UNPOPULAR CURLY HAIR OPINIONS
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- Опубліковано 24 лип 2024
- Yup, I hold some very unpopular opinions in regards to curly hair! What do you think? Am I crazy? Do you agree or disagree with me?
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0:00 Intro
2:00 Naturally high porosity is a myth
16:13 You must be prepared to put in the work
19:45 DIY isn’t always the answer
21:54 You do not have to style your hair every day
26:07 Love you guys!
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My potentially-unpopular opinion is that so many people treat CGM like it's a holy set of unbreakable rules, The One True Way to Do Your Hair, and treat it like a competition to do CGM the best (an impulse I very much understand, as a competitive person!). If I want to wet brush my hair instead of finger detangle or use a wide-tooth comb, I will - it's fine. If I want to use a clarifying shampoo every couple weeks to remove buildup, I will - again, it's fine. There's no reward for being the best at CGM and while I think there's some great overarching ideas within it, the rigid Lorraine Massey version just does. not. work. on my hair, and I needed to actually be okay with the idea that I'm "doing it wrong."
Totally agree!! 👏 As we can see, I break the rules as well. You have to do what works for you!
mine: having a long time/exhausting hair routine is not affordable and is impossivel to maintain in a long time period
my experience is that i was freaking tired and tense about everything with my hair, now i just relax and make it work, don't spend a lot of money and hours trying to reach perfection (and i fell better and prettier this way)
Yes!!! It does not have to be all crazy, time consuming or expensive!
From my experience people who aren't afraid to talk about controversial ideas are more interesting. 😁
I agree with you, one thing I would add to the porosity talk is that Sun damage can increase the porosity of your hair. I live in a very sunny climate (South Africa) and the top layer of my hair that gets sun most days is much more damaged than the lower layers. Love the video Courtney 😀
There's a lot of misconception about porosity, yes... but the one thing I 'miss' in the explanation is that the cuticle layer is a layer that reacts on the environment/humidity. The layer can be damaged or even destroyed and stay always 'open' or partly 'open' but the cuticles of healthy hair with a "medium porosity" don't stay or sit in just one position the entire time: the cuticles react to the environment, for example to warmth (which often have more humidity in the air) or cold, or a very misty/foggy day ... in which we can't see the humidity but it's there (like in a bathroom with a lot of steam) . Although hair can be healthy, it will react to the steam, mist or on the opposite dry air so the cuticles go from (almost) close to a little lifted to more lifted and back all the time. So if hair absorb easily and it's healthy as well, it absorbs due to the reaction of the cuticles. When hair is high porosity due to any kind of damage, parts of the cuticle layer can't close properly or in worst scenario the layer is partly gone (gaps) the cuticles can't work like they should (open and close and vice versa) . Fine or very fine hair is more fragile , and while the cuticle layer is thinner (and because this hairtype misses the medula which thick hair has) it's also more prone to damage even when there's no hairdye or heat damage involved... and that can make the level of very fine natural hair more high porosity.
I agree. I'm 6 months in my CG journey. I'm a busy nurse, so can't take the time to "style" daily. My hair is much more healthy, and when I do have the time to style, my results are improving. Thank you for sharing your journey and experiences with us.
Same, I am a nursing student and I also do not have time to style my hair.
Thank you for what you do! I don't style all the time either. Mom life.
Breaks in styling have been my saving grace. It's difficult to put in all that effort all the time. Love the opinions!!!! God bless 😀
I started the CGM when we first went into lockdown, and while it was a great daily distraction to style my hair daily and nurture my natural wave pattern, I knew there was no way it was feasible for me to put so much time into it once I went back to work. I am grateful that I had that time to invest in the health of my hair, but that journey will require a lot more patience and grace if you're leading a normal busy life. These days I wear my natural hair down a lot more than I ever did, and don't even mind the less than stellar wash day results, but I still end up pulling it back a few times a week because I can't be bothered to restyle it every day. I had to learn that just because I loved my wavy hair finally, it didn't mean I had to let it stress me out and drain me of my time and money.
1. Even if you have to use hair product to make curls- you can still say you have curly hair.
2. Even if you only have one decent spiral(ish) on your head- you can say you have curly hair.
Love that!❤❤❤
@@ilikeyoutube836 Lol. Yep- obviously. That’s why I said “you can say”…..you’re missing my point. Curlier haired girls/women tend to be gatekeepers over other women saying they have curly hair- as if it takes away from them being apart of a special club. & This was supposed to be unpopular opinions.
That was the perfect response though….it proves my point. 🤷♀️😉❤️
I would disagree because there is straight, wavy, curly, coily in the realm of textured hair. You can say your hair is curly when it’s actually wavy, but you would be wrong. Own and love your own texture
@@SparkyPeaches Lol I'm sorry you're so offended, but if you have to do things to MAKE your hair appear curly, then it isn't really curly. I just don't see the point of anyone pretending their hair is something it isn't. It's not about us naturally curly haired girls being "gate keepers," it's just being realistic. I don't straighten my curly hair with a flat iron every day and then pretend it's naturally straight lol. If I have to make it straight by manipulation, then it isn't straight. Same thing applies to curls. And frankly it's a little annoying when women with pretty much straight hair with a little bit of wave think they understand the challenges of having actual curly hair. Real curls are very hard to take care of and keep healthy, and here comes some girl with a few loose waves going "Oh I TOTALLY understand..." 🥴
Like, no, you really don't. But sorry if me calling people out on their delusions upsets you
@@tatersprout Exactly. My hair is curly, but I don't claim to have coils because I don't. So why do women with waves insist that they have curls? I don't have to scrunch my hair or blow dry it a certain way or use any kind of product to make my hair curly, it just is. As far as I'm concerned that's what defines actually curly hair
Mine is: “You need to cowash and use products to have more than four days without washing your hair.” That’s what I’m told on a daily basis. First, my hair can’t do a cowash. I live in Florida and I have to wash every day or every other day. I sweat and it is sticky and smells like I’ve been outside all day. I’m a teacher and I’m constantly doing things outside my classroom to engage my students. I’m extreme oily / dry scalp. I’ve been focusing on scalp care for about a year and I’ve noticed a difference in my hair.
I can’t cowash because it’s really heavy on my hair. I wash my hair with shampoo every day or every other day. I also clarifiy at least once a week or two times a week. My hair looks healthy and I barely get split ends anymore.
When I was in Brazil my friends would shower and wash hair once a day. In the evening they would shower and rinse their hair so they didn’t sleep in all of that sweat. Made sense to me.
@@sparkybish makes sense. I like to sleep what my grandma used to say. “Fresquecita” which translates to fresh. I like to sleep feeling freshed.
Its fine to use a curling iron on pieces here and there to fix wonky curls .
This makes such perfect sense!!!! Thank you. I am 72 years old and my hair has NEVER been oily. In fact, I could go 2 weeks and still it wouldn't look dirty or greasy. I not only have extremely dry and frizzy hair but also have very dry skin all over as well so you make complete sense and I agree with you. My Mom had hair like wire!!! Thanks! I would love to have a hair analysis done to confirm that I have low porosity. (It soaked for 30 hours and they were all still floaters!). Thoughts?
This is so helpful. I just discovered I have some natural waves. I'm in week two of learning how to care for it and holy moly. It is overwhelming!
You make good common sense to me, and support you for giving your opinions! I had hair to die for, some would say. Long naturally wavy/curly (no coloring), volume, sheen matched with proper layering. Wake up in the morning, put fingers thru my hair, and ready to go....until there came a time in my life of huge stress, and I was flung into anxiety/panic attack 24/7 Hell. My hair went completely straight as a board, lifeless, damaged looking, dull, you name it. It was a long time until the anxiety eased up a tad, and as it did my hair began to recover some, for nothing otherwise helped.
I totally agree with all the points you made! My unpopular opinion- You can wash your hair everyday. You may not want to, but you can and your hair will be ok.
I agree!
I agree that you can wash your hair as often as you feel is necessary for you. There is no set schedule.
Definitely. But you may go broke from restyling your hair everyday after the wash because curl products, mine anyway, aren't cheep
My sweet spot is every other day. Everyday is way too drying to my scalp, more than two days makes me so itchy I can’t handle it.
@@chelseal654 I am the exact same way! Every other day or my scalp itches. If I go product free I can sometimes stretch it to 3 days but that is usually it. The only time I wash 2 days in a row is if I get something in my hair, then it is the only time I will cowash.
#3 100%! I'm about 3 weeks in and have spent HOURS researching, reading product reviews and comparing product ingredients, watching sooooo many videos (like yours!), and purchasing a hair dryer diffuser and several different high quality CG friendly products to try. Holy moly its way more than I ever bargained for, but I am enjoying the journey learning about what works best for my hair needs. Thank you for all the information you provide in your videos! 😊
Welcome and thank you!🤗
Try to keep it simple in the beginning. This will help you to determine what works and what doesn't. Plus, keep you sane! 😆🤗
Here is one of my unpopular opinions. Using hair dryers, even with a diffuser makes my hair dry!! I mean dried out not in a good way. Edited to elaborate. 😀
Not an opinion! I feel u 💯 anything i do to my hair, dying\ bleaching, heat\cool air drying - too dry! Brittle :(
Totes fact! Lol
Love the horse photo! Ive currently decided never dying my hair again... 🙄 We will see how long that lasts! Least of all not until its some 16-24 inches long! Currently trying not to wash it until i get aome lus conditioner & definitely likely need another protein or aomething to help it bounce back after recent damage :(
No hair dryers. Ever. It dries my hair out so bad and it falls out!
Loved this video! I loved your opinion about styling breaks - I do give my hair styling breaks at least once a month because I tend to get overwhelmed if I don't. That said, I recently brushed out my day 3 hair right before I went on a day trip and it turned into a frizzy puff. Its so funny that it did that, because if I was at home, my brushed out hair would have laid flat like yours!!
I also agree with the DIY methods. I would much rather put my trust into scientists who have devoted their lives to studying all of this and are able to provide a more logical explanation as to how something would work!
Thanks for the intelligent video. I wore my hair curly years ago and all we did back then was to apply mousse and scrunch. I’ve decided to love my curls again, only to be overwhelmed with often confusing information. Thanks so much for clearing up my confusion!
Oh yes the good ole' mousse and scrunch! 😂😂 But thank you! 🥰 THIS is my goal. There is SOOO much info out there!
100% agree on porosity. The definition in hair terms was about damage. It was an assessment tool for a colorist before doing a color treatment, so they didn’t give you a chemical hair cut. And high porosity (undyed or not chemically treated) can be because of sun damage, heat damage, or even hard water damage.
Thank you so much for the explanation on porosity, I was so confused as to my hairs ability to suck up water and product and the fact that my hair is thin and seemingly smooth to the touch. Seems my hair is like yours, fine and low porosity. This has been so helpful. God bless you.
Thanks for sharing your opinion! Each of our perspectives matter! ♥
Great porosity information! I think you are right. I have low porosity-classic medium coarse. I have trouble getting enough gel in there but on the plus side it is resilient.
Thank you explaining the porosity stuff so thoroughly! Very helpful. I have a loose curl pattern and med-coarse hair, so it would seem I’m not set up to have high porosity hair but man oh man I have a dry scalp. Oil? What oil? I guess that factor (combined with years of straightening - 1 year into curly now) is enough to make my hair “turn” med-high porosity. There is not enough moisture in the world…
I saw a video a while ago (it may have been from Marisacurls, but I can’t remember for sure) where they said we are looking at protein/moisture balance incorrectly. It’s not a scale with moisture on one end and protein on the other and you’re trying to aim for the middle. Protein and moisture have their own separate scales with low moisture on one end and high moisture on the other (likewise with protein). Thus your hair could need both moisture and protein, or be fine on protein but need more moisture, etc. it made sense to me, what are your thoughts?
Yes, I've come to this conclusion myself. If you overload then adding more of the other thing can help (eg add some structure to over-moisturised hair or soften brittle hair) while you recover from the overload, which is convenient, but they are their own scales.
Great video again, makes a lot of sense and made me think! What I did gain most from it though was the fact that I can have a break from styling without my curly girl routine coming to any harm. Yes, I am new to all this (10 weeks) and can feel myself getting overly stressed with the whole process. It's taking over my life and I need a break from the daily refreshes I have to do. A question: when you are resting from styling - do you just shampoo, condition and then comb through and leave it ? Do you comb/brush it through on the following days? Am sure mine would go frizzy and as it is chin length I cannot put it up. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Love the whole video, but the information on porosity crushed itfor me. 😊
I’m in agreement with must of what you said. My unpopular opinion is I love to comb out my fine, low density clumps. I have much more volume, and a crazy wave. Doing CGM techniques gives me a stronger curl and my scalp is much happier but most washdays end with a comb.
Love all your points and agree! This also applies to us tight curly girls 😊
Totally agree!
I remember the episode you read the hair test. It stated that you have hard water, are you using a water softener or just plan old water from the tap.
I'm glad you said you don't have to style every day because I style never. My hair was always very long and heavy with a bit of a wave but I considered it to be straight. I had a baby and cut it shorter and now its very wavy but I have no time to play with it and it looks horrible everyday so I have it pulled back everyday 😬 I need a post partum ain't no time for this tutorial. 🤣
I apriciate your dedication
Thank you so much!🥰🤗
My unpopular opinion has always been that it's ok to brush curly hair. Friz isn't always a bad thing. A little Friz gives my hair some volume and it looks nice. When I have no Friz, my 2C waves look flat and thin. A quick tug of the brush gives my hair the volume I want
You make perfect sense, and I honestly value your opinion more than anyone else who talks about wavy hair.
Courtney I have a weird question. So my hair was highlighted and I grew it out and chopped it to my shoulders. My hair was WAY wavier almost curly and now I have like nothing. Does high porosity hair curl better than low porosity?
That's really interesting about porosity. I've always wondered because mine is really absorbant but also takes an age to dry and high porosity is always talked about as gets wet quickly but dries out quickly too and I thought I must be some sort of exception 🤣
About the bun opinion.I agree with you.But what do you think about long periods of constantly putting your hair up ? Since 2019 i basically stayed home and kept my curls in a lose ponytail most days(even if i styled).I kinda lost my curls(from 3a-b to 2b).I think it affects the hair in time.
Your hair got trained for looser curls.
I’m literally watching the first section about porosity like 😮😮😮😮😮 I’m definitely going to get a hair analysis pronto because now I want to know 🤣
Question: My husband has coarse 3b hair that repels water that it's hard to get products to do their work. He also has pretty bad dandruff. I've got him using a scalp scrubber brush. What products would you recommend I also get for him?
Wondering if the Dyson Airwrap is a good option for low heat styling? Sometimes I want my curls (which is curlier in front than in back) to be more uniform.
So I have gone all natural on my hair and I've noticed recently ( now that more of my hair is virgin vs ends that still have damage) , that my hair doesn't even really feel wet, until I add conditioner! I wonder what that meant
Thank You for sharing 😃!! From another Wavy/Curly girl 🥰😘
Thank you!! 😀
My unpopular opinion is that you shouldn’t deal with greasy dirty hair all the time just to keep your hair healthy. No matter how many days I wait to wash my hair (trying to “train” oil production), it still gets super greasy the 2nd day, so I pull it back in a gross ponytail/bun. If it has curly product it feels even worse. Why don’t I just enjoy clean, nice hair every day instead of every other day?
Would love to give my hair styling breaks and I have but when I do my hair is super frizzy and not shiny like yours..and I do have wavy hair probably 2b or 2c hair. Idk why. I don't heat style. Only occasionally diffuse. I use only cgm products and have been doing the cgm for about 1 1/2 years. What am I doing wrong and what do I need to change?
You need to check out this post from Coffee Curly Girl on Instagram. This works really well!
instagram.com/stories/highlights/18035876665051613/
The whole protein moisture thing, soooo much. I think lots of problems people chalk up to “protein moisture balance” comes down to buildup and using too many heavy butters if they aren’t agreeing with your hair, or not using enough hold 🤪
I always get too confused ab all the porosity & stuff. Even thick & thin. So idk. But my hair has neeeeveer been shiny sleek & frizz free naturally. But growing up i washed it everynight including the lengths not just scalp. Wish id known better.
Thank you. I value your opinion even though my hair is mostly 3b/c I definitely have my wavy hairs too. My unpopular opinion: My superfine hair needs a lightweight protein based silicone leave-in. It has made all the difference for me and I use so little it rinses out no problem. In 5 years my hair has changed from high to medium porosity and adding that back into my routine was the best decision for me.
Thank you! 🥰 Thats good that you went with something you knew your hair was loving!
I tried the curly girl method on my bushy, low density, very fine hair. I got good waves, some curls , around my face and on the ends. But about 80% of my hair, back and top, remained bushy straight. The effort was not worth the results. Nope. Not worth it.
I gave myself a perm and I love it. I wanted a very curly perm but it came out very wavy and it looks great. I do very little to keep it looking good. It looks flat every morning but I mist it and scrunch it and use very little product, it just takes a few minutes.
Good for you. I always wondered why women who want curls don't just perm their hair. My hair is really curly, and I can't imagine having to make my hair curly every day by putting so much effort into manipulating it. I'd just get a perm lol
Keyboard warriors 😂
😂😂😂
I’m totally not surprised you two are tubeland friends…
Document, document, document at first until you start hitting on results you like. I had to do that for a couple of months, I tried and returned a lot of products, tried a lot of products on their own to isolate how they behaved, and also had already stopped heat styling my hair for months before I discovered the curly girl method. And I don't even do the curly girl method religiously! I use some CG approved products but my scalp needs to avoid phenoxyethanol and needs dandruff care, so I can't follow a dogma religiously.
Agree!!! Documenting helps so much! And you have to do what is right for you!
Lol Courtney you wouldn't want to talk to me about curly hair lol, I diy everything 😂.
When I have my hair up in a bun a lot I get a ton of breakage at the roots and it causes a lot of halo frizz 😂😭. I'm jealous of people who can have their hair up all the time without damage.
Just move your bun around, let it rest between buns, etc.
I have a very controversial and unpopular opinion that there is no such thing as "scalp training". The production of oil by your sebaceous glands is controlled by genetics. If not washing could make them produce less oil, then people with oily skin could wash their face less often and clear up their oily skin. I think anyone with oily skin will disagree with that. The only thing scalp training does is get you used to dirtier hair. If that is what you want then go for it, there is nothing wrong with that. But there is also nothing wrong with washing your hair every day if that is what you want to do.
One thing that can help oily skin produce less oil is to put oil on it. Making sure your skin is well moisturized can lessen the amount of natural oils you produce. It might not lessen it to the point that you don’t feel oily anymore, but it’s definitely a thing. I have really dry skin but my hair would get so oily so quickly. Now that I leave the natural oils in for longer, my scalp doesn’t need to produce as many oils so it doesn’t get greasy looking for days, but it took months of greasy looking hair to get to that point.
I (gasp) don't clarify. For whatever reason I just don't get any build-up.🤷
Just washed your protein/moisture video and now thinking it's as I suspected: I use oils religiously. I always wondered if the oils removing buildup. Do you find you need to clarify less often when using oils?
Ha, I knew you must have a chem background!!
I don’t think she has a chemistry background in the sense that she went to school for it, I think she just did research about it on her own time as a hobby and so her opinions are informed that way. Maybe I am wrong ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@JessFil13 Maybe I misunderstood, but at the start of the video she said, re: hair porosity, that her opinion was based on her background in chemistry, among other things.
@@alysonknop8395 yes you’re right I misremembered and misinterpreted what she said at the beginning!!
I thought your roots were oily. Mine on day 3 looks wet...
Your hair seems like the perfect hair type. When you say frizz is normal I'm like... girl you ain't seen frizz yet😂😂. I can heat style my hair and it's still more frizzy than yours🤦🏻♀️
I have a question. Recently I have a conviction that the Lord doesn't want me to cut my hair (and still studying it). My curls are stretching out because my hair has gotten so long. I still can't brush my hair because it gets very frizzy and poofy🤪. But at the same time I'm losing my curl pattern and it looks weird. My hair is balanced as far as protein and moisture go. I used to be able to put my hair in a pineapple and my curls would be fine, now they get all weird like. I really want to cut my hair shorter because my hair is very heavy, but I don't think I should. Do you have any tips for trying to bring curls back even when it's weighed down? I know it sounds funny, but I have seen people do it but it isn't working for me. Was wondering if you had any suggestions. 🤷♀️
How do you feel about trimming it and/or adding layers? This way you could keep the length long but take some weight off with layers.
@@smcook96 no not even trimming😭
Also I use zero products. Not even leave in conditioner. I know! Scandalous!
Im naturally -100 oily. Lol 2 weeks no wash still no oil. Especially mot doown my hair. People say im lucky. No im not. I need aome oil for my poor hair!
“Not the be-all or the end-all” 🤣
Mine is short hair is not easy to style its high maintenance u have to go to the salon each month.. To keep it shaped. U have to style everyday... Long much easier u have a bad hair day..easy you put it in a bun and that s it
Here's an unpopular opinion: Hair type charts are useless and inaccurate. Most people whose hair is considered wavy have loosely curly hair. Some people whose hair is considered very curly in fact have very wavy hair.
I agree!
Agreed! My hair would probably be considered somewhere between 2a-2b depending on the wash day, but if you bother to look at it either directly from above or below, you'll notice that my "waves" aren't just bends in the hair like most people describe waves -- they're loose spirals. They take a while to do a full spiral, but they're not really bends. It's so strange to me that some people will ascribe these shapes to wavey and curly hair but then will ultimately decide to categorize it by the tightness of their curl or wave pattern.
Some unpopular opinions:
*DIY flaxseed gel actually can be potentially harmful, especially for those prone to hygral fatigue, over moisturization, or scalp issues stemming from the scalp staying wet too long or the bacteria growth of the unpreserved gel.
*Denman styling and other styling methods that place a significant amount of tension on the scalp should not be promoted quite so often. Or there should at least be a disclaimer at the start of these routine videos that using these styling methods frequently can result in traction alopecia for some individuals. Also, it just seems fishy that absolutely everyone in curly spaces feels like they have to Denman style, in order to have the 'right' kind of curls so everyone's unique curls end up looking the same.
*Most of the time an issue you're having with your hair is going to be solved by doing less or accepting your hair, not by buying more products (but hair influencers will generally tell you otherwise).
I would say that if the amount of your *natural* oils makes your hair *naturally* have more friction and start increasing porosity as it grows, it could still qualify as "natural high porosity" tho :)
Try kinky curly not today leave in and the custard
My Unpopular Opinions
1. Heat styling, even as often as once or twice a week, doesn't necessarily damage your curl pattern.
If your hair is permed, you can still be part of the curly community
Curly hair is not necessarily sexier that straight hair. No texture shaming
What is this “DIY”?
Do It Yourself…people making their own products to use.
Your hair is definately a wavy curly girl.
It sure is!!
I suggest research fortified shampoo for fast hair growth.