Thank you all for the love and support 💕 it’s overwhelming how many people have similar experiences and it only indicates how prevalent this problem still is today. I love you all, you make this community the way it is and I can’t thank you enough for that. But please do not go to me for help/advice about your own experience! I don’t mind reading your stories obviously but I’m not a professional, I’m a 19 year old college student and please go to the links in the description or talk to a professional over the phone. They are much better at handling questions and just being a person who will listen to you (from my experience at least), and it’s anonymous. I’m not comfortable giving too much advice or telling you how you should feel about YOUR own experience. You know your story, no one should tell you how to feel, you know your feelings best. Hope that all makes sense.
Frederic Chen omg I love u u are so strong and stay safe I just watched ur video and I have not gone through sexual harassment but abused by dad and till now he hits me I can’t do anything
Sex Ed is mandatory in my country but I didn’t do it (edit: I didn’t do sex Ed because they were only showing straight sex and with me being a gay man i wanted to vomit. So I just annoyed the teacher so he ended up sending me out.)
Where I live it's mandatory to teach sex ed and everything related to it including the bad. And I am so thank full that the teacher didn't separate boys and girls so we all learned equally.
You can tell he's uncomfortable about talking about this because he's barley looking at the camera and that's ok. This is not joke and the fact that he's telling us means a lot. 🥺😭
i was also sexually assaulted at around the same age, by someone who’s the same sex as me. and they were also my next door neighbor or “friend”. we’re all here for you, and thank you for speaking out about this, it’s so important, i know i felt alone when it happened but know you’re not alone ♥️
Becca Bibeau the same thing happened to me, but it was my same sex cousin who did it and she was 12-14 I was 7-9(it happened on and off for years w/o me telling anyone by I didnt know it was wrong. My little cousin stayed with us for a while during that so I think I’m going to reach out to her)
No baby sexual assault is a big thing don't EVER think that this is miniscule to what's happening around the world so glad you were able to talk about this so much love ❤️❤️❤️
Facts people need to hear MEN CAN GET SEXUALLY ASSAULTED WOMEN DO NOT “ASK FOR IT” WITH THEIR CLOTHING MEN DO NOT ALWAYS “WANT IT” EVERYONE NEEDS TO STAY SAFE AND LEARN SELF-DEFENSE GOING TO THERAPY DOES NOT MAKE YOU “WEAK”
Sexual Assault is horrible either way, but these sentences need to be taught in school. Boys do not “always want it” Girls are not “asking for it” because of their clothing. (Edit: So disgusting that people think its okay to let this shit be unnoticed. Thank you for telling your story, Frederic. It’s sad to think that these people could still be out there, traumatizing other innocent people . You deserve the right to speak out, anyone, and I’m proud oof you for overcoming it.)
I hate how schools don’t teach us this instead, they give out detentions or send girls home for wearing a top that shows their shoulders?! Because it’s too _revealing_ . Schools need to teach us things that we actually need to know in life
Rachael Phillipson James Yes. I’m lucky enough to have an amazing mom, if I got sent home for showing my shoulders because it’s to “revealing" Ma’am would call the school and start a verbal fight.
Idk I think where I live (England) most schools do in a weekly lesson that we call PSHE. We learn bout drugs, abuse, sexual assault, alcohol, addiction etc. And I think that it's like legally required here.
Okay, honey. That last one that happened in college is rape. He forced you to have sex with him. That’s rape. No question about it. Edit; Thanks for commenting about the “h o n e y” part. Honestly I didn’t mean for it to come out in a rude way but i edited it because i don’t want it to come off like i’m treating him like a idiot. I’m so sorry if it came off that way!
do NOT "h o n e y" him in that way, it's condescending and acting like you're treating him like an idiot. please take that off, it's extremely rude when talking about something like this. i understand if you didn't mean to come off that way but it immediately does..
I remember when I talked to my mom about this and she said "if someone would've assaulted you I'd kill them" thanks mom you're not the type of parent that just says get over it
My parents were looking for adopting a kid and my dad didn’t get on there at all. One scenario was that I was being molested by some dude in the house (thanks adoption people) and apparently the ‘correct’ thing to do was ‘remove the child and ask the man to stand in another room while you call the police’. My dad said he would have beat the man to death. My mum and dad ended up being kicked off the coarse and I am still an only child to this day.
My mom said the same thing. I was sa'd when I was about 9 by a friend who was a year older than me. I still haven't told anyone bc I don't want then to see me differently. Also I'm rly uncomfortable touching ppl now but i don't wanna tell them
PSA: Sexual assault is an insanely difficult thing to go through. Everyone has different reactions, journeys and ways of dealing with their experiences. Please don't feel like your assault is invalid in any way. Please don't ever feel that the way you respond makes it less serious or less important. You are valid, your experience is valid and no one is ever to blame but the assaulter. Also, if you need to talk to someone please seek out help from the many hotlines available or someone you trust deeply. Much love
It's so nice to hear someone say that the only one at fault is the assulter. I question my sexual assault so often that I'm the one to blame and other people have told me that it's my fault. Thank you for saying that!
@@savvannaa I know how you feel, i have gone through the same thing from my dad and family and honestly i still don't evening know how to feel because of all that. Like i don't know what i feel from it. I don't even know if what i feel is tramua or if that is from something else.
@Savanna Jean @Janus Sanders It's so sad that as a survivor of assault you not only have to deal with all the trauma. On top of that people will always find ways to blame you. I understand that it can be hard but it's important to shut that shit down. You are never at fault. What you wear, what time of night it is, where you're walking, whether you trusted your assaulter. None of those things was the catalyst for what happened. Its the evil people that commit these crimes and nothing else. Stay strong. I care about you and I believe you
Y’all are absolutely right. My brain blocked out most of what happened. What happened to me was done on multiple occasions for a few years (what I believe to be from ages 6-10). It was bad. I know who did it to me and I remember just a few of the overall encounters. My brain had already blocked out what happened when I was a child so during one attack, I questioned why I was afraid of this person. I couldn’t remember why I wanted to jump out of my skin. So I said yes and just let it happen. Again and again. There was nothing I could do so why not go with it? This person could snap me in two with their bare hands so what chance did I have? I still find myself blaming, not them, but me. I tell others all the time that it’s not their fault. Only the person who attacked you is to blame. But I have a hard time believing that myself. After all, I did agree. Even if I was clearly uncomfortable with the idea and this person knew it. All it took was a little force of smile and disassociation. All that to say, it’s still in the back of my mind. I can’t afford a therapist nor can I even bring in up in my household. The bits and pieces I can remember still haunt me. I still see this person so it’s very difficult being brought back to those times. But I’m working through it. I have amazing friends who’ve been supportive every step of the way. One day I’ll be able to talk to a professional and see where we can go from there. I wish this person would rot in the firey pits of hell, but dwelling on it too much won’t solve anything. If someone somehow made it to the bottom of my comment and have gone through a similar experience, please understand that you’re not alone. Nothing the other person has done to you was your fault. I know it’s shallow coming from someone who just said they can’t believe it themselves, but it’s true. You’re not at fault. They are. Just know you have a community backing you up right here. We’re all here to support you. ❤️❤️
I continue to feel as if it isn’t valid, and i don’t even think it’s assault because everyone is like ‘lol no’ so JDJSDICDECJ- basically I was laying on my grandpas bed and he came in and started to kiss my face and neck and I was like, ‘n o’ and he like,,,,, licked me and the winked and then *left* and I began crying. That was happening for like 8 minutes and I’m scared to go over there now lol-
@shane morgan at what point do we hold kids who harm other kids accountable then? If not when they're a child, when? You don't think that they're just going to continue doing the same things until there's consequences? Maybe they do learn and feel guilt from what happened but that doesn't change that they still hurt another kid (Also just a sidenote but not every kid who sexually assaults another kid has been abused themselves, they can learn those actions from a lot of places not just firsthand experience and even when it is firsthand that's not any excuse)
But sadly there are many cases of families learning it happened but too scared, as in "what would others think about us", that they would rather keep it as family secret than report it. It especially happens when the abuser is within the immediate family circle. The abuse cycle perpetuates even more when that's the case.
Yeah. it's very sad but this is more common than you think, there's so many cases that havent been spoken about because they are afraid. im apart of those people.
My cousin sexually assaulted me at 7 years old. He is still invited to every party we have. I’m Mexican and in a Mexican family we don’t talk about that especially if you’re a guy. Men being sexually assaulted isn’t recognized and usually downplayed.
I know how much that suck same thing happened to me. I also got assaulted sexually by my cousin and his family is really close to mine so I see him a lot. And when I told my family what happened they completely down play it. Btw I’m also Mexican.
I understand you too, when I was little my cousin assaulted me and he was only a year of two older but he knew exactly what he was doing and I had no clue and then my mom asked me what happened but I thought I would be in trouble so I didn’t say anything and my mom never knew what exactly happened but I still have to see him every now and again and it’s just forgotten about
Bruh I’m also of Mexican decent and I got assaulted by one of my own family members, I couldn’t say anything because... well... he was very close to the fam and my mom relies heavily on him. I only told my mom abt it. I see him very often. Almost everyday. He has gotten religious but he is still perverted. I know he’s trying to change. I’m a very forgiving humble person but he is probably the only person I have never really forgiven.
Ari the.unicorn honestly, it just shows how we NEED, NEED, more sex education. Including what is wrong, even a dumbed down version for young kids like “if an adult touches your private parts, *points to then* here, or here. Please, talk to an adult you trust. If that may be a teacher or parents” sometimes talking to parents doesn’t work, but it helps kids learn to tell someone and that it is wrong
@@rachaelhatton5960 EXACTLY! When I was in elementary school, they taught about 'good touch/bad touch'. They never explained it sexually or anything like that, but they said if anyone touches you in a private area then you should tell a trusted adult. I think this is something they should talk about in all elementary schools- how to recognize a 'bad touch', even if you don't know it's sexual; just know enough to realize it's wrong and you should tell someone.
I’ve never been sexually assaulted before, and my heart goes out to whoever has. I’ve been touched before, by my brother. I’ve only talked to one person about it and she kinda didn’t care, so I’m gonna talk about it on here, even if nobody sees it. one time, me and my brother went over to our friends house to swim and hang out. (both of the friends were guys). I was changing into my swimsuit in the bathroom, (they had a Jack and Jill bathroom which means it had 2 doors, but neither of the doors had locks on them) and my brother (9 at the time) came through one of the doors and pinned me (7 at the time) against the wall with his arm, choking me so I didn’t have enough strength to pull him off me. he then called the other older friend into the room, and then pulled down my bathing suit bottoms. the other younger friend, around my age, heard what was going on, pushed his brother out of the way, then came into the room covering his eyes, found his way to my brother, then shoved him out of the room. he then closed the door (still covering his eyes) and held it shut so they couldn’t get in. I pulled my bottoms back up, and did my best to keep the other door shut, but they were so strong that they kept getting in, trying to get to me and touch me more. the friend that was helping me had to pry them off of me, and punch and kick them, while I was screaming and crying. eventually the mom of the friends came in and helped me. she didn’t want me to be around the oldest boy anymore so she took us home. I haven’t been back there since, but I will always be thankful for the help of the youngest friend, who did his best to help me while making sure he didn’t see me. im sorry for anyone who has been assaulted. you are an amazing person, guy girl, non binary, or whatever gender or sexuality. update: i realized eight months ago that this was sexual assault. i’m okay now though!! i don’t live with my brother anymore, he lives with my dad and i live with my mom.
Im so sorry they did that, it should not have happened. that friend is certainly a good person, Im glad they were able to help. I would try and tell an adult if you can, or a friend or therapist. just know it's not your fault, and you're not alone. I hope the best for you, stay safe and stay hydrated
Yeah if they touched you (or themselves in your presence) at all in a sexual manner, that's sexual assault-I would say molestation in this case. I really hope you're brother doesn't still live with you. If you're going to tell someone what happened, tell someone you trust to understand you. It sounds messed up, but some people are equally messed up in the head from trauma or something, and will not know how to properly act or react to your story/experience. So even if it's easier said than done, if you share with someone, tell someone you trust, tell someone that can help you or is at least willing to listen. Stay safe. Let yourself process and understand what happened, even if it hurts. It may help you grow, and it may help you heal. It's happened to me, and slowly I am processing my own pain, and hopefully healing it, too. Well wishes 💜
I grew up watching music videos with a$$ and tiddies and I'm gay as all hell so I'm living proof that what you're exposed to as a child does NOT have an impact on your sexual preference when you get older
When it was Pride Month I tried asking my dad if we could celebrate, he said no: because apparently p*dos were in the lgbtq (obviously not but he thought so) and it’s also against the Bible to be gay, I cried for an hour afterwards I am aro bi and when I came out a month later I had a very unsuccessful talk :/
I think this is pretty basic but try not to push them to talk about it if they seem uncomfortable about the topic. Talking about something as traumatic as this can be a painful reminder of what happened, especially when you haven't had the time nor energy to heal from it to the point where you can talk about it without the pain. I'm still trying to heal from my own experience and having a friend like you who cares would have helped me so much. Just let them know that whenever they feel ready to talk about it, you're willing to be there for them and that you wouldn't think any lesser of them because of what happened. Take care
I saw this pop up and I really didn’t expect you to be the one to post this Im so grateful you’re sharing your story also the assholes who say first in this situation are a bit much
But I don't think that they're trying to hurt us, you know? I think they honestly are trying to help us, but that help may be a bit damaging dont u think?
🤮😭TW: R4PE😭🤮My mom taught me it because my older sister got sexually assaulted when she was like five and the person who did it, was my brothers friend. The assaulter threatened to hurt our family and to lock her in the basement if she told anyone. He brought her to the bathroom and touched her and made her touch him (he was a teenager) and I think $uck it because she has a throat disease now. She was telling my brother and his other friends but she didn’t explain it like a teen would ofc. They found out the friend did it because my brothers other friends questioned why she wasn’t accusing them and why was she accusing only one person. He got caught went to jail for a COUPLE years. A COUPLE YEARS. HE R4PED HER AND NOW SHE HAS A DISEASE THAT WILL LAST A LIFETIME. SHE HAS TO GET SURGERY A COUPLE TIMES A YEAR AND THE DISEASE COULD CAUSE DEATH. I AM FURIOUS. when my brother found out, he wanted to kill his ex friend. And when we talk about it she cries a lot.
@@user-fo9en9pw9w I am SO SORRY that happened to your sister! Pedophilia and grooming need to be taught to in schools in order to prevent things like this!!!
I once got sexually assaulted by a cousin once, I tried telling another cousin but they didn’t care because I was their least favorite cousin. I was 9-10.
@@alex-mi3or thank you, I really needed that, this happened a long time ago, but thank you, I don’t really wanna get into much detail so I don’t wanna talk but thank you for worrying about me, stay safe
No one of any age, especially a child should go through something like this. Schools do not teach children about pedophilia, sexual assault, and predatory behavior enough. At my school, they don’t do it at all. When i was 9, my friend of the same age was sexually assaulted by his uncle who was around the age of 28. He told me about his experience after a week of contemplating whether or not it was worth telling anyone, since no one taught us about pedophilia, and sexual assault. I who at the time knew just as little about these things, kinda knew something wasn’t right and urged him to tell his parents and ask what they thought of it. I don’t know what happened after that, i only know that his uncle had to serve some time in prison. After a few months, his family moved out and I’ve never seen my friend since. I don’t know if this experience of his made a lasting scar, or a tiny scratch in his mind, but what i do know is that schools should bear the responsibility of teaching children about things like these, so that no one should have to go through something like this.
Exactly same happened to most of my friends and family members and it’s horrible. Schools and even parents should teach their kids about this very early on so they’ll understand what to do in that situation and hopefully avoid this happening to more kids.
Sexually harassed at 7 in the second grade told the teacher and she said something to him i was thankful sexually harassed at 9 in 4th grade my teacher said my skirt was to short she told me to cover up and didn't check the boy now during that time i was being raped from 6 to 9 and whats weird is this is the first time I've said I was raped like I told on the boys when they harassed me but I never told on my main predator and I don't understand why
I seriously don’t get the people that are hating on him, he’s sharing his story to help other victims of sexual assault to speak out, just look at the comments and how many people have opened up
all throughout school i’ve been sexually assaulted. even when i was a child, my babysitter was a pedophile (who is now in jail) and i’m constantly in and out of therapy. it’s no joke and it feels so disgusting. Just a quick little edit to let people know that i am doing better! i do suffer from emotional flashbacks frequently but overall i’m healing
If you ever need to talk, I've seen heard and read enough shit, To know the impact and burden you carry, It's heartbreaking to hear from people And it's disgusting to read about, But it's worth talking about. Personally I've been in therapy too, Not because I had a similar experience to you, But because I was taking care of people who did. Apparently "keeping each other sane", Is a good motto, but a treacherous goal. Tho if I could go back in time, I'd take on more people, Because I still regret about people where I was a little too late. (Still not a psychologist (not even a psychology student(maybe I'll take it as a minor)))
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that but sugawara, asahi, Daichi, kageyama, nishinoya, takenma, and everyone else is on your side queen.
This is why teaching kids about sexual assault is so important --- mainly teaching why and how it is wrong. It's so easy to make the jump from victim to victimizer when you're developing your brain. Not every victim realizes what happened to them is wrong, and can't compute that it's wrong to repeat those actions.
I agree. When I was in year 7, my first year of secondary school, multiple girls were sexually assaulted by people of many ages, never told about the horrors of this trauma, and the rest of us learned by their stories. They could have been helped. The school did nothing. The school said nothing. Statements were written and ignored. The assaulters were left with no repercussions. There were no warnings, no way to stop them, and no one to tell who would help. This victim blaming, non-believing, unspoken, disgusting culture around sexual assault needs to be stopped, and we need to talk about it and provide dire consequences for rapists. We need to speak out. We need a change.
we had a workshop about SA and how it all messed up because the class next door made two räpe jokes. i heard them, i was scared for my friends safety. now it is all sorted out
I was sexually assaulted and preyed upon on the internet when I was 12. This guy had me wrapped around my finger so damn tight. He tried to isolate me from all my friends, he had me heavily manipulated, he would make me believe I wasn’t who I thought I was, (now realize, I’m trans ftm). I was under his control for a year. And it’s officially been two years away from him. I still have trauma. I still have flashbacks. But my current boyfriend saved me. For sure. But no one knows besides my boyfriend and a few of my friends. Sexual assault trauma is hell to deal with. It will get better tho. I feel like sexual assault is never talked about in schools. If it was, maybe then I would’ve realized what was going on. But here’s a small list of what a predator/toxic person will try to do to someone, just in case it helps anyone - tell you they’re going to kill them self if you leave or unfriend them -tell you to keep “us” a secret -try to isolate you from your friends -isolate you off of the internet -be heavily critical about your appearance -May become upset when you want to spend time with someone, even family -you may feel emotionally confused a lot around this person Please, if someone is doing any of these to you. You should cut contact or reevaluate how you became “friends” with them. Edit: thank you for all the support, I’ve never had a comment “blow up” as much as this one. I hope my story helps some other people out there
Honestly I wish people like this never existed it’s so saddening that there are adults that rape sexually assault manipulate (etc)and because of assholes that do all this crap children are always in so much danger I just wanted to share what happened to me I was in the seventh grade and I was friends with a guy he was the same age as me we got really close and I thought he was my best bud fast forward a year later he started acting a bit more weird and flirty I just thought he was joking him and his friends changed a lot and started saying comments about me such as “you’d look better without clothes ,you have a nice ass” I asked him to please tell his friends to stop and he always said they were joking (every year we have a sports event) as I was getting ready for my time to go out (I was in the bathroom) he came in and forcefully pushed me into a stall trying to kiss me and take off my shorts I screamed and punched him and ran out that day he was expelled and I never say him again I hope everyone stays safe and I love you Frederic stay safe 💕✨
I'm so glad that you got away. I'm just realizing now how fcked up some ppl are in middle school. (7th grade)My guy friend was joking around and said he was gonna rape me but I just laughed it off and told him I always bring pepper spray with me everywhere but I was really disappointed in him and I knew he had a crush on me for a couple of years but he ruined it. When we were in the lunch line on of his friends touched my ass and he laughed abt it (no teachers saw bcuz most of the guys and some of the girls are tall at my middle school and Im 5'2). Another one of my guy friends touched my ass after we left out of class. Him and some of my other guy friends were talking abt it and one of them told me so I told him I'd slap him if he did but he didn't care so after class I made sure he left before me but when I walked out he was waiting for me I tried to face towards him so he couldn't do it and I was running late for my other class since I thought he was walking to his class I started to walk to the back stairs but he did it anyway. I didn't want to be late or get in trouble so I just got mad at him and ran to class cuz I don't wanna ruin my school record, I don't wanna disappoint my mom.
Butterfly Fairy I’m so sorry about what your friend my friend had a crush on me too I think that’s what triggered him to do that to me i hope your okay now
전정국 omg that is fucking horrible no one should go through sexual assault or abuse I am so sorry for u and when I was a kid my dad use to abuse me not sexually just beat the living pulp out of me and i was a kid I never told anyone my mom was also scared to say anything and then my teacher found out and called the cops to my house for counciling my dad and I was in Canada so u can’t hit ur child that is illegal so my dad has brought me to India where rapists abusers and people like my dad roam free yes me and my sister and little brother still get abused sometimes and my mom does to
plp who say "youre lgbt because of [thing that happened to you]" are so awful and im sorry youve ever had to hear that at all. ive ben abused as a kid, and people often say "oh youre probably trans bc of the abuse" like ??? they dont correlate at all, youre completely invalidating my trauma as well as me as a person in one sentence, its almost impressive. if ANYONE lgbt out there has been mistreated by anyone whatsoever, those dont correlate, and you havent been "turned" lgbt bc of someone else's mistreatment. i love everyone in this comment section, and i truly wish the best for all of you
one of the reasons i present myself as male is because of trauma. i feel happier this way, but its extremely disgusting that people are saying shit like that.
I’m not sure if this counts as assault, but might as well share to find out. When I was 14, my family was going to eat somewhere and we had to pick up my aunt (who was like 68 yrs old at the time) and since there was no other place in the car, she and I sat together in the back. Now this was normal, but that day she started touching my thigh and continued until a point where I wasn’t comfortable with it and didn’t want to be next to her anymore. The next time I saw her because that I had told my mom what happened, she told me to go in the front seat next to the driver so I didn’t had to go next to my aunt. At first I thought this would be ok, but by the time that she was on the car, she sat exactly in the back seat of my front seat and started to reach my shoulder, then my bra strap and then she moved her hand further down (where again at the point where I wasn’t comfortable and didn’t know what to do). My family didn’t noticed any of these things when they happened (I still don’t know why). And I didn’t want to say anything because like you Fredric I thought it was normal for (in my case) my aunt to be touching like that cause I thought she wouldn’t harm me in any way. By the end of the day, I kept my distance and later my mom approached me telling me what’s wrong, and I didn’t say anything. Weeks later I got the courage and actually speaking with my mom about it and she was mad to say the least with my aunt and everything. It’s been 2 years since, mayority of my family is in my aunt side with this situation (and blames me by saying that I was exaggerating at the time, when I think I wasn’t). Till this day I still have contact with her and there’s been multiple times where she’s tried to assault me yet again. I don’t expect pity or sympathy from people, I just wanted to share it, since Until now I’ve just shared my perspective with one person (my mother). edit: thanks for taking the time to read and the nice words everyone has told me! I’ve never thought so many would be on my side considering the perspective of my family... If anyone has or is going through a situation like mine or Fredric, please speak up. It doesn’t matter to who, but from my experience it’s always good to have someone listen and be by your side after such event.
When a person touches you where you don't want to be touched it's straight up assault and it's 100% not your fault or you being extra. I hope you are happy 💜
I feel so bad for anyone who has had to go through this. Please do contact the link at the top of the description if anything similar has happened to you.
I honestly find it so disturbing that someone can just sexually assault a child and get away with it because of the child not knowing that what happened wasn’t okay. I am so sorry that this happened to you.
The fact that I’m 12 and I need to learn about this stuff “just in case” is horrific. Not only that but i (just like many other people) have to learn about this stuff from social media because schools don’t feel the need to talk about it. I’m so sorry about what happened too you, just remember that we’re all here for you.
Same here. I remember the closest thing we got to talking about this was when I was in 5th grade, and we talked about puberty and how baby’s were made. But they refused to talk about relationships and sexual harassment because “We didn’t need to know”. I was confused, so I went on google to look some of this stuff up. This is how I learns that there is more to the world then what school teaches you. There are horrible people out there, and they refuse to talk about it. *We need this stuff taught in school*
I'm the same age as you and my school hasn't talked about either. as a kid, my mom let me watch movies about murders, stalkers, and just wrong people. there was this kid in my class last year that everyone hated, even the teachers.
luckly my friend has a dad whi explains everything (*not inappropately* jesus I cant spell) to her a warns her so she warned me and my friends in 5th grade...
Ah another 12 year old, nice to meet ya!... It kinda sucks that we actually have to find this stuff out on our own. And the "just in case" things are the most improtant. I've been a girl for most of my life (recently I came out as genderfluid) and I've been taught since I could even read, to never talk to strangers, leave a drink alone, never walk alone, and ALWAYS Look behind you when out and about. I hate knowing that if didn't do these things I could either be dead or a completely different person then I am today.
I hate that it's mostly boys (not men) who say men don't get sexually assaulted, instead of actually trying to comfort victims they bring them down it really hurts me
It is a lot of men too who say things like "i wish she was around when i was a kid" which is very damaging because it teaches boys not only that sexual assault is ok, but that you are lucky if it happens to you. Very fucked up.
No these are men. Hold them accountable. Saying “boy” is practically saying that this behavior should be normal in boys and it shouldn’t. Just wanted to say correct you on that have a nice day
@@betchayoyo7562 no, there is a way to say that. Not with certainty, but with anecdotal evidence, because the majority of people would say that in their lives they have experienced more men with that behavior than anyone else.
@chijeu・゚ whats disgusting is that you arent willing to let anyone take the blame and would rather say that its some kind of team effort. That doesnt help anyone. Also "saying one gender 'says it more than the other' is almost saying the other gender doesnt say it" is probably the most retarded sentence i have ever heard, sorry. Thats very very clearly a false equivalency. If we dont let anyone take the blame for anything, then you're right, humanity is fucked.
I was raped when I was six... still depressed and anxious about I never told my parents and still haven’t but I can still smile so people think I’m happy
I'm really sorry for what happened to you. I seriously don't have a say in your life but I think that if you have a good bond with your parents (if you get along with them etc) you should tell them to not carry this whole situation by yourself. Anyways do as you please and what makes you happy ❤️
If you dont wanna tell ur parents. Tell a hotline or smth similar. Im so sry this happened to u. I rly am. Also, Ik wut it feels like to put a front but just tell a friend or a pet sometime. Just let it all out becuz it will help u in the long run. U are a queen. U are amazing. U are stong. I wish the best for u
You're not alone, Fredric. I've been sexually assaulted by my brother for a few years. Edit: thank you all for your support and for your own stories. My brother stopped when I was in grade 6 (going in grade 10 now) and I am in foster care.
same, my friend. i was sexually harrased and abused by older women when i was in middle school and i was scared to tell anyone because i thought no one would listen to me since it was by women.
The school system is critically flawed. They NEED to teach us to be safe when it comes to anything related to sex. They need to teach us how to stay safe from sexual predators. But no, we are just "too young." I'm going to graduate in a couple years, and I have literally only had one sex ed class, and it has only taught me what HPV was. We really need to normalize teaching children how to keep themselves safe.
i agree. in fifth grade, we had a puberty video, but it was literally just about periods, and absolutely nothing about sex. in eighth grade, we only talked about abstinence and sexual harassment, but it only extended to cat calling and it was very weird. but i learned everything about sex on the internet, and there’s some weird stuff online, so it’s crazy that that is how i learned it. school needs to let people know how to be safe in both consensual and nonconsensual situations.
my skl taught this in first year at the age of five (Im from Trinbago) i cant remember anything b4 the age of 5 but depending on the pre-skl i think they tell u to not let people touch u in those areas( i spent some time in a pre-skl like helped for like yk) and when u got older they go more into detail
Cora Draws we had two sex Ed classes. The first one in grade four was mostly about hair and boners. Then the one in grade seven was about condoms. Nothing about periods or the actual sex part. But my mom has always been open about sex Ed so I knew a lot of things at a young age so I kinda informed my friends on sex and stuff. But we have a gsa, and one day the teacher who stared the club taught us about lgbt+ sex Ed.
Literally my dads _church_ had a lesson where they talked about it to me and my brother, he was 8 and i was 12, and now we know this shit. So if the church was cool with this, wtf wrong with the school 🙄 people need to know this.
Dumpsterz Bait-shop true but there’s also the option that lets you tell yt not to recommend the content without a dislike, although of course dislikes do no major harm
When I was 9 years old I had a best friend, and I would sleepover at her house almost ever weekend, as she got older she hit puberty way quicker then me, and one weekend she showed me p*rn, I was uncomfortable and told her that it was gross and didn’t want to watch, but she made me, next sleepover the same thing happened and eventually she started talking about us doing those things, I was very uncomfortable but somehow she made me, and she made me do things I didn’t want to do with her, I am now 13 and have trust issues and commitment issues, I am to scared to tell my parents and only 2 people know about this, it’s horrible and has contributed to my mental health decline, ending up with cutting myself from 5-7 grade, and 2 suicide attempts. I’m sorry you also had to go through this. I feel for you and anyone who has gone through this.
I'm so sorry you've gone through all of that. That's some seriously tough shit. I'm thinking of you, and praying to the universe that good things start happening for you. Please remember that you have so much value, the world is full of good people, and that it's enough to just be curious about your future. There's an Arabic proverb that goes "You want to die? Throw yourself into the sea and you will see yourself struggling to survive. You don't want to kill yourself, rather you want to kill something inside you (circumstances, memories, etc.)." I'm sending you all the lovely healing vibes girl
Person Person I can’t even begin to imagine how hard this must be for you, and I’m so very sorry that you had to go through that and that you continue to experience the effects of it. Just know that you ALWAYS have value here with us on earth, and your life is a life, and it MEANS something. I know that it might not feel like it, but there are always people there for you, if not in person, then at least through the screen. I’m sending you all of my love and support, and just know that there are always people there for you and rooting you on. ❤️
No one should ever have to go through that, I really hope you defriended her, that's disgusting and I know this isn't something you want to be asked but are you ok? Do you need someone to talk to? Maybe a virtual hug?
I don't think that's the problem, The problem is that they can't prevent it, If they can't recognise it. So learning how comes always beforehand. Although a lot of people here claim school didn't teach about filing reports to the police, Which worries me, because that was part of my school's core curriculum. Which makes it technically more important than mathematics at our school.
I cannot stop crying about this. I can relate to this A LOT! Something like this happened to me when I was 5 (or 3) and again, with another person, when I was 16 and now, I’m 19, and I want to speak out about it but whoever I talk to about it says “no. Don’t say anything because 1.) it happened a long time ago and 2.) they’re some of our family members and you can’t say anything because YOU’LL RUIN THEIR REPUTATION!” I hate my family
King Ale You should speak out about it. Who gives an f about their reputation when they did that to you?! And so what if it happened a long time ago, it still scarred YOU and YOU need some closure. Honestly, that’s not okay in ANY way. You really should speak out. At the same time you need to do what feels right and of course it’s your decision, this is just my advice. It just seems like you were really hurt by that happening to you. Maybe try talking to someone outside your family otherwise, someone who doesn’t have a connection with these people?
You can talk about it here if u want. Also same I hate my family. It didnt happen to me but to family members not one or two but three fucking incidents from three times by three different people. I have hella trust issues now and I learned that dont ever trust adults. They don't care about u but themselves. At least for me also fuck family.
I hate people like that. I really hope you are doing okay. I wish you the best and the happiness you deserve, and I hope you can get away from those horrible people. ♡
I was sexually harassed by my own grandfather when I was 6, and I didn’t tell anyone till almost 10 years later. Sexual harassment and assault is not a joke and will stick with you. It’s gross and horrible.
ava endsley you’re so brave for sharing your experience❤️I was sexually assaulted by my own uncle at 8 years old. None of this is a joke. It’s awful and disgusting. I just went to therapy for the first time this week. I also waited 10 years to tell anyone. At a young age, how are you supposed to know. Thank you for sharing :)
ava endsley omg I’m so sorry for u this is just sick the that the thought of ur own grandfather is just disgusting I hope ur doing well now stay strong never give up ur beautiful and I love u stay home stay safe 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Don’t ever let anyone tell you that your trauma is not big enough or that your problems aren’t important. It’s not a competition. You matter, and your feelings matter
I’m just gonna say it, I was sexually assaulted around that age, too, and by a friend of the same age, I don’t know it was sexual assault until I got older. We will stand as one and we will all support
The way I can relate to this, I was also sexually assaulted around the age of 8. It continued until I was 10. I still see this man, he hasn’t been charged, I haven’t told anyone. He’s my uncle, and I don’t want his family hurt or him. Do I wish I told someone? Yes, everyday I wish that I told someone. You are so unbelievably strong for posting this. Edit: this is also basically a case of child grooming, he had built trust with me, and he took advantage with that. 🤷♀️ edit: hey guys, TYSM for all the love and support, it means a lot to me especially in this time.
I'm so sorry, please tell someone. A trusted adult, a teacher, just anything. If you're not comfortable telling someone you personally know there are websites to talk to people. Please go to a trusted adult or trusted websites, it will feel so much better. I know it's so hard, please stay safe
Im so sorry bro. UR a queen. u rly are. to go through that and still be strong. bro that's some next level stuff right there. Also, please tell someone. It will help u a lot
literally just came out to my parents less than a week ago that i was molested when i was 8. got counseling and we're putting the pedo in jail, anyone watching this video or reading my comment who has gone through a similar experience, i encourage you to reach out for help too
That’s awesome! Not many people get to put their molester in jail and it’s amazing that u can, I hope your okay and are doing well with counseling (love the profile picture)
I'm glad you have support and that you're able to get justice for their actions against you. I came out to my parents about my own around a couple months ago and it's terrifying. Standing with you bb
I'm so happy for you but even if I told my parents they wouldn't believe me since my brother tried to sexual assault me and since they have no proof and my brother literally lives with me I'm still on stage one of reaching out ;c
When I read the title I literally thought "Haven't we all?" And then I felt like shit because I have been sexually harassed before. The fact that this is more common than we might think is absolutely disgusting.
i’m coming to save you all i will keep you in my basement and feed you muffins and take care of you. i dont want you beans to have to experience shit like this
When a lot of people talk about these kind of topics, people should *not* think that that person is talking because they want attention... No one should bully that person because it's not their fault they were in that situation. Also don’t be too naive, pls stay safe! We support you :)
I was sexually assaulted when I was 7 or 8, and I guess you could say I'm traumatized about it because I always remembered how I described it. To give a quick summary, my uncle, who was 12 or 13 at the time, convinced me that if I suck his "thing," I would get a prize. So, me being the confused 7 or 8 year old, I did what he asked. We got caught by his mom and she just told me to wash my mouth. I still remember being in the bathroom washing my mouth, and being super scared, confused, and sad. He always bullied me and treated me different when I was younger, but what he did to me that day was so disgusting, and it'll never leave my head.
This not only needs to be talked about more- But also taken more seriously. In The GSA at my school, yes. The GSA. I got touched without consent. This senior girl touched my chest, and I told them to stop but they didn’t, I will say this was IN THE CLASSROOM, with PEOPLE IN IT. (I’m a female but at the time I was using a binder because I was super uncomfortable with my body) I brought it up with the club president- And they did nothing to fix it- they tossed it away as if nothing happen. And recently I had found out that they tossed it aside as if it wasn’t important. I was 15. She was 18.
I feel so sad that u felt the need to justify why you couldn’t stop it on the third story. No one blames u and if someone does they are toxic. It isn’t easy to push someone away, especially if they are stronger. Your stories and experiences are valid. Don’t let anyone tell you anything else. I hope you really do not feel too traumatized about it and that you are fine now. To anyone else that has been through abuse: Your story is valid, you are valid and you DO NOT have fault at anything that has happened to you. You don’t have to speak out but if you feel like it would help you, please do. I will personally defend you if anyone tries to invalidate your story and experience.
This is so sad and frustrating, men and women who have been sexually assaulted should be brought to justice and not experience these things at all. Remember Frederic we're here for you💕🥺
Tiny thing to try and help people out: As lots of people know, Every 7 years, your body is completely renewed. I just want you guys to know that after 7 years, you have a body your abuser never touched. Stay strong.
@KILEY KITTRIDGE every seven years, the cells in your body are completely different then the ones seven years ago. I’m just trying to tell them that their childhood abuse doesn’t have to dictate the way they see themselves and their bodies.
This is why children need to be educated about grooming. We don't have to tell them the details. But please tell your children that it's not okay for anyone to touch their privates. In an ideal world, they wouldn't have to hear this. But, we don't live in an ideal world. I'm so sorry this happened to you, I can see the discomfort in your eyes. You're so brave for coming out with this, and I'm sure survivors have found comfort in this.
I was sexually harassed as a child as well. I didn't think it was wrong at the time until I learned about it so I also don't know how to feel about it.
Honestly, as someone who's still trying to accept that they were sexually assaulted by their own sister at age 6, this helps a lot. We're all here for you and thank you so much for speaking out. To everyone who has also been sexually assault and/or raped, we're here for you. You're not alone in this battle and if you need someone to talk to, I'll be here. No one deserves to be raped and sexually assaulted.
I'm reading through the comments and I'm seeing people mention "this happened when I was 5" "This happened when I was 10" And it really bothers me because for as far back as my memory goes, the youngest age I can remember, my uncle must've been assaulting me since I was a baby. It had to had been. Him, the next guy, and the next guy. I had 3 men assaulting me my entire life. I just got out of sexual harassment in 2017, and came out to the authorities in 2019 because my sister had told my mother that she was assaulted.And funny enough, I wasn't traumatized by any of it since it'd happen since forever, but I broke down in tears when I found out that my third assaultant had violated my sister. She didn't have to go through that. If that last guy showed up and started assaulting me in 2013 when I was 9 all the way up to when I was 14.. That literally means he also did the same to my sister who'd be 6, all the way up to 11 in 2017. What kind of sick person does this? My sister and I laugh about how disgusting he was, but I don't stray down farther than she'd go because I know she has trauma from it And I don't, but I'm kinda glad she came out because to be honest, I would've died with those secrets if it wasn't for her.
I'm thoroughly disgusted someone would even THINK of doing that to a CHILD. People like that deserve death penalty but instead they just get 60 day imprisoned (in Iowa I think idk about other states) and sometimes dont even get any time, because according to the law police are allowed to ignore and not send anybody if they didn't want to according to law. This is atleast in America.
Don’t be afraid to share your story, but hopefully in the future we have less and less of these stories whether they’re being kept secret or being shared. Stay strong everyone
This happened to my cousin, but instead of a friend it was a full grown adult that they called "dad". They had to deal with that about the same age as the person in the video. Then our grandmother found out and told my aunt and she called the police. He is currently in prison and he is never coming back thankfully, she is going to therapy now and is doing a lot better. Sorry i just wanted to tell you about a similar story.
the amount of bravery and courage this must’ve taken. thank you for speaking your truth. to all the survivors out there, know that you are LOVED, VALID, and HEARD. keep staying strong, and take care of yourself please
Honestly, I saw the title and felt conflicted. Part of me hoped it was clickbait and that he didn't have to go through this and another part of me hoped it wasn't clickbait cause to use this topic as clickbait is horrible
I was sexually assaulted too when I was 5. He was my mom's ex boyfriend. I didnt know how to feel about it ethier. It was blocked from my memory for a few years until I was in high school and I finally remember and realized what had happened. Finding a support system is important and u know what bb, we r here. Thanks for sharing and having the courage to talk about it. We love u ❤.
i’m pretty damn sheltered but i have had one light experience with stuff like this. i was at a football game with my family and i was sitting next to this 50-ish year old man and his father, who was probably around 80. both got drunk and you could tell. the father was yelling things about the players and he was overall being annoying, but that wasn’t a huge deal. the man sitting next to me kept saying pretty weird things to me, the least of all asking to share my ice cream. that i licked. he kept getting in my personal space until i went to the bathroom. when i came back my mom had moved so she was standing next to the man instead of me, but me being young and unaware, i asked for the seat back because that seat was better than my moms. she reluctantly moved. in the end, nothing happened and the two men left early. i’m still unnerved by this to this day because the fact that this man was coming onto me is creepy af and in conclusion humanity kinda sucks.
hearing about this and all the stories people are posting here makes me feel incredibly sad and furious, I can't understand how schools never told us anything about sexual assault or harrassment and how others downplay these situations when those stories get told. We actually have a pedophile living in our neighborhood and so far, none of the parents living here have ever tried to say anything against him. He is an old man, I'd guess at least 80 years old, because he's definitely older than my grandparents. I see him sometimes when I take a walk with our dog, and the last time I met him, around when spring began, he wanted to walk a little bit with me, and me wanting to be kind decided that those 20 meters until I would take a corner to my home wouldn't be too bad, so I agreed to walk with him. He started talking like "how old are you?" (even though we had talked before and he'd asked me those questions before but I guess that's because of his age) so I would respond "18" and then he asked "are you in love?" and I said no because even if I was it's not something I'd want to talk about with this man. And he went on like "oh no I don't believe that, you have such nice legs and such nice boobs, there must be someone!" and I tried laughing it off and being like "no haha" and he continued to talk like that and when we came to the corner of the street that I wanted to take to get to my house he was like "oh please let's walk a little bit further" and since I didn't wanna be rude I did. But then he started saying "if I was younger, you'd fall in love with me right?" and then went on to ask me if I had masturbated before, then telling me to please think of him the next time I masturbate. And to top it off he asked me if he could peak under my hoodie, to which I obviously said no, but he said "oh come on, just a little peak" and then tugged at my hoodie trying to look down from above and I pulled away and said something along the lines of "oh I gotta go, goodbye" and went home as quickly as possible. It's still creepy to think about it now but what really shocked me was when I told my parents and sister, and my sister (who was only 15 at the time) told me that she had something similar happen to her, with him grabbing her thighs and that he had done this to other girls around the same age as her as well. And so far, not one of their parents have told him to stop that behavior, even though it is absolutely disgusting. Luckily, I never met him outside again after that event and I hope no other girl had to meet him either, I never thought I'd see a pedophile this old, and I don't want to know how terrifying he must've been when he was younger and stronger...
melo elle oh my god.. that’s horrible.. you are so strong for being able to face that 🥺🥺 please report him, because that’s sexual harassment, that man is WAY older than you, plus you were a minor too. i really hope you are feeling better, have you talked to anyone else about this?
@@riki4313 yeah I talked to my best friends about it so I feel a lot better about it now, it's just crazy to me how literal grandpas can go around doing this shit, that guy can't even wash or dress himself anymore but still manages to prey on minors like gahh that's so disgusting
This exact thing actually happened to me... Except while "grooming" she just put on straight up porn, and she was the one who moved away, not me. Was still pretty confused though. I've always thought it didn't count because it wasn't as if I was resisting or telling her to stop, and people still insist that this experience attributes to the fact that I like girls, and it's simply not true. It also differed because after the first time, I was refusing and in those cases she'd guilt trip me or tell me it's not like anyone would hold me the way she did. I haven't told my friends, so I think this is the first and last time I'm going to bring light to this just to acknowledge those who've had similar things happen to them and that they're not alone. This isn't to overshadow or invalidate, just to get out of my system and never bring up again.
A similar thing happened to me...by my female cousin I was 7 or 8 and she was 13 or 14. Thank you for opening up a similar thing that happened to me. I didn't fight back so I didn't think it "counted" Sadly I still see her but my family knows. She would groom me by putting on lesbian porn on the tv and tell me that was normal. I believed her because I was scared and didn't know better. Also when I said no she would scare me into it by tacking me to the library nearby and using puppets to show what happens if someone does not agree with having sex. Till this day I am terrified of dolls and puppets. I never share this but your story is so similar to mine I thought id open up.
I didn’t resist or tell him to stop so I don’t know if it’s counted (he’s my older cousin btw). I put this whole situation to the back of my head so I don’t know how big of a deal it is. And so yeah... I just want to forget it all because I feel guilty. I still have to see him and everyone is proud of him because he’s such a “good kid”.
I’m glad that everyone finally gets the chance to get this out of our systems, but it’s also very heart breaking to know similar traumatizing incidents happened to so many other people. I myself have similar experiences at around 6, and shameful enough i often question whether this experience has made me become a lesbian. I know it’s ridiculous and doesn’t make sense, but this trauma may have contributed to my internalized homophobia and made me invalidate myself ever since. I hope everyone here is able to heal and recover in the near future
@@vivienchiu have faith in yourself, dear. If you don't think that's the case, then it's not. Nobody is forcing you to have a reason for loving who you love.
This should be something taught at a young age. A bunch of kids don’t realize what they went through until way later in their life and when they do realize a lot of them think it’s to late to say anything. I’m sorry that’s something that you went through that’s horrible that you went through that. It’s something that when men come out about it, they get ignored a lot. It’s horrible I’m so sorry god It makes me so pissed off
Yes but you don’t understand that they’re too young to know about things strictly for adults and something so surreal (and for me, repulsive) so they’d have to water it down for them like “so everyone has their special place to cover. Right? Well, don’t like anyone touch that special place without your permission” like they wouldn’t understand they’d be like “HAEH? But like.. why? If everyone has it I wanna compare!” Kinda like comparing levels on your Pokémon or something [classified as] childish. It’s just not that easy.
TO SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT: thank you for being brave. TO PEOPLE WHO ARE PEDOPHILES, GROOMERS, ETC. : what the hell is wrong with you? TO PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T REACHED OUT FOR HELP: TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST AND INSTEAD OF FILING A POLICE REPORT, GO TO THE FIRE DEPARTMENT. THERE IS A HIGH CHANCE THE POLICE WONT DO ANYTHING
I was/got sexually assaulted/raped in 4-5 years old. I didn't thought about it myself bc I didn't wtf was going on, if it was normal. But got worse about my emotions when I started 1st grade. I'm 17 now I was diagnosed with PTSD and something more, didn't get ADHD tho idkw. I never told my parents about this. My grandma only know about it and my therapist, I was in 9th grade. I wish I should've told earlier and got him life time or put him in place.
Everyone who has experienced sexual assault has a different story. I understand how you feel with not feeling trauma from it for a long time . I experienced something similar. I hope that you can find a way for him to pay for his actions and if you dont want to and just want to put it behind you that is completely okay. I'm always giving you love and support no matter what ❤❤
You know, as someone who is afab I was told to fear sexual assault and understood what it was as a child. I obviously didn’t completely understand consent or that people who aren’t adults could sexually assault others. I don’t know- I think I just wanted to comment that everyone needs to be taught about sexual assault and consent regardless of gender. Men are assaulted too and the world shouldn’t just teach women to fear/ “beware” of men when anyone can be a victim and anyone can be a predator.
Um ok TW: sexual assault A similar thing happened to me, only that I was around 5-6 and the assaulter didn't do anything to me, rather made me do things to her. I had completely bloqued that experience off my memory, I haven't talked about it really, only with one person, because I know this person and they are pretty great now, I'm scared of talking about it. I will possibly just unpack this on therapy and not get anyone else involved, as the assaulter was also a minor at the time.
@@dibidibidisapointed6508 I'm so sorry you went through this too. I'm thankful my brain did something helpful for once and not let me remember that for so long
To everyone looking through the comments: please remember to take care of yourself. Take a break, breathe, this is a lot of trauma to filter through at every turn so please if it's too much consider this your sign to take a break.
I’ve had so many times people have tried to groom me online because of how “nice and sweet” I am thinking that I know nothing about grooming, sexual assault, and manipulation. This should NOT happen and nobody should ever get sexually assaulted, manipulated, and groomed.
Thank you all for the love and support 💕 it’s overwhelming how many people have similar experiences and it only indicates how prevalent this problem still is today. I love you all, you make this community the way it is and I can’t thank you enough for that. But please do not go to me for help/advice about your own experience! I don’t mind reading your stories obviously but I’m not a professional, I’m a 19 year old college student and please go to the links in the description or talk to a professional over the phone. They are much better at handling questions and just being a person who will listen to you (from my experience at least), and it’s anonymous. I’m not comfortable giving too much advice or telling you how you should feel about YOUR own experience. You know your story, no one should tell you how to feel, you know your feelings best. Hope that all makes sense.
Frederic Chen omg I love u u are so strong and stay safe I just watched ur video and I have not gone through sexual harassment but abused by dad and till now he hits me I can’t do anything
ur so strong stay safe
You’re literally so strong. Never give up
Same sister but with my own cousin stay strong
How come you didn't report the last guy? Its rape
School does not press this enough. Sexual abuse or assault is not a joke and Sex Ed should be mandatory.
Sex Ed is mandatory in my country but I didn’t do it (edit: I didn’t do sex Ed because they were only showing straight sex and with me being a gay man i wanted to vomit. So I just annoyed the teacher so he ended up sending me out.)
I had ONE class of Sex Ed, and I dont remember any of it
I did in 7th grade it was mandatory unless your parents said no. I did it and it helped out so much
Where I live it's mandatory to teach sex ed and everything related to it including the bad. And I am so thank full that the teacher didn't separate boys and girls so we all learned equally.
Donutcaptainjr ;3 I agree and I think that consent is also another topic that should really be talked about
the fact that someone under my age would do this to a child disgusts me. nobody should have to go through this.
Same. Sent me chills down my spine. :(
I believe the child who did that to someone must because of the environment he grew up with
The fact some my age would do that makes me feel so horrible I hate the fact that someone in my year would do that
@@ella-zp3bc same :/
@@kaori7472 Maybe, maybe not. There is NO excuse.
That is so horrible, this needs to be talked about at school.
fortunately my school did teach us about sexual assault at a young age, but schools definitely need to talk about this more.
Sofie O oop
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it is awful but how do you even teach an 8 year-old what sexual assault is
"Age is just a number."
"And jail is just a room."
“Age is just a number.”
“So is 911”
**picks up phone**
"Age is just a number"
"So is a prisoner id"
@@gone4607 I mean..it kinda is?
Don't you think that this is a bit insensitive? Idk....i just don't think that you should joke about something like that when the video is so serious
@@Emma_The_H0ppin_H00ligan Who was making a joke?
You can tell he's uncomfortable about talking about this because he's barley looking at the camera and that's ok. This is not joke and the fact that he's telling us means a lot. 🥺😭
i know 🥺 he is so strong 💓
D:
He got mad balls telling the entire internet about this, though I respect the amount of trust he has
i was also sexually assaulted at around the same age, by someone who’s the same sex as me. and they were also my next door neighbor or “friend”. we’re all here for you, and thank you for speaking out about this, it’s so important, i know i felt alone when it happened but know you’re not alone ♥️
I was the same age as him and it happened by not only the same sex but also 2 of the opposite sex
Same here :(
Becca Bibeau the same thing happened to me, but it was my same sex cousin who did it and she was 12-14 I was 7-9(it happened on and off for years w/o me telling anyone by I didnt know it was wrong. My little cousin stayed with us for a while during that so I think I’m going to reach out to her)
I had a similar experience too
I'm so sorry that it happened to you. I hope you are doing fine
Sending love 💕 please take care of yourself 💖🥺
No baby sexual assault is a big thing don't EVER think that this is miniscule to what's happening around the world so glad you were able to talk about this so much love ❤️❤️❤️
Preach
I read it without the coma and got confused
@@Mon-hh2hm LMFAOOOO
@@Mon-hh2hm same lol
@@Mon-hh2hm Same,
Always put commas in your sentences,
Otherwise people won't understand you correctly.
Facts people need to hear
MEN CAN GET SEXUALLY ASSAULTED
WOMEN DO NOT “ASK FOR IT” WITH THEIR CLOTHING
MEN DO NOT ALWAYS “WANT IT”
EVERYONE NEEDS TO STAY SAFE AND LEARN SELF-DEFENSE
GOING TO THERAPY DOES NOT MAKE YOU “WEAK”
agree with this 100 percent
+GOING TO THERAPY DOES NOT MAKE YOU "CRAZY"
(it is for normal people with normal struggles, and it's common)
@Faraway - ikr
"A skirt is not an invitation"
-Anne Shirly from Anne With an E.
Thank you for saying this!
Sexual Assault is horrible either way, but these sentences need to be taught in school.
Boys do not “always want it”
Girls are not “asking for it” because of their clothing.
(Edit: So disgusting that people think its okay to let this shit be unnoticed. Thank you for telling your story, Frederic. It’s sad to think that these people could still be out there, traumatizing other innocent people . You deserve the right to speak out, anyone, and I’m proud oof you for overcoming it.)
And the other way around for both.
Girls do not "always want it"
Boys are not "asking for it" (because of their clothing).
I hate how schools don’t teach us this instead, they give out detentions or send girls home for wearing a top that shows their shoulders?! Because it’s too _revealing_ . Schools need to teach us things that we actually need to know in life
Rachael Phillipson James Yes. I’m lucky enough to have an amazing mom, if I got sent home for showing my shoulders because it’s to “revealing" Ma’am would call the school and start a verbal fight.
cc so sorry for not including that, but I meant the same for both ^^
goth!c i got sexually assaulted when i was 4 years old and i remember it so clearly. to me its not traumatic or dark i just dont rlly care
School doesn’t teach about sex, sexual assault, and that kind of stuff. It’s really sad cause kids are getting assaulted everyday :(
Atleast my school does. We had Sex Ed in form of "How babies are made" science video, then Sex Ed begun in 6th grade.
my school did, thank god, but every school needs to
I had exams about it ;-;
French Ferret I know, the only things they say at my school are things like “oh if someone touches you and you don’t like it, just walk away!!”
Idk I think where I live (England) most schools do in a weekly lesson that we call PSHE. We learn bout drugs, abuse, sexual assault, alcohol, addiction etc. And I think that it's like legally required here.
Okay, honey. That last one that happened in college is rape. He forced you to have sex with him. That’s rape. No question about it.
Edit; Thanks for commenting about the “h o n e y” part. Honestly I didn’t mean for it to come out in a rude way but i edited it because i don’t want it to come off like i’m treating him like a idiot. I’m so sorry if it came off that way!
do NOT "h o n e y" him in that way, it's condescending and acting like you're treating him like an idiot. please take that off, it's extremely rude when talking about something like this. i understand if you didn't mean to come off that way but it immediately does..
Kaylin VB read the edit
Kaylin VB That isn’t rude. People call each other that for fun. Stop being pissy and just chill out.
@@canihaveapopsicle9576
-That "for fun" ruin the thing because it shouldn't be for fun in that moment
@@kaylinvb6423 that's not what "honey" means. people use it as a way to address people. like how ppl say brother, baby, etc.
I remember when I talked to my mom about this and she said "if someone would've assaulted you I'd kill them" thanks mom you're not the type of parent that just says get over it
My parents were looking for adopting a kid and my dad didn’t get on there at all. One scenario was that I was being molested by some dude in the house (thanks adoption people) and apparently the ‘correct’ thing to do was ‘remove the child and ask the man to stand in another room while you call the police’. My dad said he would have beat the man to death. My mum and dad ended up being kicked off the coarse and I am still an only child to this day.
God bless her, that is incredible
@essayharperOh man, it happens more than you think. Some parents are even worse.
Your mum is the best.
My mom said the same thing. I was sa'd when I was about 9 by a friend who was a year older than me. I still haven't told anyone bc I don't want then to see me differently. Also I'm rly uncomfortable touching ppl now but i don't wanna tell them
PSA: Sexual assault is an insanely difficult thing to go through. Everyone has different reactions, journeys and ways of dealing with their experiences. Please don't feel like your assault is invalid in any way. Please don't ever feel that the way you respond makes it less serious or less important. You are valid, your experience is valid and no one is ever to blame but the assaulter. Also, if you need to talk to someone please seek out help from the many hotlines available or someone you trust deeply. Much love
It's so nice to hear someone say that the only one at fault is the assulter. I question my sexual assault so often that I'm the one to blame and other people have told me that it's my fault. Thank you for saying that!
@@savvannaa
I know how you feel, i have gone through the same thing from my dad and family and honestly i still don't evening know how to feel because of all that. Like i don't know what i feel from it. I don't even know if what i feel is tramua or if that is from something else.
@Savanna Jean @Janus Sanders It's so sad that as a survivor of assault you not only have to deal with all the trauma. On top of that people will always find ways to blame you. I understand that it can be hard but it's important to shut that shit down. You are never at fault. What you wear, what time of night it is, where you're walking, whether you trusted your assaulter. None of those things was the catalyst for what happened. Its the evil people that commit these crimes and nothing else. Stay strong. I care about you and I believe you
Y’all are absolutely right. My brain blocked out most of what happened. What happened to me was done on multiple occasions for a few years (what I believe to be from ages 6-10). It was bad. I know who did it to me and I remember just a few of the overall encounters. My brain had already blocked out what happened when I was a child so during one attack, I questioned why I was afraid of this person. I couldn’t remember why I wanted to jump out of my skin. So I said yes and just let it happen. Again and again. There was nothing I could do so why not go with it? This person could snap me in two with their bare hands so what chance did I have? I still find myself blaming, not them, but me. I tell others all the time that it’s not their fault. Only the person who attacked you is to blame. But I have a hard time believing that myself. After all, I did agree. Even if I was clearly uncomfortable with the idea and this person knew it. All it took was a little force of smile and disassociation.
All that to say, it’s still in the back of my mind. I can’t afford a therapist nor can I even bring in up in my household. The bits and pieces I can remember still haunt me. I still see this person so it’s very difficult being brought back to those times. But I’m working through it. I have amazing friends who’ve been supportive every step of the way. One day I’ll be able to talk to a professional and see where we can go from there. I wish this person would rot in the firey pits of hell, but dwelling on it too much won’t solve anything. If someone somehow made it to the bottom of my comment and have gone through a similar experience, please understand that you’re not alone. Nothing the other person has done to you was your fault. I know it’s shallow coming from someone who just said they can’t believe it themselves, but it’s true. You’re not at fault. They are. Just know you have a community backing you up right here. We’re all here to support you. ❤️❤️
I continue to feel as if it isn’t valid, and i don’t even think it’s assault because everyone is like ‘lol no’ so JDJSDICDECJ-
basically I was laying on my grandpas bed and he came in and started to kiss my face and neck and I was like, ‘n o’ and he like,,,,, licked me and the winked and then *left* and I began crying. That was happening for like 8 minutes and I’m scared to go over there now lol-
"Age is just a number"
Jail is just a place❤
@shane morgan woahwoahwoah...chill-
@shane morgan literally not blaming anyone and I don't know if what happened to me personally counted as assault, but I know not to blame a kid- 🗿🗿
Nonononono
Jail is just a 1 star hotel- lmao
@shane morgan at what point do we hold kids who harm other kids accountable then? If not when they're a child, when? You don't think that they're just going to continue doing the same things until there's consequences? Maybe they do learn and feel guilt from what happened but that doesn't change that they still hurt another kid
(Also just a sidenote but not every kid who sexually assaults another kid has been abused themselves, they can learn those actions from a lot of places not just firsthand experience and even when it is firsthand that's not any excuse)
@@toru4you fr thooo
Imagine how horrified his parents were having your own son sexually assaulted and him keeping it to himself must be so heartbreaking.
But sadly there are many cases of families learning it happened but too scared, as in "what would others think about us", that they would rather keep it as family secret than report it. It especially happens when the abuser is within the immediate family circle. The abuse cycle perpetuates even more when that's the case.
I know, it makes me so sad.
Yeah. it's very sad but this is more common than you think, there's so many cases that havent been spoken about because they are afraid. im apart of those people.
I would rather keep it to myself to not cause drama
@@cheesecakelasagna This is what has unfortunately happened to me. It's caused me a lot of pain. It feels like my mother loves him more than me.
*some people don’t think males can get sexually assaulted, but both genders can. Just a reminder*
Also both genders can be predatory, not just the males.
*all genders can
@@freddie8610 Yes ofc, this was a while back so forgive me
@@freddie8610 yes, all 2
@@klaufyy9900 omg just dont... you were right.
My cousin sexually assaulted me at 7 years old. He is still invited to every party we have. I’m Mexican and in a Mexican family we don’t talk about that especially if you’re a guy. Men being sexually assaulted isn’t recognized and usually downplayed.
I know how much that suck same thing happened to me. I also got assaulted sexually by my cousin and his family is really close to mine so I see him a lot. And when I told my family what happened they completely down play it.
Btw I’m also Mexican.
I understand you too, when I was little my cousin assaulted me and he was only a year of two older but he knew exactly what he was doing and I had no clue and then my mom asked me what happened but I thought I would be in trouble so I didn’t say anything and my mom never knew what exactly happened but I still have to see him every now and again and it’s just forgotten about
Bruh I’m also of Mexican decent and I got assaulted by one of my own family members, I couldn’t say anything because... well... he was very close to the fam and my mom relies heavily on him. I only told my mom abt it. I see him very often. Almost everyday. He has gotten religious but he is still perverted. I know he’s trying to change. I’m a very forgiving humble person but he is probably the only person I have never really forgiven.
Micaloveslimes ! You don’t have to forgive him he’s not entitled to your forgiveness or anyone for that matter
victor 😭💖✨ thanks bro
This is why they say believe any sexual assault victim until proven guilty.
amen
That could do massive damage to people
Human Being that’s true, but there should be proper investigation before accusing someone.
yes but also that there are lot false accusations that destroy people’s lives
It’s more about “help the victims in any way you can, as long as you don’t condemn the abuser unless proven guilty”
The amount of sexual assault survivors in these comments is so upsetting ):
very
Ari the.unicorn honestly, it just shows how we NEED, NEED, more sex education. Including what is wrong, even a dumbed down version for young kids like “if an adult touches your private parts, *points to then* here, or here. Please, talk to an adult you trust. If that may be a teacher or parents” sometimes talking to parents doesn’t work, but it helps kids learn to tell someone and that it is wrong
@@rachaelhatton5960 definitely so that they can speak up because they aren't going to if they don't understand it's wrong
REALLY upsetting
@@rachaelhatton5960 EXACTLY! When I was in elementary school, they taught about 'good touch/bad touch'. They never explained it sexually or anything like that, but they said if anyone touches you in a private area then you should tell a trusted adult. I think this is something they should talk about in all elementary schools- how to recognize a 'bad touch', even if you don't know it's sexual; just know enough to realize it's wrong and you should tell someone.
I’ve never been sexually assaulted before, and my heart goes out to whoever has. I’ve been touched before, by my brother. I’ve only talked to one person about it and she kinda didn’t care, so I’m gonna talk about it on here, even if nobody sees it.
one time, me and my brother went over to our friends house to swim and hang out. (both of the friends were guys). I was changing into my swimsuit in the bathroom, (they had a Jack and Jill bathroom which means it had 2 doors, but neither of the doors had locks on them) and my brother (9 at the time) came through one of the doors and pinned me (7 at the time) against the wall with his arm, choking me so I didn’t have enough strength to pull him off me. he then called the other older friend into the room, and then pulled down my bathing suit bottoms. the other younger friend, around my age, heard what was going on, pushed his brother out of the way, then came into the room covering his eyes, found his way to my brother, then shoved him out of the room. he then closed the door (still covering his eyes) and held it shut so they couldn’t get in. I pulled my bottoms back up, and did my best to keep the other door shut, but they were so strong that they kept getting in, trying to get to me and touch me more. the friend that was helping me had to pry them off of me, and punch and kick them, while I was screaming and crying. eventually the mom of the friends came in and helped me. she didn’t want me to be around the oldest boy anymore so she took us home. I haven’t been back there since, but I will always be thankful for the help of the youngest friend, who did his best to help me while making sure he didn’t see me.
im sorry for anyone who has been assaulted. you are an amazing person, guy girl, non binary, or whatever gender or sexuality.
update: i realized eight months ago that this was sexual assault. i’m okay now though!! i don’t live with my brother anymore, he lives with my dad and i live with my mom.
Im so sorry they did that, it should not have happened. that friend is certainly a good person, Im glad they were able to help. I would try and tell an adult if you can, or a friend or therapist. just know it's not your fault, and you're not alone. I hope the best for you, stay safe and stay hydrated
Ixel Pixel thank you
@@ilovecats6416 youre welcome:)
Yeah if they touched you (or themselves in your presence) at all in a sexual manner, that's sexual assault-I would say molestation in this case. I really hope you're brother doesn't still live with you. If you're going to tell someone what happened, tell someone you trust to understand you.
It sounds messed up, but some people are equally messed up in the head from trauma or something, and will not know how to properly act or react to your story/experience. So even if it's easier said than done, if you share with someone, tell someone you trust, tell someone that can help you or is at least willing to listen.
Stay safe. Let yourself process and understand what happened, even if it hurts. It may help you grow, and it may help you heal. It's happened to me, and slowly I am processing my own pain, and hopefully healing it, too. Well wishes 💜
Chili b thank you so much, I wish you the best on your journey as well💜
Don't apologize abut speaking about darker topics, you're brave for doing so and we're proud of you for it! :)
100% it's not your fault your so brave to speak about it
Yup
If youtube age restricts this, I'm gonna sue.
Same
My mother said *"this is why he's gay"* and it pissed me off as a gay trans.
I'd move in with my dad if my mom said that. I'm waiting for her to say another disrespect thing and imma educate her ass. Coming from a bisexual teen
Tell ur mom to stfu
I grew up watching music videos with a$$ and tiddies and I'm gay as all hell so I'm living proof that what you're exposed to as a child does NOT have an impact on your sexual preference when you get older
So what if he is gay or anybody else just accept it that there are gay people in the world
When it was Pride Month I tried asking my dad if we could celebrate, he said no: because apparently p*dos were in the lgbtq (obviously not but he thought so) and it’s also against the Bible to be gay, I cried for an hour afterwards I am aro bi and when I came out a month later I had a very unsuccessful talk :/
Literally sexual assault is horrible, my friend has been sexually assaulted but brushes it off like nothing and idk what to do.
can you tell a professional or smth?? it's not "Nothing" but really important thing
Maybe they’re not comfortable talking about it? Try asking if you can talk about the topic and give them time
maybe they want to forget it and not remember it when they talk about it?
don’t push them about it If it seems like they don’t want to talk to you about it.
I think this is pretty basic but try not to push them to talk about it if they seem uncomfortable about the topic. Talking about something as traumatic as this can be a painful reminder of what happened, especially when you haven't had the time nor energy to heal from it to the point where you can talk about it without the pain.
I'm still trying to heal from my own experience and having a friend like you who cares would have helped me so much. Just let them know that whenever they feel ready to talk about it, you're willing to be there for them and that you wouldn't think any lesser of them because of what happened. Take care
You aren’t alone. The school system just isn’t right.
I saw this pop up and I really didn’t expect you to be the one to post this Im so grateful you’re sharing your story also the assholes who say first in this situation are a bit much
why does this have no replies?
What do you mean ‘first’? (Sorry i don’t really get what you mean)
@@HiBuddyyyyyy it means people claiming that they were the first person to comment on the video
i really hate the fact that our guardians would never teach us because "were too young to learn about it"
But I don't think that they're trying to hurt us, you know? I think they honestly are trying to help us, but that help may be a bit damaging dont u think?
🤮😭TW: R4PE😭🤮My mom taught me it because my older sister got sexually assaulted when she was like five and the person who did it, was my brothers friend. The assaulter threatened to hurt our family and to lock her in the basement if she told anyone. He brought her to the bathroom and touched her and made her touch him (he was a teenager) and I think $uck it because she has a throat disease now. She was telling my brother and his other friends but she didn’t explain it like a teen would ofc. They found out the friend did it because my brothers other friends questioned why she wasn’t accusing them and why was she accusing only one person. He got caught went to jail for a COUPLE years. A COUPLE YEARS. HE R4PED HER AND NOW SHE HAS A DISEASE THAT WILL LAST A LIFETIME. SHE HAS TO GET SURGERY A COUPLE TIMES A YEAR AND THE DISEASE COULD CAUSE DEATH. I AM FURIOUS. when my brother found out, he wanted to kill his ex friend. And when we talk about it she cries a lot.
exactly, i feel like that shouldn't be something that we have to be older to learn about. If i had knew, what happend to me would have been provented.
Yesss wtf is up with that
@@user-fo9en9pw9w I am SO SORRY that happened to your sister! Pedophilia and grooming need to be taught to in schools in order to prevent things like this!!!
I once got sexually assaulted by a cousin once, I tried telling another cousin but they didn’t care because I was their least favorite cousin.
I was 9-10.
hey! just bc ur their "least favourite cousin" doesn't give them an excuse not to care
@@alex-mi3or thank you, I really needed that, this happened a long time ago, but thank you, I don’t really wanna get into much detail so I don’t wanna talk but thank you for worrying about me, stay safe
I'm so sorry that happend to you 😔
I hope you feel better, even though you will never forget it
@@Bluelightsinthesky oh yw!
@@Aniq301 thank you
No one of any age, especially a child should go through something like this. Schools do not teach children about pedophilia, sexual assault, and predatory behavior enough. At my school, they don’t do it at all. When i was 9, my friend of the same age was sexually assaulted by his uncle who was around the age of 28. He told me about his experience after a week of contemplating whether or not it was worth telling anyone, since no one taught us about pedophilia, and sexual assault. I who at the time knew just as little about these things, kinda knew something wasn’t right and urged him to tell his parents and ask what they thought of it. I don’t know what happened after that, i only know that his uncle had to serve some time in prison. After a few months, his family moved out and I’ve never seen my friend since. I don’t know if this experience of his made a lasting scar, or a tiny scratch in his mind, but what i do know is that schools should bear the responsibility of teaching children about things like these, so that no one should have to go through something like this.
Exactly same happened to most of my friends and family members and it’s horrible. Schools and even parents should teach their kids about this very early on so they’ll understand what to do in that situation and hopefully avoid this happening to more kids.
Sexually harassed at 7 in the second grade told the teacher and she said something to him i was thankful sexually harassed at 9 in 4th grade my teacher said my skirt was to short she told me to cover up and didn't check the boy now during that time i was being raped from 6 to 9 and whats weird is this is the first time I've said I was raped like I told on the boys when they harassed me but I never told on my main predator and I don't understand why
I seriously don’t get the people that are hating on him, he’s sharing his story to help other victims of sexual assault to speak out, just look at the comments and how many people have opened up
Exactly alot of people feel uncomfortable with opening up and it takes yearsss
preston oldham yeah no :(
There’s only 54 dislikes?
Becouse he wants atention
@@i_sulfat That's still an amount of people-
all throughout school i’ve been sexually assaulted. even when i was a child, my babysitter was a pedophile (who is now in jail) and i’m constantly in and out of therapy. it’s no joke and it feels so disgusting.
Just a quick little edit to let people know that i am doing better! i do suffer from emotional flashbacks frequently but overall i’m healing
It’s awful that you had to go through that. I hope you’re doing okay.
I’m sorry you had to go through this, it’s really tough and I hope you get the help you need and get better.
I’m sorry you had to go through that, I hope you’re okay
If you ever need to talk,
I've seen heard and read enough shit,
To know the impact and burden you carry,
It's heartbreaking to hear from people
And it's disgusting to read about,
But it's worth talking about.
Personally I've been in therapy too,
Not because I had a similar experience to you,
But because I was taking care of people who did.
Apparently "keeping each other sane",
Is a good motto, but a treacherous goal.
Tho if I could go back in time, I'd take on more people,
Because I still regret about people where I was a little too late.
(Still not a psychologist (not even a psychology student(maybe I'll take it as a minor)))
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that but sugawara, asahi, Daichi, kageyama, nishinoya, takenma, and everyone else is on your side queen.
This is why teaching kids about sexual assault is so important --- mainly teaching why and how it is wrong. It's so easy to make the jump from victim to victimizer when you're developing your brain. Not every victim realizes what happened to them is wrong, and can't compute that it's wrong to repeat those actions.
I agree. When I was in year 7, my first year of secondary school, multiple girls were sexually assaulted by people of many ages, never told about the horrors of this trauma, and the rest of us learned by their stories. They could have been helped. The school did nothing. The school said nothing. Statements were written and ignored. The assaulters were left with no repercussions. There were no warnings, no way to stop them, and no one to tell who would help. This victim blaming, non-believing, unspoken, disgusting culture around sexual assault needs to be stopped, and we need to talk about it and provide dire consequences for rapists. We need to speak out. We need a change.
@One Pangenderfrog Completely agree.
we had a workshop about SA and how it all messed up because the class next door made two räpe jokes. i heard them, i was scared for my friends safety. now it is all sorted out
dont call yourself dumb for the last experience. you trusted someone and they turned out to be shitty. it 100% is their fault.
I was sexually assaulted and preyed upon on the internet when I was 12. This guy had me wrapped around my finger so damn tight. He tried to isolate me from all my friends, he had me heavily manipulated, he would make me believe I wasn’t who I thought I was, (now realize, I’m trans ftm). I was under his control for a year. And it’s officially been two years away from him. I still have trauma. I still have flashbacks. But my current boyfriend saved me. For sure.
But no one knows besides my boyfriend and a few of my friends. Sexual assault trauma is hell to deal with. It will get better tho.
I feel like sexual assault is never talked about in schools. If it was, maybe then I would’ve realized what was going on. But here’s a small list of what a predator/toxic person will try to do to someone, just in case it helps anyone
- tell you they’re going to kill them self if you leave or unfriend them
-tell you to keep “us” a secret
-try to isolate you from your friends
-isolate you off of the internet
-be heavily critical about your appearance
-May become upset when you want to spend time with someone, even family
-you may feel emotionally confused a lot around this person
Please, if someone is doing any of these to you. You should cut contact or reevaluate how you became “friends” with them.
Edit: thank you for all the support, I’ve never had a comment “blow up” as much as this one. I hope my story helps some other people out there
I hope your doing okay, I'm glad you have told people and your boyfriend saved you. I too was sexually assaulted and do and flashbacks.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you, I hope you're feeling better now
Stay safe✌️💕
@@chico4719 I'm really sorry for this, please try to talk to someone if you feel like that would help
Stay safe✌️💕
I hope you are healing its such an awful thing to go through
elliot james thank you, it’s been hard to get through, but I am doing a lot better
Honestly I wish people like this never existed it’s so saddening that there are adults that rape sexually assault manipulate (etc)and because of assholes that do all this crap children are always in so much danger
I just wanted to share what happened to me
I was in the seventh grade and I was friends with a guy he was the same age as me we got really close and I thought he was my best bud fast forward a year later he started acting a bit more weird and flirty I just thought he was joking him and his friends changed a lot and started saying comments about me such as “you’d look better without clothes ,you have a nice ass” I asked him to please tell his friends to stop and he always said they were joking
(every year we have a sports event) as I was getting ready for my time to go out (I was in the bathroom) he came in and forcefully pushed me into a stall trying to kiss me and take off my shorts I screamed and punched him and ran out that day he was expelled and I never say him again
I hope everyone stays safe and I love you Frederic stay safe 💕✨
I'm so glad that you got away. I'm just realizing now how fcked up some ppl are in middle school. (7th grade)My guy friend was joking around and said he was gonna rape me but I just laughed it off and told him I always bring pepper spray with me everywhere but I was really disappointed in him and I knew he had a crush on me for a couple of years but he ruined it.
When we were in the lunch line on of his friends touched my ass and he laughed abt it (no teachers saw bcuz most of the guys and some of the girls are tall at my middle school and Im 5'2). Another one of my guy friends touched my ass after we left out of class. Him and some of my other guy friends were talking abt it and one of them told me so I told him I'd slap him if he did but he didn't care so after class I made sure he left before me but when I walked out he was waiting for me I tried to face towards him so he couldn't do it and I was running late for my other class since I thought he was walking to his class I started to walk to the back stairs but he did it anyway. I didn't want to be late or get in trouble so I just got mad at him and ran to class cuz I don't wanna ruin my school record, I don't wanna disappoint my mom.
Sorry if there's error I didn't read over it
Butterfly Fairy I’m so sorry about what your friend my friend had a crush on me too I think that’s what triggered him to do that to me i hope your okay now
전정국 omg that is fucking horrible no one should go through sexual assault or abuse I am so sorry for u and when I was a kid my dad use to abuse me not sexually just beat the living pulp out of me and i was a kid I never told anyone my mom was also scared to say anything and then my teacher found out and called the cops to my house for counciling my dad and I was in Canada so u can’t hit ur child that is illegal so my dad has brought me to India where rapists abusers and people like my dad roam free yes me and my sister and little brother still get abused sometimes and my mom does to
Ilysm plz be happy wherever u r now
plp who say "youre lgbt because of [thing that happened to you]" are so awful and im sorry youve ever had to hear that at all. ive ben abused as a kid, and people often say "oh youre probably trans bc of the abuse" like ??? they dont correlate at all, youre completely invalidating my trauma as well as me as a person in one sentence, its almost impressive. if ANYONE lgbt out there has been mistreated by anyone whatsoever, those dont correlate, and you havent been "turned" lgbt bc of someone else's mistreatment. i love everyone in this comment section, and i truly wish the best for all of you
Really, I'm not attracted to males bc I was assaulted- especially bc I was a girl t the time
one of the reasons i present myself as male is because of trauma. i feel happier this way, but its extremely disgusting that people are saying shit like that.
Especially when you've faced violence because you're queer... I hate it, they are literally getting the concept backwards
I’m not sure if this counts as assault, but might as well share to find out. When I was 14, my family was going to eat somewhere and we had to pick up my aunt (who was like 68 yrs old at the time) and since there was no other place in the car, she and I sat together in the back. Now this was normal, but that day she started touching my thigh and continued until a point where I wasn’t comfortable with it and didn’t want to be next to her anymore. The next time I saw her because that I had told my mom what happened, she told me to go in the front seat next to the driver so I didn’t had to go next to my aunt. At first I thought this would be ok, but by the time that she was on the car, she sat exactly in the back seat of my front seat and started to reach my shoulder, then my bra strap and then she moved her hand further down (where again at the point where I wasn’t comfortable and didn’t know what to do). My family didn’t noticed any of these things when they happened (I still don’t know why). And I didn’t want to say anything because like you Fredric I thought it was normal for (in my case) my aunt to be touching like that cause I thought she wouldn’t harm me in any way. By the end of the day, I kept my distance and later my mom approached me telling me what’s wrong, and I didn’t say anything. Weeks later I got the courage and actually speaking with my mom about it and she was mad to say the least with my aunt and everything. It’s been 2 years since, mayority of my family is in my aunt side with this situation (and blames me by saying that I was exaggerating at the time, when I think I wasn’t). Till this day I still have contact with her and there’s been multiple times where she’s tried to assault me yet again.
I don’t expect pity or sympathy from people, I just wanted to share it, since Until now I’ve just shared my perspective with one person (my mother).
edit: thanks for taking the time to read and the nice words everyone has told me! I’ve never thought so many would be on my side considering the perspective of my family... If anyone has or is going through a situation like mine or Fredric, please speak up. It doesn’t matter to who, but from my experience it’s always good to have someone listen and be by your side after such event.
no what she is doing is gross and hopefully you're living your best life rn
When a person touches you where you don't want to be touched it's straight up assault and it's 100% not your fault or you being extra.
I hope you are happy 💜
💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖You deserve wayyyyy better 💖💖💖💖💖💖and I hope your aunt gets locked up
I SUPPORT YOU
Thank you for sharing this with us. You are so brave. I hope you do well and please take care of yourself. ♥️
I am so sorry this happened to you 😭😭😭
I feel so bad for anyone who has had to go through this. Please do contact the link at the top of the description if anything similar has happened to you.
Me looking at the title: who wants to plan a murder
i'm in
Me!
I'm down.
Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes!
i'm game.
I honestly find it so disturbing that someone can just sexually assault a child and get away with it because of the child not knowing that what happened wasn’t okay. I am so sorry that this happened to you.
The fact that I’m 12 and I need to learn about this stuff “just in case” is horrific. Not only that but i (just like many other people) have to learn about this stuff from social media because schools don’t feel the need to talk about it. I’m so sorry about what happened too you, just remember that we’re all here for you.
Same here.
I remember the closest thing we got to talking about this was when I was in 5th grade, and we talked about puberty and how baby’s were made. But they refused to talk about relationships and sexual harassment because “We didn’t need to know”.
I was confused, so I went on google to look some of this stuff up. This is how I learns that there is more to the world then what school teaches you. There are horrible people out there, and they refuse to talk about it.
*We need this stuff taught in school*
I'm the same age as you and my school hasn't talked about either. as a kid, my mom let me watch movies about murders, stalkers, and just wrong people. there was this kid in my class last year that everyone hated, even the teachers.
luckly my friend has a dad whi explains everything (*not inappropately* jesus I cant spell) to her a warns her so she warned me and my friends in 5th grade...
The only time i heared about it was in School talking whit my friends and i was so ✨dissapointed✨
Ah another 12 year old, nice to meet ya!...
It kinda sucks that we actually have to find this stuff out on our own. And the "just in case" things are the most improtant. I've been a girl for most of my life (recently I came out as genderfluid) and I've been taught since I could even read, to never talk to strangers, leave a drink alone, never walk alone, and ALWAYS Look behind you when out and about. I hate knowing that if didn't do these things I could either be dead or a completely different person then I am today.
I hate that it's mostly boys (not men) who say men don't get sexually assaulted, instead of actually trying to comfort victims they bring them down it really hurts me
It is a lot of men too who say things like "i wish she was around when i was a kid" which is very damaging because it teaches boys not only that sexual assault is ok, but that you are lucky if it happens to you. Very fucked up.
No these are men. Hold them accountable. Saying “boy” is practically saying that this behavior should be normal in boys and it shouldn’t. Just wanted to say correct you on that have a nice day
I don't think that there's a way to say that women or men say it more. Women say it too and expect a lot of men.
@@betchayoyo7562 no, there is a way to say that. Not with certainty, but with anecdotal evidence, because the majority of people would say that in their lives they have experienced more men with that behavior than anyone else.
@chijeu・゚ whats disgusting is that you arent willing to let anyone take the blame and would rather say that its some kind of team effort. That doesnt help anyone. Also "saying one gender 'says it more than the other' is almost saying the other gender doesnt say it" is probably the most retarded sentence i have ever heard, sorry. Thats very very clearly a false equivalency. If we dont let anyone take the blame for anything, then you're right, humanity is fucked.
I was raped when I was six... still depressed and anxious about I never told my parents and still haven’t but I can still smile so people think I’m happy
I'm really sorry for what happened to you. I seriously don't have a say in your life but I think that if you have a good bond with your parents (if you get along with them etc) you should tell them to not carry this whole situation by yourself. Anyways do as you please and what makes you happy ❤️
If you dont wanna tell ur parents. Tell a hotline or smth similar. Im so sry this happened to u. I rly am. Also, Ik wut it feels like to put a front but just tell a friend or a pet sometime. Just let it all out becuz it will help u in the long run. U are a queen. U are amazing. U are stong. I wish the best for u
hey! you can still tell your parents, it's never too late
im really sorry, speak to someone you trust about it. i believe in you and hope for the best
i hope you’re doing okay now, but please tell somebody about it!
You're not alone, Fredric. I've been sexually assaulted by my brother for a few years.
Edit: thank you all for your support and for your own stories. My brother stopped when I was in grade 6 (going in grade 10 now) and I am in foster care.
YA- W H O T
I am so sorry you had to go thru that i hope he doesn’t do it anymore and that you feel better
i hope you’re ok now :(
I agree with the people who answered your comments, hope you’re alright
Edit: and I hope everyone who’s gone through something like this is alright
same, my friend.
i was sexually harrased and abused by older women when i was in middle school and i was scared to tell anyone because i thought no one would listen to me since it was by women.
The school system is critically flawed. They NEED to teach us to be safe when it comes to anything related to sex. They need to teach us how to stay safe from sexual predators. But no, we are just "too young." I'm going to graduate in a couple years, and I have literally only had one sex ed class, and it has only taught me what HPV was. We really need to normalize teaching children how to keep themselves safe.
i agree. in fifth grade, we had a puberty video, but it was literally just about periods, and absolutely nothing about sex. in eighth grade, we only talked about abstinence and sexual harassment, but it only extended to cat calling and it was very weird. but i learned everything about sex on the internet, and there’s some weird stuff online, so it’s crazy that that is how i learned it. school needs to let people know how to be safe in both consensual and nonconsensual situations.
yeah how could you teach teach children not to take stuff from strangers or kidnapping but not teach them about this?
my skl taught this in first year at the age of five (Im from Trinbago) i cant remember anything b4 the age of 5 but depending on the pre-skl i think they tell u to not let people touch u in those areas( i spent some time in a pre-skl like helped for like yk) and when u got older they go more into detail
Cora Draws we had two sex Ed classes. The first one in grade four was mostly about hair and boners. Then the one in grade seven was about condoms. Nothing about periods or the actual sex part. But my mom has always been open about sex Ed so I knew a lot of things at a young age so I kinda informed my friends on sex and stuff. But we have a gsa, and one day the teacher who stared the club taught us about lgbt+ sex Ed.
Literally my dads _church_ had a lesson where they talked about it to me and my brother, he was 8 and i was 12, and now we know this shit. So if the church was cool with this, wtf wrong with the school 🙄 people need to know this.
To the 26 people who disliked this... why that’s not cool like
It’s probably and hopefully just bots
I mean, the dislike option isn’t really saying you dislike the video, it’s just telling the algorithm that you do not want to see a type of content-
Dumpsterz Bait-shop true but there’s also the option that lets you tell yt not to recommend the content without a dislike, although of course dislikes do no major harm
Goddamn 72 now
When I was 9 years old I had a best friend, and I would sleepover at her house almost ever weekend, as she got older she hit puberty way quicker then me, and one weekend she showed me p*rn, I was uncomfortable and told her that it was gross and didn’t want to watch, but she made me, next sleepover the same thing happened and eventually she started talking about us doing those things, I was very uncomfortable but somehow she made me, and she made me do things I didn’t want to do with her, I am now 13 and have trust issues and commitment issues, I am to scared to tell my parents and only 2 people know about this, it’s horrible and has contributed to my mental health decline, ending up with cutting myself from 5-7 grade, and 2 suicide attempts. I’m sorry you also had to go through this. I feel for you and anyone who has gone through this.
I'm so sorry you've gone through all of that. That's some seriously tough shit. I'm thinking of you, and praying to the universe that good things start happening for you. Please remember that you have so much value, the world is full of good people, and that it's enough to just be curious about your future. There's an Arabic proverb that goes "You want to die? Throw yourself into the sea and you will see yourself struggling to survive. You don't want to kill yourself, rather you want to kill something inside you (circumstances, memories, etc.)." I'm sending you all the lovely healing vibes girl
Mary V thank you so much, this means a lot.
Person Person I can’t even begin to imagine how hard this must be for you, and I’m so very sorry that you had to go through that and that you continue to experience the effects of it. Just know that you ALWAYS have value here with us on earth, and your life is a life, and it MEANS something. I know that it might not feel like it, but there are always people there for you, if not in person, then at least through the screen. I’m sending you all of my love and support, and just know that there are always people there for you and rooting you on. ❤️
Davie thank you so much, you are so kind
No one should ever have to go through that, I really hope you defriended her, that's disgusting and I know this isn't something you want to be asked but are you ok? Do you need someone to talk to? Maybe a virtual hug?
No one should have gone though this. It wasn’t your fault. God, I wish school could actually teach about sexual assault and other stuff.
Why is knowing how to have sex more important than knowing how to prevent being pushed into it?
Holy shit that’s a really good way how to put it
@@Kahrris thanks!
I don't think that's the problem,
The problem is that they can't prevent it,
If they can't recognise it.
So learning how comes always beforehand.
Although a lot of people here claim school didn't teach about filing reports to the police,
Which worries me, because that was part of my school's core curriculum.
Which makes it technically more important than mathematics at our school.
Someone: that experience is why you're ga-
Me: ISTG IF YOU FINISH YOUR SENTENCE
Facts tho people who say that are so messed up wtf he was 8. They have no sympathy just because he’s gay that’s so messed up bro
This is not a joke tho
Me to that someone: *”S H U T”*
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I cannot stop crying about this. I can relate to this A LOT! Something like this happened to me when I was 5 (or 3) and again, with another person, when I was 16 and now, I’m 19, and I want to speak out about it but whoever I talk to about it says “no. Don’t say anything because 1.) it happened a long time ago and 2.) they’re some of our family members and you can’t say anything because YOU’LL RUIN THEIR REPUTATION!”
I hate my family
King Ale You should speak out about it. Who gives an f about their reputation when they did that to you?! And so what if it happened a long time ago, it still scarred YOU and YOU need some closure. Honestly, that’s not okay in ANY way. You really should speak out. At the same time you need to do what feels right and of course it’s your decision, this is just my advice.
It just seems like you were really hurt by that happening to you.
Maybe try talking to someone outside your family otherwise, someone who doesn’t have a connection with these people?
You can talk about it here if u want. Also same I hate my family. It didnt happen to me but to family members not one or two but three fucking incidents from three times by three different people. I have hella trust issues now and I learned that dont ever trust adults. They don't care about u but themselves. At least for me also fuck family.
LIL SZL
Thank you for sharing your story :(. And I wish you the best. You can talk to me if you want. ❤️
AnnaAwesome
Thank you so much! 😭❤️ I do have to speak out. It really is hurting me.
I hate people like that. I really hope you are doing okay. I wish you the best and the happiness you deserve, and I hope you can get away from those horrible people. ♡
I was sexually harassed by my own grandfather when I was 6, and I didn’t tell anyone till almost 10 years later. Sexual harassment and assault is not a joke and will stick with you. It’s gross and horrible.
ava endsley you’re so brave for sharing your experience❤️I was sexually assaulted by my own uncle at 8 years old. None of this is a joke. It’s awful and disgusting. I just went to therapy for the first time this week. I also waited 10 years to tell anyone. At a young age, how are you supposed to know. Thank you for sharing :)
Same but it happened to me when 11-12 for over a year and a half
Meme Collector that’s awful I’m so sorry
Gabi Delgado thank you so much, I haven’t even told my dad yet about that situation.
ava endsley omg I’m so sorry for u this is just sick the that the thought of ur own grandfather is just disgusting I hope ur doing well now stay strong never give up ur beautiful and I love u stay home stay safe 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚
Don’t ever let anyone tell you that your trauma is not big enough or that your problems aren’t important. It’s not a competition. You matter, and your feelings matter
I’m just gonna say it, I was sexually assaulted around that age, too, and by a friend of the same age, I don’t know it was sexual assault until I got older.
We will stand as one and we will all support
Yeah same.. the exact same thing happened to me as to him and you
@@be_music716 I'm sorry you went through that too
@@catsybatsy I'm really sorry you did too
The way I can relate to this, I was also sexually assaulted around the age of 8. It continued until I was 10. I still see this man, he hasn’t been charged, I haven’t told anyone. He’s my uncle, and I don’t want his family hurt or him. Do I wish I told someone? Yes, everyday I wish that I told someone. You are so unbelievably strong for posting this. Edit: this is also basically a case of child grooming, he had built trust with me, and he took advantage with that. 🤷♀️ edit: hey guys, TYSM for all the love and support, it means a lot to me especially in this time.
Please tell a trusted adult. I know it's hard, but it's better to tell someone.
Please tell a trusted adult, keeping it to yourself is a horrible idea.
I'm so sorry, please tell someone. A trusted adult, a teacher, just anything. If you're not comfortable telling someone you personally know there are websites to talk to people. Please go to a trusted adult or trusted websites, it will feel so much better. I know it's so hard, please stay safe
Im so sorry bro. UR a queen. u rly are. to go through that and still be strong. bro that's some next level stuff right there. Also, please tell someone. It will help u a lot
It’s not ur fault. He’s the adult, he knows better. If he doesn’t want to get hurt, then maybe he shouldn’t have done it
Hope you’re okay ❤️
literally just came out to my parents less than a week ago that i was molested when i was 8. got counseling and we're putting the pedo in jail, anyone watching this video or reading my comment who has gone through a similar experience, i encourage you to reach out for help too
That’s awesome! Not many people get to put their molester in jail and it’s amazing that u can, I hope your okay and are doing well with counseling (love the profile picture)
I'm glad you have support and that you're able to get justice for their actions against you. I came out to my parents about my own around a couple months ago and it's terrifying. Standing with you bb
I'm so happy for you but even if I told my parents they wouldn't believe me since my brother tried to sexual assault me and since they have no proof and my brother literally lives with me I'm still on stage one of reaching out ;c
@@Pinnie06 i told my parents like 2 years ago and i dont know where he went, Thanks! For the good wishes!!
When I read the title I literally thought
"Haven't we all?"
And then I felt like shit because I have been sexually harassed before.
The fact that this is more common than we might think is absolutely disgusting.
i’m coming to save you all
i will keep you in my basement and feed you muffins and take care of you. i dont want you beans to have to experience shit like this
@@bbygoldencarrot9970 Yeth pleath👉👈
@@bbygoldencarrot9970 Bro, please.
(I edited my comment because I went to check on the internet and those things that my grandpa's friend did to me was definitely sexual harassment)
When a lot of people talk about these kind of topics, people should *not* think that that person is talking because they want attention... No one should bully that person because it's not their fault they were in that situation.
Also don’t be too naive, pls stay safe!
We support you :)
i don't know if you're spelling because like "becoz" on purpose but i just want to help you by saying that because is actually spelled "because"
Davud Edgell .
Davud Edgell it's kind like an abbreviation sorta? Like a shorter form since becoz sounds like because and contains fewer letters hence easier to type
*kinda
@@Mika-jo8fc its literally 3 less letters
I was sexually assaulted when I was 7 or 8, and I guess you could say I'm traumatized about it because I always remembered how I described it. To give a quick summary, my uncle, who was 12 or 13 at the time, convinced me that if I suck his "thing," I would get a prize. So, me being the confused 7 or 8 year old, I did what he asked. We got caught by his mom and she just told me to wash my mouth. I still remember being in the bathroom washing my mouth, and being super scared, confused, and sad. He always bullied me and treated me different when I was younger, but what he did to me that day was so disgusting, and it'll never leave my head.
Im so sorry you had to go through that and i hope you get better but i have 1 question, how was your uncle 12-13?
My grandmas sibling had a son really late?? (It's hard to explain), but my parents told me to call him my uncle.
@@imkirumi ah makes sence.
@@zenzonerzz4789 I have an uncle the same age as me just 8 months older
are you a boy
This not only needs to be talked about more- But also taken more seriously.
In The GSA at my school, yes. The GSA.
I got touched without consent.
This senior girl touched my chest, and I told them to stop but they didn’t, I will say this was IN THE CLASSROOM, with PEOPLE IN IT. (I’m a female but at the time I was using a binder because I was super uncomfortable with my body)
I brought it up with the club president-
And they did nothing to fix it- they tossed it away as if nothing happen.
And recently I had found out that they tossed it aside as if it wasn’t important.
I was 15. She was 18.
That’s messed up. I hope this girl gets what she deserves at the end of the day. You are strong for telling her to stop and letting them know
wtf?
I feel so sad that u felt the need to justify why you couldn’t stop it on the third story. No one blames u and if someone does they are toxic. It isn’t easy to push someone away, especially if they are stronger. Your stories and experiences are valid. Don’t let anyone tell you anything else. I hope you really do not feel too traumatized about it and that you are fine now. To anyone else that has been through abuse: Your story is valid, you are valid and you DO NOT have fault at anything that has happened to you. You don’t have to speak out but if you feel like it would help you, please do. I will personally defend you if anyone tries to invalidate your story and experience.
bleeding_externally Oh haha, I counted is as one story but what u said is true too
This is so sad and frustrating, men and women who have been sexually assaulted should be brought to justice and not experience these things at all. Remember Frederic we're here for you💕🥺
Tiny thing to try and help people out:
As lots of people know, Every 7 years, your body is completely renewed. I just want you guys to know that after 7 years, you have a body your abuser never touched. Stay strong.
Thankyou
@KILEY KITTRIDGE every seven years, the cells in your body are completely different then the ones seven years ago. I’m just trying to tell them that their childhood abuse doesn’t have to dictate the way they see themselves and their bodies.
It’s been 7 years for me now, but I still feel disgusting oof
yeah you are right but the sad part is neurons remain the same! appreciate your motivation :)
@@bunniegutz2875 i dont know what else to say other than same
Didn't watched the video yet but WHAT
on god
EHAT
WHAT
IKR LIKE HELLO???? CHILE LEMME BREATHE FOR A SEC
"kill kill never stop"
Holy shit man im so glad u came out about this ;-;
What’s that face mean?
this is why sexual education needs to be taught when people are younger, and both lgbt+ and heterosexual sexual health
This is why children need to be educated about grooming. We don't have to tell them the details. But please tell your children that it's not okay for anyone to touch their privates. In an ideal world, they wouldn't have to hear this. But, we don't live in an ideal world. I'm so sorry this happened to you, I can see the discomfort in your eyes. You're so brave for coming out with this, and I'm sure survivors have found comfort in this.
I am so disgusted. I am 14 and I cannot even begin to image how someone my age could do that to an 8 year old. Wow people are crazy.
Same
I was sexually harassed as a child as well. I didn't think it was wrong at the time until I learned about it so I also don't know how to feel about it.
Jesus Christ, this is-
Traumatic. This is a good lesson to teach younger children about the warnings.
People need to teach about this in school, it’s fucked up that this happens. I’m sorry that that happend
Honestly, as someone who's still trying to accept that they were sexually assaulted by their own sister at age 6, this helps a lot. We're all here for you and thank you so much for speaking out. To everyone who has also been sexually assault and/or raped, we're here for you. You're not alone in this battle and if you need someone to talk to, I'll be here. No one deserves to be raped and sexually assaulted.
Thank you for speaking up. I fully support you and wish you the best 💕
I'm reading through the comments and I'm seeing people mention "this happened when I was 5" "This happened when I was 10" And it really bothers me because for as far back as my memory goes, the youngest age I can remember, my uncle must've been assaulting me since I was a baby. It had to had been. Him, the next guy, and the next guy. I had 3 men assaulting me my entire life.
I just got out of sexual harassment in 2017, and came out to the authorities in 2019 because my sister had told my mother that she was assaulted.And funny enough, I wasn't traumatized by any of it since it'd happen since forever, but I broke down in tears when I found out that my third assaultant had violated my sister. She didn't have to go through that.
If that last guy showed up and started assaulting me in 2013 when I was 9 all the way up to when I was 14.. That literally means he also did the same to my sister who'd be 6, all the way up to 11 in 2017. What kind of sick person does this?
My sister and I laugh about how disgusting he was, but I don't stray down farther than she'd go because I know she has trauma from it And I don't, but I'm kinda glad she came out because to be honest, I would've died with those secrets if it wasn't for her.
Do you mind if i post your comment to my insta ill blur ur @ if you want
@@lainadawn9436 yeah go ahead, just blur my @ lol
I'm thoroughly disgusted someone would even THINK of doing that to a CHILD. People like that deserve death penalty but instead they just get 60 day imprisoned (in Iowa I think idk about other states) and sometimes dont even get any time, because according to the law police are allowed to ignore and not send anybody if they didn't want to according to law. This is atleast in America.
Also this is kind of off subject but I'm a monbebe too
@@jasmink3841 hola fellow monbebe
this really hit me hard
we so need more honest stories like this
Don’t be afraid to share your story, but hopefully in the future we have less and less of these stories whether they’re being kept secret or being shared. Stay strong everyone
❤️❤️
This happened to my cousin, but instead of a friend it was a full grown adult that they called "dad". They had to deal with that about the same age as the person in the video. Then our grandmother found out and told my aunt and she called the police. He is currently in prison and he is never coming back thankfully, she is going to therapy now and is doing a lot better. Sorry i just wanted to tell you about a similar story.
ew what's a "dad" i don't want it
the amount of bravery and courage this must’ve taken. thank you for speaking your truth. to all the survivors out there, know that you are LOVED, VALID, and HEARD. keep staying strong, and take care of yourself please
You got some balls with telling this on UA-cam man, I would never be able to talk about this on UA-cam, But hey. Stay strong, we're here for you!
Me: reads the title
My thoughts: OH HEEEELL NO
Same
Honestly, I saw the title and felt conflicted. Part of me hoped it was clickbait and that he didn't have to go through this and another part of me hoped it wasn't clickbait cause to use this topic as clickbait is horrible
@@tobywood9156 true
those 140 people who disliked this video are disgusting
im so sorry that happened
I was sexually assaulted too when I was 5. He was my mom's ex boyfriend. I didnt know how to feel about it ethier. It was blocked from my memory for a few years until I was in high school and I finally remember and realized what had happened.
Finding a support system is important and u know what bb, we r here. Thanks for sharing and having the courage to talk about it. We love u ❤.
Mine was blocked from my memory until high school, too, it happened when I was six. I didnt know that happened to anyone else, thank you for sharing
Thank you so much for sharing. Please stay strong. You are beautiful and deserving of life. Don't you dare let anyone make you feel otherwise.
i’m pretty damn sheltered but i have had one light experience with stuff like this.
i was at a football game with my family and i was sitting next to this 50-ish year old man and his father, who was probably around 80.
both got drunk and you could tell. the father was yelling things about the players and he was overall being annoying, but that wasn’t a huge deal. the man sitting next to me kept saying pretty weird things to me, the least of all asking to share my ice cream. that i licked.
he kept getting in my personal space until i went to the bathroom. when i came back my mom had moved so she was standing next to the man instead of me, but me being young and unaware, i asked for the seat back because that seat was better than my moms.
she reluctantly moved. in the end, nothing happened and the two men left early. i’m still unnerved by this to this day because the fact that this man was coming onto me is creepy af and in conclusion humanity kinda sucks.
are you alright?
for sure. i’m sorry this happened to you, stay safe bby
ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ 。 yes i’m fine 😊 tyy
aoibhin tyyy you too!! ❤️
Hope you are drinking water and thriving!! (Love the pfp)
hearing about this and all the stories people are posting here makes me feel incredibly sad and furious, I can't understand how schools never told us anything about sexual assault or harrassment and how others downplay these situations when those stories get told. We actually have a pedophile living in our neighborhood and so far, none of the parents living here have ever tried to say anything against him. He is an old man, I'd guess at least 80 years old, because he's definitely older than my grandparents. I see him sometimes when I take a walk with our dog, and the last time I met him, around when spring began, he wanted to walk a little bit with me, and me wanting to be kind decided that those 20 meters until I would take a corner to my home wouldn't be too bad, so I agreed to walk with him. He started talking like "how old are you?" (even though we had talked before and he'd asked me those questions before but I guess that's because of his age) so I would respond "18" and then he asked "are you in love?" and I said no because even if I was it's not something I'd want to talk about with this man. And he went on like "oh no I don't believe that, you have such nice legs and such nice boobs, there must be someone!" and I tried laughing it off and being like "no haha" and he continued to talk like that and when we came to the corner of the street that I wanted to take to get to my house he was like "oh please let's walk a little bit further" and since I didn't wanna be rude I did. But then he started saying "if I was younger, you'd fall in love with me right?" and then went on to ask me if I had masturbated before, then telling me to please think of him the next time I masturbate. And to top it off he asked me if he could peak under my hoodie, to which I obviously said no, but he said "oh come on, just a little peak" and then tugged at my hoodie trying to look down from above and I pulled away and said something along the lines of "oh I gotta go, goodbye" and went home as quickly as possible. It's still creepy to think about it now but what really shocked me was when I told my parents and sister, and my sister (who was only 15 at the time) told me that she had something similar happen to her, with him grabbing her thighs and that he had done this to other girls around the same age as her as well. And so far, not one of their parents have told him to stop that behavior, even though it is absolutely disgusting. Luckily, I never met him outside again after that event and I hope no other girl had to meet him either, I never thought I'd see a pedophile this old, and I don't want to know how terrifying he must've been when he was younger and stronger...
melo elle oh my god.. that’s horrible.. you are so strong for being able to face that 🥺🥺 please report him, because that’s sexual harassment, that man is WAY older than you, plus you were a minor too. i really hope you are feeling better, have you talked to anyone else about this?
@@riki4313 yeah I talked to my best friends about it so I feel a lot better about it now, it's just crazy to me how literal grandpas can go around doing this shit, that guy can't even wash or dress himself anymore but still manages to prey on minors like gahh that's so disgusting
melo elle awh i’m glad u feel better now ❤️
This is disgusting, things like this really need to stop
I hope someone reports this guy so that it never happens to anyone else
Why are we not taught this in school! Children need to be aware that this can happen so it doesn’t happen to them!
This exact thing actually happened to me... Except while "grooming" she just put on straight up porn, and she was the one who moved away, not me. Was still pretty confused though. I've always thought it didn't count because it wasn't as if I was resisting or telling her to stop, and people still insist that this experience attributes to the fact that I like girls, and it's simply not true. It also differed because after the first time, I was refusing and in those cases she'd guilt trip me or tell me it's not like anyone would hold me the way she did. I haven't told my friends, so I think this is the first and last time I'm going to bring light to this just to acknowledge those who've had similar things happen to them and that they're not alone. This isn't to overshadow or invalidate, just to get out of my system and never bring up again.
The only person who has fault is her. You don't have the responsibility to say no. It was planned by her in advance and a no wouldn't have stopped it.
A similar thing happened to me...by my female cousin I was 7 or 8 and she was 13 or 14. Thank you for opening up a similar thing that happened to me. I didn't fight back so I didn't think it "counted" Sadly I still see her but my family knows. She would groom me by putting on lesbian porn on the tv and tell me that was normal. I believed her because I was scared and didn't know better. Also when I said no she would scare me into it by tacking me to the library nearby and using puppets to show what happens if someone does not agree with having sex. Till this day I am terrified of dolls and puppets. I never share this but your story is so similar to mine I thought id open up.
I didn’t resist or tell him to stop so I don’t know if it’s counted (he’s my older cousin btw). I put this whole situation to the back of my head so I don’t know how big of a deal it is. And so yeah... I just want to forget it all because I feel guilty. I still have to see him and everyone is proud of him because he’s such a “good kid”.
I’m glad that everyone finally gets the chance to get this out of our systems, but it’s also very heart breaking to know similar traumatizing incidents happened to so many other people. I myself have similar experiences at around 6, and shameful enough i often question whether this experience has made me become a lesbian. I know it’s ridiculous and doesn’t make sense, but this trauma may have contributed to my internalized homophobia and made me invalidate myself ever since. I hope everyone here is able to heal and recover in the near future
@@vivienchiu have faith in yourself, dear. If you don't think that's the case, then it's not. Nobody is forcing you to have a reason for loving who you love.
I’m so sorry but we’re all here for you and this will really help other victims
This should be something taught at a young age. A bunch of kids don’t realize what they went through until way later in their life and when they do realize a lot of them think it’s to late to say anything.
I’m sorry that’s something that you went through that’s horrible that you went through that. It’s something that when men come out about it, they get ignored a lot. It’s horrible I’m so sorry god
It makes me so pissed off
Yes but you don’t understand that they’re too young to know about things strictly for adults and something so surreal (and for me, repulsive) so they’d have to water it down for them like “so everyone has their special place to cover. Right? Well, don’t like anyone touch that special place without your permission”
like they wouldn’t understand they’d be like “HAEH? But like.. why? If everyone has it I wanna compare!” Kinda like comparing levels on your Pokémon or something [classified as] childish. It’s just not that easy.
TO SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT: thank you for being brave.
TO PEOPLE WHO ARE PEDOPHILES, GROOMERS, ETC. : what the hell is wrong with you?
TO PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T REACHED OUT FOR HELP: TELL SOMEONE YOU TRUST AND INSTEAD OF FILING A POLICE REPORT, GO TO THE FIRE DEPARTMENT. THERE IS A HIGH CHANCE THE POLICE WONT DO ANYTHING
DONT GO TO THE POLICE GO TO THE FIRE DEPARTMENT THERES A HIGH CHANCE THE POLICE WONT DO ANYTHING
@@isharted6180 ah okay!
@@isharted6180 wait what, really?? why?
Kimi Sab because they're pigs
moonchildjoon Army💜😭
Damn, I’m rlly sry this happened fred. Ppl don’t acknowledge male sexual assault enough :(
Aw are you okay? We’re always here if you need to talk 🥺
no offence but i dont think he's going to talk to us about everything lol
PartyQueen ik that. But if he just wants to address something to us
He literally said he doesn’t want this to be a pity part tho
Physco Drama ik
calm down they were just being considerate lol he went through something awful I always ask ppl if they need to talk
I was/got sexually assaulted/raped in 4-5 years old. I didn't thought about it myself bc I didn't wtf was going on, if it was normal.
But got worse about my emotions when I started 1st grade.
I'm 17 now
I was diagnosed with PTSD and something more, didn't get ADHD tho idkw.
I never told my parents about this. My grandma only know about it and my therapist, I was in 9th grade.
I wish I should've told earlier and got him life time or put him in place.
I hope u mentally and physically get better stay strong!
Everyone who has experienced sexual assault has a different story. I understand how you feel with not feeling trauma from it for a long time . I experienced something similar. I hope that you can find a way for him to pay for his actions and if you dont want to and just want to put it behind you that is completely okay. I'm always giving you love and support no matter what ❤❤
I hope everyone stay safes and if this happens to anyone speak up❤️
we're here for u. this stuff isn't a joke and i'm happy ur helping educate ppl with this video. ik it was a while ago but we love u 🥺
You know, as someone who is afab I was told to fear sexual assault and understood what it was as a child. I obviously didn’t completely understand consent or that people who aren’t adults could sexually assault others.
I don’t know- I think I just wanted to comment that everyone needs to be taught about sexual assault and consent regardless of gender. Men are assaulted too and the world shouldn’t just teach women to fear/ “beware” of men when anyone can be a victim and anyone can be a predator.
Um ok TW: sexual assault
A similar thing happened to me, only that I was around 5-6 and the assaulter didn't do anything to me, rather made me do things to her. I had completely bloqued that experience off my memory, I haven't talked about it really, only with one person, because I know this person and they are pretty great now, I'm scared of talking about it. I will possibly just unpack this on therapy and not get anyone else involved, as the assaulter was also a minor at the time.
Just know I support you💖💖
bro that is like an identical story to mine, but i was 8, you got this 💞
@@dibidibidisapointed6508 I'm so sorry you went through this too. I'm thankful my brain did something helpful for once and not let me remember that for so long
@@myani1028 thank u
Same hopefully it gets better for you 💞
I hope everyone in this comment section is okay remember that you are loved and amazing..
Also I hope your okay Frederic
To everyone looking through the comments: please remember to take care of yourself. Take a break, breathe, this is a lot of trauma to filter through at every turn so please if it's too much consider this your sign to take a break.
Thank you👑💕
:D ❤️❤️
thank you for this, my muscles and face were tense just looking through a few of these and this interrupted that :)
I’ve had so many times people have tried to groom me online because of how “nice and sweet” I am thinking that I know nothing about grooming, sexual assault, and manipulation. This should NOT happen and nobody should ever get sexually assaulted, manipulated, and groomed.