Why One Child Families Rock
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2017
- Hi Guys!
So this video explains why John and I are not going to have more kids, why only children and one child families ROCK!
If you're on the fence about having more kids, this video may be helpful!
Thanks for watching,
Connie
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The best feeling is knowing you're done. It honestly doesn't matter how many kids anyone chooses to have. No one should ever have to defend their personal reasons as to how many kids they have.
bethalynn Good point! Thank you for your insight!
Very good you don't have many kids. 😀😀😀😀😀
You don’t know that I took a screenshot of your comment to read it daily ... I need this .. people around me are killing me 💔
I honestly don’t know how anyone has more than one child after experiencing the newborn stage lol The thought of going through that again, on TOP of taking care of a toddler makes me want to cry 😅
Thinking exatly the same as a husband. :D
I'm 33 my daughter is 12 my family didn't believe I'd just stop at one and my friends are always telling me when you meet someone special you will want to give him a baby. Why would I want to give my future man a baby if I dont want another one? Don't I have the want the child too? They say I'm too young ill change my mind but my mind is made up no matter who I meet they would have to be okay with my decision.
@@yvianniecintron6597 I completely agree with you. The choice is yours and only yours. You will never be able to change the opinions of others so try your hardest not to let them bother you 🙏🏻
THIS
The newborn stage was the easiest for me(surprisingly), after the 4 month sleep regression Is where I really started to become a coffee addicted zombie mom haha.
I always hear about people who have a second child to be a playmate for their older sibling. I know so many people that dont speak to their siblings and aren't friends at all. It's not a guarantee that they'll be friends and get along.
Tayla Harper exactly!, I am way closer to my friends than i am my sisters
This. I've known people in my work place for years and never knew they had a sibling
True
That’s me. I’m 22 now and cannot STAND the sight of my brother
When parents don't rear the children properly, it breeds negative sibling rivalries.
Theres something I really enjoy about it being just the three of us. I can't really explain it but it's special.
Ya I am one of those people
Me tooooo❤️
Same I am really close with my parents and my mom is like my big sister as well as my mom
Can relate 💜😌
Hey I love your comment. I feel the same.
Also, having another child for the sole purpose of giving your kid a playmate is more of a "selfish" thing to do than choosing to have an only child. If I was conceived only for that reason of being a playmate, that would feel really crummy. the only reason to have a child should be because you really want one. Never underestimate the power of friendship - you know, the people you choose to have in your life. Sometimes that is better than having siblings as those relationships don't always turn out so great...
Katelyn Dawn that first sentence is so spot on! And yes, exactly, how awful to think that actually one was just conceived to be a playmate and to - with that - seemingly relieve the parents of some "entertaining duties"
@@augustorvz3543 I wouldn't judge someone else for wanting an only child as long as the child is happy and healthy. If the child is in a good enviorment. People shouldn't have children for the reason to give a child a playmate.
Katelyn Dawn well said, this is what I’m told give him a playmate! Like seriously!?!?
Absolutely agree!!
I am an only child I can tell you it sucks now as an adult there is no one that is there there’s no bond with a friend like they have for their siblings, there’s just a missing lonely piece that most of the people I’ve met like myself that are only children don’t want to hurt our parents an tell them the truth about what it’s like as an adult without siblings or for our children when we Mary another only child no cousins no aunts it’s just different an it’s something people do need to put into account we don’t all stay only children we grow up. You must be one of the lucky few that has found friends that are like your siblings an treat your children like nieces or nephews an gives them cousins to play with. I’ve had a very different outcome and have met others now in a local group of old only children adults lol 😂 and none of us have that bond
I love having just one child. We have an amazing bond and we also love to travel as a family. Great video :)
The best view point
What kind of selfish pricks stops at one child?
I was 39 when my son was born and I'm now 48. He just turned 9. I actually never thought I wanted kids in the first place, then by the time I got married I was 35. At 38 the doctor told us we couldn't conceive and I found out I was pregnant 2 months later. I kind of always knew if I had kids I'd only want one. My son is an amazing boy. He's funny, intelligent, and kind. He is a hard worker and is on the honor roll. He is the light of my life.
I was an only child myself, and I can tell you that I never really felt sad about it. I always had friends. My best friend has a sister, and considers me more of a sister than her actual sister, so there's no guarantee that siblings will be friends.
I would never trade our little family!
Having 1 child family is the best! Me and my wife have a daughter and straight away we realised that having more was not going to work for us. We want to focus all our love to the kid as well as to each other as we are married and still need time to love each other. 1 and done families are extreme love filled homes and if you add a puppy well come on you reach heaven!!
I was an only child it was great. There are pros and cons to both. I got everything I wanted. I had imagination and enjoyed playing alone or with parents. I had tons of cousins and friends. The drawback as an adult is I can be selfish at times, have trouble thinking about others feelings, and compromise. I never had to so when I got with my husband those were challenges for me. Those skills you learn with siblings can help you as an adult. I still turned out great and I am very independent and love my alone time to this day.
Thx for that info . I grew up with 4 other siblings. I worry about my son being depressed and lonely later in life because he has no siblings. Like you though...he has plenty of awesome older cousins.
That's where I'm struggling I want my son Carter to learn to share. But honestly he is 2 and already does a good job of sharing. We out him in Kidville at church but he doesn't interact with the other kids. I'm worried about his social skills developing if he is an only child
@@amberhollowell6170
My son is quite stubborn about sharing or letting other kids play with his toys....It upsets his perfect toy areas. 😂. . Hes a social butterfly though.. I dont think you have to worry about yout sons social skills.
developing...but I'm no expert.
AB yeah that just sounds like a you problem because I’m not even married yet and I’m an only child and I can tell you that I struggle with worrying too much about other peoples feelings and forgetting that I have my own
Hiho Wego honestly I don’t know if this is like an only child thing but I’m also a very social butterfly and I have problems sharing in kindergarten but that’s like every child thing now I just don’t care sharing I don’t really mind it
I totally agree. I’m an only child and had such an amazing upbringing. I really hope my children will love me as much as I love mine. I know it sounds cheesy but my parents knew how to be parents and showed me discipline, respect, love, morals and affection. The list goes on. My parents are 100% my best friends but knew when to be the parent. I was a very content and placid child and that says a lot. I was never screaming for attention. To be honest, I’m still a very placid and content person and I’m now 30. I loved what you said about the three musketeers that is totally us too.
You're 41! Aging has left the chat...
She doesn't look 41
@@wanjirukarago9308 because she’s Asian. They have flawless skin
You can still concive naturally after 40
I hate that whenever I say I only want one kid, everyone is like “it’s going to be so lonely! You’re so selfish!” Look, I only want one so I can put all of my love and support into that kid.
just tell them you can't afford it and if they want to fund it maybe. I tell my mother in law that
Im an only kid and their going to get lonely growing up. Their gonna need/want a playmate
@@nanoelbatero57 or you could try getting off your phone and play with your kid instead of breeding a new play mate.
@@violetm9045 i dont have a kid😐 im an ONLY child. Plus a child is gonna want to be with kids around his age
@@nanoelbatero57 well that makes sense. Someone who has no personal experience posted a stupid comment.
Just came across this video as currently battling with the idea of having an only child! This has helped! We are choosing to have an only child to preserve my mental health xx
Yay singletons! ❤️❤️❤️ my daughter is 7 and I’ve always enjoyed just having her. She is lucky to have close cousins but I love having an only child. I remember when I was younger I had a friend that was an only child, she was the sweetest most sharing person. I actually learned a lot from her in that. It made me realize that stereotype is not true. She most likely became really generous because she didn’t grow up with forced sharing and scarcity and was more eager to make friends because she didn’t have other kids to play with at home.
Reading these comments is just comical. People are really idiots. There are pros and cons to BOTH having just one or having more. No situation is perfect. Holy crap leave her alone man. This is HER experience she’s sharing. Is she making you mad by expressing her joys ? She’s happy with one, some are happy with more. So whatttt lol. I have 1 and I’ll only have 1. I love it. And my friends with more than 1 love their life too. Let’s all just be friends lmao.
Only child familly is the best type of familly it can avoid a lot of issues. Financialy or socialy.... an only child will grow with all the attention and love he need from his parents.
This video helped so much! I absolutely loved the refreshingly honest benefits of raising an only child. I’m a FTM with my first and ONLY due this May 2018 and this pregnancy has been really hard on hubby and I. We really enjoyed life with it just being us two, traveling and many different experiences. So we know adding a little ONE would be a perfect addition to our lifestyle along with providing him/her the world. We also love animals and will always have a dog in our lives so I feel that along with one child would be enough for each of us all around. Thank you for making this video it’s so nice to hear from similar minds coming from similar hearts
It's a new century, it's time to play it smart!
Exactly
Agreed, be financially better off in such an already difficult climate
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I'm a 40 plus only child and I must say my parents did such a great job. I never remember longing for siblings because I was always so busy and imaginative. I never got bored because of it. As a result, that creative brain helped me build a successful online business in my 20s.
I had a bestie that lived across the street so she was like a sibling to me. My situation was really unique because I didn't have cousins my age either. Most were 15-20 yrs older.
I think the key is to make sure your kid has activities so they can socialize with peers. People used to comment how well I adjusted and I think it's because I was always in activities. I never remember feeling lonely. I think the biggest tell that I am an only is I did like being around adults and sometimes would rather be with them than my peers. LOL Sharing also took me some time to grasp but going away to college with roommates helped. I also still like my space as an adult.
I love my me time, but I always adjusted pretty well around others. I think my mom felt giulty because she wanted 2 more (fertility issues) but they did a great job. Don't let anyone guilt you. Just make sure your child has playmates and keep the lines of communication open.
Thanks for posting. My wife and I waited 10 years after we were married to have our first and only child. Yes, we tried to have more than 1 but there were fertility issues that limited our family size to just one. Some positive things about having only one child:
1 - We are able to give our child things that we did not have when we were growing up. For example, we were able to send our daughter to private music lessons. As a result, our daughter has played piano since age 4 and it is such a joy to hear her play.
2 - We were able to send our child to a private school.
3 - We have been told that our daughter is more mature than other kids her age. I suppose the reason is that my wife and I have never treated our daughter like a child. Ever since she was an infant, we talked to her as if she were an adult. Adults have remarked that our daughter seems very "grown-up" and mature for her age.
4 - We are able to go on vacations together. I feel that if we had had more children, we would have had to limit the spending on our trips. Further, when my wife and I were kids, our parents could not go on many trips (I had 3 siblings and my wife had 9 siblings).
Thanks again.
I was youngest of 3 with a 5 year gap between and I can't say for sure but I don't think I really benefitted from having siblings. Maybe if the gap was a year or two but we were all in different stages. Parents money and time was spread thin too! I only have the one child and I think how much more opportunities he will get compared to me. He'll get all our time and effort ❤️
I was the youngest by MANY MANY years so I grew up very alone and on my own and didn't really grow up "with" siblings. I'm introverted and happy to be alone. I love my peaceful and quiet life working at home and hanging with my dogs. I'm nervous to have kids, not sure I will, but if I do, I know that I would only be able to have 1. People also need to consider what they are comfortably able to commit to and can physically handle without falling apart. I know that if I chose to have 1 child I could commit to that and be a good mom... if I had 2 I think I would shrink into being a depressed shell of myself as it would be too much of a burden of responsibility to carry, too stressful and loud and busy with way too much going on. People have limitations. I've thought that I would have 1 child, and if I desired another one way down the road, adoption is definately an option. You can only have children to a certain age before it could effect your health and the health of a child so that is totally fine when people choose to have 1 child because of health reasons, age reasons or becuase they know they will be a better parents just having 1 kid. My thoughts :)
Katelyn Dawn Same, I would be able to commit to my partner, my baby and work. I believe I will do a great job. But I don't think I would be able to commit to my films, husband and two kids 🤔 that's just too crazy, too much, they will argue... NO! It is the better for the child, for my man, for my own career in filmmaking, my lifestyle... It would be the best. Would you have permanent birth control? I trying to figure out if i would...
Thank you for this comment, Katelyn, I feel so similarly. Thanks for putting this out there 🙏
I'm also the youngest by many years and its actually worse than being a single child for me because of the bond my older siblings had growing up together. I don't fit in. Of course I love them but I think I feel more lonely than if I were an actual only child lol
You are the first person to mention adoption! Thank you. I have one child, 2 years old, and I don’t think I can handle the pregnancy and newborn stage again but it’s also comforting to know there is adoption if our family feels small later on and it’s too late to have another child. Also by adopting you are hopefully giving so much to someone that will really benefit from joining a small family.
I’m a young mom. I was 21 when I had my daughter & I’m 23 now. My husband doesn’t really want more kids. I’ve been back and forth for the past 15 months because everyone keeps asking when we are having the next kid. Truth is I feel like it’s sooo much work already I’m not sure I can handle any more. I also went through post partum depression and I’m scared of getting it again but this time with 2 kids. We have a girl pitbull who is only a few months older than our daughter and we raised her since 6weeks old. Training a pitbull while pregnant and hormonal was a huge pain. I love her but it was so stressful. I imagine it will be similar to be pregnant while caring for a toddler. I also don’t want to give up myself to just being a mother. I want to travel. We took our first family vacation when our baby was 4 months old and even tho I was breastfeeding and didn’t have to carry bottles or anything it was hard. I think I would rather dedicate my time to really spending one on one time with my daughter and having more financial freedom to take her on fun trips. She’s already walking and potty training I feel like I finally have some more “me” time. And as much as I love being her mom, I need time to be a wife, dog owner and time for myself. I don’t think I can expand my time and energy any more.
Please if you're unsure about it. Then don't do it. You'll regret it. Don't let others influence you out of your comfort zone.
Selfish mindset
@@eminem2996 that comment says what kind of parent or person u will be or are...Sad
Hey, pls don’t judge! It’s actually selfish bringing in another child just for sake of giving a playmate to older one or having two us a norm. Have child only if you really want to. Not all women who give birth to 4 kids is involved as much as women with one child . It’s not how many but how consciously we parent. You need to be happy parent to set example of happy life to child. So, every aspect f of life is important.
OMG!!! YOUR BABY IS SO CUUTTEEE!! I have 1 child too he is 2 months old and I as well started late. I have always feel guilty that i havent given him a sibling but like you say aside that the fact that you save money, i feel like if you have more than one child, you as a mom become more stressed and eventhough you love them both and cherish them, it becomes more about stop the fights, make sure they are fed and into the bus ontime go, go ,go! As oppose to 1 child you have extra time to bond with him and going out to eat at the restaurant with him is more about having a conversation with him as opposed to stopping them from throwing food at each other. Thats mh thought and yes, your video helped me a lot to prove why I prefer to have only 1 child. TKe care!
I have one 19 year old, and I am a 43 year old empty nester, and I LOVE IT!!!!! I get enjoy my life and enjoy a close relationship with my child.
thanks for being real!!
so many of us struggle with this, thanks for not being fake. its a hard decision to make after having a child, to have them be the only one, and to truly "be done".... thanks
the sharing thing is so true! My sweet boy is just over a year and is SOO SWEET when it comes to playing. We go back and forth on having a second and this video was super helpful! Thanks!
Finally a family on UA-cam thats not the Simpsons
I'm an only child and my fiance and I have planned to only have one child due to financial reasons. I'm 32 and am also "starting late" as we haven't tried yet (getting married in a month). So glad I found this video as it makes me feel better about my being an only child, and our choice to have an only child.
I'm older and running out of time to make my decision to have a second child. I wanted to ask you, as you are an only child, that if finances were not an issue would you have really wanted to have a sibling? I find myself truly torn mostly because the comments run the gamut about what a fulfilling life means for an only child. I'm the sort who feels fulfilled no matter what - but I am not an only child.
Stop giving the financial reason example,you Europeans and americans are mad you buy cars,change mobile phones per year buy expensive things which you hardly use, save the money and the money will be crucial in growing up a child's life be prolife not pro materialistic things give your children nice education spare no expense in that, but for God's sake please don't give financial reason example
When I got married we wanted 4 XD now that mine is 10 months I am very happy with one and done :D so sometimes ones ideas change :)
I am SO glad I found your video. We got married young but didn't start trying fpr a family until we were married for 10yrs. 4 years of fertility issues later and now our little girl is almost 1 and people are asking about a 2nd kiddo. I am almost 37 and my husband, also a Jon, will be 41. We both feel the effects of being older parents and how that might drastically change us as people and as a family
Im also staying with 1 child. It feels right for us as a couple. You gotta look at your own situation and what would be healthiest for you, the couple AND the child. My bf is an only child and never had issues. My dad had a sister but didnt like her growing up and got blamed for everything and got the belt because of it so huge resentment for his parents now. And not that close with her now. So having more than 1 isnt always good.
My husband and I are struggling with this exact decision. We too had fertility issues and I gave birth to my son who is now 6 months old at 37 so my biological clock is ticking very loudly. I feel so blessed too finally have one baby and know I would be so HAPPY with just one but we also feel the pressure of giving our son a sibling to grow up with. I grew up close with my sister and would love for him to have that same kind of bond with a sister or brother. There are so many pros and cons to both and we are definitely still going through multiple night wakings so being exhausted most of the time is also a huge factor. Anyhow I just wanted to says thanks for your take on only one child, you never hear about all the great positives so it was very informative. Your family is so sweet and David is so adorable, love watching your videos! Thanks for putting out great videos, it is very much appreciated 😀
Pixi sc - Awww sounds like we have a lot in common! I would say if you have the energy go for that second baby! I personally, don't have the energy. Something happened to me after I turned 40. My metabolism slowed down, my body is starting to break down, etc... haha. Having a child also aged me so I kinda have everything against me when it comes to having a another child. Thanks for watching!
I’m young , fit, healthy and financially sound. I don’t work and my husband went well. I have house help too. Yet I choose one. I don’t want another for no reason. I’m already happy and we feel so complete. Having child 2 just for the sake of giving playmate but no love or yearning which I had for my first born is selfish. Having single child is very tough. You have to play like sibling at this age. Be there for the child all the time. Having two is easy in the longer run that’s why people have two. But pls have only one if you want to. Selfish ness is in the mind not in actions. People with two children I knew had second one just because what if something bad hope s to first. The other child is not an assurance as playmate or compensator. Bring in another life if we could wholeheartedly or don’t . So , I chose one and I’m done.
I am an only child and I have had many problems with it. I hated it in my early teenage years, since my parents and I had some trouble understanding each other. I do want to point out that being an only kid has a lot of pros for me! My relationship with my parents right now is so wonderful. I am so independent, I make friends more easily and I now love being an only kid, since our house is always chill and there is silence all the time. Studying in my home is definitely goals! I love my home and how our little family of 3 share wonderful memories ✨
The one child family is just fine for me. I have a 17 year old daughter and she has not once ever pined for a sibling though she does have a 29 year old half sister. We are very close and I have always had the income to give her what she wanted. I have an older sister who spent a lifetime bullying me so I didn’t want my daughter to suffer from sibling rivalry. Her friends are jealous of her for being a single child and envy our closeness as well. I do wish society would get over its hang up about the single child. There are lots of benefits. I also had a traumatic birth with her and didn’t want to tempt fate again. She is all I want and need and in no way is just wanting one child selfish plus I’m doing my bit for the planet.
I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this video...
Hallelujah....thank you for this video and sharing on UA-cam. I'm a mom of one happy daughter.
Wow! I’ve been thinking of being OAD and talking more about it on my blog... but I am just so scared to commit. I’ve been more and more confident with our decision, but it always feels like others try to sway me because I’m 30. I do love children though which is why it’s so hard. Anyway, happy to find a like minded mama!
Thank your for sharing your thoughts.
I think it is great to let parents know it is okay to choose what kind of family works for them and that it is okay to have only one child.
Thank you! I really appreciate this. I want my son to know I love him deeply and value him so much. I just can't bare to have another and I hope I will be enough close relatives for him.
Thank you for the video. I grew up the youngest and I hated my older siblings. My parents had to work really hard to support us all so it was a death match when they came home because we all wanted attention. Im not even close with them now. I have friends that are like my siblings and I love them. Im currently pregnant with my one and only child. People are already asking when I'll have the next. I tell them I'm one and done!!!
I have a big family. I am the oldest of 4 children in my house along with many cousins. I agree that you should have as many children as everyone in the family is ok with. Despite all the stress of parenthood, my parents are ok with all of us and do anything to care for us.
You look great for 41! Thanks for the insight. My wife and I have one and I initially wanted several children but lately I’ve been leaning towards being satisfied with one.
I have an only child and my husband and I are happy with that decision! We are content with our triangle family and have no desire to have anymore children. I think our family has come to terms with our decision but it’s funny how outsider always have some kind of comment about it. My daughter is 4 and we were at LensCrafters picking up her first pair of prescription glasses and the lady attending us ask us if we had other children. I said no she’s are only one. She sat there for a few minutes discussing why we should have another child. I’ve come to a place we’re I can have this discussion with out feeling offended and I think that’s why people back off quickly because they can tell that what ever they say will not change our family decision to have one. Your son is beautiful!
How did you deal with family's comments.
Thank you so much for this video. I sometimes feel so guilty that I can only have one. So reading all these comments and seeing the video makes me smile and try and be content.
I am in the same boat. The comments are so uplifting
Thank you I needed this. I appreciate you making this video.
Omg...I understand. I had mine at 35 soon after graduating nursing school. I was so exhausted the first few months. I thought about another, but I just got in track and don't feel like I want anymore.
Yes yes and yes. This is all me and I'm normal and lovable and fun! Haha at least I like to think so which speaks to the confidence part of being an only child. Thank you for this video...having an only child and raising him to be social, happy, and emphathetic is my life goal. I can't wait to see what else is in store for us and seeing our only boys grow! Can't wait for your visit to Seattle!
shinniex - Aaaahhhh excited about our trip and meeting you guys too!!
OMG, Thank you! Thank you! I'm a 26 y.o. mom of a 4 y.o. toddler and everyone tells me that I SHOULD have another child. And I'm like "WHY?!", why people always say their own opinions? Why they need to make me feel selfish if I just want (for now) one child? I have 2 brothers and a sister and we don't have a good relationship, I mean: have brothers and sisters doesn't mean to be happy. Not always. One day, maybe, I will have another child. Your words just made me feel better and better. Thank you!
I love your honesty and this video!
I love being a mom of an only child and my little three person family is amazing! However, there are definitely challenging days where I'm not showing up as the best mom I can be (yelling, getting annoyed, frustrated for my daughter constantly wanting to play with me). Since I found life coaching though I have found these challenging days come fewer and farther between! Amanda Burrows Coaching
I love this video. You said everything perfectly! ❤️
I just subscribed to your channel. I'm so happy you are being honest.
I don’t know how much this video helped me thank u so much
I grew up as an only child and it was tuff. Seperated parents grew up with my mom. I was alone alot and got bullied in school. I had to deal with it all by myself. My mother tried to help but I think I needed a strong father figure. I dont look back and see to much positve just alot of negative. I have two children today. Might have a third one. I know they will always have each other. This world can be very cruel. Good to have a sibling.
Thank you I’m like the only person in my circles with an only child and I love everything you said and those are all the things I believe as well I love having another person who also is in the same mindset!
I really needed this. We struggled with fertility as well. Then went on to have a super scary, miserable pregnancy. I'm 40 now and I'm sure the complications would only be worse. My heart does ache for another, but you're right. It's okay to just have one. He is, and always will be, my baby boy. Thank you for this.
MissCarolZ - Awwww! I would be lying if I said that I don't ever think about having another baby! But usually it's when I find out someone is pregnant with their second that I start to think about it. After that, I don't really care all that much and I remind myself to do my best with my little David and make sure that we raise him right! Thanks for watching!
I have had the same experience, it’s rough x
Thank you for this video. I’ve felt guilty for having one child. I thought I was a bad mom for having only one child despite working hard and providing the best for him. It’s a sense of guilt that I sometimes carry
Same here😢
Thank you for this video!!
Everybody talks about the first child being lonely, if it is an only. I am a second child and i was very close with my sister than my mother. But after her marriage, she became too busy and immediately i felt really really very lonely. I was not close to my mum, and didn't have lot of friends also as my sister was my best friend. It really took a long time to figure out what to do alone. Any my mum didn't have much energy to spend time with me during those years. So please go for second only if you can give attention to your second as well.
how did u deal with lonliness
Thank you
so much for this
I had to look up videos about 1 child because I am exactly at this point. Got married late, had a baby at 39 and now I’m 41 but I am struggling at the fact that I may not have a second child. 😔
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her time is up...
I wouldve never gussed you were 41 thats crazy 😂 . My baby slept theough the night since 4 month very grateful
I have one child. For years my parents and in-laws kept asking when we were having another. My child is turning ten and my step mother is still asking. No way am I having two kids that far apart. My daughter is cute as a button but she's also autistic and struggles with school. She definitely is independent and has no issues being alone. She listens to adults but is sensitive too. Honestly sometimes I feel like I will regret it later on but then I remind myself of my own siblings and how crazy back and fourth the four of us were. Financially it's better for us too. When my husband and I die everything will pass to our child. I'm the trustee of my grandparents will and my uncles and father are already fighting over money. -_-; my only real worry is that with my daughter's condition she tends to fall behind her peers. She's already a year behind in school and while last year it was fine I noticed this year she's not quite at the same intellectual level as her classmates. I fear that she may find it harder as she grows to make and keep friends. She has no siblings and that's where the worry of loneliness comes in.
Thanks for the video. I have one and while I would have wanted another it did not happen for me and I’m ok with it. My daughter is 4 and we are best friends. I see benefits all the time namely I don’t have to split attention. I can schedule whatever activities i want for her and not have to work around another kid needing the same.
I would have much preferred to be an only child. My older brother really put a damper on my childhood. We barely communicate as adults which is fine with me. Not all siblings are close.
Its true that there is no disadvantage to having just one kid.As long as the parents are responsive, engage well, spend enough time interacting and provide constructive guidance, including as role models,.Plus its just as important that they maintain boundaries over what is not acceptable regarding any expectations of the child and behaviours if they arise.My 9yr old grandson is a fantastic only child.Great parenting and his good fortune to be an only child has made him who he is a lot. Addmttedly being an only kid works more for some kids than others and I think families can recognise this.I am wrapt my grandson got to remain an only child.👍👏👏❣️
I wanted two at first solely because I wanted my kid to have a sibling & thought that being an only child was a bad thing. However, I realized how that logic is flawed & after reflecting on the sort of lifestyle my husband and I want vs the lifestyle of having 2 kids (especially 2 under 2), we’ve concluded that 1 is good enough for us. We could change our minds, but we feel at peace with the decision so far.
I have a 10 month old and boi is it hard work - I am 33 and my fiancé is 34. I can’t even start to imagine having two children 😫😩 the exhaustion especially if you are doing mindful parenting. We decided to not put our son in child care until he turns two years old. As a mom, I have had to take a career break to be a parent. I deferred my law school entrance with a scholarship from a very good law school because of my 10 month old son. This is hard work. We also have some help with fiancé’s mother and part time baby sitter. I have not worked since I got pregnant - it will be a total of three years of not working. I am thankful that I had investments to sustain me so I can be just focus on our son. I know this is not the case for most parents. Be cautious in choosing a parenting style that suits your lifestyle, mental health and finances. Mindful hands on parenting is hard work
I know a few friends who are only children and they haven't been hindered in any way at all, from what I've seen. In saying that, I couldn't imagine life without my brother lol, we are super close. At the end of the day, sometimes God choses to give people one child, sometimes more 😊 and God giving us one child to raise for the Kingdom is just as much an important job as is raising 5 kids for the Kingdom! xx
Thanks for your input Lauren! And how awesome that you have a close relationship with your brother! You are very blessed because I know a lot of people with siblings that are not close at all and actually hate each other's guts! I am sure Ezra will enjoy having more siblings! ;)
One of my best friends is an only child and she’s good. Great person. Successful, great friend.
Thank you...I am happy to have a one child family
I love being the only child the attention, things I get, and overall being my parents favorite and giving their love to me
R u really happy being a single child coz I want to know i have a single boy i don't know i shud do another one?
@@prachisawhney1105 being single child is the best..if u have siblings then u have to share and fight for little things..and nowadays kids are more connected to friends rather than siblings.
@@samsung-mh5dt right i agree with yr statement
I'm here trying to feel better and calm my anxiety and guilt. I have a 3 year old boy and I started trying to o get pregnant months ago and it's not happening. I feel so sad for my son, he wants to be around other kids. He wants to play and me and my husband is all he has. I'm so desperate to get him a sibling and not being able to gives me guilt.
I have one kid 4 years ready to give away or share anything because he have confident I have other toys ..he good at giving turns to friends IAM Happy with my husband decision of one kid
I lost both of my parents this year, my dad died early this year and last week I lost my mom, although my siblings live far away, we felt connected and we shared the loss of both of our parents. so I also have 1 child and I am in my late 30s, so its kinda difficult to get pregnant but I started to think about times when both me and my husband leave this world, will he be better off having a sister or a brother... I had difficulties conceiving him, now he is 4 y.o.
You don't look anywhere like 41. I thought you are in your early 30's. GOSH. But you made a good choice. Growing up like a single child myself, I really enjoyed my peaceful life without brother and sisters running around me. :))) And I had the best education I can and many many travel opportunities.
Enjoy the blessings of your marriage & your child . 🙏❤️🙏
# same here
Me and my son's mom are not together but I love only having one kid. She has another kid with another guy she's seems miserable half the time. My son talks about how the difference between my house and her house are extreme. He likes the peace and quiet at my place.
You can never predict how your child will come out . One child or many children it's completely unpredictable.
Well said❤
That’s great that both parents agree on this topic, but what do you do when one wants and another does not ?!
the last thing about parents becoming best friends is kind of a sad thing in my perspective as an only child. i barely have friends because i expect in new friends to be serious and have good things to talk about like adults do, but in reality they won't be like that until much older.
I’m an only child and I have only one too. My parents are super close to me. My mother was my only best friend who I trust and I lost her three months ago. It is so devastating and I can’t accept the fact. I’m
Left with no bestie.
I love this video! I have only one child and I see so many people getting pregnant with there 2nd or 3rd one and this video made me feel better! I’ve seen so many people saying how they want more than one just to give there kid someone to play with or because they want a boy or girl and that’s the only reasons why they want more. I think those are stupid reasons just to have more kids. Of course there’s nothing wrong with having more cause I do want more in the future but some people just wants more for the wrong reasons
I tell my child "I love you the best of all" every night, I couldn't do that if I had 2. I choose quality every time. Oh and people who have many so they don't have to play with them are shortchanging themselves in a bad way!!!
At this point in life, with David being a bit older now, do you now feel any differently about having one child? If you have a surprising update, I'd like to know that too.
I totally agree with you and I don’t have to feel guilty about only want one child and you forgot a BIG thing is how pregnancy changes mommy body and lots of women (including me ) think should we can just wait until we have another child and then you will be 50 and you just want to be as sexy as you were before
No one talks about how mums feels honestly after they give birth to baby
I decided to get my tummy tuck (because of the extra skin that is not going anywhere) only after one baby
As an only child, i hated it. Always wished for an older brother or sister at times. Not only having your parents, but another unbiased family member closer to your age (who therefore can empathize the same stuff better, because they went through it not long ago) would have helped me a lot at times..
Hi, thanks for this video.... Even I'm 38 now and have a 6years old daughter. I'm personally done with one but my child started asking for a baby sister... That really confuses me.. what to do?
I have one child a boy and I’m at peace with it I love him and I love that I only have to worry about him and I can buy him what he needs and life is simple I am a single mom but I can still manage because it’s only child i have to worry about I don’t want anymore I want marriage one day but I know it will be selfish of me not to have anymore kids if the dude has none I hope he has at least one so I won’t have to have anymore at all I went through post partum depresssion and man it’s a lot on my mental health I don’t want anymore
I have a 3 year old daughter and I feel the same way!
Thank You 😊
We have two kids and one of the greatest joys of parenthood is seeing how much my son and daughter love, support and cherish each other. Its a comfort to know that, after I am gone, they will still have each other.
Im the same i only want 1
I have been thorugh so much and is tarumatized, 1 kid for me as well
Thank youuu so much for this video! I feel guilty everyday or ppl make me feel guilty.....they keep asking don't u wanna bring a sibling to your daughter??? Why u made her an only child and that breaks my heart!!!!
Did u conceived again?
@@prachisawhney1105
No we are very happpy this way she has strong personality a calm small family and my husband and i have more time with each other
@@erett8928 thanks dear...i have a boy of seven yrs i m really very confused that I shud do another one or not?
One is plenty
💙
You have a beautiful family!
Wow my kid is definitely a teacher's pet..only child mom 😎
Honesty I am a surgical technician and sell life insurance part time . I have one daughter she was planned . I birth her in Canada and she American Mexican middle eastern .
It’s better to have one child because you have time for yourself . When my daughter was 5 months I shipped her off to her wealthy grandparents she been living there with them ever since it’s the best choice for me . I am work full time and send my daughter money . She be better that way .
I am the oldest of 7 children, I was raised by my grandparents by choice. None I mean none of my siblings really talk to me. I wish they would but the reality is they don't
I hear a lot of people saying that same thing: giving a child a sibling isn’t a good reason to have a second child.... what’s a good reason for having a second child? What’s a good reason for having the first child? I’m really curious as what’s deemed a good reason to bring a child into this world.