You guys are asking. Husband’s brother(ajubonim) Husband’s brother’s wife(hyungnim) Many of you think hyung is just what you call your older Brother If you are a male but it’s also what the younger sister in law calls her older sister in law married to her husbands older brother~ so many family titles to remember hehe~
Thank you for explaining. As soon as I heard you say it (forgetting about the subtitles 🤦🏽♀️) I pulled up my Papago to look up 형님. I was thinking wait..that’s not right..lol.
In my first apartment my neighbor was a Korean grandma and her son didn’t really visit her so she adopted me and my sister she would always give us food and ask us lots of questions to make sure we were healthy. I miss her
I partially can confirm what Megan said. I never had a Korean mother in law but I was in a bad Situation in Korea. A guy saw me on the street. Took me to his home in which his mom and dad also lived. He was out the next day. And lemme tell you, I've never experienced such heartwarming parents. They literally treated me like their daughter. The Father wantes to buy me Shoes (Cuz mine got holes in it. And I was broke af) The mother took great care of me. Making me Tea so that I can be healthier. She looked at me like a Mother could look so lovely to her Child (Even tho I wasn't her child) And said "You're beautiful" with such affection. Another time "You're an angel" I really felt like they are my Patents. I miss them so much. Another story: When I went to Korea (Flight from Amsterdam to Incheon) I was soooo sick. No sleep for over 30 hours. Back pain. Didn't eat. I sat down next to a Korean couple. Their age around 40-50. During the flight, I felt so dizzy and my stomach hurt cuz of my bad condition. You know what the Woman did? She took my Hand, gave me a massage. Told his husband to ask a flight attendant for painkillers. Which he did. They were worried about me. A stranger. But the mother was sooo lovely. So the flight attendant thought I am their daughter xD
Not only did you meet the love of your life, you scored the best in laws ever. I’m so happy for you!!!! ♥️ I’m so happy you have this family in Korea now
Not really sure if this counts, but the father of my two children is Korean. His mother treated me so well when I was pregnant. I remember when she held my hand and asked me if I was happy. When I gave birth, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She still made the trip to our home to clean and cook for me. She shortly passed away after my first was born. I’ll never forget her love and kindness ❤️
@@lustwaffe9000...it probably, was the one thing (to visit her grandbaby) that got the MIL out of bed daily, which kept her going until she no longer could!!
Moon's mother is so stylish - I love the way she's dressed in this video! She seems so nice - you're lucky to have such a mother-in-law in Korea or from any other country - you lucked in.
She said *slapping people with kimchi* and i got the most ridiculous kung fu hustle style image of a giant nappa cabbage being used like a chancla and i frickin lost it LOL
I am American married to the younger Korean brother (of 2) and moving to Seoul (where all his family is) in August. This is helping me understand SO much of what I've encountered with my in-laws in these first few months of marriage... Thank you for helping me realize this is all normal!!
I literally saved this video under "Happy ❤️". Love felt 100-fold. I also feel like your willingness and commitment to learning the language and respect and participation of the Korean culture has put you in such great stead. Who wouldn't want a daughter-in-law like that ❤️
I'm so grateful you have a good relationship with your in-laws. That is a blessing I hope for all who get married. But I know, that is not the case for everyone.
Thank you. You are a great representative for people who want to know about Korea from a non- Korean’s perspective. As a Korean American living in the U.S. appreciate your thoughtfulness and respect you have for your n
My lead supervisor was Korean (Osun) and she became like my second mom. She “adopted” my daughter as soon as she was born and gave her own Korean name (하늘) and man do I miss her. I moved to Japan and I still talk to her all the time and it’s true. Korean 할머니 go HAM! They’re the best.
Your FIL is so talented, those trousers are absolutely lush! And your MIL is just the sweetest. You, Moon and your family are so lovely and deserve so much happiness
I’m not married to a Korean but I’m already seeing some of these things from my coworkers at the school I work at here haha (most of them are female and/or older than me). They keep FEEDING me lol! 😂 Or taking me out to eat (and always paying) or sending me home with snacks. We’re off school right now because of the virus and they keep writing me to check in and worrying that I’m going to get sick or lonely... It’s actually really sweet 🥺 Occasionally my American side will think “I came here to get more independent not be coddled!!” and I think that’s where some misunderstandings can come up in these in-law situations as well, but you definitely scored good in-laws and I think I scored great coteachers as well 🥰
A huge part of Korean Culture is a waterfall effect. Basically, the parents, elders, seniors at school or work will make sure you are properly taken care of (not all the time but just in general) That's one of the reasons age, seniority, and hierarchal positions and respect are considered so important. In turn, you would be expected to care for your children, juniors or new recruits in the same way you were taken care of. I remember being a westerner first working in Korea, my senior took so much care for me buying me lunch and even allowing me to crash at his place when my place flooded out. In turn, I remember him telling me, when a new guy came into the workforce, for me to 'teach him the ropes' which generally means to take care of him just as I took care of you.
jollajolyo yes!! Funny thing is, I naturally started doing that to the new crop of foreign teachers this year lol. Either it’s just my personality, or it’s rubbed off on me haha
@@stargirl7646 I'm Chinese American and I am definitely very western in my ways (though I was raised in a strictly Chinese household). However, when my aunt (who is younger than me and raised in China/Macau) immigrated to the US, SHE would do the same thing and take care of me and make sure I was safe, etc. Even though she's the same age as my younger sister! It's definitely in the culture. And, not gonna lie, it feels nice to be cared for sometimes, even if you don't necessarily want it in that moment. (Like you, I'm trying to seek out independence and do things on my own LOL). I think this video has given me a better perspective on my own family's culture and appreciation for their "coddling" ways.
My Korean mother in law bought me the most comfortable bed comforter I'd ever had and she's paying the deposit on our new apartment when we move in next month. So I make sure to buy her nice gifts especially when I vist my family in American because she loves Ralph Lauren, Michael Kors, etc.
The give and take comes in play when the children take care of their parents as elders I think. In North America we do not have a culture of taking our parents in when they are old and cannot support or care for themselves as much as I have noticed in many Eastern cultures.
While I definitely hope to be able to care for my parents as they age, in the States there are so many things that hinder young people from doing so. Outrageous amounts of student debt, the fact that so many occupations are becoming obscure and the rising cost of living all make it very difficult for young people to take care of themselves let alone parents and grandparents. Again, I’m not making excuses, but there are a few things to consider.
Lotz'erShawna you don’t have to go to far east to notice it. In Latin American culture is the same way. Honestly I’ve notice it’s mostly an American thing.
It's the same thing here in the UK. Not many people will care for their elders. My brother is a carer for my mum, because she has M.S. Though, he needs pressure taken off of him, he doesn't accept help.
same with all latin cultures I think... I'm from spain and it isn't a "rule" but past a certain age or if illness happens you're expected to look after your grandparents, parents and other elder relatives. It's very frowned upon to leave them to care for themselves or even putting them in home cares.
You're raising so many important points here, Megan, cudos to you! I come from an extremely individualistic country where kids are recommended even by the government to pay rent to their parents as soon as they turn 18. Meeting my Korean husband over seven years ago and coming to terms with my family in law was very difficult at first, as I felt as if they were trespassing on my privacy, treating me like a child, and everything else you mentioned in your video. Now that I've finally come to my senses I really feel so much love for all of my family in law. I'm not kidding when I say they've made me a better person and I'm so thankful. My MIL somestimes even feed me stuff, like literally with her hand! It's all good though! And finally, I'm happy to hear that you're finding your place in their family so fast.
I want to know more about 효도 - what is expected from a daughter-in-law? What are ways that would show a parent that you care for them, and how do Korean parents want to be honored? I would love to see you do a video on this since it's such an important part of a family dynamic.
I agree! From what I've seen and heard, the daughter-in-law is expected to do all of the cooking and cleaning when she goes the in-laws house (for example on holidays), and that the couple must always go to the husband's parent's home first. Like you, I also married a Korean man. We all live in Canada, but my husband and I only see his parents a couple of times each year, as we live far away. I think because you and I are not Korean, the expectations for us as the daughter-in-law are very different! Maybe we are lucky? :)
@@ekcolenu This is true. Non-Korean daughter-in-laws are likely given much more freedom. Because I'm Korean and spoke the language, my in-laws thought that I'm "fully Korean" and gave me the full treatment. Frequent visits were expected despite living far, cooking and cleaning once I got there was the norm on top of random errands that took up my weekends. The husband and I couldn't take it anymore and said something, and now things are just a little bit weird. Glad Megan lucked out.
It's really heartwarming to hear how your in-laws take care of you as their own. Especially since you are far from your own natural family. And your mum-in-law is fab for taking part in your video. She's so cute and has a really warm smile. So happy for you Megan! Oh and your dad-in-law has SKILLS! Those trousers are gorgeous 😍
Megan, thank u for making this video. I recently married into a Japanese family and I didn’t understand so many way in-laws show affection, and this video made me realize that I was not understanding that they wanted to help to show their love. Its a different way of expressing love than westerners. I really appreciated this video, it changed my family life. Thanks again.
Aww that's so sweet. I hope like more Korean parents are more open about their kids getting married outside of their own ethnicity and race. But this video was very cute and wholesome honestly smiling the whole time.
Wow this video was honestly so helpful. My korean mother in law has been showering me with food and expensive gifts and I don’t know how to handle it! I, too, feel the pressure to somehow give back. It’s nice to know that’s just how they are! Thank you Megan❤️
Amazing video Megan 💗💗💗 treasure the time you have with your in-laws, sadly my hubbys parent's both passed away young and and unexpected, after the first few rocky years of with my mother-in-law, she grew to love me, and eventually we became best friends, I married her 1st born and only son, he has 4 sisters, lol and at first she thought i stole her son, but later realized, after i kept showing her love and respect, that she loved me too, i took care of her thru several illnesses when her daughters were too busy. But i would drive over an hour each way with a baby in tow to bring her homemade soups and go get her groceries, medication etc... id bring her gifts saying they were from her son. Lol,,, but she knew they were special gifts i would go get her, after she passed away i took in her beloved pomeranian dog, and she is now 19, blind and deaf, and yet in good health, i take care of her 24/7, it's hard work but she would of done the same thing, i miss my mom-in-law everyday!! She was just like a real mom to me, not every wife is so lucky, I'm so happy you have a great new family!! Treasure them always!!!
I’m really happy you’ve established a family there & that your mother-in-law finally has the daughters she’s always wanted💕💕 Your father-in-law did an AMAZING job making those pants👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Sounds like you have great in laws. But, it is also very gracious of you to do such a positive vid on this sensitive topic bc I'm sure there were some difficulties, too. Just want to say that it speaks to your positivity that you did this vid. Kudos to you!
Thinking back to my Mexican culture. It’s the same, except we as mexican American children do misinterpreted their meaning behind their actions. I did have many times i felt they thought I wasn’t capable, but you made me realize they just wanted to do it out of love and because it is something they can do. Great video!
While the whole video makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside, you have to remember that Korean parents also don't save much for retirement with the expectation that their kids will take care of them.
@FBar It goes both ways. The parents kick their kids out of the house after college and are able to save for their own retirement. The kids get less support but aren't expected to take care of their parents (financially).
Awwww it's so sweet that she was at your event supporting you lol made me tear up a bit lol It's nice having a second mom when you're overseas. 09:45 so sweet!
I'm so happy that you have such a wonderful family. Your mother-in-law is so cute. I love seeing such a beautiful relationship between you two. Such a loving family. Girl just wait until you have kids. She is going to be a tremendous help!
I paid rent to my parents from the moment I turned 18 until the day I moved out. Some ppl found it weird though. I wish my parents felt that way but clearly they had no issues taking my money 😂🥴
@@Muzzi. My step father made me pay 1/2 of all the bills as soon as I graduated high school. He's wealthy & it kinda hurt me. He has never done anything for me. And I'm the youngest. On the other hand! My step sister, who is older, well! He's bought her every car she's ever had, bought her not 1 but 2 house's, still pays all her bills! And she's freaking 58 year's old!! He also has already informed me she gets everything in the Will. I don't really care anymore. I'm a independent, single woman who take's care of herself. I don't have 900 $5,000.00 purse's but I'm happy!
A lot of kids in Scotland pay towards bills once they start working. Its called digs or board depending on what part of Scotland your from. I don't pay much in digs, £85 a month. I bet that doesn't cover anything tho.
You basically described asian parents. It also applies to asian parents/in-laws living in the west as well. It's just apart of our culture, which might seem really different to people who weren't born or raised in these types of households. o: Glad you and your mother-in-law have a great relationship!
Who on earth gave a thumbs down for this video...? I'm horrified... Watching this video makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside... Just brightens my day to see so much love and support...
Oh my goodness girl you are so blessed and those pants are so cute. I want a pair. I don’t have any of my parents (I had 2 sets) and I doubt they’d have been like your in-laws. Now I have to say they sound like what I would be. I used to think I was just being over protective but your video actually brings it into more perspective. It’s so crazy how different cultures can be yet some American parents are like this and the children get upset. I’ll be showing your video to my children. No they aren’t married (to young) and they love how protective I am but they’re getting older and I feel like they’re starting to change how they feel about me being actually like your mom-in-law. I think I’m this way because my parents were protective in a sense but not very loving. Your mom-in-law seems protective and loving without smothering. There’s a huge difference. My babies will ALWAYS be my babies.
Megan I'm so glad you've found such a welcoming and loving second family so far away from the US. Korea has been your home for so long and it warms my heart to see you so happy. Bless 💞💞
Your father-in-law has great style! Those pants are BEAUTIFUL!!!! I feel like for any union, being simpatico with the in-laws is a worry. I'm so happy that everyone is embracing each other💕 and that they think about you. It's the little things that goes a long way! It makes my heart happy to see so much love💖
From watching your blind date videos to this, truly makes me believe that true love does exist and that sometimes good things take time and come when we least expect them to... You are truly blessed! I’m so so happy you found your soulmate and married into an amazing family. ❤️❤️
Hi Megan, I love that you explained the cultural dynamics in a Korean family. I'm Chinese American and can see the similarities with my own Chinese mom where she wants to help as much as possible to give you (even though I'm full grown adult) a good life. Most Asian parents express their love through actions and food. I'm really happy for you and your family. =) P.S. would you ever consider having a few cooking segments with your mother in law? (I've seen the meals and they look so delicious!) I think it'll be a great way to pass down the recipes/heritage to your twins in the future. Cheers ❤
I love their tradition it's their way of showing you they love you and they are letting you know, you are a family to them which is soooooooo sweet. Closeness it's so important. Nowadays most people don't care about their parents and even parents don't care about their children and at the same time they don't give a damn about anyone else's daughters or sons meaning if their son or daughter got married. They don't treat that person as a family member. Korean and some other culture's they do so many things for their daughter in law or son in law it's their way of saying sweetheart you are my daughter. I love seeing kind and caring people, I wish their were more people like them.
I love it - relationships with in-laws can be tough haha I’m sure you’re personality makes it easier for you to get along ! Plus Moons mom seems awesome
My in-laws are Polish and are exactly the same way as Korean in-laws. When my mother in law was alive, she did a lot of the same things like cooking food and sending it over, teaching me how to make Pierogi and kapusta etc... My father in law now lives with us and he does a lot as well. He will notice something randomly and buy whatever it is to fix it or add to the house lol. Holiday gifts are always extravagant. I've been in the family for 10 years and still trying to get used to it lol.
Oh my gosh this is the cutest video EVER....many blessings to you and your family. Thank you for sharing... And the pants, the pants, THE PAAAAANTS. BOOOOOMB.
Thank you for taking the time to show us this. KDramas have created a lot of misconceptions about mothers in Law. You pretty much hit the jackpot ! Such lovely in laws, By the way girl those pants are LIFE!!!!!!
Asian and born and raised in the US. This video actually made me realize how my dad was with me. I was probably too western but I used to hate how my dad disabled my independence. He would go into my room and clean it, do my laundry if it was full, buy necessities that were on sale like socks or leggings, bug me about wearing a coat if it’s cold, getting me gas for my car….all these things felt crippling to me when I was younger because I was craving that “independence”… we used to have so many fights about it and how I didn’t need him to spoil me with all that… now I’m realizing it was the Asian way of showing love 🥺
I love all your videos! Especially how you give a balanced outlook on cultural differences vs some other videos from other youtubers who have lots of rants/complaints.
Hi Megan! You really hit the nail on the head explaining how Asian in-laws are. I’m Asian American and my Asian in-laws, especially my mother-in-law, behaves this way. She calls me more than my husband. lol. I know it’s just because she cares and wants to show her love for you. Fantastic video! Keep up the great work!
We live in the USA for now but my mom in law is the same . She is super super sweet and I know as I learn more Korean we will be closer and also when we move back to Korea . I can’t wait to cook with her as my hubby says she makes the best kimchi so I’m ready to learn everything !!!! I’m happy for you Megan as I have been watching for a long time since the bad microphone days lol ! Cheers to your family !
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You guys are asking.
Husband’s brother(ajubonim)
Husband’s brother’s wife(hyungnim)
Many of you think hyung is just what you call your older
Brother If you are a male but it’s also what the younger sister in law calls her older sister in law married to her husbands older brother~ so many family titles to remember hehe~
I’ve been thinking about this, too! I’ve been hoping she and Moon and their family are all staying safe and healthy ❤️
Thank you for explaining. As soon as I heard you say it (forgetting about the subtitles 🤦🏽♀️) I pulled up my Papago to look up 형님. I was thinking wait..that’s not right..lol.
omg thank u
@Dem Moore sadly everything about corona will be demonetized. If she doesnt care abt money then maybe she would, i think.
TYSM Megan. Since both my parents are deceased, it gives me something to look forward to! You are a blessing!!
He made bomb pants.
Girl... I was like ...so does the man have a web site?!? What's up!?!?
Totally agree! Would love to rock a pair
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I agree! The man is skilled !!
Seriously!!! I’ve wanted pants like that for years!!! Can we get that pattern please? I’d love to try to make a pair!! He’s incredible though omg
In my first apartment my neighbor was a Korean grandma and her son didn’t really visit her so she adopted me and my sister she would always give us food and ask us lots of questions to make sure we were healthy. I miss her
You should try and get in touch!
That’s so cute awee but shame on her son
Ohh that is the sweetest thing! Sometimes we pick our own family❣️
And never take that for granted:)
Ok, did u get all As on ur report card after u were adopted?
That’s so sweet 🥲
The level of happiness I feel for this woman doesn't make sense lol
Memzhy Hey! lol what an adorable comment. 😄 I know what you mean though, it’s just refreshing to see her creating a happy life and doing her thing.
Facts the same!😄
I agree, I'm almost in tears and my face aches from smiling!
Same
I partially can confirm what Megan said. I never had a Korean mother in law but I was in a bad Situation in Korea. A guy saw me on the street. Took me to his home in which his mom and dad also lived. He was out the next day. And lemme tell you, I've never experienced such heartwarming parents. They literally treated me like their daughter. The Father wantes to buy me Shoes (Cuz mine got holes in it. And I was broke af)
The mother took great care of me. Making me Tea so that I can be healthier. She looked at me like a Mother could look so lovely to her Child (Even tho I wasn't her child) And said "You're beautiful" with such affection. Another time "You're an angel"
I really felt like they are my Patents. I miss them so much.
Another story: When I went to Korea (Flight from Amsterdam to Incheon) I was soooo sick. No sleep for over 30 hours. Back pain. Didn't eat. I sat down next to a Korean couple. Their age around 40-50. During the flight, I felt so dizzy and my stomach hurt cuz of my bad condition. You know what the Woman did? She took my Hand, gave me a massage. Told his husband to ask a flight attendant for painkillers. Which he did. They were worried about me. A stranger. But the mother was sooo lovely. So the flight attendant thought I am their daughter xD
Oh my god, this is so beautiful. I'm crying.
same i’m about to cry
They really were a blessing at that time.
Don't make me cry 😢 people are so nice 💗
These korean people are always melting our hearts. What a great culture!
Not only did you meet the love of your life, you scored the best in laws ever. I’m so happy for you!!!! ♥️ I’m so happy you have this family in Korea now
Leah Rose 💖💖😍
Right
I love the fact that you actually explain the culture, understand it and embrace it!!!
Aw she treats you like a best friend 😊
Momma waited long enough for her own daughter
Moesha Maduray ❤️❤️❤️
Not really sure if this counts, but the father of my two children is Korean. His mother treated me so well when I was pregnant. I remember when she held my hand and asked me if I was happy. When I gave birth, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She still made the trip to our home to clean and cook for me. She shortly passed away after my first was born. I’ll never forget her love and kindness ❤️
So…you let an elderly cancer patient clean and cook for you?
Shortly before her death at that?
@@lustwaffe9000...it probably, was the one thing (to visit her grandbaby) that got the MIL out of bed daily, which kept her going until she no longer could!!
it's not good to assume that a sort of labor is something that got her out of the bed nor should it be expected. It's toxic. @@foxylee58
I’ve watched you for a few years now I could not be happier for you.
Kaitlin Schnurstein Thanks for watching and supporting!
Sameeeee
Kaitlin Schnurstein Me tooooooooooooo
awww truee saaaame!
Moon's mother is so stylish - I love the way she's dressed in this video! She seems so nice - you're lucky to have such a mother-in-law in Korea or from any other country - you lucked in.
1:38 those pants are absolutely amazing. Kudos to your father in law!
LovelyDray yassss!! He’s been in the game since before I was born hehe~~
Your relationships with your husband's family just warms my heart every time you share your interactions. You guys are an amazing group of people.
So nice
She said *slapping people with kimchi* and i got the most ridiculous kung fu hustle style image of a giant nappa cabbage being used like a chancla and i frickin lost it LOL
Koriand'r Of The Stars it’s a real scene from a drama. Look up”Korean drama kimchi slap”
@@MrsMeganMoon Now i HAVE to see if its just as dramatic as what I thought because i was dyin XD
Oh Lord, that is an AMAZING image lmao
I’ve seen the Kimchi slap video. I don’t know much about Korea but I watch a lot of dramas the kimchi slap is hilarious 😂
I just saw it and its almost as funny as that clip of Doris Day angrily slapping her husband in his sleep 😆
Your in-laws bragging about you is honesty the cutest most sweetest thing ever🥺💜
Megan you look amazing after you married Moon...
I think Latin American telenovelas mother-in-laws are the same as the Kdramas 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just in the novelas 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@le96g listen Linda the mother-in-laws in telenovelas are hella extra 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Honestly same will bollywood shows lol
So true she’s glowing
I just watched one bc of my Hispanic friend and bruh the dramatic level is up to 10000 but entertaining 😂
Okay, this WARMED MY WHOLE HEART. You hit the in-law jackpot!! I love how sweet, caring and supportive they are of you~ What a beautiful family ~~
The pants your f.i.l made is so stylish and fits well! He’s amazing!
Rochelle Ballah 😍😍😍
I am American married to the younger Korean brother (of 2) and moving to Seoul (where all his family is) in August. This is helping me understand SO much of what I've encountered with my in-laws in these first few months of marriage... Thank you for helping me realize this is all normal!!
I literally saved this video under "Happy ❤️". Love felt 100-fold. I also feel like your willingness and commitment to learning the language and respect and participation of the Korean culture has put you in such great stead. Who wouldn't want a daughter-in-law like that ❤️
I'm so grateful you have a good relationship with your in-laws. That is a blessing I hope for all who get married. But I know, that is not the case for everyone.
Your mother-in-law is utterly adorable! She looks so good in those bright colors. You're so fortunate to have loving family surrounding you.
Thank you. You are a great representative for people who want to know about Korea from a non- Korean’s perspective. As a Korean American living in the U.S. appreciate your thoughtfulness and respect you have for your n
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My lead supervisor was Korean (Osun) and she became like my second mom. She “adopted” my daughter as soon as she was born and gave her own Korean name (하늘) and man do I miss her. I moved to Japan and I still talk to her all the time and it’s true. Korean 할머니 go HAM! They’re the best.
I'm Italian American married to a Mexican American. So both sets of parents are both like Korean parents. Lol
Water Witch haha!!
I can attest to this. So much food! So much passion!
Same with Romania. Man these european parents haha
I just commented about Italian American being the same way!! 🇮🇹
Yep. I was thinking about my mom all the time. I'm Brazilian BTW.
Omg the psy dance i love this girl😂😂😂😂
Moons dad is freaking fashionable as hell, those pants are gorgeous!
You’re MIL is showering with love, devotion and gratitude for being a part of the family. That says a lot about you Megan. 🙂
Your FIL is so talented, those trousers are absolutely lush! And your MIL is just the sweetest. You, Moon and your family are so lovely and deserve so much happiness
I’m not married to a Korean but I’m already seeing some of these things from my coworkers at the school I work at here haha (most of them are female and/or older than me). They keep FEEDING me lol! 😂 Or taking me out to eat (and always paying) or sending me home with snacks. We’re off school right now because of the virus and they keep writing me to check in and worrying that I’m going to get sick or lonely... It’s actually really sweet 🥺 Occasionally my American side will think “I came here to get more independent not be coddled!!” and I think that’s where some misunderstandings can come up in these in-law situations as well, but you definitely scored good in-laws and I think I scored great coteachers as well 🥰
Aww, you are their maknae, they will dote so much!
A huge part of Korean Culture is a waterfall effect. Basically, the parents, elders, seniors at school or work will make sure you are properly taken care of (not all the time but just in general) That's one of the reasons age, seniority, and hierarchal positions and respect are considered so important. In turn, you would be expected to care for your children, juniors or new recruits in the same way you were taken care of. I remember being a westerner first working in Korea, my senior took so much care for me buying me lunch and even allowing me to crash at his place when my place flooded out. In turn, I remember him telling me, when a new guy came into the workforce, for me to 'teach him the ropes' which generally means to take care of him just as I took care of you.
Savannah Shane aww haha, I’ve never been a maknae before! (Though actually I’m older than a few of the teachers there by a few years haha)
jollajolyo yes!! Funny thing is, I naturally started doing that to the new crop of foreign teachers this year lol. Either it’s just my personality, or it’s rubbed off on me haha
@@stargirl7646 I'm Chinese American and I am definitely very western in my ways (though I was raised in a strictly Chinese household). However, when my aunt (who is younger than me and raised in China/Macau) immigrated to the US, SHE would do the same thing and take care of me and make sure I was safe, etc. Even though she's the same age as my younger sister! It's definitely in the culture. And, not gonna lie, it feels nice to be cared for sometimes, even if you don't necessarily want it in that moment. (Like you, I'm trying to seek out independence and do things on my own LOL). I think this video has given me a better perspective on my own family's culture and appreciation for their "coddling" ways.
I live in California and I have a Korean mother in law. I cried when she returned to Korea.
My Korean mother in law bought me the most comfortable bed comforter I'd ever had and she's paying the deposit on our new apartment when we move in next month. So I make sure to buy her nice gifts especially when I vist my family in American because she loves Ralph Lauren, Michael Kors, etc.
The give and take comes in play when the children take care of their parents as elders I think. In North America we do not have a culture of taking our parents in when they are old and cannot support or care for themselves as much as I have noticed in many Eastern cultures.
While I definitely hope to be able to care for my parents as they age, in the States there are so many things that hinder young people from doing so. Outrageous amounts of student debt, the fact that so many occupations are becoming obscure and the rising cost of living all make it very difficult for young people to take care of themselves let alone parents and grandparents. Again, I’m not making excuses, but there are a few things to consider.
Lotz'erShawna you don’t have to go to far east to notice it. In Latin American culture is the same way. Honestly I’ve notice it’s mostly an American thing.
In greece to its custom for the grandparent to live with us in most cases
It's the same thing here in the UK. Not many people will care for their elders. My brother is a carer for my mum, because she has M.S. Though, he needs pressure taken off of him, he doesn't accept help.
same with all latin cultures I think... I'm from spain and it isn't a "rule" but past a certain age or if illness happens you're expected to look after your grandparents, parents and other elder relatives. It's very frowned upon to leave them to care for themselves or even putting them in home cares.
You're raising so many important points here, Megan, cudos to you! I come from an extremely individualistic country where kids are recommended even by the government to pay rent to their parents as soon as they turn 18. Meeting my Korean husband over seven years ago and coming to terms with my family in law was very difficult at first, as I felt as if they were trespassing on my privacy, treating me like a child, and everything else you mentioned in your video. Now that I've finally come to my senses I really feel so much love for all of my family in law. I'm not kidding when I say they've made me a better person and I'm so thankful. My MIL somestimes even feed me stuff, like literally with her hand! It's all good though! And finally, I'm happy to hear that you're finding your place in their family so fast.
I want to know more about 효도 - what is expected from a daughter-in-law? What are ways that would show a parent that you care for them, and how do Korean parents want to be honored? I would love to see you do a video on this since it's such an important part of a family dynamic.
I agree! From what I've seen and heard, the daughter-in-law is expected to do all of the cooking and cleaning when she goes the in-laws house (for example on holidays), and that the couple must always go to the husband's parent's home first. Like you, I also married a Korean man. We all live in Canada, but my husband and I only see his parents a couple of times each year, as we live far away. I think because you and I are not Korean, the expectations for us as the daughter-in-law are very different! Maybe we are lucky? :)
I love this idea, what a great suggestion! I hope Megan sees it.
@@ekcolenu This is true. Non-Korean daughter-in-laws are likely given much more freedom. Because I'm Korean and spoke the language, my in-laws thought that I'm "fully Korean" and gave me the full treatment. Frequent visits were expected despite living far, cooking and cleaning once I got there was the norm on top of random errands that took up my weekends. The husband and I couldn't take it anymore and said something, and now things are just a little bit weird. Glad Megan lucked out.
In China, the kids are expected to support the parents when they get old, and the parents will live with them (& tell them how to live their lives!)
Omg Megan. You are so understanding about the culture difference. ❤ I'm loving interracial relationships and how they are able to accept each other.
The pants are everything. Also glad that you have a healthy relationship with your in-laws! Very insightful video. Thanks Megan :D
It's really heartwarming to hear how your in-laws take care of you as their own. Especially since you are far from your own natural family. And your mum-in-law is fab for taking part in your video. She's so cute and has a really warm smile. So happy for you Megan!
Oh and your dad-in-law has SKILLS! Those trousers are gorgeous 😍
Old the toast. 1:40 secs in our girl is showing off the handmade pants her father in law made her. Now that is love. Awwwww uwu. Ok now to continue.
I love Megan she so positive. I love that she shows how wonderful the Korean people are.
Oh she sounds sweet. Since you are so far away from your parents having such awesome mom and dad in laws is wonderful.
Megan, thank u for making this video. I recently married into a Japanese family and I didn’t understand so many way in-laws show affection, and this video made me realize that I was not understanding that they wanted to help to show their love. Its a different way of expressing love than westerners. I really appreciated this video, it changed my family life. Thanks again.
Aww that's so sweet. I hope like more Korean parents are more open about their kids getting married outside of their own ethnicity and race. But this video was very cute and wholesome honestly smiling the whole time.
Wow this video was honestly so helpful. My korean mother in law has been showering me with food and expensive gifts and I don’t know how to handle it! I, too, feel the pressure to somehow give back. It’s nice to know that’s just how they are! Thank you Megan❤️
Your mother-in-law is so cute.
You can see how much she cares for you guys🥰
Amazing video Megan 💗💗💗 treasure the time you have with your in-laws, sadly my hubbys parent's both passed away young and and unexpected, after the first few rocky years of with my mother-in-law, she grew to love me, and eventually we became best friends, I married her 1st born and only son, he has 4 sisters, lol and at first she thought i stole her son, but later realized, after i kept showing her love and respect, that she loved me too, i took care of her thru several illnesses when her daughters were too busy. But i would drive over an hour each way with a baby in tow to bring her homemade soups and go get her groceries, medication etc... id bring her gifts saying they were from her son. Lol,,, but she knew they were special gifts i would go get her, after she passed away i took in her beloved pomeranian dog, and she is now 19, blind and deaf, and yet in good health, i take care of her 24/7, it's hard work but she would of done the same thing, i miss my mom-in-law everyday!! She was just like a real mom to me, not every wife is so lucky, I'm so happy you have a great new family!! Treasure them always!!!
I’m really happy you’ve established a family there & that your mother-in-law finally has the daughters she’s always wanted💕💕 Your father-in-law did an AMAZING job making those pants👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Oh girl you’re so blessed!! Hope you always stay happy and keep the blessings coming, keep on thriving
This video made me happy that Megan has so much love and support in her life. I'm going to pray that happens to all of us.
Awww it's so nice to see the different family dynamics and support systems. I'm so happy for you Megan
This is the kind of video I never knew I needed but apparently I really wanted 💕 Thank you, Megan!
Kayla Gaines ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sounds like you have great in laws. But, it is also very gracious of you to do such a positive vid on this sensitive topic bc I'm sure there were some difficulties, too. Just want to say that it speaks to your positivity that you did this vid. Kudos to you!
My mother isn’t Asian but she’ll still clean and cook everything when I invite her as a guest 🤦♀️
Same
Lucky! My MIL used to treat me like her personal slave and shopper. I had a newborn at the time. DH never invited them back 😆
My mom too 😂🤦🏽♀️ "Mom you know this is MY house?"
That could get real annoying fast!
Moons dad is freaking fashionable as hell, those pants are gorgeous!
Thinking back to my Mexican culture. It’s the same, except we as mexican American children do misinterpreted their meaning behind their actions. I did have many times i felt they thought I wasn’t capable, but you made me realize they just wanted to do it out of love and because it is something they can do. Great video!
Your mother in law is the cutest I swear!!! Thank you for continuing to share your experiences! 😊
While the whole video makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside, you have to remember that Korean parents also don't save much for retirement with the expectation that their kids will take care of them.
Same as in China. The parents will live with their child.
@FBar It goes both ways. The parents kick their kids out of the house after college and are able to save for their own retirement.
The kids get less support but aren't expected to take care of their parents (financially).
I don't really know why,but I feel so so so happy for Megan! Like I'm just happy she genuinely loves Moon and her family it just brings me joy!💜
I’m so happy for everything you’ve achieved in Korea
Awwww it's so sweet that she was at your event supporting you lol made me tear up a bit lol It's nice having a second mom when you're overseas.
09:45 so sweet!
I'm so happy that you have such a wonderful family. Your mother-in-law is so cute. I love seeing such a beautiful relationship between you two. Such a loving family. Girl just wait until you have kids. She is going to be a tremendous help!
I paid rent to my parents from the moment I turned 18 until the day I moved out. Some ppl found it weird though. I wish my parents felt that way but clearly they had no issues taking my money 😂🥴
But they taught you financial responsibility. That is also a great gift.
clay lover i know it seems that way but they didn’t. Lol I learned what not to do with money from watching them
@@Muzzi. uh oh......lol
@@Muzzi. My step father made me pay 1/2 of all the bills as soon as I graduated high school. He's wealthy & it kinda hurt me. He has never done anything for me. And I'm the youngest. On the other hand! My step sister, who is older, well! He's bought her every car she's ever had, bought her not 1 but 2 house's, still pays all her bills! And she's freaking 58 year's old!! He also has already informed me she gets everything in the Will. I don't really care anymore. I'm a independent, single woman who take's care of herself. I don't have 900 $5,000.00 purse's but I'm happy!
A lot of kids in Scotland pay towards bills once they start working. Its called digs or board depending on what part of Scotland your from. I don't pay much in digs, £85 a month. I bet that doesn't cover anything tho.
I've been watching you for years now and I have to say this is one of my favorite vids you've ever done. Your family dynamic is so beautiful
Tasha1284 💖💖💖💖💖
You basically described asian parents. It also applies to asian parents/in-laws living in the west as well. It's just apart of our culture, which might seem really different to people who weren't born or raised in these types of households. o: Glad you and your mother-in-law have a great relationship!
Who on earth gave a thumbs down for this video...? I'm horrified... Watching this video makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside... Just brightens my day to see so much love and support...
Your mother in law is SOOO sweet. Gosh, I want to hug her and you, Megan. Such a gorgeous family! 💜
The bond between you and you're parents in law is adorable!!❤❤
Will you please let your family know that we don’t know them but we love them lol 🥰
Megan, it sounds like you married into an amazing family. I am so happy for you and Moon. You deserve an amazing husband and in laws. ❤️
By the way is your father in law a clothes designer?
He needs to open a store I swear
I’m saying, I want a pair of them pants!!
Oh my goodness girl you are so blessed and those pants are so cute. I want a pair. I don’t have any of my parents (I had 2 sets) and I doubt they’d have been like your in-laws. Now I have to say they sound like what I would be. I used to think I was just being over protective but your video actually brings it into more perspective. It’s so crazy how different cultures can be yet some American parents are like this and the children get upset. I’ll be showing your video to my children. No they aren’t married (to young) and they love how protective I am but they’re getting older and I feel like they’re starting to change how they feel about me being actually like your mom-in-law. I think I’m this way because my parents were protective in a sense but not very loving. Your mom-in-law seems protective and loving without smothering. There’s a huge difference. My babies will ALWAYS be my babies.
Hi Megan luv u and luv moon too stay healthy and strong
Megan I'm so glad you've found such a welcoming and loving second family so far away from the US. Korea has been your home for so long and it warms my heart to see you so happy. Bless 💞💞
your videos are always super entertaining, no matter what they’re about!
LuckiestCharm I appreciate that so much!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love the way you explain the Korean culture. I absolutely love your videos .
This fills my heart with so much love. Many blessings to you and your in laws 💕💕💕💕💕💕
This is so sweet! You really got a great man that came with a great family!🥺 so happy for you Megan!
I need more content with your mother in law😭💜 to cute! Love you vids Megan!! Keep up the good work!
Dvlxkpop she’s down to be in more videos!!
Ah you guys are the best! 🥺
Your relationship with your mother-in-law is really sweet and I love the way you expressed you're self.
Also. Fricking love those trousers!
Omg your outfit is so cute! That's amazing your step father made the pants for you. And I feel like you're easy to brag about you're amazing :)
Your father-in-law has great style! Those pants are BEAUTIFUL!!!!
I feel like for any union, being simpatico with the in-laws is a worry. I'm so happy that everyone is embracing each other💕 and that they think about you. It's the little things that goes a long way! It makes my heart happy to see so much love💖
this video is so cute 🥺🥺 hope y’all stay safe over there !! ❤️❤️
Annabel Efe 😍😍😍😍
honestly makes me so happy to see you have such a wonderful family in korea
Your parents in law are so sweet!!!!! 😭💕
From watching your blind date videos to this, truly makes me believe that true love does exist and that sometimes good things take time and come when we least expect them to... You are truly blessed! I’m so so happy you found your soulmate and married into an amazing family. ❤️❤️
Hi Megan, I love that you explained the cultural dynamics in a Korean family. I'm Chinese American and can see the similarities with my own Chinese mom where she wants to help as much as possible to give you (even though I'm full grown adult) a good life. Most Asian parents express their love through actions and food. I'm really happy for you and your family. =)
P.S. would you ever consider having a few cooking segments with your mother in law? (I've seen the meals and they look so delicious!) I think it'll be a great way to pass down the recipes/heritage to your twins in the future. Cheers ❤
That's nice that you explained things so thoroughly. There were some things I didn't understand about the culture but this was so informative.
Your FIN needs to be on project runway
Yes! Yes! Yes!
I love their tradition it's their way of showing you they love you and they are letting you know, you are a family to them which is soooooooo sweet. Closeness it's so important. Nowadays most people don't care about their parents and even parents don't care about their children and at the same time they don't give a damn about anyone else's daughters or sons meaning if their son or daughter got married. They don't treat that person as a family member. Korean and some other culture's they do so many things for their daughter in law or son in law it's their way of saying sweetheart you are my daughter. I love seeing kind and caring people, I wish their were more people like them.
It’s really nice to hear that you have such a good relationship with your in-laws. That’s a rarity anywhere!
I love it - relationships with in-laws can be tough haha I’m sure you’re personality makes it easier for you to get along ! Plus Moons mom seems awesome
My in-laws are Polish and are exactly the same way as Korean in-laws. When my mother in law was alive, she did a lot of the same things like cooking food and sending it over, teaching me how to make Pierogi and kapusta etc... My father in law now lives with us and he does a lot as well. He will notice something randomly and buy whatever it is to fix it or add to the house lol. Holiday gifts are always extravagant. I've been in the family for 10 years and still trying to get used to it lol.
Oh my gosh this is the cutest video EVER....many blessings to you and your family. Thank you for sharing... And the pants, the pants, THE PAAAAANTS. BOOOOOMB.
Your mother-in-law is just too stinking cute! I get the sense she's a really beautiful person, inside and out
Thank you for taking the time to show us this. KDramas have created a lot of misconceptions about mothers in Law. You pretty much hit the jackpot ! Such lovely in laws, By the way girl those pants are LIFE!!!!!!
Asian and born and raised in the US. This video actually made me realize how my dad was with me. I was probably too western but I used to hate how my dad disabled my independence. He would go into my room and clean it, do my laundry if it was full, buy necessities that were on sale like socks or leggings, bug me about wearing a coat if it’s cold, getting me gas for my car….all these things felt crippling to me when I was younger because I was craving that “independence”… we used to have so many fights about it and how I didn’t need him to spoil me with all that… now I’m realizing it was the Asian way of showing love 🥺
I love all your videos! Especially how you give a balanced outlook on cultural differences vs some other videos from other youtubers who have lots of rants/complaints.
You're so lucky to have such great in-laws, and they're so lucky to have such a pretty and talented daughter-in-law! His parents sound so sweet.
Hi Megan! You really hit the nail on the head explaining how Asian in-laws are. I’m Asian American and my Asian in-laws, especially my mother-in-law, behaves this way. She calls me more than my husband. lol. I know it’s just because she cares and wants to show her love for you. Fantastic video! Keep up the great work!
Your father in law bragging about you to the restaurant workers is so adorable!
We live in the USA for now but my mom in law is the same . She is super super sweet and I know as I learn more Korean we will be closer and also when we move back to Korea . I can’t wait to cook with her as my hubby says she makes the best kimchi so I’m ready to learn everything !!!! I’m happy for you Megan as I have been watching for a long time since the bad microphone days lol ! Cheers to your family !