#1 Divorce Attorney: Why It's Better To Be Single! - STOP CHASING & Do This Instead | Faith Jenkins
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What up homies, I'm your host, Lisa Bilyeu and today I invited my girl, Faith Jenkins back for another episode to guide you on this journey of empowerment for all of the single ladies that are fed up with B.S. dating advice and trying to keep everyone else happy.
We’re about to share a secret with you - a secret to embracing and living your best single life, no matter what stage you're at (actually it’s more like 6 secrets that are no longer secret, but they are life changing).
No one talks about how exciting and meaningful the single life can be. Being single can be an exciting, fulfilling phase of your life that’s so much more than a waiting room for marriage or failed relationships. In fact, it's a time of self-exploration, a time to unchain yourself from past hurts, and a time to understand what you truly want from love and life.
This episode is a pot of priceless lessons on mastering the art of being single and happy. We cover everything - from enjoying the single phase, becoming an intentional dater, to understanding the importance of marriage for you (in your own words,not your momma’s words). We're not just talking about the good bits, but also the challenges - like family pressure, loneliness, and the fear of settling.
Ready for this journey of self-discovery and empowerment? Are you ready to learn, grow, and become the best version of yourself? If yes, then hit that subscribe button and join our tribe of powerful, independent women. Let's change the narrative together, one video at a time!
Welcome to Women of Impact - where being single is celebrated, not single-shamed, and check out the 6 Steps to Master Your Single Soulmate Journey with Faith Jenkins: sisdontsettle.thinkific.com/c...
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Single Lady Power Plays 💅
[00:31] Embrace the Solo Life 💃
[20:10] Old Flames Don’t Make Future Fires ❤️🔥
[37:00] Deliberate Dating, Intentional Romance 🫶
[41:38] Spot Red Flags & Draw the Line 🚩
[1:01:21] 5 Relationship Killers 👀
[1:16:10] Beyond the Small Talk 👂
[1:22:40] Becoming “The One” 🥰
[1:32:37] Rockstar Rebound with Milck 🎸
****Bonus Life Lessons with Award-Winning Singer, Milck****
I’ve got this special bonus ready for you where Milck exposes the greatest lie we tell ourselves that keeps us broken in toxic relationships, how to break away from feeling trapped in patterns of abuse, and the power of personal responsibility. If you’re looking for ways to get more out of gratitude, a better way to respond to rejection, and make a massive change in your life starting today, you’re in for a treat.
Faith & Love Quotes:
“Slow down for a second and enjoy this phase of your life because life keeps going.”
“I would rather not have children than to have a child with somebody who’s toxic.”
“Your goal is living a fulfilled life right where you are.”
“Our goal should be happiness where we are, and then someone comes along and they add to the happiness in our life.”
“I broke up with the reality of who they were but I was still hanging onto the potential of what I thought that relationship was going to be for two years.”
“There’s always a risk when you desire love.”
“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.”
“When you have boundaries that you continue to break to try to get someone to like you, you like yourself a little less.”
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On it!
BEING SINGLE IS PEACEFUL 😜 ☮️
😮😊😊 I am happy Single!!
I would be single if it was not because I am lucky to have a loving husband ❤
It is but being in a healthy, beautiful and God ordained relationship is so amazing 🙃 ❤
PEACE!❤
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ladies while you are single focus on creating a lifestyle that YOU love. This is the place that you want to attract a mate, while you are on top.❤
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Yes!!!! Totally agree!💃🏽🎈💯
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Absolutely ❤
When I get on top I’m good * no relationship needed. If we can’t build together I’ll do it alone with a few dogs & plants.
"Being in a relationship is not the answer to loneliness. And being single does not mean that you have to be lonely."
YESSSS!!! 💯
Absolutely!
When you are single you’re number one thing is creating a closer relationship with GOD . Then everything else will fall into place. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen
Factssss 🙏🏾🤍
Yessss🙏
Amen❤ that's what I'm doing
This comment!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I agree with her. 4 children and a divorce later. Don’t rush babies , marriage , relationships etc. Seasons expose character and in your gut you know if you’re settling, don’t settle . Focus on putting yourself in a position to win no matter the outcome and go with your flow , not societies.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am trying to make myself understand that I SHOULD not rush babies, marriage, and relationships, etc. Your wisdom is appreciated on my side of a phone screen.
Thanks for sharing! I'm 33 and not married and don't have kids. I'm doing my best to just live my best life. But sometimes it sucks wondering if I'll meet the right man and start a family.
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix IMAGO
I've Scanned 250,000 Brains This Is Really How Men Think - Dr Daniel Amen and Lisa Biyeu
@@MsAmarie90 Maybe it's better to not wonder, to put that energy toward something that is healthier & better for you.
My solo years have been more full-filling & joyful than my married or dating life ever was.
❤ you are beautiful
@janicelewis446 THANK YOU!!
Mine too!
I hear that!
YESSSSS!
It's the same for me. The way my life is, now, is so much better than it ever was when I was married or when I began dating after the divorce. The ex cheated on me, lied to me constantly, spent money behind my back, sabotaged my parenting.
If I did or said something he didn't like, instead of having a conversation like an adult, he froze me out for up to 2 weeks or until he was so toey he couldn't stand it any longer.
Both guys and women do the freeze out to other people. By totally ignoring me he taught me how to do without him.
I totally agree with Faith. There is no need to secure a man/ women in order to be happy. My single life have been the most joyous, productive and peaceful time of my life. I would rather be alone than being In toxic relationships. “ If you never have babies, there are millions of children in the world who needs stable families”.
Even when you do get a man or woman it won't make you happy you may feel a temporary boost of happiness but then your happiness level returns back to normal.
That last sentence 🫶🏿
@ernestparham8376 the funny thing about today's women is that they want to live the best of both worlds meaning they want to be single but at the same time enjoy the benefits of having a man. Cause I'm sure if they're in danger somewhere, they're gonna expect a man(another woman's man/husband) to risk his life and save her or if something is broken, a lot of them will try to see which dude they've put in the friend zone will come fix it. Bruh I've been married for 20 years and my wife single friends or even associates be trying to play them games with me and I keep telling her to tell them that's not my job, they need to go get a man for that.
Moving on doesn’t =forgiving. Forgiveness of yourself is key.
Yes, absolutely this. I'm imploring you, how can I achieve this?
You are very beautiful is all i can say after viewing your PFP ❤
I can't believe people talk about why a person is not married in a negative way. Like who would ask the gorgeous, successful, intelligent, charismatic person as if something is wrong. Obviously, she's going to be selective, and that wasn't her priority, like other women . it's all normal. Let's normalize everything. It's a shame that we are not valued without a man.
Let's normalize wymn earning and man sitting at home and watching netflix, cooking food.. wymn won't agree normalization when it comes to man's mony 😅
@@Deb_deCoder 🤣
Unfortunately that's life. Women are always judged. Especially if you don't settle, because you are seeking a soul connection. Very hard to find.
As long as you’re a woman you’ll be judged negatively, so just do as you please without harming others and everything will be good
Especially if you grow up and live in a more traditional, conservative, religious environment like a church. I'm the single one in my church. I'm "still a child" " I must have baggage, so that's why I couldn't get a husband ", I "was afraid" etc.People back home see me as damaged because I'm still single after 40.
I am leaving that church at some point
So true what she said about the hatred for the ex-wife was higher than caring about the child. So sad.
What she said at the 28 minute mark is so validating because I had been telling myself this about a guy I just broke up with. It was hard to let go because it was my first relationship after many years of singleness. And I really liked him as a person, but I kept looking at his history and his past and I kept saying that it seems like he has a pattern of creating baby mamas. And as much as I like him and I think he his spirit might be wanting to be a committed husband and father now I just don't see how I'm going to end up being the one that he changes for as opposed to just another notch on the belt/baby mama added to his collection, because his flesh still wanted the partying and drinking and going out life anyway.
So yea his pattern was getting in relationships creating baby mamas and then the relationship ends, he had 3 baby mamas and four kids and the holy spirit just kept asking me what makes you think your conclusion is going to be any different.
Lady, good for you listening to the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit will lead and guide you to all truth. I pray you find the man God has intended for you. Im a witness to this. Been there done that
Yes, the Holy Spirit is speaking to you. Praying for you and I've been there too, in trying to determine if a guy I was dating was the right fit. Each time I received my answer. Sending encouragement.
Do not hook yourself up with a man that has children...send him back! Most of the time, they doubling back anyways! Unless u have children too and y'all both accept that...but this guy is just loose out partying still with all those kids in seperate homes, working and trying to date 🤔 how he got time? Nah never again don't even allow the opportunity delete, delete, delete 😂
I'm grateful for my child, however, I wished I listened to the Holy Spirit. I ignored red flags, and he is the exact guy you mentioned. Thank God for his Holy Spirit and continue to be obedient. I thank God he works everything for his good, of those who serve and worship him 🙏🏾
Look at the fruit of labor. What type of Dad is he? Does he support and spend valuable time with All these children? Not likely.
Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity are key in having a healthy relationship.
I agree ❤
Add character values beliefs disposition emotional maturity disposition lifestyle and worldview shared goals - alignment
I understand everything Faith is saying. While I am not a judge, I am an attorney that practiced family law for more than 10 years. I am also a single black female of a similar age to Faith. I have felt similar pressures. Thanks for the video!
I married the wrong person. He is VERY toxic, and THANK GOD, we never had kids! We are getting a divorce, and I would get married all over again because l STILL love the idea of marriage. l grew up around a healthy marriage between my mother and stepfather, and second time around, l will not ignore red flags, and l will not accept anything less than l deserve. I believe there is someone for everyone, and l believe alot of us settle. I don't care what anyone else says, life is better when you experience it with a "your person", Just choose your person wisely!
I started the single journey after marriage. My close associate had many social events. I had fun until I found there is still immature women friends and I couldn't deal with that. I'm an introvert and I thought being social would helo my sadness I felt after divorce. Looking to be fulfilled with ppl can let u down. You have to learn to be content within yourself.
Preach!
I’m the same way.
Amen 🙏🏼
There is so much potential when you are single. I'm 49yo a woman and I am having the time of my life like a single person 💓
👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
What are the things that help you embrace the single life? What keeps you from feeling like you are missing out because you are not in a romantic loving relationship? I just turned 40 and I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I may never find the romantic partnership and love connection I really crave.
Enjoy every moment!!! 🎉
@@KimJilene She's occupied with what is important to her, and is focused on her strengths, occupation, hobbies, or activities (with or without other people) that matters or brings her joy. Singleness is not a death sentence 🤣 It is a blessing that excludes turmoil from being with a mate rather than a genuine match.
That's such good advice, I left someone toxic that I thought I loved because I realised they are incapable of loving me the way I deserve to be loved. I realised why I kept attracting shit people it was because I wasn't happy in myself. I am now focused on me and improving myself & finding what makes me happy, maybe I'll meet someone good or maybe I won't. I'm happy eitherway lol 😂
I packed up a whole house from the basement to the attic and moved myself and my three children out of a toxic mess
thank you for sharing this
So did I, the best thing I've ever done for me and my children.
@@celashadollythomas Amen sis
43:16 It's mostly guys who label their exes as "crazy". When a guy tells of how their exes were crazy it often says that he was cruel to her, so she reacted out of emotional pain with him shirking responsibility for his actions that hurt her. If he is unwilling to accept accountability for his actions in this way, there are likely other areas of life in which he acts irresponsibly.
Sure, there are some women who are a bit unhinged, will become even more so when they are in emotional pain.
There are more irresponsible guys than there are unhinged women.
So true. My soon to be ex husband told me all of his gfs and mom were crazy and naive me, believed him. I've never been in a relationship like that before where a man ever talked down on exes. So I believed. Thinking that some women are crazy. Come to find out, it was all a lie. 😔 And now we have a 21 month old baby girl.
When guys say their ex’s were crazy ask “were they crazy when you met them?” If not, is it possible you’re the common denominator?
@@lavinejohnson1470 Many labels have been used to justify abuse of women by guys who shirk their accountability in abusing women. Even a King of England did this. King Henry VIII. Trying to get his way, he famously accused Anne Boelyn of bewitching him although he was the one who heavily pursued her.
In the past, guys would accuse a woman of being a witch to have her killed. Accused women of adultery while they, themselves were the guilty party. Accused women of fornication, though, it takes two to do this.
In today's world, guys will say a woman is crazy or a psycho to avoid accountability for their actions.
Reallyyyy after being blindsided sided by my ex she called me after 6 weeks of no contact telling me she missed me crying. I was thinking great we might work it out. 2 days later she's telling me I made her realize she wants more kids and a family but just not with me !!! Really u call 6 weeks after a break for this!!!! This is women!!!
@@johnnycalderon9951 That is just one woman, not all women. If you are having problems with women, the common denominator is you. Maybe it's time for some introspection.
Two sides to every story.
Yes!!! Love yourself first! It’s easier to leave a bad situation went you’re used to your peace and you see all you’re getting is stress and pain and drama!
I was the same about my parents, I remember feeling that some was wrong with my parents marriage from young but couldn't understand or articulate what I was feeling. Y parents finally got divorced when I was 15 and my first words were, 'finally!'
Same. Only mine waited until I was 27 😅
Thank you Lisa for having Judge Faith on your podcast. Her wisdom and background is golden and will save both women and men from future heartbreak and divorces. Thank you Judge Faith for this master class. You are a role model and are truly doing God's work on this earth.
I am so SO glad this popped up in my recommendations. My first great takeway is 9:10 "Just because you're thirsting doesn't mean that you should go and drink poison."
I'm 67, never married, no children...it's what I always wanted. I'm not giving up, too late for children though 😢... I missed out on marrying couple guys that were great, that wsnted to marry me, that loved me, but I didn't love myself
There are lots of babies out there for you to love and who would love to love you. ❤
Oof
I wish you well. May you find your perfect mate ❤
What are you doing today to embrace being single and cultivate real self-love? I just turned 40 and I am seeking guidance on how to come to terms with the high probability that I will not find a mate and how I can live a fulfilling and joyful single life.
I'm glad you posted this because what younger people don't realize is that it's easy to be fulfilled as a single person in your younger years but after 50, the natural feeling for companionship starts to creep in and Faith is too young to understand much less talk about this dynamic.
Wow this interview is packed with so much value - wish I saw this when I was single for 7.5 years in my 20s!
I have women in my family, some, are 60s, 70s years old, and never been married, no kids, happy with their careers. Everybody, in the entire world not going to get married, or dont want, too. Look, society, needs to stop obsessing about marriage, and still cannot get it right. Most married people should be in a place where a lot of singles are until meeting decent mates. Married people, many should not be married in the first place.
Guest, so right being alone does not mean loneliness. People, need to find something to do and not rely on marriage. So many interesting things in life to do, we don't even have the time in a day to do all of them.
Bottonline, we need to stop being afraid of being alone. We need to have inner peace, so we won't feel lonely.
Well said!
Very true! I realized the other day that there is so much out there in the world for me to learn and explore and experience, and it would take me many lifetimes to even scratch the surface of what life has to offer. So much out there to do other than wait around for some man to love me 😵💫 I just turned 40 and it would take me at least another 40 years to dissect and analyze how I showed up and experienced the world in my first 40 years. Marriage is not the end all be all. As much as I would love to be loved and in a romantic partnership, spending the rest of my life learning to love myself and falling in love with myself sounds like a great life journey to me - especially when I spent the first 40 hating myself.
And I also see a lot of older women put on a facade as if they're happy being alone but when you observe them very closely when a happily married couple is around, their facial expression or something they say says something different. We don't know how happy someone really is unless we become a fly on the wall observing them when they're alone
@@julesgordon1109bruv, happiness isn’t a destination. You’re never going to be happy everyday…. Show me one person who has been happy every day of their life? You seriously think another human is responsible for your happiness? Aka marrying someone else will make you happy
@@Enriquez2222 happiness = content
This talk is beautiful.my parents separeted like 4 years ago and to us children we took it positively coz we were tired of watching that toxicity from childhood.Thats the time we were not. So happy but liberated.wow I love this Lisa
I feel so much peace and joy right now than I ever did in that 18 yr physically abusive Narcisistic marriage. God is good ❤
Each time I listen to Faith, I leave with additional resources to help me stay the course and not settle. Great interview once again! ❤ So many gems.
In a [healthy] marriage of over 20 years, they've "mastered forgiveness, know how to compromise and have let go of resentment"... How about growing up, witnessing the reverse of that: I have zero desire to be in a marriage for as long as my parents have been and drowning in the toxicity they have- it's so sad. My parents have been married for 52 years and have so much resentment, and hostility toward each other (they won't divorce now for many reason they give)! Seeing how they've lived their lives has inspired me to stay single: Faith is giving me some real tangible guidance that it can be done intentionally if one has the intentional approach 🤗
This woman has hit the nail on the head!! Agree 💯% with what I have seen as well with people
Thank Lisa and Judge Faith.. this was everything. I’ve shared many of these experiences so sad to say but finally working on everything I can control. Looking forward to the future
Kenny: “My son is watching…”. This is the part that matters so much. Well done.
I can relate to her points so much.. In relation to singlehood ... She is almost reiterating everything that i think. I am so glad im hearing this!
Wow!!! This is right on time for me. I’ve always loved Mrs. Faith.! Such a beautiful conversation between you two. ❤️
Absolutely wonderful Lisa! THANK YOU! Phenomenal interview with amazing women! So so good!
I really admire and respect Faith Jenkins -Lattimore. :) I love how real she keeps things!
Love watching Judge Faith.
She is full of wisdom.
When I say this whole entire interview is soooo therapeutic. Myyyyyy Gooooood, thank you. I feel like my VOICE has finally been heard ❤
All of this is so well said. I learned the hard way about toxic marriage.
1:24 Thanks Lisa for asking this question (and always being so prepared with poignant questions!) Really appreciate you 💫
I needed this video! 💜✨ She gave me some gems for sure! Thank you!
I am so grateful to have heard this video. It is important to keep educating ourselves to ensure we stay fulfilled and not get trapped in toxicity. Life is so precious, and the time is of the essence, so this type of education is valuable to help broaden mind further and keep us strong. Thank you, and please keep sharing the wisdom to help inspire and grow us.
This is amazing❤ Thank you for all this information its wonderful ,such a great ladies
I am so grateful for this! Thank you so much!!
You know what, you are the best, definitely the take aways in your life experiences, thank you so much for showing up, sharing, keep up the amazing work and stay blessed! Let's go! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Thank you, the best guide ever for us, parents who go through a very harsh period in our life. Again, I can't thank you enough @LisaBilyeu..❤
One thing I'm grateful I was never socialized into believing was that I needed a boyfriend. I was never taught that being single meant I was defective. Thank god! I love being single, and I had no idea people feel guilty about it! I share this because I want anyone feeling this way to understand that it is your false beliefs from socialization making you feel guilty or wrong! It's a lie. You are just perfect, just you! 💗
I have been in a lot of unhealthy toxic relationships . And I am used to that type of lifestyle . And learning growing from my past
Great video thank you so much for sharing Lisa ❤❤❤
Ive been single all my life. At 63 years I’ve given up trying to attract a partner.
Are you now more focused on having a loving peaceful relationship with yourself?
@@KimJilene I have a very happy peaceful life with myself.
I am glad this is being honestly discussed
This woman knows what she's talking about!!
Loved this interview the questions and answers.. It’s still not too late to utilize some of the good sense she shared going forward. It is not too late to benefit if you want a better time of things. Even after ur family dynamic has changed or children have left the nest😊
Thank you Lisa for your channel, it changed my life! Greetings from London 💫🪄💛
When you have a child with the wrong person, the children suffer most.
VERY powerful and timely video which i will rewatch. Ive been in a long single season yet also want to be in a healthy relationship.
Very very true about how excruciating it is to deal with and your innocent child to deal with and is forced to deal with on their own (because of judges who don’t make right decisions all day long) that toxic person
I NEVER Ever thought that I Would be Happy Single...Like Im newly Single ..This talk really Resonates with Me. To Just think that I Would Be Happier in MY Personal Space Felt Strange. than Believing that Happiness or Getting into My Own Vibe..Sans "Myself "
Not A Codependent Type of Happiness... thats the Cinderella dreamland Mentality.. U Deserve the Joy, Peace, & Harmony for Yourself ...Again..❤🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💕🩷🩷💕🙌🏽💕🩷💕🩷🩷 I Need To Love Myself Again ...
It’s not like you believe it will be, if you do the work you will have a great, amazingly single life untillllll. ❤
Thanks Lisa and Faith, great content.
Great insight! Great episode!!
Gosh, I love listening to this woman. Impeccable advice. Skylar is a very lucky little girl..❤
Never thought about someone not-so-jokingly saying something about you then brushing it off as you being "soft" or "weak" if you "can't take a joke." My coworker does that frequently. I knew it was messed up, but I never thought about it being manipulation. Kind of suspected it was to chip away at my self esteem though and hurt me since he's someone who's been hurt a lot in the past.
My friend use to do that to me and she got cut off. I don’t miss her at all.
Thank you for your wisdom and advice. I am not settling until I meet Gods best. I would rather be single and happy in the meantime❤
For me being able to @get over “ a relationship ending or not working out to begin with is an awesome realization that comes with emotional maturity and self love.
This was such a great interview ❤ thank you!
Amazing interview 👏 wonderful
Sooo good ❤
This is so good.
7:36 Thank you for saying this. I'm currently going through a divorce. I strive so hard to show my 7 & 5 year old a healthy co parenting lifestyle
My father was abusive every day on all levels and we lost our mother because of it.
Dynamite 🎉glad to hear all these points.
Thanks a lot for this amazing advice and wisdom❤
That’s exactly what I am experiencing, my ex uses my kids to punish me and I can’t do anything about it.. it’s the worse thing I have experiencing in my life so traumatic and still trying to co-parenting with someone that weaponize our own childrens to hurt them to get to me.
That's what my own mom had to endure with my father. He left us and refused to help financially when I was in my teens. Now he just strings my mom along with legalities ( he's a lawyer so he knows how to work the system) while he continues to date woman four times his junior but really just washing and repeating with these women. I pray for healing for you and everyone involved and financial stability and security so you can be free of your ex and start living a life worth living for both you & your kids. You deserve to!
2024 is around the corner- the time is now❤
U r wise woman & thx 4 telling the truth.
Awesome!!!! Thank you!!!❤
" Love is the floor, not the ceiling "
Thank you for this! ❤
Great conversation, I'm blessed to have my honey 🍯 bunch. 😊
❤I love them TWO...THIS IS VERY INFORMATIVE ❤
Giving the benefit of the doubt, looking for good in people than looking for mistakes or focusing on the mistakes or my own mistakes
Im reading some of the comments and i really womder how people comprhend information. I agree with her finding peace in your singleness and eliminating fear and despair helps you to choose better. Creating a family not just having children is paramount especially in the black community where the marriage rate is lower than other groups and single mothers are higher.
Hurt ppl usually gravitate to those types of conversation that's why u see most of the people commenting be personalizing what's being said. This is another way to blame the other person instead of looking in the mirror and correcting what's there.
So impactful🙏🏾❤
I want marriage for 3 reasons, (1) having a partner in all things life dedicated to one another, (2) someone to grow spiritually with, (3) for love and friendship (to be kids together).
Marriage is serious. And the pressure as a Black woman of Caribbean descent is real. God is the only one holding me right now to just make a rash decision that'll negatively impact me for life.
I waited 30 years to date and am so grateful for not being too male centered in my young adulthood. But if I be lying if I say dating has been clear straight for me. The emotional and mental gymnastics navigating romantic relationships, I was not prepared for. Lol I'm learning lol
This is profound teaching 🙏🏻
children are worth trying to work things out if it isnt so bad and salvageable
we live in a world where everyone is comparing themselves to others and people are becoming more and more materialistic and unsatisfied with what they have, both men and women, unfortunately the toll is paid by the children.
Assuming that you found the one. Now you're ready but you don't know how a relationship will unravel in time.
Yeah
Your story gave me hope, I have people ask me that why I’ve never been married & now in my 40, but,my engagement was cancelled by me because he didn’t want to tell me why his 1 marriage didn’t work & he always got angry. And he had two kids from prior union; but he didn’t want anymore. He is twenty years older than me. Having children was a non-negotiable for me. TY
Bravo!!! 🙌🏼
So True! Being in an unhappy marriage is extremely lonely.
Bravo! I have to Say My top 3 guests are: her, Dr Nicole Le Pera and Matthew Hussey. Oh I almost forgot Radhi too 🤗. Thank You!!❤
Everything she said is beautiful
I stayed longer because there were things that were wrong with me in how I was dealing with his betrayals and I was able to work on myself in it and apply the changes while in it which made me stronger. I knew that the relationship was going to dissolve because he hadn't worked in himself at all and was still not holding himself accountable. Through everything it taught me more about who I am and what my values are and to hold true to them because they are good because I work on myself and will continue working daily to learn and think about what I want, and hold true to my integrity. Now I will give 30 days max and they may be cut and won't make my team in 2 days or less. I'm a little older now and I've come to know what comes from the heart through the mouth is showing what's in their heart, spirit and soul.
There’s no such thing as asking too many questions! Seriously. If that scares people away then they probably have something to hide
Great point and I agree on this perspective but, luckily I have been a mother my own self and now separated, I am experiencing true love(first time) rising till now my 6 years daughter, everyone is different.. blessings
This seems so cliche, I'm still sticking to it,
"There are much worse life situations than being single, dying alone, being childless."
People are constantly advised to get back out there after a specified amount of time. after a divorce or death or break up with a SO.
That's the worst advice anyone can give.
Better advice would be to give yourself time to adjust to being single & celibate. Until you are just as happy with or without another person, keeping from allowing the world to dictate who & what you should do or be to make others more comfortable.
Allowing loneliness plus fear can propel you toward a romantic relationship that is much worse than being single, celibate, alone.
Relaxing into being single & celibate will allow you to adjust in place of fighting it. Fear breeds more fear, loneliness breeds more loneliness. Narcissists love to find people who are lonely, scared. It's a totally different level of pain when they use you.
I totally agree, the insecurity has been something I noticed that tends to make many men be abusive or try to gain control in the relationship. You don’t want a narcissistic man of course but someone who has confidence and believes in himself and does not have the need to bring others down. And so does making fun of, or acting like a bully or joking too much when you’ve expressed your dislike for the jokes. Also making a joke out of everything signals a level of immaturity and some sort of avoidance. After experiencing mistreatment from more than one men with these qualities I’ve realized I’m avoiding any man who lacks confidence and who makes a joke out of everything
I am single and not a mother. I am so content in my solitude to where it is incomprehensible to most. Furthermore, i am content if i never enter a relationship. The dates i have been on are not worthy of me breaking my current routine. It is what it is.
I hear that.
I see myself telling my story on your sofa...see ya soon ❤....thanks for the great content ❤
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