Story 1: Military requiters can be *_super aggressive_* towards high school students. I was a teenager in the 90s and got talked into joining JROTC (Junior Reserve Officer Training Corp) as a freshman. I did two years before I got kind of sick of it and withdrew from it on my junior year. Even after I quit the school ended up making me take the ASVAB military aptitude test. Apparently I aced several parts of it so the recruiters pretty much kept me on speed dial for 5 years after I got out of high school. For a while I was getting more calls from recruiters on my home phone than from anyone else. The marine core recruiters were especially aggressive, going so far as to scream me over the phone demanding to know why I wasn't serving my country yet.
Not just to high schoolers either apparently. I'm 25 (though granted I have repeatedly been mistaken for a high schooler) and had some military guys repeatedly harassing me to join AT MY JOB while I was trying to help them find what they wanted so I could help the next customer. I wanted so much just to tell them to leave me the @#$& alone.
I was in university and both my twin brother and I had several times told a marine recruiter drive up to us when were walking to our university. Each timer we told him our first priority was to concentrate on studies. We were polite each time. The marine lost his temper and tried to run us over with his car. We ended up calling the police and even went to court to get him to stop.
2 candies comment: He didn't switch from talking like he would to his workout buddies to talking like he would to his wife, honest mistake. Winney the Pooh jokes: unkind and sorta uncalled for. Pregnancy weight gain comment: he stated his opinion/preference and she got all pissy, she tried to make it about her. Infertility comment: wasn't directed at her and sounds like he tried to rationalize the situation, woman gets overly emotional like they always do. She tried to make it about her again. It seems like she is mad she isn't getting pregnant and is taking it out on him. She is starting to reach his level in assholery. Telling her the truth in an attempt to help her on the topic of weight: How the fuck is the poor guy supposed to respond? He'll get demonized for anything he does or doesn't say. Women being irrational, what else is new... Sister makes joke including the girl's body: Oh so suddenly it's fine when a woman jokes about a woman's body, but not a man? What hypocrisy.. She asks him if he finds her attractive: What the fuck is he supposed to say? You wanted to hear yes and to save the massive hassle of her bitching, he said yes. No one wants an ungly or unattractive partner. If he started gaining weight she'd dump him before the day was over..
The second story, yeah the guy was being a douche but when he made a statement about pregnant women and that woman got offended when she isn't a pregnant woman, sounds like she was reaching for clout to this UA-cam channel tbh
As a Retired Marine and a former Recruiter back in the early 2000s....yes, this guy was a total ass hat! TI would never badger kids to join. If a kid did not want to talk or come into the office to get some info, I gave them my business card and simply went on with my business. I would not want the word to spread to other high school kids in the area that I am a pushy, doesn't take no for an answer kinda person. Kids talk, people talk! You want it to be positive, not negative!!!
Oorah and thank you for your service. I was thinking the same. I never heard of a Marine recruiter pushing that hard. The local farm boy, yes, but never pushing that strong towards a female that said no.
I think that was basically the experience I had had with the military recruiters I had, they were really pushy. I don’t remember if I gave them a phone number or not, as it was so long ago, in the 1990s, or if they got the information from the school. I didn’t want to join, and didn’t, but the recruiter basically wouldn’t take no for an answer. I remember taking a call from one where he basically invited himself over, probably trying to convince me to join, then a half hour after he was supposed to be there, he calls saying he can’t find the address. They can find their way over to Afghanistan, Iraq, not to mention a lot of other places, but can’t find an address in a small town in the country they’re protecting..., and I reiterated that I was not joining.
Oh yes, recruiters are HIGHLY aggressive. Had them going nuts back when I was still in high school. Took a long time for them to figure out I wasn't joining up.
My daughter had an Army recruiter who, after she told him that she had not interest in the military, not only found her on Facebook and started stalking her, but showed up at my front door to talk to her! He would call her and text her constantly so she blocked his number. Luckily, her father has a high ranking friend currently in the Army and he helped get it to stop.
@@Lucky-Nick123 all because Gen Z are not interested at the slightest due to atrocities and veterans telling them life in the military isn’t all cracked up to be.
@@Mistfall254Same, if a military recruiter ever comes up to me I'd literally say "I have a ton of mental problems and an autoimmune condition. Would you really want me when you'd have to pay my medical bills?"
I had not dealt with a military recruiter outside of their recruitment assemblies in high school. I never had any interest, but when asked, I kept it civil, but I never revealed my true feelings. Honestly, I *despise* the military as my dad was in the army and moved a lot because of orders. Never had any childhood friends, and it forced me to end the only relationship I ever had in my life, just after two weeks. Luckily, I have mental disabilities, so I dont have to fear the draft, nor have any desire to join. I have no issues with the actual people who are proud to be in it. It's the system itself for destroying any chance at happiness for me as a kid.
I always thought it must be toughest on the kids, as far as moving around at least. It's why I don't want to make a career out of it. I'm in now, but I don't have a family to support or kids to think of. If I did, I'd have only joined to get out of dire straights.
I remember the year after I graduated high school. I got a call from my marine recruiter who said I’m just catching up with people from last year‘s graduating class and see where you are. I told him I was in college and he asked me if I had any plans to join the military, and I said no and I couldn’t for private reasons and he just said OK and he wished me the best of luck and said just in case you change your mind, give me a call and he never called me again he was pretty cool he wasn’t too belligerent
Being a recruiter shouldn't be as aggressive a job as the car salesman is. At least in my area, the navy recruiter only needs to get 2 people to join per MONTH. No need to be so desperate that you're hounding someone from months ago like OP experienced.
When my husband and I were dating, he got a call from a recruiter asking my husband what he plans on doing with his life. Hubby responded with being a teacher, the recruiter I guess scoffed and said something about Hubby going for a "cushy" job. My husband got a little pissed when they hung up.
The story about the ignorant husband who keeps fat shaming really has me concerned as to why OP is still with someone like that. Not only are they unafraid to shame you for being normal weight, but they lie to you after making promises only to fall back on them shortly after.
the OP has probably been emotionally abused by her husband for years and there is likelihood of DV if she even thinks about leaving. But her posting is the first step in the right direction. She just needs a network of help to get her out.
Story 3: get a divorce after documenting your wife's abusive behavior towards yourself and your kids. It's important to gather the evidence first or she'll end up with custody and your money.
If they're behaving that way, well, their phones are recorded, you can actually contact another recruiter, tell him the name of the belligerent one, and demand to speak to his supervisor about unprofessional conduct, he could be looking at an LOC or possibly an LOR
@@Alverant I've had experiences with bad recruiters. Essentially the guy never picked up the phone and never showed up to his appointments with those WANTING TO JOIN. We called his supervisor and he was removed from his job. The military is also expected to maintain a good PR. So if you have a recruiter that is talking to someone belligerently they are reprimanded for their actions.
@@Alverant It would make them look bad to not do something about a pushy, ignorant, rude recruiter. They want people to join of their own free will, not because one of their recruiters harassed and bullied them into joining. That makes them look like bullies and that's not a good image.
Yeah, military recruiters are often like that, trying to convince you how great it is, promising you everything to change your mind....it is awkward. I am in the german airforce for 14 years now and one time a couple of years ago I saw one of this mobile recruitement center standing on our market place. I just went in and pretended not to know what I could do in the military and I almost cried because I had to hold in my laughter. The recruiter there told me so many lies it was hilarious for someone who knew already what you can and can not do while serving XD
I had went to my local army recruiter after high school got the highest scores in asvab and they're other tests I did all four years of JROTC I received many awards and a medal for saving a kid who got hit by a car by the governor in my state I was denied and disqualified from the military over something I never even knew I had who which was bipolar disorder I have ADHD but I was never told of the latter see my father was murdered by my mother in 2017 and I had no idea I had that disorder I don't even take meds for it I took it for my ADHD I was simply never informed of it I worked hard for that chance for them to take it so easily to this day because I got the highest scores on their tests I get text and calls from different recruiters and branches and it hurts every time I have to inform them of my disqualification however due to all this I have created a volunteer militia in my town who help my community all the time we run drives do charity work help my local police department and other agencies we train for scenarios like active shooters with local law enforcement and have established a neighborhood watch it's been 2 years and it's beautiful thumbs up if you liked my story and thanks for reading
Story 2: I'd suggest marriage councelling if OP want to stay in the marriage. Otherwise, leave him. He doesn't seem to have matured beyond the age of 12. Story 3: If your spouse is having negativity asa their default personality and are refusing help, then I'd say it's best to separate. Maybe not permanently but for a while so the kids can at least try and have a healthy childhood
Story 3: Divorce asap, op can't do anything, he did his but still this toxic woman doesn't change and will never. A divorce is the best choice, especially for the kids
I used to get marine recruiters try to recruit me all throughout high school and college because I was a wrestler and fit their mold of what they wanted. The one proven way to get them to stop talking to you is tell them you have a felony. Unless we are at a time of World War, they won't want you.
@@Child-In-Bucket-Eating-Melon Nope! Lived near DAFB for a few years. I know what serving can mean. It can mean you have a flag and a box coming down at DAFB... well your family can. You won't know the difference, what with being IN that box. Recruiters don't tell you how dangerous military service is.
Story 2: I would hold off getting pregnant with this guy. Is he is going to belittle you while you’re pregnant and tell you to loose weight that can have an extremely toxic and hostile situation. I wouldn’t take this because it’s honestly just emotional manipulation saying you’re not good enough, not slim enough etc. I would have a serious talk with him if you are ever going to get pregnant with him. But that’s just my take
Negative wife will NEVER change. Get a legal separation and make sure that she only has supervised visitation and court ordered counseling. If it doesn't work, divorce her and make sure that her family has NC with your kids.
Something similar to the military story happened with me, except it wasn't for joining the military, but to donate my blood. Back in my junior year of high school, the gym was closed off for the placement of where students could donate their blood to hospitals and other stuff. I told them I wasn't interesting in getting a shot taken, but what I didn't care to tell them for personal reasons was that I had, and still have, a very big fear of needles. I don't like the look of it, I don't like the feel it gives me, so I told them plainly that I wouldn't do it. On a side note, I looked like a big tough guy who looked like I could take a simple needle because I was 6'4. Being tall obviously doesn't mean the same as having high pain tolerance because I was a bit chubby and could bruise like a peach. They acted as if I wasn't gonna be let loose until I gave in out of how much they were pestering me about getting my blood taken. It was honestly beginning to frighten me as I started sweating. I told them no enough times to the point that I started raising my voice for the entire class to hear me struggle until a teacher came along to the ramble and escorted me away from those psychos. They didn't really say much to me as they took me away, they were more like my saving grace, but when I look back on it I think the teacher could've understood my situation without needing to say anything else to me.
I scored really well on the one army test all high schoolers in the us have to take (the written thing), due to me being in robotics and being very good at stem related things. This led to a army recruiter coming to my house with a bunch of stuff to recruit me, now here is a few things you need to know about me. I am 5'1, I wasn't out at the time so was still very feminine looking, I am very scrawny with little to no muscle and also born female. Also important to note, it was the summer at this time and I liked to sleep in so this army recruiter came to my house at like 2 pm and I answered the door in a fluffy victoria secrets robe. He says looks at me and then says he is here to talk to my name and asks if I could go get her, I tell him that I am her and he gives me this look of shock and confusion, checks his papers in front of me and then sort of half committedly asks me if I had any interest in joining the army. He was clearly not expecting some tiny woman to answer the door, and when I told him no, he thankfully took that as an answer. Sort of feel bad for the guy, he was holding a bunch of info and what looks like forms for me to fill out to join. Most people that look like me probably wouldn't have known the stuff I did about engineering and all that stuff. Oh well, gives me a laugh when I remember and I'm glad that my physique was enough to convince him I was not right for the army.
Story 1: I remember I kept getting calls at 17-19 from each of the branches of the military. I told them to take my number off since I would never be able to pass the fitness test. But until I told them I quite literally couldn't physically join they wouldn't leave me alone.
There are some recruiters that aren’t like that. Mine wasn’t. Military life isn’t for everyone and if she doesn’t want to join the marine recruiter should have respected it
You can call his CO to report him. Recruiters get promotion points depending on how many people they recruit so of course they sre agressive but this is way overly so
Story #1: If someone says "No, I'm not going to join the military" or something along those lines, understand their decision and respectfully leave them alone. Despite what Liz Baker said in this comment section, not everyone is comfortable with the military. If it gives you good benefits and life skills/qualities, that's cool. But people seem to ignore the fact that the mental state of a person factors into majority of their life choices, including military. They could have some sort of trauma or just not the right mindset for it. Plus, even though she didn't say it, she could have mental or physical disorders that make her not able to join. Story #2: That woman's husband should know that, while there are some females that can be spoken to as if they were one of the bros (me being on), most females aren't like that. I hate to admit, don't get mad at me, but females are wired to be more emotional than males, it's basic human psychology and nature. So the fact that he kept saying he wouldn't do it again then kept doing it is wrong on so many levels, not just with females. Also, women gaining fat/weight during pregnancy helps not only the baby but the mother as well. Story #3: From my experience, when someone's partner is acting like that, best thing to do... . . . Ignore it. Or be overly different. When they make a critique, correct it immediately (only around them for a while) and over exaggerate it. Also take your kids and, if able to, go to your parent's house. If you can't, let your kids play with friends or play video games, something, to limit the mother's time with them meaning that she can't correct them... THE CHILDREN!! Story #4: I completely agree with the reader. Sadly though, it's just a tad sad that people don't pick up on certain cues, but I understand as my boyfriend is one of those people. BUT!! Anyone is able to read the signs of when someone is not interested or wants to be left alone. That lady is just blatantly ignoring them. She probably is lonely and thinks that only way to get attention. If he ever runs into this lady, he needs to sternly tell her to leave him alone and that she is way out of line and that she needs to get help and understand that her actions are not healthy for her or anyone else. . But that's my thoughts on everything
The Army gave me all those things and more. Discipline, maturity, confidence, skills, critical thinking and planning skills, life-long friends, and access to a both a BA and MA without debt, access to home ownership, and two languages learned on the job and from living overseas. It's also the most diverse "work force" anywhere in the world. Forty-two years later, it's still the best decision I ever made. It led to a very, very good life. Just sayin'.
@@keegangailushas5752 and not just small ass guns. Big old "fuck him and everyone around him" guns. If I wasn't disabled. The army might have been something I would've done.
It is good that it worked out for you but OP is also right in not wanting to join, there's nothing wrong with that too. Lots of people have everything you have without joining the military. There are different paths in this life and that's what makes the human experience wonderful.
Absolutely not true when women often gain weight well pregnant it's a natural process to support the well it's still in their development stage if you try to exercise in that condition you could harm yourself or the baby both
So if you want a military recruiter to stop even after you've asked them to stop. Just go to the office and ask to talk to the supervisor(i forget the actual title). Let them know the situation and let them deal with them. i had to do that with a army recruiter after telling them that i was joining the navy. i actually had to call a JROTC teacher to get them to stop since the guy who was doing that this recruiter was doing was the lead guy.
I had a marine recruiter constantly harassing me for ages, he even got my friend on his side to harass me to enlist. Eventually he realized I wasn’t going to join up and basically sat there at his desk insulting me for working a part time job and going to school. Ended it by saying I don’t want to improve myself and I won’t amount to anything. Never heard from him again.
The only time I ever heard about any of it in school was an assembly in an auditorium where they try to make it seem like the best. Honestly they never handed out forms asking us to join. I guess these ones at least had enough respect for our choices not to try to make them for us.
The fact that the OP calls the entitled recruiter "Sergeant Stupid" is actually funny and i couldn’t stop laughing every time he ( the OP) says that😂😂🤣🤣
*Recruiters* So I'm a combat veteran & the military (Army) was the greatest decision of MY life but that's not the case for everyone. A recruiter has absolutely NO right to speak to a civilian that way. Unfortunately the Marine Corp recruiters are indeed the worst. They do tend to be more obsessive than the other 3 branches. I was a soldier, not a Marine. My recruiters were very respectful of me & what I told them I wanted. They didn't push. They let me do things on my own time. I always knew I would enlist but I wasn't going to let them make decisions about the specifics FOR me & they didn't try. They made suggestions but not demands. The Corp... they're demanding & pushy & I'm glad this young lady stood her ground.
The person from story 1 is not at all prepared for life if she can barely handle I slightly louder version of the basic 20 year old recruiter package, those guys are very eager to recruit you and you thought they were creepy, he wasn’t entitled he was normal, and if you are so dumb not to become a crayon eater because of their well handling overseas and “high” risk when joining then you should try joining space force, the risk of a janitorial job with the pay of an airman, I am sorry if this is very long, but I tend to rant a lot.
Last story. Find out where she works. If she's in the same industry, tell her to STOP or you'll let your contacts in the industry know that she is harassing you. Nowadays that can harm her ability to remain in that industry. If that doesn't work, have her served with harassment charges at work.
This lady will not stop man, even if you ignore her, say etc this woman will keep sending messages. It will definitely end in stalking cause she will definitely try this. Op needs to block her number and put an restraining order just in case
For the first story I thought it was someone complaining just to complain but when she said Marine I knew it was going to be bad. Marine Corps recruiters aren't the best but they aren't the worst. they are aggressive (because to be a Marine your main core personality trait is aggression) but if you ever have issues with a recruiter you always inform them that if they don't stop calling you, you will contact their CO (commanding officer/supervisor). Or if you have any disability (anything from Dyslexia to you're missing body parts) or you have been convicted of a felony or committed a felony then they will not call you...at all. Yes they are persistent (squeaky wheel gets the grease) but I've also found going to college or saying you plan to go to college (even if you don't) helps them get off your back even though they may try to throw you into a service academy. In other words yes they are annoying but I've never met a really aggressive recruiter. Though I have met one who decided to ignore those who wanted to join. So...
Just dont answer your phone if you don't know the number if its important they will leave a message and if its someone you don't want to talk to they will eventually give up
If a recruiter is yelling on the phone. Most likely, they just finished as a drill, sergeant, and then sent to recruiter. Recruiters, the main job is to be nice and get you in the military
I would have said to Sergeant Stupid “I know what I’ll be doing next week, I will be attending Russian classes! Good bye!” Surely that would piss off a US sergeant and I would end the call be saying ‘До свидания, товарищ’
Story 1 same thing happened to me in high school. I had recruiters bother me aggressively like I owe them money. All because I told them I was going to job corps after high school. My grandpa wanted me to join the army, and he got upset cuz I didn't pass the ASVAB (purposely threw the test to fail). They were gonna put me in Frontline infantry. The moment I find out I littery would tell every recruiter that calls me " that I'm not American" oh kids If you don't want to join the butt hole forces tell the recruiters that you're not American. They'll leave you alone
Do NOT try to lose weight while pregnant! you should absolutely gain, or possibly maintain weight. there are specific formulas doctors use for tracking, so follow whatever the ob says. It's totally fine to do reasonable exercise (or maintain your same level, if there aren't negative impacts), but you should not try to cut your nutritional intake as it could negatively impact the baby. TLDR - listen to your ob regarding weight and pregnancy (not jerkwads)
Story 1: When I graduated High School I got multiple calls from Military Recruiters up until I turned 21. For Story 2: I’m somewhat body conscious for myself and I’m trying to gain muscle. For the last Story: one time when my Parents and I were on a vacation in Hawaii one of the employees at the hotel flirted with me by saying that she liked my class ring and my dad commented saying that a woman was hitting on me and how I was completely oblivious.
Lose weight during pregnancy?! Seriously? That guy lost ALL credibility when it come to O.P.s body health or image right there. Like, that would put the odds of miscarriage or premature birth (and the complications that come with it) through the roof. Also the baby will try to get the nutrients it needs even if it means throwing the mother's body under the bus if need be (this can be super dangerous for mother and baby). Then after the kid is born the mom has to make nutrient/antibody packed milk which also takes an insane amount of resources. At best this guy is a moron and she needs to put the hammer down on his stupid comments. O.P. needs to stop asking for him to stop and needs to tell him to stop and lay out the consequences for if he doesn't (and follow through if he doesn't). He has already "promised" he would stop, twice and hasn't. She has already given him a mind boggling amount of slack.
Me who is myopic and 5'5 and Moroccan to that desperate military recruiter: nei lmao cry about it. I'm not even up to the standards in my country. So that tells you how tall, buff and strong you should be to join military. You gotta be elite and you get so many advantages, that people are dying to join but can't bc of the high standards. I mean military hospital privilege (the best hospital in the entire country with to notch equipment and drs for FREE along with passes for your entire family), health care in general, money, connections and the chances for your kids to attend the best schools. Bruh but the downside the workouts and training is hardcore. You're treated like a piece of shit until you higher your status. Then you're good to go.
Current service member here: The military only works for you if you're willing to be greedy and individualistic. Camaraderie and a strong support system isn't in the military anymore because enough cry babies decided to whine about having to suffer for huge mistakes they made. So now, too many egotistical nobodies that will end up homeless when they get out anyways, exist and those of us that are great atbour job and care about one another are slowly getting out. If you decide to join, enjoy getting rewarded for sh1tty behaviours. No one is your friend and your leadership is so toxic, don't expect them to support you when you fall short of good mental health... I've got days left and I've never felt more alive and excited than now. When i get out, I'm moving out of country to somewhere that isn't here. I love America and I love my people but alot of you need to wake up from your delusions because life isn't supposed to just be handed to you and you're supposed to do your due diligence and help those Americans that aren't so luck. As well as doing what you feel that is legal because we lost millions to evil men that wanted to take away all our freedoms furimg world war 2. You all may not care about their sacrifices and some of you may want more government to step in and control us but its ultimately sickening how people process insecurity and mental illnesses. Especially the gender folk who seem to rationalize being a "cat" as a gender instead of trying to address their serious insecurities but no they just force all of us law abiding citizens to call them what they want at the same time society in America thinking to just let bad employers, corrupt corporations and an unreasonable cost of living to keep us busy working our lives away while they sell us to other countries for a piece of paper with value. You can ignore this comment if you want but I can assure you, 3/4ths of the world is suffering mental illnesses and too many people seem to easily complain about said mental issues instead of fixing the problems people as a whole have to fix together. But I digress... You all love problems to keep your dopamine shots coming while no one pays attention to problems that are unnecessary and ridiculous. Most of you are smart. Stop making outrageous claims and mistakes and maybe we can continue to evolve and grow together right? Eh that's too much to ask for from literal embodiments of laziness and sloths 😂
I spoke to recruiters before, but I never had to deal with anyone like who the first OP experienced. As for the second.. I think he is looking for an excuse. For what, I don't know... but he second poster's husband is fishing for a "reason" for something.
Military school was a breeze. I get paid to study. Not tough at all. Got my diploma there as well. Drop out rate was about 95% i think. If you're weak. Don't even bother.
Story 1: there is a cultural barrier here, but the officer or whatever is being super aggressive, is it normally like this in the US ? they call you and everythinh. in my country the ''advertising'' is just them on the tv saying ''if u complete 18 years old this year enlist yourself'', for women is completely optional, for men is obligatory, even if u dont join the military, don't enlist yourself and you wont be able to even get a job(legally), so if someone can tell me about the process in the US by your own experience, i would be happy to read it
Story#1: I wish I could say this was a rare case. When I graduated high school in 1991 I was pestered left and right with offers to join the military. Always calling every few months or so, or sending me information in the mail. I finally had to say to them, "look you don't want me. I'm disabled and I have eyesight issues." After pointing that out they finally left me alone. Also if you do encounter a recruiter and they promise you can have this job or that once you go through boot camp, DO NOT trust them. I have had too many friends do this. They would go in being promised one thing and then even with a written contract, they would put them somewhere they didn't want to be or postpone until the point they didn't have to any more. They will tell you anything you want to hear to get you in and then once in, its nothing like you think it will be.
Story 4: The OP really messed on handing out that number but damn the way he described himself and his wife they sound like David Beckham and Victoria Beckham
I'm not American, and these stories about military recruiters are bizarre! I've only ever talked to one military recruiter, they were from the navy, it was at a careers fair, where I'd specifically approached them because they had something that could turn one of my degrees into a professional license. It didn't go anywhere beyond that, and they didn't call me and certainly not make abusive phone calls to me. Badgering high school kids into joining the military like this sounds like impressment!
For the op who's husband who fat shame for 5 4 145ibs is healthy and a size 5 is goals. I'm 5 2 and 194 I'm a size 15 and going up. After I gave birth to my son it's reallyyyyy hard to lose the weight plus with the depo shot it's not easy at all
That recruiter didn't do anything out of the ordinary. Judging hy the way she perceives the military and how she is talking about the situation and then saying "my boyfriend was entertained" tells me that she blew this out of proportion lmao as someone in the military, that is how the conversation goes. They aren't saying those things to "hurt your feelings" they are saying those things to make you realize that Starbucks ain't it chief lmao YOU put your number down, don't play like you didn't. Therefore he is now doing his job to secure an enlistment
I almost couldn’t get through this video because of story 1 & 2. Story #1: the 1st story sounds more like an Anti-Military rant than anything else. How this comes off is The recruiter is doin his job, and the poster wasn’t trying to figure out if she was wrong our not. She’s gonna be in a world of misery when the telemarketers get to her. My Question is why did the OP fill out the contact form in the 1st place, if she was already sure she wasn’t goin to join. I mean she was not only sure, she even said she was against the military. Story#2: this is going to be unpopular but it was like listening to someone speak from insecurity. I’m not saying the guy was not saying some crude things but no one even thought about where he was coming from. The OPs Husband just sounds like he was trying to help but he doesn’t know how to communicate it to you. She clearly never thought that maybe that what his friends say to him in order to motivate him and he was trying to motivate her. I’m telling you it gets exhausting dealing with an insecure person. He is simply trying to fix things in the way that he knows how, and the OPs sensitivity will never see it if she’s constantly in her insecurities. Maybe he used the gym to get through the loss of the baby and he thought it would help you too. At the end, he needs to learn her communication language and she needs to work on trying to see the why in what he is saying instead of jumping into her feeling. Because if he stops trying to fix it then she gonna be in a worse place than she think she is now.
145 is hardly any weight at all I've seen women gain as much as how much is 100 maybe 150 lb believe it or not that's normal exercise and proper nutrition you can lose that weight after your had your child
I graduated shortly before 9/11, and the recruiters hit the high school and colleges hard. They stopped after the first one asked me on campus and I said i had interest dying in a desert because a war started by US policies and our destabilization of the region.
Well for me, if a military recruiter, one that's this bone headed, guys like this is why no one wants to be in the military, asked me about my care path, I'll just say "well, it's to make sure you guys don't lose the next war." I plan to be an aerospace engineer.
The media and other factors twist the truth about the military...being a Marine is one of the best choices I've ever made, and its paved an outstanding path for life...I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I mean, who else can say they are retired at 41? In this case, I will admit that the recruiter was out of line and unprofessional.
I would leave a man saying negative about body image. I don't think that any man like that is very insecure. I also think he would be extremely sexist.
I work at Starbucks for 10 years, it's actually a fantastic company to work for especially for your first job. And they will actually pay for you to go to college now also. I'm also in the military and can say for a fact military recruiters are all idiots
Anytime recruiters try to call me or msg me I tell them I am not interested I have been diagnosed by my therapist I have PTSD, Depression and anxiety. I never get a txt or call back after that
Omfg if you would of told the recruiter you planned on marrying a marine avoiding any type of work or responsibilities all while gaining an astronomical amount of weight like dependas do and divorcing him after he hits 10 years in the service.
Oh yeah, trying to make sure your wife stays fit is toxic. Would you rather he scream at you? Or shoudl he just not say anything and be a submissive fool so it results in divorce? What do you think the options are here?
Story two, she should not don’t think about getting pregnant for this deadbeat. She needs someone who actually cares about her and not purely the way she looks. None of those comments are going to stop nor will they get better if she gets pregnant. His only concern in marrying her was that she is pretty not that she is are an actual human being. He married a pretty girl not an actual woman. His only interest is surface.
Yeah I'm just going to say this with the original poster on that story again with his wife that's just been negative towards him in the kids I hate to say it his marriage is over because the very moment the person you're married to starts to say that they know better than the therapist the person that work their ass off in college to be licensed to make sure they can tell you what exactly is wrong with you and what you need to work on yeah that's when you know your marriage is over and then on top of that the person is refusing to get help of any sort that clearly shows that they care more about themselves instead of you and their children and the only reason I feel that the wife could be this way is neither one she's having an affair and she was never happy being married to the original poster and having kids with him or she's always been like this but still refuses to this day to see herself as the problem😊 but neither way like I said before the original poster's better-off divorcing his wife
Story 1: Military requiters can be *_super aggressive_* towards high school students. I was a teenager in the 90s and got talked into joining JROTC (Junior Reserve Officer Training Corp) as a freshman. I did two years before I got kind of sick of it and withdrew from it on my junior year. Even after I quit the school ended up making me take the ASVAB military aptitude test. Apparently I aced several parts of it so the recruiters pretty much kept me on speed dial for 5 years after I got out of high school. For a while I was getting more calls from recruiters on my home phone than from anyone else. The marine core recruiters were especially aggressive, going so far as to scream me over the phone demanding to know why I wasn't serving my country yet.
Not just to high schoolers either apparently. I'm 25 (though granted I have repeatedly been mistaken for a high schooler) and had some military guys repeatedly harassing me to join AT MY JOB while I was trying to help them find what they wanted so I could help the next customer. I wanted so much just to tell them to leave me the @#$& alone.
I was in university and both my twin brother and I had several times told a marine recruiter drive up to us when were walking to our university. Each timer we told him our first priority was to concentrate on studies. We were polite each time. The marine lost his temper and tried to run us over with his car. We ended up calling the police and even went to court to get him to stop.
Because the best way to serve our constitution right now is to revolt against the government, not serve tyrants.
@@r4261klr "If you're not in the military then you're better off dead" sounds like he forgot that his job was to PROTECT the lives of people.
Just tell them the pay is shit and you make more
story 2: idk, she seems delusional. 5'4" + 145 lbs is overweight
uhh what
assuming that the OP is around 25-30, they would be at the higher end of the ideal weight range for women
higher end of healthy is NOT overweight
DELUSIONAL? cmon. you don't call a healthy woman who you're trying to have kids with "Winnie the Pooh". that's fucking weird
2 candies comment: He didn't switch from talking like he would to his workout buddies to talking like he would to his wife, honest mistake.
Winney the Pooh jokes: unkind and sorta uncalled for.
Pregnancy weight gain comment: he stated his opinion/preference and she got all pissy, she tried to make it about her.
Infertility comment: wasn't directed at her and sounds like he tried to rationalize the situation, woman gets overly emotional like they always do. She tried to make it about her again. It seems like she is mad she isn't getting pregnant and is taking it out on him. She is starting to reach his level in assholery.
Telling her the truth in an attempt to help her on the topic of weight: How the fuck is the poor guy supposed to respond? He'll get demonized for anything he does or doesn't say. Women being irrational, what else is new...
Sister makes joke including the girl's body: Oh so suddenly it's fine when a woman jokes about a woman's body, but not a man? What hypocrisy..
She asks him if he finds her attractive: What the fuck is he supposed to say? You wanted to hear yes and to save the massive hassle of her bitching, he said yes. No one wants an ungly or unattractive partner. If he started gaining weight she'd dump him before the day was over..
The second story, yeah the guy was being a douche but when he made a statement about pregnant women and that woman got offended when she isn't a pregnant woman, sounds like she was reaching for clout to this UA-cam channel tbh
That 2nd story is hella stupid on the husband’s part, especially when he’s saying “I think bla bla bla during pregnancy” bro you’re a man shut up 😂
As a Retired Marine and a former Recruiter back in the early 2000s....yes, this guy was a total ass hat! TI would never badger kids to join. If a kid did not want to talk or come into the office to get some info, I gave them my business card and simply went on with my business. I would not want the word to spread to other high school kids in the area that I am a pushy, doesn't take no for an answer kinda person. Kids talk, people talk! You want it to be positive, not negative!!!
Oorah and thank you for your service. I was thinking the same. I never heard of a Marine recruiter pushing that hard. The local farm boy, yes, but never pushing that strong towards a female that said no.
Very true, some people have zero interest in joining. Not everyone is going to take on such a commitment.
I think that was basically the experience I had had with the military recruiters I had, they were really pushy. I don’t remember if I gave them a phone number or not, as it was so long ago, in the 1990s, or if they got the information from the school. I didn’t want to join, and didn’t, but the recruiter basically wouldn’t take no for an answer. I remember taking a call from one where he basically invited himself over, probably trying to convince me to join, then a half hour after he was supposed to be there, he calls saying he can’t find the address. They can find their way over to Afghanistan, Iraq, not to mention a lot of other places, but can’t find an address in a small town in the country they’re protecting..., and I reiterated that I was not joining.
Oh yes, recruiters are HIGHLY aggressive. Had them going nuts back when I was still in high school. Took a long time for them to figure out I wasn't joining up.
That's why threatening to inform their CO of the incident will have 95% back off instantly!
@@mtgemperor what high school kid is going to know thats an option?
@@SMDoktorPepper one whose parents are in or formerly in the military
@@mtgemperor so the exception, not the rule.
@@SMDoktorPepper very much so.
My daughter had an Army recruiter who, after she told him that she had not interest in the military, not only found her on Facebook and started stalking her, but showed up at my front door to talk to her! He would call her and text her constantly so she blocked his number. Luckily, her father has a high ranking friend currently in the Army and he helped get it to stop.
Seriously now, stalking too, this is getting ridiculous
@@Lucky-Nick123 all because Gen Z are not interested at the slightest due to atrocities and veterans telling them life in the military isn’t all cracked up to be.
@@moonprincess500I'm autistic and disabled (cp) so that kinda makes me I'll qualified 4 the military lol
@@Mistfall254Same, if a military recruiter ever comes up to me I'd literally say "I have a ton of mental problems and an autoimmune condition. Would you really want me when you'd have to pay my medical bills?"
@@lovelysakurapetalsyt lol
I had not dealt with a military recruiter outside of their recruitment assemblies in high school. I never had any interest, but when asked, I kept it civil, but I never revealed my true feelings. Honestly, I *despise* the military as my dad was in the army and moved a lot because of orders. Never had any childhood friends, and it forced me to end the only relationship I ever had in my life, just after two weeks. Luckily, I have mental disabilities, so I dont have to fear the draft, nor have any desire to join. I have no issues with the actual people who are proud to be in it. It's the system itself for destroying any chance at happiness for me as a kid.
That sucks :(
I always thought it must be toughest on the kids, as far as moving around at least. It's why I don't want to make a career out of it. I'm in now, but I don't have a family to support or kids to think of. If I did, I'd have only joined to get out of dire straights.
I remember the year after I graduated high school. I got a call from my marine recruiter who said I’m just catching up with people from last year‘s graduating class and see where you are. I told him I was in college and he asked me if I had any plans to join the military, and I said no and I couldn’t for private reasons and he just said OK and he wished me the best of luck and said just in case you change your mind, give me a call and he never called me again he was pretty cool he wasn’t too belligerent
Being a recruiter shouldn't be as aggressive a job as the car salesman is. At least in my area, the navy recruiter only needs to get 2 people to join per MONTH. No need to be so desperate that you're hounding someone from months ago like OP experienced.
When my husband and I were dating, he got a call from a recruiter asking my husband what he plans on doing with his life. Hubby responded with being a teacher, the recruiter I guess scoffed and said something about Hubby going for a "cushy" job. My husband got a little pissed when they hung up.
Ooooh, coming from a pencil pusher calling himself a veteran.
@@Gr3nadgr3gory this made me laugh. 😂 Right?
The story about the ignorant husband who keeps fat shaming really has me concerned as to why OP is still with someone like that. Not only are they unafraid to shame you for being normal weight, but they lie to you after making promises only to fall back on them shortly after.
there is a mind set that marriage needs to last even if it getting toxic
the OP has probably been emotionally abused by her husband for years and there is likelihood of DV if she even thinks about leaving. But her posting is the first step in the right direction. She just needs a network of help to get her out.
Tell him what I told my mom (who body-shamed me into gaining weight, then again into losing it) - Buzz the f*** off.
Clearly she's not a normal weight if she looks like Pooh bear
So being vulnerable to heart attacks is now "normal" weight??
i rememebr i got harrased so hard by a military recruiter i literaly told them to fuck off then they black listed me
Story 3: get a divorce after documenting your wife's abusive behavior towards yourself and your kids. It's important to gather the evidence first or she'll end up with custody and your money.
If they're behaving that way, well, their phones are recorded, you can actually contact another recruiter, tell him the name of the belligerent one, and demand to speak to his supervisor about unprofessional conduct, he could be looking at an LOC or possibly an LOR
Riiight like they want to help someone that makes them look bad.
@Alverant the recruiter can get in trouble for acting like that
@@Alverant I've had experiences with bad recruiters. Essentially the guy never picked up the phone and never showed up to his appointments with those WANTING TO JOIN. We called his supervisor and he was removed from his job. The military is also expected to maintain a good PR. So if you have a recruiter that is talking to someone belligerently they are reprimanded for their actions.
@@Alverant It would make them look bad to not do something about a pushy, ignorant, rude recruiter. They want people to join of their own free will, not because one of their recruiters harassed and bullied them into joining. That makes them look like bullies and that's not a good image.
for those who aren't familliar with the English abreviations as it's not his first language, what does LOC and LOR stand for?
Yeah, military recruiters are often like that, trying to convince you how great it is, promising you everything to change your mind....it is awkward.
I am in the german airforce for 14 years now and one time a couple of years ago I saw one of this mobile recruitement center standing on our market place. I just went in and pretended not to know what I could do in the military and I almost cried because I had to hold in my laughter. The recruiter there told me so many lies it was hilarious for someone who knew already what you can and can not do while serving XD
I had went to my local army recruiter after high school got the highest scores in asvab and they're other tests I did all four years of JROTC I received many awards and a medal for saving a kid who got hit by a car by the governor in my state I was denied and disqualified from the military over something I never even knew I had who which was bipolar disorder I have ADHD but I was never told of the latter see my father was murdered by my mother in 2017 and I had no idea I had that disorder I don't even take meds for it I took it for my ADHD I was simply never informed of it I worked hard for that chance for them to take it so easily to this day because I got the highest scores on their tests I get text and calls from different recruiters and branches and it hurts every time I have to inform them of my disqualification however due to all this I have created a volunteer militia in my town who help my community all the time we run drives do charity work help my local police department and other agencies we train for scenarios like active shooters with local law enforcement and have established a neighborhood watch it's been 2 years and it's beautiful thumbs up if you liked my story and thanks for reading
It's amazing you turned an unfortunate situation into something positive for the community. Honestly proud of you dude, thanks for sharing your story!
Story 2: I'd suggest marriage councelling if OP want to stay in the marriage. Otherwise, leave him. He doesn't seem to have matured beyond the age of 12.
Story 3: If your spouse is having negativity asa their default personality and are refusing help, then I'd say it's best to separate. Maybe not permanently but for a while so the kids can at least try and have a healthy childhood
Story 3: Divorce asap, op can't do anything, he did his but still this toxic woman doesn't change and will never. A divorce is the best choice, especially for the kids
I used to get marine recruiters try to recruit me all throughout high school and college because I was a wrestler and fit their mold of what they wanted. The one proven way to get them to stop talking to you is tell them you have a felony. Unless we are at a time of World War, they won't want you.
I get debilitating migraines 3-5 days a month and actually can’t see without my glasses. Is that ok?? Never heard back from him. Hmmm
You know, thats great in all, but its greater to serve your country
@@Child-In-Bucket-Eating-Melon19 seconds ago!?
I randomly clicked on this comment and found a reply from 19 seconds ago 😂
@@Child-In-Bucket-Eating-Melon Nope! Lived near DAFB for a few years. I know what serving can mean. It can mean you have a flag and a box coming down at DAFB... well your family can. You won't know the difference, what with being IN that box. Recruiters don't tell you how dangerous military service is.
Story 2: I would hold off getting pregnant with this guy. Is he is going to belittle you while you’re pregnant and tell you to loose weight that can have an extremely toxic and hostile situation. I wouldn’t take this because it’s honestly just emotional manipulation saying you’re not good enough, not slim enough etc. I would have a serious talk with him if you are ever going to get pregnant with him. But that’s just my take
Negative wife will NEVER change. Get a legal separation and make sure that she only has supervised visitation and court ordered counseling. If it doesn't work, divorce her and make sure that her family has NC with your kids.
Something similar to the military story happened with me, except it wasn't for joining the military, but to donate my blood. Back in my junior year of high school, the gym was closed off for the placement of where students could donate their blood to hospitals and other stuff. I told them I wasn't interesting in getting a shot taken, but what I didn't care to tell them for personal reasons was that I had, and still have, a very big fear of needles. I don't like the look of it, I don't like the feel it gives me, so I told them plainly that I wouldn't do it. On a side note, I looked like a big tough guy who looked like I could take a simple needle because I was 6'4. Being tall obviously doesn't mean the same as having high pain tolerance because I was a bit chubby and could bruise like a peach. They acted as if I wasn't gonna be let loose until I gave in out of how much they were pestering me about getting my blood taken. It was honestly beginning to frighten me as I started sweating. I told them no enough times to the point that I started raising my voice for the entire class to hear me struggle until a teacher came along to the ramble and escorted me away from those psychos. They didn't really say much to me as they took me away, they were more like my saving grace, but when I look back on it I think the teacher could've understood my situation without needing to say anything else to me.
I scored really well on the one army test all high schoolers in the us have to take (the written thing), due to me being in robotics and being very good at stem related things. This led to a army recruiter coming to my house with a bunch of stuff to recruit me, now here is a few things you need to know about me. I am 5'1, I wasn't out at the time so was still very feminine looking, I am very scrawny with little to no muscle and also born female. Also important to note, it was the summer at this time and I liked to sleep in so this army recruiter came to my house at like 2 pm and I answered the door in a fluffy victoria secrets robe. He says looks at me and then says he is here to talk to my name and asks if I could go get her, I tell him that I am her and he gives me this look of shock and confusion, checks his papers in front of me and then sort of half committedly asks me if I had any interest in joining the army. He was clearly not expecting some tiny woman to answer the door, and when I told him no, he thankfully took that as an answer. Sort of feel bad for the guy, he was holding a bunch of info and what looks like forms for me to fill out to join. Most people that look like me probably wouldn't have known the stuff I did about engineering and all that stuff. Oh well, gives me a laugh when I remember and I'm glad that my physique was enough to convince him I was not right for the army.
Story 1: I remember I kept getting calls at 17-19 from each of the branches of the military. I told them to take my number off since I would never be able to pass the fitness test. But until I told them I quite literally couldn't physically join they wouldn't leave me alone.
As an Asia the first story hit me as Sargent stupid is like my mom when I don't want to be a doctor
Can you take out a restraining order against the military?
There are some recruiters that aren’t like that. Mine wasn’t. Military life isn’t for everyone and if she doesn’t want to join the marine recruiter should have respected it
I had beef with a navy recuiter once.. still pisses me off
think god there's no draft in the military anymore, cause this would go different if it's still around
You can call his CO to report him. Recruiters get promotion points depending on how many people they recruit so of course they sre agressive but this is way overly so
Story #1: If someone says "No, I'm not going to join the military" or something along those lines, understand their decision and respectfully leave them alone. Despite what Liz Baker said in this comment section, not everyone is comfortable with the military. If it gives you good benefits and life skills/qualities, that's cool. But people seem to ignore the fact that the mental state of a person factors into majority of their life choices, including military. They could have some sort of trauma or just not the right mindset for it. Plus, even though she didn't say it, she could have mental or physical disorders that make her not able to join.
Story #2: That woman's husband should know that, while there are some females that can be spoken to as if they were one of the bros (me being on), most females aren't like that. I hate to admit, don't get mad at me, but females are wired to be more emotional than males, it's basic human psychology and nature. So the fact that he kept saying he wouldn't do it again then kept doing it is wrong on so many levels, not just with females. Also, women gaining fat/weight during pregnancy helps not only the baby but the mother as well.
Story #3: From my experience, when someone's partner is acting like that, best thing to do...
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Ignore it. Or be overly different. When they make a critique, correct it immediately (only around them for a while) and over exaggerate it. Also take your kids and, if able to, go to your parent's house. If you can't, let your kids play with friends or play video games, something, to limit the mother's time with them meaning that she can't correct them... THE CHILDREN!!
Story #4: I completely agree with the reader. Sadly though, it's just a tad sad that people don't pick up on certain cues, but I understand as my boyfriend is one of those people. BUT!! Anyone is able to read the signs of when someone is not interested or wants to be left alone. That lady is just blatantly ignoring them. She probably is lonely and thinks that only way to get attention. If he ever runs into this lady, he needs to sternly tell her to leave him alone and that she is way out of line and that she needs to get help and understand that her actions are not healthy for her or anyone else.
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But that's my thoughts on everything
I like watching these videos while hearing the whole story, making me wonder if you are the jerk or not.
The Army gave me all those things and more. Discipline, maturity, confidence, skills, critical thinking and planning skills, life-long friends, and access to a both a BA and MA without debt, access to home ownership, and two languages learned on the job and from living overseas. It's also the most diverse "work force" anywhere in the world. Forty-two years later, it's still the best decision I ever made. It led to a very, very good life. Just sayin'.
Bro is trying to get me to join the army in the most complicated way, i would have joined if you just said guns.
@@keegangailushas5752 and not just small ass guns. Big old "fuck him and everyone around him" guns. If I wasn't disabled. The army might have been something I would've done.
It is good that it worked out for you but OP is also right in not wanting to join, there's nothing wrong with that too. Lots of people have everything you have without joining the military. There are different paths in this life and that's what makes the human experience wonderful.
You also get a chance to die so the rich can get richer
Nice try.......mr recruiter
Second story- the guy is toxic and he isn't going to change. Dump him.
Ok let’s say this all people who are first to comment a few minutes after it is made are people who don’t listen and yes I’m apart of it
Thanks for posting daily it's always interesting to listen to this while I'm chilling, I really appreciate it!
Absolutely not true when women often gain weight well pregnant it's a natural process to support the well it's still in their development stage if you try to exercise in that condition you could harm yourself or the baby both
So if you want a military recruiter to stop even after you've asked them to stop. Just go to the office and ask to talk to the supervisor(i forget the actual title). Let them know the situation and let them deal with them. i had to do that with a army recruiter after telling them that i was joining the navy. i actually had to call a JROTC teacher to get them to stop since the guy who was doing that this recruiter was doing was the lead guy.
I had a marine recruiter constantly harassing me for ages, he even got my friend on his side to harass me to enlist. Eventually he realized I wasn’t going to join up and basically sat there at his desk insulting me for working a part time job and going to school. Ended it by saying I don’t want to improve myself and I won’t amount to anything. Never heard from him again.
I love the name Sergeant Stupid 😂
Last story" No, he's absolutely not married. He's just playing hard to get.😂😂
The only time I ever heard about any of it in school was an assembly in an auditorium where they try to make it seem like the best. Honestly they never handed out forms asking us to join. I guess these ones at least had enough respect for our choices not to try to make them for us.
The fact that the OP calls the entitled recruiter "Sergeant Stupid" is actually funny and i couldn’t stop laughing every time he ( the OP) says that😂😂🤣🤣
"Treating them like garbage and insutling their life plans" IS the marine corps. So...
*Recruiters*
So I'm a combat veteran & the military (Army) was the greatest decision of MY life but that's not the case for everyone. A recruiter has absolutely NO right to speak to a civilian that way. Unfortunately the Marine Corp recruiters are indeed the worst. They do tend to be more obsessive than the other 3 branches. I was a soldier, not a Marine. My recruiters were very respectful of me & what I told them I wanted. They didn't push. They let me do things on my own time. I always knew I would enlist but I wasn't going to let them make decisions about the specifics FOR me & they didn't try. They made suggestions but not demands. The Corp... they're demanding & pushy & I'm glad this young lady stood her ground.
The person from story 1 is not at all prepared for life if she can barely handle I slightly louder version of the basic 20 year old recruiter package, those guys are very eager to recruit you and you thought they were creepy, he wasn’t entitled he was normal, and if you are so dumb not to become a crayon eater because of their well handling overseas and “high” risk when joining then you should try joining space force, the risk of a janitorial job with the pay of an airman, I am sorry if this is very long, but I tend to rant a lot.
I lived near West Point and would get SO MANY RECRUITERS. All my friends on West Point would say they HATED moving all the time.
Comment on story 2: tell you husband that if he cannot say something nice, he shouldn't say anything at all.
i never met a military recruiter but if one ever tries to force me to join, i would just ask/say this: does autism and adhd go well in the military?
Last story. Find out where she works. If she's in the same industry, tell her to STOP or you'll let your contacts in the industry know that she is harassing you. Nowadays that can harm her ability to remain in that industry. If that doesn't work, have her served with harassment charges at work.
This lady will not stop man, even if you ignore her, say etc this woman will keep sending messages. It will definitely end in stalking cause she will definitely try this. Op needs to block her number and put an restraining order just in case
All what happens after one thing you are traumatized for life after the military
Those guys went to my school and tried to recruit me too and i refused and they wouldn't stop even after i said no.
The second story is just messed up she should break up and slap him at least 2 times
Aww man. Idiot people exist. And that's very sad. 😔
5:15 I must be skinny then, I only weigh $130
The last story is stalking the op and it’s not funny
It’s there job to convince you to join
For the first story I thought it was someone complaining just to complain but when she said Marine I knew it was going to be bad. Marine Corps recruiters aren't the best but they aren't the worst. they are aggressive (because to be a Marine your main core personality trait is aggression) but if you ever have issues with a recruiter you always inform them that if they don't stop calling you, you will contact their CO (commanding officer/supervisor). Or if you have any disability (anything from Dyslexia to you're missing body parts) or you have been convicted of a felony or committed a felony then they will not call you...at all. Yes they are persistent (squeaky wheel gets the grease) but I've also found going to college or saying you plan to go to college (even if you don't) helps them get off your back even though they may try to throw you into a service academy. In other words yes they are annoying but I've never met a really aggressive recruiter. Though I have met one who decided to ignore those who wanted to join. So...
145 isn't fat for a 5'4 person
Just dont answer your phone if you don't know the number if its important they will leave a message and if its someone you don't want to talk to they will eventually give up
I hate cowards military service should be mandatory
true, military service needs to be madatory so the US doesn't get into wars as often. hard agree
[winnie pooh] "oh nooo, we ran out of mexican candy"
If a recruiter is yelling on the phone. Most likely, they just finished as a drill, sergeant, and then sent to recruiter. Recruiters, the main job is to be nice and get you in the military
I would have said to Sergeant Stupid “I know what I’ll be doing next week, I will be attending Russian classes! Good bye!” Surely that would piss off a US sergeant and I would end the call be saying ‘До свидания, товарищ’
Bro getting drafted to war bro
Story 1 same thing happened to me in high school. I had recruiters bother me aggressively like I owe them money. All because I told them I was going to job corps after high school. My grandpa wanted me to join the army, and he got upset cuz I didn't pass the ASVAB (purposely threw the test to fail). They were gonna put me in Frontline infantry. The moment I find out I littery would tell every recruiter that calls me " that I'm not American" oh kids If you don't want to join the butt hole forces tell the recruiters that you're not American. They'll leave you alone
Do NOT try to lose weight while pregnant! you should absolutely gain, or possibly maintain weight. there are specific formulas doctors use for tracking, so follow whatever the ob says. It's totally fine to do reasonable exercise (or maintain your same level, if there aren't negative impacts), but you should not try to cut your nutritional intake as it could negatively impact the baby.
TLDR - listen to your ob regarding weight and pregnancy (not jerkwads)
Story 1: When I graduated High School I got multiple calls from Military Recruiters up until I turned 21. For Story 2: I’m somewhat body conscious for myself and I’m trying to gain muscle. For the last Story: one time when my Parents and I were on a vacation in Hawaii one of the employees at the hotel flirted with me by saying that she liked my class ring and my dad commented saying that a woman was hitting on me and how I was completely oblivious.
The second story she needs to leave him. He is emotionally abusive to her
Lose weight during pregnancy?! Seriously? That guy lost ALL credibility when it come to O.P.s body health or image right there. Like, that would put the odds of miscarriage or premature birth (and the complications that come with it) through the roof. Also the baby will try to get the nutrients it needs even if it means throwing the mother's body under the bus if need be (this can be super dangerous for mother and baby). Then after the kid is born the mom has to make nutrient/antibody packed milk which also takes an insane amount of resources.
At best this guy is a moron and she needs to put the hammer down on his stupid comments. O.P. needs to stop asking for him to stop and needs to tell him to stop and lay out the consequences for if he doesn't (and follow through if he doesn't). He has already "promised" he would stop, twice and hasn't. She has already given him a mind boggling amount of slack.
Me who is myopic and 5'5 and Moroccan to that desperate military recruiter: nei lmao cry about it. I'm not even up to the standards in my country. So that tells you how tall, buff and strong you should be to join military. You gotta be elite and you get so many advantages, that people are dying to join but can't bc of the high standards. I mean military hospital privilege (the best hospital in the entire country with to notch equipment and drs for FREE along with passes for your entire family), health care in general, money, connections and the chances for your kids to attend the best schools. Bruh but the downside the workouts and training is hardcore. You're treated like a piece of shit until you higher your status. Then you're good to go.
Current service member here: The military only works for you if you're willing to be greedy and individualistic. Camaraderie and a strong support system isn't in the military anymore because enough cry babies decided to whine about having to suffer for huge mistakes they made. So now, too many egotistical nobodies that will end up homeless when they get out anyways, exist and those of us that are great atbour job and care about one another are slowly getting out. If you decide to join, enjoy getting rewarded for sh1tty behaviours. No one is your friend and your leadership is so toxic, don't expect them to support you when you fall short of good mental health... I've got days left and I've never felt more alive and excited than now. When i get out, I'm moving out of country to somewhere that isn't here. I love America and I love my people but alot of you need to wake up from your delusions because life isn't supposed to just be handed to you and you're supposed to do your due diligence and help those Americans that aren't so luck. As well as doing what you feel that is legal because we lost millions to evil men that wanted to take away all our freedoms furimg world war 2. You all may not care about their sacrifices and some of you may want more government to step in and control us but its ultimately sickening how people process insecurity and mental illnesses. Especially the gender folk who seem to rationalize being a "cat" as a gender instead of trying to address their serious insecurities but no they just force all of us law abiding citizens to call them what they want at the same time society in America thinking to just let bad employers, corrupt corporations and an unreasonable cost of living to keep us busy working our lives away while they sell us to other countries for a piece of paper with value. You can ignore this comment if you want but I can assure you, 3/4ths of the world is suffering mental illnesses and too many people seem to easily complain about said mental issues instead of fixing the problems people as a whole have to fix together. But I digress... You all love problems to keep your dopamine shots coming while no one pays attention to problems that are unnecessary and ridiculous. Most of you are smart. Stop making outrageous claims and mistakes and maybe we can continue to evolve and grow together right? Eh that's too much to ask for from literal embodiments of laziness and sloths 😂
I spoke to recruiters before, but I never had to deal with anyone like who the first OP experienced.
As for the second.. I think he is looking for an excuse. For what, I don't know... but he second poster's husband is fishing for a "reason" for something.
Military school was a breeze. I get paid to study. Not tough at all. Got my diploma there as well. Drop out rate was about 95% i think.
If you're weak. Don't even bother.
First story: Sargent stupid missed something, he's asking, not demanding. OP could have reported him with the military for harrasment.
Story 1: there is a cultural barrier here, but the officer or whatever is being super aggressive, is it normally like this in the US ? they call you and everythinh. in my country the ''advertising'' is just them on the tv saying ''if u complete 18 years old this year enlist yourself'', for women is completely optional, for men is obligatory, even if u dont join the military, don't enlist yourself and you wont be able to even get a job(legally), so if someone can tell me about the process in the US by your own experience, i would be happy to read it
Story#1: I wish I could say this was a rare case. When I graduated high school in 1991 I was pestered left and right with offers to join the military. Always calling every few months or so, or sending me information in the mail. I finally had to say to them, "look you don't want me. I'm disabled and I have eyesight issues." After pointing that out they finally left me alone. Also if you do encounter a recruiter and they promise you can have this job or that once you go through boot camp, DO NOT trust them. I have had too many friends do this. They would go in being promised one thing and then even with a written contract, they would put them somewhere they didn't want to be or postpone until the point they didn't have to any more. They will tell you anything you want to hear to get you in and then once in, its nothing like you think it will be.
Story 4: The OP really messed on handing out that number but damn the way he described himself and his wife they sound like David Beckham and Victoria Beckham
I'm not American, and these stories about military recruiters are bizarre! I've only ever talked to one military recruiter, they were from the navy, it was at a careers fair, where I'd specifically approached them because they had something that could turn one of my degrees into a professional license. It didn't go anywhere beyond that, and they didn't call me and certainly not make abusive phone calls to me. Badgering high school kids into joining the military like this sounds like impressment!
For the op who's husband who fat shame for 5 4 145ibs is healthy and a size 5 is goals. I'm 5 2 and 194 I'm a size 15 and going up. After I gave birth to my son it's reallyyyyy hard to lose the weight plus with the depo shot it's not easy at all
That recruiter didn't do anything out of the ordinary. Judging hy the way she perceives the military and how she is talking about the situation and then saying "my boyfriend was entertained" tells me that she blew this out of proportion lmao as someone in the military, that is how the conversation goes. They aren't saying those things to "hurt your feelings" they are saying those things to make you realize that Starbucks ain't it chief lmao YOU put your number down, don't play like you didn't. Therefore he is now doing his job to secure an enlistment
I almost couldn’t get through this video because of story 1 & 2.
Story #1: the 1st story sounds more like an Anti-Military rant than anything else. How this comes off is The recruiter is doin his job, and the poster wasn’t trying to figure out if she was wrong our not. She’s gonna be in a world of misery when the telemarketers get to her. My Question is why did the OP fill out the contact form in the 1st place, if she was already sure she wasn’t goin to join. I mean she was not only sure, she even said she was against the military.
Story#2: this is going to be unpopular but it was like listening to someone speak from insecurity. I’m not saying the guy was not saying some crude things but no one even thought about where he was coming from. The OPs Husband just sounds like he was trying to help but he doesn’t know how to communicate it to you. She clearly never thought that maybe that what his friends say to him in order to motivate him and he was trying to motivate her. I’m telling you it gets exhausting dealing with an insecure person. He is simply trying to fix things in the way that he knows how, and the OPs sensitivity will never see it if she’s constantly in her insecurities. Maybe he used the gym to get through the loss of the baby and he thought it would help you too. At the end, he needs to learn her communication language and she needs to work on trying to see the why in what he is saying instead of jumping into her feeling. Because if he stops trying to fix it then she gonna be in a worse place than she think she is now.
145 is hardly any weight at all I've seen women gain as much as how much is 100 maybe 150 lb believe it or not that's normal exercise and proper nutrition you can lose that weight after your had your child
I graduated shortly before 9/11, and the recruiters hit the high school and colleges hard. They stopped after the first one asked me on campus and I said i had interest dying in a desert because a war started by US policies and our destabilization of the region.
Well for me, if a military recruiter, one that's this bone headed, guys like this is why no one wants to be in the military, asked me about my care path, I'll just say "well, it's to make sure you guys don't lose the next war." I plan to be an aerospace engineer.
The media and other factors twist the truth about the military...being a Marine is one of the best choices I've ever made, and its paved an outstanding path for life...I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I mean, who else can say they are retired at 41? In this case, I will admit that the recruiter was out of line and unprofessional.
Why do you always REPEAT the story that we just heard? I don't get it? Do you think we don't have any attention span or memory?
I would leave a man saying negative about body image. I don't think that any man like that is very insecure. I also think he would be extremely sexist.
I work at Starbucks for 10 years, it's actually a fantastic company to work for especially for your first job. And they will actually pay for you to go to college now also. I'm also in the military and can say for a fact military recruiters are all idiots
No way the game on the background is beach buggy racing, 1 or 2, cant notice the diference but I used to play this game when I was younger 😊😊
The US military recruitment system needs a serious overhaul to get with the times. You can't bullshit people anymore like you used to.
Anytime recruiters try to call me or msg me I tell them I am not interested I have been diagnosed by my therapist I have PTSD, Depression and anxiety.
I never get a txt or call back after that
Omfg if you would of told the recruiter you planned on marrying a marine avoiding any type of work or responsibilities all while gaining an astronomical amount of weight like dependas do and divorcing him after he hits 10 years in the service.
That is actually pretty small and well toned to be 145 and a size 5. I was 125 and stuck between a size 5 and 7 back in my 20s.
I would kill to join the military right now I have family who where in every branch of military, I want to do my family proud and become a Navy Seal
Oh yeah, trying to make sure your wife stays fit is toxic. Would you rather he scream at you? Or shoudl he just not say anything and be a submissive fool so it results in divorce? What do you think the options are here?
I fled my home after nearly being conscripted into the Third Helghan Army.
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Story two, she should not don’t think about getting pregnant for this deadbeat. She needs someone who actually cares about her and not purely the way she looks. None of those comments are going to stop nor will they get better if she gets pregnant. His only concern in marrying her was that she is pretty not that she is are an actual human being. He married a pretty girl not an actual woman. His only interest is surface.
I would have thought it was impossible to find someone playing beach buggy racing 2
Yeah I'm just going to say this with the original poster on that story again with his wife that's just been negative towards him in the kids I hate to say it his marriage is over because the very moment the person you're married to starts to say that they know better than the therapist the person that work their ass off in college to be licensed to make sure they can tell you what exactly is wrong with you and what you need to work on yeah that's when you know your marriage is over and then on top of that the person is refusing to get help of any sort that clearly shows that they care more about themselves instead of you and their children and the only reason I feel that the wife could be this way is neither one she's having an affair and she was never happy being married to the original poster and having kids with him or she's always been like this but still refuses to this day to see herself as the problem😊 but neither way like I said before the original poster's better-off divorcing his wife