Screen Time, Spanking, and Missing School: Reacting to Your Parenting Hot Takes | Ep. 26
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
- Get ready for some controversy! This week we reacted to all your parenting hot takes. Bedtimes, parenting styles, spanking, screen time and more! If you liked this episode and want to submit your own thoughts for a future episode follow us on instagram! If you enjoyed the podcast please leave us a review wherever you listen!
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As a child, I was forced to eat everything my parents put on my plate and couldn't get up until the plate was empty. Many nights, I was still at the table at 10 pm. I blame this behavior for me being an extremely picky eater now and will tell you, I'm grown and not eating something if I don't want to. I never forced my daughter to eat anything but told her she needed to try everything. She is 31 now and eats a really good variety of foods. Much healthier than I am.
My mom was forced too as a child and she even had to sleep at the table many nights! So bc of that, she never forced us as kids ( thank god ) but she at least wanted to see us try it. Now that I’m an adult, I will also not force my kids and will just want to see them try things, but my husband was forced as a child and he says that’s why he now eats a lot of vegetables and fruits and so on, so he’s on the other end and wants to force our kids…. But me being mom and me being the one that cooks I tell him to back up and just sit down hahaha he may get upset and frustrated but no I don’t agree with forcing kids to eat, I’m an adult I eat and don’t eat what I want…so why do that to children? They see us as parents say no to certain foods and hear us say we don’t like certain foods, so why are they any different? It’s not going to change anything, like my husband isn’t forcing himself as an adult to eat stuff he doesn’t like so why make kids? Yah know? Once the kids you are forcing to eat grow up they will be like every other adult and not eat if they don’t like it? So I don’t get the logic behind forcing kids to eat things just bc you like it or cooked it. Hell nahh!!!
I have two children, one is so so so picky, and the other is so so not lol it is what it is, and you just have to learn to deal with it. As they grow and get older it gets easier, ( iv been seeing it with my own eyes lol ) so I hate hearing parents say “ no they will sit there till they eat everything weather they like it or not “ it truly pisses me off so much!! And like poor kids!!! It’s absolutely a very stupid control tactic I feel! & not going to lie almost feels manipulative, maybe it’s a stretch to say child abuse but ehhhh it’s just not okay, in my opinion!!
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I’m a sorry this is your experience. That’s a very traumatic situation
This is so real. My parents didn't force me to eat but they scolded me. They gave me a lot of praise the very few times I managed to finish my plate. When I went through puberty I started finishing my lunch boxes (because my body needed more energy) and my parents stopped scolding me, so finishing my food started being really satisfying for me. Until this day I really struggle to leave leftovers. There was a time when I regularly overate to the point of throwing up because I feel extremely guilty for not finishing my food. I am already 23 and still working on it😅
I'm actually married to a man that I met in my homeschool group as a kid ❤ my kids will be homeschooled too but we have the benefit of gigantic homeschool groups. Our Co op has 500ish families and we also have school choice in my state so if for example, your kids want to play a team sport you're able to enroll them in just that sport through the local school system while maintaining homeschool and Co op work as well. It's the best of both worlds! We also receive $8000 per child to cover school expenses so you can use it for all kinds of amazing extracurricular activities and get hyper specific about what your kids love the most!
Vote for school choice in local elections people! ❤
May I ask what state this is?
@@Juli-ge4yp yh i want to know to!
Love how Lo praised Tanner because he really is a great dad.
Children feel safe when they have parents who set limits and follow through.
Very true
I wonder who spread the rumour that there are no limits in gentle parenting
No child should be abused by the most important people in their life😢
Abuse, and discipline is two different things
So I’m wondering are you saying forcing the child to eat something they truly don’t like is discipline? Your comment just didn’t have much context that’s all! Plz I’m not being nasty or rude just wondering, bc say your 25 would you allow someone to force you to eat something you just truly don’t like in that season of life your in? Studies has shown and proved that taste buds change over time, that’s exactly why I think you just need to expect your child is picky and they will grow out of it, as much as it may be an inconvenience to you at the time, they will change and once they are adults it won’t matter anymore to you what they eat. You know? I’m not saying you are for forcing just explaining my opinion that’s all. Like I said your comment didn’t have much context so I’m just going off what I read lol I’m sure you’re a great person! ❤
Just categories in your mind, in reality there is actions which are treating other's how you like to be treated and ones that aren't, if it falls in the latter it's probably immoral, if it would get you arrested if you did it to anyone else, did you shouldn't do it to children, stealing someone's stuff, confining their movements, forcing them to sleep, hitting them, all of it is immoral.
I used to nanny for a family that only believed in positive reinforcement. Their kid spit in my face one day and they wanted me to find a positive way to correct her 🤯
Unacceptable behavior!
What did you do?
Permissive Parenting does NOT equal “Gentle” or Authoritative Parenting
I’m a 22 year old from Brazil with not even a boyfriend, but just hearing you guys be such great moms and people in general is an inspiration. Lov the pod ❤
I was homeschooled and now i am homeschooling my son! I love it and the freedom it gives us. I am putting him in some sports clubs and I think it's important for them to be involved in something.
It's also so easy to put them in school if you've decided you're done homeschooling! I just adore the freedom that comes with it.
My homeschooled middle school and high school kids go to dances, play sports, have friends, and have social lives. Homeschooling is not antisocial. It's actually incredibly social.
It can be isolating if you as a parent don't get your kids involved. If you teach your kids that schools are bad, public schooled kids are inferior, then it becomes a problem.
Not typically-however, seems like you’re doing it the right way! ❤
To battle your kids over eating foods, or when your child potty trains is a fight you will never win.
When my daughter started waking up dry at two, I sat her on her little potty seat in front of her favorite cartoons, straight out of her bed and as soon as she would pee because she would, I would just get so excited and do the happy dance and I think it took three days maybe one accident And that was potty training. It was a breeze. I couldn’t believe it, all kids are different, but that has worked for me in several friends and so easy
My Mum always made me try one bite…one bite never killed anyone!
this podcast just brightens my day when i need it! thank yall!! 💚💗
Gentle parenting is harder you are right Lo. It takes soooo much patients and understanding, but definitely the way to go in my opinion you get a lot more respect, and listening ears.
As someone who has been homeschooled and has gone to public school, I personally had a more satisfying social life as a homeschooler. You can still join high school sports teams and go to their dances, but you have more time for friends, work, play, etc. Especially if you join a co-op. The co-op I was in literally left the last half of the day just for activities with friends. We did group projects during the first half. I strongly suggest homeschooling, but you have to be actively putting your kids out there in church and activites.
Absolutely loved this episode!! I love when you talk all things motherhood, so relatable 🤍
Lo, I'm 60 and when I was Ozzie's age, I ONLY would wear dresses, guess what? I still will ONLY wear dresses.........don't even own a pair of jeans.
I love how you both answer the questions! You're so respectful and understanding of everyone's opinions even if you may not agree and I love it! Such a fun episode! Love you guys!
Whoop whoop!! It’s Thursday podcast day!! 🎉❤
I’m homeschooled and I’m 15 I love my life I volunteered at a local nonprofit it’s the best thing I’ve ever done and I’ve already been offered a job there in the fall when I turn 16!🎉 I have no desire to go to public school in my town there have been so mean fights in school and if your kid gets hurt the school will not do anything about it😢
I’m so excited to watch this!!!!
The great thing about homeschool is there is still those options to do dances, sports, etc different places. Some schools let you tryout for sports there even if you don’t go to that school. even doing a tutorial like once or twice a week is super helpful with workload and making sure things are done, but with that you are still super flexible
I don’t have kids but I love learning about parenting, birth, etc to prepare myself for when the time comes. I think you have refreshing and reasonable opinions. I love listening to yall whenever I can 💖 you remind me of me and my sister in law who is literally my bff
you both look so good 😩😩
You have such a healthy outlook on parenting!
The only thing I disagree on is that every parent trying their best, and know their child and that is 'enough'. Sometimes that is true, when a parent has healthy personality, and has enough knowledge, and also learnt how to cooperate with their spouse. But like everything what you want to be good at, you learn about, read about. Now we have access to a lot of resurches and can learn how to be better parents, and there are people who need to learn!
I am a grandma and a mom. My brothers, sister and I got spanked with a switch we picked ourselves, or with the belt, on our bare bottoms. I did not do this with my kids or grandkids. Until I met my ex husband who thought spanking was a must. I was only with him for 5 yrs but that was enough.
I believe in discipline and respecting others, and oneself, and taking accountability for our own actions. My sons are very respectful, well mannered men , I just wish that I could have went about my discipline when I was married, a lot different. I really believe a parent should LISTEN to their children, value their opinions and thoughts, spend time with them, do NOT BE LITTLE them or make them feel they're nothing. Validate them and let them know , above all else, you are there for them and you LOVE THEM.
My sons have become really, really good adults, and they were good children, too. They just did normal kid things. We talk everyday, and we say goodnight every night. I'm so thankful to God , for blessing me with my kids. I don't know any other love like the love I have for my children and their love for me. Have a beautiful day 🤗😇
EDITED To ADD: I'm not a perfect mom I hope I'm not coming across that way. I just wanted to share what I've learned and how I was raised. Have a blessed and beautiful weekend 🙏❤️
When my kids were young I felt like the best mom in earth. That all changed when they hit puberty when they quit listening and learning from anything I had to offer. Instead of learning from examples they just used it as a blueprint to up the ante on their next move.
I’m in the same boat currently. I feel like I’m being changed as much as them during their adolescence as I deal with all the feelings of rejection and disappointment that comes with them pulling away.
Does it get better?
Public schools are so different now! The bullying scares me so much! I homeschooled both of ours from 3rd grade up on our 2nd child and 6th grade up on our first. Best experience ever.
Our homeschool co-op (300 families) and the middle school & HS get together for dances, bonfires, game nights & more.
Both my kids were in public school at first. But eventually I homeschooled my youngest (for health reasons), while my oldest stayed in public school because he wanted to. I am a single mom who works full time. My oldest graduated public high school and my youngest graduated home school 2 years early and both went in to college. There are homes school ground that you can join for field trips and socializing. And public sports programs to join ( basketball, football, baseball,softball) no matter what age! As a parent, you find a way to do what’s best for your kids! You will know when it’s time!
I had a very sad and stressful childhood and it led me to not have children as an adult. People think if you do not have children you don't know anything about parenting but I was once a child who suffered greatly because of bad parenting and being hit and verbally abused as a child. Please don't hit your kids. It's not necessary and it only guarantees you will have no relationship wth them when they become adults.
I'm so sorry you had to experience this.
You two are amazing moms!!!!
In my state, home schooled children can still participate on the sports teams of the school district they live in 😅 didn’t know if this was the case for Utah!
I had a friend in my orchestra class in middle and high school that was homeschooled except for orchestra and one other extracurricular. Shed often come and hang out during lunch. It really seemed like she got the best deal.
I love how Lo is always like “🫶🏽bye” 🏃♀️💨
Do you and parent the way that works for you and your child the best. They don’t come with a handbook lol and different strokes for different folks. Just do your best. That’s all you can do. Your kids are truly blessed and are living a very privileged life and are going to be so well traveled and athletic and I just love the opportunities you’re giving them and the active lives you live. And camping I’ve loved your camping videos. I raised my kids in the mountains in Idaho. They love camping. I’m Fisher woman and it is so great for kids and so much fun for everybody.
Oh look, my favs! 💚💗🎤
Gentle parenting IS used to justify lazy patenting. Might not mean the same thing but parents will and do use it to justify
😂😂😂😂 yeah sure
Maybe this is just in my state, but homeschoolers are allowed to join public school or private school sports teams! My husband was “unschooled” and he played football and did track! A lot of my homeschool friends played basketball and soccer as well. I think it’s an awesome way to be able to travel with your kids & choose how to school them, but to still give them the “high school experience” :)
Please do this again I agree with everything y’all are saying
Biggest mistake allowing my son sleep in my bed
What drives me crazy is those moms that stop in the middle of whatever they are doing , out w/ friends or at the grocery store or they won’t do anything cuz there kids nap time or there kids bedtime has to be exact!! It’s like it’s life or death, it’s way to ridged , I’ve have 4 kids and I had a good routine with all my kids but never left functions for naps or even bedtime within reason of course and my kids all grew up and have different sleep patterns sone are morning ppl and sone are night owls, you have no control so relax!!!
I thought the same with my first kid, he could sleep anywhere at anytime and it wouldn’t affect him one bit! My second child? Nope! Totally different story! She is a very good sleeper but she will only sleep in her bed! If we’re out of the house and nap time comes around, she will fight her sleep for hours and cry and fuss. And like Sarah said it is no fun for anyone. They mentioned it in the pod. Every kid is different, you know your kids and what they can handle. You do what is best for your kid. Believe me it’s not something we want to do, of course we want to be with friends and not work around a nap schedule but no matter how much we try or want to, it doesn’t always work out that way. I just remind myself it is temporary & won’t be that way forever.
As a child and even now as an adult, I don’t react well to being chastised on any level in front of others. I always shut down and put walls up with the person that has done that with me. This is another thing that depends on each child.
The only wholesome vlogging family is the Bangerter Family, I truly admire this family, they truly love each other and their children. They are always together. Their children are everything to them,they take them every where they go,never leave them behind.
I admire that.
My husband and I had decided that we will have tiffs and makeups in front of our kids for the same reasons you said. Also my husband was brought up were they never saw the parents fight then all of a sudden the parents were getting a divorce. Which was very confusing.
For sure I believe in discipline BUT I’ve never 👎🏻 been a fan of corporal punishment/spanking etc! I was a very behaved child and it affected me as an adult and I definitely didn’t do it with my children, there’s many other options done with LOVE ❤️
You don't have to be a friend to have open communication! Yes once an adult then friends
Would love them to address the elephant in the room
Me too but they wont 😮
What tells you there's an elephant? 👀
What elephant is there?
What elephant?
What elephant
My mum and dad use to argue most of the time when i was little , they separated in 1996 when i was 11, divorced before i turned 12 , mum remarried the same year of her divorce
Yeah the guilt is so real and I was in a domestic violence relationship so it was so hard to take time for me and now it’s so hard to take time for me! The mom guilt is SO real.
So regarding the last comment. I have twin 18yo daughters (yes they’ve graduated but the parenting doesn’t stop there!). They are & have always been the polar opposite of each other. I’ve always been as open & honest with them as their ages permitted. One is very open with me, it may not be right away but she always ends up telling me everything. The other has lied from the get go! I’ll have proof that she’s lied & she continues to lie (in which case I have to embarrass her with the truth, which is awkward for everyone!!) Please realize I love both girls very much, they were raised the exact same way but they’re totally different & I still don’t know how to reach the troubled one. If they’re prayer warriors out there please keep her in your prayers. Other than prayers does anyone have any advice?
Do you and parent what works for you and your child the best. They don’t come with a handbook lol and different strokes for different folks. Just do your best. That’s all you can do. Your kids are truly blessed in our living a very privileged life and are going to be so well traveledand athletic and I just love the opportunities you’re giving them and the active lives you live. And camping I’ve loved your camping videos. I raised my kids in the mountains in Idaho. They love camping. I’m Fisher woman and it is so great for kids and so much fun for everybody.
😊 nice pod today!! I learnt by saying a less swear word and my Dad washed my mouth out with soap and now I barely swear so yeah a bit of an extreme punishment but I definitely learned……I very rarely got punished but when I did it was extreme and so didn’t help me in my later life!! (I wish I was punished more in my experience) You both are such good parents plus Tanner and Derik ❤❤ Big love from UK xx
I had that guilt of being the parent shld never have anyone else care for my children - ever. I was NEVER away from my children for 15 entire years … I don’t know why I was this way but in hindsight I can see how ridiculous it was that I let guilt rule my actions for that long.
they have such healthy parenting mindset
I’m a mom and a grandma of two. Let me tell you parenting is amazing but it just gets better when you’re a grandparent.
Gentle parenting is more about having good manners as a parent and being a respectful person as a parent. It isn't about being complacent. It IS about being patient. And teaching a child a lesson using wisdom and not merely raw anger. Just wanted to mention that so that we all understand what gentle parenting is. Gentle, the word, is related to being a gentleman or gentlewoman. A person of good, high character. A noble person and therefore an example actually worth following for our kids.
My grandson has been homeschooled and he’s 15. He went through second grade and then all the school shootings and all the stuff we’ve just decided to keep him home and that makes my heart very happy because we’ve already had our mall hit here and two people killed it’ll be a school eventuallyand I’m not risking my grandkids thank God they are homeschooled and that is my recommendation because this world is crazy. Just my thoughts.
The have a kid vs should've had a puppy convo was good but puppies need just as much care as humans lol ..should be the "not responsible for any life form" is the more appropriate choice for some lol...
The 'gentle parenting' you've described is permissive parenting, not gentle parenting. Properly executed gentle parenting is parenting that sets boundaries but also takes into consideration the cause of their behaviour and the natural consequences of their actions. It's not letting the children dictate the flow of the family, or getting everything that they want, irrespective of the outcome.
Yes, I think we are all born with a certain disposition/personality and then we are products of our environment our experiences our choices, and that’s what makes us who we are in my mind
There is likely a homeschool group in your area where you kids can have social interaction and be involved in sports. I was a product of public schools. My son was in private. Both were great experiences. Teach your kids to have joy in whatever experience they are in. You both are amazing parent as are your husbands. You will make the right decision. No doubt. ❤
Lots of sports and trips for home schools
Do you and parent what works for you and your child the best. They don’t come with a handbook lol and different strokes for different folks. Just do your best. That’s all you can do. Your kids are truly blessed in our living a very privileged life and are going to be so well traveledand athletic and I just love the opportunities you’re giving them and the active life you live
Home schooling sounds great. But both Tanner and Derrick seem to be pretty athletic. If any of the kids really enjoy sport and want to play in teams, would they be able to do that as a home-schooled kid? (I don't know how the US system works).
The original food one said what you said but way shorter. Try the food before getting dessert
I think what works great is they have to have one bite of everything if they don’t like it that’s OK but you don’t know if you don’t like it if you don’t try it so my rule with my kids and grandkids is one bite and a lot of times they like it and if they don’t, they don’t have to eat anymore, where my parents forced me to eat everything that was on my plate and I am the pickiest eater
I always only put a couple of bites of each food on my children’s plates. And as far as apologizing to your child, it shouldn’t be you apologizing for putting them in time out or giving a consequence for bad behavior. The example Sarah gave was different and a more appropriate reason.
AND there is no shame in having a nanny. - wonderful if you can!!!
We always had my kids take 2 no thank you bites.
Who saw this and directly presed on it
My parents used to spank me but I am now older and the don’t but the fight I fort it of me and it scares me is that bad
say your 25 would you allow someone to force you to eat something you just truly don’t like in that season of life your in? Studies have shown and proved that taste buds change over time, that’s exactly why I think you just need to expect your child is picky and they will grow out of it, as much as it may be an inconvenience to you at the time, they will change and once they are adults it won’t matter anymore to you what they eat. You know? I’m not saying you are for forcing just explaining my opinion that’s all.
Lauren andSarah never read our comments!!!! They don't even respond to us !!! I don't even think that they care about their fams !!!!!! Bummer !!!
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girls i fear you are busy enough and adding home school into that mix may not be great
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The camera on Sarah is not sharp.
Not only in this one but also the last one😢
I want to be honest and say I really didn't like you guys I didn't like the family vlogging the exploitation all of that but I do like your podcast and seeing your personalities
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I actually have a question for Lauren, I hope I'm not being rude, Lauren do you think you and your husband Tanner have a favorite daughter? Sometimes I think Ozzy and Tanner are more connected than him and Stella, and you are more connected to Stella. Am I wrong or right?
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love the pod, but i'm disappointed sarah is always iterrupting lo
My dad told me that, "Only unintelligent people swear. An intelligent person can always think of more appropriate vocabulary."
I never wanted anyone to think I was unintelligent, so I never swore! To this day, I still don't.
All of y’all’s answers are kinda broad and I wish yall just were more open about what yall think.
Well it’s kind of hard for some of these because their kids are little so they haven’t had those life experiences yet. They can just say what they hope it will happen or say how they think they will react.
I would suggest that in airplanes you give them the expectation. “If you do behave well, you get this!” Then just remind them if they start acting out💗💚
Edit: 41:14 whoops😂
Spanking as clickbait
Like, Lo, like reading like books has like helped many of us like learn the language better. It also like made it like better for like communication like between friends we like. Like, y'know what I mean ? Like, I'm sure you get it. Right ? Public speaking classes are like so worthwhile. Lo, you claim you don't say anything crazy, however, if you count how many times you un~necessarily use the word "LIKE" within one podcast, you'll find LIKE it's LIKE a CRAZY amount of times !!! Ooops...are you the type to be resentful ? Ohh...LIKE I'm SORRY !!! Like man, that's just like so important.
“Like” is actually a filler word and women are conditioned to use these so they don’t get interrupted as easily.
It’s not a big deal buddy if you don’t like the word like then don’t watch the pod. Move on
@@mermiefasmart1387 Kindness doesn't cost you anything.
Children feel safe when they have parents who set limits and follow through.