This is bs. Why is it all on the guy. Can she just hate you because it's her own issues and detachment from reality. What if you did everything right and got sick of being treated like garbage till you changed and started treating her like she treated you. Then when she gets a taste of her own medicine then tells you she hates you and doesn't want to be with you. Acts like it was you the whole time. Blames you while denying her own actions towards you. What if it was her that told your secrets to other people. What if it was her that called you names, put you down, talked up other guys and put them as better than you. What if it was her that shunned you when you were very sick and wasn't there for you. What if it was her that messaged a friend and talked about your marriage. What if it was her.......
I felt everything you said.....I can't do right. Then one a month she is who I married and crys and said she wishes she was like that one good day all the time. She admits that it's het and she wishes she was not angry all the time and can't help it. This channel is suck b's and feminists...as if it's the guys fault.
Wow that's exactly. My wife she can scream at me for the littlest thing and if I give her the same treatment about some small thing she did that I complain about , she is 10 times more angry to me when I do it back to her .
Blanket statements are never accurate. There are abusive women, there are cheating women. If this video doesn't fit your issue, that's fine. It is advice for a common situation.
I'm almost positive society has convinced (most) women that they are victims with no responsibility for what's happing in a marriage. I have almost lost everything trying to stay and work it out, I never feel like a man around my wife. It's been 5 years since I realized she's miserable. Five years of tiptoeing around the issues it's like trying to mend a baby bird when trying to communicate about the problems we're having, 20 seconds in and boom explosion of insults. No matter what I can not get her to talk about divorce or how to fix our marriage. It’s a shame because I married her with the intentions of loving and cherishing our marriage for life. We used to truly be in love. Once the kids got here though she completely gave herself to them in them only. She didn’t mean to give up on us I think it’s just natural behavior escalated to the point of hate.
Amen to that brother. Eight years in but the last six has been rough. My wife tells me that i am the reason for all her problems but can't explain what she means. Society has ruined women and made them feel as if they are never to blame. My marriage started out great but i fear that those days are long gone.
women naturally are in it for themselves and its normalized and taught to them as children.. they are catered to and only expect to be princess without consequences. they have u realistic expectations. and the common narrative is we as men are fuck ups and they pit societies and other females expectations and comparisons on us and it's very simple but they want to complicate things. at the end we need accept that being a husband is a replacement of their fathers and is their relationship or father figures was not a very healthy or he was not a interactive father then you gonna get her mom and her mothers example of how to interact with men. or a untamed individual and female who will use and exploit you as a extension for her gain and result.while you get minimal or nothing at the end .it never good enough there will always be someone she will compare you to .women believe the lies the serpent told eve. she had it all and access to the creator and she rather give it all up to be GOD.and she was willing to bring her husband down on that bet.and now here we are.all this advice may be what it is .bit it's to make you subjective to her and make you the one to do the changes and she still will not change .better to serve God . you have kids already so live for them and for god and forget ever having a relationship as you did. it will not be the same .the other (her) has to want it also. if not give her what she wants.or continue to be the one taking it and taking it while she emasculate you daily and rejects you. but hold yourself accountable by being the best for the greater good. live for god not for women or self gain. or love. god is love women use their bodies for love and men use love for sex .its all a wicked game .
I’ve got the same issue. Kids came along and now she’s just a mom and the wife is gone. There’s nothing I can do just sucks but I think this is really common.
If only men benefited from divorce the same way women did.... it would be a whole new ball game. If women actually had real stakes in marriage. Something to lose.
Everything you said is a double edged sword. Work to long but not enough both will vet me in trouble. Ask her questions your not trusting. Trust her than your not helpful and suportive. She sets every thing up so i am the bad guy. She wants control with no responsibility.
You literally cannot win…. Been with quite a few women. They love you but when there’s a grain of any fault like not being 6’7 shredded always available but not a hard enough worker but too busy with work but not rich enough you’re a loser
I've treated my wife like a queen and she still hates me. She blames me for everything negative that she feels. I'm not perfect, but I'm the only one trying to save this marriage and I'm constantly being run down.
My wife loved me for the first few weeks when we first got together Around the 2nd month she started out throwing anger tantrums and she also cheated on me and she had no type of remorse I always blamed for breaking my heart constantly but around our 20 year mark I finally realized it was all my fault for putting up with all her abuses towards me
My wife is a nightmare. I did things to damage my marriage but I’ve tried twice as hard to mend them. She’s done her fair share of damage as well and refuses to work with me to move past em. I’m tired of being with someone who is never satisfied and always playing the victim. She doesn’t know I’m aware that she’s talking to another man and that she’s planning to move out on my birthday next week. She’s been pretending to care about fixing us. She’s even been giving me false hope and she told our children not to tell me, and they didn’t. Part of this is my fault but...
While I wholeheartedly agree with your desire to try and help us, I can't say I agree with it. I like most of the guys watching this video have been struggling to get respect and feel wanted in my marriage. I've read various articles and watched countless videos that all boil down to the same thing. Which is, if your wife doesn't respect you, if she cheats on you, if she is hostile towards you, it's because you did something wrong. I've even seen a video saying, if you don't do things right and make her feel a certain way, she will leave you for the first guy that does. And I find it so frustrating. Women are not animals governed by their emotions and who make solely impulsive decisions based on how we made them feel. Some men are guilty of this, if they get horny they sleep with the first girl they're able to, regardless of their relationship status. Some men physically assault their partner because of something they said made them angry, yet we don't condone this behavior because we recognize it's wrong. When I see a man that behaves like this I don't justify their behavior, I don't condone it, and I classify it as a sign of emotional weakness. Someone who cannot control their emotions and let's his emotions rule his actions. So why are we justifying everything a woman does by blaming the man in the relationship. If you cheat or do something you shouldn't as a man you own up to it, so why can't it be the same when a girl does it. This is all just frustrating and I know some people will take this post the wrong way but I honestly don't care.
It's so unfair. Why even get into a relationship these days it's always our fault then we lose everything. I swear the next time I lose everything (which as you can tell with me being here, is not far) I won't be getting into another relationship just do my own cooking already, hire a maid and an escort and I'll never have to worry about my home and family being taken from me a second time.
You can only control yourself! You can't control your spouse. By making positive changes in yourself, you become the best version of yourself for YOU. So making positive changes in yourself is the best thing you can do! I would strongly advise you listen to your coach! Please don't hesitate to ask them all the questions that you have. Come back to our channel and share all that you learn! We'd love to hear from you! Blessings,
I clean and she says she never ask me to do that. I go to the store and I buy the wrong thing or get something we already have(I i ask for a list and get told she can’t make one, she needs to walk the aisles and see the stuff). I cook and I do it wrong. I am here today because we can’t afford a swimming pool and she wants to go to Florida like everyone else next week. Yeah, I quit cooking, I quit asking her if there is anything I can do to help, or if I could go to the store for her. It just got old hearing how I did it wrong. . The very smallest things, mostly things I say set her off. I think it’s real to her, has to be as angry as she gets. I ask why so angry? I am listening, what can I do to help or be a better husbandher answer is I don’t know and the things I do are classified as all the time, always. How horrible last week was, it was hell she says. Thinking......finally, I am like what? What I get is some general over head statement of how terrible it was. Look through text from the past week because I can’t think of anything almost convinced that your crazy because you have no idea what she’s talking about. The text are ok, light conversation. Oh, the one that tells you she loves you forever and always. Wait, she just told me she wants a divorce again. 0400 and here I am looking for a you tube video on marriage or googling the issues I see occurring in our marriage. Seems like a lot of other guys here. Wish you all the best......
Leave her ass and stay single. It's not worth going through again if you're young. Some women are too selfish and feel the world owes them.Or they aren't attracted to you anymore because you've changed to please he rand she's grown bored of it. All kinds of reasons, but no matter what, it's always the man's fault Unless you have an undying love for her where physical or social contact doesn't matter, you will be miserable.
Locked in college and private savings for the baby and she is still always mad at me despite me picking up the laundry amd baby duty and still I'm the the bad guy....
Your first question is absolutely valid - But when did it become acceptable for anybody to act like a child and place blame of their external stress factors on the person closest to them? I’m sorry...this is not acceptable adult behavior. Grow the f**k up. To your other points, no matter the reason it’s the man’s fault?
You should maybe have worked on the title because if husbands are coming here because our wives hate us. Then this is not good advice. Because if our wives hate us then none of this is going to work. And here’s why in most of our cases they’re not talking to us or even giving us the courtesy of trying to listen. As soon as our mouth is open they turn off.
The way my life has turned out being with my husband is below how i wanted it to be. He is content with living like this, Im not. I had a lifestyle i lived prior to him and after getting married it went down, not up like i expected it to.
Its been one and half year of our marriage, She says she's done with me now, as she always wanted somethings to happen in the first year of marriage, now the time is over and we cannot correct this as time has already passes by. 😣
My wife says I’m not fun anymore and she fell out of love with me because when I was drinking I was fun. So if I’m not an alcoholic anymore she won’t love me. I hate going out I like being at home but all she wants to do is hang out every night with her friends so how do I fix that? I been sober 14 years now do I just let her go out all the time and hope to get a few hours in with her a week. Not fair to me
I appreciate what you're trying to do, however I feel as though you may be a little out of touch. I don't care how badly the dishes are done or how much my wife spends on shopping, I came here for help and found a sickening insight to a woman's mind that I certainly hope my wife doesn't posess
Hi, I really want to Confess that All Point you mention are there. Now we both are in No Contact and Heading for Divorce, Currently she is Keeping inly Money Relationship and From past 15 Days She is making All those Things which makes me more hurt. I Really Love me wife, Our Marriage is 10 yrs Old and We have Daughter of 7 yrs. Now my wife is Asking Independent life and Asking Me to Leave her. Please please help me
She doesn't talk to me at all and when she does it's just telling me what I'm doing wrong other than that she don't even speak to me and if I say something to her all she's says is would you hush
@rickmckillip7382, Thank you for your comment. The first thing we try to teach people is how to have healthy communication with their spouse to avoid making the situation any worse. One of the main tips is to stop PUSH Behaviors. This is anything you do (or don't do) that tends to push your spouse away from you. We teach you 4 other rules you need to follow to help with this situation in our free e-book! You can download it here if interested! Free Ebook here: bit.ly/3BSuzRo We hope this helps!
My wife hates me and the first thing she said about the control is the opposite for me. My wife try’s to control me and everything I do. I try to avoid her as much as possible. She now hates my mother and brother. COVID has made it worse. I’m staying at my brothers at the moment. We have a 7 month old girl who I adore and I have not been able to spend the time with her that I want. She calls me a pathological liar because she asked me where I was one time and I was in the parking lot of hobbytown and I told her I was leaving a job because I was afraid of what she would say. Like I would be in trouble for being there. Also she tells me I’m a sociopath and people like me end up in state hospitals. I love my little girl but my wife makes my life hell. I have really got myself into a pickle :(
My wife is angry and has had me arrested for domestic battery and was then charged with a protective order from abuse. I haven’t seen my kids in 7 months.
I was not very helpful around the house so she felt she had to do everything by herself but when I did help she would say you did this wrong or that wrong so I stopped and just let her do it and now she hates me doesn't even want any talking she just takes me to work picks me up and says if I want to eat I better come now. I of course push the issues and make it worse for me
I can relate to this. Most of the behaviors my wife has said she resents me for are things I was doing because that's what I thought she wanted me to do. I had no problem doing things the way she apparently really wanted, but she didn't tell me, and had conditioned me to act another way.
Excuses excuse's, She is choosing to be unhappy and not enter reality. It is not your responsibility to make your wife happy. That's a roller coaster life that will never end.
I say false... I provide everything to her amd with a single income through military and comming home being exhausted and working again amd being tired....shes always pissed off...
So, I searched this video to see what may be happening. She does all the things your saying. Withholding sex, blaming me for unhappiness, telling me I am at fault, that I am a lazy piece of shit even though I work 60+ hrs a week. She sleeps for 12+ hrs on the weekend. I do everything else. Fun with kids, playing with the. She leaves me high and dry, with yelling and belittles me. No nothing in this video is helpful. I have tried to go to counseling for 2 years and she won't go
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it's hilarious that out of the gate, she starts making excuses for the female. men aren't always the problem! sometimes we are the ones who are suffering. we might be the ones who need emotional help. but no, even when married, men are ALWAYS alone.
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My wife and I are seperated just doesn't live with me, and I have the kids. We three children and her autistic brother who also lives in my home. She has filed for divorce and she has told me she still cares but she needs ne too work for it this time. Ive gotta put in the effort but when I try to text her or talk to her she doesnt respond . she is shutting off from me and doesnt trust me. I see all theses programs online but money is very tight and cany afford it need help now ! Does anyone have any advice or some material or videos that are free to watch to help me better understand what I need to do to fix my problems and regain her trust and talk to me again and want to be around me instead of just the kids .
Christian Barahona, Thank you for your comment. The first thing we try to teach people is how to have healthy communication with their spouse to avoid making the situation any worse. One of the main tips is to stop PUSH Behaviors. This is anything you do (or don't do) that tends to push your spouse away from you. We teach you 4 other rules you need to follow to help with this situation in our free e-book! You can download it here if interested! Free Ebook here: bit.ly/3BSuzRo We hope this helps!
Sounds like your trying to turn it around on the man like it's his fault. I do everything in the house. Everything my wife ask on top of working 10-12hr shifts. I can't even get my wife to go fix me a glass of water but she expects me to go to the store at 10:00 at n8ght to get her a snack. You know what... sometimes the woman is the problem. Some women don't have and impathy for there spouse and only want to ise them for there gain. Say something about all the shitty women out there next time. Tell them what they could do as well.
Not very helpful. Done all those things, which is kinda common sense. Its possible women are being told men are responsible for the whole of their negative experience with the patriarchy and nobody is telling them that the men in their life are as much a victim of it as they are.
Interesting that this is supposed to be helpful information for men who actually care about the women they claim/ed to love and to improve the relationship. However, after seeing all of the comments these are mostly men looking for a place to complain about the very women they claim are/were unappreciative and were never happy. There are way too many men out there that seem to believe that spending money on women or treating them like queens according to what THEY think a woman’s needs should be rather than listening to her explain her own needs and then honoring them is the answer. Because of this, she eventually gives up explaining nicely because she’s already asked you for something multiple times and your solution was to ignore it, argue with her feelings about the issue, buying her something in hopes that it’ll make up for something else,or tried to use some kind of physical touch to fix an emotional or communication problem. That’s why she eventually develops a negative attitude and stops caring about your feelings. You’ve clearly not cared enough about hers for long enough.
Hey Alan Price, so sorry to hear that you're going through this right now. However, there is still hope! One thing that we offer at Marriage Helper is our Hate Toolkit. It will teach you WHY your spouse hates you, and how you can change that hate back into love again for a better relationship. Please consider looking into it here: marriagehelper.com/hate-course/ We hope it helps!
Bingo! Same here. But he wonders why I don't want to have sex. I'm always in mommy mode and can't just enjoy myself with him unless sex is involved. Sick of it! At this point I hope he cheats because I already have one foot out the door and I would prefer his attention to be elsewhere to make it easier. Tired of being neglected.
Not necessarily. But you can only control you! So only you have the power the change the situation by controlling your own self. Become the best version of yourself. Practice SMART Contact. Avoid PUSH behaviors. Things always get better when you do these things!
Better admit that your are the fault for all the mayhem and just simp your way through another crisis or you will be another midaged divorcee in no time
Hey @alphonse2234, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
What about the men? Men does go trough stuff as well. But they never say they hate the woman. And after all that she has to work on it. If the men does not do anything. I do not think it is her fault.
This is bs. Why is it all on the guy. Can she just hate you because it's her own issues and detachment from reality. What if you did everything right and got sick of being treated like garbage till you changed and started treating her like she treated you. Then when she gets a taste of her own medicine then tells you she hates you and doesn't want to be with you. Acts like it was you the whole time. Blames you while denying her own actions towards you. What if it was her that told your secrets to other people. What if it was her that called you names, put you down, talked up other guys and put them as better than you. What if it was her that shunned you when you were very sick and wasn't there for you. What if it was her that messaged a friend and talked about your marriage. What if it was her.......
I felt everything you said.....I can't do right. Then one a month she is who I married and crys and said she wishes she was like that one good day all the time. She admits that it's het and she wishes she was not angry all the time and can't help it. This channel is suck b's and feminists...as if it's the guys fault.
Can't like this comment enough!
I related to this comment. Guys are expected to be consistently supportive superheroes; but sometimes we need a little support ourselves.
Wow that's exactly. My wife she can scream at me for the littlest thing and if I give her the same treatment about some small thing she did that I complain about , she is 10 times more angry to me when I do it back to her .
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If husband hates wife.. he is a cheater.. if wife hates men.. its his fault
well said
Literally no one says that but ok
Women hate men regardless of what you do.
Blanket statements are never accurate. There are abusive women, there are cheating women. If this video doesn't fit your issue, that's fine. It is advice for a common situation.
True
I got it, comedy. Asking a woman if you've done anything would lead to a 2 hour list of things she does but accuses you of doing.
I'm almost positive society has convinced (most) women that they are victims with no responsibility for what's happing in a marriage. I have almost lost everything trying to stay and work it out, I never feel like a man around my wife. It's been 5 years since I realized she's miserable. Five years of tiptoeing around the issues it's like trying to mend a baby bird when trying to communicate about the problems we're having, 20 seconds in and boom explosion of insults. No matter what I can not get her to talk about divorce or how to fix our marriage. It’s a shame because I married her with the intentions of loving and cherishing our marriage for life. We used to truly be in love. Once the kids got here though she completely gave herself to them in them only. She didn’t mean to give up on us I think it’s just natural behavior escalated to the point of hate.
Amen to that brother. Eight years in but the last six has been rough. My wife tells me that i am the reason for all her problems but can't explain what she means. Society has ruined women and made them feel as if they are never to blame. My marriage started out great but i fear that those days are long gone.
women naturally are in it for themselves and its normalized and taught to them as children.. they are catered to and only expect to be princess without consequences. they have u realistic expectations. and the common narrative is we as men are fuck ups and they pit societies and other females expectations and comparisons on us and it's very simple but they want to complicate things. at the end we need accept that being a husband is a replacement of their fathers and is their relationship or father figures was not a very healthy or he was not a interactive father then you gonna get her mom and her mothers example of how to interact with men. or a untamed individual and female who will use and exploit you as a extension for her gain and result.while you get minimal or nothing at the end .it never good enough there will always be someone she will compare you to .women believe the lies the serpent told eve. she had it all and access to the creator and she rather give it all up to be GOD.and she was willing to bring her husband down on that bet.and now here we are.all this advice may be what it is .bit it's to make you subjective to her and make you the one to do the changes and she still will not change .better to serve God . you have kids already so live for them and for god and forget ever having a relationship as you did. it will not be the same .the other (her) has to want it also. if not give her what she wants.or continue to be the one taking it and taking it while she emasculate you daily and rejects you. but hold yourself accountable by being the best for the greater good. live for god not for women or self gain. or love. god is love women use their bodies for love and men use love for sex .its all a wicked game .
They r all same
I’ve got the same issue. Kids came along and now she’s just a mom and the wife is gone. There’s nothing I can do just sucks but I think this is really common.
Tell her you’re considering infidelity. If she freaks out maybe you will get her attention. If she doesn’t she’s probably already cheating on you.
She is literally behaving like your question. She withholds everything from me. Yet i am to listen and be patient….
Totally clueless questions. FYI her reasons are all the husband’s fault.
There is an entire video dedicated to the wife is wrong. There is one for each role........
Lol..that's the way they want it to be these days.
If only men benefited from divorce the same way women did.... it would be a whole new ball game. If women actually had real stakes in marriage. Something to lose.
I believe men can get the same benefits as women used to. Ask a lawyer.
I received very little. Not all women benefit. Some are lucky to even be able to leave. Marriage is JUST AS risky for women.
Everything you said is a double edged sword. Work to long but not enough both will vet me in trouble. Ask her questions your not trusting. Trust her than your not helpful and suportive. She sets every thing up so i am the bad guy. She wants control with no responsibility.
I feel you brother. I'm glad someone can relate but it's unfortunate we're in this situation
You literally cannot win…. Been with quite a few women. They love you but when there’s a grain of any fault like not being 6’7 shredded always available but not a hard enough worker but too busy with work but not rich enough you’re a loser
I've treated my wife like a queen and she still hates me. She blames me for everything negative that she feels. I'm not perfect, but I'm the only one trying to save this marriage and I'm constantly being run down.
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My wife loved me for the first few weeks when we first got together Around the 2nd month she started out throwing anger tantrums and she also cheated on me and she had no type of remorse I always blamed for breaking my heart constantly but around our 20 year mark I finally realized it was all my fault for putting up with all her abuses towards me
When a woman cheats it’s the end. No comeback, get out
"don't defend yourself". Cool, thanks for that.
Hahahahaha
This describes my situation totally.
For the first time I feel understood.
My wife is a nightmare. I did things to damage my marriage but I’ve tried twice as hard to mend them. She’s done her fair share of damage as well and refuses to work with me to move past em. I’m tired of being with someone who is never satisfied and always playing the victim. She doesn’t know I’m aware that she’s talking to another man and that she’s planning to move out on my birthday next week. She’s been pretending to care about fixing us. She’s even been giving me false hope and she told our children not to tell me, and they didn’t. Part of this is my fault but...
Dang, are you okay now?
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My wife hates me... and apparently it's my fault lol
Be accountable for your own actions.
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Seriously, it WILL always be.
I can resonate with that, lol... Thanks for the laugh
While I wholeheartedly agree with your desire to try and help us, I can't say I agree with it. I like most of the guys watching this video have been struggling to get respect and feel wanted in my marriage. I've read various articles and watched countless videos that all boil down to the same thing. Which is, if your wife doesn't respect you, if she cheats on you, if she is hostile towards you, it's because you did something wrong. I've even seen a video saying, if you don't do things right and make her feel a certain way, she will leave you for the first guy that does. And I find it so frustrating. Women are not animals governed by their emotions and who make solely impulsive decisions based on how we made them feel. Some men are guilty of this, if they get horny they sleep with the first girl they're able to, regardless of their relationship status. Some men physically assault their partner because of something they said made them angry, yet we don't condone this behavior because we recognize it's wrong. When I see a man that behaves like this I don't justify their behavior, I don't condone it, and I classify it as a sign of emotional weakness. Someone who cannot control their emotions and let's his emotions rule his actions. So why are we justifying everything a woman does by blaming the man in the relationship. If you cheat or do something you shouldn't as a man you own up to it, so why can't it be the same when a girl does it. This is all just frustrating and I know some people will take this post the wrong way but I honestly don't care.
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I agree whole heartedly
It's so unfair. Why even get into a relationship these days it's always our fault then we lose everything. I swear the next time I lose everything (which as you can tell with me being here, is not far) I won't be getting into another relationship just do my own cooking already, hire a maid and an escort and I'll never have to worry about my home and family being taken from me a second time.
As usual! It’s ALWAYS the guys fault!
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They resent you for being happy when everything makes them unhappy after a certain age.
I tried the coach and he told me you either going to have to change something or continue living the way it is
You can only control yourself! You can't control your spouse. By making positive changes in yourself, you become the best version of yourself for YOU. So making positive changes in yourself is the best thing you can do! I would strongly advise you listen to your coach! Please don't hesitate to ask them all the questions that you have. Come back to our channel and share all that you learn! We'd love to hear from you! Blessings,
I clean and she says she never ask me to do that. I go to the store and I buy the wrong thing or get something we already have(I i ask for a list and get told she can’t make one, she needs to walk the aisles and see the stuff). I cook and I do it wrong. I am here today because we can’t afford a swimming pool and she wants to go to Florida like everyone else next week. Yeah, I quit cooking, I quit asking her if there is anything I can do to help, or if I could go to the store for her. It just got old hearing how I did it wrong. . The very smallest things, mostly things I say set her off. I think it’s real to her, has to be as angry as she gets. I ask why so angry? I am listening, what can I do to help or be a better husbandher answer is I don’t know and the things I do are classified as all the time, always. How horrible last week was, it was hell she says. Thinking......finally, I am like what? What I get is some general over head statement of how terrible it was. Look through text from the past week because I can’t think of anything almost convinced that your crazy because you have no idea what she’s talking about. The text are ok, light conversation. Oh, the one that tells you she loves you forever and always. Wait, she just told me she wants a divorce again. 0400 and here I am looking for a you tube video on marriage or googling the issues I see occurring in our marriage. Seems like a lot of other guys here. Wish you all the best......
Hmm. So, my wife hates me, and the answer to that is for me to act like an adult, in order to coax her into wanting to act like an adult.
I did all that and was all the good example this video describes, but I’m still regarded as a butler dad in our family 🥲
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Walking wallet. Cut off the supply
Leave her ass and stay single. It's not worth going through again if you're young. Some women are too selfish and feel the world owes them.Or they aren't attracted to you anymore because you've changed to please he rand she's grown bored of it. All kinds of reasons, but no matter what, it's always the man's fault Unless you have an undying love for her where physical or social contact doesn't matter, you will be miserable.
2:46 that's how my wife is toward me and that's how I feel towards her. I resent her so much.
Locked in college and private savings for the baby and she is still always mad at me despite me picking up the laundry amd baby duty and still I'm the the bad guy....
Your first question is absolutely valid - But when did it become acceptable for anybody to act like a child and place blame of their external stress factors on the person closest to them? I’m sorry...this is not acceptable adult behavior. Grow the f**k up.
To your other points, no matter the reason it’s the man’s fault?
You need to watch the video again.
My wife hates me and she’s in denial
Lawd help! Peace!
You should maybe have worked on the title because if husbands are coming here because our wives hate us. Then this is not good advice. Because if our wives hate us then none of this is going to work. And here’s why in most of our cases they’re not talking to us or even giving us the courtesy of trying to listen. As soon as our mouth is open they turn off.
Too true, We will always be wrong because we are Men. We are the enemy until they invite us to be the hero. Not fair play.
Yeah, God forbid its ever the woman's fault!
Yes she has been this way for quite some time and when I ve asked her. Becomes very defensive and "will" not communicate and shut down.
This seems like it could totally accurate, if the roles were reversed.
I always plays these videos in front of her to piss her off lol
I was searching up why does my Wi-Fi of rowdy keep on disconnecting then I somehow got here
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The way my life has turned out being with my husband is below how i wanted it to be. He is content with living like this, Im not. I had a lifestyle i lived prior to him and after getting married it went down, not up like i expected it to.
Stop playing the blame game and take accountability for solving the problem. If you can both do that then you can overcome most things.
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Its been one and half year of our marriage, She says she's done with me now, as she always wanted somethings to happen in the first year of marriage, now the time is over and we cannot correct this as time has already passes by.
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My wife says I’m not fun anymore and she fell out of love with me because when I was drinking I was fun. So if I’m not an alcoholic anymore she won’t love me. I hate going out I like being at home but all she wants to do is hang out every night with her friends so how do I fix that? I been sober 14 years now do I just let her go out all the time and hope to get a few hours in with her a week. Not fair to me
I appreciate what you're trying to do, however I feel as though you may be a little out of touch. I don't care how badly the dishes are done or how much my wife spends on shopping, I came here for help and found a sickening insight to a woman's mind that I certainly hope my wife doesn't posess
Don't criticize her spending habits even if she is spending the house payment at the Ulta store.
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This is hot garbage. Just pathetic bashing of men and an insane lack of accountability.
One word........ M E N O P A U S E !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My wife hates my guts. Nothing is ever good enough. She has turned our son against me. I'm stuck here, suffering silently, with nowhere to go.
Hi,
I really want to Confess that All Point you mention are there. Now we both are in No Contact and Heading for Divorce, Currently she is Keeping inly Money Relationship and From past 15 Days She is making All those Things which makes me more hurt.
I Really Love me wife, Our Marriage is 10 yrs Old and We have Daughter of 7 yrs. Now my wife is Asking Independent life and Asking Me to Leave her.
Please please help me
She doesn't talk to me at all and when she does it's just telling me what I'm doing wrong other than that she don't even speak to me and if I say something to her all she's says is would you hush
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If your wife hates you and disrespects you. Divorce her right away. She is most definitely cheating on you
My wife hates me and the first thing she said about the control is the opposite for me. My wife try’s to control me and everything I do. I try to avoid her as much as possible. She now hates my mother and brother. COVID has made it worse. I’m staying at my brothers at the moment. We have a 7 month old girl who I adore and I have not been able to spend the time with her that I want. She calls me a pathological liar because she asked me where I was one time and I was in the parking lot of hobbytown and I told her I was leaving a job because I was afraid of what she would say. Like I would be in trouble for being there. Also she tells me I’m a sociopath and people like me end up in state hospitals. I love my little girl but my wife makes my life hell. I have really got myself into a pickle :(
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Best thing you can do is have a conversation with your wife..haha!! In what world is that possible so I can move there with her.
Why should I change myself for someone who doesn't care about me
My wife is angry and has had me arrested for domestic battery and was then charged with a protective order from abuse. I haven’t seen my kids in 7 months.
Sure he can help your relationship
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Resentment, Resentment, Resentment
So far all I've heard is, man wrong, wife right. This was a little one sided....
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I was not very helpful around the house so she felt she had to do everything by herself but when I did help she would say you did this wrong or that wrong so I stopped and just let her do it and now she hates me doesn't even want any talking she just takes me to work picks me up and says if I want to eat I better come now. I of course push the issues and make it worse for me
You and my husband is similar.and your wife and me are the same..he broke up with me.he got tired of me becuase of mynagging..😭
I can relate to this. Most of the behaviors my wife has said she resents me for are things I was doing because that's what I thought she wanted me to do. I had no problem doing things the way she apparently really wanted, but she didn't tell me, and had conditioned me to act another way.
Excuses excuse's, She is choosing to be unhappy and not enter reality. It is not your responsibility to make your wife happy. That's a roller coaster life that will never end.
I say false... I provide everything to her amd with a single income through military and comming home being exhausted and working again amd being tired....shes always pissed off...
My wife hates me and I have done so much to accommodate her and it just gets worse
And I’m just lost now trying so much but it’s all not enough for her no matter what
I am at my end
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So, I searched this video to see what may be happening. She does all the things your saying. Withholding sex, blaming me for unhappiness, telling me I am at fault, that I am a lazy piece of shit even though I work 60+ hrs a week. She sleeps for 12+ hrs on the weekend. I do everything else. Fun with kids, playing with the. She leaves me high and dry, with yelling and belittles me. No nothing in this video is helpful. I have tried to go to counseling for 2 years and she won't go
awesome vid
My actions and lying are y she hates me I regret it every day and want to fix things but I'm just a liar to her how do I come back from this
You go forward. She's not an appendage. Be good to yourself if she can't see that and move on.
Sometimes, you just marry the wrong person.
Everything you say will make her mad. Egg shells daily
So everything we do is the problem got it
my wife says my food is shit and she throws up, any help?
AddeDontRage don’t cool beets.
Take a cooking class? 🤣🙈 Jokes aside, this is not an issue per se; try to speak with her and see what is the root cause for such a childish behaviour
You are amazing
I got injured and my wife lost interest in me. What do I do?
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No she’s been withholding it from me.
it's hilarious that out of the gate, she starts making excuses for the female. men aren't always the problem! sometimes we are the ones who are suffering. we might be the ones who need emotional help. but no, even when married, men are ALWAYS alone.
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How can I get her to leave ur side chick ? She is cheating and she doesn’t know
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When I tell he wife I want to be supportive and ask how she true her it's not her job to babysit me
My wife and I are seperated just doesn't live with me, and I have the kids. We three children and her autistic brother who also lives in my home. She has filed for divorce and she has told me she still cares but she needs ne too work for it this time. Ive gotta put in the effort but when I try to text her or talk to her she doesnt respond . she is shutting off from me and doesnt trust me. I see all theses programs online but money is very tight and cany afford it need help now ! Does anyone have any advice or some material or videos that are free to watch to help me better understand what I need to do to fix my problems and regain her trust and talk to me again and want to be around me instead of just the kids .
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Menopause. And she don't want help.She discussed it with her family that every is my fault.
What does it mean when she anser my questions ???
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Sounds like your trying to turn it around on the man like it's his fault. I do everything in the house. Everything my wife ask on top of working 10-12hr shifts. I can't even get my wife to go fix me a glass of water but she expects me to go to the store at 10:00 at n8ght to get her a snack. You know what... sometimes the woman is the problem. Some women don't have and impathy for there spouse and only want to ise them for there gain. Say something about all the shitty women out there next time. Tell them what they could do as well.
My wife hates me after 30 years of marriage.
Yore quite good a victim blaming. It's totally cool to do to men.
The victim being the man....
You are to the T describing my wife.
😂 I hate my wife. How can I get her to stop loving me? I'm serious. I actually hate her.
“Have you been treating your wife more like a child than an equal?”
… yikes.
Got it….enable whatever poor behavior she exhibits. 👍
So don’t be upset that she’s spending money we don’t have for rent but work less to spend more time with her (whilst spending money) ?
She hates you because you are not her first choice. You didn’t do anything wrong.
That’s really deep! Interesting! Peace!
Not very helpful. Done all those things, which is kinda common sense.
Its possible women are being told men are responsible for the whole of their negative experience with the patriarchy and nobody is telling them that the men in their life are as much a victim of it as they are.
Did she site shes overworked and you’re overworked both as a reason that shes mad..
I don’t have to guess why. She hates me because I’m a double amputee
Women are from different planet
Cause that’s ultimately what she wants?
Feminist red flags here and there.
Interesting that this is supposed to be helpful information for men who actually care about the women they claim/ed to love and to improve the relationship. However, after seeing all of the comments these are mostly men looking for a place to complain about the very women they claim are/were unappreciative and were never happy. There are way too many men out there that seem to believe that spending money on women or treating them like queens according to what THEY think a woman’s needs should be rather than listening to her explain her own needs and then honoring them is the answer. Because of this, she eventually gives up explaining nicely because she’s already asked you for something multiple times and your solution was to ignore it, argue with her feelings about the issue, buying her something in hopes that it’ll make up for something else,or tried to use some kind of physical touch to fix an emotional or communication problem. That’s why she eventually develops a negative attitude and stops caring about your feelings. You’ve clearly not cared enough about hers for long enough.
It's like you were a fly on the wall listening to everything.
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Can't change hate back into love period. It's done!! Chemicals in the brain don't suddenly start releasing lust or love hormones again. It's done
yes
Wheres Rich Vos?
Yes, time to pack your bags.
My spouse told me she resent me, imagine if I have affair and what? Kill me? Bullshit we men are not mind reader
I'm starting to think she hates me
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I’m distant because no matter how much I need him to do certain things he wont. He ignores my needs. Haven’t had a date night in almost a year.
Bingo! Same here. But he wonders why I don't want to have sex. I'm always in mommy mode and can't just enjoy myself with him unless sex is involved. Sick of it! At this point I hope he cheats because I already have one foot out the door and I would prefer his attention to be elsewhere to make it easier. Tired of being neglected.
Got it, so it's the guys fault and he's not doing enough.
Not necessarily. But you can only control you! So only you have the power the change the situation by controlling your own self. Become the best version of yourself. Practice SMART Contact. Avoid PUSH behaviors. Things always get better when you do these things!
Summary: everything is the mans fault.
Yeah thanks lady.
Better admit that your are the fault for all the mayhem and just simp your way through another crisis or you will be another midaged divorcee in no time
That’s fine but she’s moved out and won’t speak ?
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No hope unfortunately
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What about the men? Men does go trough stuff as well. But they never say they hate the woman. And after all that she has to work on it.
If the men does not do anything. I do not think it is her fault.