My Aspergers Employment Journey
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
- Aspergers and Employment is the theme for February. In this video I walk through my own work history to show the jobs that worked and those that didn't. Unfortunately having skills is not enough.
"There are so many other factors that make having the skills to do a good job not enough to actually get a job."
Background: 0:11
Casual Jobs: 1:12
Professional Career: 3:08
Burnout: 5:13
Today: New Approach: 6:17
Why are you not Employed? 7:17
Check out my latest project teaching emotional intelligence online: emotionsexplained.com.au
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// WELCOME TO ASPERGERS FROM THE INSIDE!!
My name is Paul and I discovered I have Aspergers at age 30.
If you're new you can check out a playlist of some of my most popular videos here: / aspergersfromtheinside
Yes, I know, I don't look autistic. That's exactly why I started this blog, because if I didn't show you, you would never know.
As the name suggests, this channel is devoted to giving you insight into the world of Aspergers.
This blog started off being just my story, but I've learned SO MUCH about my own condition
from meeting others on the Autism Spectrum that now I make sure to feature their stories as well.
I've come a long way in my own personal journey.
Now I'm sharing what I've found so you don't have to learn it the hard way too.
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// WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THIS BLOG
I value your time which means there are NO UA-cam ADS on my videos.
You can expect me to get the the point with concise useful information.
I focus on what is most important and don't shy away from difficult topics.
The best way to learn about Autism is to see it in real life ( i.e. via the stories of many, many people on the spectrum).
In this channel I endeavour to show you what Autism and Aspergers look like in real people and to also give you some insight as to what's happening on the inside.
I upload a new video every weekend with some bonus content thrown in mid-week too.
There's always new stuff coming through so be sure to check back and see what you've missed. (Is this where I'm supposed to tell you to hit that subscribe button?)
Topics Include:
- What is Aspergers/Autism?
- Aspie Tips, coping strategies, and advice on common issues
- Learning Emotional Intelligence (this is my special interest!)
- Autism in real life: stories from special guests
Everything I do is and endeavour to go deeper and take you 'behind the scenes' to understand what may, at first glance, seem 'odd'.
oh, and I love busting stereotypes and turning preconceptions upsidedown :)
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// ABOUT ME
I discovered I have aspergers at the age of thrity.
It has been my life's mission to understand these funny creatures we call humans.
My special interest is a combination of emotional intelligence, psychology, neuroscience, thinking styles, behaviour, and motivation. (I.e. what makes people tick)
My background is in engineering and I see the world in systems to be analysed.
My passion is for taking the incredibly complex, deciphering the pattern, and explaining it very simply.
My philosophy is that blogging is an adventure best shared.
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// EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TRAINING
I also run autism friendly online emotional intelligence training. So if you like my direct, systematic style, and would like to improve your own emotional intelligence skills, check it out here:
emotionsexplained.com.au
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// CONTACT
Blogging is an adventure best shared which means I'd love to hear from you!
Feel free to leave me a comment or send me and email at any time and I'll do my best to respond promptly.
Email: aspergersfromtheinside@gmail.com
Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy this channel!
I look forward to hearing from you!
Peace,
~Paul
I moved to Cambodia 7 years ago because I simply couldn't cope with Australia's restrictive nanny state government and workplace.
In Australia priorly, I was a merchandise buyer, studied Medicine, bar tender, and wardsman in a hospital.
I've found it's better to be self employed as the rigors of bosses and fellow employees can be utterly overwhelming.
I now run my own restaurant, Bar, Hamburger Store on the river front in Koh Kong, Cambodia. Couldn't be happier. Making a motza.
A BIG finger up to all my previous bosses 😁GFYS
Like you, I have burnout after five years on a job and have to get a new job each time. Luckily I worked for the Canadian Government which allowed me to change jobs about every three years or so. Everyone was used to me being quiet, and eccentric but also a legend in my work. Telling the truth made me appear aloof and few questioned my judgement. Unfortunately I did not realise that I was an aspie until I was 70 and my work life was over, which meant that I had spent 50 years doing and being in ways that made no sense to me. I feel that the reason that I survived this job life was because I am non-binary and always figured that that was the reason I had to mask. I am enjoying the rediscovery of my life through the lens of Asperger's.
I've just quit another job. I can't cope with my managers, it's like dealing with children. I need to stay away from neurotypicals as it's affecting my health.
I never fit in. Everywhere I work people gang up and start singling me out. Idk what to do anymore. I live alone and MUST work. People are so mean.
@@MW713 is sorry for you good luck
Same here mate.. just quit 12 months ago.. the neurotypical managers are narcissistic lunatics.. it’s part of the ironic disturbed nutters they indoctrinate through schools from a young age. The reality is that aspies should be in there managing them.
the people at a job can be worse than the job itself!
I'm 50, just found out I'm on the spectrum, I've only had 2 full time jobs in my life and I had to quit both after 18 months because I just physically and mentally couldn't do it any more. Now I work from home 15 hours a week and it's plenty for me, I feel really blessed to have a job that suits me so well, thank you for sharing your journey!
This is your real job. And it’s a great job.
Idk if I'm in the spectrum but I could still relate so much to all of this. Thanks for this! Also nice Tool shirt!
You sound so much like me here that I feel like sending this to family members who say they can't see me as autistic.
It was so helpful to hear your discomfort at the end. I live with that discomfort too and seeing it in someone else who generally comes off as being unbothered gave me some insight as to why my family can't see it. We hide it so well
I've said it before before i'll say it again. You come over really very professional and you are such are great talker. I do hope things works out, if an organisation sees any of these videos i'm sure they will be interested.
Thanks MetalMickey :)
He should do a TedTalk
I’m really glad you put this video up. I find it extremely difficult to get a job if I have to apply on paper or online and rely on that. It is almost physically impossible for me to get through the online application process. Because it is so difficult to “sell“ myself online, I decided to start my own UA-cam channel and I teach people how to do alterations which is 100 times better than working a “real job”
We need to stop thinking that making money online isn’t a real job. You’ll probably be working more hours, longer days and you’re always learning something new. Have a great day!
I found through your connection to the gal over on How to ADHD, and I'm really enjoying your videos. Please keep up the great work!
You’re amazing mate, I’ve been watching a few of your videos just to gain more awareness about autism/Aspergers. I think you’re amazing for the community, I can imagine your videos being so very helpful and inspirational to others out there. Keep up the amazing work!!!
Thanks for sharing your story. I feel you on the struggle. I finished MBA last year which was a career high point, but then I got laid off right after and have been unemployed for 8 months since. I’ve probably interviewed for 25 companies in my field, but the competition is fierce and I think my condition just naturally makes me a bad interview. I don’t want to take a job just to take a job either, but I also feel that getting employed for anything worthwhile is nearly impossible with Aspergers and eventually I need to just accept it.
I have quit jobs when I discovered managers lying, making unreasonable/illogical demands and decisions, cheating on pay scales, threatening to ruin work and client relationships of subordinates, etc. I loved my work but I cannot abide treachery, assholes, and office politics. Also, having a really chatty desk-neighbour made me want to work from home permanently. Unfortunately, due to the pandemic, I lost projects and now I need to return to full-time employment soonest.
I’ve been dismissed from so many positions including volunteer ones due to arsehole NTs discriminating against me. After more than 20 years of this crap I have chosen to avoid all of this like the plague now 38 and so much happier not having to put up with other people’s crap. I’ve always wanted to be an actress since I was five years old but have always been roadblocked on it, have decided I’m not taking no for an answer. Going to get training to make this possible
Would you say you're happier when you're not working within a corporate environment, I work part-time, but my job makes me depressed, I'm constantly treated poorly by managers, and I'm constantly being watched and controlled excessively.
Employment has always been a bad experience for me.
I just got diagnosed with autism. For over 20 years pyschiatrist diagnosed me totally wrong and drugged me to death. I wasn't able to work like that, but now that I'm off drugs I need to go back to work. I can't live on the little amount of government money I get. I have a masters degree, but my jobs from the past were jobs you didn't need a masters degree for. That's going to look bad on my resume and in an interview. I don't know how to explain a big gap in my employment. I also don't know if I can work on a permanent basis with my autism. It was difficult to hold a job for very long years ago.
WOW! Thanks for sharing this. I whole-heartedly agree that keeping a job definitely entails much more than just the tasks you do at the office. For me, the stress of a commute alone tends to quickly kill my enthusiasm for the work I'm engaged in with an employer - no matter how exciting. That's what makes it unsustainable for me.
I so appreciate your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable in these videos.
Thank you for making the video!
Sounds like you are creating your own path! You are on the freelancer/entrepreneur track.
I'm 26, I never had a real job, and I don't understand how to transition between university and real world work places, and as time goes by, the worse it looks to have no actual job experience.
Lasyltherni know that explaining how you filled your time (reading what, volunteering around your neighbourhood) also counts,,, employers have family your age, they also 'struggle' to get their 1st job...
Your University most likely has a program in place to help you with job internships. Make an appointment with your Dean and ask which programs are available to help with job placement and / or networking. Another idea is to consult with a career counselor.
Thank you for sharing some of your stories.
You're welcome. Glad you enjoyed it :)
I can't keep a job for more than a year. I just quit before they fire me so I don't have to explain to the next employer why I was fired.
I know the feeling..I have had 29 jobs till I retired ...I'm not proud of that & it did not help with social security
I am having a nightmare and I need help! on that aspect! please!
Logically Fallacious Is the app is a great app for me to use the app and I am not able to
do you think you make up a story that they are going to fire you but in reality they are not?
@@Pauli650 no. It really feels like it. I know what he is talking about. I feel it too.
Workplace bullying is rife it’s the same as what I experienced in primary and secondary school
Absolutely and I find being a woman, women are in cliques all the time and I can never fit in to a clique and it frustrates me and they always think I’m weird.
Same
Thank You for giving us your past work experience. Good Luck on your new journey. ~~~ Namaste
You're welcome. Glad you like it :)
All of my jobs have been what you described as casual jobs. Mom was a hairdresser and dad fell on hard times and between them both, they felt the need to scrape the money from a hairdresser's and a bartender's wages to try to send me to - yet another - catholic based learning institution to university. Growing up traumatized by a catholic upbringing, I couldn't imagine one more second in one of these concentration camps that, while physically present when dad was chatting with a university rep, I had checked out mentally and the soft interview sank like a lead balloon and it was grocery store after grocery store to the now, high school lunch lady job.
*getting home from the university interview, "she can't do it, Loretta. She's still, just too shy."
It's hard to know where to start in trying to clear up a misunderstanding of that magnitude. And even harder to figure out a way to do it that doesn't hurt their feelings.
I tend to go into shock in these situations where I’ve just figured out that I've been vastly misunderstood
@@terranovarubacha5473 that's completely understandable.
The longest I’ve ever worked for any one place is 2 years.
The longest I’ve ever worked at any one place was like 2 months short of 3 years and then I got fired like I get fired from every other job.
Thanks for sharing your story, all the very best for the future :)
Thanks Mark! :)
haha your t shirt reminds of "a fool with a tool", i'd like to have one! thank you for the videos, they are really helping me manage my autism discovery.
I don’t have a real job. I need to work. I can get a real job but I cant keep a real job for very long. My new goal is to try entrepreneurial ventures, many different ones, until one of them is successful for me.
Thanks for sharing that with us. Being an aeronautical engineer is very impressive. Instead of working for someone on doing the numbers on their project, maybe you should consider being an inventor. Aspies tend to be good at developing out of the box solutions. I remember Aspies were described as often working on their own self-directed projects.
good suggestion. The key to becoming an inventor is finding a 'problem worth solving' as Ash Maurya says. Maybe it'll happen one day :)
I am in radiology training now. I also do well teaching anatomy because anatomy is a deep interest of mine.
Ah man, don't feel bad about not working for an employer! I entertain the thought of working for myself from time to time, if that's even possible. I am going to see if I can officially get diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, because it would explain my life's story of almost every characteristic of female Aspergers Syndrome. Apparently the fact that I was a tomboy and preferred playing with boys (until hormones started to develop and then I got nervous around boys, and had a hard time staying friends with girls) is something in itself that is a symptom of Aspergers. I just started up painting again, because I was laid off for a few months and now am back at work again. But I tell ya, I don't think that it's ever going to be comfortable working for someone. These days pretty much every company tries to have the minimum number of staff on, so that you are forced to work at a rapid pace. Not only do you have to get your OWN job done, but you will often get a list of tasks to do after you manage to finish, while finding time for a coffee break. I have OCD, social phobia, anxiety and depression, and the OCD makes really difficult to get to work on time. I am telling you, if I somehow get let go because of my disorders, I am going to try a good hand at making a bunch of art, printing copies of each painting, and just seeing how many copies I can sell while producing more art.
Great video
Not many aspies that i have ever heard of could work as a tour guide. I know that I could never do that.
Fully agreed same experience my man
Hey there, I really enjoy your channel. I actually just started as an engineer at a different aerospace company, and was wondering what burned you out?
I've just started watching some videos on your channel and find them very interesting. I can relate the things you've been discussing.
How does one know if they have aspergers?
Is there a test done by a doctor?
Thanks, I've been finding your videos informative and helpful! I don't know if you read all the comments but how do you currently support yourself financially? It would be great to not work but I don't know what I would do without a stable income.
Wau, always I watch your videos, it´s like meeting a friend. I´m very much older than you but you´re always telling things I´ve passed through. Do you know how I love Airplanes? I´ve been an Airplane photographer for almost 7 years...and I was the best at Phisics during my High School...they used to call me "the crazy airplane lady"...it´s inevitable to smile...I wish you the best in your life. See you in the free Webinar about Emotional Intelligence...my regards from Argentina. (still searching for my diagnose, at almost 60 years old...we never give up huh?)
don't give up !!!! See you in Cambodia sometime :)
That was interesting, I WAS listening, but, watching in portrait mode, I was also waiting for the red line of the video progress bar to meet at the point where the line formed by the edge of the dark background screen meets the wall. It felt very satisfying when it got there and uncomfortable when it proceeded past it. Do you think I'm on the spectrum? Ha ha.
Sounds like OCD. Often that's co-morbid with autism though
or stoned
Damn it, I do it with certain numbers on videos (in childhood it was more obsessive).
I have the same feeling. I essentially quit my previous three job, and keep thinking of doing the same currently. Are you happier without a full time job?
Are you financially independent or do you still live with your parents? So many people here in the UK are stuck living with their parents because they can't find a well-paid job even after going to university.
Yes, I'm financially independent - due largely to small spending habits and quite good pay from my engineering days.
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I think it’s fine to continue living with our parents. I appreciate the idea of family helping each other out and being there for one another. I am a parent of five . The culture I live in it is expected for the son/sons to start out at home. That being said, our homes are very large and everyone has personal space. I lived with my husbands family for 15 years before getting our own place.
OK. A bit of my own history, Im 42 years old, in the UK, and was diagnosed with ASD in January of this year. While I am well educated (my post graduate degree is in computing, my undergrad is in English and philosophy and religious studies), I don't know what I want to do as far as a job goes. I've tried a number of things in the past, seasonal work like yourself, some journalism as I'm really good at writing, and have never really settled on a career path.
I suppose my first question would be, is this something that is particularly prevalent within the autistic community? Which leads to a second question - what can I do about it? I suppose having a good grasp of what my strengths and weaknesses are would be a good place to start, but there are so many online apps dealing with that kind of thing that I don't know how best to go about it, and then there is the concept of emotional intelligence which you talk a lot about that seems very interesting to me.
It all seems a little overwhelming, and I guess what Im asking for here is advice, really. Any advice you might have for me regarding any of this would be hugely appreciated. Cheers, and I hope all is well with you.
Have anyone tried Organic MSM for Autism/Aspergers? It helps me a lot just wondering...
Only found out recently I'm on the spectrum.
I've left a job years in the past because I was too stressed out by the rageaholic manager. Unfortunately I fell into work I hate even more- tech support. Seems like most of the problems are assuaging customer emotions and teasing out information instead of fixing problems.
However I don't have any savings and no executive function left at the end of the day. I want to change careers, but don't know how. Tried studying, tried interviewing, tried throwing resumes down HR blackholes, but don't get anywhere.
I think Teacher for you would be great, or Professor in your special interest because you are a great lecturer, Paul. I am considering going back to school for my higher degrees because I think I might also be a good lecturer in my special interest. I think youtube is working for you, too. I am not sure how to monetize youtube. Blogging after six months has returned zero readers. I think the blogging myth of blogging as a business does not work and only works for those selling blogging courses online. Kind of a pyramid scheme.
You forget the collegues. They can make your work unbearable (mobbing).
@@cor3944 None of your comments make sense.
I prefer the security of a full time gig, paid annual leave etc. I did a trade where I could kinda work autonomously but it's a shrinking industry and I was made redundant about 9 months ago. What to do in 2021... So not looking forward to job interviews and meeting new people at possible places of employment, if I had a choice I'd be the last thing I'd choose to do.
What can I get for employment?
Have you heard of "Pathological Demand Avoidance" and do you relate to it at all?
heard of it - don't relate to it
Does Australia have disability benefits.. if so.. are you on it? I am in the US
Paul,
My young man desires to work as an Aerospace Design Engineer specialising initially in Aerodynamics - his aim is to work at Advanced Developments Projects for LM.
I wonder:
Did you desire to work as an Aerospace Structural Design Engineer from a young age; and what was the motivation/s that drove you in going on to become an Aerospace Structural Design Engineer?
I keep forgetting to look for your facebook Page...
😞 the first minute sums up what I think of having a job, besides I can't live with my parents anymore and rely on casual student job, which I totally suck on because it's just retail, waiting tables, ect. ... 😖 if I do such jobs I can't keep up with my uni, too many people, too much stress and nothing I can dive into intellectually ... 😑 and then lying at job interviews, I don't have any useful job experience, how shall I lie I have...and every interviewer expects these skills. I'd come in and tell them: hey I don't have any experience but give me three days and I'll show you I can do it 😐 I wish life would be like that
Krümel93 quite often you just need 'mold' a hobby or leisure time to show an employer you are capable... To sales you read 'the body talks' (book about body language) and marketing related books, for restaurant (health and safety for food to work in the kitchen, for waitressing (you understand the importance of knowing the ingredients in each 'item' to guide allergic people)... ;)
Interesting. I can see 5 years in a job could completely burn you out - for me it was more like I would last a year or two, depending on the job - usually I'd become very bored and focus my attention on things I was interested in. Not too many places seem to twig that you don't get best results out of someone by giving them menial tasks. Usually simultaneously demanding 'innovation'... Several jobs later I'm also doing my best to avoid a 'real' job by moving towards research in academia.
I don't like kids or being around them. They are too loud.
Can someone be fired because they are an Aspie? I wanted to study Astronomy but my parents couldn't afford college.
You were very lucky and privileged. You got to live at home and haven't gone though what most people struggle with which is needing to work. I'm sorry, It's not really relatable to most people.
Would like to know how did u study ,such a hard course,my son is not understand the concept of math
everyone has different talents I guess - engineering (i.e. maths/physics/problem solving) suited me well
Aspergers from the Inside
Thank you so much..plz keep guiding
Are you thinking of coming back to an engineering job?
Not at the moment. It paid well, but didn't really allow for much creativity (or life outside of work!). These days I'm a professional facilitator which I feel suits me much better.
Tool \m/ \m/ Danny Carey is one of the best to ever play drums!!!
I am currently unemployed myself. I have had 14+ jobs I think? The last one was with Krispy Kreme. Mrs. Olivia threatened to kill me twice with a pistol and she was then suspended twice only. She then poisoned my two drinks with Tapeworms and then the last one was with Coffee grounds. Then she threatened verbally to kill me with Doculase. The reaction I had with Doculase 21 years ago nearly gave me a heart attack. I needed a Nitroglycerin tablet from an R.N. at Springhill Memorial Hospital. Plus Jerry Taylor he put $50.36 compilation of Comic Books onto my Discover.com card and then took the caps off of my car.
You know what job is? just over broke
haha. nice one!
dude speed the video up 1.25x and re upload, im not to get myself together i struggle with the same condition, i know what will help, i'm do my best to articulate better
Are you saying I take too long when speaking?
You can set the video speed through the video quality settings.
Boeing Systems Tester Review - Incredibly Toxic Work Environment
Systems Tester (Former Employee) - Colorado Springs, CO - August 3, 2020
I was terribly disappointed during my experience at Boeing. Onboarding was a joke and was rescheduled at the last minute three times. Looking back, that should have served as my first warning of things to come.
The program I was working on is run (poorly, I might add) by a bunch of "friends" that were so cliquish, one might think they have reverted back to middle school. There was NEVER any clear direction from leadership or management. Instead, one would be given a task only to find out the next day that the "boss" had tried to do it, or even better, he had asked two or three other people to do the same task all at the same time.
Those of us that were brought in because of our vast and demonstrated skills and experience were never allowed to perform the jobs we were hired for. Turnover on the program was at a staggeringly high rate. It should be noted that a lot of that turnover was due to the toxic work environment.
One of the "leaders" is just too insecure. He would micromanage us to death, change direction and not tell us (until it was too late), or act like he should be the one writing the code instead of doing what a leader should do - which is make sure his team has the tools they need to do THEIR jobs then get out of their way.
Several people on the program were victims of targeted harassment on almost a daily basis. HR was involved many times and NEVER ONCE supported the employee/victim. I have no respect for the Boeing HR office as they were useless to those of us who had to come in on a daily basis and deal with an insecure, inexperienced, juvenile dictator.
Also, it should be noted that Boeing IT does not pay market rates for their positions. Yet they have the nerve to want multiple degrees and years of experience. Do NOT be fooled by their promises of "a raise after six months" and "we pay bonuses every year".
Bottom line: unless you are a glutton for punishment, disrespect, low wages, and harassment, stay away from Boeing at all costs. - [Why narcissism in the workplace will never end]: ua-cam.com/video/izkysJy-N44/v-deo.html