Fake it til you make it. That's basically how I have been living my life for many years with chronic depression and CPTSD from childhood emotional neglect. It's tiring and I'm exhausted. 😢
We have to be careful of the difference between fake it until you make it and mask and hide everything. Fake it til you make it involves feeling the healthy emotions, mask everything has us hiding our emotions which isn't healthy.
WOW! Your example of falling asleep in your chair and then waking up confused.. This exact type of dissociation happened to me last week. I got up to start getting ready for work and was sitting in my desk chair watching the news. The next thing I knew, I woke up to my phone ringing and my boss was asking me why I wasn't at work yet. Over an hour had passed. It's not the first time that it's happened. Luckily, my boss is very understanding of my condition and she's willing to work with me on it. We've come up with a system where I text her as I'm leaving the house for work. If she doesn't hear from me by a certain time, she knows something's up and she'll call me to make sure I'm awake and functioning. Lately I've been having dreams about this morning dissociation situation - which is excellent because I seem to do a lot of trauma work in my dreams. It makes me think that my brain is finally trying to come up with a solution to this problem.
This is such a help. Great inspiring example of bravery doing the important vital work of our time, healing many eons of past human trauma, in the present generation. Thank you for being a pioneer!
Thank you. I only found out about CPTSD about a week ago. I am shocked that I have got into my forties without realising how much I was affected my childhood. I would tell everyone how open I was about it and would, when actually I was just peeling the top layer of the onion, by telling them. I am looking forward to watching more of your videos, they are helping me feel more accepting of what I am going through and realising that there is hope. Thank you kindly. 🙏🏽
You're welcome, and I'm so happy you have found the videos as they'll help normalise what you've been through and give you language too. To normalise something is to let you know after all you've come through this is a "normal" place for you to be, the experiences and the left over results are a "normal" part of what happened to you.
Welcome back to YT! Missed your videos. Don't know if this is just my janky headphones but your voice is just an iota too quiet to hear clearly. Much love.
Thank you so much for these videos! This is genuinely so helpful. I also feel quite worried after watching this because I am dissociated nearly 100% of the time. As a result of this I am mostly unable to function and struggle to develop any form of routine. My dissociation has been so bad that I have become very malnourished with multiple vitamin deficiencies and a thyroid issue as I forget to eat. Recently I did manage to briefly come out of my dissociation and I started eating 3 healthy meals a day but at some point I must have slipped back into it because I am back to not eating again. Last year went by so fast and literally nothing happened as I was so out of it. Anyway, I am going to watch the rest of your videos now and try to see what I can do. Thank you again for all the work you put into this.
Have you talked with a doctor? Mine prescribed me some propanolol, I was in really bad shape, couldn't fonction at all. I was constantly startled too. I take 5mg when I need it and it really helped me!! Since it controls the heart beat, it prevents your nervous system from going into dissociation, it has been a real life changer for me
Linda this is going to be a hard question - but would you tell your EI parent that their partner (that theyre still with) molested you as a teen? I felt then like she wouldnt believe me and i feel like now I'd sinply be passing the hurt onto her...ive been blocking the abuse out the last 25 years and im over running 😢
My heart goes out to you because I understand what you've been through and the never ending thought circles going around in your mind. My answer is the most important person to heal first is you. Sexual abuse takes significant time to heal from and it's only along the way that you can begin to determine if you want to say something, or not. It's also going to depend on your family dynamics. If your parent has continually shown you that their allegiance is to their partner, then we have to take on board that information before we make any decision. We may also need to decide if by telling our parent do we stand the chance of them not speaking to us, and how do we feel about that happening. There's so many aspects you'll need to tae into consideration before you make a decision. Be sure and sit with someone who is not emotionally involved to help you wok out what decisions are going to be right for you both today and into the future.
Fake it til you make it. That's basically how I have been living my life for many years with chronic depression and CPTSD from childhood emotional neglect.
It's tiring and I'm exhausted. 😢
We have to be careful of the difference between fake it until you make it and mask and hide everything. Fake it til you make it involves feeling the healthy emotions, mask everything has us hiding our emotions which isn't healthy.
I feel like im just going through the motions of life, but dont really feel alive.
WOW! Your example of falling asleep in your chair and then waking up confused.. This exact type of dissociation happened to me last week. I got up to start getting ready for work and was sitting in my desk chair watching the news. The next thing I knew, I woke up to my phone ringing and my boss was asking me why I wasn't at work yet. Over an hour had passed. It's not the first time that it's happened. Luckily, my boss is very understanding of my condition and she's willing to work with me on it. We've come up with a system where I text her as I'm leaving the house for work. If she doesn't hear from me by a certain time, she knows something's up and she'll call me to make sure I'm awake and functioning.
Lately I've been having dreams about this morning dissociation situation - which is excellent because I seem to do a lot of trauma work in my dreams. It makes me think that my brain is finally trying to come up with a solution to this problem.
Yes, our brain does do a lot of organising and filing away in our dreams. How wonderful your boss is so helpful!
Hi Linda! This is such a helpful video! Thank you!❤
you're welcome!
This is such a help. Great inspiring example of bravery doing the important vital work of our time, healing many eons of past human trauma, in the present generation. Thank you for being a pioneer!
You’re very welcome! And thank you for being part of our global family and for your patience whilst I regained my health to post 🦋
Thank you. I only found out about CPTSD about a week ago. I am shocked that I have got into my forties without realising how much I was affected my childhood. I would tell everyone how open I was about it and would, when actually I was just peeling the top layer of the onion, by telling them. I am looking forward to watching more of your videos, they are helping me feel more accepting of what I am going through and realising that there is hope. Thank you kindly. 🙏🏽
You're welcome, and I'm so happy you have found the videos as they'll help normalise what you've been through and give you language too. To normalise something is to let you know after all you've come through this is a "normal" place for you to be, the experiences and the left over results are a "normal" part of what happened to you.
Thank you for making this video. 💜 I am grieving as I'm listening. But hopeful, now that I have some answers and explanations.
You’re welcome 🦋
I feel the same as you 😢
Welcome back to YT! Missed your videos. Don't know if this is just my janky headphones but your voice is just an iota too quiet to hear clearly. Much love.
Thank you! I was possibly not speaking loud enough, it’s a challenge but I’ll do better on the next one and thank you for letting me know. 🦋
Thank you so much for these videos! This is genuinely so helpful. I also feel quite worried after watching this because I am dissociated nearly 100% of the time. As a result of this I am mostly unable to function and struggle to develop any form of routine. My dissociation has been so bad that I have become very malnourished with multiple vitamin deficiencies and a thyroid issue as I forget to eat. Recently I did manage to briefly come out of my dissociation and I started eating 3 healthy meals a day but at some point I must have slipped back into it because I am back to not eating again. Last year went by so fast and literally nothing happened as I was so out of it. Anyway, I am going to watch the rest of your videos now and try to see what I can do. Thank you again for all the work you put into this.
You’re welcome 🦋
Have you talked with a doctor? Mine prescribed me some propanolol, I was in really bad shape, couldn't fonction at all. I was constantly startled too. I take 5mg when I need it and it really helped me!! Since it controls the heart beat, it prevents your nervous system from going into dissociation, it has been a real life changer for me
Linda this is going to be a hard question - but would you tell your EI parent that their partner (that theyre still with) molested you as a teen?
I felt then like she wouldnt believe me and i feel like now I'd sinply be passing the hurt onto her...ive been blocking the abuse out the last 25 years and im over running 😢
My heart goes out to you because I understand what you've been through and the never ending thought circles going around in your mind. My answer is the most important person to heal first is you. Sexual abuse takes significant time to heal from and it's only along the way that you can begin to determine if you want to say something, or not. It's also going to depend on your family dynamics. If your parent has continually shown you that their allegiance is to their partner, then we have to take on board that information before we make any decision. We may also need to decide if by telling our parent do we stand the chance of them not speaking to us, and how do we feel about that happening. There's so many aspects you'll need to tae into consideration before you make a decision. Be sure and sit with someone who is not emotionally involved to help you wok out what decisions are going to be right for you both today and into the future.
@@ComplexPtsdRecovery thank you Linda that's awesome advice 🙏
Rach
Medication reccomendations for this? I need something for the pain
I'd see your doctor. The only meds I had were advil.
@@ComplexPtsdRecovery some.neurosensory exercises really helped Ty!
Hello from Geelong thank you for your very helpful videos much appreciated!
Great to have another Aussie here! Thank you and you're very welcome!
@@ComplexPtsdRecovery 😊
So much for me to still learn! Thank you for sharing your journey through this nightmare of a time. ❤❤❤
you're welcome, thank you for being part of our global family!
So validating to remember our brain needs time
Is sure does!
Peace & Life Everlasting with Jesus ❤️
Thank you 🙏🏻