The fact that this talk was more than 15 years ago yet his topic is still relevant in today's generation, if not even more, really means that this guy is thinking way ahead of his time.
@@lukasmerten7697 Bruh. Obviously choice has ballooned into a bigger thing now than it was then. The fact that this problem is at the forefront while people laughed shows how forward this guys was. The funny thing is your talk about nutrition today has a really good chance of being irrelevant in 15 years because that is something known to change.
@@chickens-go-moo5079 Dude, the idea that today is harder than yesterday is what Trump campaigned on. It simply isn't true, but he was elected president because everyone "feels" it is.
@@brokenrecord3523I’m saying there’s a lot more choice today than there was before. Streaming services, smart phones, and pretty much everything else. Choice has obviously become bigger now than then.
Of course it's still relevant. The lure of consumerism has only grown as the world of marketing, advertising and business have capitalized on the concept.
the best answer of all times is always "yes!" the first time my husband asked me if I wanted strawberry iced-cream OR vanilla iced-cream, he understood that too... he never tried to push me into a choice after that... hahaha!
LOL "I did not expected much from the audience" . . . which reminds me of my childhood and a lesson my mom gave me when I was mad at someone, she said - "Never expect anything from anyone; this does not mean you don't trust them; but having low expectations for others will make your life happier" She was right, but what she did not mentioned is that sometimes is also not that good to have huge expectations on yourself, that also I have found can be quite stressful or unhealthy ;)
GCortesMtz There's another twist on that. I'm the guy who, for having maintained low expectations of others my entire life, ended up doing most of their work for them. There was a time when I actually _liked_ hearing _"You're doing a fine job!!"_. Not so much anymore.
His simplicity is everything..it's so soothing and his talk just feels like your dad giving you priceless advice about life in the comfort of your living room. I didn't want it to end. I'm about to start searching for 14-year old TED talks 😅
Absolutely and this man is pushing hogwash. Totalitarian right to the core. He targets young people and wears a costume in Ted Talks. This man does not dress this way normally. Look at all the Ted Talks and see what they all wear. Don't be so easily fooled. he targets you because you are young and impressionable. He is a communist and has an agenda.
@@paulmerritt8593 "If someone points out a problem in the perfect and ultimate system of the US he must be a communist. Because capitalism has no flaws." Typical NA thinking. Btw. he actually said no choice is even worse than having some choice. I would argue that this was part of the reason why the UDSSR collapsed.
This was brilliant! I spend so much time finding the best option, wasting valuable minutes, then end up with insufficient time to do other stuff, then procrastinate, then become miserable.
His argument is "Some choices can have bad consequences so we should impede freedom". That's not solving a problem.. b/c he's focused on people having choice (not even mentioning that some choices can have medical/dietary needs for existing) And he's making repeated arguments w/ very basic logical fallacies.. Like his appeal to authority: Blindly trusting someone like a doctor b/c they went to school and repeated the correct info.. as being more knowledgeable than people who can potentially look into their own health. Some cases the doctor might know best, some cases the patient might. This guy generically stereotypes both parties, then ignores ANY complexity to issues... just to focus on pushing his views on choice. Same situation w/ his jeans example. Just b/c he sucks at shopping, he blames the jeans. Not his crappy ability/lack of proficiency. Credentials/authority does not measure proficiency, and Mr. Schwartz is completely blind to this fact. That's not very brilliant.
When someone shows up to a TED talk in faded t-shirt, cargo shorts, and sneakers....listen to them. This is a person who is thinking far beyond petty, worldly concerns.
It's amazing how the sheeple think someone who wears a white lab coat or pin stripe suit is some how more reliable or intelligent over someone with casual wear and scruffy hair!
@@stevew8873 It's called association. Our brains are responsible for that. I wouldn't call someone a sheep for using something that is essential to our survival. I'm guessing you wouldn't be worried if you were to see a clean man wearing a nice suit and he clearly looks like he takes care of himself, compared to someone who sags their pants and has face tattoos. Sagging of pants is associated with people from the streets who most likely don't have good intentions and face tattoos are a sign of someone who doesn't care about themselves. The same happens with knowledge. You can talk about the same thing a professional psychologist talks about but since he looks and sounds like a professional and has a piece of paper that tells people he studied, everyone will think you don't know what you are talking about and will listen to him.
Its not even that he’s thinking beyond “petty worldly concerns” its just thats the way he likes to dress. He presents himself to the audience as himself. This can also be done in a tailored suit or a pink leotard. It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing so long as you wear it authentically.
Sundeep this explains why our government sucks- incumbents win all to often because they have the job so voters pick them so they don’t really have to choose.
I know everyone laughs when he says, "The secret to happiness is low expectations," but I've definitely found that to be true. As an ex-perfectionist, I can't tell you the relief I feel now at just being good enough or doing something well enough. Don't get me wrong - I still try to perform well, to the best of my abilities, and to challenge myself a bit; but I don't expect everything to go perfectly all the time. Once I started adapting to living this way, I discovered just what he is talking about: those little delightful surprises when something exceeded my expectations or went better than I had hoped it would. Truly, when you demand or expect less (and are content with merely being), it's like a whole other world opens up. It's such a relief.
How is this going some years later, are yiu able to keep it up? I think I need to make a similar shift in my life and am looking at different angles and experiences.
IMO less expectations is a kind of white flag. Let it be, never mind and so on. What I prefer is to learn how to deal with failures. I could make a living, then eat, then sleep, but I except much more. So except jobs I have, I'm working as activist - because I except the world to be much better and I know I can help. Sometimes I fail, but nevermind, that doesn't make me feel bad in the long term - because if it would, I couldn't make another attempts of making my world (i.e. mostly my region) a better place. I excepted my fiance to be with me, same with my three best friends - they aren't here anymore and of course that fucking hurts. Even with this great failure of my expectations, I have to deal with it. What can I do? Say "oh, let's just don't expect that my family that is still alive will live next day, because all these death were sudden"? That would be recipe for constant fear. "Low expectations" are claptrap. And this is frustrating when politician breaks the law and I fail with suing that person, but then I remember all the things I've saved because my expectations and it's clear to me the frustration is a small thing. I walk the street and I see saved buildings, saved forests and clean places **because my expectations were high**. And that's so rewarding. High, low, expectation, wish, failure, success... These words means something else for each of us. So, Joy, don't listen to me. Think about your definitions and make decision. That's up to you, because low expectations can save your life, but they may destroy it.
@@KrzysiuNet I completely agree with your point here, and I find the original poster naive and ignorant in their statement. If you get to the point that suicide seems like a good option then low expectations are a laughable suggestion. I live on only with the hope that my life will somehow get better. That's pretty fucking high expectations given my life outlook so I have to do my best with that. I have to force myself to expect that life will be worth living for me, and low expectations would only certainly land me in the grave sooner.
2 negative effects of too many choices: 1 8:07 it produces paralysis rather than liberation 2 9:57 we are less satisfied Reasons for the 2nd effect: 10:13 you could have made a better choice 10:46 opportunity cost 12:27 escalation of expectations 15:39 self-blame
somewhere between the low expectations that lead to mediocrity and the high expectations that lead to disappointment lies a sweet spot of realistic expectations that challenge us without overwhelming us.
@@KezDPianist I like the ones by James Veech about spam email. I like the ones by a couple of math teachers. My favorite is the one by a math teacher (like me) who has decided that teaching middle school and high school math to every student is a waste of time. That instead of forcing everyone to learn algebra (for example) we should teach courses on logic and problem solving. Very few people will actually need to use math in their lives beyond basic fractions, but everyone needs to learn how (not what) to think and problem solve. These are the ones that immediately come to my mind.
As someone with a diagnosed depression I greatly appreciate this video. I'm really struggling with choices from the simple to the complex ones and a constant feeling of regret.
Amazing that this came out about the time the first iPhone was released. Crazy to see how much time and technology has changed and we wonder why mental health issues are on the rise.
Your life does not need to be that stressful. Stress and fear and anxiety are all tools of oppression and not the way we are made to live. he wants you to think we should leave our thinking to smarter people who are knowledgeable and who we must trust. Do you think this man dresses like this everyday? No he is targeting a young and impressionable audience. Son't be his sheople. Stress and fear are perceptions oppressors have imposed on their societies for thousands of years.
@@paulmerritt8593 his point certainly wasn't to let all your important choices be left to be made by a person in power but more like limit your choices(when its excessive that any choice would be made at all)
ua-cam.com/video/SemHh0n19LA/v-deo.html here's another talk about choices. Having a lot of choices is good but they key is being content on what you've chosen not to regret about it being inferior to other options.
@@DH-og5yr You need to get out of your echo chambers and stay away from all media for a month. You sound crazy to have gotten that idea from this video. Just like another comment on this video saying he was promoting less choice to let other "smarter" people think for you - totally missing half the message of the video. You're in so deep that you can't hear what's being said, you only hear what you want to believe.
Kinda reminds me of the social comparison theory, where you can feel so good about your situation if you use downward Comparison, and you can also feel too bad, in the very same situation, just if you use upward comparison.
I've never felt more impacted by the paradox of choice until I went through the college application process. I decided to apply to many schools (having no expectations to be accepted to many, if any at all). But I got my results back and I ended up with WAY more good options than I thought. Instead of being happy about my acceptances, I just feel more overwhelmed and anxious about the the fact that it's in my hands to choose one and miss out on other good choices.
I always live by this quote and I find it pertinent with this video.'It is simply this "Expect nothing and NEVER be disappointed"or "Never expect anything from anyone or any situation and you'll never be disappointed" "'To prevent disappointment never expect anything from anyone and everything"
He's so right. I remember several years ago when all I had was a DVD player, I'd go down to the local library and choose a few movies that caught my eye, and that was it. But when the woman I was married to at that time purchased Netflix, I was so overwhelmed by the choices that were at my fingertips, I noticed that my pleasure diminished significantly. This was because I was always thinking to myself, damn there are so many movies on here, I want to choose the one that's really gonna wow me. It has to be perfect because there are so many others that I could be watching right now! That's just one example. The choices that are available today for everything are truly mind boggling.
@Charlie5thumbs v _ Choice is the product of wisdom and highest level of tamed ego. If, you don't have that wisdom and well tamed ego, what you perceive as choice is the desired driven ego satisfaction tools. It is like this; If you don't have food, and you are always hungry, you will not pick food and will not be able to hate any food due to overindulgence. If, you have variety of foods easily reachable, if you can not stop overindulging yourself, you will start losing your taste and more picky. Food is a necessity. In your case, why would you choose to watch a DVD, any DVD in the first place? Watching a DVD is not even a necessity !!!
There's so much content in every medium now that it's impossible to stay caught up on practically anything. Back in the days watching telly, I'd be following 1 maybe 2 shows at a time max and they came out once a week.
He isn't right at all though... Time and time again I see the same sentiment posted and it's always older people saying it. How come the new generation doesn't have an issue with choosing what to watch on netflix or doesn't feel paralyzed by having to choose from 100 jeans instead of 1 kind? Is it really that hard to realize that it's not a problem of too many choices rather than the fact that the older generation weren't exposed to this and had to adapt with the times. Those who didn't adapt are stuck in your shoes. Those who adapted are thriving and living their best life because there's undeniable benefits of choice being given to us. You are bad at making decisions because you never had to make them until one point where you were bombarded by them. It's not entirely your fault because that's just how it was back in the day but it's important to acknowledge that it indeed isn't a problem of there being "too many options" but you putting unreal expectations and stress on something as trivial as watching a movie. It's a mentality/skill that can be learned. You aren't born with good/bad decision making. The benefits of multiple choices far outweigh the negatives of it and it seems that only people who refuse to adapt are stuck with the negatives.
Hmm my dad's lectures are just about how masks are used by the democrats to controle people and all the ships in the ocean a making waves that splash on the ice caps causing them to melt. And the sheer amout of ships is making the ocean rise.
The earliest situation that many people first face the "curse of too much choice" is as a child, standing in a candy shop or a toy store, being overwhelmed with all the possible choices. Some are fortunate to have a very patient parent who helps them to handle the confusion of the situation, but many have parents who are so stressed and impatient (for a plethora of reasons) that what should be a rather simple situation becomes the basis for the child's lifetime behavior. A small thing, but very telling.
I totally agree with you. That's why, in my opinion, we, as adults, should first focus on being patient with our inner child and nurture in a healthy way. Then, the transition to teach critical aspects of life to another human being would become much easier.
No what is being discribed in this video is not FOMO. FOMO is something you can have with a single choice, like: should I go to a party? For it could be the best party you ever go to. Or when checking social media AGAIN, because maybe someone just posted something. I do think I get the link that you're seeing: many options with pro's and con's where you fear missing out on the pro's, but that (for me) is different from what the paradox of choice is.
It is absolutely true that the key to happiness is low expectations. However, it's also very true that freedom requires that people take responsibility for their choices. I've never felt paralyzed by too many choices. I have spent more time than I wanted on certain choices. It's important to know which choices are the most critical and focus on those.
What are the most critical ones? Who gets to tell me what are the most critical choices oh right I decided that myself which ones do I decide on? How many different critical decisions must I make to get to the end of the rat maze?
It is probably true here, too, but if you go to a math conference, mathematicians will assure you: the sloppiest dressed presenter is going to give the best talk.
This video was okay, but I expected it would have been better. I wish I made a different choice and picked the one with the cat playing the piano. I feel depressed now. :(
36trooper: So, it looks like your only option is to go to the garage, get in your car, start the engine and let the carbon monoxide fumes put you to sleep forever. ;^}
I remember when we went from cable, where I used 3 for video games, 25, 50, and 51 for kids shows, and nothing else, to satellite. Suddenly we had over 900 channels, and then I found the 7 in a row that were the same shows I used to watch (551-557 if I remember), and 300 was the movie channel that my dad watched a lot. 625 was comedy, but I only knew that because of my dad as well. 900 channels and I found a way to only need 7 choices, with a couple extra bonuses once in a while. And even of those 7, 552, 554, and 557 almost always had the best stuff and I swapped between those 3 unless all of them had nothing.
Yep. And I would add, mainly because they present their products not as some types of PC, but something else, a mac. And inside mac you have not too much options. THey make you believe there is nothing to expect beyond what they produce. And they are probably right hehe
This explain the lower satisfaction in modern world dating. The higher expectations and higher standards with too many choices from all those dating app...we are now the product and we all look at our self as such.
True. People see matches that live nowhere near them, and so with whom they're likely to be incompatible, but they still think, "Well, maybe." It makes the matches who are actually feasible seem "less than". Like, maybe there *is* someone out there that they'd move mountains, and themselves, for?? The wondering diminishes what they do have. Even if someone just likes their spouse their whole life (and doesn't necessarily have burning love the whole time, which is pretty unrealistic), that's doing pretty well, and better than a lot of couples. All that choice makes us think there might be one more that would be absolutely perfect, *if we could find it*. That can be a wild goose chase. Yep, more isn't always better.
Reminds me of Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace. Very true, the paradox of choice. Constantly dissatisfied. Constantly looking for something greater. Constantly having the feeling of anxiety due to all other options, choices. Barry Schwartz is the man. Don't think I've ever seen anyone at TED Talk having the balls to wear shorts. Awesome.
People want choice. I have a friend who is a butcher. He says his profit will go down if he doesnt display several large amount of different types of preparation of meat. Instead of just plain meat. Even if it means he has to throw away 20% of his products. He still profits when he gives a large amount of choice and still throws away 20%. The people just wont come to his shop. So now tell me how people feel miserable and still go back. Ofcourse you are doing to make a wrong choice. But he is taking it way to far. Most of the time people are happy with the choices they made. Are you constantly depressed for making choices? Its stupidest thing i ever heard.
I found this to be quite true. The times when I've had the least money in my life, have been the most memorable times... the most satisfying (all be it frustrating at the time)... when I look back now... it's those times that I remember more fondly for some reason. Less choice perhaps, greater struggle, "a feeling of satisfaction" to make it through.
+Marisa Kirisame I'm sure that is why danes are considered some of the happiest people on Earth. Because there really is no need for us to be happy. A very mediocre country.
+Giacomo Drago the soft mattress from a rock to sleep on can make a difference to your quality of life. having the choice between 50 mattresses of varied softness does not change your life it is a false freedom.
My first thought into his talk was how the “too many choices conundrum” definitely applies to online dating. It’s like a dinner menu that changes every night at a restaurant that serves seven course meals. A lot of people on dating sites always think they can do better. Even if the person they’re talking to/dating is a connection, and checks off most/all their boxes. I did that whole thing for years after my divorce. My friends have had the same experiences. All of us just got tired of it all, and decided that if we don’t meet our person organically, than we die alone. *oh, the horror!*
I completely take your point and I think it's all well stated but...was that sarcasm at the end about dying alone? I do believe being alone for many years is quite bad. We humans certainly can appreciate answering only to ourselves and all and having things that we like and that we chose. But, we are also social creatures who deeply need someone to share our feelings and experiences with. Perhaps some people can find enough of that with friendship or family but I would expect that for the vast majority of people, they would really benefit from a good romantic relationship. As someone who is recently divorced myself though, I can attest that relationships are also very much not easy. I hope you find someone soon, if you haven't already, or that you can find peace, joy and contentment on your own.
yes i agree with you %100 no one specially the males can make a choice to stick to one profile if they have formed a connection because they have to keep looking and searching and messaging whatever profile takes their fancy in the next five minutes, its an endless array of choices that they will never get to the end off. Unfortunately i too only in the last two weeks have deleted my online dating profiles as the disappointment and frustration of starting chat conversations with men only to have them disappear the next day was more trauma than i needed, so like you if it is meant to be for me to meet someone else in my later life it will have to be in the offline world, if not i guess i will have to except the inevitable.
Watched this twelve years later and my investigations confirm most all of what he says. I hang out in a country that offers me less options, but with more satisfaction in the choices I make.
He's not wrong; I find a lot of experiences more pleasing when I really just don't expect anything. Just enjoying whatever pops up in the moment can be very satisfying.
oh my god i just remembered that this video was uploaded in 2007, but 5:13 where he talks about people choosing their own gender identity is more relevant today than ever
Just shows how little this guy understands reality beyond his own world view. You don't chose your gender identity. A gender identity is something that you act out through appearance and behavior. You're female if society perceives you as such, not by choosing to be female in the morning.
Barry is impressive. Hes not concerned with the external. Narcissistic ideals. Thats impressive. I admire this. This definately applies to online dating which marginalizes people and reduces them to commodities. Success is over valued. And good character is undervalued.
This is great, from 2007 he's telling us empirically what we are starting to understand now. when you're stucked with something and cant change it you like that thing better. And that change is deep in the brain.
I think it is just about ''Material desire'', when you want too much, you will end up being unhappy. People just have to learn how to be satisfied with all they have now, and be thankful for everything!
I obtained my degree in business and a great way to think about this is in business is the law of diminishing returns. Take a resturant menu, there is a "perfect" number of dishes to choose from, lets say 15. Anything under 15 is not maximizing profit, anything over is a waste of options.
Opens your mind about your choices in life. Don't over think. We only live once, don't waste too much time thinking about the same things every minute of your day. Sometimes its okay to settle with things and just be alive in the moment. This is coming from a person who over thinks every single day.... its a struggle but this video helped open my perspective!
This was a genuinely superb presentation. I was a true student of Barry Schwartz for a little over a quarter of an hour, and I feel I have been bestowed with the invaluable outlooks and insights for increasing well-being and happiness! Thanks, Barry!
" Have higher expectations if you want improvement, and lower expectations if you want contentment. " Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D. ... and that is why i treat my friends like dirt....i know for a fact they;re going to fail me any given time.......
lmao. Then the part at the end where he says, "More choice is better than no choice and there is a magic number of choices where we feel satisfied." Clearly this is a case where we needed more options.
It's paralysis only if you're not educated about the options you get.. Open market is what has driven for all the choices to exist- they'll without a doubt shrink if there are no real buyers present.
Nailed It!!! We feel the same way in every choice in our life.... I would have done better. I would have taken another choice. It always happen with phones when you buy a phone with good features, but when your friend bought a better phone with better specs with less cost. You feel dissatisfied with the choice you made even though yours is a good choice!!!!
Oh my gosh this concept needs to be applied to online dating! There are hundreds of faces you scroll through and you are always thinking there might be something better on the next swipe so no one actually does the dating part always looking for something better. fewer options would revolutionize online dating. Also online dating has killed the idea of dating.
There was a Time when I considered Barry Schwartz's analysis so profound that it charmed me into believing he was really on to something. But time has passed since and I found out that choice does not cause depression. A person can be trained to handle choice. You can be trained to make the right choice fast. One way is to know what you actually want. Find out what you want. The rest of the meaning is in your mind and if you don't like it, make a shift in your perception.
Yes, I think it's sad that our society has come to the point of wanting to withdraw permanently from their many opportunities & choices, seeing it as a problem instead of an opportunity to not only learn more about themselves but learn to make better choices, instead of seeing it only as pressure and wanting that feeling to go away, when they haven't yet experienced the lack of choice they think they want. Once they're fully into that lack of choice, the pressure they'll feel will be multiplied in ways they can't imagine yet. The grass is always greener when you haven't learned to use what power you have now.
@@BrianTCarter Quick decisions are usually not feasible on really important choices. My approach is always to wait as long as possible to make a decision, not only because my perspective changes often and consistently, but it gives time for new information or other considerations to dawn on me. Now the really bad news: you won't be able to control how you feel about decisions after you make them, especially the more permanent they are. This is kind of a repeat of my comment above, but the best understanding you can have is that EVERY. THING. has 2 opposite sides to it - a good, or advantageous side, and a negative, or disadvantageous side. Don't fall for the "it's only good" or it's only bad" evaluation, which is what this video was - trying to make too many choices seem like only a negative, when that is only 1 very limited perspective. If you understand that as you're making the decision - that no matter what you choose, it will have a negative side, then you will weigh what that negative side is, or could be, and understand that you're always trading 1 thing for another, never gaining something good and losing something bad, which is how we like to convince ourselves when we favor 1 choice over the other. Look at it only as a change in your path that will lead to DIFFERENT ups & downs, not from downs to ups. For example, a marriage will bring [eventually] distrust, jealousy, boredom, irritation, betrayal, and a feeling of losing your privacy. Yet all those aspects can bring a positive side too: trust which equates to intimacy, belonging and loyalty, excitement, pleasure, support and relief from loneliness or alienation, and the increased meaning that relationship brings. Betrayal, for example, is not really the opposite of loyalty, but an aspect of it's foundation. Betrayal must always be a possibility in order to have devotion. Any person who can devote themselves to you can just as easily betray you, AND they must be able to SEE that possibility, AND be tempted by it, otherwise it's not really devotion, or has built up any power, potency or quality. That will help you evaluate whether your partner will be able to understand this "opposites" dilemma, and make the most of the upsides, and value them enough to keep the marriage, rather than fret over the downsides and grow apart. So...the secret is always being aware that nothing is only good or only bad, and that you will never gain a state of positivity free from negative potential and intrusion. Now let's move to another level completely: forget what I just said, and let's take a deeper approach. If you make a bad decision, rather than regret it, determine to ponder it's good, or advantageous side, until you overcome any resentment of the situation. The absence of resentment, if continued long enough will transform the situation in ways you didn't expect. It's the seed of opportunity, and the reason consistent gratitude can transform your experience, to where you are the natural effect of good fortune rather than trying to reach it by making better decisions. Making better decisions won't do much for your long term situation. You can try hard to make the best decisions, but somehow everything can go in a negative direction regardless. It's more a matter of your response to whatever presents itself in the moment, than your 'formal' decisions. If you can learn to respond right in the moment [without resentment ], decisions will take care of themselves, and you'll not only make the best decisions, but make the best of what they bring, good or bad. Because you can really only live in the moment, and in the moment you really don't know much and can't see the future, or access all the information you need to make the best decisions. There are always a ton of things you can't foresee, predict, or understand regarding any choices you make - realistically, you're always too blind to know what's coming down the pipe. So approaching from the end that addresses causation - as we usually see it - is ultimately ineffective. There is something more fundamental at the root causes of our experience, and we can only address it by BEING different. No intellectual strategy will work. I'm a "master" of intellectual strategy, and it is just too limited, even at it's best, to address the complete reality of our existence and experience. Once you're convinced of that, then all those trite-sounding fairy-tale sayings like "love is the key to the Universe" make more sense...even as hard to implement as they are. In this way, it comes down to the one decision of how to respond in every moment to what is happening to you NOW. We normally think of choices/decisions in the context of plans for acting in the future, or at least the near future - how we will go about the outer details of our life, not how we will think about, or respond internally to events as they unfold, especially unplanned events. Notice that no "decisions" as such ever take into account EVERYTHING that could possibly happen in the meantime, especially the unexpected. But the unexpected will always happen, or catch up with us. It's the unexpected that ruins our plans, invalidates our choices, or makes us regret decisions - is it not? Never the expected outcome of them? So the only way to navigate the whole of reality then, is to turn to the smallest, most immediate choices, the thoughts, the internal reactions of resentment or acceptance, the reactions to the unexpected and undesired, to everything we want to reject in the process of seeking a better life or experience. OK this has probably been way too long, so I'll end off here. That's about the best I can offer. You get a pat on the back if you made it this far :)
this talk reminded of a line in the Eagles song DESPERADO... "it seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table... but you only want the ones you can't have". The Fear Of Missing Out clearly steals more happiness than the choices could possibly provide.
OR they just take it for granted, and/or make bad choices and want to blame someone/something else for it. And "everyone" is not sad, but it seems everyone who IS sad thinks everyone ELSE must be sad too, and for the same reasons.
I’ve seen this talk quite a few times, every time it strikes me how true it is, how much this applies to my experience of life. Comforting in a way but also frustrating - what do I do with this knowledge? How can I make other people realise the same? It affects everything- from being stressed on vacation from not doing enough or experiencing enough- to being the reason why it’s so difficult to find a partner. I do agree, times were better when the were worse.
+Mackaber Witckin I began hating Subway when I learned they put toxic, carcinogenic goo in their bread (you can google that). That limited my fast food options, and I've been happier since.
The fact that this talk was more than 15 years ago yet his topic is still relevant in today's generation, if not even more, really means that this guy is thinking way ahead of his time.
So when I talk about nutrition today, I'm thinking ahead of my time, cause I'm pretty sure it's going to be still relevant in 15 years
@@lukasmerten7697 Bruh. Obviously choice has ballooned into a bigger thing now than it was then. The fact that this problem is at the forefront while people laughed shows how forward this guys was. The funny thing is your talk about nutrition today has a really good chance of being irrelevant in 15 years because that is something known to change.
@@chickens-go-moo5079 Dude, the idea that today is harder than yesterday is what Trump campaigned on. It simply isn't true, but he was elected president because everyone "feels" it is.
@@brokenrecord3523I’m saying there’s a lot more choice today than there was before. Streaming services, smart phones, and pretty much everything else. Choice has obviously become bigger now than then.
Of course it's still relevant. The lure of consumerism has only grown as the world of marketing, advertising and business have capitalized on the concept.
"Is it a bad news, or good news". "And the answer is yes". My man was ahead of time on the meme game 👌
One step Ahead of the game!
Right on! Haha
13 Years! 😮
When you realize this came out 13 years ago before memes 😂
the best answer of all times is always "yes!"
the first time my husband asked me if I wanted strawberry iced-cream OR vanilla iced-cream, he understood that too...
he never tried to push me into a choice after that... hahaha!
He's absolutely right.. _"The secret to happiness is low expectations"_... And everybody laughs. They must not have expected much from this talk.
*****
No.
The key is to be happy from little things
I learned to lower my expectations a few years ago. I felt that if u expect to much u will be disappointed more often.
LOL "I did not expected much from the audience" . . . which reminds me of my childhood and a lesson my mom gave me when I was mad at someone, she said - "Never expect anything from anyone; this does not mean you don't trust them; but having low expectations for others will make your life happier" She was right, but what she did not mentioned is that sometimes is also not that good to have huge expectations on yourself, that also I have found can be quite stressful or unhealthy ;)
GCortesMtz
There's another twist on that. I'm the guy who, for having maintained low expectations of others my entire life, ended up doing most of their work for them. There was a time when I actually _liked_ hearing _"You're doing a fine job!!"_. Not so much anymore.
His simplicity is everything..it's so soothing and his talk just feels like your dad giving you priceless advice about life in the comfort of your living room. I didn't want it to end. I'm about to start searching for 14-year old TED talks 😅
The older the better
Same
Yeah, it's like a Dad giving his child a piece of advice.
"If you choose not to decide, you have still made a choice" - Neal Peart
Similar to "no comment is a comment"
Absolutely and this man is pushing hogwash. Totalitarian right to the core. He targets young people and wears a costume in Ted Talks. This man does not dress this way normally. Look at all the Ted Talks and see what they all wear. Don't be so easily fooled. he targets you because you are young and impressionable. He is a communist and has an agenda.
@@paulmerritt8593 "If someone points out a problem in the perfect and ultimate system of the US he must be a communist. Because capitalism has no flaws."
Typical NA thinking.
Btw. he actually said no choice is even worse than having some choice. I would argue that this was part of the reason why the UDSSR collapsed.
skyylow Shakespeare
It is Bhagwad Geeta shloka....not by neal pearts
This was brilliant! I spend so much time finding the best option, wasting valuable minutes, then end up with insufficient time to do other stuff, then procrastinate, then become miserable.
No offense but I would rather waste time with you than be productive by myself. I rather be beside you in a storm than safe and warm by myself
Same here
Story of my life.
His argument is "Some choices can have bad consequences so we should impede freedom". That's not solving a problem.. b/c he's focused on people having choice (not even mentioning that some choices can have medical/dietary needs for existing)
And he's making repeated arguments w/ very basic logical fallacies..
Like his appeal to authority: Blindly trusting someone like a doctor b/c they went to school and repeated the correct info.. as being more knowledgeable than people who can potentially look into their own health.
Some cases the doctor might know best, some cases the patient might. This guy generically stereotypes both parties, then ignores ANY complexity to issues... just to focus on pushing his views on choice. Same situation w/ his jeans example. Just b/c he sucks at shopping, he blames the jeans. Not his crappy ability/lack of proficiency.
Credentials/authority does not measure proficiency, and Mr. Schwartz is completely blind to this fact. That's not very brilliant.
That's me too
When someone shows up to a TED talk in faded t-shirt, cargo shorts, and sneakers....listen to them. This is a person who is thinking far beyond petty, worldly concerns.
Seriously, stop judging by the dress!
It's amazing how the sheeple think someone who wears a white lab coat or pin stripe suit is some how more reliable or intelligent over someone with casual wear and scruffy hair!
@@stevew8873
It's called association. Our brains are responsible for that. I wouldn't call someone a sheep for using something that is essential to our survival.
I'm guessing you wouldn't be worried if you were to see a clean man wearing a nice suit and he clearly looks like he takes care of himself, compared to someone who sags their pants and has face tattoos. Sagging of pants is associated with people from the streets who most likely don't have good intentions and face tattoos are a sign of someone who doesn't care about themselves.
The same happens with knowledge. You can talk about the same thing a professional psychologist talks about but since he looks and sounds like a professional and has a piece of paper that tells people he studied, everyone will think you don't know what you are talking about and will listen to him.
Its not even that he’s thinking beyond “petty worldly concerns” its just thats the way he likes to dress. He presents himself to the audience as himself. This can also be done in a tailored suit or a pink leotard. It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing so long as you wear it authentically.
bec its his choice to wear those simple dressing. less choice the better
“I wrote a whole book to try to explain this to myself.”
And that’s why this is one of the best most important books and Ted talks ever written.
😅 How do you explain it to yourself .😹😹😹
@@Lanskynto by writing a book, obviously
Exactly
Freedom of choice is what you got. Freedom from choice is what you want
- Devo
Sundeep this explains why our government sucks- incumbents win all to often because they have the job so voters pick them so they don’t really have to choose.
Kathy Piazza no offense Kathy but I rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else I rather be beside you in a storm
Oh boom! I love that you referenced this.
@@Tonisuperfly Thank you. :) First thing that came to my mind while watching this video.
14 years later, the UA-cam algorithm made the decision for me.
Heeya
yup
You clicked...they didnt click for you. You alone made that choice, sir. Stop trying to by funny. Youre not.
Looks like it’s trying to tell us something
SAME BROTHER.THIS ALGORITHM 😛
I know everyone laughs when he says, "The secret to happiness is low expectations," but I've definitely found that to be true. As an ex-perfectionist, I can't tell you the relief I feel now at just being good enough or doing something well enough. Don't get me wrong - I still try to perform well, to the best of my abilities, and to challenge myself a bit; but I don't expect everything to go perfectly all the time.
Once I started adapting to living this way, I discovered just what he is talking about: those little delightful surprises when something exceeded my expectations or went better than I had hoped it would. Truly, when you demand or expect less (and are content with merely being), it's like a whole other world opens up. It's such a relief.
How is this going some years later, are yiu able to keep it up? I think I need to make a similar shift in my life and am looking at different angles and experiences.
Ex perfectionist with impeccable punctuation
@ whitelightning - you've managed to be both observant and amusing. TED draws a sophisticated audience. :)
IMO less expectations is a kind of white flag. Let it be, never mind and so on. What I prefer is to learn how to deal with failures. I could make a living, then eat, then sleep, but I except much more. So except jobs I have, I'm working as activist - because I except the world to be much better and I know I can help. Sometimes I fail, but nevermind, that doesn't make me feel bad in the long term - because if it would, I couldn't make another attempts of making my world (i.e. mostly my region) a better place. I excepted my fiance to be with me, same with my three best friends - they aren't here anymore and of course that fucking hurts. Even with this great failure of my expectations, I have to deal with it. What can I do? Say "oh, let's just don't expect that my family that is still alive will live next day, because all these death were sudden"? That would be recipe for constant fear. "Low expectations" are claptrap. And this is frustrating when politician breaks the law and I fail with suing that person, but then I remember all the things I've saved because my expectations and it's clear to me the frustration is a small thing. I walk the street and I see saved buildings, saved forests and clean places **because my expectations were high**. And that's so rewarding. High, low, expectation, wish, failure, success... These words means something else for each of us. So, Joy, don't listen to me. Think about your definitions and make decision. That's up to you, because low expectations can save your life, but they may destroy it.
@@KrzysiuNet I completely agree with your point here, and I find the original poster naive and ignorant in their statement. If you get to the point that suicide seems like a good option then low expectations are a laughable suggestion. I live on only with the hope that my life will somehow get better. That's pretty fucking high expectations given my life outlook so I have to do my best with that. I have to force myself to expect that life will be worth living for me, and low expectations would only certainly land me in the grave sooner.
2 negative effects of too many choices:
1 8:07 it produces paralysis rather than liberation
2 9:57 we are less satisfied
Reasons for the 2nd effect:
10:13 you could have made a better choice
10:46 opportunity cost
12:27 escalation of expectations
15:39 self-blame
"I wrote a whole book to try to explain this to myself."
Wanna share ?
HAAHAHA you watched the video too? that was sooo funny XxDDD
@@WeAreOutOfWeed13 are you out of weed
Read the comment right at the same time the guy said it. Always weird.
This was the most beautiful moment of the whole talk
"The secret to happiness is low expectations," - must be true, since my wife still appreciates any little thing I do for her.
somewhere between the low expectations that lead to mediocrity and the high expectations that lead to disappointment lies a sweet spot of realistic expectations that challenge us without overwhelming us.
@@patrickmarr7076 thank you for the wisdom kind sir
@@patrickmarr7076 blowing this up as a poster for my room. Thanks!
@@ambershah5741 Yes. Expectations are premeditated resentments.Still one must have standards.
@@ambershah5741 you'll have expectations as you're a human. Do you expect surprises?
Ranks as one of the best speeches I’ve ever heard.
hes brilliant. He gives me a real Richard Feynman vibe.
This is my favorite TED Talk. He describes me precisely.
Any other great recommendations on ted speakers? Thanks
@@KezDPianist I like the ones by James Veech about spam email.
I like the ones by a couple of math teachers. My favorite is the one by a math teacher (like me) who has decided that teaching middle school and high school math to every student is a waste of time. That instead of forcing everyone to learn algebra (for example) we should teach courses on logic and problem solving. Very few people will actually need to use math in their lives beyond basic fractions, but everyone needs to learn how (not what) to think and problem solve.
These are the ones that immediately come to my mind.
@Myth Tree what points
As someone with a diagnosed depression I greatly appreciate this video. I'm really struggling with choices from the simple to the complex ones and a constant feeling of regret.
"everything was better, when everything was worse"
Its called paradox😊😁😁
jesse delos santos I’ve waited all my life
Se stava mejo quanno se stava peggio
"in the past even the future was better"
@@andrijaarapovic5654 🤔
people who go with the flow are the happiest. wherever life takes them, they try to enjoy it instead of stressing about what to do.
when that flow benefits them, of course. not granted to everyone
Amazing that this came out about the time the first iPhone was released. Crazy to see how much time and technology has changed and we wonder why mental health issues are on the rise.
When will Ted, himself, come out to talk?
Shyness is a real problem.
I heard he has stage fright
This is the comment I was looking for ever since I began watching Ted talks.
“TED” is an acronym
@@WorldWideSk8boarding I call bullocks
yes, humans were not designed to make 5000 quality decisions each day. Life is too stressful nowadays.
Your life does not need to be that stressful. Stress and fear and anxiety are all tools of oppression and not the way we are made to live. he wants you to think we should leave our thinking to smarter people who are knowledgeable and who we must trust. Do you think this man dresses like this everyday? No he is targeting a young and impressionable audience. Son't be his sheople. Stress and fear are perceptions oppressors have imposed on their societies for thousands of years.
@@paulmerritt8593 I totally agree with you.
I think those symptoms are lack of PURPOSE OF LIFE.
@@paulmerritt8593 his point certainly wasn't to let all your important choices be left to be made by a person in power but more like limit your choices(when its excessive that any choice would be made at all)
ua-cam.com/video/SemHh0n19LA/v-deo.html here's another talk about choices. Having a lot of choices is good but they key is being content on what you've chosen not to regret about it being inferior to other options.
@@loriatsea you nailed it!
Why Choice Makes People Miserable:
1. Regret and anticipated regret.
2. Opportunity costs.
3. Escalation of expectations.
4. Self-blame.
Lmao thanks for this it’s helping me on my school assignment
TLDR. Old guy scared religion is waning
Can we add social media to the list?
@@DH-og5yr You need to get out of your echo chambers and stay away from all media for a month. You sound crazy to have gotten that idea from this video. Just like another comment on this video saying he was promoting less choice to let other "smarter" people think for you - totally missing half the message of the video. You're in so deep that you can't hear what's being said, you only hear what you want to believe.
"The way in which we value things depends on what we compare them to"
- Barry Schwartz
Kinda reminds me of the social comparison theory, where you can feel so good about your situation if you use downward Comparison, and you can also feel too bad, in the very same situation, just if you use upward comparison.
This video was uploaded when i was born. 17 years later, this video is what i needed to make decisions in life.
It's 2019 and my phone still don't have a creme brulée torch..
And I'm not complaining that mine does too much, either.
:(
What?!
Samsung tried to make one but it got misunderstood.
Traul1983 it burnt the crème
I've seen interesting TED talks, fascinating TED talks and inspiring TED talks. This one changed my life.
How?
That TED talk really blow up my mind eventhough it's 14 years old
Yea how bcptbcpt?
How?
So how are you lately
I've never felt more impacted by the paradox of choice until I went through the college application process. I decided to apply to many schools (having no expectations to be accepted to many, if any at all). But I got my results back and I ended up with WAY more good options than I thought. Instead of being happy about my acceptances, I just feel more overwhelmed and anxious about the the fact that it's in my hands to choose one and miss out on other good choices.
Be glad you got accepted. I didn't.
@@zoeiiseda246 good luck
Show off
@@zoeiiseda246 sad
Amazing example!!!
I always live by this quote and I find it pertinent with this video.'It is simply this "Expect nothing and NEVER be disappointed"or "Never expect anything from anyone or any situation and you'll never be disappointed" "'To prevent disappointment never expect anything from anyone and everything"
He's so right. I remember several years ago when all I had was a DVD player, I'd go down to the local library and choose a few movies that caught my eye, and that was it. But when the woman I was married to at that time purchased Netflix, I was so overwhelmed by the choices that were at my fingertips, I noticed that my pleasure diminished significantly. This was because I was always thinking to myself, damn there are so many movies on here, I want to choose the one that's really gonna wow me. It has to be perfect because there are so many others that I could be watching right now! That's just one example. The choices that are available today for everything are truly mind boggling.
I agree.
@Charlie5thumbs
v _ Choice is the product of wisdom and highest level of tamed ego. If, you don't have that wisdom and well tamed ego, what you perceive as choice is the desired driven ego satisfaction tools.
It is like this; If you don't have food, and you are always hungry, you will not pick food and will not be able to hate any food due to overindulgence. If, you have variety of foods easily reachable, if you can not stop overindulging yourself, you will start losing your taste and more picky. Food is a necessity.
In your case, why would you choose to watch a DVD, any DVD in the first place? Watching a DVD is not even a necessity !!!
You need to work on your decision making skills.
There's so much content in every medium now that it's impossible to stay caught up on practically anything. Back in the days watching telly, I'd be following 1 maybe 2 shows at a time max and they came out once a week.
He isn't right at all though... Time and time again I see the same sentiment posted and it's always older people saying it. How come the new generation doesn't have an issue with choosing what to watch on netflix or doesn't feel paralyzed by having to choose from 100 jeans instead of 1 kind? Is it really that hard to realize that it's not a problem of too many choices rather than the fact that the older generation weren't exposed to this and had to adapt with the times. Those who didn't adapt are stuck in your shoes. Those who adapted are thriving and living their best life because there's undeniable benefits of choice being given to us.
You are bad at making decisions because you never had to make them until one point where you were bombarded by them. It's not entirely your fault because that's just how it was back in the day but it's important to acknowledge that it indeed isn't a problem of there being "too many options" but you putting unreal expectations and stress on something as trivial as watching a movie. It's a mentality/skill that can be learned. You aren't born with good/bad decision making. The benefits of multiple choices far outweigh the negatives of it and it seems that only people who refuse to adapt are stuck with the negatives.
"Comparison is the thief of joy. "
-TEDdy Roosevelt
The outfit makes me feel like I’m getting a lecture from my dad
I have the same impression. But for me, it is rather what he says than what he wears.
Skyletwings hehe can I kiss u
I wish I got such smart lectures from my dad... Plot twist, he's still deciding which percentage of milk to choose and hasn't come back in 15 years.
Hmm my dad's lectures are just about how masks are used by the democrats to controle people and all the ships in the ocean a making waves that splash on the ice caps causing them to melt. And the sheer amout of ships is making the ocean rise.
@@supercomputer0448 Hahahahah
The earliest situation that many people first face the "curse of too much choice" is as a child, standing in a candy shop or a toy store, being overwhelmed with all the possible choices. Some are fortunate to have a very patient parent who helps them to handle the confusion of the situation, but many have parents who are so stressed and impatient (for a plethora of reasons) that what should be a rather simple situation becomes the basis for the child's lifetime behavior. A small thing, but very telling.
I totally agree with you. That's why, in my opinion, we, as adults, should first focus on being patient with our inner child and nurture in a healthy way. Then, the transition to teach critical aspects of life to another human being would become much easier.
It's called "Fear of missing out". I am happy I didn't miss this one.
No what is being discribed in this video is not FOMO. FOMO is something you can have with a single choice, like: should I go to a party? For it could be the best party you ever go to. Or when checking social media AGAIN, because maybe someone just posted something. I do think I get the link that you're seeing: many options with pro's and con's where you fear missing out on the pro's, but that (for me) is different from what the paradox of choice is.
TNHODA hehe can I kiss you or do you have some sorta vendetta against me
@@TNHODA Whether you should go to a party is two choices
It is absolutely true that the key to happiness is low expectations. However, it's also very true that freedom requires that people take responsibility for their choices. I've never felt paralyzed by too many choices. I have spent more time than I wanted on certain choices. It's important to know which choices are the most critical and focus on those.
How many people are you....a single individual probably..... The more people ate in the equation the choices are exponential
Congratulations, still it makes life a barren land containing hours and hours of constant choice making, wonderful 👍👍👍👍👍
What are the most critical ones? Who gets to tell me what are the most critical choices oh right I decided that myself which ones do I decide on? How many different critical decisions must I make to get to the end of the rat maze?
Didn't even know TED was posting 13 years ago
I come back to watch this every couple of years. It has never lost its luster.
I can relate to this totally, I always feel paralysed when it comes to career choices.
Aaand that's why you're still jobless !
@@kulina571 FYI, I'm data scientist for last 3 years.
@@rahulanand7315 puffff, data scientist... you can become a data science on udemy in less than a week, that's a joke profession!
@@rahulanand7315 I dont understand...are you bragging...or complaining 🤣
@@afonsosalbrecht no need to beat on a guy just trying to defend himself
Second time watching this some years later, and after having more experiences regarding too many choices this TED talk is truer than ever for me.
Back when TedTalks were done by people, who actually had something valuable to say.
this!
Well said.
Felt like he explained what's going on in my head more eloquently than I ever could.
This!!!!
And 14 years later we have more choices than ever.
Dresses in the morning expecting to tidy the yard... ends up giving a TED talk.
* trophy unlocked *
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He preached what he practiced. Probably wore the first things he saw in his closet.
It is probably true here, too, but if you go to a math conference, mathematicians will assure you: the sloppiest dressed presenter is going to give the best talk.
Exactly what happens to me based on too many choices. I would have dressed the same way.
This video was okay, but I expected it would have been better. I wish I made a different choice and picked the one with the cat playing the piano. I feel depressed now. :(
36trooper: So, it looks like your only option is to go to the garage, get in your car, start the engine and let the carbon monoxide fumes put you to sleep forever.
;^}
Sir/Madam, I salute your comic genius!
You got it... You can now watch the cat playing piano..
Or sleep or play video games.. or work...😂😂😂😂
.. but remember the cat isnt dead or alive until you open the keyboard.
Well, I expected worse. So now I'm happy because it exceeded my expectations, but kinda sad, because I was wrong. It's really hard to live indeed.
Back when TED talks came without X, and the speakers where actual scientists.
Yes since then a mass of X's have overriden it all
The X’s mean more choice! Jeezus
@@clarkpalace X means more opinions, less science.
T.E.D. stands for Technology Entertainment Design
"everthing was better when it was worse"
When I only had 7 tv channels there was always something on.
Lol spend more time figuring out what to watch
I once had just 4... that was perfect.
I remember when we went from cable, where I used 3 for video games, 25, 50, and 51 for kids shows, and nothing else, to satellite. Suddenly we had over 900 channels, and then I found the 7 in a row that were the same shows I used to watch (551-557 if I remember), and 300 was the movie channel that my dad watched a lot. 625 was comedy, but I only knew that because of my dad as well.
900 channels and I found a way to only need 7 choices, with a couple extra bonuses once in a while. And even of those 7, 552, 554, and 557 almost always had the best stuff and I swapped between those 3 unless all of them had nothing.
magic number of choices is 3! bulbasaur squirtle and charmander
bob vella This is also the hardest choice a person can ever experience.
Always choose the charmander choice in whatever decision.
Bulbasaur, squirtle and charmander well that's just 3 what about the other 3 ones? you said magic number of choices is 3! right?
Ujjwal Gupta That's 6
Pokemon as an analogy. Plaudits.
This explains the popularity of apple's products.
funnily enough, youre probably right
I was going to say that.
That's what I thought as well!
Yep. And I would add, mainly because they present their products not as some types of PC, but something else, a mac. And inside mac you have not too much options. THey make you believe there is nothing to expect beyond what they produce. And they are probably right hehe
my mind is completely blown right now. It explains so much omg
The way this guy can walk across a stage in a tee and shorts while giving the most riveting presentation: confidence goals.
This explain the lower satisfaction in modern world dating. The higher expectations and higher standards with too many choices from all those dating app...we are now the product and we all look at our self as such.
True. People see matches that live nowhere near them, and so with whom they're likely to be incompatible, but they still think, "Well, maybe." It makes the matches who are actually feasible seem "less than". Like, maybe there *is* someone out there that they'd move mountains, and themselves, for?? The wondering diminishes what they do have. Even if someone just likes their spouse their whole life (and doesn't necessarily have burning love the whole time, which is pretty unrealistic), that's doing pretty well, and better than a lot of couples. All that choice makes us think there might be one more that would be absolutely perfect, *if we could find it*. That can be a wild goose chase. Yep, more isn't always better.
"The secret to happiness is...low expectations." Great blend of humor & intelligent info.
Reminds me of Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace.
Very true, the paradox of choice. Constantly dissatisfied. Constantly looking for something greater. Constantly having the feeling of anxiety due to all other options, choices.
Barry Schwartz is the man. Don't think I've ever seen anyone at TED Talk having the balls to wear shorts. Awesome.
Jim Morrison I
his choice
People want choice. I have a friend who is a butcher. He says his profit will go down if he doesnt display several large amount of different types of preparation of meat. Instead of just plain meat. Even if it means he has to throw away 20% of his products. He still profits when he gives a large amount of choice and still throws away 20%. The people just wont come to his shop. So now tell me how people feel miserable and still go back. Ofcourse you are doing to make a wrong choice. But he is taking it way to far. Most of the time people are happy with the choices they made. Are you constantly depressed for making choices? Its stupidest thing i ever heard.
jos People think they want choice because the super market has a dozen types of meat. This is just one anecdotal instance, don’t get so excited
Yea ok but why do we want to think that? You are not adressing the issue herz
Incredible how this talk aged incredibly. Life-changing ted talk.
Brilliant lecture!! THE grass is always greener phenomenon! !
I am in Japan. My opinion is the same, He's right. "The secret to happiness is low expectations". Happiness is not having, but being.
I found this to be quite true. The times when I've had the least money in my life, have been the most memorable times... the most satisfying (all be it frustrating at the time)... when I look back now... it's those times that I remember more fondly for some reason. Less choice perhaps, greater struggle, "a feeling of satisfaction" to make it through.
I'm watching it in 2024, 17 years later of this video, and still very relevant
"Everything is amazing and nobody's happy"
In a nutshell : Excess is the root of modern day misery.
Iqbal Dinho me too.
+Marisa Kirisame
I'm sure that is why danes are considered some of the happiest people on Earth. Because there really is no need for us to be happy. A very mediocre country.
+Giacomo Drago the soft mattress from a rock to sleep on can make a difference to your quality of life. having the choice between 50 mattresses of varied softness does not change your life it is a false freedom.
You look jewish buddy
"In a nutshell : Excess is the root of modern day misery."
Is this how much information fits in your nutshell (brain)?
My first thought into his talk was how the “too many choices conundrum” definitely applies to online dating. It’s like a dinner menu that changes every night at a restaurant that serves seven course meals. A lot of people on dating sites always think they can do better. Even if the person they’re talking to/dating is a connection, and checks off most/all their boxes. I did that whole thing for years after my divorce. My friends have had the same experiences. All of us just got tired of it all, and decided that if we don’t meet our person organically, than we die alone. *oh, the horror!*
I completely take your point and I think it's all well stated but...was that sarcasm at the end about dying alone?
I do believe being alone for many years is quite bad. We humans certainly can appreciate answering only to ourselves and all and having things that we like and that we chose. But, we are also social creatures who deeply need someone to share our feelings and experiences with. Perhaps some people can find enough of that with friendship or family but I would expect that for the vast majority of people, they would really benefit from a good romantic relationship.
As someone who is recently divorced myself though, I can attest that relationships are also very much not easy.
I hope you find someone soon, if you haven't already, or that you can find peace, joy and contentment on your own.
yes i agree with you %100 no one specially the males can make a choice to stick to one profile if they have formed a connection because they have to keep looking and searching and messaging whatever profile takes their fancy in the next five minutes, its an endless array of choices that they will never get to the end off. Unfortunately i too only in the last two weeks have deleted my online dating profiles as the disappointment and frustration of starting chat conversations with men only to have them disappear the next day was more trauma than i needed, so like you if it is meant to be for me to meet someone else in my later life it will have to be in the offline world, if not i guess i will have to except the inevitable.
Watched this twelve years later and my investigations confirm most all of what he says. I hang out in a country that offers me less options, but with more satisfaction in the choices I make.
Thanks for explaining to me why I like the simple life.
even after 10 years of watching it . this is eternal , and now so more obvious!
TED seems to have been quite a laidback event back in the day
He's not wrong; I find a lot of experiences more pleasing when I really just don't expect anything. Just enjoying whatever pops up in the moment can be very satisfying.
I've watch this video like a dozen times. I come back to it often. This is like a meditation that I use to reset myself.
What?
oh my god i just remembered that this video was uploaded in 2007, but 5:13 where he talks about people choosing their own gender identity is more relevant today than ever
I had to go back and check the date of this talk given by Ted's Tupac
Just shows how little this guy understands reality beyond his own world view. You don't chose your gender identity. A gender identity is something that you act out through appearance and behavior. You're female if society perceives you as such, not by choosing to be female in the morning.
What is galling is that
It was satire back then
@@yourinternetfriend6778 Could society be wrong?
@@willhaynes3505
Who cares.
Barry is impressive. Hes not concerned with the external. Narcissistic ideals. Thats impressive. I admire this.
This definately applies to online dating which marginalizes people and reduces them to commodities.
Success is over valued. And good character is undervalued.
I am a doctor, and he is spot on. I provide options to patients. 2021.
This is great, from 2007 he's telling us empirically what we are starting to understand now. when you're stucked with something and cant change it you like that thing better. And that change is deep in the brain.
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I think it is just about ''Material desire'', when you want too much, you will end up being unhappy. People just have to learn how to be satisfied with all they have now, and be thankful for everything!
"Man is condemned to be free" - Jean-Paul Sartre
“I am freeing men from...the demands of a freedom and personal independence which only a very few can bear.”
-Hitler
I obtained my degree in business and a great way to think about this is in business is the law of diminishing returns. Take a resturant menu, there is a "perfect" number of dishes to choose from, lets say 15. Anything under 15 is not maximizing profit, anything over is a waste of options.
Opens your mind about your choices in life. Don't over think. We only live once, don't waste too much time thinking about the same things every minute of your day. Sometimes its okay to settle with things and just be alive in the moment. This is coming from a person who over thinks every single day.... its a struggle but this video helped open my perspective!
This was a genuinely superb presentation. I was a true student of Barry Schwartz for a little over a quarter of an hour, and I feel I have been bestowed with the invaluable outlooks and insights for increasing well-being and happiness! Thanks, Barry!
14 years later, and its still relevant
always will be.
What a legend. I highly recommend his book. Enjoyed this Talk very much! Thank you
" Have higher expectations if you want improvement, and lower expectations if you want contentment. " Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D.
... and that is why i treat my friends like dirt....i know for a fact they;re going to fail me any given time.......
*Yeah,* _I'm over it, too!_
Well spoken. As I had low expectations I now find myself pleasantly surprised; _intelligent life does exist on Earth._
“When the time is right, they’ll choose the appropriate gender”... that was a joke then. How ironic
Watching this in 2022, and the points stated in his talk is way more relatable. The damage has gone to a whole new level.
240p or 144p
More choice is bad, mkayy
you get 144p?
lmao. Then the part at the end where he says, "More choice is better than no choice and there is a magic number of choices where we feel satisfied." Clearly this is a case where we needed more options.
Science Recruit but if it can stream both then you have to choose : do you want better quality or to use less data.
2007 bro
New choices are not usually bad, it's about "number" of choices in a given span of time.
"One of the effects of too many choices, paradoxically, is that it produces paralysis instead of liberation."
It's paralysis only if you're not educated about the options you get.. Open market is what has driven for all the choices to exist- they'll without a doubt shrink if there are no real buyers present.
Nailed It!!! We feel the same way in every choice in our life.... I would have done better. I would have taken another choice. It always happen with phones when you buy a phone with good features, but when your friend bought a better phone with better specs with less cost. You feel dissatisfied with the choice you made even though yours is a good choice!!!!
So true. I've driven myself insane in regards to what phone I should get next, or what my wife should upgrade too, etc.
I have never seen video uploaded this early. 17 years. OMG. Why now it is time for youtube algorithm to let me see this video as recomended?
I'm glad that I made the decision to watch this Ted talk, I learned so much! Thank you for sharing about this that I've been pondering so much
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Oh my gosh this concept needs to be applied to online dating! There are hundreds of faces you scroll through and you are always thinking there might be something better on the next swipe so no one actually does the dating part always looking for something better. fewer options would revolutionize online dating. Also online dating has killed the idea of dating.
There was a Time when I considered Barry Schwartz's analysis so profound that it charmed me into believing he was really on to something. But time has passed since and I found out that choice does not cause depression. A person can be trained to handle choice. You can be trained to make the right choice fast. One way is to know what you actually want. Find out what you want. The rest of the meaning is in your mind and if you don't like it, make a shift in your perception.
Yes, I think it's sad that our society has come to the point of wanting to withdraw permanently from their many opportunities & choices, seeing it as a problem instead of an opportunity to not only learn more about themselves but learn to make better choices, instead of seeing it only as pressure and wanting that feeling to go away, when they haven't yet experienced the lack of choice they think they want. Once they're fully into that lack of choice, the pressure they'll feel will be multiplied in ways they can't imagine yet.
The grass is always greener when you haven't learned to use what power you have now.
@@jameseverett4976 I love this outlook James. How would you suggest learning how to make quick decisions and feel good about them?
@@BrianTCarter Quick decisions are usually not feasible on really important choices. My approach is always to wait as long as possible to make a decision, not only because my perspective changes often and consistently, but it gives time for new information or other considerations to dawn on me.
Now the really bad news: you won't be able to control how you feel about decisions after you make them, especially the more permanent they are.
This is kind of a repeat of my comment above, but the best understanding you can have is that EVERY. THING. has 2 opposite sides to it - a good, or advantageous side, and a negative, or disadvantageous side. Don't fall for the "it's only good" or it's only bad" evaluation, which is what this video was - trying to make too many choices seem like only a negative, when that is only 1 very limited perspective.
If you understand that as you're making the decision - that no matter what you choose, it will have a negative side, then you will weigh what that negative side is, or could be, and understand that you're always trading 1 thing for another, never gaining something good and losing something bad, which is how we like to convince ourselves when we favor 1 choice over the other.
Look at it only as a change in your path that will lead to DIFFERENT ups & downs, not from downs to ups. For example, a marriage will bring [eventually] distrust, jealousy, boredom, irritation, betrayal, and a feeling of losing your privacy. Yet all those aspects can bring a positive side too: trust which equates to intimacy, belonging and loyalty, excitement, pleasure, support and relief from loneliness or alienation, and the increased meaning that relationship brings.
Betrayal, for example, is not really the opposite of loyalty, but an aspect of it's foundation. Betrayal must always be a possibility in order to have devotion. Any person who can devote themselves to you can just as easily betray you, AND they must be able to SEE that possibility, AND be tempted by it, otherwise it's not really devotion, or has built up any power, potency or quality.
That will help you evaluate whether your partner will be able to understand this "opposites" dilemma, and make the most of the upsides, and value them enough to keep the marriage, rather than fret over the downsides and grow apart.
So...the secret is always being aware that nothing is only good or only bad, and that you will never gain a state of positivity free from negative potential and intrusion.
Now let's move to another level completely: forget what I just said, and let's take a deeper approach.
If you make a bad decision, rather than regret it, determine to ponder it's good, or advantageous side, until you overcome any resentment of the situation. The absence of resentment, if continued long enough will transform the situation in ways you didn't expect. It's the seed of opportunity, and the reason consistent gratitude can transform your experience, to where you are the natural effect of good fortune rather than trying to reach it by making better decisions.
Making better decisions won't do much for your long term situation. You can try hard to make the best decisions, but somehow everything can go in a negative direction regardless. It's more a matter of your response to whatever presents itself in the moment, than your 'formal' decisions. If you can learn to respond right in the moment [without resentment ], decisions will take care of themselves, and you'll not only make the best decisions, but make the best of what they bring, good or bad.
Because you can really only live in the moment, and in the moment you really don't know much and can't see the future, or access all the information you need to make the best decisions. There are always a ton of things you can't foresee, predict, or understand regarding any choices you make - realistically, you're always too blind to know what's coming down the pipe. So approaching from the end that addresses causation - as we usually see it - is ultimately ineffective.
There is something more fundamental at the root causes of our experience, and we can only address it by BEING different. No intellectual strategy will work. I'm a "master" of intellectual strategy, and it is just too limited, even at it's best, to address the complete reality of our existence and experience. Once you're convinced of that, then all those trite-sounding fairy-tale sayings like "love is the key to the Universe" make more sense...even as hard to implement as they are.
In this way, it comes down to the one decision of how to respond in every moment to what is happening to you NOW. We normally think of choices/decisions in the context of plans for acting in the future, or at least the near future - how we will go about the outer details of our life, not how we will think about, or respond internally to events as they unfold, especially unplanned events. Notice that no "decisions" as such ever take into account EVERYTHING that could possibly happen in the meantime, especially the unexpected.
But the unexpected will always happen, or catch up with us. It's the unexpected that ruins our plans, invalidates our choices, or makes us regret decisions - is it not? Never the expected outcome of them? So the only way to navigate the whole of reality then, is to turn to the smallest, most immediate choices, the thoughts, the internal reactions of resentment or acceptance, the reactions to the unexpected and undesired, to everything we want to reject in the process of seeking a better life or experience.
OK this has probably been way too long, so I'll end off here. That's about the best I can offer. You get a pat on the back if you made it this far :)
this talk reminded of a line in the Eagles song DESPERADO... "it seems to me some fine things have been laid upon your table... but you only want the ones you can't have". The Fear Of Missing Out clearly steals more happiness than the choices could possibly provide.
One of the best speech I've ever heard, timeless teaching
That’s why dating apps make you feel miserable
serect to happiness is Freedom, particularly your time
This sounds like it was written in full support of philosophical debate. I enjoyed listening to it.
Great talk. Life is supposed to be simple. We've complicated our world beyond our comprehension. Maybe (just maybe) that's why everyone is sad.
OR they just take it for granted, and/or make bad choices and want to blame someone/something else for it.
And "everyone" is not sad, but it seems everyone who IS sad thinks everyone ELSE must be sad too, and for the same reasons.
@@jameseverett4976 you seem fun and not mad at all
@@justybee what can I say? - I'm a fun guy, and can't help it.
This man just explained why older people from ex-socialist countries are nostalgic of the socialist life.
Partly
Europe is socialist
I don’t really know of anyone like that. But this was before social media also, it’s only gotten far worse now.
Máš pravdu.
Good comment. Thank you.
"Everybody needs a fishbowl."
I’ve seen this talk quite a few times, every time it strikes me how true it is, how much this applies to my experience of life. Comforting in a way but also frustrating - what do I do with this knowledge? How can I make other people realise the same? It affects everything- from being stressed on vacation from not doing enough or experiencing enough- to being the reason why it’s so difficult to find a partner. I do agree, times were better when the were worse.
Back when TED Talk was really great because there were less talks
17 years later, lives like mine are still being influenced by these videos.. Amazing.
This is why I hate Subway... :P
Mackaber Witckin dont hate subway, just go there knowing what you will get. Find a great option and stick with it.
+Mackaber Witckin I began hating Subway when I learned they put toxic, carcinogenic goo in their bread (you can google that). That limited my fast food options, and I've been happier since.
+Mackaber Witckin Just ask for all toppings you like. Works like a charm most of the time, every time.
+Mackaber Witckin I like Subway because they have Lays baked chips. Those need to come in a big, family sized bag.
You get everything, with chipotle. duh.
It's 2024 now and it's still so wise and relevant