The story of how I came out to my brother: Bro: what if you had an older brother instead of an older sister? Me: *does the frick boi face* I see we are the same Bro: wdym? Me: bish I'm trans too
Straight men should act like this with the calm nonchalant reaction without sexualizing lesbians (they won’t turn but some don’t realize or understand, sadly) or targeting / acting angry towards gay men. Thank u. Very good comment to see
I’m a Pansexual girl and I’m going through a weird phase we’re I like REALLY want a girlfriend. But I don’t know anyone and I’m not about to date one my friends lmao
so when are schools going to start hiring gay teachers to actually teach students about this bc all i learned in my class about was how het sex works and like 50 different kinds of birth control methods for women
“I bet theres someone whos gonna be like ew periods... well guess what your gonna have to deal with it one day cause ur gonna hafta MARRY someone who has one!” All the gay males: 👁👄👁
@@soltheratking131 I’m late, but I personally feel like a person who is so disgusted by periods might also be one of those who don’t date trans folks. It just sounds like a douche all around. But that’s just my immediate thought :/
Love the inclusion of Bi, Ace and Pan. The community has pretty much labeled those as "outcast sexualities" and pan is just non-existent to everyone now. It feel nice to be included in something's. Maybe next next video you can touch on more of the gender questions that involve non-binary individuals and people who don't follow the gender norms.
TW panphobia, somewhat transphobia Ok unpopular opinion time: honestly, I don't mind if pan becomes obsolete or just synonymous with bi. Pan and bi people can experience attraction the exact same way to the exact same people and pan has kinda transphobic roots. Also biphobic roots. I guess I just don't get what the point of separating bi and pan is anymore. Like, the distinction used to be that bi people were attracted to males and females, while pan people were attracted to males, females, and trans people (yikes) Then it was that bi people were only attracted to the gender binary while pan was non binary inclusive Then it was that bi people were attracted to only 2 genders and pan was attracted to all Now it's bi people are attracted to 2 or more genders while pan people are attracted to people despite gender. Meanwhile throughout all this, bi means and has always meant attraction to multiple genders, full stop. It basically meant pan, but we kept redefining both labels to make them separate things when they're not really. I guess being genderblind is a valid distinction, but again bi people can be genderblind and pansexuality implies they can't, so we're still redefining bisexuality to try and separate them. Why?
@@andynonymous6769 i disagree with the pan being transphobic. ive always been under the impression that pan people didn't care about what genetalia (i know i spelled that wrong but my autocorrect isnt helping me out so...idk just deal with it ig) you had and how it linked to your identity. like you could be a trans man and not have bottom surgery, and they wouldn't mind, while bi people specifically wanted someone who was male/female AND identified as such. (as in if you were trans, you would have to have the parts). obviously, thats not what its like now, but im just saying thats what it *used* to be. idk i could be wrong about some things but saying pan is transphobic isnt cool dude. and that isnt even getting into nonbinary people. i do agree with the statement that bi and pan are basically the same now, but your comment just comes off panphobic. i just say we let people use what label they want. sincerely, a pan individual.
@@themudkip5295 I'm aware my comment comes off as panphobic. Did you not read the trigger warnings? "Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders." -the bisexuality manifesto, *from the 90's* Some bisexuals prefer dating people who's genitals match up with their gender expression but none of us ever wanted our sexuality to be defined by that. That distinction was made without our consent when pansexuality was on the rise and was obsessed with defining themselves as a different sexuality than bisexuality. The difference being "hearts not parts," implying that all bisexuals only care about the parts, which is obviously untrue- always has been. So you had the option of either jumping ship and identifying as pan, furthering the stereotype, or remaining identified as bisexual and being treated like you only cared about peoples bodies and not their personality. You can see how this is biphobic? Also I didn't say that pansexuals are transphobic, but the label absolutely does have transphobic roots. before the 2010's (ish), trans people hardly had a voice, and most people didn't even know non binary people existed. When trans people started gaining rights and the conversation about them picked up, people treated them as sort of a third gender. And the word *bi*sexuality was misinterpreted as only interested in the gender binary. So pansexual flag was created and people started defining it as "attracted to male female and trans people." Which is obviously transphobic. Same shit when nonbinary people gained visibility: bisexuality was defined as "attracted to the gender binary, trans inclusive" while pansexuality was defined as "attracted to everyone including nonbinary, unlike bisexual people" "We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves" -Again the Bisexual manifesto. Still true today.
@@andynonymous6769 your comment does not just "come off" as panphobic, it quite literally is. Pansexual is under the bi umbrella, pansexuals knowing this. While they are similar (you thinking that it's the same) whichever label works best FOR YOU is what label works best. You can't tell pansexuals to not use the label simply because bisexual is practically the same thing. Pansexual is the label that works best for them, and that's completely okay. Writing paragraphs about why the label is bad simply because people interpreted it as something ["attracted to everyone including nonbinary, unlike bisexual people"] that those today don't see it as is ridiculous. Pan and Bi are both valid. Why start wars with each other?
As an ace, I do wanna say to people who don’t entirely understand my identity. Some people are ace just because they are, like how some people are just gay because they’re gay. Me, and some other people, however, realized and “became” ace after going through a lot of trauma. This CAN happen. Yes, people can “become” ace/aro. No, you cannot “become” homosexual or anything, but you can become ace or aro. It really just depends on the person. Also, ace (Asexual) means having no interest in sexual relationships, and aro (Aromantic) means having no interest in romantic relationships. Some people are BOTH, others are just one (like me, I’m only ace but I wouldn’t mind a nice romantic relationship) Oh and btw, to everyone else in the LGBTQIA+ community: STOP MAKING PEOPLE FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING YOUR IDENTITY. Lots of people just don’t know, so please try and be respectful towards them, whilst making sure they know not to say anything offensive the next time they want to ask something. Thanks for coming to my TED talk lmfao ✨
It's not true that ace means having no interest in sexual relationships. Ace means only that ace person doesn't feel sexual attraction to others but still may have sexual drive and like having sex. Some aces don't have sex drive, others do. Also it's not true that you can't became gay or lesbian or even hetero. Sexuality is fluid throughout life, it may change, but truth is that you can't change it by CONSCIOUS choice.
as an acearo spec, I wanna clear things out a bit: there are aces and aros that *do* want relationships/sex. There is a microlabel (people don't need to use it if they don't want to, called a cupiosexual/romantic or aegosexual/romantic who wants a relationship/sex but lacks the attraction to do so) and I'm personally one of those types of aces, and there are definitely a wide variety of aces/aros that are sex positive, sex indifferent, or sex repulsed. The sexuality is based on a lack of attraction rather than a dislike for sex or a lack of libido. That is because there are celibate allosexuals, allosexuals who have gone through tr*uma themselves, or allosexuals that don't do relationships/sex for various reasons (ie. religion). As for people who become ace/aro from tr*uma, they do happen, but still shouldn't be the reason why aces/aros should be dismissed, it's a horrible stereotype, honestly because it doesn't make anyone any less ace/aro if they have bad experiences or not. Also, tr*uma cam happen to any sexuality, not just aces and aros. And just like the comment above me, sexuality IS definitely fluid, and there are people who use different labels while they try to discover themselves more and there's nothing wrong with it as long as they're being informed properly.
I agree with you that asexuality can be innate or can be formed because I had a friend online and she said she was sexually assaulted at a very young age and because of her trauma she developed asexuality
Some people that I’ve seen identify as lesbians used to identify as bi or pan but due to male inflicted trauma are only interested in wlw relationships. To me, that’s valid too.
@@Ruuma11 we really should've known sooner. I got rid of all of my boy Barbie's because "they were ugly" and dressed up my girl Barbie's in boy clothes and then pretend they were boys, so they could date my other girl barbies.
I think (as a pansexual) "Gaydar" does exist but its not visual, its the way someone carries themselves and the views they have. Their whole vibe is different, i also think that's why we all gravitate towards each other even in situations where our orientations don't come up. Its hard to say the exact points but ive never been wrong.
I think maybe the only situation that "oh I kinda knew" might be helpful is for some trans people, me personally (not everyone) it made me feel better about being seen as the gender I am. Like without telling someone they already kinda saw me as male and that was kinda comforting.
This classmate actually came up to me a little while after I came out. She told me she had been really confused the first year that we were in the same class. At introduction and such she had just thought I was a guy, but then I had a girls name and would go into the girls changing room so yeah that was funny. (Kinda same though on the gender confusion 😂)
hey frederic, I've been bi-curious in my past, dated guys and two girls who've hurt me, and now I've been in a straight relationship for over a year. I think I identify as straight because I just don't feel that way about women anymore, and I feel like this kind of stuff isn't talked about often. People think if you come out once, that's it and you're not allowed to change your mind. I at first came out as bisexual a few years ago because I thought it would make me feel better and make me feel like a belong to that label. I was really depressed and I thought taking that label would help me find myself. But later on I realized that it was more of a curiousity not something I truly felt. The bi-community in general was really toxic which didn't help me either. But after all that was single for a little bit, and I just told myself to be open to whoever wanted a relationship with me after that. Now I'm with an amazing guy who actually loves me, and I'd consider myself straight. It'd be cool of you could make a video about these topics/problems within the Bi-community, and the fact that people are allowed to change their mind on their sexuality/gender etc. Thanks!
You should never feel the need to prove your sexuality to others. If people don't believe you're straight then that's their problem, you just keep living your life.
yeh this is why i don't trust newly labelled bi people because they 99% of the time are actually straight. y'all should know a label isn't necessary and it's okay to be straight
Thank you. I’m switching schools now so hopefully it will be better there but I feel bad for some of my friends in the younger grades who are getting bullied because of it :c
I feel ya, I was having a computer studies class and the conversation switched to trans people (I don't even know how that happened) and the teacher was *very* transphobic nobody really said anything and I didn't either cause I didn't want to out myself But honestly I'm used to the hate since being LGBTQ+ is ✨I L L E G A L✨ in my country 😔
I get called gay/lesbian at school but I don’t know what my sexuality is and I live in Australia and they (the boys at my school) make it sound like a bad thing and I don’t know if I just find women pretty in a straight way or if it’s more I know I’m attracted to men but I don’t know if it’s more and how I’ll know if I’m bisexual or not
Awww, figuring out your sexuality can be really hard, I struggled a lot too, I too questioned whether I was attracted to girls in just a friend way or a non platonic way, it took me around 4 years. Whatever your sexual orientation is, know that you are loved, valid, and that there's nothing wrong with you!! Also, you don't have to figure it out right now!
Bethany Frizzell lol, I thought I was just jealous of muscular guys when I was young, turns out I just wanted to hit that 🤭. Try and figure out if you admire women, and appreciate their bodies, or if you would like to be close to them, and are attracted to them. Does the idea of kissing a girl gross you out? Why? Why not? And remember, you don’t need to label yourself. Love who you wanna love, maybe you’re bi, or pan, or fluid. Doesn’t really matter
lol sexuality is hard... thought i was bisexual for 4 years until i was like “shit i’m a lesbian” and then it turned into “oh shit i’m a straight trans man” so honestly don’t rush labels cuz it’s a whole process
Perhaps you're ace? Or you think of both binary genders romantically but only the opposite one sexually? I had the same experience- I didn't really feel straight since puberty but I didn't know what I was. I'm 20 now and it's still kind if a tough topic but I'm pretty sure I'm just biromantic/ace and thats why it was so hard to figuee it out. I hate when people always say that they knew for as long as they could remember and act like you're just y'know, spicy straight or something if you're questioning Just date the people you like and if your heart says yes or no, listen to it. Also know that things are real fucking confusing for baby bi's- for me it felt like my label changed every week. It's because when you're attracted to everyone, sometimes you want to get with a guy, sometimes a girl, sometimes neither and sometimes nobody. Without a label I was always freaking out, thinking that I was lesbian, straight, ace and so on just depending on that. Thus is the life of someone riding the bi-cycle U_U
Honestly, I feel uncomfortable with the f-slur, I didn't even type it because I have seen so many straight people use it against even just the lgbtqia+ community. I was talking about why people get the pink inverted triangles on their arm as a memorial and tried to make the point that it is also a way of taking back that symbol as something triumphant and that we can take it back and make it our own and my cousin literally asked why the community doesn't make the f-slur as out own symbol but he actually said it, my straight cousin to his gay cousin. Although it was an educational conversation it still made me uncomfortable because he said it, I would have taken it better if he said f-slur itself or something like that because it somehow made me feel unsafe to be me at the same time? I don't know, my mom said it's because he grew up in a different time but I feel like that isn't an excuse?
“You think bi people have a higher chance to cheat? No, a cheater is just a cheater, but not because they’re bi.” That. 👏 Is. 👏 The. 👏 Tea! Literally exactly what I’ve been saying for ages lol.
I am so thankful that I had such a good health teacher (im in the US) she actually taught us about gay sex, and even taught the different ways of protection for gay sex and how its still important to be protected
This video is amazing and I also know it’s not related but the fact that yall show that your skin isn’t perfect, makes me feel really good because I don’t have clear skin and seeing people in media that show their own skin as is can be really comforting so thank you!
ive been told that i “don’t look gay” for the longest time and honestly it makes me feel like shit cause i’ve dealt with internalised homophobia since i was a teen :/
I actually really appreciate you taking about lgbtq 🏳️🌈 and sexuality in a appropriate manner and being mindful. I noticed other UA-cam channels sometimes are more perverse when it comes to this subject but I actually enjoy watching your videos and listening to your content because it is appropriate and respectful. I am a trans 🏳️⚧️ man and I been sexually abused and I always appreciate respect and honesty and support for lgbtq 🏳️🌈 people. Thank you for making such awesome videos. -from Nicholas
I have met a lot, and I can actually count on one hand the amount of people I’ve interacted with who I knew weren’t. I live in a very open country though.
in response to the person asking how do you know you aren’t straight. i am bi and i realized that i like looking at woman just as much as i like looking at men. it’s as simple as that. though interestingly irl i look at men more than i look at woman but i think that is just because my taste in women is a lot more specific than my taste in men so there are more men that fall into what i consider to be attractive than there are women.
WE NEED MORE LGBTQ+ CONTENT! This video seriously helped me so much. I came out 2 years ago but I feel like I’m reversing back into the closet because I feel so alone and ashamed! I don’t have any LGBT friends so it’s so hard. But this video felt so comforting, thank you both 🥰💓💓
12:42 Imo when someone reacts very like "uh okay I guess." or not really caring much when I decide to come out to them, I get kinda upset. Like, ig it's nice to know that they don't mind me being gay, but something about it kinda sucks cause I worked up the courage to tell them, just for them to not seem like they care. Just a simple "I'm proud of you" or "yoo!!" and I'd be more than happy.
I kinda see your point but i don't think we should yse it even though we can ! Because other people (straights) might take it as a regular word and will think they can use it too... Also some LGBT+ people might hear it without knowing you're gay and be offended... Maybe I'm taking it too far idk, but yeah it's not directly a problem to use it but it's not a mandatory or indispensable word either so... Just my opinion though ( I think the same about the n word, the t slur, the r word and every slur like these btw )
@@Naae_111 I totally see your point, I feel in those situations where straight people think they can use it too, one should just politely correct them, and if they get upset or fail to see the issue then hey you just identified and asshole LOL. When I use the f slur I ask if those around me are comfortable with it and I definitely don’t go screaming it though the streets or something for these exact reasons. Thank you for starting a conversation with me about it!!
@@robyn5120 well that's right ! I just think sometimes it can lead to not so appreciable things ^^ But if you make sure everyone is okay with you saying it then I don't see the problem ! And thanks for replying, I see your point now :)
@Shawn Mendes Bussy honestly same for me ! Well I'm not black so yeah but I personally don't say the f word bc it makes me uncomfortable as well, so I understand ^^
When I came out to one of my friends as pansexual, she felt making so many jokes about it in public. I've tried shushing her and she does stop, but he's so loud and forgetful. Sometimes I regret telling her.
ok but this is actually really comforting? all my friends and family are straight and sometimes even saying i feel attracted to a woman makes the room go quiet so,, ty a lot :((
I feel like if I got to know you as a male or female who was the opposite gender before, I wouldn’t care. But if I knew the person really well before they came out then I most likely wouldn’t like them sexually
I came out to my friend by saying, "yeah, you know how you're bi? I'm that, but, like, all the way." I wasn't completely comfortable with describing myself as a lesbian yet for some reason, so when I first came out to her I said the first thing I could think of that didnt include me saying "I am a lesbian" and I didnt think to say "im gay" so now I have that awkward coming out story in my head forever :')
I had come out to my sister and she said “I always knew” and it really messed with me. She’s the only one in my family who knows. And it definitely wasn’t comforting
FYI what most people mean when they say MLM they mean multilevel marketing (ie Avon, Monat, etc...). So people who are anti-mlm or make content about are usually talking about how bad those companies are. (Obviously context is key and unfortunately the acronyms are the same.)
About the coming out thing, it makes me really uncomfortable when someone is kind of ogling me and like, talking in a baby voice? And also when they try to give me a hug, it just feels so weird in that situation. When i came out to my parents as nb i did it with a little note on the door so they have to see it, but i had to specifically say not to make a big deal, etc. Which i have no idea if other people feel this way because most of the time i think its cute and really nice when people are supet supportive, but a situation like that just oozes "WHAT DO I SAY, take me home ;^;" energy for me-
That sucks, I'm sorry. People sometimes think because you're a little different in terms of identity/sexual orentation they should treat you "special". You should let them know that it's extremely rude not to treat you normally, and tell them you're just like them, a human, just nonbinary.
15:28 I was thinking about this video when season 2 of the umbrella academy came out and Vanya and the woman were having an affair and I couldn't stop thinking about this part of the video.
I saw someone explain gaydar as a moment when you both look at each other to see if their safe, and seeing the other one looking for someone safe as well. But not staring, just a glance
That was the same with me and my friend we get put back in school and she just casually said "by the way I'm pan and non-binary" I said "oh, I'm pan too" and the rest was history 😂
So my best fren and my cousin both came out to me as bisexual and to me I always support them it really doesn’t make them feel good if you say “I aLrEaDy kNoW” like that stresses them out like they will think “what did I do to give it away” so to help anyone else from accidentally u know not really making them feel supported I always say “Congrats, I’m proud of you” or something like this :3
The energy you two radiate together is immaculate
yup 😌
Hah
oh hi, nice to see you there lol
Good vocabulary
So true
daily reminder that there's no hair under that bucket hat
I want to like but its at 69
Ava you can now :)
I forgot he shaved it, you just reminded me😂😂
Omg i forgot lmaooooo
But there is hair sticking out
yeah so this got demonetized
edit: OH NEVERMIND SOMEONE FROM UA-cam REMONETIZED IT YESSSSSS DO IT FOR THE GIRLS AND THE GAYS
Lol
It been less then a minute
thaz sad
How is it already demonetized
already?
cmon youtube smh🗿
I'm a straight male and of course I'm gonna watch your videos
WE STAN
Frederic Chen PERIODDDDD
We stan the lack of ✨toxic✨ masculinity in the studio today 🥰
stan
Well, I'm a straight female and here I am I guess 😂
Why is this literally me and my best friend. It’s immaculate.
Eh
3k likes and 1 reply🥴
immaculate my new favorite word
Why is eggplant one of the hashtags
branding
@@FredericChen eye-👁️👄👁️
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Eggplant 4 lyf
C'mon, you know why
I came out to my friends and they were like:
“cool. i’m bi.”
“nice i’m a fucking lesbian lol.”
“i’m non-binary.”
“i’m gay so nice-“
Gays tend to band together, even before they know they be gay
@@turtleyawesome7233 thiissssss my best friend is gay and I had no idea and he had no idea I was Bi
Ah yes the unconscious gaydar
yes
The story of how I came out to my brother:
Bro: what if you had an older brother instead of an older sister?
Me: *does the frick boi face* I see we are the same
Bro: wdym?
Me: bish I'm trans too
there’s no bond like a bond between a gay and a lesbian
Yes also Wilbur soot pfp
this dynamic is me and my friend-
except we’re both bi
except we’re both secretly not
because we’re both definitely gay
Mlm wlw solidarity 😘
YES
Wimblur Toos!!!
i HATE when people say “i always knew”
OMG I KNOW
Ikr!! Like.... it’s not a game... you didn’t win or something
My best friend was all " I KNEW U WERE BI BEFORE U EVEN DID HAHAHHAHA" I was so pissed
Toffee Draws people actually told me I have a bi vibe 2 years before I even knew😂
so true. when people say that i’m just like 😐...
Straight male here, i saw this in my recommended and curiosity got the best to me. Learned some stuff, you have meh support.
Straight men should act like this with the calm nonchalant reaction without sexualizing lesbians (they won’t turn but some don’t realize or understand, sadly) or targeting / acting angry towards gay men. Thank u. Very good comment to see
we need more people like u in this world
we really need more people like you. Straight male who actually supports us :( thank you
@@isabellemalott9976 thank you kind sir 😀✋
as a gender-fluid pansexual who goes by he/them but is more feminine, I tend to confuse people and I honestly love it
Am I hallucinating or is the pfp for the tweet at 8:02 Felix...?
ve Haddad it is Felix :ㅇ
Yassss some mystery amazing they will never know luv
That does sound quite fun and I want to be ur fwend.👁〰️👁
Yes confuse the straights
I’m a Pansexual girl and I’m going through a weird phase we’re I like REALLY want a girlfriend. But I don’t know anyone and I’m not about to date one my friends lmao
Mood.
Honestly same😔
felt
I’m a lesbian and I really relate to this.
Same though
so when are schools going to start hiring gay teachers to actually teach students about this bc all i learned in my class about was how het sex works and like 50 different kinds of birth control methods for women
our school doesn’t even teach birth control. they just go on and on about teen pregnancy and abstinence as if those are your only 2 options
@@jada1373 damn-
I have a gay teacher and an LGBTQ+ club and that’s iconic
@@bellarose6376 indeed it is and im jealous :((
same only we dont have 50 different kinds there's just birth control *TM and condoms + every STI under the sun.
“I bet theres someone whos gonna be like ew periods... well guess what your gonna have to deal with it one day cause ur gonna hafta MARRY someone who has one!”
All the gay males: 👁👄👁
There may be a chance a gay male may get in a relationship with a trans masc ^^
Also known as an afab person :3
Vanadey Wildheart Trans masc or even trans male oesnt necessarily mean afab. Intersex trans men exist too.
I WANNA LIKE BUT ITS AT 420
@@soltheratking131 I’m late, but I personally feel like a person who is so disgusted by periods might also be one of those who don’t date trans folks. It just sounds like a douche all around. But that’s just my immediate thought :/
I'm not a straight girl who wants a gay best friend, I'm a gay girl who wants a gay best friend.
I see a lot of these comments and imma just say we want a comrade to gay out with 😂
i’m bi but yea lol same
Omg same here lol
I'm a gay guy who wants a gay *boy*friend lol
@@jonnestyronicha497 shdiis love that
Saying “I always knew!” Is like showing someone a meme and then they say “I’ve seen that before🙄”
lmaoo that's exactly what it is
Can kiana have made up names too? Like "Federal bureau and Keanu Reeves"?
I very much like this idea
I love this
I have a friend called Kiana and every time someone calls her Keanu Reeves she looks like she wants to comment murder. She prefers Kia-na-na-na lmao
Agreed pleaseee
Love the inclusion of Bi, Ace and Pan. The community has pretty much labeled those as "outcast sexualities" and pan is just non-existent to everyone now. It feel nice to be included in something's. Maybe next next video you can touch on more of the gender questions that involve non-binary individuals and people who don't follow the gender norms.
TW panphobia, somewhat transphobia
Ok unpopular opinion time: honestly, I don't mind if pan becomes obsolete or just synonymous with bi. Pan and bi people can experience attraction the exact same way to the exact same people and pan has kinda transphobic roots. Also biphobic roots. I guess I just don't get what the point of separating bi and pan is anymore.
Like, the distinction used to be that bi people were attracted to males and females, while pan people were attracted to males, females, and trans people (yikes)
Then it was that bi people were only attracted to the gender binary while pan was non binary inclusive
Then it was that bi people were attracted to only 2 genders and pan was attracted to all
Now it's bi people are attracted to 2 or more genders while pan people are attracted to people despite gender.
Meanwhile throughout all this, bi means and has always meant attraction to multiple genders, full stop. It basically meant pan, but we kept redefining both labels to make them separate things when they're not really. I guess being genderblind is a valid distinction, but again bi people can be genderblind and pansexuality implies they can't, so we're still redefining bisexuality to try and separate them.
Why?
@@andynonymous6769 Agreed. Pan has always seemed like a redundant label to me tbh
@@andynonymous6769 i disagree with the pan being transphobic. ive always been under the impression that pan people didn't care about what genetalia (i know i spelled that wrong but my autocorrect isnt helping me out so...idk just deal with it ig) you had and how it linked to your identity. like you could be a trans man and not have bottom surgery, and they wouldn't mind, while bi people specifically wanted someone who was male/female AND identified as such. (as in if you were trans, you would have to have the parts). obviously, thats not what its like now, but im just saying thats what it *used* to be. idk i could be wrong about some things but saying pan is transphobic isnt cool dude. and that isnt even getting into nonbinary people. i do agree with the statement that bi and pan are basically the same now, but your comment just comes off panphobic. i just say we let people use what label they want.
sincerely, a pan individual.
@@themudkip5295 I'm aware my comment comes off as panphobic. Did you not read the trigger warnings?
"Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature. In fact, don't assume that there are only two genders." -the bisexuality manifesto, *from the 90's*
Some bisexuals prefer dating people who's genitals match up with their gender expression but none of us ever wanted our sexuality to be defined by that. That distinction was made without our consent when pansexuality was on the rise and was obsessed with defining themselves as a different sexuality than bisexuality. The difference being "hearts not parts," implying that all bisexuals only care about the parts, which is obviously untrue- always has been. So you had the option of either jumping ship and identifying as pan, furthering the stereotype, or remaining identified as bisexual and being treated like you only cared about peoples bodies and not their personality. You can see how this is biphobic?
Also I didn't say that pansexuals are transphobic, but the label absolutely does have transphobic roots. before the 2010's (ish), trans people hardly had a voice, and most people didn't even know non binary people existed. When trans people started gaining rights and the conversation about them picked up, people treated them as sort of a third gender. And the word *bi*sexuality was misinterpreted as only interested in the gender binary. So pansexual flag was created and people started defining it as "attracted to male female and trans people." Which is obviously transphobic. Same shit when nonbinary people gained visibility: bisexuality was defined as "attracted to the gender binary, trans inclusive" while pansexuality was defined as "attracted to everyone including nonbinary, unlike bisexual people"
"We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves" -Again the Bisexual manifesto. Still true today.
@@andynonymous6769 your comment does not just "come off" as panphobic, it quite literally is. Pansexual is under the bi umbrella, pansexuals knowing this. While they are similar (you thinking that it's the same) whichever label works best FOR YOU is what label works best. You can't tell pansexuals to not use the label simply because bisexual is practically the same thing. Pansexual is the label that works best for them, and that's completely okay. Writing paragraphs about why the label is bad simply because people interpreted it as something ["attracted to everyone including nonbinary, unlike bisexual people"] that those today don't see it as is ridiculous. Pan and Bi are both valid. Why start wars with each other?
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your name should be Frappuccino uwu
UwUDreamerUwU ur first
• FelicityJoy • oh cool ig lol
Hiz
is that a pizza giraffe cat plushie thing? I'm confused
giraffe
Its a house
road
it's a pusheen :)
"You feel like a dolphin! A beluga whale! An orca! 𝑨 𝒔𝒍𝒖𝒈 !!!"
As an ace, I do wanna say to people who don’t entirely understand my identity. Some people are ace just because they are, like how some people are just gay because they’re gay. Me, and some other people, however, realized and “became” ace after going through a lot of trauma. This CAN happen. Yes, people can “become” ace/aro. No, you cannot “become” homosexual or anything, but you can become ace or aro. It really just depends on the person.
Also, ace (Asexual) means having no interest in sexual relationships, and aro (Aromantic) means having no interest in romantic relationships. Some people are BOTH, others are just one (like me, I’m only ace but I wouldn’t mind a nice romantic relationship)
Oh and btw, to everyone else in the LGBTQIA+ community: STOP MAKING PEOPLE FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING YOUR IDENTITY. Lots of people just don’t know, so please try and be respectful towards them, whilst making sure they know not to say anything offensive the next time they want to ask something. Thanks for coming to my TED talk lmfao ✨
It's not true that ace means having no interest in sexual relationships. Ace means only that ace person doesn't feel sexual attraction to others but still may have sexual drive and like having sex. Some aces don't have sex drive, others do.
Also it's not true that you can't became gay or lesbian or even hetero. Sexuality is fluid throughout life, it may change, but truth is that you can't change it by CONSCIOUS choice.
as an acearo spec, I wanna clear things out a bit: there are aces and aros that *do* want relationships/sex. There is a microlabel (people don't need to use it if they don't want to, called a cupiosexual/romantic or aegosexual/romantic who wants a relationship/sex but lacks the attraction to do so) and I'm personally one of those types of aces, and there are definitely a wide variety of aces/aros that are sex positive, sex indifferent, or sex repulsed. The sexuality is based on a lack of attraction rather than a dislike for sex or a lack of libido. That is because there are celibate allosexuals, allosexuals who have gone through tr*uma themselves, or allosexuals that don't do relationships/sex for various reasons (ie. religion).
As for people who become ace/aro from tr*uma, they do happen, but still shouldn't be the reason why aces/aros should be dismissed, it's a horrible stereotype, honestly because it doesn't make anyone any less ace/aro if they have bad experiences or not. Also, tr*uma cam happen to any sexuality, not just aces and aros. And just like the comment above me, sexuality IS definitely fluid, and there are people who use different labels while they try to discover themselves more and there's nothing wrong with it as long as they're being informed properly.
I agree with you that asexuality can be innate or can be formed because I had a friend online and she said she was sexually assaulted at a very young age and because of her trauma she developed asexuality
Yeah ppl don't appreciate that asexuality is innately a bit different from other sexualities, like a different axis on the spectrum
Some people that I’ve seen identify as lesbians used to identify as bi or pan but due to male inflicted trauma are only interested in wlw relationships. To me, that’s valid too.
The glitching at 8:24 HDFHFHGFJNG
oh I can't wait pfft
Lol 😂😂😂😂
BROOO Hello there calico
Too much rainbow. Overload.
I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST ME
Fredric be like: so yah im gay...
Everyone: *acting like they dont know * WOW REALLY!
❤️👄❤️ we love gay frederic
Lol 😂 some ppl don't have to come out everyone knows already like my old friend from high school when he came out to me I told him that
question in the vid: how did you know??
8yr old me to every girl in my class: if I were a boy I'd date you :))
IM-
@@Ruuma11 we really should've known sooner. I got rid of all of my boy Barbie's because "they were ugly" and dressed up my girl Barbie's in boy clothes and then pretend they were boys, so they could date my other girl barbies.
I think (as a pansexual) "Gaydar" does exist but its not visual, its the way someone carries themselves and the views they have. Their whole vibe is different, i also think that's why we all gravitate towards each other even in situations where our orientations don't come up. Its hard to say the exact points but ive never been wrong.
I think maybe the only situation that "oh I kinda knew" might be helpful is for some trans people, me personally (not everyone) it made me feel better about being seen as the gender I am. Like without telling someone they already kinda saw me as male and that was kinda comforting.
Same for me too, brother
This classmate actually came up to me a little while after I came out. She told me she had been really confused the first year that we were in the same class. At introduction and such she had just thought I was a guy, but then I had a girls name and would go into the girls changing room so yeah that was funny. (Kinda same though on the gender confusion 😂)
@@mennoe7076 I feel! Went through a very similar situation in 9th grade even though I was out. Still had to use the girls changing room tho
Same bro it eased my dysphoria alot
i’m not even gay but am i gonna watch it...?
*yes*
Same I just think gay ppl are funny and nice
Lucy Green agreed
Omg Yeosang what are you doing here?
(Stan ateez for clear skin)
Oh Sehun could ask u the same thing sehun
(also stan exo for clear skin)
@@robynbridge Nah tell me what u doin here first mate
(Omg periodt Stan exo and ateez for clear skin)
Me watching this infront of my hispanic homophobic grandpa
m763 c501 good luck
is that sourdough in the background if so oh my god i can tell there is a gay in the house
hey frederic, I've been bi-curious in my past, dated guys and two girls who've hurt me, and now I've been in a straight relationship for over a year. I think I identify as straight because I just don't feel that way about women anymore, and I feel like this kind of stuff isn't talked about often. People think if you come out once, that's it and you're not allowed to change your mind. I at first came out as bisexual a few years ago because I thought it would make me feel better and make me feel like a belong to that label. I was really depressed and I thought taking that label would help me find myself. But later on I realized that it was more of a curiousity not something I truly felt. The bi-community in general was really toxic which didn't help me either. But after all that was single for a little bit, and I just told myself to be open to whoever wanted a relationship with me after that. Now I'm with an amazing guy who actually loves me, and I'd consider myself straight. It'd be cool of you could make a video about these topics/problems within the Bi-community, and the fact that people are allowed to change their mind on their sexuality/gender etc. Thanks!
You should never feel the need to prove your sexuality to others. If people don't believe you're straight then that's their problem, you just keep living your life.
yeh this is why i don't trust newly labelled bi people because they 99% of the time are actually straight. y'all should know a label isn't necessary and it's okay to be straight
Almost my entire school is against LGBTQ+ and I’m bi send help.
And I’m not joking which is the sad part
Thank you. I’m switching schools now so hopefully it will be better there but I feel bad for some of my friends in the younger grades who are getting bullied because of it :c
I feel ya, I was having a computer studies class and the conversation switched to trans people (I don't even know how that happened) and the teacher was *very* transphobic nobody really said anything and I didn't either cause I didn't want to out myself
But honestly I'm used to the hate since being LGBTQ+ is ✨I L L E G A L✨ in my country 😔
skittle kitten wish you the best of luck.
@@skittlekitten75 ILLEGAL? OMG
FRED, IM YOUR BIGGEST FAN-
👋
Good bye now
Na u in love with him lol
peter Yanes LOL-
Oh mah gawd so many likes 👀
Wow
Who's the one person who dared dislike Fibonacci??
please can we start giving your friend Kiana (sorry if i misheard/misspelled your name) dumb names too like we could call her Copious Amounts of Kelp
thank you for this-
i’m a closeted lesbian and this has rly helped
Le commet: "im straight are u ganna bully me?
Frederic: YES!
Me: XD
This comment makes me angry
i hate that i had to read this
kill me
I get called gay/lesbian at school but I don’t know what my sexuality is and I live in Australia and they (the boys at my school) make it sound like a bad thing and I don’t know if I just find women pretty in a straight way or if it’s more I know I’m attracted to men but I don’t know if it’s more and how I’ll know if I’m bisexual or not
Awww, figuring out your sexuality can be really hard, I struggled a lot too, I too questioned whether I was attracted to girls in just a friend way or a non platonic way, it took me around 4 years. Whatever your sexual orientation is, know that you are loved, valid, and that there's nothing wrong with you!! Also, you don't have to figure it out right now!
Bethany Frizzell lol, I thought I was just jealous of muscular guys when I was young, turns out I just wanted to hit that 🤭. Try and figure out if you admire women, and appreciate their bodies, or if you would like to be close to them, and are attracted to them. Does the idea of kissing a girl gross you out? Why? Why not? And remember, you don’t need to label yourself. Love who you wanna love, maybe you’re bi, or pan, or fluid. Doesn’t really matter
Let me guess, they have mullets? Use slurs every second sentence?
lol sexuality is hard... thought i was bisexual for 4 years until i was like “shit i’m a lesbian” and then it turned into “oh shit i’m a straight trans man” so honestly don’t rush labels cuz it’s a whole process
Perhaps you're ace? Or you think of both binary genders romantically but only the opposite one sexually?
I had the same experience- I didn't really feel straight since puberty but I didn't know what I was. I'm 20 now and it's still kind if a tough topic but I'm pretty sure I'm just biromantic/ace and thats why it was so hard to figuee it out. I hate when people always say that they knew for as long as they could remember and act like you're just y'know, spicy straight or something if you're questioning
Just date the people you like and if your heart says yes or no, listen to it.
Also know that things are real fucking confusing for baby bi's- for me it felt like my label changed every week. It's because when you're attracted to everyone, sometimes you want to get with a guy, sometimes a girl, sometimes neither and sometimes nobody. Without a label I was always freaking out, thinking that I was lesbian, straight, ace and so on just depending on that. Thus is the life of someone riding the bi-cycle U_U
Kiana: hi, my name is kiana
Me: keAnnU rEeVEs?
Honestly, I feel uncomfortable with the f-slur, I didn't even type it because I have seen so many straight people use it against even just the lgbtqia+ community. I was talking about why people get the pink inverted triangles on their arm as a memorial and tried to make the point that it is also a way of taking back that symbol as something triumphant and that we can take it back and make it our own and my cousin literally asked why the community doesn't make the f-slur as out own symbol but he actually said it, my straight cousin to his gay cousin. Although it was an educational conversation it still made me uncomfortable because he said it, I would have taken it better if he said f-slur itself or something like that because it somehow made me feel unsafe to be me at the same time? I don't know, my mom said it's because he grew up in a different time but I feel like that isn't an excuse?
“You think bi people have a higher chance to cheat? No, a cheater is just a cheater, but not because they’re bi.”
That. 👏 Is. 👏 The. 👏 Tea! Literally exactly what I’ve been saying for ages lol.
Thank you for this video, It’s been very informative. *me trying to sound sophisticated but it’s not working.
Even tho I’m not straight....
SJANANAJA me during a presentation:
Omg that glitch killed me I'm wheezing
The five dislikes are Frederic's internalized homophobia and/or sleep paralysis demons. Just sayin-
“Maybe you shouldnt- *gets cut off by youtube add saying meditate with your phone shut off*
I cant Im dying
One of my nb and lesbian friend's tiks is calling people the f word-
It's quite funny because everyone in our friend group is gay
one of your nb and what 👁️👄👁️
By tiks, do you mean they have Tourette's?
@@Natalie-rr7db yeah probably
@@colorbar.s they're probably enby and gay
He pulled out the water bottle and I lost it 🤣😂
Nobody:
Free Willy and Kiana giving advice:
UA-cam: Ah, yes *demonetization*
nvm its remonetized now aha
I’m so glad you mentioned stereotyping because I’m bisexual. And I have a lesbian friend who’s been really mean to me for not looking or acting gay.
Time to ignore class
Don’t do that education is important
this is education😌
Yes
I just found out that im a lesbian and my bestfriend said that she'll support me no matter what
IM IN TEARS-
ITS BEEN TWO YEARS BUT IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!! Just came out as bi to mine
I am so thankful that I had such a good health teacher (im in the US) she actually taught us about gay sex, and even taught the different ways of protection for gay sex and how its still important to be protected
"Do lesbians and gays just have more f***ed up hair, is that a thing?"
Me, who cut my hair myself(its uneven): YES
This video is amazing and I also know it’s not related but the fact that yall show that your skin isn’t perfect, makes me feel really good because I don’t have clear skin and seeing people in media that show their own skin as is can be really comforting so thank you!
I just love how 90% of the questions are from kpop stan accs
Lmao kpop made me discover i was a lesbian like when i was 5
@@iheartkimseungmin lmfao frr kpop made me unhomophobic and also made me realize i was bi
@@gerbil497 unhomophobic-
the energy in this is ✨ immaculate ✨
ive been told that i “don’t look gay” for the longest time and honestly it makes me feel like shit cause i’ve dealt with internalised homophobia since i was a teen :/
I actually really appreciate you taking about lgbtq 🏳️🌈 and sexuality in a appropriate manner and being mindful. I noticed other UA-cam channels sometimes are more perverse when it comes to this subject but I actually enjoy watching your videos and listening to your content because it is appropriate and respectful. I am a trans 🏳️⚧️ man and I been sexually abused and I always appreciate respect and honesty and support for lgbtq 🏳️🌈 people. Thank you for making such awesome videos. -from
Nicholas
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This is so relatable. I am lesbian and my best friend is gay and this is just our energy.
this is the friendship i wish i had
i just realized how sad it is that i’ve never met a straight cis male who actively supports lgbtq+ rights
I have met a lot, and I can actually count on one hand the amount of people I’ve interacted with who I knew weren’t. I live in a very open country though.
I have met exactly one and I don't even know for sure he's straight lol
When i came out to my parents they said are you going to get you grades up. I love my parents 💗
That's awesome!!!! 😀
I love how I just woke up and there's already a video up. The GRIND 👏🏽 NEVER 👏🏽 STOPS 👏🏽👏🏽
I like the fact their holding pusheen plushies.
in response to the person asking how do you know you aren’t straight. i am bi and i realized that i like looking at woman just as much as i like looking at men. it’s as simple as that. though interestingly irl i look at men more than i look at woman but i think that is just because my taste in women is a lot more specific than my taste in men so there are more men that fall into what i consider to be attractive than there are women.
i read the title and i thought “frederic got his bf on?”
Omg same I got so excited- 😭
Can I ask a question? Is he single bc I'm kinda confused..
Bxbble • Tae he said last video he had a bf, but nothing is fully confirmed
@@exie_c bc he makes jokes about being single- so like I'm just confused lol
Bxbble • Tae you’re good i was a lil confused too lol
i once heard sm1, in regards to gaydar, say that straight people have stereotypes and gay people have signals
thought that was a good way to put it
WE NEED MORE LGBTQ+ CONTENT! This video seriously helped me so much. I came out 2 years ago but I feel like I’m reversing back into the closet because I feel so alone and ashamed! I don’t have any LGBT friends so it’s so hard. But this video felt so comforting, thank you both 🥰💓💓
At the very least- bi peep over here. I love n respect u
12:42 Imo when someone reacts very like "uh okay I guess." or not really caring much when I decide to come out to them, I get kinda upset. Like, ig it's nice to know that they don't mind me being gay, but something about it kinda sucks cause I worked up the courage to tell them, just for them to not seem like they care. Just a simple "I'm proud of you" or "yoo!!" and I'd be more than happy.
Personal opinion on the f slur: if you are queer and the slur has been used against you you are allowed to reclaim it
I kinda see your point but i don't think we should yse it even though we can ! Because other people (straights) might take it as a regular word and will think they can use it too... Also some LGBT+ people might hear it without knowing you're gay and be offended... Maybe I'm taking it too far idk, but yeah it's not directly a problem to use it but it's not a mandatory or indispensable word either so...
Just my opinion though ( I think the same about the n word, the t slur, the r word and every slur like these btw )
@@Naae_111 I totally see your point, I feel in those situations where straight people think they can use it too, one should just politely correct them, and if they get upset or fail to see the issue then hey you just identified and asshole LOL. When I use the f slur I ask if those around me are comfortable with it and I definitely don’t go screaming it though the streets or something for these exact reasons. Thank you for starting a conversation with me about it!!
@@robyn5120 well that's right ! I just think sometimes it can lead to not so appreciable things ^^ But if you make sure everyone is okay with you saying it then I don't see the problem ! And thanks for replying, I see your point now :)
@Shawn Mendes Bussy honestly same for me ! Well I'm not black so yeah but I personally don't say the f word bc it makes me uncomfortable as well, so I understand ^^
Also a type of meatball
Thanks
When I came out to one of my friends as pansexual, she felt making so many jokes about it in public. I've tried shushing her and she does stop, but he's so loud and forgetful. Sometimes I regret telling her.
@@tin9181
I'm sure that they would understand. Just wait until you're ready, never tell someone something unless you're comfortable doing so!
mlm and wlw solidarity at its finest
MOST ANNOYING THING : JUST BECAUSE IM FEMININE, IT DOESN’T MEAN IM STRAIGHT
Be how you want, no matter who you want
ok but this is actually really comforting? all my friends and family are straight and sometimes even saying i feel attracted to a woman makes the room go quiet so,, ty a lot :((
I feel like if I got to know you as a male or female who was the opposite gender before, I wouldn’t care. But if I knew the person really well before they came out then I most likely wouldn’t like them sexually
very happy to be one of your straight follower
I came out to my friend by saying,
"yeah, you know how you're bi? I'm that, but, like, all the way."
I wasn't completely comfortable with describing myself as a lesbian yet for some reason, so when I first came out to her I said the first thing I could think of that didnt include me saying "I am a lesbian" and I didnt think to say "im gay" so now I have that awkward coming out story in my head forever :')
8:45 the way they sit the same haha so cute
Over here with the Q(ueer)s in the Rainbow. When you said you feel like a dolphin, I filled my lonely house with laughter. Thanks. #happypridemonth
i love this friendship.
I had come out to my sister and she said “I always knew” and it really messed with me. She’s the only one in my family who knows. And it definitely wasn’t comforting
FYI what most people mean when they say MLM they mean multilevel marketing (ie Avon, Monat, etc...). So people who are anti-mlm or make content about are usually talking about how bad those companies are. (Obviously context is key and unfortunately the acronyms are the same.)
lesbians and gays make the best friendships, period
So is that a gayonic or a gayvalent bond?
My summer gym class talked about genders and the community and i found it really helpful for me and I'm happy they talked about it in school. :)
I really want to know Frederic's toughs on pansexuals
Sameee
that Moria rose impression was so funny and I’m not rlly sure why
About the coming out thing, it makes me really uncomfortable when someone is kind of ogling me and like, talking in a baby voice? And also when they try to give me a hug, it just feels so weird in that situation. When i came out to my parents as nb i did it with a little note on the door so they have to see it, but i had to specifically say not to make a big deal, etc. Which i have no idea if other people feel this way because most of the time i think its cute and really nice when people are supet supportive, but a situation like that just oozes "WHAT DO I SAY, take me home ;^;" energy for me-
That sucks, I'm sorry. People sometimes think because you're a little different in terms of identity/sexual orentation they should treat you "special". You should let them know that it's extremely rude not to treat you normally, and tell them you're just like them, a human, just nonbinary.
I always wondered why I liked the feeling of shaved legs so much and the dolphin thing is it thank you
15:28 I was thinking about this video when season 2 of the umbrella academy came out and Vanya and the woman were having an affair and I couldn't stop thinking about this part of the video.
Makes my heart happy thinking of baby gays who will find such value in your openness to share. 😩💕
"in your pApAYa" killed me hahaha
I saw someone explain gaydar as a moment when you both look at each other to see if their safe, and seeing the other one looking for someone safe as well. But not staring, just a glance
they really advertised “mouth wash for your bum”
THANK YOU FOR SAYING IT'S NORMAL TO NOT SHAVE
Me and my best friend came out to each other at graduation. It basically went like:
Her: “I think I’m pansexual.”
Me: “WAIT FR ME TOO”
That was the same with me and my friend we get put back in school and she just casually said "by the way I'm pan and non-binary" I said "oh, I'm pan too" and the rest was history 😂
So my best fren and my cousin both came out to me as bisexual and to me I always support them it really doesn’t make them feel good if you say “I aLrEaDy kNoW” like that stresses them out like they will think “what did I do to give it away” so to help anyone else from accidentally u know not really making them feel supported I always say “Congrats, I’m proud of you” or something like this :3
12:25 IM SO SORRY I DON'T KNOW PLEASE EXPLAIN :''((((
9:40 omg im always thinking about that, like, what is feminine, whats masculine? We created these things