She’s Out of my League: Low self-esteem (HD CLIP)
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- She’s Out of my League: Low self-esteem
What’s happening in this She’s Out of my League movie clip?
Kirk (Jay Baruchel) thinks Molly (Alice Eve) is too perfect for him and tells her. Molly then confronts Kirk about his own insecurities. They have an argument about it and Kirk decides to leave the house.
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Kirk Kettner (Jay Baruchel) is a native of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in his mid-20s who has low self-esteem and, by his own admission, has not accomplished very much in life. He works at the Pittsburgh International Airport as a Transportation Security Administration officer, and hopes of becoming a pilot one day. He tries to get back together with his self-centered ex-girlfriend, Marnie (Lindsay Sloane). Kirk can't believe his luck when a gorgeous, successful woman named Molly McCleish (Alice Eve) falls in love with him. With no help from his stunned friends, relatives, and ex-girlfriend, Kirk must figure out how to make this unlikely relationship work, even though he's the first to admit that Molly is way beyond him.
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One of the things I love so much about this movie is that they're both right and wrong at the same time throughout the film, but particularly in this scene.
They are wrong for the right reasons and right because what they are saying and doing is wrong.
wrong
He never had an issue though until stainer made him feel bad about himself and the situation (cause stainer himself has his own insecurities and ruined a relationship himself due to low self-esteem)
This scene just resonates so much for me because I've had eerily similar conversations in real life. I relate to this whole movie because I felt like Kirk most of my life.
@@sady1139 and don’t forget his own family who looked down on him
He's a 5, until he introduces his Night Fury. Immediate 10.
😂
I didn't understand what you mean..
Night fury means?
@@ashishgrm Jay Baruchel is also the voice of Hiccup in “How to train your dragon” - Night Fury is the type of dragon he has there, and wins everyone over with it
@@LittleBunnyKungFoo 🙏🏻
🌹
I have seen dragon movie, but I don't remember details now.
As someone who struggles with low self esteem, I kinda get where he’s coming from.
Don’t get me wrong, it was a huge d-move for Kirk to blurt all of that stuff out, but when you’ve been pushed over, mocked, and bullied for being who you are all your life, it’s almost impossible to believe someone like Molly could be attracted to you, and when it does happen, you panic and start saying or doing stupid crap to ruin it almost like a defense mechanism. It’s tough and the only people that understand are those that have been through it themselves.
Agreed 1000%. I was just like Kirk for the longest time. Still am on occasion. But I found out what I was doing by going to therapy and learning ways to get out of that habit.
If anyone else reads this and relates, I want to give advice that I got from therapy that has worked for me, which I hope works for you all. Like Kirk, many of us compare ourselves to other people. But what we really do is compare their best feature with our same feature. Ex: Men compare other men's biceps or abs to their own and think "I'm not hot because I don't have a physique like that". Or in the case for women they might compare breasts or slimmer waistlines and think similar.
The trick that I learned is to first realize that they are also human like you and have flaws, and that you should to compare the other people's best with your best. They might have a good physique, but you might be a rocket scientist or a programmer, or maybe you are great at magic, or perhaps you excel at strategy games. Maybe you are creative and love to sew, or make art? Everyone has something they enjoy doing or are good at.
So relatable it hurts
Agreed on that. I know what's that. Many years ago...many...she was...
This is the Disney lie! Men are no less than any woman. They just need confidence and the ability to approach without fear. Women are drawn to confident men. Many ugly men are in relationships with attractive women. They definitely get laid with more confidence and are sexually more attractive to women.
@@ericguner that is way too easy to say but hard to execute, especially when the trauma of being called fat or lazy or stupid by even our closest family members makes us revert to our troubled childhoods in order to cope. And yes, therapy helps to recover from such trauma, but until we see it ourselves, no one will act on changing these perceptions. All we do is put up walls to help us cope with it.
I know you mean well, but to help you, that statement of yours hurts us in a deep level, and brings our past trauma back to the surface.
If you ever get a girl that's out of your league, don't point out all your damn flaws like she doesn't know already. She loves you for who you are, now make yourself better to match up to her.
Ironically, this kind of thing happened to me with a girl I met in college. We met through mutual friends and I saw how perfect she was so I figured I didn't even have a chance. I ended up just being myself around her with no pressure. Another friend convinced me to ask her out and she said yes. We dated for 4 years and just got married last year. My advice to anyone who will listen: Just be yourself and find someone who loves you for you.
I'ma gonna go one further and say just be yourself. lol
:))))
@@anthonylosego yes, but you can always be a better version of yourself .
@@Melanieortegahtx If that's what "being yourself" means to you, then go for it. :-)
Translation: I've been s*** on and kicked by everyone my entire life. I can't believe someone as amazing as you wants to be with me.
and everyone genuinely wonders why he behaves like that... lol
Amen.
And god forbid she would have to do something to actually reassure him. No nah too much to ask.
@@unlimited971 she literally lied about his job in front of her dad because she was ashamed to tell him...
As a person who had self steem problems the whole life, that's what I felt with ANY girl interested in me. The problem comes when the one who bullies you all the time is yourself...
Having low self-esteem is a real issue and prevents you from enjoying or believing you deserve or you can have nice things in life
It didn't help she lied to her parents about him tho lol. It's what set him off
@@trh3xa174 "It didn't help she lied to her parents about him tho lol. It's what set him off"
exactly!
@@trh3xa174 its real
I remember getting this girl's number 1 day serving at this bar. Her friend intervened because she was shy, and I had no idea I was apparently being flirty and she was interested. Later that night she invited me out to another nearby bar for a chat and asked me to walk her to her car after her friend left. I asked my buddy if I should drive home real quick (3 min away) and at least change shirts maybe freshen up a bit. He straight up told me "that girl fell in love with whoever you were today, not whoever makes her wait an extra 15 min". That hit home, I went straight to her, we hit it off, and continued seeing each other for some time. Sometimes you have to just let the flag fly and not worry so much on how perfect it is.
how long did the relationship last?
Your buddy is a real one
Your friend gave you some killer advice.
But how did it end, everyone is satisfied with relationships which don't last forever these days
U better keep that buddy for life
Well he did finally get her to admit the truth. Props for that.
Exactly!
Settling for a beta after finishing riding the alpha carousel?
@@after_midnight9592 Well to be fair, only betas care about who got there first. Caring about “who’s been on the carousel” is some incel, medieval sh$&. Just enjoy who you’re with, and if they cheat, Kick their ass to the curb. I’d rather be with a women who knows what they want sexually, then with some inexperienced chick who ends up getting gang banged eventually anyways, because she just discovered in her mid twenties that monogamy isn’t for her.
I think the idea is that he already knows the truth, just doesn't like hearing it out loud. His issue is that he wants her to like him for the same reasons she'd like some hot sexy guy. But he is who he is, and her reasons are based on who he is.
@@crowncentral3733 Well, you go on and enjoy the walled out carousel rider and keep thinking you're the better man for being ok with it, when all you've really done is volunteered for simp clean up duty.
This is one of the more reality based movies if one can call them that. And, it is really a great scene. Props to both actors.
She is crazy. A girl likes a guy like this needs some real world education.
@@seanleith5312 yikes sounds like you are the only one who needs "real world education" lmao
Nah that's bullshit. If a dude has basically nothing to offer to a girl who is a 9. the girl ain't gonna go for him, period. Because she could get a better man with more money and a higher status.
@@sharpmachete9581 this is bullshit. You think relationships are only about money and status? That is what makes a man "better"? Thats some bullshit that hollywood is feeding you, like that actor can only date other actors because they have the same "status". This mindset is for dumbasses that only use tinder, only use 1-10 scale for looks, meet people at clubs and judge someone based on how much money guy throws at random girls and if those girls put out on first "dates".
@@sharpmachete9581 Go out into the real world, buddy. There are a lot of average people in the world. That's what "average" means. A lot of them end up with people you might think are hotter than them.
I'm always impressed how British and Australian actors are able to sound so American. Alice Eve is not only a great dialect elocutionist, but intelligent as well, Oxford educated.
It’s something to do with the switch up between closed mouth speakers and open.
American accents are more open mouthed talking from the front, where us Aussies and Brits talk closed and near the back.
It’s easier for us to change to open mouthing, that’s why tend to pick up American accents better, than Americans doing ours.
oh great, so she's hot, she can fake a great american accent, she's an actress AND she went to Oxford????
@@TheMelbournelad holy moly, this little nugget of wisdom helps me mock Aussies and Brits so much better. My bad attempt at your accent just became good enough to be insulting to you instead of embarrassing to me.
@@colamity_5000 just be prepared to have your accent mocked right back lol.
@@colamity_5000 WIRED has a series on accent coach in Hollywood from like 4 years ago. He talks about what I said in more details
Lmao, cant see nothing but Hiccup in him 😆
This!
If there was a movie, he should play himself. Nobody better
I'm glad you kept the end of the clip, because up until the last few seconds, it's all about his self-destructive insecurity, but then at the very end, it hits on being told that she's with him because he is "safe." After many years of reflection, I see how attractive "safe" can be, and yet no one wants to hear that. It's like being told you're the "fall-back." Like you're the school they applied to in case the one they really wanted didn't accept them. It's hard to embrace being the safety and still respect yourself. But hey, if Faramir can do it...
how do you deal with being "safe"
How can you accept being the safety? I wouldn’t feel attractive and desired if I knew a woman was only with me because I was low quality enough that other women wouldn’t be interested in me
Safe is the exact opposite of love.
When you love someone because he is safe, you don't love them at all, the cost of you splitting up is just too much for you to break up.
@@treoui8739 Lust. Safe is not a part of Lust.
Safety has A LOT to do with Love. Trust. Safety. The idea that the person I'm with will want to be with me and not leave or cheat. It's not everything, of course--love also includes passion, fun, humor, and chemistry--but one of the biggest parts of it is that you feel that the relationship is stable and safe.
That's not the same as safe. That's a weak partner. A safe partner is one who is steady dependable and strong instead of one that is flashy exciting and new.
I never completely understood this scene until I dated somebody who was three or four points above me. Now I get it. I used to think it would be great being seen with an uber hottie, but in reality, it made me very uncomfortable and self-conscious. I always imagined other people seeing us and thinking to themselves, "What's she doing with him?" I felt so out of place, like I didn't belong. I felt like I needed to go back to steerage.
And then? Deets bro
I think part of the problem is that guys think that women THINK like guys. For the most part, guys go for physical attraction as their #1 requirement since guys are "physical beings." Women are more in touch with our emotions and looks isn't the #1 for women. It's understanding, respect, connection, emotional maturity, consistency. Understand that women don't have the same requirements for guys as guys do for women. A less attractive guy with a great personality will have a MUCH better shot than a less attractive woman with a great personality.
@@amyitis i would say a mature woman do that. but nowadays who is at that level ?
the hardest part about being with someone you consider above you is close -- for me comes to two things: #1, accept that every person is made up of attributes scalable from 1-10. some are hot 10/10. some are smart 10/10. some are athletic 10/10 EVEN IN THE SMART category you can have subcategories (some are smart in math 10/10 but not so much in history 5/10).
#2 Not caring what other people think of the relationship with your partner. It's no one's business except yours, hers, and the law of the land you live in (living together, domestic abuse, etc.)
dude than they way youre thinking is the problem
Watching these clips, this movie looks better than I thought. Gonna have to give it a go.
You have to love yourself eventually, changed my life completely.
The only reason he thinks he's a 5 is because of his family. His family is terrible. If he's only a 5 wtf am i
A FUCKING 10, Kirk and you are 10's by far
You're like a -5 probably 😂
Facts 💯
@@Nicholenickinicscott The amount of bullshit women will say and actively not believe or act on is crazy. That guy is not even in the same state as 10. 10 means perfect, so there is no room for improvement there? This comment section doesn't even mean anything, this isn't some grand debate that the answer will change the world. You are actively lying in a comment section so badly that we all know you are lying. Do better. This is why in order to write women in their stories men just need to think of men and remove logic and responsibility.
Less than a 5. Be realistic so you can make improvements
I love how he points out she's living on a tutorial mode.
Everybody's nice and helpful to beautiful girls, they think it's the same for everybody.
I used to say recruit difficulty but I'm going to steal tutorial mode, it's just way better
@@javierjp8549 recruit is for 7s and hot guys. Female 10s have it even easier
"Hot girls we have problems too, we're just like you, except we're hot"
@@Melanieortegahtx but they are hot tho
Agreed , Girls have it so dam easy it’s stupid af
Way to talk your way out of Sex. 😂🤣😂
One thing I've learnt in 52 years on this planet is that nobody is out of your league.
Not quite true. Generally it's important to people you're heading in the same direction, at similar places in life, etc. Otherwise one person feels like they're dragging the other along.
HA, yeah sure.
@@destroyermaker So you would consider someone who thinks they are just "dragging you along" as out of your league? That would lower my opinion of them.
But the phrase "out of your league" is usually used by others to tell you that someone you are attracted to is too good for you and you shouldn't even try to be in a relationship with that person, which is complete BS. Don't left yourself be put off by this and go for it because you never know if it could become the best thing in your life, and at worst he/she could just say no.
@@Wolfways No, they're well within their rights to want someone on a similar path as them, particularly if they want children. You're building a life together; it's not likely to work out if one of you works at a gas station and has no ambition and the other is a hedge fund manager or doctor or whatever.
But I agree sometimes we apply the term when we shouldn't and miss out on opportunities unnecessarily for it.
@@destroyermaker Yes they can believe that, but tbh if you include your partners occupation in how you judge their worth (if it's not something that you are opposed to, like you're a vegan and s/he is a butcher) then I find that quite sad.
EVERY guy on the planet needs to watch this and take NOTES! EVERY GUY.
No they shouldn't. They'd keep their hopes up and then kill themselves, once they have a reality check.
@@shkelqesiamadhe6915 sorry what? Explain both of you
I know you mean well but I just can't bring myself to take advice from someone called CrustyItalianforskin.
@@Hm-dh1vu The first one means that guys need to stop having low self esteem and to stop complaining about their issues. Basically to become more confident in themselves.
The second one means that it will only hurt more to get rejected when you have good self esteem. Because you will put yourself out there to get hurt.
Look at it like this.
It's a ladder leading to love and two guys will climb it. One with bad self esteem and one with good self esteem. But both have the same expectations, they're both 5's just like in the movie scene. But now the 5 means their ability to climb (strength, endurance etc.)
The one with bad self esteem will not risk climbing to the top, because he might fall at the top (get rejected) and get hurt very bad. He might climb a couple of steps to try, but he gives up because he doesn't believe in himself, he falls (much like the guy in the movie scene). The fall is short so it doesn't hurt, which basically translates to (if you have low expectations you won't get hurt as bad).
The guy with good self esteem will try to climb to the top because he thinks he actually can reach it (get the hot girl). He climbs high and almost reaches the top, but slips and falls (gets rejected and/or embarrassed by the girl due to not being attractive and/or charming enough). The fall is longer than the first guy's, and the fall almost kills him (gives him a reality check) because he wasn't strong enough to climb (attractive enough to get the girl).
I hope this explained it to you. I don't know why I answered it for you. Especially in such a detailed way. But I felt that the words just kept coming and I thought it was an interesting thing to write about. Ask questions if you don't understand. I think I can answer them.
@@DaveE7171 HAHAHAHAHA good point. 👌🏽👈🏽
I've been able to use that "Yea, I'm estatic" line from this movie once or twice. It is a good line!!!!
This scene is beyond anything now i will re-watch the movie
One of the few romcoms in the last 25-30 years I happen to like a lot. I tend to be of the mind most of the best are in the distant past, but this one is better than it would first appear. If I was Molly I’d be saying similar things, adding on that you can have emotional insecurities and so little about a lasting relationship is about the physical, because attraction to that fades and what do you have left?
@Rider450 All I can tell you is, if you regard it as everything you won’t be able to go a string of five minutes listening to that person without wanting to deafen yourself. Maybe not immediately, but eventually.
Hell even if it’s all about the hookup it’s downright dangerous to be suckered in by good looks alone.
Deep and true
Nobody is perfect.... But I believe self worth has nothing to do with how you look.... How much Money you make.... It is independent... I have learnt this from my housemaid... She is absolutely stunning when it comes to confidence and self-esteem.... She lives in a house with no roof and is poor... Yet she has this sheer confidence in herself and the way she uplifts others is just inspiring.... If you have low self esteem... I want you to know that it's ok... It's changeable... You create your perception so you create your self worth and so you can change it... Just don't be a victim of low self esteem...
If this is true you're garbaget. How can you afford a housemaid but then sit idly while she has no roof? Jesus. I hope that you're lying. Self worth and perception can't change shit. If she has no roof she has no roof. If she really inspired you you would grant her a position of security.
@@ChrisAssassin First of all you are judging me for my life choices that you have no control over... That makes you a garbage.... And yes I have helped her alot... But I don't like bragging about it...
@@jaiminsharma your comment states that she still lives in a house with no roof.
Yes I'm judging you. Blabbing about this person being your housemaid and someone that you admire but she has no roof on her place of residence?
If you don't like bragging about helping her why are you mentioning the specifics about her difficult situation while mentioning her working under you? Better yet why are you surprised I'm calling you out about having enough for a maid but not enough to help this woman have some housing security?
"that Makes you a garbage" doesn't make any sense.
@@jaiminsharma and ofc I'm going to judge you for your life choices that I have no control over. It's literally the premise of judging someone. That should be obvious. "IF I could control it I would have done it differently." That's the backbone of judgement and you should know that
@@ChrisAssassin Please remember that I am not you... My housemaid is a self respecting person... She denies my help everytime she feels like it.... That answers the roof part... And that roof wasn't always the problem it was during a storm.... How can you judge me when you don't know me? Do you know my living conditions? Do you know my financial background? Yes judging is easy but it's rarely true....
There was a time where i could completely identify myself with that guy. At some point i decided that i didn't want to be that guy anymore. Looking back at this 3 years later, i can't recognize myself in him even a little.
You can be whatever you want to be. It's all in your head.
True, its all about confidence and self esteem
I can relate 100%
Do you regret it? Or happy about it
^ THIS!
We dudes have all been Kirk at some point in life. But if you respect yourself and give yourself goals, you can get out of being a Kirk. You can feel like you deserve the things that you have, and work for more. Molly is attempting to teach this to Kirk at the end of this scene. She likes Kirk but it's plainly obvious that Kirk has got to do better in order not to destroy the relationship. Of course, most people will not be able to quickly, easily and gently identify this problem like "Molly" has done here. It's a movie, after all, and real-life couples can take months and years to sort out self-esteem issues--many even fail and fall apart.
definitely not true. People like me are ugly and there is no way to change it
I mean, come on Kirk, does that really matter? Molly's already attracted to you because of your personality, not because you're a 5.. because of your personality, you've been upgraded to an 8 in Molly's eyes
@Splinter-ben sounds like someone is projecting
@Splinter-ben wee-ooo wee-ooo someone is projecting!!!
@@LittleMissV you are 10 for sure 😍
what does it means?
@@NasiGorengUsa12 what does what mean?
I didn't expect this movie to be good and sincere.
It was unexpected.
If you date a girl "outside your league", she never really was outside your league.
The league is never composed of just one variable ( looks ), maybe only to the outside world.
You can break this cycle by not judging other couples.
Always circle back to why she fell in love with you. Maybe your sense of humour, the way you care, your intelligence. These are as much a part of you as your looks.
Stay confident my kings, that's half the battle.
It's only looks though. Take online couples for example. They flirt and fall in love without reall seeing each other, but when they meet and the looks fall short of expectations they mostly break up/ stop seeing each other.
Personality gives extra credits, looks get you into a relationship.
Looks still matter. The other attributes make up for it. A really good lucking guy doesnt have to put any investment or try at all. Really attractive guys are to women like women are to men. Women will simp for hot guys.
Looks really matters its the first things you will judge its on our instinct in embed to us to look for good looking person to reproduce. But i think in modern its 30% its always the attitude and behavior how you act with her in public how do you communicate and are you capable of treating her like a princess.
Nowhere on earth would this not repulse a woman
Low self esteem is the biggest turn-off
So you'd go out with a 2 with high self esteem? BS.
@@jwil4905 the 2 with high self esteem is a creep.
@@jwil4905 Only after shes 32 and hit the wall with 130 bodies from Chad and Tyrone.
@@jwil4905 what kind of backwards fucking logic is that. lmao. grow up dude
@@browhat4008Do you seriously believe this incel crap?
I've been a ten since the day I came out of the womb and will be a ten until I go to the tomb
I'm sure you are sweaty.
That's the spirit.
The guy sounds like some badass viking chief.
Who also has a night fury
If you don't think of Hiccup when you hear that voice, you don't have a childhood.
FACTS
He needs to learn a basic military principle: " F*** first. Ask questions later."
If there's such a film called fantasy or work of fiction, this is it. This is the movie.
So stupid. I'm a solid 5, and my wife is a solid 9 (seriously just shy of movie star material). I never questioned a thing when she asked me out when we were 15 years old; I just gave her an enthusiastic yes and proceeded to do everything in my power to build a great relationship with her.
Every time someone noted that my wife is so much hotter than me, I'd just say "yep". When they would ask what a girl like her was doing with a guy like me, I's just say "dunno". I never fed into that beauty caste system that so many people seem to be caught up in.
We have been married for 22 years. There's a REALLY GOOD possibility that there are aspects of me that she legitimately loves, especially when you consider that I'm also not rich or famous.
Thank you! It seems there are a lot of hurt angry men in these comments.
You're probably not as ugly as you think and you hooked her early on.. She was playing the long game and waiting for the glow-up.. I'd suspect that someone close to her also warned her about the 'hot guy' and that beauty is just skin deep (true)..
You (Edit: generally speaking) can physically attracted to anyone, it doesn't mean the shit will work at all.. you need connections on 3 levels (mental, emotional, and physical) for a relationship to succeed and be long-lasting.. It's almost as simple as 'how do you feel once post nut clarity kicks in?'. Do you want to stay with the person and cuddle and pillow talk/fall asleep or are you questioning what you just did and want to extricate yourself from the situation immediately? If your answer is the latter, then you definitely have 0 attraction outside of the physical.. move on.
@@dre32pittI don't think much of your conjecture applies since she asked me out when we were 15 years old -- literally children, and well before either of us even considered sex.
We were close friends who became romantically involved. But it's clear to me that she fell in love with me for reasons other than my physical attractiveness -- and stayed with me for those same reasons.
@@Josh-99 im obviously not talking about 'you' directly, but 'you' in general (everyone), since you've only been with one woman you're entire life.. you don't have the experience to comprehend the second part of my response. My apologies for not separating those two statements via paragraph.. ill do that now.
@@dre32pitt Like the vast majority of humans on the planet, I don't need direct experience with something to extrapolate meaning and identify what the experience would be like.
For example, you've probably never been shot at in a combat situation, but you can probably understand and relate when I tell you that when it happened to me I was too busy getting myself and everyone else to safety to be scared, and that it wasn't until after the situation had been resolved and all the adrenaline faded that the reality of what I had just been through hit me all at once and freaked me out.
You get that, right? You can probably see how military training would kick in at the first shot and your body would go into automatic? In the same way, I can understand how having meaningless sex with someone could lead to regret post coitus, as well as an awkward conversation the next morning -- even though I've never actually experienced that discomfort myself.
Everybody in the comment section, is acting really like woke, yet when you meet a “kirk” in life, most of us act like his family members. It’s the hypocrisy of being an outsider to that life. Kirk’s self doubt is obvious. Heck I’d question Molly’s decision too. Not that’s it’s not an incorrect assessment, but it’s logical. When you see her life, her friends, and her ex. People say personality always wins, but looks always so get first preference. That’s why high end work places have uniforms, partly to make you look presentable. Anybody saying looks don’t matter is a hypocrite. Coz as fellow humans it takes us mere seconds to decide if someone is worth your time, just by looks example. Dating apps. Although I do think that the discussion that molly and Kirk had would have been much easier to have at second or third date, instead of before being intimate.
I very much agree. People gotta think logically sometimes
Nah not really. My brother's a good looking guy, he's tall, stylish and has a boyishly handsome face that girls go for but almost all his girlfriends have been plain. When we met the last one, we saw she was plain but we would never have behaved like this! She was nice, joined in on the fun and we all liked her.
Did I think he could do better looks wise? Yes, absolutely! but I accepted that she had other qualities he liked and I never said a word to him about it.
I think your over-emphasize looks in your analysis, and fail to add that she was not just dating down in terms of looks, but also in terms of status. Kirk isn't just average-looking, he is also working dead-end jobs and has no ambition. I'd say that's a bigger deal-breaker for most women than that he's not hot.
This is my favorite fantasy movie
Well we all know why she stayed with him...his big package🤣 but man I absolutely loved this movie and I've definitely seen it a couple of times and never gets old! and yeah if you have insecurities then try your best to fix it.
Funny, because a similar relationship to this is how I got my wife of 14 years and counting.
The good thing about being "the safe guy" is that your hobbies and friends and interests are sacred - they are what make you who you are. She won't be able to mess with them so easily, especially if you speak up. You can even introduce her to new things because you "from different worlds".
The bad thing is that the awkwardness and self-loathing never really goes away. Instead you have to focus on the fact that she loves you despite all your disgusting and pitiful and shameful features. Keep reminding yourself so you can maintain the relationship.
The internal struggle is tiring, but so far it's worth it.
Awkwardness and self-loathing never goes away? Disgusting and pitiful shameful features? haha bro what kind of simping is this. If you are a grown man and you think you have disgusting and pitiful features and you are not doing anything about it you deserve the unconfident, negative mindset you portray.
@@person1113 What I'm saying is: if you're dealing with those issues, they're YOUR issues to fix. Using other people as a crutch will resolve nothing.
People who are dealing with awkwardness and self-loathing can't be "cured" by having a relationship. The problem was, and will always be, in their own head.
If you think that a call for introspection and resolving your own issues is "simping," you must be another dime-a-dozen, unoriginal, shit4brains moron who just spouts buzzwords to sound edgy. On the other hand, you could have just misunderstood, in which case that's forgivable.
@@person1113 man stfu. We all hate certain parts of ourselves, we all feel unworthy of our partners every now and then. You're not what you feel, you're what you do about it
@@person1113 brutal. but i'd have to agree w u 😂
@@person1113 shut up
He was completely correct. He has low self-esteem because the girl he is with chose him because he is safe and she is also ashamed of what he does.
Alice Eve is probably the most attractive woman in Hollywood
@Roas Metten also brooke sheilds in her teen , both Connelly and shields were just cut above the rest . In blue lagoon brooke was just too beautiful , same for connely .
I think Kerry Washington is more beautiful.
Margot Robbie!!!! But barely. Alice is 9.9999999 to Margot’s 10.0
nah, phoebe cates was perfect.. now, alexandra daddario is all I can think of..
@@KartikYadav-do3oc Brooke Shields was 14 in The Blue Lagoon.
i needed to watch this today
Just put yourself out there, roll with the punches, accept that it is real. The minute you let (whatever the opposite of Ego is) get a foothold, you're done for.
You never really regret the things you did; you regret the things you were scared to do.
the best fairy tale of our time xD
in the end she loves him because he's intelligent, modest, and funny. She lied to herself that she wasn't just dating someone different for the sake of it, but eventually she realized that a good person can be safe and that's not a bad thing.
Great video
Best scene throughout the movie, it is deep AF
Actually so much realism in this scene
Lovely acting and script! I know where he's coming from!
Thats a powerful scene.
Even after getting bit of in shape and getting a decent job. I am still a 4 maybe. Now it doesn't matter if I am 5 or less as it will always remain like this. RIP to those who think everyone can upgrade if they work hard.
For all you guys out there, you're a 10 if you got the nice personality and women really do appreciate it.
Beautiful women hate being hit on every time they go out. "Beautiful" woman are people too. Just say "hi" young brother
wow... intense dialogues👏
Love this movie
Only happens in the movies...
.....well sometimes in real life exceptions happen.
In real life, that’s how it works. Girls who look like Alice Eve choose guys like that ex who cheat on her, and when they’re done, they go with kinder guys like this because of a safety net/leverage.
Amen
I felt that
They were both right and both wrong. Good movie great scene
She looks like (young) Reese Witherspoon in this scene.
For a second I thought he was turning into Hiccup
good acting👌
Alice Eve is not a 10. She is THE 10.
This entire film is the most unrealistic shit in the history of mankind.
I love Alice Eve beautiful
Man they’re both spitting straight fax no BS😂😂😂
As someone who works in a place full of people, when a hot girl enters the scene she suddenly has 10 guys all chasing her. The guys? Not a single girl chasing them, because the girls dont need to. They are really just clueless how it is to an average looking person who nobody looks twice at.
This guy is totally in the right, ofcourse hes going to be intimidated if she has nothing wrong with her. Every single day girls like that have a hot charming guy asking for their number. Ive been with a girl way out of my league and this happened every single day.
It was normal to her so she didnt understand my frustrations, i trusted her 100%, but it was very demeaning to have guys completely ignore me and talk to her anyway and she would talk to them as if theyre just being friendly.
Then this girl in the movie is telling the guy that she only went for him because hes less attractive so hes less likely to give her problems? Great, nice way to prove him right and punch him in the stomach.
Heh. Yes and no. There’s always going to be a ‘wrong’ side to every decision you make. Girls don’t go after guys because ‘they don’t need to’. It’s usually because they’re waiting for the one to show them something that little bit extra, and that tries to make it work with THEM, in just the right way. Kind of like a combination lock…
What? Was she supposed to lie to him? Come on! She is not responsible for how he feels about himself. Only he can change that! She told him that because she wanted to point out that looks aren't everything to women. We go for people who provide comfort, guidance, security and other important things.
He asked her why she was with him and she replied honestly. She had tried the 'so called' guys who were in her league and they too were insecure douce bags who cheated on her. So she changed her focus and went for attributes that were more important to her. Not looks, money or career/status but someone who is attentive, kind, a good person, funny, and who made her feel comfortable being herself.
@@kazzityangel”Not looks, money or career/status”
Didn’t she literally lie to her dad about what he does for a living?
What abt ugly / avg girls. Even avg guys are begging to be with the hot ones
I'm impressed by all of the folks in the comments treating this like it provides some insight into real relationships, instead of just being the product of screenwriting.
As men we are really not allowed to have negative emotions, insecurities and doubts that result in low self esteem. Meanwhile women always cry about how a man should be patient with them.
Oh, stop whining. The insecurity displayed in the clip is understandable, but let's not pretend that it's not weak and a total turn-off.
@@alaron5698 It is understandable that it’s a turn off because that’s how many women would react probably.
Though, it is still very disappointing to me that while women don’t necessarily turn off man with this type of self esteem issues, men instead during seduction want to suppress any vulnerable thought becoming almost actors.
It is sad because, compared to women, there is disparity and lower respect given to men that have both the guts and the weakness to show some self doubt to the girl they are dating. And that mindset of “I have no weaknesses or doubts” that attracts women RARELY passes through the long term relationship.
On the other hand, of course, black pill “philosophy” is pure trash because you cannot only focus on the strength/weakness of your or her looks, humans are more than that.
@@wolvenedvard3049
Grow up and man up. You're not supposed to be weak.
@@Womanfemale12 "Not supposed to be weak"? Yeah ok, but that would just mean trying to ignore our flaws, our emotions and our insecurities.
"Grow up and man up"? How do I do that if I don't acknowledge some of my weaknesses first and them try to solve them?
Not all men are equal, not all men can solve their problems by hitting the gym and ignoring deep traumas.
I'd say we need to do both: accept the weaknesses, talk about them, show them and then adopt strategies to overcome them.
We all need therapy, as well as we need to strengthen up our personality.
A human never is a "black and white" situation.
Good sci-fi movie
Hahaha, what makes it better is the fact that the comments section is filled with dudes who think they're dating/married to a "Molly", lol the ego behind that, "I'm ugly but I married this hot babe" lmfao
@@ricaard6959 men overrating the only woman who shows some interest in them .....as always.
IDK why i love this movie.
He's not wrong when it comes to a lot of his points... I mean girls like her never really do end up with guys like him... a guys looks, money and/or placing in the social hierarchy always plays a prominent role in women being attracted to men and seeking long term relationships with them.
And I'm not saying that what he did here was right.... Because I think if you're ever punching above the belt when it comes to dating then who gives a fuck. If a nice girl comes your way then don't second guess your luck and be so insecure about it, act on it!
Girls like this sometimes have a Serious Problem with dating in Real Life. Because when Guys interact with her, everyone emediatly thinks that he's not Good enough for her and rejects or Friendzones or even Ghosts her, as a self protection, to not get Rejectet as well.
good scene :)
FRANKLY,I DON'T KNOW WHAT I DID,THOUGHT OR DREAMT TO DESERVE THE COMPANY OF A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN LIKE MY WIFE,REALLY,SHE IS SO SPECIAL, SO "RARE" IN MANY WAYS THAT I FEEL SO HUMBLE AND LUCKY TO SHARE MY LIFE WITH HER,IT WAS A TOTAL STEAL!! ALL I HAD TO DO WAS TO ASK HER HEART AND SHE GAVE IT TO ME,WE WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER AFTER A WHOLE LIFE OF KNOWING EACH OTHER,I BLESS THE DAY I MET HER.. 24 YEARS OF HAPPINESS...
LIFE IS GOOD... I LOVE YOU, BABE...♥️♥️♥️
This fight is a little too real at the end.
For a dumb and unbelievable teen movie, there was actually some very good dialogue with some meaningful messages for people of all ages.
"Thank you for summing that up."
Damn this so true, been in this exact same situation
Holy shit it's Hiccup!
The standards this society has setup for each other sometimes is rooted so hard in brains of everyone that simply falling in love with each other regardless of looks or financial background is becoming a fantasy. worst part is even the one in love cannot justify themselves also that simply they are just in love
This
Just noticed him kind of breaking the "we're fighting" demeanor @2:33 after she said Cam cheated on her. Movie just keeps on giving.
Just go with the flow man just go with the flow
Low self-esteem gang 🔥🔥🔥🔥
This movie seems to have been written off as a cheap 90's rom-com but it's really human.
Its not from the 90s the copyright information at the bottom of the video shows its a paramount pictures film from 2010
I havent seen this movie in a while, it was a good movie.
Lol facts !
BTW I read a little in psychology about Male Stress - when meeting a woman that is overwhelmingly attractive. Males become very stressed the more they like her personally. Probably because they are wired to compete for her like primates - violence was in the game. In our human societies we tried to make rules, but Genes interfere.
HES SO FUCKING BASED. RESPECT. THAT DOESNT HAPPEN IN REAL LIFE GUYS
Yeah it does. Just notnso often
"He's chasing Amy..."
This is a great movie and i feel 4 kirk bc im a 5 also
I know he has got so many problems but I don’t f**king care!!!!! Because when I’m with him I feel safe, I feel like I’m home, I feel that I’m protected, no one can make me feel this way except him😔
Alice Eve is a Hard 10
I liked this movie.
Yeah I’m ecstatic
Nah IRL a 10 wouldn't even date a 5 to begin with, let alone having this kinda conversation. This shit is straight up fairy tale.
I feel Kirk on a spiritual level on this, I wish I could be like molly
Hiccup & Astrid caught on 4k
this is a must see especially for guys who feel like they cant be with attractive women
i consider my self good looking but my problem is that iam super bad at talking and expressing my self so i have low self esteem.
You are good looking
@@Womanfemale12 thanks... you just made my day 💛
@@luksu6540
How do people react to you when they first see you? Are they nice? Mean? Do they flirt? I wanna know all about it.
@@Womanfemale12 The first reaction is that people think iam gay idk why xD
@@luksu6540
You look feminine that's why you have soft features.