The person i dealt with asked if i could sign up for a betting app and add his bank account. so if he won money, it will go into his bank account but it would look like i made the income and have to pay the taxes. bye
My ex-husband *always* freaked out and stomped away when I asked questions about "who benefits?" or what drove his latest demand. He ALWAYS screamed and flounced if I hit too close to another lie he'd told. It was how I realized the depth of the problem so soon after I first caught him in a direct lie. Divorce was final a week ago, and he is decompensating like a MFer. Nobody permanent to regulate his emotions with. Nobody he can use to mirror "good values." He isn't naturally the "nice guy" he pretends to be, and he doesn't have any regular supply. He burned too many people in his discard of me, and too many other people watched him do it. He can't cover up how manipulative, self-absorbed, and needy he is anymore.
Hooray for us! you bringing him down girl, not without battle scars of course at least he's crumbling! Dont help it to stand again stay strong and if you need to converse reach out
Sounds like a great way to fuel some narc rage in the asker’s direction. No matter where in the continuum he or she lands it is about a core instability and perceived inability to experience a stable connection-not evil intent. Doesn’t mean not doing what is needed but the story of them being ‘evil’ really does two things: 1. Solidifies the state of conflict and 2. Makes the asker more upset (which is fine with the narc).
@@MikeD-tf7dk Some ''people'' like Ted Bundy, Wayne Williams, John Wayne Gacy, the UK's Dr Harold Shipman, Jeffrey Dahmer and hundreds of others were never normal.
Wow I asked him "You get to keep me. what do I get? What do you have that's beneficial to me? He said I don't know what you want me to say. that's the answer.
Honestly I don’t like that question it’s sounds kind of narcissistic. because that question states that you find yourself more beneficial than you find the other person. Aka wow look you have ME and I’m so amazing and great.. but you?? What do you have to offer ME? What do you have that benefits ME? Honestly I wouldn’t have an answer to that question either if asked by my partner. In a loving relationship he has love to offer you the same way you have love for him and if that love is real, it’s beneficial to both of you.
After I kicked his cheating a$$ to the curb, my friend said she always thought I brought a lot more to the table than he did. Bingo! I wish I would’ve asked him “what are you bringing to the table?” 15 years ago. Almost a year no contact & I am so much happier now.
When I look back, and if I had known what I know now. “How does it benefit me”. All I ever got were the cons! So glad I was strong enough to kick him out!
😂😂 The last time he talked bout what HE NEEDED.. I asked him what was in it for me 🤷🏽♀️.. he was like, "What.. so i repeated it, and he say well if u dont wanna help me, then don't 😂😂 so i said right. It's all bout. What u want and need and I have not heard how helping u benefits me. Sooo now im a witch and im to get on my broom and fly out of his life 4ever...😢😢🤭🤭😂😂😂😂
Thank you for keeping it real. Only a true man will put all of his character flaws out there for the world to see. You've definitely help me every single day. Not just new videos, but I watch the old ones repeatedly as well. Much respect! 👏👏👏👏👏
Today I asked my husband why he gets upset, defensive, dismissive and angry when I want to discuss my feelings? He said I don’t know how to answer that. Then I said ok how do we have a relationship if we cannot have a conversation how we make each other feel? He said I don’t want to talk about this right now. I’m already on my way out the door this just gave me a little extra confirmation.
Mine always has a comeback. "How does this benefit me? Do this for me and I'll have more time to do blah blah for you" even if I didn't ask for"blah blah". I learned a long time ago that you can't use logic and reason with an illogical unreasoning person. When you're stuck, sometimes you have no option but to do what you need to do to survive.
Those two better worry about when I go on attack because they asked for everything they have coming to them. I have been left with nothing to lose. I’m dying so what do I have to fear? Nothing! I have nothing to fear against the evil that is in those people. They cannot hurt me anymore.
you're dyingthis demonic shit is serious and why am i surprised, now that I know the dealio and I think about it in 2016 when I had Brst Ca I didn't get sympathy empathy or acknowledgement from him.
He always expected me to give him things that he wasn't giving to me like money, kindness, compassion, keeping promises, being reliable, coming to my home, using my phone etc . N would promise me that 1 day I'll benefit too lol 😂 He would also tell me that he feel better after hanging out with me when he had problems, so I once asked him who gets to maks me feel better when i need to, crickets.😅
Mine asked me to loan him some money. I recently got a job barely have savings. I lost my first job because he forced me to resign. Been loaning him smaĺl amounts I had saved up. Last month he wanted more, I asked him,"why am I funding a peoject time and again so you can disappear and ghost me - who is benefitting." He then ignored me and isolated me.
😮this is what made my ex leave. And he is super mean. He did sh.t behind my back, blaming everything on me, playing victom... i asked it in private. I was so fed up with his bshit, that question came naturally.
I asked mine, when he had just blamed me for every bad thing that ever happened to him in his life (literally) - "What do you need to be whole from this?" Same result as this question of hers. Interesting.. He was after revenge.
Me: ''How does any of this benefit you?'' Narcissist: ''HOW DARE YOU!? HOW DARE YOU ASK THAT STUPID QUESTION RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE!? I'LL HAVE YOU-'' Me: ''It's a simple question, (narcissist's name)'' Narcissist: *Nosy breathing*
Yup, I always ask needy manipulators "whats in it for you?" Hell I ask everyone that eventually, but then I work in a rich guy ski town and I am poors. Really no decent people in Victor Idaho, or Jackson, Wyoming either.
I waited for him to divorce me. He said nine months later i still think you're beautiful and i said SO DO I he said YOUR SOME THING else!!! Hung up and next day i was served!😂 yeah buddy i see you.
Oh yes, I experienced this , we were long distance and he moved in with the new supply and his mother. She was supposed to be his mothers carer but there was only two bedrooms so he was “forced“to sleep in the same bed (😂😂😂) I guess he was still hoping I would be ok as the side chick from far away who eventually wanted to marry and he said “ I’m ashamed to say that I’m just using her” I laughed and said “ wouldn’t she love to know that “ he turned nasty on me from then on and put the smear on me, luckily I understood what was going on , his nasty side really came out !
In the beginning he told me that “I won”. - I was confused like.. what did I win?! later on drama happened and he said I made him look like a clown in front of other people. 🤦♀️ it was all due to his sneakiness etc. About 11 months into it I realized he didn’t even know my kids names (he said he did but at the time I asked I stumped him). That rage came out and he started screaming at me through the phone and hung up on me. - Eventually he ended up calling me the “puppet master “. Because his EX wife was asking me questions and I simply answered with the truth. Last time I checked the truth isn’t manipulation… but ok 👍. They are back together (to my knowledge) she can have that 💩💩. Crazy life.
Yes, the context matters - it's a question that carries the direct insinuation that they are out to benifit themselves, which is correct, and they will likely be triggered to get revenge on you in some way for the exposure and insinuation, so if anyone is going to ask that question they need to make sure they can be safe from that if that is even possible. Like why even be wasting your life and time and risking your safety dealing with a narcissist anyway?
When I accused him of living wickedly, he asked me how was he living that way and what I did was ask him how are you living righteously which is how I try to live and he had no answer for me of course.
I said the same thing too as well and it created such a Narc Injury , which led him to really do me Dirty , I told him that he needs to grow up and be accountable , I also told him that it's so wrong to be a player and go back and forth between families and it confuses children and really keeps trauma alive , instead of living a healthy life and BOY did that create a Injury inflamming in his body... He did me Dirty and Discarded me in a heartbeat . Luckily we do not have children together , But I called him out for being reckless . He goes back and forth between his baby mothers , lives here and there and everywhere , has his own Single room he rents out , but its a sad lifestyle and he lied about alot , I am glad I was discarded.
@@user-vj2sn7vv5s Yessss! you a winner! discard is a good thing because as long as he stays the same he wont hoover you because you know his secret. he will want to but is pride and ego wont alloy him. Thats why he living in a room lol Looser!!
I remember something similar in that film, American history x. I think the prison counselor guy asked him, has anything you've done made your life better?
He literally got so mad & defensive all because I simply asked what year did he graduate. He got so mad & started to yell “I don’t know” I don’t remember. So I said “how don’t you know / remember when you graduated HS? It’s the most memorable moment of your life” he still kept saying same shit, me: well if you didn’t graduate or nvr went to school then just say that, because I don’t get why you got so mad over a simple question. Bottom line he didn’t graduate or been to school that’s why he got so mad. Because no one is gonna forget the year the graduated high school or college period.
@@MentalHealness omg wow!!!! Hi Mr Hammock. Your videos have been providing good insight and understanding. Also my narc’s name was also Lee smh, how strangely funny.
You are so adorable because you can make me laugh and I need this the most! You not only have the answers, but when it is so dark your genuine funniness helps me. Please continue to help us as you do my dear. I’m an old lady and we all need you at all ages, races and it is keeping us normal. Now don’t let this go to your head, but you are so on target and a handsome man! I’m sure your wife is a darling lady.
i would not ask that because of the lies that would come out, just knowing they cant love regulate them selves or like themselves is good enough for me to not GAF!
@@MentalHealness I know it would be lies, I was just entertaining the thought , Just being curious 🤔 The only time i got any of those answers is when he was mad!
I like this question i will ask him cause his communication is always over the ph. Im sure he will ignore the question like he always does hahaha. Thanx Lee.
I used to tell him my needs were not met in the relationship while his were and I wasn't happy about that. He would say why must everything be about me? and that I always say I, I, I, me, me, me... lol
I asked if I was really as awful as he claimed, why was he fighting against me leaving so bad? Because clearly he deserved better, right? Major sputtering. It is a version of what she said.
Or WAIT, wait for it BOOM! WHAT DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH ME !! especially when they are telling you a whole story that is totally irrelevant cut them off and ask them those eight words !! Watch the hurt face emerge 😂😂😂
Im religious. My ex isn't, but pretended to be. My go to is to quote "He who finds offense in everything can not enjoy the glory of Heaven. It's like a demon has been rebuked 😳
Am I watch the channel a lot because I have a grandson with a malignant covert narcissist and I just pray that everybody on here in a relationship marriage would get some self-esteem some guts and walk away I mean I would never ever understand how anybody could be in a relationship with one of these Wicked soulless people. It truly baffles me. To read people have stayed in these relationships for 5:10 20 years it's just a whole waste of a life that's so sad
It's because you are convinced you are the problem at times, and hold on to all the good days, and the good qualities that do exist in the toxic people. You also try to make it work and hope your love will cure them. Prove to them you really care. Soul ties and trauma bonds won't break or weaken until you become close to the Most High! You'll get your identity back, ❤ yourself and realize the truth. Manipulation and blame games no longer work. In the end it takes 2, not just 1 person to put in those efforts.
How interesting. Yet if you ask this same question to someone with ASPD, they'll actually answer you and you can have a productive discussion. It seems that the true hurdle to overcome is being consciously transactional.
@@antoinettegorman8833 he might have "enjoyed" seeing ppl cry and in pain at the funerals. This way it made him less in pain himself telling himself: "Well, it could be worse like for these ppl. Good thing I have no friends. I can avoid this kind of pain in my life"
Ok. I've seen this before. I used to tell my ex narc his narc mother's house was a house of mourning. She kept pictures of his dead 1 st wife in her house saying it's for the kids. They grown and gone. And was a preacher with her own church so she always know who died and always bringing him obituaries of family members of his dead 1st wife when they died. It was a mess. That's a way the mother narc used to triangulation him. And the cycles continues. We told her we got married and didn't let her marry us, she didn't say congratulations, she said. I'm hurt. That was it. But she used to make my ex husband cry whenever she wanted to. It was crazy. Don't fall for it. The Bible says there are no answers at the grave. You can't live in mourning. He went to prison for his ex wife death, car accident, he was driving, they birth were drinking and she was the violent one let them 2 tell it. They say she hit him while driving until his hand came off the wheel causing it to flip 7 times. She flew out the windshield and he held her body in the middle of the highway until she passed. They both were still morning a decade later. He made my life hell. I don't think that's how it went in real life. He just won't take responsibility for not pulling over if he was driving and she was hitting him. I used to bring it up when he was treating me bad. Once I caught him drunk looking at her picture. I was in competition with a dead woman. That's no way to live. God is good. I'm free. You get free and stay away from that demon carrying all those spirits.
funerals… mine LOVES funerals/ wakes etc.. I think it’s because everyone will think he is a nice guy… so sympathetic and kind .. false, of course… He is quite the excellent mourner too, a little teary eyed, helpful to the family etc… then he goes home and his demon comes out !
I don't know if you talked about this. Can you talk about your relationship with your family (parents, siblings, cousins, etc)? How they may perceive you? I was just curious.
i stopped listening not even 2 minutes in when he mentioned rebecca. i don't like her AND that other female, the doctor, BECAUSE they seem to take pleasure in condemning these people. have they ever even been abused by a narcissist? or they just enjoy bashing them because it's popular? YES, it is VERY DIFFICULT to speak other than...respectfully...about narcissists, considering how VERY HORRIBLE they treat people. BUT folk--i'm talking about ME TOO--have to remember that THIS IS A MENTAL DISABILITY CAUSED BY A BRAIN INJURY DURING THEIR FORMATIVE YEARS. i PREFER watching the compassionate dr. on the Heal NPD channel.. so, NEXT VIDEO!!! i don't need to know how to cause narcissistic collapse. i just need to NEVER EVER allow myself to KNOWINGLY entertain a narcissist.
I wouldn't say that they are "evil". There's a saying that I keep in mind: "hurt people hurt people." These people are in lots of pain. The narc I knew admitted to having low self-esteem.
@@moviedeeva I agree. It comes from trauma. I cannot stand when people automatically label someone a narcissist when they believe someone is manipulative. We all have that capacity and the diagnosis if NPD is complex. Evil is what people DO because they have rebellious intent towards God.
I don’t believe it is just trauma caused. I think quite a lot of narcissists were overindulged/ “ spoiled “ from birth, and their family/ social surroundings rewarded them for narcissistic behaviors… also… I do believe most have some sort of demon( as in possessed by a demon)… that is why they all say/ do the same things… no matter the language/ culture/ religion…
What about if the Victim collapse, and the game change to, is better the Narc take care , bcz as victim that lost all , now maybe is time to put the Narc in dangerous, in my case is not romantic relationship but family members. Narc substime their victims, like in the movies where the psychopath just stop when die.
Hi. LEE, they say narc people can't not change, is that really true, you being a narc and have a wife and child, how do they coupe with you, can a narc get help to make them liveable
@@MentalHealness I watch your vids every day so thank you. I am still not clear as to who is the "me" and who is the "you". Please forgive my ignorance.
Wow by far one of your most poignant questions. All of your videos are amazing but you hit the jack pot there as it’s a non offensive question that they really can never answer and helps us to see through them and cut through all the bullshit. Anyone else could answer this as we think of others. Thank you 🙏🏻 ua-cam.com/video/174IHmJGav8/v-deo.htmlfeature=shared Made me think of the above Eddie Murphy video what have you done for me lately 😂
I'm so sorry people are so mean just because of a diagnosis and ask questions like that in the first place. ❤ Npd is a diagnosis and a diagnosis doesn't define you as a person. Recovery is possible. Some of the comments here are really mean..Dont try to trigger people's collapses you dont want someone's s.h. on your conscience regardless of how bad they hurt you emotionally. Protect yourself obviously but just go no contact dont bait people its not worth it..
I've noticed that when you examine most women who accuse their man of being a narcissist you find out that it's usually the woman who is actually the narcissist and project onto the man as an excuse to make themselves the victim
The best question is to walk away forever, because it gives them nothing and silence is golden.
facts!
@philphil4042 you're right, and far safer than asking a question that will cause collapse..
It worked for me.
That’s literally not a question…but I get your point.
Some people don’t have that option HUNNY.
He asked me to co-sign for a loan. I asked him what I would gain from it. He stopped reaching out to me
Oh wown
Good one 👍!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
The person i dealt with asked if i could sign up for a betting app and add his bank account. so if he won money, it will go into his bank account but it would look like i made the income and have to pay the taxes. bye
My ex-husband *always* freaked out and stomped away when I asked questions about "who benefits?" or what drove his latest demand. He ALWAYS screamed and flounced if I hit too close to another lie he'd told. It was how I realized the depth of the problem so soon after I first caught him in a direct lie.
Divorce was final a week ago, and he is decompensating like a MFer. Nobody permanent to regulate his emotions with. Nobody he can use to mirror "good values." He isn't naturally the "nice guy" he pretends to be, and he doesn't have any regular supply. He burned too many people in his discard of me, and too many other people watched him do it. He can't cover up how manipulative, self-absorbed, and needy he is anymore.
Hooray for us! you bringing him down girl, not without battle scars of course at least he's crumbling! Dont help it to stand again stay strong and if you need to converse reach out
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Sound like my Rx friend jp glad your free
@rachael_grey He'll eventually develop new sources of supply - when he does, let him. BUH-BYE a la David Spade on SNL 👋
THATS A DAMN GOOD QUESTION 😢😢😢😅😅😅
I would ask the narc ''were you born evil or did something go wrong''?
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narcs are not born they are created and they come with other factors that makes them narcissist, is that kind of right?
I would ask someone who would ask that question of a person exhibiting behaviors of a ‘narc’… “How evil is a toddler having a tantrum, exactly?”
Sounds like a great way to fuel some narc rage in the asker’s direction.
No matter where in the continuum he or she lands it is about a core instability and perceived inability to experience a stable connection-not evil intent.
Doesn’t mean not doing what is needed but the story of them being ‘evil’ really does two things:
1. Solidifies the state of conflict and
2. Makes the asker more upset (which is fine with the narc).
@@MikeD-tf7dk Some ''people'' like Ted Bundy, Wayne Williams, John Wayne Gacy, the UK's Dr Harold Shipman, Jeffrey Dahmer and hundreds of others were never normal.
Wow I asked him "You get to keep me. what do I get? What do you have that's beneficial to me? He said I don't know what you want me to say. that's the answer.
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Honestly I don’t like that question it’s sounds kind of narcissistic. because that question states that you find yourself more beneficial than you find the other person. Aka wow look you have ME and I’m so amazing and great.. but you?? What do you have to offer ME? What do you have that benefits ME? Honestly I wouldn’t have an answer to that question either if asked by my partner. In a loving relationship he has love to offer you the same way you have love for him and if that love is real, it’s beneficial to both of you.
After I kicked his cheating a$$ to the curb, my friend said she always thought I brought a lot more to the table than he did. Bingo! I wish I would’ve asked him “what are you bringing to the table?” 15 years ago. Almost a year no contact & I am so much happier now.
My narc won’t answer questions and does not listen.
Miles to go!
Why are you with someone you can't ask questions to. Leave
When I look back, and if I had known what I know now. “How does it benefit me”. All I ever got were the cons! So glad I was strong enough to kick him out!
Great question - because all Narcs will never-ever do anything for anyone - unless it benefits them in some way. Always remember that !
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It’s called conditional love
😂😂 The last time he talked bout what HE NEEDED.. I asked him what was in it for me 🤷🏽♀️.. he was like, "What.. so i repeated it, and he say well if u dont wanna help me, then don't 😂😂 so i said right. It's all bout. What u want and need and I have not heard how helping u benefits me. Sooo now im a witch and im to get on my broom and fly out of his life 4ever...😢😢🤭🤭😂😂😂😂
Thank you for keeping it real. Only a true man will put all of his character flaws out there for the world to see. You've definitely help me every single day. Not just new videos, but I watch the old ones repeatedly as well. Much respect! 👏👏👏👏👏
I appreciate that
Such a blessing to us ❤
Today I asked my husband why he gets upset, defensive, dismissive and angry when I want to discuss my feelings? He said I don’t know how to answer that. Then I said ok how do we have a relationship if we cannot have a conversation how we make each other feel? He said I don’t want to talk about this right now. I’m already on my way out the door this just gave me a little extra confirmation.
If I had a nickel for every time I've heard "I don't want to talk about this right now" from my daughter, I'd be rich!
Mine always has a comeback. "How does this benefit me? Do this for me and I'll have more time to do blah blah for you" even if I didn't ask for"blah blah". I learned a long time ago that you can't use logic and reason with an illogical unreasoning person. When you're stuck, sometimes you have no option but to do what you need to do to survive.
Those two better worry about when I go on attack because they asked for everything they have coming to them. I have been left with nothing to lose. I’m dying so what do I have to fear? Nothing! I have nothing to fear against the evil that is in those people. They cannot hurt me anymore.
stay safe and protect your peace
I'm sorry to hear that you are going thru this. Please protect your sanity and peace
you're dyingthis demonic shit is serious and why am i surprised, now that I know the dealio and I think about it in 2016 when I had Brst Ca I didn't get sympathy empathy or acknowledgement from him.
I STAY SAFE AND PROTECT MY ASS 🍑 CHARS LANG PEACE Y'ALL!
I love Rebecca she’s awesome and so is anyone else raising narcissistic abuse awareness ❤
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He always expected me to give him things that he wasn't giving to me like money, kindness, compassion, keeping promises, being reliable, coming to my home, using my phone etc . N would promise me that 1 day I'll benefit too lol 😂 He would also tell me that he feel better after hanging out with me when he had problems, so I once asked him who gets to maks me feel better when i need to, crickets.😅
This question is actually great in exposing covert narcs. The reaction to this simple question tells you allot.
I asked this question to a suspected vulnerable narcissist. The silent rage was mighty😂
Mine asked me to loan him some money. I recently got a job barely have savings. I lost my first job because he forced me to resign. Been loaning him smaĺl amounts I had saved up. Last month he wanted more, I asked him,"why am I funding a peoject time and again so you can disappear and ghost me - who is benefitting." He then ignored me and isolated me.
oh PLEASE make him your EX ! You are not gaining a thing!
😮this is what made my ex leave. And he is super mean. He did sh.t behind my back, blaming everything on me, playing victom... i asked it in private. I was so fed up with his bshit, that question came naturally.
I asked mine, when he had just blamed me for every bad thing that ever happened to him in his life (literally) - "What do you need to be whole from this?"
Same result as this question of hers.
Interesting..
He was after revenge.
Me: ''How does any of this benefit you?''
Narcissist: ''HOW DARE YOU!? HOW DARE YOU ASK THAT STUPID QUESTION RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE!? I'LL HAVE YOU-''
Me: ''It's a simple question, (narcissist's name)''
Narcissist: *Nosy breathing*
Oh my
Yup, I always ask needy manipulators "whats in it for you?" Hell I ask everyone that eventually, but then I work in a rich guy ski town and I am poors. Really no decent people in Victor Idaho, or Jackson, Wyoming either.
I waited for him to divorce me. He said nine months later i still think you're beautiful and i said SO DO I he said YOUR SOME THING else!!! Hung up and next day i was served!😂 yeah buddy i see you.
Oh yes, I experienced this , we were long distance and he moved in with the new supply and his mother. She was supposed to be his mothers carer but there was only two bedrooms so he was “forced“to sleep in the same bed (😂😂😂) I guess he was still hoping I would be ok as the side chick from far away who eventually wanted to marry and he said “ I’m ashamed to say that I’m just using her” I laughed and said “ wouldn’t she love to know that “ he turned nasty on me from then on and put the smear on me, luckily I understood what was going on , his nasty side really came out !
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You are appreciated!! Thank you so much for your videos! ✌🏻🙂
You are so welcome!
🎉🎉🎉🎉 I'll make sure I be careful how to talk to narcs because I don't want no more drama in my life thank you Mr Lee ❣️❣️❣️❣️
I like that question.
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Clear moment for me. I've been very sick this last year he said in anger I deserve better.😮😢
In the beginning he told me that “I won”. - I was confused like.. what did I win?! later on drama happened and he said I made him look like a clown in front of other people. 🤦♀️ it was all due to his sneakiness etc. About 11 months into it I realized he didn’t even know my kids names (he said he did but at the time I asked I stumped him). That rage came out and he started screaming at me through the phone and hung up on me. - Eventually he ended up calling me the “puppet master “. Because his EX wife was asking me questions and I simply answered with the truth. Last time I checked the truth isn’t manipulation… but ok 👍. They are back together (to my knowledge) she can have that 💩💩. Crazy life.
The nex also said that one time. Lime WHAT?!
Yup! “And how’s that been working for you?” 🦗 🦗 🦗
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Im divorcing a narcissist at the moment. Ill have to see when i can ask this.
Yes, the context matters - it's a question that carries the direct insinuation that they are out to benifit themselves, which is correct, and they will likely be triggered to get revenge on you in some way for the exposure and insinuation, so if anyone is going to ask that question they need to make sure they can be safe from that if that is even possible. Like why even be wasting your life and time and risking your safety dealing with a narcissist anyway?
the mind works wild
When I accused him of living wickedly, he asked me how was he living that way and what I did was ask him how are you living righteously which is how I try to live and he had no answer for me of course.
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I said the same thing too as well and it created such a Narc Injury , which led him to really do me Dirty , I told him that he needs to grow up and be accountable , I also told him that it's so wrong to be a player and go back and forth between families and it confuses children and really keeps trauma alive , instead of living a healthy life and BOY did that create a Injury inflamming in his body... He did me Dirty and Discarded me in a heartbeat . Luckily we do not have children together , But I called him out for being reckless . He goes back and forth between his baby mothers , lives here and there and everywhere , has his own Single room he rents out , but its a sad lifestyle and he lied about alot , I am glad I was discarded.
@@user-vj2sn7vv5s Yessss! you a winner! discard is a good thing because as long as he stays the same he wont hoover you because you know his secret. he will want to but is pride and ego wont alloy him. Thats why he living in a room lol Looser!!
@@user-vj2sn7vv5ssounds like a korpe lol
@@user-vj2sn7vv5s a blessing in disguise for sure
I remember something similar in that film, American history x. I think the prison counselor guy asked him, has anything you've done made your life better?
I like the fact that you put head back and closed eyes like you gooning...cause thats exactly the feeling when you get supply.
@@ericclayton9080 I automatically seen Jeepers Creeper when you said that. 😆
When they are making demands...Or ask, "How is this going to benefit me"?
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He literally got so mad & defensive all because I simply asked what year did he graduate. He got so mad & started to yell “I don’t know” I don’t remember. So I said “how don’t you know / remember when you graduated HS? It’s the most memorable moment of your life” he still kept saying same shit, me: well if you didn’t graduate or nvr went to school then just say that, because I don’t get why you got so mad over a simple question. Bottom line he didn’t graduate or been to school that’s why he got so mad. Because no one is gonna forget the year the graduated high school or college period.
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@@MentalHealness omg wow!!!! Hi Mr Hammock. Your videos have been providing good insight and understanding. Also my narc’s name was also Lee smh, how strangely funny.
You are so adorable because you can make me laugh and I need this the most! You not only have the answers, but when it is so dark your genuine funniness helps me. Please continue to help us as you do my dear. I’m an old lady and we all need you at all ages, races and it is keeping us normal.
Now don’t let this go to your head, but you are so on target and a handsome man! I’m sure your wife is a darling lady.
I'm so glad!
This is my favorite video right now.sheesh
Thanks for makin these! Love the insight.
Lol, I think we should start using the, "Boop, boop, boop - beep, beep, beep - BYE" motto! ❤😂
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We should also ask How do I Benefit you?
that could work on some but it could open the door for some negativity
i would not ask that because of the lies that would come out, just knowing they cant love regulate them selves or like themselves is good enough for me to not GAF!
@@MentalHealness I know it would be lies, I was just entertaining the thought , Just being curious 🤔 The only time i got any of those answers is when he was mad!
"Results may vary." Yes they do. No 2 narcs are identical.
They are meant for each other. They do best with other snakes , like they ARE.
Very good! I will apply the knowledge intimated by you..❤
Wonderful!
@@MentalHealness thank you, Lee!
I like this question i will ask him cause his communication is always over the ph. Im sure he will ignore the question like he always does hahaha.
Thanx Lee.
Why are u still talking to him n shocked yours is over phone ussaly they stick to texts lol
I used to tell him my needs were not met in the relationship while his were and I wasn't happy about that. He would say why must everything be about me? and that I always say I, I, I, me, me, me... lol
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He be like that's why I never take you serious or that I'm selfish
"Can I take a look on your phone?" and see what happens
I asked if I was really as awful as he claimed, why was he fighting against me leaving so bad? Because clearly he deserved better, right?
Major sputtering. It is a version of what she said.
They are hard .I do not believe they collapse. It's hard to believe 😂
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It's interesting that they say what do you want me to do so they don't want to give you anything but stress regret pain ibs heart pain just bad
Yeah i can imagine this question going down just as well as all of my other questions lol not well at all
Or WAIT, wait for it BOOM! WHAT DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH ME !! especially when they are telling you a whole story that is totally irrelevant cut them off and ask them those eight words !! Watch the hurt face emerge 😂😂😂
They always gotta feel something
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Im religious. My ex isn't, but pretended to be. My go to is to quote "He who finds offense in everything can not enjoy the glory of Heaven. It's like a demon has been rebuked 😳
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Am I watch the channel a lot because I have a grandson with a malignant covert narcissist and I just pray that everybody on here in a relationship marriage would get some self-esteem some guts and walk away I mean I would never ever understand how anybody could be in a relationship with one of these Wicked soulless people. It truly baffles me. To read people have stayed in these relationships for 5:10 20 years it's just a whole waste of a life that's so sad
I just hope when my grandson's Advantage he walks away from his father and never speaks to him again
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It's because you are convinced you are the problem at times, and hold on to all the good days, and the good qualities that do exist in the toxic people. You also try to make it work and hope your love will cure them. Prove to them you really care. Soul ties and trauma bonds won't break or weaken until you become close to the Most High!
You'll get your identity back, ❤ yourself and realize the truth. Manipulation and blame games no longer work. In the end it takes 2, not just 1 person to put in those efforts.
Hey Lee!!!
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Just let them know that they are not normal,and you know it. Do calmly.
How interesting. Yet if you ask this same question to someone with ASPD, they'll actually answer you and you can have a productive discussion. It seems that the true hurdle to overcome is being consciously transactional.
Thanks Lee, my ex narcissist was addicted to going to funerals. Even if it was a friend of a friend. How do you interpret this . Thanks .
Wow. I’m not certain
@@antoinettegorman8833 he might have "enjoyed" seeing ppl cry and in pain at the funerals. This way it made him less in pain himself telling himself: "Well, it could be worse like for these ppl. Good thing I have no friends. I can avoid this kind of pain in my life"
Ok. I've seen this before. I used to tell my ex narc his narc mother's house was a house of mourning. She kept pictures of his dead 1 st wife in her house saying it's for the kids. They grown and gone. And was a preacher with her own church so she always know who died and always bringing him obituaries of family members of his dead 1st wife when they died. It was a mess. That's a way the mother narc used to triangulation him. And the cycles continues. We told her we got married and didn't let her marry us, she didn't say congratulations, she said. I'm hurt. That was it. But she used to make my ex husband cry whenever she wanted to. It was crazy. Don't fall for it. The Bible says there are no answers at the grave. You can't live in mourning. He went to prison for his ex wife death, car accident, he was driving, they birth were drinking and she was the violent one let them 2 tell it. They say she hit him while driving until his hand came off the wheel causing it to flip 7 times. She flew out the windshield and he held her body in the middle of the highway until she passed. They both were still morning a decade later. He made my life hell. I don't think that's how it went in real life. He just won't take responsibility for not pulling over if he was driving and she was hitting him. I used to bring it up when he was treating me bad. Once I caught him drunk looking at her picture. I was in competition with a dead woman. That's no way to live. God is good. I'm free. You get free and stay away from that demon carrying all those spirits.
Was getting some sort Of narcissistic supply there…simple as that…
funerals… mine LOVES funerals/ wakes etc.. I think it’s because everyone will think he is a nice guy… so sympathetic and kind .. false, of course… He is quite the excellent mourner too, a little teary eyed, helpful to the family etc… then he goes home and his demon comes out !
Imagining doing this in a dorm room 😅
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you are so funny! That's the charm!
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Thanks for keeping it hot and ready lol 😂
Well, anyone who'll reject you, leave them. You leaving someone who rejects you is a narcissist. Best to leave for peace of mind.
He will jus not leave me alone.
this is very serious
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I don't know if you talked about this. Can you talk about your relationship with your family (parents, siblings, cousins, etc)? How they may perceive you? I was just curious.
3:18 That is them...
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Do not fight with them
I thought it was what is your deepest fear? Lol
You wanted to see if the question passed the narc test 😅
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My ex threatened to kill me
I hope you took that seriously and did everything possible to protect yourself ?…
Girl 😬 noooooo!
Mine too. He now has a ' life time"court order.
He has a restraining order
Do men ever threaten you for exposing them?
Some may
Just ask them how they feel now they have taken of there mask? They stumble every single time
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i stopped listening not even 2 minutes in when he mentioned rebecca. i don't like her AND that other female, the doctor, BECAUSE they seem to take pleasure in condemning these people. have they ever even been abused by a narcissist? or they just enjoy bashing them because it's popular?
YES, it is VERY DIFFICULT to speak other than...respectfully...about narcissists, considering how VERY HORRIBLE they treat people. BUT folk--i'm talking about ME TOO--have to remember that THIS IS A MENTAL DISABILITY CAUSED BY A BRAIN INJURY DURING THEIR FORMATIVE YEARS.
i PREFER watching the compassionate dr. on the Heal NPD channel..
so, NEXT VIDEO!!! i don't need to know how to cause narcissistic collapse. i just need to NEVER EVER allow myself to KNOWINGLY entertain a narcissist.
What do you think about influencers that promote the idea that narcissist are evil?
I wouldn't say that they are "evil". There's a saying that I keep in mind: "hurt people hurt people." These people are in lots of pain. The narc I knew admitted to having low self-esteem.
@@moviedeeva I agree. It comes from trauma. I cannot stand when people automatically label someone a narcissist when they believe someone is manipulative. We all have that capacity and the diagnosis if NPD is complex. Evil is what people DO because they have rebellious intent towards God.
I don’t believe it is just trauma caused. I think quite a lot of narcissists were overindulged/ “ spoiled “ from birth, and their family/ social surroundings rewarded them for narcissistic behaviors… also… I do believe most have some sort of demon( as in possessed by a demon)… that is why they all say/ do the same things… no matter the language/ culture/ religion…
It is evil. Intentionally destroying and ruining lives is evil, bad and demonic. The narc even told me jokingly that he was a devil.
What about if the Victim collapse, and the game change to, is better the Narc take care , bcz as victim that lost all , now maybe is time to put the Narc in dangerous, in my case is not romantic relationship but family members. Narc substime their victims, like in the movies where the psychopath just stop when die.
Hi. LEE, they say narc people can't not change, is that really true, you being a narc and have a wife and child, how do they coupe with you, can a narc get help to make them liveable
I'm 16 dealing with a narcissistic father should I ask this question 🤔
I would be careful
@@MentalHealness thank you for the advice
Boring. No narc would ever have the guts to approach me.
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Are you the narc? 😅
@alisons268 😂😂😂 sounds like it
@@alisons268 It would seem so.
What do you get out of posting crap like this?
They will not collapse if people keep being a supply!!!!
I actually don't understand who is asking who the question, "How does this benefit you?".
You ask them
@@MentalHealness I watch your vids every day so thank you. I am still not clear as to who is the "me" and who is the "you". Please forgive my ignorance.
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I don’t know how to deal with my bd…
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Wow by far one of your most poignant questions. All of your videos are amazing but you hit the jack pot there as it’s a non offensive question that they really can never answer and helps us to see through them and cut through all the bullshit. Anyone else could answer this as we think of others. Thank you 🙏🏻
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Made me think of the above Eddie Murphy video what have you done for me lately 😂
you’re welcome
I'm so sorry people are so mean just because of a diagnosis and ask questions like that in the first place. ❤
Npd is a diagnosis and a diagnosis doesn't define you as a person. Recovery is possible. Some of the comments here are really mean..Dont try to trigger people's collapses you dont want someone's s.h. on your conscience regardless of how bad they hurt you emotionally. Protect yourself obviously but just go no contact dont bait people its not worth it..
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How does that benifit you ? ❤❤❤❤
Are you loyal to your wife..all narcissists will say of course I am..they also are very flirty..maybe actually they are insecure deep down?
My ex's daughter told me she and her dad are narcs I was on high alert since then
Why would anyone want to make someone collapse? 😮
Depends
bruh ,i just can not tell you care about me anymore .
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Rock on I subscribe to her email
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I've noticed that when you examine most women who accuse their man of being a narcissist you find out that it's usually the woman who is actually the narcissist and project onto the man as an excuse to make themselves the victim
Buuuut, most are NOT. seriously. The struggle is very REAL. And CAN be dangerous