The paradox of choice - how dating apps are ruining dating
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Comedian Aziz Ansari teamed up with sociologist and author Eric Klinenberg to write "Modern Romance," an in-depth investigation into the reality of what it's like to date and look for love in the digital era.
Klinenberg explained to us that having too many dating apps could prevent you from ever finding a serious relationship.
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Too much choice causes paralysis.
David Arbelaez illusion of choice
omg the paradox of choice is so true for me. HAPPENS ALWAYS.
Yup I'm going to foward this to my best friend. I told her this very same thing. She met a great guy online on Monday and by Saturday she isn't sure about him because this Other guy she was waiting to hear from messaged her. So she drops guy 1 for guy 2 just to not end up with either because guy 2 isn't so great after all. Rinse and repeat. Too many damn choices!
Until no one comes calling any more. Tick tock
Most women experience this but generally it's faaar more guys they end up juggling. The men get tired because the women they see end up fading out for someone else and then the women get tired of having too many options, they end up becoming exhausted. They eventually date way too far up the totem pole and eventually THAT guy dumps HER for another woman. It's a vicious cycle for everyone involved except for maybe the top 5% of stupidly attractive people.
I feel like these videos are just adverts for the books mentioned, he basically said "having more choices makes it harder to choose"
Step it up, Eric Klinenberg.
My dilemma as well. It seems we are better off having limited choices as it will force us to accept ppl !
It must really be true. The editor of this video had so many creative options/possibilities he forgot to put the word "to" between hard and figure out at 1:08. Ha.
it's true. i quit tinder now haha
Being picky though is the right move.
If people are able to be much more picky - and they are 100% these days with all the options, as long as you keep fishing you'll probably find a better match --
-- the less-appealing among us won't reproduce. It sounds tough but that's 100% how nature works.
The main reason there are very few really attractive people across the population is - LACK OF OPPORTUNITIES, LACK OF SELECTION, available in the past.
In 5 generations, maybe 10, the number of unappealing (physically, emotionally, etc) people will have been weeded out of the gene pool.
People might disagree but here's proof. A manufacturer puts out a car model that doesn't sell well. What happens?
"Well we don't have much choice, there aren't too many car models to choose from"
AND THE UNAPPEALING CAR MODEL GETS PERPETUATED INTO THE FUTURE.
"Now that is an unfortunate car. I'm not getting near it."
AND THAT MODEL DISAPPEARS BECAUSE IT IS UNAPPEALING.
The first outcome doesn't happen, 'stuck with unappealing car'. The 2nd one is what happens.
This is true with restaurants, clothing fashion, and your next date.
The silver lining is, future generations will have much more appealing choices for mates. Right now we're stuck with the legacy of the 1990s and early 2000s, before the selection options developed into what we have now.
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yup, which is why people who don't commit are so unappealing.
This is true for women. Men have a much harder time. Lets call it like it is. This is why women are so stuck up and extremely privileged when it comes to dating.
Agreed