A Day in My Boring Life - First Workout in Over a Year - Confidence Boost
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- Опубліковано 3 гру 2020
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Today when I woke up, I thought heck, i'm gonna make a video today. In doing so, it forced me to go to the gym and get back to working out. So thankful for that. this was my first workout in over a year after my injury.
It felt extremely good to go and workout, well actually not really before, but working out and the feeling and mood boost that I got after my workout was great.
I highly recommend if you feel like junk, go hit the gym and see how you feel afterwards. I bet you will get a nice mood boost that will start your day off right. I plan to stick with this whole working out thing for 30 days and just see where it takes me and see how far i can go with it. Will post results after 30 days to keep myself accountable.
cheers everyone! :)
When I see people that look this good and still aren’t confident, it makes it clear as day that confidence is purely mental. This guy seems super chill, humble, and down to earth. He’d prob kill it at whatever he decided to pursue
FR
Exactly my thoughts! Looks don’t birth confidence! Perception and The inner heart is what Brings out confidence!
i thought the same thing. I was like if i looked like him i would be so confident!!!!!
You're associating confidence with appearance and that is your mistake.
@@trashboity8773 Not at all. Actually I said the opposite. I literally said it’s clear as day that confidence is purely mental. So, looks like you’ve made the mistake here.
Ben, I watched your video "I am 25 years old and have no friends". What you said really touched me mate. I was in the the same situation as you, at the exact same age. The journey through social anxiety can be both long and hard, but if you find the "real" reason of what started it, you have the key to managing it. You present as a good looking and very well spoken guy, with obvious intelligence and a pleasant manner. For myself, the journey took until I was 34, and met a guy who was to become my best mate. I stayed at his flat half the week at a time, due to distance from home to work, and we became great friends. One day he had the courage to sit me down and tell me something was wrong, and that he thought a psychiatrist would be able to help me understand things. After a short period he retired and I went on to see a woman psychologist, after trying many, many of them. She was the key to me getting through it. I was diagnosed with a minor form of bipolar disorder, and all of the previous therapists never even identified it. Along with that there was some trauma I went through as a young kid, that no one ever knew about. Robyn (pyschologist) taught me to understand my self, and now I rarely feel awkward in social situations. Part of the journey is acknowledging that it really does not matter what people think of you. All of us are individual. Some grow up to be less social, and prefer their own company, others become very social. Either one is ok Ben. I had medication for a period of time (5 years), but no longer use it, and get on just fine. Trust me, if you let it happen, all will become good for you. Not all psychologists are equal, I guess only 1 out of every 20 of them can actually do the job and help you, most just listen and make generalised statements and warm and fuzzy displays. Changing therapists, or even consulting a second one can help enormously to expand the advice you can get. I live in Australia, way across the ocean, and your story jumped at me, as we have some similarities. I also had some addiction issues. Don't ever give up Ben, if you can touch my heart from all the way over in America, then you already have some special stuff inside to connect with people. You have my genuine admiration for sharing your story, and I hope your journey becomes easier and easier, and some lovely people see you for what you are, and become your friends. Greg J.
Wild that I'm reading this 7 minutes from it being posted... this needs to be at the top of the comments.
What a beautiful letter
Finding your personality type is also very helpful in understanding yourself better. These day we have to do our own research and help ourselves, as it's hard to find someone who understands and cares. I'm sorry you have minor bipolar, that must be hard. I recently learned about that. Try to live a stable life and away from stress. Your early childhood must have been somewhat frightening and/or abusive. No child deserves that.
You are gorgeous and it’s actually kind of refreshing that you feel the same as a lot of people. Confidence shines from the inside and you will get there. From the outside, I would never guess a confidence issue. You got this!
Loved the vlog bro, keep up the good work!
Ayyy Brandon
fitness people support eachother
Lol as he disappears for over 3 months
what are you doing here roid freak
good lord, he is fine AND well spoken 🤰
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂
...is that...is that a pregnant emoji?
@@iamawuss yep
@@iamawuss 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😆😆😆😆😆😆
But he's mine my dear Insha allah yarabi 😂😂😂😂
I hate seeing people I know. I avoid them at all cost. So awkward for me especially at the gym. I like to be in my own zone when working out or else I lose focus. Which reminds me I need to get back to working out again. Just been real down in the dumps lately and have zero motivation.
It sucks because you make eye contact with them for the briefest second and you have to pretend to not see them and tuck away into the safety of your own shell - alone
Aaron Nikels i think its best to just acknowledge them and say whats up cos its horrible trying to avoid the person in the gym and its very distracting, then again it depends how close you are to that person :/
@@michaellarkin6168 I used to be like this but I nowdays I just love seeing a face you recognize, even if you don't speak it's nice to know what people are up to nowdays.
Hope you're doing well
Randomly came across this channel (maybe because i've been looking a lot into my social anxiety and your videos showed up) just noticed last video was 2 years ago hope all is well✨
You are so handsome. And far from fat. You’re beautiful.
I would say super hot!
Simp
swirler alert
Agree. He is a handsome young man. And his body looks normal.
@@Kuttie03 very cute :]
I find this guy to be the perfect mentor in my situation
tütsh?
Hesch au kei Kollege?
@@GiIford Mach mal das Anime-Bild raus. Dann wirds was!
Just seen your video about social anxiety and I can’t explain it I just find your channel really comforting? It’s nice to know I’m not the only one x
Find it amusing how blunt and honest you are, takes balls speaking out about the stuff you do! Keep being proactive and I'm sure you'll see positive results! 👍
I love how real your vlogs are, you’re so personable and very relatable to guys like me. You’re so brave for putting yourself out there. I commend you man! Don’t stop!
Your authenticity is what made me watch several of your videos. You are honestly an inspiration and i don't think ive ever written or said that to anyone before. Seriously, thank you👍🏻
With all due respect, you are a very handsome man. Not only physically but also personality wise. You seem a very transparent and humble person. Keep up the good job. I love the gym 😌
its rare, but nice to see females complimenting guys. Salute.
Curious what you do for a living Ben? Also for someone who’s socially anxious the camera definitely loves you.
So happy that you are doing better everyday!!! It’s so amazing watching your journey!!! It’s so satisfying to watch as someone who has social anxiety as well and OCD! Maybe I will start going to the gym:)
im not a man, but i wish i looked that good waking up. i look like a marshmellow in the morning
he looks like a chad
Omg. Me. Marshmallow in the morning.
Girl stop I just looked at your videos you’re absolutely gorgeous. 🤩
@@SomberP absolutely the nicest thing ive heard today lol
Marshmallow.. yum
Keep making vids bro!! Many can relate to your life story 🙏🏽 you’re helping out many lives
Dude... none of yall have been uploading, this sucks because I've watching you since the beginning and I realized you haven't uploaded few months backs... and I just stumbled on this guy but he dosent make a public appearance no more...
I hope you are doing well. Your video popped up on my FYP, even though it was an old video that hasn't been updated in 2 years.
I wish you the best!!
According to his is instagram, he became overweight
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hey! i've been watching ur vlogs since ur no friends video and really enjoy them. i also have anxiety (although i don't feel completely right saying it since i haven't gone to a therapist and got diagnosed but i'm working on it) and haven't talked to my close friends since the pandemic started because of weirdly not being able to text due to fear of judgement. when u talked about running into people u knew and being able to talk to them without being nervous, that resonated with me bc literally yesterday an understanding friend reached out to me and made me feel like i wasn't as nervous as usual. not exactly the same situation but similar in not feeling as nervous and it's a pretty cool feeling. in terms of working out and eating clean, i'm not as good at strength training as i am with cardio and definitely agree that cardio has been helping improve my mental health. for eating clean seasoning i put the everything seasoning and mushroom seasoning from trader joes on everything and that helps. carrots and hummus are also bomb. and for sweet things i try to use honey as my sweetener. hope that helps if not tbh i just searched up trader joes nutritionist approved list lol. that kinda helped! thanks for the videos man! keep up the great work! :)
I struggled with social anxiety a long time and honestly still do. I can talk to people in the open but its awkward sometimes. You're an objectively handsome dude, and seem very cool and confident on camera. I still can't be on camera without hating something about myself and feeling embarrassed. Confidence and overcoming anxiety is a process. You got this 👊
Hello, Ive just seen your first video speaking about social anxiety and i truly can relate to all you spoke about. It's been a work in progress for me for many years, getting older helps to not care as much what others think of you, I'm close to 33 now 😊
Well in this video you seem to be making progress, so happy for you. I have noticed that the more experience and time of having to talk to people, put myself out there, and have good and bad experiences with people has helped me see that in the end, I'm still here, pulling through all of it, So are you. We're pulling through and getting wiser and more comfortable in our skin😊Look forward to your next videos, take care💜
Hey Brother! I’m glad to see you’re doing better. I deal with some social anxiety and a couple other anxieties myself. There are a lot of resources you can take advantage of. Lots of articles, therapists, and Facebook groups that focus on recovery and exposure therapy so you can feel what your feeling and still connect with others.
Keep going and keep supporting yourself no matter how slow the progress might seem some days ✌🏽🙏🏽
I wonder how he’s doing today
Hope he’s ok
@@bruceybrew I know right :(
Keep pushing my brother, your other video regarding no friends and anxiety spoke to me. Similar situation. Your videos are helpin people - congrats on the new apartment.
When you talk to yourself you're either talking negative about yourself, discredit yourself or speak in disencouraging statements, think of yourself as the person you want to be and you'll be that person. You are what you think. I've never thought of friends that way and maybe cause I just turned 21 but I'm focusing on myself and NOT trying to make friends, and a ton of people come and talk to me to try and be my friend, it's just the law of attraction. I simply don't give a fuck but your vid went viral and popped up on my reccomended
Your personality is awesome! I appreciate you trying to help others. Keep going! We are all in this boat together ❤❤
Me too
Let’s change “boring life” for everyone with social anxiety? ... I always thought, someone should start a group specifically for social anxiety people online, but not just any group (as I know there are many on Facebook etc, but they are depressing) ... I mean specifically a SOCIAL GROUP, aimed at people with social anxiety, not to share ones depression (again there are many groups for that), but a group to find laughter, share hobbies, make friends, make real friends, based on interests and not wallow in the negative of our disability. I think being in a group where one knows everyone else suffers from the same disability, would make it easier to make friends. And finally find a place to laugh and open up. To make real friends worldwide. We’re all alone. Why not change that and make real connections.
I like this idea 💡
I’ll do it😂 where tho?
Yes! Let’s start one?!
Let me know if you start one ahah
Great idea!!!
Hope you’re planning to create more content. Your first video was so helpful and eye opening. It’s an incredible thing to find out there are other people in the world who feel EXACTLY like I do. Many thanks for your videos
Just checked on this dude’s insta…. He went Superman mode apparently. Jacked, partying, driving a sports car etc. Pretty Fuggin sweet.
He’s not posted in years
@@ZBulletproof8852 🤣 thanks, not many notice 😂. Thank god it’s not my real name!
i hope you keep uploading videos
Your videos are extremely relatable and you're very genuine. Keep it up!
You’re attractive already but I can relate to wanting to feel better. At least you’re trying. Don’t be so hard on yourself 🙂
I sympathize with you man! I’ve had social anxiety for years. It’s definitely hard and now I’m trying move forward and socialize more. Being black and gay I’ve had a lot of judgment in the past which made me isolate more and my social anxiety got worse. The more I push myself the better it gets! Keep doing what you are doing buddy you got this 💪🏾 love the videos I just subscribed!
Working out is a saviour to us who are coping with social anxiety I can't go to the gym though having a home gym works for me.
Lots of positive energy and hugs to all who are dealing with social anxiety 🙏💪💛
Hey there! UA-cam recommended you and I want to say that you're looking great and keep staying strong!
I never comment but I wanted to thank you for your content ! We're so used to seeing people embellish their lives that its refreashing for you to show us your vulnerabilities and struggles ! (Sorry if my english is broken I'm from France 😊)
Jeez man I randomly came across your channel and quickly realized how similar we both are. All I have to say is you are low-key kicking butt. Keep on keeping on man!! 🤟🤟
Hey brother. Just wanted to say keep up the process. Love yourself and stay on the path. Proud of you
Damn you look hot, bro!! 💪 Keep up the good work on your channel. You have the charisma of vloggers I’ve been watching for YEARS!
You are such a babe Ben, hope you're doing well these days! You'd be a great vlogger!
Keep going!! Your doing great! I really like how honest you are about your experience, thanks for sharing 👏🏽
Dude, workout, then meditation right after. that’s a one two punch for social anxiety, gets your day started reeeealll nice 👌👌👌great job on getting to the gym my man!
Saw you haven’t uploaded or posted on Instagram in awhile so I hope you are doing okay man.
Bro I think everyones life is pretty boring the 90% of the time! And also I would say your life looks pretty chill and good, not boring just normal and relaxed
I really hope you come back with more videos Ben. We love them. And I hope your mental health is doing better too.
Dude, where did you go? hope you are ok. 2 years
Greetings from Poland bro! Keep it up good work. Love your vids. Stay positive!
You are a stunning man!!! Keep that in mind. You seem so down to earth.
Ben, you are a gorgeous man keep up doing what you’re doing and don’t give up. Things will get better for you’ll see you have my support.
Same here man...I workout everyday..don't keep track of what I eat at all..me going to the gym is the only sign that I have from myself that says I still want to have a shot at life even though I think everythings pointless.
Your videos are great and you are doing amazing things, keep it up and stay strong!
I feel similar to you man! I am a 25 year old guy. I didn’t go to college right away and I lost my social circle from high school. This was the worst combination to happen! 😔 I basically did things on my own for years now because I didn’t know how to make new friends because of social anxiety. Well, at least I’m back in school now and focusing on making new friends and socializing more!
Felt like that today and luckily had someone reach out to me to take a dance class and man, it totally saved me today 🙏🏽 Glad you felt better after your workout! 🤘🏽
I feel your pain my dude. I'm so happy to hear that u found a outlet to help curb the anxiety! I think I'm going to try the gym too. My outlet now is work.
Btw, u are so freaking handsome! I hope u have a awesome day 💫
You’re so genuine and honest... an extremely great quality to have! I’d love to know what inspired you to start a channel.. I’m sure it took extreme courage to put yourself out there... and you’re also helping so many others who can relate!! I’ve been there and also out the other side, 6 and a half years to be precise.. one day I guess I just realised the only person who worried about me was me and one I let those insecurities go I found myself not worrying what others thought (mine was bdd so different but the feeling around others identical) xx
The way you can pick up the camera and talk to us in the increments you do.. shocks me! Keep up the good work. We all have strengths & weaknesses and this is your strength!
Hey mate. Your not alone. I’m the same as you. A loner you might say. You got my subscription. Nice to see I’m not alone with other people like this guy the way he feels.
Trust me you're not the only one, I feel like that as well.
You look awesome, keep doing these blogs, you are a great inspiration for all introverts like myself
Keep going man, please. This video was awesome. It makes me feel good. Right on!
Hello Ben, I came from your " I have no friends video." I related to what you said because we're are the same archetype. I thought it would be best to pass on information that helped me when I went through the same thing . Unfortunately, my mind is not in the right state to go into a full detailed explanation, but I recommend looking into a couple personality theories. They are complex and interesting, but offer many answers to different aspects of people. The two I'll mention are Myer's Brigg type indicator a.k.a MBTI. The second theory is Socionics. Socionics is more complex and precise and gives way more answers but can be over whelming at first. If this interests you I'd recommend looking into MBTi theory first, but eventually you should transition to socionics. MBTI as well as socionics have 16 personality archetypes. Using MBTI terminology I believe you to be an INTP. This is a very analytical personality type that thinks a lot. However, don't just take my word for it. Research it and discover the answers for yourself. If you get deep into socionics and fully understand everything that theory encompasses you never look at life the same. Will take a while to do that though. Still better than wondering why you are the way you are. Honestly not having the answers to such questions can be disheartening. Nonetheless I wish you luck on your personal journey. : )
P.S. We're around the same age. How I discovered the theory l lost a job, in part due to anxiety issues and couldn't find the resolve to go out into the world again. I started searching for answers and I stumbled upon those theories. That was about year and a half ago and my mindset has changed for the better because of it.
What has happened to him? Hope he is fine
Hi Ben, great video you are such a likable guy just try and remember to just be yourself don't care so much about what people think of you. And do you I know it's hard I too suffer from social anxiety and I'm 56 years old nothing I tried ever helped until I decided to just be myself if someone doesn't like me then oh well that's their problem I started focusing on God more and asking him to help me and he has. Just remember that God loves u and he's using u to reach a lot of people
Hahaha I love the humor, about the shirt. I pray your doing well..."nervous wreck" I would never guess you look like your overdoseing on confidence keep smiling🙏💕💕🤓
Hey, Ben. Social anxiety has been a massive struggle for me. I'm in the KC area too, and if you ever wanted a relatable friend, I would be there for you.
no nice of you. cheers from Finland!
@@teresalehtonen8499 omg I’m from kc too lol. It’s so weird cause UA-cam is so big
Keep making videos man you’re so relatable
I was making videos just like this last year, didn't keep it up though and deleted a lot. Glad its working for you. Completely relate.
So thankful that i have found your channel!
LOVE YOUR VIDEOS AND YOU'RE NOT BORING!!
gradual exposure to social spaces is great for social anxiety 🙇 ! basically, social anxiety is your brain attempting to protect you, because it senses danger
it amps up the systems that would fire up if you were, lets say, being chased by a bear (and shuts down what it thinks its unecessary). when you avoid social spaces, and you feel that little relief, it confirms you your brain that "hey that situation i got myself out of was in fact dangerous" feeding the anxiety. therefore heading to the gym or putting yourself around people may feel scary but ultimately, gradually your brain is like ok maybe this isnt something to be so afraid of. baby steps. thanks for the workout motivation btw ! im really glad you had a good time at the gym this time lol
Dude. You look fucking great. Remind me a lot of myself.
Jesus your not lacking confident are u Haha
@@shinjuku96jackson4 lmao 😁🤣 I was going to say ego much..?
Lololol cute comment
Haha y'all I didnt mean it tht way. I meant personality wise
@@SuperSharkboy123 its alright to have confident mate
Hope he’s doing well. Hope to see you soon on the video grind!
The algorithm brought me here😀
Keep posting bro your about to blow up here!!
Just found your videos man and as a 23 year old man u can relate to everything youve gone through. Hope youre doing well man.
Great video!!! Keep them coming!!! 😊😊
My twenties I worked out and ran everyday. I felt like I accomplished something. My anxiety is severe. Many years and still . I hate meal prep .
I found activity r best way to socialize . Sitting down and chatty is a nightmare. Trust in yourself.
Just started your videos… I can relate to you!!! Wondering how you are doing now? Hopefully in the future you’ll come back and make an update.. hope all is well!!
Ben, I'd friend you in a heartbeat. don't give up, it gets better. you will attract the right people. also few friends here, but it's not something I concern myself with greatly
Bravo!! 👏👏👏 You’re awesome!
You are GORGEOUS !!!!
He is so humble and sweet
You look really really good bro! 💪💪 I need to workout a lot again.
Cool. Loving that you found your place. Came from the social anxiety video.
Hope bro is doin good fr
Hope you give an update on how you're doing! I'm the same and wondering if things are better for you and if so, advice?? Wishing you the best!❤
Cold showers have helped me feel less anxious and feel like I can achieve anything I want! I suggest you try them and maybe make a couple videos about it.
Where have you been dude? Hope you are doing well
Keep up the working out Ben...it will give you more self confidence...just stay calm in social situations you'll be just fine..
YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS!
you guys forget with the time he spends alone he has time to net pick things he doesn't like about himself because he's probably in the process of rejecting himself because in his head he doesn't understand why people might not want to be around him. I won't be surprised if he also dealing with Rejection, fear of rejection, and self-rejection alone with social anxiety, bpd and perfectionism in some cases
he's got a video explaining how he suffers from all of those things
@@TerryJulianLive I didn't have to watch it to know. Frank Hammond a powerful man of God wrote books about stuff like this because I am currently dealing with this same thing. but since most people don't believe in God but trust in man to give them meds, not realizing a good 95% of their problems is spiritual, i can't help but to write about what've read in his book taking the God aspect. sadly no matter how hard he tries he will always be this way or worse. he would have to be on pills. when the answer is LOVE he need LOVE pure love he needs to be surrounded by people who show the real love of GOD. HE needs Jesus in his life and I'm not talking about the religious Jesus the everyday fake Christian Preach but he needs to set out on a journey to seek him from the heart and enter into his presence which there is nothing more powerful than that trust and believe. Everyone says they know HIm but no one really knows him. but like i said i can't force my beliefs of him. he can walk away and continue seeking out the best meds.
@@jazminesoso3182 Erich Fromm has kinda same thought in his book "Art of Love", that its all starts with love to yourself and everybody around you
@@alexanderpavlyushik2015 i will be on the look out for that book
Handsome, nice, determined and unique. You got a friend from Brazil! Greetings from here bro! By the way, in the past I didn't have many friends also. As I changed the concept of myself. Now I have friends. Ah, and you're life is not boring! It's great, actually!
Hey Ben, I just hope you are okay. Greetings from your now friend Paddy. Best regards
You’re a legend bro
Great video, it actually encouraged me to go the gym; haven't been to the gym in ages 😂😂
Subscribing for these reasons:
1. He seems to be a nice guy
2. Nice teeth!
3. Mesmerizing eyes
4. Perfect skin
5. I too have no friends
6. I too have anxiety
Hey, I came across your profile . You are inspirational. I feel a sense of relief that I'm not the only one that feels the way you have mentioned to be. With your diet . You don't need to be hard on yourself be moderate. If you meal prep and eat clean then sneak in some sweets, that's OK! :)
Hope to see more content on your page and seeing you grow on UA-cam!
P.s. BTW you're young for me but very handsome. ❤💫🙏
Hope to see another video soon!
Wish I got to keep seeing your progress 💕
Hey man really would love another vid. :)
I like your personality, I want more haha!