What I struggle with is the logical part of my brain that says, this may be true, but I would be in such a better situation if I'd known more and been more. It's a struggle with knowing that there was another way but I didn't take it... And suffered as a result. What do I do with those logical thoughts?
This is a good quote. I am habouring so much guilt. I'm currently in the situation that I may have to face and it sucks. I hate myself so much, SO MUCH. It's eating me up inside like a bacteria.
I forgive myself for being so gulable. For being so trusting of other's. I forgive myself not valuing myself and my worth. For not loving myself enough and for looking outward instead of in for somone to complete me. I forgive him for hurting me and i forgive myself for giving him the opportunity to hurt me.
Yes Ma'am. I forgive myself to. Time and time, over and over again. Your sister in Christ Jesus. Pray that Gods plan for your life unfolds and is accepted by you in the mighty name of Jesus 🙏🤗🙂
Lashae leaf same, I don’t think you should need forgiveness for trusting others though, it’s an important thing to do, even with the possibility of that trust being broken
We all do tht..nvm u were a light in someone's darkness.take it as tht. Most times we r umbrellas. Needed wen it rains n kept aside wen weather is fine
Thank you for your words. This is where I'm at in my life with my daughter, and now from your words, I'm not alone, and can forgive myself, And move forward. Thank you
I have a really difficult time loving & forgiving myself. I've convinced myself, over the last several years, that I'm not worthy of forgiveness because I've screwed up too many times & I'm too old to even move on with my dreams. I needed to hear this message today. I'm not dead yet & I may have a lot of years ahead of me. It's ok to love myself & forgive myself for all the things I've done or think I've done, for the wrong turns & bad choices. Today the gloves come off! Thank you!
I forgive myself for projecting my fears and experiences on my daughter. I forgive myself for not wanting better for myself. I forgive myself for all the damage, pain and hurt I caused to my daughter. I also forgive myself for holding on to this guilt for so long. I forgive myself for placing my self worth and worth as a parent on the few mistakes I made and ignoring all the lovely moments we have together and all the good things I passed on to her. I forgive myself for not fully enjoying the good times. I am sorry my dear girl. And thank you for still accepting me and loving me wholeheartedly. But today, I am ready to make amends and release this guilt completely and permanently from my entire consciousness. I am grateful for your guidance universe and sending all wonderful teachers my way so I can move on and enjoy my own life and my beautiful relationship with my daughter to its fullest. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏽
Keep being reminded of my past.. Hard to forgive others and forgiving myself feeling guilty and shame.. I want to be free from these thoughts I want peace
#BOL The reason why I can't move forward even if I have given my forgiveness to that person is because of me not forgiving myself to release the pain that it caused me. I have to forgive myself, stop the pity party, release all of those negative experiences, and start living out the truth of who I am and who I've become out of my experiences in life. Thanks Lisa!
Angeli, yes. It's not easy and I guess, if it was. Everybody would be doing it. You have the power to stop the pity and release all those negative experiences. As Lisa says, we have to learn from them and grow from them. I'm excited to hear that you are going to start living your truth. I'm rooting for you:)
That is exactly where I am at in life. Forgiving myself. Life, choices, can sometimes take your breath away. Now it is time for Gods restoration. Be blessed 🤗🤗🤗
"Lets stop keeping score....we've all made mistakes." This helped me love myself enough to forgive what I have done and what I have not done both to myself and other loved ones. I love you Lisa.
Lisa I have held myself hostage for so very long, for so many things! I have not been able to celebrate myself because I continue to feel unworthy and unforgivable! The years lost is phenomenal but no more. At nearly 75 I will celebrate my unrecognizable life for the rest of my life!
Oh my gosh Lisa! You made me tear up, "The magnitude of your error does not justify the lack of forgiveness that you offer to yourself... Can you love yourself enough to forgive you?" that touched my heart! Thank YOU!
The one that hit me the most is when you said that I was in pain and had anger just like others do. Forgiving myself isn’t excusing my behavior rather it is letting me know that if I truly KNEW better I really would have done better.
I forgive myself for not treating a new relationship with love and compassion. Although the other person forgave me, I continued to beat myself up over the situation. I am 100% deserving of love and joy, and I'm going to continue to affirm that.
That was definitely one of the toughest lessons I had to learn. The same grace and forgiveness I gave to others, I had to learn to give to myself. I looked in the mirror and began to tell myself that I loved you and I forgive you, It has been so therapeutic and allowed me to stop being trapped in my past and create my own future. Now, I'm a vessel for others and I'm sooooo grateful. I love Lisa. Her words have definitely helped me to grow personally, spiritually, and mentally. Thank you and keep being God's vessel.
Forgiving myself for treating the woman that loved dearly so poorly. Forgiving myself for not giving her the love and attention she deserves, forgiving myself for not being satisfied with her, forgiving myself for making poor decisions in life. Thank you for this video 🤍
I have been battling with keeping quiet and not always rushing to share my honest opinion, something I have found which hurts a lot of people, and in retrospect, hurts me as well. When the episode is over, I then go back and struggle with guilt, and I play the whole thing over and over in my mind, I imagine how the other person might have felt, and I feel even worse...and it goes on and on and on.....I needed to listen to this, to let it go and hope to do better tomorrow...thank you Lisa, I don't know if I will always remember this, but at least I know there's hope, and it's not just me, there others who have similar struggles, and hopefully, I will overcome!
I just stumbled open this video. Searching "forgiving yourself" and wow. This video let me listen to everything I needed to hear. I'll probably rewatch until I truly feel like Ive forgiven myself from things I could've controlled, things I had no control over and simply harvesting pain, hurt and guilt where I should have love, compassion and grace. My aha moment was when you asked us to question ourselves if we are worthy of forgiveness. Truth is, I never have given myself the chance to forgive myself. My gloves have been glued on for so long that I get completely lost every time. I have a really difficult time believe I can be loved and I am worthy of it. It hurts because I ruin so many things with that mindset and I want to not do that anymore. Im tired of running and feeling like Im going to lose everyone. I want to make peace with my past and stop throwing myself a pity party. A sob story. I want to ascend to my highest vibration my energy can transition into!
We are in the same boat.....but I'm glad we are at this stage of willing to forgive and realizing how important it is. We all make mistakes but sometimes we get so caught up in being perfect. I realized that with forgiving myself, I thereby accept that I am by no means perfect, and that I will allow myself to give room to make mistakes and learn from them. To keep my intentions pure and practice expressing gratitude and apologizing to God everyday. We all deserve to give ourselves chances as God is willing to give us chances.....if God is giving us chances, who are we to deny them and not show improvement to correct the mistakes❤🙏
It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like I deserved someone tell me “I believe in you. And I love you.” I’m in complete tears. Taking my gloves off today.
"You deserve joy. You deserve happiness." Those words hit home because I don't feel like I "deserve" happiness and joy because I've been holding myself hostage to the struggle. That (struggle) is all to real and I have to let it go. There has to be better than a life of constant struggle. I want my dreams to become reality.
I can't believe I have only just found you. This is exactly what I need, I am nearly 40 and only now have realised not forgiving myself is what has been holding me back all these years. Your words are so powerfully true. Thank you so much Wow just wow!
#BOL I finally realized that I had to forgive myself for even the seemingly unforgivable. I also had to start letting go of past behaviors and taking control of my life and learn to love myself in the process. By forgiving myself, I was able to forgive others honestly and completely and in the process, it allowed me to break ties with dream killers and toxic people. I had put myself in a box of doubt and despair for so long that there basically no oxygen in the box for me. By getting rid of the box and letting in new experiences it is allowing me to grow. Thank you so much Lisa!
When I was an evangelist the first message I preached was, "The first step to restoration is self-forgiveness". I preached this message around 1995. I am 46 years old and in the middle of healing with help from my healthcare team. In the last couple of months I have started listening to your teaching.... And this morning I see this.... Lol 😂😂😂😂 I have always known my divine calling is speaking, teaching and motivating people. Wow, wow, wow
BOL! I had an ah ha about forgiveness. I heard a definition of forgiveness I’ve never heard or felt in that way before. Forgiveness=100% release of ALL guilt, 100% being reborn, wiping the slate clean, no longer holding onto that pain in your heart...THAT is why people say that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. 🎁 I got that the moment you sighed. And I thought, “ Oh! That’s how true forgiveness feels. I got it!” I love the flavor you bring to every topic. You’re so nurturing and nourishing. :)
#BOL My relationship has been rocky for the past year .. mostly due to finances and it has caused nothing but chaos in my house. I blamed my boyfriend for ruining my life because I allowed him to move in to my house without a job. I blamed him and I beat myself up because it caused instability in my house. We got evicted and now I’m sitting here watching your video. Thank you Lisa for helping me realize that I need to forgive myself. I felt like my manifesting ability was dead and gone and I completely lost touch. You brought me back to me, and I will definitely show myself more grace and appreciation. I love you Lisa!! Thank you
'It's about the choices that you're making in this moment' - thank you thank you thank you Lisa! B.O.L.! The past is not invited to the party that is the present unless we invite it. This is a choice. Forgiveness lives in the present. What happened in the past does not live in the present. Unless we choose to invite it in. What a relief!!
Hello Lisa, I have done so many wrong things in my life, both as a child and an adult. God has forgiven me, but I have never forgiven myself. Until now. Those gloves are now off and I breath a sigh of relief. You seem to have gotten through to me like no one else has. Thank you Lisa. I will probably need to watch again and again, but I feel this could be the beginning of true self forgiveness. God Bless.
As a teenage girl who has struggled with masterbation (sorry if it’s tmi) , I have held my guilt and shame , I beat myself up about it , I’m so sad that I took my innocence away from myself , but now I realize that I need to move on , I need to forgive myself , because at the end of the day the past is the past, not the present and not the future, YOUR past does NOT define you , YOU are a different person every single day , meaning you can change right now , you can become a new and improved person whenever you want , no matter what your dealing with , your feelings are valid no matter how big or small they are, forgive yourself and let yourself breath.
The visual of taking the gloves off is something that I’m going to use. Time to “remove” the old guilt ridden me for the horrible things I’ve done with the realization that it does not help me or those around me now. It’s counter to what we’d think guilt should do but it serves no purpose in helping us or others that are NOW in our daily lives move toward. . Thank you!
I realized I do certain actions and have thoughts that have been damaging to me, and now that I’m aware of that, I have a responsibility to stop hurting myself. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, and I can showcase my confidence, even when it doesn’t turn out like I wanted.
you have absolutely been my saver, i saw myself disappearingen in a relationships. i was angy, bitter, sad fiilled with hatred. cried myself to sleep trying to please everyone but me. everything i did was trying to get back at them, by also hurting them, but by seeing sooo many of your video's i learned that i needed to forgive them to let go, of the hatred, bitterness and everthing else, so that i could start living again, and start loving myself again. so i just woke up one day, and said to myself, enough is enough, i want to be happy again, i want to live again. i got out of my bed. grabbed a pen, paper, and wrote diffrent type of things i needed to remind myself of, but the absolutely most dificcult, was forgiving myself, so everyday i wake up, saying these things to myself, until i starts believing every single word. and i must say, i am starting feel happy again, but still working on it every single day
I did something really bad to my classmate... so i was like regretting it for nearly years ... when i met him again and at last ask for his forgiveness... he said he dont even remember it... i was like WHAT THE HECK... and here i was suffering for nothing...... So instead of beating ... FORGIVE yourself.
This was a huge message for me. My youngest daughter died in a car accident when she was 12, and all I've been able to think about was the time I could have gone to see my kids (they live in another state) because I had the means and opportunity to do, but chose not too. I'll be watching this episode many times until I can get past this. Thank you for taking the time to make this and share it with the world.
dear justin, i do truly hope that you are fine and you found a way to forgive yourself 💕 please continue shining your light ✨ and know you are appreciated! much love to you and your family 💕🍀
BOL Lisa I had a severe psychotic break and a very traumatic experience in my last job. After 8 years of struggling and waiting I have been employed starting mid August. I am very anxious and uncomfortable but also extremely grateful. I am in South Africa where unemployment is 40%. I am starting the building blocks to 'fund my dream ' and steadily reading abundance now to apply all its facets in my life. Had to wait 6 months to get the book. Lisa I am so grateful for your spirit and the way you motivate me. Thank you for your effort and energy it greatly appreciated.
It’s funny how things come into your life right when you need it. It’s like every mistake I make I replay it over and over in my head and I beat myself to a pulp sometimes, but you shared a mantra which I use everyday now “I am enough.” I do deserve to forgive myself no matter what because I am enough. Thank you so much ❤️
Your analogy about the boxing gloves is very much a description to how I have been punishing myself....... I have sentenced myself to a purgatory.....like a solitary confinement with very few extras beyond the basics we need to survive,.....food, housing,toiletries etc .....I cant seem to get to giving myself the things I used to know that I "deserve" or just value myself like one should.....like to go and get a new dress....or my nails done....a plant for my room....a day at the park......ya know what I mean? Just those somethings I always used to do when I was happy and the old Me......... my conscience/guilt/remorse resonates at a decibel of sound that is like a dog whistle .....and I have dog ears to it....... Its loud...... but silent.....it comes from a place I have just never ever known even existed........but it is so unrelenting....that is why Im convinced.....its mine and I 'own' it...and as I weigh the regrets and the things I did WRONG WRONG WRONG....my analysis is Im still mad as hell at Her=me............. I do try to get away from "the feeling" ........but omg..... then I literally feel guilty for not feeling guilty.....deep down I Know I have to find another way......a new way....because the old "real me" is no longer......... and Im looking forward to the relief I will finally have once again...... when that day comes.....so Im thanking you now for your talks.....your words are a gift.....and they really are able to guide a listener....you have on more than one occasion .....tapped into my painful thoughts and truths about something....and pulled ran my thinking up and over to a place of pondering all the maybes....your words had me WANTING to "get there" again....so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU in advance............
I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you Lisa, thank you for being around, your voice was alway, always my companion whenever I didn't feel well... My heart heals every time I listen to you. Thank you Lisa 🥺❤️
❤ it's been a month since I saw your channel Lisa and I'm just so happy to subscribe right away. You've given me so much peace and learnings that I never heard before. I have done crazy things during my pre teen, I regretted and I learned from them. Thank you for all your inspiring message I let my past go and no turning back again. I will enjoy all the more my life,my marriage,my family!!! I just love to be reborn again and thank u again for talking to me in this episode.
I’m struggling to forgive myself for mistreating someone who I loved and who loved me dearly. He waited for me to stop pushing him away for 3 years before he finally couldn’t take it anymore and decided to move on. I miss him and can’t believe I was too afraid to ever really give us a chance. Thank you for this video.
Wow! BOL! My mom passed away 5 years ago and I'm still grieving! I understand why now! She used to tell me how smart I was all the time! Well I feel like I let her down. I was her caregiver as she fought colon cancer for a year. I didn't know what to do to ease her suffering or to make her live longer! I realize I did the best I could but I still feel stupid and inadequate. I also proved her wrong by continuously making dumb decisions since she left me. I have to find a way to forgive myself for her passing. Thank you! 5 years is long enough to carry this guilt!😭💪🏽🙏🏼
Your backyard is spectacular...looks like a nice place to nap!😴😪😉 Forgiving myself for the mistakes I made was so hard, I didn't know how to let go and move on with my life, I was holding on to the past as if my life depended on it. Thankfully, after suffering many years of depression and anxiety, a near death experience, and hardships, I realized that life is precious and every breath and moment I have is truly a gift to be cherished and appreciated, and I should not waste my mind and time thinking about things that I cannot change. I now know that I did my best with what I knew; when you know better you do better! Thanks a million Lisa!
Broke up with my partner yesterday. Thank you for this talk, Lisa. I forgive myself for my shortcomings that lead to us living separate lives. I deserve joy and peace. I love me.
#BOL I had been beating myself up from past childhood traumas that have been buried inside of me. Blamimg myself for what had happened. I forgive myself for these things. It was never my fault. I deserve inner peace, love, joy and happiness.
Thank you for the video. I have been beating myself up for past mistakes all my life and I have FINALLY gotten to the point where I am TIRED of feeling guilty for mistakes that I made. Had I not made mistakes I wouldn’t be who I am today and have the strength that I have. Taking the gloves off is simply said but some of the best advice I have heard. Thank you Lisa. You have a new subscriber.
I just recently watched this video, & oh my wow. I NEEDED this. My BOL was when you said that when we don’t release our guilt from the past that we’re actually holding our future hostage. I got this mental image of 3 me’s & one me had a gun to the past me’s head, & future me was handcuffed to past me & couldn’t escape until I released them both. It just got me thinking how DEEPLY my life has been ingrained with guilt & how much FREEDOM is coming my way from that release. Thank you Lisa. You have been such a life-giving soul resuscitation this past year.
oh my gosh. when i read your comment, i knew exactly what u ae saying, as i have felt the same inside me. this is the exact feeling i get about others who exploit and victimize, to shoot them at sight, such unexplainable rage within me which is holding me hostage too.... gosh.....cant believe again. thank you for sharing your experience.....
BOL: I forgave people who deeply hurt me early this year but realised, I need to forgive myself for not behaving differently in order to truly move on. Thank you, thank you, thank you for such an inspiring message. I think it's time for me to take off those gloves!
#BOL Don't let your next experience pay for your last experience! #WORD Can you love me enough to forgive me! #BOL . I give myself permission to forgive myself. I love you!
Hello you hit me right on my head. I fear that if I forgive a person that I am saying im allowing the bad behavior that was done or said to me. Im trying to work on forgiving the people who I feel have hurt me. Thank you for this🤗
You can forgive others. The hardest is to forgive yourself. I've been punishing myself for my past mistake. Thank you, Lisa , for telling me im enough. I am not perfect, i made mistake and i know i did something wrong but i need to learn to forgive myself. Thank you
I've done some horrible things to a friend who I loved with all of my heart and unfortunately I can't take those mistakes back. I've been hoping for forgiveness and I realized I probably will never receive from that person. I need to forgive myself. I've been stuck in guilt, shame, pain, hopeless waiting for them to come back for many, many years now . I need to somehow forgive myself. I know I wouldn't make same mistakes now because I've grown , I've don a tremendous amount of work on improving myself but I am having a very hard time to forgive myself, to let go, and move on without hoping and waiting that maybe one day that person will contact me again.
Hi, I don’t know what you did but I have been in an abusive relationship before. I understand his threats, belittling, constant anger etc came from not knowing how to handle himself better. I have forgiven him for the most part. Also, I realize I am far from perfect myself. His behaviour was a true teaching and mirror for my own past negative behaviour in relations I had before him. Because of his horrible jealousy, I will never be that jealous person to anyone else. Because he showed me how terrible it is to actually be with someone like that. And believe me: before “meeting my match” in that regard, I really did not understand that like that. The best thing he could do for me is move on. Something he still has not really done after 20 years. And it’s not that easy since we have a (now adult) child together. Like I said I don’t know you or your situation. I can only talk from my perspective: if you love someone SET THEM FREE and by doing that SET YOURSELF FREE. ❤️🙏 We are all just here to live and learn. None of us are perfect. Be good, be free 🌞
Lisa, I'm crying as I'm writing this. Im so angry because some people did me bad, so bad it broke my soul to pieces. and Im so angry at myself because someone I love so much is suffering and having depression because of those bad decisions I made for letting those people did me bad. It's so hard but I wish forgiveness in my heart to face a new year... But it's so hard when I will have to face them in court, I pray that I be ready for that day. But sitting here with you is like having a friend to talk to. Thank you Lisa, you had been always my go to when I need something like this.
Thank you Lisa. This video helped me forgive myself for a lot of things I held myself bondage to. That night I laid in my bed forgiving myself, I could actually feel something inside of me freed and lose, like the shackles coming off. That was my BOL. Totally rejuvenating. Once again, thank you so much, Lisa.
I forgive myself for not being myself. For not giving myself the opportunity to be loved by others. For not expressing myself and valuing my emotions. For not believing in my dreams. For not accepting myself. And lastly, for not loving myself.
Forgiving myself is holding me back. The part about loving myself and being able to breath a sigh of relief was exactly what I needed to hear. I don’t want to hold my future hostage any longer. Thank you
I began to repeat what you did and tore off my tape and took off my gloves. I buried so many things that was done to me to not have to deal with the pain. No father wounds. And now when I REALIZE what really has been going on, past issues that come to mind, I will repeat the process all over again if I have to. Thankyou 🤗🤗🤗
YANA! This literally brought tears to my eyes. I've had so much pent up anger towards myself for the things i did and didn't do for my family and the people I'm in and have been in a "love-ship" with, not emotionally realizing this was i couldn't move forward. I've had enough of this. I know it wont be easy but TODAY I will continue to dig my way out of the layers of self hate I have. Lisa, Thank You!!
I made a bad decision with no intention to hurt anyone or jeopardize my integrity..But, I did and my guilt is there yet I forgive people quickly but the hard thing is to forgive myself. I also discover that when I disappoint a male figure is because it takes me back to my childhood when my father was so strict and expected perfection from me. When I didnt do that the guilt was place on me and I believe that is why I feel so guilty. Thank you for your message. I will be forgiving with myself and I am aware where it comes from. love you ♡
I love how personal and directly you talk to us as viewers, and really gives that permissionslip to forgive and let go of past hurt caused by you and others. I have a lot of things i hold om to that needs forgivness, and i hope that i can start doing this more deliberately now, and keep looking up this video and others that remind me how to!💕 I did something i am not proud of this Christmas, and i almost repeated a similar senario some days ago, and i have to radically forgive myself and let go of the guilt I feel for this. I read somewhere that guilt is in some ways addicitive, because it feeds into the story of who we are… «I am a person that make bad choices, and hurt others and my self.» We can end up thinking in a way that strengthen that belief, just because that’s what the ego knows and feels safe with! The feelings of guilt can also be addictive, as we do get addicted for the chemicals that certain emotions release. And if it is in fact an addiction, than… all the more reason to practise forgiveness, because that is building a habit that activates other parts of the brain and nervoussystem, and allows the body/mind/spirit to align with new feelings new chemicals, those who evoke feelings of connectedness, love, peace, acceptance, fluidity. I am just realising this, that our beliefs really are addictions, and we can sober up from them if we know there is a remedy. Its work to go in and apply forgiveness, But it is better that hitting that old bottle of guilt and shame. And maybe I can finally start to view myself as a caring, loving, pleasant, supporting person, as many already say they view me as! Others offer me a lot of love and acceptance, but I really struggle to let that in, and view me as they view me, because I am holding on to grudges and guilt and feel like I don’t deserve this love. But oh! Maybe this is one major key to my self healing❤️ I really hope inremember and practice this! Thansk so much for this video. I forgive myself. I hold forgiveness as a teacher, and hold her as a guiding force in my life. I want her to teach me how to be free.
“forgiveness is forgiveness” thank you, thank you Lisa 🙏🏾. That sigh of relief and i let it go. I am in transition of changing my life because of you! I have to hear you speak in person one day! ❤️
Thankyou Lisa, for a spirit filled video and I am sure you are touching many lives. I forgive myself for missing the mark so many times in my life. 1)I forgive Me for treating myself worthless, not good enough & undeserving most of the time. 2)I forgive Me for not Self caring, not standing up for myself, not being compassionate with myself and not honouring myself at many moments in life. 3)I forgive Me for Judging, condeming, controlling and not trusting myself all the time. I FORGIVE ME for MY PAST, NOW AND FUTURE.
As a humble white guy from the UK, I can honestly say that Lisa Nichols epitomises that Black light, wisdom and beauty that the world has always needed. Keep shining your beautiful soul on the world Lisa. x
Lisa - I am new to you. I have been listening to you at least 3 - 6 times a day over and over making up for years past. Ha! You my dear friend are an answer to prayer on so many levels. Thank you! for your wisdom and communication skills. You make concepts and virtues come alive for me. I love that word RELEASE! When you are released from something or someone you transition into a place of FREEDOM. Unforgiveness is a negative spiritual force that restricts (controls, binds and limits) a person from experiencing God’s best. CHOOSING to forgive yourself and others releases the forgiving person from the controlling, binding and limiting force and transitions them into a place of Freedom. #BOL Lisa, quote “BLESSINGS LIVE INSIDE FORGIVENESS.” This is the place where you experience beautiful and powerful things. I was thinking that this is a beautiful picture and explanation of what our Lord’s forgiveness looks like towards us. Wow!
Hi LISA I HAVE LISTEN TO YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS BEFORE THANKS I GOT TO MOVE ON FROM PAIN I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 22 MONTHS AS OF JANUARY 6 -2022 I JUST GOT TO STOP FEELING GUILTY OF DRINKING GAMBLING AND DRUGS FOR LISA THANKS AGAIN FOR SHARING AFTER LISTENING I CAN MOVE ON THANKS LISA 🙏🙏🙏
BOL! I need to forgive myself for letting myself down. I’ve spent far too long in a broken marriage because of a decision I made when I was 18. I forgive myself for being another statistic. I forgive myself for choosing the wrong partner. It’s time to stop being upset because of the decisions I’ve made and to start making decisions to change my own path.
Lisa i love you... and i forgive myself for my past ... the past is in the past... i forgive myself for bad decisions..i forgive myself for my bad character... and now i am a lady of good character... i am attractive... i am in love with myself
From today my life is no longer about what people have done for me or against me. My life is no longer about what I have done right or wrong. From today my life is about ME. Who I am, what I do, how I do it and why I do it. My life is about Me. #Forgiveness is power
This brought the healing and closure I much needed!!“ We sometimes are caught up in our own hurt or pain that we don’t realize we also get drawn to people who make us feel bad about our pain, resulting in more damage. I learned something today “ if I would’ve known better I would’ve have done better”. I would have protected the most important person which is me. Thank you so much for your wise words
Lisa, this episode is old, but may I say - you are such a gift to this world. I come back again and again to your channel and often the same videos. Thank you for sharing your gifts! Your voice really matters. ❤❤❤❤❤
Lisa, I need to take my gloves off and I'm allowing myself to do so now. #BOL when you said "don't let your next experience pay for your last experience" this has opened my heart up to allow myself to forgive me for my past. Wont be easy but it will be well worth it Thank you for believing in me.
My friend Sister Lisa, thank you for giving the light to one important thing ''myself''. i`ve long gave up on myself and filled it with guilt of not doing enough, everyone is in this state because, i`m hopeless and lot more of those thoughts... However, today for the first time in very long, i have discovered in tears while watching this video and hearing your word is that '' i have never forgive myself nor understood or appreciated that i gave everything i could as per what i had enough to give and share. '' thank you once more Lisa and Bless you for wakening my sleeping self to life again with forgiveness.
I have been so hard on myself for all the mistakes I have made , I did not know how to forgive myself I am now learning and I have started the process slowly I have decided to be kind to myself and start setting myself free... I know I can do it ,it is a process but I am determined I made those mistakes in the past and now I know better... I deserve self forgiveness Indeed
I just discovered your channel tonight. I have been mistreating myself so much and neglecting those I love and the more I have done so the more pain I'm in and the behaviours come even worse. I bawled watching this video and the end when you said you care, I needed to hear that so bad and it was so genuine sounding. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. You broke something open in my soul tonight that needed to be opened so I can begin to heal. Subscribed
Ms. Lisa you’re my mentor in my head. I came across you just yesterday and already I’m learning. I said to myself “God, I love her”. This video in particular really makes me think about the GRACE I never extend to myself. “You deserve joy, you deserve happiness! Let’s go get it!” .... *breathes* “TAKE THE GLOVES OFF”. Ill probably watch this over again but thank you so much.
#BOL The reason why I feel like I cant move forward is because i feel like my previous experiences and the people that I chose to surround myself with defined me. Everytime I tried to change for the better, I fell back into old habits surrounded myself with old people because that is what I was comfortable with. Knowing that was wrong, I beat myself up over it for a long time. But recently, I cut alot of people out of my life. I'm more aware of toxic people as well as toxic habits and I am changing for the better.I am read for new POSITIVE people to enter my life and more fulfilling experiences to come my way. Finding Lisa Nichols is one of the best things I could ever to for myself , love her. I'm going to save up to go to one of her seminars and I cant wait.
First off, your ensemble and pop of color in the background are giving me life! Thank you for another talk on forgiveness. It has been so important to me as I work through another transitioning romantic relationship. Also with my finances and professional life. It's easy to go down the road of what I did "wrong", but I did do the best I could with what I knew. I am a lifetime learner and I actively assess my negative thoughts and swap those out with gratitude. #IAMOR
Thank you Lisa. I have been caged in my own guilt, The intent was never wrong, just did best I could with my knowledge. #BOL moment - don’t take your future hostage to your past. Need a reminder if this everyday.
Thank you Lisa I have confirmation that I am starting off right I forgave myself and apologized to my children who are 17,13 and 10 about not giving them the best example of self love, speaking up for yourself and healthy relationship and that I am a work in progress that's my #BOL
I forgive myself of letting my self worth down. I forgive myself for holding on so much unto a hurt I should have let go. I set myself free from from guilt. I embrace and love myself much more now. Thanks to you Lisa
Sitting here in tears of absolute relief and understanding. As a woman hearing this through such a tough time of my life, I now feel at ease. Thank you for teaching me to forgive. Thank you for teaching me to continue. This video truly picked me up after one of the hardest falls of my life. Thank you greatly Lisa 💕
Laying my ego to rest and forgiving myself for past mistakes. At the time my vision was to clouded by my ego and hurt that I have experienced in the past and in that process I have hurt people who didn’t deserve it. I am so regretful and hurt I wish I can escape these thoughts but I am giving myself grace and compassion to forgive myself and move on because I need to for my own sanity.
“Can you love you enough to forgive yourself”😭😭😭 I was struggling with forgiving myself for what I did to the person I admire. Thank you so much for your love
I have been struggling for 4 years for a mistake I made... It is beyond words how thankful I am to have come across this video and your channel. Thank you so much. I constantly forgive others for mistakes but I view myself as an exception that doesn't deserve forgiveness and deserves to suffer and drown in the memories. You have reminded me that it is no longer about others forgiving me, but that I have been the one that is holding me back. Thank you so much, you have inspired me.
I really needed to hear this I have been so down on myself and not forgiving myself for a lot of mistakes I made to my now fiancé who doesn’t wanna be with me because I never learned how to love him correctly when he put some much love care, patience everything into me only for me to turn around at every corner and dog him out and treat him the worst ways possible and he continues to love me. I have been beating myself up for 8 years about what I’ve done today I release the guilt. I deserve happiness and love
God bless you and for this episode, today I felt like I hated myself for allowing myself to care n forgive my fiancee for continuously hurting me and I couldn't forgive myself because I didn't listen to the elders around telling that he will never change, but I said no people change and he is good to me, then after two years he turned out to be exactly what they said, and today he hurt me in such an deep emotional way that I felt like I deserved it, it's good for me, I shouldn't have been so blinded by my love for him, and just like that I stumbled across your video and opened this episode, and I am untying my hands, freeing myself and learning to forgive myself for giving him a fair chance at love.
OMG I’ve been Tko’ing my heart mind and spirit since the loss of my mother. She left a lesson m, that’s been sooo difficult but I’ve been following her lesson and you just solidified that lesson. I’m shedding tears of joy in the gym; I needed needed this #bol
Lisa, this video just made my day. Thank you for your inspirational insight on how to stop those negative guilty feelings, even when you know inside it's not your fault.
I forgive myself for allowing others to hurt me and in turn sabotaging my happiness and hurting others who tried to love me. I forgive myself for not honoring and loving my authetic self, for not setting proper boundaries, and for not knowing my worth.
I recently had my first supervisor job three months ago. Last week and this week my mistakes have been a bigger than what I’m used to. My break through is that when I know better, I do better. I am working on not being so judgmental with myself or with others. I am learning that my high expectations are only intimidating to those who don’t expect from themselves. I am only demanding to those who don’t demand anything from themselves. I am allowed to learn from my mistakes. I am allowed to embrace my mistakes. I am a caterpillar in a cocoon. I may not fly today, I may not fly tomorrow. But trust and believe- I WILL fly. That’s my Break through
If you knew better, you would have done better... now you know better so do better. Love that! And love you too Lisa! Thank you.
What I struggle with is the logical part of my brain that says, this may be true, but I would be in such a better situation if I'd known more and been more. It's a struggle with knowing that there was another way but I didn't take it... And suffered as a result. What do I do with those logical thoughts?
@@GreenByTheBeach Samee. I don't know how to stop this "negative nancy" in my head.
This is a good quote. I am habouring so much guilt. I'm currently in the situation that I may have to face and it sucks. I hate myself so much, SO MUCH. It's eating me up inside like a bacteria.
I forgive myself for being so gulable. For being so trusting of other's. I forgive myself not valuing myself and my worth. For not loving myself enough and for looking outward instead of in for somone to complete me.
I forgive him for hurting me and i forgive myself for giving him the opportunity to hurt me.
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Yes Ma'am. I forgive myself to. Time and time, over and over again. Your sister in Christ Jesus. Pray that Gods plan for your life unfolds and is accepted by you in the mighty name of Jesus 🙏🤗🙂
Lashae leaf same, I don’t think you should need forgiveness for trusting others though, it’s an important thing to do, even with the possibility of that trust being broken
Beautiful, thank you for sharing.
Girllllll!!!!!!!! My heart. This is me!!!!! I'm trying
I forgive myself for giving the wrong attention to the wrong person when it should've gone to my daughter. I love you my child and I'm sorry.
I'm so proud of you!
Your comment is monumental. You upholding accountability. Trusting your bond has blossomed.🙏🏽
We all do tht..nvm u were a light in someone's darkness.take it as tht. Most times we r umbrellas. Needed wen it rains n kept aside wen weather is fine
Ur daughter will grow up a fine princess insha Allah
Thank you for your words. This is where I'm at in my life with my daughter, and now from your words, I'm not alone, and can forgive myself, And move forward. Thank you
I have a really difficult time loving & forgiving myself. I've convinced myself, over the last several years, that I'm not worthy of forgiveness because I've screwed up too many times & I'm too old to even move on with my dreams. I needed to hear this message today. I'm not dead yet & I may have a lot of years ahead of me. It's ok to love myself & forgive myself for all the things I've done or think I've done, for the wrong turns & bad choices. Today the gloves come off! Thank you!
Yvonne Ottley I've been there, I still struggle. Yvonne know you're not alone❤ keep pushing
You just said exactly what's bothering me
So come out swinging girl ! and live your life
I am struggling to forgive myself for mistakes I made in my previous relationship and this is something I needed to hear
You deserve to be loved by YOU and to be free
Struggling with the same.
Same here…
Same 😭 shit kills me and he don’t want to have nothing to do with me I don’t want to be alone forever 😭
I’m right there too I feel so guilty because I saw the signs and red flags. I even tried to end it but I was too weak. Now it’s too late
I forgive myself for projecting my fears and experiences on my daughter. I forgive myself for not wanting better for myself. I forgive myself for all the damage, pain and hurt I caused to my daughter. I also forgive myself for holding on to this guilt for so long. I forgive myself for placing my self worth and worth as a parent on the few mistakes I made and ignoring all the lovely moments we have together and all the good things I passed on to her. I forgive myself for not fully enjoying the good times. I am sorry my dear girl. And thank you for still accepting me and loving me wholeheartedly.
But today, I am ready to make amends and release this guilt completely and permanently from my entire consciousness. I am grateful for your guidance universe and sending all wonderful teachers my way so I can move on and enjoy my own life and my beautiful relationship with my daughter to its fullest. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏🏽
Keep being reminded of my past.. Hard to forgive others and forgiving myself feeling guilty and shame.. I want to be free from these thoughts I want peace
#BOL The reason why I can't move forward even if I have given my forgiveness to that person is because of me not forgiving myself to release the pain that it caused me. I have to forgive myself, stop the pity party, release all of those negative experiences, and start living out the truth of who I am and who I've become out of my experiences in life. Thanks Lisa!
Angeli, yes. It's not easy and I guess, if it was. Everybody would be doing it. You have the power to stop the pity and release all those negative experiences. As Lisa says, we have to learn from them and grow from them. I'm excited to hear that you are going to start living your truth. I'm rooting for you:)
That is exactly where I am at in life. Forgiving myself. Life, choices, can sometimes take your breath away. Now it is time for Gods restoration. Be blessed 🤗🤗🤗
“Can you love you enough to forgive yourself? “ wow! So deeep.
"Lets stop keeping score....we've all made mistakes." This helped me love myself enough to forgive what I have done and what I have not done both to myself and other loved ones. I love you Lisa.
Lisa I have held myself hostage for so very long, for so many things! I have not been able to celebrate myself because I continue to feel unworthy and unforgivable! The years lost is phenomenal but no more. At nearly 75 I will celebrate my unrecognizable life for the rest of my life!
Your words reflect my experience. Every day. Thank you for sharing. Shame and regret are burdens I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Debilitating.
Oh my gosh Lisa! You made me tear up, "The magnitude of your error does not justify the lack of forgiveness that you offer to yourself... Can you love yourself enough to forgive you?" that touched my heart! Thank YOU!
The one that hit me the most is when you said that I was in pain and had anger just like others do. Forgiving myself isn’t excusing my behavior rather it is letting me know that if I truly KNEW better I really would have done better.
I forgive myself for not treating a new relationship with love and compassion. Although the other person forgave me, I continued to beat myself up over the situation. I am 100% deserving of love and joy, and I'm going to continue to affirm that.
Hi! May I talk to you pls :(
That was definitely one of the toughest lessons I had to learn. The same grace and forgiveness I gave to others, I had to learn to give to myself. I looked in the mirror and began to tell myself that I loved you and I forgive you, It has been so therapeutic and allowed me to stop being trapped in my past and create my own future. Now, I'm a vessel for others and I'm sooooo grateful. I love Lisa. Her words have definitely helped me to grow personally, spiritually, and mentally. Thank you and keep being God's vessel.
"I did what I did based on what i knew. When I know more, I do more" - wow.. thanks Lisa!
Forgiving myself for treating the woman that loved dearly so poorly. Forgiving myself for not giving her the love and attention she deserves, forgiving myself for not being satisfied with her, forgiving myself for making poor decisions in life. Thank you for this video 🤍
I just cried my eyes out... forgiving me is going to be hard but I will do it 💪🏽
I have been battling with keeping quiet and not always rushing to share my honest opinion, something I have found which hurts a lot of people, and in retrospect, hurts me as well. When the episode is over, I then go back and struggle with guilt, and I play the whole thing over and over in my mind, I imagine how the other person might have felt, and I feel even worse...and it goes on and on and on.....I needed to listen to this, to let it go and hope to do better tomorrow...thank you Lisa, I don't know if I will always remember this, but at least I know there's hope, and it's not just me, there others who have similar struggles, and hopefully, I will overcome!
I am 16 years old and I am very inspired by you very much,you changed my life and I love you so much.THANK YOU
I just stumbled open this video. Searching "forgiving yourself" and wow. This video let me listen to everything I needed to hear. I'll probably rewatch until I truly feel like Ive forgiven myself from things I could've controlled, things I had no control over and simply harvesting pain, hurt and guilt where I should have love, compassion and grace. My aha moment was when you asked us to question ourselves if we are worthy of forgiveness. Truth is, I never have given myself the chance to forgive myself. My gloves have been glued on for so long that I get completely lost every time. I have a really difficult time believe I can be loved and I am worthy of it. It hurts because I ruin so many things with that mindset and I want to not do that anymore. Im tired of running and feeling like Im going to lose everyone. I want to make peace with my past and stop throwing myself a pity party. A sob story. I want to ascend to my highest vibration my energy can transition into!
We are in the same boat.....but I'm glad we are at this stage of willing to forgive and realizing how important it is. We all make mistakes but sometimes we get so caught up in being perfect. I realized that with forgiving myself, I thereby accept that I am by no means perfect, and that I will allow myself to give room to make mistakes and learn from them. To keep my intentions pure and practice expressing gratitude and apologizing to God everyday. We all deserve to give ourselves chances as God is willing to give us chances.....if God is giving us chances, who are we to deny them and not show improvement to correct the mistakes❤🙏
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It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like I deserved someone tell me “I believe in you. And I love you.” I’m in complete tears. Taking my gloves off today.
"You deserve joy. You deserve happiness." Those words hit home because I don't feel like I "deserve" happiness and joy because I've been holding myself hostage to the struggle. That (struggle) is all to real and I have to let it go. There has to be better than a life of constant struggle. I want my dreams to become reality.
I can't believe I have only just found you. This is exactly what I need, I am nearly 40 and only now have realised not forgiving myself is what has been holding me back all these years. Your words are so powerfully true. Thank you so much Wow just wow!
#BOL I finally realized that I had to forgive myself for even the seemingly unforgivable. I also had to start letting go of past behaviors and taking control of my life and learn to love myself in the process. By forgiving myself, I was able to forgive others honestly and completely and in the process, it allowed me to break ties with dream killers and toxic people. I had put myself in a box of doubt and despair for so long that there basically no oxygen in the box for me. By getting rid of the box and letting in new experiences it is allowing me to grow. Thank you so much Lisa!
When I was an evangelist the first message I preached was, "The first step to restoration is self-forgiveness". I preached this message around 1995. I am 46 years old and in the middle of healing with help from my healthcare team. In the last couple of months I have started listening to your teaching.... And this morning I see this.... Lol 😂😂😂😂 I have always known my divine calling is speaking, teaching and motivating people. Wow, wow, wow
I forgive myself for all the mistakes I made when I was young and I accept my scars.. those that reminds me tha I am still alive
BOL! I had an ah ha about forgiveness. I heard a definition of forgiveness I’ve never heard or felt in that way before. Forgiveness=100% release of ALL guilt, 100% being reborn, wiping the slate clean, no longer holding onto that pain in your heart...THAT is why people say that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. 🎁 I got that the moment you sighed. And I thought, “ Oh! That’s how true forgiveness feels. I got it!” I love the flavor you bring to every topic. You’re so nurturing and nourishing. :)
#BOL My relationship has been rocky for the past year .. mostly due to finances and it has caused nothing but chaos in my house. I blamed my boyfriend for ruining my life because I allowed him to move in to my house without a job. I blamed him and I beat myself up because it caused instability in my house. We got evicted and now I’m sitting here watching your video. Thank you Lisa for helping me realize that I need to forgive myself. I felt like my manifesting ability was dead and gone and I completely lost touch. You brought me back to me, and I will definitely show myself more grace and appreciation. I love you Lisa!! Thank you
'It's about the choices that you're making in this moment' - thank you thank you thank you Lisa! B.O.L.! The past is not invited to the party that is the present unless we invite it. This is a choice. Forgiveness lives in the present. What happened in the past does not live in the present. Unless we choose to invite it in. What a relief!!
Hello Lisa, I have done so many wrong things in my life, both as a child and an adult. God has forgiven me, but I have never forgiven myself. Until now. Those gloves are now off and I breath a sigh of relief. You seem to have gotten through to me like no one else has. Thank you Lisa. I will probably need to watch again and again, but I feel this could be the beginning of true self forgiveness. God Bless.
As a teenage girl who has struggled with masterbation (sorry if it’s tmi) , I have held my guilt and shame , I beat myself up about it , I’m so sad that I took my innocence away from myself , but now I realize that I need to move on , I need to forgive myself , because at the end of the day the past is the past, not the present and not the future, YOUR past does NOT define you , YOU are a different person every single day , meaning you can change right now , you can become a new and improved person whenever you want , no matter what your dealing with , your feelings are valid no matter how big or small they are, forgive yourself and let yourself breath.
The visual of taking the gloves off is something that I’m going to use. Time to “remove” the old guilt ridden me for the horrible things I’ve done with the realization that it does not help me or those around me now. It’s counter to what we’d think guilt should do but it serves no purpose in helping us or others that are NOW in our daily lives move toward. . Thank you!
I realized I do certain actions and have thoughts that have been damaging to me, and now that I’m aware of that, I have a responsibility to stop hurting myself. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, and I can showcase my confidence, even when it doesn’t turn out like I wanted.
you have absolutely been my saver, i saw myself disappearingen in a relationships. i was angy, bitter, sad fiilled with hatred. cried myself to sleep trying to please everyone but me. everything i did was trying to get back at them, by also hurting them, but by seeing sooo many of your video's i learned that i needed to forgive them to let go, of the hatred, bitterness and everthing else, so that i could start living again, and start loving myself again. so i just woke up one day, and said to myself, enough is enough, i want to be happy again, i want to live again. i got out of my bed. grabbed a pen, paper, and wrote diffrent type of things i needed to remind myself of, but the absolutely most dificcult, was forgiving myself, so everyday i wake up, saying these things to myself, until i starts believing every single word. and i must say, i am starting feel happy again, but still working on it every single day
Very powerful...I will need to copy this
I did something really bad to my classmate... so i was like regretting it for nearly years ... when i met him again and at last ask for his forgiveness... he said he dont even remember it... i was like WHAT THE HECK... and here i was suffering for nothing......
So instead of beating ... FORGIVE yourself.
This was a huge message for me. My youngest daughter died in a car accident when she was 12, and all I've been able to think about was the time I could have gone to see my kids (they live in another state) because I had the means and opportunity to do, but chose not too. I'll be watching this episode many times until I can get past this. Thank you for taking the time to make this and share it with the world.
dear justin, i do truly hope that you are fine and you found a way to forgive yourself 💕 please continue shining your light ✨ and know you are appreciated! much love to you and your family 💕🍀
BOL Lisa I had a severe psychotic break and a very traumatic experience in my last job. After 8 years of struggling and waiting I have been employed starting mid August. I am very anxious and uncomfortable but also extremely grateful. I am in South Africa where unemployment is 40%. I am starting the building blocks to 'fund my dream ' and steadily reading abundance now to apply all its facets in my life. Had to wait 6 months to get the book. Lisa I am so grateful for your spirit and the way you motivate me. Thank you for your effort and energy it greatly appreciated.
It’s funny how things come into your life right when you need it. It’s like every mistake I make I replay it over and over in my head and I beat myself to a pulp sometimes, but you shared a mantra which I use everyday now “I am enough.” I do deserve to forgive myself no matter what because I am enough. Thank you so much ❤️
Your analogy about the boxing gloves is very much a description to how I have been punishing myself....... I have sentenced myself to a purgatory.....like a solitary confinement with very few extras beyond the basics we need to survive,.....food, housing,toiletries etc .....I cant seem to get to giving myself the things I used to know that I "deserve" or just value myself like one should.....like to go and get a new dress....or my nails done....a plant for my room....a day at the park......ya know what I mean? Just those somethings I always used to do when I was happy and the old Me......... my conscience/guilt/remorse resonates at a decibel of sound that is like a dog whistle .....and I have dog ears to it....... Its loud...... but silent.....it comes from a place I have just never ever known even existed........but it is so unrelenting....that is why Im convinced.....its mine and I 'own' it...and as I weigh the regrets and the things I did WRONG WRONG WRONG....my analysis is Im still mad as hell at Her=me............. I do try to get away from "the feeling" ........but omg..... then I literally feel guilty for not feeling guilty.....deep down I Know I have to find another way......a new way....because the old "real me" is no longer......... and Im looking forward to the relief I will finally have once again...... when that day comes.....so Im thanking you now for your talks.....your words are a gift.....and they really are able to guide a listener....you have on more than one occasion .....tapped into my painful thoughts and truths about something....and pulled ran my thinking up and over to a place of pondering all the maybes....your words had me WANTING to "get there" again....so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU in advance............
I just wanted to take a moment to say thank you Lisa, thank you for being around, your voice was alway, always my companion whenever I didn't feel well... My heart heals every time I listen to you. Thank you Lisa 🥺❤️
"You deserve love. You deserve joy. So let's go get it" ❤️❤️❤️🥺🥺🥺
❤ it's been a month since I saw your channel Lisa and I'm just so happy to subscribe right away. You've given me so much peace and learnings that I never heard before. I have done crazy things during my pre teen, I regretted and I learned from them. Thank you for all your inspiring message I let my past go and no turning back again. I will enjoy all the more my life,my marriage,my family!!! I just love to be reborn again and thank u again for talking to me in this episode.
I’m struggling to forgive myself for mistreating someone who I loved and who loved me dearly. He waited for me to stop pushing him away for 3 years before he finally couldn’t take it anymore and decided to move on. I miss him and can’t believe I was too afraid to ever really give us a chance.
Thank you for this video.
Wow! BOL! My mom passed away 5 years ago and I'm still grieving! I understand why now! She used to tell me how smart I was all the time! Well I feel like I let her down. I was her caregiver as she fought colon cancer for a year. I didn't know what to do to ease her suffering or to make her live longer! I realize I did the best I could but I still feel stupid and inadequate. I also proved her wrong by continuously making dumb decisions since she left me. I have to find a way to forgive myself for her passing. Thank you! 5 years is long enough to carry this guilt!😭💪🏽🙏🏼
Your backyard is spectacular...looks like a nice place to nap!😴😪😉 Forgiving myself for the mistakes I made was so hard, I didn't know how to let go and move on with my life, I was holding on to the past as if my life depended on it. Thankfully, after suffering many years of depression and anxiety, a near death experience, and hardships, I realized that life is precious and every breath and moment I have is truly a gift to be cherished and appreciated, and I should not waste my mind and time thinking about things that I cannot change. I now know that I did my best with what I knew; when you know better you do better! Thanks a million Lisa!
Broke up with my partner yesterday.
Thank you for this talk, Lisa.
I forgive myself for my shortcomings that lead to us living separate lives.
I deserve joy and peace.
I love me.
#BOL I had been beating myself up from past childhood traumas that have been buried inside of me. Blamimg myself for what had happened. I forgive myself for these things. It was never my fault. I deserve inner peace, love, joy and happiness.
Thank you for the video. I have been beating myself up for past mistakes all my life and I have FINALLY gotten to the point where I am TIRED of feeling guilty for mistakes that I made. Had I not made mistakes I wouldn’t be who I am today and have the strength that I have. Taking the gloves off is simply said but some of the best advice I have heard. Thank you Lisa. You have a new subscriber.
I just recently watched this video, & oh my wow. I NEEDED this. My BOL was when you said that when we don’t release our guilt from the past that we’re actually holding our future hostage. I got this mental image of 3 me’s & one me had a gun to the past me’s head, & future me was handcuffed to past me & couldn’t escape until I released them both. It just got me thinking how DEEPLY my life has been ingrained with guilt & how much FREEDOM is coming my way from that release.
Thank you Lisa. You have been such a life-giving soul resuscitation this past year.
oh my gosh. when i read your comment, i knew exactly what u ae saying, as i have felt the same inside me. this is the exact feeling i get about others who exploit and victimize, to shoot them at sight, such unexplainable rage within me which is holding me hostage too.... gosh.....cant believe again. thank you for sharing your experience.....
Best from 7:30 it’s true. Such a relief. Such words melts my heart.
I deserve The same Grace and Compassion, I give to others..That was difficult to hear, but I needed to hear that!!
BOL: I forgave people who deeply hurt me early this year but realised, I need to forgive myself for not behaving differently in order to truly move on. Thank you, thank you, thank you for such an inspiring message. I think it's time for me to take off those gloves!
#BOL Don't let your next experience pay for your last experience! #WORD Can you love me enough to forgive me! #BOL . I give myself permission to forgive myself. I love you!
Hello you hit me right on my head. I fear that if I forgive a person that I am saying im allowing the bad behavior that was done or said to me. Im trying to work on forgiving the people who I feel have hurt me. Thank you for this🤗
You can forgive others. The hardest is to forgive yourself. I've been punishing myself for my past mistake. Thank you, Lisa , for telling me im enough. I am not perfect, i made mistake and i know i did something wrong but i need to learn to forgive myself. Thank you
I've done some horrible things to a friend who I loved with all of my heart and unfortunately I can't take those mistakes back. I've been hoping for forgiveness and I realized I probably will never receive from that person. I need to forgive myself. I've been stuck in guilt, shame, pain, hopeless waiting for them to come back for many, many years now . I need to somehow forgive myself. I know I wouldn't make same mistakes now because I've grown , I've don a tremendous amount of work on improving myself but I am having a very hard time to forgive myself, to let go, and move on without hoping and waiting that maybe one day that person will contact me again.
Hi, I don’t know what you did but I have been in an abusive relationship before. I understand his threats, belittling, constant anger etc came from not knowing how to handle himself better. I have forgiven him for the most part. Also, I realize I am far from perfect myself. His behaviour was a true teaching and mirror for my own past negative behaviour in relations I had before him. Because of his horrible jealousy, I will never be that jealous person to anyone else. Because he showed me how terrible it is to actually be with someone like that. And believe me: before “meeting my match” in that regard, I really did not understand that like that.
The best thing he could do for me is move on. Something he still has not really done after 20 years. And it’s not that easy since we have a (now adult) child together.
Like I said I don’t know you or your situation. I can only talk from my perspective: if you love someone SET THEM FREE and by doing that SET YOURSELF FREE. ❤️🙏 We are all just here to live and learn. None of us are perfect. Be good, be free 🌞
Oh sorry, I didn’t see your comment is 3 years old. Hope you’re doing much better now 🌞
Lisa, I'm crying as I'm writing this. Im so angry because some people did me bad, so bad it broke my soul to pieces. and Im so angry at myself because someone I love so much is suffering and having depression because of those bad decisions I made for letting those people did me bad. It's so hard but I wish forgiveness in my heart to face a new year... But it's so hard when I will have to face them in court, I pray that I be ready for that day. But sitting here with you is like having a friend to talk to. Thank you Lisa, you had been always my go to when I need something like this.
Thank you Lisa. This video helped me forgive myself for a lot of things I held myself bondage to. That night I laid in my bed forgiving myself, I could actually feel something inside of me freed and lose, like the shackles coming off. That was my BOL. Totally rejuvenating. Once again, thank you so much, Lisa.
I forgive myself for not being myself. For not giving myself the opportunity to be loved by others. For not expressing myself and valuing my emotions. For not believing in my dreams. For not accepting myself. And lastly, for not loving myself.
Forgiving myself is holding me back. The part about loving myself and being able to breath a sigh of relief was exactly what I needed to hear. I don’t want to hold my future hostage any longer. Thank you
Lisa I believe in you too, I am going to stop beating myself up over the past, thank you Lisa.
I began to repeat what you did and tore off my tape and took off my gloves. I buried so many things that was done to me to not have to deal with the pain. No father wounds. And now when I REALIZE what really has been going on, past issues that come to mind, I will repeat the process all over again if I have to. Thankyou 🤗🤗🤗
YANA! This literally brought tears to my eyes. I've had so much pent up anger towards myself for the things i did and didn't do for my family and the people I'm in and have been in a "love-ship" with, not emotionally realizing this was i couldn't move forward. I've had enough of this. I know it wont be easy but TODAY I will continue to dig my way out of the layers of self hate I have.
Lisa, Thank You!!
I made a bad decision with no intention to hurt anyone or jeopardize my integrity..But, I did and my guilt is there yet I forgive people quickly but the hard thing is to forgive myself. I also discover that when I disappoint a male figure is because it takes me back to my childhood when my father was so strict and expected perfection from me. When I didnt do that the guilt was place on me and I believe that is why I feel so guilty. Thank you for your message. I will be forgiving with myself and I am aware where it comes from. love you ♡
I wished my bestfriend die bc I compared myself to her a lot
I love how personal and directly you talk to us as viewers, and really gives that permissionslip to forgive and let go of past hurt caused by you and others. I have a lot of things i hold om to that needs forgivness, and i hope that i can start doing this more deliberately now, and keep looking up this video and others that remind me how to!💕 I did something i am not proud of this Christmas, and i almost repeated a similar senario some days ago, and i have to radically forgive myself and let go of the guilt I feel for this. I read somewhere that guilt is in some ways addicitive, because it feeds into the story of who we are… «I am a person that make bad choices, and hurt others and my self.» We can end up thinking in a way that strengthen that belief, just because that’s what the ego knows and feels safe with! The feelings of guilt can also be addictive, as we do get addicted for the chemicals that certain emotions release. And if it is in fact an addiction, than… all the more reason to practise forgiveness, because that is building a habit that activates other parts of the brain and nervoussystem, and allows the body/mind/spirit to align with new feelings new chemicals, those who evoke feelings of connectedness, love, peace, acceptance, fluidity. I am just realising this, that our beliefs really are addictions, and we can sober up from them if we know there is a remedy. Its work to go in and apply forgiveness, But it is better that hitting that old bottle of guilt and shame. And maybe I can finally start to view myself as a caring, loving, pleasant, supporting person, as many already say they view me as! Others offer me a lot of love and acceptance, but I really struggle to let that in, and view me as they view me, because I am holding on to grudges and guilt and feel like I don’t deserve this love. But oh! Maybe this is one major key to my self healing❤️ I really hope inremember and practice this! Thansk so much for this video. I forgive myself. I hold forgiveness as a teacher, and hold her as a guiding force in my life. I want her to teach me how to be free.
“forgiveness is forgiveness” thank you, thank you Lisa 🙏🏾. That sigh of relief and i let it go. I am in transition of changing my life because of you! I have to hear you speak in person one day! ❤️
Thankyou Lisa, for a spirit filled video and I am sure you are touching many lives. I forgive myself for missing the mark so many times in my life. 1)I forgive Me for treating myself worthless, not good enough & undeserving most of the time.
2)I forgive Me for not Self caring, not standing up for myself, not being compassionate with myself and not honouring myself at many moments in life.
3)I forgive Me for Judging, condeming, controlling and not trusting myself all the time.
I FORGIVE ME for MY PAST, NOW AND FUTURE.
This is such a beautifully delivered message. Her voice is filled with kindness. Such a gift. ❤
As a humble white guy from the UK, I can honestly say that Lisa Nichols epitomises that Black light, wisdom and beauty that the world has always needed. Keep shining your beautiful soul on the world Lisa. x
Lisa - I am new to you. I have been listening to you at least 3 - 6 times a day over and over making up for years past. Ha! You my dear friend are an answer to prayer on so many levels. Thank you! for your wisdom and communication skills. You make concepts and virtues come alive for me.
I love that word RELEASE! When you are released from something or someone you transition into a place of FREEDOM. Unforgiveness is a negative spiritual force that restricts (controls, binds and limits) a person from experiencing God’s best. CHOOSING to forgive yourself and others releases the forgiving person from the controlling, binding and limiting force and transitions them into a place of Freedom. #BOL Lisa, quote “BLESSINGS LIVE INSIDE FORGIVENESS.” This is the place where you experience beautiful and powerful things. I was thinking that this is a beautiful picture and explanation of what our Lord’s forgiveness looks like towards us. Wow!
Hi LISA I HAVE LISTEN TO YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS BEFORE THANKS I GOT TO MOVE ON FROM PAIN I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 22 MONTHS AS OF JANUARY 6 -2022 I JUST GOT TO STOP FEELING GUILTY OF DRINKING GAMBLING AND DRUGS FOR LISA THANKS AGAIN FOR SHARING AFTER LISTENING I CAN MOVE ON THANKS LISA 🙏🙏🙏
BOL! I need to forgive myself for letting myself down. I’ve spent far too long in a broken marriage because of a decision I made when I was 18. I forgive myself for being another statistic. I forgive myself for choosing the wrong partner. It’s time to stop being upset because of the decisions I’ve made and to start making decisions to change my own path.
Lisa i love you... and i forgive myself for my past ... the past is in the past... i forgive myself for bad decisions..i forgive myself for my bad character... and now i am a lady of good character... i am attractive... i am in love with myself
This is my first time I want to know how to forgive myself
From today my life is no longer about what people have done for me or against me. My life is no longer about what I have done right or wrong. From today my life is about ME. Who I am, what I do, how I do it and why I do it. My life is about Me.
#Forgiveness is power
This brought the healing and closure I much needed!!“ We sometimes are caught up in our own hurt or pain that we don’t realize we also get drawn to people who make us feel bad about our pain, resulting in more damage. I learned something today “ if I would’ve known better I would’ve have done better”. I would have protected the most important person which is me. Thank you so much for your wise words
Lisa, this episode is old, but may I say - you are such a gift to this world. I come back again and again to your channel and often the same videos. Thank you for sharing your gifts! Your voice really matters. ❤❤❤❤❤
Lisa, I need to take my gloves off and I'm allowing myself to do so now. #BOL when you said "don't let your next experience pay for your last experience" this has opened my heart up to allow myself to forgive me for my past. Wont be easy but it will be well worth it Thank you for believing in me.
My friend Sister Lisa, thank you for giving the light to one important thing ''myself''. i`ve long gave up on myself and filled it with guilt of not doing enough, everyone is in this state because, i`m hopeless and lot more of those thoughts... However, today for the first time in very long, i have discovered in tears while watching this video and hearing your word is that '' i have never forgive myself nor understood or appreciated that i gave everything i could as per what i had enough to give and share. '' thank you once more Lisa and Bless you for wakening my sleeping self to life again with forgiveness.
I have been so hard on myself for all the mistakes I have made , I did not know how to forgive myself I am now learning and I have started the process slowly I have decided to be kind to myself and start setting myself free... I know I can do it ,it is a process but I am determined I made those mistakes in the past and now I know better... I deserve self forgiveness Indeed
I just discovered your channel tonight. I have been mistreating myself so much and neglecting those I love and the more I have done so the more pain I'm in and the behaviours come even worse. I bawled watching this video and the end when you said you care, I needed to hear that so bad and it was so genuine sounding. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. You broke something open in my soul tonight that needed to be opened so I can begin to heal. Subscribed
Ms. Lisa you’re my mentor in my head. I came across you just yesterday and already I’m learning. I said to myself “God, I love her”. This video in particular really makes me think about the GRACE I never extend to myself. “You deserve joy, you deserve happiness! Let’s go get it!” .... *breathes* “TAKE THE GLOVES OFF”. Ill probably watch this over again but thank you so much.
#BOL The reason why I feel like I cant move forward is because i feel like my previous experiences and the people that I chose to surround myself with defined me. Everytime I tried to change for the better, I fell back into old habits surrounded myself with old people because that is what I was comfortable with. Knowing that was wrong, I beat myself up over it for a long time. But recently, I cut alot of people out of my life. I'm more aware of toxic people as well as toxic habits and I am changing for the better.I am read for new POSITIVE people to enter my life and more fulfilling experiences to come my way. Finding Lisa Nichols is one of the best things I could ever to for myself , love her. I'm going to save up to go to one of her seminars and I cant wait.
First off, your ensemble and pop of color in the background are giving me life!
Thank you for another talk on forgiveness. It has been so important to me as I work through another transitioning romantic relationship. Also with my finances and professional life. It's easy to go down the road of what I did "wrong", but I did do the best I could with what I knew. I am a lifetime learner and I actively assess my negative thoughts and swap those out with gratitude. #IAMOR
Thank you Lisa. I have been caged in my own guilt, The intent was never wrong, just did best I could with my knowledge. #BOL moment - don’t take your future hostage to your past. Need a reminder if this everyday.
I am worthy of forgiving me. I am on a self love journey and I needed to hear this. Thank you Lisa.
Thank you Lisa I have confirmation that I am starting off right I forgave myself and apologized to my children who are 17,13 and 10 about not giving them the best example of self love, speaking up for yourself and healthy relationship and that I am a work in progress that's my #BOL
I forgive myself of letting my self worth down. I forgive myself for holding on so much unto a hurt I should have let go. I set myself free from from guilt. I embrace and love myself much more now. Thanks to you Lisa
Sitting here in tears of absolute relief and understanding. As a woman hearing this through such a tough time of my life, I now feel at ease. Thank you for teaching me to forgive. Thank you for teaching me to continue. This video truly picked me up after one of the hardest falls of my life. Thank you greatly Lisa 💕
It’s okay! It’s okay!! It’s okay!!! I am okay!!! Forgive me and the rest will follow.
Laying my ego to rest and forgiving myself for past mistakes. At the time my vision was to clouded by my ego and hurt that I have experienced in the past and in that process I have hurt people who didn’t deserve it. I am so regretful and hurt I wish I can escape these thoughts but I am giving myself grace and compassion to forgive myself and move on because I need to for my own sanity.
“Can you love you enough to forgive yourself”😭😭😭 I was struggling with forgiving myself for what I did to the person I admire. Thank you so much for your love
I have been struggling for 4 years for a mistake I made... It is beyond words how thankful I am to have come across this video and your channel. Thank you so much. I constantly forgive others for mistakes but I view myself as an exception that doesn't deserve forgiveness and deserves to suffer and drown in the memories. You have reminded me that it is no longer about others forgiving me, but that I have been the one that is holding me back. Thank you so much, you have inspired me.
I really needed to hear this I have been so down on myself and not forgiving myself for a lot of mistakes I made to my now fiancé who doesn’t wanna be with me because I never learned how to love him correctly when he put some much love care, patience everything into me only for me to turn around at every corner and dog him out and treat him the worst ways possible and he continues to love me. I have been beating myself up for 8 years about what I’ve done today I release the guilt. I deserve happiness and love
God bless you and for this episode, today I felt like I hated myself for allowing myself to care n forgive my fiancee for continuously hurting me and I couldn't forgive myself because I didn't listen to the elders around telling that he will never change, but I said no people change and he is good to me, then after two years he turned out to be exactly what they said, and today he hurt me in such an deep emotional way that I felt like I deserved it, it's good for me, I shouldn't have been so blinded by my love for him, and just like that I stumbled across your video and opened this episode, and I am untying my hands, freeing myself and learning to forgive myself for giving him a fair chance at love.
OMG I’ve been Tko’ing my heart mind and spirit since the loss of my mother. She left a lesson m, that’s been sooo difficult but I’ve been following her lesson and you just solidified that lesson. I’m shedding tears of joy in the gym; I needed needed this #bol
Lisa, this video just made my day. Thank you for your inspirational insight on how to stop those negative guilty feelings, even when you know inside it's not your fault.
I forgive myself for allowing others to hurt me and in turn sabotaging my happiness and hurting others who tried to love me. I forgive myself for not honoring and loving my authetic self, for not setting proper boundaries, and for not knowing my worth.
I recently had my first supervisor job three months ago. Last week and this week my mistakes have been a bigger than what I’m used to. My break through is that when I know better, I do better. I am working on not being so judgmental with myself or with others. I am learning that my high expectations are only intimidating to those who don’t expect from themselves. I am only demanding to those who don’t demand anything from themselves. I am allowed to learn from my mistakes. I am allowed to embrace my mistakes. I am a caterpillar in a cocoon. I may not fly today, I may not fly tomorrow. But trust and believe- I WILL fly. That’s my Break through