneself from physically & psychologically toxic environments whenever you can as quickly as you can. This is why there are many videos on this channel that speak to the necessity of distancing yourself & totally ceasing contact when you deem it necessary for your wellbeing
@@CassandraMack
Thank you minister Mack. I’m having a hard time right now. These people are the worst. With specifics, it’s my older siblings. The hatred and bullying is off the charts.
I’m trying to care for my mother who has cancer.. I have begun to distance myself and delegate when possible.
There are some specific elements of spiritual warfare involved. It involves my purpose here. Which they are hostile towards my purpose. Very narcissistic.
is there a way I can contact you for counsel?
@@aprillove10 My heart & prayers are with you. I know how stressful it is to be the primary caretaker for a family member who is not well. Praying for you and your mom. You are already doing two smart self-care tactics delegating and distancing from those who cause you undue stress whenever you're able. At this time because of the many demands on my schedule I do not offer one-to-one counseling. But I would recommend you become a member of this channel so that you can have access to our WEDNESDAY WELLNESS CLUB which is a therapeutic group focusing on mental self-care through a Biblical lens that meets twice a month by telephone conference call. If you are not able to become a channel member at this time, following is a resource for Caregivers that you may want to look into Caregiver Action Network: www.caregiveraction.org/
@@CassandraMack
Thanks so much. What it is.. I have an anointing for healing and health. I have taken her off of all pharmaceutical products, though she’s not receiving any medication for her cancer, she does have an oncologist following her case.
I have managed to stabilize my mom’s cancer using Holistic and naturopathic treatments. The oncologist has asked us for her stem cells. 😒
I have no degree from any school of medicine. I realize doing this - removing pharmaceuticals appeared to them to be ‘arrogant’ as one sibling accused me of being. But, I stepped into this on faith and belief in self.
My siblings are raging with hatred for me because of this and other things. I’m the youngest and they can’t control/ manipulate me so they tried to destroy me. Keeping me from aligning with my purpose. Or at least attempting. 😒
I know that this is their problem- Emotionally immature people. I just don’t think I can take much more of this. Trying not to become bitter. 😒
Thank you for your prayers.
God bless you God bless you the song is wonderful beautiful told beautiful vocals, beautiful words. Oh God inspired because you’re all freed up. We really appreciate your teaching. God bless you. Happy new year.
Gm beautiful !!! Ty for this message !!
Wow!!!
Thank yuo for yuor reading and lesson 😊❤
Charity is a wonderful thing. It lasts. It's new every day. It endures. Charity covers a multitude of sins. It also will reveal when it needs to, and yet even in the revealing, it will still cover. It won't always make mention of a fault or shortcoming over and over and over again. It will tell the truth, but it will do so in a godly way.
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God blessed you 🕊️
You bring up excellent topics, only spiritual people understand you, keep on preaching.
Ms.Mack i just Love your Style!!
This is right on point. Thanks a million
Good morning !! Thank you for this message
TY so much Cassandra, so helpful. ❤
Exactly. 💯
lol The Divine does not play…I just experienced this today 🤪😂
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