I believe men’s selfish is more noticeable when we’re pregnant. I am now and his obvious childish and selfish behaviour is what makes me angry. Something clicks along with our hormones. For the preservation of our species, males are supposed to protect and provide for women especially while she’s pregnant. When we don’t see these traits, I think it survival instinct that the partner isn’t fully safe. If it wasn’t apart of our evolution, then so many women wouldn’t be feeling like this.
I’m 33+ weeks pregnant. My partner is so irresponsible regarding going to work. I have to spend money continuously. I have so much of credit card debts because of him. I cannot stop being sad and arguing. I fear this stress might affect the baby. My birthday is coming in few days but I’m so stressed as I never been like this before I met him. I believe all what I face will make me successful on my own one day but what about the impact of stress on the baby? I wish happiness and freeness of mind to every woman who’s carrying now.
@@LadyEng53 going thru this an he thinks I’m cheating! He doesn’t understand as soon as I got pregnant I just stop liking him! Everything bothered me! Didn’t even want him to touch me! Then he broke up with me Wednesday cause I didn’t wanna go see him
Unfortunately some men do not understand this is a real life issue and some women are just not wired to handle it . People think you are disengaged, disrespectful . Especially in a new relationship or with first pregnancy. Sigh. I hope everyone dealing with this gets the help and support they deserve
I am pregnant and dealing with this, ever since my partner came to know about my pregnancy, he is constantly finding ways to abuse and irritate me...! He even tried suffocating me... I am constantly angry and upset and depressed!
Hate is the word! He expected me to do all the housework when there was finally an evening I didn't feel poorly and gave me a cold face when he saw I didn't do the dishes
I do all the housework, I pay all the bills, I take care of our daughter, pick her up and drop her off at school, constantly ask what she needs and how she feels, make her doctor’s appointments and go with her to them, purchase anything she needs or asks for. And she still treats me like shit. Is this normal? She’s 8 weeks pregnant and has been struggling with morning sickness/extreme fatigue. All I’ve done is try to be there for her every minute of every day. She feels she can’t work, and I never guilted her or made her feel less for that. I took the responsibility on myself and stepped up (even though I was already doing these things, but now I’m REALLY doing everything). I’m tired, but I’m not mad at her for this. I’m just upset at the way she treats me.
I am in the same position. She is in her 17 week and is been a nightmare for me I can’t touch her or even stare at her without her starting a fight and it’s been like this since the beginning of the pregnancy. I am depressed as hell and can’t focus in anything because our marriage is going to the dumpster because of this. I wish you the best of luck and patience be strong I hope it gets better for you.
7 months in the pregnancy so far, have moved out of the house and we've come to the point where according to her it was better if I just stayed away as to not cause her stress which is bad for the baby. The only times I come is to purchase new things or work on the house. No more cuddling nothing, the fights have ruined our family. And against my better judgement and knowledge I still just want to run away and try again for a family of my own who would love me around. I have no clue what to do anymore my life doesn't feel like it's mine anymore, I have no respect or leverage. This is how pregnancy feels from the mans side when the woman is unable to cope with the emotional rollercoasters. It's life changing and heartbreaking. All it feels like now is nodding yes and just doing whatever she wants as to not piss her off and cause her to make it more difficult or impossible to see the child later on.
I’m so sorry you and your family going through that. I really hope you all get some relief after the baby comes. If you don’t I would definitely recommend some couples counseling - it’s amazing how much it can help.
This is so true, i'm 7 months pregnant now and a few days ago i was really really pissed at my husband for being able to sleep when i am finding it difficult to get comfortable and sleep......
I feel this way .. I’ve said some really harsh things to him and I can’t take them back. I just want to solve this issue because I love him so much but everything he does is pissing me off. I hope I can practice this.
Tash totally get that. It can be so hard to hold back our thoughts when they’re existence even feels irritating. But like you said, it’s a viscous cycle because then we feel guilty for snapping at them :-/ hoping it works out for you! You’re not alone ♥️
@@edwardcornejo4752 I said to him he makes my pregnancy unenjoyable and he’s the worst partner .. and that he ruins everything... very harsh. I don’t know how he forgives me and continues to love me after that..
Wow! These comments brought me back to sanity this morning! It is comforting, somehow, to see many people are having the same feelings as I am. It's like, when I got pregnant I expected him to become nurturing and aware of my needs but when that didn't happen I felt so much sadness and anger. It sucks that I need to adjust my expectations, but it's the only way we will survive. (I need a wife to take care of me.) 😭
@@prehistoriccreature1800men don't have to do anything, all they have to do is stick it in and have fun. Maybe that's why we're so mad, you seem like maybe you're a teenager
Am going trough this right now! I thought I didn’t love him anymore even I wanted to break up before I found I was pregnant , I feel I can’t stand him for no reason ! I really hate the way am feeling but I hope it goes away anytime soon
No fr. My baby dad treated me like shit both pregnancies. And I had a back to back pregnancy. My dude don't surprise me with no craving gifts. He don't give me no support. He fronts me out and has me carrying groceries all day. I feel unloved and unheard. And I'm always tired and all he does is disrespect me. And he don't listen to me. He makes me feel like shit
Sorry for that. It's OK to feel sad but you are strong, that's why that baby is growing up inside your body. Don't worry, you can do it. Don't mind that man too much. He doesn't deserve your attention. Try and find words that can help you unhear his harsh words and comfort you. Courage!!
Someone once told me "pregnancy brings the truth out" and I couldn't agree more. When a baby is in the picture, a women is already in the process of changing in preparation for a baby. Men are an external factor and unless they are literally going through a pregnancy they won't understand. The change isn't there other than the "I'm having a baby" but most men don't make the emotional changes needed to support their pregnant partners. Women have every right to get upset at the little things because her needs change and a partner needs to learn and change fast just as the women does. More physical affection, more emotional support. Keep pulling through mommas. You're changes are natural and your partner has a responsibility to change and adjust for you in your times of need. Much love.
Then you just justified why more men are getting vesectomies earlier than ever. Women become incredibly self centered and want, want, and want. No all of us aren't like this, and men DO go through changes because we women make them. Not all of us want our men to become women with dicks during pregnancy, so stop with grouping us all together.
Im going through this thing where , I’ll do the 29-30 things she asked and I miss one and she’s PISSED! I didn’t clean good enough, but I’m still cleaning. I didn’t grab the right item. And suddenly she’s going through the pregnancy alone or I don’t care about our baby. She asked me a question that my response if honest is going to piss her off. But I have to respond. She can cruse, call me the worst things. And I just gotta sit there. I’m not saying anything mean or nasty. It’s just not in me to talk to my woman that way. But what the heck do I do.
You’re not alone, and there’s definitely nothing wrong with you ♥️ however, I would definitely talk to your partner and let him know how you’re feeling.
My girlfriend broke up with me for no reason,well she was angry with me because I tickled her, I meant no harm though . I feel she is too sensitive ,now I always have to tread carefully .🤷♂️🤦♂️. I still call everyday and bring her fruits
Hopefully she'll snap out of it eventually. Sometimes they don't, in which case you get roped into dealing with it for 18 years with a court that will side with her.
Yo. I felt the same way. My girl is on her 8weeks. She told me she doesn’t love and need me anymore. But since I’ve done my research, including videos on how to deal with it. It helps me a lot. I’m not the only one experiencing the rage. Haha i find it funny btw 😂
@@BaileyGaddisDoula i love your videos btw. Helps a lot on my sides understanding hers’. So it’s a win-win situation. I just gotta be patient and say nothing at all. Just gonna support her secretly throughout this pregnancy.
iam dealing with alot of nasty hateful words from her. she says she doesn't wanna be together one day and the next day she's fine. we have a son due in 9 days. she's just so emotional and irratibly. I hope this passes once the baby comes. please...
Lol I would find myself laughing at how I was feeling because he does nothing for me to be feeling the way I do sometimes 😂😂 almost 9 weeks into our first pregnancy and and it definitely helps to know that this emotional roller coaster is normal 🙌🏽
In my case it’s the opposite. I felt my husband distant lately. I’m 32 weeks pregnant and I asked him if he felt like some sort of feeling towards me right now because of the pregnancy. He told me I am and I am sorry but I didn’t know how to tell you .
My gf broke up with me. She got pregnant in September and in December we broke up. Baby is due in June. Everything was perfect in our relationship. When she got pregnant we were nervous since we are both young but I told her the decision is hers and I support her no matter what. We were delighted to keep it. Anyways next thing I know a month and a half later she is completely someone else. She tells me she doesn’t love me out of nowhere and now she talks about how we can raise the baby as coparents. Wtf?!?!?
My exact story too man My girlfriend is 9 weeks pregnant …. Starting at around 6 weeks she got very moody and irritable …. To the point where she told me she needed her space … I haven’t seen her in two weeks and we barely talked… I missed the first baby appointment because she wanted to go alone …. Before her being pregnant we never fought or anything now she doesn’t want anything to do with me … it’s very discouraging and I’m trying not to give up on her but idk what to Do
I am literally meditating on having this same conversation with my boyfriend. Like I don't want his ass. He absolutely annoys me. I imagine pregnancy alone to be so peaceful. He just remains calm when I'm raging, let's me have my moment. I'll break up with him and he'll be at my doorstep an hour later asking if I want something to eat. And kissing my belly telling me he's here to visit his baby..
I just wish he understood, that I'm getting fat, my body is changing in so many ways, I stink faster than I used to, I'm always nauseous, my body hurts, I'm exhausted, I have a toddler all over me all day, and now I'm pregnant and wasn't planning on another baby I don't want to be touched I want alone time and the last thing I want to do after a long exhausting day is have sex. And It doesn't have anything to do with him.
I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time. I would try to regularly remind him of what you’re going through and that you need him to be as understanding as possible.
I already struggle with how I handle conflict when I am not pregnant, but since being pregnant (for the second time) I have this crazy rage. I scream, I throw things, I slam doors, I call names, I feel like hitting. It’s like I can watch myself from outside my body and see how horrible I am in the moment but I have no control over my thoughts or actions. I have been learning about anger management for a while now and to try and listen to my emotions, but right now everything comes in a flash and I all of the sudden snap and have a rage. I want this to stop. I want to be in control but I have no idea where to start because even leaving the room seems impossible in the moment. :(
I've been through this before with my ex-husband. Now I'm going through it again with somebody I really didn't know well enough 🤦🏼♀️ Relationship Dynamics are so weird these days for working women. It's really important to discuss the roles you want your husband and wife to play, and what is each person's responsibility and contribution to the family. My advice to women is to really sit back and think is this thing really that important that I'm going to blow up about? Probably not. And my advice to men is to do some research like you are now, and do all you can to show that you are capable of running a household 💪🏼 Just my own personal opinion, I don't think I'm attracted to men that need me to wash their laundry, do the groceries, do the house work, raise the children and pay half the bills.
My husband doesn't show affection. Ending my second pregnancy and other than sex, he doesn't just take time to hold me or sit beside me. It has made me extremely sad.
I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant, I don't get mad at him I just sometimes I just don't want him to hug me or just being nice to me, he says my actions are pushing him away and last night he slept in the couch because he says felt like I ddnt want him around. But I love him is just that I don't know whats wrong with me, I used to be more happy and more touchy and all those things, I kinda feel like pregnancy was bad for our relationship.
Pregnancy hormones are likely having a big impact on how you’re feeling. I know that likely doesn’t make you feel better right now but I’m hoping you’ll start feeling more emotional balance after pregnancy ♥️
Being pregnant is not easy. And men one day NEEDS to understand this. It effects the woman and child. They need baby daddy work shops for men to understand women what we are going through. It’s insane. 😢
My pregnant partner has gone crazy. She now is 26 weeks and has not spoke to me in 2 months. She says I stink. I will have patience with her but if she is still crazy 6 months after the twins come I will have to move on. This is nuts
How are u going to give her uncontrollable hormonal changes an ultimatum? I’m pregnant and reading this made me understand exactly why she can’t stand you honestly
My wife turned into a whole diffrent person like she doesn`t speak to me like before and she calls me one second then tells me ill call back after 12sec in call?????. shes online but doesnt call me at all.
@@GODFIRST-yi9hb Hahahhahah its half month left, and guess what? ive been destroyed ever since but she was good 2-3 months then she became crazy again, what about u bro,
I don't hate him at all. We don’t fight. But I found his sitting close to me is disgusting. His breathing near me is making me sick. I no longer want to hold hands with him. I tried to avoid him by staying in another room. It’s pure hormone I guess. But Its difficult to tell him that I’m disgusted at him.
It can be pretty normal to be easily grossed out by people, food, etc during pregnancy. But I know it’s hard when you’re having those feelings about your partner. I would just try to emphasize when you talk to him about it that it’s not personal.
Its helpful to know that this is normal and im not the only one going through this with my pregnant wife, she can be so irrational and everything i do makes her angry for no reason, she hates my natural scent, even after ive showered, shes always cleaning and washing things that are already clean, i can’t leave a dirty plate on the kitchen bench for a few minutes..
Just turned 15 weeks today and i woke up mad at my husband. Hes doing my head in. I know i'm being completely irrational but i can't bear to be around him now or ill shout at him.
I'm 5 weeks along and I HATE my husband in my SOUL. I'm so serious... I HATE everything about him!!! I believe he's PURE EVIL and literally worships Satan. I don't want to have another baby with him or even raise, the 2 children we already have, with him. I scare myself with the way that I'm feeling because I have an intense urge to walk out the front door with nothing and just walk until I'm tired enough to lay down on the ground and go to sleep and just go missing. I'm so depressed and angry and flooded with resentment all the sudden. I just want so badly for him to hurt inside the way I'm hurting because he doesn't care about anything he's not feeling. The idea of giving him another child makes me want to crawl in hole and stay there.
I’m so so so sorry you’re feeling that way. I would recommend checking with your insurance to see if they provide coverage for you to see a MFT. I think they could provide helpful coping strategies for your unique situation ♥️
My wife is only 8 weeks pregnant and hates me no matter what I do if it takes me ten mins to get home from work I hear about it and I work 20 mins from home lol
37 weeks pregnant. He is so excited for the birth and cuddly. Witch is weirdly making me mad. Im huge and uncomfortable and trying not to be so irritable with him. BUT PLEASE STOP TOUCHING ME
So sorry you’re feeling that way! It’s totally normal to not want to be touched during this stage of pregnancy. Things will hopefully get better after you have the baby ♥️
@@BaileyGaddisDoula I just can’t get why people like you always vilify and generalise all men like we’re all the same and we’re plotting to dominate women or something like that. I think you’ll find it’s the other way round here. Women are trying to dominate and get back at us men all for the supposed injustices that we subjected them to over the years. Nature doesn’t work that way and I firmly believe in a traditionalist lifestyle. Back in caveman times, the woman did the housework and looked after the children when the man fought, hunted and gathered food and supplies for his family. Fast forward to this generation and all you see is wokey snowflakes like you trying to wage war against us well guess what it ain’t gonna work!!
I just found out I was 2 months pregnant. And he claim he’s going to be around. His family not going to let him do that to me. I trust him to be around. But he always leave me to go with his friends every single day to play video games and to smoke weed. While I’m at the house all day alone with his mom.
My wife is in her trimester..my life is hell these days. Have heard all sorts of curses and she gets violent and break things. I'm hurt and clueless. How long will this harmone rage last?
my bf can blink or breathe too hard and i be ready to smack the shit out him! I'm 8 weeks and soooo irritable and moody. sadly it's caused me to detach emotionally. Trying really hard to fix how i feel.
He's so irritating also the fact he has other kids from his ex wife . He doesn't know how to communicate or draw boundaries. I'm 3 months pregnant with his baby and lately he just pisses me off
We argued so bad. Everything he did irritated me even him sleeping on pillow sent rage thru my body. I said a lot of hurtful stuff and now I’m 13 weeks and alone. I don’t think I can do it by myself it’s to the point I don’t even wanna have a baby no more. We was suppose to be in this together. He got mad and kicked me out 😢
I’m so sorry 🙁 Pregnancy can be so challenging even without relationship struggles. I really hope you and your partner are able to talk and work things out ♥️♥️♥️
In my case it's the total opposite. I have no mood swings,cravings or any effects that most pregnant women have.... His the pregnant one and I'm just carrying the bump for him 😂 His extremely moody, has weird cravings, sleeps alot. My sight just irritates him. He suddenly insisted that we break up, it's so emotionally frustrating I don't know what to do anymore and I fear that this will make me end up having a stressful pregnancy... By the way, I'm in 3rd trimester (29 weeks)
Omg same here I don’t have any symptoms just leg cramps I’m in my 3rd trimester as well he sleeps a lot he’s moody have cravings leg cramps back aches on the toilet all the time I feel like my daughter is gonna look exactly like him
It means so much to me and I’m sure plenty of other moms going through these crazy emotions that you made a video like this acknowledging and letting others know they aren’t alone. I feel like the emotions/experiences you go through during pregnancy aren’t talked about enough, so it’s hard to know how to react or even if what you’re feeling is normal.
Bailey, right now my partner is about 5 months pregnant with our third. She and I have stopped talking or looking at each other for 6 days. She wants nothing to do with me in her life. When the kids come home from daycare we essential behave as if the other person is invisible. It's awkward and painful. I tried to talk to her but i'm ignored, she has an intense look of hatred on her face. We are not married but for the past 2 years our relationship has dwindled to just 2 adults taking care of kids. Toxic interaction between her and I. No love, no basic respect, no romance, nothing, cold as ice. I'm nothing more than a live-in nanny & handyman. Should I accept that our relationship is dead and move out? Or keep beating this dead horse of a relationship?
I’m so incredibly sorry to hear you’re both going through that. I would highly recommend seeing a couple’s counselor. There are now many affordable services that can connect you with therapists across the country that offer sessions via zoom.
I don’t see your private email. May I have it? I really need a sound advisor!! I feel like I rage all day. These thoughts, emotions keep growing by the day to the point where I don’t know if I’m manifesting a nice mental disorder for myself or if I have legitimate issues around what my partner is doing. I so so desperately don’t want to care what he does but I feel really bad and can’t shake these childhood abandonment issues, especially when he’s spending quality time elsewhere in the evenings and im eating dinner alone. This among other things leave me so resentful and annoyed that I end up avoiding him so I don’t explode with the rage inside me. He doesn’t understand emotions and is pretty insensitive when it comes to “women’s emotions” arrested development there when it comes to his past. He just diverts back into his own experience and our dialogues lead to no where but more annoyance. I need help. I just need to not care and I don’t know how. Can’t change him but I can change myself.
I work 6:00am -5:30 pm and my wife got mad at me for asking her on a date and said it was a waste of gas and that I think my job is harder than hers and I just wanted to spend time with her and I got soo mad at this swing in mood I went and did outdoor work for the rest of the evening.
iam going threw so much right now. my gf is one minute loving the next she wants me out and not be together. she's getting upset over the littlest things. we have a son on the way in 9 days and she's saying she doesn't want to be with me. she never was this way before she was pregnant. God I really pray it's hormones n the pregnancy.
I don't like him when he's not here and right now I'm angry but a part of me knows I'm overreacting and being unreasonable😭😭😭😭 he's so sweet about it though. Edit 16weeks pregnant right now
This is a totally normal reaction for many pregnant women. While it’s not fun to feel this way about your partner, these feelings often subside after you have the baby and your hormones eventually balance out.
I have an amazing boyfriend the problem is Im still in the first trimester and don't feel like having sex it's been an argument for some time now I even told him to go get a sex partner. I feel so bad I don't even know how to apologize I screwed up so bad. I just wish he understood why I don't feel like sexy time.
My husband doesn’t have any attention towards me. He wouldn’t give me massage or physical love. He has no consideration towards me and I hate him right now
My girlfriend is 9 weeks pregnant … she has told me 2 weeks ago she needs space …. I have not seen her and I have barely talked to her .. she told me it’s because she is so irritable she doesn’t wnana push me away but now she barely talks to me and even ignores my texts a lot of the times…. I don’t know what to do
I don’t even know if I’m pregnant or not yet (2ww!!) but this is the best advice I’ve ever heard!!! Since I already have anger issues, if I am pregnant would that put the baby more at risk?
So happy to hear it. Anger issues shouldn’t harm the baby as long as you take steps to minimize the stress that anger might trigger. For example, meditation, yoga, or seeing a counselor ♥️
My gf is 29 wks. She came over yesterday and tore the yard up. Broke everything. This is my first but its crazy. She was flipping tires. Is this from the hormones or just crazy? Do a lot of woman talk about taking the baby for herself? Idk what to do. I wasnt suppose to be able to Hv kids BC I had chemo. But I was blessed. Idk. Lots of craziness. Is it somewhat normal or behind crazy? Ty
Today i stoped talking to my husband, i was feeling alone from inside, actually he take care of me, he will help me in work, but he is not spending time with me, he is always with his phone,, so i was feeling so bad nd i am feeling alone, so i stopped talking to my husband, nd i was avoiding him😢
I’m so sorry to hear that. That must feel really lonely. I would definitely try telling him how you’re feeling, if you haven’t already. Let me know if I can provide any specific support ♥️ sending lots of love.
@@BaileyGaddisDoulaSry for late,, My problem is solved,, even when he is busy with phn ,he always sits beside me, nd he watches movie with me , he is spending his hole time with me when he is in home. Now i am so happy😁
Dynamics between partners during pregnancy can get really tricky. Often, pregnant women need a lot of space and time to rest. I would try your best not to take her moods personally, but I know that can be difficult! Wishing you both the best.
Is it crazy that he irritates me more then anyone? I am aware that it got bad a month into pregnancy which he triggered with lying & being sneaky. Now everything he does gets under my skin. On top of that he tries to sweep everything under the rug with over affection clingyness which he didn’t give me before pregnancy which I WANTED then. Now I want space and he’s all over me like a lost puppy idk I’ll change back after or if he will
When my bf is trying to “be there for me” as much as possible while I just can’t help but find it so annoying and clingy. I know it comes off as super cold and compared to other people’s unfortunate situations where the father doesn’t even care at all, I should be more grateful but I feel like I need looooots of space. He wants me to be super horny during this time and I’m just like no… please no… do not touch me I have never felt the opposite of horny so strongly. I don’t feel like talking to anyone because it’s overwhelming and I just want to eat, workout, and do and watch everything on my own terms. He doesn’t even like my fav shows or Thai food so I sort of have to be alone to enjoy those things. I’m at 6 weeks. Probably hormones. Or maybe I know deep down that once the baby is born I will have to sacrifice my beloved alone time lol like just let me be alone for now.
Some men just doesn't understand the part where you're hormones is totally controlling you what are you supposed to do. I cannot help the way my hormones is sometimes. Then he wants to tell me no his pregnant not me. What's wrong with this guy
I have done every single thing for her. Drive her, feed her, throw garbage away, dishes, laundry, clean everything up, get everything she asks for. And I don’t yell or argue with her but she makes me feel bad anyways. I’m trying so hard with her but idk.
I'm currently on this situation now, she even told me this morning that she wants a break up😔 it's so hard for me now because I worked overseas and it's really depressing the way she treated me. I'm trying to understand her and always encourage her that I'm always here supporting even I'm temporarily far from her but she always pushes me away and it really hurts so bad. Please help me and tell me what to do.😔
I’m really sorry you’re both going through this. If possible, give her space, but still reach out offering support. You could also suggest couple’s counseling if you thing she’d be open to that. Hopefully, after the baby arrives, she might have a change of heart.
Has it gotten any better? My girlfriend (still exclusive??) is acting the same way, hating me; can't look me in the eye or sit next to me. I have a good relationship with her family so that is helping but she hates me.. has yours gotten any better?
mohamed saghir it can be a number of reasons, when women are pregnant there going threw a really tough time dealing with hormones cravings body changes, worries, insecurities, feelings are all over the place if she feels that you are insensitive to what she is going threw she might not want to talk to you it can be other personal reasons, but just try to understand her and support when she is around as for some advice having cravings to certain foods and not being able to eat those foods can be frustrating within itself, some women like myself will crave for food but when I get them I no longer want them and I want something else, sometimes I get my craving and it takes a while for me to eat them because it feels heavy on my stomach and I become really nauseous ext. there’s pretty much alt to it, it can become really complicated the best thing you can do is go with the flow give her, her space but also let her know that you are there by checking up on her asking her if she is ok and if she needs anything.
My wife is 11 weeks pregnant, about a week ago everything changed about her, she doesn’t give me attention and barely talks to me anymore, barely even looks at me, before I met her she was a single mother to a 2 year old daughter, my wife gives her daughter all the attention, she hugs her laughs with her and just gives her all the attention in the world, is this normal ? Is my first time being with someone pregnant and I just feel left out.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling left out. Pregnancy can be a challenging time for all involved. But it can be very normal for women to put a lot of focus on their children during pregnancy as they’re wanting to make them feel as loved as possible before the baby arrives.
I hate him for not being there financially and emotionally. I now understand why women leave man during pregnancy. This bastard is going to get his karma.
So, my girlfriend is 2 months along As of right now and before we were all affectionate and normal. but when she hit a certain stage of pregnancy. she started getting really annoyed at me and mad i was being too much and she said im too affectionate ect. so as of now im giving her space and letting her know im always here and i love her. is this normal? for things to be distant and all over the place? cuz i really im doing the best i can for her.
The reaction she’s having can be totally normal. It sounds like you’re doing the best that you can by giving her space and just letting her know that you’re there when she needs you. Hang in there! Things should get better after she has the baby.
Some Men are so mean the way we feel. They just focused on their personal needs. I hate him so much, because he doesn't give me what I want to eat. And he's neglecting his obligation as a father. He doesn't even care sometimes.
I also feel same.. My pregnancy is 2 and half month but I irrited and Easly got angry because of my husband.... Even if he just Tauch me I hate him so much I don't know whats wrong with me....
So sorry to hear that. I would definitely make sure you’re getting plenty of alone time. I would also try to pinpoint what he’s doing that triggers you so he can avoid that :-) If you didn’t feel this way towards him before pregnancy you can also let him that your irritation with him will likely begin to fade after pregnancy.
@@BaileyGaddisDoula thank you. I can't see myself with anyone. If anyone reads this. Please pray for Andrew and Tacy to rekindle our relationship. Thank you.
UPDATE: I have prayed a lot. The heavenly father and Mother Mary has heard my prayers. They have performed a miracle for us to become strong loving lovers again. I can't stop crying from how close I was from never getting her back. I feel happy and full of joy to be with her again. Please have faith and seek forgiveness from the Heavenly Father and Mother Mary. Amen.
She started hating me for no reason😂😂one day we were cool nxt day she doesn't receive my calls nor chatting me😂she told me that she doesn't love me anymore😂😂😂in short she is not willing to see me anytime soon
I believe men’s selfish is more noticeable when we’re pregnant. I am now and his obvious childish and selfish behaviour is what makes me angry. Something clicks along with our hormones. For the preservation of our species, males are supposed to protect and provide for women especially while she’s pregnant. When we don’t see these traits, I think it survival instinct that the partner isn’t fully safe. If it wasn’t apart of our evolution, then so many women wouldn’t be feeling like this.
You’re probably on to something!
Feminist
Never satisfied!!!
Men nowadays don't know what it means to be a safe place
Hard agree
I’m 33+ weeks pregnant. My partner is so irresponsible regarding going to work. I have to spend money continuously. I have so much of credit card debts because of him. I cannot stop being sad and arguing. I fear this stress might affect the baby. My birthday is coming in few days but I’m so stressed as I never been like this before I met him. I believe all what I face will make me successful on my own one day but what about the impact of stress on the baby?
I wish happiness and freeness of mind to every woman who’s carrying now.
Great advice! The only thing I didn't agree with was the 90 seconds part. It takes me 90+ minutes to self soothe if I let emotions flow.
His body odor, his poor hygiene even after showers, his breath, his logic, his bad childish attitude, his unwillingness to contribute financially.
That sounds incredibly frustrating ♥️
@@BaileyGaddisDoula it is. luckily I live separate
This comment is my life😩
@@LadyEng53 going thru this an he thinks I’m cheating! He doesn’t understand as soon as I got pregnant I just stop liking him! Everything bothered me! Didn’t even want him to touch me! Then he broke up with me Wednesday cause I didn’t wanna go see him
His body odor or when I think about him, all make me vomit
He irritates me so much that i feel like leaving the house for him
same here 🥺
Let me guess who bought you that house
Unfortunately some men do not understand this is a real life issue and some women are just not wired to handle it . People think you are disengaged, disrespectful . Especially in a new relationship or with first pregnancy. Sigh. I hope everyone dealing with this gets the help and support they deserve
I am pregnant and dealing with this, ever since my partner came to know about my pregnancy, he is constantly finding ways to abuse and irritate me...! He even tried suffocating me... I am constantly angry and upset and depressed!
Hate is the word! He expected me to do all the housework when there was finally an evening I didn't feel poorly and gave me a cold face when he saw I didn't do the dishes
Sounds to me you hate traditional couples
I do all the housework, I pay all the bills, I take care of our daughter, pick her up and drop her off at school, constantly ask what she needs and how she feels, make her doctor’s appointments and go with her to them, purchase anything she needs or asks for. And she still treats me like shit. Is this normal? She’s 8 weeks pregnant and has been struggling with morning sickness/extreme fatigue. All I’ve done is try to be there for her every minute of every day. She feels she can’t work, and I never guilted her or made her feel less for that. I took the responsibility on myself and stepped up (even though I was already doing these things, but now I’m REALLY doing everything). I’m tired, but I’m not mad at her for this. I’m just upset at the way she treats me.
I am in the same position. She is in her 17 week and is been a nightmare for me I can’t touch her or even stare at her without her starting a fight and it’s been like this since the beginning of the pregnancy. I am depressed as hell and can’t focus in anything because our marriage is going to the dumpster because of this. I wish you the best of luck and patience be strong I hope it gets better for you.
@@LuisGutierrez-io2vw
It all will be fixed dont worry
7 months in the pregnancy so far, have moved out of the house and we've come to the point where according to her it was better if I just stayed away as to not cause her stress which is bad for the baby. The only times I come is to purchase new things or work on the house. No more cuddling nothing, the fights have ruined our family. And against my better judgement and knowledge I still just want to run away and try again for a family of my own who would love me around. I have no clue what to do anymore my life doesn't feel like it's mine anymore, I have no respect or leverage.
This is how pregnancy feels from the mans side when the woman is unable to cope with the emotional rollercoasters. It's life changing and heartbreaking. All it feels like now is nodding yes and just doing whatever she wants as to not piss her off and cause her to make it more difficult or impossible to see the child later on.
I’m so sorry you and your family going through that. I really hope you all get some relief after the baby comes. If you don’t I would definitely recommend some couples counseling - it’s amazing how much it can help.
Nobody cares about how us men feel bro 😂
Men have infinite retries. All you gotta do is be funny, and have sex around
@@lGetTwxstedCOD 100%
Kinda going through the same thing and I'm out of options now
This is so true, i'm 7 months pregnant now and a few days ago i was really really pissed at my husband for being able to sleep when i am finding it difficult to get comfortable and sleep......
It’s so common to feel super irritated that they don’t have to experience the uncomfortable symptoms of pregnancy ♥️
I experienced this postpartum until 11months pp. I cried so much after finding an article about postpartum rage.
I’m so sorry to hear that. It must have been really stressful to experience that for such a long period.
I feel this way .. I’ve said some really harsh things to him and I can’t take them back. I just want to solve this issue because I love him so much but everything he does is pissing me off. I hope I can practice this.
Tash totally get that. It can be so hard to hold back our thoughts when they’re existence even feels irritating. But like you said, it’s a viscous cycle because then we feel guilty for snapping at them :-/ hoping it works out for you! You’re not alone ♥️
Im going thru this rn, how harsh? She said some really mean and disrespectful things
@@edwardcornejo4752 I said to him he makes my pregnancy unenjoyable and he’s the worst partner .. and that he ruins everything... very harsh. I don’t know how he forgives me and continues to love me after that..
@@edwardcornejo4752 what did she say
Wow! These comments brought me back to sanity this morning!
It is comforting, somehow, to see many people are having the same feelings as I am.
It's like, when I got pregnant I expected him to become nurturing and aware of my needs but when that didn't happen I felt so much sadness and anger.
It sucks that I need to adjust my expectations, but it's the only way we will survive.
(I need a wife to take care of me.) 😭
I’m so glad they helped you realize that you’re definitely not alone!
Feeling the same way my dear! Right there with you in this moment lol
Y'all are clowns lmfao. He doesn't have to do anything. Deal with it
I've considered going lesbian
@@prehistoriccreature1800men don't have to do anything, all they have to do is stick it in and have fun. Maybe that's why we're so mad, you seem like maybe you're a teenager
Am going trough this right now! I thought I didn’t love him anymore even I wanted to break up before I found I was pregnant , I feel I can’t stand him for no reason ! I really hate the way am feeling but I hope it goes away anytime soon
It’s so frustrating isn’t it. I would keep communicating with him about it, and hope these feelings settle after your hormones settle 🤞♥️
No fr. My baby dad treated me like shit both pregnancies.
And I had a back to back pregnancy.
My dude don't surprise me with no craving gifts.
He don't give me no support.
He fronts me out and has me carrying groceries all day.
I feel unloved and unheard.
And I'm always tired and all he does is disrespect me.
And he don't listen to me.
He makes me feel like shit
I feel like this :(
Sorry for that. It's OK to feel sad but you are strong, that's why that baby is growing up inside your body. Don't worry, you can do it. Don't mind that man too much. He doesn't deserve your attention. Try and find words that can help you unhear his harsh words and comfort you. Courage!!
Someone once told me "pregnancy brings the truth out" and I couldn't agree more. When a baby is in the picture, a women is already in the process of changing in preparation for a baby. Men are an external factor and unless they are literally going through a pregnancy they won't understand. The change isn't there other than the "I'm having a baby" but most men don't make the emotional changes needed to support their pregnant partners.
Women have every right to get upset at the little things because her needs change and a partner needs to learn and change fast just as the women does. More physical affection, more emotional support.
Keep pulling through mommas. You're changes are natural and your partner has a responsibility to change and adjust for you in your times of need. Much love.
Very insightful! Thank you!
my partner just calls me a psycho...definately not helpful 🙄
23 you’re weird asf
Very insightful!! Thank you 🙏
Then you just justified why more men are getting vesectomies earlier than ever. Women become incredibly self centered and want, want, and want. No all of us aren't like this, and men DO go through changes because we women make them. Not all of us want our men to become women with dicks during pregnancy, so stop with grouping us all together.
i too have a feeling of getting away from him asap...but he is loving caring...why the hell am hating him
Ayesha Siddiqua totally normal to be irritated by our partners during this time :-)
This has been so hard for me. I’m 13 weeks and everything he does just send me over the edge. He has anger issues and we just argue back and forth.
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I went through a similar phase with my husband towards the end of pregnancy.
Maybe watch videos together, so you can laugh at them together, because you guys are not alone.💕
Same here he actually told me that he wants us separated
Same!
This happening now. I have an intense anger even he does the right things. I actually don’t even want to deal with him at all
Im going through this thing where , I’ll do the 29-30 things she asked and I miss one and she’s PISSED!
I didn’t clean good enough, but I’m still cleaning. I didn’t grab the right item.
And suddenly she’s going through the pregnancy alone or I don’t care about our baby.
She asked me a question that my response if honest is going to piss her off. But I have to respond.
She can cruse, call me the worst things. And I just gotta sit there. I’m not saying anything mean or nasty. It’s just not in me to talk to my woman that way.
But what the heck do I do.
Thank you so much! I am in my first trimester and I am so angry and irritaed so often so easily. He is my best friend though.
You’re not alone, and there’s definitely nothing wrong with you ♥️ however, I would definitely talk to your partner and let him know how you’re feeling.
My girlfriend broke up with me for no reason,well she was angry with me because I tickled her, I meant no harm though . I feel she is too sensitive ,now I always have to tread carefully .🤷♂️🤦♂️. I still call everyday and bring her fruits
So sorry you’re going through that. Hope you both find resolution soon.
Hopefully she'll snap out of it eventually. Sometimes they don't, in which case you get roped into dealing with it for 18 years with a court that will side with her.
@@stepheninczech Yep, and the struggle of getting a paternity test. Because sometimes we women try to cover it by breaking up while pregnant.
Yo. I felt the same way. My girl is on her 8weeks. She told me she doesn’t love and need me anymore. But since I’ve done my research, including videos on how to deal with it. It helps me a lot. I’m not the only one experiencing the rage. Haha i find it funny btw 😂
You’re definitely not the only one. Pregnancy can be an intense time for both partners. Hang in there.
@@BaileyGaddisDoula i love your videos btw. Helps a lot on my sides understanding hers’. So it’s a win-win situation. I just gotta be patient and say nothing at all. Just gonna support her secretly throughout this pregnancy.
@@jjsuavegotyourback I’m so glad you find them helpful! And it sounds like you’re doing all you can - offering steady support.
iam dealing with alot of nasty hateful words from her. she says she doesn't wanna be together one day and the next day she's fine. we have a son due in 9 days. she's just so emotional and irratibly. I hope this passes once the baby comes. please...
Omg i told my boyfriend I hate him :(
Lol I would find myself laughing at how I was feeling because he does nothing for me to be feeling the way I do sometimes 😂😂 almost 9 weeks into our first pregnancy and and it definitely helps to know that this emotional roller coaster is normal 🙌🏽
I’m the same way. He does nothing to me but talk
Cry about it losers
Thank for this video! And thank you for being open and honest! ❤ It's really important when we talking about subjects like this...
In my case it’s the opposite. I felt my husband distant lately. I’m 32 weeks pregnant and I asked him if he felt like some sort of feeling towards me right now because of the pregnancy. He told me I am and I am sorry but I didn’t know how to tell you .
I’m so sorry :-/ have you been able to talk much about it?
My gf broke up with me. She got pregnant in September and in December we broke up. Baby is due in June. Everything was perfect in our relationship. When she got pregnant we were nervous since we are both young but I told her the decision is hers and I support her no matter what. We were delighted to keep it. Anyways next thing I know a month and a half later she is completely someone else. She tells me she doesn’t love me out of nowhere and now she talks about how we can raise the baby as coparents. Wtf?!?!?
haha what happend explain more
She sounds like she's extremely immature.
My exact story too man
My girlfriend is 9 weeks pregnant …. Starting at around 6 weeks she got very moody and irritable …. To the point where she told me she needed her space … I haven’t seen her in two weeks and we barely talked… I missed the first baby appointment because she wanted to go alone …. Before her being pregnant we never fought or anything now she doesn’t want anything to do with me … it’s very discouraging and I’m trying not to give up on her but idk what to
Do
@@ryanzuelly9822 any updates brother?
I am literally meditating on having this same conversation with my boyfriend. Like I don't want his ass. He absolutely annoys me. I imagine pregnancy alone to be so peaceful. He just remains calm when I'm raging, let's me have my moment. I'll break up with him and he'll be at my doorstep an hour later asking if I want something to eat. And kissing my belly telling me he's here to visit his baby..
I just wish he understood, that I'm getting fat, my body is changing in so many ways, I stink faster than I used to, I'm always nauseous, my body hurts, I'm exhausted, I have a toddler all over me all day, and now I'm pregnant and wasn't planning on another baby I don't want to be touched I want alone time and the last thing I want to do after a long exhausting day is have sex. And It doesn't have anything to do with him.
I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time. I would try to regularly remind him of what you’re going through and that you need him to be as understanding as possible.
I already struggle with how I handle conflict when I am not pregnant, but since being pregnant (for the second time) I have this crazy rage. I scream, I throw things, I slam doors, I call names, I feel like hitting.
It’s like I can watch myself from outside my body and see how horrible I am in the moment but I have no control over my thoughts or actions.
I have been learning about anger management for a while now and to try and listen to my emotions, but right now everything comes in a flash and I all of the sudden snap and have a rage.
I want this to stop. I want to be in control but I have no idea where to start because even leaving the room seems impossible in the moment. :(
I love your earrings!!
And besides that, 😂... very concise, practical advice.
28 weeks here. This video is a light in the dark for me. Thank you.
I've been through this before with my ex-husband. Now I'm going through it again with somebody I really didn't know well enough 🤦🏼♀️ Relationship Dynamics are so weird these days for working women. It's really important to discuss the roles you want your husband and wife to play, and what is each person's responsibility and contribution to the family. My advice to women is to really sit back and think is this thing really that important that I'm going to blow up about? Probably not. And my advice to men is to do some research like you are now, and do all you can to show that you are capable of running a household 💪🏼
Just my own personal opinion, I don't think I'm attracted to men that need me to wash their laundry, do the groceries, do the house work, raise the children and pay half the bills.
My husband doesn't show affection. Ending my second pregnancy and other than sex, he doesn't just take time to hold me or sit beside me. It has made me extremely sad.
I’m really sorry :-/ that sounds so hard, and I assume isolating. Do you have friends or family nearby that can offer support? ♥️♥️♥️
OMG, I am currently experiencing this too like I’m super sad about it
I cannot find any videos of “husband doesn’t find me attractive while pregnant” and I wish you’d make a video on that. I’m lost.
I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant, I don't get mad at him I just sometimes I just don't want him to hug me or just being nice to me, he says my actions are pushing him away and last night he slept in the couch because he says felt like I ddnt want him around. But I love him is just that I don't know whats wrong with me, I used to be more happy and more touchy and all those things, I kinda feel like pregnancy was bad for our relationship.
Pregnancy hormones are likely having a big impact on how you’re feeling. I know that likely doesn’t make you feel better right now but I’m hoping you’ll start feeling more emotional balance after pregnancy ♥️
MY GOD I NEEDED THIS MY WIFE IS PUSHING ME AWAY
Sorry to hear that!
@@BaileyGaddisDoula it’s ok I’m a real man I’m not going anywhere due to the fact that I know it’s just the pregnancy talking 🙏🏾
i tell my husband he is ugly all the time and that he stinks like shit. im on my 8th week. hope this makes you feel better
It's amazing that a husband is even youtubing this stuff. Props to you!
@@karlenemckie5704 agreed!
I don’t wanna be around ANYONE! Everyone in Walmart makes my skin crawl
Totally normal to be super irritated by people during this time.
Ughhh!!! Going to Walmart makes me itch!!! I thought I was the only one
Being pregnant is not easy. And men one day NEEDS to understand this. It effects the woman and child. They need baby daddy work shops for men to understand women what we are going through. It’s insane. 😢
My pregnant partner has gone crazy. She now is 26 weeks and has not spoke to me in 2 months. She says I stink. I will have patience with her but if she is still crazy 6 months after the twins come I will have to move on. This is nuts
How are u going to give her uncontrollable hormonal changes an ultimatum? I’m pregnant and reading this made me understand exactly why she can’t stand you honestly
@@BriWoods11agreed, especially since she’s carrying twins
My wife turned into a whole diffrent person like she doesn`t speak to me like before and she calls me one second then tells me ill call back after 12sec in call?????. shes online but doesnt call me at all.
Bro I'm goin threw this and depressed smhh 😩😩🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️
@@GODFIRST-yi9hb Hahahhahah its half month left, and guess what? ive been destroyed ever since but she was good 2-3 months then she became crazy again, what about u bro,
Y’all stories are funny and cute because you men actually care about your women, on the other hand, my man seems he could care less I guess…
I don't hate him at all. We don’t fight. But I found his sitting close to me is disgusting. His breathing near me is making me sick. I no longer want to hold hands with him. I tried to avoid him by staying in another room. It’s pure hormone I guess. But Its difficult to tell him that I’m disgusted at him.
It can be pretty normal to be easily grossed out by people, food, etc during pregnancy. But I know it’s hard when you’re having those feelings about your partner. I would just try to emphasize when you talk to him about it that it’s not personal.
Its helpful to know that this is normal and im not the only one going through this with my pregnant wife, she can be so irrational and everything i do makes her angry for no reason, she hates my natural scent, even after ive showered, shes always cleaning and washing things that are already clean, i can’t leave a dirty plate on the kitchen bench for a few minutes..
Just turned 15 weeks today and i woke up mad at my husband. Hes doing my head in. I know i'm being completely irrational but i can't bear to be around him now or ill shout at him.
So sorry to hear that. It’s an unfortunate common side effect of pregnancy :-/
I'm 5 weeks along and I HATE my husband in my SOUL. I'm so serious... I HATE everything about him!!! I believe he's PURE EVIL and literally worships Satan. I don't want to have another baby with him or even raise, the 2 children we already have, with him. I scare myself with the way that I'm feeling because I have an intense urge to walk out the front door with nothing and just walk until I'm tired enough to lay down on the ground and go to sleep and just go missing. I'm so depressed and angry and flooded with resentment all the sudden. I just want so badly for him to hurt inside the way I'm hurting because he doesn't care about anything he's not feeling. The idea of giving him another child makes me want to crawl in hole and stay there.
I’m so so so sorry you’re feeling that way. I would recommend checking with your insurance to see if they provide coverage for you to see a MFT. I think they could provide helpful coping strategies for your unique situation ♥️
My wife is only 8 weeks pregnant and hates me no matter what I do if it takes me ten mins to get home from work I hear about it and I work 20 mins from home lol
Just chill pal
All normal...
I'm about to lose my shit man I understand your struggle
Same here, i wanta shave my head!
It's normal! Sorry all you guys out there, we feel bad later & still love you though! Just be patient. It's normal.
Bro my girlfriend cant stand me
37 weeks pregnant. He is so excited for the birth and cuddly. Witch is weirdly making me mad. Im huge and uncomfortable and trying not to be so irritable with him. BUT PLEASE STOP TOUCHING ME
So sorry you’re feeling that way! It’s totally normal to not want to be touched during this stage of pregnancy. Things will hopefully get better after you have the baby ♥️
@@BaileyGaddisDoula I just can’t get why people like you always vilify and generalise all men like we’re all the same and we’re plotting to dominate women or something like that. I think you’ll find it’s the other way round here. Women are trying to dominate and get back at us men all for the supposed injustices that we subjected them to over the years. Nature doesn’t work that way and I firmly believe in a traditionalist lifestyle. Back in caveman times, the woman did the housework and looked after the children when the man fought, hunted and gathered food and supplies for his family. Fast forward to this generation and all you see is wokey snowflakes like you trying to wage war against us well guess what it ain’t gonna work!!
I just found out I was 2 months pregnant. And he claim he’s going to be around. His family not going to let him do that to me. I trust him to be around. But he always leave me to go with his friends every single day to play video games and to smoke weed. While I’m at the house all day alone with his mom.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I really hope he comes around and steps up to the responsibility of fatherhood ♥️
My wife is in her trimester..my life is hell these days. Have heard all sorts of curses and she gets violent and break things. I'm hurt and clueless. How long will this harmone rage last?
It’s common for hormones to impact the mood up until a few months after the baby is born, sometimes more. Sorry you’re both struggling ♥️
So your wife is physically abusive. That honestly constitutes grounds for divorce
my bf can blink or breathe too hard and i be ready to smack the shit out him! I'm 8 weeks and soooo irritable and moody. sadly it's caused me to detach emotionally. Trying really hard to fix how i feel.
So sorry you’re feeling that way! Your feelings towards him will become more positive as your hormones settle.
I love your videos, thank you for being so genuine and honest about the pregnancy experience.
Aw, thanks! It’s absolutely my pleasure. Thank you for watching!
He's so irritating also the fact he has other kids from his ex wife . He doesn't know how to communicate or draw boundaries. I'm 3 months pregnant with his baby and lately he just pisses me off
On the verge of tears or on the verge of losing your mind with tears in your eyes?☹
So sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time ♥️
We argued so bad. Everything he did irritated me even him sleeping on pillow sent rage thru my body. I said a lot of hurtful stuff and now I’m 13 weeks and alone. I don’t think I can do it by myself it’s to the point I don’t even wanna have a baby no more. We was suppose to be in this together. He got mad and kicked me out 😢
I’m so sorry 🙁 Pregnancy can be so challenging even without relationship struggles. I really hope you and your partner are able to talk and work things out ♥️♥️♥️
In my case it's the total opposite. I have no mood swings,cravings or any effects that most pregnant women have.... His the pregnant one and I'm just carrying the bump for him 😂
His extremely moody, has weird cravings, sleeps alot. My sight just irritates him. He suddenly insisted that we break up, it's so emotionally frustrating I don't know what to do anymore and I fear that this will make me end up having a stressful pregnancy... By the way, I'm in 3rd trimester (29 weeks)
That sounds incredibly painful Tania - I’m so sorry to hear that. Do you have any nearby friends or family members you can lean on for support?
Omg same here I don’t have any symptoms just leg cramps I’m in my 3rd trimester as well he sleeps a lot he’s moody have cravings leg cramps back aches on the toilet all the time I feel like my daughter is gonna look exactly like him
It means so much to me and I’m sure plenty of other moms going through these crazy emotions that you made a video like this acknowledging and letting others know they aren’t alone. I feel like the emotions/experiences you go through during pregnancy aren’t talked about enough, so it’s hard to know how to react or even if what you’re feeling is normal.
Thank you! That means a lot. I’m so happy it resonated with you. And I agree- it’s so important that we talk about these emotions more.
Bailey, right now my partner is about 5 months pregnant with our third. She and I have stopped talking or looking at each other for 6 days. She wants nothing to do with me in her life. When the kids come home from daycare we essential behave as if the other person is invisible. It's awkward and painful. I tried to talk to her but i'm ignored, she has an intense look of hatred on her face. We are not married but for the past 2 years our relationship has dwindled to just 2 adults taking care of kids. Toxic interaction between her and I. No love, no basic respect, no romance, nothing, cold as ice. I'm nothing more than a live-in nanny & handyman. Should I accept that our relationship is dead and move out? Or keep beating this dead horse of a relationship?
I’m so incredibly sorry to hear you’re both going through that. I would highly recommend seeing a couple’s counselor. There are now many affordable services that can connect you with therapists across the country that offer sessions via zoom.
I don’t see your private email. May I have it? I really need a sound advisor!! I feel like I rage all day. These thoughts, emotions keep growing by the day to the point where I don’t know if I’m manifesting a nice mental disorder for myself or if I have legitimate issues around what my partner is doing. I so so desperately don’t want to care what he does but I feel really bad and can’t shake these childhood abandonment issues, especially when he’s spending quality time elsewhere in the evenings and im eating dinner alone. This among other things leave me so resentful and annoyed that I end up avoiding him so I don’t explode with the rage inside me. He doesn’t understand emotions and is pretty insensitive when it comes to “women’s emotions” arrested development there when it comes to his past. He just diverts back into his own experience and our dialogues lead to no where but more annoyance. I need help. I just need to not care and I don’t know how. Can’t change him but I can change myself.
I’m so sorry to hear that. That must be really difficult. And yes, you’re welcome to reach out to me at baileygaddis@yahoo.com
I work 6:00am -5:30 pm and my wife got mad at me for asking her on a date and said it was a waste of gas and that I think my job is harder than hers and I just wanted to spend time with her and I got soo mad at this swing in mood I went and did outdoor work for the rest of the evening.
So sorry you guys are having a rough time. It’s very normal for pregnancy to cause some upheaval in a relationship
iam going threw so much right now. my gf is one minute loving the next she wants me out and not be together. she's getting upset over the littlest things. we have a son on the way in 9 days and she's saying she doesn't want to be with me. she never was this way before she was pregnant. God I really pray it's hormones n the pregnancy.
I love how i got here despite being a single man in his mid 20s who was just watching movie recaps. 🤣🤦🏻♂️ I loved the content tho. 😆
Ha! How funny. And thank you!
@@BaileyGaddisDoula My pleasure. 👍🏼 If I ever have any questions regarding pregnancy and childbirth, I'll tune in to your channel.
@@Rakuziio appreciate that!!
He’s being so strong for me. I just dislike everything and everybody right now
Same here why do we feel like this at the moment am hating his family everyone of them and taking it out on him and he did nothing wrong shame help
Be strong
Same here sometimes I just feel like running away from the world
It’s why I’m single now. Best choice of my life
I don't like him when he's not here and right now I'm angry but a part of me knows I'm overreacting and being unreasonable😭😭😭😭 he's so sweet about it though.
Edit 16weeks pregnant right now
This is a totally normal reaction for many pregnant women. While it’s not fun to feel this way about your partner, these feelings often subside after you have the baby and your hormones eventually balance out.
I have an amazing boyfriend the problem is Im still in the first trimester and don't feel like having sex it's been an argument for some time now I even told him to go get a sex partner. I feel so bad I don't even know how to apologize I screwed up so bad.
I just wish he understood why I don't feel like sexy time.
I knew I'm not the only one experiencing this!
My husband doesn’t have any attention towards me. He wouldn’t give me massage or physical love. He has no consideration towards me and I hate him right now
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so disconnected from him. How does he respond when you share your feelings about this?
My girlfriend is 9 weeks pregnant … she has told me 2 weeks ago she needs space …. I have not seen her and I have barely talked to her .. she told me it’s because she is so irritable she doesn’t wnana push me away but now she barely talks to me and even ignores my texts a lot of the times…. I don’t know what to do
She says it’s her hormones but I don’t know … it literally happened out of no where
I don’t even know if I’m pregnant or not yet (2ww!!) but this is the best advice I’ve ever heard!!! Since I already have anger issues, if I am pregnant would that put the baby more at risk?
So happy to hear it. Anger issues shouldn’t harm the baby as long as you take steps to minimize the stress that anger might trigger. For example, meditation, yoga, or seeing a counselor ♥️
My gf is 29 wks. She came over yesterday and tore the yard up. Broke everything. This is my first but its crazy. She was flipping tires. Is this from the hormones or just crazy? Do a lot of woman talk about taking the baby for herself? Idk what to do. I wasnt suppose to be able to Hv kids BC I had chemo. But I was blessed. Idk. Lots of craziness. Is it somewhat normal or behind crazy? Ty
I would highly recommend speaking with a counselor.
My husband hits me very badly... Not even seeing my situation.... It's very hard to go through this situation..... Not even getting what next
I’m so incredibly sorry you’re going through that. I would strongly suggest seeking support from thehotline.org ♥️♥️♥️
Omg i really needed this right now whewwww so relieved thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
Today i stoped talking to my husband, i was feeling alone from inside, actually he take care of me, he will help me in work, but he is not spending time with me, he is always with his phone,, so i was feeling so bad nd i am feeling alone, so i stopped talking to my husband, nd i was avoiding him😢
I’m so sorry to hear that. That must feel really lonely. I would definitely try telling him how you’re feeling, if you haven’t already. Let me know if I can provide any specific support ♥️ sending lots of love.
@@BaileyGaddisDoula thanku so much for ur support, i decided to tell him directly that what i was feeling
@@veekshi....littleprincess9881 so glad to hear that.
I stopped talking to my husband too i just noticed i missed my period week now
@@BaileyGaddisDoulaSry for late,,
My problem is solved,, even when he is busy with phn ,he always sits beside me, nd he watches movie with me , he is spending his hole time with me when he is in home. Now i am so happy😁
Man most of y’all just have bad husbands 😭
Thank you! This is so refreshing!
my wife is on that, its just tense when i am not around shes happy and when am there yoh dont wana mention..feel like going away just to clear my head
Dynamics between partners during pregnancy can get really tricky. Often, pregnant women need a lot of space and time to rest. I would try your best not to take her moods personally, but I know that can be difficult! Wishing you both the best.
I'm so disgusted with him I had to stay at my mother and im even thinking of divorce 😫 I hate him and can't stand him!! Im so confused
Aw I’m really sorry. Pregnancy can cause a lot of upheaval in a relationship.
Can I asked how it's going? It's definitely very difficult and different and so confusing...... Kinda nice to know others are going through it too.
Is it crazy that he irritates me more then anyone? I am aware that it got bad a month into pregnancy which he triggered with lying & being sneaky. Now everything he does gets under my skin. On top of that he tries to sweep everything under the rug with over affection clingyness which he didn’t give me before pregnancy which I WANTED then. Now I want space and he’s all over me like a lost puppy idk I’ll change back after or if he will
Not crazy at all. It can be so normal for our partners to be the person we find most irritating during pregnancy.
When my bf is trying to “be there for me” as much as possible while I just can’t help but find it so annoying and clingy. I know it comes off as super cold and compared to other people’s unfortunate situations where the father doesn’t even care at all, I should be more grateful but I feel like I need looooots of space. He wants me to be super horny during this time and I’m just like no… please no… do not touch me I have never felt the opposite of horny so strongly. I don’t feel like talking to anyone because it’s overwhelming and I just want to eat, workout, and do and watch everything on my own terms. He doesn’t even like my fav shows or Thai food so I sort of have to be alone to enjoy those things. I’m at 6 weeks. Probably hormones. Or maybe I know deep down that once the baby is born I will have to sacrifice my beloved alone time lol like just let me be alone for now.
This irritation can be really common during pregnancy but so hard to navigate. I hope things get better after the baby is born ♥️
Some men just doesn't understand the part where you're hormones is totally controlling you what are you supposed to do. I cannot help the way my hormones is sometimes. Then he wants to tell me no his pregnant not me. What's wrong with this guy
I have done every single thing for her. Drive her, feed her, throw garbage away, dishes, laundry, clean everything up, get everything she asks for. And I don’t yell or argue with her but she makes me feel bad anyways. I’m trying so hard with her but idk.
I'm currently on this situation now, she even told me this morning that she wants a break up😔 it's so hard for me now because I worked overseas and it's really depressing the way she treated me. I'm trying to understand her and always encourage her that I'm always here supporting even I'm temporarily far from her but she always pushes me away and it really hurts so bad. Please help me and tell me what to do.😔
I’m really sorry you’re both going through this. If possible, give her space, but still reach out offering support. You could also suggest couple’s counseling if you thing she’d be open to that.
Hopefully, after the baby arrives, she might have a change of heart.
@@BaileyGaddisDoula Yes hopefully, Always praying that everything will be fine. Thanks for your advice🙏
Has it gotten any better? My girlfriend (still exclusive??) is acting the same way, hating me; can't look me in the eye or sit next to me. I have a good relationship with her family so that is helping but she hates me.. has yours gotten any better?
I needed this lol thank youuuuuu
Mrs Moore Good!! So glad it helped :)
Me too 😪
@@dominiqueford8580 lol keep this video saved. The Postprtum hormones are no joke either 😂
I feel like arguing with my husband for no reasons. I asked him to leave me for good. I bring up past arguments .
Really sorry you’re going through that. It can be such a stressful time ♥️
Hey can you explain to me because my girlfriend she pregnancy i don’t know why she stop tallk with me is baby make be like that
mohamed saghir it can be a number of reasons, when women are pregnant there going threw a really tough time dealing with hormones cravings body changes, worries, insecurities, feelings are all over the place if she feels that you are insensitive to what she is going threw she might not want to talk to you it can be other personal reasons, but just try to understand her and support when she is around as for some advice having cravings to certain foods and not being able to eat those foods can be frustrating within itself, some women like myself will crave for food but when I get them I no longer want them and I want something else, sometimes I get my craving and it takes a while for me to eat them because it feels heavy on my stomach and I become really nauseous ext. there’s pretty much alt to it, it can become really complicated the best thing you can do is go with the flow give her, her space but also let her know that you are there by checking up on her asking her if she is ok and if she needs anything.
My wife is 5 months and she will not talk to me and she hate me
So sorry to hear that. Pregnancy can be hard on relationships in some cases.
My wife is 11 weeks pregnant, about a week ago everything changed about her, she doesn’t give me attention and barely talks to me anymore, barely even looks at me, before I met her she was a single mother to a 2 year old daughter, my wife gives her daughter all the attention, she hugs her laughs with her and just gives her all the attention in the world, is this normal ? Is my first time being with someone pregnant and I just feel left out.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling left out. Pregnancy can be a challenging time for all involved. But it can be very normal for women to put a lot of focus on their children during pregnancy as they’re wanting to make them feel as loved as possible before the baby arrives.
Iam not only irritated my partner rather than I think iam hating all his family.....😤😤can I upcome with this.....
You’re not alone! In-laws can be one of the biggest sources of irritation during pregnancy (and beyond!)
@@BaileyGaddisDoula can I upcome with this🙄
Same here 😭😌
My wife she stop to talk and she is very angry with me from last week now baby is 12 weeks how long its take time for she getting normal
It sounds like she needs lots of extra support and understanding ♥️
Wish my wife would watch stuff like this :'(
I hate him for not being there financially and emotionally. I now understand why women leave man during pregnancy. This bastard is going to get his karma.
im on my 8th week. everytime i look at my husband i tell him his ugly. i also tell him he stinks.
This was amazing thank you.
So glad you found it helpful :)
It's so bad I'm about to break up with her . Im being abused. 😢
Pregnant right now and I hate him so much !!! I’m on my first trimester !!!
Sorry! It’s frustrating isn’t it! Hoping it gets better in the second trimester ♥️
Same girl......
Oh hormones...how lovely how much they can affect your mental and physical health.
Totally.
So, my girlfriend is 2 months along As of right now and before we were all affectionate and normal. but when she hit a certain stage of pregnancy. she started getting really annoyed at me and mad i was being too much and she said im too affectionate ect. so as of now im giving her space and letting her know im always here and i love her. is this normal? for things to be distant and all over the place? cuz i really im doing the best i can for her.
The reaction she’s having can be totally normal. It sounds like you’re doing the best that you can by giving her space and just letting her know that you’re there when she needs you. Hang in there! Things should get better after she has the baby.
Some Men are so mean the way we feel. They just focused on their personal needs. I hate him so much, because he doesn't give me what I want to eat. And he's neglecting his obligation as a father. He doesn't even care sometimes.
I also feel same.. My pregnancy is 2 and half month but I irrited and Easly got angry because of my husband.... Even if he just Tauch me I hate him so much I don't know whats wrong with me....
So sorry to hear that. I would definitely make sure you’re getting plenty of alone time. I would also try to pinpoint what he’s doing that triggers you so he can avoid that :-) If you didn’t feel this way towards him before pregnancy you can also let him that your irritation with him will likely begin to fade after pregnancy.
I overreacted 😢i even break bottle 😭 now i am apologizing i don't think there's forgiveness there 😭
Mine broke up with me at 6 weeks. I am trying to reconcile but she won't let me.
So sorry to hear that. Hoping you can find a mutually beneficial resolution ♥️
@@BaileyGaddisDoula thank you. I can't see myself with anyone. If anyone reads this. Please pray for Andrew and Tacy to rekindle our relationship. Thank you.
@@Sm0kingp0wer9 I certainly will.
@@BaileyGaddisDoula thank you from all my heart ❤️
UPDATE: I have prayed a lot. The heavenly father and Mother Mary has heard my prayers. They have performed a miracle for us to become strong loving lovers again. I can't stop crying from how close I was from never getting her back. I feel happy and full of joy to be with her again. Please have faith and seek forgiveness from the Heavenly Father and Mother Mary. Amen.
Ugh this was so helpful
She started hating me for no reason😂😂one day we were cool nxt day she doesn't receive my calls nor chatting me😂she told me that she doesn't love me anymore😂😂😂in short she is not willing to see me anytime soon
So sorry you’re both going through that!