We put up with 95% abuse because of the 5% good times. I did it for 29 years with my ex. I finally realized she was not going to change when the kids left home and she got much worse.
I agree. No contact has been difficult for me too at times. My Two Tours of Madness lasted all together 26 years. So History.. But I did once take the Narcissist way to counter the attacks but I now think how much of her ways were an attempt to make me understand and possibly heal and I couldn't understand that at the time. So I wonder what if I had and did I have a chance to fix things but I chose to walk away? Still wondering..
We put up with 95% abuse because of the 5% good times. I did it for 29 years with my ex. I finally realized she was not going to change when the kids left home and she got much worse.
I agree. No contact has been difficult for me too at times. My Two Tours of Madness lasted all together 26 years. So History.. But I did once take the Narcissist way to counter the attacks but I now think how much of her ways were an attempt to make me understand and possibly heal and I couldn't understand that at the time. So I wonder what if I had and did I have a chance to fix things but I chose to walk away? Still wondering..