I Dumped My Girlfriend After I Found Out She Was Pregnant
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"Too many baby mammas and baby daddies, and not enough families."
Low skillset required
Too many baby showers not enough weddings
Husbands walk out too.
@@VictoriaInamoratinot as often as a boyfriend/ hook up
We can play the blame game all day. "Men don't do enough." "Women get bored too easy and cheat". In the end, it takes 2 to tango. Carry your own weight and be selective. This ensures you do your OWN part toward a relationship and being selective ensures you aren't getting with someone who does any less.
^ But this right here is also a problem. Because now people develop unrealistic expectations. "My man needs to make at least $500k a year" or "My woman better do wtf I say or else". So.... You go ahead and find happiness as you see fit. Good luck.
With his current level of maturity, he’s on the road to having multiple baby mamas.
Story of my life...and various colors involved. I acknowledged my mid life crisis which lasted from being 40 to turning 60 was adventurous. 4 children later, I give them grounded presence with all the love and logistics it involves
@@benascg-ll7sqdada?
Ask Dave what's cheaper a new corvette or a child
@@benascg-ll7sq yeah sure ya do.
@@benascg-ll7sqwhat a loser
Clicked so fast to hear Dave scream 🤣
😂😂😂 nobody gave us a good look😂😂😂
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and we weren't disappointed 😂
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Bruh Dave AND Dr. Delony 😂😭
When you find out your girlfriend is pregnant with your child, it’s time to man up and commit to that family.
Key word man up… he’s still a boy.
Have you met modern females? This is not a Disney movie 😅
@@stud6414 "mOdErN fEmAlEs". He was talking about being a father. Also, Disney movies regularly have broken up families.
Even if she sucks and is not wife material and she just let him bang her? Women don't think they should be punished with a baby for just wanting to have sex, so why should a man be punished with a baby AND be stuck with a woman they don't like for just wanting to have sex? Let me guess, only men should face consequences for their actions and women shouldn't. Yeah, we know.
What gives you the idea that he isn't committed? He's planning to move to a different state so he can be near the mother of his child - that sounds pretty committed to me. You don't have to have a romantic relationship with the mother of your child to be a committed father. If being in a romantic relationship isn't right for them, staying in one anyway is not going to help that child.
That young man needs to grow up and take responsibility. He sounded like an idiot.
She’s probably just as bad. She opened her legs for him. Both make bad choices.
How is he not taking responsibility? He's planning to move to another state to ensure he can be an active father.
@@stevengtv Nope. Pregnancy starts with male orgasm and those little swimmers going after the egg. The guy has control over when and where he ejaculates and she didn't force him to make a deposit. It's high time we held men accountable for spreading their sperm around. After all, they can procreate at a far greater rate than women can.
@@stevengtvshe was in a relationship with him? Should gfs stop sleeping with their bfs?
In Dave's parlance, a WUSS
How the hell is this kid so stoked about having a child with someone he doesn't want to be with? Full on embracing the broken family.
He can’t grasp the complexity of the situation… acting like everything is cool is a sad, learned, reaction from disconnected parenting and society.
He’s not …he lead with a positive, but I’m sure inside he’s a wreck.
He is faking it. He is moving away to another state and won't be near the baby. So he isn't that stoked.
I see it the same way: sentencing a child to live with someone you don't like well enough to live with: What the heck?
I don't know if you've noticed, but this is actually the norm in America today. And that's why everything's broken.
Wait until this baby is born, cries, poops, and wakes him up multiple times a night. He will be gone again.
I am not a Dad but why would the rings that babies do make him run away when h has no intention of living with them anyway? I have a generic disease that causes a lot of pain and as I don't want to pass that on, I made a decision when I was a teen (47 now) not to have kids. I and my partners have always used contraception so I just do not understand why tis guy is utterly so vague. What kind of job does he have, I wonder and what on earth did a woman see in this guy who is clearly no intellectual giant?
Yup
Exactly. He probably likes the IDEA of being a father. But it's in the theoretical stage now since the child is not here yet. But I also don't think he's really broken up with his ex. I think he still wants her as an occasional girlfriend/sex partner, but not to live with her. Because of course, dating is easy, but marriage or even living together is much harder.
Don't blame him. That mess describes misery.
@@mmmd3429lmao boo hoo
Ngl man’s better than me. Calling Dave Ramsey after I dumped my pregnant girlfriend is an experience I’d never willingly put myself through 😂
Deadasss 😂😂😂
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Right? This guy just used her to sire offspring.
Broke up with her……only to pack up your things and follow her down to move lmao may as well make the damn family work. This is so ridiculous. I hate “baby mom/baby dad” culture. GROSS.
It's been the "norm" for so long now, but I want no part of it.
My cousin who has 3 "baby daddies", asked me when I'm having a baby. I said "how about asking me when I'm getting married?! Then maybe ask if I even want children after that." I then went into a long rant about that's what is wrong with society now. 😅 I'm sure she will never ask me that question again 🤐
Sometimes it's inevitable. Staying together just because you have a child is only going to end up hurting the child. Children should not have to grow up watching their parents fight and hate each other just to find out they are the reason and feel guilt over that.
That being said people should make every effort to NOT have children before they are in a committed relationship. But sometimes it just doesn't work out.
My daughter's father and I were together in high school and got back together later and had her when I was 22 and he was 23. We ended up splitting when she was 6 months old. She is 13 now and we get along great but she has never known us together. We just weren't meant for each other. But we have made it work. He is married now, I was engaged but my fiancé passed away. We will always love and support each other. Had we stayed together we would of ended up miserable and divorced and she would of been stuck in the middle. It's better to walk away BEFORE the child has something to miss.
YOu can blame MOST of this on the Dems and Libs....they support this INCORRECT culture. What they don't understand is that ULTIMATELY, the child is hurt the most. But you know who Dems and Libs are....they don't CARE ABOUT children's feelings.....much less THEIR lives (Do I need to go there?).
@@sensimania 3 baby daddies is wild. Why does it seem like the people who have children shouldn't and the people who don't have kids should
@yota8325 I’d say about 85% of the world population really shouldn’t have kids. That includes the majority who have them already and the majority of those who don’t
I liked how you emphasized “he created a single mom with a baby”. Most single moms live in poverty and never get out of it. You held him accountable. It sounds like he wants to support his baby, which is wonderful, but mom needs to be remembered and y’all did that.
She could also give the baby up for adoption. She has options. Raising a child in poverty is not a good idea. It might be fine for the first year or two, but as the kids gets older, the bad statistic odds just keep growing and growing.
@@soulanstreets222your solutions isn’t always greener grass
@@raidersplayer11 sure but hedging your bets is always the goal. No decision is fool proof other than not carrying before you marry....but even then that doesn't guarantee the husband won't leave.
@@soulanstreets222and you think it’s so easy to give that baby up for adoption after you carried and felt that life inside of you for 9 months. Your entire body and psyche is getting ready for motherhood. Her breast will be filled for god sake. This is equivalent to baby death. This women is not responsible for actions of men who I am sure promised her word and acted like a Prince Charming until he decided to switch. This is criminal
@@xsophia22x
Unalive the child in utero = not easy
Raise the child = not easy
Put the child up for adoption = not easy
Please show us what easy option there is for her?
Selfishness and sadness....babies get short changed because "adults" want to do what feels good at the moment.
Happens when the religion is "sef love". People are all about "finding happiness" and "self love" 😢.
He’s still a whole child ….
That's right! Sometimes you have to do the hard thing and not what makes you happy. Unpleasant but true. But if you do the right thing - and I would say not ripping apart a family unless there's abuse or something along these lines is - your future self will thank you for it (let alone your children and spouse).
Cover the stump
Are you calling him an adult??
Caller: 🤪
Dave: 🤯
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Dave is one of the few that still calls people out for “shacking up”.
My Pop is the saaaaame 😂
@@caseyhill636it’s wrong!
And he makes so much sense about it too. I’ve always seen myself as a high value woman and only way I’m moving in with a man is when both of our names are on the deed and we’re legally married. There’s no reason to play house with a person that you love.
@@Sylvia-rp1xq yes ma'am 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
@@Sylvia-rp1xqthis or having babies with.
This man will soon realize there is no such thing as “breaking up” when you have a child together.
He's going to know about child support, and she should stick it to him..😂😂😂
Its called deadbeat dad and its common
@user-wh6ir8rk4b I'm not sure if you meant the guy who called was the deadbeat. He doesn't seem like a deadbeat dad. He sad he's excited about the baby and called in to get advice. He seems like a kid who about to do some growing up hopefully and needs advice to do it well.
@@abbasjoy4785stick it to him? I get if he broke up with her *because* of the baby and didn't want to help with the baby at all. Then yea, stick it to him as far as child support. But it was a mutual breakup. And he said he's excited for the baby. Even calling to get financial advice so he can navigate this situation better. I'm sure he'll have to pay child support but "sticking it to him" sounds petty and vengeful
@@lay-dee Many say they're excited....before they bail. I'm in a pregnancy support group, and it's sad how common that is. The girl keeps the pregnancy thinking the guy's in. Then it gets too real or too difficult or boring and he's out and on to the next girl he'll impregnate. It's really depressing.
1) don’t pregnate someone you aren’t married to.
2) pregnant women have a variety of emotions, expect some disagreements
3) “you are still talking daily,” this will change when she gets her next boyfriend.
4) seek stability. Stop all of this moving from state to state, having babies out of wedlock, break up/get back together, etc. debt free is great, it goes well with drama free, try it
Number 3 especially. He is thinking as long as 3 doesn't happen, there is always a chance, but once it does, this situation is going to get nasty!
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Exactly. Self inflicted drama and instability
Gonna just correct your first statement to “don’t have sex before marriage,” because babies aren’t usually planned. This is why it’s just not a wise decision. You want to be sure you’re having children with someone you want to raise those children with.
Hot take these days, I know. But as someone who had sex before marriage, got pregnant, and got married, I’m incredibly grateful that happened with someone who I wanted to marry and who wanted to marry me. I wouldn’t change anything now, but we made a lot of sacrifices and grieved a lot of missed experiences because of how we did things. And it’s scary to think that it could’ve gone very differently if it happened with anyone else.
Amen
The poor child. Parents started out by deciding the child would come from a broken home.
RELAX...
Better than being raised in a shitty home
I read someone make the claim that "every broken home is like the death of a small civilization." That's it in nutshell. Take it from someone who at nearly 63 is still trying to recover from the effects of multiple broken homes (which by the way was achieved by parents who were married, who had me within marriage, and who didn't have any substantial financial hardships, or even an issue of adultery, or one partner who was away a lot, etc...)
No, it's not better.
She chose to become pregnant.
He only consented to sex.
Her body, her choice.
Her choice, her responsibility!
The responsibility goes with the choices.
This type of situation is what separates the boys from the Men.
And the women from the girls.
He's a boy. Fertilizing a transient girlfriend unfortunately won't make him a man.
I love how they are calling him out. Truth needs to be told. A little human is involved.
Boy needed a mom and a dad that could have told him to not be a fuckhead
they were very soft on him. I'm guessing this guy came from a broken family because his father isn't beating his ass for being stupid.
@@austinduke8876hahahahahha so true
His first few lines said it all. He was already suger-coating leaving a pregnant woman as being just a travel decision, haha..
I wouldn't want to be that embryo for anything. If she goes full term and gives birth, there will be a child who's gonna have a helluva chaotic life, at best.
This reminds me of that joke:
When my girlfriend got pregnant, everything changed ...my name, my address, my phone number...
Some guys go out for milk and never return.
How were you able to keep track of this whole thing? The dude totally lost me.
Lol
sounds like black america
@Shiznit304 Yes, cause the caller sure sounds like a black person.😅
Sigh, She's still pregnant and you're already separated? What the heck is wrong with people today.
Every generation thinks it has figured out a work around to long-term commitment and marriage. ...And then kids arrive and a lot of learning occurs.
A good way for him to circumvent the day to day care of his own child. Of course he's excited....he doesn't have to deal with the lack of sleep he'll get or the general fussiness baby will be experiencing cause his baby mamma will deal with it. He can be fun dad lol
@@bjkarana Or doesn't.
@@emmasharrod3808 Haha, fair point!
Dave's expression after finding out this baby is out of wedlock is priceless. He looks so pissed 🤣🤣
Not surprising with his christian values. If he worked for the company he would have been fired 😅
It's not even out of wedlock. It's that this guy got her pregnant and THEN broke up with her because "we were fighting". He needed to man up and get counseling at the minimum and try to salvage this. Instead he went "well we were fighting so we are breaking up" like a child who thinks this is just no big deal.
Literally, I’ve been studying a lot about Dave Ramsey because he has my last name but we are so completely different
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@@MariahRamsey-ts3uzthat’s a shame
Perfect example of what is wrong with this country!
I know, women are insufferable and impossible to live with.
The caller sounds like the whitest black guy ever. Because white people don't go around having children out of wedlock. 🤣
This kids gonna be the lyrics to the next Colin Raye song....
Chase that girl in that little red rodeo...
Baby seat, candy apple red rodeeeeo!
LOL didn't know this situation is exclusive to USA
With this country?? What a weird thing to say. It's what wrong with some PEOPLE.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Letting go of someone you love is always challenging, but in my situation, I had the guidance of a spiritual counselor who prevented my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now..
You definitely should. You wont regret it
@@Newtonwilson-yw4kgdon’t be silly. Stop spamming.
So nice as a woman to see men hold men accountable 😭
Agree. It's rather rare. Thanks guys.
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Now we just need to hold women more accountable nd the world will be perfect 😂
@@fernandogarcia6668 I would say raising the child you created is pretty accountable
As a 28 y/o single male who wants to find a loving woman to start a family with (which is hard as hell to find), calls like this just piss me off.
Honestly I don’t know. I had to be married to my guy for five good years before I felt safe enough to have a kid with him (my moms string of boyfriends and my own dad made me not want kids for a long time). I can’t even wrap my head around how 99% of people operate where they’ll get naked with people they don’t even like, much less trust. It seems totally insane to me. 😅
Yeah....good luck with THAT pal. My son is 27...he's going through the SAME thing. My ONLY suggestion to him and YOU is this....IF and WHEN you find one that is loving, and not narccisistic, crazy, or insane, or in debt up to her ears...or even worse...WOKE, then here is what you do: VET, VET, VET, VET, VET and did I say, VET...her ASS. If you have assets, like my son has a house and some funds, you MUST VET this person. After the VETTING process is complete, I would recommend dating 4 years before getting married.
I told my son, "Nick - I am going to VET whatever you bring home SO BAD, I will KNOW when it's her time of the month and what brand of tampon she uses!". I WILL be hiring a private detective and beyond. I've worked TOO hard raising and protecting my son for him to go marrying some piece of garbage. It's too bad....because I think he'd be a good husband.
This problem is common with ALL of my son's friends too...and no, NONE of them are gay either.
@@user-tl7mj2bm4mIf my father-in-law would’ve done that to me, it would make me think his son is a big dumb baby who needs his daddy to do everything for him. Let your son do the hard work of discerning his future wife. He’s gotta be the man and the leader of his future family, not you.
@@user-tl7mj2bm4m you sound like the over-involved in-laws that are constantly causing issues for otherwise happy couples. Delony gets calls about in-laws like you all the time. If you raised your children right, they should be able to find partners for themselves without your interference.
@@Becanwal Love can be BLIND. Sober up and realize that. I see SO many women marrying men and dumping them just to get half of what they've achieved. People CHEAT too...and that ends up in divorce. I would LOVE my son to find someone decent...but it's difficult. All women do nowadays is jUST look at their phones. My son has assets (a house and a decent sum of money....) . Sorry....I"m NOT going to let someone take advantage of him. And no..I'm NOT hunting for partners for him...that's for him to do.. All I"m going to do IS VET them. Why do you think its WRONG to verify that they are honest, normal, debt-free, never been in jail, etc.?
This is the real reason most of Americans are struggling financially. We aren’t thinking things through
no, the real reason is because the government does nothing to stop the rampant inflation while not ensuring people are paid enough to keep up with that inflation.
my grandfather worked ONE job and never earned more than $60k per year. he was still able to afford a modest, three-bedroom home, have a stay-at-home wife and raise two kids, and live a middle class lifestyle, all on *one salary.*
this is NO LONGER THE CASE in 2024.
@@thispersonrighthere9024 we all know how the system works. Yes things may be harder that just means ppl need to be smarter with their decisions. Having kids outside of marriage is financial suicide unless you are already financially stable. If you want to get ahead you’ve got to make better life decisions
@@sidehustlevikki1066 nothing you just said detracted from my point about the cost of living being too high.
With each passing generation, there is less and less critical thinking. Combined with American consumer culture that is designed to make sure you are as impulsive and emotional as possible to spend as much as possible, being frugal will become a rare art form.
No, it's because wages have stagnated over the last four decades.
Long story short. He knocked up his girlfriend but doesn't want to be a family. That's why you do things in order. Date, get married, get a house, have a family. Not guaranteed it will be a success. But that should give you the best chance. Don't knock up a girlfriend you are just dating. She will want the family. You won't.
Why is everyone acting like it was his choice alone to break up
@@Detsubkrod exactly
If she is constantly starting fights, does she really want things to work? Most men just put up with it, but some can't.
This ❤
😮@@michaelweyenberg6238 that's his side of the story
I’m glad they put this guy in his place. Once you bring a human into the world, it is YOUR responsibility. It is about the child now. It is no longer about you and impulse decisions!!
Crazy how women have rights either to have the kid or abort but a man has none. The women in question is a single mom due to her bad decisions and my taxes have to pay for her. Great 🙄
I'm confused. Didn't the caller say that he wanted to be a part of the child's life and was moving to the close to his ex to be involved in raising the baby? Isn't that taking responsibility?
If only they could have the same chat with the baby's mother. If what the caller said is correct, she wasn't upholding her responsibility either.
Seems like he didn't make those impulse decisions on his own. She has responsibilities as well.
I dont see how he was put in his place over the phone.
My hubby was 17 and I was 18 when we married and at 17 he got 3 jobs to take care of his baby and me. He was so much more mature at 17 then this man sounds ! Just wow. Our son is now 50 and we all grew up together!
Wow you did the very hard thing because you made the hard decision to marry young and raise a child together.
That's wonderful
So glad it worked out for you all x
Super easy to be a man and get 3 jobs cause you’re always away from your family and never see them. Try balancing making enough money to support and still having enough time to spend with your kids so they know who tf you are
the world was a very different place back then. Today everything is treated as if it's replaceable. Jobs, People, animals, etc.
Couldn’t imagine not living with my kid
Nah man how can a guy do this. Really though. I had a cousin who made a mistake and had a kid too early in his life. However he committed to it and raised the kid himself. I despise guys like this who avoid responsibility
I know a guy who has a three year old a few states away, and he has never met her. He 'wants' to meet her.... That's what he says.
@@Jmc989 I “want” to believe him. But I don’t.
@@flyguyqui1089 You and me both.
Arguing isn't even that bad if you aren't taking pot shots at each other, and you actually come to a resolution. Jesus, fix it.
Dave’s face is priceless, this guy is trying to bail from the pregnancy 😅
"You guys make decisions about every 30 seconds" Then while on the radio he changes from I might move to I am moving. That's how much thought he puts into things.
Dave Ramsey about to go off on this dude…
he's a moralizing putz
this kid*
OH GOOOD
He almost went full redneck... You never go full redneck.
Adult enough to make a baby
This caller comes across as very vague and immature. He is in no fit state to be a father.
Neither is she. She chose to get impregnated by this guy.
I’m sure the mother of his child is a gem as well…
@@stevengtvyou relpied to: Melania XD 🎉😂❤
She’s pregnant so he’s already a father
@@kay22100 I AGREE! Get rid of abortions
This poor baby will have some struggle with a dad like this!😢
Sad and true. I wouldn't want to be that embryo. Who would? :(
Standard 21st century Tinder bio
Right
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"But I'm almost debt free, so that's good!"
He sounds like he works as a cell phone salesman and she super sizes fries, hooked up on Tinder and is in 100% denial of how much his life is about to change. He wanted to remain friends with benefits with zero thought towards the child he is about to have.
homes about to get a dose of reality
😂 and😢
So many of today’s problems in society stem from bad/single parenting.
sounds like my husband's friend. The guy broke up with his baby mama because "they just weren't in love anymore". He thought he could kick her out of the house and they'd still be able to get along and co-parent peacefully. She went on an absolute warpath. Hell hath no fury kind of stuff. First, when she moved out, she took **everything** she could get her hands on. Even took out as many of the appliances as she could. (She did pay for a lot of them when they were finishing the house). She took every condiment from the fridge and left him without a single tupperware 😢 Then she took him to court for maximum child support. She tried to get full custody. Every single decision she fights him on and turns into a battle that they have to pay a mediator to handle. Even down to if the kid can play T-ball. Nightmare scenario. My husband tried to convince him to try counseling before breaking up, but the guy didn't want to. Now she will do everything she can to make his life hell for the next 18 years.
Men, it's simple: please do not have sex with any woman you aren't prepared to raise a child with.
You know this won't end well when they didn't congratulate the caller for having a baby
Nothing to celebrate here
Bastard offspring are not something to celebrate.
@@patty109109 I know that
The look on Dave’s face when he said that 😂😂😂
It's almost as if they knew beforehand.
I see my tax money on the way to a couple of smooth brains.
I bet you're also pro-life too. Can't have it both ways dummy.
Oh definitely.
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Right on
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His life is a mess…
I wouldn’t want it for nothing in the world
Most marriages are a mess... wouldn't want one for nothing in the world.
Being a real father would actually stabilize his mess.,
My marriage is 7 years old (been together 12 years) and it’s still fantastic. My parents were together 44 years before my father passed away and they had a great marriage. My grandparents just had their 73 year anniversary and had a great marriage. Not all marriages are bad and if you do it right, they can be great.
@auemmjee it's because you most likely aren't ready to be a mature adult to communicate properly with another person. Most marriages fail because people can't communicate.
That bleeds into money, wants, needs and everything.
@@crashtestdummy1972it’s probably because their is no god in the courtroom.
“We broke up because we were arguing” 👀
They arent married many men do this on the regular
Arguing about his cheating. He just didn’t want to say it on the air.
Plot twist he isn’t the father and she’s been cheating on him 😂
Excuses
Dave be like “Don’t come to my state!”🤣
Whew...When Dave slapped his hand on the table...I bet he wanted to punch the "baby daddy."
That poor child. If they end up hating their Dad I can understand why.
Abandoning your family never goes out of style
Wow. I never seen Dave this mad for a long time
I’m a new listener this is the first
@@MariahRamsey-ts3uzhe gets fired up literally every day
He does this daily lol what
@@OopThereItIs77777Dave slam his hand on the table, that I never seen
LOL at this kid calling for financial advice and getting this life lecture. I’m here for it.
Normalizing having children out of wedlock isn't right. It's NOT mean to shame the people that do it, it's a hurtful and irresponsible act!
The sad thing is that it **IS** so normalized. Mainstream society now is where the minorities were on this 20 years ago. I'm a nanny, babysitter and daycare worker. So I constantly see them whining that total strangers won't watch their kids for 5 bucks an hour.
I've stopped congratulations unmarried people when they announce a pregnancy. It's not a blessing. You're irresponsible.
Well, you can't "normalize" something that's already common and normal. As a matter of fact, it's been happening since the beginning of human civilization. Is it right or moral? It depends on the culture and each person's beliefs.
Glad you say that when parents don't normalize having "the talk " with their kids. Hell some states don't want to teach proper sex education because they think it LEADS the child into premarital sex. But let's also be real, marriage never kept a man or woman who didn't want to be kept. Marriage doesn't equate to healthy relationships or healthy parenting! The only thing it does is make it harder to leave the relationship.
@@Aki_Lesbrinco Babies out of wedlock was definitely not the norm when I was growing up in the 80s.
I was in a similar situation. I got my girlfriend(Now fiance) after she moved to be with me in my home state. later she wanted to move back home with her family, so I ended up packing everything I owned, threw away about half of my junk, and sold my house to move up to be with her. Honestly I can say it was the best decision I ever made.
Y’all still raw-doggin’?
@@Kaktus965 Aye bro come on, you should ask your parents that and see how that ends up lmao
Come see us in ten years. She should’ve stayed with YOU. Not the other way around
@@dcg590 There was a few circumstances out of my control that forced me to move. An agreement that ended up not going as planned. It's a whole thing but we are good now. I ended up better off with a better paying job, nicer house, etc.
@@jv6miata AIEEEE I KNEW U WAS SLAPSLAP BALLS DEEP ON THAT BRO! Oh, and until u house me and feed me for 16 years, ur not getting parental-level respect… 🤪
Arguing with your significant other is automatically included and not purchased separately 😂 if you guys are not arguing then someone doesn’t have a strong opinion
My wife and I have been together for 15 years and never argued 😢
Dave is gonna lose it😂😂😂
Girl is the only reason I clicked this morning
I have never seen Dave more angry than I have during this call.
@@costco_pizzahe’s really not that upset lol
Dave and Delony are the perfect combo for this video 😂
They're right
This stuff is so normalized that telling him to man up was probably shocking for him 😂😂😂😂
But it won't help. Unfortunately. He sounds incredibly immature; bet she is too. What a train wreck.
I almost bent my thumb backwards clicking on this video as fast as possible. I knew Dave was gonna blow a gasket 😂🤣🤣🤣
I HATE when people have kids out of wedlock. Nothing tackier than that! Poor kid didnt even have a chance of a family.
Yup...the kid is screwed from the minute they are born. Sad....
My sister has been with her partner for 30 years and have two kids. Most stable relationship of anyone I know. You can’t put everyone in the same bucket.
@@rodneyperry7940 Wow what an incredible counterpoint. Are you kidding man? Good for your sister and her weird-ass fear of commitment, but the caller here isn't in it for a 30 year girlfriend-boyfriend relationship with kids. Good lord this fucking country.
Wedlock doesn’t just magically keep people together.
So people like my sister who has been married 4 times is so much better ? My niece and nephew always had different step- dads no stability for
a role model father .
The Baby wasn't it his budget.
no,exactly or life style... he got l@8D and dumped her
The amount of people in this country that aren't willing to own up to the consequence and subsequent responsibility of two supposed grown-ups doing the "deed" is absolutely baffling. If boys out there think they are man enough to use what God gave them for pleasure, then be man enough to accept the consequence. If you're as "excited" as you say you are, but are questioning whether you should make necessary changes in your life to be closer to the baby and involved in the baby's life, then you aren't ACTUALLY as excited as you seem to claim. This one has red flags all over it. And for the love of God, keep your pants on if you can't be man enough to step up.
What are you talking about? Did you not listen to the call? He's already decided to move to another state to ensure he can be an active father. He was looking to get some advice on the practicalities of moving, but they were only interested in giving him self-righteous judgement and didn't even try to answer his question.
@@thomasdalton1508he is not going to be living with the child is he? That needs to be addressed first.
You mean like how woman refuse to take accountability for having unprotected s3x, choosing who gets born and who the father is? She picked him. She chose to be a single mother. Woman control ,access to s3x and who gets born. Period. And if she chose a loser, thats also HER FAULT. Place the blame where it belongs.
If they really loved God, neither one of them would have been part of fornication much less an illegitimate offspring.
@@manifest2203 How do you know where the child will live? The presumption should be that the child will live with them each in equal measure.
Sees title
Grabs popcorn
There’s no need to get someone pregnant when the relationship is bad and yall have nothing set up and going for your lives.
U understand a lot of women use baby traps as a thing telling guy she is on pill etc but she stops taking it
@@hiteshadhikariwhere is the accountability of the guy? He shouldn’t have opened his legs or at the least he should have used protection.
@@manifest2203 thats when it turns out to be his child after paternity test and has to pay 18 years for his share of his duties bud.
@@manifest2203 when u trust a person, medical devices inc pill or protection, u expect a level of safety
Failure of any of the above is a headache bud
@@manifest2203
In that case, he falsely trusted her word.
But I agree, he shpuld be chaste
Children change everything.
Unfortunately there are tons of Raggedy men who do this… yes breakups happen but some men are just cowards.. period. Get em Dave! 😂
For every Raggedy man there is a Raggedy woman who wasn't responsible with her body & her birth control.
@@neededtobesaid4275 should’ve used a condom
@@neededtobesaid4275who hurt you? 😂
@@jb-ze1yhhe said it was a mutual breakup
@@jb-ze1yh wow, did you think of that creative response all by yourself?!? 🤣🤣🤣 Seems like you're showing that your baby daddy hurt you. I'm just giving BOTH of them equal treatment. Raggedy Ann & Raggedy Andy.
When you have a kid with someone, you aren’t “playing” family anymore…you become family even if you are not married.
Eh, a marriage does matter & has power. A girlfriend/boyfriend Is with a child Is just playing house.
I think she should abort or give the child away.
I got my girl pregnant and within a month, got married. We were shacking up. We’re been married for a couple years and are still in love. We argue at least once a week. Like what. If you’re old enough to procreate, you should be invested in working through your issues
Dave and John are BASED. This caller is cringe, God have mercy on him
Standard 21st century relationship
DEEEEEEEEP PROOOOFOOOOOUND
"The more important the decision, the more information you need about the decision and the longer time you should take making the decision."
-Dave Ramsey
Yup!!! Great advice. Also do NOT make decisions when you are feeling stressed or emotional!!! I regret the decisions I made during those types of circumstances!!! 😢
@@galaxyglitterlatte4664 AMEEEEEEEN
You fight all the time? Did you try to get to the bottom of it? Did you try to learn skills to communicate? If not, you need to. Everyone fights. There's almost no one we could live long term and not fight with.
That, and pregnancy brings floods of hormone changes and tears. Don't give up on the relationship before both of you settle down emotionally.
My mom and bio dad broke up after they found out Mom was pregnant with me. It took 8 years for me to get a dad, which left a 10 year age gap between me and my next sibling. I look like the au pair more than their sister. For over 18 years my parents would joke about the age gap. It hurts like hell.
Do NOT force that child to grow up in a split household. It'll ruin their childhood.
They didn’t even try to make it work for their kid’s sake. Beyond narcissistic.
Why would you put a child in a relationship with parents who don't get on? That's toxic and damaging for the kid growing up in negativity.
@@IrishFrank22 You _learn_ to get along. It’s called maturity. You don’t cut it off before the kid is even born.
@@BitterComments That's immature what you just said. Better a kid is raised by two loving parents than a toxic household. Easy to know your privilege shows.
"He" not "they"
@@agatanakonieczny2213”he” is not the only one in the relationship, it takes 2 ppl, plural, “they”
He really just wanted to avoid responsibility. I have a cousin who did bring a child into the world too soon in his life, but he manned up and took responsibility. He is now raising the kid with a different woman but the kid is having a good life.
Mehhhhhh.... Where's the kid's mom? Being raised 'now' by the dad and some girlfriend. Yeah, that sounds stable.
@emmasharrod3808 yeah, two people who care for the child and are in his life consistently does sound stable, are you slow
@@emmasharrod3808 the kids mom is a drug addict and went to jail.
@@KangwithoutaKangdom The dad left him with a drug addict mom, and has only taken him 'now' shacking up with a 'a different woman', some girlfriend who very likely is transient. Very smart of you to think that the child's had a stable upbringing thus far.
The guy is a kid getting ready to be responsible for a child.... It's gonna be rough and hopefully they can all find a way to be humble
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can't stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I've tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I'm frustrated, and i don't see my life with anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can't. I don't know why I'm saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is queen stella laveaux, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I love when Dave and John teach young men how to become grown men so quick, they’re so great as leaders
"Because of some arguments you decided I want my child to have a single mom" DEEP
This boy needs to man up quickly.
Everyone acting like having 2 suffering and emotionally dead parents who hate eachother is better than 2 stable and happy parents who aren’t tossing each others salads but work well together
This guy doesn't even know what he is doing.
I love how Dave and his team thinking about their child more than they are!!
This is irresponsible he better clean up his mess. You dont need more single moms out here.
I bet anything he doesn’t have married parents or her.
I can’t imagine not having my “baby daddy” in the same house as us.
I can't imagine not being married to my baby daddy. Children need their dad as much as they need their mother.
Unwanted pregnancy is so preventable. Before conception.
I highly agree!Both are stupid people and need to take responsibility or abort if it’s still early on.Immature ignorant people shouldn’t be having babies.
And afterwards, there's abortion. Unless you believe fatherlessness is okay.
@@emmasharrod3808 I believe self control is best.
This was a very awkward call. Smh 🤦🏾♀️
Clicked as soon as I could expecting Dave to blister someone. Left satisfied.
I'm really glad Dave and John laser focused on taking care of the child 🥰
He’s thinking about himself. Now it’s all about the baby.
One of the reason to listen to Dave and his team, real advice to chew and to action. Real talk on this one.
There is a million birth control methods...Gen Z..pleaseeeee
Birth control is not 100 percent guaranteed.
My mom got pregnant with my 2nd oldest brother while she was on bc and using condoms with my father. They had lost my other brother 10 days after he was born due to a heart defect and she wasn't ready to have another one just yet but it happened anyway.
Yet men refuse to use a single one.
@@robertandkristinhall5006 right now birth control is 100 percent effective except abstinence
@@maam-yj8ph I got a vasectomy for my wife lol
@@robertandkristinhall5006OK but that’s very rare with double birth control. Less than one in a thousand.
You don't have to stay with someone just because you're having children, but the reason of just arguing a lot is not enough to be worth giving your kid such a harder life. Work it out and grow together as a couple. He's gonna break up with everyone if it's just arguing a lot.
This call is what heaven sounds like to a family lawyer
This is exactly what’s wrong with our current society 😤😔😟😕😒🤬💀😨😨😰
Dave said "Shacking Up"😆
Haven't heard that one in a while!
People, please use protection if you're not ready to have kids.
no, don't have married relations if you are not married. The only protection that works is abstinence.
❤❤❤you guys are amazing gracefully tuff thank you for the realness
Dave should have pointed out that the arguments will INCREASE once they each have new partners as the baggage and new relationships will impact everything.
Saw that title and went yikes. edit: 2:34 LOL!!! Poor kid is screwed with a dad like that.
The mom ain’t much of a winner either.
@@Rickyy_fhow? She thought she was in a committed relationship?
Dude is a young man who' still figuring things out. Give him some leeway.
@@manifest2203why are you all blaming the man for the breakup when he said it was mutual? And now he's moving to be close to the baby. What did he do wrong?
@@Detsubkrod aren’t m3n the leaders in the relationship? He should have told her he wants to make things work because they are having a baby on the way.
Man up, dude. This is pathetic.
The father is moving to be with his kid. Woman up mother.
Assuming it is his kid, yes.
When Dave slaps the desk, you know it’s going to be good
This is why there were shotgun marriages. The adults forced their kids to marry when a girl became pregnant, as misguided as they were, they knew the level of responsibility needed for the baby that was on the way.
Surprised Dave didn’t tell him how $$$ it is to maintain two households rather than one. People like this often end up broke