A narcissistic parent is worse than being in a relationship with one. But the deafening moment that crushes you is when you finally realize that’s what they are. The jealousy, control, lack of support, looks of disgust, inability to be emotionally available to you, lack of respect, crushes you because it feels a millimeter short of hatred.
Not only my mother, but also my father is a narcissist. When I found this out, I understood why I never felt loved and why I never felt like I belonged in my family (I was the scapegoat in my childhood and now I'm the invisible child). I found out this 6 months ago, and since then my life has been a living hell 💔
Exactly what I went through. I’m so sorry. It sucks. Both my parents were narcs and then I married one too. It’s impossible to understand what parents like that are thinking.
I’m in the same situation as you and it’s awful, I’m so sorry you are also dealing with this, it feels like a living nightmare… we can do this, we can and will get to a bright future, some day, somehow…
Not only my mother but her whole side of her family but in 1997 she divorce my dad and then got remarried and he was a narcissist too sadly she passed away in 2019 and now my sisters are narcissist too and one of them married a low-life and the other one married someone in a church musician and a gamer on twitch however they are narcissistic too
I've only had neurotic or narcissistic partners in my life, but my last abuser is a full blown Narcissist with the exact same type of "covert" Narcissism my mother has. I litterally saved my life from his invisible abuse. It's the same with Johnny Depp, btw. AH has the same NPD his mother had, that's why it ended so bad, like never before, for me and him
Great video 💯 Here are the actions and behaviors my Mom has done: When I was about 10, she got extremely angry because I wanted to start picking out my own clothes to wear. She wanted me to wear what she wanted. This is entitlement. At age 12, I hurt my back badly. She never checked on me. Just told me to lie on the bed. This is a lack of empathy. Through my teen years she often gave me dirty looks, and then gaslight me by saying: "You're imagining things, you're so sensitive." At age 25 she gave me the silent treatment because I didn't need a ride home from work. She literally had a tantrum because I was getting a taxi instead of letting her give me a lift. She ignored me for about 2 weeks. She was the master of the silent treatment, from my childhood to adulthood. Of course, she'd act like nothing happened, and it happened so often. Once when I was on a diet, she turned up at my house with some unhealthy food. When I said "thank you, but you know I'm on a diet" she raged at me and called me ungrateful. She just didn't want me looking nice of being healthier. She always commented on my appearance. At age 28, when I got qualifications from college, she was quiet and very unsupportive. Then all over her social media she uploaded pictures of how great her daughter is. This is attention seeking. She was never proud or happy for me, just glad that she could use it for attention. At age 30 I had a tough time financially, and she helped out. But during this time she was very controlling. Making it seem like she was better than me just because I was going through a struggle. Then she hated it when I got a job. 💯 Narcissistic parents are hell, but the thing is, most of it just doesn't make any sense. You can't even tell anyone. People would look at you like you're 'crazy' if trying to explain. Also, my Mom has great moments where she seems nice.. so it's very confusing. 8:22 is very true. I always got that said to me. Videos like this are very validating, thank you 🙏🏻
My mom was a narcissist. I grew up being SA and she knew about it and allowed it to happen. In fact, she sent me for visits with my perpetrator, my father, knowing what he was doing. Then later she used it to get sympathy from her friends while telling me I was being a baby for crying, or that it was my fault. When her 3rd husband began his SA on me, she became jealous and said I was breaking up the family because I didn't want to live with him and continue to be SA'd. I never mattered to her. I was just her maid and babysitter. She said a lot of really horrible things to me. I carry that with me today.
I always knew my relationship with my mother was different…. It honestly didn’t hit me until I left my abusive relationship recently . The level of support I haven’t received is honestly sad when I think about it. I’ve learned to give her grace because of her childhood but at the same time I make sure to protect my peace. I simply don’t engage with her if I feel she won’t take accountability or if she’s going to cause me distress in anyway. This really hit home .
Definitely please do one on narcissistic fathers too, I still have no idea if my father is just a flying monkey/blind supporter or if he himself is also a narcissist. Very absent emotionally unavailable and unstable father
I have had to watch my mother be loving to everyone around her while I was her Target of abuse but I really don't think my family is going to believe that. She has totally abandoned me, her only child and I am disabled but at least now I have a chance to heal without her in my life.
Almost 50 and finally no contact with my narc family. My dad and brother have passed leaving my miserable, wicked witch mom on her own. I breathe a sigh of relief that I won’t have the burden of caring for her wretched soul as she ages and dies. Bye Felicia. I’m living my best life. 🎉❤🎉
Oh my 🤦🏾, I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling the way you feel it's just crazy to me that everybody that's going through or dealing with a narcissistic spouse or family member feels this way about them that just goes to show you that narcissist people are freaking real and evil and they make people not want to deal with them for the rest of their lives 🤷🏾
Omg! You have described my bio mom regarding obsessed with her appearance and envious of me because I’m attractive so she needs to bring me down a notch, competes with, more so, against me. Hell! ALL of what you’ve said. Yvonne is ALWAYS the victim and lies. Perpetually.
THIS IS ON POINT! My mother would stare at me for hours (she was admiring her creation)! I looked like her, but couldn't be more different, which caused a TON of conflict. She could not understand why I would act so differently when to her, I should be a mini her. Also, absolutely NO privacy! She would walk in while I was in the bathroom ALL THE TIME! The lock never worked and I'm sure that was her doing. She expected everyone - strangers included - kowtow to her. Her needs ALWAYS came first!
ALL ABOSOLUTELY TRUE. My Momma is 84 years old and my siblings have never been allowed to be friends. We have always been pigeon holed into our roles and pitted against one another. It wasn't until recently that I realized that my relationships with people with Narc tendencies comes from me being more comfortable being abused than I am with a healthy person. I actually don't know that I have been with a mentally healthy person until recently. I'm 49. Therapy works y'all. Thank you for all that you do.
Wow yes this certainly describes my mum the way I was treated when I was younger I felt used & abused I was controlled like a puppet. Iv kept my distance for a while cause she started blaming my kids for things they didn't do. Iv just started seeing a counsellor & he did say she's got narcissistic traits. Yes as they get older they do get worse. Thanx Lee for sharing this video.
My mother is a narcissist. Some weird stuff she did: 1. I was not allowed to be sad or cry. She yelled at me and told me to stop when I was caught crying. When my puppy got hit by a car and died, she claimed that I was crying too much. 2. She indeed competed with me. I was slim and rather beautiful as a teenager. She kept telling me how she was slimmer and way more beautiful than me at my age. 3. I went to extracurricular art classes. She always pointed out all the flaws in my work. Never told anything nice. 4. I was bullied in middle school. When I wanted to go to another school for high school, she berated me and told why would I think I won’t be bullied in there. 5. My father was a sadist and a sociopath. She blamed me for being abused by him. 6. She forced me to endure vile abuse and play along with her happy family game, because her appearances are more important than lives of her children. 7. When I started protesting against the abuse as a teenager, she sent me to psyciatrist, but lied to her that I’ve gone crazy out of the blue, and she is very worried about me. The psychiatrist berated me for making my mother’s life so hard with my bad behaviour. 8. When I cut her off a few years ago, she started telling to other people that I was mentally unstable and haven’t explained why I did it and she has no idea why I’m not talking to her and she is very worried, because I had a birth trauma that causes my behaviour. In reality I sent her an e-mail explaining my decision.
That is a very typical default smear and projection that a narcissistic abuser resorts to - that you are "insane" or mentally deficient in some way for not tolerating their abuse, but when they pitch their story to other people they leave out the part about their abuse.
Both of my parents are narcs. I was golden child and scapegoat! Most of the time scapegoat but I was very talented, intelligent, pretty, long hair…. So she used those things to her advantage when she could but still blamed me for not being perfect. I also have adhd/autism. It was all a nightmare
I had my bedroom door taken off as a teen as a consequence. Did not like it much, but never thought my parent was being narcissistic. Years later have a child who does not have a door because he damaged it. Not choosing to leave no door because I don’t want him to have privacy but leaving without a door because he needs to learn he can’t keep destroying my house. Want a bedroom door? Don’t break it.
Both of my parents, people who attempted to raise me, and ALL older family members are deceased. No telling what type parent I am, not intentional doing wrong to my child, but I do try and respect her boundaries.
My mother is a covert, religious narcissist. It was terrible. For YEARS I slept with the door LOCKED to my bedroom because one time I found her in the middle of the night in my room, digging through my stuff to find a stupid paper contract (handwritten) she MADE me sign. And when we would visit her side of the family, she would always remind me how to act because we really were a reflection of her. And I had to share not only a room, but a BED with her. For a month. I am very low contact with her to this day.
My mom hates that I have always been overweight, and loved it. I had men, I knew how to shop (even though I didn't like it), nothing held me back. There was nothing she could say or do to make me look to her for validation. I liked almost everything she did not and even that bothered her. I'm learning thather mother used to play the siblings against each other game, threw gifts on the floor in the closet, told other siblings one is not taking care of her well enough. She even told me, through my mom (triangulation) "if you lose weight, I'll send you some clothes." I decided I'll never be getting clothes from her. I was never hurt. I just accepted these people are not capable of being mothers, loving, caring, giving, etc. I figured it out at 12 years old. Thank you, strength from the universe, I've always had dogs/animals and actually learned true love. Grudges/resentment was never modeled to me by those I respected. My dad allowed a level of autonomy but he was a pedophile so there was that level of no boundaries. Surprisingly, I am thankful my mom abandoned me at 10 y/o to him. My mom has messed up my head more in the 17 years I have been caring for her since she has a chronic disease. I am so ready to go no contact if she decides she's a narc and refuses to drop the behavior.
My mom's favorite thing to tell me is how "hateful and ungrateful" I am when she doesn't get her way. She also loves to tell me that I'm "just like my oldest sister" because she knows I don't like being compared to her. I've distanced myself from her because I'm just fed up and done with her abuse. I've accepted she will never change and no longer feel any feelings of guilt about my decision of distancing myself from her. It's taken me 4yrs to make this decision after learning about narcissism and although the grieving process was incredibly difficult, I'm happy to say I made it through it and have no regrets about it. Now as she tries to hoover me back I know it's one of her tactics and just ignore it. No longer the scapegoat.
My mum ticks off every one of these. She’s really big on victimising herself and at any cost, including loosing family members or husband (my dad). She loves to include my dad in everything she says especially if it’s a way to seem like she has backup against you in order to control once again. Things have gotten real crazy throughout my life but more so recently when I’ve upheld my boundaries. She really hates that and any consequences that come along with it
I am the baby girl in my family who looks like my dad and has his personality so that frustrates the hell out of my mom. They are divorced….. all my accomplishments are due to her support while my life mistakes is because I didn’t listen to her and didn’t do things the way she would have done them…… every phone call she mentions how she sacrificed her life and career to stay at home and raise us and anytime I pushed back she would say the Bible says to honor your mother and father if you want to have a blessed life 🙄
For real. I left in October and had to come back, since I’ve gotten blamed for their issues and have not been respected. A ton of gaslighting and pushing her agenda. Can’t wait to get married before next year and finally get out of here. Strange how she said she supported me regardless but doesn’t show that at all.
I was at camp one summer and not used to being away from home so I was very home sick. I cried to go home and she got angry with me. When she left to go back home and I still had several days left at camp I literally ran after the car she was riding in. She didn't stop but I was highly upset.
To the T she mark all these especially about their appearance and playing victim. I always thought she was vain, like she’ll randomly send pictures to me of her photoshopped and it isn’t just one she’ll send about 5. And I always thought it was weird. She still does it When she buys me certain things like once she bought me a shirt and I was like “thanks” And she was like “no problems I like it on you the character on the shirt looks like me.” Like girl what 😂 When I was a kid I was the scapegoat child, and I always got compared to my brother. I was lucky enough to have my other parent to stick up for me tho and see through her bs behavior. But I always knew something was off about my mom since I was a kid why I never felt love etc. These days it just seems worse especially when she brings up old trauma and twist everything her line “I tried my best to raise you guys with what I could” I usually stay silent.
Oh yeah my mom was away you know and my you know at the end of the day you know my brother was treating the best and my brother could never do nothing wrong and he's another narc and oh God it's just me and we not talking and we are deadly enemies but my mom she passed away 2020 when is September right before her birthday she died of cancer but she apologized to me me and her we had closure we both apologized to each other thank you Mr Lee talking about this
Wait so mine wants to be young. She competes, i get compliments before her, she doesn't like. Its sad bc i would never do that to my children or anyone. She the victim. I know and been apart of athlete's and entertainers life. She now says she did too lol. Told her friends i was lying.
Thank you Lee I appreciate you so much 💕🙏🏾💪🏾💜, could you do a video on narcissist mothers who touched their sons when they were young or acting as she was her son's wife Thank You
Im dealing with this now and have been for 13 years of being with my boyfriend, his mother never did like me from the beginning and it used to hurt me for a while cause im like what the hell did i do to this women (not knowing that this woman is a covert narcissist) she has no boundaries at all she has no respect at all for her son, who is the symptoms of an ex-girlfriend that matters that used to write to each other because when we do fuss he always runs to his moms
A narcissistic parent is worse than being in a relationship with one. But the deafening moment that crushes you is when you finally realize that’s what they are. The jealousy, control, lack of support, looks of disgust, inability to be emotionally available to you, lack of respect, crushes you because it feels a millimeter short of hatred.
Not only my mother, but also my father is a narcissist. When I found this out, I understood why I never felt loved and why I never felt like I belonged in my family (I was the scapegoat in my childhood and now I'm the invisible child). I found out this 6 months ago, and since then my life has been a living hell 💔
Exactly what I went through. I’m so sorry. It sucks. Both my parents were narcs and then I married one too. It’s impossible to understand what parents like that are thinking.
Love thyself. Keep your distance if you can. Treat yourself well. It's not your fault. God loves you❤
I feel you friend🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m in the same situation as you and it’s awful, I’m so sorry you are also dealing with this, it feels like a living nightmare… we can do this, we can and will get to a bright future, some day, somehow…
Not only my mother but her whole side of her family but in 1997 she divorce my dad and then got remarried and he was a narcissist too sadly she passed away in 2019 and now my sisters are narcissist too and one of them married a low-life and the other one married someone in a church musician and a gamer on twitch however they are narcissistic too
My mom is narcissistic and I just found out because of this is why I was able to "handle" my narc ex for so long. It's very traumatizing
Same….
I've only had neurotic or narcissistic partners in my life, but my last abuser is a full blown Narcissist with the exact same type of "covert" Narcissism my mother has. I litterally saved my life from his invisible abuse. It's the same with Johnny Depp, btw. AH has the same NPD his mother had, that's why it ended so bad, like never before, for me and him
A narcissistic mum will play her kids off against one another.
My mother is a horrible person...i am no contact..the best i could do...
they choose a favorite child and treat the rest like garbage
Great video 💯 Here are the actions and behaviors my Mom has done:
When I was about 10, she got extremely angry because I wanted to start picking out my own clothes to wear. She wanted me to wear what she wanted. This is entitlement.
At age 12, I hurt my back badly. She never checked on me. Just told me to lie on the bed. This is a lack of empathy.
Through my teen years she often gave me dirty looks, and then gaslight me by saying: "You're imagining things, you're so sensitive."
At age 25 she gave me the silent treatment because I didn't need a ride home from work. She literally had a tantrum because I was getting a taxi instead of letting her give me a lift. She ignored me for about 2 weeks.
She was the master of the silent treatment, from my childhood to adulthood. Of course, she'd act like nothing happened, and it happened so often.
Once when I was on a diet, she turned up at my house with some unhealthy food. When I said "thank you, but you know I'm on a diet" she raged at me and called me ungrateful. She just didn't want me looking nice of being healthier. She always commented on my appearance.
At age 28, when I got qualifications from college, she was quiet and very unsupportive. Then all over her social media she uploaded pictures of how great her daughter is. This is attention seeking. She was never proud or happy for me, just glad that she could use it for attention.
At age 30 I had a tough time financially, and she helped out. But during this time she was very controlling. Making it seem like she was better than me just because I was going through a struggle. Then she hated it when I got a job.
💯 Narcissistic parents are hell, but the thing is, most of it just doesn't make any sense. You can't even tell anyone. People would look at you like you're 'crazy' if trying to explain. Also, my Mom has great moments where she seems nice.. so it's very confusing.
8:22 is very true. I always got that said to me. Videos like this are very validating, thank you 🙏🏻
I don't know if my mom was narcissistic but she was highly toxic.
"Flowers in the Attic"
My mom was a narcissist. I grew up being SA and she knew about it and allowed it to happen. In fact, she sent me for visits with my perpetrator, my father, knowing what he was doing. Then later she used it to get sympathy from her friends while telling me I was being a baby for crying, or that it was my fault. When her 3rd husband began his SA on me, she became jealous and said I was breaking up the family because I didn't want to live with him and continue to be SA'd. I never mattered to her. I was just her maid and babysitter. She said a lot of really horrible things to me. I carry that with me today.
I always knew my relationship with my mother was different…. It honestly didn’t hit me until I left my abusive relationship recently . The level of support I haven’t received is honestly sad when I think about it. I’ve learned to give her grace because of her childhood but at the same time I make sure to protect my peace. I simply don’t engage with her if I feel she won’t take accountability or if she’s going to cause me distress in anyway. This really hit home .
🙌🏾 stay strong on your healing journey
@@MentalHealness thank you 🙏🏾
Definitely please do one on narcissistic fathers too, I still have no idea if my father is just a flying monkey/blind supporter or if he himself is also a narcissist. Very absent emotionally unavailable and unstable father
can do
I have had to watch my mother be loving to everyone around her while I was her Target of abuse but I really don't think my family is going to believe that. She has totally abandoned me, her only child and I am disabled but at least now I have a chance to heal without her in my life.
Almost 50 and finally no contact with my narc family. My dad and brother have passed leaving my miserable, wicked witch mom on her own. I breathe a sigh of relief that I won’t have the burden of caring for her wretched soul as she ages and dies. Bye Felicia. I’m living my best life. 🎉❤🎉
Oh my 🤦🏾, I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling the way you feel it's just crazy to me that everybody that's going through or dealing with a narcissistic spouse or family member feels this way about them that just goes to show you that narcissist people are freaking real and evil and they make people not want to deal with them for the rest of their lives 🤷🏾
Omg! You have described my bio mom regarding obsessed with her appearance and envious of me because I’m attractive so she needs to bring me down a notch, competes with, more so, against me. Hell! ALL of what you’ve said. Yvonne is ALWAYS the victim and lies. Perpetually.
THIS IS ON POINT! My mother would stare at me for hours (she was admiring her creation)! I looked like her, but couldn't be more different, which caused a TON of conflict. She could not understand why I would act so differently when to her, I should be a mini her. Also, absolutely NO privacy! She would walk in while I was in the bathroom ALL THE TIME! The lock never worked and I'm sure that was her doing. She expected everyone - strangers included - kowtow to her. Her needs ALWAYS came first!
ALL ABOSOLUTELY TRUE. My Momma is 84 years old and my siblings have never been allowed to be friends. We have always been pigeon holed into our roles and pitted against one another. It wasn't until recently that I realized that my relationships with people with Narc tendencies comes from me being more comfortable being abused than I am with a healthy person. I actually don't know that I have been with a mentally healthy person until recently. I'm 49. Therapy works y'all. Thank you for all that you do.
Perfect timing- I’ll be writing in to the support group today… (I’m Renée in the group, hey Lee👋)
Wow yes this certainly describes my mum the way I was treated when I was younger I felt used & abused I was controlled like a puppet. Iv kept my distance for a while cause she started blaming my kids for things they didn't do. Iv just started seeing a counsellor & he did say she's got narcissistic traits.
Yes as they get older they do get worse. Thanx Lee for sharing this video.
My mother is a narcissist. Some weird stuff she did:
1. I was not allowed to be sad or cry. She yelled at me and told me to stop when I was caught crying. When my puppy got hit by a car and died, she claimed that I was crying too much.
2. She indeed competed with me. I was slim and rather beautiful as a teenager. She kept telling me how she was slimmer and way more beautiful than me at my age.
3. I went to extracurricular art classes. She always pointed out all the flaws in my work. Never told anything nice.
4. I was bullied in middle school. When I wanted to go to another school for high school, she berated me and told why would I think I won’t be bullied in there.
5. My father was a sadist and a sociopath. She blamed me for being abused by him.
6. She forced me to endure vile abuse and play along with her happy family game, because her appearances are more important than lives of her children.
7. When I started protesting against the abuse as a teenager, she sent me to psyciatrist, but lied to her that I’ve gone crazy out of the blue, and she is very worried about me. The psychiatrist berated me for making my mother’s life so hard with my bad behaviour.
8. When I cut her off a few years ago, she started telling to other people that I was mentally unstable and haven’t explained why I did it and she has no idea why I’m not talking to her and she is very worried, because I had a birth trauma that causes my behaviour. In reality I sent her an e-mail explaining my decision.
I’m so very sorry that both of your parents were horrible to you. Praying for peace & healing🙏🏼🩷
That is a very typical default smear and projection that a narcissistic abuser resorts to - that you are "insane" or mentally deficient in some way for not tolerating their abuse, but when they pitch their story to other people they leave out the part about their abuse.
Her name is Gypsy Rose Blanchard 🙏🏽 great example!
Boy does this sound like my mom😮💨 now that’s she’s elderly it’s them guilt trips🥴🫠
Both of my parents are narcs. I was golden child and scapegoat! Most of the time scapegoat but I was very talented, intelligent, pretty, long hair…. So she used those things to her advantage when she could but still blamed me for not being perfect. I also have adhd/autism. It was all a nightmare
I had my bedroom door taken off as a teen as a consequence. Did not like it much, but never thought my parent was being narcissistic. Years later have a child who does not have a door because he damaged it. Not choosing to leave no door because I don’t want him to have privacy but leaving without a door because he needs to learn he can’t keep destroying my house. Want a bedroom door? Don’t break it.
Both of my parents, people who attempted to raise me, and ALL older family members are deceased. No telling what type parent I am, not intentional doing wrong to my child, but I do try and respect her boundaries.
No contact. Can you also make a video talking about how a narc remembers everything, what is that? And why when they mad bring it up good or bad.
YOU NAILED THEM ALL LEE!!! MY MOTHER HAS DONE ALL THESE THINGS TO ME!!!!! THIS IS ALL TRUE!!! AT LEAST FOR ME
My mother is a covert, religious narcissist. It was terrible. For YEARS I slept with the door LOCKED to my bedroom because one time I found her in the middle of the night in my room, digging through my stuff to find a stupid paper contract (handwritten) she MADE me sign. And when we would visit her side of the family, she would always remind me how to act because we really were a reflection of her. And I had to share not only a room, but a BED with her. For a month. I am very low contact with her to this day.
I am 50 and just realized my mom is a narcissist. Thank you for this video.
🙏🏽💪🏽
Mommies dearest??
@mortischahicks5341 ALL DAY, EVERY DAY! 🎯
My mom hates that I have always been overweight, and loved it. I had men, I knew how to shop (even though I didn't like it), nothing held me back. There was nothing she could say or do to make me look to her for validation. I liked almost everything she did not and even that bothered her.
I'm learning thather mother used to play the siblings against each other game, threw gifts on the floor in the closet, told other siblings one is not taking care of her well enough. She even told me, through my mom (triangulation) "if you lose weight, I'll send you some clothes." I decided I'll never be getting clothes from her. I was never hurt. I just accepted these people are not capable of being mothers, loving, caring, giving, etc. I figured it out at 12 years old. Thank you, strength from the universe, I've always had dogs/animals and actually learned true love. Grudges/resentment was never modeled to me by those I respected. My dad allowed a level of autonomy but he was a pedophile so there was that level of no boundaries. Surprisingly, I am thankful my mom abandoned me at 10 y/o to him. My mom has messed up my head more in the 17 years I have been caring for her since she has a chronic disease. I am so ready to go no contact if she decides she's a narc and refuses to drop the behavior.
My mom's favorite thing to tell me is how "hateful and ungrateful" I am when she doesn't get her way. She also loves to tell me that I'm "just like my oldest sister" because she knows I don't like being compared to her. I've distanced myself from her because I'm just fed up and done with her abuse. I've accepted she will never change and no longer feel any feelings of guilt about my decision of distancing myself from her. It's taken me 4yrs to make this decision after learning about narcissism and although the grieving process was incredibly difficult, I'm happy to say I made it through it and have no regrets about it. Now as she tries to hoover me back I know it's one of her tactics and just ignore it. No longer the scapegoat.
My mother ticks all those boxes. 😢. No contact now to protect my mental health. A much safer space to begin healing. 😌
My mum ticks off every one of these. She’s really big on victimising herself and at any cost, including loosing family members or husband (my dad). She loves to include my dad in everything she says especially if it’s a way to seem like she has backup against you in order to control once again. Things have gotten real crazy throughout my life but more so recently when I’ve upheld my boundaries. She really hates that and any consequences that come along with it
😢🫨
4:23 yes i confirm as a child of six ,its heartbreaking shes destroyed the family with this bs
I could just describe my mom here and there we go 😂
I am the baby girl in my family who looks like my dad and has his personality so that frustrates the hell out of my mom. They are divorced….. all my accomplishments are due to her support while my life mistakes is because I didn’t listen to her and didn’t do things the way she would have done them…… every phone call she mentions how she sacrificed her life and career to stay at home and raise us and anytime I pushed back she would say the Bible says to honor your mother and father if you want to have a blessed life 🙄
Some narcissists use religion to make their children feel guilty.
@@lotuslabradorite5539 100%
Except when it applies to them
I hate my mom for this very reason! I'm at peace with never speaking to her again...in this life or the next!
For real. I left in October and had to come back, since I’ve gotten blamed for their issues and have not been respected. A ton of gaslighting and pushing her agenda. Can’t wait to get married before next year and finally get out of here. Strange how she said she supported me regardless but doesn’t show that at all.
I think my mom had toxic ways. But this describes my dad to the fullest
Wow, you describing mom to a T! I try to be different with my own child because of mom.
My and two sons are narcissist, and the man I just left is one.
I was at camp one summer and not used to being away from home so I was very home sick. I cried to go home and she got angry with me. When she left to go back home and I still had several days left at camp I literally ran after the car she was riding in. She didn't stop but I was highly upset.
My father was a BIG narcissist!
Thanks Lee 🙌✨️💛
My narracissitc mother was always the problem total insanity glad them years are over
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Gypsy Rose Blanchard
My dad is the narc
My mom denial, enabler victim. In that order. She's also a Leo. Nuff said
Unfortunately, my mom does all of these 😢
To the T she mark all these especially about their appearance and playing victim.
I always thought she was vain, like she’ll randomly send pictures to me of her photoshopped and it isn’t just one she’ll send about 5. And I always thought it was weird. She still does it
When she buys me certain things like once she bought me a shirt and I was like “thanks”
And she was like “no problems I like it on you the character on the shirt looks like me.”
Like girl what 😂
When I was a kid I was the scapegoat child, and I always got compared to my brother.
I was lucky enough to have my other parent to stick up for me tho and see through her bs behavior.
But I always knew something was off about my mom since I was a kid why I never felt love etc. These days it just seems worse especially when she brings up old trauma and twist everything her line “I tried my best to raise you guys with what I could”
I usually stay silent.
Oh yeah my mom was away you know and my you know at the end of the day you know my brother was treating the best and my brother could never do nothing wrong and he's another narc and oh God it's just me and we not talking and we are deadly enemies but my mom she passed away 2020 when is September right before her birthday she died of cancer but she apologized to me me and her we had closure we both apologized to each other thank you Mr Lee talking about this
Shit I’d be a narcissist too if I had to raise a kid by myself
You have describe my mother to the big T 😢😞
Some will use the step dad to abuse the child while they watch.
4:30 oh for sure
Wait so mine wants to be young. She competes, i get compliments before her, she doesn't like. Its sad bc i would never do that to my children or anyone. She the victim. I know and been apart of athlete's and entertainers life. She now says she did too lol. Told her friends i was lying.
True
Gypsy Rose 🌹
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Sounds more like my dad 🙃
Dang nabbit
Thank you Lee I appreciate you so much 💕🙏🏾💪🏾💜, could you do a video on narcissist mothers who touched their sons when they were young or acting as she was her son's wife Thank You
Im dealing with this now and have been for 13 years of being with my boyfriend, his mother never did like me from the beginning and it used to hurt me for a while cause im like what the hell did i do to this women (not knowing that this woman is a covert narcissist) she has no boundaries at all she has no respect at all for her son, who is the symptoms of an ex-girlfriend that matters that used to write to each other because when we do fuss he always runs to his moms