Hallelujah!!!!!! Phrankleen! it’s all about power and control of these men. My family had no money when I meet my husband. My husband brought me to UK and used his savings to educate me, I mean paid my university tuition fees because at that time I was considered a foreign student. We are still together after 30 years. My husband is proud to have an educated woman, he’s not intimidated by my progression. Currently he has supported me to pursue my MSc. Through his support we educated our daughter, she married and a mother of one and the second on the way. We adore our son in - law, he’s from Africa and our daughter grew up in UK. It all depends on how a person was raised, it does not matter whether a woman is westernised or not. African men think cheating is acceptable and except the wife to endure pain in silence, when a women voice her opinion she is considered westernised. Your have nailed it in the coffin Prrankleen! Rosa
its great that you have given a balanced view of this topic. While some men may go to marry women in Africa for the wrong reasons, there are also women out there who use men to get to western countries and once here, they do everything to get everything from the man and leave him with nothing.
@@evakast4874 It is true that there are unscrupulous men and women out there. Phrankleen's video does present a balanced view of things. The problem is with some African brothers denying the fact that some of them go back to Africa to marry women for very selfish and exploitative reasons.
Phrankleen, you hit the nail on the head 💯💯💯. You’re right the premise for some men going to Africa to pick a wife is about power and control, period and simple!!!
Hi, I think that men - either black ,white, red or yellow - who feel the urge to dominate a woman , should look inside themselves and find out why they have this " need ". Is it simply to repeat unchallenged dysfunctional patterns from parents/ culture , a deep insecurity , a fear of being abandoned etc. From a female point of view it is always more attractive to win her with love, respect and open communication instead of using power and violence to make her play a role she does not like to play. Greetings Conny
New subie here,I am a Congolese in London and I like your content particularly on relationships and the black community,man like you are scarce on social media there is so much narcissism everywhere, I could listen to you all day
It doesn't matter where your partner comes from. Unless you drop your assumptions and look for a partner who shares your values about life, that relationship ain't going anywhere. You cannot expect a woman to behave as a docile lamb, when you expect her to work as hard and as long as her man. In the West, there will be no food on the table unless both the man and woman work because the cost of living is high. So, two oxen are needed to pull the plough. Princes and Princesses - entitled, manipulative good for nothings - need not apply. Both of you work together to increase the fortune of the family. You decide things together, and benefit together. Most importantly, you have to agree about how to manage your finances together. Talk about that before you link up, and be sure you agree. Forget this, and you'll be lost.
Phrankleen you are on point. In my opinion, whether westernized or not, I believe the heart & character is key and very much applicable to men too because nobody is an angel. I have heard stories where a non westernized woman was brought abroad and got married only to have children with the man and eloped with the friend of her husband. I know some westernized women can do terrible things but then i dont think all are evil. Even the men take westernized women for granted, imagine a Nigerian man married to a westernized woman and had kids with her then he went behind her back to marry a Nigerian woman secretly and his western woman found out and she did the needful to revenge. You will hear lots of stories how some Men/Women said they'd rather marry foreign Men/Women because they know what african Men/Women put them through. Honestly I won't blame them. What I am trying to point out is that evil is in the heart of man and it got nothing to do with being western or non western.
I love to see African men speak up on the fact that the African woman is put down especially in Nigeria. I have been posting about this to enlighten them on the fact that women subjugation is one of the reasons why Nigeria is backward and all I get is barrage of attacks from them including few women who have been completely subjugated and don't want to think for themselves. I will share to my readers on Facebook. Thank you Phrankleen
I always know how much you hate men's God's given position. Just deal with it. If you keep rebelling against that arrangement, you're rebelling against God. Bro warned!
@@anatuneoanatune9695 I can already see by your comment that you are one of those men who abuse and torture women. Grow up because we are no longer in the stone age where cave men like you live. Start acting like you live in the 21st century.
@@ijonuigbo7417 . I've said my own. Being in the military will never make you a man so discard that feminism mentality because it has destroyed many women who once believed in that madness but now in full regret. I love and treat well women who know their position.
@@anatuneoanatune9695 obviously you think you know me. But I don't know you. And I am done talking to a cave man. The important thing is that the man that owns this channel spoke the same thing I agreed to. But I don't see you fighting him. You came straight to my comment because you think that women should not have a voice. You are Lucky this is the internet where you have the freedom to tackle anyone disrespectfully so go on and make mouth like you are all known for. You wouldn't dare it if you met me on the street or you will learn that military makes me a man.
@@ijonuigbo7417 . That's my point. Because you're Nwanyi Army nobody should hear word. For the record, I don't know you but I've seen several places you're exhibiting the same feminism mentality . And mind you if you see me, you wont kill me. Your strength ends in America where all these feminism rubbish started.
Lol 😀I was ran down for three weeks at the farmers market by a man who was getting on my nerves asking me out constantly😱 Long story short i finally dated him, but now has been married six years to him yes he's Nigerian and yes i tested him and let him know that i will not be stuck in the house and i will not be hit😱😵so if you can deal with me speaking my mind than everyone will be ok. Six years and were still happy with only one argument about me eating to much candy 🍬 Not all of us are dangerous😒
Beautiful video. I'm a black American lady. A mature lady in the west is best. I'm a mature western women who values respect & kindness in a relationship... if make mistake, I welcome correction but I like it done with compassion & respect...after all we are supposed to love eachother.😊I dont mind if my guy sets boundaries, but it must be reasonable boundaries.
After dating a Nigerian living in America for a while, he came over to see me. When I saw him, I decided that I didn't like him and didn't want to marry him. I didn't follow him to America because I didn't want to leave him, because I would do it las las, and then the stories will start about how he brought me to America and I am misbehaving.
Am impressed by you. How I wish we have many more like you. I didn't date a guy who had US privileges too when I was in naija cos I didn't like him too and he couldn't understand.
@@bonnechance6988 yeah. That's not nice. Marriage, whether in Africa or Europe or wherever is a tough institution. The ties that should bind the couple should be much more than green card or citizenship. I feel sorry for people who have been used that way. No one deserves to be exploited like that.
Nice. I live in the US and most of us looking to find our better halves from Africa are biased especially because people are desperate to travel out by all means possible. The thing is even if you genuinely had feelings for him, depending on your background, he might feel that you like him because you want to come abroad and that's why I always encourage my guys to look for their spouse here or go stay low key in Naija for a considerable amount of time to look for a woman that genuinely wants to be with them.
A very balanced analogy Nigerian brother and I will second that by saying, 'shame on any woman or man with such an ill-intentioned construct'. As a survivor, I know how deep such misguided perception can be, it almost stopped me from completing my graduate program. I think that men and women who reason like that are primarily insecure and should go for psychotherapy. Thanks and we need more real men and women who rationalize like you.
I can tell you would cover the issue of narcissism quite thoroughly, you often refer to misogyny but narcissism is rife in the African community, it would be interesting to hear it in your words
This is a very good topic. My take on this is, wherever you find love stay there. Many Men go back to marry from Africa and when the woman gets overseas in most cases it becomes a different ballgame because their African mindset is that a man must provide for their every need. Even when they start working they believe "my money is for me and my family back home" while my husband's money is for us. They do not understand that relationship overseas is partnership where the man and woman shares the bills at home. In a situation where you refuse to pay the bills at home alone it becomes a problem even if you try to make them understand that it doesn't work like that here. Then you are label as one who cannot provide for his wife. Then there is constant quarrel and the Police gets involved, the Man is kick out of his own house that he bought and infidelity starts and the man may decide to do something drastic like some cases in the United States where some Men ended up killing the wives they brought from Nigeria. The best thing is to look for a wife( Westernized) wherever you are, someone who understands the system. Afterall "Wetin dey for Sokoto dey Inside Shokoto"
The westernized black women(born in the west) i meet are either ghetto(sad but true, heavily influenced by american culture all over europe) or white men lovers(those black pride, natural haired black women who only date white men), the best women i've meet are african women who came to europe when they were older, those are the ones i've clicked the most with and dated. I won't live in europe or raise my children here, as an african/black person, raising your daughter in the west is the worst thing you can do, you will be raising them to have all kinds of inferiority complex, its true sadly and i've seen it thousand of times with young black people raised in europe. In U.K black people are even dying out because they all date white partners instead of each other due to inferiority complex...
TheIrbe its nothing to do with inferiority complex its as a blk brit its to with class money and wherever ur born (sometimes) as i hear most want another blk British person to marry than someone fresh from ghana or naija
@@kwameopoku3576 Blacks have the mentality that you are successful once you have a white women, look at the first thing those black men in U.K will do once they get successful? Find a white women. Its the same thing all over europe with blacks, like in places like France. As i said earlier, blacks are dying out in U.K because most of them date out, but other groups such as Pakistanis and other asian groups only date each other and if they don't find partners in U.K they go home to find one. Them dating each other enables them to build wealth within their community unlike blacks who once they get wealth will run of to marry people from other communities and give it away. I've lived on this earth long enough to see that blacks are not smart, the majority dont use their brains, its just there to fill the gap.
You explained that very well. It takes money to live WELL in America. If you get married and buy a home. It really takes two incomes to maintain your house decently!
On point as usual. Not every woman or situation is the same. We must always strive to understand the circumstances leading up to an event before drawing a conclusion on the matter.
Hello Phrankleen , In most cases what you said is 99% korrekt. Most men do it, because their families advised them to handle it that way. Others because of insecurity, to control (power) and afraid of being challenged in any way or form. The westernized women are out spoken, many got good education which grands them got jobs and are well paid. Knows their fundamentals and human right, 100% independent and that gives them the random opportunity not to take any harassment, violence, mental abuse behaviors from any man whom so ever. The fact is most of this men who import their wives, just controlled them, and tell them what do. The westernized women just stand for partnership and equality.
Ije Habbi it is a lie not all westernized woman stand for equality. We have the bad once and it comes from upbringing. I married a westernized woman because me too is in support of woman empowerment. Omo I made the worst mistake.
@@henrymando1654 You were scammed, unless that westernized african women have traditional values dont bother even looking at her.. The women who follows metoo movement(I have nothing wrong with the movement) believe that promiscuity = women's rights, they are mentaly brainwashed. The best women i have encountered are african women who moved to the west when they were older, they have their traditional values and we can relate in lots of things. The thing is that most of them don't change their core beliefs even though that they move to the west, like they value marriage and so on which is important. Westernized women on the otherhand has led to an out of wedlock children problem due to the adopting the western promiscuity = women's rights mentality.
@@TheIrbe That interpretation of women's rights as promiscuity is yours only and quite myopic, to say the least. There is a huge problem with such binary thinking. If you have issues dealing with women, don't blame it on women's rights. Do an inward search and look in the mirror.
@@bonnechance6988 i have no issues with dealing with women since i only deal with non westernized african women, i love my non westernized african women.
It is well with you sis. Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. But always remember once there is life, there is hope. Baba God got your back. Don't give up. Make new friends, go out more and pray as well. Remain blessed!!
I was born and bred in Nigeria, currently living in Germany,. dated Europeans and all that, and they have their pros and cons just like every other people across the world, but I see myself marrying a black woman, will I go back to Nigeria to pick a wife? HELL NO! but I'd rather find me a black Afrocentric but westernized woman BORN and raised here but still feel proud of her African identity that reasons the same way as I do (even though they are hard to find in this country) nothing against white women, just don't see myself settling with one., only weak and insecure men go pick a woman in Africa with intention to control and dominate (and also NOTHING against brothers that find love in Africa, or chose to go back home to fall in love with genuine intentions)... my issue with girls in Nigeria is just compatibility, it just seems to be impossible to find that compatible woman in Nigeria.
TheIrbe Because we are a minority the race will be diluted as all my mixed race family members apart from one are with white men or women so the Nigerian blood has disappeared you can’t tell if they have black blood or a black grandad
@@TheIrbe Did you really read my comment???? please go back and read it again, I made it clear that I would prefer to settle down with a black woman, but NOT gonna go back to Nigeria to sort for that,. and this is based on my personal preference and mindset. I am not compatible with majority of Nigerian born women, even though black women are still my choice, did you read anywhere that I put white women on a pedestal? or did I say I want to marry one??
I love you meeeen. Let me just say that I fell in the category of those men that have the mentality of coming to Nigeria to marry a woman with the sole intention of suppressing, intimidating , and controlling that woman. Yep, that’s my story. It went on for 20 years but I finally found my voice and said enough is enough. Now he tells me that I don’t have a claim to ‘his’ house because he bought it before he married me and brought me to the States. I replied him that I will let the court decide who gets what in the divorce. Because I believe I can’t just walk away with nothing after 20 years of abuse/slavery disguised as ‘marriage’ I’m very happy I decided I was done.. I’m very very happy... 😘😘😘
Genevieve, I feel you dear....! I totally totally understand what you have been through because I am married to one of such men.....yeah. Living in the States too, he has tried to break me, but I said no....... we are married and living together with kids but, I know one day something will give, because some of these men do not learn and they do not change for the better.... Stay strong dear😘
Some of us are afraid of dating Western Africa dudes because we fear that they’ll leave you for their own women from their country. It happens a lot I’m not saying everyone is like that it’s because we don’t know what’s in their mind. I’ve got a boyfriend who loves me so much he tells me he wants to marry me I’m his wife to be but I’m afraid that he might change his mind and go home and get married to someone else. I don’t know 🤷♀️ time will tell.
I have witnessed 8 marriages fail when the man or woman brought their spouse back to USA. So many guys go back home and pick up runs girls because they were busy sleeping with Amaka, Anna and Andrea in the states. You attract who you are......
You made a lot of sense joor. It's difficult to explain all these with a high sense of objectivity within the time slot but you did it. From the comments, you can see that even your explanations didn't convince some about the unbiased approach. Hmm. So many experiences to reflect on. Bad people exist everywhere quite common across both sexes. Mutual understanding has been a useful tool, unfortunately, some people decline using theirs and follow selfish and evil desires. Good job bro with true-to-life references. You never can tell how much you are contributing as an agent of change for the African community both home ans abroad.
Phrankleen you always have enlightened episodes. As a Diaspora slave descendant inthe Americas who is married to an Continental African for the past 35 years . I have to say most marriages prior to its onset most people must have a lot of ground rules. And you right there are a lot of problems in marriages even the both people are from same tribe, same country , same town We the Westernize woman is not dangerous. It is just we know our rights. Most people must find ways of communicating with each other before disagreements escalate or better yet book an appointment with a Psychologist .
This is the most balanced view I have ever seen on your show say it like it is. My take ulterior motive can be possessed by male or female, Africans or Westerners. While choosing a life partner look for someone who is compatible and possesses likes qualities like yourself and your future marital struggles and challenges will be %80 solved.👌
Not from my experience, they just follow trends and don't use logic at all, how many of them don't believe promiscuity = women's rights? Its created problems such as out of wedlock children. It's actually unfair to raise your children in the west and deprive them of their culture heritage, i've realised that westernized women have the most inferiority complex and identity issues of them all. The best women for african men are african women who moved to the west when they were older and still have their traditional values in place which are actually important when you succeed, go to the west and you will see that the most successful women and those who actually gets married are women with traditional values.
Why do people want control in a relationship? In fact, having control means you lose control. My view marry where you stay not go to Africa and bring some women who you have nothing in common with but race and nationality when your daily socialization process occurs in a different space with diverse beauties.
Oga Frankleen, I dey greet and hale you big time🙏👏🎊🎉👌here again with another mind blowing video/content... Really love the part of were you touched on the "evil women"... Trust me recently all I've been hearing is how these men had wives and girl friends who later turned into monsters of some sort. When we delve deeper into the conversation, they start saying ooh they saw the signs and ignored.... It aches my heart to see men who are destined for greatness.. Mostly got their head straight, successful.. You name it.. Some how choose the devil's child...as wives etc, Haba!
You are making a very very very good Phrankleen. Thanks for your balanced analysis unlike some women who are biased on their vlog, painting men only as kettle black
you nailed every thing in your video, reason why most men are going MGTOW and red pilled. which will eventually put women in big disadvantage in long run. Its not about the western women, the western system always favours women over 90% of the time. Most women from back home even realize this more than ever especially with the help of social media. Any woman you bring from back home will eventually blend in with the western society, its just matter of time. It will eventually happen. And people do change, mostly for the worse. I don't think i can bring a woman from anywhere to marry as i know most women are the same regardless of where they are from. A woman will be patient and play the long waiting game until she's ready to strike.
Oh Phrankleen, Phrankleen! You've opened Pandoras box with this one! Handing you Captain America's shield...😎😎😎 Thanks for speaking up though. Good one, bro!
By the way, a similar thing happens in the Bangladeshi community. Young men who are based here often go back there in order to fetch an uneducated girl from the villages to become their wife. According to one of my colleagues, this is because such wives are more pliant than those who grow up here.
Historically, all cultures abuse women because men lack the right mentality. This is what needs to change for a man to know his worth without needing to control a woman!
@Phrankleen, i don't totally agree with you. This is you saying in favour of the ladies more, thus not balanced comprehensively. I was expecting you to balance it by advising African women not to fully absorb western culture, thus forgetting where they came from, police can't fix family issues, there are other possible ways to handle it by talking to a pastor, his close relation or his friend except in extreme cases that are life threatening then police can get involved. These ladies selfishly get espoused by the police for their whatever selfish interests without considering the emotions and future of their own children. African Ladies Stop Abusing Western Privileges, Stop Turning Your Kids Into Drug Dealers By Making Them Fatherless. African Men Respect Your Wives And Treat Them With Love Not As Properties.
Smith KT You lost me at talking to Pastors 👋🏼😓 wanting to tame a woman with religion is another control mechanism... having said that, I’m fully aware of the dubious actions of unscrupulous women but it may be challenging to explain to you as you seem to see my video as “saying in favour” of the ladies, pretty much calling me biased :).... stay tuned for subsequent videos.
I would say "western pastor" if at all as african pastors teach same controlling. I remember being under a pastor in London who is like that. I was happy when we left that church. Most couples in his church either get divorced or separated including him.
bruv here hitting some brothers below the belt, i did the whole bring a loyal OG foreign chick from home country to the new world thing; its not all its cracked up to be, if i could rewind time i'd stay single = I CHOOSE NONE~domestic or otherwise. They become like their new environment in about 3-5 years with very little difference, i just wish i knew all this at a younger age and just kept roughing it solo.
@@titi9238providing a first-world lifestyle without limitations or interference. in hindsight i should have been more traditional, strict and stuck to our old world lifestyle and values.
I agree with you Phranklin. Wether village or western mindset, a good woman is a good woman and vise versa. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this important topic.
Westernized women! I don't get it though. When these african men travel overseas, they engage in all sorts of anti-marriage activities, what do we call that? Anyway, we need a part 2 of this video addressing westernized men😉.
brother i have been loving your videos the west changes both men and women its culture and its attitude influences everyone but keeping your heritage and focus is key as you are now in a world where the society and culture is not one designed to uplift you
To be honest the westernized woman is not deadly, because they have the right but the over abuse of that right is wrong. Okay this is my story, I married a westernized Nigerian woman born and raised in the states. In my thoughts she is someone who know is grounded and knows her right. Do you know during our dating phase of like 5 months this lady never showed her real character. When we go out I can spend 70% and say she should assist me. Now we are married and I tell you she told me now I will see her, and everything in the house I take care of it, she has never for one day showed me love in any form. And on top of that she insults me, devalue my words and then compare me with people based on financial means. Mind you I am not up to 30 but I have a degree and masters in a good career and I know I am going to excel as I have always done it. But everything she has said just makes me turn off from marriage and I say No more. And if I would get married no way I will ever marry my fellow Nigeria and I won't advice my fellow man to go near them.
You should divorce her man, its not good for your health. And as said above the best women to marry for africans in the west are are african women who moved to the west when they were older, they have their traditional values and you can relate to them in lots of things. You shouldn't remove the posibility of dating Nigerian women born and raised in Nigeria but whom moved later to the west, you will find that they are different from your westernized wife. Good luck.
I try not to generalize so as not to stereotype. Majorly it’s based on the individual be it western or home based. You have actually said it all, and u nailed it. I always look forward to seeing your videos , content filled and organic. Well done 👍 and let me not forget to mention that I learned something from this particular video and there is always something to learn from your videos. Good job.
Hey @Phrankleen whats your view on feminism? I believe the issue with most western women is feminism. I would never condole with domestic violence (Both physical or emotional cuz women too cause domestic violence) but you should understand that most African men avoid the westernised woman to marry from home (Africa) because they believe the women would have been brought up in an African cultural with good morals. (family oriented, No smoking, excessive drinking, Not taken care of children, No one night stands etc). They expect the women to support him to take care of the children and bring them up in a proper way, not allow them to grow up with Nannies etc... you get the point. Though I have come to realise that majority of women back home have already been westernised. And Feminism has killed the holy matrimony called Marriage.
I agree with you on the fact that women back home are westernized too, some smoke and drink all kinds of stuff, their behavior is not different from those "westernized women" here in the states. Some of our african men don't know what they want , they want a virtuous african woman to marry but they hook up with these loose women for sex. They can't eat their cake and have it. Its sickening when I'm at work and I hear these women proud to say they are side chicks to married african men😞
This is the truth, i hate these westernized women who thinks that promiscuity = women's rights. But overall i think the worst thing for you to raise your children as an african is in the west, no matter if you and your wife are both traditional. I will raise my children in Africa.
@@tinushoniwealth529 True - there is a problem with men who want virtuous women but who do not have any iota of virtue in themselves. They sleep around with everything in skirts but expect to find virtuous women somewhere.
True, women are the most marginalised of all species. I real man will never be intimidated by the successes and advancements of his wife. By all means go anywhere to get married but unless it is done with the right intent and motives the marriage is bound to fail. No one can be trained as an adult, you married a human being not a puppy. A man is the leader, so whatever you want to see in the home you must act out
I can relate to this story having observed the high numbers of single mothers in the UK during a brief stay there and being recently dumped by a man living in the US because his friends and pastor said women whose spouses bring abroad "grow wings" and change. That was my first experience of the prejudice and fear that people face due to the experiences of others and stories of this kind in the African community. My take is that a good person is a good person no matter where they reside or find themselves and it really does take deliberate commitment to adapt to each other, build and remain together for couples in "the abroad" due to the system. It would thus be good to highlight more successful marriages and common pitfalls like you're doing to help relocating spouses and young couples make better decisions. Kudos
The problem is that here in europe some men dont play the role of a man,, thats when women stop respecting them. In africa a man is the bread winner not the controller. please tell men to be playing there role. some brought there wives, seize there wives salaries and give them money as a baby not as a wife. so thats why some try to liberate themselves and be free.
Osaigbovo Ahunwan but that doesn’t give the husband the right to be the one handling and sharing the money the wife worked for, why can’t the woman contribute a share out of her salary for the family upkeep and keep some percentage for herself , does she has to be asking the husband money even when she wants to buy pants and bra?
@@bukaino2k a responsible, romantic and decent husband know when his wife need to change her interior wears and other good things she needed for herself that can keep her happy.
@@osaigbovoahunwan2145 That does not mean he should take her salary and dole it out to her like pocket money. That is stupid control, and he is treating her like a child. She is not his child. Some men need to grow a beard and stop feeling insecure. Both men and women can contribute to the family's financial welfare without the husband controlling the wife's salary. No wonder some women rebel.
I never experienced sexism coming from a Dutch culture. I moved to USA and I experienced comments from African men and dominant behaviors that were very foreign to me. There were also comments such as: You are too independent; You women have too many rights; It's good for a woman to have an opinion, sometimes- I spoke up about what the conversation was about in a group of African men. ; no man will want you because you have your own place; You need a man to make decisions for you.. My friend is Igbo and she told me that she has to have to have sex WHENEVER her husband wants to. He can force himself on her and it's not rape..
Oh my god i am so glad to find u i am a Jamaican Registered Nurse lives in NY and tried to date a African man i just finish 8 months of Cultureral battle all about submission and woman must keep quit he finally block me even though he lied that i am not block.
You are so right man. Kindness to one another helps alot. Whatsoever success that the woman has is for the beauty of the family. People should just take life easy and enjoy All the beauty of family.
Are there unscrupulous women? Yes. But the same can be said for men as well. And I think it's more about that than being "deadly" . As you have said, I think we have to look at the reason the African man is traveling back home for a wife. Now, if it's because he wants an African wife who knows the customs and traditions then fine. But, if he wants one just to "Lord" over and keep her "in her place" then he runs the risks of her becoming deadly. She's not going to remain "docile" once she learns her rights. But that is not to say she will begin to use those against him. If a woman is respected, even though the man may have been raised in a patriarchal society, if he can allow her to voice her opinion and she understands the final decision will be his I think that's acceptable and shouldn't be an issue. But, if he expects her to be silent and places her status just above a child then it very well may become an issue since she is no longer Africa and knows her rights. I would like to think Most women, wouldn't become promiscuous and or use the system against him despite the fact she knows she most likely would win. I think other women who come to the diaspora may very well have always had a desire to be "free" to become the woman that they want to be and were not allowed in Africa. Yes, I could see those women using the system to get away from the expectations of her husband. To respond to your question, No I don't think women in diaspora are deadly. I just think women would like more respect for their opinions and be seen as an equal partner in the family who contributes just as much to the home as he does outside of it. Basically, I think it comes down to mutual respect. I feel that once that is established and she feels that he is showing her that respect then he will see it reciprocated. Just my opinion.
The great Paul Kagami of Rwanda 🇷🇼 says Africans should not look up to western stars as ROLE MODEL. I don’t know how this relate to this but it’s similar subject 🤷🏾♂️...
Very good analysis. Also not all single parents are single because they are frivolous, irresponsible, man-haters, gold-diggers, etc. Everyone's situation is different. Unfortunately when some men have had a bad experience with a single parent they prejudge all other single parents instead of understanding that any other woman could've done them wrong, but this one just happened to be a single parent. Single parenthood does not automatically mean a woman is a bad person or not wife material. If someone does you wrong, it's just that person is the wrong person for you. It's so important to first know the person well and understand what happened before making conclusions or listening to heresays.
Any man that goes back to Africa to bring a wife to the western world solely for the reason to have control and dominance over her is a failure and a villain. Unfortunately many of such men even don't realise on time that many African women unlike before have already opened eyes and are conversant of the western culture even while still living in Africa. They do watch western movies and do talk with friends already living abroad. However, some of our men go back to bring wife from Africa because they were already in the relationship before they traveled abroad, or they simply love the African culture/custom/tradition/values. They are very unwilling to do away with this, and because they might not find these values or tradition in a western woman, they had very much prefer to go back home to bring a woman of their dream. This would afford them getting to eat regularly those delicious African meals/cuisines; blasting their native tongue; wearing the native attires; teaching the kids the culture like the boys prostrating to greet the elderly and girls kneeling down for same purpose; enjoying deep respect and reverence from the wife. Alas, gradually this is becoming a mirage nowadays. The westernised woman most often claims equality with their man not minding the culture or the edict in the holy book that puts the man as the head. The wife might even be more educated or earning more money than the husband, the fact of the matter is that the woman must submit herself to her husband whether she is of higher status or not, without the husband abusing her submission. And of course a westernised man must be willingly ready to assist the wife in some house chore like cooking, cleaning and babysitting so the burden will not be too much on the woman. Unfortunately what we have nowadays is that many of these marriages are no longer working well again because of pride (claiming equality); ignorance (not quickly understanding the western culture of working much overtime et al, so the woman or in some cases the man keeps thinking the partner neglects him/her ; and impatience (not seeking for solution from the elders/clergy, but quickly calling the cops on their partner; lack of understanding (an example is frustration because earning the dollar is not easy the way they used to think back home, so they become disenchanted with their man because they think he is stingy) May God help us.
You can't shop for a wife like you buy a car, a house, or a cow. A woman is a human being with her own hopes, dreams, and ambitions in life. If you don't respect her wishes for her own life, then you do not deserve her. African countries really need to advance in their recognition of women's rights. The black woman is the most disrespected everywhere on the globe. They should at least have safety in the motherland. We men really need to do better. We have to start respecting women as equals.
The premis is to preserve african culture and ideals. If you have not seen the impact and change on afro caribbean and asian culture in the past 25 years. Nigerians will see it soon why irs best to marry a good healthy minded african woman that respects the mans position in the home. Iv seen british cultural values erode from the 1970s to now due to the confusion of western minded women.
What is that position? If it's to not spend time with the children, not to be concerned about their day to day lives, then good luck with that african man position in the home. If you are a man and are not yet married, you better open your mind.
Hello dear Phrankleen. Oh yes, the arguments definitely goes both ways. I am black mixed race African Caribbean origins. I married an abroad Nigerian man. Long story... but I would just make three observations/comments. First, I do believe age and station in life at the point of meeting the prospective spouse is a material factor that would provide some insight upon the prospect of success, and any potential hidden agenda, at both ends. The second is this idea that I have read many men below citing maintaining traditional cultural African ways as a reason for deliberately seeking a bride from Africa....hmmmm. I find this interesting because based upon the state of Nigeria (I use Nigeria because thats the largest populace Country in Africa were I have travelled to) there is major problem in family life and traditions are being eroded due to things not being what they were. Nothing remains stagnant ever. That is fallacy. Nigerians given 70% are aged under 30 now have a very westernised way of thinking or aspiration, rightly or wrongly or both particularly around money and relationships. The idea that you can find unexposed potential partners is most unlikely in todays times with the globalised obsession with all forms of social media. Materialism is rife in Nigeria compared to even 8 or 10 years ago. Not sure how often these men travel to Nigeria if they think the women will be installing traditional African values into their children. Women everywhere want change and financial independence or those looking to be housewives want husbands who will cover all their costs not just basic food and accommodation. Thirdly, I would argue that actually it is men and not women that have really gained from feminist ideologies and agendas. Why? because a woman’s commodity was her sexuality. In order to secure a woman’s sexuality many moons ago, men had to be able to provide. They were motivated to achieve to secure woman’s sexuality, which was secured through marriage. Women in these days could make demands in order to get the best bargain for themselves. We all pay more when a commodity is scarce, prices rise right. Along comes feminism, steered by men in order to bring down the value of that scarce commodity ‘ a woman’s sexuality’ It became a free market, men could secure sexuality for free, and women have bought into the belief they are liberated. But what has been the real price for women? Just look to places like Nigeria to find the answer. Women are desperate for marriage but many cannot attain it in the same way women before them were assured of marriage before the FM took hold. Men ceased needing to marry to secure a woman’s sexuality. This may be fine in countries whose economic policies provide for women to be sexually liberated because they can also secure their own economic stability not having to rely upon a man. But woman in less economically inclusive societies suffer the consequences of low value sexuality alongside low chances of securing economic stability without a man. The family suffers because nature must be nature and eventually even the most economically stable woman through her own efforts, ‘the boss lady’ will feel the desire to become a mother in most cases. The problem for her then is how can I secure a husband but for different reasons to raise her children within a two parent balanced environment. Food for thought my people. Stay blessed 🙏🏼
Westernised Woman are Deadly but not all woman living in the west are deadly. The west just teaches us all to think of ourselves first and a-lot of woman see this as a loophole in creating their won legacy / investment. Women in general has been through a lot as you said from not being able to vote or acquire certain jobs, so ambitious woman pushed for a-lot of changes in the west because living in the west is quit expensive and dose require a lot to create a legacy but most important a strong woman can put a mans hard work at ease and let some stress off. Now a lot of African woman and other races of woman have a weakness for power and money in-fact its a-lot of woman addiction / turn on. In the west the laws created can help them achieve those things and get away with murder as they don't only have the law on their side but they will receive pity as they are woman. One thing Iv learnt is dangerous woman put their-self in the line of fire to achieve their goals from learning every sport and how much the athletes are paid, even cricket and football has more woman fans LOL. We also have woman who go earn degrees and have no idea how they got their degree but they have no plans on using it as their main focus is just to use it for a show, to find a gullible man with a working degree to play his position and acquire their needs. Now in the west one of the biggest hustle is child support, a woman will have a mans child knowing he has to care for his child for 18 years which means after those 18 years she now as a child that will begin to work and take care of her until she dies, which once done well is a lifetime investment/hustle. Show me a child raised correctly that wont take care of their mom and buy her nice material things even if their mom has evil ways to the dad. A lot mother look at their kids as investment and not a child out of love. The western system just bring out evil woman true colours. So to sum it up she was evil before she left Africa, India, china she just needed the tool and the west gave it to her. Let face it woman are getting smarter men are getting more gullible and they system just keep wining and dividing our people.
Sir,I'm American Jewish, African American, Woman and,Yes,the woman here in the USA Western, Eastern, Northern, Southern,are deadly.From young age,,I would watch women in my own family do strange things to their own children, husband's, boyfriend's and family members as well as friends.I began travel,out of state around,19,years,and the woman were so got of their position as being a respectful person.I no longer wanted to travel,State to State,then work took me, international and it was worse than state to State. Glory has told me my position in His kingdom.Now Sir,I have seen and witnessed a level of discuss,,even in the men This that women do,,the men I have yet to see these things.Not to say men are not worse ,the evils that are done from the woman too the men, children, family and other women and creation,is out of this world.
Short answer is yes but it is not that simple. I am from the Caribbean and people from the Caribbean will tell you not to date an American woman but they never explain why. It is usually not fleshed out and quite shallow in reasoning. The real reason why a westernized woman can be so dangerous is because of the culture not the woman. The westernized culture of materialism, consumption, selfishness, and egotistical behavior destroys all that partake. However even in the Caribbean people will do things for status i.e. I am going to get a PHD because that is what people want me to have to look prestigious. This too long term does not work because you are living for other people. Now that I am older, no matter where you live, you have to live a life or create a culture based on minimalism, attaining a good quality of life, and stay away from consumerism.
Hi I'm enjoying your view. But I'm a little confuse with the word westernized. I think based on comments there is a confusion of woman of western culture to, they are not westernized. Westernized is whereby you bring a woman from another country to a western country and they change their believes and behave like a western woman.
@Romeo Jay, you attract what you are in your heart. If you think 90% of "westernized women" are bad, it only mirrors what is in your heart. #checkyourself
@@romeojay8377 Dude, I get your point . Hoping you get mine too. If you keep meeting "bad women", perhaps you should examine yourself. Thats all I'm saying.
@@Philtabit49 yo there is no need to tell me to examine myself thats rude..did i tell you im ill? Have some respect...and let me remind you again people have different views, opinions and experiences so respect yourself..
I have to give myself a double take. I frequently get looks as I travel solo and seldom encounter a woman who isn't measuring me. But with what you have stated i will give myself a second look. they could likely be measuring me based on their level of success.
Hallelujah!!!!!! Phrankleen! it’s all about power and control of these men. My family had no money when I meet my husband. My husband brought me to UK and used his savings to educate me, I mean paid my university tuition fees because at that time I was considered a foreign student. We are still together after 30 years. My husband is proud to have an educated woman, he’s not intimidated by my progression. Currently he has supported me to pursue my MSc.
Through his support we educated our daughter, she married and a mother of one and the second on the way. We adore our son in - law, he’s from Africa and our daughter grew up in UK.
It all depends on how a person was raised, it does not matter whether a woman is westernised or not. African men think cheating is acceptable and except the wife to endure pain in silence, when a women voice her opinion she is considered westernised.
Your have nailed it in the coffin Prrankleen!
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Congratulations! Family values and the family itself is the cornerstone of society according to my church and biblical beliefs!
ELOQUENT NARRATIVE!!!
The above message is Worth emulating.
Nice one
Thank you❤ Sis, you have said a mouthful, much respect sweetheart💛🌻💛
its great that you have given a balanced view of this topic. While some men may go to marry women in Africa for the wrong reasons, there are also women out there who use men to get to western countries and once here, they do everything to get everything from the man and leave him with nothing.
God bless you for this.
God bless you
true. I am not Nigerian but unfortunately these kind of situations are also happening to other Africans from all over the continent@@obiflex
@@evakast4874 It is true that there are unscrupulous men and women out there. Phrankleen's video does present a balanced view of things. The problem is with some African brothers denying the fact that some of them go back to Africa to marry women for very selfish and exploitative reasons.
@@mosalimansa1162 On the contrary, my comments on this issue on this forum are very balanced. You are the myopic and linear one if you can't see that.
Phrankleen, you hit the nail on the head 💯💯💯. You’re right the premise for some men going to Africa to pick a wife is about power and control, period and simple!!!
What if they find love in Africa? Don't be deluded!!
Esh A
No sir, am going to be deluded! Happy now...???
@@shalipse he said "...the premise for some men..."
Not all men
Hi, I think that men - either black ,white, red or yellow - who feel the urge to dominate a woman , should look inside themselves and find out why they have this
" need ". Is it simply to repeat unchallenged dysfunctional patterns from parents/ culture , a deep insecurity , a fear of being abandoned etc.
From a female point of view it is always more attractive to win her with love, respect and open communication instead of using power and violence
to make her play a role she does not like to play. Greetings Conny
New subie here,I am a Congolese in London and I like your content particularly on relationships and the black community,man like you are scarce on social media there is so much narcissism everywhere, I could listen to you all day
It doesn't matter where your partner comes from. Unless you drop your assumptions and look for a partner who shares your values about life, that relationship ain't going anywhere. You cannot expect a woman to behave as a docile lamb, when you expect her to work as hard and as long as her man. In the West, there will be no food on the table unless both the man and woman work because the cost of living is high. So, two oxen are needed to pull the plough. Princes and Princesses - entitled, manipulative good for nothings - need not apply. Both of you work together to increase the fortune of the family. You decide things together, and benefit together. Most importantly, you have to agree about how to manage your finances together. Talk about that before you link up, and be sure you agree. Forget this, and you'll be lost.
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Phrankleen you are on point. In my opinion, whether westernized or not, I believe the heart & character is key and very much applicable to men too because nobody is an angel. I have heard stories where a non westernized woman was brought abroad and got married only to have children with the man and eloped with the friend of her husband. I know some westernized women can do terrible things but then i dont think all are evil. Even the men take westernized women for granted, imagine a Nigerian man married to a westernized woman and had kids with her then he went behind her back to marry a Nigerian woman secretly and his western woman found out and she did the needful to revenge. You will hear lots of stories how some Men/Women said they'd rather marry foreign Men/Women because they know what african Men/Women put them through. Honestly I won't blame them. What I am trying to point out is that evil is in the heart of man and it got nothing to do with being western or non western.
Maria Audu Well said 😊👌🏾
No wonder d bible says d heart of a man/woman is deeply wicked & No one can no it.its wel
I love to see African men speak up on the fact that the African woman is put down especially in Nigeria. I have been posting about this to enlighten them on the fact that women subjugation is one of the reasons why Nigeria is backward and all I get is barrage of attacks from them including few women who have been completely subjugated and don't want to think for themselves. I will share to my readers on Facebook. Thank you Phrankleen
I always know how much you hate men's God's given position. Just deal with it. If you keep rebelling against that arrangement, you're rebelling against God. Bro warned!
@@anatuneoanatune9695 I can already see by your comment that you are one of those men who abuse and torture women. Grow up because we are no longer in the stone age where cave men like you live. Start acting like you live in the 21st century.
@@ijonuigbo7417 . I've said my own. Being in the military will never make you a man so discard that feminism mentality because it has destroyed many women who once believed in that madness but now in full regret. I love and treat well women who know their position.
@@anatuneoanatune9695 obviously you think you know me. But I don't know you. And I am done talking to a cave man. The important thing is that the man that owns this channel spoke the same thing I agreed to. But I don't see you fighting him. You came straight to my comment because you think that women should not have a voice. You are Lucky this is the internet where you have the freedom to tackle anyone disrespectfully so go on and make mouth like you are all known for. You wouldn't dare it if you met me on the street or you will learn that military makes me a man.
@@ijonuigbo7417 . That's my point. Because you're Nwanyi Army nobody should hear word. For the record, I don't know you but I've seen several places you're exhibiting the same feminism mentality . And mind you if you see me, you wont kill me. Your strength ends in America where all these feminism rubbish started.
I'm really shocked a Man would say this Truth as it is, God bless you always.
Lol 😀I was ran down for three weeks at the farmers market by a man who was getting on my nerves asking me out constantly😱
Long story short i finally dated him, but now has been married six years to him yes he's Nigerian and yes i tested him and let him know that i will not be stuck in the house and i will not be hit😱😵so if you can deal with me speaking my mind than everyone will be ok.
Six years and were still happy with only one argument about me eating to much candy 🍬
Not all of us are dangerous😒
LMAO @ eating too much Candy!!! 😀 sounds like an awesome relationship to me!
If after 6 years, you had only one argument, the relationship is definitely not healthy. One person is cheating the other.
@@victorigwemezie8935 point
Please do a series on narcissism. That topic needs to be addressed. Great talk!!!
Beautiful video. I'm a black American lady. A mature lady in the west is best. I'm a mature western women who values respect & kindness in a relationship... if make mistake, I welcome correction but I like it done with compassion & respect...after all we are supposed to love eachother.😊I dont mind if my guy sets boundaries, but it must be reasonable boundaries.
After dating a Nigerian living in America for a while, he came over to see me. When I saw him, I decided that I didn't like him and didn't want to marry him. I didn't follow him to America because I didn't want to leave him, because I would do it las las, and then the stories will start about how he brought me to America and I am misbehaving.
Am impressed by you. How I wish we have many more like you. I didn't date a guy who had US privileges too when I was in naija cos I didn't like him too and he couldn't understand.
@@titi9238 its better that way oh. The kind of stories that come out from there are stories I don't want yo be associated with.
Some men and women just want to go abroad and are using marriage as a ticket to do so. This is exploitative and selfish.
@@bonnechance6988 yeah. That's not nice. Marriage, whether in Africa or Europe or wherever is a tough institution. The ties that should bind the couple should be much more than green card or citizenship. I feel sorry for people who have been used that way. No one deserves to be exploited like that.
Nice. I live in the US and most of us looking to find our better halves from Africa are biased especially because people are desperate to travel out by all means possible. The thing is even if you genuinely had feelings for him, depending on your background, he might feel that you like him because you want to come abroad and that's why I always encourage my guys to look for their spouse here or go stay low key in Naija for a considerable amount of time to look for a woman that genuinely wants to be with them.
A very balanced analogy Nigerian brother and I will second that by saying, 'shame on any woman or man with such an ill-intentioned construct'. As a survivor, I know how deep such misguided perception can be, it almost stopped me from completing my graduate program. I think that men and women who reason like that are primarily insecure and should go for psychotherapy. Thanks and we need more real men and women who rationalize like you.
I like the way you're balancing this discussion. I will say no, it entirely depends on the person.
I can tell you would cover the issue of narcissism quite thoroughly, you often refer to misogyny but narcissism is rife in the African community, it would be interesting to hear it in your words
Yes ooh please please Phrankleen do a video on narcissiscism....
Sadly, many of our men are raised with a sense of entitlement.
@Abisola Abiodun love R C Blakes. I've listened to him alot
I can see that you hit nerve with a lot of men lol. They don't like the truth.
Nope they don't. lol
This is a very good topic. My take on this is, wherever you find love stay there. Many Men go back to marry from Africa and when the woman gets overseas in most cases it becomes a different ballgame because their African mindset is that a man must provide for their every need. Even when they start working they believe "my money is for me and my family back home" while my husband's money is for us. They do not understand that relationship overseas is partnership where the man and woman shares the bills at home. In a situation where you refuse to pay the bills at home alone it becomes a problem even if you try to make them understand that it doesn't work like that here. Then you are label as one who cannot provide for his wife. Then there is constant quarrel and the Police gets involved, the Man is kick out of his own house that he bought and infidelity starts and the man may decide to do something drastic like some cases in the United States where some Men ended up killing the wives they brought from Nigeria. The best thing is to look for a wife( Westernized) wherever you are, someone who understands the system. Afterall "Wetin dey for Sokoto dey Inside Shokoto"
The westernized black women(born in the west) i meet are either ghetto(sad but true, heavily influenced by american culture all over europe) or white men lovers(those black pride, natural haired black women who only date white men), the best women i've meet are african women who came to europe when they were older, those are the ones i've clicked the most with and dated. I won't live in europe or raise my children here, as an african/black person, raising your daughter in the west is the worst thing you can do, you will be raising them to have all kinds of inferiority complex, its true sadly and i've seen it thousand of times with young black people raised in europe. In U.K black people are even dying out because they all date white partners instead of each other due to inferiority complex...
TheIrbe its nothing to do with inferiority complex its as a blk brit its to with class money and wherever ur born (sometimes) as i hear most want another blk British person to marry than someone fresh from ghana or naija
@@kwameopoku3576 Blacks have the mentality that you are successful once you have a white women, look at the first thing those black men in U.K will do once they get successful? Find a white women. Its the same thing all over europe with blacks, like in places like France. As i said earlier, blacks are dying out in U.K because most of them date out, but other groups such as Pakistanis and other asian groups only date each other and if they don't find partners in U.K they go home to find one. Them dating each other enables them to build wealth within their community unlike blacks who once they get wealth will run of to marry people from other communities and give it away. I've lived on this earth long enough to see that blacks are not smart, the majority dont use their brains, its just there to fill the gap.
You explained that very well. It takes money to live WELL in America. If you get married and buy a home. It really takes two incomes to maintain your house decently!
On point as usual. Not every woman or situation is the same. We must always strive to understand the circumstances leading up to an event before drawing a conclusion on the matter.
Hello Phrankleen ,
In most cases what you said is 99% korrekt.
Most men do it, because their families advised them to handle it that way. Others because of insecurity, to control (power) and afraid of being challenged in any way or form.
The westernized women are out spoken, many got good education which grands them got jobs and are well paid. Knows their fundamentals and human right, 100% independent and that gives them the random opportunity not to take any harassment, violence, mental abuse behaviors from any man whom so ever.
The fact is most of this men who import their wives, just controlled them, and tell them what do. The westernized women just stand for partnership and equality.
Ije Habbi it is a lie not all westernized woman stand for equality. We have the bad once and it comes from upbringing. I married a westernized woman because me too is in support of woman empowerment. Omo I made the worst mistake.
@@henrymando1654 You were scammed, unless that westernized african women have traditional values dont bother even looking at her.. The women who follows metoo movement(I have nothing wrong with the movement) believe that promiscuity = women's rights, they are mentaly brainwashed. The best women i have encountered are african women who moved to the west when they were older, they have their traditional values and we can relate in lots of things. The thing is that most of them don't change their core beliefs even though that they move to the west, like they value marriage and so on which is important. Westernized women on the otherhand has led to an out of wedlock children problem due to the adopting the western promiscuity = women's rights mentality.
@@TheIrbe That interpretation of women's rights as promiscuity is yours only and quite myopic, to say the least. There is a huge problem with such binary thinking. If you have issues dealing with women, don't blame it on women's rights. Do an inward search and look in the mirror.
@@bonnechance6988 i have no issues with dealing with women since i only deal with non westernized african women, i love my non westernized african women.
@@TheIrbe Grow a beard!
I have a story, a painful one, one of abuse and control, a story that changed me. Maybe one day I will write an email to you Franklin. Maybe....
It is well with you sis. Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. But always remember once there is life, there is hope. Baba God got your back. Don't give up. Make new friends, go out more and pray as well. Remain blessed!!
No, she just knows her right from her left. And God help anyone who tries to undermine that.
She sounded horrible to be honest.
Ur Content is IMPRESSIVELY GR8!! Love 4rm USA
I was born and bred in Nigeria, currently living in Germany,. dated Europeans and all that, and they have their pros and cons just like every other people across the world, but I see myself marrying a black woman, will I go back to Nigeria to pick a wife? HELL NO! but I'd rather find me a black Afrocentric but westernized woman BORN and raised here but still feel proud of her African identity that reasons the same way as I do (even though they are hard to find in this country) nothing against white women, just don't see myself settling with one., only weak and insecure men go pick a woman in Africa with intention to control and dominate (and also NOTHING against brothers that find love in Africa, or chose to go back home to fall in love with genuine intentions)... my issue with girls in Nigeria is just compatibility, it just seems to be impossible to find that compatible woman in Nigeria.
I'm Nigerian but I live in south Africa, should I use the same logic when looking for a guy
@@natasharules770 you don't have to use my logic. love who you love, marry who you want.
@@nigeriabeyond8140 my German is not perfect. lol
TheIrbe Because we are a minority the race will be diluted as all my mixed race family members apart from one are with white men or women so the Nigerian blood has disappeared you can’t tell if they have black blood or a black grandad
@@TheIrbe Did you really read my comment???? please go back and read it again, I made it clear that I would prefer to settle down with a black woman, but NOT gonna go back to Nigeria to sort for that,. and this is based on my personal preference and mindset. I am not compatible with majority of Nigerian born women, even though black women are still my choice, did you read anywhere that I put white women on a pedestal? or did I say I want to marry one??
I love you meeeen. Let me just say that I fell in the category of those men that have the mentality of coming to Nigeria to marry a woman with the sole intention of suppressing, intimidating , and controlling that woman. Yep, that’s my story. It went on for 20 years but I finally found my voice and said enough is enough. Now he tells me that I don’t have a claim to ‘his’ house because he bought it before he married me and brought me to the States. I replied him that I will let the court decide who gets what in the divorce. Because I believe I can’t just walk away with nothing after 20 years of abuse/slavery disguised as ‘marriage’ I’m very happy I decided I was done.. I’m very very happy... 😘😘😘
So basically you used him? Lol
Genevieve, I feel you dear....!
I totally totally understand what you have been through because I am married to one of such men.....yeah.
Living in the States too, he has tried to break me, but I said no....... we are married and living together with kids but, I know one day something will give, because some of these men do not learn and they do not change for the better....
Stay strong dear😘
@@victoriaroyales8527 why would you marry a controlling man and even have children with him?
@@jayo3074 "it's complicated"
@@jayo3074 staying in that condition for 20 yrs, you call that using?
Some of us are afraid of dating Western Africa dudes because we fear that they’ll leave you for their own women from their country. It happens a lot I’m not saying everyone is like that it’s because we don’t know what’s in their mind. I’ve got a boyfriend who loves me so much he tells me he wants to marry me I’m his wife to be but I’m afraid that he might change his mind and go home and get married to someone else. I don’t know 🤷♀️ time will tell.
"Approach every case based on their merits" says it all!
I have witnessed 8 marriages fail when the man or woman brought their spouse back to USA. So many guys go back home and pick up runs girls because they were busy sleeping with Amaka, Anna and Andrea in the states. You attract who you are......
Right on point! Phrankleen ! Marriage is a partnership ! Same marriages problem exists over here! Same mind frame! Thanks you for the discussion!
A word is sufficient for the wise. Phrankleen you are just real, wisdom lives with you.
You made a lot of sense joor. It's difficult to explain all these with a high sense of objectivity within the time slot but you did it.
From the comments, you can see that even your explanations didn't convince some about the unbiased approach.
Hmm. So many experiences to reflect on. Bad people exist everywhere quite common across both sexes. Mutual understanding has been a useful tool, unfortunately, some people decline using theirs and follow selfish and evil desires.
Good job bro with true-to-life references. You never can tell how much you are contributing as an agent of change for the African community both home ans abroad.
Its the biggest gamble a man/woman to get married
Marriage is an empty box😂😂
I extremely love this content Frank! Thank you.
Me too
Phrankleen you always have enlightened episodes. As a Diaspora slave descendant inthe Americas who is married to an Continental African for the past 35 years . I have to say most marriages prior to its onset most people must have a lot of ground rules.
And you right there are a lot of problems in marriages even the both
people are from same tribe, same country , same town
We the Westernize woman is not dangerous. It is just we know our rights.
Most people must find ways of communicating with each other before disagreements escalate or better yet book an appointment with a Psychologist .
This is the most balanced view I have ever seen on your show say it like it is. My take ulterior motive can be possessed by male or female, Africans or Westerners. While choosing a life partner look for someone who is compatible and possesses likes qualities like yourself and your future marital struggles and challenges will be %80 solved.👌
Most western women are good but u hav to value and respect them not bully them. Western women can think for themselves and they use common sense
Not from my experience, they just follow trends and don't use logic at all, how many of them don't believe promiscuity = women's rights? Its created problems such as out of wedlock children. It's actually unfair to raise your children in the west and deprive them of their culture heritage, i've realised that westernized women have the most inferiority complex and identity issues of them all. The best women for african men are african women who moved to the west when they were older and still have their traditional values in place which are actually important when you succeed, go to the west and you will see that the most successful women and those who actually gets married are women with traditional values.
nobody is good, stop being delusional
@@TheIrbe Many men have out of wedlock children with non westernized women. What do you call that?
Tombi Mashri thanks
TheIrbe promiscuous women give away their power.
Why do people want control in a relationship? In fact, having control means you lose control. My view marry where you stay not go to Africa and bring some women who you have nothing in common with but race and nationality when your daily socialization process occurs in a different space with diverse beauties.
You are very wise. Enjoying your videos.
Oga Frankleen, I dey greet and hale you big time🙏👏🎊🎉👌here again with another mind blowing video/content... Really love the part of were you touched on the "evil women"... Trust me recently all I've been hearing is how these men had wives and girl friends who later turned into monsters of some sort. When we delve deeper into the conversation, they start saying ooh they saw the signs and ignored....
It aches my heart to see men who are destined for greatness.. Mostly got their head straight, successful.. You name it.. Some how choose the devil's child...as wives etc, Haba!
I think you are very mature & a true leader. The way you broke it down, couldn’t have been said better. Much respect to you.
Once again, another great gem dropped.
You are making a very very very good Phrankleen. Thanks for your balanced analysis unlike some women who are biased on their vlog, painting men only as kettle black
Everyone should watch this dude.....respect🙌🏽
you nailed every thing in your video, reason why most men are going MGTOW and red pilled. which will eventually put women in big disadvantage in long run.
Its not about the western women, the western system always favours women over 90% of the time. Most women from back home even realize this more than ever especially with the help of social media. Any woman you bring from back home will eventually blend in with the western society, its just matter of time. It will eventually happen. And people do change, mostly for the worse.
I don't think i can bring a woman from anywhere to marry as i know most women are the same regardless of where they are from. A woman will be patient and play the long waiting game until she's ready to strike.
If i could like this 1000 times i wud
Oh Phrankleen, Phrankleen!
You've opened Pandoras box with this one!
Handing you Captain America's shield...😎😎😎
Thanks for speaking up though.
Good one, bro!
By the way, a similar thing happens in the Bangladeshi community. Young men who are based here often go back there in order to fetch an uneducated girl from the villages to become their wife. According to one of my colleagues, this is because such wives are more pliant than those who grow up here.
Historically, all cultures abuse women because men lack the right mentality. This is what needs to change for a man to know his worth without needing to control a woman!
@Phrankleen, i don't totally agree with you. This is you saying in favour of the ladies more, thus not balanced comprehensively. I was expecting you to balance it by advising African women not to fully absorb western culture, thus forgetting where they came from, police can't fix family issues, there are other possible ways to handle it by talking to a pastor, his close relation or his friend except in extreme cases that are life threatening then police can get involved. These ladies selfishly get espoused by the police for their whatever selfish interests without considering the emotions and future of their own children. African Ladies Stop Abusing Western Privileges, Stop Turning Your Kids Into Drug Dealers By Making Them Fatherless. African Men Respect Your Wives And Treat Them With Love Not As Properties.
Smith KT You lost me at talking to Pastors 👋🏼😓 wanting to tame a woman with religion is another control mechanism... having said that, I’m fully aware of the dubious actions of unscrupulous women but it may be challenging to explain to you as you seem to see my video as “saying in favour” of the ladies, pretty much calling me biased :).... stay tuned for subsequent videos.
I would say "western pastor" if at all as african pastors teach same controlling. I remember being under a pastor in London who is like that. I was happy when we left that church. Most couples in his church either get divorced or separated including him.
@@Phrankleen13 I can't wait to watch your next video.
It's an individual difference Phrankleen just like you have said it...It's a two-ways thing...I'm loving your analysation!
50k subs here we come....can’t wait, let’s do this tomorrow!!!
BTW, hi Phrankleen, am here and am loving it😄🙌
Haha! 50K is around the corner :)
Hello ppl❤❤❤ thanks Frank for raising this issue💟💟
bruv here hitting some brothers below the belt, i did the whole bring a loyal OG foreign chick from home country to the new world thing; its not all its cracked up to be, if i could rewind time i'd stay single = I CHOOSE NONE~domestic or otherwise.
They become like their new environment in about 3-5 years with very little difference, i just wish i knew all this at a younger age and just kept roughing it solo.
I am concerned about they become their new environment thingi... What role did you play to facilitate that?
@@titi9238providing a first-world lifestyle without limitations or interference. in hindsight i should have been more traditional, strict and stuck to our old world lifestyle and values.
It's only on Phrankleen that over 10 min video advertisements will play without me skipping.
tope oyek haha 😆 thanks for the support!
Me too, because I will still be letting it sink in...
I agree with you Phranklin. Wether village or western mindset, a good woman is a good woman and vise versa. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this important topic.
Westernized women! I don't get it though. When these african men travel overseas, they engage in all sorts of anti-marriage activities, what do we call that? Anyway, we need a part 2 of this video addressing westernized men😉.
They don't want to marry but they want their girlfriend's to treat them like husband's.
@@chadicchildhausaewesulluba8320
True
@Tinu, good observation!!!!
brother i have been loving your videos the west changes both men and women its culture and its attitude influences everyone but keeping your heritage and focus is key as you are now in a world where the society and culture is not one designed to uplift you
How is the society not designed to uplift you? Pls explain more. Thanks.
The problem with this world upon his creation is people refuse to see each other's reflections... we are all one case closed
To be honest the westernized woman is not deadly, because they have the right but the over abuse of that right is wrong. Okay this is my story, I married a westernized Nigerian woman born and raised in the states. In my thoughts she is someone who know is grounded and knows her right. Do you know during our dating phase of like 5 months this lady never showed her real character. When we go out I can spend 70% and say she should assist me. Now we are married and I tell you she told me now I will see her, and everything in the house I take care of it, she has never for one day showed me love in any form. And on top of that she insults me, devalue my words and then compare me with people based on financial means. Mind you I am not up to 30 but I have a degree and masters in a good career and I know I am going to excel as I have always done it. But everything she has said just makes me turn off from marriage and I say No more. And if I would get married no way I will ever marry my fellow Nigeria and I won't advice my fellow man to go near them.
Please don't continue in this marriage if things are bad and please don't have kids with her.
You should divorce her man, its not good for your health. And as said above the best women to marry for africans in the west are are african women who moved to the west when they were older, they have their traditional values and you can relate to them in lots of things. You shouldn't remove the posibility of dating Nigerian women born and raised in Nigeria but whom moved later to the west, you will find that they are different from your westernized wife. Good luck.
Just found ur channel, you re phenomenal.. subscribed..
habibat kehinde olaitan 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I try not to generalize so as not to stereotype. Majorly it’s based on the individual be it western or home based. You have actually said it all, and u nailed it. I always look forward to seeing your videos , content filled and organic. Well done 👍 and let me not forget to mention that I learned something from this particular video and there is always something to learn from your videos. Good job.
Hey @Phrankleen whats your view on feminism? I believe the issue with most western women is feminism. I would never condole with domestic violence (Both physical or emotional cuz women too cause domestic violence) but you should understand that most African men avoid the westernised woman to marry from home (Africa) because they believe the women would have been brought up in an African cultural with good morals. (family oriented, No smoking, excessive drinking, Not taken care of children, No one night stands etc). They expect the women to support him to take care of the children and bring them up in a proper way, not allow them to grow up with Nannies etc... you get the point. Though I have come to realise that majority of women back home have already been westernised. And Feminism has killed the holy matrimony called Marriage.
I agree with you on the fact that women back home are westernized too, some smoke and drink all kinds of stuff, their behavior is not different from those "westernized women" here in the states. Some of our african men don't know what they want , they want a virtuous african woman to marry but they hook up with these loose women for sex. They can't eat their cake and have it. Its sickening when I'm at work and I hear these women proud to say they are side chicks to married african men😞
This is the truth, i hate these westernized women who thinks that promiscuity = women's rights. But overall i think the worst thing for you to raise your children as an african is in the west, no matter if you and your wife are both traditional. I will raise my children in Africa.
@@TheIrbe Please grow a beard.
@@tinushoniwealth529 True - there is a problem with men who want virtuous women but who do not have any iota of virtue in themselves. They sleep around with everything in skirts but expect to find virtuous women somewhere.
True, women are the most marginalised of all species. I real man will never be intimidated by the successes and advancements of his wife. By all means go anywhere to get married but unless it is done with the right intent and motives the marriage is bound to fail. No one can be trained as an adult, you married a human being not a puppy. A man is the leader, so whatever you want to see in the home you must act out
I can relate to this story having observed the high numbers of single mothers in the UK during a brief stay there and being recently dumped by a man living in the US because his friends and pastor said women whose spouses bring abroad "grow wings" and change. That was my first experience of the prejudice and fear that people face due to the experiences of others and stories of this kind in the African community.
My take is that a good person is a good person no matter where they reside or find themselves and it really does take deliberate commitment to adapt to each other, build and remain together for couples in "the abroad" due to the system. It would thus be good to highlight more successful marriages and common pitfalls like you're doing to help relocating spouses and young couples make better decisions. Kudos
The problem is that here in europe some men dont play the role of a man,, thats when women stop respecting them. In africa a man is the bread winner not the controller. please tell men to be playing there role. some brought there wives, seize there wives salaries and give them money as a baby not as a wife. so thats why some try to liberate themselves and be free.
Only the man salary can't be enough in western world, if you really want to leave a good life
Osaigbovo Ahunwan but that doesn’t give the husband the right to be the one handling and sharing the money the wife worked for, why can’t the woman contribute a share out of her salary for the family upkeep and keep some percentage for herself , does she has to be asking the husband money even when she wants to buy pants and bra?
@@bukaino2k a responsible, romantic and decent husband know when his wife need to change her interior wears and other good things she needed for herself that can keep her happy.
@@bukaino2k one of the best prayer of a woman is to get a good husband and every others good things we be follow.
@@osaigbovoahunwan2145 That does not mean he should take her salary and dole it out to her like pocket money. That is stupid control, and he is treating her like a child. She is not his child. Some men need to grow a beard and stop feeling insecure. Both men and women can contribute to the family's financial welfare without the husband controlling the wife's salary. No wonder some women rebel.
I just recently discovered your talks and I’m really enjoying them.
I never experienced sexism coming from a Dutch culture. I moved to USA and I experienced comments from African men and dominant behaviors that were very foreign to me. There were also comments such as: You are too independent; You women have too many rights; It's good for a woman to have an opinion, sometimes- I spoke up about what the conversation was about in a group of African men. ; no man will want you because you have your own place; You need a man to make decisions for you.. My friend is Igbo and she told me that she has to have to have sex WHENEVER her husband wants to. He can force himself on her and it's not rape..
Oh my god i am so glad to find u i am a Jamaican Registered Nurse lives in NY and tried to date a African man i just finish 8 months of Cultureral battle all about submission and woman must keep quit he finally block me even though he lied that i am not block.
You are so right man. Kindness to one another helps alot. Whatsoever success that the woman has is for the beauty of the family. People should just take life easy and enjoy All the beauty of family.
Are there unscrupulous women? Yes. But the same can be said for men as well. And I think it's more about that than being "deadly" . As you have said, I think we have to look at the reason the African man is traveling back home for a wife. Now, if it's because he wants an African wife who knows the customs and traditions then fine. But, if he wants one just to "Lord" over and keep her "in her place" then he runs the risks of her becoming deadly. She's not going to remain "docile" once she learns her rights. But that is not to say she will begin to use those against him. If a woman is respected, even though the man may have been raised in a patriarchal society, if he can allow her to voice her opinion and she understands the final decision will be his I think that's acceptable and shouldn't be an issue. But, if he expects her to be silent and places her status just above a child then it very well may become an issue since she is no longer Africa and knows her rights. I would like to think Most women, wouldn't become promiscuous and or use the system against him despite the fact she knows she most likely would win. I think other women who come to the diaspora may very well have always had a desire to be "free" to become the woman that they want to be and were not allowed in Africa. Yes, I could see those women using the system to get away from the expectations of her husband. To respond to your question, No I don't think women in diaspora are deadly. I just think women would like more respect for their opinions and be seen as an equal partner in the family who contributes just as much to the home as he does outside of it. Basically, I think it comes down to mutual respect. I feel that once that is established and she feels that he is showing her that respect then he will see it reciprocated. Just my opinion.
I totally agree with you as a woman living in the west.
Very naive
The great Paul Kagami of Rwanda 🇷🇼 says Africans should not look up to western stars as ROLE MODEL. I don’t know how this relate to this but it’s similar subject 🤷🏾♂️...
Very good analysis. Also not all single parents are single because they are frivolous, irresponsible, man-haters, gold-diggers, etc. Everyone's situation is different. Unfortunately when some men have had a bad experience with a single parent they prejudge all other single parents instead of understanding that any other woman could've done them wrong, but this one just happened to be a single parent. Single parenthood does not automatically mean a woman is a bad person or not wife material. If someone does you wrong, it's just that person is the wrong person for you. It's so important to first know the person well and understand what happened before making conclusions or listening to heresays.
What an articulate and rational African man. His mindset alone can give a woman orgasm! Your lady is blessed!
Wow! An African man who has seen the light, who'd have thought it? Much respect to you Sir.
Any man that goes back to Africa to bring a wife to the western world solely for the reason to have control and dominance over her is a failure and a villain. Unfortunately many of such men even don't realise on time that many African women unlike before have already opened eyes and are conversant of the western culture even while still living in Africa. They do watch western movies and do talk with friends already living abroad.
However, some of our men go back to bring wife from Africa because they were already in the relationship before they traveled abroad, or they simply love the African culture/custom/tradition/values. They are very unwilling to do away with this, and because they might not find these values or tradition in a western woman, they had very much prefer to go back home to bring a woman of their dream. This would afford them getting to eat regularly those delicious African meals/cuisines; blasting their native tongue; wearing the native attires; teaching the kids the culture like the boys prostrating to greet the elderly and girls kneeling down for same purpose; enjoying deep respect and reverence from the wife. Alas, gradually this is becoming a mirage nowadays. The westernised woman most often claims equality with their man not minding the culture or the edict in the holy book that puts the man as the head. The wife might even be more educated or earning more money than the husband, the fact of the matter is that the woman must submit herself to her husband whether she is of higher status or not, without the husband abusing her submission. And of course a westernised man must be willingly ready to assist the wife in some house chore like cooking, cleaning and babysitting so the burden will not be too much on the woman. Unfortunately what we have nowadays is that many of these marriages are no longer working well again because of pride (claiming equality); ignorance (not quickly understanding the western culture of working much overtime et al, so the woman or in some cases the man keeps thinking the partner neglects him/her ; and impatience (not seeking for solution from the elders/clergy, but quickly calling the cops on their partner; lack of understanding (an example is frustration because earning the dollar is not easy the way they used to think back home, so they become disenchanted with their man because they think he is stingy) May God help us.
You can't shop for a wife like you buy a car, a house, or a cow. A woman is a human being with her own hopes, dreams, and ambitions in life. If you don't respect her wishes for her own life, then you do not deserve her.
African countries really need to advance in their recognition of women's rights. The black woman is the most disrespected everywhere on the globe. They should at least have safety in the motherland.
We men really need to do better. We have to start respecting women as equals.
God bless you bro
The premis is to preserve african culture and ideals. If you have not seen the impact and change on afro caribbean and asian culture in the past 25 years. Nigerians will see it soon why irs best to marry a good healthy minded african woman that respects the mans position in the home. Iv seen british cultural values erode from the 1970s to now due to the confusion of western minded women.
What is that position? If it's to not spend time with the children, not to be concerned about their day to day lives, then good luck with that african man position in the home. If you are a man and are not yet married, you better open your mind.
Hello dear Phrankleen. Oh yes, the arguments definitely goes both ways. I am black mixed race African Caribbean origins. I married an abroad Nigerian man. Long story... but I would just make three observations/comments. First, I do believe age and station in life at the point of meeting the prospective spouse is a material factor that would provide some insight upon the prospect of success, and any potential hidden agenda, at both ends. The second is this idea that I have read many men below citing maintaining traditional cultural African ways as a reason for deliberately seeking a bride from Africa....hmmmm. I find this interesting because based upon the state of Nigeria (I use Nigeria because thats the largest populace Country in Africa were I have travelled to) there is major problem in family life and traditions are being eroded due to things not being what they were. Nothing remains stagnant ever. That is fallacy. Nigerians given 70% are aged under 30 now have a very westernised way of thinking or aspiration, rightly or wrongly or both particularly around money and relationships. The idea that you can find unexposed potential partners is most unlikely in todays times with the globalised obsession with all forms of social media. Materialism is rife in Nigeria compared to even 8 or 10 years ago. Not sure how often these men travel to Nigeria if they think the women will be installing traditional African values into their children. Women everywhere want change and financial independence or those looking to be housewives want husbands who will cover all their costs not just basic food and accommodation. Thirdly, I would argue that actually it is men and not women that have really gained from feminist ideologies and agendas. Why? because a woman’s commodity was her sexuality. In order to secure a woman’s sexuality many moons ago, men had to be able to provide. They were motivated to achieve to secure woman’s sexuality, which was secured through marriage. Women in these days could make demands in order to get the best bargain for themselves. We all pay more when a commodity is scarce, prices rise right. Along comes feminism, steered by men in order to bring down the value of that scarce commodity ‘ a woman’s sexuality’ It became a free market, men could secure sexuality for free, and women have bought into the belief they are liberated. But what has been the real price for women? Just look to places like Nigeria to find the answer. Women are desperate for marriage but many cannot attain it in the same way women before them were assured of marriage before the FM took hold. Men ceased needing to marry to secure a woman’s sexuality. This may be fine in countries whose economic policies provide for women to be sexually liberated because they can also secure their own economic stability not having to rely upon a man. But woman in less economically inclusive societies suffer the consequences of low value sexuality alongside low chances of securing economic stability without a man. The family suffers because nature must be nature and eventually even the most economically stable woman through her own efforts, ‘the boss lady’ will feel the desire to become a mother in most cases. The problem for her then is how can I secure a husband but for different reasons to raise her children within a two parent balanced environment. Food for thought my people. Stay blessed 🙏🏼
Great piece mate. Well balanced video.
Found you on UA-cam for few days now and I love ur chanel. Just love the way you always say it like it is 👌 Love from Canada
Man of respect
Westernised Woman are Deadly but not all woman living in the west are deadly. The west just teaches us all to think of ourselves first and a-lot of woman see this as a loophole in creating their won legacy / investment. Women in general has been through a lot as you said from not being able to vote or acquire certain jobs, so ambitious woman pushed for a-lot of changes in the west because living in the west is quit expensive and dose require a lot to create a legacy but most important a strong woman can put a mans hard work at ease and let some stress off. Now a lot of African woman and other races of woman have a weakness for power and money in-fact its a-lot of woman addiction / turn on. In the west the laws created can help them achieve those things and get away with murder as they don't only have the law on their side but they will receive pity as they are woman. One thing Iv learnt is dangerous woman put their-self in the line of fire to achieve their goals from learning every sport and how much the athletes are paid, even cricket and football has more woman fans LOL. We also have woman who go earn degrees and have no idea how they got their degree but they have no plans on using it as their main focus is just to use it for a show, to find a gullible man with a working degree to play his position and acquire their needs. Now in the west one of the biggest hustle is child support, a woman will have a mans child knowing he has to care for his child for 18 years which means after those 18 years she now as a child that will begin to work and take care of her until she dies, which once done well is a lifetime investment/hustle. Show me a child raised correctly that wont take care of their mom and buy her nice material things even if their mom has evil ways to the dad. A lot mother look at their kids as investment and not a child out of love. The western system just bring out evil woman true colours. So to sum it up she was evil before she left Africa, India, china she just needed the tool and the west gave it to her. Let face it woman are getting smarter men are getting more gullible and they system just keep wining and dividing our people.
We do need to get our values right don't we?
Sir,I'm American Jewish, African American, Woman and,Yes,the woman here in the USA Western, Eastern, Northern, Southern,are deadly.From young age,,I would watch women in my own family do strange things to their own children, husband's, boyfriend's and family members as well as friends.I began travel,out of state around,19,years,and the woman were so got of their position as being a respectful person.I no longer wanted to travel,State to State,then work took me, international and it was worse than state to State. Glory has told me my position in His kingdom.Now Sir,I have seen and witnessed a level of discuss,,even in the men This that women do,,the men I have yet to see these things.Not to say men are not worse ,the evils that are done from the woman too the men, children, family and other women and creation,is out of this world.
Short answer is yes but it is not that simple. I am from the Caribbean and people from the Caribbean will tell you not to date an American woman but they never explain why. It is usually not fleshed out and quite shallow in reasoning. The real reason why a westernized woman can be so dangerous is because of the culture not the woman. The westernized culture of materialism, consumption, selfishness, and egotistical behavior destroys all that partake. However even in the Caribbean people will do things for status i.e. I am going to get a PHD because that is what people want me to have to look prestigious. This too long term does not work because you are living for other people. Now that I am older, no matter where you live, you have to live a life or create a culture based on minimalism, attaining a good quality of life, and stay away from consumerism.
Hi I'm enjoying your view. But I'm a little confuse with the word westernized. I think based on comments there is a confusion of woman of western culture to, they are not westernized. Westernized is whereby you bring a woman from another country to a western country and they change their believes and behave like a western woman.
Great talk Sir 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thanks brotha for Truthfulness.
Thank you bro from my own experience 90% are deadly but some are very good..
Hey u can't say that...maybe u should also look in d mirro First.just sayinh
@Romeo Jay, you attract what you are in your heart. If you think 90% of "westernized women" are bad, it only mirrors what is in your heart.
#checkyourself
@@Philtabit49 im only speaking from experience im not attacking anybody...people go true different experiences..god bless
@@romeojay8377 Dude, I get your point . Hoping you get mine too. If you keep meeting "bad women", perhaps you should examine yourself.
Thats all I'm saying.
@@Philtabit49 yo there is no need to tell me to examine myself thats rude..did i tell you im ill? Have some respect...and let me remind you again people have different views, opinions and experiences so respect yourself..
Love how you speak the truth
Truthful and classical. 🎺🔊🔥
Nice. Im foling you from Sweden. Im original fram Mozambique
I am here for the latest, the freshest and the hottest gist.
Una like gist sha.
Say it like it is.
Very well said and right on point.
Good video!
I have to give myself a double take. I frequently get looks as I travel solo and seldom encounter a woman who isn't measuring me. But with what you have stated i will give myself a second look. they could likely be measuring me based on their level of success.
This is a very sensitive topic. 👍
Thanks Phrankleen
True talk. Better not to marry than to seek to own another human being.
Interesting
Well balanced and said.
Mature ladies in the west are best.
You are the best