BIBLICAL SUBMISSION / DO I HAVE TO SUBMIT TO MY HUSBAND ? HOW WE UNIFY WHEN MAKING DECISIONS
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2024
- In this video I hope to clearly address my view on submission, how my thoughts have changed, as well as how we deal with disagreements and decision making in our marriage.
I hope this video is beneficial around this very controversial topic.
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It would kinda be cool if you could post a video of your husband talking about what leading looks like! My husband doesn’t have any role models and doesn’t know what leading looks like.
Awe, thank you for the idea!:) I will mention it to my husband!:) that would be really fun to do together!:)
Thank you! I never had a godly role model of what submission looks like. When I’ve listened to people online they make it seem like you need to be a “silent baby factory”. It’s so refreshing to hear this and I completely agree!
I am so glad to shed some light on a much better view!:) 🥰😘
A women is a wonderful gift from God to any man who is ready to lead. If they are not ready to lead then it usually doesn't work.
Thank you for sharing this!:) it is encouraging to hear this from men.
100%
This is what you get when you homeschool your children - a very good person. Everyone should be homeschooling their children or send your children to a home that is homeschooling and pay the teacher. Or else two moms could share home teaching time so moms get time off for themselves. Our country needs to homeschool all children in order to save the country. Submitting to your husband is important because we cannot have two leaders in a marriage. We would see less divorce if couples divide responsibilities and compromise. In the end if the husband is acting like a good husband a wife will have no issues submitting or allowing her husband to lead. We have been feminizing boys and men for too long. It has destroyed marriages and thus families.
Wow, what a great topic. Before I got married, I knew that biblical submission was something I desire in my marriage and how God design marriage to be. But, when I finally got married, I saw that it was easier said than done. Prayerfully, I've worked through those issues. I am steadily working on them and learning how I can be a better wife to my husband vise versa each day He grants us. I saw the wrong in some of the marriages I grew up seeing, but I saw many rights in them as well. I love Elisabeth Elliott!
You sound like a wonderful woman!:) I so admire other women who are out on the journey to learn what being a wife looks like, and just just staying where they are or not trying to improve. Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
Wooow wooow woow love it💓❤️🙏 I grew up in a family where the mom is dominant and I hate it. I am engaged now and just about to get married to a strong yet kind man. I looove him so much and I pray that I would be an awesome wife who help and submit to him just the way you explained it and your mom and you live it
Awe, thank you.
God bless you and your marriage❤️
I met so many kind yet STRONG men over the years but got baby trapped by one that is full of anger and rage sooo thank the Lord everyday for your God fearing husband, and be his prayer warrior. God bless ❤️🙏
Ah, that was a breath of fresh air! You were very, very blessed to have a good role model in your parents! You have a lot of wisdom!
Thank you so much!:)
I was similarly eager to agree even when I didn’t during early marriage, but I think it was better than the opposite, lol! I’ve learned in marriage that we do indeed need to be honest about our true concerns and opinions, and in fact if we’re dishonest about them and act like we actually agree when we don’t, we wouldn’t need to submit! Ironically... lol. Because submitting means deferring to our husband’s wishes, and there’s no deferring needed if we already agree.
That being said, it’s so, so important to voice our opinions with respect (“reverence” being the biblical word), too. Men need and crave respect like we need and crave love. We definitely don’t want to be telling him that he’s wrong, or has a bad idea; we can gently share our disagreement in a respectful way, if that makes sense. 🙂
Men were made to lead; they instinctively know this and so they resist being controlled- particularly by the person God gave them to be their help in life. 😅 Being gentle and submissive actually tends to make most men feel the weight of responsibility and makes them more careful and thoughtful about the decisions they make. It’s like God knew what He was saying all along! 😉🧡
I completely agree with you!:) thank you so much for sharing this great perspective!💕
Well said
I often say that my spouse has a 51% majority, usually we agree, but when we don't, if I've made my best case and he chooses otherwise, I have to be ok with that. We've only had this sort of disagreement twice in 10 years of marriage. Once about what sort of car to buy, and the other time about what country we are going to live in (we're still in the process of making that decision).
There are quite a few times when I just get to take the lead, my husband doesn't really care what I buy in terms of cleaning supplies, or clothes for the kid, and I take the lead on the homeschool stuff since I'm the one doing the teaching. Similarly, he gets to buy whatever he wants in terms of tech or tools and I don't say anything (unless it starts getting crazy expensive).
I so agree with you!:) ❤️
51% or 99% makes no difference. He, your husband, not your partner, is in charge, end of story. The "51%" thing is just to tru to make Christianity more palatable to the evil world. Christianity is the opposite of modern western culture of anything goes and equality and they cannot be reconciled.
I am one of those silent slave wives, my husband is an unbeliever.. i am enduring till the end. God has great gifts for me in heaven if i keep serving and loving people even if they’re Godless.
This is such a great breakdown of this topic! 💓
Thank you!:)
This is on point! Thank you for talking about this topic, I'm working on this and God is changing my heart and this video was exactly what I needed!
Thank you!:) ❤️
Thank you
For your courage and perseverance and breaking down this important topic in such a clear biblical way
Awe, thank you so much for the encouragement!:)
I love your channel! You are so eloquent and explain things beautifully
Oh, you are so kind, thank you❤️
You are so inspiring and such an amazing example! Thank you for giving such amazing perspective on such a hard subject. This makes me want to be as strong.
Wow! That makes me SO happy to hear!:) ❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this video, you have explained this topic so well. I have tried explaining the Biblical submission in my marriage before, but never as well as this. I also really like your first point, as it's something I had never considered before ♥️
Awe, thank you so much!:) you’re so encouraging!:) 💕
Another video. I just can’t go without saying anything. You are beautiful and invaluable. The world needs more people like you🙏🏻
Wow! Thank you💕💕
I agree i pray God brings a friend like her into my life❤️
Excellent! Well said. Wish I had heard this years ago. Thankyou and God bless!!
Thank you so much!:)
I just discovered Mrs. Elliot's ministry. I adore it! Love your channel ❤️
She is amazing!:) awe, thank you💕
This is so great, thank you for sharing this!
Thank you so much! 💕
This is a beautiful example of submission in marriage. Love this insightful video
Thank you for your kind words:)
Wonderful Video! Though, Submission is a very difficult Subject
Very true!:) 😂
I think the Elizabeth Elliot writing you're referring to is actually a newsletter unless she included it in a book.
Oh I started reading her writings when you mentioned her. Never regretted it.
You look extra pretty today.
Oh maybe so. I couldn’t remember the exact place I read it!:) I’m so glad you enjoy her as well.
Awe, thank you❤️
Loved the explanation of this topic! For those of us that maybe aren’t in a relationship or are dating do you have any tips for Christian dating and stuff like that? ❤️
Ooh, thank you for the idea;) I’ll see if I can think of some things!:) ❤️
Courtship is the best way
I love this. My husband is also a paramedic. They can be challenging sometimes, but honestly pretty easy to follow. I love your honesty.
Thank you so much!:) oh, that’s neat!:)
Striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman.
Amen!:)
Great message. My parents kind of did same, it is very wrong to think male and female are equally same...except in good deeds, serving god ect mostly is equal, many women are starting to step up to becoming breadwinners and dominant in society which is unnatural.
I went to a private Catholic school that started out as a homeschooling group and saw the same thing with people taking the verses on submission completely wrong. Sadly you could tell the effect it had on children in those families as if they had boys they would be disrespectful to female teachers and other students. It made me very uncomfortable with the concept of submission for a long time, but I can honestly say that loving biblical submission has saved my marriage! I had a very “don’t tell me what to do” attitude for the first 6 years in total of my relationship (4 of marriage) and it was only when we were both laid off and stuck at home in the spring of last year that we really had to re-examine ourselves and whether we were enacting God’s will in our home. Honestly choosing to follow God by submitting to my husband is the best decision I’ve ever made. Doesn’t mean we don’t disagree, in fact we discuss everything more openly now. He values my input and I feel more supported than I ever did when I had a very domineering attitude.
Oh my goodness, this is such an awesome testimony! How crazy and amazing! Thank you for sharing this! 💕
I have been trying to figure out why you look so familiar to me and it has taken me a really long time but now I figured it out... You look just like this girl that I went to high school with I don't remember her name even though she was kind of a friend but you look so much like her
Oh that is so funny!:)
Yes! Submission isn't why your so and so got abused. It's because she chose a bad man to submit to. I chose a fantastic man and it took me YEARS to find him but now that I have, I'm good. There were other boyfriends that I'd had before him that I could have married, but I could not submit to them so I chose to not continue the relationship.
Great point! I totally agree. If you don’t respect him as a man, then don’t marry him to begin with!
YUP most of us pick angry / addiction loving / lustful men because we did not get God’s approval first. God only blesses us with God fearing men. But unfortunately i wasnt a believer until recently :( I still believe God will purify my husbands heart eventually! ❤️ I gotta have faith!
Amen, amen, amen. ❤
Just found your channel. I have dreamed about such a marriage for so many years. I desired to fulfill the role of a responsible, loving husband, to be gentle and caring with her, and yet strong at the same time. To bad my life is over. I finally realised "God" is a sadist and schizofrenic being.
nice video!! Very clearly explained. it always touches me when someone is in favor of giving birth at home, only because she has heard some positive experiences. a home birth cost my little brother's life. firefighters, ambulances ... it was all in vain. so I can understand your husband very, very well. I had tears and shivers all over my body when you talked about it.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. That is so very sad:(
Can you please please make a video about submission while dating. I don’t know if any videos are out there about what extent you should be submissive before a man you are dating is your husband
Hm, that’s a really interesting question. :)
I have several thoughts that come to mind of what I’ve seen that I don’t agree with when it comes to submission before marriage.
First, while I think it’s good to consider and put others first, I don’t believe the Bible calls women to submit to men that aren’t their own husband.
Something I’ve heard much from Christian girls is this idea that learning to submit means learning to not have a differing opinion then your man, or not to disagree, or share when you don’t think the same as him. And I really wholeheartedly disagree with that.
I think dating is a great time to learn not to nag or be pushy, but I think it is also super important during this time to really be genuine about how you feel, what you think on different topics, what you don’t feel you could compromise on, and let the guy see who you really are. ❤️
I love this quote that said something like: if you have to be the same in every area, then one of you is unneeded.
As far as how submission might look in dating, I think would be more like: learning to be kind in disagreements.
Not trying to be at all controlling or manipulate.
Maybe not trying to constantly change his mind about every little thing.
Not being his Holy Spirit.
Allowing God to lead him and not overly take charge of the relationship.
But other than those basic type of things, I don’t think I see much else in scripture that says women have to submit to who they are getting to know.
I hope that is helpful!:) thanks for the great, thought provoking question. ❤️
Husbands have the responsibility, and with responsibility they ought to be obeyed (as long as he isn't telling his wife to sin).
While I do think wives are suppose to respect their husband (not just any man, but the one they chose to marry to begin with,) I don’t believe it is ever the man’s job to tell the wife to obey him. He should be focused on loving her and laying his life down for her. She, as the scripture says, “wives, respect your husband,” should focus on her role of respecting her man. I think things go wrong when husbands start “forcing” their wives to submit, and wives begin forcing their husbands to love. Neither can be forced. They must be voluntary.