I empathize with this man. I used to be a compulsive liar too up until my mid 20s. This was the time I had low self confidence and unconsciously building a false reality to make up for what I lack. After years of self reflection and read lots of books, I became alot more self aware and in that rebuild the confidence I needed to face the world head-on. You can do it. Self awareness is the first step!
@@fa39de no specific books that i like. but there are authors that i admire. i.e jordan peterson, robert greene, Malcolm Gladwell. dont stick to a few though. expand and continuously look to listen to other's perspectives.
I love listening to calls like this. This man might be amazed by how many people out here are, too, compulsive liars! I struggled with it throughout my teens and twenties… This show’s clips have become indescribably valuable to me.
I struggle with being a compulsive liar, I lie about very small things I should’t lie. It’s hard, and I’m losing people I love deeply in my life because of that. Most recently my girlfriend (soul mate), I don’t even know how to get help. I know that I need to improve, but don’t know where to start.
I also feel the same way and it's also hard to explain to others as to why you lie because you just lie and it really eats you up inside because you don't know what to do.
I resonate i created large rifts with my partner who i considered my soul mate / forever love because of my lying and I feel so destroyed and disgusted with it so much , i never had malice or intention but its just an effect of my upbringing and i need to change but it also feels pointless because is it to late? I pushed my loved ones so far that maybe isolating is whats best for everyone. Rambling
Trust is a very hard thing to earn back. And the collateral damage done is massive. People, even in families walk away and say "no more" and they don't come back.
Begin by tell her the truth, you have to walk in shame and let go of ego first. Then you’ll be able to move forward. Doesn’t mean you’ll get her or anyone else back but it’s the beginning to stop.
A while back I heard of a study done that said the average person who dominates conversations are liars 90% of the time. Don't remember what study or if it's true just thought it was telling.
I’ve noticed that in people. I know two guys that would do this all of the time. They both had two things in common, they both experienced trauma, and both were extremely insecure. Sad really, but also aggravating getting lied to, even about stupid stuff!
I’ve worked with a bloke on and off as freelancers for a while and we have very similar backgrounds . He is a generous and fairly kind man most of the time with a lovely family but he lies all the time , even about jobs that we were on together changing what really happened to his version of events . When we were employees at a company before we went freelance he was even disciplined for telling lies when it affected the Heath and safety of others and I went to the hearing with him as support and he even lied about what was said there to me who heard every word . I think the caller is very brave for admitting he has a problem and hope he chooses an honest path .
This truly helped me out so much. I’ve made stories to seem like a better person. I can never hold up to them. I treat myself negatively and cheated on my girlfriend and though out our pregnancy and was addicted to drugs. I didn’t use her I love her. Im in a cycle of Lies. I finally had the balls to confess to my closest friend about my whole situation. Today I’m going to tell her I need to talk. It might be too late. But I am no longer going to be dishonest. Even when I would come clean to her about my lies i constantly make new ones. Thank you Doctor John You and Christopher flipped a switch today.
I actually, not proud but im 19 ive lied alot to make myself better, got wrapped up in a bad situation in High-school, over a girl and trying to get this guy to fight me so i extended a lie, that i thought was true. But yesterday i had a drink with a friend and met up with someone i use to go to High-school with got a little tipsy and memories and regrets came coming back. I got this guy i was go at snap, and apologized in the morning when i got sober, i know he dont like me now. But he deserved a apology from the heart and soul and im working on bettering myself and coming clean. Its really difficult to keep up lies and you become super aware of it, and i drew the line yesterday. What i realized is most of the other lies where from being hard on myself feeling worthless and putting the apperance that i was somebody else, to impress people. I've committed to not lying anymore and doing better for now on thank you for this video.
Lying starts in kid age to dodge getting in trouble..and some parents not correcting lies they told..so living becomes a way of life ..they lie...easy like they breathe..mine never apologized for lies ..they believe the lies they tell.
Degrees are not the end all…go to trade school and make $125,000.00 a year with insurance and benefits. Don’t be forced to pretend you are not who or what you are.
Trade schools is the way: mechanics, electricians, home builders, plumbers - choice of many other fields and lack of these people - you will always have plenty of work and be financially well off.
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
My life got a lot better when I dropped out of college and went to a trade school. It wasn't the work it was the professors ideology they were shoving down my throat.
First is there a wife that will wait till the weekend to found out what her husband what to talk about? Second how many people feel like they have a person they can trust?
Best advise... very wise and also people need more values and ethics in their lifes, they need God in their heart to guide them through the right path, it also it takes courage and determitation to change.
First minute of this call…”it made me a compulsive liar”, no my friend, you make the choice to lie. You need to take ownership of your choices. Good for you for wanting to change and good luck and remember to ALWAYS take true ownership and don’t explain your choices away. Addicts and abusers often Minimize their choices like “the stress of my job makes me drink” or “she nagged at me and I can’t take it and snap”. Take full accountability. Good luck!
I relate to him. Always felt like I had to perform well to be valued and the inability to meet that standard resulted in some white lies or workarounds when speaking about my abilities or knowledge. I wouldn’t say I was a compulsive liar but I would definitely fabricate a bit like “I think I did well on that test” or shy away when people talk about their high grades and mine is lower.
I wish i can stop lying😢i wish i can stop ignoring others, i wish i can stop being toxic,i wish i can be kind to animals i will change to a nicer and kinder person
Wow the Ramsey logo is the first thing you see in these new videos.. doesn't Ramsey have enough money already? I know this is all Dr John and his show but why does Ramsey having to put his stamp on it? Bottom right corner
These people ate dangerous, stay clear. Iworked with a guy who lied about his 3y.o dying and it went on for over a year untill it all unralved including lying about his own health issues. Proper phyco stuff
Well…at least he is honest about being a compulsive liar…that’s a start
He's lying
I empathize with this man.
I used to be a compulsive liar too up until my mid 20s. This was the time I had low self confidence and unconsciously building a false reality to make up for what I lack.
After years of self reflection and read lots of books, I became alot more self aware and in that rebuild the confidence I needed to face the world head-on.
You can do it. Self awareness is the first step!
Hello I can connect you to someone who helped you get my ex back within 48hours
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What books did you read ?
@@fa39de no specific books that i like. but there are authors that i admire. i.e jordan peterson, robert greene, Malcolm Gladwell. dont stick to a few though. expand and continuously look to listen to other's perspectives.
I’m compulsive liar but I just find it fun lol
I love listening to calls like this. This man might be amazed by how many people out here are, too, compulsive liars! I struggled with it throughout my teens and twenties…
This show’s clips have become indescribably valuable to me.
He’s honest about being dishonest.
"not that I lived it, I'm just saying" 👀 😂
I struggle with being a compulsive liar, I lie about very small things I should’t lie. It’s hard, and I’m losing people I love deeply in my life because of that. Most recently my girlfriend (soul mate), I don’t even know how to get help. I know that I need to improve, but don’t know where to start.
I also feel the same way and it's also hard to explain to others as to why you lie because you just lie and it really eats you up inside because you don't know what to do.
I resonate i created large rifts with my partner who i considered my soul mate / forever love because of my lying and I feel so destroyed and disgusted with it so much , i never had malice or intention but its just an effect of my upbringing and i need to change but it also feels pointless because is it to late? I pushed my loved ones so far that maybe isolating is whats best for everyone. Rambling
Trust is a very hard thing to earn back. And the collateral damage done is massive. People, even in families walk away and say "no more" and they don't come back.
Begin by tell her the truth, you have to walk in shame and let go of ego first. Then you’ll be able to move forward. Doesn’t mean you’ll get her or anyone else back but it’s the beginning to stop.
Go see a doctor. They'll give you list of consulars.
His wife wants him to have a degree.
He shouldn’t be forced to do that.
Plenty of people are successful without one.
A while back I heard of a study done that said the average person who dominates conversations are liars 90% of the time. Don't remember what study or if it's true just thought it was telling.
I’ve noticed that in people. I know two guys that would do this all of the time. They both had two things in common, they both experienced trauma, and both were extremely insecure. Sad really, but also aggravating getting lied to, even about stupid stuff!
I dont buy that. Just because someone likes to talk doesn't make them a liar. Its human nature to want attention.
@worstcaseofcrabsever5510 There's a difference between liking to talk and dominating every single conversation.
I’ve worked with a bloke on and off as freelancers for a while and we have very similar backgrounds . He is a generous and fairly kind man most of the time with a lovely family but he lies all the time , even about jobs that we were on together changing what really happened to his version of events .
When we were employees at a company before we went freelance he was even disciplined for telling lies when it affected the Heath and safety of others and I went to the hearing with him as support and he even lied about what was said there to me who heard every word .
I think the caller is very brave for admitting he has a problem and hope he chooses an honest path .
This truly helped me out so much. I’ve made stories to seem like a better person. I can never hold up to them. I treat myself negatively and cheated on my girlfriend and though out our pregnancy and was addicted to drugs. I didn’t use her I love her. Im in a cycle of Lies. I finally had the balls to confess to my closest friend about my whole situation. Today I’m going to tell her I need to talk. It might be too late. But I am no longer going to be dishonest. Even when I would come clean to her about my lies i constantly make new ones. Thank you Doctor John You and Christopher flipped a switch today.
can i get an update on what happened?
I actually, not proud but im 19 ive lied alot to make myself better, got wrapped up in a bad situation in High-school, over a girl and trying to get this guy to fight me so i extended a lie, that i thought was true.
But yesterday i had a drink with a friend and met up with someone i use to go to High-school with got a little tipsy and memories and regrets came coming back. I got this guy i was go at snap, and apologized in the morning when i got sober, i know he dont like me now. But he deserved a apology from the heart and soul and im working on bettering myself and coming clean. Its really difficult to keep up lies and you become super aware of it, and i drew the line yesterday. What i realized is most of the other lies where from being hard on myself feeling worthless and putting the apperance that i was somebody else, to impress people. I've committed to not lying anymore and doing better for now on thank you for this video.
Lying starts in kid age to dodge getting in trouble..and some parents not correcting lies they told..so living becomes a way of life ..they lie...easy like they breathe..mine never apologized for lies ..they believe the lies they tell.
He might be lying about being a compulsive liar. But, if that’s the case, then he’s telling the truth. 🧐.
Somebody got a bigger desk.... happy for John!
Thank you. This was so spot on. It was as if you were talking to me. I really didn't know what was going on and this summed it up.
Degrees are not the end all…go to trade school and make $125,000.00 a year with insurance and benefits. Don’t be forced to pretend you are not who or what you are.
Trade schools is the way: mechanics, electricians, home builders, plumbers - choice of many other fields and lack of these people - you will always have plenty of work and be financially well off.
What job is this?
Glad I went to trade school but what trade makes $125k?
At least he wants to make changes after being a liar 🤥 for a long time
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Well he’ll never be a politician
Lol yup he’s too honest
My life got a lot better when I dropped out of college and went to a trade school. It wasn't the work it was the professors ideology they were shoving down my throat.
First is there a wife that will wait till the weekend to found out what her husband what to talk about?
Second how many people feel like they have a person they can trust?
I can agree but both of those are emotional uncomfortable things which no one cares about except the one who's uncomfortable.
What if he’s lying about his compulsive lying 🤭
Then he's still a compulsive liar
😳🤭.
Can you be a compulsive liar about being a compulsive liar?🤨
Best advise... very wise and also people need more values and ethics in their lifes, they need God in their heart to guide them through the right path, it also it takes courage and determitation to change.
First minute of this call…”it made me a compulsive liar”, no my friend, you make the choice to lie. You need to take ownership of your choices. Good for you for wanting to change and good luck and remember to ALWAYS take true ownership and don’t explain your choices away. Addicts and abusers often Minimize their choices like “the stress of my job makes me drink” or “she nagged at me and I can’t take it and snap”. Take full accountability. Good luck!
I relate to him. Always felt like I had to perform well to be valued and the inability to meet that standard resulted in some white lies or workarounds when speaking about my abilities or knowledge. I wouldn’t say I was a compulsive liar but I would definitely fabricate a bit like “I think I did well on that test” or shy away when people talk about their high grades and mine is lower.
Needed this this morning
This is a new one.
I wish i can stop lying😢i wish i can stop ignoring others, i wish i can stop being toxic,i wish i can be kind to animals i will change to a nicer and kinder person
Is that true? Or is the fear of consequences channeled into feelings of avoidance towards your lying.
My ex boyfriend as a pathological liar. But he didn’t want to admit thet he has a problem. This guy here at least wants to improve. I hope so
Dr- Have you ever cheated?
Caller- One line I've never crossed. Me- Hmm..lie?
It’s pretty scary to live like this
Thanks for sharing this Doctor John.
I see dr D's channel numbers are growing. Maybe they will give him another studio upgrade when that happens. Like AO or Rachel.
I got help from someone, he was the one only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband to me and he seve and solve my relationship problem
Compulsive lying + addiction is a nasty fucking combo.
He needs to go see a consular and figure out why he does it (mostly insecurities) and get coping skills.
Wow the Ramsey logo is the first thing you see in these new videos.. doesn't Ramsey have enough money already? I know this is all Dr John and his show but why does Ramsey having to put his stamp on it? Bottom right corner
Becouse I have no life, I have no job, I have no frieds, I have no girlfriend, I have nothing and I have to lie so others can have any respekt for me.
What if he’s lying about being a compulsive liar, so he’s not actually a liar 🤔😂
Do you habe any suggestions how to deal with a sisster who is a compulsive liar?
this whole call was actually a lie...
Then he’s telling the truth.
UH MY DAD IS NAMED CHRISTOPHER IN BUTTE MONTANA LIKE A FEW YEARS AGO?!!
he dosnt even have a wife lmao
10 bucks says he's lying
I don't know what the truth is anymore
Jesus is the way the truth and the life.
Takes some serious reflection. Self deception is a helluva drug if executed.
Understand if you can’t learn to take the suck and vulnerability of telling the truth you won’t stop lying.
Dr Jon,
Do you have an email that I can contact you?
FORTE means LOUD.
These people ate dangerous, stay clear. Iworked with a guy who lied about his 3y.o dying and it went on for over a year untill it all unralved including lying about his own health issues. Proper phyco stuff
Just stop lying bro
Looks like the same shirt that he had on yesterday. I guess they record more than one show a day.
They upload the entire episode as a video, and then split it up the entire episode into individual calls and make each one a video.
Yes they take 3-4 calls per episode. Each call is about a different topic so they split them into different videos.
I expected this to be a female caller...
@9INE PLANETS Good Point!