42, only child, it was fine. My parents got it right on the first try. I wasn't lonely and I was - and still often am - the envy of my friends who had siblings.
I have only one child. He is 7 now and was the best decision I have made for myself and my family. I know so many people with multiple kids and so so unhappy. I want to enjoy my time and be happy! Free of night deprivation, tantrums or whatever! I have time and money enough left to enjoy my life!! You do you! And who cares what others think!!
The sweet spot for kids is 2. Everything basically goes down hill after 2 kids. But even between 1 or 2 kids, the expenses are double and given today's economy and lack of time, I could still see an advantage of having one child over 2. I personally only think 2 kids is only slightly better than 1. Mostly because you can have one boy and one girl and get the joys of raising both. However, the problem is we don't have.control what we get. While there is ways to influence it, there is no guarantee. I do feel that some people just get too greedy and keep trying to have the other one only to end up with a bunch of boys or a bunch of girls and end up with more kids than they can realistically handle. 2 kids is not too much and assuming you have two parents that are both involved, it's easily doable. However, two kids still can potentially bring issues that wouldn't exist with a single child such as jealousy issues and fighting/arguing. This only can get amplified more with more kids.
I like the idea of pouring all my resources into my one child. I do feel bad not wanting to give my son a sibling but I think I would be a bad mom if I had another child because I am easily stressed out and having one child is already quite stressful. I'm not sure I'd handle two children very well.
Omg I am the same way! I have a just turned 8 month old baby and I am so stressed and overwhelmed with juat him. Plus I work from home full time and he's with me durring the day with the help of his father but it's still stressful. I can't imagine working from home with two. I hate when family ask about if I want more and I say no there so quick to judge. But I don't care because I'm happy with my little family and I rather my son have a healthy happy mother then a sibling.
I'm just here to cheer you on! I wish more people would examine their resources (time, money, energy, patience) and think it over before having multiple children or even having one at all. I knew I didn't have the emotional tolerance for more than one many, many years ago. I stuck to my guns and it worked out great. I am very pro-only! Good for you!
you would only be "stressing out" for a few years while your son has to live his whole life not having anybody else to deeply 100% trust. No aunts, uncles or cousins for his children on his side because of you. Hope you're happy with that selfish decision.
@@fatimamohsinvlogs9945 removing mines was more of a personal decision because my female relatives from both my mom and dad were dropping like flies from ovarian cancer..I also lost my mom to it..but having one child is still a blessing.
I relate to this so much. I am an only child and will likely have only one child for many of the reasons you state. I’m also in my mid thirties and had my son when I was 34. Thank you for sharing this & making others in our position feel validated. ❤️
I COULD not agree more with this. We have a 5 year old and sometimes society does get in my ear about having a second, but when making a decision to have a child, I believe everything you mentioned in this video should be considered as it's a big decision. I don't believe a sibling defines a child, I believe our friendships define us more and I also believe having 2 engaged, happy parents make for a happier child, sibling or not :)
@@abcdefghijklmnopabcd6181 Honestly, for every great sibling story, there's a not-so-great one, so there's never a guarantee that a sibling will bring you a solid support system, sadly.
@@abcdefghijklmnopabcd6181, how do you know for sure that a sibling would be a solid support system later in life? What if they hated you, ignored you, died before you, in jail, on drugs or mentally hill?
When you said you’re 34 my jaw dropped lol you look like you’re in your early 20’s! Anyways, thanks for sharing, I too am one and done and it’s super refreshing finding moms with a similar mindset!
Hey girl! Just found your channel and subscribed 🙂 I am the mama of an only child (3 yr old girl) and we are one and done as well. It’s nice to find other family’s of three who feel complete - literally relate to everything you say in this video. My thoughts exactly.
These reasons are all very valid and realistic! Newborn stage is definitely a rough time. Especially being a first time mom. Thank you for sharing your insights!!
Good for you, hon! I made the same decision 24 years ago when my son was 2. Never regretted it. I was an only child myself and I loved it. Family size is a personal decision and it's nobody else's business, although everybody seems to feel entitled to offer their opinions whether you asked or not! It finally stopped when my son hit elementary school. I think they assumed I tried and couldn't have more or something and we just let them think it. Best wishes!
Isn’t it very awesome to have just 1 person be the entire center of your universe? I tell my only all the time I love you the best of all!! Not everyone can say that!!!
Love that you shared this. I feel like people always question how many kids people have no matter what the number so just do what makes you and your family happy! 🥰
I will NEVER do those intrusive irrational thoughts that i couldn't get out of my head ever again. No one will ever understand until they go through it. Ppd and ppa was the worst. Honestly it was what did it for me. After a few months of baby, I knew that this was the one and done. He is 3 and I am having the best life with him. All my attention is on my 1 and only. I don't have family near by, my spouse travels and just don't have the support. So 1 it is, and I am content with that. The outside noise can keep it to themselves lol
Just curious did you ever get therapy for this? I feel like I had ppd/ppa just like this and I just pushed through but it made me just want to be one and done.
I experienced the same thing. I wish I’d gotten help in hindsight but the intrusive thoughts faded away eventually. I generally was just depressed during pregnancy and in the first year. 17 months in and I am feeling so good. Better than I’ve felt in years. I don’t think I could go back and do it all again and keep my sanity.
Hi! I am 42 and pregnant, I always have this fear in my head that my baby will be alone one day. We also don't have family around. No grandparents, and the rest of the family is not very supportive. How do you handle without family support? Does your kid ask for seeing cousins or other family members?
Hi Ashley, thank you so much for your video! I wanted to point out something that you mentioned, about being selfish. Not sure about the origin of how that term is related to only having one child but the amount of resources I have used with my first one (gas, water, diapers, clothing, etc.) has already surpassed my expectations and he is less than two. I am very worried about our future as a species and what we are doing to our planet. There are many solutions that we know could enhance or drastically decrease the amount of harm we are doing and due to politics we are unable to be successful at. Just food for thought! Loved the video! 🤍
I 💯 agree with you! You have to be confident in your choice and do what's right for your family. I've never understood how people could ask/question someone else about THEIR family planning. I find it very rude and frankly NONE of their business to be asking in the first place💗
Omg I can sooo relate! Im pregnant now, with my first and I hate bieng pregnant. I'm so glad my hubby and I agreed on just having 1 child. I know I'll be a 1 and done. You're not selfish, don't let others pressure you into having more kids if you don't want to. You don't have to explain or justify. You go girl! Enjoy your life.
Love this. I have struggled to have a second child and am now infertile (no tubes due to two ectopic pregnancies) and could only had a second through IVF. It has got the the stage where I wonder if going through that is worth it when we could just cherish what we have with our son. Thank you for the video, it’s very comforting to here the confidence in your choice :)
I have two children, but my second pregnancy and newborn stage with my daughter definitely made me realize I can’t do it again. Mentally I just can’t. The newborn stage is no joke lol.
Two children is enough. Heck, one child is enough. The only reason my wife and I want to try to a second is that we want a daughter, but we agreed to stop at 2 children. We know fully well we might end up with two boys, as opposed to a son and a daughter which is whag we want.
Hi Ashley! I’m a mom of now myself and write a blog post a while back about the myth around only child. All these reasons you listed are so valid! My kid is 3. I am sometimes considering having one more... for her. She like company and sometimes I feel like she’d be thrilled with a sibling. But then all of the comments I read on here give m me more reasons to wait. 😬 It’ll be exciting to follow your story. share opinions you hear and how genuinely it makes you feel... this will be helpful to us your audience. You could also talk about the financial aspect of raising a kid and dig deeper into the emotional demand. I look fwd to more!
your not alone my daughter is almost 3 and I just want 1 kid, but i always wonder what would life be with 2. I guess you could wait until your kid is 5 in kindergarten that why their more independent
Me too, one and done, there’s no guarantee that second child will get along with the first one, many siblings don’t even talk with each other for years even when they become adults, also there’s no guarantee second child will be born healthy, so many kids are born with health issues and special needs and parents end up taking care of them till they die.
father to a four month year old and totally support you and feel the same. My wife is also very on board. Really appreciate your share here since most people need to hear it from somebody in the trenches.
Your desire to have an only child it not much different then your desire to have an only spouse; you VALUE that single relationship and dont see how having 2 spouses are better then one. Children are no different, I would rather have 1 child and value that relationship above all all then to have many and feel them all watered down!
@@AshleyThomas0923 Its part of my theory of the best of all. I got the concept from Lauren Sandler’s book “One and Only” chapter 5, “Where someone loves you best of all”. I know that book wasn’t written for me and I don’t agree with her really much at all. But I found inspiration in that chapter for sure.
I always thought I was odd thinking this way. This is exactly how I have put it before. I almost feel a loyalty to my daughter to put her first . Having another wouldn't be fair on the "new" baby 💚
When I clicked on this video and noticed you were one and done, and then saw my son has the same exact toys on our shelf I felt like I was looking in the mirror! 😂 instantly subscribed!! Thanks for the content!!!
I agree with you. I know you will raise your child with all the love he/she needs. I'm not an only child and to tell you he truth I dont get alot of love like my younger sibling.
Thats awesome that you can stick to what you want and not feel guilty about it society makes it so hard to be our true selves. I currently have one but only because infertility is a factor I wanted 5 at one point but at this point I just want at least one more.. everyone is different and thats 100 percent ok ❤ subscribed because you seem so authentic
I came across this video b/c I'm in the midst of a crisis of guilt. My daughter is almost 14 y/o and I am starting to regret having an only, not for myself but for her. We are well past the baby years and toddler melt downs, it was hard for me at the time to realize that those stages are temporary. Now she is at an age where I can see the downsides for her of being an only child. When we travel she has no one her own age to hang with, she has been spending the summer at home alone with the dog. She is too old for the summer day camps and not old enough for a car and job. She truly seems so lonely. Just having me and her dad don't seem to be enough. She is such a wonderful kid, not spoiled, very kind, smart, super funny. I feel this horrible pit in my gut that I made the wrong choice. We all love our children so much. I hate that I feel I deprived her of a sibling. It might hit you too as your son grows up, they are so much more independent and easier to handle. I'm also dreading that I only have 4 more years before she graduates and will be likely off to college. I just don't know what I'm going to do without her around everyday, It's kinda overwhelming
Thats so emotional to read. Thank you for your perspective. My husband thinks we are too old now. 42 and 45 and he is right.. But i agree with what u say... The hardship is temporary and when my son is older im sure he would want a subling. He had no cousin and no aunties that eve visit or car. I feel he has such a small family.
@perfectlyprincessparties1660, that is not a "downside" of being an only child. People don't have to have someone their own age to hang out with. That doesn't make sense. Children should learn to be able to hang out and do things with all kinds of people of any age. And a sibling wouldn't help. Your 14-year old daughter would probably find a 9 year old or 10-year-old younger brother annoying. If she doesn't enjoy you and her dad, I don't think ONE younger, baby sibling would make much difference. Maybe she just finds the vacation boring. Or maybe you could ask a female friend or female cousin who is the EXACT age as your daughter to go along. However, I think she needs to learn how to enjoy herself with all people, not just with a sibling and not just with people her own age. Also, people with siblings get lonely. So siblings are not a cure for that. What seems to help loneliness is having friends your exact age and the same sex as you. Siblings can be years younger and the opposite sex. And, again, people with siblings can be lonely. I think the major cure for loneliness is to find enjoyment in being in the company with people. Your parents are people. Siblings or people your own age shouldn't be the only people you can have a good time with. Your daughter should enjoy your company and her dad's company as well. If she does not enjoy your company, there is no guarantee that she will enjoy a sibling's company. Having another human being for another child is not a good idea, in my opinion. You should have a child because you want one, not as a human toy for your current child.
I was an only child and I would travel to be with my grandparents in the summers, even at her age. I loved hanging out with my grandparents and all their friends. To this day I prefer talking to the older people at the coffee shop or on campus than I do people my own age. Haha Not sure if this will be the case with your child, but 14,15,16 is only 3 years of their life. There might be benefits in her life later in that you just can't see yet.
I’m so happy you made this video . I was starting to feel guilty because I don’t want any kids . But people keep telling me don’t leave him in this world on his own like accuse me it’s a billion people on this planet no way in hell would he be alone . But I can’t lie it’s scary to think about him being alone .. idk I’m confused but thanks for this video I loved every minute of it ♥️♥️♥️
Despite a billion people on the planet, an only child is indeed alone once parents and grandparents have left this world. Cousins, uncles and aunts are great, so are friends, but there is nothing that compares to having a sibling who grew up with you, understands you, and who go through life with you. During life's tough times you want that one person who you can turn to and most often that's a sibling. A billion other don't share your child's DNA, background, history, won't stop and listen to them when there's a problem. If a person's only child dies, kaput, that's it, the bloodline is gone for good unless that child had children. Also, more children equals more love.
But how will your son be alone? Don't you have cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, nieces, nephews, etc.? What if the sibling dies young or what if the sibling does not like your son?
@@texan903, a sibling might not understand you. And going thru life is not important. What is important is that someone is there for you and cares about you. They don't have to go through life with you. Besides, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, romantic partners and children can go through life with you. People also can turn to cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, romantic partners, their children and even their church group during life's tough times. You could have a sibling who does not listen to you or your problems. Heck, some siblings are the REASON for your problems. And what if a person has two children and their bloodline is gone for good? Also, more children can equal more chaos, frustration, competition, and resentment and hate.
I only want to have one child. I’m a teacher, previously preschool soon to be elementary, and I love being around lots of kids but at the end of the day I like that they leave at the end of the day 😂.
I’m a former preschool teacher and now I tutor after teaching second grade and special education. I am SHOCKED how little academic things I want to do with my child. She’s going to be an only as well. I realize parenting and teaching are very different. I just don’t want to cram my daughter full of facts. I thought I would want more kids but one is enough. It turns out I enjoy being paid to teach and be with a lot of kids 😂
I have a baby girl and my husband and I decided from the very beginning to only have her. My pregnancy was high risk, my baby spent months in the niccu, I’ve experienced depression and anxiety because of all that, I enjoyed being pregnant but at the same time it was traumatic for me. So honestly I don’t want to go though it again. I’ll just spoil my little girl forever 🥰
Wow. Thanks for this video. Finally I found someone who went thru the same. All points you mention ✅✅✅ So far I have never met anyone with whom I could share 100% all this. Thank you for daring to say it all out loud. I am not there yet to say only 1 as my son is 15m only so things may change. My partner is there for quite a while that one and done is it. He says he is super happy and fulfilled - I do not feel it yet. Rather confused about topic of 2nd. No need to say I am soon 40 🤭
I have zero desire to be pregnant again or ever go through the newborn stage. Especially since my son is five now. I really can’t imagine being in the newborn phase again.
We made the same decision. It was a hard one for me because I love the newborn stage and I liked being pregnant for the most part but with my health and my husband being consistently against another child since before our daughter was born we collectively decided we're done.
For those that think a sibling equates to companionship… not really. Myself and many friends I know who have siblings close in age, we’re not close to our sibling as adults. We have completely different personalities that clash and we’re not close.
I always thought it was so rude when people would ask parents of only children get asked 'why didn't you have more!?'. Some could only handle one child, some wanted more but due to illnesses or infertility, they couldn't have more. Mind your own business!
@@AshleyThomas0923 it really has helped. I have one child and I feel the same way. Zero desire to have another. My son is only 15 months and I'm still trying to find my feet most days
Lmfao so random but I was waiting to see you drink your coffee and when you finally did I was like ahhhh. There we go 😂. It looked so good just sitting there saying “drink me Ashley!”
This is a tough topic to tackle, and one that's really tied in with emotions, for sure! No matter how many kids a family has, I feel like you will always run into big opinions about YOUR family, which is just something odd about humanity. haha! What's most important is that you're at peace with your own family size.
Thanks for this video, I agree with you with all but I am struggling with the siblings question and the fact that I might take that experience away from my child. It's true we can't control the outcome of siblings will get along but at least they'll have the experience... Its a tough one.
You are so me . Any tips on birth control . That’s the only thing that scares me if I get pregnant without wanting it .I’m 35 and feel that I’m one and done
Hi! I have one kid too, I would like to know how you deal with the social pressure to have the second one? I mean when a friend or family ask about your choice of having just one?? THX😊
Hoping you’re still one and done. Don’t feel guilty about being selfish and still caring about your wants and needs! You’re allowed to and it’s so much easier for saving up for things you want when you ONLY have one. You have an identity outside of motherhood and I’m tired of society guilt tripping moms for that. Your choice is valid
Thank you for your vidoe. Has helped me. How do you deal with playdates? Im always stressed will my onsie be lonely. What have you thought about the future? Another vidoe would be fab. Thanks from Ireland
As an only child I hope if you stay firm with this choice your kid doesn't turn out like me. I'm 14 and so so lonely. Being an only child seems ideal to people with siblings but I spend everyday imagining I had an older brother or sister. My cousins are all 30+ so they're close but I always feel left out with them because we have no relationship. If you know your child will have cousins that's fine but don't depend on them having friends or you and your husband because it isn't always enough. I hope you take this into consideration instead of just what YOU want. I think parents like the idea of having a baby but they don't think about how miserable their kid could end up.
@urcinnamongirll, if you are lonely, do something about it. It has nothing to do with siblings. People can have siblings and be lonely. Why don't you do things with your parents? Make friends at school. Babysit younger children. Hang out with your cousins. It doesn't matter if they are closer. You can still have a relationship with them. Having a sibling does not mean they will like you or be your friend. What if you had a sibling and they hang out with their friends or their romantic partners, or cousins? Then you are still left out. So if you are lonely and miserable, do something about it. Stop waiting for imaginary siblings who might leave you in the dusk. Get out there and enjoy life and make some connections. It's up to you. Siblings are not the only people whom can keep you from being lonely. If you are miserable and lonely, it's up to you to make a change. Enjoy your parents, your friends, cousins etc. Please, stop worrying about "what if?" You don't know the future. Again, you don't know if a sibling would be with you later in life either.
@@renealexander2703 none of those relationships are the same. i have friends and i do things with my parents. i barely see my cousins and they’re all in their 30s or 40s because my parents had me later. i don’t like younger kids so i’d only want an older sibling. and yes you can still be lonely with siblings but in most cases even if you fight your older sibling they’ll still love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. being an only child it sucks knowing once my mom and dad pass i could be all alone. my parents are already older than my friends parents.
@@urcinnamongirll , no sibling relationship is the same. Some siblings can be loving and some can be awful. Some siblings fight you because they don't love you and never will. If that's the case, cousins and friends and others can fight you and love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. My point is, it doesn't have to be a sibling. Even if you had ONE sibling, you could STILL be alone. What if your ONE sibling died before you or your parents? What if your ONE sibling didn't like you and you barely saw them? Instead of crying about imaginary siblings and waiting for your parents to die, go out and make some connections. Connect with friends, cousins, or whomever. If you are lonely and it sucks, it has nothing to do with being an only child. You could have ONE sibling and still complain about the very same thing. Again, people with siblings complain about being alone and being lonely. If you are lonely and your life sucks, do something about it. It's on YOU.
@@renealexander2703I agree with you so much. I have two older siblings, we have barely a relationship. Growing up they hated me and wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. The rejection hurt so badly and my brother was my biggest bully whenever he did bother to acknowledge me. My mom could never leave us alone because she couldn’t trust him. Didn’t change much when I got older, neither sibling has visited me since I moved 8 years ago, any effort to see or have a relationship is 100% on me. My sister invited myself and my son to a fair, she promptly ditched her daughter with me and disappeared for over an hour to chat with her mom friends. I’ve made wonderful friendships with others that I treasure and are much more meaningful than the relationships with my siblings.
Hi,👉👪👍 It is better to have only one child! This is - very altruistic decision! Moreover 😅 do you know that 🤗 only children in full family - who grow up with both parents (mom and dad) - are very kind, skillful, half batter toleration to frustration, the other kids! Also they are very sociable, they are very friendly and they wants to share everything with everyone! That because of when only child, see only keys are here mom and dad, and by not having siblings concentrates on them - Jersey bounce to create the same type of relationship we've found one of his age. And that is a reason why I only children are NOT spoiled, but absolutely kind and charming people! A child can be spoiled selfie sure and narcissistic if he's or shark parents divorce, but if you're in full family things are absolutely different! We have over Planet overpopulated, and I wish - more people would not be selfishness, and stop after having their first and only child! 💚🌍👉👪👍
He isnit the one who has to have it growing g in his belly for 9 months. He's it the only who has to go through all the stuff that goes along with that either!!
As an 18 year old who is an only child. (please read everything) Please please please don't do it. It's fun for the parents but not for the kid. Nearly every only child i have met wished they d had siblings. An only child just won't have a solid support system during his/her life and are very very lonely. If your doubting and you read this. Please don't do it! All the articles or videos that talk positively about having an only child is from the perspective of the parents. The articles and videos from the perspective of only children themselve however, are nearly always negative. I think two kids is the best! If you can't have another child biologically please adopt one! I really wish my parents had done that for me
Siblings are not the only ones who can give you a support system. And some siblings are not a support system. You can have a sibling and be lonely. So if you are lonely, that's on you. I'm an only child and I was NEVER lonely. The only children that I know are not lonely either. And you say have two kids. What if they don't like each other? What if one child hangs out with friends, cousins, their spouse and children and leaves the other sibling lonely and in the dusk?
Disagree. I am one of 3 and childhood sucked i could never get the things I wanted, I was the middle child and looked over, we all fought so bad. I missed out on the sports and passions I wanted to pursue bc wasn’t enough money for all of us. It’s not worth biting off more than you can chew just to give a kid siblings. I don’t even have a relationship with my one sibling and the other one we didn’t get along for years. My son will be an only child and he’s thriving he’s never lonely he has so many friends and other family members. He’s so happy.
As an only child on my mom side it suck to be alone because u don't have anyone around ur age to communicate with I understand it's takes money and time but it would be nice to have a sibling because they will always be with u , u can do stuff together with them that ur own parents won't do with u and u can communicate with them anytime ,and ur siblings tend to understand u and have ur back more but with friends it's hard because they come and go , that's y I'm not gonna have only one child especially if I know I'm not do certain fun things with them all the time ...I would want my child to have siblings they be with because friends won't always be around u .
@itz.gee.x8589, why does someone have to be around your age to communicate with? Don't you go to school or see other people? And a sibling is not always with you. And some siblings will not do stuff with you. What if you are a 14 year old boy who does not want to do things with his 11-year old sister? What if the 14-year old boy wants to hang out with other 14-year old boys? And siblings do not always understand you. And some siblings will bully you. Siblings can come and go. And what about cousins? Siblings don't do fun things with each other either. Many siblings fight each other. And siblings aren't always around you. No one is never always around anyone.
@@itz.gee.x8589, you can have a sibling and be very lonely. If you are lonely, that's on you. Get out and make connections with all kinds of people. Stop discriminating against people due to their ages. Make friends with your parents, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, spouses, and make friends. Get a pet. Become more social and do things. If you are lonely, thats on you. What if you had a sibling who had friends, cousins, a romantic partner and did things with your parents and others and left you crying in the dusk about being lonely?
How is a child growing up in solitary confinement? She is not growing up on a deserted island away from people. And how is ONE sibling going to make a difference? If thats the case, wouldn't the child and the ONE sibling be growing up in solitary confinement?
42, only child, it was fine. My parents got it right on the first try. I wasn't lonely and I was - and still often am - the envy of my friends who had siblings.
I have only one child. He is 7 now and was the best decision I have made for myself and my family. I know so many people with multiple kids and so so unhappy. I want to enjoy my time and be happy! Free of night deprivation, tantrums or whatever!
I have time and money enough left to enjoy my life!!
You do you! And who cares what others think!!
The sweet spot for kids is 2. Everything basically goes down hill after 2 kids. But even between 1 or 2 kids, the expenses are double and given today's economy and lack of time, I could still see an advantage of having one child over 2.
I personally only think 2 kids is only slightly better than 1. Mostly because you can have one boy and one girl and get the joys of raising both. However, the problem is we don't have.control what we get. While there is ways to influence it, there is no guarantee. I do feel that some people just get too greedy and keep trying to have the other one only to end up with a bunch of boys or a bunch of girls and end up with more kids than they can realistically handle.
2 kids is not too much and assuming you have two parents that are both involved, it's easily doable. However, two kids still can potentially bring issues that wouldn't exist with a single child such as jealousy issues and fighting/arguing. This only can get amplified more with more kids.
I like the idea of pouring all my resources into my one child. I do feel bad not wanting to give my son a sibling but I think I would be a bad mom if I had another child because I am easily stressed out and having one child is already quite stressful. I'm not sure I'd handle two children very well.
Omg I am the same way! I have a just turned 8 month old baby and I am so stressed and overwhelmed with juat him. Plus I work from home full time and he's with me durring the day with the help of his father but it's still stressful. I can't imagine working from home with two. I hate when family ask about if I want more and I say no there so quick to judge. But I don't care because I'm happy with my little family and I rather my son have a healthy happy mother then a sibling.
So true!
I'm just here to cheer you on! I wish more people would examine their resources (time, money, energy, patience) and think it over before having multiple children or even having one at all. I knew I didn't have the emotional tolerance for more than one many, many years ago. I stuck to my guns and it worked out great. I am very pro-only! Good for you!
you would only be "stressing out" for a few years while your son has to live his whole life not having anybody else to deeply 100% trust. No aunts, uncles or cousins for his children on his side because of you. Hope you're happy with that selfish decision.
@@shaylaranae7920 so true
It’s so refreshing to find someone who thinks just like me. I’m so glad I only have one child and that I got my ovaries removed.
Thanks Lorena! It's definitely not the popular opinion, but that's okay. Hope you subscribe for more!
Why ovaries remove ? I Hope you have good health.. We Are Also supporting this thought and have one daughter
@@fatimamohsinvlogs9945 removing mines was more of a personal decision because my female relatives from both my mom and dad were dropping like flies from ovarian cancer..I also lost my mom to it..but having one child is still a blessing.
yes!!!!! because I feel the exact same
I don't mind being an only child either. I never wanted siblings.
I relate to this so much. I am an only child and will likely have only one child for many of the reasons you state. I’m also in my mid thirties and had my son when I was 34. Thank you for sharing this & making others in our position feel validated. ❤️
I was an only child and I too will have a singke kid . I never felt lonely
I COULD not agree more with this. We have a 5 year old and sometimes society does get in my ear about having a second, but when making a decision to have a child, I believe everything you mentioned in this video should be considered as it's a big decision. I don't believe a sibling defines a child, I believe our friendships define us more and I also believe having 2 engaged, happy parents make for a happier child, sibling or not :)
So well said! Thank you ❤️
As an only child, I really wish i had had a sibling so i would have had a solid supportsystem later in life
@@abcdefghijklmnopabcd6181 Honestly, for every great sibling story, there's a not-so-great one, so there's never a guarantee that a sibling will bring you a solid support system, sadly.
@@abcdefghijklmnopabcd6181, how do you know for sure that a sibling would be a solid support system later in life? What if they hated you, ignored you, died before you, in jail, on drugs or mentally hill?
@@abcdefghijklmnopabcd6181, anybody can be a solid support system to you later in life. It doesn't have to be a sibling. Support is support.
When you said you’re 34 my jaw dropped lol you look like you’re in your early 20’s!
Anyways, thanks for sharing, I too am one and done and it’s super refreshing finding moms with a similar mindset!
Wow! Thanks!!
I'm one and done I've been through so much trauma in my life and I need healing
Hey girl! Just found your channel and subscribed 🙂 I am the mama of an only child (3 yr old girl) and we are one and done as well. It’s nice to find other family’s of three who feel complete - literally relate to everything you say in this video. My thoughts exactly.
These reasons are all very valid and realistic! Newborn stage is definitely a rough time. Especially being a first time mom. Thank you for sharing your insights!!
Thank you!
Thank you for your honesty and for sharing, I relate to a lot of your reasons.
Good for you, hon! I made the same decision 24 years ago when my son was 2. Never regretted it. I was an only child myself and I loved it. Family size is a personal decision and it's nobody else's business, although everybody seems to feel entitled to offer their opinions whether you asked or not! It finally stopped when my son hit elementary school. I think they assumed I tried and couldn't have more or something and we just let them think it. Best wishes!
Isn’t it very awesome to have just 1 person be the entire center of your universe? I tell my only all the time I love you the best of all!! Not everyone can say that!!!
Love that you shared this. I feel like people always question how many kids people have no matter what the number so just do what makes you and your family happy! 🥰
Thanks so much. You’re exactly right!
I will NEVER do those intrusive irrational thoughts that i couldn't get out of my head ever again. No one will ever understand until they go through it. Ppd and ppa was the worst. Honestly it was what did it for me. After a few months of baby, I knew that this was the one and done. He is 3 and I am having the best life with him. All my attention is on my 1 and only. I don't have family near by, my spouse travels and just don't have the support. So 1 it is, and I am content with that. The outside noise can keep it to themselves lol
Just curious did you ever get therapy for this? I feel like I had ppd/ppa just like this and I just pushed through but it made me just want to be one and done.
I Really relate to this!!!
I experienced the same thing. I wish I’d gotten help in hindsight but the intrusive thoughts faded away eventually. I generally was just depressed during pregnancy and in the first year. 17 months in and I am feeling so good. Better than I’ve felt in years. I don’t think I could go back and do it all again and keep my sanity.
Hi! I am 42 and pregnant, I always have this fear in my head that my baby will be alone one day. We also don't have family around. No grandparents, and the rest of the family is not very supportive. How do you handle without family support? Does your kid ask for seeing cousins or other family members?
Hi Ashley, thank you so much for your video! I wanted to point out something that you mentioned, about being selfish. Not sure about the origin of how that term is related to only having one child but the amount of resources I have used with my first one (gas, water, diapers, clothing, etc.) has already surpassed my expectations and he is less than two. I am very worried about our future as a species and what we are doing to our planet. There are many solutions that we know could enhance or drastically decrease the amount of harm we are doing and due to politics we are unable to be successful at. Just food for thought! Loved the video! 🤍
This is SO validating thank you for this ❤️
I 💯 agree with you! You have to be confident in your choice and do what's right for your family. I've never understood how people could ask/question someone else about THEIR family planning. I find it very rude and frankly NONE of their business to be asking in the first place💗
I love your comment so much! ❤️
Omg I can sooo relate! Im pregnant now, with my first and I hate bieng pregnant. I'm so glad my hubby and I agreed on just having 1 child. I know I'll be a 1 and done. You're not selfish, don't let others pressure you into having more kids if you don't want to. You don't have to explain or justify. You go girl! Enjoy your life.
I totally relate to and agree with everything you said!! I so love this video!!
Love this. I have struggled to have a second child and am now infertile (no tubes due to two ectopic pregnancies) and could only had a second through IVF. It has got the the stage where I wonder if going through that is worth it when we could just cherish what we have with our son. Thank you for the video, it’s very comforting to here the confidence in your choice :)
That’s a legitimate concern! I’m hoping you find peace in your decision.
I have two children, but my second pregnancy and newborn stage with my daughter definitely made me realize I can’t do it again. Mentally I just can’t. The newborn stage is no joke lol.
I'm so glad someone can relate!
Two children is enough. Heck, one child is enough. The only reason my wife and I want to try to a second is that we want a daughter, but we agreed to stop at 2 children. We know fully well we might end up with two boys, as opposed to a son and a daughter which is whag we want.
Hi Ashley! I’m a mom of now myself and write a blog post a while back about the myth around only child. All these reasons you listed are so valid!
My kid is 3. I am sometimes considering having one more... for her. She like company and sometimes I feel like she’d be thrilled with a sibling. But then all of the comments I read on here give m me more reasons to wait. 😬
It’ll be exciting to follow your story. share opinions you hear and how genuinely it makes you feel... this will be helpful to us your audience. You could also talk about the financial aspect of raising a kid and dig deeper into the emotional demand.
I look fwd to more!
Thanks so much for your perspective!
your not alone my daughter is almost 3 and I just want 1 kid, but i always wonder what would life be with 2. I guess you could wait until your kid is 5 in kindergarten that why their more independent
Me too, one and done, there’s no guarantee that second child will get along with the first one, many siblings don’t even talk with each other for years even when they become adults, also there’s no guarantee second child will be born healthy, so many kids are born with health issues and special needs and parents end up taking care of them till they die.
You’re so right! Hope you subscribe for more videos. Thanks for watching!
father to a four month year old and totally support you and feel the same. My wife is also very on board. Really appreciate your share here since most people need to hear it from somebody in the trenches.
Your desire to have an only child it not much different then your desire to have an only spouse; you VALUE that single relationship and dont see how having 2 spouses are better then one. Children are no different, I would rather have 1 child and value that relationship above all all then to have many and feel them all watered down!
Never thought of that way! Interesting perspective ❤️
@@AshleyThomas0923 Its part of my theory of the best of all. I got the concept from Lauren Sandler’s book “One and Only” chapter 5, “Where someone loves you best of all”. I know that book wasn’t written for me and I don’t agree with her really much at all. But I found inspiration in that chapter for sure.
I always thought I was odd thinking this way.
This is exactly how I have put it before.
I almost feel a loyalty to my daughter to put her first . Having another wouldn't be fair on the "new" baby 💚
Good point. If we only have one spouse, what's wrong with having only one child?
When I clicked on this video and noticed you were one and done, and then saw my son has the same exact toys on our shelf I felt like I was looking in the mirror! 😂 instantly subscribed!! Thanks for the content!!!
Oh my gosh! Really? Are you on Instagram?
@@AshleyThomas0923 yes I am! _rachelwall
I think you’re very brave making this video. I have one daughter and suffered ppd. It scares me going through that again. Sending you love from 🇬🇧 uk
Thank you so much!
I agree with you. I know you will raise your child with all the love he/she needs. I'm not an only child and to tell you he truth I dont get alot of love like my younger sibling.
Thats awesome that you can stick to what you want and not feel guilty about it society makes it so hard to be our true selves. I currently have one but only because infertility is a factor I wanted 5 at one point but at this point I just want at least one more.. everyone is different and thats 100 percent ok ❤ subscribed because you seem so authentic
Thinking about you and journey! Thanks so much for subscribing! I appreciate genuine subscribers. ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you! ❤
I came across this video b/c I'm in the midst of a crisis of guilt. My daughter is almost 14 y/o and I am starting to regret having an only, not for myself but for her. We are well past the baby years and toddler melt downs, it was hard for me at the time to realize that those stages are temporary.
Now she is at an age where I can see the downsides for her of being an only child. When we travel she has no one her own age to hang with, she has been spending the summer at home alone with the dog. She is too old for the summer day camps and not old enough for a car and job. She truly seems so lonely. Just having me and her dad don't seem to be enough.
She is such a wonderful kid, not spoiled, very kind, smart, super funny. I feel this horrible pit in my gut that I made the wrong choice. We all love our children so much. I hate that I feel I deprived her of a sibling. It might hit you too as your son grows up, they are so much more independent and easier to handle. I'm also dreading that I only have 4 more years before she graduates and will be likely off to college. I just don't know what I'm going to do without her around everyday, It's kinda overwhelming
Thats so emotional to read. Thank you for your perspective. My husband thinks we are too old now. 42 and 45 and he is right.. But i agree with what u say... The hardship is temporary and when my son is older im sure he would want a subling. He had no cousin and no aunties that eve visit or car. I feel he has such a small family.
@perfectlyprincessparties1660, that is not a "downside" of being an only child. People don't have to have someone their own age to hang out with. That doesn't make sense. Children should learn to be able to hang out and do things with all kinds of people of any age. And a sibling wouldn't help. Your 14-year old daughter would probably find a 9 year old or 10-year-old younger brother annoying. If she doesn't enjoy you and her dad, I don't think ONE younger, baby sibling would make much difference. Maybe she just finds the vacation boring. Or maybe you could ask a female friend or female cousin who is the EXACT age as your daughter to go along. However, I think she needs to learn how to enjoy herself with all people, not just with a sibling and not just with people her own age. Also, people with siblings get lonely. So siblings are not a cure for that. What seems to help loneliness is having friends your exact age and the same sex as you. Siblings can be years younger and the opposite sex. And, again, people with siblings can be lonely. I think the major cure for loneliness is to find enjoyment in being in the company with people. Your parents are people. Siblings or people your own age shouldn't be the only people you can have a good time with. Your daughter should enjoy your company and her dad's company as well. If she does not enjoy your company, there is no guarantee that she will enjoy a sibling's company. Having another human being for another child is not a good idea, in my opinion. You should have a child because you want one, not as a human toy for your current child.
I was an only child and I would travel to be with my grandparents in the summers, even at her age. I loved hanging out with my grandparents and all their friends. To this day I prefer talking to the older people at the coffee shop or on campus than I do people my own age. Haha
Not sure if this will be the case with your child, but 14,15,16 is only 3 years of their life. There might be benefits in her life later in that you just can't see yet.
I’m so happy you made this video . I was starting to feel guilty because I don’t want any kids . But people keep telling me don’t leave him in this world on his own like accuse me it’s a billion people on this planet no way in hell would he be alone . But I can’t lie it’s scary to think about him being alone .. idk I’m confused but thanks for this video I loved every minute of it ♥️♥️♥️
Despite a billion people on the planet, an only child is indeed alone once parents and grandparents have left this world. Cousins, uncles and aunts are great, so are friends, but there is nothing that compares to having a sibling who grew up with you, understands you, and who go through life with you. During life's tough times you want that one person who you can turn to and most often that's a sibling. A billion other don't share your child's DNA, background, history, won't stop and listen to them when there's a problem. If a person's only child dies, kaput, that's it, the bloodline is gone for good unless that child had children. Also, more children equals more love.
But how will your son be alone? Don't you have cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, nieces, nephews, etc.? What if the sibling dies young or what if the sibling does not like your son?
@@texan903, a sibling might not understand you. And going thru life is not important. What is important is that someone is there for you and cares about you. They don't have to go through life with you. Besides, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, romantic partners and children can go through life with you. People also can turn to cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, romantic partners, their children and even their church group during life's tough times. You could have a sibling who does not listen to you or your problems. Heck, some siblings are the REASON for your problems. And what if a person has two children and their bloodline is gone for good? Also, more children can equal more chaos, frustration, competition, and resentment and hate.
I only want to have one child. I’m a teacher, previously preschool soon to be elementary, and I love being around lots of kids but at the end of the day I like that they leave at the end of the day 😂.
I’m a former preschool teacher and now I tutor after teaching second grade and special education. I am SHOCKED how little academic things I want to do with my child. She’s going to be an only as well. I realize parenting and teaching are very different. I just don’t want to cram my daughter full of facts. I thought I would want more kids but one is enough. It turns out I enjoy being paid to teach and be with a lot of kids 😂
I have a baby girl and my husband and I decided from the very beginning to only have her. My pregnancy was high risk, my baby spent months in the niccu, I’ve experienced depression and anxiety because of all that, I enjoyed being pregnant but at the same time it was traumatic for me. So honestly I don’t want to go though it again. I’ll just spoil my little girl forever 🥰
Wow. Thanks for this video. Finally I found someone who went thru the same. All points you mention ✅✅✅ So far I have never met anyone with whom I could share 100% all this. Thank you for daring to say it all out loud.
I am not there yet to say only 1 as my son is 15m only so things may change. My partner is there for quite a while that one and done is it. He says he is super happy and fulfilled - I do not feel it yet. Rather confused about topic of 2nd. No need to say I am soon 40 🤭
Thank you for this video! We are in the same boat
I have zero desire to be pregnant again or ever go through the newborn stage. Especially since my son is five now. I really can’t imagine being in the newborn phase again.
Newborn stage was hard!
That’s a very hard situation 🙏🏻
We made the same decision. It was a hard one for me because I love the newborn stage and I liked being pregnant for the most part but with my health and my husband being consistently against another child since before our daughter was born we collectively decided we're done.
I know it’s hard ❤️
What's wrong with only wanting one child don't let Society dictate your choice
For those that think a sibling equates to companionship… not really. Myself and many friends I know who have siblings close in age, we’re not close to our sibling as adults. We have completely different personalities that clash and we’re not close.
I always thought it was so rude when people would ask parents of only children get asked 'why didn't you have more!?'. Some could only handle one child, some wanted more but due to illnesses or infertility, they couldn't have more. Mind your own business!
Thank you for posting this
Hope it helps you in some way
@@AshleyThomas0923 it really has helped. I have one child and I feel the same way. Zero desire to have another. My son is only 15 months and I'm still trying to find my feet most days
Lmfao so random but I was waiting to see you drink your coffee and when you finally did I was like ahhhh. There we go 😂. It looked so good just sitting there saying “drink me Ashley!”
Oh my gosh! Lol!
This is a tough topic to tackle, and one that's really tied in with emotions, for sure! No matter how many kids a family has, I feel like you will always run into big opinions about YOUR family, which is just something odd about humanity. haha! What's most important is that you're at peace with your own family size.
All true!
Loved this video! I agree with so many points you made! Are you still one and done?
Yes
Thanks for this video, I agree with you with all but I am struggling with the siblings question and the fact that I might take that experience away from my child. It's true we can't control the outcome of siblings will get along but at least they'll have the experience... Its a tough one.
Siblings are definitely something to cherish if you have them. I’ve definitely thought about this. But I’m a peace with our decision.
This is 100% where I struggle! I literally would *only* have another child to give my kid this dynamic.
Everyone does not have to have the sibling experience. The siblings experpience can be a hit and miss.
@@niasteadley , only have another child if you want the child.
You are so me . Any tips on birth control . That’s the only thing that scares me if I get pregnant without wanting it .I’m 35 and feel that I’m one and done
Thanks
Love you Goober!
Hi! I have one kid too, I would like to know how you deal with the social pressure to have the second one? I mean when a friend or family ask about your choice of having just one?? THX😊
Hoping you’re still one and done. Don’t feel guilty about being selfish and still caring about your wants and needs! You’re allowed to and it’s so much easier for saving up for things you want when you ONLY have one. You have an identity outside of motherhood and I’m tired of society guilt tripping moms for that. Your choice is valid
I think I also want the same thing, just one!
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Sounds identical to me :) We are one and done to
Thank you for your vidoe. Has helped me. How do you deal with playdates? Im always stressed will my onsie be lonely. What have you thought about the future? Another vidoe would be fab. Thanks from Ireland
We have play dates with friends from school. He has been in a daycare setting since he’s very young.
As an only child I hope if you stay firm with this choice your kid doesn't turn out like me. I'm 14 and so so lonely. Being an only child seems ideal to people with siblings but I spend everyday imagining I had an older brother or sister. My cousins are all 30+ so they're close but I always feel left out with them because we have no relationship. If you know your child will have cousins that's fine but don't depend on them having friends or you and your husband because it isn't always enough. I hope you take this into consideration instead of just what YOU want. I think parents like the idea of having a baby but they don't think about how miserable their kid could end up.
@urcinnamongirll, if you are lonely, do something about it. It has nothing to do with siblings. People can have siblings and be lonely. Why don't you do things with your parents? Make friends at school. Babysit younger children. Hang out with your cousins. It doesn't matter if they are closer. You can still have a relationship with them. Having a sibling does not mean they will like you or be your friend. What if you had a sibling and they hang out with their friends or their romantic partners, or cousins? Then you are still left out. So if you are lonely and miserable, do something about it. Stop waiting for imaginary siblings who might leave you in the dusk. Get out there and enjoy life and make some connections. It's up to you. Siblings are not the only people whom can keep you from being lonely. If you are miserable and lonely, it's up to you to make a change. Enjoy your parents, your friends, cousins etc. Please, stop worrying about "what if?" You don't know the future. Again, you don't know if a sibling would be with you later in life either.
@@renealexander2703 none of those relationships are the same. i have friends and i do things with my parents. i barely see my cousins and they’re all in their 30s or 40s because my parents had me later. i don’t like younger kids so i’d only want an older sibling. and yes you can still be lonely with siblings but in most cases even if you fight your older sibling they’ll still love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. being an only child it sucks knowing once my mom and dad pass i could be all alone. my parents are already older than my friends parents.
@@urcinnamongirll , no sibling relationship is the same. Some siblings can be loving and some can be awful. Some siblings fight you because they don't love you and never will. If that's the case, cousins and friends and others can fight you and love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. My point is, it doesn't have to be a sibling. Even if you had ONE sibling, you could STILL be alone. What if your ONE sibling died before you or your parents? What if your ONE sibling didn't like you and you barely saw them? Instead of crying about imaginary siblings and waiting for your parents to die, go out and make some connections. Connect with friends, cousins, or whomever. If you are lonely and it sucks, it has nothing to do with being an only child. You could have ONE sibling and still complain about the very same thing. Again, people with siblings complain about being alone and being lonely. If you are lonely and your life sucks, do something about it. It's on YOU.
@@renealexander2703I agree with you so much. I have two older siblings, we have barely a relationship. Growing up they hated me and wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. The rejection hurt so badly and my brother was my biggest bully whenever he did bother to acknowledge me. My mom could never leave us alone because she couldn’t trust him. Didn’t change much when I got older, neither sibling has visited me since I moved 8 years ago, any effort to see or have a relationship is 100% on me. My sister invited myself and my son to a fair, she promptly ditched her daughter with me and disappeared for over an hour to chat with her mom friends. I’ve made wonderful friendships with others that I treasure and are much more meaningful than the relationships with my siblings.
My daughter 12 I actually knew early I only wanted one and I’m definitely not going back now lol
My Husband and I are thinking about having kids, I only want 1.
Even if one has invalid reasons, its fine to not have kids! Its 2021 and an option. Marriage and/or kids.
You’re absolutely right ❤️
My opinion is don’t pressure them I’m an only child and I hate it
Hi,👉👪👍 It is better to have only one child! This is - very altruistic decision!
Moreover 😅 do you know that 🤗 only children in full family - who grow up with both parents (mom and dad) - are very kind, skillful, half batter toleration to frustration, the other kids! Also they are very sociable, they are very friendly and they wants to share everything with everyone! That because of when only child, see only keys are here mom and dad, and by not having siblings concentrates on them - Jersey bounce to create the same type of relationship we've found one of his age. And that is a reason why I only children are NOT spoiled, but absolutely kind and charming people! A child can be spoiled selfie sure and narcissistic if he's or shark parents divorce, but if you're in full family things are absolutely different!
We have over Planet overpopulated, and I wish - more people would not be selfishness, and stop after having their first and only child! 💚🌍👉👪👍
I agree with their, my kindest, most loyal friends are onlies ❤️
we are having a big issue with my husband because he really wants another child and I don't... I am literally struggling
That’s so hard!
He isnit the one who has to have it growing g in his belly for 9 months. He's it the only who has to go through all the stuff that goes along with that either!!
One and done
hated pregnancy it's not fun sharing a body when your past 20 weeks pregnant.
As an 18 year old who is an only child. (please read everything) Please please please don't do it. It's fun for the parents but not for the kid. Nearly every only child i have met wished they d had siblings. An only child just won't have a solid support system during his/her life and are very very lonely. If your doubting and you read this. Please don't do it! All the articles or videos that talk positively about having an only child is from the perspective of the parents. The articles and videos from the perspective of only children themselve however, are nearly always negative. I think two kids is the best! If you can't have another child biologically please adopt one! I really wish my parents had done that for me
0 kids is the best.
Siblings are not the only ones who can give you a support system. And some siblings are not a support system. You can have a sibling and be lonely. So if you are lonely, that's on you. I'm an only child and I was NEVER lonely. The only children that I know are not lonely either. And you say have two kids. What if they don't like each other? What if one child hangs out with friends, cousins, their spouse and children and leaves the other sibling lonely and in the dusk?
Disagree. I am one of 3 and childhood sucked i could never get the things I wanted, I was the middle child and looked over, we all fought so bad. I missed out on the sports and passions I wanted to pursue bc wasn’t enough money for all of us. It’s not worth biting off more than you can chew just to give a kid siblings. I don’t even have a relationship with my one sibling and the other one we didn’t get along for years. My son will be an only child and he’s thriving he’s never lonely he has so many friends and other family members. He’s so happy.
You are lonely. Think about it, having siblings is not the cure
As an only child on my mom side it suck to be alone because u don't have anyone around ur age to communicate with I understand it's takes money and time but it would be nice to have a sibling because they will always be with u , u can do stuff together with them that ur own parents won't do with u and u can communicate with them anytime ,and ur siblings tend to understand u and have ur back more but with friends it's hard because they come and go , that's y I'm not gonna have only one child especially if I know I'm not do certain fun things with them all the time ...I would want my child to have siblings they be with because friends won't always be around u .
What I'm basically saying is that it's can be very lonely
I have sibilings close in age. Our personalities are completely opposite we are not really close. A sibiling does NOT guarantee companionship!
My sister was 4 years younger, and we didnt not get along although we loved each other. She is the complete opposite of me.
@itz.gee.x8589, why does someone have to be around your age to communicate with? Don't you go to school or see other people? And a sibling is not always with you. And some siblings will not do stuff with you. What if you are a 14 year old boy who does not want to do things with his 11-year old sister? What if the 14-year old boy wants to hang out with other 14-year old boys? And siblings do not always understand you. And some siblings will bully you. Siblings can come and go. And what about cousins? Siblings don't do fun things with each other either. Many siblings fight each other. And siblings aren't always around you. No one is never always around anyone.
@@itz.gee.x8589, you can have a sibling and be very lonely. If you are lonely, that's on you. Get out and make connections with all kinds of people. Stop discriminating against people due to their ages. Make friends with your parents, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, spouses, and make friends. Get a pet. Become more social and do things. If you are lonely, thats on you. What if you had a sibling who had friends, cousins, a romantic partner and did things with your parents and others and left you crying in the dusk about being lonely?
honny have 8 kids and live
It’s never expensive to have more kids, you just gotta make more money!! Don’t let your kid grow up in solitary confinement.
I was an only child, and I turned out fine
How is a child growing up in solitary confinement? She is not growing up on a deserted island away from people. And how is ONE sibling going to make a difference? If thats the case, wouldn't the child and the ONE sibling be growing up in solitary confinement?
I think,if newborn stage is easy..everybody wants more than 1 child.
I’m sure for some!
Sounds like you where pressured into having a child … just being real …. 😕
It took us awhile to make the decision on our own that we wanted a child. I wouldn’t have it any other way!
That was rude to say obviously she loves and wants her son. She just doesn't want another baby. How could you say something so awful.