I have always struggled to tell people they're affecting me in a negative way without hurting them. Cuz I do love and appreciate these people. So usually I just end up in a toxic situation or I just cut them off completely. This video has truly been life changing. It's really reassuring to hear from another person that there's a way to talk and keep someone's dignity intact! Thanks! Love you!
Same here I'm asking God for strength to help me do this. I had to unlearn the opinion that addressing a negative relationship would make me seem judgmental. Some relationships are seasonal and have reached their time to be complete. I'm praying for us. We got this in Jesus' name!
Hi Lisa. My favorite plus one when I go through a “complete relationship” is to be grateful . My true words are: 1. I am grateful for the memories and laughter you have built with me. 2. I am proud of the person you are- I focused on the traits I admired him for. 3. I am honored to have the opportunity to love from my heart. However:. 1. I feel we have grown to be different people now, and this is not working. 2. I want us to end before we make something that was so beautiful ugly. 3. We meet people for a reason and a season sometimes, and now I chose for this season to be over, while we still respect each other. Bcz we are not working anymore as a couple/friend, and it’s absolutely okay. Memories were made and lessons were learnt . :).
My biggest BOL is listening to my gut feeling and going with it. I ended a short term friendship that felt super toxic early on and with the little info I knew about them I made it a compassionate break up. They ended up reacting negatively about it. This is first time I didn’t go into freaking out for hurting their feelings mode. I would doubt myself and back track and then ask for their forgiveness just for someone else’s sake. We would then be fake friends and I’d feel worse about the relationship because I didn’t do what was best for me. This is huge growth for me because now I can make more room for myself to breathe without entertaining someone I don’t want to pour into. Thank you very much for sharing this tool with me. Now I know how to complete relationships with confidence and ease.
Thank you. My best friend, whom I’ve been friends with for 21 years has recently expressed some beliefs that I are just painful. I want to detach from her, but I want to do so compassionately because I love her. Thank you for this video.
I love the fact that I can be complete in the relationship instead of so cold and cut throat about it. It helps me respect, and still add value to the person as well as myself. Thank you.
Needed this! I have been transforming how I want to go into my romantic relationships after divorce and I wanted to find ways to kindly bring up hard topics. ♥️ After being verbally abused, I tend to get reactive. I’m going to practice this to regain control over how I treat others. From a place of calm strength, not loud fear.
Omg! I needed this soooooooo badly! I have a hard time letting go of relationships that need to come to an end. Or when I do end it, it's usually a result of a major blow up. Now I know how to maturely handle a let down. Thank you Lisa!
I needed this a long time ago. I'm always at a loss for how to talk with people. Just breaking things off with the spouse after realizing what I've always seen was fated and not something that could be changed. Narcissists are very damaged people. Too bad since I've been with this one life times. But I realized he is teaching me certain things.
‘I didn’t understand all of it’...this is what I love about you. You’re real and you’re not pretending to to be someone you’re not. It makes you so relatable
Lisa - all I can say is WOW, WOW, and another WOW. I am a very kind and loving type of person, so these types of conversations are usually challenging for me to have as I never want to hurt anyone in the process. In the past, I usually just have told the person that I need some space and in time the relationship eventually dissolved. But your +3 approach is wonderful and allows the person to still be with dignity, even after you deem the relationship "complete". Love this. Adding this to my spiritual vault! You are wonderful and so appreciate you and all your inspiration throughout the years. Blessings!! :)
This is the PERFECT template I need to leave my job today. I recently realized that not everyone has to be my cup of tea but it doesn't make them bad or my enemy. I'm glad I have this technique for today as I lovingly completed this relationship that was there for me when I most needed it, but no longer serves me at this juncture.
Hello Lisa this is what i needed to hear...i've sat here all day trying to figure out how to talk to my daughter after our argument. I prayed to God earlier to speak to me and through me...this is right on time...thanks my sister in Christ
This came at the PERFECT time!!! I've been worrying myself for 3 days thinking of how to end a friendship. I over explain and most times think about how they will be hurt instead of foing what's best for me. I have to put my needs as a priority. I will definitely be using this !!! Thank you Lisa
I watched you many years ago Lisa and everything you said resonated with me, but it was missing one key aspect for me, the acknowledgment of God, not the universe, but God. I realised the relationship that needed attention was not the one I had with myself, but the relationship I had with God. God recently led me to watch a video of yours and I heard you mention God, and that made my heart rejoice! This was the missing factor for me when I watched you so many years ago. It took some time before I realised God was what I was really searching for. However your teachings were such a blessing at that stage of my life. Thank you for helping me change my mindset, I look nothing like the person I used to be, and I know the best is yet to come. I can now relate all of these principles back to the bible, it has strengthened my faith and given me a sense of freedom that I could never have imagined before. I’m so happy to be listening to you again, I feel God is moving me into another season and I can’t wait to see the plan unfold 😊🙏
I just started doing Personal Development. I have a health coach, and I started Herbalife to change my lifestyle. I LOVE listening to you every morning!
Thanks Lisa, I enjoy listening to you! I have higher self esteem now putting myself first,not feeling guilty my children are grown it's my time to live, buy a house, start a business, travel.I just love your life story very powerful! Thanks 😊👍
Lisa, I just wanted to thank you for giving me the wisdom and the strength to leave an abusive and toxic 26 year marriage. Thanks to your words 20 months ago I had the courage to move out. He is still a part of my life and while things are better he continues to control and abuse me. BUT, thanks again to you, TODAY I found the words to say that I realize it is time for our relationship to end. That I love, Respect and Appreciate everything he is doing for me and has done for me. I said there are great things in our relationship but the toxic things out weigh the good. Thank you for doing what you do. TODAY I began a new chapter in my life.
Lisa, I'm so fired up watching and hearing you speak. I was a volunteer parent counsellor to young students. After that stint, I had been going around schools to motivate students. I so love your speeches. Love you.
A friend shared this video with me and I sorely needed it. "Leave their dignity intact. That's what you owe, not them, but that's what you owe the person you've committed to being." Thank you Sister. Peace and prosperity to you.
Thank you Lisa. The episode how to complete a relationship in a healthy way helped me move on from one that did not serve me anymore. I liked your qoute" when you are completing a relationship, leave that person dignity alone" Alleluia!!! Did I learn from that? Thank you Lisa. I am so thankful that I had you to guide me through it. Lisa you have disrupted me soul and I am on the move to search for a new me. I watched one of your episode where you where talking about the difference between showing a story in and telling a story. Ohhh Boy !!! I learned so much from that. You asked " what is your story ? Are you ready to share your story ? If not what are you waiting for" I felt like you knew exactly what was going on in my mind because I have a juicy story and did not know where to start. I have been podcasting because of fear . I need you Lisa Nichols. I am your tribe now. Yeeeeehhhh!!!! I look forward to walk through it with you. I feel like I worn a jackpot today because I am able to write to you. I have been watching you for a while now and l thank you for pushing me out of my comfort zone. Thank you for encouraging me to dream . Thank you for teaching me how to comfortable being different in the crow. Thank you for teaching me how to fall madly of me. Love you Lisa Nichols. I can not wait to meet with you someday.
This is what I love about Lisa. She is real. In the beginning of this video there was background noise and I LOVE her response. She wasn't interested in making it a perfect noise free recording, her focus was her MESSAGE. This small gesture is why I love listening to her, she is an authentic woman. 🥰
I’ve just turned 19 and within my 19 years of life I’ve never heard someone speak from love the way Lisa does. I was angry and upset but after hearing Lisa speak I want to be able to love myself and others the way she loves herself and others
As i sat here thinking about that convo that i need to have with him, i began to feel the hurt and agrivation. So i decided to uplift myself with youtube like usual. Found your vid! Just what i needed, when i needed it. I was dreading how i will feel after. Now i know i will feel empowered and will be able to let him go to his higher journey, whatever that may be. Doesnt universe have an amazing way of delivering what we ask for?! Lisa, you have an amazing gift with words and i thank my God for you. Thank you for course correcting me... again!!!
This video left me broken, in a good way, broke my old ways of leaving a toxic relationship with grudges and hurt. Now I know how to leave a relationship without any hate. 😊
Thank you so much, Lisa, for this profound wisdom and insight of ending relationships in a graceful way! Definitely it is a path of communication that I am going to take from now on! Thank you! The last time when I really needed this kind of advice was very recently when I ended up a relationship with a person for whom I had sincere feelings but from his side was the desire to be only friends with sometimes benefits. I needed to learn how to walk away from people that no longer bring me happiness, who don't appreciate me, who treat me in a way that I know I don't deserve and etc. The letting go process of this person happened very harshly with "I just cannot be your friend. I have feelings and there is nothing wrong with that. If you don't share them, fair point. But I am Done tolerating your bullshit behavior towards me." Since that moment on he vanished for me and I ignored his existence as much as possible. It was very hard because we were living and working together at that time... Thank you again for this amazing strategy how to make the ending process smoother and less painful! :)
I am so confident about discussing this issue with my husband's daughter now that I have the tools to start the conversation at a +3, I will start our conversation by affirming my relationship and tell her that I appreciate her good intentions, however, I need to do this on my own and I need to do this now. Thank you Lisa
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Hi Lisa, Every day is a work in progress. Although this topic is a huge pill to swallow, surely it's a lesson learned. The norm for me was, folks seem to not quite understand that once I turn the page, I have already put a period on that chapter. Done is Done. Yet they still think all is well. Unbelievable!!! Thank you kindly for shining light on a more effective way to communicate and still love them from a very longgggg distance. You're AWESOME, LISA! Thank you! Many Blessings!
I am listening to this for the second time, I was fortunate to let go of a toxic relationship with my "friend" using your tips. I am free. Thank you sooo much Lisa.
Once again thank you Lisa. I needed this video some months ago when I decided to end x2 relationships that were not serving me and was unhealthy for me. I thought it was kinder to stop communication than destroy the individuals with my words. Trust me I knew I had grown even then because a year ago or two, I would not have thought about leaving their dignity in tact. So the way I dealt with the situation was much kinder than what I would have done years ago. However, I now know that I have a better tool to help me bring closure, if I ever need to do so again. Often that’s just it we don’t know what tools to use but we do know we need to exit the relationship ASAP. Again, thank you🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’ve had to have a conversation with my co worker in the past about his attitude towards me on the job . I waited till after our trip and discreetly had a chat . By then things had calmed down and I approached him with the right attitude and he actually apologized and said he’ll do better 🙏 Most people can’t help themselves and I’ve learnt to not take on their toxic energy - it’s not my responsibility 🎉
I have grown a little more in this moment. I’m am discovering my 360 abundance lately and these 11mins could have very well just saved my relationship. As I watch you and grow on my journey with the secret, I feel myself reaching a place that I fear some of my friendships will have to be completed. Thank you for showing me how to complete my relationships with love and truth.
As usual this is right on time. There are a few in my life who I love dearly, however I realize they've become anchors instead of engines. Clinging to me to always be the one pulling them along, but have become comfortable dragging their legs, while Ive been doing all the pulling. Wondering how to release them in love
Wow! Kasey. That's deep. I hear Oprah and Steve Harvey talk about this very thing. Are they helping or do they have their feet up while you're doing all the pulling (the work). Tough conversations had to be had but Lisa definitely provided such a great tool to use. Good luck and wishing you the best.
Kasey Tucker ~ I totally relate! I have always been a “yes” girl. I am the first one to step up, embrace, advocate, support whether emotionally or financially to helping. With that being said, what I’ve come to realize is that sometimes I wasn’t really helping because the lesson to be learned was theirs.
I can relate to that. What I have learnt is that BOUNDARIES are crucial. Setting boundaries for them to respect our space, but most important setting boundaries for us , to refrain ourselves. The challenge is to recognize when we are, realistically, intruding in people's lives, crossing inadvertently THEIR own boundaries, even when we have the best intentions, and we think it is for their own good. Sometimes, unconsciously and voluntarily, we take their burdens away and end up carrying them on our shoulders. It is even worse if we want them to avoid experiencing certain emotions. They need to experience them anyway, that is life 101. It is part of their journey. Best luck!
BOL: Thank you so much Lisa now I know how to start the conversation off when I want to end my relationship. That way he will know the things I did appreciate about him.
Lisa....I went full blown ego over the weekend with my husband...knowing I was in it and not recalling a single tool to help me out of it lovingly or with dignity for us both...I received the email this morning with the link to this episode of your show and knew it was intended for me...I watched it twice already and took notes...while I don't know that I have made the decision to be complete with my marriage, what I do know is that I must have a dignified conversation with him. This Plus 3 Me gives me the tool and framework for having that conversation with him. I am grateful for the support that you and your team share with me from afar. I feel very isolated on this journey of starting my own business and the challenges and sabotage shows up in the most insidious ways...with much gratitude and love...Phil
Thank you for this! This a BOL for me. Just because a relationship is no longer a fit for me or is not helping me grow, that doesn't mean that the person is bad or wrong. Development and growth are hard and a lot of people will not do them. I have a person in my social circle that I need to do this with, and now I have the tools
This is such a powerful message. I too am guilty of the Benihanna method. I wanted them to FEEL the dismissal from my life! It takes me FOREVER to dismiss negative people so, when I finally decide to do it, I'm near the boiling point. And I'm usually in mental pain from the relationship. Plus 3. Plus 3. Plus 3. I'm getting better. Feeling better. THANK YOU LISA NICHOLS for being a light in my life. You have no idea. Even when I don't comment, I'm listening. Wishing you much L❤VE & Light! I L❤VE YOU.
I found you Lisa about two years ago and I started listening to all your speaches online. It has been an on going progress since and at some time it's hard as I am alone on the battle but I keep going. In so many aspects I found as you would be me and lived my life. I want to send you my big appreciation for all support you gave me by publishing your shows and others. Thank you so much. Jola
I'm currently reading 7 habits of highly effective people. I bought it again because I have new audible. This time around, I absorbed the content very well. That was your recommendation so thank you. I working on my circle of influence and interdependence. Interdependence is something I'm trying to learn so I can be a stronger me this next season. I know what you mean about cutting people off haha 😂. I'm the queen of that. I've written a prayer for the exact type of friends I'm looking for this next season. I believe in the power of my words both spoken and written. Thank you for teaching me how to cut people off more graciously. Currently, I don't have too many in my circle so I'm ready to add people and build a tribe.
Thank you SO much for this video!! I have a friendship that has definitely served its purpose and I feel complete with it. I have not wanted to take the cowardly way out of just not responding to her anymore but I haven't been able to figure out how to let her know. This is absolutely beautiful and is so much more in alignment with who I am. It's hard to complete a friendship, and I feel better knowing I can do it leaving her dignity in tact. Truly, thank you Lisa!!!
I am seeing this video 4 years after the fact…and the timing is perfect. You have equipped me with a tool that I can use to have those hard conversations that I usually avoid.
This video echoes a message I heard a long time ago, and didn't really understand until I started working on myself, the saying is " When everything is alright with me, I don't need to make you wrong".
Hellos Lisa, I began watching you because someone I met said that I reminded them of you. I have heard this more than once, so I hade to view your videos and see what the fuss was about. I LOVE YOU, and every time I see you, it makes me cry, I cry because I do see me, because you show me what is possible, because you have walked over the coals of fire and healed your feet against defeat. Thank you for keeping me inspired to be the best me, so that I can continue inspiring other women to be their best. YOU ARE AMAZING !!! BTW, me and the lady who introduced me to you are now best friends.
Plus 3 them (what I love, respect and appreciate/honour about you) and speak my truth in love (what I have recognized is that I am complete with this relationship as there are parts of the relationship that are not working for me. I realise I would like to love you from a distance and I would like that distance to begin now). I'm grateful to see that I have used this technique before. It's very important that I leave people with the dignity intact without feeling like I'm not speaking truth. I am grateful for this lesson Lisa.
The universe (God) sent this straight to me! I'm going thru a seperation and needed this soo badly! I love my partner but I feel it's best that we be friends from a distance.
There's this friend I have, she's great, I absolutely adore her but lately things haven't been he same. It is like.. We're meant to be different and the differences are conflicting. Though I loved her presence in my life, but now the same presence is making me anxious and sad. Things arent working out. I was avoiding her, and we both got hurt this way, but now that I've got this *plus three* method, I'll be able to "complete" The relationship and not "break" It, with keeping her dignity intact! Thanks a lot for this. I appreciate it. 🙇♀️🙇♀️
So very powerful with excellent timing!!! I so needed this. I am healed of needing to take this step but not knowing how. The 3-steps places the c in class with pulling away from completed relationships with everyone fulfilled and healthy and complete. Thank you Lisa.......God Bless you my dear.
I was in need of this today. A friend pointed me to you and I realized I've already seen one of your videos that I really liked. I have been sorely feeling that there were important conversations I needed to have and I didn't know how to have them without them becoming negative. This was really good guidance, thank you.
Thank you so much Lisa, it can be difficut to walk away when there's still love. We have to elevate to become our greatest version. When we elevate dynamics and interests may change.
I am truly grateful for this lesson Lisa Nichols I will apply this to my life with family and friends along with my personal self -development journey.
Thank you so much Lisa. I’m guilty of always listing what I don’t like about the relationships I have to them but I know now not to do that anymore. I’m going to end it peacefully with their dignity in tact.
This is wonderful. I am so glad I have continued content here. I have been rewatching talks of yours on youtube for at least a year now. My aha moment that I am taking into the new year with me is to leave every conversation ensuring the person you are talking to has there dignity intact. I think why that resonates with me is because I can apply it to every single conversation and not just hard ones. And that includes conversations with myself. Have a happy and prosperous new year lovelies. I am over joyed to join the tribe.
Thank you Lisa, I have so needed this. I have a family member, that I have to talk with, and did not know how, so I was just avoiding and it was stressing me out to the point of anxiety. This is such a better way to approach the situation . Treating people with love, respect, is the way I want to operate
i think i hold onto the past too tightly, and i don’t want to lose who they were to me in the past. but i have to move forward or i’ll be left behind. and that makes me cry. but thank you for these words
The first video today I got from UA-cam was this video I needed it so badly...thank you for making me gain my consciousness about what I am doing and what I should be doing.....
I've found myself having a lot of Benihana conversations this week! Thank you for this video because I need to have complete my relationship with my best friend Monday and this will be a very helpful tool.
Thank you,Lisa! I have tried to have right conversation with someone i find it difficult to be around. And its true it has become mutual but difficult ending. With this right tool you just mention about the '3me', i am looking forward to try this communication again. This relationship has been put off since early this year. Its time we need to grow in our own space before we can work as a team in this relationship.
Doing what’s right even when it’s uncomfortable,is for YOU,I just sent a kind loving text to my mom,I want to lift her up,and show appreciation to her,I literally stayed away from her until I got ME RIGHT,Like Lisa says always give from your saucer, never get from your cup!
Hi Lisa, I want to start by thanking you! I am a 26 year old single mother and I started my journey with your abundance now audiobook (I absolutely loved it), I find your voice and straight forward advice so compelling. I have been struggling so much lately ( I'm teary just thinking about it all) a friendship that has been a part of my life for over 20 years has come to an end and I believe that her integrity or lack of has made our relationship run it's course, however, because I'm in such a difficult place in my life I miss her, I feel so alone and sad and I think that with the lack of love and support is making me feel as though I should just give her another chance. Maybe this is weakness in me but I would love your opinion on this matter.
I relate that reading “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens” was easier to digest compared to “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”! Spot on with your comment Lisa! It may help other adults to be directed to reading material that is easier to understand who would otherwise give up or walk away with little comprehension.
Thank you. I have been following you since the Power to Pivot with Dean G. I love you energy and convictions. I had a conversation with my daughter that i wanted to be validated ,but there are certain topics that we disagree on. I had a breakthough with a conversation that i had with my mother. I told my daughter she disagreed with the way i spoke to her. I found that at the end of the conversation with my daughter i needed to justify my actions about what i said to my mother to her( my daughter). I want a do over with my daughter. I am 58 years old and am try to heal my past.
Everyone single of yours videos touches me. I am constantly having breakthrough and it feels amazing. Be able to feel in peace and realize that we don’t need to take or hurt people in order to grown and let go it it’s priceless. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I’m ready for 2019 to start and I’m doing the activities your teaching us. 🤗🙏🏼
Thank you for this Lisa, like so many, the timing is so poignant, I don’t have to confront this kind of thing often, I keep a wonderful circle with a conscious energy about it and who I keep near, unfortunately, the need for this very conversation has cropped up and I wanted to do it the best I could and this video was perfect for correcting my own energy. So I’ve had the conversation now. Even though I felt better for lifting them, I felt a pain that was not catered to, then in another well timed vid that cropped up on my timeline, someone reminded me to cover my heart and soul with the balm of forgiveness which has also really helped my healing process. And I wanted to reinforce that here. Thank you so much xx
Omgggggg I got the ding on my phone and immediately came to watch... was not disappointed! The universe knows exactly what I'm going through and how I needed this. Thank you Lisa ...and team, you are like a fairy god mother to me 💜 +3 all the way!
I needed to hear this. I at many times want to tell my boss how I feel which isn't good, but she has been good to me at times. My job isn't doing well with my spirit. I hope to remember this when I turn in my resignation. Blessings
This is great! I came across this video right when I got a text from a toxic person that I have been having trouble "getting rid of". Of course because I have been thinking in the way of "get rid of" this person, I have also been thinking of how to get this person to understand that I can not be in constant contact, I can not be the therapist and I am not in a place where I have enough energy to spare helping them through the constant influx of negative that keeps hitting the life they lead. and do this without telling them how awful they are for the journey I am on now. I have tried suggesting they watch some of your shows, or lectures, I have suggested they meditate or begin a yoga practice, etc. However, what I find is that they don't want to heal themselves, they don't want to do the work. They want me to be their healing. In response to my suggestions on how to replace the negative energy they place on the path in front of them with positive energy, they respond with, "see that is why I need you in my life, that is why I have you, that's why I need you so you can tell me what to do, I need you to tell me how to fix myself" UGH!! NO NO NO! I feel that is why I can not continue to be a part of their life. I am doing the work for myself because I am the only one who can control the energy that surrounds me. I am not a spirit guide. I can only make suggestions based on what works for me and that may not be what works for someone else. I cannot take responsibility for someone else's personal energy. Its draining me. I need to get good with me and then get good with my children and then get good with our path and then get good with a community who wants to do the work to get good with themselves. Thank you for helping me find the verbal process to let go without going back because I feel bad for hurting them. I need to carry myself and my children. I also have begun to put it out there that I will meet Lisa Nichols in person with in 2 years! :)
Honestly, I needed this for a great conversation I need with my mom. We’ve finally went our separate ways as far as me now being an “adult” and it seems like every conversation does go down because of the downers we do say towards each other. Leading our disagreements to go no where or end badly
Lisa, this video so blessed me! I not only need to apply this technique in my own life, but I will be sharing it in my group. This right here, is Godly wisdom!
Thank you for the plus+3me. Doing that does make sense. I always say put yourself in that person shoes and I agree by all means they'll still have dignity. The negative-3 leads to anger, hatred, strife and bitterness. Thanks again for the empowerment..keep it coming!
Leaving their dignity in tact, and leaving when the relationship is complete! You took my many thoughts and replaced them with the words I have been searching for! I cannot thank you enough for sharing this nugget with ME. I have been practicing this very thing, but unable to explain it. I know now.
Love you so so so much.... Thank you for being with us here.... honour and respect from the bottom of my heart ... for your incredible life lessons.....
I can complete a relationship,While withholding the dignity of the other person. Plus 3's😊 Lisa you are the real definition of Unapologetic Brilliance 😘😘😘
Hi Lisa, I am from Gabon and even here you're heard. I enjoy listening to you. I am in the self-building process so when I came across your video about how you have got to the top with steeve Marley, that was powerful and life-changing since that day I have put on my wall some pieces of paper in order to keep myself going by reading this all the time ( I give myself a thousands of second chances). What I found so amazing about you a part from having an african Accent you are totally true and everything comes from the bottom of your heart. I think before speaking about life-changing step or deserving more out of live we should appreciate first who we are and forgive ourselves. The process is complicated the reason why I subscribed to your dynamic channel and watch some of your insightful videos. Thanks again and I will always be there.
I have started watching your episodes only a few days ago and I relate to you so much . Trust when I say this you calm me down. I want you to please enlighten me on "how to stop blaming myself for everything big or small in life" self blaming is taking a toll on me I have moved way to far from my flamboyant personality to a timid confused aimless soul:(
I just got put on hold from a friendship without word of why. However what I did love about it was the honest open communication I felt we had with each other. I kept reaching out to make sure she understood I am still there and that my Faith in her is still there and whatever she is going through that I am there to listen. After a week i stepped back because I wanted to have a conversation of positive vibes to see what is needed of me with her decision to step back and surprisingly watching this video gave me validation that I was in the right mindset and thinking not to cut her off but to express the positive I liked about the friendship we have build but because of lack of communication I feel I should step back. At least this way I know what I am worth and she can't feel she can just come in and out with poor communication even though we as humans handle things sometimes in ways that don't work well for others. So thank you for your wisdom and videos and I'm more comfortable with myself alot more knowing that living a life of not burning bridges are not so bad after all.
I am so glad you shared that technique with us.I'll be certainly using it as it makes challenging talks easier to have adding positive notes. And having them without anyone feeling downgraded and not love. I am grateful for your videos, Thank you, Lisa.
I do a journal called my new vocabulary words: Investigate- possibilities. 2.Observe successful people. 3 Motivation-what gets my energy flow started 4.Influence-who influences me good or negative.
First video I’ve seen from you. I was brought here by the Lord. He knows I have definitely come to this point with yet another toxic person in my life. Subscribed b/c I was ready to tell her/them exactly what I think of them. Although I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, it’s myself that’s always hurt on the end. I want to be excepted for me so I try to except others for who they are. I just cannot allow people to say dumb stuff to me b/c they’re hurting. I don’t want to be mean but Ina way I could care less. I just learned to break away without feeling cold. Ty
Brilliant video , i never broke up with someone before but there may come a time in the near future... my doctors told me today that they can't treat me for my chronic illness unless i make changes in my life and the relationship that is causing lots of stress .Big words to hear.still not sure how im gonna do it yet but this video is helpful. My partner is my addiction for sure. But is it worth risking my health? Love and light to all of you in the comments section.🙏
Thank you Lisa. I am proud of you for two reasons. First, you could make it. Second, you want everyone to make it.
Yes!!!!!
Yes! Yes!!
I have always struggled to tell people they're affecting me in a negative way without hurting them. Cuz I do love and appreciate these people. So usually I just end up in a toxic situation or I just cut them off completely.
This video has truly been life changing. It's really reassuring to hear from another person that there's a way to talk and keep someone's dignity intact! Thanks! Love you!
Same here I'm asking God for strength to help me do this. I had to unlearn the opinion that addressing a negative relationship would make me seem judgmental. Some relationships are seasonal and have reached their time to be complete. I'm praying for us. We got this in Jesus' name!
Hi Lisa. My favorite plus one when I go through a “complete relationship” is to be grateful . My true words are:
1. I am grateful for the memories and laughter you have built with me.
2. I am proud of the person you are- I focused on the traits I admired him for.
3. I am honored to have the opportunity to love from my heart.
However:.
1. I feel we have grown to be different people now, and this is not working.
2. I want us to end before we make something that was so beautiful ugly.
3. We meet people for a reason and a season sometimes, and now I chose for this season to be over, while we still respect each other. Bcz we are not working anymore as a couple/friend, and it’s absolutely okay. Memories were made and lessons were learnt . :).
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My biggest BOL is listening to my gut feeling and going with it. I ended a short term friendship that felt super toxic early on and with the little info I knew about them I made it a compassionate break up. They ended up reacting negatively about it. This is first time I didn’t go into freaking out for hurting their feelings mode. I would doubt myself and back track and then ask for their forgiveness just for someone else’s sake. We would then be fake friends and I’d feel worse about the relationship because I didn’t do what was best for me. This is huge growth for me because now I can make more room for myself to breathe without entertaining someone I don’t want to pour into. Thank you very much for sharing this tool with me. Now I know how to complete relationships with confidence and ease.
Thank you. My best friend, whom I’ve been friends with for 21 years has recently expressed some beliefs that I are just painful. I want to detach from her, but I want to do so compassionately because I love her. Thank you for this video.
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I love the fact that I can be complete in the relationship instead of so cold and cut throat about it. It helps me respect, and still add value to the person as well as myself. Thank you.
Lisa, you are a beautiful soul, a true gift from God!
Lisa, you are a breath of fresh air in a polluted environment and I thank you 🙏
Needed this! I have been transforming how I want to go into my romantic relationships after divorce and I wanted to find ways to kindly bring up hard topics. ♥️ After being verbally abused, I tend to get reactive. I’m going to practice this to regain control over how I treat others. From a place of calm strength, not loud fear.
Omg! I needed this soooooooo badly! I have a hard time letting go of relationships that need to come to an end. Or when I do end it, it's usually a result of a major blow up. Now I know how to maturely handle a let down. Thank you Lisa!
I needed this a long time ago. I'm always at a loss for how to talk with people. Just breaking things off with the spouse after realizing what I've always seen was fated and not something that could be changed. Narcissists are very damaged people. Too bad since I've been with this one life times. But I realized he is teaching me certain things.
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‘I didn’t understand all of it’...this is what I love about you. You’re real and you’re not pretending to to be someone you’re not. It makes you so relatable
Lisa - all I can say is WOW, WOW, and another WOW. I am a very kind and loving type of person, so these types of conversations are usually challenging for me to have as I never want to hurt anyone in the process. In the past, I usually just have told the person that I need some space and in time the relationship eventually dissolved. But your +3 approach is wonderful and allows the person to still be with dignity, even after you deem the relationship "complete". Love this. Adding this to my spiritual vault! You are wonderful and so appreciate you and all your inspiration throughout the years. Blessings!! :)
OMG! I love this! This method is so classy. I like the idea of not leaving brain splatter on the ceiling.
This is the PERFECT template I need to leave my job today. I recently realized that not everyone has to be my cup of tea but it doesn't make them bad or my enemy. I'm glad I have this technique for today as I lovingly completed this relationship that was there for me when I most needed it, but no longer serves me at this juncture.
Hello Lisa this is what i needed to hear...i've sat here all day trying to figure out how to talk to my daughter after our argument. I prayed to God earlier to speak to me and through me...this is right on time...thanks my sister in Christ
This came at the PERFECT time!!! I've been worrying myself for 3 days thinking of how to end a friendship. I over explain and most times think about how they will be hurt instead of foing what's best for me. I have to put my needs as a priority. I will definitely be using this !!! Thank you Lisa
I watched you many years ago Lisa and everything you said resonated with me, but it was missing one key aspect for me, the acknowledgment of God, not the universe, but God. I realised the relationship that needed attention was not the one I had with myself, but the relationship I had with God. God recently led me to watch a video of yours and I heard you mention God, and that made my heart rejoice! This was the missing factor for me when I watched you so many years ago. It took some time before I realised God was what I was really searching for. However your teachings were such a blessing at that stage of my life. Thank you for helping me change my mindset, I look nothing like the person I used to be, and I know the best is yet to come. I can now relate all of these principles back to the bible, it has strengthened my faith and given me a sense of freedom that I could never have imagined before. I’m so happy to be listening to you again, I feel God is moving me into another season and I can’t wait to see the plan unfold 😊🙏
SO TIMELY...I NEED IT RIGHT NOW GOD KNOWS...I’ve become the targeted object of a manipulator’s agenda and am being made an enemy in my home
I just started doing Personal Development. I have a health coach, and I started Herbalife to change my lifestyle. I LOVE listening to you every morning!
Thanks Lisa, I enjoy listening to you! I have higher self esteem now putting myself first,not feeling guilty my children are grown it's my time to live, buy a house, start a business, travel.I just love your life story very powerful! Thanks 😊👍
Lisa, I just wanted to thank you for giving me the wisdom and the strength to leave an abusive and toxic 26 year marriage. Thanks to your words 20 months ago I had the courage to move out. He is still a part of my life and while things are better he continues to control and abuse me. BUT, thanks again to you, TODAY I found the words to say that I realize it is time for our relationship to end. That I love, Respect and Appreciate everything he is doing for me and has done for me. I said there are great things in our relationship but the toxic things out weigh the good.
Thank you for doing what you do. TODAY I began a new chapter in my life.
Lisa, I'm so fired up watching and hearing you speak. I was a volunteer parent counsellor to young students. After that stint, I had been going around schools to motivate students. I so love your speeches. Love you.
A friend shared this video with me and I sorely needed it. "Leave their dignity intact. That's what you owe, not them, but that's what you owe the person you've committed to being." Thank you Sister. Peace and prosperity to you.
Lisa when you said leave their dignity intact i said ouch, tears started rolling down my eyes. I know that God was speaking that word to me.
Thank you Lisa. The episode how to complete a relationship in a healthy way helped me move on from one that did not serve me anymore. I liked your qoute" when you are completing a relationship, leave that person dignity alone" Alleluia!!! Did I learn from that? Thank you Lisa. I am so thankful that I had you to guide me through it. Lisa you have disrupted me soul and I am on the move to search for a new me. I watched one of your episode where you where talking about the difference between showing a story in and telling a story. Ohhh Boy !!! I learned so much from that. You asked " what is your story ? Are you ready to share your story ? If not what are you waiting for" I felt like you knew exactly what was going on in my mind because I have a juicy story and did not know where to start. I have been podcasting because of fear . I need you Lisa Nichols. I am your tribe now. Yeeeeehhhh!!!! I look forward to walk through it with you. I feel like I worn a jackpot today because I am able to write to you. I have been watching you for a while now and l thank you for pushing me out of my comfort zone. Thank you for encouraging me to dream . Thank you for teaching me how to comfortable being different in the crow. Thank you for teaching me how to fall madly of me. Love you Lisa Nichols. I can not wait to meet with you someday.
This is what I love about Lisa. She is real. In the beginning of this video there was background noise and I LOVE her response. She wasn't interested in making it a perfect noise free recording, her focus was her MESSAGE. This small gesture is why I love listening to her, she is an authentic woman. 🥰
This conversation is great for leaving a job. Gratitude speaks volume
I’ve just turned 19 and within my 19 years of life I’ve never heard someone speak from love the way Lisa does. I was angry and upset but after hearing Lisa speak I want to be able to love myself and others the way she loves herself and others
As i sat here thinking about that convo that i need to have with him, i began to feel the hurt and agrivation. So i decided to uplift myself with youtube like usual. Found your vid! Just what i needed, when i needed it. I was dreading how i will feel after. Now i know i will feel empowered and will be able to let him go to his higher journey, whatever that may be. Doesnt universe have an amazing way of delivering what we ask for?! Lisa, you have an amazing gift with words and i thank my God for you. Thank you for course correcting me... again!!!
This video left me broken, in a good way, broke my old ways of leaving a toxic relationship with grudges and hurt. Now I know how to leave a relationship without any hate. 😊
Thank you so much, Lisa, for this profound wisdom and insight of ending relationships in a graceful way! Definitely it is a path of communication that I am going to take from now on! Thank you! The last time when I really needed this kind of advice was very recently when I ended up a relationship with a person for whom I had sincere feelings but from his side was the desire to be only friends with sometimes benefits. I needed to learn how to walk away from people that no longer bring me happiness, who don't appreciate me, who treat me in a way that I know I don't deserve and etc. The letting go process of this person happened very harshly with "I just cannot be your friend. I have feelings and there is nothing wrong with that. If you don't share them, fair point. But I am Done tolerating your bullshit behavior towards me." Since that moment on he vanished for me and I ignored his existence as much as possible. It was very hard because we were living and working together at that time... Thank you again for this amazing strategy how to make the ending process smoother and less painful! :)
I am so confident about discussing this issue with my husband's daughter now that I have the tools to start the conversation at a +3, I will start our conversation by affirming my relationship and tell her that I appreciate her good intentions, however, I need to do this on my own and I need to do this now. Thank you Lisa
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Hi Lisa, Every day is a work in progress. Although this topic is a huge pill to swallow, surely it's a lesson learned. The norm for me was, folks seem to not quite understand that once I turn the page, I have already put a period on that chapter. Done is Done. Yet they still think all is well. Unbelievable!!! Thank you kindly for shining light on a more effective way to communicate and still love them from a very longgggg distance. You're AWESOME, LISA! Thank you! Many Blessings!
I am listening to this for the second time, I was fortunate to let go of a toxic relationship with my "friend" using your tips. I am free. Thank you sooo much Lisa.
Thanks. This was exactly what I needed. You don’t have to hurt anybody but just being yourself instead pretending. Dignity intact
Once again thank you Lisa. I needed this video some months ago when I decided to end x2 relationships that were not serving me and was unhealthy for me.
I thought it was kinder to stop communication than destroy the individuals with my words.
Trust me I knew I had grown even then because a year ago or two, I would not have thought about leaving their dignity in tact. So the way I dealt with the situation was much kinder than what I would have done years ago.
However, I now know that I have a better tool to help me bring closure, if I ever need to do so again. Often that’s just it we don’t know what tools to use but we do know we need to exit the relationship ASAP. Again, thank you🙏🏾 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’ve had to have a conversation with my co worker in the past about his attitude towards me on the job . I waited till after our trip and discreetly had a chat .
By then things had calmed down and I approached him with the right attitude and he actually apologized and said he’ll do better 🙏
Most people can’t help themselves and I’ve learnt to not take on their toxic energy - it’s not my responsibility 🎉
I have grown a little more in this moment. I’m am discovering my 360 abundance lately and these 11mins could have very well just saved my relationship. As I watch you and grow on my journey with the secret, I feel myself reaching a place that I fear some of my friendships will have to be completed. Thank you for showing me how to complete my relationships with love and truth.
As usual this is right on time. There are a few in my life who I love dearly, however I realize they've become anchors instead of engines. Clinging to me to always be the one pulling them along, but have become comfortable dragging their legs, while Ive been doing all the pulling.
Wondering how to release them in love
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Wow! Kasey. That's deep. I hear Oprah and Steve Harvey talk about this very thing. Are they helping or do they have their feet up while you're doing all the pulling (the work). Tough conversations had to be had but Lisa definitely provided such a great tool to use. Good luck and wishing you the best.
Kasey Tucker ~ I totally relate! I have always been a “yes” girl. I am the first one to step up, embrace, advocate, support whether emotionally or financially to helping. With that being said, what I’ve come to realize is that sometimes I wasn’t really helping because the lesson to be learned was theirs.
I can relate to that. What I have learnt is that BOUNDARIES are crucial. Setting boundaries for them to respect our space, but most important setting boundaries for us , to refrain ourselves. The challenge is to recognize when we are, realistically, intruding in people's lives, crossing inadvertently THEIR own boundaries, even when we have the best intentions, and we think it is for their own good. Sometimes, unconsciously and voluntarily, we take their burdens away and end up carrying them on our shoulders. It is even worse if we want them to avoid experiencing certain emotions. They need to experience them anyway, that is life 101. It is part of their journey. Best luck!
Needed this.... I've learn to realize there's some persons I just have to love from a distance...just didn't know how to come out and let them know
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BOL: Thank you so much Lisa now I know how to start the conversation off when I want to end my relationship. That way he will know the things I did appreciate about him.
Thank you Lisa Nichols for your love and support. You always give good advice and you want everyone to succeed. You are the best ❤️💖💝
Lisa....I went full blown ego over the weekend with my husband...knowing I was in it and not recalling a single tool to help me out of it lovingly or with dignity for us both...I received the email this morning with the link to this episode of your show and knew it was intended for me...I watched it twice already and took notes...while I don't know that I have made the decision to be complete with my marriage, what I do know is that I must have a dignified conversation with him. This Plus 3 Me gives me the tool and framework for having that conversation with him. I am grateful for the support that you and your team share with me from afar. I feel very isolated on this journey of starting my own business and the challenges and sabotage shows up in the most insidious ways...with much gratitude and love...Phil
Thank you for this! This a BOL for me. Just because a relationship is no longer a fit for me or is not helping me grow, that doesn't mean that the person is bad or wrong. Development and growth are hard and a lot of people will not do them. I have a person in my social circle that I need to do this with, and now I have the tools
This is such a powerful message.
I too am guilty of the Benihanna method.
I wanted them to FEEL the dismissal from my life!
It takes me FOREVER to dismiss negative people so, when I finally decide to do it, I'm near the boiling point. And I'm usually in mental pain from the relationship.
Plus 3. Plus 3. Plus 3.
I'm getting better. Feeling better.
THANK YOU LISA NICHOLS for being a light in my life.
You have no idea. Even when I don't comment, I'm listening.
Wishing you much L❤VE & Light!
I L❤VE YOU.
I'm with Gratitude to Receive your Prosperity, Abundance and most importantly, your Inspiration! Thank you Lisa ❤...
I found you Lisa about two years ago and I started listening to all your speaches online. It has been an on going progress since and at some time it's hard as I am alone on the battle but I keep going. In so many aspects I found as you would be me and lived my life. I want to send you my big appreciation for all support you gave me by publishing your shows and others. Thank you so much. Jola
I'm currently reading 7 habits of highly effective people. I bought it again because I have new audible. This time around, I absorbed the content very well. That was your recommendation so thank you. I working on my circle of influence and interdependence. Interdependence is something I'm trying to learn so I can be a stronger me this next season.
I know what you mean about cutting people off haha 😂. I'm the queen of that. I've written a prayer for the exact type of friends I'm looking for this next season. I believe in the power of my words both spoken and written.
Thank you for teaching me how to cut people off more graciously. Currently, I don't have too many in my circle so I'm ready to add people and build a tribe.
Thank you SO much for this video!! I have a friendship that has definitely served its purpose and I feel complete with it. I have not wanted to take the cowardly way out of just not responding to her anymore but I haven't been able to figure out how to let her know. This is absolutely beautiful and is so much more in alignment with who I am. It's hard to complete a friendship, and I feel better knowing I can do it leaving her dignity in tact. Truly, thank you Lisa!!!
I am seeing this video 4 years after the fact…and the timing is perfect. You have equipped me with a tool that I can use to have those hard conversations that I usually avoid.
This video echoes a message I heard a long time ago, and didn't really understand until I started working on myself, the saying is " When everything is alright with me, I don't need to make you wrong".
Hellos Lisa, I began watching you because someone I met said that I reminded them of you. I have heard this more than once, so I hade to view your videos and see what the fuss was about. I LOVE YOU, and every time I see you, it makes me cry, I cry because I do see me, because you show me what is possible, because you have walked over the coals of fire and healed your feet against defeat. Thank you for keeping me inspired to be the best me, so that I can continue inspiring other women to be their best. YOU ARE AMAZING !!! BTW, me and the lady who introduced me to you are now best friends.
WOW! Awesome way to treat someone to keep them from walking away feeling less than.
Plus 3 them (what I love, respect and appreciate/honour about you) and speak my truth in love (what I have recognized is that I am complete with this relationship as there are parts of the relationship that are not working for me. I realise I would like to love you from a distance and I would like that distance to begin now). I'm grateful to see that I have used this technique before. It's very important that I leave people with the dignity intact without feeling like I'm not speaking truth. I am grateful for this lesson Lisa.
The universe (God) sent this straight to me! I'm going thru a seperation and needed this soo badly! I love my partner but I feel it's best that we be friends from a distance.
There's this friend I have, she's great, I absolutely adore her but lately things haven't been he same. It is like.. We're meant to be different and the differences are conflicting.
Though I loved her presence in my life, but now the same presence is making me anxious and sad. Things arent working out. I was avoiding her, and we both got hurt this way, but now that I've got this *plus three* method, I'll be able to "complete" The relationship and not "break" It, with keeping her dignity intact!
Thanks a lot for this. I appreciate it. 🙇♀️🙇♀️
I just love you sis! In doing this... I realise that leaving people's dignity intact keeps the friendship on even if its from a distance...
So very powerful with excellent timing!!! I so needed this. I am healed of needing to take this step but not knowing how. The 3-steps places the c in class with pulling away from completed relationships with everyone fulfilled and healthy and complete. Thank you Lisa.......God Bless you my dear.
I was in need of this today. A friend pointed me to you and I realized I've already seen one of your videos that I really liked. I have been sorely feeling that there were important conversations I needed to have and I didn't know how to have them without them becoming negative. This was really good guidance, thank you.
See why I love this woman. She teaches me something new everyday. Thank you so much for keeping me growing stronger and stronger. +3Me yayyy!
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Thank you so much Lisa, it can be difficut to walk away when there's still love. We have to elevate to become our greatest version. When we elevate dynamics and interests may change.
I am truly grateful for this lesson Lisa Nichols I will apply this to my life with family and friends along with my personal self -development journey.
I love this!!
I am complete. I will use this for now on.
Thank you.
Thank you very much Lisa! You make me think positively even in negative situation. God bless you and your family always!🤗🤗🤗
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Thank you so much Lisa. I’m guilty of always listing what I don’t like about the relationships I have to them but I know now not to do that anymore. I’m going to end it peacefully with their dignity in tact.
This is wonderful. I am so glad I have continued content here. I have been rewatching talks of yours on youtube for at least a year now. My aha moment that I am taking into the new year with me is to leave every conversation ensuring the person you are talking to has there dignity intact. I think why that resonates with me is because I can apply it to every single conversation and not just hard ones. And that includes conversations with myself.
Have a happy and prosperous new year lovelies. I am over joyed to join the tribe.
Thank you Lisa, I have so needed this. I have a family member, that I have to talk with, and did not know how, so I was just avoiding and it was stressing me out to the point of anxiety. This is such a better way to approach the situation . Treating people with love, respect, is the way I want to operate
i think i hold onto the past too tightly, and i don’t want to lose who they were to me in the past. but i have to move forward or i’ll be left behind. and that makes me cry. but thank you for these words
The first video today I got from UA-cam was this video I needed it so badly...thank you for making me gain my consciousness about what I am doing and what I should be doing.....
I've found myself having a lot of Benihana conversations this week! Thank you for this video because I need to have complete my relationship with my best friend Monday and this will be a very helpful tool.
Thank you,Lisa! I have tried to have right conversation with someone i find it difficult to be around. And its true it has become mutual but difficult ending. With this right tool you just mention about the '3me', i am looking forward to try this communication again. This relationship has been put off since early this year. Its time we need to grow in our own space before we can work as a team in this relationship.
Doing what’s right even when it’s uncomfortable,is for YOU,I just sent a kind loving text to my mom,I want to lift her up,and show appreciation to her,I literally stayed away from her until I got ME RIGHT,Like Lisa says always give from your saucer, never get from your cup!
Hi Lisa,
I want to start by thanking you!
I am a 26 year old single mother and I started my journey with your abundance now audiobook (I absolutely loved it), I find your voice and straight forward advice so compelling.
I have been struggling so much lately ( I'm teary just thinking about it all) a friendship that has been a part of my life for over 20 years has come to an end and I believe that her integrity or lack of has made our relationship run it's course, however, because I'm in such a difficult place in my life I miss her, I feel so alone and sad and I think that with the lack of love and support is making me feel as though I should just give her another chance. Maybe this is weakness in me but I would love your opinion on this matter.
I relate that reading “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens” was easier to digest compared to “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”! Spot on with your comment Lisa!
It may help other adults to be directed to reading material that is easier to understand who would otherwise give up or walk away with little comprehension.
Thank you. I have been following you since the Power to Pivot with Dean G. I love you energy and convictions. I had a conversation with my daughter that i wanted to be validated ,but there are certain topics that we disagree on. I had a breakthough with a conversation that i had with my mother. I told my daughter she disagreed with the way i spoke to her. I found that at the end of the conversation with my daughter i needed to justify my actions about what i said to my mother to her( my daughter). I want a do over with my daughter.
I am 58 years old and am try to heal my past.
Everyone single of yours videos touches me. I am constantly having breakthrough and it feels amazing. Be able to feel in peace and realize that we don’t need to take or hurt people in order to grown and let go it it’s priceless. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I’m ready for 2019 to start and I’m doing the activities your teaching us. 🤗🙏🏼
Thank you for this Lisa, like so many, the timing is so poignant, I don’t have to confront this kind of thing often, I keep a wonderful circle with a conscious energy about it and who I keep near, unfortunately, the need for this very conversation has cropped up and I wanted to do it the best I could and this video was perfect for correcting my own energy. So I’ve had the conversation now. Even though I felt better for lifting them, I felt a pain that was not catered to, then in another well timed vid that cropped up on my timeline, someone reminded me to cover my heart and soul with the balm of forgiveness which has also really helped my healing process. And I wanted to reinforce that here. Thank you so much xx
Omgggggg I got the ding on my phone and immediately came to watch... was not disappointed! The universe knows exactly what I'm going through and how I needed this. Thank you Lisa ...and team, you are like a fairy god mother to me 💜 +3 all the way!
J C I felt the same way ! #yana
Me too I feel the same
Such a healthy way to let of toxic relationships. Thank you ms. Lisa, I appreciate you 💜
I needed to hear this. I at many times want to tell my boss how I feel which isn't good, but she has been good to me at times. My job isn't doing well with my spirit. I hope to remember this when I turn in my resignation. Blessings
This is great! I came across this video right when I got a text from a toxic person that I have been having trouble "getting rid of". Of course because I have been thinking in the way of "get rid of" this person, I have also been thinking of how to get this person to understand that I can not be in constant contact, I can not be the therapist and I am not in a place where I have enough energy to spare helping them through the constant influx of negative that keeps hitting the life they lead. and do this without telling them how awful they are for the journey I am on now. I have tried suggesting they watch some of your shows, or lectures, I have suggested they meditate or begin a yoga practice, etc. However, what I find is that they don't want to heal themselves, they don't want to do the work. They want me to be their healing. In response to my suggestions on how to replace the negative energy they place on the path in front of them with positive energy, they respond with, "see that is why I need you in my life, that is why I have you, that's why I need you so you can tell me what to do, I need you to tell me how to fix myself" UGH!! NO NO NO! I feel that is why I can not continue to be a part of their life. I am doing the work for myself because I am the only one who can control the energy that surrounds me. I am not a spirit guide. I can only make suggestions based on what works for me and that may not be what works for someone else. I cannot take responsibility for someone else's personal energy. Its draining me. I need to get good with me and then get good with my children and then get good with our path and then get good with a community who wants to do the work to get good with themselves. Thank you for helping me find the verbal process to let go without going back because I feel bad for hurting them. I need to carry myself and my children. I also have begun to put it out there that I will meet Lisa Nichols in person with in 2 years! :)
Honestly, I needed this for a great conversation I need with my mom. We’ve finally went our separate ways as far as me now being an “adult” and it seems like every conversation does go down because of the downers we do say towards each other. Leading our disagreements to go no where or end badly
Lisa, this video so blessed me! I not only need to apply this technique in my own life, but I will be sharing it in my group. This right here, is Godly wisdom!
Lisa you’re a truly a earth Angel 👼 for all of us .
Thank you for the plus+3me. Doing that does make sense. I always say put yourself in that person shoes and I agree by all means they'll still have dignity. The negative-3 leads to anger, hatred, strife and bitterness. Thanks again for the empowerment..keep it coming!
Leaving their dignity in tact, and leaving when the relationship is complete! You took my many thoughts and replaced them with the words I have been searching for! I cannot thank you enough for sharing this nugget with ME. I have been practicing this very thing, but unable to explain it. I know now.
Love you so so so much.... Thank you for being with us here.... honour and respect from the bottom of my heart ... for your incredible life lessons.....
I can complete a relationship,While withholding the dignity of the other person.
Plus 3's😊
Lisa you are the real definition of Unapologetic Brilliance 😘😘😘
Hi Lisa, I am from Gabon and even here you're heard. I enjoy listening to you. I am in the self-building process so when I came across your video about how you have got to the top with steeve Marley, that was powerful and life-changing since that day I have put on my wall some pieces of paper in order to keep myself going by reading this all the time ( I give myself a thousands of second chances). What I found so amazing about you a part from having an african Accent you are totally true and everything comes from the bottom of your heart. I think before speaking about life-changing step or deserving more out of live we should appreciate first who we are and forgive ourselves. The process is complicated the reason why I subscribed to your dynamic channel and watch some of your insightful videos. Thanks again and I will always be there.
I have started watching your episodes only a few days ago and I relate to you so much . Trust when I say this you calm me down. I want you to please enlighten me on "how to stop blaming myself for everything big or small in life" self blaming is taking a toll on me I have moved way to far from my flamboyant personality to a timid confused aimless soul:(
I needed this life lesson at this very moment in my life. I now know how to leave a person whole when you walk away.
I just got put on hold from a friendship without word of why. However what I did love about it was the honest open communication I felt we had with each other. I kept reaching out to make sure she understood I am still there and that my Faith in her is still there and whatever she is going through that I am there to listen. After a week i stepped back because I wanted to have a conversation of positive vibes to see what is needed of me with her decision to step back and surprisingly watching this video gave me validation that I was in the right mindset and thinking not to cut her off but to express the positive I liked about the friendship we have build but because of lack of communication I feel I should step back. At least this way I know what I am worth and she can't feel she can just come in and out with poor communication even though we as humans handle things sometimes in ways that don't work well for others. So thank you for your wisdom and videos and I'm more comfortable with myself alot more knowing that living a life of not burning bridges are not so bad after all.
This is what I’ve been needing to hear . Never knew how to end relationships in a calm manner. Thank you !
I am so glad you shared that technique with us.I'll be certainly using it as it makes challenging talks easier to have adding positive notes. And having them without anyone feeling downgraded and not love. I am grateful for your videos, Thank you, Lisa.
I needed this a few months ago +3 is a simple but yet effective way to not damage any relationship.
I do a journal called my new vocabulary words: Investigate- possibilities. 2.Observe successful people. 3 Motivation-what gets my energy flow started 4.Influence-who influences me good or negative.
First video I’ve seen from you. I was brought here by the Lord. He knows I have definitely come to this point with yet another toxic person in my life. Subscribed b/c I was ready to tell her/them exactly what I think of them. Although I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, it’s myself that’s always hurt on the end. I want to be excepted for me so I try to except others for who they are. I just cannot allow people to say dumb stuff to me b/c they’re hurting. I don’t want to be mean but Ina way I could care less. I just learned to break away without feeling cold. Ty
Brilliant video , i never broke up with someone before but there may come a time in the near future... my doctors told me today that they can't treat me for my chronic illness unless i make changes in my life and the relationship that is causing lots of stress .Big words to hear.still not sure how im gonna do it yet but this video is helpful. My partner is my addiction for sure. But is it worth risking my health? Love and light to all of you in the comments section.🙏
I love you and believe in YOU! Thank you for your service to humanity.